In a culture obsessed with looks, it’s too dangerous to be close to the top or bottom. That’s why I’m aiming for a solid average! Nothing to see here folks 💀
I'd rather be average in looks tbh because if you look too good, no one takes you seriously because they think "pretty people can't be smart or serious".
yep its better to just look the way youre comfortable in. For me i only want to look my best for a special event that happens like once a year- then go back to being careless about makeup lol
“Looks don’t matter! It all about the inside!!” Dunno if it’s just me, but this just doesn’t seem like a compliment to me- just tell I’m ugly if you think I am bro
Right seemed back handed to me I would have said "men like woman with a strong masculine face so maybe you should be racked higher then me" 🤣 you want petty we can get petty lmao
It's definitely something said to spare feelings when the situation doesn't allow frankness. Looks matter, personality matters. It all matters. Why they matter, what influences why they matter and what we find attractive in both, those are the real questions. Questions a lot of people don't care to ask themselves because they don't want to come up shallow
Looks matter very little tho imo. I would rather date someone fun than be with a pretty a$$hole. Similarly I would rather have s ex with someone experienced and good in bed rather than a selfish handsome a$$hole.
@Stellar Sphinx from the standpoint of evolutionary psychology the significance of beauty may not be socially constructed, but the elements of beauty are. This is where the sociological intrigue and consequences come into play
I'd be grateful, atleast I'd know what to fix or improve. I'm ok looking, I'd say 7/10, but I'm kinda stuck. And having a few 10/10 friends really doesn't help. :D
Learning about aesthetics in a philosophy course made me really sit back and think about how and why we find certain people attractive/unattractive. It’s weird when you try to think about it deeply
I never liked the ranking system thing with beauty. It makes me uncomfortable, especially when I was younger. Thank you for making this video digestible and mentioning the TV show (I think it’s a TV show?)… The conversation is needed🙂
@@Pooh_Bella it is interesting from the standpoint of trying to determine why a culture holds the beauty standards that it does. Sort of like, historically what led to that point, you know? But when one seeks to define what is objectively, universally attractive/beautiful, and what is not, they’re treading dangerous waters.
@@sonsauvage Agreed. I feel like we should be able to see the differences in each culture without trying to rank who is the best. Celebrate don’t hate.
It's a Thailand drama called Girl From Nowhere. Nanno goes around punishing bad people who get away with their crimes. This is just one of many, it's a really good show. I love it!
That show reminds me of Tomie by Junji Ito though his work is far more dark and Tomie is selfish but their ungodly power to appear everywhere and stir shit is very similar
Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️! Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget! So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen. ✝️✝️
my mom has always told me “personality> looks”. honestly… it’s sad ppl still look down on “ugly people”. like i’m sorry i got born this way and u we’re lucky
Girl it's all about how you portray yourself. Be confident and try to stay put together in situations where the first impression is important. I grew up "ugly" but one thing I always realised is that when I make a point to be confident nothing anyone says about my looks can bother me. Noone else's opinion on you really matters only yours does
You can change the way you look. Your teeth are crooked? Wear braces. You have bad skin? Do skin care. You don’t like your weight? You can change it. Nobody has to do these things of course (some people can’t), but saying that a person’s looks are just based on luck isn’t true.
@@Groggle7141 it definitely based on luck.. i am underweight, had braces and don't have bad skin. i'm still ugly lmao. its also based on how rich you are. i could change by having a nose job, but i can't afford it.
Also your face will never stay the same as you age. You might reach your peak well into adulthood and that's totally okay. Or be a hot grandma/grandpa. I know a guy who looked pretty goofy around 20 (overly skinny with a gaunt, sort of weak face) but is 63 now and looks impressionable.
@@Groggle7141 yes luck and genetics. i hope u understand people don’t have money for “fixing” their insecurities. i have an unsymmetrical face, teeth, lips and big nose. do i look like a millionaire that can fix this with tons of operations? no. and also, do skincare? i hope ur joking. skincare doesn’t always help because it’s usually caused by hormones.
For me it's cleanliness. Most of my friends in my life have been "unattractive", but it's the people with oily hair, rotting teeth and body odour that I really can't help but judge. Even though I know everyone's circumstances are different
i personally genuinely value personality over attractiveness, who cares if someone has physically beautiful face if they're immature, mean, judgmental, selfish, deceptive, manipulative etc. etc. no pretty face can balance the unpleasantness that can bubble underneath
I just want to say this. Look are not everything. But we have to stop pretending like it doesn't matter at all. Packaging and branding exist for a reason. Makeup and fashion exist for a reason. We have types and preferences for a reason. We all like beauty. Albeit it is subjective, i find it pretentious when people pretend like looks don't matter.
They matter, we all know that. The problem is that people judge others from looks and people treat them accordingly, which could be negative or positive treatment, but it's mostly negative treatment. Some people will paint a whole picture of you as a person by seeing a photo
@@ThePeacePlant That's kind of the point of the exterior. Going back to branding and packaging. Why books have covers and why people dress up. Look at a clickbait thumbnails and a thumbnail that's straight to the point. With the first thumbnail, the cliche face expression and arrows might make you feel annoyed while the latter would intrigue you. It works in that way. It's why we look down on clickbait thumbnails and prefer the simple ones. But back to people, there are always things you can do to change. It's not conforming but rather just improving yourself. And of course, it's not like the world has a set beauty standard. It may seem that way, but look back on all the trends all across time. Various looks cater to various body types and faces. Embrace what you think puts you at an advantage and don't stop there. Aim to be better still in many ways be it exercise, learning, or other things. Beauty comes with age. And we change as we grow up. Lastly, beauty does not always have to be perfect. If anything a bit of imperfection is like salt in a glass of chocolate milk. It makes it even better.
You shouldn't have to "improve" cause it's not improving it's conforming to what ppl consider conventionally attractive and that's not helpful... It's better to be yourself most ppl r average so you won't benefit much so you may as well not care
@@urdadsonic1036 I think they generally meant improving themselves which can mean anything. It's pretty subjective. Improving doesn't have to mean conforming at all. I could also mean you learn how to sew so you can create your own goth fashion or whatever.
surprised no one has commented about the betterhelp thing yet. guess I'm going to have to be the one to do it. I mean no hate at all because you obviously came from a well meaning place but Better Help is a really bad company. They also have data and confidentiality issues. Lots of therapists who've worked with them have come out & said it's a horrible company that really only cares about making $$. & speaking of $$ if you want actual sessions it ends up being HUNDREDS of dollars (which they conveniently wont tell you) a month. Danny Gonzalez posted a video sponsored by them last week & after being educated by the fandom he ended up removing the section from the video. I'm not saying that's what you have to do just for everyone who may check them out PLEASE be cautious.
I agree. I tried them once, very expensive and not very helpful. I live in Australia so I was a fool to try this before our own very reliable Healthcare.
thanks for this, I saw that multiple youtubers are sponsored now and was really confused, because wasn't there a scandal around betterhelp a few years back after everyone promoted them also? Did betterhelp maybe change a bit for the better?
As an ugly person, I have witnessed a lot of scary things happened to good looking people too (yes, they still have their privilege of course) I've seen them being touched or forced to sit on someone's lap, their picture stolen by the boys and they said they need it to fap. Overall it's a fucked up world to live, I don't get why people think it's a good idea to have a child.
Unless you are on the streets. Creepy men dont care as long as you're a girl/woman. I know from experience. Also if you appear innocent and quiet makes you an easier target.
This is why being mid in terms of attractiveness is great. No one harasses you cuz you’re pretty. No one also treats you badly for being ugly. Edit: ok I think I worded this kinda bad lol. Yes harassment comes in all forms and to everyone regardless. I myself have been harassed before despite being extremely average (or mid) - but it was not because I was attractive, it was simply because I’m a woman. However as many stated, looks TRULY does matter. My attractive counterparts gets way more attention, both bad and good and the severity of it was much higher than my own experience. Same as my less attractive counterparts, who definitely have a harder time making connections in life and would often get treated badly simply because of how they look. I got to go through my formative years as “invisible” because no one really cared or paid any attention to me and that was kind of a blessing
Ugly pretty mid attractive. All can get harassed. Harassment has nothing to do with attractiveness. I’m tired of ppl saying this stuff with their chest 🙄
Yes! This is me! I’ve never been treated badly by strangers or people close to me. I’ve been told that I’m beautiful by a few people but not a lot to think that I’m a 10. Never been bullied but rarely received special treatment. I think of myself as a solid average girl and I have to say, my life is pretty decent and I can’t complain. I’m really grateful 🥺
I don’t think attractiveness is a significant factor that causes harassment, someone do this to others not because they think the victims are hot, but to ensure a sense of control, there are countless cases straight men sexually assaulting other men even if they are not attracted to them
I had a sort of revelation when I was younger, around my mid-twenties. Think about how many physically attractive people you see every day. If you're actually out and about you'll find it's a high number. In fact, you will soon lose track. There is nothing special or rare about attractiveness, it is truly a nothing trait, in the sense that it says nothing about a person. You can make inferences from their looks sure, but they tell you nothing.
Interesting. I had the opposite revelation - almost everyone is super average looking. You walk around and see average looking people everyday that was in loving relationships, successful, happy etc. So looks don't matter that much, majority of people are average looking and still lead good lives
@@iiFallenWish I grew up with the internet but not on it, you know? I think younger millennials and gen Z I think take things that concern physical appearance and hyper-fixate on them because most everyone has this intensely curated version of themselves and their life that is equally if not more important to present to the world than their "actual" self. It's inarguable that your appearance affects your life but, you do have some control over how many fucks you give about that
Exactly. Looks matter very little tho imo. I would rather date someone fun than be with a pretty a$$hole. Similarly I would rather have s ex with someone experienced and good in bed rather than a selfish handsome a$$hole.
Literally, i always thought i was boring and not a friend material, but after many friendships i realised im better off alone, till maybe i will find that one friend
Being extroverted can make up for a lot. I used to have a friend who was pretty average looking, she wasn't like a model or anything, but very sociable. Developed a sizeable group of orbiters simping over her. She started taking advantage of those people among other things so I cut her off.. but it was incredible to me that someone so average looking could manipulate guys into buying her stuff and doing things for her, all based on the way she acted. I won't say personality because looking back on it I think now it was just an act, but still, it worked.
it’s pretty dumb that her having a cut on her face would make her less attractive when so many characters who have scars get simps because it symbolizes their traumatic backstories.
Yeah. A single scratch not gonna make someone's attractive like Nanno to be less attractive. Her face features doesn't change just because of a single scratch. It's a different story if she got a severe burn scar covering half of her face though.
I can't remember who it was, but I was watching a video where the person did two little tests. She asked out of a few pairs who looks better. Obviously you'd end up picking just one of each pair. Later in the video she did the same but instead asked "who is beautiful" and instead the automatic response was that they were all beautiful. Changing perspective from beauty being a contest to beauty being something everyone can have makes a massive difference
I saw that too!!! I couldn’t remember off the top of my head but I went back and found the video! Its called: How kpop destroys your body image by the channel chaebin n out! Hope this helps if anyone wanted to see the vid!☺️
That's just explains how people fake politeness while clearly knowing who is the most attractive. I hate this type of fake sugarcoating body positivity...
Chasing beauty is exhausting. I've struggled with my weight my whole life and it really hurts to know most people think I'm ugly bc of my weight. I wish people didn't care.
Same here my whole life I m just trying to loose weight I loose I gain I loose I gain I m tiered n I m not that kind of girl who looks pretty even being overweight too but I guess I look better with little less weight
In that experiment I would voluntarily place myself as a 5 (least attractive), you cant get your feelings hurt if you already know you're trash lol 🤷♀️
For me, I would probably do two things. Either place myself on 4th rank or walk like a model on stage to the 1st rank being sassy af and said "nah I'm joking" when I arrived at 1st place and then move to 2nd place. It depends on my self esteem that day.
@@g76agi Tbh I would do this just so no one had to be placed at 5. I feel way better knowing people felt better about themselves than being told i'm more attractive than 4 other girls. In the end it really doesn't matter that much to me than it might that chick who was complaining about being 5 lmao. Everyone's happy and I still get paid for standing here.
Yup im an ugly woman and people really treat me like that. Something happened, its my fault, false accusations, bad grades etc. People have a wrong image of you just because the judge the way you look. I just wish i looked like a normal person so people would leave me tf alone. Its really tiring.
Once in 5th grade some boys from my class made a beauty-ranking list and i was ranked 2nd last. It hurt me much and made me very insecure to the point where I wouldn't even know what my features looked like anymore. After all I managed gaining more confidence now...
that is terrible, holy shit. i hope you can feel comfortable with yourself again, something like that is so cruel. stay true to yourself, what they said doesn’t matter❤️
@@xg2513wtf i hope you understand nobody should ever have to hear such a thing and it is disgusting no matter what they look like.That person is a disgusting Rotten pig.
I notice when I was still pretty and girly a LOT of creepy stuff would happen to me and ever since I changed myself to look more masculine which is unattractive to most guys nothing happened to me anymore except one stupid guy a week ago. It’s just crazy that looks can make people go act crazy to a person or not.
Same! Sad that I have to do that (wasn't the reason)to don't get sexual harrased everytime I leave the house but it's a peaceful life and my agoraphobia is nearly gone. Instead I get alot wholesome compliments from women now😊 And 90% less creepy male shit. Buzzcut and comfy clothes keeps the perverts away 😅
The other day I got aggressively flirted to by this man unprompted and made me feel so extremely uncomfortable. I’m a lesbian so this interaction was incredibly unwanted. He kept mentioning my long curly hair and I’m SO ready to chop that shit off as soon as I can afford a haircut 😤
It doesn't matter if you're pretty or ugly. I wore an oversized, unflattering dress, sandals, a messy ponytail, and bare faced. Still get cat called and I looked like someone's maid.
I feel like women have a tendency to be more forgiving when ranking other women’s attractiveness compared to men, like for example we prioritize a pretty face and good personality over an overweight body. Men in general will almost always exclude overweight women even if they have the most beautiful face. Men are more fat phobic than women. Of course I am basing myself in personal experience but I’m also not surprised they ranked the plus size girl as least attractive.
I think women do combine looks and personality when determining someone's attractiveness, while men tend to judge women only on their looks. We tend to have different priorities. Men will be attracted first, then determine if they like a woman's personality, while women will get to know someone to find if they're truly attracted. The order is reversed so it can make men sound shallow.
I remember watching a video where a group of people in a room had to basically choose what they would sentence these two people with the SAME crime. OF COURSE, the prettier girl got the lesser time and they were saying how “she has a long life ahead of her. She’s pretty.” 🙄 Gurl. Omg
!!! Betterhelp actually states in their fine print that it's actually not meant to replace regular theraphy. They also can't ensure the therapists on their platform are qualified so it depends on the individual therapist if it's good or not. It's also strange that apparently there are supposedly more 'therapists' being added to the platform to meet demand when there is currently a mental health professional shortage. Anyway, those are some of the reasons why people don't like when youtubers promote them. It's really sad to see that some youtubers don't look into sponsorships. If his not willing to look into something as important as mental health and promotes a sponsor that isn't ethical I guess you can't really trust anyone.
The man needs his money. He’s not forcing you to use the company. Just ignore the ad. If you can ignore a Raid Shadow Legends ad, you can ignore this one. Also, “can’t trust anyone”?? This is a RUclipsr. You don’t know him lol. He can’t break your trust.
@@catsplat1272that's dumb af. Should we be cool with promoting gambling sites to children as well? It's all the same. There's always a line you should be drawing when it comes to what you promote to an audience who *likely* respects your opinion a lot. If your sense of ethics is very clearly up for sale then you're shit. Not to mention this is something that actively targets the vulnerable.
I find it really liberating to stop submitting to beauty standards just overall. You will never be happy if you keep following them and if you're not doing it for you then who cares? I'm currently rocking a unibrow and I'm not bothered by it. I get ignored by most people or most people just don't want to talk to me. It's like trying to be the ugliest you can be to overcompensate for the fact that you'll never be pretty enough. I do find it liberating though to not care but it comes with age unfortunately.
I relate to you so much and feel you man, being sick and tired of living in such an appearance orientated world, being shy and an introvert I'm also a huge overthinker to my own downfall. If you feel alone, I assure you that I understand and relate to you.
I hate the whole "rating" and "ranking" people youtube videos and tiktoks. Being told what number you are is dehumanizing. I just hate that concept because, idk, it just feels wrong and hurtful. I just want everyone to get along but I know this world won't allow it.
I’ve been ugly and I’ve also been pretty before. In my experience, yea, being ugly was 10x worse. People saw everything I did as "cringe". I wouldn’t make a joke without being seen as the girl who tries to be funny but isn’t. But when I was pretty(had a big glow up), I was super popular, people laughed at my jokes, and I was just seen as a cute happy girl next door. Now I’m kinda in the middle because uh I had another glow down and somehow went through puberty again/j and now I’m kind of average.
This video reminded me of when I was in high school (way back when), and as a member of the student council I went to a so-called “leadership camp” for area schools. I don’t remember much of what we did. But the one thing I did remember from the first day was a group of guys who were holding up cards ranking the attractiveness of girls as we passed by. Ugh. I want to believe they were shut down really fast.
This ranking system is so ugly but unfortunately we all have been through it. I have seen the ranking system both in school and college. My school was girls-only. I remember, when I was in the eighth standard, 12-13 years old, one of our new classmate did this and told me "sadly, you can't be in top 20." it was worse in college. There was a girl who would ask boys to rate girls on the basis of their physical attractiveness. Obviously, they kept on rating the same five girls, exaggerating their physical beauty to that point that they were treated like queens. Even random boys from senior classes came to see them. However, the thing that I hated actually was not only that they were rated as 'pretty', they thought that it was their duty to tell all the other girls that they were ugly. Boys in my class also thought that it was okay to reveal audio clips in the group saying, who they found ugly (basically everyone other than the pretty ladies). I am born ugly. But I know many people who had faced real challenges in rebuilding their self esteem after this ranking system. It's gross.
У нас у школі була досить неприємна ситуація з оцінюванням. Підчас конфлікту з купою дівчат хлопець просто заявив: ти прищава, ось ти жирна, ти пласка, а ось ти норм. Прямо дісно обличчям до обличчя наче його оцінка взагалі щось важила
I can confirm that a bunch of people around me judge a person solely on looks. I have also done it I’m sure I have since ranking attractiveness is human nature, but I try to get to know a person regardless of their attractiveness. I have found many very good friends by not initially judging them solely on looks. I wish more people realized that looks aren’t everything and ranking people could be harmful. Anyways, yeah that was my rant, have a good day!
You have a better chance at finding good people who ll let themselves be your friend because you are attractive. Because the reality is, ugly people judge ugly people too. And those ugly judgmental people will look for attractive people to make themselves look and feel good.
YES! Someone's finally talking about the masterpiece that is Girl from Nowhere This show is about a character, Nanno, who is a demon (? It's never explained, but the fanbase believes her to be a personification of Karma) and moves in to a new school/au each episode. There, she'll infiltrate the system and discover all that is rotten about human nature, before spectacularly destroying everyone involved from inside out. It's gore and dark but oh, so so great. On season two she's confeonted by another like her, the girl with the red ribbon, who the fanbase deemed to be "Vengeance". If one is Karma, and the other Vengeance, you can only imagine that they don't agree all the time, right? Well, that leads to wonderful power playing between the duo
I even had a few boys actually destroy a few of the projects I brought to class because they didn't think I was worthy of getting credit for anything. I became a little scared because it seemed so insane... The teachers just pretended it didn't happen....
No human being should be ranked. That's actually inhumane to be honest. If we're to be ranked in every category, every person will have a category they'd be ranked the lowest.
I've gotten both experiences, so it's weird 😅 Most people not asian think I look good, but when encountered some asians including my own, Filipino, I do not fit their beauty standards so they tend to ignore or look down at me. These shows are... I guess interesting to say the least 😄 I just stay away and do my art projects 😂
As an unattractive woman, life and people will always be terrible. I’ve been trying to lose weight for a few months now but I haven’t lost that much weight. I’m on a keto diet, and my workout routine is weight lifting for an hour, and cardio for thirty minutes. It seems like no matter how much I punish myself or stress myself the fuck out, I’ll never considered pretty/attractive and it fucking sucks. As a woman, beauty is considered a virtue, and since I lack beauty, I lack value.
Got bad news for you Sarah, i lost weight and became a good-looking guy but i wasn't on a keto diet, i was on OMAD diet, and sometimes i ate less than 800 calories a day. Cigarrettes and coffee helped supress hunger
@@KlausKinskiPsycho the difference is that I have been at least trying to lose weight healthily. you just sound unhealthy, also cigarettes are incredibly awful for you
feel ya. lifelong struggles with “weight.” crazy thing is, the more i study nutrition and body types there’s the realization that i’m not actually overweight (anymore - there was a time i was, by an extra 20 pounds but i put in the work and now am not), i’m just not dressing for my body type which makes me look heavier / worse and have bad posture. all my life i’ve dealt with comments demonizing and focusing on it. because i’m also flat, so not even curvy thick, just heavier in my stomach if i gain weight, it’s even more negative. pretty much used to being a second option at this point based on the inches of my waist. fvck that
@@squidwardt0rtellini same, for a multitude of a reasons, but that’s a huge one. to be dismissed on something as limited as “body” and “beauty standards” is exhausting and demoralizing. gave up on most social media platforms sometime ago (really just on yt … and been v selective of my content) and ever since then, i’ve become aware of the deeper side of human beauty. things like kindness, calmness, unity. and sometimes when i’m in that space a deep part of my heart and soul is so touched by the divine grace humans are capable of, it makes me emotional. then i go out irl and get treated like dirt to my face, because i don’t fit the 90s heroin chic aesthetic and the disconnect is what’s really painful. almost everyone is so beautiful on the inside, in their hearts, art and words. but then we see ourselves and others and it becomes emotional cannibalism, pain, and competition. it’s bs. and it will never change
I feel like we don't talk enough about how pretty privilege tends to be intrinsically tied into Eurocentric standards of beauty and femininity, which find their roots in white supremacy and permeate themselves into every corner of society. These two concepts are used to determine who's "attractive" versus who's "unattractive", thus creating a hierarchy of attractiveness and an "us vs. them" mindset between white women or lighter-skinned women of color vs. Black or darker-skinned women of color.
I don’t think Eurocentric standards of beauty are rooted in white supremacy. Looking European is one thing and being a white supremacist is a totally different thing. Every ethnicity has their own beauty standards not necessarily rooted in racial supremacy. If you live in a predominantly white country, white beauty standards are going to be more dominant. The population dictates the beauty standards.
@@Christina.N. you can't deny the influence western media (especially American) has on other countries. I noticed this after binge watching videos about beauty standards in east Asian countries. Many people in places like japan and korea consider white people "more beautiful." Of course pale skin is historically a beauty standard in both countries, but the preference for blonde hair and blue eyes has obviously come from western media shoving western beauty standards down the throats of the rest of the world. It's really disturbing to say the least. And I think it's safe to say this all ties into colonization, imperialism, racism, and the idea of "racial supremacy." If you look at history, it's almost undeniable.
@@Christina.N. if most countries are putting european features as the standard of beauty above everything, how isn’t that white supremacy in one of its purest forms😭
(Warning, kind of long sorry!) I remember the last semester of school, I kind of did this “thing.” I dressed only with the same black jacket, dark skinny jeans, frizzy long hair in my face everyday. The more recent semester I dressed way better and stayed cleaner. But it was weird because, I had more friends last year than this year. I wore a mask and I always wear glasses, so it’s not easy to see my face at all. But I personally feel like my personality was more outgoing and better? last year than this year, because I was way more insecure about myself this year (well, I still am.) I personally think I was just kind of boring this year. so over this summer I thought to myself, maybe I can help brighten my qualities of my personality, trying to kind of overcome my insecurities. Actually it got so bad that semester that I literally forgot how to walk in the hallways, and when I did I would get really nervous and extremely anxious unless if I was with a friend. Last year I was insecure but not as much I guess, and just kind of brushed it off. But this year I was so anxious about how I looked and I did not want to gain attention at all. I would even be anxious about my posture or sitting position. When I was with at least one friend I would be really calm because at least Ik there was someone I could talk to. Now this summer im trying to work on both my personality and my appearance better. And to be honest, the way I dressed this year would have been decent ig, but I only dressed for male attention/for people to not notice me. It was not the clothes I wanted to wear, and not the hairstyle I wanted to have. So this summer I cut my hair the way I wanted, bought clothes that I actually WANTED, and I started to realize I look so much better. I know I would have never had the confidence to wear these clothes, but I’m going to try my hardest next semester. After I did all this stuff for myself, I realized that my confidence has actually changed. For example, the last two semesters I only wore skinny dark jeans, I hated them so bad but I was scared that more baggier jeans would look bad on me, and I thought more brighter colors would attract too much attention. But now I picked out and bought baggy jeans, my mom kind of judged me for buying jeans like that but I honestly just want to feel comfortable with myself for once. I’m not lying, I definitely still have many insecurities. I’m still hung up on not knowing how to really walk, so that still makes me pretty anxious. But really it’s the little things that count. I hope if anyone read this, maybe this will give you some tips? I just hope I’ll become the person I want to really be, because honestly this whole school year I’ve been really jealous of popular girls at my school, they’re so pretty and have alot of friends, meanwhile I’m just the quiet kid in the corner doing my work. I’ll tell you, alot of people only pick and choose by your appearance, but when they meet you be one of the most supportive, cheerful people in their life without overdoing it, and they’ll act more positive about you. If they are toxic towards you then definitely cut them out. Life is what u want to make it, don’t try to base it off somebody else who you don’t want to be.
My life motto is « I don’t go to school to date » since like maybe 5 years (I’m in 3rd year of uni now) and omg I swear it feels really good When I have to work or go out I just wear what feels comfortable for me like if I suddenly want to run I actually can you see And I realized you get much better friends by being this way (because it’s my way but you choose your own way of course) than trying hard to be « appealing » There’s that girl in my class that I can’t stand but she’s like one of the populars I guess ? There’s a guy asking her out everywhere she goes and when she wants to go out everyone follows her but when I do the same I get ignored (we were in the same group of friends originally but I don’t consider these people friends anymore) And this girl confessed to me once that she doesn’t like uni life and I was like wth ok sad to be you because even though I only have 2 friends I do like my uni life and that’s what matters now Find activites/courses/work that you like and be yourself there and you’ll see how you can find a lot of things to talk about to people who are also happy to be here
@@chloesmnc8443 Very very true! When you realize not give a sht about what people think of you anymore and just doing ur thing, I think it’s a great feeling in general honestly
this is the most relatable thing ever!! i can't believe how alike we are in terms of our decisions, the way we dressed and behaved, insecurities, anxiety, improvements and stuff. it genuinely feels good to see how there are people like me out there, and how some words can resonate a lot with me. thanks for this comment. best of luck!
I've watched this episode off of Girl From Nowhere, I think that ranking beauty is just emotionally damaging and no one should be ranked for their beauty, I believe personality before beauty is more important bc it eliminates the good from the bad
Omg I was searching your channel today like “what happened to edvasian?!?!” I’ve been binge watching all your videos from the past three years and I ran out 😂 I love your channel and humor! Hahaha you’re my favorite Ian Lee 😂😂😂
I can tell you what the moral of that show was. I'm probably the oldest one here lol slow learner but it took me 39 years to learn this lesson so listen up kids! The moral is to focus on only yourself and move in silence to win at life. Easier said than done but there it is! Even better if you want to take it up a notch, try to bore people to death so they don't bother you and think you're a loser. 😜
In France we say "To live happy, one should live hidden." I'm near 30 and I think about this more & more, don't live your life to please others' standards or flex on them. Most people I know who are like this are unhappy behind the shiny surface.
This video came up the very day I started reading Kahneman and Tversky for my master thesis (the guys who studied biases and judgement psychology) and it was the debrief I needed after work. Good content 👏🏻
I used to care alot bout my looks and spent way too much time on makeup, hair, diets and so on. Thing is that when you look attractive, alot of people forget that you you're a person that have boundaries and basically think that you're just a piece of meat that they can do/say whatever to you. Had guys catcalling me, groping me, saying degrading things to me, stalk me and the classic, someone who asks you out and when you say no they get mad bc of it, like you owe them something. It's not uncommon for guys to get upset that a girl don't like him back and will even try to punish her for it in different ways Oh then ofc, murder! Attractive women are at higher risk of getting murdered as well I care way less these days, beauty is a curse, especially if you're a woman
for the jubilee video, there is no way u can rate ppls appearance and personality without making it offensive, it especially doesnt make sense with the personality, since they are only on set for a day with each other like....
Tbh that’s how most of their ranking videos go. It’s always personality and outfits. (Having a good personality is good ofc) but they tend to sugarcoat A LOT
1 of my many hopes for humanity is accepting the way we are all created...in my opinion, beauty is very very subjective....I can find many other things beautiful besides appearances....u could be drop dead gorgeous, but many other factors can make u look frightening....thanks for the vid and ur always positive POV love....💯😘☝🏽
I'm aromantic/asexual but I rank people on their clothing styles (terrible I know, I dont WANT to rank people, I have just noticed that I do) so like as lonng as someone is dressed that matches MY personal preference then I think they are "pretty" does that make sense?
I'm demisexual and I rate people by how strong is my urge to paint them. I just feel very hard for beautiful people, music and things. I do be running around complimenting women lol
I do similar thing, not quite rank but make judgements on people's clothing and/or make-up. I think of it like pieces in an art museum, some aren't conventionally beautiful but there is something unique in a pleasing way.
Same! I judge people by their features like nose jaw, face shape and how it fits proportionally to their face or something. It's weird. Like there was this girl at my work who was insecure of her jaw. Its true her jaw chin was very strong feature but like that's what made her fit perfectly together with her face. It's such a shame its obviously an insecurity built from people bullying her and calling it masculine. Yes they are like art to me too. Just how a certain person face has something that make them them you know Haha I 😅
I'm aro ace too but I very much appreciate aesthetic beauty but ya, fashion/overall style definitely figures into it as well. Like there's people I'll see on the street or on campus and think "oh they could be really attractive if they dressed better or had different hair" type of thing bc they have nice facial features but they're not really noticeable the way they're dressed.
Ranking base on looks is so ridiculous. We have different taste so someone I find attractive may not be attractive in someone else eyes so it’s best to not rank people at all
My uni only has 20 students, and my first thought was to say I'd maybe be in the middle if we had an app like that bc the perception I have of myself is from the pictures I take. But honestly I'd be at the bottom, lmao, my body looks all wonky irl 😂
@@bbw283 Not all schools are like in High School Musical, hahaha. It's a small university, only one career, few students per group, not even a group per grade.
as a gay male artist i feel like what i perceive as beauty in females is tied with what i like to see in art, which is very different to what these people were thinking about so yeah, ranking people is absolutely stupid, thats the only conclusion you can get to
Beauty is sooo subjective, there is a standard to be sure but just bc one person rates you a lower number doesn't mean someone else wouldn't rate you higher. Also personality and confidence level has a pretty high impact too, I have friends who don't necessarily fit beauty standards and yet they literally glow and are so beautiful just bc they are self assured, kind, and they smile all the time
I LOVE you for talking About The Girl From Nowhere as an example it’s one of my favorite batshit crazy shows. I remember the episode where a teacher lost her shit and shot up her school. It has a lot of deep messages in every episode behind the chaos it’s great.
Ranking attractiveness and beauty are even the same thing? Regardless I don't like the competition on something so shallow, that will fade. Why even bother...? And the more I grow as an adult, somehow, looks become more of a part in a composition, than something major important. If I like my friend, does their face really matter to me? Not the fun we have, not the pain we share, not... You know. Our friendship? Why is everyone obsessed with looks anyway? I hate having a physical form. Tbh in a situation like this, I'd just put myself as last place.
At first we are always attracted by looks but eventually after knowing each other, looks doesn’t matter anymore coz if that person creeps you out, their looks just fade away and you will not be pleased by that look anymore, or if the person is nice they look way better than before.
I haven’t recovered from having stepbrothers tell me I had a big nose, since I was 12. I’m 23 now, but I constantly tell myself how I hate how it looks with my side profile. I also was always told I looked like my dad. I’ve always struggled with my weight too. When I see pictures of me at 275+ lbs, I just see my dad. I’m not saying being fat makes you a horrible person, but it has put stress on my body and depresses me when I think of how I gained 60+ lbs quickly.
sighs in plus size girl watching the tokenization of plus size girls and the prevalence of “you would be hot if you were skinny” rhetoric At this point I’m not surprised. Just exhausted…
As what society deems to be 'conventionally attractive' I just wanted to toss a couple things out there. Some people want to be friends with me just because I'm attractive and it makes me so insecure of my personality and leaves me to wonder if some of my friends even like me. Some girls just automatically hate me bc they perceive me as attractive and will not even talk to me. Some of the people that actually want to be friends it's all for superficial reasons and my naive self never finds out until it's too late. Whenever I need to vent about my insecurities people act offended that I could even be insecure and then talk about how much they hate themselves and I end up comforting someone even when I feel like crap. And I was ugly up until 6 months ago, and I feel for the people society doesn't favor. Bc now that I've had a 'glow up' people open doors for me go out of their way to aid me in small things and it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach. So yeah there's my issues, hope you enjoyed my Tedtalk 😂
those aren't rlly problems? it's just insecurities that come with being attractive and they still outweigh the negatives of being unattractive.... having fake friends because you're pretty is worse than having no friends because ppl find u ugly
You just describe my problems when people see me smiling being happy or professional I they just get uncomfortable and some press me to "put my self down or at their level" to feel comfortable with themselves
Grew up as an “ugly girl” who turned out to become “pretty” as I got older. Being told you’re ugly makes you feel low about yourself. Then again, that “glow up” always has its cons. It’s sad to see people get offended and refuse to believe in you when you’ve expressed your insecurities, jealous girls not liking you just based on looks, and wondering if your friends only like you for your appearance really fucks you up
(TW: mentions of SA) As a 26 year old, you either think I’m “beautiful” or “average” or “female Quasimodo” I just don’t care anymore. I lost a good amount of my teen years worrying about my body and how I look, getting into relationships with people who only wanted one thing, getting sexually assaulted and now having to recover from all of that. The thing is, when you suddenly realise that respect and how you are as a person, regarding personality is far more important than physical appearance, is the day you wake up and start treating yourself with more self-respect than you’ve ever given yourself in your life.
Crazy how the plus-sized woman was ranked right at the bottom. I wonder how much of the disinterest in plus sized people is down to biology and how much is down to societal values, because it's such a big factor for people seemingly I think she had the prettiest face and was the best dressed, but it seems no one could see through to those factors behind her weight. It also makes me wonder if people view others as unable to lose weight, as opposed to a work in progress that simply needs to be given time and support to reach their full potential
Maybe you already know this so this is for those who weren’t aware. Back in ancient times, plus sized ppl were seen as very attractive. It meant that they had the resources to be able to feed themselves well. It showed that they were wealthy enough, high ranking and healthy enough (especially for females when it came to giving birth and breast feeding) for them to be able to eat what they want. It was a privilege. As food became more widely available, as we moved away from hunting-gathering societies, from farm-oriented societies, to modern society where we don’t have food as healthy and natural as our ancestors. But we do have it in abundance. Being fit and skinny is considered to be the new privilege since it means that you have access to healthy food compared to having to eat fast food often. At the end of the day, it boils down to what type of privilege can be seen physically (in this case, through body types) as a result from current society, and what is available and scarce (food in this case, one of the most basic survival needs). And even though we may not consciously be thinking about it, we are hardwired to look for healthy partners since we want to pass down good genes to our descendants to ensure for survival. It’s why white skin was seen as desirable in many countries in ancient times since it symbolized how they didn’t need to work and do labor outside their homes. It’s also why tan skin is desirable in western countries today since it means that they have money to travel and do any outdoor activity they want instead of being stuck in an office most of the year. After writing all this, I realize it’s not just about pretty privilege but also class privilege. Whoever looks wealthy is the new beauty standard. Whatever they do is now desirable. Humanity’s got a lotta issues they need to sort out through.
@@ifykyk679 and? I was speculating about the causes of their behaviour because things tend to have reasons, I'm not even plus sized myself, just genuinely curious about human nature, why does that bother you?
.I would have put the blonde haired girl last. Personally, I like people chubbier than me. I think it's nice to have some extra meat on your bones. I agree that the thicker girl should have been put more forward in the line, but those dudes were all skinny and tall. Of course they're gonna choose the small and skinny ones before the thicker girl. 🙃
15:07 Sometimes when you're introverted and the real personality comes out, it makes people hate you even more. Example: This one girl I dated for awhile had dominated our conversations and suddenly asked me why I haven't really said much and I told her that I'm kinda introverted and often only really talk a lot on certain topics. She asked me what I like to talk about. Cue a 2.5-hour discussion on the lore of Final Fantasy XIV and my original character headcanons. She asked questions and seemed engaged, but in the end we split up and she told me that it's because I talked too much.
When I was younger and less confident (and weighed less) I'd get hit on by weird guys. Now I only get compliments on my personality and confidence. Since I'm ace this is such a welcome change. No one will ever try to grope me again, I'll glare them into submission if they hit on me LOL
Seriously, people need to realize that men will also often try to take advantage of "lesser attractive" women with low confidence and if you try to talk about it people might not even believe you. Sick of peoplehere acting as if only attractive women get harassed.
As someone who's been hot and ugly, this is true. Got ugly from aging for a bit then fixed it with fillers. People treated me way differently and women suddenly weren't interested it was a weird time. Until after I got the fillers and everything went back to normal they started treating me nice again. I feel bad for people that have to experience that their whole life. Im scared to age again.
This doesn't work because everyone has different tastes/opinions, so really the ranking would just be based on the most dominant personality's opinion. Also they're not wanting to be rude, so they're not being completely honest. The guys can be a little more honest because the headphones, but it's still iffy.
Ranking people on looks while being right in front of them is so mean liiiike I guess the women did agree to be on the show but it still seems mean tho...
my obsession with looks skyrocketed when i read a study that said its the strongest predictor for initial romantic attraction. fk everyone that says its all about personality, they'll rarely give u a chance if ur not physically attractive
In the Jubilee video, it's incredibly telling that the black woman and the plus-sized woman were pushed to the last places in the ranking and the Asian women were placed at the top. This personifies how beauty is currently defined in today's social gaze. This KPop-obsessed, Tik Tok algorithm-focused society is fixated on whiteness (not in the sense of Caucasian, literally the alabaster complexion), thinness and the coveted almond-shaped eye. If you're familiar with Asian beauty standards, you know those factors are fundamental. No, I'm not making this about race. Society has already done that for us. It's incredibly sad that this is what we have come to. As someone who is personally familiar with both pretty privilege and victimization for being considered "unattractive," I truly wish that our personalities were all that mattered. Rankings are so juvenile and pointless. Even though society has its core standards, it is comforting to remember that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. No matter your outward appearance, you are treasure in someone's gaze. And even if you cannot discover that person, be treasure in your own eyes. Remember your heart, remember your mind. Be beautiful from the inside out and someone will take notice. ❤️
I agree, shocking how the black woman was ranked so low. She fit many other beauty standards such as having an amazing and healthy figure.. and for the Asian woman to be ranked so high by people outside of her race? It's really sad, not in the sense that people shouldn't be attracted to those outside of their ethnic group but rather the societal factors that you mentioned and fetishisation
@@razumihin3605 Right?! It's so disheartening when men from your own race and culture don't "choose" you. Not that they HAVE to find you attractive, but it's particularly a common theme in the black community to find black men who degrade black feminine beauty yet love seeing our fetishized physiques on women of lighter complexions. The fetishization of Asian characteristics, too, is objectifying to the members of the diverse cultures ingrained within that ethnicity. I agree; even when you "fit" most of the core beauty standards, skin color will be the deciding factor. All these women are gorgeous for different reasons. Why are we pitting them against each other? Different types of beauty can coexist and be joyful. Yet, society is always looking for new ways to put women in their place.
I think I’d almost rather die than rank myself and other in terms of looks. The worst part is they all full well know where they are ranked. Gun to my head if I had to do it? You put yourself last for social stability.
ok about the cereal bcs i REALLY feel the need to talk about this the cereal does NOT get soggier or anything if you put it first, newsflash but it doesn't matter if you put it first or not it sits in the milk for the same amount of time yes if you put the milk in, leave and then come back it will be soggy but if you're a normal functioning human being you make food to eat it right there and then not 15mins later so the "if you put the cereal first it gets soggy" argument makes no sense, put the cereal and the milk the way you damn please it doesn't matter and thank you for coming to my ted talk
Not if you do what ppl from my country do by pouring the milk and cereal into separate containers then putting little bits of cereal into the milk as you eat 😃
For me personality = looks, but when you know someone that doesn’t have the looks at all but is incredibly narcissistic and stares at you creepily from far away non stop…. It’s incredibly creepy in a way, even if they’re handsome, still creepy.
Luckily based on my lack of pretty privilege I never have creepy men try to pick me up at bars. Also I love the show Girl From Nowhere!! I'm ready for Season 3. Nanno always makes them pay and I love her.
It’s funny but being at either extreme/either being extremely attractive or extremely ugly people think that they actually have the right to say whatever they want to you, directly to your face. But I would definitely prefer being a tractive and then having to conceal that or play it low-key instead of being ugly and dealing with everyone’s shit. My life has been hard especially because I’m fat - I’m not just talking about physical pain I’m talking about how people have treated me.
A girl in my class likes to call me ugly, that my nose is like a monkey's nose and i look gay. And she's like really pretty, skinny and extrovert. So. GIRL WHY YOU MAD AT ME FOR BEING UGLY! YOU SHOULD THANK ME SINCE I'M MAKING YOU LOOK EXTRA PRETTY JUST BY BEING IN THE SAME CLASS AS YOU.
I honestly believe all human brains have some underlying connection, I mean so many unexplainable things that all tie back to the brain... we are literally star dust
Ahem, pouring milk after is actually top tier. I know it was a mistake so I'm just helping out Milk first is has an uneven milk to cereal ratio,youll have to adjust it anyway. No one would choose that =)
I don’t see the point of dieting, injecting and photo editing your way to fit the prevailing beauty standards just to look like thousands of other people trying to do the same thing. It’s so much more fun to be in your own lane and find the style and look that reflects your own unique personality. Yeah, I’ll never be a 10 by modern beauty standards, but I sure love the way I look in my 50s inspired dress, long tailored coat, vintage 1930s hat and American Duchess shoes.
We could NOT have had this ranking in my school. Instead of arguing with each other we would have been tossing acid and cutting faces. It was a rough school.
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In a culture obsessed with looks, it’s too dangerous to be close to the top or bottom. That’s why I’m aiming for a solid average! Nothing to see here folks 💀
omg ur so right… this brings me comfort knowing i’m a soft 6.5
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I'd rather be average in looks tbh because if you look too good, no one takes you seriously because they think "pretty people can't be smart or serious".
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yep its better to just look the way youre comfortable in. For me i only want to look my best for a special event that happens like once a year- then go back to being careless about makeup lol
“Looks don’t matter! It all about the inside!!”
Dunno if it’s just me, but this just doesn’t seem like a compliment to me- just tell I’m ugly if you think I am bro
Right seemed back handed to me I would have said "men like woman with a strong masculine face so maybe you should be racked higher then me" 🤣 you want petty we can get petty lmao
It's definitely something said to spare feelings when the situation doesn't allow frankness. Looks matter, personality matters. It all matters. Why they matter, what influences why they matter and what we find attractive in both, those are the real questions. Questions a lot of people don't care to ask themselves because they don't want to come up shallow
Exactly that's back handed compliment
They're agreeing that you're ugly 💀
Looks matter very little tho imo.
I would rather date someone fun than be with a pretty a$$hole. Similarly I would rather have s ex with someone experienced and good in bed rather than a selfish handsome a$$hole.
@Stellar Sphinx from the standpoint of evolutionary psychology the significance of beauty may not be socially constructed, but the elements of beauty are. This is where the sociological intrigue and consequences come into play
If somebody openly ranked me for my appearance I'd cry.
Same
I'd be grateful, atleast I'd know what to fix or improve. I'm ok looking, I'd say 7/10, but I'm kinda stuck. And having a few 10/10 friends really doesn't help. :D
@@matedespot1480 Well you can ask your friends how to improve 😭
@@catsplat1272 ...only to be hit with "you are beautiful the way you are and you shouldnt do anything"
@@matedespot1480 well you are your own worst critic. maybe they think YOU'RE the 10/10 friend ;)
Learning about aesthetics in a philosophy course made me really sit back and think about how and why we find certain people attractive/unattractive. It’s weird when you try to think about it deeply
Elaborate please
@@anisatajy9445 what this person said
I’m interested as well
If you have the time, I would also like to hear more from your perspective of it.
Please elaborate i am interested in listening
I never liked the ranking system thing with beauty. It makes me uncomfortable, especially when I was younger. Thank you for making this video digestible and mentioning the TV show (I think it’s a TV show?)… The conversation is needed🙂
Yes, thank you 🙏🏾 Especially when people start comparing beauty between races and even within races. It’s all too much.
@@Pooh_Bella Agreed. I do not like it🤦🏾♂️‼️
@@Pooh_Bella it is interesting from the standpoint of trying to determine why a culture holds the beauty standards that it does. Sort of like, historically what led to that point, you know? But when one seeks to define what is objectively, universally attractive/beautiful, and what is not, they’re treading dangerous waters.
Girl from nowhere is an amazing show you should watch it
@@sonsauvage Agreed. I feel like we should be able to see the differences in each culture without trying to rank who is the best. Celebrate don’t hate.
It's a Thailand drama called Girl From Nowhere. Nanno goes around punishing bad people who get away with their crimes. This is just one of many, it's a really good show. I love it!
YESS NANNO GIRLBOSSES
That show reminds me of Tomie by Junji Ito though his work is far more dark and Tomie is selfish but their ungodly power to appear everywhere and stir shit is very similar
I really hope they make a season 3
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So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen. ✝️✝️
@@Riaaonline Same. They have to though, cause now that other girl is Nanno's anti-thesis and she has the same power.
my mom has always told me “personality> looks”. honestly… it’s sad ppl still look down on “ugly people”. like i’m sorry i got born this way and u we’re lucky
Girl it's all about how you portray yourself. Be confident and try to stay put together in situations where the first impression is important. I grew up "ugly" but one thing I always realised is that when I make a point to be confident nothing anyone says about my looks can bother me. Noone else's opinion on you really matters only yours does
You can change the way you look. Your teeth are crooked? Wear braces. You have bad skin? Do skin care. You don’t like your weight? You can change it. Nobody has to do these things of course (some people can’t), but saying that a person’s looks are just based on luck isn’t true.
@@Groggle7141 it definitely based on luck.. i am underweight, had braces and don't have bad skin. i'm still ugly lmao. its also based on how rich you are. i could change by having a nose job, but i can't afford it.
Also your face will never stay the same as you age. You might reach your peak well into adulthood and that's totally okay. Or be a hot grandma/grandpa. I know a guy who looked pretty goofy around 20 (overly skinny with a gaunt, sort of weak face) but is 63 now and looks impressionable.
@@Groggle7141 yes luck and genetics. i hope u understand people don’t have money for “fixing” their insecurities. i have an unsymmetrical face, teeth, lips and big nose. do i look like a millionaire that can fix this with tons of operations? no. and also, do skincare? i hope ur joking. skincare doesn’t always help because it’s usually caused by hormones.
I feel like everyone wishes personalities were always the reason why we chose to hang with people but appearances always get the vest of us
For me it's cleanliness. Most of my friends in my life have been "unattractive", but it's the people with oily hair, rotting teeth and body odour that I really can't help but judge. Even though I know everyone's circumstances are different
@@sherbetron some ppl have naturally oliy hair tho
i personally genuinely value personality over attractiveness, who cares if someone has physically beautiful face if they're immature, mean, judgmental, selfish, deceptive, manipulative etc. etc. no pretty face can balance the unpleasantness that can bubble underneath
@@rinku_yay yeah but theres stuff to get that under control just as theres stuff to get oily skin under control
@@rinku_yay I have naturally oily hair. You know what I do? I shower every other day. It’s not that hard.
I just want to say this. Look are not everything. But we have to stop pretending like it doesn't matter at all. Packaging and branding exist for a reason. Makeup and fashion exist for a reason. We have types and preferences for a reason. We all like beauty. Albeit it is subjective, i find it pretentious when people pretend like looks don't matter.
They matter, we all know that. The problem is that people judge others from looks and people treat them accordingly, which could be negative or positive treatment, but it's mostly negative treatment. Some people will paint a whole picture of you as a person by seeing a photo
Maybe instead of saying "looks don't matter", we should say "looks shouldn't matter as much as they do".
@@ThePeacePlant That's kind of the point of the exterior. Going back to branding and packaging. Why books have covers and why people dress up.
Look at a clickbait thumbnails and a thumbnail that's straight to the point. With the first thumbnail, the cliche face expression and arrows might make you feel annoyed while the latter would intrigue you. It works in that way.
It's why we look down on clickbait thumbnails and prefer the simple ones. But back to people, there are always things you can do to change. It's not conforming but rather just improving yourself. And of course, it's not like the world has a set beauty standard. It may seem that way, but look back on all the trends all across time. Various looks cater to various body types and faces. Embrace what you think puts you at an advantage and don't stop there. Aim to be better still in many ways be it exercise, learning, or other things. Beauty comes with age. And we change as we grow up. Lastly, beauty does not always have to be perfect. If anything a bit of imperfection is like salt in a glass of chocolate milk. It makes it even better.
You shouldn't have to "improve" cause it's not improving it's conforming to what ppl consider conventionally attractive and that's not helpful... It's better to be yourself most ppl r average so you won't benefit much so you may as well not care
@@urdadsonic1036 I think they generally meant improving themselves which can mean anything. It's pretty subjective. Improving doesn't have to mean conforming at all. I could also mean you learn how to sew so you can create your own goth fashion or whatever.
surprised no one has commented about the betterhelp thing yet. guess I'm going to have to be the one to do it. I mean no hate at all because you obviously came from a well meaning place but Better Help is a really bad company. They also have data and confidentiality issues. Lots of therapists who've worked with them have come out & said it's a horrible company that really only cares about making $$. & speaking of $$ if you want actual sessions it ends up being HUNDREDS of dollars (which they conveniently wont tell you) a month. Danny Gonzalez posted a video sponsored by them last week & after being educated by the fandom he ended up removing the section from the video. I'm not saying that's what you have to do just for everyone who may check them out PLEASE be cautious.
I agree. I tried them once, very expensive and not very helpful. I live in Australia so I was a fool to try this before our own very reliable Healthcare.
YES THIS IS WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR 👏🏻
I really do hope Ed sees this
Please I hope more people like/reply. This comment is way down and more people need to see this
thanks for this, I saw that multiple youtubers are sponsored now and was really confused, because wasn't there a scandal around betterhelp a few years back after everyone promoted them also? Did betterhelp maybe change a bit for the better?
As an ugly person, I have witnessed a lot of scary things happened to good looking people too (yes, they still have their privilege of course) I've seen them being touched or forced to sit on someone's lap, their picture stolen by the boys and they said they need it to fap. Overall it's a fucked up world to live, I don't get why people think it's a good idea to have a child.
Why wouldn't it be a good idea to have a kid? Like... I really wish to have children when I'm older. I do believe I have the right to have children😅
Unless you are on the streets. Creepy men dont care as long as you're a girl/woman. I know from experience.
Also if you appear innocent and quiet makes you an easier target.
@@carolinatorres7575 this is why my face is in a permanent scowl 😂
Bro being forced to sit on someone's lap???
You mean you’ve seen things happen to good looking females. Guys hardly ever face the “consequences” of being attractive.
As someone with social anxiety I would’ve not been able to show a bit of my personality . That would be a nightmare
@Luna the Pug 루나 🍑 we can be just as entertaining when comfortable 😂
same
I would be standing there like🧍and slowly move to 4th place like "Pls make this end soon" while smiling awkwardly
Samee “🧍🏾♀️”
@@Pooh_Bellax.s
This is why being mid in terms of attractiveness is great. No one harasses you cuz you’re pretty. No one also treats you badly for being ugly.
Edit: ok I think I worded this kinda bad lol. Yes harassment comes in all forms and to everyone regardless. I myself have been harassed before despite being extremely average (or mid) - but it was not because I was attractive, it was simply because I’m a woman. However as many stated, looks TRULY does matter. My attractive counterparts gets way more attention, both bad and good and the severity of it was much higher than my own experience. Same as my less attractive counterparts, who definitely have a harder time making connections in life and would often get treated badly simply because of how they look. I got to go through my formative years as “invisible” because no one really cared or paid any attention to me and that was kind of a blessing
Ugly pretty mid attractive. All can get harassed. Harassment has nothing to do with attractiveness. I’m tired of ppl saying this stuff with their chest 🙄
Yes! This is me! I’ve never been treated badly by strangers or people close to me. I’ve been told that I’m beautiful by a few people but not a lot to think that I’m a 10. Never been bullied but rarely received special treatment. I think of myself as a solid average girl and I have to say, my life is pretty decent and I can’t complain. I’m really grateful 🥺
Sorry to be the one to tell you this but all kinds of ppl get harassed especially if you’re a girl
Perverts don't care as long as they can get a piece. It's sick but some disgusting cretins get off on abusing others.
I don’t think attractiveness is a significant factor that causes harassment, someone do this to others not because they think the victims are hot, but to ensure a sense of control, there are countless cases straight men sexually assaulting other men even if they are not attracted to them
I had a sort of revelation when I was younger, around my mid-twenties. Think about how many physically attractive people you see every day. If you're actually out and about you'll find it's a high number. In fact, you will soon lose track. There is nothing special or rare about attractiveness, it is truly a nothing trait, in the sense that it says nothing about a person. You can make inferences from their looks sure, but they tell you nothing.
Interesting. I had the opposite revelation - almost everyone is super average looking. You walk around and see average looking people everyday that was in loving relationships, successful, happy etc. So looks don't matter that much, majority of people are average looking and still lead good lives
@@iiFallenWish I grew up with the internet but not on it, you know? I think younger millennials and gen Z I think take things that concern physical appearance and hyper-fixate on them because most everyone has this intensely curated version of themselves and their life that is equally if not more important to present to the world than their "actual" self. It's inarguable that your appearance affects your life but, you do have some control over how many fucks you give about that
Exactly.
Looks matter very little tho imo.
I would rather date someone fun than be with a pretty a$$hole. Similarly I would rather have s ex with someone experienced and good in bed rather than a selfish handsome a$$hole.
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Laughing in asexual spectrum.
I really hated how they equated being extroverted with having more personality. 🙄
Yeah I would say it was more about who is more aggressive or agreeable instead of "having more personality"
Literally, i always thought i was boring and not a friend material, but after many friendships i realised im better off alone, till maybe i will find that one friend
Being extroverted can make up for a lot. I used to have a friend who was pretty average looking, she wasn't like a model or anything, but very sociable. Developed a sizeable group of orbiters simping over her. She started taking advantage of those people among other things so I cut her off.. but it was incredible to me that someone so average looking could manipulate guys into buying her stuff and doing things for her, all based on the way she acted. I won't say personality because looking back on it I think now it was just an act, but still, it worked.
@@atinybruh You're not alone tho. Bangchan's always watching us and he's always with us....
@@chrisatonin yoo stay💪💪✨
it’s pretty dumb that her having a cut on her face would make her less attractive when so many characters who have scars get simps because it symbolizes their traumatic backstories.
Yeah. A single scratch not gonna make someone's attractive like Nanno to be less attractive. Her face features doesn't change just because of a single scratch. It's a different story if she got a severe burn scar covering half of her face though.
yes but also edgy characters get lots of simps but IRL theyre just weirdos
thats only in fiction. Studies have show men who have any scar tissue are less likely to be selected by women.
On god. Todoroki in real life would not be as loved let's be honest. People don't generally consider burn scars, especially ones that big, attractive
@@3dsmaster537ok but let’s be real here yes he would because even with the scar he was fine
I can't remember who it was, but I was watching a video where the person did two little tests. She asked out of a few pairs who looks better. Obviously you'd end up picking just one of each pair. Later in the video she did the same but instead asked "who is beautiful" and instead the automatic response was that they were all beautiful.
Changing perspective from beauty being a contest to beauty being something everyone can have makes a massive difference
I saw that too!!! I couldn’t remember off the top of my head but I went back and found the video! Its called: How kpop destroys your body image by the channel chaebin n out! Hope this helps if anyone wanted to see the vid!☺️
@@kimi8797 YES thats the one!!!
i also watched it!!!
That's just explains how people fake politeness while clearly knowing who is the most attractive. I hate this type of fake sugarcoating body positivity...
@@anushka6559 huh
Chasing beauty is exhausting. I've struggled with my weight my whole life and it really hurts to know most people think I'm ugly bc of my weight. I wish people didn't care.
Welp ppl will always care
I'm sure you look fine
Same here my whole life I m just trying to loose weight I loose I gain I loose I gain I m tiered n I m not that kind of girl who looks pretty even being overweight too but I guess I look better with little less weight
In that experiment I would voluntarily place myself as a 5 (least attractive), you cant get your feelings hurt if you already know you're trash lol 🤷♀️
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I was thinking the same 😩🥴
For me, I would probably do two things. Either place myself on 4th rank or walk like a model on stage to the 1st rank being sassy af and said "nah I'm joking" when I arrived at 1st place and then move to 2nd place.
It depends on my self esteem that day.
No ones gonna rate you high if you think youre unattractive
@@g76agi Tbh I would do this just so no one had to be placed at 5. I feel way better knowing people felt better about themselves than being told i'm more attractive than 4 other girls. In the end it really doesn't matter that much to me than it might that chick who was complaining about being 5 lmao. Everyone's happy and I still get paid for standing here.
Yup im an ugly woman and people really treat me like that. Something happened, its my fault, false accusations, bad grades etc. People have a wrong image of you just because the judge the way you look. I just wish i looked like a normal person so people would leave me tf alone. Its really tiring.
Ugly = bad person
Pretty = good person
@@Diamond-rl2onikr like that makes no sense because most people who are attractive are actually assholes
Wtf 😒 people can be so disgusting
I'm sorry you've experienced that 😔😔😔
this show is so good. every episode leaves me with a huge empty feeling inside but in a good way.
LOL
Once in 5th grade some boys from my class made a beauty-ranking list and i was ranked 2nd last. It hurt me much and made me very insecure to the point where I wouldn't even know what my features looked like anymore. After all I managed gaining more confidence now...
that is terrible, holy shit. i hope you can feel comfortable with yourself again, something like that is so cruel. stay true to yourself, what they said doesn’t matter❤️
i remember being told i was too ugly to r*pe 😞i was 13
Ugh disgusting
@xg2513 my mouth dropped when I read that, holy shit
@@xg2513wtf i hope you understand nobody should ever have to hear such a thing and it is disgusting no matter what they look like.That person is a disgusting Rotten pig.
I notice when I was still pretty and girly a LOT of creepy stuff would happen to me and ever since I changed myself to look more masculine which is unattractive to most guys nothing happened to me anymore except one stupid guy a week ago. It’s just crazy that looks can make people go act crazy to a person or not.
Same!
Sad that I have to do that (wasn't the reason)to don't get sexual harrased everytime I leave the house but it's a peaceful life and my agoraphobia is nearly gone.
Instead I get alot wholesome compliments from women now😊 And 90% less creepy male shit.
Buzzcut and comfy clothes keeps the perverts away 😅
You’ll still get harassed for being “masculine” too. It’s crazy
They’ll say stuff like “Why are you wearing that?” “You should be more feminine”
@@Aaron-kp6kp I hear that from my family often 😭
The other day I got aggressively flirted to by this man unprompted and made me feel so extremely uncomfortable. I’m a lesbian so this interaction was incredibly unwanted. He kept mentioning my long curly hair and I’m SO ready to chop that shit off as soon as I can afford a haircut 😤
It doesn't matter if you're pretty or ugly. I wore an oversized, unflattering dress, sandals, a messy ponytail, and bare faced. Still get cat called and I looked like someone's maid.
I feel like women have a tendency to be more forgiving when ranking other women’s attractiveness compared to men, like for example we prioritize a pretty face and good personality over an overweight body. Men in general will almost always exclude overweight women even if they have the most beautiful face. Men are more fat phobic than women. Of course I am basing myself in personal experience but I’m also not surprised they ranked the plus size girl as least attractive.
I'm just surprised the fat lady wasn't fully expecting this.
Also out of personal experience.
Health is attractive
I think women do combine looks and personality when determining someone's attractiveness, while men tend to judge women only on their looks. We tend to have different priorities. Men will be attracted first, then determine if they like a woman's personality, while women will get to know someone to find if they're truly attracted. The order is reversed so it can make men sound shallow.
I don’t think its fatphobia, its just preference, a lot of women wouldn’t prefer to date or consider attractive fat men.
@Edy what was the mistake? I don’t get your comment.
I remember watching a video where a group of people in a room had to basically choose what they would sentence these two people with the SAME crime. OF COURSE, the prettier girl got the lesser time and they were saying how “she has a long life ahead of her. She’s pretty.” 🙄 Gurl. Omg
!!! Betterhelp actually states in their fine print that it's actually not meant to replace regular theraphy. They also can't ensure the therapists on their platform are qualified so it depends on the individual therapist if it's good or not. It's also strange that apparently there are supposedly more 'therapists' being added to the platform to meet demand when there is currently a mental health professional shortage.
Anyway, those are some of the reasons why people don't like when youtubers promote them.
It's really sad to see that some youtubers don't look into sponsorships. If his not willing to look into something as important as mental health and promotes a sponsor that isn't ethical I guess you can't really trust anyone.
i really hope he reads this, it’s almost impossible to believe he doesn’t know the truth about betterhelp and he needs to be held accountable
The man needs his money. He’s not forcing you to use the company. Just ignore the ad. If you can ignore a Raid Shadow Legends ad, you can ignore this one. Also, “can’t trust anyone”?? This is a RUclipsr. You don’t know him lol. He can’t break your trust.
Yall are soo annoying I'm sure it's a mistake stop acting morally superior
@@catsplat1272that's dumb af. Should we be cool with promoting gambling sites to children as well? It's all the same. There's always a line you should be drawing when it comes to what you promote to an audience who *likely* respects your opinion a lot. If your sense of ethics is very clearly up for sale then you're shit.
Not to mention this is something that actively targets the vulnerable.
I find it really liberating to stop submitting to beauty standards just overall. You will never be happy if you keep following them and if you're not doing it for you then who cares? I'm currently rocking a unibrow and I'm not bothered by it. I get ignored by most people or most people just don't want to talk to me. It's like trying to be the ugliest you can be to overcompensate for the fact that you'll never be pretty enough. I do find it liberating though to not care but it comes with age unfortunately.
Mine is mustache 🙃
I relate to you so much and feel you man, being sick and tired of living in such an appearance orientated world, being shy and an introvert I'm also a huge overthinker to my own downfall. If you feel alone, I assure you that I understand and relate to you.
Люди і так не спілкуються у реальності, тож куди вже гірше
I hate the whole "rating" and "ranking" people youtube videos and tiktoks. Being told what number you are is dehumanizing. I just hate that concept because, idk, it just feels wrong and hurtful. I just want everyone to get along but I know this world won't allow it.
I’ve been ugly and I’ve also been pretty before. In my experience, yea, being ugly was 10x worse. People saw everything I did as "cringe". I wouldn’t make a joke without being seen as the girl who tries to be funny but isn’t. But when I was pretty(had a big glow up), I was super popular, people laughed at my jokes, and I was just seen as a cute happy girl next door. Now I’m kinda in the middle because uh I had another glow down and somehow went through puberty again/j and now I’m kind of average.
How did you 'glow down'?
could be lose/gain weight, messy hair, pimples or scars in her face.
This video reminded me of when I was in high school (way back when), and as a member of the student council I went to a so-called “leadership camp” for area schools. I don’t remember much of what we did. But the one thing I did remember from the first day was a group of guys who were holding up cards ranking the attractiveness of girls as we passed by. Ugh. I want to believe they were shut down really fast.
This ranking system is so ugly but unfortunately we all have been through it. I have seen the ranking system both in school and college. My school was girls-only. I remember, when I was in the eighth standard, 12-13 years old, one of our new classmate did this and told me "sadly, you can't be in top 20." it was worse in college. There was a girl who would ask boys to rate girls on the basis of their physical attractiveness. Obviously, they kept on rating the same five girls, exaggerating their physical beauty to that point that they were treated like queens. Even random boys from senior classes came to see them. However, the thing that I hated actually was not only that they were rated as 'pretty', they thought that it was their duty to tell all the other girls that they were ugly. Boys in my class also thought that it was okay to reveal audio clips in the group saying, who they found ugly (basically everyone other than the pretty ladies). I am born ugly. But I know many people who had faced real challenges in rebuilding their self esteem after this ranking system. It's gross.
У нас у школі була досить неприємна ситуація з оцінюванням. Підчас конфлікту з купою дівчат хлопець просто заявив: ти прищава, ось ти жирна, ти пласка, а ось ти норм. Прямо дісно обличчям до обличчя наче його оцінка взагалі щось важила
I can confirm that a bunch of people around me judge a person solely on looks. I have also done it I’m sure I have since ranking attractiveness is human nature, but I try to get to know a person regardless of their attractiveness. I have found many very good friends by not initially judging them solely on looks. I wish more people realized that looks aren’t everything and ranking people could be harmful. Anyways, yeah that was my rant, have a good day!
You have a better chance at finding good people who ll let themselves be your friend because you are attractive. Because the reality is, ugly people judge ugly people too. And those ugly judgmental people will look for attractive people to make themselves look and feel good.
Honestly it's stupid how people judge based solely on looks
Your hair looks amazing and Asian dramas are out of this world.
YES! Someone's finally talking about the masterpiece that is Girl from Nowhere
This show is about a character, Nanno, who is a demon (? It's never explained, but the fanbase believes her to be a personification of Karma) and moves in to a new school/au each episode. There, she'll infiltrate the system and discover all that is rotten about human nature, before spectacularly destroying everyone involved from inside out. It's gore and dark but oh, so so great.
On season two she's confeonted by another like her, the girl with the red ribbon, who the fanbase deemed to be "Vengeance". If one is Karma, and the other Vengeance, you can only imagine that they don't agree all the time, right? Well, that leads to wonderful power playing between the duo
She is super good
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I wish more ppl would learn this lesson. There is no reason to harass others of things people can’t help majority of the time.
I even had a few boys actually destroy a few of the projects I brought to class because they didn't think I was worthy of getting credit for anything. I became a little scared because it seemed so insane... The teachers just pretended it didn't happen....
No human being should be ranked. That's actually inhumane to be honest. If we're to be ranked in every category, every person will have a category they'd be ranked the lowest.
I've gotten both experiences, so it's weird 😅 Most people not asian think I look good, but when encountered some asians including my own, Filipino, I do not fit their beauty standards so they tend to ignore or look down at me. These shows are... I guess interesting to say the least 😄 I just stay away and do my art projects 😂
Same gworly gworl. Kaya yan! 🤍
As an unattractive woman, life and people will always be terrible. I’ve been trying to lose weight for a few months now but I haven’t lost that much weight. I’m on a keto diet, and my workout routine is weight lifting for an hour, and cardio for thirty minutes. It seems like no matter how much I punish myself or stress myself the fuck out, I’ll never considered pretty/attractive and it fucking sucks. As a woman, beauty is considered a virtue, and since I lack beauty, I lack value.
Got bad news for you Sarah, i lost weight and became a good-looking guy but i wasn't on a keto diet, i was on OMAD diet, and sometimes i ate less than 800 calories a day. Cigarrettes and coffee helped supress hunger
@@KlausKinskiPsycho the difference is that I have been at least trying to lose weight healthily. you just sound unhealthy, also cigarettes are incredibly awful for you
feel ya. lifelong struggles with “weight.” crazy thing is, the more i study nutrition and body types there’s the realization that i’m not actually overweight (anymore - there was a time i was, by an extra 20 pounds but i put in the work and now am not), i’m just not dressing for my body type which makes me look heavier / worse and have bad posture. all my life i’ve dealt with comments demonizing and focusing on it. because i’m also flat, so not even curvy thick, just heavier in my stomach if i gain weight, it’s even more negative. pretty much used to being a second option at this point based on the inches of my waist. fvck that
@@gothic_xombie I just wanna kms at this point
@@squidwardt0rtellini same, for a multitude of a reasons, but that’s a huge one. to be dismissed on something as limited as “body” and “beauty standards” is exhausting and demoralizing. gave up on most social media platforms sometime ago (really just on yt … and been v selective of my content) and ever since then, i’ve become aware of the deeper side of human beauty. things like kindness, calmness, unity. and sometimes when i’m in that space a deep part of my heart and soul is so touched by the divine grace humans are capable of, it makes me emotional. then i go out irl and get treated like dirt to my face, because i don’t fit the 90s heroin chic aesthetic and the disconnect is what’s really painful. almost everyone is so beautiful on the inside, in their hearts, art and words. but then we see ourselves and others and it becomes emotional cannibalism, pain, and competition. it’s bs. and it will never change
"The more mature I get, the more I realize that it is 'LOOKS' that matters and not your personality."-🖤
I feel like we don't talk enough about how pretty privilege tends to be intrinsically tied into Eurocentric standards of beauty and femininity, which find their roots in white supremacy and permeate themselves into every corner of society. These two concepts are used to determine who's "attractive" versus who's "unattractive", thus creating a hierarchy of attractiveness and an "us vs. them" mindset between white women or lighter-skinned women of color vs. Black or darker-skinned women of color.
Yea I noticed that when the girls rated themselves the top 2 were both white while the others were of different ethnicities…
This, exactly this!! Eurocentrism and white supremacy needs to be centered in these conversations.
I don’t think Eurocentric standards of beauty are rooted in white supremacy. Looking European is one thing and being a white supremacist is a totally different thing. Every ethnicity has their own beauty standards not necessarily rooted in racial supremacy. If you live in a predominantly white country, white beauty standards are going to be more dominant. The population dictates the beauty standards.
@@Christina.N. you can't deny the influence western media (especially American) has on other countries. I noticed this after binge watching videos about beauty standards in east Asian countries. Many people in places like japan and korea consider white people "more beautiful." Of course pale skin is historically a beauty standard in both countries, but the preference for blonde hair and blue eyes has obviously come from western media shoving western beauty standards down the throats of the rest of the world. It's really disturbing to say the least.
And I think it's safe to say this all ties into colonization, imperialism, racism, and the idea of "racial supremacy." If you look at history, it's almost undeniable.
@@Christina.N. if most countries are putting european features as the standard of beauty above everything, how isn’t that white supremacy in one of its purest forms😭
(Warning, kind of long sorry!)
I remember the last semester of school, I kind of did this “thing.” I dressed only with the same black jacket, dark skinny jeans, frizzy long hair in my face everyday. The more recent semester I dressed way better and stayed cleaner. But it was weird because, I had more friends last year than this year. I wore a mask and I always wear glasses, so it’s not easy to see my face at all. But I personally feel like my personality was more outgoing and better? last year than this year, because I was way more insecure about myself this year (well, I still am.) I personally think I was just kind of boring this year. so over this summer I thought to myself, maybe I can help brighten my qualities of my personality, trying to kind of overcome my insecurities. Actually it got so bad that semester that I literally forgot how to walk in the hallways, and when I did I would get really nervous and extremely anxious unless if I was with a friend. Last year I was insecure but not as much I guess, and just kind of brushed it off. But this year I was so anxious about how I looked and I did not want to gain attention at all. I would even be anxious about my posture or sitting position. When I was with at least one friend I would be really calm because at least Ik there was someone I could talk to. Now this summer im trying to work on both my personality and my appearance better. And to be honest, the way I dressed this year would have been decent ig, but I only dressed for male attention/for people to not notice me. It was not the clothes I wanted to wear, and not the hairstyle I wanted to have. So this summer I cut my hair the way I wanted, bought clothes that I actually WANTED, and I started to realize I look so much better. I know I would have never had the confidence to wear these clothes, but I’m going to try my hardest next semester. After I did all this stuff for myself, I realized that my confidence has actually changed. For example, the last two semesters I only wore skinny dark jeans, I hated them so bad but I was scared that more baggier jeans would look bad on me, and I thought more brighter colors would attract too much attention. But now I picked out and bought baggy jeans, my mom kind of judged me for buying jeans like that but I honestly just want to feel comfortable with myself for once. I’m not lying, I definitely still have many insecurities. I’m still hung up on not knowing how to really walk, so that still makes me pretty anxious. But really it’s the little things that count. I hope if anyone read this, maybe this will give you some tips? I just hope I’ll become the person I want to really be, because honestly this whole school year I’ve been really jealous of popular girls at my school, they’re so pretty and have alot of friends, meanwhile I’m just the quiet kid in the corner doing my work. I’ll tell you, alot of people only pick and choose by your appearance, but when they meet you be one of the most supportive, cheerful people in their life without overdoing it, and they’ll act more positive about you. If they are toxic towards you then definitely cut them out. Life is what u want to make it, don’t try to base it off somebody else who you don’t want to be.
My life motto is « I don’t go to school to date » since like maybe 5 years (I’m in 3rd year of uni now) and omg I swear it feels really good
When I have to work or go out I just wear what feels comfortable for me
like if I suddenly want to run I actually can you see
And I realized you get much better friends by being this way (because it’s my way but you choose your own way of course) than trying hard to be « appealing »
There’s that girl in my class that I can’t stand but she’s like one of the populars I guess ? There’s a guy asking her out everywhere she goes and when she wants to go out everyone follows her but when I do the same I get ignored (we were in the same group of friends originally but I don’t consider these people friends anymore)
And this girl confessed to me once that she doesn’t like uni life and I was like wth ok sad to be you because even though I only have 2 friends I do like my uni life and that’s what matters now
Find activites/courses/work that you like and be yourself there and you’ll see how you can find a lot of things to talk about to people who are also happy to be here
@@chloesmnc8443 Very very true! When you realize not give a sht about what people think of you anymore and just doing ur thing, I think it’s a great feeling in general honestly
this is the most relatable thing ever!! i can't believe how alike we are in terms of our decisions, the way we dressed and behaved, insecurities, anxiety, improvements and stuff. it genuinely feels good to see how there are people like me out there, and how some words can resonate a lot with me. thanks for this comment. best of luck!
Could you pls do a podcast and speak about literally anything ? Because your voice is so soothing and positive.
I've watched this episode off of Girl From Nowhere, I think that ranking beauty is just emotionally damaging and no one should be ranked for their beauty, I believe personality before beauty is more important bc it eliminates the good from the bad
Omg I was searching your channel today like “what happened to edvasian?!?!” I’ve been binge watching all your videos from the past three years and I ran out 😂 I love your channel and humor! Hahaha you’re my favorite Ian Lee 😂😂😂
Whenever I feel pretty, a super beautiful girl appears out of no where and I come back to feeling ugly again
I can tell you what the moral of that show was. I'm probably the oldest one here lol slow learner but it took me 39 years to learn this lesson so listen up kids! The moral is to focus on only yourself and move in silence to win at life. Easier said than done but there it is! Even better if you want to take it up a notch, try to bore people to death so they don't bother you and think you're a loser. 😜
In France we say "To live happy, one should live hidden." I'm near 30 and I think about this more & more, don't live your life to please others' standards or flex on them. Most people I know who are like this are unhappy behind the shiny surface.
I already know I'm bore and peeps only approach me when they need me lol. I do the same
This video came up the very day I started reading Kahneman and Tversky for my master thesis (the guys who studied biases and judgement psychology) and it was the debrief I needed after work. Good content 👏🏻
The chaos of pouring the milk before the cereal. Why, why would you do that?!
Simulating taking a good shid and it splashing back up
ive said this before but u made my quarantine so much better, i remember sneaking my phone during zoom and watching u all the time. thanks a ton. ❤️❤️
I used to care alot bout my looks and spent way too much time on makeup, hair, diets and so on.
Thing is that when you look attractive, alot of people forget that you you're a person that have boundaries and basically think that you're just a piece of meat that they can do/say whatever to you.
Had guys catcalling me, groping me, saying degrading things to me, stalk me and the classic, someone who asks you out and when you say no they get mad bc of it, like you owe them something. It's not uncommon for guys to get upset that a girl don't like him back and will even try to punish her for it in different ways
Oh then ofc, murder! Attractive women are at higher risk of getting murdered as well
I care way less these days, beauty is a curse, especially if you're a woman
for the jubilee video, there is no way u can rate ppls appearance and personality without making it offensive, it especially doesnt make sense with the personality, since they are only on set for a day with each other like....
Tbh that’s how most of their ranking videos go. It’s always personality and outfits. (Having a good personality is good ofc) but they tend to sugarcoat A LOT
I don’t understand how people sign up to be part of these videos 😭 it’d be a waking nightmare for me lmfao
You subconsciously rate people on their attractiveness as soon as you see them all the time. Most people do
1 of my many hopes for humanity is accepting the way we are all created...in my opinion, beauty is very very subjective....I can find many other things beautiful besides appearances....u could be drop dead gorgeous, but many other factors can make u look frightening....thanks for the vid and ur always positive POV love....💯😘☝🏽
We were not created, we evolved, the body has a purpose
@@draalttom844 Well we were created from the fusion of gametes and the division of cells. I don’t think they meant literally created by someone
@@catsplat1272 the word is formed, not created
I’m so glad you talked about Girl from
nowhere. It’s one of my favorite shows lol. I’m a new subscriber, and I’ve been enjoying all of your content!!
I'm aromantic/asexual but I rank people on their clothing styles (terrible I know, I dont WANT to rank people, I have just noticed that I do) so like as lonng as someone is dressed that matches MY personal preference then I think they are "pretty" does that make sense?
I'm demisexual and I rate people by how strong is my urge to paint them. I just feel very hard for beautiful people, music and things.
I do be running around complimenting women lol
I do similar thing, not quite rank but make judgements on people's clothing and/or make-up. I think of it like pieces in an art museum, some aren't conventionally beautiful but there is something unique in a pleasing way.
Same! I judge people by their features like nose jaw, face shape and how it fits proportionally to their face or something. It's weird. Like there was this girl at my work who was insecure of her jaw. Its true her jaw chin was very strong feature but like that's what made her fit perfectly together with her face. It's such a shame its obviously an insecurity built from people bullying her and calling it masculine. Yes they are like art to me too. Just how a certain person face has something that make them them you know Haha I 😅
People who dressed in whatever they could find that isn't dirty be like: (ಥ ͜ʖಥ)
I'm aro ace too but I very much appreciate aesthetic beauty but ya, fashion/overall style definitely figures into it as well. Like there's people I'll see on the street or on campus and think "oh they could be really attractive if they dressed better or had different hair" type of thing bc they have nice facial features but they're not really noticeable the way they're dressed.
Ranking base on looks is so ridiculous. We have different taste so someone I find attractive may not be attractive in someone else eyes so it’s best to not rank people at all
My uni only has 20 students, and my first thought was to say I'd maybe be in the middle if we had an app like that bc the perception I have of myself is from the pictures I take. But honestly I'd be at the bottom, lmao, my body looks all wonky irl 😂
How yall only have 20 students?
@@bbw283 Not all schools are like in High School Musical, hahaha. It's a small university, only one career, few students per group, not even a group per grade.
@@BeamingTaeng oooh I see :D
as a gay male artist i feel like what i perceive as beauty in females is tied with what i like to see in art, which is very different to what these people were thinking about so yeah, ranking people is absolutely stupid, thats the only conclusion you can get to
Beauty is sooo subjective, there is a standard to be sure but just bc one person rates you a lower number doesn't mean someone else wouldn't rate you higher. Also personality and confidence level has a pretty high impact too, I have friends who don't necessarily fit beauty standards and yet they literally glow and are so beautiful just bc they are self assured, kind, and they smile all the time
Honestly my looks are mid, but I'm not being harassed because I'm pretty but I'm also not bullied for being "ugly". It's a win
I just wish more ppl had your voice and way of speaking. It's so calming. Is that so much to ask ;-; I THINK NOT
I LOVE you for talking About The Girl From Nowhere as an example it’s one of my favorite batshit crazy shows. I remember the episode where a teacher lost her shit and shot up her school. It has a lot of deep messages in every episode behind the chaos it’s great.
I love Girl from Nowhere! Crossing my fingers for another season!! 🤞🏾
I love your hair. When it's styled it looks really good on you.
Ranking attractiveness and beauty are even the same thing? Regardless I don't like the competition on something so shallow, that will fade. Why even bother...? And the more I grow as an adult, somehow, looks become more of a part in a composition, than something major important. If I like my friend, does their face really matter to me? Not the fun we have, not the pain we share, not... You know. Our friendship? Why is everyone obsessed with looks anyway? I hate having a physical form. Tbh in a situation like this, I'd just put myself as last place.
It doesn't fade, you're just too lazy to expend your visual library
@@draalttom844 I'm pretty sure at 100 years old no one will be looking like a baddie. Also, nice way of putting it - lazy, instead of poor.
@@wizardoforbs that's false I saw a hundred year old baddie
@@wizardoforbs poor isn't a description of capacity, it's a situation
@@draalttom844 well, I am poor. Am I still lazy for only being able to buy a few beauty products once an year?
i appreciate that you agree with the fact that cereal before milk is just gonna get you soggy cereal
At first we are always attracted by looks but eventually after knowing each other, looks doesn’t matter anymore coz if that person creeps you out, their looks just fade away and you will not be pleased by that look anymore, or if the person is nice they look way better than before.
I haven’t recovered from having stepbrothers tell me I had a big nose, since I was 12. I’m 23 now, but I constantly tell myself how I hate how it looks with my side profile. I also was always told I looked like my dad. I’ve always struggled with my weight too. When I see pictures of me at 275+ lbs,
I just see my dad. I’m not saying being fat makes you a horrible person, but it has put stress on my body and depresses me when I think of how I gained 60+ lbs quickly.
sighs in plus size girl watching the tokenization of plus size girls and the prevalence of “you would be hot if you were skinny” rhetoric
At this point I’m not surprised. Just exhausted…
It reminds me a bit of the black mirror episode where everyone has a rating based on how other people feel about them.
As what society deems to be 'conventionally attractive' I just wanted to toss a couple things out there. Some people want to be friends with me just because I'm attractive and it makes me so insecure of my personality and leaves me to wonder if some of my friends even like me. Some girls just automatically hate me bc they perceive me as attractive and will not even talk to me. Some of the people that actually want to be friends it's all for superficial reasons and my naive self never finds out until it's too late. Whenever I need to vent about my insecurities people act offended that I could even be insecure and then talk about how much they hate themselves and I end up comforting someone even when I feel like crap. And I was ugly up until 6 months ago, and I feel for the people society doesn't favor. Bc now that I've had a 'glow up' people open doors for me go out of their way to aid me in small things and it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach. So yeah there's my issues, hope you enjoyed my Tedtalk 😂
I'd love to have those problems, tbh.
those aren't rlly problems? it's just insecurities that come with being attractive and they still outweigh the negatives of being unattractive.... having fake friends because you're pretty is worse than having no friends because ppl find u ugly
You just describe my problems when people see me smiling being happy or professional I they just get uncomfortable and some press me to "put my self down or at their level" to feel comfortable with themselves
Grew up as an “ugly girl” who turned out to become “pretty” as I got older. Being told you’re ugly makes you feel low about yourself. Then again, that “glow up” always has its cons. It’s sad to see people get offended and refuse to believe in you when you’ve expressed your insecurities, jealous girls not liking you just based on looks, and wondering if your friends only like you for your appearance really fucks you up
@@shara5985 same i'll gladly take the cons of being pretty rather than the cons of being ugly 🤷🏿♀
(TW: mentions of SA)
As a 26 year old, you either think I’m “beautiful” or “average” or “female Quasimodo” I just don’t care anymore. I lost a good amount of my teen years worrying about my body and how I look, getting into relationships with people who only wanted one thing, getting sexually assaulted and now having to recover from all of that. The thing is, when you suddenly realise that respect and how you are as a person, regarding personality is far more important than physical appearance, is the day you wake up and start treating yourself with more self-respect than you’ve ever given yourself in your life.
Crazy how the plus-sized woman was ranked right at the bottom. I wonder how much of the disinterest in plus sized people is down to biology and how much is down to societal values, because it's such a big factor for people seemingly
I think she had the prettiest face and was the best dressed, but it seems no one could see through to those factors behind her weight. It also makes me wonder if people view others as unable to lose weight, as opposed to a work in progress that simply needs to be given time and support to reach their full potential
Maybe you already know this so this is for those who weren’t aware.
Back in ancient times, plus sized ppl were seen as very attractive. It meant that they had the resources to be able to feed themselves well. It showed that they were wealthy enough, high ranking and healthy enough (especially for females when it came to giving birth and breast feeding) for them to be able to eat what they want. It was a privilege.
As food became more widely available, as we moved away from hunting-gathering societies, from farm-oriented societies, to modern society where we don’t have food as healthy and natural as our ancestors. But we do have it in abundance. Being fit and skinny is considered to be the new privilege since it means that you have access to healthy food compared to having to eat fast food often.
At the end of the day, it boils down to what type of privilege can be seen physically (in this case, through body types) as a result from current society, and what is available and scarce (food in this case, one of the most basic survival needs). And even though we may not consciously be thinking about it, we are hardwired to look for healthy partners since we want to pass down good genes to our descendants to ensure for survival.
It’s why white skin was seen as desirable in many countries in ancient times since it symbolized how they didn’t need to work and do labor outside their homes. It’s also why tan skin is desirable in western countries today since it means that they have money to travel and do any outdoor activity they want instead of being stuck in an office most of the year.
After writing all this, I realize it’s not just about pretty privilege but also class privilege. Whoever looks wealthy is the new beauty standard. Whatever they do is now desirable. Humanity’s got a lotta issues they need to sort out through.
Welp it was their opinion? Cant do anything about it
@@ifykyk679 and?
I was speculating about the causes of their behaviour because things tend to have reasons, I'm not even plus sized myself, just genuinely curious about human nature, why does that bother you?
.I would have put the blonde haired girl last. Personally, I like people chubbier than me. I think it's nice to have some extra meat on your bones. I agree that the thicker girl should have been put more forward in the line, but those dudes were all skinny and tall. Of course they're gonna choose the small and skinny ones before the thicker girl. 🙃
@@runway5338 I agree
15:07
Sometimes when you're introverted and the real personality comes out, it makes people hate you even more.
Example: This one girl I dated for awhile had dominated our conversations and suddenly asked me why I haven't really said much and I told her that I'm kinda introverted and often only really talk a lot on certain topics. She asked me what I like to talk about. Cue a 2.5-hour discussion on the lore of Final Fantasy XIV and my original character headcanons. She asked questions and seemed engaged, but in the end we split up and she told me that it's because I talked too much.
I actually really love that show! Only seen a few episodes so far but it gives me major Black Mirror vibes
Finally someone who agrees that pouring milk before cereal is not "psychopathic" behaviour.
I thought it was normal-
@@miss_ito same
Yeah, I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal, even if it’s a joke..
OMG WHY DO YOU POUR MILK BEFORE CEREAL??????
It’s normal, I think it’s a 50/50 on what people put first
@Subi exactly
Because everyone can have different opinions fellow Army 💜
@@miapark9748 fellow army? Ahh yes I am army
I do because it gets soggy when u put milk after cereal 😭
When I was younger and less confident (and weighed less) I'd get hit on by weird guys. Now I only get compliments on my personality and confidence. Since I'm ace this is such a welcome change. No one will ever try to grope me again, I'll glare them into submission if they hit on me LOL
I think I need to learn this "Glare them to submission" skill.
Oh wait. Nobody hit on me. *cries in the corner of the room
Seriously, people need to realize that men will also often try to take advantage of "lesser attractive" women with low confidence and if you try to talk about it people might not even believe you. Sick of peoplehere acting as if only attractive women get harassed.
As someone who's been hot and ugly, this is true. Got ugly from aging for a bit then fixed it with fillers. People treated me way differently and women suddenly weren't interested it was a weird time. Until after I got the fillers and everything went back to normal they started treating me nice again. I feel bad for people that have to experience that their whole life. Im scared to age again.
Find a good woman and build a social network with wholesome people. Try at least. And get off youtube
This doesn't work because everyone has different tastes/opinions, so really the ranking would just be based on the most dominant personality's opinion. Also they're not wanting to be rude, so they're not being completely honest. The guys can be a little more honest because the headphones, but it's still iffy.
Ranking people on looks while being right in front of them is so mean liiiike I guess the women did agree to be on the show but it still seems mean tho...
We pick butterflies over Moths, we all do it. It’s reality
I hate both
🤣🤣🤣☠️
my obsession with looks skyrocketed when i read a study that said its the strongest predictor for initial romantic attraction. fk everyone that says its all about personality, they'll rarely give u a chance if ur not physically attractive
In the Jubilee video, it's incredibly telling that the black woman and the plus-sized woman were pushed to the last places in the ranking and the Asian women were placed at the top. This personifies how beauty is currently defined in today's social gaze. This KPop-obsessed, Tik Tok algorithm-focused society is fixated on whiteness (not in the sense of Caucasian, literally the alabaster complexion), thinness and the coveted almond-shaped eye. If you're familiar with Asian beauty standards, you know those factors are fundamental. No, I'm not making this about race. Society has already done that for us.
It's incredibly sad that this is what we have come to. As someone who is personally familiar with both pretty privilege and victimization for being considered "unattractive," I truly wish that our personalities were all that mattered. Rankings are so juvenile and pointless. Even though society has its core standards, it is comforting to remember that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. No matter your outward appearance, you are treasure in someone's gaze. And even if you cannot discover that person, be treasure in your own eyes. Remember your heart, remember your mind. Be beautiful from the inside out and someone will take notice. ❤️
I agree, shocking how the black woman was ranked so low. She fit many other beauty standards such as having an amazing and healthy figure.. and for the Asian woman to be ranked so high by people outside of her race? It's really sad, not in the sense that people shouldn't be attracted to those outside of their ethnic group but rather the societal factors that you mentioned and fetishisation
@@razumihin3605 Right?! It's so disheartening when men from your own race and culture don't "choose" you. Not that they HAVE to find you attractive, but it's particularly a common theme in the black community to find black men who degrade black feminine beauty yet love seeing our fetishized physiques on women of lighter complexions. The fetishization of Asian characteristics, too, is objectifying to the members of the diverse cultures ingrained within that ethnicity.
I agree; even when you "fit" most of the core beauty standards, skin color will be the deciding factor. All these women are gorgeous for different reasons. Why are we pitting them against each other? Different types of beauty can coexist and be joyful. Yet, society is always looking for new ways to put women in their place.
Yup. If you ain't fair-skinned, you'd ultimately be thrown back in the rankings/are ugly
But also notice Joe the girls ranked the white girls first, with black in the middle and Asian last, which also exposes women's attraction to men.
This is like that episode of Black Mirror where people rate others on an app and if your star rating goes too low; you get sent to “prison”
People can talk to therapist about what's going on, but cannot talk to their loved ones about it. It's kinda sad.
I think I’d almost rather die than rank myself and other in terms of looks. The worst part is they all full well know where they are ranked.
Gun to my head if I had to do it? You put yourself last for social stability.
ok about the cereal bcs i REALLY feel the need to talk about this
the cereal does NOT get soggier or anything if you put it first, newsflash but it doesn't matter if you put it first or not it sits in the milk for the same amount of time
yes if you put the milk in, leave and then come back it will be soggy but if you're a normal functioning human being you make food to eat it right there and then not 15mins later
so the "if you put the cereal first it gets soggy" argument makes no sense, put the cereal and the milk the way you damn please it doesn't matter and thank you for coming to my ted talk
Not if you do what ppl from my country do by pouring the milk and cereal into separate containers then putting little bits of cereal into the milk as you eat 😃
I skip the milk and eat the cereal dry
For me personality = looks, but when you know someone that doesn’t have the looks at all but is incredibly narcissistic and stares at you creepily from far away non stop…. It’s incredibly creepy in a way, even if they’re handsome, still creepy.
Luckily based on my lack of pretty privilege I never have creepy men try to pick me up at bars.
Also I love the show Girl From Nowhere!! I'm ready for Season 3. Nanno always makes them pay and I love her.
That 'Who is the most attractive' twist in the end Women's pick and Men's Pick can be soo different!
It’s funny but being at either extreme/either being extremely attractive or extremely ugly people think that they actually have the right to say whatever they want to you, directly to your face. But I would definitely prefer being a tractive and then having to conceal that or play it low-key instead of being ugly and dealing with everyone’s shit. My life has been hard especially because I’m fat - I’m not just talking about physical pain I’m talking about how people have treated me.
A girl in my class likes to call me ugly, that my nose is like a monkey's nose and i look gay.
And she's like really pretty, skinny and extrovert.
So. GIRL WHY YOU MAD AT ME FOR BEING UGLY! YOU SHOULD THANK ME SINCE I'M MAKING YOU LOOK EXTRA PRETTY JUST BY BEING IN THE SAME CLASS AS YOU.
I honestly believe all human brains have some underlying connection, I mean so many unexplainable things that all tie back to the brain... we are literally star dust
You sound like you've been smoking too much ganja
Ahem, pouring milk after is actually top tier.
I know it was a mistake so I'm just helping out
Milk first is has an uneven milk to cereal ratio,youll have to adjust it anyway. No one would choose that =)
I don’t see the point of dieting, injecting and photo editing your way to fit the prevailing beauty standards just to look like thousands of other people trying to do the same thing. It’s so much more fun to be in your own lane and find the style and look that reflects your own unique personality.
Yeah, I’ll never be a 10 by modern beauty standards, but I sure love the way I look in my 50s inspired dress, long tailored coat, vintage 1930s hat and American Duchess shoes.
I’m glad theres still people talking about Girl from Nowhere. I want season 3 so bad 😭
Your humor cracks me up. Love your channel.
We could NOT have had this ranking in my school. Instead of arguing with each other we would have been tossing acid and cutting faces. It was a rough school.