I pursued my boyfriend first. He was SOOO SHY that he never would have made the first move! He loved that I texted first, asked him to do things with me before he officially asked me out, and generally showed that I was engaged and interested. I didn’t go as far as to ask him out, but I gave him the confidence to finally ask me. Now we’ve been MARRIED for five years!!! I love that man so much!!!
Awww my boyfriend is also very shy. I was always the one initiating things until I confessed to him and this dense guy was so confused cause he thought I would never fall to him lol. After that he always text first and we've been together for 7 months 🥰
Honestly girls can get really crazy, and even call the cops if you make the first move. There are a lot of guys who have had an experience with that one crazy chick, and as a result ladies are going to have to turn on the welcome lights and hire a marching band because woman clues are not actually noticeable clues.
That girl teaching you how to send mixed signals is literally giving you a step-by-step guide on how to be THE narcissist in a relationship. She is dangerous and gassing up a ton of young non-critical thinkers.
Unfortunately, many women are sending mixed signals all the time, without her telling them. I don't remember ever being with a girl who wasn't giving me mixed signals to some degree, or who wasn't frequently flaking, or eventually ghosting. Maybe toxic women attract me.
@@godnyx117 that's already some 30 year old women rn that followed along to Cosmopolitans cesspool articles like how cheating is good for a women lol. What helps is throwing feminism out the door, the modernity of feminism just turned women into shit people
There is a difference between showing interest and being “thirsty” or desperate. My fiancé and I pursued each other equally and both showed interest. It was so refreshing to not have to question how he felt or what his intentions were and not play games. I was 100% direct with him as well and even kissed him first. We have been together for 2 years now, are engaged, living together and have a very happy and loving relationship. Don’t be afraid to show interest ladies- as long as they are reciprocating and matching your energy
Oh my gosh, same here! The current relationship I'm in has been SO liberating and uplifting because I don't have to be second guessing ANYTHING. We are like an open book to each other and we communicate so well. There was no need for any stupid games, no bullshit. We have been together for a little over a year now and moved in together a few months ago. I feel like I've known him for my whole life tho. I'm so happy for you, internet stranger, and hope the best for you and your fiancé!
OMG same with me and my bf! He was so honest and straightforward about his feelings, and that's when I knew I'd be with the right person. We've been dating for 8 months, sadly long distance, but we talk regularly and it's been going great!
@Hailey you speak the truth about showing interest back. I have stopped talking to a woman before because she didn’t show any interest back. Women might think they are being ghosted but in reality, if you don’t show interest back, I’m gonna think you’re not interested and move on to someone that is interested.
“Don’t text him first, it looks desperate and you know it.” If he likes you, he most definitely doesn’t think you’re desperate! He will be genuinely excited that you texted him. And if he does think you’re desperate, then he is not the guy for you!
♫ You've got the music in you Don't let go You've got the music in you One dance left This world is gonna pull through Don't give up You've got a reason to live Can't forget We only get what we give ♫
Yeah, that's dead right, man. And look at them, young and attractive for sure - but so fake. They're like plastic dolls. And you just know that dating them would be an absolute nightmare. Nightmare women giving out their nightmare advice.
I’m 15, and I’ve never dated anyone (I also know that I’m pretty young and impressionable) and I never realized this “advice” was narcissistic/manipulative, so thank you for this video. 🥰
I'm 15 too sis n never dated anyone too, n I'm so glad we both know which advice is dumb or not. 🤗 I've seen these a lot n I Kno its stupid. Make sure we can be critical thinkers Abt this cuz this is delusional😭😭
I started dating when I was 23 and this was my first and last boyfriend, we fell in love and stayed together 7 years and we're getting married in August, you're still young don't rush things up try to know what you want from a man first and you fill find the right one in the right time ❤️
I didn't text my wife back for a full week after the first time we hung out. I did this because all of the advice I got from my guy friends was not to text her to not appear desperate. I have been married to my wife for 15 years now and when we talk about how I didn't text her back she was so upset that I wasn't texting her. Her friends all told her not to text me because she would appear desperate. This lead to us both wanting to text eachother and just sitting there thinking about eachother. Thankfully she forgave me for waiting so long especially since I wanted to text her the next day but didn't listen to my gut. Don't listen to this terrible advice, if you like someone, let them know.
The most horrible advice ever given. I said hello to my husband 1st and we've been married for 16 years. We messaged each other equally no matter who started. We've built TRUE LOVE and become True Soulmates and best friends. Our son is 14. Cheating advice? Manipulations? So bad! We never manipulate each other and that's why we are happy, genuine, loyal, honest and sincere with each other.
Omgg yess I'm 15 n I'm so happy for you guys!!😍😍wish uu guys love, prosperity, happiness, and peace for so much more!!🤗🌾🌾🌸🌄I'm currently in a talking stage w/ a boy n we're so sincere, honest, genuine, loyal, n happy w/ one another.💕 Ive texted him first to check up on him bc I did a poll if anyone is doing ok.🌟 Hopefully we'll be high school sweethearts till the end as I go to college n he pursues his boxing or football career!! I highly recommend this type of relationship advice. You guys rock!💯💯🔥🔥🤟🏽I look up to that & inspired !! We need more people like you guys!!
it’s very warming to hear this kind of experience. many of my generation love to play this kind of game and almost made me want to change my mindset from focused on pure loving my partner into joining this game. but thanks to everyone’s advice and this channel, i decided to stay on my mindset now.
"Cheat just in case" 😂😂😂😂 Worst advice ever. The most toxic thing I did was hack Facebook to get proof of cheating. But that was immature of me. If you do not trust someone to the point of hacking accounts, that is not a relationship you should be in. Regardless if you are right about the cheating, it is still wrong to invade privacy.
It’s not toxic if it saves you from wasting your time. It’s toxic if you have to keep doing it. I did it once to validate what my intuition was telling me (something wasn’t right) and sure enough I found the cheating and took photos of the messages and images. Sent it to both sides of the family before she could deny/lie about it and that was the end of a long term relationship. Sometimes getting that evidence helps.
I will never understand "game-playing" and "the excitement of the chase"- that is so so so tiring. I went back and forth with someone for SEVEN YEARS because they used some of these "tactics" on me and at the end of every phase of us being close to getting into a relationship to then crashing and burning.... I was exhausted. I was young and couldn't see that it was game-playing and that it was super unhealthy, and I'm now in a relationship where both parties made it clear from the start that we wanted to keep pursuing things and that we liked each other a lot. Relationships aren't a game and you shouldn't have to use loads of mind tricks to try and make someone interested in you
These kind of games are really toxic. I lived it on my skin and it was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever lived. It was like hell. I would never do such a thing because it only shows no respect. Also I heard somewhere that if you have to play with someone with mind games because you think you’re in control you’re actually the one who is controlled because you’re just too focused on the person you manipulate
JP, you are absolutely right! I am a baby boomer and in my generation and generations before mines, we would have to take the time to get to know a woman. Now these young women wear red flags all over there body. Tattoos, piercings, blue, green and purple hair. Consider your generation lucky that you can see a woman that has issues and you don't have to waist your time trying to get to know her. Take care and be well brotha!
@@CZAR- Unfortunately I’m a Gen X’er who was raised to rationalize away the Feminist upbringing, so I’ve been through the meat grinder and spent 6 years working on myself after the divorce. Wasn’t until I started kinda looking at the modern dating scene & trying to make sense of it that I found RP content & started putting the pieces together. But the younger guys who are wise enough to learn from our experiences will be much safer. I feel like guys my generation were like lambs to a slaughter. We were raised to be these white knights believing in “true love” bu11shit, when the women who get their claws into us were raised to be a new breed of villainous predators.
JP, I have been in love twice however, I kept my own place because I need a place to go to be alone. And I would never allow a woman to have access to my finances and resources. You're headed in the right direction brotha, work on yourself, your purpose and your hobbies. Date women, have fun with them but never get married again or move in with a woman. I am 58YO and I have never been married and have never lived with a woman and I have no crumb snatchers. I have lived a peaceful, happy and fulfilling life. Most of that time was without a serious relationship.
@@CZAR- Man, hat’s off to you, you’ve played it right. The only things I have to show for everything I’ve been through are my boys & my faith. And I guess in the end, that’s gotta be enough.
Hello, I’m a Gen Z. I hate Gen Z’s but I’m a Gen Z so I kinda got the shortest end of all sticks. Women who literally make TikToks to fantasize about people and stuff like that... We don’t like that. So I’m pretty quiet when it comes to girls and I just keep a few for entertainment reasons...
Most men are tired of games and nonsense and will look for relationships elsewhere. These women are incapable of loving a man for his mental, emotional, and spiritual qualities and will end up turning away potential loyal, lifelong partners but that's what u get...
I've been a dating coach for 13 years, and totally 100% agree with your analysis of every one of these videos. Subbed. How someone can start a video, "This is toxic and manipulative..." and then continue speaking is......terrifying.
@@CourtneyRyan as a low key indifferent introvert, these women on TikTok playing games and encouraging women to play games, never works on me because, I don't live my life playing games and I don't entertain any women who do that or "shit testing" it's really easy to figure out Any women who's bragging about lots of men wanting her or her "asshole" ex I know she's trying to bait me , I dont need that drama in my life.. I think the girl who did a video got a huge backlash on her first video but instead of acknowledging it she back pedals and reverts the attention Great video
Bro real talk, I was talking to this absolute BOMBSHELL of a woman ten years my senior. We would hang out every weekend. We had made plans to go see a movie one weekend. Not only did she never show up, but she never responded to my texts. The next day, I hear from a trusted source that she had gone to see a local band with another guy. By lunch, she still hadn’t responded. For once, my common sense clicked and I realized how desperate I was over a response from a woman who had moved on without warning. I blocked her number and social media. It’s been six months and I’ve yet to seek her out. Haven’t even thought of her until I ran across this gem of a video!
Women: don't text him first it makes you look desperate and like and option and lose interest Men: don't text her first because it makes you look needy and she realizes she doesn't need to chase you and will lose interest Me: *visible confusion*
That's the battle of two players, IMHO. The "relationship" between the two sexes has turned into "The Game" (coincidently the title of a book by Neil Strauss) of "cat and mouse" where neither is looking for long term. You being confused tells me that you are not a player because as this channel's owner confirms it is fine for either side to text first. And if I am right and you are not a player, then take this info as a strong caution/warning regarding the modern landscape of dating, because at least if both are players, then they know the game, but if one is not a player, then s/he will become a casualty.
@@monocharismatic You got that right. I hear about all these rules for dating, admittedly from tv and movies (and maybe a little YT), and it's mostly bs. Then there's the gurus who say you need to act like a jerk, they tell men to do things like criticise the girl so her self-esteem drops and she'll settle for you. Or be abusive because women really do want 50 shades.
Hearing this bullcrap advice from both sexes just makes me want to facepalm. Bruh, just text who you’re interested in, no matter who you are. If they’re interested in you, I guarantee you that it’ll go well if you text first
there’s plenty of girls that say “oh he texted me for a week and then he ghosted me, what an asshole” but they don’t realize that the guy is the one texting first the entire time and is tired of it or thinks the girl isn’t interested as she doesn’t invest then they start talking shit about the guy, ruining his reputation
Yeah I'll text people but if I notice that this trend starts happening and it becomes very black and white where it is like 100% i will just stop bothering. Don't waste your energy on someone that does not care and if they are going to say shit like what you posted in your comment that is even more reason to not bother if they are going to act childish needing your attention lol.
@@comedytv2832 enjoy being single then. Having a loving and caring posture to my girl seems to work a lot better than having unspoken expectations of her.
These “girls” are broken inside and full of fear and insecurity. Text whoever you want whenever you want as much as you want. They will like it or they will not. Everyone just RELAX!
Unfortunately that isn't the message they get from feminism, once brainwashed, it's very hard to see it as false. Not quite the same thing, but not many people turn their backs on religion, they're indoctrinated, the message gets reenforced over and over again and they don't want to see the reality. Same thing happens with the feminist message.
It's not just that though is the problem. Like it's the same with Cluster B personality disorders on the male side, MRA/mgtow trash is the same damn thing, it's being espoused by people that literally have Antisocial Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder for playing games and manupulating people because they're incapable of experiencing real empathy with other human beings, and as a result they're literally doing this just for some type of power and leverage over others and the "thrill" of conquest etc. The problem being, that many young people live online and don't actually know any better between someone who knows what she's talking about like Courtney Ryan, vs. the toxic sludge infesting YT and wherever else. I'm serious, it's like watching some poor 15 yo boy trying to ask "how do I get a girl to like me" and he goes with the lesson "be a complete asshole to her and be nice to her friends." Same dumb crap here, no guy over the age of like 18 is going to fall for this stuff. Most young men are only going to tolerate it up to a certain limit and even then it's not it "working" it's the fact guys can be really patient and persistent. So you being toxic is on the same scale as you having a smack addiction, and he's pursuing you anyway, not because he likes having a smacked out druggie gf, but because he's willing to deal with it all the same. I don't think these girls even understand the degree to which it's not working at all, and most guys are simply putting up with them to a certain limit. A lot of these are actual sociopaths and narcissists is the problem, and they're in turn advising neurotypical women on how to behave with neurotypical men. It just doesn't translate. It doesn't translate because you and your goals are separate from the goals of a sociopath. Sociopaths aren't interested in growing old together with anbyody. They're purely doing this shit for the thrill of having power over others, and to massage their egos. It's going to break down, and it's why these promiscious sociopaths and narcissists churn through so many people, because it's more like a drug addiction to them of trying to have sex with or "conquer" as many people as possible. With that understanding, you will realize as a normal allegedly healthy person mentally and emotionally, these tactics will accomplish literally the exact opposite of what you want and all but guarantee a series of rocky, turbulent shorter term relationships that all invariably fail.
5:48 The funniest thing about this is I just read an old 1950's guide on how to land a husband that was in a women's magazine and one of the things it suggested was calling on the guy first, it's been around 70 years and it seems a lot of women still don't know most guys actually appreciate when a girl is open about liking them.
Or giving them compliments and many other things. I make sure to compliment and up lift my bf almost everyday. I love him a lot, and i want him to know that
I’ve actually learned to take relationship advice lightly from others. Most of the time people aren’t even following their own advice nowadays it’s just a facade
They get mad when you don't take their dating advice but they aren't even successful at it first to begin with lol. Like at least show me you are a living proof otherwise....... what do you know?
Or they give you advice on what they want in a relationship neglecting what you may or may not want. Sure you can give ideas of what makes a good relationship but too many people give advice based on what they want in someone or a relationship. Too many people impose or put their world view onto others and think what they want, others want. Example, I've seen many people say "don't move in together until your married." I'm like, everyone doesn't desire marriage nor does every couple make decisions based on marriage. Or when people with these beliefs on marriage find out that a couple lives together without being married. People with these beliefs think a couple like that is doing something wrong or should've waited for marriage failing to realize that not every couple desires marriage at all and every couple is different.
@@mouacheemeng the sheer volume of single people giving advice is enormous compared to the married people giving advice. Us married people know we don’t know anything 😂
@@garbageparade5144 What works for one relationship isn't necessarily what will work best for someone else's relationship. That's not to say it's bad advice. It just might not be right for everybody.
I love how calmly she just says "that's just the dumbest thing I've ever heard" lmao I love Courtney, you can just see immediately how mature, intelligent and confident she is as soon as the first girl pops up you make a mental comparison and Courtney just exudes this real womanhood, and when you look at the tik tok girl she just seems so immature and full of herself. As a man you automatically think to yourself "I would much more prefer a woman who carries herself and presents herself the way Courtney does." She sits up straight and talks so calm and respectful, this is why so many men take her seriously and respect her, and take her advice seriously, because she does give true wisdom of a real woman. This is why I also think the majority of her fanbase is male.
You are completely right! I’ve dealt with toxic men in the past & stuck around because I thought I wasn’t good enough. One day I just cut myself off from the dating world to heal myself & found someone who I’m still with after two years. Good men are out there, but these tik tok girls aren’t helping.
but the tiktok girls are helping though. theyre helping us see the tactics used on us and are helping us be happy in our decision to stay single. we can watch videos like this when we feel down about being alone and it helps us to feel like we've made the deicison. like showing a recovered junkie pictures of the damage meth does to a body as a way of reminding himself to stay away from meth. more and more men are leaving dating wholesale and while we may just be a blip on society's calendar, we at least as a group will die happier than we would had we married.
The woman I'm really into now - when she messages me first, I'm excited; I'm not thinking, What a needy loser. I like it. I imagine that many if not most guys would love to get a message first from a woman they're interested in.
I initiated with my now-husband on a dating website. He's repeatedly told me that I was the only woman that ever contacted him first, and he was super interested because of that. Personally, I was fed up with being bombarded by men wanting to be my sugar daddy (I was only 19 and 40-50 year old men were constantly in my inbox). So I took control and initiated with men that I could actually see myself dating.
My boyfriend and I both started out super toxic towards each other but after six months of pride and prejudice bs we had to face our behaviors and choose change or total separation. Four years later and here we are in a healthy relationship 🥰
@Evidence Based Health what? That’s not what the comment said. She meant if you have to manipulate someone in order for them to show interest, that’s going against your own good since you HAD to manipulate them in order for them to be with you. Not only are you a shitty person, but you’re settling for somebody who had to be tricked to give you what you wanted in the relationship
Pro-tip: it's never a good idea to take relationship advice from individuals who've never experienced a healthy male - female relationship, who promote deceit / manipulation, who lack integrity and/or from someone who views the opposite sex with contempt.
You could’ve just said ‘from individuals who promote manipulation’ rather than adding the ‘who’ve never experienced a healthy relationship’. Not all victims of manipulation take on their abusers tactics.
@@meggieqin8496 You'd be surprised. I made friends with a girl who got called a pick me over the fact that "pick me" became our label. Why? Because we were defending and agreeing with a woman that agreed with a man.
The beauty of this woman increased 100x after watching this vid. I hope she can reach more girls with her positive influence. We all know what she's up against. 💯👏
You are a giant benefit to me as I am really learning how to start dating again. I can’t believe how toxic society has truly become after just 7 years!
Yes thank you! As a woman, I think it's crazy that some women have these high expectations and claim to be independent then expect men to do things like pay the full bill at dinner, buy them things all the time, expect men to do all the contact and heavy lifting in the first part of the relationship. It's like they don['t understand what "equality" means. You have such a rational and genuine mindset that I rarely see people talk about! 👏👏
So for you women shouldn't have any exceptions at all? You prepare yourself to meet some really nasty guys if you have low standards and are willing to accept the scraps he has to offer! And paying for your dinner DOESN'T diminish your sense of indipendence nor it devalues you...If it's a nice gesture from a man why shouldn't we welcome it?
And all this equality matter is ridiculous. We are not equal, we have equal rights which is different... Most men don't play a huge part in the household even today. A woman must work and have a nice career, give birth and be with the children often at the same time without help and without complaining. She also has to be always or often attractive and pleasing. This is really absurd and shady. We should accept that we are different and have to offer different things without degrading one another...
@@Elisabetta.10980 Did you read what I said? I never said don’t have expectations and I didn’t say that a man paying for your dinner diminishes your value as a woman. Whether your in a relationship where a man pays the bill or you split it or do what ever is completely up to individual relationships. Either way is completely fine as long as it’s something you both agreed upon. I’m saying it’s hypocritical to claim to be independent and strong but then EXPECT men to pay for your dinner, buy you things all the time, and be the one to contact you all the time. You need to have conversations about this and come to a mutual understanding of how your relationship is going to work before just expecting something. And it goes both ways.
@@stripes616 I have perfectly read what you wrote, clearly you didn't read or understand my point of view. You create a contrast between strong and independent and being taken care of by a man which is a huge basis of modern feminisms and for me unhappiness. Things obviously should be discussed but isn't that shady to have to tell a man/woman how to treat us? It's ok for suggestions but otherwise I am very skeptical...
As kind as we try to be, speaking the truth about toxic advice and behavior is healthy. It may be a one minute video, but it speaks volumes about the persons personality, beliefs and behavior. These women are insufferable, and unfortunately spreading advice that is unhealthy. Period. It needs to be called out. Thank you for doing this!
I respect you Courtney for standing out. Honestly, tictok is the most toxic app I have ever used and it also made me feel insecure at times. WELL DONE!
I love how you can see visual clues that Courtney is put off & frazzled by the bs in these videos yet still calm in how she communicates her thoughts! #gfgoals
Finally someone intelligent! Thank you! By the way, you’re such a beautiful woman, so unique and soft spoken :) Loved this video, going to the next one!
I pursued my current partner because he‘s introverted and kinda awkward - well, we both are, which was more of a reason for me to kickstart everything, otherwise we’d both be beating around the bush forever and he was too fine and too lovely a man to lose without trying 😂. He always reminds me that he’s very grateful I initiated things as it gave him the confidence to reciprocate ☺️ we’ve been dating for a few months now :) #TEXTHIMFIRST
My girl never looks through my phone, and there is a simple explanation as to why. I make it abundantly clear that she is welcome to look through my phone anytime for any reason, no questions asked and no judgement passed. There is no mystery or secrets on my phone, it is an open book, so she doesn't see a need to look at it. But we've only been happily married for 32 years, so what do I know?
I'm 14 and boy was this so helpful. Playing hard to get has been so normalized and being toxic that I sort of forgot how it's really supposed to be. This video was truly a blessing🤍
I'm 15 n I just don't get how dating works anymore. This is why most relationships fail because of toxic advice like this. Never again. Guys n girls, follow what's best for YOU and YOUR other😍. N also, work on urself too!!💅🏽😁
I LOVE it when a woman texts me out of the blue. It makes me feel special and it eases up the social pressure that men have of, "you got to show interest, but also not show too much interest" to a girl that might not be showing almost no interest in me at all. Also, I try to never use this as an excuse or try to not let it define me, but I do have ADHD. My attention can change in an instant. And when I'm away from people, it's hard to focus on my connection with her, I can't always think about them because my brain needs me to focus on whatever I'm doing. If I'm at work, I need to focus on my work or things won't get done and I might forget about not only women, but some people in general. Not on purpose, but it does happen to me. I might randomly remember someone maybe a few months later and I do want to reconnect with them, but anxiety will also set in, "maybe they forgot about me, maybe they already met someone else, what they might feel annoyed if I text them or they felt hurt because they think I've been ignoring them and they aren't interested in me anymore because they think I was ignoringthem." Those feelings do come out. If a girl that likes me texts me, alot of those feelings go away, I'm able to refocus on them, I can feel confident in trying to make a move or see where things go....... I don't know where I'm going with this anymore..... Thanks for coming to my ted talk....
I'm really happy you did this. Someone recently did the pain / pleasure technique to me and to tell you the truth... It worked. It worked too well. It had me baffled; it also led me to lose hope in dating for a second. Videos like these help, so huge shout out to that 👌
As someone who recently came out of an engagement with a toxic partner and is finally thinking about re-entering the dating pool, this is honestly terrifying! The world needs more people like you! You’re so right everyone is so entitled and wants a great partner, but doesn’t wanna *be* a good partner
Relationships have become a way for people to promote their egos. As much as I wish I could find a true genuine romantic relationship it’s not worth looking for in this day and age of trash can people.
@@elonever.2.071 Right you sounds like a women who take zero accountability as usual. So hard for wome to live in reality, blame everything on society and men.
So glad I found you... literally 5 minutes ago. So far, you remind me of the female version of Kevin Samuels or Jordan Peterson and I am here for it. Your intelligence and class shines through. We need more females out here that talk and act like you. THANK YOU!
Yeah, but if a friend told me she is always the one that has to text first, I would think, you're into him more than he is into you. Texting him first after you are an established couple is ok but in the beginning, I just hate to see girls becoming the one who is most of the time reaching out to a guy. I feel sorry for them.
Because most women have been raised with the notion of "You are the prize, You are to be the focus in the man's life, Dont settle for less, etc" instead of common sense. It's the sense of entitlement that they have because they get so used to getting what they want so when a guy calls them out, they get mad.
To answer your question, becauae the L3fT has taken our schools and homes away from young girls to mold them into this. Courtney was probably raised by at least one parent that had good values.
I really appreciate your channel. I have four daughters, three are teenagers and I don’t want them to live and thrive in toxic relationships to feel important. You give great advice and I hope the younger generation appreciates your advice!
People are so hurt and I’m so much pain that they’re gonna just be awful to ppl as a defense mechanism and it’s sad. If you’re not toxic don’t allow someone else to make you a toxic person. Protect your peace. Also they little “goodbye”s she does is so cute I love it
Female, 34 years old!! LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!! Im so over the internet and females these days. As a Cancer zodiac, I truly connect with you. The reason I chased bad boys is that my mom was emotionally unavailable. Until I recognized that and healed I kept cycling around those guys. It is so unhealthy and until you recognize it and heal you won't know any better but I know there are girls that just like those types but I don't want to live on the edge all the time!
Make sure you marry a WM. Because by doing so you respect his legacy. How else do you sustain a civilization that you belong to? It requires whte reproductive rates.
@@angelos9800 so then people have been subconsciously engaging in incest for centuries and thousands of years? How else does Chinese, Japanese, or the civilization in the Middle East exist to this day? Because the progenitors of a civilization need to reproduce to reproduce the history which they are cultural descendants of. Understand?
@@freckleheckler6311 Lack of approachability/accessibility in virtue of distance. Back in thousands of years ago, they could not physically travel and procreate with a partner of different ethnicity / race. Wake up.
The whole "texting first shows desperation" is so dumb. No, texting first does not show desperation. Texting someone and expecting them to text right away and hanging on for the next message is desperate. Texting someone and going about your day, eventually responding back and going on with your day is fine. As long as that back and forth is going on then it's fine.
I just found your channel, it is like a breath of fresh air. You are so beautiful and so down to earth, thank you for spreading positive messages to women, we all could use healthy advice over the toxicity!
The way Courtney said "eww eww eww I don't like that.." had me laughing out loud on my walk the park. Guess I should walk home now, people are looking at me funny..
You nailed it. I've been telling woman this for years. The SECOND you're treated in a way you don't like you need to raise it as an issue and if it happens again, LEAVE! That's it. The second you STAY after you're treated in a way you don't approve of, you're giving the man or woman permission to treat you that way. Know you're value and LEAVE. It's that simple.
She says dont judge people from short clips but this the first vid im seeing on this channel and this girl seems like the sweetest kindest person on the planet.
"Think about how hard it is to change your own self, and realize that it's impossible to change others." People will do what they want to do. Courtney's advice is simple and solid. If things are not working out, just walk away. Focus on you. Get a new hobby. It's what I did. I also dug deeper. I was conflicted if I should see a therapist (not because I didn't think I need one; but what I would answer when they asked me why I was there). I didn't know the answer until I went really deep within myself. I discovered the Attachment Theory, learned about it, researched deeper. The more that I did, I was finding answers as to why I should not do what these women are "advising" young women to do. Not a positive energy to be working with - manipulating people.
Oprah never married and she is the happiest woman on Earth. Women - and men - really don't need to get married to be fulfilled. My brother would be a great catch, but here's the thing - at 36 he doesn't seem interested in tying the knot. He is the greatest uncle to my kids and mentors them with strong values. He makes it to every holiday event. He's never been married. He is straight, and good looking. He volunteers as a coach in Little League (my youngest son's team). He dates attractive women, but when the family asks him if he's ever going to settle down his response is, "I think I'm good. Maybe someday - who knows." One lady whom we loved like family went so far as to propose to him. He said he was cool about them being together and staying together, but didn't think that marriage was necessary (they never lived together). A lot of his friends are the same way. Maybe we're moving into a new era where marriage is not necessary.
You can pursue a guy in a likable way without looking desperate. If you like someone, pursue them. If they don't like you back, move on. Thank you for sharing this!
It's women like this in these videos that are the reason some men have given up on relationships,they would rather be single than put up with this toxic nonsense. Thankfully there's still good women out there,like yourself Courtney .You are always so calm and respectful.
I’m so glad you made this video. In this day and age people are proud to be so toxic and it doesn’t leave you fulfilled. I think we’ve all been toxic at one point and it really just doesn’t make you happy.
I love this video! I think we all have our times when we react negatively to stuff or want to overgeneralize, but I see groups of men and women just constantly trying to "outgame" each other and it fucking sucks.
Actually there's something good in tik toks like this, they make me realize what things should I avoid before getting into a relationship 😂😂 Great video Courtney!
I wish we could go back to a time when men and women were respectful to each other and people treated people like people. Love your insight and commentary, it's refreshing to see in this day and age!
Unfortunately broken homes and the internet promotes division between sexes. I too wish women and men could just give one another the benefit of the doubt. The problem is that people can’t handle rejection or hurt in healthy ways. We over-generalize and start saying “ALL women/men”, causing a greater divide.
@@shanijohnson2682 "barely gotten basic rights"? In the U.S. women have had more than "basic rights" for much longer two decades. I'm talking about the United States, not whatever country you're referring to. If you are mistaken and referring to the U.S., well, I'm sorry that you don't know your history.
Im so glad im came across your video. I agree with what you are talking about. It feels nice not to be the only person thinking this way. definitly cant wait to hear more.
What I heard this entire video is: "I must make you insecure to bring you down to my level." Yeah, definitely going to have a healthy relationship that way.
Simple, elegant, & sound advice for both genders. If more women like her would actually confront women irl when they're seeing this behavior displayed in real time then maybe some little girl witnessing it would have reference that maybe this behavior is bad. Ladies if you see any woman displaying these kinds of behaviors be they strangers, friends, or family you need to call it out immediately just like guys need to do the same when we see another man being toxic or problematic. Our society is crumbling cuz good people do nothing but sit back & watch.
I’m 6 minutes in and you’re already speaking to my soul😂 you’re exactly the female I’d actually like to be friends with!! Idk why toxicity and manipulation is something people are so proud of nowadays. And girls love to hate on other females who are in healthy relationships lol
Damn this explains my last relationship, and to think she almost had me convinced that I was a terrible person in her eyes, trying to make me feel like shit...but really she was chasing that drama high lol. Oh well, see ya never!
I totally agree with your video. I use to be one of those toxic women not knowing I was toxic. I went to therapy and worked on myself and now I am in a happy, mature, healthy relationship. If you are toxic you attract toxic. If you are healed and happy you attract that.
*"...almost like they're in an ocean with unlimited supplies of water...."* She literally said being with her is like drinking seawater and she didn't even realize it.
I think your channel may just be my favorite relationship advice channel. I think part of it is that so many of the things you say ring true to me based on my own experience.
Watching this and hearing yours and reading everyone's GOOD takes in the comments has been like therapy for me,thank you so much for counter acting all these toxic people and mindsets! The world needs things like this 😭😆❤️
And shes gorgeous!! I swore beautiful women who are smart, sweet dont exist. These days if a girl is gorgeous shes not beautiful on the inside! This woman is a rare ome,.glad I found her.
I just found your channel. You are a breath of fresh air and exudes feminiinty and ideal wife vibes. All nontoxic women should listen to you especially the young minds who are constantly bombarded by toxic women's advice on the social media misleading women to be manipulatively cunning and narcicists themselves. There should be more women like you to counteract the bad teachings of toxic women on social media. Subscribed!
I pursued my boyfriend first. He was SOOO SHY that he never would have made the first move! He loved that I texted first, asked him to do things with me before he officially asked me out, and generally showed that I was engaged and interested. I didn’t go as far as to ask him out, but I gave him the confidence to finally ask me. Now we’ve been MARRIED for five years!!! I love that man so much!!!
Awww my boyfriend is also very shy. I was always the one initiating things until I confessed to him and this dense guy was so confused cause he thought I would never fall to him lol. After that he always text first and we've been together for 7 months 🥰
@@kumarules118 Haha, that’s great! Dense is a good descriptor. My husband will still miss things. I don’t even do hints, I’m very obvious!
Honestly girls can get really crazy, and even call the cops if you make the first move. There are a lot of guys who have had an experience with that one crazy chick, and as a result ladies are going to have to turn on the welcome lights and hire a marching band because woman clues are not actually noticeable clues.
Take notes ladies cus she has actual game
Take notes ladies cus she has actual game
I have 3 words for you "cheat just in case"...hunny we're getting you a math tutor right after a therapist
😂😂😂
Follow that advice, and you're on s one way ticket to being a guest on Maury Povich. 😂
let toxic people be toxic together. That is how you make the world a better place.
Maybe that loser thought, “Cheat, Justin case”
@@slaughterhigh23 I would advise Justin Case not to cheat
That girl teaching you how to send mixed signals is literally giving you a step-by-step guide on how to be THE narcissist in a relationship. She is dangerous and gassing up a ton of young non-critical thinkers.
Unfortunately, many women are sending mixed signals all the time, without her telling them. I don't remember ever being with a girl who wasn't giving me mixed signals to some degree, or who wasn't frequently flaking, or eventually ghosting. Maybe toxic women attract me.
@@independentthought3390 if she's giving mixed signals, best thing to do is just not chase after her anymore at that point.
Her (and her students) in her 30s: wHerE aRe All ThE gOoD gUYs?
@@independentthought3390 Trust me bro its not just you.
@@godnyx117 that's already some 30 year old women rn that followed along to Cosmopolitans cesspool articles like how cheating is good for a women lol. What helps is throwing feminism out the door, the modernity of feminism just turned women into shit people
There is a difference between showing interest and being “thirsty” or desperate. My fiancé and I pursued each other equally and both showed interest. It was so refreshing to not have to question how he felt or what his intentions were and not play games. I was 100% direct with him as well and even kissed him first. We have been together for 2 years now, are engaged, living together and have a very happy and loving relationship. Don’t be afraid to show interest ladies- as long as they are reciprocating and matching your energy
Love this!!
Oh my gosh, same here! The current relationship I'm in has been SO liberating and uplifting because I don't have to be second guessing ANYTHING. We are like an open book to each other and we communicate so well. There was no need for any stupid games, no bullshit. We have been together for a little over a year now and moved in together a few months ago. I feel like I've known him for my whole life tho. I'm so happy for you, internet stranger, and hope the best for you and your fiancé!
@@moonlitlovers thank you!! I wish you the best as well!❤️
OMG same with me and my bf! He was so honest and straightforward about his feelings, and that's when I knew I'd be with the right person. We've been dating for 8 months, sadly long distance, but we talk regularly and it's been going great!
@Hailey you speak the truth about showing interest back. I have stopped talking to a woman before because she didn’t show any interest back. Women might think they are being ghosted but in reality, if you don’t show interest back, I’m gonna think you’re not interested and move on to someone that is interested.
“Don’t text him first, it looks desperate and you know it.”
If he likes you, he most definitely doesn’t think you’re desperate! He will be genuinely excited that you texted him. And if he does think you’re desperate, then he is not the guy for you!
Right
TEACH!!!
That means they want guys to look desperate smh
@@triplemoyagames4195 because a desperate person will be far more tolerant of bullshit.
They wont listen tho
These Tik Tok girls are giving good lessons on how to never attract a quality man. You get what you give.
When they turn 40 and are alone, it's game over for them.
Amen
♫ You've got the music in you
Don't let go
You've got the music in you
One dance left
This world is gonna pull through
Don't give up
You've got a reason to live
Can't forget
We only get what we give ♫
Yeah, that's dead right, man. And look at them, young and attractive for sure - but so fake. They're like plastic dolls. And you just know that dating them would be an absolute nightmare. Nightmare women giving out their nightmare advice.
They keep trying to upgrade to men with more money, better looks, etc. In the end, they've hit the wall, probably have kids, and alone. Oh well.
I’m 15, and I’ve never dated anyone (I also know that I’m pretty young and impressionable) and I never realized this “advice” was narcissistic/manipulative, so thank you for this video. 🥰
I dunno how good this piece of advice is going to be.
You shouldn't have to force things. That goes both ways.
When it’s time you’ll know. Glad you realized this
I'm 15 too sis n never dated anyone too, n I'm so glad we both know which advice is dumb or not. 🤗 I've seen these a lot n I Kno its stupid. Make sure we can be critical thinkers Abt this cuz this is delusional😭😭
I started dating when I was 23 and this was my first and last boyfriend, we fell in love and stayed together 7 years and we're getting married in August, you're still young don't rush things up try to know what you want from a man first and you fill find the right one in the right time ❤️
@@Rosa-ey8kl Where can us men find more of you. Please point us in the direction of the farm field which you were plucked out of. Thanks.
I didn't text my wife back for a full week after the first time we hung out. I did this because all of the advice I got from my guy friends was not to text her to not appear desperate. I have been married to my wife for 15 years now and when we talk about how I didn't text her back she was so upset that I wasn't texting her. Her friends all told her not to text me because she would appear desperate. This lead to us both wanting to text eachother and just sitting there thinking about eachother. Thankfully she forgave me for waiting so long especially since I wanted to text her the next day but didn't listen to my gut. Don't listen to this terrible advice, if you like someone, let them know.
thanks for sharing your story
These “women” giving “lessons” are the loneliest
Whose inbox filled with chads!
facts tho
You can see it in their eyes. The eyes don’t lie, and these girls are miserable.
They're on top of the world right now. Give them about 5 to 10 years and their tune will change.
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 lmao
The most horrible advice ever given. I said hello to my husband 1st and we've been married for 16 years. We messaged each other equally no matter who started. We've built TRUE LOVE and become True Soulmates and best friends. Our son is 14. Cheating advice? Manipulations? So bad! We never manipulate each other and that's why we are happy, genuine, loyal, honest and sincere with each other.
Omgg yess I'm 15 n I'm so happy for you guys!!😍😍wish uu guys love, prosperity, happiness, and peace for so much more!!🤗🌾🌾🌸🌄I'm currently in a talking stage w/ a boy n we're so sincere, honest, genuine, loyal, n happy w/ one another.💕 Ive texted him first to check up on him bc I did a poll if anyone is doing ok.🌟 Hopefully we'll be high school sweethearts till the end as I go to college n he pursues his boxing or football career!! I highly recommend this type of relationship advice. You guys rock!💯💯🔥🔥🤟🏽I look up to that & inspired !! We need more people like you guys!!
it’s very warming to hear this kind of experience. many of my generation love to play this kind of game and almost made me want to change my mindset from focused on pure loving my partner into joining this game. but thanks to everyone’s advice and this channel, i decided to stay on my mindset now.
@@moanapooh9726 hopefully you'll stay a virgin till marriage
W couple 🙏👑
"Cheat just in case" 😂😂😂😂 Worst advice ever. The most toxic thing I did was hack Facebook to get proof of cheating. But that was immature of me. If you do not trust someone to the point of hacking accounts, that is not a relationship you should be in. Regardless if you are right about the cheating, it is still wrong to invade privacy.
It’s not toxic if it saves you from wasting your time. It’s toxic if you have to keep doing it. I did it once to validate what my intuition was telling me (something wasn’t right) and sure enough I found the cheating and took photos of the messages and images. Sent it to both sides of the family before she could deny/lie about it and that was the end of a long term relationship. Sometimes getting that evidence helps.
@@charliedallachie3539 there is no blind trust for me
cheating just incase....Stds taking notes💅😂😂😂😂 just joking
@@royalecrafts6252 are you in a relationship?
@@bratindas5814 yes, about 8 years now
I will never understand "game-playing" and "the excitement of the chase"- that is so so so tiring. I went back and forth with someone for SEVEN YEARS because they used some of these "tactics" on me and at the end of every phase of us being close to getting into a relationship to then crashing and burning.... I was exhausted. I was young and couldn't see that it was game-playing and that it was super unhealthy, and I'm now in a relationship where both parties made it clear from the start that we wanted to keep pursuing things and that we liked each other a lot. Relationships aren't a game and you shouldn't have to use loads of mind tricks to try and make someone interested in you
These kind of games are really toxic. I lived it on my skin and it was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever lived. It was like hell. I would never do such a thing because it only shows no respect. Also I heard somewhere that if you have to play with someone with mind games because you think you’re in control you’re actually the one who is controlled because you’re just too focused on the person you manipulate
You put up with that for 7 years?? Wow..
Jesus Christ, 7 years is a super long time.
“These girls wear their crazy like a badge of honor.” 😂 Modern dating in a nutshell.
JP, you are absolutely right!
I am a baby boomer and in my generation and generations before mines, we would have to take the time to get to know a woman.
Now these young women wear red flags all over there body.
Tattoos, piercings, blue, green and purple hair.
Consider your generation lucky that you can see a woman that has issues and you don't have to waist your time trying to get to know her.
Take care and be well brotha!
@@CZAR- Unfortunately I’m a Gen X’er who was raised to rationalize away the Feminist upbringing, so I’ve been through the meat grinder and spent 6 years working on myself after the divorce. Wasn’t until I started kinda looking at the modern dating scene & trying to make sense of it that I found RP content & started putting the pieces together. But the younger guys who are wise enough to learn from our experiences will be much safer. I feel like guys my generation were like lambs to a slaughter. We were raised to be these white knights believing in “true love” bu11shit, when the women who get their claws into us were raised to be a new breed of villainous predators.
JP,
I have been in love twice however, I kept my own place because I need a place to go to be alone.
And I would never allow a woman to have access to my finances and resources.
You're headed in the right direction brotha, work on yourself, your purpose and your hobbies.
Date women, have fun with them but never get married again or move in with a woman.
I am 58YO and I have never been married and have never lived with a woman and I have no crumb snatchers.
I have lived a peaceful, happy and fulfilling life.
Most of that time was without a serious relationship.
@@CZAR- Man, hat’s off to you, you’ve played it right. The only things I have to show for everything I’ve been through are my boys & my faith. And I guess in the end, that’s gotta be enough.
Hello, I’m a Gen Z. I hate Gen Z’s but I’m a Gen Z so I kinda got the shortest end of all sticks. Women who literally make TikToks to fantasize about people and stuff like that... We don’t like that. So I’m pretty quiet when it comes to girls and I just keep a few for entertainment reasons...
These Tik Toks were step-by-step instructions on how to die alone and miserable.
anyone else hear cats meowing in the background?
nah they don’t die alone
Most of these females will anyway because most lack accountability
Most men are tired of games and nonsense and will look for relationships elsewhere. These women are incapable of loving a man for his mental, emotional, and spiritual qualities and will end up turning away potential loyal, lifelong partners but that's what u get...
You don’t fool me Kevin Samuels going under the name of Kalvin
I have never watched tik tok before in my life, and after seeing these clips I don’t think I ever will.
There are many funny, interesting stuff and memes but you have to dive deep in the ocean of trash.
Same, I don't know many guys that use it.
Yeah, TikTok is interesting, to say the least, and not in a good way.
Good decision
LOL you’re not missing anything
I've been a dating coach for 13 years, and totally 100% agree with your analysis of every one of these videos. Subbed. How someone can start a video, "This is toxic and manipulative..." and then continue speaking is......terrifying.
Thank you, Mark! Happy to have you here. I completely agree 🤯
Welcome to the brave new attention-whoring world
@@CourtneyRyan as a low key indifferent introvert, these women on TikTok playing games and encouraging women to play games, never works on me because, I don't live my life playing games and I don't entertain any women who do that or "shit testing" it's really easy to figure out
Any women who's bragging about lots of men wanting her or her "asshole" ex I know she's trying to bait me , I dont need that drama in my life..
I think the girl who did a video got a huge backlash on her first video but instead of acknowledging it she back pedals and reverts the attention
Great video
These girls should have written for “How To Lose a Guy in Ten Days”.
Bro real talk, I was talking to this absolute BOMBSHELL of a woman ten years my senior. We would hang out every weekend. We had made plans to go see a movie one weekend. Not only did she never show up, but she never responded to my texts. The next day, I hear from a trusted source that she had gone to see a local band with another guy. By lunch, she still hadn’t responded. For once, my common sense clicked and I realized how desperate I was over a response from a woman who had moved on without warning. I blocked her number and social media. It’s been six months and I’ve yet to seek her out. Haven’t even thought of her until I ran across this gem of a video!
@@creelin489 good for you but whatcha doin dating a old hag that’s 10 years senior
@@victorvaldez760 💀
If they wrote it it would be called how to lose a guy in 10 seconds.
Underrated comment! THIS IS SO GOOD!
Women: don't text him first it makes you look desperate and like and option and lose interest
Men: don't text her first because it makes you look needy and she realizes she doesn't need to chase you and will lose interest
Me: *visible confusion*
That's the battle of two players, IMHO. The "relationship" between the two sexes has turned into "The Game" (coincidently the title of a book by Neil Strauss) of "cat and mouse" where neither is looking for long term. You being confused tells me that you are not a player because as this channel's owner confirms it is fine for either side to text first. And if I am right and you are not a player, then take this info as a strong caution/warning regarding the modern landscape of dating, because at least if both are players, then they know the game, but if one is not a player, then s/he will become a casualty.
@@monocharismatic You got that right. I hear about all these rules for dating, admittedly from tv and movies (and maybe a little YT), and it's mostly bs. Then there's the gurus who say you need to act like a jerk, they tell men to do things like criticise the girl so her self-esteem drops and she'll settle for you. Or be abusive because women really do want 50 shades.
Hearing this bullcrap advice from both sexes just makes me want to facepalm. Bruh, just text who you’re interested in, no matter who you are. If they’re interested in you, I guarantee you that it’ll go well if you text first
Its so confusing 😢
LITERALLY
there’s plenty of girls that say “oh he texted me for a week and then he ghosted me, what an asshole” but they don’t realize that the guy is the one texting first the entire time and is tired of it or thinks the girl isn’t interested as she doesn’t invest then they start talking shit about the guy, ruining his reputation
🎯
Then just tell the girl that you wish she would also text first occasionally. If she flips out leave. Otherwise she would.
Ghosting is lame
Yeah I'll text people but if I notice that this trend starts happening and it becomes very black and white where it is like 100% i will just stop bothering. Don't waste your energy on someone that does not care and if they are going to say shit like what you posted in your comment that is even more reason to not bother if they are going to act childish needing your attention lol.
@@mjh277 no its worth it. She should know to take intiative. Its time to stop handholding women and treat them the way they treat us.
@@comedytv2832 enjoy being single then.
Having a loving and caring posture to my girl seems to work a lot better than having unspoken expectations of her.
These “girls” are broken inside and full of fear and insecurity. Text whoever you want whenever you want as much as you want. They will like it or they will not. Everyone just RELAX!
Unfortunately that isn't the message they get from feminism, once brainwashed, it's very hard to see it as false.
Not quite the same thing, but not many people turn their backs on religion, they're indoctrinated, the message gets reenforced over and over again and they don't want to see the reality. Same thing happens with the feminist message.
Amen ^
It's not just that though is the problem. Like it's the same with Cluster B personality disorders on the male side, MRA/mgtow trash is the same damn thing, it's being espoused by people that literally have Antisocial Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder for playing games and manupulating people because they're incapable of experiencing real empathy with other human beings, and as a result they're literally doing this just for some type of power and leverage over others and the "thrill" of conquest etc. The problem being, that many young people live online and don't actually know any better between someone who knows what she's talking about like Courtney Ryan, vs. the toxic sludge infesting YT and wherever else. I'm serious, it's like watching some poor 15 yo boy trying to ask "how do I get a girl to like me" and he goes with the lesson "be a complete asshole to her and be nice to her friends." Same dumb crap here, no guy over the age of like 18 is going to fall for this stuff. Most young men are only going to tolerate it up to a certain limit and even then it's not it "working" it's the fact guys can be really patient and persistent. So you being toxic is on the same scale as you having a smack addiction, and he's pursuing you anyway, not because he likes having a smacked out druggie gf, but because he's willing to deal with it all the same. I don't think these girls even understand the degree to which it's not working at all, and most guys are simply putting up with them to a certain limit.
A lot of these are actual sociopaths and narcissists is the problem, and they're in turn advising neurotypical women on how to behave with neurotypical men. It just doesn't translate. It doesn't translate because you and your goals are separate from the goals of a sociopath. Sociopaths aren't interested in growing old together with anbyody. They're purely doing this shit for the thrill of having power over others, and to massage their egos. It's going to break down, and it's why these promiscious sociopaths and narcissists churn through so many people, because it's more like a drug addiction to them of trying to have sex with or "conquer" as many people as possible. With that understanding, you will realize as a normal allegedly healthy person mentally and emotionally, these tactics will accomplish literally the exact opposite of what you want and all but guarantee a series of rocky, turbulent shorter term relationships that all invariably fail.
5:48 The funniest thing about this is I just read an old 1950's guide on how to land a husband that was in a women's magazine and one of the things it suggested was calling on the guy first, it's been around 70 years and it seems a lot of women still don't know most guys actually appreciate when a girl is open about liking them.
Or giving them compliments and many other things. I make sure to compliment and up lift my bf almost everyday. I love him a lot, and i want him to know that
"...oh no Honey we're not following you" 😂 👌
😂👏🏼
Love it 🤣
I died laughing 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's the highlight of the video.
I’ve actually learned to take relationship advice lightly from others. Most of the time people aren’t even following their own advice nowadays it’s just a facade
They get mad when you don't take their dating advice but they aren't even successful at it first to begin with lol. Like at least show me you are a living proof otherwise....... what do you know?
Or they give you advice on what they want in a relationship neglecting what you may or may not want. Sure you can give ideas of what makes a good relationship but too many people give advice based on what they want in someone or a relationship. Too many people impose or put their world view onto others and think what they want, others want. Example, I've seen many people say "don't move in together until your married." I'm like, everyone doesn't desire marriage nor does every couple make decisions based on marriage. Or when people with these beliefs on marriage find out that a couple lives together without being married. People with these beliefs think a couple like that is doing something wrong or should've waited for marriage failing to realize that not every couple desires marriage at all and every couple is different.
@@mouacheemeng the sheer volume of single people giving advice is enormous compared to the married people giving advice. Us married people know we don’t know anything 😂
@@sucram1015 not moving in together before your married is good advice whether you desire it or not, its just safer for you and the relationship
@@garbageparade5144 What works for one relationship isn't necessarily what will work best for someone else's relationship. That's not to say it's bad advice. It just might not be right for everybody.
I love how calmly she just says "that's just the dumbest thing I've ever heard" lmao
I love Courtney, you can just see immediately how mature, intelligent and confident she is as soon as the first girl pops up you make a mental comparison and Courtney just exudes this real womanhood, and when you look at the tik tok girl she just seems so immature and full of herself. As a man you automatically think to yourself "I would much more prefer a woman who carries herself and presents herself the way Courtney does." She sits up straight and talks so calm and respectful, this is why so many men take her seriously and respect her, and take her advice seriously, because she does give true wisdom of a real woman. This is why I also think the majority of her fanbase is male.
“Oh no honey I’m not following you” 😂😂 loved that
You are completely right! I’ve dealt with toxic men in the past & stuck around because I thought I wasn’t good enough. One day I just cut myself off from the dating world to heal myself & found someone who I’m still with after two years. Good men are out there, but these tik tok girls aren’t helping.
Same exact thing happened to me. Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan i think thongs are the most attractive thing on women
but the tiktok girls are helping though. theyre helping us see the tactics used on us and are helping us be happy in our decision to stay single. we can watch videos like this when we feel down about being alone and it helps us to feel like we've made the deicison. like showing a recovered junkie pictures of the damage meth does to a body as a way of reminding himself to stay away from meth. more and more men are leaving dating wholesale and while we may just be a blip on society's calendar, we at least as a group will die happier than we would had we married.
@@chucklombardo8167 bruh ? Wtf?
Guy's like chuck aren't helping either🙄
The woman I'm really into now - when she messages me first, I'm excited; I'm not thinking, What a needy loser. I like it. I imagine that many if not most guys would love to get a message first from a woman they're interested in.
Yes but you do not stay interested gauranteed.
@@veronicaana ?
@@veronicaana that’s a big assumption to make about someone you don’t know on the internet especially the “guaranteed” part
@@veronicaana stop dating bad boys, just stay away from chad and Tyrone and your life will be great...
I initiated with my now-husband on a dating website. He's repeatedly told me that I was the only woman that ever contacted him first, and he was super interested because of that.
Personally, I was fed up with being bombarded by men wanting to be my sugar daddy (I was only 19 and 40-50 year old men were constantly in my inbox). So I took control and initiated with men that I could actually see myself dating.
My boyfriend and I both started out super toxic towards each other but after six months of pride and prejudice bs we had to face our behaviors and choose change or total separation. Four years later and here we are in a healthy relationship 🥰
It’s not always sunshine and rainbows! 😂 glad to hear things are healthy for both of you now. wishing you all the best ❤️
To be with someone you manipulated is the true definition of settling.
Amen!!
It's not manipulation, it's called mutual understanding. It doesn't exist in the west, so people won't understand.
@Evidence Based Health what? That’s not what the comment said. She meant if you have to manipulate someone in order for them to show interest, that’s going against your own good since you HAD to manipulate them in order for them to be with you. Not only are you a shitty person, but you’re settling for somebody who had to be tricked to give you what you wanted in the relationship
Best comment!
wisdom compressed , 10 of 10 norsemen endorse
Pro-tip: it's never a good idea to take relationship advice from individuals who've never experienced a healthy male - female relationship, who promote deceit / manipulation, who lack integrity and/or from someone who views the opposite sex with contempt.
Boom
Do you mean a healthy romantic male-female relationship? Bc if that's the case, I don't agree with you. If you mean platonic, then 100% agree.
@@user-jw4bd5id3k ?_?
You could’ve just said ‘from individuals who promote manipulation’ rather than adding the ‘who’ve never experienced a healthy relationship’. Not all victims of manipulation take on their abusers tactics.
Yep, f@cked in the head
They gonna call Courtney a “pick me” and be mad cause she got picked.
There's a big difference between a sensible woman and a pick me. Pick mes are simps and internally misogynistic.
Pick me is way overused nowadays anyway. Ppl over-apply “simp” in the same way
Honestly thats not even near a pick me type ,but OK
@@meggieqin8496 You'd be surprised. I made friends with a girl who got called a pick me over the fact that "pick me" became our label. Why? Because we were defending and agreeing with a woman that agreed with a man.
Just another chameleon
There needs to be more content creators like you. Thank the Lord someone makes sense.
The beauty of this woman increased 100x after watching this vid. I hope she can reach more girls with her positive influence. We all know what she's up against. 💯👏
This is an actual female role model. I hope more women will see the light and know they don't have to be manipulative and deceitful..
You're a rare breed, Courtney. It's refreshing to see women like you exist in this world.
I second that.
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So true. She has that feminine grace. I feel like there were a lot more women like her in the 90s.
Just 'sweet' what's not top like about her?
@@tastybrownie7448 yea man.. Love that femininity she has
The “oh it’s her again” got me laughing 😂
😂😂
You are a giant benefit to me as I am really learning how to start dating again. I can’t believe how toxic society has truly become after just 7 years!
Yes thank you! As a woman, I think it's crazy that some women have these high expectations and claim to be independent then expect men to do things like pay the full bill at dinner, buy them things all the time, expect men to do all the contact and heavy lifting in the first part of the relationship. It's like they don['t understand what "equality" means.
You have such a rational and genuine mindset that I rarely see people talk about! 👏👏
So for you women shouldn't have any exceptions at all? You prepare yourself to meet some really nasty guys if you have low standards and are willing to accept the scraps he has to offer! And paying for your dinner DOESN'T diminish your sense of indipendence nor it devalues you...If it's a nice gesture from a man why shouldn't we welcome it?
And all this equality matter is ridiculous. We are not equal, we have equal rights which is different... Most men don't play a huge part in the household even today. A woman must work and have a nice career, give birth and be with the children often at the same time without help and without complaining. She also has to be always or often attractive and pleasing. This is really absurd and shady. We should accept that we are different and have to offer different things without degrading one another...
@@Elisabetta.10980 Did you read what I said? I never said don’t have expectations and I didn’t say that a man paying for your dinner diminishes your value as a woman. Whether your in a relationship where a man pays the bill or you split it or do what ever is completely up to individual relationships. Either way is completely fine as long as it’s something you both agreed upon.
I’m saying it’s hypocritical to claim to be independent and strong but then EXPECT men to pay for your dinner, buy you things all the time, and be the one to contact you all the time. You need to have conversations about this and come to a mutual understanding of how your relationship is going to work before just expecting something. And it goes both ways.
@@stripes616 I have perfectly read what you wrote, clearly you didn't read or understand my point of view. You create a contrast between strong and independent and being taken care of by a man which is a huge basis of modern feminisms and for me unhappiness. Things obviously should be discussed but isn't that shady to have to tell a man/woman how to treat us? It's ok for suggestions but otherwise I am very skeptical...
@@Elisabetta.10980 ehh, they are pick me's the thing is they will still get cheated on no matter what
"cheat just incase" what an incredible mind & show of character...
So rare to see a girl/woman not being toxic these days its kinda weird watching someone being wholesome.
so refreshing..like a breath of fresh air!!!!
@@brownpunk1794 you are the breath of my air😎
Can we clone Courtney... I wish.
You need to get out more. Meet real people.
There are a lot of women and men that are great people. The o ly problem is the bad ones are so loud that they drown out the good.
As kind as we try to be, speaking the truth about toxic advice and behavior is healthy. It may be a one minute video, but it speaks volumes about the persons personality, beliefs and behavior. These women are insufferable, and unfortunately spreading advice that is unhealthy. Period. It needs to be called out. Thank you for doing this!
I respect you Courtney for standing out. Honestly, tictok is the most toxic app I have ever used and it also made me feel insecure at times. WELL DONE!
I like your RUclips username bro. But are you really an alpha male bro, just asking??
What are you even watching?
@@abhiramachari8954 I'd argue that anyone with a YT username claiming to be alpha probably isn't.
I love how you can see visual clues that Courtney is put off & frazzled by the bs in these videos yet still calm in how she communicates her thoughts! #gfgoals
#wifegoals
Haha I appreciate you 🥰
Looool, I could feel her wanting to roll her eyes
"Three little words: cheat just in case."
Four. That's four words 😂
She thinks 'in case' is one word. Babes, go back to school and learn proper English before giving 'relationship' advice.
In her mind it's "cheat Justin case"
Chasing Chad, he pumped and dumped her and now she’s having her epiphany. How many guys has she destroyed??
Lol I thought it was 1 word
@@saureco *Justin Case 😂👍
I guess never using TikTok is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life so far
Thank you Courtney for going through the Toxic Tiktok content, so that we don't have to.
😂 happy to help LOL
Tik Tok itself is toxic.
😂😂😂 Nice one Nishchal
Tik Toxic - there, I fixed it for you.
When you said, “Oh no, honey, we’re not following you.” *click* 😂😂😂
Girl: "I got hit by a car, im bleeding, please call my dad!"
Her friend: " No! Don't! That's desperate and you know it! He must call you first!"
HAHAHAHHA
lol imagine like
a girl "i got stab, pls call an ambulance!"
the friend: "no! that's desperate! the hospital must call you first!"
LOL
looooooool
🤣🤣
Finally someone intelligent! Thank you! By the way, you’re such a beautiful woman, so unique and soft spoken :) Loved this video, going to the next one!
Thank you so much 🥰 glad you’re here!
I pursued my current partner because he‘s introverted and kinda awkward - well, we both are, which was more of a reason for me to kickstart everything, otherwise we’d both be beating around the bush forever and he was too fine and too lovely a man to lose without trying 😂. He always reminds me that he’s very grateful I initiated things as it gave him the confidence to reciprocate ☺️ we’ve been dating for a few months now :) #TEXTHIMFIRST
Same! Glad your story turned out well! ☺️
awww this is cute
Hope it works out well!
"current partner" pfff, you're already damaged. Please, leave him, you're doing truly bad things
You sound strong and down to earth. I hope all works out for you.
My girl never looks through my phone, and there is a simple explanation as to why. I make it abundantly clear that she is welcome to look through my phone anytime for any reason, no questions asked and no judgement passed. There is no mystery or secrets on my phone, it is an open book, so she doesn't see a need to look at it. But we've only been happily married for 32 years, so what do I know?
Great although im wondering whether someone has ever hid their adultery in plain sight here
@@TimpBizkit we call that pessimism no matter the circumstance. And that’s unhealthy my friend.
"Toxic": what a guy suddenly becomes when you can't manipulate him anymore
It's ironic that they're the toxic ones.
Well Said Brother !
Preach
So true 👌
Amen! Its great to see them when they don't have that power anymore.
Your voice is so soothing!! Love this, let’s abolish toxic thinking for relationships
Thank you Madi! ❤️
I'm 14 and boy was this so helpful. Playing hard to get has been so normalized and being toxic that I sort of forgot how it's really supposed to be. This video was truly a blessing🤍
Boy, you're 14, you're not old enough to have forgotten your first thing yet
@@screwgoogle4993
Legit what the hell does this mean
For someone talking shit about a 14 year old you type like you’re even younger than them .v.
@@concretecassowary2862 frrr💀💀
I'm 15 n I just don't get how dating works anymore. This is why most relationships fail because of toxic advice like this. Never again. Guys n girls, follow what's best for YOU and YOUR other😍. N also, work on urself too!!💅🏽😁
I LOVE it when a woman texts me out of the blue. It makes me feel special and it eases up the social pressure that men have of, "you got to show interest, but also not show too much interest" to a girl that might not be showing almost no interest in me at all. Also, I try to never use this as an excuse or try to not let it define me, but I do have ADHD. My attention can change in an instant. And when I'm away from people, it's hard to focus on my connection with her, I can't always think about them because my brain needs me to focus on whatever I'm doing. If I'm at work, I need to focus on my work or things won't get done and I might forget about not only women, but some people in general. Not on purpose, but it does happen to me. I might randomly remember someone maybe a few months later and I do want to reconnect with them, but anxiety will also set in, "maybe they forgot about me, maybe they already met someone else, what they might feel annoyed if I text them or they felt hurt because they think I've been ignoring them and they aren't interested in me anymore because they think I was ignoringthem." Those feelings do come out. If a girl that likes me texts me, alot of those feelings go away, I'm able to refocus on them, I can feel confident in trying to make a move or see where things go....... I don't know where I'm going with this anymore..... Thanks for coming to my ted talk....
your voice is so calming. it's very nice :)
I'm really happy you did this. Someone recently did the pain / pleasure technique to me and to tell you the truth... It worked. It worked too well. It had me baffled; it also led me to lose hope in dating for a second. Videos like these help, so huge shout out to that 👌
As someone who recently came out of an engagement with a toxic partner and is finally thinking about re-entering the dating pool, this is honestly terrifying! The world needs more people like you! You’re so right everyone is so entitled and wants a great partner, but doesn’t wanna *be* a good partner
I always wonder, when it comes to relationships, why people try to make things complicated ? Maybe they want the attention that they don't get idk.
Relationships have become a way for people to promote their egos. As much as I wish I could find a true genuine romantic relationship it’s not worth looking for in this day and age of trash can people.
This is how manipulative you become when you only date toxic, unavailable, narcissistic men.
@@elonever.2.071 Right you sounds like a women who take zero accountability as usual. So hard for wome to live in reality, blame everything on society and men.
Women are hard wired to get attention from men. You love it, you need it.
@@Vitapantern
Wrong gender dude.
We have the same mindset, I like you. Glad I found you! ❤️
Lol.
So glad I found you... literally 5 minutes ago. So far, you remind me of the female version of Kevin Samuels or Jordan Peterson and I am here for it. Your intelligence and class shines through. We need more females out here that talk and act like you. THANK YOU!
''I'm not scared of looking like I'm into him. Because, If I am...I want him to know.''
Why can't more women be wired like Courtney!
Yeah, but if a friend told me she is always the one that has to text first, I would think, you're into him more than he is into you. Texting him first after you are an established couple is ok but in the beginning, I just hate to see girls becoming the one who is most of the time reaching out to a guy. I feel sorry for them.
Society is building a world where we are quickly becoming a rare breed.
Because most women have been raised with the notion of "You are the prize, You are to be the focus in the man's life, Dont settle for less, etc" instead of common sense. It's the sense of entitlement that they have because they get so used to getting what they want so when a guy calls them out, they get mad.
To answer your question, becauae the L3fT has taken our schools and homes away from young girls to mold them into this. Courtney was probably raised by at least one parent that had good values.
Cowardice and ego.
My goodness… this is why the dating world is so toxic for the single guys. Be safe out there fellas
I don't think they have much to worry about. It sounds like 99% of the guys aren't good enough for 99% of women to bother with.
@Feminism Rulez they cry and wine but that dosent entitle guys to go 4 them if they arent interested
I really appreciate your channel. I have four daughters, three are teenagers and I don’t want them to live and thrive in toxic relationships to feel important. You give great advice and I hope the younger generation appreciates your advice!
Thank you so much, Rachel! ❤️🥰
People are so hurt and I’m so much pain that they’re gonna just be awful to ppl as a defense mechanism and it’s sad. If you’re not toxic don’t allow someone else to make you a toxic person. Protect your peace. Also they little “goodbye”s she does is so cute I love it
Female, 34 years old!! LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!! Im so over the internet and females these days. As a Cancer zodiac, I truly connect with you. The reason I chased bad boys is that my mom was emotionally unavailable. Until I recognized that and healed I kept cycling around those guys. It is so unhealthy and until you recognize it and heal you won't know any better but I know there are girls that just like those types but I don't want to live on the edge all the time!
Make sure you marry a WM. Because by doing so you respect his legacy. How else do you sustain a civilization that you belong to? It requires whte reproductive rates.
@@freckleheckler6311 dude what?
@@freckleheckler6311 that's now how it works bro. That's like one step before incest.
@@angelos9800 so then people have been subconsciously engaging in incest for centuries and thousands of years? How else does Chinese, Japanese, or the civilization in the Middle East exist to this day? Because the progenitors of a civilization need to reproduce to reproduce the history which they are cultural descendants of. Understand?
@@freckleheckler6311 Lack of approachability/accessibility in virtue of distance.
Back in thousands of years ago, they could not physically travel and procreate with a partner of different ethnicity / race.
Wake up.
The whole "texting first shows desperation" is so dumb. No, texting first does not show desperation. Texting someone and expecting them to text right away and hanging on for the next message is desperate. Texting someone and going about your day, eventually responding back and going on with your day is fine. As long as that back and forth is going on then it's fine.
"Oh no honey we're not following you..." Courtney you are a slayer!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I just found your channel, it is like a breath of fresh air. You are so beautiful and so down to earth, thank you for spreading positive messages to women, we all could use healthy advice over the toxicity!
You’re so sweet, thank you so much Jenny! 🥺 so glad you’re here!
@@CourtneyRyan Subscribed!!! I love that I can play your videos and listen to them like podcast as I'm working :D
The way Courtney said "eww eww eww I don't like that.." had me laughing out loud on my walk the park. Guess I should walk home now, people are looking at me funny..
Hahahaha 😂
Please do more videos like this. Excellent advice!!!! I am definitely a fan of your videos!!
@@CourtneyRyan like your videos
You nailed it. I've been telling woman this for years. The SECOND you're treated in a way you don't like you need to raise it as an issue and if it happens again, LEAVE! That's it. The second you STAY after you're treated in a way you don't approve of, you're giving the man or woman permission to treat you that way. Know you're value and LEAVE. It's that simple.
She says dont judge people from short clips but this the first vid im seeing on this channel and this girl seems like the sweetest kindest person on the planet.
You are so gentle and give so good advices. I’m so thankful for this channel. You are so beautiful too. All the best.
Finally we found someone that can call toxic people toxic 😅😅 Thanks Courtney 🤗
"Think about how hard it is to change your own self, and realize that it's impossible to change others."
People will do what they want to do. Courtney's advice is simple and solid. If things are not working out, just walk away. Focus on you. Get a new hobby. It's what I did.
I also dug deeper. I was conflicted if I should see a therapist (not because I didn't think I need one; but what I would answer when they asked me why I was there). I didn't know the answer until I went really deep within myself.
I discovered the Attachment Theory, learned about it, researched deeper. The more that I did, I was finding answers as to why I should not do what these women are "advising" young women to do.
Not a positive energy to be working with - manipulating people.
You just manipulated me into saying hi to you
Oprah never married and she is the happiest woman on Earth. Women - and men - really don't need to get married to be fulfilled. My brother would be a great catch, but here's the thing - at 36 he doesn't seem interested in tying the knot. He is the greatest uncle to my kids and mentors them with strong values. He makes it to every holiday event. He's never been married. He is straight, and good looking. He volunteers as a coach in Little League (my youngest son's team). He dates attractive women, but when the family asks him if he's ever going to settle down his response is, "I think I'm good. Maybe someday - who knows." One lady whom we loved like family went so far as to propose to him. He said he was cool about them being together and staying together, but didn't think that marriage was necessary (they never lived together). A lot of his friends are the same way. Maybe we're moving into a new era where marriage is not necessary.
Courtney is the last real one who will actually stand up for the last remaining good guys Thank you Courtney 🙌🏻 Preachhhh
You can pursue a guy in a likable way without looking desperate. If you like someone, pursue them. If they don't like you back, move on. Thank you for sharing this!
It's women like this in these videos that are the reason some men have given up on relationships,they would rather be single than put up with this toxic nonsense. Thankfully there's still good women out there,like yourself Courtney .You are always so calm and respectful.
decent women are SUPER RARE, kid......
but you're gonna do what you want lol so whatevs
Finally a high value woman on a platform , appreciate that!,!
I’m so glad you made this video. In this day and age people are proud to be so toxic and it doesn’t leave you fulfilled. I think we’ve all been toxic at one point and it really just doesn’t make you happy.
I love this video! I think we all have our times when we react negatively to stuff or want to overgeneralize, but I see groups of men and women just constantly trying to "outgame" each other and it fucking sucks.
Totally agree.
People have lost the minds. It's fine to understand attraction, but getting in a relationship is not that complicated.
These girls remind me of the supervillains in Power Puff Girls, straight up Mojo Jojo type of evil plotting lol
Thottin and plottin
😂😂😂
Actually there's something good in tik toks like this, they make me realize what things should I avoid before getting into a relationship 😂😂 Great video Courtney!
I wish we could go back to a time when men and women were respectful to each other and people treated people like people. Love your insight and commentary, it's refreshing to see in this day and age!
Unfortunately broken homes and the internet promotes division between sexes. I too wish women and men could just give one another the benefit of the doubt. The problem is that people can’t handle rejection or hurt in healthy ways. We over-generalize and start saying “ALL women/men”, causing a greater divide.
When was that time though its never existed
this time has never existed
History men were awful to women, in the past couple decades have barely gotten basic rights??
@@shanijohnson2682 "barely gotten basic rights"? In the U.S. women have had more than "basic rights" for much longer two decades. I'm talking about the United States, not whatever country you're referring to. If you are mistaken and referring to the U.S., well, I'm sorry that you don't know your history.
Im so glad im came across your video. I agree with what you are talking about. It feels nice not to be the only person thinking this way. definitly cant wait to hear more.
What I heard this entire video is:
"I must make you insecure to bring you down to my level."
Yeah, definitely going to have a healthy relationship that way.
I love how calm and collective you are with all of this. It’s kind of refreshing to see another woman act so maturely.
Courtney's favourite solution: "Just break up with him and remove yourself from the situation."
Beauty in it's simplicity
It's good advice and works for a number of situations. Why waste time on foolishness, toxicity, and games? Just disengage and move on.
Yes. JUST DO IT
Simple, elegant, & sound advice for both genders. If more women like her would actually confront women irl when they're seeing this behavior displayed in real time then maybe some little girl witnessing it would have reference that maybe this behavior is bad. Ladies if you see any woman displaying these kinds of behaviors be they strangers, friends, or family you need to call it out immediately just like guys need to do the same when we see another man being toxic or problematic. Our society is crumbling cuz good people do nothing but sit back & watch.
Only when the way of keeping the other trespasses the line of respect. So yes, by respect, leave.
You’re reactions aren’t giving me LIFE 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 when you said “please for the love of god leave” I was like YASSS
I’m 6 minutes in and you’re already speaking to my soul😂 you’re exactly the female I’d actually like to be friends with!! Idk why toxicity and manipulation is something people are so proud of nowadays. And girls love to hate on other females who are in healthy relationships lol
I was thinking the same thing !!⚡❤️
Damn this explains my last relationship, and to think she almost had me convinced that I was a terrible person in her eyes, trying to make me feel like shit...but really she was chasing that drama high lol. Oh well, see ya never!
"cheat just in case." *Counting on hands.* That's 4 words.
I LOVE YOUR PFP
the Heather's is ultimately superior
I totally agree with your video. I use to be one of those toxic women not knowing I was toxic. I went to therapy and worked on myself and now I am in a happy, mature, healthy relationship. If you are toxic you attract toxic. If you are healed and happy you attract that.
Love this! 🤍
15:05 wearing a cross necklace, a symbol of the truest, most ultimate love and sacrifice, while saying the most selfish and manipulative garbage. Wow.
I'm an atheist, but yer darn tootin'. I highly doubt Jesus would approve of treating people like this.
So many people wear the cross and the Virgin Mary just for looks it’s crazy
louder please! i was dumbfounded when i noticed
@@taniasxoxo 100 one-hundred percent!!
Ignorance
Sunday school is in session! Thanks Courtney! Appreciate how clear you are in your thoughts & approach to reacting to videos & sharing information!
Thank you 😊
*"...almost like they're in an ocean with unlimited supplies of water...."*
She literally said being with her is like drinking seawater and she didn't even realize it.
I think your channel may just be my favorite relationship advice channel. I think part of it is that so many of the things you say ring true to me based on my own experience.
HAHAHA! “No honey, we’re not following you” 😂
I read this the same time she said it lol
Watching this and hearing yours and reading everyone's GOOD takes in the comments has been like therapy for me,thank you so much for counter acting all these toxic people and mindsets! The world needs things like this 😭😆❤️
Finally, a sane normal woman on youtube giving advice. Sub'd . I have a feeling your channel is gonna blow up
And shes gorgeous!! I swore beautiful women who are smart, sweet dont exist. These days if a girl is gorgeous shes not beautiful on the inside! This woman is a rare ome,.glad I found her.
I just found your channel. You are a breath of fresh air and exudes feminiinty and ideal wife vibes. All nontoxic women should listen to you especially the young minds who are constantly bombarded by toxic women's advice on the social media misleading women to be manipulatively cunning and narcicists themselves. There should be more women like you to counteract the bad teachings of toxic women on social media. Subscribed!