50 Things I Quit to Simplify My Life | Minimalism, Slow Living, Self Care
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"If you want to attain knowledge, add things every day. If you want to attain wisdom, remove things every day." I've been thinking about this famous quote from Lao Tzu, and realized that, when it comes to minimalism, simple living, self care, slow living, and all that good stuff, it's been mostly the things I've stopped doing, or removed from my life, rather than things I started doing, or added to my life. So I sat down and wrote a list of 50 Things I quit to simplify my life. I hope you'll find some inspiration here to simplify your life as well!
Lots of love,
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I really like how quickly and matter-of-factly you go through your list. Other videos annoy me when they just won't get to the point! They waste my time - so thank you for such a wonderful video
You mean how they turn a single basic piece of advice into a 15 minute video!
@@honeychile5393 And we would know that these videos are a waste of time because?
It s funny, cause being on youtube is already wasting your time lol
Thank you for this video! I’ve quit overcommitting myself.
❤ this welldone, thoughtful list❤
One thing I've started keeping in mind to simplify my life is "don't put off for later what you can do now." The feeling of walking through my house and seeing the project I completed or the mess I cleaned is so much greater than the feeling of seeing supplies piled up or a mess. It's difficult to have the motivation to do something sometimes but the reward when it's over is amazing.
I agree. If I can do something in a min or two, I do it. When I’m done with something, I put it away, clean it up, whatever needs doing. It’s just so much easier to do little things when they happen, than waiting till a bunch of things pile up.
It’s easier to walk up and down small hills a couple of times a day, than climb a mountain once a week.
When I was in my 20’s an older friend told me to just make a room look better when you leave it than when you came in. Just pick up one thing. I’m in my 70’s now and this is still comes gently to mind. Best advise!
and what if my brain is so sensitive and weak to the point he just unable to bear any slighest pain/discomfort which leads to getting depressed/desperate/hopeless and not having any motivation/will/passion and only avoiding any activity/work?
@@CamelliaFlingert are you seeing a good therapist? Are you on any medications? The right therapist AND the right meds (type and dosage) can help.
@@HeronCoyote1234 we don't have any good therapists in the place i live (not everyone is lucky to be born in the first world countries) but i can't afford to move to another country and can't afford the therapist and meds, also how meds can help if my suffering is caused by the things those meds can't change? meds can't make me immortal and forever young, meds can't stop all wars, discrimination, violence and all injustice and unrairness in this reality, meds can't reborn me into a completely different human, with the opposite biological gender, with healthy genetics (mine is awful, i'm suffering from BPD and that's the only 1 of my problems i born with), meds can't give me a passion in anything, meds can't make me love doing something when i don't love doing it (working), meds can't give me happiness, meds can't make me love myself and being loved by others, meds can't give me ability to doing something and be good at it, meds can't stop the pain, meds can't do anything if most of my problems is caused by the outside matters which i has no control over
I have eliminated social media (Instagram and Facebook) form my life and I’m appalled by how much time I have now! I also don’t read/listen to the news everyday and I’m way happier!
Me to. 2 and a half years at this point. Amazing freedom
I find it inspiring to hear other people doing this too. It makes me see how "my people" do exist.
Same here. I am happier and more focused. The quality of my life, time has increased exponentially.
i envy you, i wish i could
If anyone has any suggestions for me, I go through my junk drawer put everything in a bag and it’ll stay there for weeks if not months and then I start to go through and think oh I should keep this. I should keep that I mean there are things like let’s say, tape and safety pens I need to know how to organize these things, please help! Thank you 😊
I agree with everything on your list, except about leaving the dirty dishes overnight. Only because at age 67 I have finally overcome all my OCD behaviours. And leaving even one dirty dish used to be a problem. Now, when I get up in the morning and see those dirty dishes waiting for me.... I feel great! I start each day doing yesterday's dishes and feeling like a success... lol
I'm the same! I'm 31 years old, and I always do the dishes the day after. I then just feel energized to do them!
Me three. Also 67. While the kettle boils in the morning, I can finish a sink of dishes. Seems to take no time at all. After I've made and served dinner, I don't want to be in the kitchen anymore and doing dishes seems to take forever. However, I do scrape, rinse and stack the dishes before putting them in the sink.
😃 great!
I cannot agree. I have left my dishes in the sink for like two years,
They mould very quickly after just a week, and after two months, the mould would grow fluffy and expand fill the entire sink. After like six months the mould would dry out and die ( I assumed it had died because it was gray and lacked moisture). After like a year the dry mould collapsed under its own weight and because it was quite light and fibrous, it became dust, and dissipated into the air. It was a health hazard.
I would advise doing dishes before you absolutely have to do them.
Even at 71 years of age i am enjoying your list here immensely!
I love this list! I've quit wearing makeup. I know that's not for anyone, but it works well for me. It gives me more time in the morning and simplifies my morning and evening routines. I just wash my face with a gentle cleanser, apply a little moisturizer, and that's it. It saves me money (makeup is expensive!). It is better for my skin and I feel like my face can breathe better. I don't have to worry about removing my makeup before exercising. I can splash my face with water anytime during the day and not worry about messing up my makeup. I don't have to worry about getting makeup on my clothes accidentally. And, most importantly, it has made me feel better about myself, because it has taught me that I am beautiful just the way I am, without a bunch of paint all over my face.
I always thought I needed a certain skill to be able to do it right... I am 32 and still feel like I don't know how and don't need to learn to. It is freeing treating my face like I do my little girl's
Yes, the same
I love that. No one should feel like they have to change their natural face in order to be acceptable. I get that some women wear makeup for fun and self expression, but so many of us do it because we feel like we aren’t good enough without it. And, for example, can’t leave the house without it cause they feel like their natural face looks bad. So I say ditch makeup if it just makes you feel worse. Men don’t have to wear it, so why should women have to?
Same it is a game changer😊
I feel happy for you for doing this 😊
Underwear made the list! Finally someone acknowledges how much an uncomfortable underwear can interfere with you day to day life! In all seriousness though, this is the most relatable video I have found so far.
😄💕
I recently quit rushing. I have significant anxiety and tend to struggle with keeping up on everything at work and home. But running around in a panic trying to get everything done just put me in prolonged fight-or-flight mode. I was constantly anxious, irritable, and could hardly think straight because of my mind racing. After almost having a meltdown at work, I had to stop. Now I focus on doing things steadily instead of fast as possible. It's helped a lot so far with my stress - and surprisingly I'm still able to get plenty done. 😊
Love that quote and your list! I quit sharing everything about my personal life with my closest friends. I also quit being overly interested in other people's personal lives. I feel lighter and have more peace of mind, as a result. I also quit beating myself up if I don't have the most productive day and if I just want to relax.
Fantastic advice and I love the quote too! Vera does such a great job at bringing us better awareness of what really matters in such a succinct, simple way. SHe's a doll and so refreshing!
Agreed. I’ve quit sharing much about mine too and I no longer care much about theirs unless they are my closest friends/family
Love this!
Something I’ve let go is wearing high heels! 👠 👠
Same and it was a great decision 😅
AMEN 🙏. I now love my boring comfy shoes ❤😂
I like to wear them to church or fancy occasion!
Same!
Good idea as high heals are bad for your feet and legs
great list Less of everything simplifies my life. Less clothing = less decisions & laundry. Don't keep anything that doesn't fit today. Less house stuff = less cleaning & visual clutter. Less on calendar = more calm.
Things that have helped me simplify;
1. Saying no thank you as a default to most things. If I’m slightly interested at the time, I will say can I get back to you on that? & then mull it over
2. Stopped watching tv passively. This has been eye opening. A lot of people just turn the tv on and let it go. I choose what I want to watch and then I set aside time to watch it.
3. Chelsea boots. You slip them on/off and they are good for most of my clothing.
4. Using a daily written planner. Helps me outline the hours and make sure I’m doing the right things.
5. Limiting vices to one per week. 1 dessert per week, 1 bourbon per week, etc. Its not a daily thing so you are practicing delayed gratification and also decreasing spending while increasing pleasure
Very true! :) No thanks can oftentimes be enough :)
Oh I love this list. Just bought some rocket dog Chelsea boots. Great call. I like all of your thoughts. One thing I’m tryin to leave is my tendency to wonder why on most everything. I’m super curious. But, it’s almost like a kid going but why, but why, but why.. I enjoy critical thinking but not about the light switch panel cover or the trim or the way we feed our animals to table. It’s too much and takes me down so many rabbit holes.
Hi Vera. Another great video! You are never too old to learn ! I'm 74 and have been a subscriber to your channel sine the pandemic began. I am a lifelong minimalist. I have always found possessions a burden and being a very sensitive person I have always tried to keep my life simple. Your video today has been a wonderful " refresher course "(which we all need periodically) and an eye opener to more things I can/not do for a simpler, calmer, happier life. You have a truly generous spirit.
Aw thank you Margaret, and thank you for being a part of this channel all this time! 🤗🍵 Glad you enjoyed the video. Have a lovely day!
I randomly clicked on this video and it has so much profoundly simple wisdom in it. Blew my mind how hard it hit home
As a 21 year old woman with ADHD & BPD, I learned so much from you! Your main idea seems to be about slowing down, being present, honest with our natural rhythm, and giving ourselves some more grace
I have ADHD and BPD as well. I found her video resonated with me the same way it did for you :)🫶🏼
Your hair looks fine.
I don’t follow trends either.
I do what I feel like doing when I feel like it.
I very seldom iron anything.
I don’t play “ Games “ ….. never have.
I learned to say “ No “ and I do it often.
Priorities do change as we get older and we need to accept it.
Thanks Teresa! Those are great examples! :) Have a nice day today 🌱
I quit (and am still working on)…fitting my conversations and reactions around the person I’m talking to. Being more of who I am despite their reaction or opinions.
I’m trying to do that too, but there are a couple of people I know who are very confident in their opinions and tbh I just end up saying very little in order to hurry the conversations along.
It's amazing how much of this advice reminds me of teachings I grew up with just through studying the Bible. Things like keeping my thoughts positive, not gossiping or being a busy body, setting a time for everything, a handful of rest is better than 2 handfuls of hard work, stability between self-care vs. care for others, and so much more. Although I didn't start learning how to actually apply some of it until well into my 20s. But it definitely helped me appreciate even more how you apply the valves you listed in your life.
There’s so many strict morning and nighttime routines on RUclips and I fell for it for a while i thought I had to be perfect. Thank you for calling this out
This is such an amazing list, and I can echo so many of them!! I've stopped being jealous of everyone who gets to travel a lot... Because I don't actually WANT to travel, everyone else just makes such a big deal of it I feel like I'm missing out! My husband and I made a lot of sacrifices to buy a house in a good community in a beautiful forest, and it's okay I don't need anything else!
Love this 🥰💕
So agree ! My husband traveled for work several times a year & I was " criticized " for not going along . Most work trips allowed time for him to try new restaurants , visit museums , national sights ,etc. , all things he had missed out on growing up as his family did not do any of these things . However , my family experiences were just the opposite , plus for decades as an adult I showed horses so traveled a lot . I truly enjoyed hearing about his trips & his take on things I'd seen & experienced . So , like you , I prefer the easy rhythm of my lifestyle & quiet country home . 🥰
Same here! There's maybe one or two places I'd like to visit with my wife if we get the chance, but in general I'm happy being a homebody and nesting. I have been to a few countries and obviously I enjoy it each time, but we also already get to see so much of the world through other people and most of us who've been to 2 or 3 other countries have already travelled more than the average person 100 years ago. I say keep the magic alive by seeing the beautiful pictures and videos online spending $1000s to wade through tourists and visit a place I don't necessarily connect with.
Ditto about the travel part 😊
Same here I want to see England ( so I can see castles and all the Harry Potter things) and Malta ( as I am Maltese) otherwise I actually don’t like travelling and hate planes (they actually scare me).
About food and grocery shopping, I have something of a "menu" that are just my favourite healthy dishes and I make sure to always buy ingredients for those when going to the store. Many people think you have to eat something different all the time but having a rotation of 5-6 dishes goes a long way - and saves you time, energy and potentially money. And you get to eat something you like every day! Great video, fully agree with everything you said 🌻
Excellent video, I've eliminated a lot of the same things you have. Life isn't meant to be a competition. Everyone needs to find their personal happiness and try and get rid of the things that just aggravate or depress you whenever possible.
I agree!! Thanks Flo, glad you enjoyed it :) Take care and have a nice day today
Just by listening to this, I’ve been able to easily let go of some things that I’ve been holding on to. First to go….houseplants that I’ve been trying to revive unsuccessfully. 😀
Amazing!! Great job 😁🌱
I relate to some of the things in this list:
- I never get in on any trend.
- I thought cooking is difficult - but then I realized I can do simple meals. They're cheaper, too.
- I don't iron my clothes. They are line dried out in the sun.
- I turn off ALL notifications. I get annoyed with them, even if they are from work or from other people, hehe
- I don't bring my phone with me - especially in the bathroom.
- I also pay bills right away. Penalties and late fees cost more. I also don't want to accidentally spend the budget for bills on something else.
- I really don't have a morning or evening routine - it's like, do you really spend a lot of energy into those steps? Don't you get tired when you're just about to go to work?
- I only had to give holiday gifts when I was in school (during Christmas parties).
- There have been no holiday decorations in our household since my parents died.
- I don't watch the news - they just pop up randomly on the feed (when I'm working on a client's social media)
- I do shower every day, though. We're in a tropical country and it's just basic hygiene.
Thank you!
TY🙏🏽I’m an Empath & HSP & I absolutely love your videos. Helps me feel less like a skinless, over sensitive being that’s not relatable.
Glad to hear you're enjoying my videos! :) And there are many more sensitives out there, so you're definitely not alone in that or unrelatable :)
let my choices come from inside me instead of being imposed from outside. If I want to splash my wheelchair through a mudpuddle, life is too short to not have fun! I do try not to splash other people, of course, but if no one is within range, I LOVE it. And often people who see me do it get joy too. Anything. I wear the bright colors I love, add glittery pinwheels to my chair, tell people I love something about them when I notice it, just follow my heart.
Great suggestions Vera. One thing I quit a while ago is explaining myself or justifying my decisions to do/not do something. Xx
How do you do that? I’d love to stop explaining. People seem to expect a reason. Do you say anything or just do your thing and walk away. Or something else. I’d love to know. Great comment.
@@terrieisanaudioslave I say something like....thank you and I'll say no on this occasion.....or a simple 'no' or ' no thanks' . I remember that my time, choices and preferences are my own. It took some practice at first and I started with easy situations. Best wishes
If I have someone asking me to explain sometimes I slow down my voice and look a little blank and say ‘I dont know’ even if i do or say to them with a quizical look (which is genuine) and say ‘What do you mean?’ because really, why IS somone asking for an explanation and what ?!? it works sometimes … other times a thoughtful very long silence does put and end to the question. I might not ‘look good’ in that interaction but do I care? Not enough.
@@terrieisanaudioslave I know this is an old comment but I did struggle with this. I now think, "does this person deserve an explanation?" They would if you promised to do something that you can't anymore, for example. But otherwise, do they really deserve it like you're their subordinate and you're submitting your excuse for their approval? If they demand more beyond a simple "no thanks", a nonspecific "I can't, unfortunately" or "it just doesn't work out" is enough. Reiterate until they get the message. Don't allow people to pry into your life and priorities by refusing to accept your "no".
Regarding paying bills “as soon as they come in,” I’ve made all of my bill payments (except credit card, which I pay off monthly) electronic and automatic. I don’t have to worry about them if I’m traveling and know exactly when they will be paid. Huge simplification for my life.
Yes! Thanks Alice, that's a really good one :)
I had to rewind to the part where you said you had PMDD, thank you so much for speaking it out loud! Working with my PMDD is my biggest challenge, feeling that I should be doing more or what a person without PMDD is capable of. Only recently discovered your channel and binging your videos, thank you for all the work you do for us sensitive/introverted types 💛
I let go of all ultra-processed and highly processed foods and eat a much more natural vegetarian diet. I am no longer even tempted by any of those foods, I have lost 55 pounds (and kept it off over a year), reversed a diabetes diagnosis (YES!) and had a pituitary tumor completely vanish (baffling my doctors!). Letting go of unhealthy foods and eating a whole food diet has changed my life!
Vera, believe it or not, I was thinking to myself how nice your hair looked in this video before you even mentioned it. Thank you for giving us wisdom on your lived experience and some things that have helped you - some of these were great reminders for myself that I didn't realize I had lost track of amid all of life's craziness lately! I love starting my day with a cup of green tea and a video from you, thanks again!
I love how her hair looks in this video as well!😊
@@j.r.1823 me too.. the side braid is great too.
I quit social media and now I feel more focused. I used to spend a lot of time on social media and one day realised, looking at photos and stories of so many people who are not a part of my real life was not worth it. I just quit. I have been off of all social media for about 4 years now and loving it.
I really like your simplified outlook on a lot of the things that are pushed by “slow/intentional living” influencers. Like morning routines or productivity lists. I had it continuously in the back of my mind that my life won’t be put together till I have those systems in place, and hearing you talk about them just complicating things really clicked with me… totally true! Such a relief 😂
Thanks! 😊
Something I’ve never even started was being on social media - I don’t miss it, and I’m happy I didn’t have to go thru the stress of leaving it! I’m not against it: I just don’t like it. - Very good video! Thanks!
But you are still on youtube?
Loved this video! As a sensitive person I’ve let go of a lot of the same things just by listening to my body. Life changing to adjust the little things in this way 💕 thank you!
I quit looking at my phone on a work-at-home break. I play with my dog for 5-10 minutes instead. Me and doggy are both happier and have a healthier relationship.
What a great idea! I need to do this. 😊
One thing I loved about your old place was the amount of natural light you had flooding in. Great to see you have the same set up in this apartment!
Thanks Sarah! Dutch homes generally tend to have lots of big windows. :)
Great video! Most of us don't get to this point until we are in our 60's. You have saved yourself decades of grief :-) BTW-Our kitchen is tidy, but is busy like a 24 diner, so dirty dishes don't stress me out. They get completely done once every 24 hours. It works for us.
She is my safe place on RUclips I put these videos on to fall asleep or unwind to as her voice is so soothing. Sending you endless love from Ireland 🇮🇪 ❤️❤️
This is a really great list. So sensible. I was becoming overwhelmed by all the "self care" stuff online. This really helps. Thank you x
So many great things to quit that I can relate to. Your videos always have such helpful tips and advice. Decluttering and living a simpler life has made such a huge difference to my physical and mental health.
Thanks for sharing. Since retiring a couple years ago, I’ve adopted many of these mantras, but still have a few to work on. I’m not a minimalist, but still trying to simplify a bit. My focus is on doing what I enjoy, or need to do, when I feel like doing it. Life is too short to spend a lot of time cleaning, but it does get done regularly as needed. After a couple busy days, it helps to take a day or so to unwind and recharge. When traveling, I plan some things each day, but leave room for spontaneity. One thing I avoid is rushing so I allocate plenty of time.
Great list! I agree wholeheartedly and while it’s hard to do some things (like to stop worrying about every detail) the moment you let go is life changing.
One thing that helps me doing a chore I hate, such as going to the laundry. I put a date and time to do it on my calendar and when the time comes I refuse to think about it, I just do it. I can always overthink and talk myself out of doing something I dislike. This way it gets done with little stress.
Good one!
Dear Vera, I have been watching you for a year. I´ve seen all your videos, some of them several times. This is number one for me! Thank you with all my heart. Iva
This is a fantastic video! Not just a run on list of ideas. A good chunk of these are serious things I've had to learn through my late 20's and into my 30's and have made a big impact for me! Thanks Vera for putting all of this together!
Aw thank you!!! :) Have a wonderful day
Oh Vera, I feel you totally understand me and we never met. I talk down to myself often, verbally and out loud. I turn small things into big projects and then they don’t get done. I am working on accomplishing small projects at a time. I also love your hair…. I appreciate you and your channel.
time for self-reflection is soooo important and we have sooooo many distractions that it is literally driving us all crazy. Slowing down is very important and I really enjoyed this video and just subscribed to your channel. Thanks
I identified with a number of these. Great list! #35 really speaks to the whole modern epidemic of living in constant FOMO. It's something that I've noticed in myself and I'm working on overcoming.
Good video, you really helped and inspired me today ♡ I spent 2022 decluttering massively and it helped me a lot but now that I‘ve „achieved“ that I‘m falling back into old habits and patterns in some ways and on some days. Today I decided to do another small round of decluttering and listening to videos that explain to me why I did what I did and why it helped me ♡
My key motivation is „Less but Better“, in all respects. Less stuff, better quality. Less meaningless things to do, better and more meaningful experiences. Less random, junky and unhealthy food but better food that I‘ll enjoy slowly.
Great list. The thing that keeps bringing me back to your videos is the philosophy of technique, tactics and mindset of minimalism and life choices over just getting rid or items, buying less or organizing. The thought processes you discuss are so practical and elegant for real change. Thank you.
wonderfully said !
Yes!
I’ve slowly been quitting small things like this over the past few months and it’s been a game changer for me. I’ve been feeling better and more productive.
Thank you for all the great tips! I like the phone tray idea! Going to have to try that one.
What have you quit, to simplify your life? Let's keep sharing the tips! 🤗🌱🍵
There are so many of these things that I have stopped or I’m working on stopping. Thank you for sharing this. I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I know people think I’m crazy. Having severe anxiety and depression is the reason why I’m trying to change things in my life. 🙏🏻❤️
Great list! I was feeling a little too overwhelmed (and exhausted) and decided to watch "relaxing" videos online and here you are! Thank you!
Great video as usual. It is interesting going back through your list and noting down which ones are problems society expects you to do. Have a great week xxx
Agree with everything on this list and your reasoning. It’s taken me a whole lot longer to reach these same conclusions in my own life. Enjoy the process of life and celebrate how unique you are. 😊
I envy that youve figured all this out at such a young age. I'm 68 and am amazed at stuff I'm still figuring out. If I'd known better 35 years ago it would have made much of my life profoundly easier. Good on you!
I watch a lot of minimalist essentialist videos but yours are my fave! Just found you an hr ago when i was looking for HSP selfcare, especially to handle the news. I love that your tips are about doing less and caring about less things (caring about what matters instead), not just having less. It's hard for me because i care a lot and enjoy a lot of things, but i also get overwhelmed. Thank you for your work! I am taking notes ❤
Watching your video made me realize I’ve been a minimalist before and now, your content made me more want to be a minimalist forever ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this, particularly about doing less laundry and showering less. I do laundry nearly everyday and it’s time to change that! Love your videos x
Some absolutely effective advice - I am simplifying bc I am also over-thinker & people pleaser. It's a milestone to put myself first - thank you for this! ❤
A lot of good advice. I just retired a month ago; and I am finding the self-scheduling and lack of chaos, deadlines, being around people, very refreshing. I am a perennial list maker, and Explorer though; and I really still need to figure out how to relax, and to not feel like I have to spend so much time being informed or culturally ambitious. I really think unstructured time is super important, and something that I have neglected. I need self-acceptance, less clutter, more living in the Present.
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Congratulations on your retirement! I retired at the end of 2022 & I’m enjoying it so much! Wishing you a wonderful retirement!!
Many good ideas , both the video & readers' comments , that inspire all of us to examine & adjust our lifestyles for happiness & health . For some , it's doing dishes at night , for others it's a morning routine , some prefer multiple reading glasses / sunglasses at hand , others it's one specific pair in one spot , etc. When reading the comments , we realize " the good life " comes in many forms . 🥰
So true! I love reading the comments as well :)
I can relate! I used to get massages too. Overpriced, rushed service, big hassle getting dressed and undressed, the face down position in the head rest gave me panic attacks, therapists spend most of the time worrying about keeping the sheet over you, tucking and retucking ugh!
I love at the start you suggestion of choosing a few of these off of your list. It’s a beautiful thoughtful list truly giving us a path. But one step at a time. I love that.
oh my i agree so much with the "not watching news everyday"! i think it's like a universal thing that news are all about negativity and it really hurts my mental health. i really appreciate your other tips! :)
hi! i just wanted to say that discovering your channel has made me very emotional in such a good way... as a fellow hsp and someone living with ocd/anxiety, this is the first time outside of therapy that i have ever felt truly seen and heard. thank you so, so much for what you do ❤
Thank you so much for that, it means a lot to me to hear that people feel seen and heard here. That alone can already be so healing :) Take good care of yourself and have a wonderful day!
That’s a beautiful share. Thank you!
Dear Vera,I am new to your channel and I am so impressed by your true wisdom and grace in everything you say. So grateful to find you. Keep up with the great work!
Aw thank you Christina!! Welcome to the channel! 🤗💕🌱
Vera you are an absolute joy to listen to. Some of these ideas are really helpful for me, even the ironing board one! I just don’t use it so why keep it. I am 63 years old and making big efforts on decluttering and downsizing so you are and have been an inspiration to me. Thanks so much…..Lisa 💓
One of the best videos I've seen on YT in a while. Thank you for sharing all that Vera. You life approach is very healthy and inspiring ♥
Lots of great tips here! I laughed when you mentioned not counting the books you read.. I started recording my books - not so much because I needed to know a number, but so I would remember which books I've read and whether I would like to read them again. I also stopped thinking I had to finish a book or movie just because I started it. There are plenty of other books out there to try!
Dear Vera, thank you so much for sharing those ideas and thoughts. It is fascinating how wise you are. You make me feel good about myself, that it is ok to feel what I feel and think the way I think and be different and not care for what the majority cares for. I see myself in almost all of the tips you shared and I'm glad you are there to remind me because I forget. I forget to be me. Hardship takes the soul out of me and often I feel like a machine that simply functions. So thank you again and I wish you to always be well. A big hug from Greece.
Hi Stella! I'm glad you're finding value in my videos. :) It's definitely okay to just be you, and do what you need to feel good and happy. Hope you'll continue to do your best to take good care of yourself :) Sending a hug!
Thank you so much for sharing, Vera! I can deeply relate to many of the things that you mentioned. Some of them I have also stopped doing, and others I might be in the process of stopping. In particular, respecting your natural rhythm stood out to me as this is something that I have been very consciously trying to work on! I also really liked the idea of having a smartphone tray. I need to use my phone a couple of times a day for work, but tend to leave it next to me at all times otherwise, and that is very tempting since I work from home. I will adopt the tray immediately! One thing that I want to stop doing is leaving my keys and belongings in multiple places once I get home. It always gets me really irritated next time I have to go out, because I can never find what I need. It sounds like everything will be by the smartphone tray now! (PS: I actually think your hair looks super cute in that video!)
Holiday decor is beautiful but so time consuming and of course lots of clutter. I have not put up decor for the last four years and love the time and space and not having to move furniture for a holiday. Like you nentioned I will enjoy looking at it in other homes and stores. Great list.
Those are all great suggestions, most I already practice, although a few I don't practice as consistently. A few other things that help me - 1) I try to take care of tasks quickly instead of postponing them and spending more time feeling stressed and anxious about them. 2) I don't compare myself to others. There is so much you can't see about another person's life, and we all make such sweeping assumptions. (example - I used to feel so frustrated that a good friend always had a spotless house even though her life was as busy as mine - years later I found out she paid a house cleaner while I was doing all the work myself.) 3) Another thing that helps is accepting that my energy ebbs and flows. Ebb times, or fallow times, are more useful if I embrace the need to replenish and rest, than if I push against them, further exhausting my physical or emotional energy.
As soon as I started watching, I thought your hair looked great 😂
I feel like I've quit (or in some cases never done) most of the things you mentioned - go me! Still struggling with using my phone too much, reading the news too much, not taking healthy breaks and overthinking things, so thank you for the reminder that it's within my control to change these 💚 Going to get off my phone as soon as I've finished typing this comment 😂
You are beautiful, Vera! I watched your RUclips channel before the war in Ukraine. I'm from Ukraine and I'm here now. When the war started I felt not good with such video. But after some time I felt desire to find you again. I wasn't be able to find your channel because I forgot the name. Finally I found you and l'm happy because your videos are so soothing, and warm ❤, and useful for me. Thank you for your job 🙏
Hey Vera! Great video...I have just last week started a new job or role and also my parents are getting old and need my attention. I think not taking on other peoples emotions is very important and also learning when to say no, is really hard for me. As a HSP I can feel the drain in energy trying to do it all and I have to learn to say no at times. Thanks for the advise at the end also. Have a great rest of the week and many blessings!
best of luck to you with everything
that must be a very hard thing to be working through right now, thanks for a reminder to live my truth as much as i can now since there are always going to be harder challenges as we grow older. in this moment i understand what they say now about "life is hard, but its worth it"
Great tips Vera! The main thing I have done to simplify and feel better is I deleted Instagram and only go on FB occasionally (like 2-3 times a month as opposed to my old habit of 2-3 times per day). I found that I don't miss it and I have felt happier and have less FOMO. I also deleted all my time and money waster game apps like Gardenscape and Homescape. Now I just play Words with Friends with 2 or 3 people.
I have FB only until my youngest daughter graduates high school. She is in the school’s competition marching band & I go on the parents page to look for photos other parents may have gotten of her and for info. Once she graduates, I’m deleting it & Instagram both
I feel like our personalities are so so similar. I felt an incredible amount of validation and connection from this. Thank you so much for sharing. 💕
Correct 👍
I enjoyed your list very much, it's refreshing to listen to someone who just gets straight to the point.
I've stopped washing face in the mornings, it's improved my skin condition soo much.
Just found your channel, this is the first video I’m viewing and I love it! I love how peaceful this video is. The transitions are smooth and your voice is soothing. I don’t usually comment this video is healing and I want to implement these habits/ lifestyle changes slowly. I do some of these already and it’s so nice to hear someone else voicing it out. ❤❤❤
Probably my favorite video you’ve ever made- I LOVE this concept of taking things away and this list is so thoughtful
Yay!! Thanks Penny, that's nice to hear :)
Hello! Thank you so much for this wonderful video. You gave some amazing suggestions.
I also appreciate your authenticity and understanding of how not all these tips work for everyone. Your channel is amazing and your individuality really shines through. Keep doing what you do!
I'm sorry to hear you struggle with pmdd too, I've had it for a long time and I have to block out time too as some days I am physically unable to do anything. You've given so many great suggestions, Thank you so much for your informative and helpful videos.
This is an excellent list, and I, too, have quit many/most of these things on the way to becoming a better man, husband, and father.
The biggest for me is quitting negative thinking or speech. I try to maintain a “big picture” outlook.
Thank you for such a great vid!
Such a GREAT video! We are happiest when we accept who we are ❤. I stopped trying to be the best mom and just be an ok mom 😊 Pressure gone! Thanks Vera
I used to shop a lot here and there. lots of things had happened when pandemic started. To cut the story short, I had mnay realization in my life, Life is too short. I made a decision to focus on what truly makes me feel happy. I began to meditate and I decluttered and removed too much of everything that I used to have, that includes toxic people. But I added two furry friends. And the whole game changed for the better. Now, that everything is clear, I started a business that I truly love.
Something I've quit is social media and haven't been on any social media for about 3 or 4 years. I am so glad I did as I feel it has improved my self esteem, how i see myself and helped me to make the most of my days.
Oh I love RUclips algorithms which recommended me this precious channel. It’s nice to meet you Vera. The video totally resonates with me. And I admire the way you speak so calmly and soothingly. Thank you for sharing your list with us. Have a lovely day!
I gave up fighting my hair’s natural texture ( I used to use a straightener or curling iron daily), now I just wet it and let it air dry with a leave in conditioner. Also washing my hair everyday. It’s always the most awkward when I have just washed it and as time goes on the hair settles into a natural wave- so I let it go 4 or 5 days between washes and it is fine. I quit hanging out with friends that stress me out. I quit going to theater movies and plays (I don’t enjoy sitting still that long and I don’t really enjoy theater 🤷♀️.
Hi Vera great video as always. I can identify with a lot of these. We never go to bed with out tidy up our house. There is no better feeling than getting up in the morning to a clean and tidy home. Thank you so much ❤❤
Exactly! Glad you enjoyed the video Cathy, have a lovely day today!
I like how you have found your way of being. I think you’re a delicate and sensitive person so too much mental stuff weighs you down.
I never comment but I love your videos and taking time for yourself when in your period days is a great tip I feel exhausted drained and just want to rest and rest.
New subscriber here, very much enjoying and benefitting from your content! One thing i have quit is letting my mail/email/voucemail pile up. I just deal with the very few things that actually require action and then recycle/delete everything else as soon as it comes in. If its an email i dont want to deal with in the future, i unsubscribe, and i block calls from numbers i dont know or don't want to keep getting. Much easier and quieter this way.
Work more diligently on surface clutter as I've found it really causes anxiety and stress. Thank you. Yes, those of us that are HSP & Empaths need all your videos we can get! Bless you!
This video came to me exactly when I needed it the most. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed and lost these past weeks and thanks to your words I think I’ll be able to be fine again pretty soon. Keep doing what you do. ❤
Your hair is so beautiful! No apologies! I was admiring it before you said a thing.
You are SO WISE for your years! If only I had known/realized/internalized all of these points back in my 20’s and 30’s (and 40’s… etc.😁)
So much great advice and wisdom! Thank you for sharing all of this.
Learning to say “no” without apology has helped me a lot. Going against what the culture says we should do without apology is so freeing (the shower thing, for example!)
Keep on doing what you are doing!! I am so proud of you! 🥰
Excellent advice I can relate to most of it except living in a hot climate I need to definitely shower every day. I have stopped watching the news & unsubscribed from Netflix. I have learnt to say no (at 64 yrs) & wish I had been your age with your wisdom. Your hair is lovely! 😍 So happy you have learnt to accept what you can & cannot do & your body shape (which is lovely) - that’s an amazing achievement ❤ lol ❤ Have a good week ahead 🙏💝