Exercises to get rid of social anxiety

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Комментарии • 130

  • @drali
    @drali  Год назад +23

    Full video: ruclips.net/video/K24CS0mA5Fs/видео.html

  • @jaytera
    @jaytera 2 года назад +696

    think ill just stay in my room but thanks for the advice

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +104

      Sometimes just staying in the room is enough of an exposure 👍🏽

    • @keifer7813
      @keifer7813 Год назад +111

      You'll grow old in regret if you don't face your fears now

    • @myslef7636
      @myslef7636 Год назад +18

      ​@@keifer7813 say to those who commited suicide

    • @1wayDrell
      @1wayDrell Год назад +34

      @@myslef7636cant tell anything to a dead person

    • @keifer7813
      @keifer7813 Год назад +32

      @@myslef7636 What a pointless comment

  • @yakk0salguero.r734
    @yakk0salguero.r734 Год назад +115

    I LITERALLY started crying as soon as u mentioned the imaginary situations..bcuz i imagined myself in such situation..

    • @Youtubeuser10873
      @Youtubeuser10873 Год назад +7

      Do it do it do it it works i swear just start with baby steps

    • @Youtubeuser10873
      @Youtubeuser10873 Год назад +3

      You don’t have to do exactly those

    • @Youtubeuser10873
      @Youtubeuser10873 Год назад +7

      But just things that make you uncomfortable to step out of comfort zone

  • @minashah9933
    @minashah9933 Год назад +217

    All of these will create embarrassing situations for myself that will get stored in my brain, replay on loop and keep me up at night :( how do I get past that hurdle

    • @MAX-de8fe
      @MAX-de8fe Год назад +19

      Just do it anyway. Eventually there'll be too many instances for your brain to ruminate on all of them. Eventually you'll learn that you aren't your anxiety/awkwardness. If you can create awkward situations as an exercise, they won't feel so daunting.

    • @RedAnimatez
      @RedAnimatez 8 месяцев назад +2

      Sorry I’m late, I’ll give you advice, but it’s kind of hard to since I’m struggling with this myself.
      I guess something to think about that kind of helps me is that, everyone will forget tommorow! You see, not very many people care because they are all self conscious too.
      Of course this doesn’t completely help it, since I’m still struggling with it a lot, but it does help quite a but

  • @BackToSquare1
    @BackToSquare1 Год назад +53

    Bro tellin us to become a menace 💀

  • @xcfitzx
    @xcfitzx Год назад +46

    The problem is that doing these things does not get to the root cause of why you are socially anxious in the first place. The reason why most people are socially anxious, is because they have low self-esteem. And all the exposure in the world isn’t going to change that. In fact, exposure can actually worsen the problem if the exposure doesn’t go well

    • @hyemuhyemu8221
      @hyemuhyemu8221 Год назад +7

      do something repeatedly many times and it becomes automatic and it stops bothering u, u stop caring. humans adapt. that's how morticians work on dead bodies. theyve seen it done it soo much its nothing to them

    • @prezian1312
      @prezian1312 Год назад +3

      @@hyemuhyemu8221I’m trying to stop caring I refuse to treat this as a condition or get pills to get rid of it went it to go out naturally.I’m 18 also so yeah don’t want this problem for ever.

    • @sassyarrow23
      @sassyarrow23 Год назад +5

      I communicate with most people everyday barely and when I return to home I start overthinking again communicating doesn't work for me idk what I should do to overcome my anxiety that's irritating

    • @groly2yeshua716
      @groly2yeshua716 11 месяцев назад +1

      ​​@@prezian1312am now 23 and I just couldn't shake off social anxiety until 6 months ago where I found out people around create anxiety intentionally in order to dominate if you don't have the knowledge of it happening you end up being the victim and they end up killing your will or drive and self esteem which causes social anxiety...I will share more if you find this helpful

    • @ranjeetshah1390
      @ranjeetshah1390 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@groly2yeshua716bro you are speaking facts ❤

  • @myAPIcjourney
    @myAPIcjourney Год назад +116

    Lol as i was listening to these suggestions i was thinking "😬 these sound like death sentences" then you said "if hearing any of these exercises are making you anxious..."
    I'm like 😲 you read my mind

    • @drali
      @drali  Год назад +7

      LOL…yup

  • @ThatOneChristianBoy
    @ThatOneChristianBoy Год назад +27

    I've tried all of these, and I breakdown into tears before, after, or during, and it makes everything worse.

    • @thatperson7902
      @thatperson7902 Год назад +8

      Maybe because you care so much about what people think of you

    • @Sir_Rat6225
      @Sir_Rat6225 Год назад +10

      @@thatperson7902 probably true, whenever i go out exposed to loads of ppl i always come back crying in my bedroom lol

    • @thatperson7902
      @thatperson7902 Год назад +6

      @@Sir_Rat6225 You should start by saying..."so what?" ...whenever you think about people's opinion of you you feel frustrated and then start crying so tell yourself what if they say this about me? "SO WHAT" What will happen? ..nothing..nothing will change..if you say this to yourself it will help you a lot

    • @thatperson7902
      @thatperson7902 Год назад +2

      @@Sir_Rat6225 I'm not good at English but I hope you got my idea.. Stop caring about people's opinion that's how you'll get over it

    • @pokipineapple5377
      @pokipineapple5377 Год назад +2

      ​@@thatperson7902if only that actually worked..

  • @ocdandanxiety
    @ocdandanxiety 2 года назад +19

    Love it! Exposure and Response Prevention is the way to go for sure! 🎉

  • @movies_or_smth
    @movies_or_smth Год назад +241

    “Hey andrewwww my man”
    - “huh..? This is Starbucks… and my name is Michael”
    “Oh oh my bad, meeshe”
    - “what meeshe isn’t even close to-“
    “Anyways, I have a survey”
    - “okay”
    “What do you think about people who give surveys? Yes or no?”
    - “what.”
    - “are you gonna order?”
    “Yeah I want a regular coffee, small.”
    - “alright, that I can do.”
    “Actually never mind I want a tea.”
    - “no problem…”
    “Ohhh my bad I don’t have enough money for this meesha or messhe or mesh”
    - “ITS MICHAEL.”
    “Okay mekaleisha, will u let me buy it anyway?”
    - “I have a job to keep here..”

  • @Roscoethecat
    @Roscoethecat Год назад +8

    I try to do one thing a day that I don't want to do and talk to someone every day that I don't want to (my job involves a lot of phone calls). It doesn't eliminate social anxiety but I think it makes me stronger.

  • @holdthephoneblocker
    @holdthephoneblocker 2 года назад +14

    I can't not think of Michael Scott when you mentioned to join an improv class 😂
    Great suggestions by the way.

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад

      LOL 😂

  • @tsheringlucyliachoeki5981
    @tsheringlucyliachoeki5981 11 месяцев назад +1

    Everything you said is making my heart beat faster just thinking about it 😅

  • @EtherealMarksman
    @EtherealMarksman Год назад +1

    All of them are making me anxious

  • @familiarstranger9617
    @familiarstranger9617 Год назад +4

    I want outside wearing white face paint to face my fear. I'm home now and I'm still terrified and a bit remorseful but I did it

  • @anniesoernym
    @anniesoernym 2 года назад +5

    The only one that did not trigger much anxiety for me is the improv class one - perhaps because that would be in a rather safe space as there are no wrong answers in improv, so long as you adhere to the principle of "Yes, and..."
    (I still have a feeling I would screw it up 🙄😵‍💫🙈)

  • @adamn4017
    @adamn4017 Год назад +3

    Me: feeling anxious about clicking on this video.

  • @sugoish9461
    @sugoish9461 Год назад +1

    Trying to be more active in a VR social game with a pretty kind community, and wow I am so anxious. But I'll keep trying, and I hope it can help lessen my anxiety...

    • @raftingorange6085
      @raftingorange6085 Год назад

      Good luck, supporting you from afar! ❤️❤️ We can improve 💪

  • @Directory1
    @Directory1 2 года назад +2

    Absolutely amazing thank you so much look forward to more.

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +1

      Longer version of this video will be posted tomorrow 🙌🏽

  • @hyemuhyemu8221
    @hyemuhyemu8221 Год назад +1

    omg this makes sense! ill try some! I get alot of people who look at me, stare. having someone look at me like that makes me feel uneasy. Especially those that stare into my eyes and smile. makes to want to run!

  • @ibisqo
    @ibisqo 2 года назад +5

    i didnt read the title and i was trying so hard to understand what he's talking about lmaoo

  • @louielaolong3874
    @louielaolong3874 8 месяцев назад

    This all made me anxious but I'mma do it anyway

  • @sonyaputri9589
    @sonyaputri9589 Год назад +2

    This... triggers a lot. I don't even want to think about it.

  • @Makenaessman
    @Makenaessman 2 года назад +2

    I feel like this is very helpful

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +1

      Thanks, the longer video will be out tomorrow and go into way more detail

  • @CgComic
    @CgComic 10 месяцев назад

    man imagining it all already makes me feel uneasy..

  • @ElemonAdventures
    @ElemonAdventures 8 месяцев назад

    Man, even thinking about doing these gives me a ton of anxiety. There’s no way I could handle it

  • @Chascoso
    @Chascoso Год назад

    funny you mention inprov class. I'm watching the office for the first time, and I had the thought that an improv class would probably a great idea for my anxiety.
    all the other situations you mentioned on this video sound hard af to do lmao

  • @stronger3381
    @stronger3381 Год назад

    I think it is not about making up situations like a fool but being real and facing your fear when you really need to do or want to do something
    Great advice tho!

  • @flymypg
    @flymypg 2 года назад +1

    I reacted to the improv class. Sign me up! (It's been on my bucket list for a while, along with taking an acting class.)

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +1

      It was always my favorite thing to integrate into my social anxiety group therapy! I’ll make another video about that in the future.

  • @harryjezreel1653
    @harryjezreel1653 Год назад +1

    Thanks for this👌

  • @xdrazormon454
    @xdrazormon454 Год назад +1

    I was feeling hated and rejected so much specially from crushes from too many rejections from women not wanting me romantically that I think I developed this phobia it’s so uncomfortable I don’t want to talk to people and I have so few friends because of it plus I kinda just learned to be enjoy being alone 😅

  • @lostindisorder
    @lostindisorder Год назад

    The situations where youre causing trouble for others, i couldnt. I get why we should challenge them, they might happen for real one day, but it feels like a big nope for me. I made my bed and i need to lie in it sort of feeling.

  • @twistedstyles
    @twistedstyles 11 месяцев назад

    This just made me even more anxious, going back to sleep

  • @Kent-xq9fu
    @Kent-xq9fu 11 месяцев назад

    Exposure therapy is not the way to true change. It will desensitize you but you’ll still have the core anxiety.

  • @Fallout_280
    @Fallout_280 Год назад

    I have been doing unintentionally that and it kinda works

  • @algirdasltu1389
    @algirdasltu1389 Год назад +1

    Idk abt other countries but where i live its weird asf to do that

  • @umrkhayam
    @umrkhayam Год назад +1

    This is literally all things I avoid instinctively

  • @Testchannel-xr4hx
    @Testchannel-xr4hx 6 месяцев назад

    But how do I do them when I physically can't get myself to do things that cause anxiety?

  • @nvnena
    @nvnena 9 месяцев назад

    i could never

  • @chillylilly3754
    @chillylilly3754 Год назад

    I sounds so scary and I really don’t want to do that but I want my social anxiety to go away so I guess I’ll give it a shot. Or at least I’ll try…

  • @WingsofWolfe
    @WingsofWolfe 10 месяцев назад

    I joined improv and still suffer from social anxiety

  • @xyzz2999
    @xyzz2999 11 месяцев назад

    Huhh
    I've already experienced it when I was kid
    One time i went to store with my cousin and i mistaken the calculation ( I'm bad at math tbh) and the cashier yelled at me and insulted me and said who's gonna pay the rest of money? Your father?
    And the second time i was in road trip with my family and stopped to buy some snacks and my mom sent me to buy, and i accidentally choose the wrong one and I was like sorry I don't want this and the shopkeeper got mad and said first u decide what you want and then come here

  • @sushmitachakraborty9345
    @sushmitachakraborty9345 Год назад +8

    People with anxiety can't do things you are refering to 😂😂

  • @mysticgreizz542
    @mysticgreizz542 2 года назад +2

    Doctor, I have constant anxiety about my school grades since I am in 10th grade. Is there anyway that I can help get around it? I feel that it’s leading to extreme stress.

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +1

      Maybe this video can give you some ideas?
      Managing stress - 10 steps in 90 seconds
      ruclips.net/video/PzZZJ-2YUvs/видео.html

    • @Jai_Kali_Ma
      @Jai_Kali_Ma Год назад

      Hi, did you have any previous event when someone was angry/unhappy with you with your performance at school? If yes that might have been causing this anxiety.
      For me listening to hypnosis for anxiety has worked. Like Michael sealy, Marisa peers on YT have great vids.

  • @moony2762
    @moony2762 5 месяцев назад

    I can do these things because I know it's for show but in reality I'm just afraid to talk to people ask questions eat or whatever
    If I look good someday and people are looking at me I want to die or avoid eye contact
    I don't know what to do I think I not good enough

  • @afghan_05
    @afghan_05 11 месяцев назад

    i love you!!

  • @Ilunaa.
    @Ilunaa. 8 месяцев назад

    I did door to door sales an no my social anxiety is still here , can hear is in my voice still so nervous. So I’m doing something wrong . I left recently bc of it 😢

  • @MrCoww
    @MrCoww 10 месяцев назад

    Just make a schedule and stick to it.

  • @raftingorange6085
    @raftingorange6085 Год назад +1

    How can I join an improv class online?

    • @drali
      @drali  Год назад

      Try slowing down the video playback.

  • @chrisgreen773
    @chrisgreen773 9 месяцев назад

    “Pretend like your buying a item and then run out the store”

  • @abdallahsaid9912
    @abdallahsaid9912 Год назад

    his settting u up

  • @tman7390
    @tman7390 Год назад +1

    Im getting scared just hearing this.

  • @jazminmejia7087
    @jazminmejia7087 Год назад +1

    Omg yeah no thanks ! Lol I got anxious just thinking about doing all those exercises

  • @anjabrecelj8789
    @anjabrecelj8789 Год назад

    what if im afraid that someone will laught at me. i just cant have represintations in school bc of my fear...
    what should i do?

  • @shreyachakraborty5410
    @shreyachakraborty5410 2 года назад

    if i approach someone who's unknown to me and if they do not react in a positive manner( laughs or does something else which will make me uncomfortable). In order to face my fear if I end up being publicly humiliated?

    • @drali
      @drali  2 года назад +2

      The goal isn’t to have a good experience but to learn how to experience rejection, evaluation, and embarrassment. Check out my full video on “explaining social anxiety” for more on that. I’ll also have a long version of this video up tomorrow.

  • @EzekielG68w
    @EzekielG68w 10 дней назад

    The end🤦🏻‍♂️😂

  • @aishwaryaroyyyy
    @aishwaryaroyyyy Год назад +1

    This gonna give me trauma I think😭

  • @RN-er7mz
    @RN-er7mz 2 года назад +1

    I have been living with social anxiety but not aware of the problem and always been a 🐀

    • @RN-er7mz
      @RN-er7mz 2 года назад

      @Mac Miller thank you for the details

  • @averageraviolienjoyer1884
    @averageraviolienjoyer1884 Год назад

    Being told to cross a tightrope across the Grand Canyon for 2 dollars

  • @onspot786
    @onspot786 Год назад

    ✍️👌Flexible ❤

  • @mamaYoli
    @mamaYoli 2 года назад

    Well I just realize I have social anxiety 😱because these are the least things I would do😅😅😅

  • @kunwarnoor
    @kunwarnoor Год назад

  • @dagorilla2758
    @dagorilla2758 Год назад +1

    I I tried the the coffee trick and let me tell you the guy cussed me out he uhm... brought my whole family tree into this and I had a pretty awful day... so yeah it does not work

  • @lemillion5980
    @lemillion5980 Год назад

    Its so hard😭

  • @krisb-travel
    @krisb-travel 7 месяцев назад

    Great now I’m banned from Starbucks for life!!!’

  • @andd124
    @andd124 Год назад

    I don't have social anxiety and i can't do some of these 😂

  • @sss__9091
    @sss__9091 Год назад

    0:02

  • @kaleemmuhammad8958
    @kaleemmuhammad8958 Год назад

    0:00

  • @rosstrue3010
    @rosstrue3010 Год назад

    How do I deal with my social anxiety? Join an improv class! Um…ok. And if I’m terrified of dogs should I jump in the ring at a dog fight?

  • @blops420
    @blops420 Год назад

    Hdhshshs they all make me anxious

  • @Star2pointO
    @Star2pointO 8 месяцев назад

    instead of doing all of those I’ll stuff them in my refrigerator and stay in my bed.

  • @user-gj4ve2we2s
    @user-gj4ve2we2s 10 месяцев назад

    Bro thinks I'm a demon

  • @Ilunaa.
    @Ilunaa. 8 месяцев назад

    😭😭😭

  • @Banzo_
    @Banzo_ 9 месяцев назад

    Me: "Oh i don't have enough money."
    Cashier grabs the item and places to the side. "Oh sorry man"
    Me: "Thanks anyway"
    Walks out door.
    Walks 20 blocks to next store to actually buy the item this time.
    Approaches cashier. Cashies swipes item.
    "That'll be $13"
    Hand them a "$20"
    Gives me change "6$ is your change"
    Hands me the money.
    I know the right change is $7 but i walk out the door cuz im a pu**y

  • @zack_LY
    @zack_LY Год назад

    Thanks but no thanks 🙂👍🏻
    U want me to live the nightmare in real life

  • @oliverfootball1
    @oliverfootball1 Год назад

    Worst advice ever

  • @Coffeepiend
    @Coffeepiend 10 месяцев назад

    This is some trash advice ngl

  • @kaleemmuhammad8958
    @kaleemmuhammad8958 Год назад

    0:00