Urologist Explains how to break the cycle of porn addiction

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  • Опубликовано: 2 июн 2024
  • Being addicted to something can be problematic. As they say, too much of a good thing is a bad thing! In this video, we tackle the issue of Porn Addiction, how to know whether or not you have a problem with watching porn, and what steps you can take to bring it down to a safer and healthier level. Be sure to watch until the end and to stay tuned for next week's video!
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Комментарии • 1,4 тыс.

  • @RenaMalikMD
    @RenaMalikMD  2 года назад +107

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    • @JoseCoss64
      @JoseCoss64 2 года назад +11

      Although this type of apps are made to help people, they pose a big privacy and security issues as they pretty much see everything that you are doing and collect info about it. I did a little bit of research about this app and it turns out they had a security breach last year, which exposed their users personal info to malicious people

    • @davislouange1781
      @davislouange1781 2 года назад +4

      What causes morning wood??
      Thanks

    • @hirozzayz8164
      @hirozzayz8164 2 года назад +13

      Do you have onlyfans? I'd subscribe

    • @nategin9009
      @nategin9009 2 года назад +13

      @@hirozzayz8164 seriously bruh

    • @harrisonwells2908
      @harrisonwells2908 2 года назад +2

      Wtf why would anybody make this app
      Thank god my parents are no tech geeks and i m grown now
      But people in there are fcuked up

  • @brentduanefoster
    @brentduanefoster Год назад +1166

    To all who are struggling with this addiction….wait, let me change that.
    To all who are WORKING THROUGH this addiction, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and you have the support that you need. No judgement here whatsoever. Let’s heal together!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @straightouttavoid64
      @straightouttavoid64 Год назад +29

      What worked for me was slowly increasing time between every ,,session,, :D . Like with any other addiction you cannot just break all contact with it at once! you can increase time every time by one day, or maybe one hour and so on, slowly building discipline and other things to focus on and it will work. We are all gonna make it!

    • @aqualemon6453
      @aqualemon6453 Год назад +16

      Stay strong bros

    • @thakortushar07
      @thakortushar07 Год назад +2

      With you

    • @victorecheverria94
      @victorecheverria94 Год назад +1

      🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @Ahtnagarp
      @Ahtnagarp Год назад +3

      @@straightouttavoid64 i don't stop porn addiction, just getting a good job, and get a girl and marry her, then do porn in real life, lol

  • @videolover1489
    @videolover1489 2 года назад +1448

    Thank you, Dr. Malik; I have been porn-addicted for 15 years. Now, I am 32 years old, and I have struggled with social life and depression. I never had a real relationship with any woman, and I know any good women dont want a relationship with porn addicts. I have been on the road to recovery and holding myself accountable. This video is beneficial to me. I am sharing this life story so other people can see that they are not alone.

    • @virginboi4654
      @virginboi4654 2 года назад +56

      Feels bad for ya as you DO want a relationship. But for those who don't porn is like a blessing

    • @bobopatchnosuke229
      @bobopatchnosuke229 2 года назад +50

      You are not the only one. I'm glad to know I ain't alone. My issue was thinking I'm the only one suffering with this addiction and I'm glad we can go on this road to rebooting together.

    • @taylors3149
      @taylors3149 2 года назад +25

      same man but not 15 years I've been watching since I was 14 now I'm 24

    • @videolover1489
      @videolover1489 2 года назад +2

      @@taylors3149 I start watching at 15 and never quite until now. I spend 10 hours watching porn and never leave my apartment when I am off.

    • @wewegomb
      @wewegomb 2 года назад +6

      You can married another porn addict, there are many women who also porn addict.

  • @hayatobonds7736
    @hayatobonds7736 7 месяцев назад +294

    I think porn addiction is just a small part of a much larger issue: our over-reliance on instant gratification to allievate stress, anxiety, or negative thoughts/emotions.
    Actively trying to resolve problems in our life is hard because it takes time, requires us to exercise patience, self-control, and perseverance.

    • @mike2tuff380
      @mike2tuff380 Месяц назад +4

      preach brother

    • @santosh34554
      @santosh34554 Месяц назад +1

      ​@savinaymasram4519 Avoid sweets sugar chocolate watermelon etc to avoid lust feelings.😊😊😊
      Bramhacharya since last 6 months.

  • @kwantumangaliso2562
    @kwantumangaliso2562 Год назад +485

    This is the 1st time in 6 years that I've gone a week without watching porn. Its not much but for me its groundbreaking. I'm working through the intrusive thoughts and I'm glad to say I feel way better about myself and the relationship I have

    • @ThePursuitOfWisdom-G.S.
      @ThePursuitOfWisdom-G.S. Год назад +14

      Keep at it man!!!

    • @liamross7
      @liamross7 8 месяцев назад +2

      Good job dude, keep going

    • @avingabani4037
      @avingabani4037 7 месяцев назад

      I am 18 years old and I'm watching porn for last 3 years twice a day on an average there would not be more than 2 days where I haven't masterbated but from now I will gonna make change.

    • @ukchris64
      @ukchris64 7 месяцев назад +2

      @Itzxsandy Have no shame, your mind will crave what you cannot get, in my case of being older, of course younger women will feature in my mind, if not in the day, then especially at night in my bed,nothing wrong with the off five knuckle shuffle.

    • @wolfspirit681
      @wolfspirit681 7 месяцев назад +2

      Try Mindfulness Meditation for mental clarity as treatment for intrusive thoughts. You may use Bineural Music during sessions

  • @Tomas_F.
    @Tomas_F. 5 месяцев назад +3

    It is SO AWESOME that great doctors started to do these educational videos on YT !! I first found Dr. Mike, now more and more of you. What a great time to live in! Thank you so much!

  • @6729solarwolf
    @6729solarwolf 2 года назад +314

    Hi, blocking didn't help because I can easily unblock them. What worked for me, was not quitting cold turkey. However, I assigned days for the activity and that helped me look forward to those days. Usually, it is 2 days a week. Also, that helped with discipline and scheduling. Hopefully, this will help someone else too.

    • @colind333
      @colind333 Год назад +4

      does taking a break gradually like going half a month or so at a time?

    • @joessy523
      @joessy523 Год назад +4

      I surprisingly am using the same method

    • @iamawuss
      @iamawuss Год назад +22

      I’m going to try this having tried the cold turkey method and failed constantly.

    • @skatkat5029
      @skatkat5029 Год назад

      This was helpful

    • @hoii962
      @hoii962 Год назад +2

      ​@Matthew Kahn I totally understand

  • @roderickspencerjr.2482
    @roderickspencerjr.2482 2 года назад +78

    Thank you for posting this for those who struggle with such things that affect them very badly🙌🏽💛🙏🏽🙇🏽‍♂️.

  • @danieljosenaval
    @danieljosenaval Год назад +6

    Thank you, this is an enormous help! Porn addiction is something so hard to battle honestly. I generally know these things from my profession but it's really nice to hear it from someone else.

  • @sageisnotaplant99
    @sageisnotaplant99 10 месяцев назад +39

    I’ve never struggled with porn addiction but I’ve seen porn addiction effect other people. It can be really detrimental. I’m glad a video likes this exists

    • @sanuniroj1198
      @sanuniroj1198 7 месяцев назад +1

      Women don't get addicted to porn. Even they don't watch it

    • @captn4114
      @captn4114 7 месяцев назад

      @@sanuniroj1198are you a women?

    • @topseykretts7608
      @topseykretts7608 5 месяцев назад

      @@sanuniroj1198
      All of these "anti-porn" videos are simple "male-shaming" 101. Funny how there are ZERO videos on RUclips preaching to females about the dangers of using sex toys (vibrators) for masturbation?? Sex toys are incredibly popular today with females.....I don't know an adult woman who doesn't own at least 2 or 3 of them. Men use "porn" for the exact same purpose females use sex toys. Men are visual and women are tactile. But yet, not one of these videos EVER bring up this issue. Why? Simple....because "female" sexual behavior is NEVER to be criticized. Total hypocrisy!!
      EVERYTIME someone posts a video on porn use, they should also talk about "sex toys" the EXACT SAME WAY!!!
      But they won't....and they never will....because that would be "shaming" females.....and we all know that can't happen. We can shame men and their use of "porn" but we can't ever criticize females using sex toys for the EXACT same reason.

    • @Musicman995
      @Musicman995 2 месяца назад +1

      @@sanuniroj1198sorry to burst your bubble but you are objectively wrong bro

    • @DistortedPhaneron
      @DistortedPhaneron 2 месяца назад

      ​@@sanuniroj1198How many women have you even been with broski?

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 Год назад +259

    As someone who used to watch daily, sometimes even more than once a day, I'm finally free. It's been over a month since I've watched p0rn and I have no desire to go back. I already feel so many improvements to my mental health that it's worth it.
    Guys, there is hope. Right now my confidence and self esteem are high, I feel turned on looking at real women right in front of me, and actually have incentive to approach them and get their number.
    P0rn will destroy your dating life.

    • @user-fb4bk7tg7h
      @user-fb4bk7tg7h Год назад +2

      100 right.

    • @biffin1123
      @biffin1123 Год назад +9

      What if the real women are not interested in me. How am I supposed to sate my need for companionship and sex?

    • @__meilleur
      @__meilleur Год назад +5

      @@biffin1123 yeah life of us ugly people 😞

    • @biffin1123
      @biffin1123 Год назад +6

      @@__meilleur technically don't have to be ugly.
      Women have schemes. They look for something specific in a guy which depends on their personal fantasies, what they see on media and their current needs.
      They put up rules and excuses to keep all guys away until they meet the guy/girl that conforms all those criteria they put up. Once they do, they break their own rules and make excuses as to why they like him/her.

    • @johnhonai4601
      @johnhonai4601 Год назад +1

      @@biffin1123 Women are hypocrites?

  • @coreyandrade2258
    @coreyandrade2258 2 года назад +189

    Today I’m marking my road to recovery from porn addiction. This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. It’s been hard to have normal relationship with people and I struggled to find pleasure in sex. Mentally draining me and now being aware of the affects, it’s time to put an end to it. For anyone who reads this who has a problem, I encourage you guys to do the same. Wish me the best and I wish all of you the best :)

    • @Paoabarai
      @Paoabarai 2 года назад

      How's it going after day 6?

    • @mannydestine2994
      @mannydestine2994 2 года назад +1

      Same here let’s do this 💪🏾

    • @Captain_Kel
      @Captain_Kel 2 года назад +2

      I started around the same time you did. Im a month strong now.

    • @GamingBros654
      @GamingBros654 2 года назад

      @@Captain_Kel how are you feeling after a month?

    • @Captain_Kel
      @Captain_Kel 2 года назад +8

      @@GamingBros654 Im feeing pretty good. My penis health is great right now. I did relapse after about a month and 1 week, but im 2 weeks strong again and i dont really have cravings to watch porn or anything like that anymore. I really feel like my brain is starting to rewire itsef for the better. Im dating girls at the moment too which really helps with not wanting to watch porn. What people say about stopping porn will help with anxiety is 100% true too. Im not sure why but after about 3-4 weeks my anxiety is no where near as bad as it was when i was chronically masturbating. I used to get panic attacks when smoking weed and now i dont. Overall im fed up with the endless cycle of porn and masturbation. I wont allow myself to get trapped in that cycle ever again.

  • @ferreirog
    @ferreirog 2 года назад +50

    There is a major difference between an “urge”, OCD and dependency. The advice given for an “urge” is great and telling people that they need to seek professional advice for OCD and dependency is excellent.

  • @Butterballz23
    @Butterballz23 2 года назад +485

    This video doesn’t apply to me, but I wanted to take the time to say what so many others have mentioned in previous videos. Thank you so much for addressing so many of these types of topics on your channel in an inviting and non judgemental way. There are so many videos I’ve watched over the past few weeks after finding your channel, pertaining to a myriad of topics; some of which I’ve always wanted to ask about and just never did and others I didn’t even know I wanted to know. Your method of delivery is clear, informative and well organized. You give the impression that you truly care about your patients and viewers, and that’s so vital in effective health communication. So thanks for what you do!

    • @TheCocoaDaddy
      @TheCocoaDaddy 2 года назад +3

      Well stated!

    • @deadandblue
      @deadandblue 2 года назад +5

      Well coming from me years ago I used to enjoy it but as of today I don't a real relationship is becoming more of a bad joke so is virtual love its always bought i taught myself abstinence so I stick alcohol and cigarettes plus coffee i been socially isolated and withdrawn been lonely for years so giving up on love is a better option for me and to my defense im still a virgin been depressed since I was 14 what I enjoy is nothing really but always saw life for me intolerant

    • @sheepdogprotector5154
      @sheepdogprotector5154 2 года назад

      Dumping hard

    • @davidtebbitt5537
      @davidtebbitt5537 2 года назад +11

      Doesn't apply.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @Crazy-77
      @Crazy-77 2 года назад +11

      Doesn’t apply to me either. 😉🤫

  • @abhishekgupta2434
    @abhishekgupta2434 2 года назад +4

    Dr. Malik videos are always most informative on. RUclips… doing really noble job for the society in real, not on paper like rest …. Thanks Dr. Malik

  • @readerspubb1973
    @readerspubb1973 2 месяца назад +3

    I do ask for any that believe, please pray for me. I’ve been battling this for years now. And I’ve tried many times but have failed. As of now I will try the blockers. Thank you Doctor.

  • @evanseka4054
    @evanseka4054 2 года назад +116

    Thank you, I stopped watching porn when I was 13 so I don't have this problem anymore but it still took me 2 YEARS to quit. That sh*t is devastating.

    • @innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777
      @innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777 Год назад +4

      I’m stunned by that comment but good for you

    • @evanseka4054
      @evanseka4054 Год назад +2

      @@innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777 Why does it stun you, may I ask out of curiosity?

    • @iammar1159
      @iammar1159 Год назад

      @@evanseka4054 Probably because you were so young. If you stopped at 13 and it took you 2 years, then that means you would have had to have started watching when you were 11

    • @evanseka4054
      @evanseka4054 Год назад +15

      @@iammar1159 Yeah, did you know most children start at that age, I'm just happy that I quit so early, most people will tell themselves that it's okay "Everyone does it even girls", so they let it stick and then it becomes addiction then it becomes a health issue.

    • @stevenm.njogu2014
      @stevenm.njogu2014 Год назад +4

      That God you able to quit at a very young age, what I have discovered by reading the comments is that, the earlier you start watching at a young age the more its difficult to quit,may the Almighty God help his children.

  • @joshuaokoro-sokoh2993
    @joshuaokoro-sokoh2993 2 года назад +17

    This is something most people needed to hear. Not beating yourself up, being kind to yourself.

    • @Eamonshort1
      @Eamonshort1 7 месяцев назад +2

      Not beating yourself up, and not beating yourself off.

  • @nithishms1321
    @nithishms1321 8 месяцев назад +9

    I am 31 year old I am addicted from 15 years not easy to quit
    I am suffering from short term memory loss, difficult to concentrate, depression, anxiety my life half destroyed....

    • @rotatorcuffs8140
      @rotatorcuffs8140 2 месяца назад +1

      I used to have those problems a long time ago. It's easy to blame porn and make it a scapegoat in that situation. Especially if you come from a religious cult background with jaded views on sex. I'm not saying porn is good, but in my experience those symptoms were caused by things like a lack of exercise, bad sleep (insomnia), anxiety/depression from past traumas and maybe even unwarranted guilt.
      I would say if you want to quit porn, forget about quitting porn. Focus on and do the hard work of improving the rest of your life and quitting porn will naturally follow.

  • @robertbozoki8221
    @robertbozoki8221 Год назад +21

    I have been on and off with my addiction to porn for last 21 years. Trying to quit, but never really managing it. My way to fighting this addiction is to be as less as possible around laptop, tv and smartphone. I try to fill my free time with physical activities and reading books. When I'm completely exhausted by some physical work, it's easier to fight the urge. Sometimes book completely takes my attention and I forget about everything around me. I hope this helps someone.

  • @ShadowPhoenix82
    @ShadowPhoenix82 2 года назад +22

    Even beyond porn, this works with everything. This is SO much better than telling someone to "know yourself". Like, what does that mean? This. This is what it means, and this talks you through HOW to know yourself. How to observe and document your body and mind to better self-analyze and self-actualize. I absolutely love it. 🥰

  • @briancaleb9761
    @briancaleb9761 2 года назад +79

    The porn epidemic is underrated

    • @marcusdavis5599
      @marcusdavis5599 2 года назад

      @Anonymous Talker who whines?

    • @alphaguy1028
      @alphaguy1028 2 года назад

      Because it’s Taboo. Sad .
      NoFap/NoPorn all the way!

    • @phrobss7149
      @phrobss7149 Год назад +1

      @@marcusdavis5599 People who never understands

    • @Andre87191
      @Andre87191 Год назад

      @Anonymous Talker it is really bad and it is an addiction, it isnt too hard to quit if you want to though. Ceasing smoking is harder. Initially.

    • @andreuschristy8448
      @andreuschristy8448 Год назад +1

      @Helmut340 I've found that the physical addictions have no hold on me yet when it comes to porn and gambling I can't stop. I've smoked cigs since I was a teen yet I can go several months without in and not even think about it. Same with weed. Same with any drugs I've taken. I've gone on benders where I've done lots of coke throughout a weekend and just felt repulsed and didn't touch it again for years. But porn man... can't fucking stop.

  • @michaelthorn6215
    @michaelthorn6215 2 года назад +5

    Very informative Rena! I've learned so much from your content. All the subjects you cover, makes me more informed. So, Doctor Malik, Thank you for you service. This is from me a military veteran to you...A Soldier of medicine. Again, Thank You.

  • @Akira282
    @Akira282 Год назад +3

    Thank you for focusing on this serious issue. Many men have this issue and are paralyzed by it.

  • @warrior224100
    @warrior224100 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video I am currently struggling with this addiction and it has affected my life tremendously. I'm was at my breaking point until you made this video. Every other sources that i attempted to try always wanted money out of me when I really just wanted to hear what steps I should take to help me. I will definitely try the app's trail and I do have a friend in mind to help me with this. Thank you once again you have no idea how happy I am to just hear proper steps to take without joining some seminar or paying for a service. You just helped me save my life. THANK YOU!!!

  • @phnmyt2428
    @phnmyt2428 2 года назад +44

    You are like a relief for so many people ☺️ thank u doctor ♥️

  • @ivinset96
    @ivinset96 Год назад +18

    Hello, graduate addiction counseling student here, I just want to reiterate what so many have already said...THANK YOU for informing so many in such a non-judgmental way and for being so thorough and accurate with the information you provide on such a wide array of topics. Love this, please keep doing what you're doing! :)

  • @Boogey_Man_123
    @Boogey_Man_123 Год назад

    I need this! My addiction is such a problem! (Glad tou're bringing this up)

  • @pablojuan94
    @pablojuan94 2 года назад +9

    Great videos Dr. I like the way you explain issues that are common on peoples lifes. Thank you Dr.

  • @ice319
    @ice319 Год назад +19

    Dr. Malik, thank you for explaining the difference between using pornography casually and an actual addiction. There is a big stigma of shame when it comes to porn, and the conversation isn't always healthy due to that shame. I'm glad that you established what the problem is and what it could lead to. Thank you for your content, ma'am!

  • @1bozina
    @1bozina 2 года назад +4

    GREAT SUBJECT!!!
    Thanks Dr. Malik :)

  • @Culex51
    @Culex51 2 года назад

    Just wanted to reach out and say thank you for making this video and the previous one.

  • @mikelevels1
    @mikelevels1 2 года назад +5

    I really needed this. Thank you so much.

  • @danielsykes7558
    @danielsykes7558 11 месяцев назад +25

    I grew up in a community where any porn use was considered an addiction.
    I appreciate your measured approach.
    I'm currently taking significant steps away from pornography in order to be more mindful and it's been interesting to start the journey. I'm not counting what days I do or don't, but I started the journey like a week and a half ago. We'll just have to see.
    But thank y'all for this supportive space

    • @Babu_raju_shyam
      @Babu_raju_shyam 6 месяцев назад

      Every activity must be limited, anything above the limit is harmful even if it is healthy

  • @Robosapien-jj1zy
    @Robosapien-jj1zy 2 года назад +233

    I'm on day 3 now without porn and it's a real struggle. The longest I've ever stopped was 1 week after realising I had a problem. Even after just one week I could feel a positive difference in myself.

    • @basiljacob1786
      @basiljacob1786 2 года назад +12

      all the best

    • @lefteristassis7155
      @lefteristassis7155 Год назад

      Keep trying man, it's a difficult process and setbacks will probably occur. A lot of people can relate to your story, myself included, as i am someone that has a lot of guilt whenever i search for sexual scenes on RUclips in the last few years. I am trying to stop it completely, after quite a few setbacks, and i am in a better place now, although wary that i can slip any day, as i have trained my mind for a long time to search these kinds of things. Before that i strugglled with the same guilt when i visited pornographic sites and stayed there for extended periods of time, totally exploded with dopamine, and it's a pretty vicious circle. I was sometimes thinking that it's ok, a lot of people do it, but i got used to watching other people have sex so much, that trying to meet someone that i care about and have an intimate relationship with them has become an unattainable goal for the time being. As a result, a feeling of worthlessness pretty often reemerges, as i have not been in a relationship for more than 8 years now, and it was a relationship that i made mistakes and hurt someone that didn' t deserve it. So lots of guilt, compounded with psychological issues made the vicious circle of seeking pornographic and now sexual material become a reality. I am sorry for the length of my reply, i did not mean to talk about myself so much. I send you all my heartfelt wishes that you have a life fulfilling and prosperous, with good and loving people around you. 🙏♥️

    • @Uncle_Smallett
      @Uncle_Smallett Год назад +1

      You know that you still can masturbate? Just restrict yourself from corn or imaginary sex at the time, feel real sense of you doing. Need some effort, like meditation, but wiring in brain become healthier.

    • @thebadass6122
      @thebadass6122 Год назад +7

      Can you give us an update on your journey?

    • @alimohammad-dp7om
      @alimohammad-dp7om Год назад +1

      Any update on your journey friend

  • @utkarshkumar730
    @utkarshkumar730 6 дней назад +1

    just losted a 15 days clean streak and here i am to start again and rise strongly. anyone reading this, wish me a good luck. we all will conquer it

  • @noodlebot12
    @noodlebot12 Год назад +1

    This video is very simple to digest and ultimately helpful. Thank you.

  • @SparksForces
    @SparksForces 2 года назад +3

    Thank you Dr. MALIK
    We thank you for doing this video cause a lot of men and woman need to see this how powerful porn can affect us humans. The way we imagine things and act is differently it will be good if we can help get people help and advice on this so they don’t fall into the temptation. Great work Dr. Malik 👍🏽❤️

  • @alew2677
    @alew2677 2 года назад +8

    I enjoy your content Dr Malik keep up the good work😍

  • @alinlawson2506
    @alinlawson2506 2 года назад +2

    Thanx Doc! Very informative video! I’m trying to break the strings but the urges are really strong! I will keep trying and not beat myself up if I back slide! Thanx again!

  • @HRZ1352
    @HRZ1352 3 месяца назад +1

    Very informative and professional, please keep up the good work!

  • @dylankremers8957
    @dylankremers8957 2 года назад +9

    What a lifesaver, thank you dr. Rena Malik

  • @edwardthompson8982
    @edwardthompson8982 Год назад +152

    Watching this video months after gives me goosebumps. Truth be told I was broke and used pornography and masturbation as a means of getting away. The moment I got busy and had something doing my priorities changed. Early this year ago when I first came across this video, I was on the verge of being homeless, broke and dealing with insecurities. I could barely stay outside my room for long. Thank God for change and the man I am today. I own multiple houses, debt free and I live my best life without letting my insecurities control me.

    • @kendrickmason2577
      @kendrickmason2577 Год назад +2

      Glad you're in a better place.. . How did you pull it off within such a short period?

    • @edwardthompson8982
      @edwardthompson8982 Год назад

    • @Karim-bi4ht
      @Karim-bi4ht Год назад

      @@edwardthompson8982

    • @greysimpson7112
      @greysimpson7112 Год назад

    • @edwardthompson8982
      @edwardthompson8982 Год назад

      I got lucky when a Bostonian friend introduced me to an expert who helped me trade. He also advised me to buy Meta token. This was before the Metaverse thing. By the end of the month my token had done 7000 percent.

  • @mishkaberuashvili5069
    @mishkaberuashvili5069 10 месяцев назад +2

    I'm 26 and it goes for years already. At first thought it would be easy to quit, but no. Now it affects on many parts of my everyday life and searching for everything that would work and help me to break the cycle

  • @karthikvijay5678
    @karthikvijay5678 14 дней назад

    thanks so much for this helpful and informative video Dr. Malik

  • @user-dc9go9jv6v
    @user-dc9go9jv6v 2 года назад +3

    I like how she explains everything. Can't wait to see her at 2million subscribers this year..

  • @matmetalhead6
    @matmetalhead6 Год назад +32

    It is so hard, I've been fighting this since I was 16, now I'm 20. The bad thing is that I didn't realize it was becoming an addiction, I thought it was just my desire for women and that it was normal for my age.
    What makes everything harder is that I am such a lonely guy, I really do not have friends in real life, I'm always feeling numb, depressed, and alone. So, from where will my motivation come from? I really wanted to have real relationships with people, but when I see they don't like my companion, I fall once more into the abyss of fake love. It's all about a fantasy, and my dream of being loved by a woman or something. I will keep fighting...

    • @truebeliever369
      @truebeliever369 Год назад +6

      Exactly same situation for me too Bro :(

    • @matmetalhead6
      @matmetalhead6 Год назад +2

      @@truebeliever369 keep strong man, let's do this together

    • @truebeliever369
      @truebeliever369 Год назад

      @@matmetalhead6 Bro i still done that.... I'm shamed of myself. What can i do? Really i wanna overcome.

    • @stevenm.njogu2014
      @stevenm.njogu2014 Год назад +8

      Love yourself Bro first before you are Loved by anyone else, and learn to be happy by yourself too but most of all make God your best friend and you will never be disappointed.

    • @trilll6
      @trilll6 4 месяца назад

      Porn is what’s stopping you from getting into a relationship, and it’s killing your potential. You realize it’s a problem and the effect it has on you so you have to learn to hate it, and link it to why you haven’t reached your goals

  • @brianjohnson5995
    @brianjohnson5995 7 месяцев назад +2

    So we've been married for 40 years
    Sex stopped a few years ago. She won't talk about it. I'm left to own devices to address my situation. Your videos are very insightful. Thank you so much!

  • @kingzamn45
    @kingzamn45 2 года назад

    thank you for making this video. I honestly needed it :)

  • @TXP9
    @TXP9 2 года назад +75

    It’s hard to believe that people spend money on porn anymore, when so much of it is free online.

    • @creampuffkuru9878
      @creampuffkuru9878 2 года назад +6

      -looks at only fans people- yeah i wonder why they spend on something that you get free, maybe they get a kick for spending i know theres a fetish for financial stuff humiliation but maybe thats just because im asian and like having money more.

    • @eizendragon5141
      @eizendragon5141 2 года назад +1

      Onlythots?!?
      Sheeesh, cornhub premium is more economical to be honest.

    • @SparksForces
      @SparksForces 2 года назад +4

      Well that’s the problem it’s not free you paying for internet that helps contribute to it. But lots of websites have freebies before they sale you full stuff they want to see if you like those products. But to answer your question yes they have tons of free ones so it more likely easy to get hook on it especially if you are 13 year boy going through maturity changes.

    • @songsofalifetime8508
      @songsofalifetime8508 2 года назад +2

      @@SparksForces
      Kleenex Tissue are not free :-)

    • @ajdynamo6866
      @ajdynamo6866 2 года назад +5

      Speaking from past experience, it's easy to get suckered into buying porn when there's a scene you really want to see but the full video isn't available for free. That's a tactic they use. They'll put a 5 minute vid on a free site then force you to pay to see the whole thing.

  • @mjchecksfield914
    @mjchecksfield914 2 года назад +17

    Good for you for taking on this subject. We still have a hangover of cultural shame attached to our sexuality. Instead of dealing with the reality of our biology and trying to manage that in a constructive way. Compulsive and addictive behaviour is something that threatens us all from many angles and pornography is one of them.

  • @ryansturdivant2661
    @ryansturdivant2661 2 года назад

    Dr. Rena Mailk has such a beautiful spirit

  • @soul2squeezy439
    @soul2squeezy439 2 года назад +2

    Thanks Dr Malik, i do suffer with depression because of this. I knew it has some connection to it :(

  • @keithmeyer8128
    @keithmeyer8128 2 года назад +5

    Your awesome and thank you for posting informative content on all sexual and urinary problems.

  • @SalehAhmed-je2dn
    @SalehAhmed-je2dn 2 года назад +3

    Very good always knowledgeable videos
    Gorgeous personality
    Beautiful voice
    Dr. Malik

  • @themonster3231
    @themonster3231 3 месяца назад

    thank you Dr. Rena Malik I have been thru counseling, online and in person over the past 5 years and have gotten more useful tools 'turnkey' in this lecture then all this time before. Thank you,

  • @michaelyoung4056
    @michaelyoung4056 8 месяцев назад

    Very helpful video, thank you!

  • @junedhussain6252
    @junedhussain6252 2 года назад +18

    Thank you for your hard work. I think the problem is that we live in a sexualised society now compared to before and it is not helping.
    The trouble is that banning pornography (I know its not the subject of this video) is not as simple as it sounds as there is a bigger market for it then before.
    I'll admit did watch porn before and I used to enjoy it but that was only like once a week sort of thing. However there was a period of time when I didn't watch porn for nearly two years until the covid crisis hit and I started watching porn on a rare basis usually lasting two hours or more.
    No one really mentions this but I notice a trend when TV shows that contain sex and nudity can also lead to people watch pornography as well. The thing with mainstream tv, netflix, disney+ shows (that contain sex and nudity like sex/life and Pam and Tommy), the choice of nudity is laughable and ridiculous as they tend show female upper nudity but not female genitals while they show male penis.

  • @6last3d
    @6last3d 2 года назад +7

    been addicted since the age of 9 because of a man that had the link in his bio. i was curious and clicked it, since then at the age of 9 to now that i’m 16 i’m still addicted. we’ll get over this together.

    • @happymolecule8894
      @happymolecule8894 Год назад +1

      You'll never stop

    • @posadist681
      @posadist681 Год назад

      @@happymolecule8894 wtf

    • @bendover7841
      @bendover7841 Год назад +1

      Get well soon kid. Don't listen to this bum.

    • @6last3d
      @6last3d Год назад +6

      @@happymolecule8894 5 months clean 🤷‍♀️

    • @user-hc6pm9qr2w
      @user-hc6pm9qr2w 4 месяца назад

      @@6last3d I am happy for you nena!! So far in my current journey I am able to keep myself clean for about 1-2 weeks at best. What strategies did you incorpaote in your life to keep yourself clean?

  • @mikemailei4491
    @mikemailei4491 2 года назад +1

    Great vid and info. I agree with everything in this vid. I am doing all these steps just some of the steps I'm doing tad big different. I am at 67 days clean.

  • @splitsee2526
    @splitsee2526 Год назад

    this video opened my eyes! thx so much

  • @sahil__________04
    @sahil__________04 2 года назад +24

    I stopped porn addiction by listening to music and spent time outside, this way my interest in porn was end 🙃

  • @thegingerburpeesguy5596
    @thegingerburpeesguy5596 2 года назад +60

    you start watching it cause you're already depressed and lonely and it's a way of feeling good but then watching it makes you feel bad and more depressed cause of the effects of long term porn and porn addiction have so it's just a vicious cycle

    • @SparksForces
      @SparksForces 2 года назад +2

      Yes but we here let you guys know your not alone we struggle and fight this war to and positive encouragement with tough discipline we can help together overcome any addiction. So if you depressed or no someone people let’s get you guys encouraging help I struggled myself years so I understand. I don’t want anyone to feel depressed

    • @qal4real372
      @qal4real372 2 года назад

      @@SparksForces same bro

    • @marksmith2738
      @marksmith2738 6 месяцев назад

      + one

  • @ricardopaul6989
    @ricardopaul6989 Год назад +2

    Thanks again & God be Praised in ALL THINGS...Keep them coming!

  • @zoilo87
    @zoilo87 2 года назад +7

    35 days here! I am so happy I reach this pinnacle. I notice a lot of changes on my perspective on woman and life, i think you should probably try it to abstain it too its worth it. Promise!

  • @Jakobokay
    @Jakobokay 6 дней назад +15

    Day one. The likes I get will be the number of days I'll be clean

  • @wildstyle2604
    @wildstyle2604 2 года назад

    This is really helpful and beautiful...Thankyou so much...May God Bless you

  • @ethansilverstein26
    @ethansilverstein26 9 месяцев назад +4

    Hey guys I don't usually comment but I'd like to share my story. I am 15 working through this addiction. I was introduced to porn at age 12 because of an ad that appeared while I was watching a show that was supposed to be for kids. I feel it is ridiculous that this addiction can affect people around my age. Teens are supposed to be working through school, making new connections, and finding oneself. For this problem to be toppled on to that is insanity . I find some people actually get into porn on purpose because it is so normalized now, without realizing the affects of it. I tried many ways of trying to get rid of this and one day I thought I would try praying to God. I feel like God has been showing me the answers and recently I started reading the Bible. I pray for anyone who's been going through and I wish all the best for you

  • @greenbeeproduction
    @greenbeeproduction Год назад +5

    I been watching porn since I was 13 and now I’m 23 and sometimes in my mind to the point it can be evil you know. It’s addiction and the feeling I have it’s very powerful.

  • @yashsonawane8849
    @yashsonawane8849 2 года назад +1

    Thanks Rena loved it

  • @OneGrumpyBastard
    @OneGrumpyBastard 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Dr Malik.

  • @jaroslawkomarenko2715
    @jaroslawkomarenko2715 Год назад +5

    I'm making 18 days steak of nofap right now! I decided to avoid porn and masturbation. And I feel better now since I started my journey.

  • @brienor
    @brienor 2 года назад +27

    I had a problem with pornography when i was young .... I finally beat it. But seriously keep keep up the always informative content.

    • @robertroberts2822
      @robertroberts2822 2 года назад +1

      you're cheating yourself. attractive women are very hard to get unless rich or good looking yourself. may as well enjoy the cornucopia of pleasure porn offers. Just think only 40 years ago, MOST men never got to see a legitimately attractive woman naked EVER.

    • @Brand.on18
      @Brand.on18 Год назад +1

      ba dum tss 🥁🥁

  • @eversunnyguy
    @eversunnyguy 2 года назад

    Thanks for informative videos

  • @Kingjulien_
    @Kingjulien_ 2 года назад

    Thank you this video is going to be much help for me

  • @clintonstanley4512
    @clintonstanley4512 2 года назад +27

    She decides to show a tat bit of clevage when talking about porn addiction, everything went over my head 😂

    • @joelhorlen20-zk3xr
      @joelhorlen20-zk3xr 10 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, very distracting. Especially for a porn addict.

  • @Dman425
    @Dman425 Год назад +7

    The people who tell others to not watch porn more than likely have no issue getting laid on a regular basis. Easy for them to say

  • @debtcommander7953
    @debtcommander7953 7 месяцев назад

    Dr Malik is awesome. Great channel 🙏

  • @robertfrancis4876
    @robertfrancis4876 Год назад

    Great video thank you so much

  • @Jim_L
    @Jim_L 2 года назад +7

    What I don't understand are the people who PAY for porn. There is so much free porn out there that if you watched hours of it a day for the rest of your life, you would still never be able to see it all. So as far as addictions go, from strictly a monetary standpoint, this is the cheapest one on the planet.

  • @roses2122
    @roses2122 2 года назад +3

    Omg thank you

  • @MrPnku
    @MrPnku Год назад

    It's reàlly helpful.
    Thanks 🙏 a lots.

  • @LeviW2892w
    @LeviW2892w 6 месяцев назад

    I watch a lot of your videos and love your scientific explanations. I am recovering from porn and have it under control for the most part and you are right, the urge is always there.

  • @bluesky6985
    @bluesky6985 2 года назад +11

    It's an addiction 😫 that is hard to beat

  • @SinnohGreen
    @SinnohGreen 2 года назад +11

    A short video like this really can’t explain the complexities involved in this process. Blocking porn doesn’t fix the problem for everyone. If you’re like me, you’re going to be constantly trying to break through. There are always loopholes you can find. Doing the hard work in finding out your triggers, finding your motivations, finding alternatives that can give you dopamine, are what’s really going to help.

    • @barrysmith8920
      @barrysmith8920 Год назад

      @Randy marsh
      Good for you, I hope your life is more in order now 🙏🏽
      I also quit alcohol almost 73 months ago, not a drop since.
      But quitting porn is MUCH more difficult.
      My new Filipina girlfriend is answer to all my dreams, so now I want to quit porn immediately.
      I will do it, the challenge is accepted 🙏🏽

    • @marksmith2738
      @marksmith2738 6 месяцев назад

      @@randymarsh2901 "especially music performers dancing in barely any clothes singing songs about how they love getting fucked, and this was one of the first things i saw when i turned the tv on today. Lol"... Funny you should mention that. I will never forget the time that I took my then teen-aged daughter (maybe 15 at the time), and her friend to a ballet performance (they were both heavily into ballet at that time) that turned out to be (completely unbeknownst to me) half done in nude or semi-nude attire . Quite a turn on for me but one hell of an uncomfortable moment at the same time being I was there with my own daughter. Later in the car ride home when I mentioned it, they both thought I was being a pervert. Now that I think about it, that was probably 15 years ago (she's 31 now) but just goes to show how easy it is to be triggered even when you are NOT looking for it."

  • @justhimo2728
    @justhimo2728 7 месяцев назад

    I really respect your advices thank you so much 🙏🌹

  • @ObhektaObhibaykti
    @ObhektaObhibaykti 2 года назад

    Your advises to get rid problems related to sexual life is fantastic. I appreciate..

  • @1waystarz109
    @1waystarz109 2 года назад +6

    Omg thank you so muck for this im 13 and i wanna get away from my addiction i downloaded the app and my gf is controlling it lol and i almost felt like ending it tbh bc none of my family knows u r the best this is my first time here I Belive Got sent me here

  • @nickcosellian6178
    @nickcosellian6178 2 года назад +6

    What if you don't have someone who you can talk to (accountability partner)?

  • @jalnaidu3088
    @jalnaidu3088 2 года назад

    Dr. Malik I appreciate you advice and its very kind of you take a step to control people addiction by producing videos which will help, Porn videos does help in many situation all one has to take it in a positive manner, at the same time keep your mind occupied with a task such as Housekeeping, Exercise, Meeting Friends, if you are alone avoid watching some kind of Magazines or videos that will divert you mind to get yourself aroused, if you get any kind video messages thru social media delete them, and if you get a urge to it then might as watch it and release your mind, So stay safe and fit.

  • @-amosc.presley-7192
    @-amosc.presley-7192 2 года назад +1

    Thank you only for Sharing

  • @33drewster
    @33drewster 2 года назад +16

    Yeah, pornography gets worse the more u view it and can become an addiction that take more from you than u realize, I'm working on my issues, I have heard if u exercise or find hobbies to replace idol time, that usually helps

    • @SparksForces
      @SparksForces 2 года назад

      True true but I found that for myself the more I workout more I’m pumping up more hormones and testosterone and boom 💥back again. But I learn about willpower and fasting that help a lot hobbies and friends helps a lot

    • @dalabu489
      @dalabu489 Год назад

      @@SparksForces The only comment i really feel. Workout, hangouts with friends, but can't stop to do that from time to time.

    • @user-hc6pm9qr2w
      @user-hc6pm9qr2w 4 месяца назад

      exercise, keeping yourself busy with a routine definitely helps a lot! I am speaking from experience btw

  • @kaneinkansas
    @kaneinkansas 2 года назад +9

    I've always wondered about the impact of pornography upon the brain and the mind. I believe there are some things that you just can't un-see after you have seen them. I personally avoid like-the-plague anything that I think is un-reversible or difficult to reverse. Things like cigarettes and tatoos are high on my list of things to avoid and loathe, and I don't understand people who wade into these types of things so blissfully or at least whithout any circumspection. Pornography is one of these types of things for me. I'm not sure what impact it has on the mind, but I suspect it has one. I try to maintain my autonomy - free will - control of local motion. Maybe this kind of approach might help others. Its about freedom. Pulling one's self away from orbiting one planet so one can explore others as one chooses.

    • @innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777
      @innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777 Год назад +2

      You should have 1000 likes for this comment but you don’t cause people are looking for flash not substance

    • @JordanAndAirwaves
      @JordanAndAirwaves 3 месяца назад

      True, the “ try anything once” approach can snowball

  • @mohdazruljinnah6004
    @mohdazruljinnah6004 Год назад

    the key is keep trying ... up and down is normal but don't ever lost hope until you succeed .... even tho you will not get clean result but the big changes is there ....

  • @SpaceDebris15
    @SpaceDebris15 Год назад

    This have left me with so many questions, as I think this is an interesting situation. Like what if you have ED from use or anxiety, can those people ever regain normality? What are the health effects of over usage, and are the health effects permanent? Where does this issue come from? So many questions.

  • @MrDontcareify
    @MrDontcareify 2 года назад +13

    I’ve quit porn but I haven’t been able to quit the sexual fantasies that are porn-related or porn-influenced.
    So honestly it’s more than just quitting a behavior. It’s also about finding something to replace it that is hopefully in the same vein, unless you’re looking to be a celibate monk.

    • @POPDATA
      @POPDATA Год назад +2

      The temptations are everywhere too

  • @kevinrodriguez2376
    @kevinrodriguez2376 2 года назад +10

    I struggle with porn. It seems like it has crossed over to ED issues. Thanks for this video.

    • @c-mc
      @c-mc 2 года назад +1

      yeah same I have ED issues due to porn, it sucks

    • @Mecca188
      @Mecca188 2 года назад

      Same

    • @JWiLLfoReaL
      @JWiLLfoReaL 2 года назад

      Same here. It’s so frustrating.

    • @marcuschavez8411
      @marcuschavez8411 2 года назад

      Was it like a long progression that you noticed?

    • @keyballa
      @keyballa 2 года назад +4

      Same. But it’s curable fellas. Stay off of porn and masturbation for 60-90 days and ur brain will heal again. It’s hard but it can be done with time and discipline

  • @user-uy9sx7vs9q
    @user-uy9sx7vs9q 2 месяца назад

    Thank you Doctor
    I appreciate it

  • @joophunt5569
    @joophunt5569 Год назад

    God bless you very much for this. I have a problem and I feel so helpless to it a disgusted in myself when I fell I wish for so much things

  • @Pilot-Ali
    @Pilot-Ali 2 года назад +6

    The best way to avoid this addiction is to indulge one self in busy tasks. There is no another alternative to it.

    • @Paoabarai
      @Paoabarai 2 года назад +1

      Cut off your internet, tv, mobile network connection and live off grid for a year or two

    • @Lechiffre3585
      @Lechiffre3585 Год назад

      @@Paoabarai I'm planning to fo exactly that

    • @mihirbharmal8459
      @mihirbharmal8459 Год назад

      Try easypeasy method

    • @newkiller4457
      @newkiller4457 Год назад

      Another method (which imo is easiest way to overcome)is by experiment yourself by trying to see what it's like to masterbate without porn. During those days you'll gradually naturally not only stop watching porn, but it's far easier to resist the urge as you naturally have gotten bored with masturbating without the use of pornography, so you instead to masturbating as a total whole.