@@billycostigan1247 a woman in that age is past any form of “saving myself.” So that means either she’s not into you or not into sex at all. And that’s a red flag.
@@piperian3962 ah ok. I thought thered some other weird issue. But yeah its most likely shed rather not have sex then sleep with her man, or shes cheating
That’s my ex.. 4 years of abstinence and her constantly looking through my phone to make sure I wasn’t cheating or watching porn. (I never once even came close to cheating). I couldn’t spend the night with her because of course that would be living together and “you shouldn’t do that until you’re married.” Here’s the punchline, before we started dating, she slept with another woman’s man. And the best part is, she kept sleeping with this man for 6 MONTHS even though she knew he was in a relationship with someone else. Fast forward to our last day together after just over 4 years, she says I’m sorry but we need to break up and a week later she’s spending the night at some pilot’s house 200 miles away. Interesting stuff huh?
I mean, not to rain on your parade but relationships are worth pursuing for a lot of reasons. The horror stories are awful but if you’re just honest with what you’re looking for, you will be in a good place to navigate a relationship.
@@Jackaroo. In today's day and age, with women really embracing their nature more than ever and divorce rates higher than even? Yeah I'll stick to one night stands.
@@airraverstaz And then guys like you want to cry about the male suicide rate. You realize humans have evolved to need stable romantic relationships, and denying that is just going to lead to more sad, lonely men? Sounds like you just want to drag everyone down with you.
@@Natharsus because I'm trying to tell the guy he think that he shouldn't get trust issues listening to this because the only people writing in have a problem so you don't learn about all the people without problems. Difficult concept to grasp isnt it
She’s using him for something, either money, stability or whatever there isn’t any love or sexual attraction on her part. If she bragged about the ex she’s still into him, He just probably wouldn’t marry her and she wanted to be married.
What makes it worse is she expecting financial support even after all of that. It MIGHT be okay if love wasn’t a factor and the agreement was he provides for her financially and she puts out sexually in return. But the man’s getting nothing out of the deal. Instant divorce if it were me
I'm pretty sure it's meant as "if you had a gun to your head forcing you to make a choice between these two hypothetical scenarios that'll never happen, which one would you choose?" Cause you know often people to shitty choices like this, instead of having fun with it, respond with like "I don't wanna choose, they're both shitty, leave me alone"
Bro, She had secs for 6 years with her ex and was celibate with OP for a year before the marriage ? What sense does it make ? I wouldn't even had married her.
@@michaelr3583 The thing is that even if they absolutely wanted to be celibate he should have gauged whether she was actually attracted to him, if they had the right chemistry they should have had a couple times where they were close to do it in a year. If everything was flat it was already a bad omen. Attraction does not have an on and off switch, you can't just turn it on on the wedding night.
She "bragged" about her sex life with her ex to make you think she's sexual; when in reality she's not and is lying. Her ex was likely as frustrated as you. Believe actions, not words.
THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!! That’s exactly what happened to me last year and I did exactly what is Bill telling man to do. I left her and now a year later I’m happy and wondering “what in the hell was that? thanks god I got out of that”
@@sandeepmortal thanks! No, She wasn’t my wife. Just a chick I dated. She was a narcissist and tricked my mind through love bombing and then devaluation through weaponizing sex etc. I didn’t know about narcissists at the time and was all confused and addicted to all the love I got in the beginning of the “relationship” but some where along the line I felt I am disrespecting my self way too much here and just got out.
@@sandeepmortal indeed! But learned a lot. 1. Forgiving others without telling them is a form self love. Vindictive thoughts consume you like a motherfucker. 2. Self respect comes before anyone in life. 3. Hurt people hurt people. There are psychos out there. 4. Never allow yourself to become desperate. Desperate people make desperate decisions.
@@KevanKChannel thank you so much. Your first point about is so strong. I have recently lost the only person I ever loved. She and I cannot be together because of strange acts of destiny. There is no one to be blamed but I am angry all the time. Towards no one. As I said, no one can be blamed. But I am just bitter and angry towards life
Honestly, I stayed in an awful marriage for 10 years. She was the best girlfriend that I ever had, but she was absolutely useless as a wife.. I thought it would get better, but it just got worse. There were several reasons why I stayed as long as I did (including my religious stigma against Divorce), but eventually, I had to ask myself a simple question: Do I want to stay miserable and married to increase my chances of going to Heaven when I die while staying in Hell during my life, or should I try to pursue finding some happiness by moving on and just roll the dice on the afterlife? My only regret is simple - I should have left years ago.
Regarding the story of the woman who doesn't wanna have sex; it's not that she doesn't want sex, it's that she doesn't want to have sex with you... drop her and move on...
Weird. I’d have annulled the marriage right there and then. My husband pulled that nonsense with me 1.5 years into the marriage. He didn’t want anything to do with me for the next 4 years no matter what I did to try to make him interested in me. My husband used to say, “I’m not your boyfriend. Married people don’t have s3x!” to me when I’d quietly ask what was wrong. I finally gave up, called the movers, and left. I paid for the whole divorce and never looked back. It was so horrible for my self esteem because I’d have all of these guys hitting on me at opera rehearsals, the gym, wherever, and my own husband wanted nothing to do with me and had no decent explanation for it. I’m happier alone rather than being alone in a marriage.
Why would you even want to have sex with a woman who’s just letting you do it to shut you up? That’s more humiliating to me than just not having sex at all.
Sad… I grew up in the church and got married young and it was a similar situation. We split a couple years ago and it was the best thing that could of ever happened for both of us. I’m now in a healthy relationship and happier than I’ve ever been.
@password 12 Depends. If the woman has been a floozie for men in the past and says that she wants you to wait, then gtfo. If she’s a virgin, or has only been with one or two guys in committed relationships, and asks you to wait, then wait. Assuming you really like the chick in both situations of course.
@@xxxSabrinaroxxx Nah it's terrible. Unless you don't care about sex why would you wait till marriage to figure out you're not sexually compatible, it makes backing out so much harder
@@thesmilingvagrants but but but. . .the personality. I think people who argue otherwise have low sex drive or don't value sex. Which is fine in both cases but there are a lot of people who do care. It all comes down to personal preference, if you don't care about sex than more power to you, easier to pick a partner I guess. Unless of course the other person does care lol. Sexually compatibility is a thing and is important what if you love blow jobs but she refuses or she really likes toys but you think that's against god, so many things can go wrong.
LEEEEEAVE that woman. Personal experience. My first wife was the same way and trust me as time goes on, it goes from sex once a week, to once a month, to once per holiday, to sex on your birthday (maybe), and it’s just worse when you finally do get divorced. Don’t think of divorce as sacrilege, it’s just breaking a government contract. You can get an annulment if the divorce is early enough and protect your assets (hopefully you got a prenup for the marriage). I ended up banging a lot of different women during that marriage and was glad I did when I found out she never wanted to have sex because she was banging dudes every other weekend while I was out for work (I travel a lot for work). We surprisingly divorced mutually and I’m happier than I’ve ever been with my current wife. I had a divorce party and everything. Send it bro
@@deathbringer8307 people do stupid stuff all day bro, just 10 min ago I yelled at my nan for spilling coffee, but just now I went and did it myself, you cant win
The advice given to the Moroccan bloke who's in love with the doctor is most properly excellent advice. I conquer with Bill's advice & analysis of having been fecked up himself, why, & how it panned out subconsciously, 'cause that was my background too! I lost a brilliant, brilliant, wonderful young woman who put up with me for years & I might not have if I'd understood myself better. I know there's no shortage of similar people. I hope the Moroccan feller takes the advice & lives happily ever after!
She couldn’t get a ring from the other guy so she found a beta simp to wife her up. This is called the dualistic mating strategy that women who aren’t high level enough to attract a man with both (money and Alpha-Ness)
How is that advice 🤔 its just an observation and a very questionable one. a happy person can be hoodwinked or change etc and it's just a self fulfilling prophesy to say Good marriages don't end in divorce. So I don't see how this is advice you can follow.
@@JM-bg2ts can you give me an example of a good marriage that ended in divorce? Marriages don’t if both parties are happy and/or healthy. People shouldn’t torture themselves to stay in bad relationship, and people shouldn’t feel ashamed of moving on. The advice comes when people realize that it’s ok to move on from a bad situation.
@@rubenjimenez7287 Have you ever seen two happily married people get divorced? If yes, then you've proven my point wrong. Otherwise, I don't know how else to explain it to you. Good, happy, and healthy marriages don't end in divorce.
There’s something very wrong with her… I can count on one hand (literally) the days that I’ve been around my fiancé the entire time we’ve been together that we haven’t had sex or at least fooled around. We’ve been together for well over a year. Granted the last 10 months have been long distance but still… 4 days out of our entire relationship that we haven’t. And you can count on one hand the number of times she’s wanted it??? In 5 years??? Tf… run buddy. Run.
I say we bring back the 1950's two bed thing. That means when she's in your bed, your getting some, otherwise you actually get some sleep and no one wakes you or takes your covers. Sleep is supposed to be restful
@@hud86 I jniw its like I can never win. She really pissed now because of what I told her the other day. I said look it's not my job to keep you happy 24 7. You need to get hobbies and friends an do things that don't involve me. It can get smothering at times
For all the praises women sing for sharing your emotions and shit, they seem to be awfully shy when it comes to actually speaking their mind. Maybe they're afraid it will fall out or sth, idk
With that first scenario: That woman is either cheating, using you as a sugar daddy, or married you out of sympathy. Either way, she doesn't love you, dude. She's using you.
Covert Narcissist.. it's all a power play. She did not have great sex with him, it's a way of having control.Turning it around so the guys feels insecure and that's it's his fault somehow and make him not asking for it.
When a woman loves you she wants you, actually she needs you every single day, but if not, is simply time to leave, don't ask why or anything like that, just leave...
I just got out of a 7 year relationship and the girl I was with stopped wanting to have sex with me after she got that birth control shot, so for the next like 5 years she hardly ever wanted to have sex. We started dating freshman year of high school. Both each others first for everything, then nothing. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. We just broke up last year and she’d already moved on within 2 months. I’m still not sure what I’m gunna do haha
Dude spend that time taking care of yourself. Work out, eat right, spend time with family and friends, laugh a lot. Get in a great frame of mind and you will meet that perfect girl on no time
I choose Shark. Just go for the nose and eyes and with one good boop, they'll leave you alone. Lion....sure you could go for the eyes, or attempt to choke it out, but to even get on a position where you have the chance to, would be...wishful.
I'm 25, man. I can totally relate. All my friends are getting married. But I don't even want to be in a serious relationship, let alone get married. I know I will get married at some point in the future but not for another 10 years.
No.1 rule is make sure the person want to be there with you, if you like a person but they dont reciprocate, drop it! You can’t expect women to open up on first day/week, but marriage is you saying “I want to live you every day forever” ! If you don’t intend to do that, don’t marry!
@@samuraijack0876 some words of advice for you: 1) Don’t expect them to change, if your significant other spends money like a drunken sailor then it will continue after being married. If they keep a dirty apartment or don’t do dishes then it will continue after being married. There isn’t a magic switch that flips after you say “I do” that your spouses personality changes. 2) You gotta kick the tires, a lot, before you buy. Do not be celibate during the entire relationship like the first guy and find out after you’ve signed the contract that the spouse isn’t into sex. A lot of the enjoyment from sex comes from the attitude from who you’re banging. You need to pay attention to see if the other person is going through the motions with you or not while you’re doing the deed. You need to make sure you’re compatible from a sex standpoint. 3) If there are things that bug you while you’re dating then they will be way worse after marriage. For example, let’s assume you’re dating someone that just makes bad decisions such as buying a car they can afford, or thinking it’s all good to go off-roading while having hot coffee in their lap, etc. If you’re just dating this other person you might not care that much or be a little annoyed with their bad decisions, once married though you’ll be paying a part of the price on those bad decisions. It’s really going to piss you off when your spouse comes home to tell you they traded the car with someone for some magic beans, or that they just bought a new set of cookware because their favorite influencer used it once. My advice to you is to only get married if you’re planning to have children of that she is the absolute perfect person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Women are expensive, but married women are REALLY EXPENSIVE especially when going through a divorce. Develop a career, earn some money, and by the time you’re in your late twenties you’ll be tripping over women that want to be with you.
Excellent advice, but I think it's important to add one more rule of thumb: hold your partner accountable. They'll probably make excuses or, even worse, gaslight you into thinking it's all your fault. Hold them accountable anyway, especially if you know that you're right. If your partner continually fails to live up to mutually-agreed expectations, then be prepared to leave. If they do so for longer than a month, then LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! If she wants to work it out at that point, only consider it IF she takes accountability for her mistakes (and that's a big IF)... If you're not holding up your end of the bargain, then the same logic applies as well - don't be surprised if you get dumped.
Listening to this at 26. Got married at 22. We used to be intimate all of the time but leading into our wedding, things stopped. I'm hearing this guy complain about being intimate once a week when we haven't been intimate in over six months at the time of writing this. Every time this get brought up, she always makes me feel like some sex hungry maniac. She's never willing to talk through our problems. At the moment, we're a double income and no kids kind of situation and we still can't afford anything. I'm financially bound and my heart is torn. I love her so much but she doesn't show it back in that way. I know what I must do. Divorce. But the conversations, the paperwork, the emotional and financial uncertainty are what's holding me back.
Just make sure you dont trap yourself with child... all else can be resolved, you can 100% get over any type of heart break (with time), but a child that you get to see every two weeks will rip your heart apart, leave while youre still young buddy. Good luck.
Get out while you can, if a woman can't find you attractive enough to have sex on a regular base your wasting your time. Because in six months she hasn't touched you, she has at the very least, touching herself, or worst cheating on you.
Don't have kids. Get out immediately. I can almost guarantee she is probably having sex, just not with you. Sexless marriages aren't marriages. She's not your roommate. If you really want to salvage the marriage, see a councilor and find out what's going wrong. Give it as a ultimatum. Twenty six is beyond young. Both of you should be having a lot of sex. Even if you have to restart your life financially, it's still early. Worse for you if you coast on this and do nothing; you are just wasting time in your life. Things won't get better, they'll only get worse.
Heard a story where a guy just got married and on the honeymoon night, his wife just wanted to text her friends and play on Twitter....the guy divorced her the very next day....so if you are reading this this is the answer to your question
Bill bobby fuck Burr actually has sage advice. New favorite comedian for sure. Why do people hate on this guy? He is more real than 95% of other celebs.
@@freezoneproject567 actually allot of people come from shitty homes and end up with fucked up ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be. My parents just got divorced, I am 26 and I've never had a girlfriend because all I ever saw them do was fight mostly about money.
she really needs to talk to someone about this without you in the room. there's something about getting psychological advice from a professional that helps people see things clearly. my ex went to a counsellor after I left her and it was only then that she started to understand about her codependency. she got the free counselling from her workplace and she got a lot out of the first one hour session. you need to understand that what you're feeling is normal and okay and you can't change how she feels. you may need to leave her and rebuild.
I'm waiting till marriage and these stories truly terrify me lol I can only hope and pray that my future wife will be as dedicated to being a good spouse as I know I will be.
Many guys in the comments said they had sex before marriege and things stopped after. Waiting is fine, there is nothing wrong with it. Unfortunetly, not all relationships workout.
You don't buy a car without a test drive, don't marry a woman before sleeping with her. Sex is simply a part of marriage, you don't need to do it ×3 a day but jeez if this how it starts 10 years down the line it'll be a nightmare.
A woman in her late 20s that doesn’t want sex before marriage (that had sex in the past) is a huge red flag.
means she has a side piece and just using you for a roof and meal ticket.
What do you think the red flag means tho? Im very curious why a woman like that would exist
@@billycostigan1247 a woman in that age is past any form of “saving myself.” So that means either she’s not into you or not into sex at all. And that’s a red flag.
@@piperian3962 ah ok. I thought thered some other weird issue. But yeah its most likely shed rather not have sex then sleep with her man, or shes cheating
That’s my ex..
4 years of abstinence and her constantly looking through my phone to make sure I wasn’t cheating or watching porn. (I never once even came close to cheating). I couldn’t spend the night with her because of course that would be living together and “you shouldn’t do that until you’re married.”
Here’s the punchline, before we started dating, she slept with another woman’s man. And the best part is, she kept sleeping with this man for 6 MONTHS even though she knew he was in a relationship with someone else.
Fast forward to our last day together after just over 4 years, she says I’m sorry but we need to break up and a week later she’s spending the night at some pilot’s house 200 miles away.
Interesting stuff huh?
This is the most depressing story I've ever heard. Everytime I feel bad about being alone, I just listen to stories of married people.
I mean, not to rain on your parade but relationships are worth pursuing for a lot of reasons. The horror stories are awful but if you’re just honest with what you’re looking for, you will be in a good place to navigate a relationship.
@@Jackaroo. In today's day and age, with women really embracing their nature more than ever and divorce rates higher than even? Yeah I'll stick to one night stands.
@@airraverstaz And then guys like you want to cry about the male suicide rate. You realize humans have evolved to need stable romantic relationships, and denying that is just going to lead to more sad, lonely men? Sounds like you just want to drag everyone down with you.
Hahahaha so true 😂😂😂
@@blank-vj1mc Is that a joke? I'm more liable to commit suicide after losing half of my shit in a bad divorce, or worse my kids.
This guy saw the red flag and used it as a blanket ... wow
I'm using this metaphor
@@eliyahuohiyon7461 same
That's a great line lol
Lmao
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Binge listening to these is giving me trust issues and baggage lol
unfortunately no one writes in asking for how to fuck up their amazing life, or make their amazing life better
@@fahimrind9714 I’m wondering why you even felt the need to comment that. You might as well have said nothing.
@@Natharsus because I'm trying to tell the guy he think that he shouldn't get trust issues listening to this because the only people writing in have a problem so you don't learn about all the people without problems.
Difficult concept to grasp isnt it
@@fahimrind9714 You're not wrong. Now if you just lose the condescending attitude you'll be good to go.
@@unsungzero6122 no can do my man, it's basically my entire personality
Divorce. She doesn't see this guy in a sexual way.
This is like the dentist guy in "The Hangover" and his terrible fiancee.
Lolll exactly
Paging Doctor F****t!
Dude her at the end at the wedding when she’s screaming at him 🤢🤮
Divorce divorce
Poor Andy 😂
She’s using him for something, either money, stability or whatever there isn’t any love or sexual attraction on her part. If she bragged about the ex she’s still into him, He just probably wouldn’t marry her and she wanted to be married.
sounds like my bros ex gf. she would bang him 2 or 3 times a year but she was actually banging half the town when he went to work
What makes it worse is she expecting financial support even after all of that. It MIGHT be okay if love wasn’t a factor and the agreement was he provides for her financially and she puts out sexually in return. But the man’s getting nothing out of the deal. Instant divorce if it were me
is she an immigrant who needs marital status?
@@TJ-kk5zf not only immigrants want to be married…
She's looking for a wallet not a husband
“Gun to your head, eaten by a shark or eaten by a lion?”
Uhm, I’ll take the gun ya psychopath.
lol yeah. the point of the gun is if you don't do either they'll shoot you in the head. it's legit the third option.
I was just about to point that out 😂
Neither, it ain't possibly going to happen to me. How? Don't go anywhere near Sharks or Lions that's how! What a lame-ass scenario.
Gun
Getting eaten alive is just one of the worst ways to die
I'm pretty sure it's meant as "if you had a gun to your head forcing you to make a choice between these two hypothetical scenarios that'll never happen, which one would you choose?"
Cause you know often people to shitty choices like this, instead of having fun with it, respond with like "I don't wanna choose, they're both shitty, leave me alone"
I would have been walking right out that door within 12 hours of marrying this broad. Jesus man run
Bruh how do I keep finding you everywhere? Don't you make Disney logos?
You’d be able to get it annulled if you’d done that too
Bro, She had secs for 6 years with her ex and was celibate with OP for a year before the marriage ? What sense does it make ? I wouldn't even had married her.
She would have lost me after 3 dates and no🍑
@@michaelr3583 The thing is that even if they absolutely wanted to be celibate he should have gauged whether she was actually attracted to him, if they had the right chemistry they should have had a couple times where they were close to do it in a year. If everything was flat it was already a bad omen. Attraction does not have an on and off switch, you can't just turn it on on the wedding night.
Damn. My man’s wife put him in the friend zone.
😂😂😂
lol he doesn’t even know it
Dam I didn’t even think that shit was possible…..
This friend zone....sounds like a nice place! How do I go there?
@@langfordjeremy100 You take a left turn after you pass being the money dispenser.
She "bragged" about her sex life with her ex to make you think she's sexual; when in reality she's not and is lying. Her ex was likely as frustrated as you. Believe actions, not words.
Exactly what I was thinking! Hit it on the nail!
Always pay attention to what a women does and not what she says. My mom gave me that game at an early age.
When the switch goes off to a Narcissist. It's gone.
Or she's cheating
Whether she was telling the truth about that or lying either possibility is horrible.
THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!! That’s exactly what happened to me last year and I did exactly what is Bill telling man to do. I left her and now a year later I’m happy and wondering “what in the hell was that? thanks god I got out of that”
Congratulations.
But did you have to pay compensation to her?
@@sandeepmortal thanks! No, She wasn’t my wife. Just a chick I dated. She was a narcissist and tricked my mind through love bombing and then devaluation through weaponizing sex etc. I didn’t know about narcissists at the time and was all confused and addicted to all the love I got in the beginning of the “relationship” but some where along the line I felt I am disrespecting my self way too much here and just got out.
@@KevanKChannel I am so happy to hear that. It's a dangerous world really. May we keep our sanity
@@sandeepmortal indeed! But learned a lot.
1. Forgiving others without telling them is a form self love. Vindictive thoughts consume you like a motherfucker.
2. Self respect comes before anyone in life.
3. Hurt people hurt people. There are psychos out there.
4. Never allow yourself to become desperate. Desperate people make desperate decisions.
@@KevanKChannel thank you so much. Your first point about is so strong. I have recently lost the only person I ever loved. She and I cannot be together because of strange acts of destiny. There is no one to be blamed but I am angry all the time. Towards no one. As I said, no one can be blamed. But I am just bitter and angry towards life
"As a christian i don't want to get a divorce.."; this Guy is his own worst enemy, DUDE WAKE THE F UP! RUN!
I second that lmao
Yeah, but as a Christian I constantly hear my wife bragging about her previous sex life. Amen
Finally some spoke out my thoughts exactly lol
@@hamzamahmood9565 right? What you doing marrying someone bragging about her previous sex life if you’re on team Jesus?
Honestly, I stayed in an awful marriage for 10 years. She was the best girlfriend that I ever had, but she was absolutely useless as a wife.. I thought it would get better, but it just got worse.
There were several reasons why I stayed as long as I did (including my religious stigma against Divorce), but eventually, I had to ask myself a simple question:
Do I want to stay miserable and married to increase my chances of going to Heaven when I die while staying in Hell during my life, or should I try to pursue finding some happiness by moving on and just roll the dice on the afterlife?
My only regret is simple - I should have left years ago.
Regarding the story of the woman who doesn't wanna have sex; it's not that she doesn't want sex, it's that she doesn't want to have sex with you... drop her and move on...
Bingo 💯
Do you know what food makes a woman lose her sex drive?
A wedding cake... LOL
Why is a bride all smiles?
She knows she won't be putting _that_ in her mouth again.
@@melainewhite6409 aw. For real?? I’m gettin married in two weeks
@@spencerwinchester2917 not all women don't worry lol
@@lucianaromulus1408 lol sure
Weird. I’d have annulled the marriage right there and then. My husband pulled that nonsense with me 1.5 years into the marriage. He didn’t want anything to do with me for the next 4 years no matter what I did to try to make him interested in me. My husband used to say, “I’m not your boyfriend. Married people don’t have s3x!” to me when I’d quietly ask what was wrong. I finally gave up, called the movers, and left. I paid for the whole divorce and never looked back. It was so horrible for my self esteem because I’d have all of these guys hitting on me at opera rehearsals, the gym, wherever, and my own husband wanted nothing to do with me and had no decent explanation for it. I’m happier alone rather than being alone in a marriage.
You made the right decision
He was gay for sure 🤣
Good on you for getting out of a lousy situation. Sounds like it was his loss in the end. Heres hoping you find someone much better.
Maybe he was gay
Calm down. Men will be men. You're not that important hun.
Why would you even want to have sex with a woman who’s just letting you do it to shut you up? That’s more humiliating to me than just not having sex at all.
Yeah. You shouldn't want to have sex with someone who makes you feel like they're merely tolerating you.
Once the bedroom dies, so does the marriage. No reason to get married or even live with a Women if this happens.
No reason to get married, full stop.
@@mesaber86 💯
@@mesaber86 Marriage.
Betting half of your life's worth of shit.
On the one chance that special someone "might" love you forever..
@@mesaber86 there are a lot of reasons to be in a good marriage but no reasons to be in a bad marriage
@@joenichols3901 for men a good marriage is having sex five minutes two three times a day
damn thats rough, poor dude, he must leave this woman
LEAVE. She's married to you for money and security and not love. DIVORCE
Sad… I grew up in the church and got married young and it was a similar situation. We split a couple years ago and it was the best thing that could of ever happened for both of us. I’m now in a healthy relationship and happier than I’ve ever been.
That’s great man I’m glad things went well
"You make me feel like a failure as a wife"... um well now that you mention it...
Waiting until you're married is dumb. Try before you buy.
Waiting is fine. it just makes it wrong and weird that she didn’t wanna sleep with him after they got married
@password 12 Depends. If the woman has been a floozie for men in the past and says that she wants you to wait, then gtfo. If she’s a virgin, or has only been with one or two guys in committed relationships, and asks you to wait, then wait. Assuming you really like the chick in both situations of course.
@@xxxSabrinaroxxx Nah it's terrible. Unless you don't care about sex why would you wait till marriage to figure out you're not sexually compatible, it makes backing out so much harder
Marrying someone you haven't had sex with is like buying a car that you've never even sat in let alone test drive
@@thesmilingvagrants but but but. . .the personality. I think people who argue otherwise have low sex drive or don't value sex. Which is fine in both cases but there are a lot of people who do care. It all comes down to personal preference, if you don't care about sex than more power to you, easier to pick a partner I guess. Unless of course the other person does care lol. Sexually compatibility is a thing and is important what if you love blow jobs but she refuses or she really likes toys but you think that's against god, so many things can go wrong.
LEEEEEAVE that woman. Personal experience. My first wife was the same way and trust me as time goes on, it goes from sex once a week, to once a month, to once per holiday, to sex on your birthday (maybe), and it’s just worse when you finally do get divorced. Don’t think of divorce as sacrilege, it’s just breaking a government contract. You can get an annulment if the divorce is early enough and protect your assets (hopefully you got a prenup for the marriage). I ended up banging a lot of different women during that marriage and was glad I did when I found out she never wanted to have sex because she was banging dudes every other weekend while I was out for work (I travel a lot for work). We surprisingly divorced mutually and I’m happier than I’ve ever been with my current wife. I had a divorce party and everything. Send it bro
Why did you guys get married?
Yeah... Why did you guys get even married lol, i mean... Both of u are cheating right..?
@@deathbringer8307 people do stupid stuff all day bro, just 10 min ago I yelled at my nan for spilling coffee, but just now I went and did it myself, you cant win
@@flavorlessdenial8271 lmao
What ever happened to finding out who the other people who lie across from us are before you get married??
"I know ya love her but it's over maate"
The advice given to the Moroccan bloke who's in love with the doctor is most properly excellent advice. I conquer with Bill's advice & analysis of having been fecked up himself, why, & how it panned out subconsciously, 'cause that was my background too! I lost a brilliant, brilliant, wonderful young woman who put up with me for years & I might not have if I'd understood myself better. I know there's no shortage of similar people. I hope the Moroccan feller takes the advice & lives happily ever after!
" I didn't get married to have sex"
Well I didn't get married to be a monk...... By sweet heart
He's a paycheck now and a future alimony check later.
Yup!..absolutely no point hanging on to someone that isn't into you,you are just the room mate that pays the bills.
Trust me!....I know!
Question, how attractive is this guy..and how much money does he have....I smell gold digger 😬
She's just waiting for him to cheat so she can divorce him and take half. Or maybe he leaves her and owes alimony.
@@floatinggoose9197 ya this broad is strategic master.
He’s probably not that great looking or nerdy but has a lot of cash
Lmao love this podcast. “Bill what do I do about this marriage I’m in?” Next email. “BILL LION OR SHARK?”
She makes rules for the nice guys bit as soon as the bad boy comes around, she breaks them.
Women make rules for Betas and break rules for Alphas
She couldn’t get a ring from the other guy so she found a beta simp to wife her up.
This is called the dualistic mating strategy that women who aren’t high level enough to attract a man with both (money and Alpha-Ness)
It's this exact reason right here that I gave up on monogamy. It's a joke today.
Happy people and good marriages don’t end in divorce. That was one of the best pieces of relationship advice I ever heard.
How is that advice 🤔 its just an observation and a very questionable one. a happy person can be hoodwinked or change etc and it's just a self fulfilling prophesy to say Good marriages don't end in divorce. So I don't see how this is advice you can follow.
@@JM-bg2ts can you give me an example of a good marriage that ended in divorce? Marriages don’t if both parties are happy and/or healthy. People shouldn’t torture themselves to stay in bad relationship, and people shouldn’t feel ashamed of moving on. The advice comes when people realize that it’s ok to move on from a bad situation.
That makes no sense
@@rubenjimenez7287 Have you ever seen two happily married people get divorced? If yes, then you've proven my point wrong. Otherwise, I don't know how else to explain it to you. Good, happy, and healthy marriages don't end in divorce.
@@ecpracticesquad4674 It's not that I think you're wrong. It's just blatantly obvious that you're right lmao, so I wouldn't call it "advice"
The second email about the dude in love with the doctor is probably the best advice Bill's ever given
The last one feels similar to my situation, I already am taking the steps Bill said but man it feels good to hear it reinforced
Wow...i get more affection from my prison gard than he does from his wife!
billy please help this poor man. for the first time i feel bad.
Hats off Bill - great advice after the marriage story. Really impressive advice.
This was a personally wholesome snatch of the podcast! Good job on putting this together man! Thank you!
“Misery is your comfort zone.” Nice.
Ayoo he's getting it once a week. He's doing better than most guys in relationships.
Hahaaaa
Those measured pauses really hammer the point home.
He must be very stable financially and takes care of her and has been since day one.
"do you have halitosis and she doesn't know how to tell you?"
im ded 💀😂🤣
I loved you in reservation dogs and Mandalorin you're a great actor
There’s something very wrong with her…
I can count on one hand (literally) the days that I’ve been around my fiancé the entire time we’ve been together that we haven’t had sex or at least fooled around. We’ve been together for well over a year. Granted the last 10 months have been long distance but still… 4 days out of our entire relationship that we haven’t. And you can count on one hand the number of times she’s wanted it??? In 5 years??? Tf… run buddy. Run.
This stuff is real. I know guys who stay married and didn’t have any with their wives for years.
i want to quit the general population when i hear how BETA some males are ...
I say we bring back the 1950's two bed thing. That means when she's in your bed, your getting some, otherwise you actually get some sleep and no one wakes you or takes your covers. Sleep is supposed to be restful
This will be implemented in my house!😅
That's how me and wife live. She hates it though and bothers her a lot.
@@donell307 if it's not one thing it'll be another...
@@hud86 I jniw its like I can never win. She really pissed now because of what I told her the other day. I said look it's not my job to keep you happy 24 7. You need to get hobbies and friends an do things that don't involve me. It can get smothering at times
@@donell307 this world breeds narcissist. Stay strong, I'm rooting for you
This show idea is amazing, makes think of those old call in radio shows.
These thumbnails are brilliant 😅
When a man complains about not getting sex it is because he's shallow.
When a women complains about not getting sex it is because she has standards.
The last guy... I Sabotaged the best relationship I ever had. Because I couldn't believe she actually loved me. Please don't do this.
Bro, she doesn’t want you for you. She just wants your stability/money. Leave period.
Divorce her, the alimony clock is ticking, the longer you wait, the more it will cost you
Perfect advice.
This is just wrong a person refusing to have sex with there partner is like refusing to show them attention you need both to make a relationship work.
I’m in a similar situation. Women aren’t good at confronting their man about things before it becomes a problem
LEAVE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This
For all the praises women sing for sharing your emotions and shit, they seem to be awfully shy when it comes to actually speaking their mind. Maybe they're afraid it will fall out or sth, idk
this is the exact type of marriage that ends in probably both of them cheating and getting divorced eventually
There's always her charming personality.
The implication that squirrels don't go to heaven is quality 👌
You're literally just a second wallet for her man.
With that first scenario: That woman is either cheating, using you as a sugar daddy, or married you out of sympathy. Either way, she doesn't love you, dude. She's using you.
Covert Narcissist.. it's all a power play.
She did not have great sex with him, it's a way of having control.Turning it around so the guys feels insecure and that's it's his fault somehow and make him not asking for it.
I'm really rooting for the Moroccan boy!!!! 😫👐💖💗
Chick has more issues than Dr Phil has heard
When a woman loves you she wants you, actually she needs you every single day, but if not, is simply time to leave, don't ask why or anything like that, just leave...
This is so sad it makes me happy...about my life.
Run before the kids come!!!
Dude please please get a divorce before it’s too late …. I would have bailed before even the thought of marriage.
She’s 100% cheating.
I just got out of a 7 year relationship and the girl I was with stopped wanting to have sex with me after she got that birth control shot, so for the next like 5 years she hardly ever wanted to have sex. We started dating freshman year of high school. Both each others first for everything, then nothing. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. We just broke up last year and she’d already moved on within 2 months. I’m still not sure what I’m gunna do haha
Dude spend that time taking care of yourself. Work out, eat right, spend time with family and friends, laugh a lot. Get in a great frame of mind and you will meet that perfect girl on no time
“Like a big dummie” 😆
I choose Shark. Just go for the nose and eyes and with one good boop, they'll leave you alone.
Lion....sure you could go for the eyes, or attempt to choke it out, but to even get on a position where you have the chance to, would be...wishful.
I’m 20 years old and after watching these videos about relationships I am dead scared to be in a real relationship
I'm 25, man. I can totally relate. All my friends are getting married. But I don't even want to be in a serious relationship, let alone get married. I know I will get married at some point in the future but not for another 10 years.
No.1 rule is make sure the person want to be there with you, if you like a person but they dont reciprocate, drop it! You can’t expect women to open up on first day/week, but marriage is you saying “I want to live you every day forever” ! If you don’t intend to do that, don’t marry!
@@samuraijack0876 some words of advice for you:
1) Don’t expect them to change, if your significant other spends money like a drunken sailor then it will continue after being married. If they keep a dirty apartment or don’t do dishes then it will continue after being married. There isn’t a magic switch that flips after you say “I do” that your spouses personality changes.
2) You gotta kick the tires, a lot, before you buy. Do not be celibate during the entire relationship like the first guy and find out after you’ve signed the contract that the spouse isn’t into sex. A lot of the enjoyment from sex comes from the attitude from who you’re banging. You need to pay attention to see if the other person is going through the motions with you or not while you’re doing the deed. You need to make sure you’re compatible from a sex standpoint.
3) If there are things that bug you while you’re dating then they will be way worse after marriage. For example, let’s assume you’re dating someone that just makes bad decisions such as buying a car they can afford, or thinking it’s all good to go off-roading while having hot coffee in their lap, etc. If you’re just dating this other person you might not care that much or be a little annoyed with their bad decisions, once married though you’ll be paying a part of the price on those bad decisions. It’s really going to piss you off when your spouse comes home to tell you they traded the car with someone for some magic beans, or that they just bought a new set of cookware because their favorite influencer used it once.
My advice to you is to only get married if you’re planning to have children of that she is the absolute perfect person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Women are expensive, but married women are REALLY EXPENSIVE especially when going through a divorce. Develop a career, earn some money, and by the time you’re in your late twenties you’ll be tripping over women that want to be with you.
Excellent advice, but I think it's important to add one more rule of thumb: hold your partner accountable. They'll probably make excuses or, even worse, gaslight you into thinking it's all your fault. Hold them accountable anyway, especially if you know that you're right.
If your partner continually fails to live up to mutually-agreed expectations, then be prepared to leave. If they do so for longer than a month, then LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! If she wants to work it out at that point, only consider it IF she takes accountability for her mistakes (and that's a big IF)...
If you're not holding up your end of the bargain, then the same logic applies as well - don't be surprised if you get dumped.
All this advice sucks. Here's the proper advice; Don't want to be in a relationship? Don't be. It's 2022, it's never been more accepted/easier.
married before copulation. I stopped right there 😂
I feel that first story, heart goes out to em poor guy.
Listening to this at 26. Got married at 22. We used to be intimate all of the time but leading into our wedding, things stopped. I'm hearing this guy complain about being intimate once a week when we haven't been intimate in over six months at the time of writing this. Every time this get brought up, she always makes me feel like some sex hungry maniac. She's never willing to talk through our problems. At the moment, we're a double income and no kids kind of situation and we still can't afford anything. I'm financially bound and my heart is torn. I love her so much but she doesn't show it back in that way. I know what I must do. Divorce. But the conversations, the paperwork, the emotional and financial uncertainty are what's holding me back.
Just make sure you dont trap yourself with child... all else can be resolved, you can 100% get over any type of heart break (with time), but a child that you get to see every two weeks will rip your heart apart, leave while youre still young buddy. Good luck.
I'd make her a problem divorce her and find another lady that loves me.
Get out while you can, if a woman can't find you attractive enough to have sex on a regular base your wasting your time. Because in six months she hasn't touched you, she has at the very least, touching herself, or worst cheating on you.
Don't have kids. Get out immediately. I can almost guarantee she is probably having sex, just not with you. Sexless marriages aren't marriages. She's not your roommate. If you really want to salvage the marriage, see a councilor and find out what's going wrong. Give it as a ultimatum. Twenty six is beyond young. Both of you should be having a lot of sex. Even if you have to restart your life financially, it's still early. Worse for you if you coast on this and do nothing; you are just wasting time in your life. Things won't get better, they'll only get worse.
Get the fuck out now.
She either using you or is already cheating.
this dude needs to flee. Run dude, run!!
"We didn't have sex before marriage". What in the 1910s is this?
or India
Lmaoooo
You're acting like saving yourself for marriage is a bad thing.
@@lilblock3564 So the frisbee clearly went over your head.
some men are really ... BETA
Ooooooooow jeeeeeeezeeeee this guy jumped on a land mine
Good advice Bill!
The only thing any of us deserves is acceptance and love, if we deserve anything at all.
4:50 he said if you had to choose, gun to your head........ I don’t think I would choose the lion or the shark.
"Before we got married everything was perfect"
That's usually how it goes, yes.
Heard a story where a guy just got married and on the honeymoon night, his wife just wanted to text her friends and play on Twitter....the guy divorced her the very next day....so if you are reading this this is the answer to your question
I like the cut of that guys gib
How has no one ever wrote in calling you “billsack” yet lol
Sounds like a keeper. …. Lol
There's a guy out there for your wife and he needs a beard
Bill bobby fuck Burr actually has sage advice. New favorite comedian for sure. Why do people hate on this guy? He is more real than 95% of other celebs.
Does anyone else wonder who these guys are and where they come from, that they ask these questions with painfully obvious answers?
They come from a place of blissful trust for other people, I envy them.
I wonder how many of these are fake
@@mikehawk1673 good point
@@freezoneproject567 actually allot of people come from shitty homes and end up with fucked up ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be. My parents just got divorced, I am 26 and I've never had a girlfriend because all I ever saw them do was fight mostly about money.
„I‘m a young man from Marocco“
„OMG Casablanca“😂
The one thing I’ve learned from Bill’s podcasts - DON’t GET MARRIED!
Another fan from South Africa🇿🇦
Awe 🔥
she really needs to talk to someone about this without you in the room. there's something about getting psychological advice from a professional that helps people see things clearly. my ex went to a counsellor after I left her and it was only then that she started to understand about her codependency. she got the free counselling from her workplace and she got a lot out of the first one hour session. you need to understand that what you're feeling is normal and okay and you can't change how she feels. you may need to leave her and rebuild.
Theres no may here. This guy needs to bug out asap
Shark, no question. All shit ends up in the ocean sooner or later. Lion shit still has so far to go before it makes it home.
I'm waiting till marriage and these stories truly terrify me lol I can only hope and pray that my future wife will be as dedicated to being a good spouse as I know I will be.
Many guys in the comments said they had sex before marriege and things stopped after.
Waiting is fine, there is nothing wrong with it. Unfortunetly, not all relationships workout.
@@jocaingles8464 Yea I've heard that if I meet a girl like me, that it'll never stop once we get married. Hopefully that's true lol
@@jocaingles8464 this a good comment
@@williampoole1742 it's not
Oh no no no no no. Hahahaha
She is cheating 10O percent
RUN get to the Chopper!!!!!
You don't buy a car without a test drive, don't marry a woman before sleeping with her. Sex is simply a part of marriage, you don't need to do it ×3 a day but jeez if this how it starts 10 years down the line it'll be a nightmare.
Nice bad advice
@@MrCodey360 Christian spotted
Lack of physical intimacy is grounds for divorce. Irreconcilable differences.
Make that gold digger an ex