I'm ONLY going back.....if true Free Speech is allowed. I.e. No moderators, and you get a block button so YOU can personally handle your own crappy interactions online.
@@styledbyemilyxo6035 Why? I've deleted Instagram last year and I'm quite happier now because I'm not wasting that hour a day scrolling through the homepage. I've not got Twitter or Tik tok as well. (21 y.o. btw)
@@luca_salerno I'm 34 and I know women who have dated men within my age group with no social media. They were hiding being married and having a criminal past. For older people, especially professionals, it is a red flag to have NOTHING online.
I’ve only been told I’d be better looking if I was taller by one girl that I’d never date in a million years. Outside of online dating and TikTok it’s never been an issue for old school dating.
I had a couple turn me down because of my height. I told them they had daddy issues. One laughed and said I was right but she didn't care. You don't want to be with petty women like that.
@@sovietNIKOLAI1911 this is not the way, this is the same thing Courtney’s talking about, but in this case the guy is being shallow. This is just a viscous cycle.
I’m 5’5” and what I’ve learned is that most women will “overlook” a guy’s height if he checks all of the other boxes (dresses /grooms well, exercises, works, educated, funny, etc.) I’ve met girls that criticized my height before, but most aren’t like that.
I'm 5'5 I have tall women way taller than me like me & I drive a T 1000 Ford big truck I carry way heavy boxes . Some women like me some women don't I grow a beard I'm good 🙂💯.
Exactly 💯 if you don't make your height and issue ...she won't I've dated as tall as 5'11 . If you look good take care of yourself.show social value have game and a rep in bed height don't mean ish .if a girl likes you it won't matter your appearance
I’m 5’5 too and my height has never been an issue. It’s all about being confident in yourself. If you’re insecure about your height that will show. Having said that, short dudes need to get out there in the real world. Dating apps are mainly based on looks and height.
As a short king, THANK YOU. I'm so glad to see people advocating for us more lately, my whole life it's like I'm fighting an invisible struggle that everyone just thinks is a joke, I just wish more people would put themselves in someone's shoes who's constantly being told they're not good enough and that they're the embodiment of an "unattractive man" for something they could never change
Hopefully modern women will buy into the #shortking trend they are such fucking sheep that they will buy into anything that’s popular on social media. Just keep your head up man I am 5 ft 5 in and I totally understand you
The problem with "Icks" or "Red Flags" in general, is that most the time women dont say anything so as a guy you have no idea what you did wrong. Women should address these issues so the guy can choose to change or not.
I got a feeling that’s by design as well. I think women probably don’t want to discuss the “ick” in question because admitting how something makes you feel means taking a stance on the issue, establishing a position. Once you’ve done that you’ve opened yourself up to critique and rebuttal. And most people in this position don’t truly want to have to defend their emotional responses to any number of things. Because, most often they aren’t exactly rational or charitable. So in order to keep from being criticized and held to account, these “icks” takes on this zeitgeist-y life as secret checklists of things women like to read into or dislike that aren’t open to reasoned confrontation.
David, this is where having female friends and family come in handy. Such girls would be more willing to help give advice on what you may be doing wrong and what could be improved.
I'm still trying to figure out why women get mad at men when he says he won't date a woman if he feels she's overweight but it's okay for her not to date a man shorter than 6 ft. Women have the advantage being a bit over weight. She can lose that weight and when a man is short he's stuck with it and not much he can do about it.
well, you could try to date women who aren't taller than you. I have heard "horror stories" about women who were tall, and treated like trash by guys that they were dating, that were shorter than them.
What’s irritating is when even short women want to only date men that are 6 foot plus. It looks weird if say a woman who is 5’3 is with a guy who is 6’2 when it would look better for her to be with a guy who is just a few inches taller than her, say like 5’7 or 5’8.
@@ashome13 True. It looks like to me he's dating a little girl because he's like a foot taller than her. I believe more short women around 5'1 to 5'4 prefer men 6 ft plus. I don't really hear women 5'7 and taller want a really tall man, like a tall basketball player.
Interesting that Zendaya and Tom are able to make it more acceptable, but Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman or Katy Holmes couldn't. I'm 6 feet tall, so height discrimination hasn't been an issue for me, but it definitely exists, so I'm happy to see couples who don't make it an issue.
Tom was with Katy years ago and he was with Nicole DECADES ago. This height obsession really didn’t begin until a few years ago, like right when the pandemic started, so all that stuff with Tom was irrelevant. Besides, it’s Tom freaking Cruise, not Joe Schmo from Target.
@@jaxonwoods8181 I disagree. In my social circle, at least, I'd hear women bagging on even Tom Cruise for being too short. And that's been going on for decades, obviously
@@jaxonwoods8181 Nicole openly mocked him for his height. She had the gall to do that to Tom f*cking Cruise. Regular guys have it way worse. This isn't a new thing.
Just had dinner with a female friend yesterday and we talked about her (nonexistent) romantic life. She's slightly taller for a woman (5'6) but also overweight (170lbs). She complained about how there are no decent men out there across ALL of the dating apps she uses AND the church she goes to. I brought up a couple of people we both know and she said no for reasons such as: - "he's too short, he has to be taller than me at least" - "he's too old" - " he's too fat" Finally, she huffed and puffed and said "I only need them to be taller than me, around my age, and not overweight, is that too much to ask for?" By the way, women always tell me the same thing: "I really only care about X, I don't have many standards at all" Then when we actually go through their dating apps live, she makes every excuse under the sun to swipe left. What is going on lol. Sometimes I feel like modern women are looking for a mythical creature rather than a human being. Very glad to be out of this market right now.
Possible that she unconsciously feels as though she doesn’t deserve or want an intimate relationship for one reason or another. Sounds like classic self sabotaging behavior.
Also yesterday was another female friend's birthday. This one is also single (surprise) and she claimed that 99% of guys are out there just looking for hookups. The remaining 1% are either already married/in a relationship or are unintelligent. I asked her what her main criteria for a partner was. She said "I need to be able to have intellectual conversations with him" Ladies, you need to understand this. Men DO NOT look for a female partner to have "intellectual debates" with. In fact, that's the exact opposite of what the majority of men want. Men want to have a relaxed, peaceful, and affectionate time. In fact, most men I know wouldn't mind if there was no talking at all. Courtney clearly understands male nature so she has taken steps to maximize her femininity, which men appreciate. Examples include: - speaking slowly with a soothing, unaggressive voice - not getting aggressive and belligerent in the face of trolls or negative comments. Instead reacting with grace and poise without getting rattled I told my friend that if she had the same kind of peaceful, non-aggressive demeanor, she would easily find a man. Her appearance is definitely not the issue. Lots of women will be rebellious and in denial until the bitter end. Some people need to be right more than they need the truth.
@@CourtneyRyan I really wish you could coach some of these women on feminine and masculine dynamics. At the end of the day, people can act how they want and there's no problem with that. But lots of women out there actually WANT to be in a relationship and are confused as to why they can't find somebody. I can tell them the reasons all day, but they get defensive if it comes from a man. Anyways, thanks for the content!
@@TheRealK33N Yeah that's exactly how I'd describe it. Self sabotaging behavior. There is another guy she has been seeing a lot (in a platonic capacity) but he hasn't asked her out yet so she now thinks he has no interest and has given up. I asked.. "Uhh... why don't you just ask him out then?" She said she'd rather die than do that because she is extremely afraid of rejection. Can't believe someone would let a potentially amazing relationship just pass due to something like that. Men face rejection every day. It's just another day for us.
“See things for what they are, not what you want them to be” has been the best piece of advice by far I’ve learned from you Courtney 🙏🏼 makes it so much easier to realize if I have to question someone’s intentions or if they like me or not, then i probably already know the answer
"You have an insecurity within yourself and you are projecting it on other people"... I bet that is very common among us homo sapiens - more common than we're willing to admit. Good advice Courtney - I enjoy your content!
@@CourtneyRyan @CourtneyRyan I just want to thank you for caring about people. What you have is a "Special" type of love that has nothing to do with sex. You just Love to Love. Thanks!
I'm gonna be honest, yes its true, if you aren't attracted to a man, you are 10 times more likely to nitpick at him for some of the most petty reasons. Sure its possible you are insecure, but its also a sign that you aren't attracted to him as well.
Courtney I follow you for your fashion advice but also like to stop by for other videos because I like your rational and level headed approach to life. Also, you're so right when you said @9:53 "I lose braincells when I am on tik tok". Which is why I don't have a tik tok account and never will, i even avoid twitter like the plague.
What pisses me off about the height thing is that they're talking about being AVERAGE as short. No one talks about average shoe size being small feet cuz by definition they aren't small they're average. Gotta stop calling it short cuz it isn't. I've dated plenty of women taller than me, at least one significantly taller at 5'11. Median height for males is between 5'6-5'8 that's where 80-90% of the population are at. Median height for females is between 5'1-5'4 I think so average male is gonna be taller than average female regardless, so where did this obsession over height from women come from? If ladies are dumb enough to limit themselves to 15% of population then they have absolutely ZERO right to complain when they can't find someone. In the past 20+ yrs I have seen women become far more shallow & far more entitled from dating in my 20s. There are good women out there gents, you just gotta decide if it's worth crawling through sewage of filth to find them.
Most women can't tell heights by looking except for Architects or Engineers. They think 5'10" is 6 foot. Same for d1ck size. Stop being so touchy about what they say.
@@brutuslaurentius8729 she’s tall! I honestly think tall girls and short guys looks so cute together! It’s crazy to me that just because a guy is idk 3 inches shorter than a girl them won’t date them like why???
More should but most aren’t (it’s why we call them unicorns). I remember back as recently as the 00s that the IG model-types (of course IG didn’t exist at the time) were ridiculed and ignored in favor of more “real” women. It used to be normal. Now those girls that were “real” are the extreme minority, and superficiality has taken supremacy.
More women should practice what they preach. Easy for anyone to preach, but is Courtney practicing what she preaches? Her husband is tall as well, so sounds like she's being hypocritical.
5'3 here, every one of my gfs and hookups have been taller than me. I've learned as long it doesn't make you feel insecure and you act like it doesn't even bother you, the energy transfers, but if you start to waver she will feel it. Tallest girl I have ever approached was like 6 3, lol yes I did feel awkward.
I get annoyed by anybody using the "when you get a chance" type line. They want you to do it now, but feel bad if you get up now and take care of it. But if you don't do it in the next few minutes they get upset for not doing it, but what if i honestly wont have a chance for an hour, half a day or a week? And now I'm the bad guy for making them feel bad if I do it immediately (making them feel like they inconvenienced me because they honestly did) or because I did do it in the time they wanted it done. And what is even more annoying about such a phrase is that its often something that can be done and finish in the time it takes to come to me and tell me. That it would have been easier and quicker to do it themselves and often, if i don't do it immediately, they do it themselves a few minutes later anyways. Often it seems as if its being used to purposely be inconvenient or lazy. And this is a type of phrasing i've heard from both men and women of family, friends and acquaintances. I wish people could be direct and precise on their time frames.
9:52 😂 well said Courtney. I don’t even have an account on there but just from watching your videos I feel pretty comfortable saying Tik Tok is the dumbest social media app
Technically, offering to talk to someone, charging them $5 or whatever amount, taking the money, blocking them without doing the promised talking is actually petty crime and also suable. Personally, I think it's all RIDICULOUS, but sooner or later one of these ladies will take enough money from the wrong guy and will find herself in a comical legal situation. Nobody's going to sue over $5-10 dollars, but if the girl does this dozens, or even hundreds of times, or does it with a serious amount of $$, some inventive litigious type is eventually going to get jilted and decide on some creative revenge. More ridiculousness for the rest of us to watch.
Yes. The legal version of this scam is get the money and reply as mandated, including asking for more money. Venmo scams have been around for 5 years, so I don't know who is more stupid: that Tiktoker for describing how to commit dozens of counts of petty fraud or her victims.
The clip on “when you get a chance” really hits home. I’ve you’ve witnessed a wife yelling at her husband to do something, it’s because that “honeymoon phase cue” has expired and she’s moved up to “whatever works”. What this guy says is the work of the husband to maintain a partnership and helps prevent all out yelling matches. Step up early, gents! Teach Teddy the ways Courtney, haha
If women are equal why can't she take the lights down? You don't see me asking her to take the trash out or fix the roof. Women either be equal or stop pretending
@@danwarner7816 I climb under a car to change oil... you won't see women doing this. Women can facilitate this nonsense lie they are physically equal... but would call a male a lazy pig if he said his wife should take out the trash... or change a tire or fix the roof etc... women need to stop this annoying fantasy that they themselves don't even believe
I've never heard a woman use a specific number when talking about height preference. There's definitely a preference for the man to be taller, but the "6ft" thing (like the 6 inches thing) is something guys are telling themselves.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to date someone who you're attracted to but if all you're looking for is 10/10 gigachads you're probably not going to find a long-lasting relationship. Sometimes you need to lower your standards (especially when it comes to appearance) because most guys don't look like Keanu Reeves. I also find that usually when I do start dating a guy that I think is average he becomes a lot more attractive when I get to know him and see the way he treats me. I think a lot of this comes from toxic beauty standards for men and a lot of these women don't know what the average man looks like. They expect to see a bunch of 10s walking around when that's not really common at all.
Women in general like taller men for 3 main reasons...1). Makes them feel more protected. 2).They feel more feminine 3). They're able to wear whatever height/ type of 👞 shoes that they'd like to. If a woman should ever complain about my standards as a man, I'll simply respond by requiring her to come out of the shower with no make- up on. Hair wet. No perfume on. And wearing just my long sleeve shirt! ...Wha- laa!... An equal playing field!
I’m 5”6-5”7 on a good day. My younger, richer brother is 6”3. I still get more quality ladies than he does. Wanna know why? Confidence, mindset and I try to be present and sincere in every interaction. All he does is rely on his height to do the talking.
Once more a solid video. Also THANK YOU, for admitting the fact that men are not able to read a woman's mind in the case of the "if you get a chance," segment. Not being seen as nagging seems nice, but in general guys are a lot more literal when it comes to requests. It's okay to be polite but direct. Guys that also means that if a lady is being direct with you, pay attention to what she's saying. She's offering you respect by being direct and not beating around the bush.
You should do conventions teaching about relationships. Both sexes can Learn so much. My fear is no one will show up because no one wants common sense these days. 👍🏼
Venmo scams are so 2017, and Tinder is still full of them. I wonder who actually falls for them? But the way your Tiktoker played it is actually a crime. It's fraud. The smart scammers send at least one message and then ask for more money.
I'm 6 feet tall, 32 years old, but had no relationship at all. I think some reason for that is my own faults I made, but also the girls are just strange. Also there currently was no girl were I think that she would have been a good match in the retrospective. But now I have a good income, so I'm beginning to enjoy being single. This year I want to invest all my money, but next year I will book an escord lady as a personal birthday present for myself. And the sylvester next year I maybe will book 2 escords just to try out how it is to have a date (and the bedroom fun) with 2 girls at the same time - imagine how hard it would be to explain your girlfriend, that you want to try out having an additional girl in the bedroom or a date/relationship with 2 girls at the same time) ;-). And after the "date" everyone goes it's own way, so no "running costs" like the ones I would have when being in a relationship. And I'm also more into the younger girls (20-25), so I just simply can book one for having some nice hours. Starting a relationship with a 20 to 25 year old girl would be much harder. Also I didn't met any girl so far, which I would want to settle with. I'm looking more for the traditional, but feminine woman that would do the household stuff and surprise me with her nice cooking skill after my work day, while I'm earning the money for the family and it's really hard to find a girl that would match in that way (and I'm currently still working on getting up to an income where I can fund a family). Another reason is, that I want to migrate out of my current country within the next years, so having a girlfriend now would make everything more complicated.
Short men can attract a lot of women, if he's reasonably cute and fit, or is reasonably cute and has a teddybear like body (some women like the teddy bear look, I joke you not), then you are good to go!
I've never understood the height preference thing I hear sooo much about. I actually prefer men who are closer to my height (5'5") to those who are tall (6'+). Whenever I've dated someone much taller, it felt more awkward to me than anything. I don't want to be towered over... I'd much rather fit together.
All of a sudden it needs be done right NOW , no it like telling me the lawn need cut or the garbage need to be taken out NO shit the trash goes the same day every week and I can see the grass needs cut but I’ll do it when I want if it bothers you your legs aren’t broken !
The funny thing about “icks” is that they’ve always been around, they just have a word for it now. On Seinfeld they would break up with people every week for reasons like “she eats her peas one at a time.” He’s a bit of a close talker…a high talker…a bad breaker upper. The difference now I think is that it’s harder than ever to meet someone special, and you might not even give them a chance an a dating app because they’re standing funny in a pic. Probablyyyy not the best approach if you’re looking for something real lol
I am a 5'6 dude and I will say, just don't worry about your height. The best suggestion I would give to my manlet friends is to hit the gym, and train hard! You will most likely have the ability to get jacked quicker due to the shorter limbs. Of course taking a more wholistic take to self improvement is always the best way to go. Good luck
8:50. 1 documentary is all you need. She used that as if he does it full time. We're not going to be intimidated by some nerdy filmmaker (I'm a filmmaker and a lot of us are nerds; I'm just not one of them).
Media that work on the basis of numbers (eg dating apps) will naturally emphasize quantifiable characteristics, because that is what they are best at. Whether or not plugging in some numbers will get someone the perfect guy or girl is pretty debatable though. Humans have aspects that aren't easily measured, and sometimes even difficult to put into words, that can make people who maybe look a bit iffy "on paper" incredibly charming in person.
Don’t be ashamed nor embarrassed about y’alls height kings! Next time a female trips about you not being 6’0ft or taller just use my line, “I’m 5’10 (or however tall you are) but when I stand on my money I’m 6’5” 😎 Btw I love your videos Courtney ❤️ thank you and keep blessing us with them!
What could possibly entice a person to send someone cash in exchange for the uncertainty of not knowing if a message is genuine? Imaging if you kept, and separated all that cash that may have been sent.
Courtney, I can understand why you say that about guys who are in relationships going to the strip club........but you gotta understand that a lot of guys struggle with getting relationships with women, which is why the strip club is popular nowadays. But that doesn't automatically mean the single guys aren't sophisticated or eloquent. Just wanted to throw that out there.
Yeah What if teddy her bf was invited by friend to bachelor party. Would that be issue if they have 1 at a strip club? Before his best m8 big day? 🤷♂️
They may've also been dragged to one if it was their friend's bachelor party or something. I take her point though, guys who normally go to strip clubs seem kind of sleazy.
@@adamromero oh then that's different but like I said its service not place to cheat. So if I was women I think of it like guys night out and think nothing of it. Women too go to strip clubs even when they r married as well
Strip clubs are the biggest waste of time and money for any single guy, in my opinion. There's a reason I like to call it the Simp Club. A bunch of desperate and thirsty guys who can't approach and talk to normal chicks in the wild, literally throwing money at girls who don't know or care to know about them to take their clothes off and hope that they remember them and MAYBE get their phone number. I'm no saint but over the years, I've managed to hook up with some normal, pretty decent looking girls for less than $50, sometimes even for nothing.
Hi Courtney just wanted to say that your groundedness and genuineness is quite attractive and it garnishes respect. I also think that modern people seem to lack humility insofar as they are unwilling to accept a partner who is at the same level if not lower than. Which is why we have all the manipulation and game playing. Since these people are of a lower status they can't just be themselves that would reveal their lower status and thus remove their chance to get a higher tier partner. Everyone wants to go higher this is more prevalent with women however...
@DrRobotnik Valid points. But as for some women when they get to their late 20's and to early 30's, they realize later that shaming a man who would treat her well would have been the better option for her in a relationship. All these Alpha males, bad boys, and players aren't healthy for long term relationships. These men are only interested in getting into her pants and bails on her when he gets her pregnant. These men use to attract me. I had some bad relationships with them. I see things differently now and want a man to treat me well.
@Richard Schiffman So sad but true. Most women are so bad at being in a relationship. By the time we get a good dose of reality it's too late to get that nice guy that'll treat us well. Now with that stack of cash the nice guy has you mention, does the 18-24 old hotties love him or his money?
of course that matters more, but let's be blunt, look at how many men out there want a hot sexy girl, and the girl ends up treating them worse than they threat their girl. I think it matters just as much how a woman treats you, then how much of a Playboy model she looks like. I'm not saying you should go after just any woman, but women are ten times picker than men for a number of reasons.
Am I the only one that finds the term "short kings" patronizing? Yeah we're short, yeah things are a bit tougher at times, but a hollow title like that I find almost more demeaning.
the phrase "when you get a chance" almost never comes out of my mouth. why would I ask someone else to do something that I can just take care of myself? if you see a problem, just take care of it. if it's endemic, have a discussion about who should take care of what so that it's clear and both people can have clear expectations.
8:30 “why are you doing that?” They’ve been watching too much anime and became inspired by a couple of convoluted backstories. Great video Courtney. And a moment of silence for the brain cells lost. 🌸
When you talk about not dating Guys that go to strip clubs are you talking about guys that frequented strip clubs or Guys that just occasionally go to strip clubs or have been to a strip club but I haven’t been to one in a long time?
She said she loses brain cells by the second while she's on Tic Tok. No disrespect, but why is she still on it? I recently cut out ALL social media, and my life flourished. I own multiple barbershops, rent out multiple store fronts, multiple degrees, and am in the BEST shape, condition, and mentality of my LIFE! Social media is TOXIC! It is holding back our genuine creativity, mentality, intelligence, etc. It is holding us back from what we truly can achieve.
That's not true brother, I'm only two in taller than you and I've never had an issue with women, maybe online getting attention because I'm not 6 ft tall but in real life, depending on how you carry yourself, how you dress, how you speak to people your confidence and your physical build will definitely give you an advantage over that silly stipulation
I’m 5-11 3/4 and I round down because f*ck anyone who doesn’t like it. If someone you know uses the word “ick”, you’re hanging out with someone too young.
I’ll grant the women that faithful man shouldn’t go to strip clubs but in that same breath, you have to admit that a faithful woman shouldn’t be going out with her friends wanting or expecting a man to buy them a free drink even if they never plan on talking to him
Remember when people saw each other for the first time on a dance floor in a club or bar.. you know, before scrolling through snaps of selfies existed.. those were the days
I don’t understand why you say that it’s cringe when the man said that it was the best night of his life even though the woman said it was normal! To me it’s irrelevant what the woman said, maybe it really was the best night of his life! The way I see it, if it was the best night for him than amem I’m happy for him, I don’t see that as cringe!
I use to be toxic about male height... until i fell for my 5'5 boyfriend. If you love, you love. Dont reduce your chances to love happily for toxic patriarchal norms.
The problem is, we've been inundated with the stereotype of women looking for "tall, dark & handsome" for nearly A century now in the media. What's the VERY FIRST thing in that description of desirability?🤔 You wonder why short guys feel less worthy, why we have a complex about our height?🤷
same. twice. both times for bachelor parties. like in my early twenties. wasn't even my cup of tea, but it was a group thing. i never cheated on my wife before she passed away, and i have yet to go on a date almost 3 years later. i do consider myself to be sophisticated. everyone has their own definition of sophistication, though, so whatever!! lol.
While I don't think height is nearly as big as issue as people like to make it out to be, the argument of "Look, famous handsome millionaire actor that everybody loves was able to hook up with an average looking tall girl, so you can too!" is not a very persuasive argument.
Okay! What I want to know is this.When was the meeting and who was at the meeting when it was decided it was automatically the mans job to take out the trash? Because honestly I would have liked to have attended that meeting. I would have liked to have brought a friend and some family members to this meeting. What year was this meeting? Where was it held? Why didn't we men get the memo about the meeting?We all would have been at that meeting or at least sent a substitute in our place for the meeting. Anyone know the answer?
Courtney, You are such a smart girl and honest with a clear logical way of thinking. The girls you are analyzing are mostly low frequency heathens who will not age well and have little chance of ever being happy. Thank you for being you and being an example of what a lady should be like! You're Awesome :)
This height thing is out of hand, and I wonder if a lot of girls don't realize just how limiting it is to rule out any guy shorter than, say, 6' or 6'2". The 50% percentile for height for men in the US is still just a bit over 5'9". 6' is the 85th percentile, and 6'2" is the 96th percentile. So for those women sticking to 6'2" or above, they are ruling out 96% of available guys.
I still think having no social media is the way to go.
I'm ONLY going back.....if true Free Speech is allowed. I.e. No moderators, and you get a block button so YOU can personally handle your own crappy interactions online.
Totaly
Having no social media is a red flag in many instances
@@styledbyemilyxo6035 Why? I've deleted Instagram last year and I'm quite happier now because I'm not wasting that hour a day scrolling through the homepage. I've not got Twitter or Tik tok as well. (21 y.o. btw)
@@luca_salerno I'm 34 and I know women who have dated men within my age group with no social media. They were hiding being married and having a criminal past. For older people, especially professionals, it is a red flag to have NOTHING online.
The “Looking for perfection in people because you can’t accept your own flaws” comment was pretty wise.
Lol, are you kidding? So, me not wanting a woman with small tits is me not accepting my own flaws, lol.
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I’ve only been told I’d be better looking if I was taller by one girl that I’d never date in a million years. Outside of online dating and TikTok it’s never been an issue for old school dating.
Because its always easier to critique someone from afar than in person.
I had a girl said that to me. So I dated her best friend who was taller, prettier and skinnier than her.
@@StrumVogel this is the way
I had a couple turn me down because of my height. I told them they had daddy issues. One laughed and said I was right but she didn't care.
You don't want to be with petty women like that.
@@sovietNIKOLAI1911 this is not the way, this is the same thing Courtney’s talking about, but in this case the guy is being shallow. This is just a viscous cycle.
I’m 5’5” and what I’ve learned is that most women will “overlook” a guy’s height if he checks all of the other boxes (dresses /grooms well, exercises, works, educated, funny, etc.) I’ve met girls that criticized my height before, but most aren’t like that.
This.💯
I'm 5ft 6 and had a tall woman approach me on the street once
I'm 5'5 I have tall women way taller than me like me & I drive a T 1000 Ford big truck I carry way heavy boxes . Some women like me some women don't I grow a beard I'm good 🙂💯.
Exactly 💯 if you don't make your height and issue ...she won't I've dated as tall as 5'11 . If you look good take care of yourself.show social value have game and a rep in bed height don't mean ish .if a girl likes you it won't matter your appearance
I’m 5’5 too and my height has never been an issue. It’s all about being confident in yourself. If you’re insecure about your height that will show. Having said that, short dudes need to get out there in the real world. Dating apps are mainly based on looks and height.
As a short king, THANK YOU. I'm so glad to see people advocating for us more lately, my whole life it's like I'm fighting an invisible struggle that everyone just thinks is a joke, I just wish more people would put themselves in someone's shoes who's constantly being told they're not good enough and that they're the embodiment of an "unattractive man" for something they could never change
Hopefully modern women will buy into the #shortking trend they are such fucking sheep that they will buy into anything that’s popular on social media. Just keep your head up man I am 5 ft 5 in and I totally understand you
They say one thing but their actions says another. It’s 🧢
@@LoneWolf_3012 I know what you mean. But what are you saying? Are you saying that women verbally shun short men but they go out with them anyways?
I am 6'2" and it's no golden ticket. It just allows you to be rejected for other reasons.
@@jeffcauhape6880 🙄 height is a privilege especially when it comes to dating and you know it.
The problem with "Icks" or "Red Flags" in general, is that most the time women dont say anything so as a guy you have no idea what you did wrong. Women should address these issues so the guy can choose to change or not.
I got a feeling that’s by design as well. I think women probably don’t want to discuss the “ick” in question because admitting how something makes you feel means taking a stance on the issue, establishing a position. Once you’ve done that you’ve opened yourself up to critique and rebuttal. And most people in this position don’t truly want to have to defend their emotional responses to any number of things. Because, most often they aren’t exactly rational or charitable. So in order to keep from being criticized and held to account, these “icks” takes on this zeitgeist-y life as secret checklists of things women like to read into or dislike that aren’t open to reasoned confrontation.
You just need to be develop telepathic abilities, every woman demands that of men. Duh
Well as much as women say they want open communication... not a single woman will actually be open about communication
@@cbrown6848 You know, I feel like it was a lot easier communication wise, before texting was invented.
David, this is where having female friends and family come in handy. Such girls would be more willing to help give advice on what you may be doing wrong and what could be improved.
I'm still trying to figure out why women get mad at men when he says he won't date a woman if he feels she's overweight but it's okay for her not to date a man shorter than 6 ft. Women have the advantage being a bit over weight. She can lose that weight and when a man is short he's stuck with it and not much he can do about it.
Yeah plus these women probably won't date overweight men as well
well, you could try to date women who aren't taller than you. I have heard "horror stories" about women who were tall, and treated like trash by guys that they were dating, that were shorter than them.
What’s irritating is when even short women want to only date men that are 6 foot plus. It looks weird if say a woman who is 5’3 is with a guy who is 6’2 when it would look better for her to be with a guy who is just a few inches taller than her, say like 5’7 or 5’8.
@@ashome13 True. It looks like to me he's dating a little girl because he's like a foot taller than her. I believe more short women around 5'1 to 5'4 prefer men 6 ft plus. I don't really hear women 5'7 and taller want a really tall man, like a tall basketball player.
@@ashome13 THAT IS IRRITATING! If ur a woman who wants a guy who is 6f+ and you are 5'8" or below, you are delusional.
Interesting that Zendaya and Tom are able to make it more acceptable, but Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman or Katy Holmes couldn't. I'm 6 feet tall, so height discrimination hasn't been an issue for me, but it definitely exists, so I'm happy to see couples who don't make it an issue.
Because Tom Cruise is a deranged needle sharing psychopath.
Tom was with Katy years ago and he was with Nicole DECADES ago. This height obsession really didn’t begin until a few years ago, like right when the pandemic started, so all that stuff with Tom was irrelevant. Besides, it’s Tom freaking Cruise, not Joe Schmo from Target.
@@jaxonwoods8181 I disagree. In my social circle, at least, I'd hear women bagging on even Tom Cruise for being too short. And that's been going on for decades, obviously
@@jaxonwoods8181 Nicole openly mocked him for his height. She had the gall to do that to Tom f*cking Cruise. Regular guys have it way worse. This isn't a new thing.
@@bendover7841No, social media and dating apps absolutely amplified this height fetish
Just had dinner with a female friend yesterday and we talked about her (nonexistent) romantic life. She's slightly taller for a woman (5'6) but also overweight (170lbs).
She complained about how there are no decent men out there across ALL of the dating apps she uses AND the church she goes to.
I brought up a couple of people we both know and she said no for reasons such as:
- "he's too short, he has to be taller than me at least"
- "he's too old"
- " he's too fat"
Finally, she huffed and puffed and said "I only need them to be taller than me, around my age, and not overweight, is that too much to ask for?"
By the way, women always tell me the same thing: "I really only care about X, I don't have many standards at all"
Then when we actually go through their dating apps live, she makes every excuse under the sun to swipe left.
What is going on lol. Sometimes I feel like modern women are looking for a mythical creature rather than a human being. Very glad to be out of this market right now.
LOL sounds exactly right. Unrealistic expectations to the max and a complete lack of self-awareness 🥲
Possible that she unconsciously feels as though she doesn’t deserve or want an intimate relationship for one reason or another. Sounds like classic self sabotaging behavior.
Also yesterday was another female friend's birthday. This one is also single (surprise) and she claimed that 99% of guys are out there just looking for hookups. The remaining 1% are either already married/in a relationship or are unintelligent.
I asked her what her main criteria for a partner was. She said "I need to be able to have intellectual conversations with him"
Ladies, you need to understand this. Men DO NOT look for a female partner to have "intellectual debates" with. In fact, that's the exact opposite of what the majority of men want. Men want to have a relaxed, peaceful, and affectionate time. In fact, most men I know wouldn't mind if there was no talking at all.
Courtney clearly understands male nature so she has taken steps to maximize her femininity, which men appreciate. Examples include:
- speaking slowly with a soothing, unaggressive voice
- not getting aggressive and belligerent in the face of trolls or negative comments. Instead reacting with grace and poise without getting rattled
I told my friend that if she had the same kind of peaceful, non-aggressive demeanor, she would easily find a man. Her appearance is definitely not the issue.
Lots of women will be rebellious and in denial until the bitter end. Some people need to be right more than they need the truth.
@@CourtneyRyan I really wish you could coach some of these women on feminine and masculine dynamics. At the end of the day, people can act how they want and there's no problem with that. But lots of women out there actually WANT to be in a relationship and are confused as to why they can't find somebody. I can tell them the reasons all day, but they get defensive if it comes from a man.
Anyways, thanks for the content!
@@TheRealK33N Yeah that's exactly how I'd describe it. Self sabotaging behavior. There is another guy she has been seeing a lot (in a platonic capacity) but he hasn't asked her out yet so she now thinks he has no interest and has given up.
I asked.. "Uhh... why don't you just ask him out then?"
She said she'd rather die than do that because she is extremely afraid of rejection.
Can't believe someone would let a potentially amazing relationship just pass due to something like that. Men face rejection every day. It's just another day for us.
“See things for what they are, not what you want them to be” has been the best piece of advice by far I’ve learned from you Courtney 🙏🏼 makes it so much easier to realize if I have to question someone’s intentions or if they like me or not, then i probably already know the answer
Women are a language I'm still trying to speak. Thanks to you, I'm slowly getting there! 🥰
Good luck. LOL
Why would you want to speak a womans language? Do you want to become irrational?
Its called Womanese, and its a hard language to learn.
The reason most relationships fail, is because they require effort; most people on this planet don't want to put in effort lol
You put effort into relationships that work and make sense. More often than not people put effort into relationships that are a waste of time.
"You have an insecurity within yourself and you are projecting it on other people"... I bet that is very common among us homo sapiens - more common than we're willing to admit.
Good advice Courtney - I enjoy your content!
Thank you, Joseph! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan @CourtneyRyan I just want to thank you for caring about people. What you have is a "Special" type of love that has nothing to do with sex. You just Love to Love. Thanks!
I'm gonna be honest, yes its true, if you aren't attracted to a man, you are 10 times more likely to nitpick at him for some of the most petty reasons. Sure its possible you are insecure, but its also a sign that you aren't attracted to him as well.
I remember my ex used to give me shit for following a few girls I don’t know, meanwhile she followed like 700 people
Courtney I follow you for your fashion advice but also like to stop by for other videos because I like your rational and level headed approach to life. Also, you're so right when you said @9:53 "I lose braincells when I am on tik tok". Which is why I don't have a tik tok account and never will, i even avoid twitter like the plague.
What pisses me off about the height thing is that they're talking about being AVERAGE as short. No one talks about average shoe size being small feet cuz by definition they aren't small they're average. Gotta stop calling it short cuz it isn't. I've dated plenty of women taller than me, at least one significantly taller at 5'11. Median height for males is between 5'6-5'8 that's where 80-90% of the population are at. Median height for females is between 5'1-5'4 I think so average male is gonna be taller than average female regardless, so where did this obsession over height from women come from? If ladies are dumb enough to limit themselves to 15% of population then they have absolutely ZERO right to complain when they can't find someone.
In the past 20+ yrs I have seen women become far more shallow & far more entitled from dating in my 20s. There are good women out there gents, you just gotta decide if it's worth crawling through sewage of filth to find them.
Yeah the height and then the phone standards are two of the most pathetic things that I have heard so many women say they want in a man.
Most women can't tell heights by looking except for Architects or Engineers. They think 5'10" is 6 foot. Same for d1ck size. Stop being so touchy about what they say.
Depends on where you are but the mean male height in the USA is not 5'7" or 5'8". Its somewhere between 5'9" and 5'10".
Sophia Franklin described short guys as being 5.7 or 5.8. I was surprised, I thought that is average height, and short means 5.4 and shorter.
short is any man under 6ft nowadays
I’m 5’10 and I have no problem dating a guy shorter than me,just don’t know if they would date a girl taller than them.Love your content Courtney
My last girlfriend, not kidding, was 6'4". I didn't care cuz I though she was cute!
@@brutuslaurentius8729 she’s tall! I honestly think tall girls and short guys looks so cute together! It’s crazy to me that just because a guy is idk 3 inches shorter than a girl them won’t date them like why???
@@Julianassecret what's your secret?
@@jimbaxter8488 are you talking about my username? Pls don’t laugh at me,I was just a Victoria’s Secret fan when I was 13 lol 🤦♀️
@@Julianassecret yep, so, that's your secret! You were a bit young, but ok, nothing to be ashamed about....
More woman should be like Courtney 🔥🔥🔥
More should but most aren’t (it’s why we call them unicorns). I remember back as recently as the 00s that the IG model-types (of course IG didn’t exist at the time) were ridiculed and ignored in favor of more “real” women. It used to be normal. Now those girls that were “real” are the extreme minority, and superficiality has taken supremacy.
More women should practice what they preach. Easy for anyone to preach, but is Courtney practicing what she preaches? Her husband is tall as well, so sounds like she's being hypocritical.
5'3 here, every one of my gfs and hookups have been taller than me. I've learned as long it doesn't make you feel insecure and you act like it doesn't even bother you, the energy transfers, but if you start to waver she will feel it. Tallest girl I have ever approached was like 6 3, lol yes I did feel awkward.
Love Matthew. Always gives great advice. Speaks mostly to women, but his advice is always sound.
I get annoyed by anybody using the "when you get a chance" type line. They want you to do it now, but feel bad if you get up now and take care of it. But if you don't do it in the next few minutes they get upset for not doing it, but what if i honestly wont have a chance for an hour, half a day or a week? And now I'm the bad guy for making them feel bad if I do it immediately (making them feel like they inconvenienced me because they honestly did) or because I did do it in the time they wanted it done.
And what is even more annoying about such a phrase is that its often something that can be done and finish in the time it takes to come to me and tell me. That it would have been easier and quicker to do it themselves and often, if i don't do it immediately, they do it themselves a few minutes later anyways. Often it seems as if its being used to purposely be inconvenient or lazy.
And this is a type of phrasing i've heard from both men and women of family, friends and acquaintances. I wish people could be direct and precise on their time frames.
9:52 😂 well said Courtney. I don’t even have an account on there but just from watching your videos I feel pretty comfortable saying Tik Tok is the dumbest social media app
That is an understatement.
Technically, offering to talk to someone, charging them $5 or whatever amount, taking the money, blocking them without doing the promised talking is actually petty crime and also suable. Personally, I think it's all RIDICULOUS, but sooner or later one of these ladies will take enough money from the wrong guy and will find herself in a comical legal situation.
Nobody's going to sue over $5-10 dollars, but if the girl does this dozens, or even hundreds of times, or does it with a serious amount of $$, some inventive litigious type is eventually going to get jilted and decide on some creative revenge. More ridiculousness for the rest of us to watch.
Yes. The legal version of this scam is get the money and reply as mandated, including asking for more money. Venmo scams have been around for 5 years, so I don't know who is more stupid: that Tiktoker for describing how to commit dozens of counts of petty fraud or her victims.
The creative revenge is always fun to watch !!!
The way you said "Don't send the money", the first time, spoke volumes, the tone of your voice, it made me chuckle.
Courtney's all time favorite line action speaks louder than words
The clip on “when you get a chance” really hits home. I’ve you’ve witnessed a wife yelling at her husband to do something, it’s because that “honeymoon phase cue” has expired and she’s moved up to “whatever works”. What this guy says is the work of the husband to maintain a partnership and helps prevent all out yelling matches. Step up early, gents! Teach Teddy the ways Courtney, haha
If women are equal why can't she take the lights down? You don't see me asking her to take the trash out or fix the roof. Women either be equal or stop pretending
Truee, that social media statement is bs. Cus I see many women follow some guys with big muscles as well. We dont get thrown off so why should they?
@@danwarner7816 I climb under a car to change oil... you won't see women doing this.
Women can facilitate this nonsense lie they are physically equal... but would call a male a lazy pig if he said his wife should take out the trash... or change a tire or fix the roof etc... women need to stop this annoying fantasy that they themselves don't even believe
I'm not 6 ft and I've never struggled with women, so yes, I agree, I am fine
Only 14.5% of the US male population is 6ft tall or taller. 9% in the North American continent (US Can MX)
I've never heard a woman use a specific number when talking about height preference. There's definitely a preference for the man to be taller, but the "6ft" thing (like the 6 inches thing) is something guys are telling themselves.
@@cisium1184 maybe, if you're not on tiktok or whatever but it is read on online dating profiles
@DrRobotnik LOL, I'm a 5'9" dude.
@@LatimusChadimus That would explain it. I'm not on either tiktok or online dating profiles.
when someone shows you they truly are, believe them
13:13 - 13:28 We finally see Courtney reacting to Matthew Hussey and I really hope to see more of this in the future. 🙌
Saturday night 05 March 2022. I'm 5'2". Married, but still, 5 foot 2 inches tall. Thanks for what you do for us Courtney. Take care and all the best.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to date someone who you're attracted to but if all you're looking for is 10/10 gigachads you're probably not going to find a long-lasting relationship. Sometimes you need to lower your standards (especially when it comes to appearance) because most guys don't look like Keanu Reeves.
I also find that usually when I do start dating a guy that I think is average he becomes a lot more attractive when I get to know him and see the way he treats me.
I think a lot of this comes from toxic beauty standards for men and a lot of these women don't know what the average man looks like. They expect to see a bunch of 10s walking around when that's not really common at all.
Most women are average but delude themselves into thinking otherwise and have unrealistic standards.
Women in general like taller men for 3 main reasons...1). Makes them feel more protected. 2).They feel more feminine 3). They're able to wear whatever height/ type of 👞 shoes that they'd like to. If a woman should ever complain about my standards as a man, I'll simply respond by requiring her to come out of the shower with no make- up on. Hair wet. No perfume on. And wearing just my long sleeve shirt! ...Wha- laa!... An equal playing field!
I’m 5”6-5”7 on a good day. My younger, richer brother is 6”3. I still get more quality ladies than he does. Wanna know why? Confidence, mindset and I try to be present and sincere in every interaction. All he does is rely on his height to do the talking.
We need more women like Courtney. You should do an episode on toxic women that are hateful to fathers of their children.
Once more a solid video. Also THANK YOU, for admitting the fact that men are not able to read a woman's mind in the case of the "if you get a chance," segment. Not being seen as nagging seems nice, but in general guys are a lot more literal when it comes to requests. It's okay to be polite but direct. Guys that also means that if a lady is being direct with you, pay attention to what she's saying. She's offering you respect by being direct and not beating around the bush.
You should do conventions teaching about relationships. Both sexes can Learn so much. My fear is no one will show up because no one wants common sense these days. 👍🏼
Venmo scams are so 2017, and Tinder is still full of them. I wonder who actually falls for them?
But the way your Tiktoker played it is actually a crime. It's fraud. The smart scammers send at least one message and then ask for more money.
Agreed, and in my opinion, if they fall for that dumb of a scam then they deserve it.
I got dragged to a strip club once and it was the most uncomfortable experience of my life.
3:01 Such a great point! The psychoanalysts called this phenomena reaction formation
She left out part of it:
"If you're not 6 ft, you're fine...as long as you're hawt"
@DrRobotnik Being "crap in bed" is something you can fix, and it doesn't require bigger junk to fix. Not doing better is just making excuses.
I'm 6 feet tall, 32 years old, but had no relationship at all. I think some reason for that is my own faults I made, but also the girls are just strange. Also there currently was no girl were I think that she would have been a good match in the retrospective. But now I have a good income, so I'm beginning to enjoy being single. This year I want to invest all my money, but next year I will book an escord lady as a personal birthday present for myself. And the sylvester next year I maybe will book 2 escords just to try out how it is to have a date (and the bedroom fun) with 2 girls at the same time - imagine how hard it would be to explain your girlfriend, that you want to try out having an additional girl in the bedroom or a date/relationship with 2 girls at the same time) ;-). And after the "date" everyone goes it's own way, so no "running costs" like the ones I would have when being in a relationship. And I'm also more into the younger girls (20-25), so I just simply can book one for having some nice hours. Starting a relationship with a 20 to 25 year old girl would be much harder.
Also I didn't met any girl so far, which I would want to settle with. I'm looking more for the traditional, but feminine woman that would do the household stuff and surprise me with her nice cooking skill after my work day, while I'm earning the money for the family and it's really hard to find a girl that would match in that way (and I'm currently still working on getting up to an income where I can fund a family). Another reason is, that I want to migrate out of my current country within the next years, so having a girlfriend now would make everything more complicated.
Agreed, @@talideon .
listen guys I'm 5'5 ans my GF is 5"9
I've never gave a shit about my height
Woman will feel that and see that.
🙌🏼 love this
Short men can attract a lot of women, if he's reasonably cute and fit, or is reasonably cute and has a teddybear like body (some women like the teddy bear look, I joke you not), then you are good to go!
5 years ago, I remember a woman on Instagram asking for a tea and groceries and her followers do send her stuffs and money.
I've never understood the height preference thing I hear sooo much about. I actually prefer men who are closer to my height (5'5") to those who are tall (6'+). Whenever I've dated someone much taller, it felt more awkward to me than anything. I don't want to be towered over... I'd much rather fit together.
It might just be a ego thing or to show off.
All of a sudden it needs be done right NOW , no it like telling me the lawn need cut or the garbage need to be taken out NO shit the trash goes the same day every week and I can see the grass needs cut but I’ll do it when I want if it bothers you your legs aren’t broken !
The funny thing about “icks” is that they’ve always been around, they just have a word for it now. On Seinfeld they would break up with people every week for reasons like “she eats her peas one at a time.” He’s a bit of a close talker…a high talker…a bad breaker upper. The difference now I think is that it’s harder than ever to meet someone special, and you might not even give them a chance an a dating app because they’re standing funny in a pic. Probablyyyy not the best approach if you’re looking for something real lol
I am a 5'6 dude and I will say, just don't worry about your height. The best suggestion I would give to my manlet friends is to hit the gym, and train hard! You will most likely have the ability to get jacked quicker due to the shorter limbs. Of course taking a more wholistic take to self improvement is always the best way to go. Good luck
Moral of the story here: Stay single if you’re a man. Choose to chase excellence, pursue purpose, and build your empire.
A kingdom is never complete without a queen.
@@chepesantacruz777 🤣 blue pilled
@@MrDrummerLive lol go away "redpill" incel
@@chepesantacruz777 So, you enjoy living in a fantasy world? How’s that working out for you bud?
@@MrDrummerLive Not every man can be an emperor. You're way more blue pilled than that guy. Get help and get in touch with reality.
8:50. 1 documentary is all you need. She used that as if he does it full time. We're not going to be intimidated by some nerdy filmmaker (I'm a filmmaker and a lot of us are nerds; I'm just not one of them).
Media that work on the basis of numbers (eg dating apps) will naturally emphasize quantifiable characteristics, because that is what they are best at. Whether or not plugging in some numbers will get someone the perfect guy or girl is pretty debatable though. Humans have aspects that aren't easily measured, and sometimes even difficult to put into words, that can make people who maybe look a bit iffy "on paper" incredibly charming in person.
Always enjoy the content, starting to see some of this on dating apps now.
Don’t be ashamed nor embarrassed about y’alls height kings! Next time a female trips about you not being 6’0ft or taller just use my line, “I’m 5’10 (or however tall you are) but when I stand on my money I’m 6’5” 😎
Btw I love your videos Courtney ❤️ thank you and keep blessing us with them!
Great video. I like the format. Keep up the good work.
What could possibly entice a person to send someone cash in exchange for the uncertainty of not knowing if a message is genuine? Imaging if you kept, and separated all that cash that may have been sent.
Courtney, I can understand why you say that about guys who are in relationships going to the strip club........but you gotta understand that a lot of guys struggle with getting relationships with women, which is why the strip club is popular nowadays. But that doesn't automatically mean the single guys aren't sophisticated or eloquent. Just wanted to throw that out there.
Yeah What if teddy her bf was invited by friend to bachelor party. Would that be issue if they have 1 at a strip club? Before his best m8 big day? 🤷♂️
They may've also been dragged to one if it was their friend's bachelor party or something. I take her point though, guys who normally go to strip clubs seem kind of sleazy.
@@adamromero oh then that's different but like I said its service not place to cheat. So if I was women I think of it like guys night out and think nothing of it. Women too go to strip clubs even when they r married as well
Strip clubs are the biggest waste of time and money for any single guy, in my opinion. There's a reason I like to call it the Simp Club. A bunch of desperate and thirsty guys who can't approach and talk to normal chicks in the wild, literally throwing money at girls who don't know or care to know about them to take their clothes off and hope that they remember them and MAYBE get their phone number. I'm no saint but over the years, I've managed to hook up with some normal, pretty decent looking girls for less than $50, sometimes even for nothing.
@@spacecowboy5995 yeah isn't watching porn or finding random leaks on internet a simp thing to do?
Hi Courtney just wanted to say that your groundedness and genuineness is quite attractive and it garnishes respect. I also think that modern people seem to lack humility insofar as they are unwilling to accept a partner who is at the same level if not lower than. Which is why we have all the manipulation and game playing. Since these people are of a lower status they can't just be themselves that would reveal their lower status and thus remove their chance to get a higher tier partner. Everyone wants to go higher this is more prevalent with women however...
I don't see why height is so important to some women. Shouldn't how he treats you be more important?
Definitely!
@DrRobotnik Valid points. But as for some women when they get to their late 20's and to early 30's, they realize later that shaming a man who would treat her well would have been the better option for her in a relationship. All these Alpha males, bad boys, and players aren't healthy for long term relationships. These men are only interested in getting into her pants and bails on her when he gets her pregnant. These men use to attract me. I had some bad relationships with them. I see things differently now and want a man to treat me well.
@Richard Schiffman So sad but true. Most women are so bad at being in a relationship. By the time we get a good dose of reality it's too late to get that nice guy that'll treat us well. Now with that stack of cash the nice guy has you mention, does the 18-24 old hotties love him or his money?
of course that matters more, but let's be blunt, look at how many men out there want a hot sexy girl, and the girl ends up treating them worse than they threat their girl. I think it matters just as much how a woman treats you, then how much of a Playboy model she looks like. I'm not saying you should go after just any woman, but women are ten times picker than men for a number of reasons.
@Richard Schiffman What a shallow world we live in. :/
Am I the only one that finds the term "short kings" patronizing? Yeah we're short, yeah things are a bit tougher at times, but a hollow title like that I find almost more demeaning.
the phrase "when you get a chance" almost never comes out of my mouth. why would I ask someone else to do something that I can just take care of myself? if you see a problem, just take care of it. if it's endemic, have a discussion about who should take care of what so that it's clear and both people can have clear expectations.
Most of the modern dating problems are coming from women
Aye......but us men are FUNDING them....
@@Macheako simps* not real men
@@lengting yea, but percentage wise, that’s like 70% of us 😂😂😂
@@Macheako Who is "us" 🤨🤨🤨
@@FalseProphetFallacy anything with a WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENER
Hey Courtney ! I love the way you talk ❤
8:30 “why are you doing that?”
They’ve been watching too much anime and became inspired by a couple of convoluted backstories.
Great video Courtney. And a moment of silence for the brain cells lost. 🌸
That "when you get the chance" reminded me why I don't miss being married anymore.
When you talk about not dating Guys that go to strip clubs are you talking about guys that frequented strip clubs or Guys that just occasionally go to strip clubs or have been to a strip club but I haven’t been to one in a long time?
She said she loses brain cells by the second while she's on Tic Tok. No disrespect, but why is she still on it? I recently cut out ALL social media, and my life flourished. I own multiple barbershops, rent out multiple store fronts, multiple degrees, and am in the BEST shape, condition, and mentality of my LIFE! Social media is TOXIC! It is holding back our genuine creativity, mentality, intelligence, etc. It is holding us back from what we truly can achieve.
So I guess I'm still screwed I'm 5'4
That's not true brother, I'm only two in taller than you and I've never had an issue with women, maybe online getting attention because I'm not 6 ft tall but in real life, depending on how you carry yourself, how you dress, how you speak to people your confidence and your physical build will definitely give you an advantage over that silly stipulation
@DrRobonik, please don’t lie to him. No woman likes a short man, it’s unforgivable.
Lying to manipulate or for fun is sociopathic behaviour. PERIOD.
Short king spring makes me realize that woman will go for anything that’s “in” and that woman really is ever know what they want
Courtney was very sassy in this video, and I’m here for it. Great content as always!
I’m 5-11 3/4 and I round down because f*ck anyone who doesn’t like it. If someone you know uses the word “ick”, you’re hanging out with someone too young.
As always, great video Courtney. Hope you have a great weekend!
courtney’s reactions to these are always great and sometimes hilarious. but at 8:25, that reaction murdered me. i laughed so hard my stomach hurt
Good morning gorgeous. Always enjoy your videos, good advice!
I feel you with the losing brain cells thing. Where do you find all these tik tocks?
🙌🏼 glad we agree lol a lot of my subscribers will tag me in them / send them to me or my producer finds them!
I’ll grant the women that faithful man shouldn’t go to strip clubs but in that same breath, you have to admit that a faithful woman shouldn’t be going out with her friends wanting or expecting a man to buy them a free drink even if they never plan on talking to him
Great as always!
But I do disagree about the strip club thing… or is there no return from a “life of sin”? (Or what about porn users?)
Better to just call out Hypergamy as immoral.
Remember when people saw each other for the first time on a dance floor in a club or bar.. you know, before scrolling through snaps of selfies existed.. those were the days
I hate strip clubs. I will go if there is a bachelor party, though. Thankfully as I have gotten older, that doesn't happen any longer.
I worked hard on my growth and drank a lot of milk to reach 6’6” and now I need to drink beer to get to 5’8”
5'6" guys: damn I wish I was 6'
Me being 5': damn I wish I was 5'6"
Courtney thoughts on Versace Dylan blue homme? Yeah or na?
I don’t understand why you say that it’s cringe when the man said that it was the best night of his life even though the woman said it was normal! To me it’s irrelevant what the woman said, maybe it really was the best night of his life! The way I see it, if it was the best night for him than amem I’m happy for him, I don’t see that as cringe!
It's cringe that a guy would say something like that out loud.
I use to be toxic about male height... until i fell for my 5'5 boyfriend.
If you love, you love. Dont reduce your chances to love happily for toxic patriarchal norms.
I'm about 6ft5, and I never had any succes with women. Yep, height is not the deciding factor
The problem is, we've been inundated with the stereotype of women looking for "tall, dark & handsome" for nearly A century now in the media. What's the VERY FIRST thing in that description of desirability?🤔 You wonder why short guys feel less worthy, why we have a complex about our height?🤷
There is some evidence that if you are quite muscular women will somewhat overlook your height. It's rough out there for short men. 😕
Love to sit in on one of your Seminars.
You're 100% wrong on the strip club thing. I've been in the past and guess what, never cheated on anyone I've dated... and I'm sophisticated!
That itself is cheating. Looking at other woman lustfully is the problem.
same. twice. both times for bachelor parties. like in my early twenties. wasn't even my cup of tea, but it was a group thing. i never cheated on my wife before she passed away, and i have yet to go on a date almost 3 years later. i do consider myself to be sophisticated. everyone has their own definition of sophistication, though, so whatever!! lol.
Lol sophisticated people don’t SAY they’re sophisticated.😉
@@mangot589 I'll drink to that!
While I don't think height is nearly as big as issue as people like to make it out to be, the argument of "Look, famous handsome millionaire actor that everybody loves was able to hook up with an average looking tall girl, so you can too!" is not a very persuasive argument.
Okay! What I want to know is this.When was the meeting and who was at the meeting when it was decided it was automatically the mans job to take out the trash? Because honestly I would have liked to have attended that meeting. I would have liked to have brought a friend and some family members to this meeting. What year was this meeting? Where was it held? Why didn't we men get the memo about the meeting?We all would have been at that meeting or at least sent a substitute in our place for the meeting. Anyone know the answer?
The girl at 4:45 just kind of proves that some of these girls are on here because they see men as an atm or a source of free food/coffee.
I enjoy listening to smart women who have minds of their own versus group think.
Never give money to anyone. Banks lend money, not me.
Being 6 '0 tall. I am more attracted to tall women 5'8 to 6'0 tall.
Courtney,
You are such a smart girl and honest with a clear logical way of thinking. The girls you are analyzing are mostly low frequency heathens who will not age well and have little chance of ever being happy. Thank you for being you and being an example of what a lady should be like! You're Awesome :)
This height thing is out of hand, and I wonder if a lot of girls don't realize just how limiting it is to rule out any guy shorter than, say, 6' or 6'2". The 50% percentile for height for men in the US is still just a bit over 5'9".
6' is the 85th percentile, and 6'2" is the 96th percentile.
So for those women sticking to 6'2" or above, they are ruling out 96% of available guys.
Well, they shouldn’t be surprise when the guy has them as a side chick, because those women are gonna have to share! 🤢
Lol.
I put I'm 5'8 on the first line of my dating profile.