I have been single for over 5 years, men find me attractive , but when they start getting to know me and they try to get sex from me right away, and I don’t give in, they change, :/because I do not want the fwb, or a one night stand, majority of men just want sex and do not want to commit, I guess I will be single forever 😔I am a good smart independent woman, it seems I scared them off haha, plus I am confident, and I am straight forward with them by telling them if they are looking for a booty call , 1 night stand, fwb I am not the one!! 🙁any advice? am I doing or saying something wrong ?😆
My husband and I have been married for over 40 yrs. My husband will thank me for doing his laundry, or for cooking dinner. These are things I do all the time for him. But at times he will thank me.
7 Signs He Is Very Attracted To You (Jonathan Aslay): 1) Genuine eye contact = I like you! (Trust) 2) His acts are chivalrous (opens the door, pulls out your chair) 3) He is protective & territorial (he is off the market, too) 4) He might temporarily pull away (especially after initial initimacy) (is this the person I want to invest in?) 5) He expresses appreciation & gratitude for you (after he pulls away for introspection) 6) He teases you! (His little kid comes out - fun & playful side) 7) He progresses the relationship forward & devotes his available time to you (2-3 days & nights a week together, doing activities & hobbies with family & friends, with the intention of exploring a relationship, moving in together, and potentially getting married)
@@moni1952 In my life: They don't even look at me. I'm beyond sad. Also: I chase no man. They have to show interest in me first. That's just the way it goes. I know flirty eyes and stuff, but I don't even get a glance. I'm too lonely to even describe it.
Same I don’t have men approach me anymore But when I’m on the dating apps they tell me if I was at that place I would hit on you ! Ya right lol! Doesn’t happen
Unpopular opinion. Sex without an actual long, term, commitment, in the name of being "sexually free" is a horrible way to date anyone of quality. This is only good for most men . I weed out a lot of damaged, weak, men, simply by not putting out to ANYONE who doesn't want to actually love me, and who I don't actually love. This takes ACTUAL time, not face time, or cyber time. The best feeling is when you don't need a man, but you chose to allow a man into your heart and eventually your bed. Too many people are giving it up, and giving their heart away to just anyone. I have been single a long time, I am not lonely, and I refuse to give up any part of my peace, my heart, or space in my bed, unless the man is worth my time and TAKES THE TIME to get to know me first.
Wow. I'm really glad to see there are still people who do this like the way I was taught growing up. It's a good thing to have this M/O. Thank you. 8 hope many people can follow your example here. Would help make this world a better place.
I know seven things men do when they are attracted to you. 😊. 1. Love Bomb you 2. Date other women 3. Ghost you 4. Block you 5. Unblock you 6. Try to program you to love them like a mom loves their son 7. Blame you for them being unavailable to you And 8, get engaged with someone else, but still think about you.
Yep. Know him well. Love bombed, incredible sex and lies about our future. That lasted only a few months before he was cheating, and promptly I got the discard. Wish I could say it ended there...but finally...after six years of still responding to his very rare, sexually motivated, but funny texts (he'd married someone else by this time) the miracle happened. I'd had enough. Suddenly all his texts struck me as insulting and degrading and I deleted them all, deleted him from my contacts, blocked him from my phone, and since I reliably find it impossible to memorize phone numbers, I've effectively DISCARDED HIM from my life. It took a long time, but I feel incredibly proud of myself. Still a romantic, but committed to learning who I am, and loving that person for a lifetime.
Oh my! You just hit that one outta the park right in the nose. You got that right, and it hurts like mother bear attacks to protect her cubs. Ouch on both partners.
My beloved late mate didn't say "Golly-gee, I hope you'll consider being exclusive with me." His confidence was magnetic: he said, "I'm not sharing you with anyone." I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. i'd love to meet one more with that much confidence.
When I met my husband.. I was dating someone who is working for the government. My husband told the guy I was dating,." If anything happens to her because of you I will kill you. " The other guy with a great guy.. just not a great job to be racing a family with. I chose my husband and never looked back. He was a man. I was not a porcelain doll. I was his wife and was to be respected.
I see those things: looking at me, being present, watching my reactions, wanting to know more about me, show interest, leaning closer, being gentleman with nice manners, speaking with low soft voice, showing me that I'm priority, trying to anticipate my wants and needs, etc.
@@Okoye1964What's good for you is not necessarily good for someone else. Just because you might have had bad experiences, does not mean that she will.
I did the self compassion guided meditation with Matt Hussey and it was really a hard reset that was long overdue. I stopped the casual relationship I had realizing it was not the loving or self honoring thing for myself, especially since he expected me to always drive to him. I remember & appreciate men in my past who’d be gentleman & not do that & look out for my safety & well being. That’s what I need not compromising for selfish individuals for romantic or platonic relationships. It stops in 2023!! 🎉 I’m reading your book next. Thanks for all your perspective!
You go girl, they are out there and they may be a little shy and injured too so you may have too really be open to spotting the appreciative kind ones that may not be that traditional “ successful” type too
Jonathon is the real deal. You are on the right track. If you want a man that values you then really follow what Jonathon talks about and Matthew. I learned so much from both of them. Jonathon is a joy to talk with. I was divorced after a 30 year marriage and honestly had to read a book on how to kiss a man! I was so lost on dating. These two genuinely care.
Also dating in 2023 is absolutely awful disheartening disrespectful. I just don’t know what happened, to all the good people I have met throughout my life there Hass to be one good man out there.
I'm thinking they're all married already and they're definitely not leaving their wives because they're good men. Or, they choose not to get married because the choices of women they found aren't quality. Just find out how you can be content ALONE! If there's a man for you, let GOD find him for you, don't look for him!!
I've been seeing a man for about 10 weeks. I can't believe he hasn't pulled away yet! All my relationships have pulled away but this guy is still coming on strong. I'm not getting carried away though.....If he pulls away, I'm out quick smart. I have wasted so much time with guys who pulled away and I chased and got hurt.
The users think if they say "thank you" when you do something for them, they are being grateful. There really is a difference between tossing out those two words verses behaving in a way that demonstrates gratitude.
I meet this really nice guy at the wine store over six months ago. We would have small talk and laugh. I could tell he was really attracted to me. After a few months, he approached me and said he noticed a mutual attraction between us. We exchanged numbers. We texted and was not sexual. We finally went on a date, had a great time and decided to go back to his place. Almost immediately we became affectionate and then had sex twice. I stayed the night. He walked me to my car in the morning. I expected a kiss but nothing. I expected a call but nothing. I finally broke down and texted him to check in. He told me he wasnt ready to date, didnt expect to have sex, and that he needed to focus on himself. I didnt argue but deep down i was very hurt and felt used.
yeah my son's are super protective of me and size up every male in my building as if to say this is my Mumma Bear and back off i love that about them...i only recently acknoweledged that is what they were doing as boys and as sons of a single mum who is single xx bless
It’s so hard to find a genuine relationship anymore let alone a life partner.. Hopefully one day I’ll find someone who wants the same things as me in a life long relationship .. Where are you my MR right
I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband enjoys outdoor activities, while I'm much more of a bookworm. In particular he loves riding 4x4s whether winter or summer. I used to enjoy riding with him, although at times I refused to follow up or down steep hillsides, and into muddy water. I am 62 this year and he is 65. He worked a job this winter that took him away from home at 4pm, and get home at about 2 am.Twice I asked directly for him to talk to me, or change something so I'm not so lonely. He told me to go make some friends. I'm a severe introvert and don't understand how to make friends. He knows that but it was all he had to say. A few weeks ago I ran into a male friend I had met a few months prior to my husband, so about 15 years ago. He is a newscaster and very recognizable. We ran into each other at a restaurant and we ate together. We have lunched a couple times since then. My husband and I have been celibate for 4 years.Menopause has done a real number on my ability to enjoy intercourse.However, I offered to start taking hormone cream so we could try again and my husband said, "No, that's ok." I'm not intimate with my guy friend either. It's just nice having him compliment my outfit or appearance. Is my lunch friend a bad idea? He does make me smile, and I wonder if I should stop seeing my friend. We always eat in public where he can be recognized and
I’ve stopped looking, I’ve had so many unfulfilling relationships. I don’t have sex with them…I tell them that’s reserved for when we both feel it’s the right time. So I’ve been without it for going on 8 years now. It’s discouraging, disappointing & yet I feel like I haven’t compromised myself or my standards. I just wish I could find a man who could appreciate that. 😢
Great advise once again. I'll never forget "ladies! before the P goes into the V - ask him "what does commitment look like to you?". Ask this 3 months (or whatever soon means to you) into the relationship - not 3 years!!!! I was too scared about losing the relationship and ended up wasting HUGE amounts of time on mediocre relationships. NEVER again.
I have to say that you impacted me more than you realize. I month or so I complained here about guys and the men I’ve recently met especially on dating apps. You responded with something like “Maybe you are choosing the wrong men” or “Maybe your priorities are not too narrow” I’m paraphrasing. I think I was offended (stupid of me). But I thought about it nonetheless. Well I have known this one guy for about 5 yrs now. Never thought of dating him at all. He’s short, cute but that’s it, so I thought. One night at a wine bar he sat next to me after my friends had left and we talked. I gave him my phone number. OMG he’s the greatest guy I think I’ve ever been with. Thank you for your insight, for your comment. It’s changed my life!
They can tell you they are interested and they aren't interested at all. Impossible to tell if they are serious. I find lots of men are confused, messed up only when they are getting dressed. My ex devoted all kinds of time for me, until I moved in. Then I was fighting for his time. Narcissists move it forward quickly as well, love bombing, etc. It is a red flag for me.
What I want is pretty much the same things as on this list: someone I'm attracted to; but, more importantly, a trusted friend I poke fun at life with. It just seems so unnecessarily complicated. I know this stuff is important, to prevent wasting time. I just don't know if I can think about this stuff, and still enjoy the time I spend with the person I'm getting to know. It's overwhelming. I'm perfectly content on my own, and I like things as they are. Maybe that will change. Maybe not. Or perhaps I don't want a relationship as much as I thought. I just don't want any new drama. 😕
You made me laugh with the "magic fairy dust" comment. 😅 I personally have always been confident and upfront. My mother is a psychologist and sees many men and women with toxic relationship issues. I would like to add that if a person is whole themselves, they will attract similar people. Yes, you will still attract the users and spenders if you are physically attractive. However, you recognize where they are coming from and dismiss them immediately- as they aren't worth your time and energy. Jonathan, you are helping many people find themselves who need guidance. 😊🙏🏻
Currently with my guy who is going to become my life partner and, I, his. Really happy. Yep we did the dating vows/agreement, and the books.❤ I am so fortunate, because my guy does the whole of your list. I love the way he looks at me,,,it makes me smile, he says he is grateful and appreciates me and all I do, and I reciprocate. I am so grateful for this wonderful relationship. He is chivalrous and gentlemanly, protective and caring ..omg he teases but it can be sooo funny. because we 'play' together a lot...we both love it! He is always saying he loves me and misses me ... we said we would move in together 3-6 months. Im ready now, so is he. Coming up for that time. We are looking at houses, furniture, flooring....it really is exciting. We go on holiday to Tunisia soon too...and we have concerts and a craft show lined up after that.
@@gaiabeleza Aww how kind, thank you so much for taking the time to comment - I truly wish you well too. Jonathon helped me so much I will be eternally grateful.
Everything you're saying makes total sense. The appreciation you explain is the feeing when you're discovering you really like tis person and all of sudden you feel lucky to have met them. Totally get it when you click with someone, it's great! Women like charming men who are intentional for sure.
Yes I did want one but good man are hard to find don't have time for no games nowadays u got to be careful who u put In your life. To many crazy people out here.
it's so interesting. I saw this video a year ago and was with a spender and a user and knew we didn't have any future together so I finally ended it after realizing I didn't need anyone to make me feel happy and safe. Ed came into my life about a month later (we connected on Valentine's Day) and we both just want to enjoy our time together by doing the things you always say Jonathon--spending time together, shared interests, spending time with family and friends. He is the first man I ever dated. The others were immature and selfish. It's wonderful with Ed. I truly believe that what we really want we need to let go and that's when it comes to us. I think we're afraid that if we let it go, we'll miss it or it just won't come to us at all. Have faith and God Bless. ✨🙏🏻✨
Dear Jonathon, I appreciate YOU. I have learned so much from you. I ended a previous date with a guy as he was the proverbial spender, turned out he had mental health issues - was a terribly sad, but horrendous hoarder! Lots of unresolved loss issues. Now I am with the 'ONE' Thanks to all your great advice and rants.
I live in the Heartland and I can honestly say I am so thankful and happy after seeing my late brother in law for over 42 years. My question is, are there any better men out there.
I feel your book on Self Love is really empowering. I did email about a coaching call however it is not possible at this time. I did not receive your Rules of Engagement, yet I did buy your book both the soft cover and the Audible book. In my own relationship I found your "wisdom" a good starting point, yet I feel we must be flexible to a degree. My BF is in law enforcement, he has been in for 25 years and has 8 more before he can retire. He is stoic, thoughtful, and even after nearly a year together he is quiet. He expressed as much as he can (he tells me every day throughout the day he loves me) yet his actions really show how he feels. It's important for us to be in our power coming from a position of self love so we can recognize and be just a bit flexible (NOT a rubber band type) but just enough to understand our partner. Keep up the awesome work! Many hugs to Marie for keeping it really beautiful 😊
I want a man who uses words like stentorian, propinquity, fecund, spinnaker, penury, etc., easily in conversation. Also, he appreciates the absurdities in life and chuckles when someone says reverts back, continues on, vocabulary words, tiny speck, wealthy billionaire, etc. He is tactile and enjoys giving and receiving foot massages while watching Mel Brooks's movies or Quentin Tarantino's movies. These are non-negotiable.
Seriously want a life partner , Unfortunately, after divorce, fell prey to love bomber (true narcissist) and have had to work very hard to overcome the damage!
I notice the tone of voice when he's serious. It's softer, deeper, more breathy than normal. The volume fluctuates so he's almost singing instead of speaking. It's the same tone as when he approves of what he sees and says "mm-MM-mm!" or "I LIKE you!" and means the same thing.
My body is my temple where I delve deep into myself to learn to connect with myself, others, and the world..trashing my temple is like setting myself on fire...Yes, Jonathan, liberating doesn't mean running everything to the ground...I found inner child therapy extremely useful to reverse, heal, and promote growth multiplicity. I personally believe life and creativity forces originate when we are most connected to our source/higher self in the purest form. I know when I meet the right person for me and filtering through that is a big hassle every woman/man has to face, unfortunately. 🙏 But when the time comes, everything will fall into alignment without forcing...
The values, the mutual hobbies and the family outings, but he was making fun of me and my dad. His, "I would have made you my girlfriend and for marriage, if you hadn't..." was just another ridicule he was having with me. He was engaged and said that if his fiancee was there, he wouldn't have let me in on Christmas! He's blind! The woman he picked didn't even wanted to be with his family on Christmas and having family over is top on his list! I even felt guilt for not helping him in selecting the right one. He loved me so much, but then he acted like a jerk again and again. I can't wait to be in a serious relationship with the 20 percent!
Quite agreed. Met a man years ago who liked me. He used to look me straight into my eyes which embarrassed me. He was very caring asking how I was, how am I getting home can he help me but never about the physical side.
What about men who only care about physical attraction? What about emotional and mental connection? I feel like the men on the dating apps say physical chemistry is the most important thing a relationship.
I have not got caught up with users or needy men, but I really appreciate your confirming the wisdom of my choices. And thanks for confirming its a mess out there. A good woman only needs one good man. You give us plenty of homework to figure out how to get ready for him and find him.
That "pulling away " feels like rejection and relationship inadequacies. It would be nice to have a different way to assess whether to continue to have a relationship or not. People are so vulnerable especially at the start of a new relationship.
thank you for your insight. after years of narcissistic men, took a year for me and unexpectedly met a good man. not sure where it’s going but going slow and still working on me
Jonathan, I have followed you and enjoy your content. There needs to be a thought about older people who don’t want marriage. I still want an exclusive relationship, just not financial entanglement.
I read an article on James Brolin. He said part of the success of his marriage with Streisand was “financial bifurcation”. That means they keep their financials separate. So there is no contentions in that area, which lightens the load of combining lives.
I wouldnt say "seeking" because I'm not "going after it" . . . Im happy solo. . . However, if the right person came along i would be open to happily ever after with a grower and builder type of man who does want a life partner i do it all and am a leader by necessity so the man would need to want to let me be soft and more traditional. Happy to just work on raising my amazing teen and care for my older cousin with muscular dystrophy, garden, pets, projects, self improvement, work, etc.❤
Jonathan, just wanted to let you know I recently purchased your book on self love and really enjoying it! Also purchased Attached book that you recommend as well.😊
I totally agree, I don't trust a man who tell me "I'm important to him" while he still on the market of dating site. Only excuses because he doesn't want a serious relationship. I prefer move forward and give a chance to another..
I just started dating someone after being single and not dating for 5 years. Despite all the self work over the last 5 years, I have found so many old anxieties surfacing. Of course, I slept with him too soon. However, he's unlike anyone I've ever dated. Kind, compassionate, attentive but I'm so terrified I'm going to choose someone emotionally unavailable again that it paralyzes me. I'm trying to ground myself, practice self care and make sure I'm exploring my own interests. Dating is the worst. I am glad I found this channel to help guide me.
I am 58 years old, I’ve had my wonderful careers. Yep two of them, I am not ready for a husband I’ve made room for him. I’ve worked on myself, which will always be a work in progress. But I am at a point where yes I want this commitment now, thank you for all your advice, sir you are amazing.
Have an attitude of gratitude and appreciation most ppl often neglect that virtues. Some ppl don't know the power of gratitude and appreciation. Heyy! JA I like your long sleeves. Marie makes you more handsome 😊. We feel young when we're inlove❤😊
You might keep wiping your glasses because you need a new prescription. Just a thought from someone who also wears glasses. If there’s a subtle problem with the prescription you might only be subconsciously aware of it which causes you to try to adjust it by wiping your lenses or adjusting the frame. 😊
67 y/o ,professional and looking for an intelligent ,kind and considerate man . I went for a few dates but from the very beginning I can tell the person is not forme .Rather be single ( I am divorced ) than wasting my time
This therapist would drive me crazy. He is so distracted and constantly moving, (cleaning his glasses, drinking water, sniffing and wiping at his nose). it was hard for me to focus on what he was saying because I wanted to say “sit still and settle down “.
Very valuable advice. You don't know how much I needed to hear this right now, as I've been very confused about someone. Thank you for all this insight. 💖
Quick sex never works however much he seems into you. If he’s really interested he will stay around long enough for you to form a strong friendship where your both enjoying each other out in the world together. Create a little history before jumping in the sack.
I am looking for serious relationship, but for my situation I observe that guys just looking for friendship., I can read on their Reaction . That why sometime I'm keep on questioning myself why me.😢
Jonathan, I am quite amazed at your videos! They are comprehensive and the messages stick. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I hope you make many more! 😊
There are two different kinds of attraction. The first one is sexual. Men will express that in clear ways by checking if there might be a chance to get laid. It doesn't take much to have it for a man because it is based on a very primitive impulse. The visual focus of these men is on her body and sexy physical features. Looking sexy is what they respond to. Relationships based on sexual attraction wear off quickly. The second one is attraction to a women's personality. It is being expressed by looking at a women's face, especially into her eyes and is in the beginning not at all of sexual nature. Men who have this attraction are mostly interested in spending more time with her in meaningful ways to enjoy her company. These men respond to a women's femineity, her charm and the sweetness in her personality. Wearing a feminine rather than a sexy dress, a smile and having a nice approachable personality causes them to respond. If that is what you want get a summer dress that has a swing to it ($35 at Amazon), fix your hair in a natural and soft way, hang out leisurely at the next gas station and see what happens. Do it :)
I think you said something especially valuable: do YOU really want a relationship? Because you take all those users and spenders. Honestly? Sometimes I even think it to myself that I don‘t want one, because looking back into my dating past there were men that had real interest in me and when I experienced it I was overwhelmed and didn‘t know just HOW TO HANDLE it in a way that is natural and still suiting me
He's so incredibly cute and obsessed and helpful and we dont EVEN KNOW EACH OTHER'S NAMES!!!!! 🙈🙈 Just some examples - 1. The first time we interacted- He was using a gym machine, i asked him how many sets does he have left cause i wanted to use it too. He said oh oh I'm done! I was like oh cool and i used the machine. Later i saw him go back to the machine and finish his sets 😂😂 2. Our second interaction - i was waiting for him to finish his set and he got up and immediately started saying something about he would've done something but he didnt? I couldn't even understand what he said. (Keep in mind we had never talked before )Then we had a short convo. 3. I was waiting to use the same machine that he was using. He took off the weights that he was using ( since he's way stronger and i guess you can call it common courtesy) but THEN HE LOADED UP MY WEIGHTS FOR ME without me even saying ANYTHING. And then he just left😂😂 who does that 4. One day we were almost the last people in the gym- He finished his workout (he was doing legs )and i saw that he was lingering in the gym doing random stuff moving random weights doing his biceps or whatever 😂 then i finished my workout and picked up my bag to leave the gym. He quickly grabbed his phone and followed me outside the gym (i really thought he'll talk to me or ask me my NAME at least while we ride in the elevator together- i was very happy barely able to contain my smile) But when we reached the elevator and i pressed the button, our gym trainer was there and this cute guy started randomly saying to the trainer "oh why isn't the elevator ever working" and the trainer was like ??? It IS working man! . And before the the elevator could even come to our floor, this guy BOLTED down the stairs . I was like????? You fool. 5. He's ALWAYS around me. Like whatever area of the gym I'm in, he'll shuffle his exercises to within like 5 feet of me. He grabs stuff exactly from where I'm standing he just finds excuses to walk past me all the time. BUT HE NEVER COMES UP TO TALK TO ME. 6. I was doing deadlifts and he was doing his calves and the machine is just behind the deadlift rack. I saw that he was staring so hard at the ground trying to avoid looking at my butt . Generally when he's doing calves he's always looking around. It was cute. 7. He comes to the water cooler 80% of the time when I'm there. 8. i used to catch him staring a lot but lately he AVOIDS eye contact even when he knows I'm looking. I don't know what happened. 9. Today i did a blunder . I accidentally BRUSHED MY HAND AGAINST HIS BUTT!! I was walking and he was doing deadlifts. He stuck his butt out cause he was doing the workout and my arm brushed against his butt. IM MORTIFIED
You clarified that my personal care doctor was attracted to me I. Was attracted to him as well. He was concerned about my health he talked to me like he knew me. He watch me when I left the office
We are in a serious relationship- as far as time allows it. He called me his girlfriend. But he isn’t a talker- not used to expressing his thoughts and feelings. If I ask him playfully to sometimes show or tell me what he s going on, he does it and it’s cute, but how can I get him to open up more?🤔
I was going to tell our LOVE story. We have been going strong since 1979. We are so in love. We were married our junior year in college. We had zero money. We decided our marriage gift to each would be. Daily acts of kindness. 45 years, we still practice daily acts of kindness. Not all grand gestures, smiles of love, letting the other win the argument even when you know the other is wrong. We did crazy things like going to college full time and having our first son. We both are artists. People our family all thought this was impossible, but we knew together we could do anything. I took our son to my rehearsals. We took him art openings. Wherever our kids were with us. Yes, Greig adores me. He even donated a kidney so I could have a living kidney. September 16th, 2020. PKD . We are grateful for each other. Love at first sight. I love him dearly. Oh, and my Irish father stated at our wedding- " It won't last, one will find out how useless the other is." As Greig says , we still haven't figured it out."
If you’ve found a man that does all these things and you are compatible with him but not crazy, head-over-heels in love with him, should you stay with him and let love grow? Or is it important to have immediate physical chemistry, too? I’m 45, have very little dating experience, and I’m not sure what I should compromise on.
I agree with getting out of the dating scene once you agree to a serious relationship, but not to completely remove yourself from talking to other men in a professional sense, especially, if your better half is in a type of business they must deal with men/women on a daily basis.😁👑💯💓🎈
This Is True! I did All of this and Greater! Life Investment in Love! I m a Grower/"Builder" I LOVE TO LOVE! (It Shocked Me at 19) I adore it Now! Glad I Married My Crush!
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I have been single for over 5 years, men find me attractive , but when they start getting to know me and they try to get sex from me right away, and I don’t give in, they change, :/because I do not want the fwb, or a one night stand, majority of men just want sex and do not want to commit, I guess I will be single forever 😔I am a good smart independent woman, it seems I scared them off haha, plus I am confident, and I am straight forward with them by telling them if they are looking for a booty call , 1 night stand, fwb I am not the one!! 🙁any advice? am I doing or saying something wrong ?😆
My husband and I have been married for over 40 yrs. My husband will thank me for doing his laundry, or for cooking dinner. These are things I do all the time for him. But at times he will thank me.
Hmm. You do his LAUNDRY and he doesn’t ALWAYS say Thank You?
If you can find a man that's self sufficient and contributes to shared labour you've won the lottery. I will not cater to men.
@@sharoncrawford7192 I had one like that for nearly 42 years, lost him 3 years ago. He always made me feel so appreciated, and I did the same for him.
7 Signs He Is Very Attracted To You (Jonathan Aslay):
1) Genuine eye contact = I like you! (Trust)
2) His acts are chivalrous (opens the door, pulls out your chair)
3) He is protective & territorial (he is off the market, too)
4) He might temporarily pull away (especially after initial initimacy) (is this the person I want to invest in?)
5) He expresses appreciation & gratitude for you (after he pulls away for introspection)
6) He teases you! (His little kid comes out - fun & playful side)
7) He progresses the relationship forward & devotes his available time to you (2-3 days & nights a week together, doing activities & hobbies with family & friends, with the intention of exploring a relationship, moving in together, and potentially getting married)
Thanks 🙏
Thanks for posting this.❤
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Friends with benefits immediately run from this type of 'bad behavoir" do yourself a favor ladies. Its for your own good!
Genuine eye contact, its AUTHENTIC compassionate and real. 😊
I haven't had a man even approach me in 20 years. It's been so long I don't know where to begin on even being able to find anyone anymore.
I find they don't approach anymore. They sit back and want you coming after them. Nope. 🖐
@@moni1952 In my life: They don't even look at me. I'm beyond sad. Also: I chase no man. They have to show interest in me first. That's just the way it goes. I know flirty eyes and stuff, but I don't even get a glance. I'm too lonely to even describe it.
@@bwhatever60 Meh. You're not missing anything. If you do catch someone's eye, he's going to be taken. My life story. Not worth it.
Same I don’t have men approach me anymore
But when I’m on the dating apps they tell me if I was at that place I would hit on you ! Ya right lol! Doesn’t happen
I've been single for so long that even THINKING about wanting a life partner feels out of the question.
Me too....
Ditto
Yup, me too, it's much easier running my own life without being told how to differently.
Same
Yeah exactly, agree with you all. Better to be single rather than getting married and feeling stressed all the time.
Unpopular opinion. Sex without an actual long, term, commitment, in the name of being "sexually free" is a horrible way to date anyone of quality. This is only good for most men . I weed out a lot of damaged, weak, men, simply by not putting out to ANYONE who doesn't want to actually love me, and who I don't actually love. This takes ACTUAL time, not face time, or cyber time. The best feeling is when you don't need a man, but you chose to allow a man into your heart and eventually your bed. Too many people are giving it up, and giving their heart away to just anyone. I have been single a long time, I am not lonely, and I refuse to give up any part of my peace, my heart, or space in my bed, unless the man is worth my time and TAKES THE TIME to get to know me first.
Amen
Wow. I'm really glad to see there are still people who do this like the way I was taught growing up. It's a good thing to have this M/O. Thank you. 8 hope many people can follow your example here. Would help make this world a better place.
Thanks for sharing
Kelly you nail it. I'm not settling for anything less. Would rather be single.
Amen, I applaud you, Kelly! There are MANY reasons why the Holy Bible tells us to wait for marriage before giving it up!!!!
I know seven things men do when they are attracted to you. 😊.
1. Love Bomb you
2. Date other women
3. Ghost you
4. Block you
5. Unblock you
6. Try to program you to love them like a mom loves their son
7. Blame you for them being unavailable to you
And 8, get engaged with someone else, but still think about you.
LOL... SO TRUE.
Yep. Know him well. Love bombed, incredible sex and lies about our future. That lasted only a few months before he was cheating, and promptly I got the discard. Wish I could say it ended there...but finally...after six years of still responding to his very rare, sexually motivated, but funny texts (he'd married someone else by this time) the miracle happened. I'd had enough. Suddenly all his texts struck me as insulting and degrading and I deleted them all, deleted him from my contacts, blocked him from my phone, and since I reliably find it impossible to memorize phone numbers, I've effectively DISCARDED HIM from my life. It took a long time, but I feel incredibly proud of myself. Still a romantic, but committed to learning who I am, and loving that person for a lifetime.
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 true in this day and age sadly.
Oh my! You just hit that one outta the park right in the nose. You got that right, and it hurts like mother bear attacks to protect her cubs. Ouch on both partners.
Yes, but OMG how hard it is to find someone that are compatible. Most men just want to get some, and then vanish. :(
My beloved late mate didn't say "Golly-gee, I hope you'll consider being exclusive with me." His confidence was magnetic: he said, "I'm not sharing you with anyone." I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. i'd love to meet one more with that much confidence.
When I met my husband.. I was dating someone who is working for the government. My husband told the guy I was dating,." If anything happens to her because of you I will kill you. " The other guy with a great guy.. just not a great job to be racing a family with. I chose my husband and never looked back. He was a man. I was not a porcelain doll. I was his wife and was to be respected.
I've been single for so long, I'm about to go on clearance sale!
I see those things: looking at me, being present, watching my reactions, wanting to know more about me, show interest, leaning closer, being gentleman with nice manners, speaking with low soft voice, showing me that I'm priority, trying to anticipate my wants and needs, etc.
Thanks for sharing!!
And has your back
❤❤❤❤
Well said
I absolutely want a life partner even at 68. Not in a rush. I have everything I need in life. So a life partner will add to my happiness
No, he won't. At your age, my advice is STAY SINGLE!! I'm 60.
@@Okoye1964What's good for you is not necessarily good for someone else. Just because you might have had bad experiences, does not mean that she will.
@@livelearnandgrow5422 You look great!
I did the self compassion guided meditation with Matt Hussey and it was really a hard reset that was long overdue. I stopped the casual relationship I had realizing it was not the loving or self honoring thing for myself, especially since he expected me to always drive to him. I remember & appreciate men in my past who’d be gentleman & not do that & look out for my safety & well being. That’s what I need not compromising for selfish individuals for romantic or platonic relationships. It stops in 2023!! 🎉 I’m reading your book next. Thanks for all your perspective!
Much appreciated 🙏
Wow sounds like my previous relationship. May you experience the best relationship that is good for all.
You go girl, they are out there and they may be a little shy and injured too so you may have too really be open to spotting the appreciative kind ones that may not be that traditional “ successful” type too
Jonathon is the real deal. You are on the right track. If you want a man that values you then really follow what Jonathon talks about and Matthew. I learned so much from both of them. Jonathon is a joy to talk with. I was divorced after a 30 year marriage and honestly had to read a book on how to kiss a man! I was so lost on dating. These two genuinely care.
Also dating in 2023 is absolutely awful disheartening disrespectful. I just don’t know what happened, to all the good people I have met throughout my life there Hass to be one good man out there.
I'm thinking they're all married already and they're definitely not leaving their wives because they're good men. Or, they choose not to get married because the choices of women they found aren't quality. Just find out how you can be content ALONE! If there's a man for you, let GOD find him for you, don't look for him!!
I've been seeing a man for about 10 weeks. I can't believe he hasn't pulled away yet! All my relationships have pulled away but this guy is still coming on strong. I'm not getting carried away though.....If he pulls away, I'm out quick smart. I have wasted so much time with guys who pulled away and I chased and got hurt.
The users think if they say "thank you" when you do something for them, they are being grateful. There really is a difference between tossing out those two words verses behaving in a way that demonstrates gratitude.
I meet this really nice guy at the wine store over six months ago. We would have small talk and laugh. I could tell he was really attracted to me. After a few months, he approached me and said he noticed a mutual attraction between us. We exchanged numbers. We texted and was not sexual. We finally went on a date, had a great time and decided to go back to his place.
Almost immediately we became affectionate and then had sex twice.
I stayed the night. He walked me to my car in the morning. I expected a kiss but nothing. I expected a call but nothing. I finally broke down and texted him to check in.
He told me he wasnt ready to date, didnt expect to have sex, and that he needed to focus on himself. I didnt argue but deep down i was very hurt and felt used.
Wow!that’s terrible maybe he had a g/f already and just wanted a fling!
I’m sorry that happened to you.
Post nut clarity? Wtf?
@@V.Hansen. Maybe so, I've been with 2 men in 15 years before him. I was really taken aback. 😔
Thanks God everyday that's gone, he was an user and probably a narcissist, very antisocial.
yeah my son's are super protective of me and size up every male in my building as if to say this is my Mumma Bear and back off i love that about them...i only recently acknoweledged that is what they were doing as boys and as sons of a single mum who is single xx bless
It’s so hard to find a genuine relationship anymore let alone a life partner.. Hopefully one day I’ll find someone who wants the same things as me in a life long relationship .. Where are you my MR right
He's married lol
@@shannonbailey7580😂😂
I agree with my mother. Many of the good ones are are taken.
Yes, someone to share life with and also have fun.
I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband enjoys outdoor activities, while I'm much more of a bookworm. In particular he loves riding 4x4s whether winter or summer. I used to enjoy riding with him, although at times I refused to follow up or down steep hillsides, and into muddy water. I am 62 this year and he is 65. He worked a job this winter that took him away from home at 4pm, and get home at about 2 am.Twice I asked directly for him to talk to me, or change something so I'm not so lonely. He told me to go make some friends.
I'm a severe introvert and don't understand how to make friends. He knows that but it was all he had to say. A few weeks ago I ran into a male friend I had met a few months prior to my husband, so about 15 years ago. He is a newscaster and very recognizable. We ran into each other at a restaurant and we ate together. We have lunched a couple times since then. My husband and I have been celibate for 4 years.Menopause has done a real number on my ability to enjoy intercourse.However, I offered to start taking hormone cream so we could try again and my husband said, "No, that's ok." I'm not intimate with my guy friend either. It's just nice having him compliment my outfit or appearance. Is my lunch friend a bad idea? He does make me smile, and I wonder if I should stop seeing my friend. We always eat in public where he can be recognized and
Its been 7 months. What did you decide? What happened?
The roommate relationship. Can you live this way the rest of your life? It's prime for infidelity.
@@sherriflemming3218 I hate to say it, but it sounds as if the husband might have a woman on the side.
@@Glotglot please give us an update!
I’ve stopped looking, I’ve had so many unfulfilling relationships. I don’t have sex with them…I tell them that’s reserved for when we both feel it’s the right time. So I’ve been without it for going on 8 years now. It’s discouraging, disappointing & yet I feel like I haven’t compromised myself or my standards. I just wish I could find a man who could appreciate that. 😢
Great advise once again. I'll never forget "ladies! before the P goes into the V - ask him "what does commitment look like to you?". Ask this 3 months (or whatever soon means to you) into the relationship - not 3 years!!!! I was too scared about losing the relationship and ended up wasting HUGE amounts of time on mediocre relationships. NEVER again.
I have to say that you impacted me more than you realize.
I month or so I complained here about guys and the men I’ve recently met especially on dating apps. You responded with something like “Maybe you are choosing the wrong men” or “Maybe your priorities are not too narrow” I’m paraphrasing.
I think I was offended (stupid of me). But I thought about it nonetheless. Well I have known this one guy for about 5 yrs now. Never thought of dating him at all. He’s short, cute but that’s it, so I thought. One night at a wine bar he sat next to me after my friends had left and we talked. I gave him my phone number. OMG he’s the greatest guy I think I’ve ever been with. Thank you for your insight, for your comment. It’s changed my life!
WOW, I'm honored and happy to hear...
They can tell you they are interested and they aren't interested at all. Impossible to tell if they are serious. I find lots of men are confused, messed up only when they are getting dressed. My ex devoted all kinds of time for me, until I moved in. Then I was fighting for his time. Narcissists move it forward quickly as well, love bombing, etc. It is a red flag for me.
What I want is pretty much the same things as on this list: someone I'm attracted to; but, more importantly, a trusted friend I poke fun at life with.
It just seems so unnecessarily complicated. I know this stuff is important, to prevent wasting time. I just don't know if I can think about this stuff, and still enjoy the time I spend with the person I'm getting to know. It's overwhelming.
I'm perfectly content on my own, and I like things as they are. Maybe that will change. Maybe not. Or perhaps I don't want a relationship as much as I thought. I just don't want any new drama. 😕
You made me laugh with the "magic fairy dust" comment. 😅 I personally have always been confident and upfront. My mother is a psychologist and sees many men and women with toxic relationship issues. I would like to add that if a person is whole themselves, they will attract similar people. Yes, you will still attract the users and spenders if you are physically attractive. However, you recognize where they are coming from and dismiss them immediately- as they aren't worth your time and energy. Jonathan, you are helping many people find themselves who need guidance. 😊🙏🏻
Currently with my guy who is going to become my life partner and, I, his. Really happy. Yep we did the dating vows/agreement, and the books.❤ I am so fortunate, because my guy does the whole of your list. I love the way he looks at me,,,it makes me smile, he says he is grateful and appreciates me and all I do, and I reciprocate. I am so grateful for this wonderful relationship. He is chivalrous and gentlemanly, protective and caring ..omg he teases but it can be sooo funny. because we 'play' together a lot...we both love it! He is always saying he loves me and misses me ... we said we would move in together 3-6 months. Im ready now, so is he. Coming up for that time. We are looking at houses, furniture, flooring....it really is exciting. We go on holiday to Tunisia soon too...and we have concerts and a craft show lined up after that.
Congratulations!!
@@gaiabeleza Aww how kind, thank you so much for taking the time to comment - I truly wish you well too. Jonathon helped me so much I will be eternally grateful.
Happy to hear 😊
That’s amazing, so happy for you, thank you for sharing your happiness 💕
@@mctrustsnoone3781 how lesser u am with a you wonderful folk too...
I hope you find that someone wonderful fir you also xx
Everything you're saying makes total sense. The appreciation you explain is the feeing when you're discovering you really like tis person and all of sudden you feel lucky to have met them. Totally get it when you click with someone, it's great! Women like charming men who are intentional for sure.
The friends with benefits goes both ways. Women want that arrangement many times. I was fine with it for along time. I loved it. I was in charge.
Yes I did want one but good man are hard to find don't have time for no games nowadays u got to be careful who u put In your life. To many crazy people out here.
Agree Pat.
it's so interesting. I saw this video a year ago and was with a spender and a user and knew we didn't have any future together so I finally ended it after realizing I didn't need anyone to make me feel happy and safe. Ed came into my life about a month later (we connected on Valentine's Day) and we both just want to enjoy our time together by doing the things you always say Jonathon--spending time together, shared interests, spending time with family and friends. He is the first man I ever dated. The others were immature and selfish. It's wonderful with Ed. I truly believe that what we really want we need to let go and that's when it comes to us. I think we're afraid that if we let it go, we'll miss it or it just won't come to us at all. Have faith and God Bless. ✨🙏🏻✨
Indeed
Dear Jonathon, I appreciate YOU. I have learned so much from you. I ended a previous date with a guy as he was the proverbial spender, turned out he had mental health issues - was a terribly sad, but horrendous hoarder! Lots of unresolved loss issues. Now I am with the 'ONE' Thanks to all your great advice and rants.
Awe... thank you 😊
Yes, I want a life partner, for life, with equality, and tons of kindness
I want a serious relationship and yes dating sucks!
I live in the Heartland and I can honestly say I am so thankful and happy after seeing my late brother in law for over 42 years. My question is, are there any better men out there.
There are many amazing men out there!
I feel your book on Self Love is really empowering. I did email about a coaching call however it is not possible at this time. I did not receive your Rules of Engagement, yet I did buy your book both the soft cover and the Audible book. In my own relationship I found your "wisdom" a good starting point, yet I feel we must be flexible to a degree. My BF is in law enforcement, he has been in for 25 years and has 8 more before he can retire. He is stoic, thoughtful, and even after nearly a year together he is quiet. He expressed as much as he can (he tells me every day throughout the day he loves me) yet his actions really show how he feels. It's important for us to be in our power coming from a position of self love so we can recognize and be just a bit flexible (NOT a rubber band type) but just enough to understand our partner. Keep up the awesome work! Many hugs to Marie for keeping it really beautiful 😊
Did you schedule the call? Thank you for ordering the book 🙄
Opps, I meant this... 🙏
I want a man who uses words like stentorian, propinquity, fecund, spinnaker, penury, etc., easily in conversation. Also, he appreciates the absurdities in life and chuckles when someone says reverts back, continues on, vocabulary words, tiny speck, wealthy billionaire, etc. He is tactile and enjoys giving and receiving foot massages while watching Mel Brooks's movies or Quentin Tarantino's movies. These are non-negotiable.
Lmao! Good luck with that!! 😂
Seriously want a life partner , Unfortunately, after divorce, fell prey to love bomber (true narcissist) and have had to work very hard to overcome the damage!
Thanks for sharing
❤
I’m sorry sorry that happened to you. I’ve just experienced the same. Hugs.
I notice the tone of voice when he's serious. It's softer, deeper, more breathy than normal. The volume fluctuates so he's almost singing instead of speaking. It's the same tone as when he approves of what he sees and says "mm-MM-mm!" or "I LIKE you!" and means the same thing.
Yes, that's accurate...
I world like a life partner. A commitment which is not about fireworks but a calm patrnerwho is a building type personality
Amen 🙏
I’m at the point where my heart is closed off
No emotion no desire
My body is my temple where I delve deep into myself to learn to connect with myself, others, and the world..trashing my temple is like setting myself on fire...Yes, Jonathan, liberating doesn't mean running everything to the ground...I found inner child therapy extremely useful to reverse, heal, and promote growth multiplicity. I personally believe life and creativity forces originate when we are most connected to our source/higher self in the purest form. I know when I meet the right person for me and filtering through that is a big hassle every woman/man has to face, unfortunately. 🙏 But when the time comes, everything will fall into alignment without forcing...
Exactly
The values, the mutual hobbies and the family outings, but he was making fun of me and my dad. His, "I would have made you my girlfriend and for marriage, if you hadn't..." was just another ridicule he was having with me. He was engaged and said that if his fiancee was there, he wouldn't have let me in on Christmas! He's blind! The woman he picked didn't even wanted to be with his family on Christmas and having family over is top on his list! I even felt guilt for not helping him in selecting the right one. He loved me so much, but then he acted like a jerk again and again. I can't wait to be in a serious relationship with the 20 percent!
Quite agreed. Met a man years ago who liked me. He used to look me straight into my eyes which embarrassed me. He was very caring asking how I was, how am I getting home can he help me but never about the physical side.
What about men who only care about physical attraction? What about emotional and mental connection? I feel like the men on the dating apps say physical chemistry is the most important thing a relationship.
That's because humans believe chemistry equals love... humans are rather clueless 🙄
Yes the dating marketplace is a real absolute mess as you say Jonathon!
I have not got caught up with users or needy men, but I really appreciate your confirming the wisdom of my choices. And thanks for confirming its a mess out there. A good woman only needs one good man. You give us plenty of homework to figure out how to get ready for him and find him.
You are so welcome
That "pulling away " feels like rejection and relationship inadequacies. It would be nice to have a different way to assess whether to continue to have a relationship or not. People are so vulnerable especially at the start of a new relationship.
Exactly
I gather it has to accompany the other signs, and encompass the majority of them.
The experience of mine in last three years are like horrible nightmare that has swallowed my character
Jonathan you are so smart! You help so many people! I appreciate you!Thank you!
I appreciate that!
Your right that the market for a good genuine relationship man is very scarce. I’ve been working on myself to be that genuine person.
I want a life partner but when I’m reminded 80% of the dating market place are dysfunctional I’m not feeling good about it
I'm definitely seeking a 'rest of my life' partner, but it's so hard finding the same in a man. It's a bit discouraging, Jonathan.
I understand
thank you for your insight. after years of narcissistic men, took a year for me and unexpectedly met a good man. not sure where it’s going but going slow and still working on me
I'm so glad to be married.
Jonathan, I have followed you and enjoy your content. There needs to be a thought about older people who don’t want marriage. I still want an exclusive relationship, just not financial entanglement.
I read an article on James Brolin. He said part of the success of his marriage with Streisand was “financial bifurcation”. That means they keep their financials separate. So there is no contentions in that area, which lightens the load of combining lives.
I wouldnt say "seeking" because I'm not "going after it" . . . Im happy solo. . . However, if the right person came along i would be open to happily ever after with a grower and builder type of man who does want a life partner i do it all and am a leader by necessity so the man would need to want to let me be soft and more traditional. Happy to just work on raising my amazing teen and care for my older cousin with muscular dystrophy, garden, pets, projects, self improvement, work, etc.❤
Jonathan, just wanted to let you know I recently purchased your book on self love and really enjoying it! Also purchased Attached book that you recommend as well.😊
awe... I'm so happy to hear and I hope you write a review on Amazon. Much appreciated
Yes, serious relationship please❤
I totally agree, I don't trust a man who tell me "I'm important to him" while he still on the market of dating site.
Only excuses because he doesn't want a serious relationship.
I prefer move forward and give a chance to another..
I just started dating someone after being single and not dating for 5 years. Despite all the self work over the last 5 years, I have found so many old anxieties surfacing. Of course, I slept with him too soon. However, he's unlike anyone I've ever dated. Kind, compassionate, attentive but I'm so terrified I'm going to choose someone emotionally unavailable again that it paralyzes me. I'm trying to ground myself, practice self care and make sure I'm exploring my own interests. Dating is the worst. I am glad I found this channel to help guide me.
Brilliant discussion
Excellent Analysis
Thank you Sir
I'm reading your book about Self Love, and it is a great book! So glad you wrote it and told us about it! I highly recommend it! ❤
Can I ask a favor? Can you write a review? 🙏
I am 58 years old, I’ve had my wonderful careers. Yep two of them, I am not ready for a husband I’ve made room for him. I’ve worked on myself, which will always be a work in progress. But I am at a point where yes I want this commitment now, thank you for all your advice, sir you are amazing.
Yes- I’m 55, and want a life partner- may have found him but watching everything you say for guidance
Have an attitude of gratitude and appreciation most ppl often neglect that virtues. Some ppl don't know the power of gratitude and appreciation.
Heyy! JA I like your long sleeves. Marie makes you more handsome 😊. We feel young when we're inlove❤😊
Ty for the insight; interesting sign of hearing the words grateful,appreciate; there is also a feeling that they admire you.
You might keep wiping your glasses because you need a new prescription. Just a thought from someone who also wears glasses. If there’s a subtle problem with the prescription you might only be subconsciously aware of it which causes you to try to adjust it by wiping your lenses or adjusting the frame. 😊
Thanks for letting me know...
67 y/o ,professional and looking for an intelligent ,kind and considerate man . I went for a few dates but from the very beginning I can tell the person is not forme .Rather be single ( I am divorced ) than wasting my time
This therapist would drive me crazy. He is so distracted and constantly moving, (cleaning his glasses, drinking water, sniffing and wiping at his nose). it was hard for me to focus on what he was saying because I wanted to say “sit still and settle down “.
This was the first video of yours that I have seen. I appreciate your valuable insight. Thank you for being so caring!
You are so welcome!
I seriously want a life partner
Yay!
I'm not in a relationship but wondering if I should even put myself out there I think people consider me to be plain.
Very valuable advice. You don't know how much I needed to hear this right now, as I've been very confused about someone. Thank you for all this insight. 💖
I shared this with my friend who is so needy and can’t find the right guy
Hope it helps...
Excellent advice. Women need to hear your opinion it is right on.
I appreciate that!
Quick sex never works however much he seems into you. If he’s really interested he will stay around long enough for you to form a strong friendship where your both enjoying each other out in the world together. Create a little history before jumping in the sack.
I am looking for serious relationship, but for my situation I observe that guys just looking for friendship., I can read on their Reaction . That why sometime I'm keep on questioning myself why me.😢
And he has thanked me for comming into his life
Most fell if finance do not discuss in the first time. Women should not only emotional give, value your feelings and finance
Jonathan, I am quite amazed at your videos! They are comprehensive and the messages stick. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I hope you make many more! 😊
Glad you like them!
There are two different kinds of attraction.
The first one is sexual. Men will express that in clear ways by checking if there might be a chance to get laid. It doesn't take much to have it for a man because it is based on a very primitive impulse. The visual focus of these men is on her body and sexy physical features. Looking sexy is what they respond to. Relationships based on sexual attraction wear off quickly.
The second one is attraction to a women's personality. It is being expressed by looking at a women's face, especially into her eyes and is in the beginning not at all of sexual nature.
Men who have this attraction are mostly interested in spending more time with her in meaningful ways to enjoy her company. These men respond to a women's femineity, her charm and the sweetness in her personality. Wearing a feminine rather than a sexy dress, a smile and having a nice approachable personality causes them to respond.
If that is what you want get a summer dress that has a swing to it ($35 at Amazon), fix your hair in a natural and soft way, hang out leisurely at the next gas station and see what happens. Do it :)
Yup sad truth, physical attraction is just as important but it comes in different forms i will say.
I'm not dolling myself up to hang out at the Gas N Sip. Wtf
So funny
Hi Jonathon I'm rethinking of revisit it once again but I need to be sure of what I'm getting into to.😊
I genuinely want a serious relationship……❤
Need to prove myself to myself! Love you for your contagious optimism!
I think you said something especially valuable: do YOU really want a relationship? Because you take all those users and spenders. Honestly? Sometimes I even think it to myself that I don‘t want one, because looking back into my dating past there were men that had real interest in me and when I experienced it I was overwhelmed and didn‘t know just HOW TO HANDLE it in a way that is natural and still suiting me
Your attachment style might be fearful avoidant.
He's so incredibly cute and obsessed and helpful and we dont EVEN KNOW EACH OTHER'S NAMES!!!!! 🙈🙈 Just some examples -
1. The first time we interacted- He was using a gym machine, i asked him how many sets does he have left cause i wanted to use it too. He said oh oh I'm done! I was like oh cool and i used the machine. Later i saw him go back to the machine and finish his sets 😂😂
2. Our second interaction - i was waiting for him to finish his set and he got up and immediately started saying something about he would've done something but he didnt? I couldn't even understand what he said. (Keep in mind we had never talked before )Then we had a short convo.
3. I was waiting to use the same machine that he was using. He took off the weights that he was using ( since he's way stronger and i guess you can call it common courtesy) but THEN HE LOADED UP MY WEIGHTS FOR ME without me even saying ANYTHING. And then he just left😂😂 who does that
4. One day we were almost the last people in the gym- He finished his workout (he was doing legs )and i saw that he was lingering in the gym doing random stuff moving random weights doing his biceps or whatever 😂 then i finished my workout and picked up my bag to leave the gym. He quickly grabbed his phone and followed me outside the gym (i really thought he'll talk to me or ask me my NAME at least while we ride in the elevator together- i was very happy barely able to contain my smile) But when we reached the elevator and i pressed the button, our gym trainer was there and this cute guy started randomly saying to the trainer "oh why isn't the elevator ever working" and the trainer was like ??? It IS working man! . And before the the elevator could even come to our floor, this guy BOLTED down the stairs . I was like????? You fool.
5. He's ALWAYS around me. Like whatever area of the gym I'm in, he'll shuffle his exercises to within like 5 feet of me. He grabs stuff exactly from where I'm standing he just finds excuses to walk past me all the time. BUT HE NEVER COMES UP TO TALK TO ME.
6. I was doing deadlifts and he was doing his calves and the machine is just behind the deadlift rack. I saw that he was staring so hard at the ground trying to avoid looking at my butt . Generally when he's doing calves he's always looking around. It was cute.
7. He comes to the water cooler 80% of the time when I'm there.
8. i used to catch him staring a lot but lately he AVOIDS eye contact even when he knows I'm looking. I don't know what happened.
9. Today i did a blunder . I accidentally BRUSHED MY HAND AGAINST HIS BUTT!! I was walking and he was doing deadlifts. He stuck his butt out cause he was doing the workout and my arm brushed against his butt. IM MORTIFIED
You clarified that my personal care doctor was attracted to me
I. Was attracted to him as well. He was concerned about my health he talked to me like he knew me. He watch me when I left the office
😂
We are in a serious relationship- as far as time allows it. He called me his girlfriend. But he isn’t a talker- not used to expressing his thoughts and feelings. If I ask him playfully to sometimes show or tell me what he s going on, he does it and it’s cute, but how can I get him to open up more?🤔
I was going to tell our LOVE story. We have been going strong since 1979. We are so in love.
We were married our junior year in college. We had zero money. We decided our marriage gift to each would be. Daily acts of kindness. 45 years, we still practice daily acts of kindness. Not all grand gestures, smiles of love, letting the other win the argument even when you know the other is wrong. We did crazy things like going to college full time and having our first son. We both are artists. People our family all thought this was impossible, but we knew together we could do anything. I took our son to my rehearsals. We took him art openings. Wherever our kids were with us.
Yes, Greig adores me. He even donated a kidney so I could have a living kidney. September 16th, 2020. PKD .
We are grateful for each other.
Love at first sight. I love him dearly. Oh, and my Irish father stated at our wedding- " It won't last, one will find out how useless the other is." As Greig says , we still haven't figured it out."
If you’ve found a man that does all these things and you are compatible with him but not crazy, head-over-heels in love with him, should you stay with him and let love grow? Or is it important to have immediate physical chemistry, too? I’m 45, have very little dating experience, and I’m not sure what I should compromise on.
Yes. I’m ready. It’s time.
My ex husband of 20 years said and did none of these. Not one. Oh sorry. He "teased" me- ie: insulted, made fun of , belittled and mocked me
Don't let him steal your joy anymore
@@marybethwicks My fault for marrying him. I don't deny that
I have recommended your book to several people on Facebook.
Awe... thank you
Yes, definitely, a life partner!
I agree with getting out of the dating scene once you agree to a serious relationship, but not to completely remove yourself from talking to other men in a professional sense, especially, if your better half is in a type of business they must deal with men/women on a daily basis.😁👑💯💓🎈
Can you elaborate?
This Is True! I did All of this and Greater! Life Investment in Love!
I m a Grower/"Builder" I LOVE TO LOVE! (It Shocked Me at 19) I adore it Now! Glad I Married My Crush!
So helpful. Thank you!
Absolutely true ...enjoyed your teaching...God Bless 🙌 😊