I got interrupted all the time by my parents as a kid. That made me an interrupter myself when I got older, I also taught myself to talk fast and use small sentences with little words as possible to get my point across. Took me years to change my behavior, didn't even realize I did it until someone pointed it out to me.
I am currently just realizing this now in college! I’m a marketing major and I swear all of us students are the same when it comes to some of our shitty listening skills in conversation 😂😂
When I was a kid I was always talked over and interrupted, and it pisses me off when that happens, it did the opposite for me and made me more reserved and quiet. I don’t speak up and it made opening up or speaking about what’s on my mind harder to do.
Same. I'm like a psychiarist to the people around me who can open up to me about their problems and I don't mind listening to them most of the time but a lot of the times I'm sitting there thinking "Shut the fuck up. I've got problems too but you don't hear me bitching about it."
Often times people who are quieter tend to stop talking when someone interrupts them. Don't do that. If he interrupts you, continue talking and saying what you were going to say and stop when you were naturally going to stop. Typically, people hate crosstalk, as no one really gets their point across. After a few times this should teach him to stop interrupting until you finish talking, unless he's a real a-hole.
@@jacobhall4055 lol nope. It's more like he starts conversations, but won't let me get a word in because he just gets louder as I talk. So I give up and it really makes me zone out eventually 🤣
I used to struggle with this a lot, not talking over but cutting people off mid story. It's due to ADHD we aren't trying to be rude.. we get super excited and want to share
my homeboy does this a lot and he knows, he means well and he's working on it. he's a big sweetheart and just enjoys talking and in conversation he often feels the need to get something out and will put it as priority even if you are talking, usually you just gotta call him out if its one on one and be like "hey man, lemme finish" and that tends to do the trick. some people are just like that and you gotta learn how to work around that. i imagine in a relationship tho you just learn how to tune out your partner lmfao
Your homie might have adhd. I do this all the time unintentionally, literally can't help myself and feel bad about it and feel bad when I catch myself doing it.
Learn the art of selective hearing. Been married for 14 yrs! My husband will talk under water if you don’t make him aware of him talking over you! I’m reserved and enjoy quiet time but he’s the complete opposite.
@@TheFarmhouseMom Reminds me of my mom. When she calls me and notices that I'm doing anything else besides listening to her endless stories, she instantly gets angry. That's so dumb. Even as a guy I can do the dishes or some cleaning while listening to someone on the phone.
I once dated a guy who was such a douche that if I took Bill's advice (about leaving the room whenever he talks over me), he would say something like "ok, now I know how to get you to leave the room", then he would talk over me more often to amuse himself cos he knows its p1ssing me off. Thinking back on it, he was quite the sociopath (either that, or he just had a messed up sense of humour)
@@jordancave3089 Lol! I hear ya, but can you imagine being on the receiving end when someone (who is meant to care for you and be your "rock") constantly goes out of their way to push you to your limits just for their personal amusement?! Its quite sick. They would definately bring out the worst in you. You can't depend on them, and that behaviour proves that person certainly isn't relationship material.
@@sensimania I mean…yeah, if it’s not trying to make you laugh then there’s a problem. Like, if it’s something they know bothers you, yet they do it anyway….that’s something else entirely. Idk why someone would intentionally be a dck if it’s not something that you can both laugh at though?
My brother and I do it so much we basically have 2 different conversations at the same time, same with my sister but God damn she talks so slowly, and it grinds our gears XD
My mom is the absolute worst at this. Its not even interrupting, it's just talking over me louder to anyone else who'll listen. Omg its fucking infuriating
My wife of 12 years always interrupts me. When I’ve brought it up several times, she just says that women have more things going on in their heads then men do. I tend to agree that mostly what I think about is the budget, the raunchy act of poking, and work. Over the years I have learned to just stop talking when interrupted and then starting over to finish my point, we both become annoyed and she doesn’t hear what I said anyways. Ah marriage, whatchagonna do?
Not my place but that... doesn't sound great man. I must admit I do my fair share of interrupting because I felt it was the only way I would be heard at home (since I would always get cut off) but for her to justify it and not apologise? I mean Bill's right here; you don't *have* to put up with it, much as you may feel otherwise.
They're more neurotic, that's why they "have more things going on in their heads." It's not better, or important stuff, it's just more. She just used that as an excuse to talk over your instead of listen. It means she believes what she's thinking about is more important than what you have to say. She's actually being incredibly rude and arrogant.
Talking over people is definitely a habit I’m working on, I’ve go better but when people ramble I’m sweating 😅 I try to do active listening so my interruptions are focused on confirmation that I’m listening, it helps a lot.
the second girls is starting only fans career and want to know whenever there is some traction there (people willing to pay her enough money) so on next conversation she will have a fixed opinion whenever she want's to continue with it over relationship and put a guy in "you either accept what I do or take a hike" situation ... story old as time :)
Getting excited while talking is not the same thing as interrupting when someone else already is. Interrupting means you weren't really listening to them because you're more interested in your own thoughts than theirs. People using add or adhd as their excuse is lame as hell and it's just a way to avoid taking responsibility and admitting to acting like an asshole.
Can we all think how mad it is that Bill Burr acually gives toughtful and useful feedback on relations while the whole universe of channels focused on this tell people either to be insufferable or rose tinted lies?
I am Puerto Rican and every other Puerto Rican I’ve ever met talks over each other, usually loudly. Funny because my Irish husband always tells me I interrupt! Just say so! Usually someone doesn’t mean to. For me my whole family are aggressive talkers, so when my husband tells me I’m interrupting I just say sorry and shut up!
If you get interrupted a lot: start telling people (politely) „wait a second, let me finish“ usually the interrupters feel a bit akward about their behavior. You might have to do it a couple of times but it works. If somebody won’t learn their lesson: do as bill said.
Thank you. This might be the best piece of advice I've received in a long time. I don't like being interrupted but telling people "please don't interrupt me" comes across as demanding, accusitory or rude.
I have a zero-tolerance policy with interruptions, as both of my parents have talked over me for my entire life(the remaining one still does). I used to just let it happen, but that just breeds more interruptions. These days, if someone interrupts me, I immediately cut them off at a few extra decibels with a sharp "yeah, go ahead, I wasn't talking." Then I just continue with what I was saying.
You have to ask yourself if you can be with someone who is not going to work. She probably wants to be a stay at home mom or go back to school. Who knows. If your ok with that then there's no point in asking; have fun and enjoy life. If your not ok with that then, you need to ask here (like what women do) where is your relationship going. If ur not happy with the answers then move on.
Dude it takes time. BUT it is doable. Look up stoicism. Plus reading up on leaders and I learned about pertinent input. Knowing when to speak up and how to be effective. It takes practice grasshopper. 😋
I have some interesting insight into this issue, as I have some pretty bad ADHD. Interrupting comes with the territory. It's part of the impulsiveness that comes with hyperactivity. Half the time I don't realize it... Remind him in the MOMENT. If he interrupts. Pause. Listen to what he has to say. Then point it out and explain you'd like to be listened to. Its my turn to talk. Let me speak please. If it doesnt stop during the conversation, the conversation is over. Take a walk and tell him you can talk when he's calm enough to listen.
But please don't take it personally... This behavior is NOT intentional. Some people just get antsy and excited about what they have to say. That doesn't mean what you have to say is less important or shouldnt be heard. You need the confidence and tact to be heard, and draw that clear line. He will learn if he wants to talk to you, he needs to have patience and listen.
This x2. I feel bad when I catch myself doing it but I literally can't stop myself. That being said the shame of having it nicely pointed out is enough to make me wait my turn for a while lol
clips to shut the ladieeees mouths….,anybody reminded of bills remarks on uninformed that every guy should have hulk hands lmaooooo “honey, If you don’t shut up I’m putting on the hulk hands”
I do it to my wife I have been told since I was in junior high ... You're so smart you can't think straight when she talks I enjoy it get so excited I finish her sentences bit I am not aware of it just in love
My parents did this as a kid and it taught me to not engage once I feel like the person doesn't care for a conversation, but simply wants to hear themselves talk. So I let them. If they want a one-sided conversation, I let them talk to themselves. Tends to shut them up rather quickly.
A friend of mine doesn't mind basically talking to herself for hours. That can be annoying sometimes especially when you feel like you could add something of value to the conversation if only you got the chance. 😅 But at least she's good looking and also pretty smart. So mostly it's at least some interesting stuff she talks about and it's pleasant to watch her while quietly nodding. 😏
As a big talker myself, especially around the people I’m comfortable with, I’ve learned to take a back seat. Either he’s gonna learn that, or drive you crazy but you’re on someone else’s timeline with this one. If you truly love the person, it’s something you work on. Obviously you’re with the dude so he is a good enough listener to get a beautiful and smart woman. Make what you say take center stage. But only for a certain time. Everyone deserves to be heard, but not everyone is comfortable with saying it all the time. I’m guessing this girl is totally comfortable with stating her opinion while this guy might be finding what works for him. She has been with the dude for a few years, it sounds like she wouldn’t put up with that shit if it was truly all the time. He feels comfortable to talk like that around you, he’ll listen to how you’re feeling. But also, so people can’t be helped and you gotta know the difference. I’m no guru here but I think a good in depth conversation would serve well to both parties. Also, love ya Bill!
i talk over people all the time. its how my whole family communicates. but they don't get Butthurt over it. i have been a-lot better letting people talk with no interruption. however if its more then 3 paragraphs, i go back to the default me.
ok. so 1) I don't want to Tell people including loved ones about my possible opportunities in case I a) jinx it ...which Is Not real I know... b) Fail. again. so don't tell until it's a Done deal. This is not uncommon 2. classic men are from mars women venus...You want to give solutions Constantly it sounds like...well intentioned I am sure but Women typically just want to voice their thoughts as a Process or Rant...just listen. If she doesn't trust you Not to just Listen and keep your Solutions, opinions and thoughts to yourself until Asked...then she is gonna clam up around you. Very common and just a Thought lol. Shhhhh....try listening.
I got this. When someone interrupts, just stop talking. When they(the interrupter) asks a question, answer it calmly and simply. Then when they sense a change in your voice, and say "what's wrong?" Just say "that's for you to find out". I've been a introvert growing up and started to break the habit in my mid twenties, so I have no problem with the silent treatment.
That is passive aggressive bullshit. If someone says, "that's for you to find out" means you are still 16 years old mentally. Be confrontational not snarky and childish
Yeah, I did that whole, “You’re interrupting me,” and walk away with my dad. He found out what I was trying to say later on and I was like, “Maybe if you let me talk, you would’ve known about it!”
Just like the people who don't believe covid exists or vaccines are effective. They trust a RUclips video of a trucker who "put the pieces together." Yet, they refuse to trust scientists who have devoted their entire lives to science. You don't ask the dishwasher at Olive Garden how to fix your car. You go to a mechanic.
That second one is interesting. I feel like he’s definitely driving her nuts. But if she loves him, she should be able to say that to him. I dunno. Bad communication on all sides here. If she’s genuinely just not telling him what job she wants, that is super weird.
My dad was really bad like that, anytime he had a point or some one else tried to interject he would get SO loud honestly don't think he realized how rude it was. Always made me cringe even talked to him about it as a kid. Really glad I didn't pick that up from him. Think that "anxiousness" really is the trigger
Same here with my pops. I love my dad and though he wouldn't get as loud he would still slide his voice loud enough to cut me off when I was younger. And he would speed up whatever point he was saying. He's not as bad these days but it's made me not want to listen to his monologues.
The comments on these videos makes me happy to know that I’m not the only person living with an absolute psycho, who’s also the best person in the world, god do I wanna slap the shit outta my girl sometimes but I love her so I just yell at my windshield instead
You suggested medication because he talks over you?! Fucking insane man, if you can’t deal with who you’re with, that’s your problem. Tired of women trying to change everything and everyone to fit their standards, while completely disregarding how other’s feel, were raised, or how they choose to be. If you don’t like it, if it’s such a massive issue, maybe they’re not your person to marry. If putting up with some BS is something you can’t handle, a relationship is not for you. It’s give and take. You can’t try to take this guy’s upbringing and part of his personality while acting like you’re a museum display behind some thick glass, untouched and pristine. All take and no give will always end in failure. ‘You talk over me and you need to change and you have problems’ will always lead to more stubbornness from the ‘changee’, will make the ‘changer’ look non-compassionate, and further the divide because there is no give. Just take. I was raised by an Irish man, and an Italian woman born in the mid to late 50’s. Talking over is what my family does. We are loud, we interrupt, we call each other out for it, we tell the kids not to do it. We still do. It’s part of who I am, and my shy girlfriend of near 12 years now has an issue with it, and with my family being that way. I simply try my best, she appreciates that, and has adopted interrupting me to show me how it goes. Most things in a relationship are a team effort, especially if it’s something that doesn’t NEED to change, but is a preferred change. She made no progress complaining and telling me I have an issue and I need to change, alone. Takes me wanting change, and personally I wanted her to take note that she’s not as bad, but still does it by accident from time to time. I’ve got mental health issues with memory, so partially why I interrupt is because I will forget what I wanted to say because I will get invested in whatever you’re saying, thus forgetting my responses as they arise. Interrupting to me shows I am engaged, and if I have nothing to say at the end of everything I feel bad. It’s not that I wasn’t paying attention, it’s that I can’t remember.
Reading between the lines with the second guy... I'm thinking his girlfriend isn't looking for a job or is sick of looking for jobs and he's here going "what are you looking for? What are you looking for? Maybe I can help!" In that situation I'd clam up too.
Ugh, yuck... People who talk or shout over people in a conversation are the worst. They're usually childish and unintelligent. Bill discussed this on another episode and said the same thing I just said. Childish, immature and unintelligent. Yelling or talking over someone is all they have because they're wrong. It's very inconsiderate annoying. One of many reasons I divorced my wife. I couldn't stand it. I'll never compromise with a dummy.
Just go get an airhorn and when he starts doing it, just get quiet and calmly put in some earplugs, pull it out and blast it (do not do that while driving or in crowded public settings for obvious reasons). And then if he starts going, "WTF THAT IS SO RIDICULOUS" just hit the button again. Say you'll stop when he stops interrupting you.
When my husband does this I now walk away from Him mid conversation. He gets scared lol. Then he follows me and I tell him I’m not engaging unless I can speak and participate in the conversation. I have left the house before too. That usually gets the point accross.
Idk, second situation if a girl approached me like that over asking about her employment I’m like 85% sure she’s either stripping or doing onlyfans or something. I just don’t see any other reason why you’d react that way to “hey where are you looking for work?”. I get it could be something else too like being embarrassed about your job but that just sounds really weird to me and the fact she doesn’t want to even tell him why she doesn’t want to talk about it is a pretty huge red flag
I know everyone's talking about the interruption email but holy jesus, the guy from the last email could not sound more nerdy and hatable. When someone pressures someone else about jobs and looking for them and they're kind of not that communicative about it it simply 90% of the time means they're just not ready for an interview yet. That's it. Not everyone's mental health just allows them to go through even just the application process at anytime. Some people need a minute first.
Lol maybe this is dumb, but my bf responds better to like seeing me do stuff and then he picks up on it. So he would interrupt me (bc he’s gotta lot of energy no big) and so the next convo I’d interrupt him and demonstrate how I would want him to act by being like 1.) finishing my point but then 2.) saying “You were saying blah blah blah” to prove I was listening. Might suggest pointing it out as well, but demonstrating it for anyone helps. I do it with my roommates too, and one is a pre-med major so its not like its a stupid thing!! Took a bit, but he started doing it so he became more aware of it, and he had to actually listen to me so he could reiterate what I said at the end. Which was nice!
I know how to stop any person from talking over you... Tell them, "I know why you are talking over me!"...pause ...finish your statement...Then say. "the reason you talk over me is because you don't think I have anything important to say. I use this and it works ALL THE TIME!
He has adult ADHD. If he does it more when he's nervous, that seems like a clear sign. People with adult ADHD interrupt conversation alot. We can't fucking help it. I know I know, it's still a giant pain in the ass but I promise when we realize we are doing it, we feel like giant dick hole. If that helps
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I clicked this bc I wanted to see if my girlfriend wrote in to him 😂😂
Fr bro only reason I clicked
same lol
Same.
Same here
Same
Motorboating is still the same thing Bill
Waterboarding is kind of cool as well
You old sailor you
Hahaha that's what I was thinking
If it ain't broke we'll just motor on
I got interrupted all the time by my parents as a kid. That made me an interrupter myself when I got older, I also taught myself to talk fast and use small sentences with little words as possible to get my point across.
Took me years to change my behavior, didn't even realize I did it until someone pointed it out to me.
Good on you for making the change.
I am currently just realizing this now in college! I’m a marketing major and I swear all of us students are the same when it comes to some of our shitty listening skills in conversation 😂😂
Same!!
Same!
Sounds like a nightmare
Just start yelling at him in Spanish like in the movies
Have a dwarf mariachi playing banjo cheeringly in the background as well.
Atmopsheric, yeahhhhhh :D
Then he'll think she's about to die. Like ppl on their death beds in their final moments start speaking their mother tongue?
MARGE : "You only hear what you wanna hear Homey!!!"
HOMER : "Yes I would love a cold beer, thanks Marge!"
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Relationship goals 🤣
When I was a kid I was always talked over and interrupted, and it pisses me off when that happens, it did the opposite for me and made me more reserved and quiet. I don’t speak up and it made opening up or speaking about what’s on my mind harder to do.
I can relate
Same. I'm like a psychiarist to the people around me who can open up to me about their problems and I don't mind listening to them most of the time but a lot of the times I'm sitting there thinking "Shut the fuck up. I've got problems too but you don't hear me bitching about it."
@@amsheel9921
This is so damn relatable.
100%
I have exactly the same problem for the same reason.
Often times people who are quieter tend to stop talking when someone interrupts them. Don't do that. If he interrupts you, continue talking and saying what you were going to say and stop when you were naturally going to stop. Typically, people hate crosstalk, as no one really gets their point across. After a few times this should teach him to stop interrupting until you finish talking, unless he's a real a-hole.
My man does this and I just check him right away by saying "hold up, let me finish " it works most of the time
you should buy a water gun
I always say it depends do you allow him to have words in or are you monologuing
@@jacobhall4055 lol nope. It's more like he starts conversations, but won't let me get a word in because he just gets louder as I talk. So I give up and it really makes me zone out eventually 🤣
@@daisyortiz9970 I get that sorry that happens good luck
@@oddicocidic You must be an American 😂
Bill is one of the few comedians who consistently makes me laugh out loud. You can listen to him absent-mindedly and catch a great laugh.
I used to struggle with this a lot, not talking over but cutting people off mid story. It's due to ADHD we aren't trying to be rude.. we get super excited and want to share
When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. When you listen, you may learn something new. - Dalai Lama
NIA IS LAUGHING HER ASS OFF GOING JCA YOU ARE ASKING THE WRONG MAN!!!! HAHAHA
The motorboating sound is Burrrrrr.. Come on Bill!
my homeboy does this a lot and he knows, he means well and he's working on it. he's a big sweetheart and just enjoys talking and in conversation he often feels the need to get something out and will put it as priority even if you are talking, usually you just gotta call him out if its one on one and be like "hey man, lemme finish" and that tends to do the trick. some people are just like that and you gotta learn how to work around that. i imagine in a relationship tho you just learn how to tune out your partner lmfao
Yeah, you can suggest he crosses his fingers when he’s got something to say, that way, he won’t forget and will wait. It’s a really good tool to learn
@@khimaros thats a really good idea.
Thats a good homie tho bruh
Your homie might have adhd. I do this all the time unintentionally, literally can't help myself and feel bad about it and feel bad when I catch myself doing it.
@@cml007 adhd doesn't exist it's called discipline and self control and awareness
Learn the art of selective hearing. Been married for 14 yrs! My husband will talk under water if you don’t make him aware of him talking over you! I’m reserved and enjoy quiet time but he’s the complete opposite.
Same as my husband. He's so long winded in his stories 😩 and he'll ask me to stop what I'm doing to look him in the eyes as he talks
@@click2112 I read this to my husband. He does this to me too! I'm like I can do the dishes and still listen to you.
@@TheFarmhouseMom Those little, dumb arguments are the good stuff in life in a healthy amount. The best ones are the ones that end in laughter.
@@click2112 I call these people attention feeders lol. It makes me so exhausted being around them
@@TheFarmhouseMom
Reminds me of my mom.
When she calls me and notices that I'm doing anything else besides listening to her endless stories, she instantly gets angry.
That's so dumb. Even as a guy I can do the dishes or some cleaning while listening to someone on the phone.
I once dated a guy who was such a douche that if I took Bill's advice (about leaving the room whenever he talks over me), he would say something like "ok, now I know how to get you to leave the room", then he would talk over me more often to amuse himself cos he knows its p1ssing me off.
Thinking back on it, he was quite the sociopath (either that, or he just had a messed up sense of humour)
That’s kind of hilarious though lol
@@jordancave3089 Lol! I hear ya, but can you imagine being on the receiving end when someone (who is meant to care for you and be your "rock") constantly goes out of their way to push you to your limits just for their personal amusement?! Its quite sick. They would definately bring out the worst in you. You can't depend on them, and that behaviour proves that person certainly isn't relationship material.
@@sensimania I mean…yeah, if it’s not trying to make you laugh then there’s a problem. Like, if it’s something they know bothers you, yet they do it anyway….that’s something else entirely. Idk why someone would intentionally be a dck if it’s not something that you can both laugh at though?
@@jordancave3089 IKR! 💜
glad to read this is past tense
I took a big breath of relief at 1:38 when she said she was Puerto Rican. I thought it was my girl complaining about me at first lol
oky this deffinitely was sent by Nia! hahhha
His impression of girls talking is the best 😂
My brother and I do it so much we basically have 2 different conversations at the same time, same with my sister but God damn she talks so slowly, and it grinds our gears XD
Jus call him Captain Interupous extraordinaire
My mom is the absolute worst at this. Its not even interrupting, it's just talking over me louder to anyone else who'll listen. Omg its fucking infuriating
Just keep talking through their interruptions and they'll feel stupid for trying to cut you off
This is better than coffee right now LMAO!!!
My wife of 12 years always interrupts me.
When I’ve brought it up several times, she just says that women have more things going on in their heads then men do. I tend to agree that mostly what I think about is the budget, the raunchy act of poking, and work. Over the years I have learned to just stop talking when interrupted and then starting over to finish my point, we both become annoyed and she doesn’t hear what I said anyways. Ah marriage, whatchagonna do?
Not my place but that... doesn't sound great man. I must admit I do my fair share of interrupting because I felt it was the only way I would be heard at home (since I would always get cut off) but for her to justify it and not apologise? I mean Bill's right here; you don't *have* to put up with it, much as you may feel otherwise.
Yikes
Poking?
get a better person in your life who respects you
They're more neurotic, that's why they "have more things going on in their heads." It's not better, or important stuff, it's just more. She just used that as an excuse to talk over your instead of listen. It means she believes what she's thinking about is more important than what you have to say. She's actually being incredibly rude and arrogant.
God damn I love this man... fucking hilarious
Bill you’re the father I wish I had!
Talking over people is definitely a habit I’m working on, I’ve go better but when people ramble I’m sweating 😅 I try to do active listening so my interruptions are focused on confirmation that I’m listening, it helps a lot.
the second girls is starting only fans career and want to know whenever there is some traction there (people willing to pay her enough money) so on next conversation she will have a fixed opinion whenever she want's to continue with it over relationship and put a guy in "you either accept what I do or take a hike" situation ... story old as time :)
I do this with my boyfriend because I have adhd and get really excited when I talk.
Getting excited while talking is not the same thing as interrupting when someone else already is. Interrupting means you weren't really listening to them because you're more interested in your own thoughts than theirs. People using add or adhd as their excuse is lame as hell and it's just a way to avoid taking responsibility and admitting to acting like an asshole.
Can we all think how mad it is that Bill Burr acually gives toughtful and useful feedback on relations while the whole universe of channels focused on this tell people either to be insufferable or rose tinted lies?
Yell, OOOPPPPPSS.
I am Puerto Rican and every other Puerto Rican I’ve ever met talks over each other, usually loudly. Funny because my Irish husband always tells me I interrupt! Just say so! Usually someone doesn’t mean to. For me my whole family are aggressive talkers, so when my husband tells me I’m interrupting I just say sorry and shut up!
If he interrupts you he interrupts everyone. Tough habit to break but you're doing him a favor by bringing it to his attention.
If you get interrupted a lot: start telling people (politely) „wait a second, let me finish“ usually the interrupters feel a bit akward about their behavior. You might have to do it a couple of times but it works.
If somebody won’t learn their lesson: do as bill said.
Thank you. This might be the best piece of advice I've received in a long time. I don't like being interrupted but telling people "please don't interrupt me" comes across as demanding, accusitory or rude.
Ladies we only talk over you cause what you say is boring and doesn't matter 🙂
the girl that doesn't want to tell her boyfriend about her work is either being sketch or is embarrassed.
Shes disrespectful. I would run far away from her.
Do people stay in relationships when they don't know their s/o's occupation??
Sounds like a call girl
I have a zero-tolerance policy with interruptions, as both of my parents have talked over me for my entire life(the remaining one still does). I used to just let it happen, but that just breeds more interruptions. These days, if someone interrupts me, I immediately cut them off at a few extra decibels with a sharp "yeah, go ahead, I wasn't talking." Then I just continue with what I was saying.
You have to ask yourself if you can be with someone who is not going to work. She probably wants to be a stay at home mom or go back to school. Who knows. If your ok with that then there's no point in asking; have fun and enjoy life. If your not ok with that then, you need to ask here (like what women do) where is your relationship going. If ur not happy with the answers then move on.
Gang gang
I love you. You gorgeous man.
ohh jesus :DD
need episodes of follow-ups to these stories
I would use Trump’s solution and just repeatedly say, ‘Excuse me, excuse me….excuse me,’ until they stop taking.
❤
Dude it takes time. BUT it is doable. Look up stoicism. Plus reading up on leaders and I learned about pertinent input. Knowing when to speak up and how to be effective.
It takes practice grasshopper. 😋
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I have some interesting insight into this issue, as I have some pretty bad ADHD. Interrupting comes with the territory. It's part of the impulsiveness that comes with hyperactivity. Half the time I don't realize it... Remind him in the MOMENT. If he interrupts. Pause. Listen to what he has to say. Then point it out and explain you'd like to be listened to. Its my turn to talk. Let me speak please. If it doesnt stop during the conversation, the conversation is over. Take a walk and tell him you can talk when he's calm enough to listen.
But please don't take it personally... This behavior is NOT intentional. Some people just get antsy and excited about what they have to say. That doesn't mean what you have to say is less important or shouldnt be heard. You need the confidence and tact to be heard, and draw that clear line. He will learn if he wants to talk to you, he needs to have patience and listen.
This x2. I feel bad when I catch myself doing it but I literally can't stop myself. That being said the shame of having it nicely pointed out is enough to make me wait my turn for a while lol
clips to shut the ladieeees mouths….,anybody reminded of bills remarks on uninformed that every guy should have hulk hands lmaooooo “honey, If you don’t shut up I’m putting on the hulk hands”
I do it to my wife I have been told since I was in junior high ... You're so smart you can't think straight when she talks I enjoy it get so excited I finish her sentences bit I am not aware of it just in love
I thought this was about me until I realized I don't have blue eyes, or a girlfriend.
My biggest pet peeve!
My parents did this as a kid and it taught me to not engage once I feel like the person doesn't care for a conversation, but simply wants to hear themselves talk. So I let them. If they want a one-sided conversation, I let them talk to themselves. Tends to shut them up rather quickly.
A friend of mine doesn't mind basically talking to herself for hours. That can be annoying sometimes especially when you feel like you could add something of value to the conversation if only you got the chance. 😅
But at least she's good looking and also pretty smart. So mostly it's at least some interesting stuff she talks about and it's pleasant to watch her while quietly nodding. 😏
As a big talker myself, especially around the people I’m comfortable with, I’ve learned to take a back seat. Either he’s gonna learn that, or drive you crazy but you’re on someone else’s timeline with this one. If you truly love the person, it’s something you work on. Obviously you’re with the dude so he is a good enough listener to get a beautiful and smart woman. Make what you say take center stage. But only for a certain time. Everyone deserves to be heard, but not everyone is comfortable with saying it all the time. I’m guessing this girl is totally comfortable with stating her opinion while this guy might be finding what works for him. She has been with the dude for a few years, it sounds like she wouldn’t put up with that shit if it was truly all the time. He feels comfortable to talk like that around you, he’ll listen to how you’re feeling.
But also, so people can’t be helped and you gotta know the difference.
I’m no guru here but I think a good in depth conversation would serve well to both parties.
Also, love ya Bill!
Motorboat!
12:32
"Dont fucking ask me about that!" and then you dont... ´"YOU DONT EVEN CARE!"
hahahaha
i talk over people all the time. its how my whole family communicates. but they don't get Butthurt over it. i have been a-lot better letting people talk with no interruption. however if its more then 3 paragraphs, i go back to the default me.
ok. so 1) I don't want to Tell people including loved ones about my possible opportunities in case I a) jinx it ...which Is Not real I know...
b) Fail. again. so don't tell until it's a Done deal. This is not uncommon
2. classic men are from mars women venus...You want to give solutions Constantly it sounds like...well intentioned I am sure but Women typically just want to voice their thoughts as a Process or Rant...just listen. If she doesn't trust you Not to just Listen and keep your Solutions, opinions and thoughts to yourself until Asked...then she is gonna clam up around you. Very common and just a Thought lol. Shhhhh....try listening.
8:16 GREA
I got this. When someone interrupts, just stop talking. When they(the interrupter) asks a question, answer it calmly and simply. Then when they sense a change in your voice, and say "what's wrong?" Just say "that's for you to find out".
I've been a introvert growing up and started to break the habit in my mid twenties, so I have no problem with the silent treatment.
That is passive aggressive bullshit. If someone says, "that's for you to find out" means you are still 16 years old mentally. Be confrontational not snarky and childish
no that's passive aggressive
communicate
Don’t overtalk me
Yeah, I did that whole, “You’re interrupting me,” and walk away with my dad. He found out what I was trying to say later on and I was like, “Maybe if you let me talk, you would’ve known about it!”
Where can I ask him the questions?
If she said she was Honduran I'd think this was my wife lol
Sounds like the second girl is either not looking for a job at all and doesn't want to admit it...or she decided to open an onlyfans account.
Don't kill me strong women.
Just like his comment on when you call a plumber, the plumbers wifes opinion is not what im asking for.
Just like the people who don't believe covid exists or vaccines are effective. They trust a RUclips video of a trucker who "put the pieces together." Yet, they refuse to trust scientists who have devoted their entire lives to science.
You don't ask the dishwasher at Olive Garden how to fix your car. You go to a mechanic.
That second one is interesting. I feel like he’s definitely driving her nuts. But if she loves him, she should be able to say that to him. I dunno. Bad communication on all sides here.
If she’s genuinely just not telling him what job she wants, that is super weird.
That is weird, idk why bill went the passive aggressive way, she has issues dude should kick her to the curb
2:07 you can tell bill has never been to the puerto rican parade in new york lol bunch of whales waving the puerto rican flag over there lol.
My dad was really bad like that, anytime he had a point or some one else tried to interject he would get SO loud honestly don't think he realized how rude it was. Always made me cringe even talked to him about it as a kid. Really glad I didn't pick that up from him. Think that "anxiousness" really is the trigger
Same here with my pops. I love my dad and though he wouldn't get as loud he would still slide his voice loud enough to cut me off when I was younger. And he would speed up whatever point he was saying. He's not as bad these days but it's made me not want to listen to his monologues.
I would talk over him in my language or just walk and if he thinks it’s fun then I will literally walk to the sunset
The comments on these videos makes me happy to know that I’m not the only person living with an absolute psycho, who’s also the best person in the world, god do I wanna slap the shit outta my girl sometimes but I love her so I just yell at my windshield instead
You suggested medication because he talks over you?! Fucking insane man, if you can’t deal with who you’re with, that’s your problem. Tired of women trying to change everything and everyone to fit their standards, while completely disregarding how other’s feel, were raised, or how they choose to be. If you don’t like it, if it’s such a massive issue, maybe they’re not your person to marry. If putting up with some BS is something you can’t handle, a relationship is not for you. It’s give and take. You can’t try to take this guy’s upbringing and part of his personality while acting like you’re a museum display behind some thick glass, untouched and pristine. All take and no give will always end in failure. ‘You talk over me and you need to change and you have problems’ will always lead to more stubbornness from the ‘changee’, will make the ‘changer’ look non-compassionate, and further the divide because there is no give. Just take.
I was raised by an Irish man, and an Italian woman born in the mid to late 50’s. Talking over is what my family does. We are loud, we interrupt, we call each other out for it, we tell the kids not to do it. We still do. It’s part of who I am, and my shy girlfriend of near 12 years now has an issue with it, and with my family being that way. I simply try my best, she appreciates that, and has adopted interrupting me to show me how it goes. Most things in a relationship are a team effort, especially if it’s something that doesn’t NEED to change, but is a preferred change. She made no progress complaining and telling me I have an issue and I need to change, alone. Takes me wanting change, and personally I wanted her to take note that she’s not as bad, but still does it by accident from time to time. I’ve got mental health issues with memory, so partially why I interrupt is because I will forget what I wanted to say because I will get invested in whatever you’re saying, thus forgetting my responses as they arise. Interrupting to me shows I am engaged, and if I have nothing to say at the end of everything I feel bad. It’s not that I wasn’t paying attention, it’s that I can’t remember.
Reading between the lines with the second guy... I'm thinking his girlfriend isn't looking for a job or is sick of looking for jobs and he's here going "what are you looking for? What are you looking for? Maybe I can help!" In that situation I'd clam up too.
People who talk over other people talking whether its general conversation, arguing or fighting is soooo annoying. It's just absolutely pathetic.
Ugh, yuck... People who talk or shout over people in a conversation are the worst. They're usually childish and unintelligent. Bill discussed this on another episode and said the same thing I just said. Childish, immature and unintelligent. Yelling or talking over someone is all they have because they're wrong. It's very inconsiderate annoying. One of many reasons I divorced my wife. I couldn't stand it. I'll never compromise with a dummy.
Talker-overs don’t get it! They believe that it is normal. My wife is one of them. It’s fucking annoying!
Get a cricket, A device that makes a sharp clicking sound, activate upon intrusive behavior, works with dogs.p
This sound like adhd
I have ADHD. This sounds like a learned behavior from childhood to me.
My brother does it all the time with his girlfriend, I just tell him to stop interrupting her and tell her to finish her sentence
Let me clear up a couple things here. What she's trying to say is.....
"We teach people how to treat us." Dr. Phil
Just go get an airhorn and when he starts doing it, just get quiet and calmly put in some earplugs, pull it out and blast it (do not do that while driving or in crowded public settings for obvious reasons). And then if he starts going, "WTF THAT IS SO RIDICULOUS" just hit the button again. Say you'll stop when he stops interrupting you.
When my husband does this I now walk away from Him mid conversation. He gets scared lol. Then he follows me and I tell him I’m not engaging unless I can speak and participate in the conversation. I have left the house before too. That usually gets the point accross.
Sorry to interrupt but I stopped listening to what you were trying to tell me for the last 20 minutes...
Lol ahhh yes Puerto Rican woman,as a rican i can confirm dont get them mad…you wont hear the end of it,feed her and keep her happy
Ah yes, just don't hold women accountable for their behavior. Makes perfect sense.
@@jrcruz166 ah yes someone who took my comment too far…maybe the problem is you?
@@eastsider85 the problem is certainly you
@@eastsider85 yeah they’re just taking it out of context. They’ve clearly never dated a Puerto Rican lol, they too serious
I came here for bill not his wife
Idk, second situation if a girl approached me like that over asking about her employment I’m like 85% sure she’s either stripping or doing onlyfans or something. I just don’t see any other reason why you’d react that way to “hey where are you looking for work?”. I get it could be something else too like being embarrassed about your job but that just sounds really weird to me and the fact she doesn’t want to even tell him why she doesn’t want to talk about it is a pretty huge red flag
Being a woman, she's probably babbling about stupid things that don't matter, or makes no sense.
I know everyone's talking about the interruption email but holy jesus, the guy from the last email could not sound more nerdy and hatable. When someone pressures someone else about jobs and looking for them and they're kind of not that communicative about it it simply 90% of the time means they're just not ready for an interview yet. That's it. Not everyone's mental health just allows them to go through even just the application process at anytime. Some people need a minute first.
Lol maybe this is dumb, but my bf responds better to like seeing me do stuff and then he picks up on it. So he would interrupt me (bc he’s gotta lot of energy no big) and so the next convo I’d interrupt him and demonstrate how I would want him to act by being like 1.) finishing my point but then 2.) saying “You were saying blah blah blah” to prove I was listening.
Might suggest pointing it out as well, but demonstrating it for anyone helps. I do it with my roommates too, and one is a pre-med major so its not like its a stupid thing!!
Took a bit, but he started doing it so he became more aware of it, and he had to actually listen to me so he could reiterate what I said at the end. Which was nice!
I know how to stop any person from talking over you... Tell them, "I know why you are talking over me!"...pause ...finish your statement...Then say. "the reason you talk over me is because you don't think I have anything important to say. I use this and it works ALL THE TIME!
There is a difference between motor boat and motor mouth.
" I know you guys are missing her on here "
Are we though?
He has adult ADHD. If he does it more when he's nervous, that seems like a clear sign. People with adult ADHD interrupt conversation alot. We can't fucking help it. I know I know, it's still a giant pain in the ass but I promise when we realize we are doing it, we feel like giant dick hole. If that helps
He doesn't respect her...thays why he interrupts.
Great comic! Terrible advice.
He might have ADHD, especially if she mentioned anxiety.