How to Identify a Toxic Man | Stephanie Lyn Coaching
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- Опубликовано: 22 апр 2019
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A toxic man is simply a man that makes u ALWAYS want to take an advice from others on how to understand his words or behaviors
Absolutely!
Ooooooooooooooo this was good
Best ionic thanks dear..
Basically lmao
I always asked people around me why he treats me this way? Am I a bad person?
I have a rule. If I think, "WTF?" in an alarmed way three times, I'm out ☺️
ACS that’s a good rule 😜
True. Lmao
ACS haha
😂😂
😂 LMAO .... yasssss!!!!
How to identify a toxic man: 1. I'm attracted to him. End of list.
You just negatively affirmed it and that's why you've attracted it. Shift your paradigm and you'll attract the right people
lmao!!!
Yup🤔🙄
Me too
PREACH, GIRL! I HEAR U!
They should teach this in high school
Yep! But it's primary a matter of nature (genes) and nurture ...
They do. It's called feminist studies.
@@Trident-333 I think you missed the point here: it's not about feminism or manipulative men. "It takes two to tango" (2.59)
313_Det for sure, people spend all kinds of money on college to get good jobs and marry the wrong person, it’s a huge waste of time and life
It would get a lot of parents angry because the kids will start seeing it in their parents. From what I recall they had domestic abuse awareness and counseling.
toxic man always make something out of nothing then blame you for their drama, flip it and say you are the one dramatic.. then they will always say " you only see the bad in me" so you will come back again and be patient with them.
I’ll never settle again, I know everything I will not accept, and I am 100% fine alone!
Me too
Same here
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Amen! Me 2!
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If you’re not in a great place emotionally, have weak boundaries and don’t love yourself then a toxic man is likely going to be attracted to you.
True!!
If you are all these things you're not ready for a relationship
It’s really not about a lack of love for yourself that is a submissive way to look at it. Women aren’t trained to be aggressors and some men have taken advantage of that and that makes them have a lack of integrity for themselves since they should be held accountable for their actions instead of being rewarded. Women deserve to be coached from women straight out of the gate so they are in control and emotionally armed for manipulators that they will come across! Period!!!
Your instincts never lies indeed. Learn how to trust yourself more 🙏🏾
I came into my toaster
I’m trying to learn how to trust my gut feeling I’m always ignoring it like “maybe I’m being dramatic,just wait it out” then Bam! I was right all along lol
@@jennerrants5983 me too!
Good job describing the difference between a...
“Man Child”
and a “Man”
Wild Bird key word “ex” 👍
Wild Bird 😂 good one ☝🏻
The first point does not help with covert narcissists. In the beginning they are the perfect mate. Thenthey change, in your in too deep.
Absolutely… Narcissist is different than someone who is just toxic and unhealthy even though narcissist is toxic and unhealthy. The way that they go about hooking someone abusing someone and using specific tactics is different than just someone who is not good for you.
Vikki Pollard exactly
Ok night night
The moment I feel in my stomach...something off or this is weird. I am OUT! Learn this lesson the hard way too many times.
Intense attraction and butterflies in my stomach = a toxic man as the butterflies are a sure sign of common sense leaving my body 💯 🦋
😂💯🎯
Your comment that being stuck on a hamster wheel trying to figure out someone's behavior makes you more emotionally invested in the relationship and have a harder time leaving it, that was brilliant and super valuable for me to hear! A big thank you from a man that really enjoys your teaching!
Yeah bro it’s called Captain fix a ho
Obviously not a hetero sexual man.
I'm here because yesterday, I realized I'm dating a toxic man. I tried asking for clarity on some behaviours I was noticing and immediately was called crazy, told I was overreacting, that my emotions were all over the place etc. I even made sure to word it as carefully as I could, very civil and owned my own feelings and I was still belittled and invalidated. My heart is really broken because I was getting very emotionally invested in this relationship, but I know better now because of videos like these, support groups and therapy than to even allow a red flag to wave around in my life. It just sucks because I'm ready to date, but there's been nothing but extremely unhealthy men, seems like literally everywhere.. thanks for this video, I just needed reinforcement for my own feelings I'm going through now.
Hope you’re ok now
I was in a toxic relationship which was horrible hope I never go through that again I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy
Hoping and wishing aren’t the most effective skills to have in that situation
Stephanie you have helped me so much!...I was with a narrisstic for 12 years!...it took me years to be back to myself after i finally had the courage to leave him!...its just me and my son now....and i couldnt be happier!❤
Hearing you're happy now encourages me. Thank you.
In box me please
Same here
I’m so happy for you!
I've been manipulated most of my life it started during childhood. This video has taught me the signs to watch for so I can avoid a manipulative person. Its doesn't necessarily have to be from someone who you are dating it could be friends and family that do it to you too.
Narcissists know something is wrong with them. The last one I knew told me immediately he was damaged without specifying in what way. He knows. But doesn't try to change or care.
I'm noticing this with my bf
@@Gainzbysophie run
@@littlefairyfly I did I left him. Turns out I was right to.
Exactly! He would always say, “idk what’s wrong with me it is my weight, it is my depression, my adhd” it’s like just take responsibility it’s unbelievable Jesus. And I’m sitting here trying to fix the relationship. I broke up with him today and I can’t go back it’s too toxic and he doesn’t want to change and pretends like he doesn’t know how to.
If you only posted this 10 years ago... 😞
Right! You live and you learn.
I have a feeling alot of us didn't know toxic men (even toxic people in general regardless of gender, race, political view, religious view, sexual orientation, etc.) a pressing issue 10 years ago. A stark difference these days, as we've become so much aware now and are learning! Not only that, because I think toxicity is growing and in correlation, the awareness is following suit too with strong measure. And it's never too late to learn. That's all very much apart of growing and evolving in life and what ultimately determines the traits we want that are necessarily for our survival and the respect and understanding that comes with it.
BrotherTree1 I think I knew. I just wasn’t strong enough to not accept it. I endured 10 years of hell....
@@Dupilkac I'm sorry to hear that - I know it's difficult to endure the pain. Also equally glad that you're in a safer place now. Yeah, the funny thing is, we always do - that's our gut instinct. That's arguably our true essence, our spirit or soul if you will - it's communicating to our gut, that something is unsafe. But then what happens is that our brain gets curious and wants to confirm it... and so we find evidence to see if it confirms our gut feeling. Which isn't actually a bad thing because the brain is striving to learn which is great for knowledge. Sadly, we take a lot of pain during that process too, yet in a way it's good to know as the knowledge is necessarily for our survival. So in that regard, it's not really stupid or regretful at all. The pain is what's drawing us to believe it. And I know it's hard... like anything in life, it's all a process and yep, it's slow and painful and yet the journey is where the gold is, not necessarily the destination because that is susceptible to uncontrollable change. You've found this channel and it shows to me that you're taking a great step towards a healthy recovery!
19 years, in my case.
But it's never to late. Once you've got your eyes opened, you will not tolerate toxic behavior any longer. Than you Stephanie.
My toxic ex always spoke about his past relationships (which in itself was unhealthy) but he always blamed himself and I felt sorry for him. When he left me for someone else, he said that if he were me, he'd be happy for the person he loved. He was a selfish manipulator with low self esteem.
Everything else resonates.
Back on the dating scene after suffering from narcissistic abuse. Thank you so much Stephanie!!.. because of your amazing advice, now I have the tools to choose my next partner wisely.
I agree & know what u r saying & this well done video, i must be a slow learner or i know & need to respect & love my self but i still love, miss & want my ex after a year, he was a beautiful man with selfish traits...very confusing, if he had been a total asshole i guess i wouldve left but he wasnt, people say he had narcissistic traits, very confusing & mixed messages 😔
@@happythoughts505 no you are not a slow learner. We aren't taught this at home or in school, and the narcs are good at it. That's their job!
Master manipulators are good at acting as though they take responsibility for their actions and inactions from their past relationships. My ex is a con artist. He said nothing bad about his wife who he told me was an ex-girlfriend when we met. He spoke highly of her as he did about me to his girlfriend after me. So be careful and mindful and like Stephanie says to trust your instincts. My question was "if she was so great why are we here when you could have worked it out with her.? Soon after he started to agree with any statements that questioned her mental state and he did the very same to me with the girlfriend after me.
Trueeeee, when all of his ex gf were well crazy. run. But half truths and not bashing ex is super easy to believe. When there is logical aspects even there was even cheating (and u feel u don't want
to be too nozy about such thing,) like time, and arguments, hurt dealt. And probably after all mentioned above, the cheater ex gf is not generally a bad person. it's seems healthy go me, but it was a half truth among others. Manipulation.
Girl.
Sometimes they do that to cause triangulation and insecurity. If they keep it pretty generic, that's the best thing. To boast and gloat about an ex, something is terribly wrong. There's the "phantom ex" that avoidants and narcs use to create emotional distance.
Intelligent narcissists only learn how to better camouflage, so they can easier manipulate their victims, but they dont fix their actual problems which is emotiinal problems and low self esteem covered behind the big ego.
@michelle I do feel for you.Its very hard to transform such toxic people who thinks they can victimize any body.But the main point is that when they will lose their mental strength one day,they will highly regret that they are alone without any bright foundation with anyone.it will surely strike them when the universe leaves them for good.
I believe in asking him what he wants in a relationship first and let him answer before you answer back what you’re looking for. That way he doesn’t have a chance to mirror you. That’s the same for other questions that you really want a REAL answer from
I saw the 🚩 of him talking about his ex from day one... and I chose not to accept the red flag😩😩😩
I get that I used to talk about my ex negatively until I could see what I did wrong in the relationship but yes that is a red flag for sure
1). they own their part in past relationships - (look out for the person that says their X was crazy and caused the downfall of marriage or relationship etc without taking any responsibility )
2). Does this person know where their wounds are? Are they aware of their struggles/tough times etc (self awareness) are they healthy enough to work on themselves and heal
3). He/she’s not consistent on intentions - be careful of what you tolerate/allowing them to be flaky. Respect and communication!
4). Codependent? Needy? desperate? This is a dangerous place to be as you will naturally attract people with bad intentions- learning to love yourself is imperative!
Thank you so much for this video. I am in codependent recovery and truly have come so far. I have been physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abused for as long as I can remember. It's taken me years to own my identity and overcome my parents' toxic behavior that was beginning to show up in my own. I began being so submissive towards men and it hurt so much. I realized I had control over this, that this didn't have to be forever.
When you said the part about him saying “I’m not perfect” that resonated hard with me. I just got out of a relationship where rather than truly working on his toxic traits he would just acknowledge that “he knew he wasn’t right for how he acted” yet never did anything to truly better himself. I wish I would’ve followed my intuition from the very beginning and I could’ve avoided a lot of hurt
Me too, my ex’s favourite line, “I’m not perfect, no one is perfect”, with no attempt or interest to commit to any true change
update
He has never admitted fault, oh my God wow, exactly what I live with every day
Inconsistency and verbal abuse = pure living hell that I have thought there’s only one way out of many many times because I have been trapped. Couldn’t leave because I loved him but staying was making me want to die 😓
RidouteyCats how did you finally leave and stay gone?
Hopefully you left them.
Exactly. They make you want to die because you feel so worthless and like you’ll never be enough
Love doesn't make you wanna die. But, unfortunately lust does. Im sure we all can relate. You deserve the Best. And, you are Worthy. God Bless, Jesus Loves you!
Hope it's not out of place for a guy to totally agree. That list is now the bible. Yep, tried to fill a loss in my heart. Got narc slammed. Damn I should have given the loss more time respect. But your lost...and vulnerable. Live and learn or be damned to repeat. Happy spring Stephanie.
Brad McEwen yes it goes both way. Male and female narcs are much the same though not all narcs have exactly the same processes but almost. Ie they don’t all cheat for example but they are all controlling. Mine expected to date without expectations. He said this after me constantly getting upset at him flaking. I expected the basic levels of respect and it’s clear in hindsight he expected me to lower my standards by call them expectations, well I’m sorry but we should definitely have a level of expectations going into a relationship, dating us one thing but as it continues on the bar needs to be raised not lowered. He’s future fake that he saw us together for the next 20 years by telling a parable about a couple who were in a similar circumstance to us but then would not advance the relationship and then I was pushy for feeling frustrated at his hot n cold behaviour? Hmmm nope nope nope. I did nothing wrong except expect what a normal person would from a normal relationship and these were only the basics. God forbid we’d stayed together longer, our fights would be huge! Lol 5.5 months was enough oh and then he dated his “best friend” and made her his gf with zero excuses when I got excuses galore. He just does it to run it in your face. It’s all a big game to them. She’s very clearly naive and so gas lit by him now she’d never believe me if I told her he’s toxic.
@@Goldgirl1978 Unbeknownst to the person perceiving much time together as a unspoken bonding just isn't a mind set a predator is operating in. All the mainstream cultural standards are exploited. Without so much as a ounce of empathy or compassion. The next piece of supply is caught by the ever wondering eye & flirtation of a cycling mind of repetition with all the stages in each and every target. We were with someone we thought perhaps high intellect would provide logic and stability. It is amazing how, in my experience, the change to a seven year old could happen with Tourettes like speed. Then back once your skewered into submission. This is how they can be in places of power & percieved prestige. Behind closed doors only the primary gets the surprise rage, devaluing, demeaning & the castration of your decency. Mistakenly, patience & ample benifit of doubt needs reduced to no more passes given when some assaults your emotions. It's sick & deranged and won't stop from a person who gets off on your cognitive dissonance.
@@bradmcewen They attack your fear, and shame Brad, the intelligence we have they use because we have a higher tolerance and more thinking directions than, we should instead be plain loyal towards a true self and simply say No, but thanks and follow-up, we need to stop trying to outthink the simplicity of Narcissism, (why, they never emotionally developed) so why would you empower them with all the thoughts. Safe your time by simply exiting their reality. It brings back your inner peace and sanity.
Guys get narcs too. Our culture pushes the ideal: meet, fall head over heels, etc. Basically, allow your hormones to reign. Not the healthy means of establish yourself in your own strength, take time to get over previous 'ships that done sailed, get to know someone. Look at movies: the couple is jumpin' in bed almost right away. It's tough to reserve yourself; we all desire.
@Fae Well said. The illusion of conformity, implied social standards. A narc cures that thinking for sure.
“You’re teaching people how to treat you” YES. Boundaries are healthy and CRUCIAL to your health and well-being.
You hit the nail on the head at the end of the video. You teach all this stuff but at the end of the day, what really matters is how we use that information. Thank you
Wow. This is good. Now to stand firm on ending a toxic relationship. Over and over he is hostile angry and says he is going to make things better. It never changes. Just a broken record. I've made it clear I want nothing more to do with him. It's like he dont hear me. 5 years of tears hurt and betrayal and he's all about himself to this day. So much I could share. I would end up writing a book. Im just at the point were I am in now self repair and hoping for the love of god he leaves me alone. Everyday I get stronger and I've learned to not give in.
I wish I had known these things when I went on dates with people I met online in my 20's. Spot on.
Been subscribed since 5,000 subs & I’ll never unsub! You taught so many of us how to love ourselves & spot the abusive people in our lives, & that we are not just overreacting. So grateful for you!💕
Oh my god.. thank you so much for being here with me since the beginning! ❤️
Stephanie Lyn Coaching No problem! It was incredible to find you 😊!
As a young adult, I was never allowed to date, so I can't judge men very well! Thank you!
Thank you, Stephanie! I had always thought I was jealous because I was wrong and didn’t have any trust but it happened only with my last ex because he did things that made me question everything. He made me think I was crazy and a psycho stalker but now I don’t care. At least I found out what he was doing! I’ll never forgive him because I already forgave myself and that’s enough!
Your not a stalker. Someone can manipulate you and you'll look for reasons why do I feel this way.
Ivy Conner forgiving yourself is good, however, forgiving the one who hurt you is best and it is the key to total freedom. Because emotional wounds are like cancer, they can lie dormant for a long time and when you are wounded again (by someone else) or triggers of offenses come, that cancer (wound) can resurface or manifest itself again. "When someone hurts you, they take advantage of you, when you don't forgive them, they keep the advantage over you." Forgiveness is a key... forgive and set yourself FREE!" This is GOD'S way for us to be free and to set the perpetrator free as well.
I just realized im toxic which is why I attract toxic people , thanks for the video
You can change
Your not toxic. Pathology, family dysfunction and what we grew up experiencing as children we couldnt control. As you became older you may allowed toxic to continue in your life from dysfunctional cycles in your life, familiarity, relationships but unhealthy ones. That became part of your life. You have the choice to change that. That dosent have to be you anymore because you wasnt created as toxic. You were created as whole.
How can i know if im toxic person?
Always listen to your gut feeling that is your intuition that's your second brain, I wish I had listened to my intuition,had a covert narcissistic relationship,in didn't listen until it was too late,but I did a lot of research work found out the hard way,but I'm healing myself, take care of yourself and be blessed everyone.
I have been single for a while. I am male but a lot of these tips work for both men and women. I almost pitty any man/women trying to find the right person nowadays, it's like navigating a minefield. I have taken the time and energy that I would have spent in the bars or being on online dating, to pay off my debt, pay off my car, go back to school, and generally getting my life back in order after not having direction early in my life and not always making good choices about my future. I have learned to accept myself and other people, we are all different.
Thank u for this video. I was trying to search last night about toxic husbands and now I see this video this morning. I think it's a sign for me lol. I truly need to realize my husband is toxic. I'm done making excuses for him and his horrible behavior!
Good luck Meagan. I'm in the same boat.
Meagan Renee your not alone sweetie, trust me your a super star and it will hurt at first but know you are VERY worthy of the best life and a good man to make it better not worse, the main thing to remember is life is so short, one step at a time and know you don’t deserve to be so happy.
Thank you so much for guiding me! I truly know what self love is now. I am strong enough to walk away from a toxic relationship after 10 years! I stayed as I did have low self esteem thinking I would be nothing without him . I tried my best but we always ended up in vicious cycles. We could never solve issues in a normal manner. The signs that you mentioned were present for years. I am content and at peace now 🙏
Sigh. The dating pool keeps getting tight. 😯
On both sides
The older a person becomes the pool definitely gets smaller and smaller.
That’s what he said
This comment is from a gay man and just wanted to say thank you!!!!! Spot on and the key is to first love yourself, knowing your worth and value without depending on others to evaluate and depreciate. Have an amazing day and this video/message resonated.
Great point!
Ask a narcissist “what area in your life can you work to improve “ ... silence
Jon Smith my partner would say “if you stop nagging or hanging around or starting arguments, I’d be fine”. He often tells me “when you’re not around I’m completely fine”.
Well put!
My ex would tell me what he needs to work on but still seems narcissistic
I’m gonna try this on him.
😂😂😂
As a man, I can honestly say this was helpful. I hope you do one on how to identify toxic women too. I struggle with seeing the red flags because I want to believe people are generally good, yet I seem to attract "unhealthy" women.
As an LGBT men.
@@blackknightfool ???
This is an anti-heteronormative feminist women who not giving advice to help heterosexual people but hurt their relationships in favour of Homo normative relationships.
@@blackknightfool 🙄🤦🏻♂️
I’m curious how did these women take from you?!!!! Did you need a police report? Did they shove your head down? I am very interested and glad to know who these abusive women are as it is equality in knowing about bad people period!! Thanks for sharing Adam!! May you hold your boundaries and make it extremely apparent to these women they won’t be getting a thing from you as they lack integrity! Amen
This can be for guys too. The girl I was with was so toxin and manipulative.
How was she manipulative?
In what ways was she manipulative?
Chris but mostly men so
You are right!
Of course it does.. Its a relationship. Works both ways.
Great video again! I like that your videos are not about bashing men or women, it is just about people issues. And definitely useful in friendships as well.
I am so glad that I found your channel when I needed it most.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge & insight. I'm coming out of a nearly 4-year toxic, volatile relationship. I've learned so, so much from your videos & ive grown to love and respect myself- FINALY- & im 52 years old! You are a blessing to many.
Thank you so much for existing Stephanie and changing tons of lives!
Stephanie,
As usually this is a great teaching!! It really is free coaching/counseling. I appreciate all you care to share.
When a person puts up with disrespect no matter how small or subtle, that needs to be a big red flag!
Mutual respect, keeping your word, honesty and ownership are basic staples for any relationship to be healthy.
Hoping things will change with no proven track record is only wishful thinking and sets a person up for hurt & much disappointment.
Don't just listen to what a person says, but watch what they do.
I’m in my twenties and it took my late teens and early twenties to realize all of these. This is on point!
you're literally the best coach of the internet. so thankful for you
Me watching this video:
“YES! YESSSS YES!”
So Valuable thank u. This needs to go viral on Facebook:))
Thanks for sharing. The key is learning how to destroy the toxic man in his pursuit of you. Toxic men like attaching to women who know better...as if it feeds his ego to coerce someone with sense.
I am experiencing all of the above with the person I am with. He does it all. Thank you for this! I had second guessed myself thinking that maybe I was the toxic person. At this point... It is time to move on and discard this person.
Great video! This can apply to both men and women. I know from experience! The most important thing I believe, and as Stephanie mentioned, is loving yourself. If you can begin to do that you will be able to spot the red flags a lot sooner in to meeting someone and before getting too emotionally attached.
you pretty much described my ex (not just toxic but a convert narcissist too), "lucky" me! He was my first ever realtionship. Now, 4 moths later I cannot believe I allowed myself- in the first place- to endure, accept or even rationalize such behaviors. Now I know better, now I see my worth as woman and I'm building up my self-confidence, which I think was the reason why I accepted being part in such a relationship in the first place.
Finding this channel is the best thing that happened in my mental health progress
Great video!
I need this advice now. I broke up a month ago. I am healing now and not ready to date for a LONG time, but I am learning all that I can in the mean time!
You will be able to spot this easily when you are ready to get back out there. 👍
Great video Stephanie!!! I agree with you 100%. I don't want a toxic man as my friend either!!!! I seek frinedship and respect FIRST. If that cannot be achieved, GAME OVER!!!! When I see him/her working on self-improvement. NOW I CAN TAKE YOU SERIOUS. !!!!
You are the bomb 🔥 Stephanie, so right on. May we walk in wisdom. Thanks much. So hard when you are lonely, but have to disengage from a toxic person. God is my refuge.
Spot on!!! Love your videos. Thank you so much for what you do!!! Sooo much more I could say expressing my appreciation for you and what you do.. But I will just leave it at that, don't want to write an essay 😄! Much love to you ❤
Thanks Stephanie i really needed to hear this. Very clear and well explained very lovely and carefully broken down into simple parts. Great video and i feel very validated for my decisions in breaking away from this toxic relationship x
I love all this amazing information if i have to cancel watching any other video its fine. You've been helping so much i cant tell you all the things ive discovered from watching you. This is such an important career, and it has to be one of the most rewarding i know. Love that top btw💙
My narcissistic abusive ex constantly said, "I'm not perfect." not just that he knew he was imperfect and had a low self-esteem that he, upon confrontation, would not admit though, but the excuse "I'm not perfect." is just a manipulation tactic to get away with their crimes. Narcissists still walk on through life, pretending to be perfect. He was also good with the triangulation and my blamed jealousy on me. I had never been a jealous person in my life before I met him. He said the same about his former girlfriend (Who by the way died while she was with him! Go figure!) and said, "I cheated on her, because she was jealous, so if she accuses me to have an affair, I thought, I might as well do it." Not that he caused this jealousy in her like he did in me... ha!
another good one is "hey, we're only human here" although they, in fact, are actually not
@@sonias9722 Or "You can at least be civilized." LOL ... like he ever was!
You dodged a bullet 🙂
They do the jealousy thing because it's a form of control I think. They love controlling your emotions because your body follows your mind. Then they have total control over you. Sick.
I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist for a long time and your videos have been very helpful in my recovery. I love them all!
Love this video so much Steph. Thank you so much for all your time and efforts! You are awesome and I am going to use this as my “go to” video. Much love from London xxx
I love you thank you!!! So many of us needed to hear this myself included
Amazing job this is so important to have the relization of truth it helps you to grow in all aspects of life.
Thank you. Wish I could’ve seen this sooner... but, live and learn.
Gotta say as a guy, the ONE OBVIOUS thing all women should avoid is a guy who cannot hold down a job and pay for his own sh1t !! Why are we talking about "does he know what his wounds are" and all this other rubbish - girls, warning sign Number #1.... If a guy cant have structure in his life and hold down a regular job and pay for his own life, then don't even THINK of making out with him! And for gods sake dont have their kid and hook your star with a guy who then wont support your kid! Hard enough being a single mum, and even worse with another kid who pays nothing for their own off-spring
Thank you so much for this video. Your words are just gold !
Thank you!! You are a wealth of knowledge. I’m sharing this video to my pages.
Hey there Stephanie, intuitive man here. We also watch your beautiful video, thank you for putting them out! Very helpful, also I would like to say when I look in your eyes, I know you have been through a lot, your soul is that of a warrior. Never forget, you can make it through anything.
Great advice, teenagers should learn about it. I wish I had been taught it myself. Thank you.
17 here)
Hi I really enjoy your coaching. Thank you
Can you do a video on 1-how to recognize early and avoid emotionally unavailable men and 2- how to fix daddy issues from an emotionally unavailable dad.
Thanks much. Blessings
100% agree. Fantastic channel. Love your work. Thank you for sharing your perspective to expand awareness #Respect #Gratitude
my ex-fiance always talked about his ex-gf as she deserved that he cheated on her... I don't even know why I didn't noticed that red flag :(
No matter what else I disagree on, that is one thing that I cannot find a single justification for. There is simply no reason to cheat. Nothing justifies it. If you're having so much trouble with your partner that you want to be with anyone else, then you're fucking up as well. Just leave.
Now you know dear. That's a wake-up call. (I know) x
Very helpful, very informative
Thank you so much
Keep these videos coming
Love and light
Stephanie, I love the time you give and attention you pay to producing quality content. I love the lighting, set and especially the tone and speed of your voice. You explain it all so clearly and work hard to engage your viewers. Well Done!
Excellent! Thank you so very much!
Yes it so important to be able to identify these traits early on!
Thank you for your video!
I think it definitely takes TIME. Someone might fake personal responsibility in past relationships. Give it time to observe IF the obvious traits don't show themselves right away. ❤
I love your videos, keep uploading. Lots of love from India ❤️
Your video is so helpful to me. I just realized it’s not only the bad qualities in a man, but people in your life that have these qualities. It’s good to know about these qualities in a man. I wish I knew about this in my previous relationship. The signs were already there and I never realized this. Hindsight’s only 20/20 right?
Absolutely this can apply to women as well.
Be blessed and grateful when you still think logical and trust your guts
I love you so much, you helped me alote, i even download your vedios as mp4 and listen to it whenever i need...thanks...like seriously alote...
Hello Stephanie, your videos have been really helpful. Thank you.
Thank you Stephanie... I love your video's and watch them every time they come out. This one made me want to call my ex and say WATCH THIS YOU IDIOT!! But, ya he's narcissistic, we both are codependent. I was married to him for 20 years divorced 3 years but, dated him 2 out of the 3 years again with getting engaged only to find out he cheated again... But, ya I'm 100% done now. Healing from this though has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do.. I have 4 kids which 3 of them are still at home so, it's hard seeing him at all. And, trying to heal at the same time when he's still in ties with me for kids, finances, etc. I can't wait till I am no longer codependent & have any harsh feelings towards him.. I just can't wait for that day!! Thank you Stephanie for helping me so much healing from narcissistic abuse for over 20 years.. It is really, really hard to even cope sometimes still.
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I hate being a target for toxic men. Last guy I talked to ghosted me for no reason. That's ok he's too toxic for me. Too long to type it here. A question I have is, why do men talk about sex all the time? It's so immature.
I woke up this morning with the final decision...and this pops up! I hate trying to be in someone's life trying to be careful of what I will always say or do.. I don't like men who leaves you when you're at your worst...I'd rather be with someone who brings out the best in me and not someone who isn't willing to be crazy and have fun with me...geeeesh!
Same story here. I hate always having to be careful with what I have to say, too. No more.
i felt like hugging u ...thanx for ur words
I know a person like this .You are saying the truth . self centered people are everywhere.
You are saving people's lives
This is good material. Thanks for the tips.
Love your videos
🌟SPOT ON ! Thanks Shephanie 👏🌟