My Plan to Overcome Body Dysmorphia/Change Blindness After Extreme Weight Loss | Half of Carla
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- My Plan to Overcome Body Dysmorphia/Change Blindness After Extreme Weight Loss | Half of Carla
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I've been chatting to you about body dysmorphia I've been experiencing since I reached my goal weight again a few weeks ago and in this video I chat you through Body Dysmorphia/Change Blindness. I talk about my realisation as to why I was feeling like this and my plan to overcome.
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I’ve never known anyone that ever lost “big” weight like I have. When I listen to you I feel a kindred spirit. I was exactly like you at my heaviest weight. I didn’t even believe photographs were accurate. I always felt I was smaller than that. I also never looked at anything in the mirror except my face for brushing my teeth & makeup. On the flip side, just like you, I didn’t believe people telling me I looked thinner. Even at -50 or -60. These people all knew I had lost this weight & I felt they were just being kind. I honestly couldn’t see it. I’m 6’0” tall so I know I have to lose more than average people to show a visual difference. I think I was at -80 before I truly felt I looked thinner. Even now at -98 I’m surprised when people I haven’t seen for ages seem so shocked at my appearance & so happy for me. It honestly brings tears to my eyes because the difference must actually be real! I’m so happy I found you. You explain how you feel about this journey in ways I can’t. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing Lynne xx
When you love your body you are loving all the women who have come before you. Instead of saying I hate my legs because there not as long or toned as someone else's, I say I love my legs because they are strong and they look like my grandma's and she was awesome. Or if I'm feeling like I don't like my tummy and It looks like my mom's, I'll say to myself what would I say to my mom if she was complaining about it the way I am. Loving is an act of healing.
Brilliant video! I plan to combat change blindness by taking a photo weekly when I weigh myself. I am not too fussed about my current actual weight, it is on its way to reducing because I am taking steps, but I am subject to not seeing my body silhouette for what it really is. Ironically, I have tended to see myself as thinner than I really am so it can take an objective snapshot for me to take in the truth which might be why I have stayed heavier for longer than I needed to. But objective info is really important for taking off the blinders to change. I am excited to embrace change in the direction of getting fitter.
Such a good idea Andrea and it will really help you. I was the same thinking I was smaller than I was xx
As someone who has 200+ pounds to lose, this information is SO valuable. Thank you for talking about this. 🙏🏼
Since a very young age I thought I was fat. I remember as young as 7 years old hating taking pictures because I believed I was fat and ugly. I look back at those pictures now and a see a very normal not at all fat child standing next to her "tiny" younger sister. My sister was very petite. People would comment on how small she was which in turn made my child mind think that I must be huge! The comments made about my sister where never intentionally meant to make me feel negative about myself or to hurt me, but from early on I began to compare myself to everyone around me, always coming up deficient. This constant/daily negative inner voice sent me on a path of destructive body dysmorphia and shame my entire life
.I became what I told myself I was. Now, at 53 I yearn to find that inner normal sized girl, to be her, to console her, to tell her she is worthy of love and respect, and to be the person I was intended to be. 🎸❤️
A video with your sister would be so cool and interesting! 🙂
It’s coming xx
I have fallen down the rabbit hole binging your videos! Every one speaks to me more and more! "Not today, Satan!" - I felt that when you talked about the negative thoughts and self talk that comes to sabotage our progress and motivation. Your videos showed me that the missing piece of my weight loss journey was the mental part. I knew the basics. Every diet is the same. Calorie deficit and some movement. But my mind was holding me back for a myriad of reasons that I am working through. Every day that I put in the work to correct the self-sabotaging thoughts that lead to destructive behavior makes it easier to follow the basic weight loss plan that works no matter how it's packaged. I have almost the same amount of weight to lose as you did to reach my GREAT physical self and I'm going for it 100%!
I too suffered from the body blindness and could not see how large I really was. I avoided mirrors, cameras and people as much as possible. I did not want any feedback of reality. I did this subconsciously, but now I realize that's what I was doing - avoiding the truth. When I face it I was horrified - not with how I looked but by how much I has abused myself and mistreated myself. The behavior horrified me because I would not allow anyone I loved to abuse themselves in that way.... yet I did it to myself. So that spoke volumes of the love I felt for myself and that had to change. Thank God is it changing and I am seeing the results in my physical body. Once I reach my goal of half my size I'll be back to let you know!!
Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world!!
I haven't started actually losing weight yet...this time, anyway. These tips are great! I feel thinner than I am, so when I see photos or video of myself it's like a punch in the gut. I was the tallest, skinniest kid all through grade school. The guys started catching up in middle school. I didn't start gaining weight until college. So it's a double shock to see myself this way when mentally I still feel like that gangly, awkward kid. Thank you for being so honest about your journey. You are a true inspiration for me, you give me hope that maybe I can actually get there too.
It's funny but I have the same thing. I think I am smaller than I actually am in reality. I hate looking at myself in mirror and photos and have such bad negative self talk. I definitely need help with this. You are an inspiration Carla. Thanks for sharing.
🎸thanks for caring enough to share these things that only someone who‘s been there can know. You have a gift for being articulate and succinct, Carla. I know my time listening to you won‘t be wasted.
That’s one of the loveliest comments, thank you Julie x
Thank you for this, Carla. I’ve been really struggling with change blindness and also getting a bit triggered by people commenting on my weight loss. I know that they mean well, but my brain freaks out anyway. It’s a big adjustment. You’ve given me a lot to think about. Thanks again. ❤️🎸❤️
I’m with you and overcoming those same issues!
Yes! I went to my class reunion SO happy that I had lost 14 pounds…until we got the photos back! Oh! My! I thought I was so “thin”!! The photos showed me in need of 60 pounds more to go! I had no idea how fat I really was! Now that I am at goal weight, I don’t know what I look like! I have been this way now for almost 3 years but I still pick up the “teeny tiny shorts” and think they won’t fit-when I just took them out of the dryer! My own clothes! One wise thing we did (hubby also lost 60 lbs) was to buy interim clothing from the thrift store and other low-priced places! I went from a size XL (because I refused to buy anything that said 18 or 20 or 22!) down to a Medium or 8-10. I LOVE getting dressed now! (That was one of my goals when I started.) I am afraid that I LOOK at myself a LOT! I try to get people to take photos so I can SEE what I look like now. I never want to go back! But not knowing what you really look like is such a big part of this process!
Self sabotage for sure! Bad day? Have a snack or 2 or 3. It took a long time for my head to stop saying "I deserve this treat" to asking myself - what do you REALLY want? I have been overweight since my 30s and I am TIRED of it. I want to enjoy life while I can. -22 pounds so far and a long way to go (60 more pounds) but small goals and positive self talk will get me there. I don't want to go another year thinking maybe next year I will get healthy or get in shape or fit into cute clothes. 🎸🎸❤️❤️❤️
You keep going Kim and you will get there!! I know it seems like a mammoth task but breaking it down is the best way to approach it x
You can do it Kim! I put on weight in my early 30s. I carried it around until 49. I feel so much better. It's definitely worth it!
Thank you for this content. I’m in the process of making the decision to loose weight and I have begun to immerse myself in the mindset so that I will be all in. One of my fears is how to handle it when I reach goal. Last time I reached goal, I was nervous and never got comfortable with my new shape and living in the smaller body. Thank you for talking so candidly about this topic. This topic is much more important to maintenance than many realize. One must continue to work on themself in every area because the journey does not end with weight loss.
🎸 I just received some clothes that I've recently ordered and I really can see how my mind is not catching up to my weight loss, because the stuff I was afraid wouldn't fit fits ok and the stuff where I bought my usual size is too big. I still have a long way to go with my weight loss/fitness journey, but it's quite nice to see how far I've come.
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The phrase "change blindness" was new to me. So much good information; thank you! 🎸
My pleasure Libby x
18:00 This just blew my mind! I instinctively kind of noticed this fact as I’ve lost weight, but couldn’t put my finger on it. My body looks the same, just smaller!
Such EXCELLENT ideas! Thank you!
Thank you very much Carla💗💗💗
Carla, thank you for sharing, very worthwhile
Very inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing!
🎸 I think an important thing to remember too is that even if that size 10 pair of jeans doesn’t fit, it doesn’t necessarily mean you haven’t made progress. As we all know, women’s clothing is stupid.
I was trying on pants the other day and I fit into a size 16 for the first time since probably high school. I was excited about it but even though they buttoned and zipped up they were still quite tight and uncomfortable and gave me a massive muffin top. They didn’t have an 18 in that style, but they did have an 18 in a similar one so I grabbed them and tried them on. They fit the exact same as the 16 in the other style so I had to get a size 20 in that one lol.
But I just told myself hey, I’ve taken my measurements and I KNOW I’ve made huge progress. And I didn’t let it deter me when even just a year ago, I probably would have spiralled from it. It was the least stressful time I’ve ever had trying on clothes so I had to give myself a huge pat on the back about it.
TLDR; the size of the pants/shirt/dress is not the be all end all
Excellent. Beginning my journey again. Love your videos and way you explain all
I love your videos they keep me checking In with myself! Love how u talk about all the things road blocks etc...
Wow thank you for this video. I have somewhat of an opposite problem where growing up I always felt so “big”. I felt like all the others girls in my class were skinnier than me (and they probably were just not as much as I thought.) I constantly thought if I lost weight I would be happier. Then I lost weight and I didn’t realize until my friend pointed it out. But I still didn’t feel small unless I took pictures/ videos I looked skinny in. Now that I’ve gained weight I actually look like what I used to think I looked like. When I look back I can’t believe how skinny I was without really realizing it! When I looked skinnier in a picture I just thought that I was good at posing. So now I also can’t trust myself. What if I’m not that big I’m just making it up in my head? What if I’m actually really big but I’m being delusional. I have so much more love for my body so it’s weird being my heaviest but also being happy with my body. It’s so weird looking in the mirror not knowing what you are. What also helped me is realizing fat is not a feeling. The feeling is fear (of being unattractive), insecurity, etc.
I will definitely use the tips in your video!
I love your videos. I am in a similar place and it helps so much to hear these things and to know someone else understands
You have no idea how much this video has resonated with me Carla. Saving this to a playlist so I can hear your wise, gentle words when I need them. Really need to push out of the familiar, comfortable yet horrifically repetitive and draining "normal" which I have fallen into. Thank you 💕💫 xx
thank you for your thoughts. I really enjoy this type of content 🎸
Thank you, this is inspiring for me on my weight loss journey, now❤
My story was so different, when i weighed 8 atone, I always looked in the mirror, but saw sby so diferent. It is all so confusing, but I get it. Now being so much bigger, but losing a kilo a week.
I got rid of my whole wardrobe, size 36 and 38. Because I feel like that was a different me.❤
Your perceptive and compassionate approach to these issues is inspiring. I've been up and down in my weight for ever it seems but have never been satisfied with how I look. And when I did lose, I always gained it back again. Even today I am still shocked when I see myself in a photo because I see myself (internally) as smaller than I really am. From listening to you I understand there is a disconnect here, and I've never thought of it in this way. Your suggestions are incredibly helpful - to take a photo of myself once a week, and to change my style. To pull these old unconscious patterns into the light of day is hard work. Your channel is helping me to begin to understand them. Thanks so much for all you do!
Brilliant!! Thank you for telling me the exact words to use when my self talk is ripping me and undermining me. I needed to hear those words. I have change blindness and never knew what to call it. It helps me to identify with words my actions. I will watch this video again! ❤️
This explains why in the past I have started loosing weight, but as I look in the mirror over the next few months I look bigger and bigger, even as I fit into smaller clothes.
Thank you! ❤️🎸🪴🙌
🎸 Great video! You continue to be such an inspiration! I’m into mental health so I’m glad to hear your perspective and that you understand how weight loss has to do with mental health! Thanks for such great content! 😁
I ve just started watching your videos and youare very easy to listen to. You ve done absolutely brilliant. I had actually lost 91 pounds about 10 years ago, unfortunately its crept back on again . Hopefully wathing these talks will motivate me to start once again. Great video x
You're a Healer Carla! Your life purpose is to help others with your experience...The way you describe and explain your wisdom and awareness is very grounded and compassionate. That is not an attribute that all are blessed with. Thank you 🙂
🎸 Another amazing video, thank you Carla. I can kind of relate to the change blindness after losing 60 lbs. so far. Sometimes it doesn't seem real, or that it didn't really happen. I appreciate all your tips on how to overcome it. I will definitely start to implement them. 💕😁 Also, I love the new background!!
So much info in this video! I hate pics of me- I don’t think I’m that big and then I am mortified when I realize I really am. I’m on day 6 of my journey- I have to do this for my health and longevity. Thank you for all of this valuable information! 🎸 you are quite the inspiration
Hi Carla....u could have been literally speaking about me in this video, it has really helped me today...thank u x
Before and after pictures really can be inspirational to others and help them get going. It is difficult as for some it will be that they can see it can be achieved and spurs them on, for others they may feel its just not acheivable for them. So what do we do? I say share, its i.portant that tjose who have struggled can see it is possible, it is about finding your own route to health and starting the journey yourself, it will be about more than food. Sort the head and the food. My issue has been losing and gaining 4 stone repeatedly. Very few pictures. Currently slim but not feeling it going to work on that and booked for a tummy tuck later this year. Will still have the bingo wings but the flabby floppy scarred belly will be going.
Hi Carla this is so true. I too have had a weight battle all of my life. Thank you for sharing your story. Since watching the first video of yours back at the beginning of May I am now almost back down to my 2019 weight and 12 lbs away from my 147 lb target weight. During my recent weight loss I have believed the tape more frequently than the scales. I have also chucked some tatty non style worthy fat clothes out this am with many more going in the same direction J ❤️
🎸Thank you Carla!! Another video that spoke straight to my heart. Watching before and after's has been so powerful for me to convince myself that despite previous setbacks, this really and truly is possibly for me. I 100% agree! A huge part of the times when I gained all the weight back (plus) was when I was completely disconnected from how I actually looked and what changes were happening. This is the first time I have measured and bought a full length mirror. Massages are my new obsession....really helps so much!
Great video! I especially like the reminder that your form remains the same plus or minus the volume. 🎸
You make such honest and helpful videos, Carla. Makes a big difference ❤
Thank you so much, what did you find really helped so I know in the future xx
The background looks nice. There is some type of clicking or tapping noise in the background that is a bit distracting. My husband and I feel so much closer when we hug now that we have lost a combined 115 pounds. I can’t believe how big I used to be. I was “ blind” to it.
I realised it was my chair 😂 I've switched it for the next video 😘
Really cool video!
🎸 Thank you Carla. I just finished revisiting the changes in my measurements from the start half way and now. I'm also looking for confirmation in my brain, I wore something the other day which I thought made me look fat. My mom always pointed out things that made me look fat (God rest her soul) she meant well. Anyway I decided not to wear that again. I don't need that trigger happening in my brain. I love your videos keep up the good and very much needed efforts you make to help us. Love you ps I started to learn the guitar at 33, I'm now 70 and play and sing every week at church. One of the other best things I ever did in my life.
Love the new backdrop x
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This is so interesting, I did have body dysmorphia when i was slim. Changed blindness is an interesting concept. I understand as i sometimes look at myself and feel slimmer, but then in other mirrors I see sth different.
Love that gold dress. ❤❤❤
Great video needed to see this today thank you🎸
My pleasure Sarahjane x
When I had lost a noticeable amount of weight in the past, I had a really hard time liking how I looked because it reminded me of a time I had lost a lot of weight from being sick. Even though there was literally a 40lb difference and that time I had lost weight in a good way, it was still scary to see myself “skinnier”. It’s been something I’m scared of dealing with again. This video helps knowing other people kinda struggle to see their body for what it is. Thank you ❤
Your channel means so much to me ❤️ 💙 💜
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Always inspiring 🎸
Thank you again, Carla! I’m literally crying tears of gratitude right now. 💖Perfect video & timing!!!
Sending you love Nikki xx
🎸 I love this chat and resonate with you ❤️
Love th background;!! Thank you for the video
🎸 this is so helpful, thank you!
Working my way through these videos, can relate to your thing about seeing yourself as smaller than you actually were, (esp the idea of 'facetuning', that's such a good way of putting it) 🎸
The "changing your style" tip is a brilliant idea. Thanks for another great video!
My pleasure Sui x
Thank you for this video! When I was younger I was anorexic and bulimic. I also struggled with dysmorfia. Now I'm on a journey to lose 170lbs. I'm struggling, but your videos help immensely.
Wow. The info on change blindness and the strategies to stop the self-sabotage were so helpful. Bless you. 🎸
Thank you Cynthia xx
Wow, Carla! this is wonderful. You are really helping people with your honest thorough videos. Few talk about what you do. what a great service to others. Thank you so much!
That’s so lovely thank you Joan xx
🎸 great tips as always! I’m 5lbs down in my journey to lose 100lbs.. these will really help. I def have the change blindness you mentioned where you think you’re smaller in your head.. weird!!
It’s an odd one isn’t it Marianne xx
So many awesome things to remember in this video. Thank youf so much for articulating so many thoughts, theories, lies, assumptions bouncing around in my mind for decades. I'm going to fiercely be working on changing every one of them. Thank you!
It's my pleasure, thank you for the feedback x
Carla, thank you very worthwhile video
My pleasure Cathie x
🎸 I relate to everything you said, well, except for the end result after losing weight. I'm still in the losing weight phase. Thank you for being so upfront and relatable. I've switched to a whole-foods plant-based diet (essentially vegan) and I"ve noticed great results in less than two months. I have lost some weight, but my blood work results are really showing improvement, even without exercise. Hopefully I can add exercise soon! (I have a foot injury that is preventing me at this time.)
🎸 I love watching your videos! You’re not all fake and cliché! Please don’t change that authenticity you’re so enjoyable and relatable to watch!
I'll just keep being me. Took me years to find me and I won't be changing now. So thank you so much, it means so much when people comment, thank you xx
🎸 thank you. You are very self-aware!! You keep me hopeful
That’s why I make this content Mel thank you so much xx
🎸 Thanks Carla!!!
I just found you in the past week and love listening to you! 🎸 I have lost and gained many pounds ever since I was a teenager but I took my most successful weight loss journey 10 years ago. Your vlogs help me remain healthy and fit as a 75 year old woman. Your success is amazing!! Your messages about how we feel and think about ourselves really make a huge difference as we choose how we eat and how we stay physically active. Many thanks for the inspiration ❤
Thank you Judy xx
I "found" you through your ALT style video as I'm trying to find my new style in the middle of my weight loss journey. I needed this video so much. I was in a total panic shopping the other day, holding up clothes having no idea what something that would fit my body would look like in stores where I hadn't been able to fit into their size ranges in years. I feel like I "should" just be happy to be losing weight. I'm so glad that you're discussing the mental/emotional challenges on your channel.
Thank you so much. That middle bit is such a bitch and it can be incredibly overwhelming but you got this xx
I am practicing standing up straight. I notice that I tried to hide by slouching. Now, I am changing my (posture) style. My thinner healthier self has better posture. It is risky feeling since I am not hiding, but I feel regal and aligned.
I resonate with this so much, I used to shrink myself to appear smaller, something I actively had to work on in therapy x
this is a huge change for me also!
🎸 Thank you for sharing. I am also on a weight loss journey. I find that taking the daily walk is easier and less painful on my back as I loose weight. I just have to make sure I take time to stretch before and after.
Great video Carla 🖤🎸
I have experienced body dysmorphia and it’s a demon I have to constantly keep in check. I’m covered in cellulite and need to lose 10kg, I’ve joined a gym and started weighing myself. 20 years ago I lost 4 stone on an air walker, air walkers are great cause there’s no pressure on your joints, but it has left me with excess skin, the works. We have to love ourselves, whatever our body is like. I give myself compliments daily and it really helps.🎸🖤❤️
🎸 Love the new background (but a few times someone was quietly talking in the background and it was distracting). SO helpful. I also avoided pics and thought I was thinner before I started, so I get it. Loved your tips and tricks which I will add to my daily life. And THANK YOU for addressing self sabotage! Bingo. As soon as I'd lost 20 lbs and was near a big WL goal for me, I freaked out and gained 3 1/2 lbs in one week. I figured out what was happening, have now lost that weight (and another pound), so back on track, but watching my behaviours. But thank you. And re: style - yep, was only buying clothes that fit and looked at least ok. I'm waiting to buy new clothes, but what I'm looking at and wanting to buy is totally different! Bit by bit... You rock Carla. 😎🎸
Thanks so much Laura! Vincent had a meeting in the next room halfway through my filming. That self sabotage is such a beast! Cx
Love the new background!
Thanks Robin xx
🎸 thank you !!
🎸 thanks for this, very helpful.
🎸 I’m now the same weight as you but we’re a completely different shape (and age of course!) It has taken me a lot of trips back to exchange clothes which were too big before I realised my actual size. I now try on clothes in the shop before I buy them.
You were the first person who acknowledged the sudden, massive change that happens when we reach our goal weight, it’s been a weird journey of discovery x
Isn’t it just Kerry it’s a weird one all right!
Love this video. I have only lost 33 so far but I do find myself doing the feeling everywhere method to see that it’s different because the mirror lies to me.
Thank you ❤
I 100% get this! I still feel at times I look 150lbs heavier. I'm still shocked when I see myself in clothes now...or pictures...my brain has been hard-wired to live with 20 years of obesity that I can't seem to fully accept the new me. It's very frustrating most days. I have people SHOCKED when they see they have seen me in some time, telling me how tiny I am and great I look and I just shrug it off with the mindset that I'm still fat/overweight...150lbs heavier...even though I can see the difference my brain doesn't want to accept my new reality...very frustrating.
🎸 thanks Carla 😊 x
@Carla these topics are so relevant and resonant and I really appreciate your sharing! Like you, I have had a long-standing tendency to think I don’t “look” as overweight as I’ve been (and for me that was also tied to a bias against superficial appearance preoccupation and for healthy living instead). In the course of my life, I would lose ten to twenty pounds and then-even though I felt basically the same-others would comment. I imagine the attention was well intended, but it was usually at that point that I’d get most derailed because I would end up feeling very self conscious.
Reconciling my tendency of change blindness, as well as my sensitivity to unsolicited feedback from others, is definitely part of what I’m working through and I’m happy to be at a place to now prioritize my focus on physical health and well-being over all the other ups and downs.
You are such an inspiration. As I intentionally exercise and also increase my daily activity and movement overall, I often think of your encouragement on your walking video. Thank you.
On the loose skin issue, I had lost 34 lbs last summer and suddenly panicked about the possibility of getting loose skin. This also came at a time that I got unsolicited feedback from someone I know well which seemed hurtful. So I stopped all that was working and now a year later (most of my weight loss maintained), I am back on track to get to my ideal weight (about 60 lbs to go). This has been a very solo journey for me and I’m grateful to find RUclipsrs like you sharing insights and support so I feel less alone and overwhelmed by it all. Thank you, again 🙏
Oh Sandy thank you for sharing so much! I totally understand the unsolicited feedback and comments on your appearance. It can also make us feel more exposed with less fat to act as a barrier. I wish you all the best with your journey cx
@@HalfofCarla exactly! For years I would call my body fat a “protective layer” because it did feel like a kind of emotional and literal insulation. Obviously that is not the best approach and as I realized what I I had been saying, I stopped saying it and look for other ways to be safe in the world.
🎸Thanks so much for posting this! I think I mentioned on your video before this one that change blindness is something I struggle with now, and these tips will probably help. Like you said it takes time! Great idea with the actual measurements instead of the number on the scale & photos alone. I still have a long way to go, a very long way to lose the amount of weight I need to. But I break it down into smaller goals so that each step on the path feels like a victory. I just need to convince my eyes and mind that things are going well. (: Thanks again.
Wow what a difference
I obsess about so many things with my appearance...hair, face, loose skin, fat, you name it. It's exhausting.
🎸 🖤 ☕️ I like the new background!
Thanks Laura xx
Great video Carla..lovely background
Keep looking in those mirrors ..cause ur worth it .I couldn't do what u do ..it takes courage.. couldn't find guitar so il leave u a ⭐
Thank you so much Lynda cx
🎼Sorry I couldn’t find a guitar emoji. Another great video. I really related to the idea of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.
🎸 Excellent descriptions. I totally understand "the opposite thinking I'm smaller than I am" sometimes but other times I'm looking at myself seeing the rounded face and i say I don't recognize myself but I do other times lol all over the place. I was talking about this funnily enough to my husband earlier, that when I get to my goal I am going to see it I don't think I'll have a problem seeing myself thin lol I'm just so ready for it. I also thought about creating a vision board on pinterest of what my new style will be once I get to my goal weight, and then THIS video popped up in my feed today lol!! Crazy!
That's so funny! I think the universe presents you with positive direction when you're ready for it xx
Thank you so much for this video, Carla! It is incredibly helpful as I am on what's going to be my final weight loss journey (claiming this as fact!). I had what I believe to be Body Dysmorphia 21 years ago when I was in high school and lost 100 lbs fairly quickly. I have worries about that happening again, but when you mentioned change blindess, a term that's new to me, I for sure can relate to that now. This go around I have lost 98.4 in 8 months, and while all of my clothes are too big, I can technically get away with still wearing some of them, but feel so so frumpy because it all looks too long and makes me look bigger than I am. I have yet to try on new jeans because I am afraid the size I think I am now won't fit and I will get discouraged, BUT, the next time I am out I am going to make it a point to try on some new clothes to get my mind to catch up with how much smaller I am even though I don't always see it. So many great points you made in this video!
You deserve new clothes. If the size doesn’t match what you think, it’s OK. It’s just information and you can handle it. Good luck stepping out in a great new outfit. You got this!
@@barbiec4312 thanks so much! 🖤
Non-scale victory...No More Treggings! Love it!
Never again 😂😂😂
I bought a top recently and when I tried on my first size choice thankfully my gorgeous partner was with me at the time and he laughed (kindly) at how big it was on me and encouraged me to get a smaller size !
I thought he was mad but he was 100 % correct !
I love the multi hyphenated style description 😎
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You are incredible beautiful and helpful, thank you
Great video! Trying to figure out what that clicking sound is your cat? Lol
Haha no sorry it’s my chair! I won’t sit on that one again for filming!
@@HalfofCarla hahah oh no worries! I was just so curious…ADHD 🤦♀️
I dont know how to say this, but in my teenage years i was never heavy, like my bmi was around 19-20, but i had some bigger breasts for my age, + i had very chubby cheeks, when i looked in the mirror i always felt like i was super fat, this changed the way i look at my self and my eating habits, i always wore medium sized clothes (one to two sizes bigger that what i should wear), as the years passed i gained weight but my size didnt change, the way clothes looked on me changed but since i still wore the same size it didnt matter, i always avoided pictures, and when i look in the mirror i only look at my face, whenever someone takes a picture of me i think im ssuper heavy, now, I'm at my heaviest weight (bmi 30) and i just started wearing large sized clothes since my medium-sized dont fit anymore) when i look at pictures from my teenage years or early college i dont believe it, like i was this "thin"???? I always thought i was heavy, watchig your videos are helping me understand my self a little better and stoppig that cycle i was in for my entire life, appreciating my look and stopping those bad eating habits that i accumulated though out all of these years~~ 🥺🥺
i can relate to so much of this. I tend to perceive myself as slimmer than I am and it can be easy because i am tall. but then whem i see a picture of myself or am on camera i realize how overweight i still am.