No Freaking Speaking: 3 Techniques for Managing Speaking Anxiety

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  • Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024
  • We all experience nervousness when we speak. Learn 3 academically validated techniques for managing your speaking anxiety.
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  • @roughryder5
    @roughryder5 9 лет назад +446

    I like this guy. This stuff is gold. I have a 5 min presentation tomorrow, and then a 20min presentation next week. Wish me luck.

    • @SteveeSmith
      @SteveeSmith 8 лет назад +9

      how'd it go?

    • @roughryder5
      @roughryder5 8 лет назад +62

      Bombed the 5minute presentation pretty hard since I had no time to prepare but I aced the 20 minute one like a natural. Spent about 2 hours a day rehearsing for 5 days leading up to the presentation. I think I got a 98% on it.

    • @SteveeSmith
      @SteveeSmith 8 лет назад +16

      well done you. I've just been informed that I will have a 4minute presentation and a 20minute presentation in November. already shaking.

    • @roughryder5
      @roughryder5 8 лет назад +11

      SteveeSmith Trust me, rehearse a few hours every day until you practically memorize everything word for word.

    • @aibdraco01
      @aibdraco01 7 лет назад +6

      Have 5-6 min speech 2morrow. Already freaking out

  • @user-le1rr8ls1e
    @user-le1rr8ls1e 2 года назад +209

    Notes:
    Technique 1: Greet anxiety and acknowledge that it's normal and natural to be nervous
    Technique 2: Reframe as conversation, not a performance
    - by asking questions and polling
    - use conversational language
    Technique 3: be present-oriented
    - focus on the present but not the future
    - e.g. count down, tongue twister
    Thanks for the useful tips! I have learnt a lot from this video!

  • @syahirah4499
    @syahirah4499 Год назад +10

    1. asking questions beginning of the speech
    2. be present, less worry about the future (listen to music, count backwards)
    3. do tongue-twister
    4. use conversational language

  • @sibongiletasilaphiri7521
    @sibongiletasilaphiri7521 2 года назад +43

    3 key tips
    1. Greet the Fear
    2. Reframe the presentation to become conversation oriented
    3. Become present eg through walks, musik, tongue twisters, etc

  • @esrathe-first9316
    @esrathe-first9316 2 года назад +52

    7 years on from this video and I must say it is the best video I have watched. I'm a 40 year old autistic guy who has to speak tomorrow. I have been watching video after a video recently and this one is amazing. Thank you kindly 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 🙏🏽

    • @janelle-westsideblonde
      @janelle-westsideblonde 2 года назад +6

      How did it go?

    • @esrathe-first9316
      @esrathe-first9316 2 года назад +13

      @@janelle-westsideblonde I had to speak to two different groups and after the first one I realised that I coukd use what I found hard as a great ice breaker. I found it hard to say "employability practitioner apprenticeship". By starting off saying that I have practiced saying it hundreds of times and still find it hard to get it right. People try saying it and start smiling. It turns talking at people, to talking with people. After talking, people were coming up saying that it was hard to say, to many p's. I want to get good at public speaking and you can only get good at it, by doing it.
      Thank you kindly for asking. 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 👍🏽 🖖🏽

    • @misterrkaiser
      @misterrkaiser Год назад +1

      Took me three times to say it myself 😂

  • @gregsbrown85
    @gregsbrown85 2 года назад +38

    One other thing I would like to recommend is that there are apps in virtual reality that help you with giving speeches. The apps have you present in different scenarios and it feels real. There are games like Horizon in oculus that give you a chance to talk in front of live audiences too. Both instances feel very real and it's a good way to practice. Once you do it a lot of times, you become more comfortable and you can train your brain to focus on your the information you're presenting rather than thinking of a performance.

  • @konyvnyelv.
    @konyvnyelv. Год назад +11

    Seeing how people are afraid of public speaking makes me realize how lucky I am for not being interested in a career which involves it. I want to be archivist or librarian

  • @Divinii
    @Divinii 4 года назад +21

    4:16-4:37 *Wow! Mind blown! So speaking is very different from a musical performance. It's ok to make mistakes.*

  • @EricELT18
    @EricELT18 9 лет назад +25

    Framing the presentation as conversation certainly helps, and starting with questions makes this aspiration a reality. Thanks for sharing this practical, often overlooked tip.

  • @koninginbox2603
    @koninginbox2603 4 месяца назад +2

    5:40 is the best tip Ive heard - write down questions you think your audience might have - and pretend you are having a conversation in which you are answering those questions.

  • @julesmartin6972
    @julesmartin6972 Год назад +7

    Great techniques, definitely will try to think about it. In two days I will be presenting for 1.5 hours for 300 people since I will start teaching. Twice a week, for the coming 12 weeks.
    I'm curious how it will evolve.

  • @yum121234
    @yum121234 8 лет назад +28

    i have an interview tomorrow wish me luck, thanks for the tips :)

  • @ameii6887
    @ameii6887 Год назад +2

    I have a presentation in 2 days, and it’s my first time present a presentation, and kind of new world to me but what I found difficult is that breathing and talking at the same time. 😩
    Thank you for the tips.

  • @thatwickedsmahttraumachick
    @thatwickedsmahttraumachick 4 месяца назад

    I have to read my kid’s book on loss and grief to a crowd. Adults will be there. This video is better than the important parts of 5 years of videos. 👏

  • @frankc1702
    @frankc1702 Год назад +6

    ’ve developed severe anxiety when speaking not just to a group but one on one and it can be a spontaneous conversation in passing. This only happens in work settings. I feel like I can hear my blood flow, I’m trembling on the inside and I feel like I’m going to pass out. The last thing my anxiety does in help me focus. Most of these videos are geared towards public speaking to a group. This is not the case for me.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  Год назад +1

      I believe most of these techniques work for in person communication as well. Check out NoFreakingSpeaking.com for more.

  • @chocpuddingg
    @chocpuddingg 2 года назад +9

    This is long ago but wish me luck on my Student Council speech!

  • @xiangningsu5882
    @xiangningsu5882 3 года назад +1

    I love Abraham’ speech especially when I have a teaching presentation

  • @MarshallE1983
    @MarshallE1983 4 месяца назад +12

    Taking a deep breath actually does nothing

    • @carnivalgirl9281
      @carnivalgirl9281 3 месяца назад +4

      I agree to a certain extent. I think it does nothing when you have nothing in mind. Try doing this:
      Ask yourself “why am I taking this deep breath?” Answer : “to calm down so I can do (insert) well!”
      Visualize yourself actually calming down
      Visualize yourself giving that presentation
      Visualize acceptance
      And do all this while taking a deep breath.

    • @MarshallE1983
      @MarshallE1983 3 месяца назад +1

      @@carnivalgirl9281 that's basically kinda what I do

  • @nimeshkotadia6526
    @nimeshkotadia6526 4 года назад +8

    Are there any other techniques which you have not mentioned in this video? Three techniques mentioned are gold when it comes to doing something about anxiety.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  4 года назад +4

      Please check out my book Speaking Up without Freaking Out for 50 techniques to help.

  • @bernie5809
    @bernie5809 6 лет назад +3

    Matte is effective in any topic he discussed. Thanks much. You sure are a BIG help.

  • @KiereJafarou
    @KiereJafarou 5 месяцев назад

    One of the best videos l have watched about public speaking

  • @ferozarian9672
    @ferozarian9672 5 лет назад +6

    Thank you sir for the great guide, Is it possible to get that handout virtually ? highly appreciated.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  5 лет назад +2

      Please check out NoFreakingSpeaking.com for hand outs and material.

  • @jaehan3161
    @jaehan3161 Год назад +1

    Hi Matt, your video is great and it is the best video I've watched. Your sharing helps me think about public speaking differently. Thank you.

  • @JaquelineLopez-Cabrera
    @JaquelineLopez-Cabrera 4 месяца назад

    I think I feel better about doing my final speech tomorrow!

  • @lin-kaiwen
    @lin-kaiwen 9 лет назад +16

    I slit a sheet, a sheet I slit, and on that slitted sheet I sit. 9:36

  • @ramongeraci
    @ramongeraci 3 месяца назад

    Man giving a lecture without fear about giving a lecture without fear...how adequate is that...I should do that too...!

  • @aydataha6564
    @aydataha6564 4 года назад +29

    What worries me the most is that I get palpitations and tremors. That worries me cause it shows. At times I feel I will pass out. I'm in big trouble

    • @ansh201
      @ansh201 4 года назад +5

      I get that too and hate it

    • @pemayangzom629
      @pemayangzom629 3 года назад +3

      I completely understand this 😥

    • @aydataha6564
      @aydataha6564 3 года назад +4

      @@pemayangzom629 I started therapy and feel better

    • @pemayangzom629
      @pemayangzom629 3 года назад +6

      @@aydataha6564 I am happy for you. 😊 My therapy and therapists are youtubers...

    • @aydataha6564
      @aydataha6564 3 года назад +1

      @@pemayangzom629 thank you. I had to. Was getting totally out of control for me. But RUclips definately is helpful

  • @AshwiniKondalakadu
    @AshwiniKondalakadu 7 месяцев назад

    You are sooper good... Very effective speech 👏

  • @trendme5943
    @trendme5943 5 лет назад +7

    I need to take a training in public speaking please advise me

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  5 лет назад

      Please check out BoldEcho.com

    • @sun_sets_with_Natalia
      @sun_sets_with_Natalia Год назад +1

      Hi, @Trend Me. I would be really interested in learning more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.

  • @lucysmithe7916
    @lucysmithe7916 6 лет назад +10

    I have to give a speech in front of my whole school in two weeks and im freaking out

  • @SamAndrew27
    @SamAndrew27 2 года назад +2

    This is a great talk - thank you!

  • @shantalitoe
    @shantalitoe 2 месяца назад

    Thank you, Sir.

  • @eugert6
    @eugert6 5 месяцев назад

    Conversionational form, greeting fear and present oriented(tongue twisters)

  • @JordanMills-km5ej
    @JordanMills-km5ej 2 месяца назад

    This is an amason talk thank you

  • @faisalarghandiwal7508
    @faisalarghandiwal7508 3 года назад +3

    *keep up the good work*

  • @MatheusCoelho-i7i
    @MatheusCoelho-i7i 8 месяцев назад

    Awesome!!!

  • @sandyperez847
    @sandyperez847 7 лет назад +2

    alguien sabe donde puedo encontrar el video en español o subtitle...

  • @sarvinozizatullayeva8502
    @sarvinozizatullayeva8502 Год назад +1

    I came here because my professor shared the link

  • @loursvanthilai4034
    @loursvanthilai4034 9 лет назад +1

    thank you

  • @Fadednights730
    @Fadednights730 5 лет назад +3

    I slit a sheet, a sheet I slit, a gave a speech, when I give a speech I shit.

  • @8finiity
    @8finiity Год назад +6

    I have a 40 minute presentation Infront of 75 students... Wish me luck!

  • @adeeshaakalanka5777
    @adeeshaakalanka5777 Год назад +2

    I have to give a speech infront of a whole institutions and I never done that in my life. I don't know what to do. And my crush is there also. I don't know how to not give a f about that.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  Год назад +2

      Congrats on the opportunity! Please visit NoFreakingSpeaking.com for techniques to help.

  • @FlyenNun1
    @FlyenNun1 9 лет назад

    ty

  • @ShekofahAhmadi
    @ShekofahAhmadi Месяц назад +1

    Finger crossed

  • @smokinjoe4684
    @smokinjoe4684 2 года назад +1

    9:36

  • @ShekofahAhmadi
    @ShekofahAhmadi Месяц назад

    🤞

  • @Roger-hu4tk
    @Roger-hu4tk Год назад +1

    5% , other 15%...this guy is a math genius

  • @furleysbrain
    @furleysbrain Год назад +1

    Speaking at my sisters wedding tomorrow - IT IS NOT A PERFORMANCE!

  • @quealcomedy264
    @quealcomedy264 2 года назад

    @hashae unlimited

  • @samuelmarte5384
    @samuelmarte5384 2 месяца назад

    4:00