I don’t understand why people go into marriage thinking that relying on each other is bad. That’s the whole point of marriage…..to rely on each other and help each other. The problem comes in when there is an imbalance between who is helping whom, and also who is expressing gratitude. If you help and appreciate each other, your bond will last.
It depends on what relying on one another means. Its not the good stuff that's problematic, its the bad stuff. If you rely on your wife/husband to agree with the mean and evil things you do, then why should any human in their right mind back you up?
It's cause many only think of themselves. They only see what they can get out of it, and enter relationships selfish. Then they are dumbfounded as to why the relationship failed...
Well if a girl is on Instagram advertising her body and making it appear that she is single, that is the problem. If a poll revealed that 50% of women have a backup option which means that 50% of the women in the poll admitted to it, then using the internet is a way to conflate the problem
Yeah "Can't have an Instagram at all" is obviously too far. Maybe she's just one of those people that instagram all of their restaurant meals. But if she's in a relationship with you she certainly should not be advertising herself sexually online.
@@chriswhinery925 No it isnt. If you don't like that rule move on no ones kidnapping you. Its going to be a dark future there's A LOT of men out there saying no to social media and refusing to date women who have Instagram accounts. Have as many socials as you want just stay clear from me.
If she has social media the only way you can actually prove shes trying to/planning to cheat is to (in most cases) break the law in some way IE hack her account/take the phone. Just assume if she has socials she cheats and move on. Shes going to instantly blacklist you if she has social media and you suggest she gets rid of it. Literally never works. Just escape.
@@dicktracy5066 There is NO "one" definition of cheating. It's not one-size-fits-all. Everyone will consider different things (possibly to different degrees) as "cheating" and no everyone is gonna agree on what that is. Cheating (in the form of infidelity) is not defined by any "thing", but it does have just ONE common denominator that can make anything that isn't normally cheating in and of itself, into an act of cheating, and that one thing is : Lies & Deceptions.
I think issue with social media and particularly Instagram is it’s destructive for relationships in general I’d say. I think there should be an agreement for both parties to come off of Instagram. It makes everything easier. Less drama
Yes I agree, it's a great vector of cheating, drama and useless attention... Unless the partner is demisexual or religious or using solely for business, I understand why men (or even women) are not confortable with their partner using that type of social media. Nothing weird nor barbaric nor to do with control, it's about protecting the relationship with someone you love and care.
I hear ya - NOTORIOUSLY BREEZY! Great tips - by Courtney! It’s fine to have an Instagram, that’s her choice - And I’m not that insecure to the point that I need to control her… There’s no issue as long as she’s not posting anything that would be offensive, or disrespectful, such as nude photos, or photos that would be considered inappropriate - especially for someone that is in a relationship. If that were to happen, she just would not be the girl for me anymore - that’s all! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 i get what you are saying and i am like that too but the point here is what are the boundaries that you both decide on and mutually agree because relations are now a days are happening on spectrum of openess to closeness.you can decide what boundaries you have(also give reason for it) and partner can decide if they are okay with it or not.
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 people can call anything controlling on thread i read that a girl calling her friends boyfriend controlling since he will break up with her if she opens onlyfans so words controlling is subjective
Social media, tv dramas and steriotypes are ruining relationships due to high expectations. 🌹 Courtney thank you for raising issue of must needed topic in today's time
My only exposure to those dumpster fires is small snippets on this channel and others like it. I can't imagine the damage created by an actual diet of this crap.
I’ll say this about Instagram: it depends what the girl is putting on her page before I consider it a red flag. My second girlfriend only posted art she made or pictures of her animal. The only time she put herself on there was if it was her and I or her and family. My third girlfriend did have scantily clad photos of herself but as soon as we started dating she took them down and then eventually deactivated her Instagram a few months into dating. Of course when we broke up she put those photos back up. Women are very aware of what attracts male attention so I’d be very careful with someone that has thirst traps on their page
And did you stop following scantily clad women? Hm? Or were you never the type to do that in the first place? If the latter, more men need to be like you.
Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air. I've been married and then divorced after a 9 year run. I meet a new girl about a year later and realized I wasn't emotionally ready yet and that relationship dissolved 2 years later as well. I realized along the way that part of the break up with the new relationship after being married, I wasn't myself due to all the turmoil in my married. Settling for the wrong mate due to how I felt about myself. It has now been about 20 years since I have even been the least bit interested in a relationship. In today's dating world it's so different and even more scary. I feel the expectations that most women have now a days are nuts. What ever happened to you love someone for who they are. P.S. - It's so refreshing to know that there is still some hope for me and I can only imagine how great it would be if who I meet would have a great disposition and personality as you. One last thing... I can't help but to mention it and that is it makes me laugh every time you say "buying farts in a jar". Maybe that's a guy thing. Keep up the great videos and thank you for your inspiring insight. It's good to know that there are still women out there like you 😉.
Never mind all the trans and obese folks saying that if we aren't attracted to them then we're all bigoted, misogynistic, shallow assholes. Lucky for us all the fat ones will die from cardiac issues early in their lives, and the trans folks will experience high rates of suicide even after their "gender affirming care." Not that I want them to die. It's the people who promote these self-destructive narratives who should be held responsible for the harm their ideologies cause.
That clip had to be a joke but I've interacted with younger women and they tend to act like this the most, older women are more independent and less entitled
LOVE that you mentioned attachment styles because I learned I was anxiously attached 3 years ago and really have gone through entire mental and life transformations since then and have become more securely attached and I can really say I wouldn't have wanted to be with me before! I can really see the difference between secure and dysfunctional now!
You use instagram for what it’s intended Courtney. Rarely do others. For most women it’s about male attention and backups. It’s the hookup culture problem. So ask, would you be okay with a boyfriend having okcupid or bumble? It’s the same thing. In fact most profiles on okcupid have tags for their instagrams. Lol. Also FandF always hire women to come on and say the stupidest things. It’s their business model, like Jerry Springer
They actually have women of many different educational backgrounds on the show, however, I will admit that they have alot of girls on there that be buggin'
@@LeeEverett1 funny that only people that look kind of like F&F defend them to the bitter end. How about this, how about you admit they talked smack about Ana’s wife and then challenged Aba to a boxing match, which aba accepted and they ran away from. Then I’ll answer when you call them simps.
It's really hard to not be labeled as a misogynist if i say i prefer woman who don't showoff their body on the internet and can cook.Gotta protect Courtney at all cost 😂 ,she one of the few understanding and wise women left
If you say something that even REMOTELY sounds negative towards the female gender, you're a misogynist, even if what you say is biologically correct. The feels is apparently more important than the reals these days.
And foolish men will say “I qualify” pick me. The point isn’t to qualify, it’s too avoid a woman shallow enough to have this standard because of the damage and misery such a shallow person will bring upon you.
yes. Women like that should die alone as punishment for their superficial criteria. If a guy says "no women over 80 kg", women aren't going to go "well, I qualify", they are going to go "what a superficial dick" and ignore the guy.
"I wouldn't be with a guy who said I couldn't have an Instagram." As a man; Men are becoming a LOT more critical of women's social media nowadays. Social media is becoming the new 'red flag.' Men know women are getting endless attention from these platforms. He was making the point that through that avenue, she is getting endless attention from endless amounts of men. If she does not have one, she is not getting that kind of attention. You made the example of, "What if I baked bread?" You're a woman. You will still be getting that attention even if it was something benign like bread. It is subjective and different people will have different opinions, but it's more setting a boundary on you getting endless attention from endless men.
Exactly, the second(I think) FnF clip is the only one I didn't agree with Courtney. I feel like it was taken out of context. Myron can come off as crass, but he is usually right. Also, the guy that responded to him looked even more stupid than Myron did. He basically disagreed, but then didn't say why he disagreed. Also, @Courtney, you go on to say that a girl that is with a guy just for his money is not a "healthy relationship." What constitutes a healthy relationship then?
She posts sexy photos on Instagram and she has a fiancé. Although, maybe Insta is just a funnel to get more guys to get RUclips channel for revenue. 🤷🏻♂️ Edit: has not had
Hey some of us have our page private and like to bake bread, cook meals and tag our in laws who live overseas so they can enjoy family pics and recipes. I have many pics of my husband on my page too working on our acreage and our friends and family get to see him bc he doesn’t have social media accounts. He picks photos to post for his mum and dad to see what he’s up to. Having an IG account ain’t that serious to some of us! It’s just a means of staying connected with family so don’t always assume every woman is using it to sexualise themselves or cheat on their S/O.
Every time she says "farts in a jar" in a video I hope I'm not drinking soda or coffee, cuz I will surely choke on it laughing. Her dainty voice saying that just makes it extra hilarious.
@@CourtneyRyan Courtney, I am honored. This girl actually called herself this, BTW. But, hey, the Japanese have been into this and more from vending machines for decades.
Imagine if men said that women should be young, hot with DD boobs, obedient with no attitude or back talk. 😲 There would be backlash towards men like never seen before in history.
I think women have to realize that unless they look like a model the 6 ft tall guy, with 6 pack abs, who makes 6 to 7 figures probably isn't interested in them. A women is going to have to be in phenomenal shape, be in her 20's, be naturally beautiful, and possibly even have some cosmetic surgery to have a chance of landing that guy, because there are a lot of other women he could be with.
>"That is controlling, if a man told me I couldn't have an Instagram I simply wouldn't be with him. If a man said I could or could not doing something..." Well he wasn't being controlling; he was stating a boundary. You wouldn't be with a guy that is controlling, while he's just saying he wouldn't be with a girl that essentially gives her attention/body/time to a bunch of men on Instagram. Keep in mind this guy is from Miami, the land of Insta thots, so whatever your opinion is of Instagram and how classy it is, Insta thots are 10x worse there.
@@LatimusChadimus So she's misconstruing what was said. It's funny that she says, "maybe I'm taking this out of context" then proceeds to change the context. I agree with the guy in the video, except for applying a "cheating" label, but the real problem people have is how he said it. That's a men's podcast in Miami (read: clout chasers) and he is being direct. Man says, "Women in a serious relationship shouldn't be on Instagram posting scantily clad photos of themselves" and a woman hears that and translates it to, "Man says what I should or shouldn't do? Controlling. Toxic!" Na he isn't going to control you because you won't exist in his life. He kicks Instagram thots to the streets. P.S. I can't stand Fresh and Fraud. There are a million reasons to dislike them but this was not one of them.
Yep, your turn. Be confident, have a solid bank account, and she will label you as future husband material. You'll be a close friend until then (to make sure you stay single) and she'll come back to you when she's 28 and almost dried up.
I appreciate it when women who are upfront about their standards, that way I dont waste my time. I dont want to be pursuing a woman who is only interested in men who have been to mars, only to find out a year later she is not interested in me because I havent been to Mars.
True but sometimes I take this too far. One time I was hanging out with this woman, and she was judgmental towards someone else, but I was thinking, "If she is saying this about them what is she saying about me." She was likely trying to say a joke to make me laugh but I was sort of paranoid about it.
I’m 5’8, workout, into cars and I’m Catholic. But I don’t understand why some women would want a guy who makes 7 figures a year but they don’t know how financial literacy works. (I’m 19 btw)
The high majority of women are financially illiterate which is why they consume most of the debt and are the biggest dependents, sometimes more dependent than the kids that they drag around, and most of them don't want to learn because they are emotional beings where men are predominantly rational beings so there is no real point in trying to teach them something that doesn't make them feel anything other than bored
The monk life just looks better and better with each passing day. Accumulate your hard-earned resources, Men. They will get old and wither away but so will you...while being completely broke and broken. Stop putting them on a pedestal and make YOU your number one priority.
Courtney, the man from the _FreshAndFit_ podcast you showed is Myron. He explains that women use Instagram as dating apps and they post nudes or scantily clothed photos to bait men to give her attention. He defines this as being disrespectful to her boyfriend/husband and unacceptable because it facilitates cheating. In the full podcast video he explains that he has no problem with Instagram pages whose visibility is set "private" or public pages that contain no skin revealing photos that bait for attention and cheating.
Im 6 feet tall, run 6 miles every morning, lift weight at night and am hitting 180-190k per year. Im 38 years old and married to a hottie feminine woman who takes care of me, my house and our kid. Even if I was single I wouldn't give these bimbos a second look because guys like me have options. I have an option almost daily to be involved with beautiful women. But my wife gives me everything I need. LADIES! Before you make a list of what you want in a man, make a list equally as long about what you offer as a woman. High value men demand a high value woman.
I don't know if people really understand what being an alpha male actually means. When I hear a guy say that he's "alpha" I already know that he's probably deeply insecure, struggling with his self-worth and life in general. If you feel the need to wear a sign that says "alpha male" this in itself is very much the opposite of what an alpha male would be like. Men who are confident and secure in themselves don't care about labels, they don't feel the need to prove their strength or abilities to anyone, they likely would't even care if someone thought of them as alpha, beta or anything else. And this is what makes them so attractive - this is true strength, this is someone who can handle life and makes a partner. you can rely on. Claiming something and being it are two very different things. And even I can put a bed frame together - doesn't make me an "alpha male"
She nailed it when she says "women can be addicted to chaos". I've just eliminated 5 women out of my life that I've know for years because they prefer abuse and chaos over living a life they can grow and become a better them in.
That divorce lawyer gave good advice. My ex-wife and I split all our bills 50/50, maintained separate bank accounts, had no shared property, and no kids. When she cheated, it was super easy to divorce her.
The first things women say to start a conversation when I match with them on dating apps: "How tall are you?" "Are you 6ft?" "Only $10 to subscribe to my OnlyFans babe" Me: "Bruh"
Never got any of these messages what city you in? I did start putting my height in my bio too a bit ago but I don’t remember people asking about my height before that either
How much money did you pay them (dating site) for those gems of responses? Years ago i used 3 separate sites for a solid 12months. 3 dates 2 were catfishes 1 was already married.
No love to give. You buy them a house, they want a mansion. You buy them a new car, they want a Mercedes’ Benz. Stay single boys, stay single, it less stress.
No you are totally right Courtney about a woman posting photos that are indecent on instagram, that is disrespecting the partner 100% fact, if anyone disagree's enjoy getting cheated on then, cause it will happen sooner or later.
Myron from F&F is right about Instagram. Even if she's not taking particularly risque photos, if she's attractive she will have men giving her attention both in public and in DMs. You use Instagram for work and your personal brand. Most women use it for validation. In both cases opportunities are lining up. Are you seriously going to tell your audience there aren't men in your DMs right now trying to scoop you from Teddy? Then understand certain men aren't going to be okay with this.
Yeah, but the solution is not to say "Don't use Instagram". The solution is to control what your partner uploads and who comments on the posts. Ask her to block every stranger who says inappropriate things, and tell her not to upload thirst traps. If she doesn't listen, dump her immediately.
It's unsettling, the idea to commit to a girl knowing she has literally 1000k open avenues/options that she can pursue at any moment. Anyways well said 🍻
@@S1MPLECAVEMAN Just because there is option doesn't mean someone will use them. If you have windows there is always option that you will jump off of one of them. But most probably you aren't suicidal (if you are - sorry lol). If you dont keep your girl locked in home connected with chain to radiator there are chances that she will leave you and never come back lol.
A lot of people confuse love with relationship. Love means sacrifice. Relationship means responsibility. Thanks so much Courtney for your effort from Yemen.
30%+ of men 18-30 are "untouched" i have to use a euphamism to avoid auto-mod. This is the largest number not in US history but in world history since the beginning of marriage statistics. Someone is selecting a large portion of the population for extinction and its not men.
@@Syncrotron9001 well this is what happens in a world where a female hypergamy is let loose on the world. They themselves are also ending up miserable and alone, although highly touched, to follow your wording
@@LatimusChadimusI'm 5'10 too and when I walk around. Doesn't matter where I go. I'm taller than at least 80% of men. Equal to probably 15%. And shorter than like 5%. I've never had a girl say I was short, yet also never called "tall" either. Its basically neutral. I think what it is, is women are looking for something to show off on their instagram. They don't care about you, they just want the stamp in their passport. Honestly guys, I don't think women (as a whole) are going to mature past a certain point. Simps and desperate dudes out number us by a long shot. Few women will have any incentive. My guess is, men will have to either choose to remain single forever....OR find a women who's only mildly damaged goods in hopes he can help her heal from past traumas.
All social media apps are essentially dating apps, everyone is an option In the eyes and thoughts of the beholder.... even if they don't have a chance with said other options. So to a point I can understand why some couples do not have social media accounts.... What's even more strange is when a couple shares a social media account...
Divorce lawyer: "I'm a divorce lawyer and I get asked all the time...." Mr. E: "Public service announcement. NEVER listen to what a divorce lawyer tells you about how to maintain a good marriage. And what THIS woman just told you all but assures one day you WILL get divorced. Your finances should be a separate issue in a marriage, not the reason why you get married in the first place. And full disclosure, I am an advocate against ALL marriage, gay and straight. THIS is why. I take no joy in saying this, men and women, you've lost your way. Our laws victimize men in family court in ways that no one else or nothing else ever will. Don't take my word for it, statistically there is almost a 100% chance you KNOW a man who got destroyed in family court. Ask them. "Who hurt me?" Kiss my ass, that's who.
Unfortunately, marriage does bring some benefits that domestic partners don't have. Like a visitation in intensive care which is reserved only for close family.
@@MrGrabich Small price to pay for protecting yourself when your woman decides she's no longer happy and takes half your shit, the kids, the house, and leaves you paying for all the legal bills in the end with your half, AND you pay for a wife you never get to enjoy now. I never said it was perfect. I only say heed my words for the best possible outcome. There is a reason why divorce lawyers are panicking right now. People aren't getting married. You know what that means? If they aren't getting married, they can't get divorced, and these blood sucking parasites don't get a host upon which to feed off of.
@@MrGrabich There WERE reasons. You know, as an adult who is aware, if you end up in the hospital, you can have anyone you want in the hospital up to the max number of people. If you list a boyfriend or a girlfriend as an emergency contact, they are not excluded from visiting just because they are not family, even if that person in the hospital is unconscious. You made a bad example. It happens. I didn't marry the mother of my daughter, but when my daughter was born, I was right there. I was there, while none of her family could go in when she was having the c-section. I remember this, because it pissed off her mother.
These days i find it hard to find a woman that is reflected, good looking, have a nice job, has ambitions, is nice and polite. I think Courtney stands out as a good role model for a lot of girls/women, because she is very professional in the way she talks. She doesnt talk bad about anyone, its like plain and simple critique and showing off her opinions in a respectful manner, i miss the people who talks about others respectfully like this, its just good form. Anyway keep up the good work Courtney!
Its sad when what Fresh and Fit have been saying from the beginning is becoming more and more true everyday, I don't think any young guy or girl dating nowadays can deny these things sadly
So many of these things come down to feelings of insecurity and low self esteem. It may manifest somewhat differently depending on gender, but the behaviors aren’t actually going to make anyone feel more secure or have better self esteem in the long run. Find a way to be ok with yourself first because you just won’t get that from the other person. Relationships work best when both people are healthy and happy. Respectfully submitted.
13:59 "I'm a divorce lawyer and I get asked all the time what my number one advice to WOMEN getting maried would be." There, fixed it. 15:36 80% of divorces are initiated by women.
Yeah. Anyone being truthful giving marriage advice to men would say "don't fucking do it." There's very little upside for you and a huge range of risks. Why you gonna risk getting taken to the cleaners in divorce court? For what?
I enjoy the tiktok reactions Courtney and about the Instagram thing I really wouldn’t care about if my girlfriend or wife had it as long as like what you said about posting inappropriate pictures for everyone to see
@@leopard-- you say that like its a reason to get over it and accept social media instead of avoid women entirety. I don't think you realize the majority of men are going to choose the latter. Id rather set myself on fire than end up married and cheated on and Im not exaggerating.
@@Syncrotron9001 you don’t own her, you don’t own anyone. When 2 people get married that doesn’t mean that they should control each other. You can talk to them, you can both set boundaries like not posting nudes on social media for example but you can’t just tell someone to stop using something for the rest of their life just cause you’re insecure. Cheating was never a good thing, but you can’t just keep having doubts 24/7.
@@leopard-- Of course I don't own her, don't jump the gun here hoss I just told you flat out I refuse to date a woman who has Instagram, let alone marry her. If you marry and she has social media did you know its a crime in many places to "unlawfully" gain access to someone else's account? So lets say your wife IS actually cheating and you suspect it so you grab her phone, check her Instagram, and find out shes been cheating. Did you know that a crime? Its literally illegal for you to find out if shes using social media to cheat on you. Of course I don't own her, and furthermore I don't want to. Autodisqualified.
With a background in banking I can say with quite some certainty that money is the one thing that the average person is attached to the most emotionally. It is very hard for many people to recover from a financial loss, and there is no easy adjustment. No therapy session will make it better. That's why I would agree with the divorce lawyer: Feeling a sense of financial security is essential in a relationship. This is also why the search for the "one-percent-man" generally doesn't work, with a few very notable exceptions.
16:29 When I saw this Tik Tok where it says a guy has to be 6 feet tall, make 7 figures and have an 8 inch. I was like LMAO 🤣 I started laughing when I saw the words “8 inch”. I don’t think I expect a guy to be that BIG in a sense. Not my criteria at all hahaha 😂😝
OMG I can't believe there are women out there that have never worked in their life! The minute I turned 16, I couldn't wait to get my first job and work through retail jobs until my education allowed me to get into it accounting job. But then I went back to school to learn computers in the late 90s and from that point on I worked in the com industry, research assistant all kinds of stuff, such an incredible journey! I often think back on all my jobs the way some people think back on their romances, I learned so much and I grew so much! It just makes you feel good about yourself when you're doing something that you actually worked hard to be able to do, trained for, etc. But I come from a different generation probably we're hard work was a pretty important thing and not gender-specific. So interesting!
I think telling a girl to delete her Instagram is ridiculous. But as a guy, if I find out a girl I'm seeing is posting lude photos, obviously looking for attention, then she instantly gets put in the fun girl basket. Pointless trying to change people, especially forcefully trying to control them.
I don't remember where I saw the study but apparently money DOES buy happiness, just not in the way most people would think. The current figures are somewhere around 55k - 160k of annual income in an average household which is just enough to provide for a stable home without stressing about bills and enough financial freedom to own a vehicle or two plus some vacation for you and your loved ones. The study also indicated that anything more than that does not bring more happiness and in the extreme can even bring mental instability due to having to make the extra efforts of protecting those finances.
Yeah, I want to squat twice my body weight again like I did two years ago and I'm very close but I still have to put in the work to build that skill and strength back up
I think the bigger picture with the 1% guy thing is that Myron is low key saying you should date down. Why get a 1% man that cheats, when you could get a 30% man that treats you good, but can't buy designer bags.
I did the math and that's around 18,930 however that's also including all ethnicities, skin colors and straight, bi or gay men. Plus it depends on how many of those whom she likes, are attracted to her in return. And since that's including the entire world, the odds of her matching with someone will probably be slim to none
Expecting a dog to meow or even being a dog who is expected to meow is a lose-lose situation. Know what you want, have reasonable standards, learn and grow together mutually.
Putting someone down to make a point is sometimes wanting power over someone or sign of that person's low self-esteem. Two people can have two different perspective and still have a respectful conversation.
Social Media can be a problem in relationships. If said couple has a fight, then all someone has to do is open their DM’s and then set up a time to meet someone else. My sister and her ex broke up over lack of communication and she ended up hooking up with someone else.
Seems weird to me. I'm not trying to hype myself up in anyway. I'm a train wreck disguised as unicorn. That being said, whenever I was with a women in a relationship, literally every woman in my vicinity was pretty much dead to me. I had absolutely loyalty and devotion to my significant other. I honestly struggle to understand why others don't have that mentality.
The girl with the "7 figures" plus, plus, plus, requirements. Does she not have a mirror in her home? Has she looked into it lately and seen her reflection? 😂😂
That divorce lawyer is such a crook. She pretends men leave the marriage, when everybody knows satistics prve that divorces are mostly initiated by women, with the result we all know. What a liar.
Your videos bring a gentleman like me peace, hope and calm in this vicious & unfair world of modern dating, I should have been born in the 50s where you focused on one lady at a time and if that didn’t work out then you started dating someone else!
"6' and 7 figures..." I love that they do. As an old sales maxim goes, "Each 'No' is one step closer to a 'Yes.'" I can quickly dismiss her and seek someone else. Those are not standards, they are "nice to haves." That woman doesn't know the difference.
Best marriage advice I ever got. Marriage is not 50/50 it needs to be 100/100. If you are not committed to helping your partner be the best person they can be and vice versa it ain’t gonna work.
The amount of drama I get to avoid for being short and not a millionaire - priceless *Never confuse customer service with affection ..... #WhenYouSeeIt
The current rate of divorce .... driven by 80% of women ... and the number 1 'cause' for divorce is boredom, then infidelity, then 'irreconcilable differences', then family, then religion, then money. The best financial advice for a man is to never get married - not once, not ever. Ditto for living together, long term dating .... and of course never pander to IG / OF girls.
I had a gf that wanted me to delete all my female friends from FB. But SHE could keep and hide all the men that like her on FB. So no-she had to go. No double standards.
11:27 Courtney, Courtney, Courtney, if i had to choose an "icky" moment of yours, that would be that one, hands down! You basically tell women "don't think, run from logic and just feel instead", just like the woman in the tiktok ("it doesn't matter their motivation, it doesn't matter what's going on in their head. All that matters is does it feel good in my body, does this work for me?"). It's wrong on so many levels. "Don't be a grown up woman who expresses what she wants and needs, just act like a child, watch their actions in silence and judge/leave them if they don't read your mind". Yikes! That's Woman Behaviour 101 and the reason why a lot of men think women are crazy, act like children and are allergic to accountability. On another note, you encouraging that behaviour is setting women up for failure, meaning the never ending cycle of ending up with the jerk or the bad boy because women already do with "feels" only. Guess what, being around Chad feels really good and trumps thinking anyway. You should encourage women to think about it, express what they need very clearly, and only then, maybe watch actions without really thinking about the reasons why (even if that's still debatable). Oh my god, that was so cringy. Please don't taint those who want to add a bit of reasoning and logic to their choices. eww
Make your money. Work out. Have your hobbies. Don’t take women too seriously. Don’t treat them poorly. If she doesn’t fit into what you’re doing then move on and find a new one. The height thing doesn’t matter. Plenty of short dudes with cash hooking up with good looking women. Plenty of tall dudes with cash going home alone. They really don’t know what they want so how can you provide something to someone that doesn’t know what they want ?
A woman is free to want a guy who’s 6’ or taller and who makes 100k or more, sure, but by the same token I’m free to want a woman who weighs 140 or less, is kind and caring, childless, who doesn’t smoke or have a drug/alcohol addiction, and who isn’t covered with tattoos/piercings. Hey I realize that’s also picky too lol, and perhaps even a bit delusional on my part, but the difference here is simply this - all of what I want is within a person’s control! You can choose to eat well and exercise, not sleep around too much and/or have kids before marriage, not mutilate your body with tattoos/piercings, not smoke or drink to excess, and be a nice person! Look I’m far from perfect but I’ve made good choices by and large over my life to the point where as a 38 yo guy, I have a good job with good finances (not six figures but above average and with a lot in retirement savings), I’m in good physical shape and eat well, I treat people the way I’d like to be treated, haven’t fathered any kids out of wedlock, and own my home. So if I or someone like me wants a similar woman, quite frankly that only makes sense. Of course I’d get lambasted for saying this publicly though I feel….
"The waitress game" is old as the world. It's not about giving a tip to a waiting staff. This clip is taken of of context so I can't say if the girl is crazy or not. But "the waitress game" is very real thing. It's about a guy who you date for some time already and he ignores males stuff/sales person, he ignores YOU when you are together on the dinner AND, at the very same dinner, gives the waitress overly friendly comments, asks her questions about her private life, compliments her overtly and even giggles (when he never does that with you). This is a real thing. I dated few man like that and then for many years a wonderful man who never did that. Reverse the roles: a woman who is overly friendly and gives a ton of attention and a huge tip to a male waiter while ignoring her boyfriend. Isn't such a behaviour toxic?
I always live by she’s not yours it’s just your turn theory. They always run off eventually and I always replace them quickly. Hookup culture is the way to go since most women have no clue how to be a good wife. Stifle your emotions men.
You're my new favorite big sister. But respectfully ma'am in a later video you said social media is warping everybody's perception and in this video you said it's okay to have an Instagram. They seem at odds with each other in my opinion ma'am. So glad I saw you on Abba and preach.n
"I think the standards that we have for people" That's the problem. Phrasing like a journalist hiding reality. "We" = Women. Be precise, name your kind. Men's standards really haven't changed much if at all.
Wrong. Men's standards have changed. They have become pathetic now. They're so pathetic, that men still say "I'll smash" to a fat woman with terrible attitude on Tiktok. Look at simps, that's the clearest sign that men's standards have changed for the worse. As an Eastern man, I want to say to my fellow Western men, raise your standards.
The problems there are when there is an imbalance to the relationship: one person who does a lot more than another can tear a relationship apart. The lawyer was right both sides should have some source of income, savings, or means to make money if it does not work out years after marriage. Being self substaining earner would look good to starting a new relationship also.
Who cares? After the divorce, that will most likely ibe nstigated by the woman for X reason, sh'ell leave with the kids, the house, and will demand child support and alimony. So she doesn't need to be financially independaent, it'll happen after the divorce, just by magic. While she'll be fucking another dude she would have met 3 month prior the divorce.
“I’m a strong independent woman!”
“I’m an alpha male”
Both are major red flags
Omg yes, say it louder lol
Highly underrated comment.
So true
Overcompensation is generally a red flag.
Also if you have to say it, it's probably not true.
I don’t understand why people go into marriage thinking that relying on each other is bad. That’s the whole point of marriage…..to rely on each other and help each other. The problem comes in when there is an imbalance between who is helping whom, and also who is expressing gratitude. If you help and appreciate each other, your bond will last.
It is almost like they have never been in a team before.
It depends on what relying on one another means. Its not the good stuff that's problematic, its the bad stuff. If you rely on your wife/husband to agree with the mean and evil things you do, then why should any human in their right mind back you up?
Cope
💯
It's cause many only think of themselves. They only see what they can get out of it, and enter relationships selfish. Then they are dumbfounded as to why the relationship failed...
Well if a girl is on Instagram advertising her body and making it appear that she is single, that is the problem. If a poll revealed that 50% of women have a backup option which means that 50% of the women in the poll admitted to it, then using the internet is a way to conflate the problem
Yeah "Can't have an Instagram at all" is obviously too far. Maybe she's just one of those people that instagram all of their restaurant meals. But if she's in a relationship with you she certainly should not be advertising herself sexually online.
All of a woman's single male friends are backup options.
Fresh n fit say some crazy stuff, but their comments on Instagram is for young women who post for validation. They call Instagram a dating app.
Never trust a woman with male "just friends", especially with a dude "best friend"
@@chriswhinery925 No it isnt. If you don't like that rule move on no ones kidnapping you.
Its going to be a dark future there's A LOT of men out there saying no to social media and refusing to date women who have Instagram accounts. Have as many socials as you want just stay clear from me.
Cheating is always a deal breaker for me. Be loyal or get out.
Define cheating
@@dicktracy5066 using cheatcodes
I'll take that to the next level. I view people who can't be faithful in not much of a better light than I view a cho mo.
If she has social media the only way you can actually prove shes trying to/planning to cheat is to (in most cases) break the law in some way IE hack her account/take the phone.
Just assume if she has socials she cheats and move on. Shes going to instantly blacklist you if she has social media and you suggest she gets rid of it. Literally never works. Just escape.
@@dicktracy5066
There is NO "one" definition of cheating. It's not one-size-fits-all.
Everyone will consider different things (possibly to different degrees) as "cheating" and no everyone is gonna agree on what that is.
Cheating (in the form of infidelity) is not defined by any "thing", but it does have just ONE common denominator that can make anything that isn't normally cheating in and of itself, into an act of cheating, and that one thing is : Lies & Deceptions.
I think issue with social media and particularly Instagram is it’s destructive for relationships in general I’d say. I think there should be an agreement for both parties to come off of Instagram. It makes everything easier. Less drama
If a chick has greater than 200 followers, she’s eliminated.
Yes I agree, it's a great vector of cheating, drama and useless attention... Unless the partner is demisexual or religious or using solely for business, I understand why men (or even women) are not confortable with their partner using that type of social media. Nothing weird nor barbaric nor to do with control, it's about protecting the relationship with someone you love and care.
I hear ya - NOTORIOUSLY BREEZY!
Great tips - by Courtney! It’s fine to have an Instagram, that’s her choice - And I’m not that insecure to the point that I need to control her…
There’s no issue as long as she’s not posting anything that would be offensive, or disrespectful, such as nude photos, or photos that would be considered inappropriate - especially for someone that is in a relationship.
If that were to happen, she just would not be the girl for me anymore - that’s all!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 i get what you are saying and i am like that too but the point here is what are the boundaries that you both decide on and mutually agree because relations are now a days are happening on spectrum of openess to closeness.you can decide what boundaries you have(also give reason for it) and partner can decide if they are okay with it or not.
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 people can call anything controlling on thread i read that a girl calling her friends boyfriend controlling since he will break up with her if she opens onlyfans so words controlling is subjective
Social media, tv dramas and steriotypes are ruining relationships due to high expectations. 🌹
Courtney thank you for raising issue of must needed topic in today's time
You heard her reaction to "get rid of Instagram" it was immediately red alert. You're a brabarian, I'm creeped out.
Its up to YOU men to choose to leave social media forever that includes leaving the women who refuse to leave it also.
Easy : do not use social media.
My only exposure to those dumpster fires is small snippets on this channel and others like it. I can't imagine the damage created by an actual diet of this crap.
@ mofolactic mirza - Don't 4get to mention Walt Disney 4 creating unrealistic expectations!
I’ll say this about Instagram: it depends what the girl is putting on her page before I consider it a red flag. My second girlfriend only posted art she made or pictures of her animal. The only time she put herself on there was if it was her and I or her and family. My third girlfriend did have scantily clad photos of herself but as soon as we started dating she took them down and then eventually deactivated her Instagram a few months into dating. Of course when we broke up she put those photos back up. Women are very aware of what attracts male attention so I’d be very careful with someone that has thirst traps on their page
And did you stop following scantily clad women? Hm? Or were you never the type to do that in the first place? If the latter, more men need to be like you.
@@weruleyoudrool I don't have an instagram, this is just what my ex-girlfriends would show me when they posted.
@@weruleyoudrool youre not gonna find a gf by being an incel
@@bdgregorybd Kudos
I found your GF on only fans...
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
― Bruce Lee
Bruce Lee is a legend
"I am sure the g un isn't loaded"
Brandon Lee
Let’s hope that those girls listen to this. Otherwise I see end of human newborns…
@@CEWIII9873 the fuck you talking about, Brandon Lee in The Crow?
Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air. I've been married and then divorced after a 9 year run. I meet a new girl about a year later and realized I wasn't emotionally ready yet and that relationship dissolved 2 years later as well.
I realized along the way that part of the break up with the new relationship after being married, I wasn't myself due to all the turmoil in my married. Settling for the wrong mate due to how I felt about myself.
It has now been about 20 years since I have even been the least bit interested in a relationship. In today's dating world it's so different and even more scary. I feel the expectations that most women have now a days are nuts. What ever happened to you love someone for who they are.
P.S. - It's so refreshing to know that there is still some hope for me and I can only imagine how great it would be if who I meet would have a great disposition and personality as you.
One last thing... I can't help but to mention it and that is it makes me laugh every time you say "buying farts in a jar". Maybe that's a guy thing.
Keep up the great videos and thank you for your inspiring insight. It's good to know that there are still women out there like you 😉.
The thing I appreciate most about your vids is that you read out the captions in the TikTok’s, so I can listen to this like a podcast. Love it
Loved when you said, "You should be what you want to attract." Amen. Good advise for both women and men.
So a man has to be '6 ft tall, and make 7 figures' To date a woman who looks like an aubergine with a big nose?
i think its a joke
😂😂
Never mind all the trans and obese folks saying that if we aren't attracted to them then we're all bigoted, misogynistic, shallow assholes. Lucky for us all the fat ones will die from cardiac issues early in their lives, and the trans folks will experience high rates of suicide even after their "gender affirming care."
Not that I want them to die. It's the people who promote these self-destructive narratives who should be held responsible for the harm their ideologies cause.
That clip had to be a joke but I've interacted with younger women and they tend to act like this the most, older women are more independent and less entitled
@@baronobeefdip2 At what age? I feel like late 20s and early 30s is my guess.
LOVE that you mentioned attachment styles because I learned I was anxiously attached 3 years ago and really have gone through entire mental and life transformations since then and have become more securely attached and I can really say I wouldn't have wanted to be with me before! I can really see the difference between secure and dysfunctional now!
Thanks for sharing your experience, I didn't know they can change.
You use instagram for what it’s intended Courtney. Rarely do others. For most women it’s about male attention and backups. It’s the hookup culture problem. So ask, would you be okay with a boyfriend having okcupid or bumble? It’s the same thing.
In fact most profiles on okcupid have tags for their instagrams. Lol.
Also FandF always hire women to come on and say the stupidest things. It’s their business model, like Jerry Springer
They actually have women of many different educational backgrounds on the show, however, I will admit that they have alot of girls on there that be buggin'
Uh no, those are literally how Miami girls act lol I've been there many times. Miami and LA women are something else
@@LeeEverett1 yes that is true and it is true they are paid to come on. Both can be uh true at the same time
@@CatGamer-wc2ij Where's your proof that they're paid to say stupid things?
@@LeeEverett1 funny that only people that look kind of like F&F defend them to the bitter end.
How about this, how about you admit they talked smack about Ana’s wife and then challenged Aba to a boxing match, which aba accepted and they ran away from. Then I’ll answer when you call them simps.
It's really hard to not be labeled as a misogynist if i say i prefer woman who don't showoff their body on the internet and can cook.Gotta protect Courtney at all cost 😂 ,she one of the few understanding and wise women left
yes she is a smart one
words have lost meaning in this society, don't think too hard about them. stand with your convictions.
If you say something that even REMOTELY sounds negative towards the female gender, you're a misogynist, even if what you say is biologically correct. The feels is apparently more important than the reals these days.
You monster!
How dare you have independent thoughts and opinions?
@@CEWIII9873 my bad
And foolish men will say “I qualify” pick me. The point isn’t to qualify, it’s too avoid a woman shallow enough to have this standard because of the damage and misery such a shallow person will bring upon you.
Thats why most never even get to the first date at Starbucks!
yes. Women like that should die alone as punishment for their superficial criteria. If a guy says "no women over 80 kg", women aren't going to go "well, I qualify", they are going to go "what a superficial dick" and ignore the guy.
"I wouldn't be with a guy who said I couldn't have an Instagram."
As a man; Men are becoming a LOT more critical of women's social media nowadays. Social media is becoming the new 'red flag.' Men know women are getting endless attention from these platforms. He was making the point that through that avenue, she is getting endless attention from endless amounts of men. If she does not have one, she is not getting that kind of attention. You made the example of, "What if I baked bread?" You're a woman. You will still be getting that attention even if it was something benign like bread. It is subjective and different people will have different opinions, but it's more setting a boundary on you getting endless attention from endless men.
You sound controlling as hell. You sound like the kind of guy that would punch another man just for glancing at your girlfriend if you had one.
Exactly, the second(I think) FnF clip is the only one I didn't agree with Courtney. I feel like it was taken out of context. Myron can come off as crass, but he is usually right. Also, the guy that responded to him looked even more stupid than Myron did. He basically disagreed, but then didn't say why he disagreed. Also, @Courtney, you go on to say that a girl that is with a guy just for his money is not a "healthy relationship." What constitutes a healthy relationship then?
So women have to censor themselves on social media because of what OTHER people are doing???
She posts sexy photos on Instagram and she has a fiancé. Although, maybe Insta is just a funnel to get more guys to get RUclips channel for revenue. 🤷🏻♂️
Edit: has not had
Hey some of us have our page private and like to bake bread, cook meals and tag our in laws who live overseas so they can enjoy family pics and recipes. I have many pics of my husband on my page too working on our acreage and our friends and family get to see him bc he doesn’t have social media accounts. He picks photos to post for his mum and dad to see what he’s up to. Having an IG account ain’t that serious to some of us! It’s just a means of staying connected with family so don’t always assume every woman is using it to sexualise themselves or cheat on their S/O.
Every time she says "farts in a jar" in a video I hope I'm not drinking soda or coffee, cuz I will surely choke on it laughing. Her dainty voice saying that just makes it extra hilarious.
😂😂😂
She is a "fartrepeneur"
@@CEWIII9873 LOL
@@CourtneyRyan Courtney, I am honored.
This girl actually called herself this, BTW.
But, hey, the Japanese have been into this and more from vending machines for decades.
Imagine if men said that women should be young, hot with DD boobs, obedient with no attitude or back talk. 😲 There would be backlash towards men like never seen before in history.
Dude, what’s your deal? Fat shaming I see? All their requiring is $130,000 salary, 6’2, wash board abs and 4bd 3ba house. What’s so hard about that?
That are men like that its called alpha males podcast
@@Mr_Banker222 asking for normal is fat shaming ? Dafuck ? Go back to MC Donald sherly.
Want a partner that's obedient and doesn't talk back? Get a dog
But there’s literally Manosphere/RP content out there saying whatever they want even down to the type of race of woman they prefer 🤷🏽♀️
I think women have to realize that unless they look like a model the 6 ft tall guy, with 6 pack abs, who makes 6 to 7 figures probably isn't interested in them. A women is going to have to be in phenomenal shape, be in her 20's, be naturally beautiful, and possibly even have some cosmetic surgery to have a chance of landing that guy, because there are a lot of other women he could be with.
And the ones who aren’t and say they want that just nod and pass them by!
Also that is what like 3% I'd the population on earth haha
@@EverydayDesigner 3%? it's about 00000000.1% where I live. Most people are over weight or bland and normal like me.
Had to be a joke.
Smash and dash
>"That is controlling, if a man told me I couldn't have an Instagram I simply wouldn't be with him. If a man said I could or could not doing something..."
Well he wasn't being controlling; he was stating a boundary. You wouldn't be with a guy that is controlling, while he's just saying he wouldn't be with a girl that essentially gives her attention/body/time to a bunch of men on Instagram. Keep in mind this guy is from Miami, the land of Insta thots, so whatever your opinion is of Instagram and how classy it is, Insta thots are 10x worse there.
@Anthony Manzio no, she lives on Ohio
If you listen to the way Courtney worded it, that is controlling; setting/defining a boundary would sound A Lot different
@@LatimusChadimus So she's misconstruing what was said. It's funny that she says, "maybe I'm taking this out of context" then proceeds to change the context.
I agree with the guy in the video, except for applying a "cheating" label, but the real problem people have is how he said it. That's a men's podcast in Miami (read: clout chasers) and he is being direct. Man says, "Women in a serious relationship shouldn't be on Instagram posting scantily clad photos of themselves" and a woman hears that and translates it to, "Man says what I should or shouldn't do? Controlling. Toxic!" Na he isn't going to control you because you won't exist in his life. He kicks Instagram thots to the streets.
P.S. I can't stand Fresh and Fraud. There are a million reasons to dislike them but this was not one of them.
Its downright scary how abruptly her tone changed, thats a flight or fight response, animals only do that when cornered or injured.
Staying single and having the mindset of “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.” Is the way to live now a days.
Yep, your turn. Be confident, have a solid bank account, and she will label you as future husband material.
You'll be a close friend until then (to make sure you stay single) and she'll come back to you when she's 28 and almost dried up.
Fuck em just look for love in another universe. Or just in another country just non american raised chicks..the real ones are to scarce
💯 agree with the divorce lawyer!
I so related to the last lady… My husband is literally a carpenter and doesn’t use social media, nor cares about it!
I think I saw your husband on social media.
He was building a cabinet in the nude.
I appreciate it when women who are upfront about their standards, that way I dont waste my time. I dont want to be pursuing a woman who is only interested in men who have been to mars, only to find out a year later she is not interested in me because I havent been to Mars.
Been to mars and venus before 😎👽
@@Keyon_Wilson I’ve been to Uranus
@@EnabIing Thanks for letting me know. Next time i'll eat a lot of fiber 💩💩
@@Keyon_Wilson Fiber will definitely help. You gotta be spontaneous and explosive or else she'll get bored.
True but sometimes I take this too far. One time I was hanging out with this woman, and she was judgmental towards someone else, but I was thinking, "If she is saying this about them what is she saying about me." She was likely trying to say a joke to make me laugh but I was sort of paranoid about it.
I’m 5’8, workout, into cars and I’m Catholic. But I don’t understand why some women would want a guy who makes 7 figures a year but they don’t know how financial literacy works. (I’m 19 btw)
Many women prefer financial illiteracy in a man who is a high-earner. It's easier to strip away the excess cash.
The high majority of women are financially illiterate which is why they consume most of the debt and are the biggest dependents, sometimes more dependent than the kids that they drag around, and most of them don't want to learn because they are emotional beings where men are predominantly rational beings so there is no real point in trying to teach them something that doesn't make them feel anything other than bored
You're young. You have a lot to learn.
Hope it doesn't get too painful.
@@bhwillis1048 dnt worry I’m trying to get my first jdm soon
Don't believe the red pill hype. Every woman wants this, but most women are realistic. They know they can't always get a basketball player.
This is your bread and butter, providing sane advice for a healthier relationship.
🥰🙌🏼
The monk life just looks better and better with each passing day. Accumulate your hard-earned resources, Men. They will get old and wither away but so will you...while being completely broke and broken. Stop putting them on a pedestal and make YOU your number one priority.
Just go your own way
Courtney,
the man from the _FreshAndFit_ podcast you showed is Myron. He explains that women use Instagram as dating apps and they post nudes or scantily clothed photos to bait men to give her attention. He defines this as being disrespectful to her boyfriend/husband and unacceptable because it facilitates cheating. In the full podcast video he explains that he has no problem with Instagram pages whose visibility is set "private" or public pages that contain no skin revealing photos that bait for attention and cheating.
Im 6 feet tall, run 6 miles every morning, lift weight at night and am hitting 180-190k per year. Im 38 years old and married to a hottie feminine woman who takes care of me, my house and our kid.
Even if I was single I wouldn't give these bimbos a second look because guys like me have options. I have an option almost daily to be involved with beautiful women. But my wife gives me everything I need.
LADIES! Before you make a list of what you want in a man, make a list equally as long about what you offer as a woman. High value men demand a high value woman.
Thanks for taking so long to run so I have plenty of time to get in and out before you come back
Chad
I don't know if people really understand what being an alpha male actually means. When I hear a guy say that he's "alpha" I already know that he's probably deeply insecure, struggling with his self-worth and life in general. If you feel the need to wear a sign that says "alpha male" this in itself is very much the opposite of what an alpha male would be like. Men who are confident and secure in themselves don't care about labels, they don't feel the need to prove their strength or abilities to anyone, they likely would't even care if someone thought of them as alpha, beta or anything else. And this is what makes them so attractive - this is true strength, this is someone who can handle life and makes a partner. you can rely on. Claiming something and being it are two very different things. And even I can put a bed frame together - doesn't make me an "alpha male"
100% agree!
I hope the same energy is being kept for "Boss Babes" & "Queens"
You just defined a Sigma. An Alpha is far more an extrovert and usually a chad. I guess you do not know the difference either.
My dong is "alpha"
Does that count?
@@tonkatoytruck What's your definition then?
She nailed it when she says "women can be addicted to chaos". I've just eliminated 5 women out of my life that I've know for years because they prefer abuse and chaos over living a life they can grow and become a better them in.
That divorce lawyer gave good advice. My ex-wife and I split all our bills 50/50, maintained separate bank accounts, had no shared property, and no kids. When she cheated, it was super easy to divorce her.
oh yeah? well, a woman has to be 7ft and make 8 figures to date me.
Alright! I like tall women to! 😅
so I take it you are only dating WNBA players.
@@taln0reich they dont make that type of money😂😂
@@aboapu6 Oh man i love this comment
Getting close to 300k, so amazed by how far you've come!
Road to 500k!!!!
The first things women say to start a conversation when I match with them on dating apps:
"How tall are you?"
"Are you 6ft?"
"Only $10 to subscribe to my OnlyFans babe"
Me:
"Bruh"
Never got any of these messages what city you in? I did start putting my height in my bio too a bit ago but I don’t remember people asking about my height before that either
How much money did you pay them (dating site) for those gems of responses?
Years ago i used 3 separate sites for a solid 12months. 3 dates 2 were catfishes 1 was already married.
@@Syncrotron9001 the apps are free but you get a certain amount of swipes (people you look at) per day unless you get premium membership
I wouldn't reply to them. I would just block them and move on, maybe get off dating apps altogether.
You never disappoint Courtney! You’ve helped me so much! I’ve been watching you for a little over a year now.
No love to give. You buy them a house, they want a mansion. You buy them a new car, they want a Mercedes’ Benz. Stay single boys, stay single, it less stress.
You got that right f these woman 😎
Don't buy them anything.
Simple
No you are totally right Courtney about a woman posting photos that are indecent on instagram, that is disrespecting the partner 100% fact, if anyone disagree's enjoy getting cheated on then, cause it will happen sooner or later.
Myron from F&F is right about Instagram. Even if she's not taking particularly risque photos, if she's attractive she will have men giving her attention both in public and in DMs. You use Instagram for work and your personal brand. Most women use it for validation. In both cases opportunities are lining up. Are you seriously going to tell your audience there aren't men in your DMs right now trying to scoop you from Teddy? Then understand certain men aren't going to be okay with this.
But what does it matter if men are trying to scoop her up if she ignores them? And she might also have a team that runs her IG.
Yeah, but the solution is not to say "Don't use Instagram".
The solution is to control what your partner uploads and who comments on the posts. Ask her to block every stranger who says inappropriate things, and tell her not to upload thirst traps. If she doesn't listen, dump her immediately.
It's unsettling, the idea to commit to a girl knowing she has literally 1000k open avenues/options that she can pursue at any moment. Anyways well said 🍻
@@S1MPLECAVEMAN Just because there is option doesn't mean someone will use them. If you have windows there is always option that you will jump off of one of them. But most probably you aren't suicidal (if you are - sorry lol). If you dont keep your girl locked in home connected with chain to radiator there are chances that she will leave you and never come back lol.
@@aleksandranowak3448 Temptation is a powerful weakness.
A lot of people confuse love with relationship.
Love means sacrifice.
Relationship means responsibility.
Thanks so much Courtney for your effort from Yemen.
For a man it DOES NOT mean sacrifice your masculinity and boundaries
Mohamedz abdool behemothz
14.5% of the U.S. male population are 6-foot or taller and many are under age.
The avg income is between 40&60k
You may 📌 this lol
And being 7in or larger is only 2.5% of the worldwide male population
Did the math above, for a 6 7 8. Only 1 in 420,000.
30%+ of men 18-30 are "untouched" i have to use a euphamism to avoid auto-mod.
This is the largest number not in US history but in world history since the beginning of marriage statistics.
Someone is selecting a large portion of the population for extinction and its not men.
@@Syncrotron9001 well this is what happens in a world where a female hypergamy is let loose on the world. They themselves are also ending up miserable and alone, although highly touched, to follow your wording
@@Syncrotron9001 As i always say, in human evolution biology terms, women is mother nature itself, doing the selection. They have ALL the power.
But if I as a guy say I want a girl who’s young and attractive, then all hell breaks loose lol. Btw I’m only 5’10.
The double standards are real
You didn’t make the cut
5'10 is above the average in the US
😆 I'm 'only' 5'10 too!
@@LatimusChadimusI'm 5'10 too and when I walk around. Doesn't matter where I go. I'm taller than at least 80% of men. Equal to probably 15%. And shorter than like 5%.
I've never had a girl say I was short, yet also never called "tall" either. Its basically neutral. I think what it is, is women are looking for something to show off on their instagram. They don't care about you, they just want the stamp in their passport.
Honestly guys, I don't think women (as a whole) are going to mature past a certain point. Simps and desperate dudes out number us by a long shot. Few women will have any incentive. My guess is, men will have to either choose to remain single forever....OR find a women who's only mildly damaged goods in hopes he can help her heal from past traumas.
All social media apps are essentially dating apps, everyone is an option In the eyes and thoughts of the beholder.... even if they don't have a chance with said other options.
So to a point I can understand why some couples do not have social media accounts....
What's even more strange is when a couple shares a social media account...
Divorce lawyer: "I'm a divorce lawyer and I get asked all the time...."
Mr. E: "Public service announcement. NEVER listen to what a divorce lawyer tells you about how to maintain a good marriage. And what THIS woman just told you all but assures one day you WILL get divorced. Your finances should be a separate issue in a marriage, not the reason why you get married in the first place. And full disclosure, I am an advocate against ALL marriage, gay and straight. THIS is why. I take no joy in saying this, men and women, you've lost your way. Our laws victimize men in family court in ways that no one else or nothing else ever will. Don't take my word for it, statistically there is almost a 100% chance you KNOW a man who got destroyed in family court. Ask them. "Who hurt me?" Kiss my ass, that's who.
Unfortunately, marriage does bring some benefits that domestic partners don't have. Like a visitation in intensive care which is reserved only for close family.
@@MrGrabich Small price to pay for protecting yourself when your woman decides she's no longer happy and takes half your shit, the kids, the house, and leaves you paying for all the legal bills in the end with your half, AND you pay for a wife you never get to enjoy now.
I never said it was perfect. I only say heed my words for the best possible outcome. There is a reason why divorce lawyers are panicking right now. People aren't getting married. You know what that means? If they aren't getting married, they can't get divorced, and these blood sucking parasites don't get a host upon which to feed off of.
@@MrGrabich And statistically, I have a much greater chance of being right than you do.
@@mr.e1026 Nobody said you are wrong, dude. I've just added that there are reasons to get married. Chill.
@@MrGrabich There WERE reasons. You know, as an adult who is aware, if you end up in the hospital, you can have anyone you want in the hospital up to the max number of people. If you list a boyfriend or a girlfriend as an emergency contact, they are not excluded from visiting just because they are not family, even if that person in the hospital is unconscious.
You made a bad example. It happens. I didn't marry the mother of my daughter, but when my daughter was born, I was right there. I was there, while none of her family could go in when she was having the c-section. I remember this, because it pissed off her mother.
Courtney Ryan: “Have fun being single, my friend!” 😂
If a guy makes 7 figures he better rents than marry unless the lady is fairly wealthy.
These days i find it hard to find a woman that is reflected, good looking, have a nice job, has ambitions, is nice and polite. I think Courtney stands out as a good role model for a lot of girls/women, because she is very professional in the way she talks. She doesnt talk bad about anyone, its like plain and simple critique and showing off her opinions in a respectful manner, i miss the people who talks about others respectfully like this, its just good form. Anyway keep up the good work Courtney!
Don't look for them.. it's pointless distraction.
I make a 7 figure salary if you count the digits after the decimal point
I make a 17 figure salary in binary.
Girl: “I need to be financially independent. This relationship might not last forever.”
Me: “okay so you’ll sign a prenup?”
Girl: 😡
why not marry someone you trust
Hahaha, we all know better than that! One thing we know, them "b" ain't giving up their retirement plan.
Its sad when what Fresh and Fit have been saying from the beginning is becoming more and more true everyday, I don't think any young guy or girl dating nowadays can deny these things sadly
So many of these things come down to feelings of insecurity and low self esteem. It may manifest somewhat differently depending on gender, but the behaviors aren’t actually going to make anyone feel more secure or have better self esteem in the long run. Find a way to be ok with yourself first because you just won’t get that from the other person. Relationships work best when both people are healthy and happy. Respectfully submitted.
people these days act as if STD's have been eradicated
This was a beautiful video, I love all your points of view. You are such a down earth person, amazing. Thank you so much❤️
13:59 "I'm a divorce lawyer and I get asked all the time what my number one advice to WOMEN getting maried would be." There, fixed it.
15:36 80% of divorces are initiated by women.
Yeah. Anyone being truthful giving marriage advice to men would say "don't fucking do it." There's very little upside for you and a huge range of risks. Why you gonna risk getting taken to the cleaners in divorce court? For what?
"shots fired"....god I love your commentary, its spot on and to the point.
I enjoy the tiktok reactions Courtney and about the Instagram thing I really wouldn’t care about if my girlfriend or wife had it as long as like what you said about posting inappropriate pictures for everyone to see
@Anthony Manzio and? If you trust her then where's the problem? Just say you're insecure lmao
@Anthony Manzio If she wants to cheat on you, SHE WILL cheat on you, one way or another. Stop acting like a security guard lol
@@leopard-- you say that like its a reason to get over it and accept social media instead of avoid women entirety. I don't think you realize the majority of men are going to choose the latter. Id rather set myself on fire than end up married and cheated on and Im not exaggerating.
@@Syncrotron9001 you don’t own her, you don’t own anyone. When 2 people get married that doesn’t mean that they should control each other. You can talk to them, you can both set boundaries like not posting nudes on social media for example but you can’t just tell someone to stop using something for the rest of their life just cause you’re insecure. Cheating was never a good thing, but you can’t just keep having doubts 24/7.
@@leopard-- Of course I don't own her, don't jump the gun here hoss I just told you flat out I refuse to date a woman who has Instagram, let alone marry her.
If you marry and she has social media did you know its a crime in many places to "unlawfully" gain access to someone else's account? So lets say your wife IS actually cheating and you suspect it so you grab her phone, check her Instagram, and find out shes been cheating. Did you know that a crime? Its literally illegal for you to find out if shes using social media to cheat on you.
Of course I don't own her, and furthermore I don't want to.
Autodisqualified.
With a background in banking I can say with quite some certainty that money is the one thing that the average person is attached to the most emotionally. It is very hard for many people to recover from a financial loss, and there is no easy adjustment. No therapy session will make it better. That's why I would agree with the divorce lawyer: Feeling a sense of financial security is essential in a relationship. This is also why the search for the "one-percent-man" generally doesn't work, with a few very notable exceptions.
Courtney u should definitely go on the Fresh n Fit podcast. Y’all really have similar views and would definitely give out some major game on dating
16:29 When I saw this Tik Tok where it says a guy has to be 6 feet tall, make 7 figures and have an 8 inch. I was like LMAO 🤣
I started laughing when I saw the words “8 inch”. I don’t think I expect a guy to be that BIG in a sense. Not my criteria at all hahaha 😂😝
Courtney, can you please go on fresh & fit and teach those school boys what women are outside of Miami?
She did go onto their podcast last year, or the year before, and she would definitely have a much much stronger footing this time around
@@LatimusChadimus I think that was the Roommates podcast, also a great channel btw!
I don't care anymore MGTOW
Paraphrasing Gunny Sgt. Hartman from 'Full Metal Jacket' regarding those jeans at 9:25 "Are so f*ckin' ugly they could be a modern art masterpiece!"
“Man has to be 6ft tall to date me”
Cries in 5’11”.
Thats not even short
Cries in 5.7
Get lifts!
OMG I can't believe there are women out there that have never worked in their life! The minute I turned 16, I couldn't wait to get my first job and work through retail jobs until my education allowed me to get into it accounting job. But then I went back to school to learn computers in the late 90s and from that point on I worked in the com industry, research assistant all kinds of stuff, such an incredible journey! I often think back on all my jobs the way some people think back on their romances, I learned so much and I grew so much! It just makes you feel good about yourself when you're doing something that you actually worked hard to be able to do, trained for, etc. But I come from a different generation probably we're hard work was a pretty important thing and not gender-specific. So interesting!
I think telling a girl to delete her Instagram is ridiculous. But as a guy, if I find out a girl I'm seeing is posting lude photos, obviously looking for attention, then she instantly gets put in the fun girl basket. Pointless trying to change people, especially forcefully trying to control them.
I don't remember where I saw the study but apparently money DOES buy happiness, just not in the way most people would think. The current figures are somewhere around 55k - 160k of annual income in an average household which is just enough to provide for a stable home without stressing about bills and enough financial freedom to own a vehicle or two plus some vacation for you and your loved ones. The study also indicated that anything more than that does not bring more happiness and in the extreme can even bring mental instability due to having to make the extra efforts of protecting those finances.
The book "ATTACHED" is phenomenal. I recommend EVERYONE read it.
by amir levine ?
@@yahavisrael Yes.
@@TheAltruistArtist thanks
Yeah, I want to squat twice my body weight again like I did two years ago and I'm very close but I still have to put in the work to build that skill and strength back up
Why aren’t you on more mainstream podcasts,girl?
Omg I’m reading Attached too lol. I feel so seen. Yes Courtney! We love to see it! 👏
I think the bigger picture with the 1% guy thing is that Myron is low key saying you should date down. Why get a 1% man that cheats, when you could get a 30% man that treats you good, but can't buy designer bags.
Not a woman are you? They will all sleep with that 1% guy and then go tothe 30% to raise their kids and pay bills.
Fun math. 6" height, 14%, 7 figures 0.17%, 8 inches 1%. 1 in 420,168 men fits the bill.
I did the math and that's around 18,930 however that's also including all ethnicities, skin colors and straight, bi or gay men. Plus it depends on how many of those whom she likes, are attracted to her in return. And since that's including the entire world, the odds of her matching with someone will probably be slim to none
Vamos Courtney! ❤
Expecting a dog to meow or even being a dog who is expected to meow is a lose-lose situation. Know what you want, have reasonable standards, learn and grow together mutually.
Putting someone down to make a point is sometimes wanting power over someone or sign of that person's low self-esteem. Two people can have two different perspective and still have a respectful conversation.
i wonder if that applies to politcians too
Social Media can be a problem in relationships. If said couple has a fight, then all someone has to do is open their DM’s and then set up a time to meet someone else. My sister and her ex broke up over lack of communication and she ended up hooking up with someone else.
Yup
Social media is poison
Seems weird to me. I'm not trying to hype myself up in anyway. I'm a train wreck disguised as unicorn. That being said, whenever I was with a women in a relationship, literally every woman in my vicinity was pretty much dead to me. I had absolutely loyalty and devotion to my significant other. I honestly struggle to understand why others don't have that mentality.
"A train wreck disguised as a unicorn". Same here 🤣😅. Can I use that?
@@trence5 sure thing lol
I love your content & views on things! Keep up the great work!
The girl with the "7 figures" plus, plus, plus, requirements. Does she not have a mirror in her home? Has she looked into it lately and seen her reflection? 😂😂
That divorce lawyer is such a crook. She pretends men leave the marriage, when everybody knows satistics prve that divorces are mostly initiated by women, with the result we all know. What a liar.
Your videos bring a gentleman like me peace, hope and calm in this vicious & unfair world of modern dating, I should have been born in the 50s where you focused on one lady at a time and if that didn’t work out then you started dating someone else!
I want romantic chemistry, I don’t just want a fling and therefore the baggage of a piece of that persons spirit left to deal with too!
You're not missing out, these type of people are NEVER happy nor satisfied and end up living lives of total misery and disappointment.
"6' and 7 figures..." I love that they do. As an old sales maxim goes, "Each 'No' is one step closer to a 'Yes.'" I can quickly dismiss her and seek someone else.
Those are not standards, they are "nice to haves." That woman doesn't know the difference.
Courtney in red today 😊
❤️❤️
Best marriage advice I ever got. Marriage is not 50/50 it needs to be 100/100. If you are not committed to helping your partner be the best person they can be and vice versa it ain’t gonna work.
The amount of drama I get to avoid for being short and not a millionaire - priceless
*Never confuse customer service with affection ..... #WhenYouSeeIt
The current rate of divorce .... driven by 80% of women ... and the number 1 'cause' for divorce is boredom, then infidelity, then 'irreconcilable differences', then family, then religion, then money.
The best financial advice for a man is to never get married - not once, not ever. Ditto for living together, long term dating .... and of course never pander to IG / OF girls.
I had a gf that wanted me to delete all my female friends from FB. But SHE could keep and hide all the men that like her on FB. So no-she had to go. No double standards.
11:27 Courtney, Courtney, Courtney, if i had to choose an "icky" moment of yours, that would be that one, hands down!
You basically tell women "don't think, run from logic and just feel instead", just like the woman in the tiktok ("it doesn't matter their motivation, it doesn't matter what's going on in their head. All that matters is does it feel good in my body, does this work for me?"). It's wrong on so many levels. "Don't be a grown up woman who expresses what she wants and needs, just act like a child, watch their actions in silence and judge/leave them if they don't read your mind". Yikes!
That's Woman Behaviour 101 and the reason why a lot of men think women are crazy, act like children and are allergic to accountability.
On another note, you encouraging that behaviour is setting women up for failure, meaning the never ending cycle of ending up with the jerk or the bad boy because women already do with "feels" only. Guess what, being around Chad feels really good and trumps thinking anyway. You should encourage women to think about it, express what they need very clearly, and only then, maybe watch actions without really thinking about the reasons why (even if that's still debatable).
Oh my god, that was so cringy. Please don't taint those who want to add a bit of reasoning and logic to their choices. eww
@Courtney Ryan. What attachment style are you?
Make your money. Work out. Have your hobbies. Don’t take women too seriously. Don’t treat them poorly. If she doesn’t fit into what you’re doing then move on and find a new one.
The height thing doesn’t matter. Plenty of short dudes with cash hooking up with good looking women. Plenty of tall dudes with cash going home alone. They really don’t know what they want so how can you provide something to someone that doesn’t know what they want ?
All the more reason to go your own way.
remember yall... courtney is still a woman.... therefore atleast half of her advice is for entertainment purposes only. 😂
These modern women ain’t even virgins and still expect to be treated like they are still virgins and pure??
No hi-man no diamond
@@tyronevonchadley what does that even mean?
@@danymitehazard Let me rephrase. No Cherry..... No Marry.
A woman is free to want a guy who’s 6’ or taller and who makes 100k or more, sure, but by the same token I’m free to want a woman who weighs 140 or less, is kind and caring, childless, who doesn’t smoke or have a drug/alcohol addiction, and who isn’t covered with tattoos/piercings.
Hey I realize that’s also picky too lol, and perhaps even a bit delusional on my part, but the difference here is simply this - all of what I want is within a person’s control! You can choose to eat well and exercise, not sleep around too much and/or have kids before marriage, not mutilate your body with tattoos/piercings, not smoke or drink to excess, and be a nice person!
Look I’m far from perfect but I’ve made good choices by and large over my life to the point where as a 38 yo guy, I have a good job with good finances (not six figures but above average and with a lot in retirement savings), I’m in good physical shape and eat well, I treat people the way I’d like to be treated, haven’t fathered any kids out of wedlock, and own my home. So if I or someone like me wants a similar woman, quite frankly that only makes sense. Of course I’d get lambasted for saying this publicly though I feel….
this is the most mature woman i’ve seen on the Internet 😳 aspire to meet someone like her
Inflation of ego and dating standards are from social media
You can be “1%er” financially and be a terrible person the money doesn’t make anything
Exactly. Dudes can be rich as fuck but be complete dicks and be fucking annoying to even be around.
"The waitress game" is old as the world. It's not about giving a tip to a waiting staff. This clip is taken of of context so I can't say if the girl is crazy or not. But "the waitress game" is very real thing. It's about a guy who you date for some time already and he ignores males stuff/sales person, he ignores YOU when you are together on the dinner AND, at the very same dinner, gives the waitress overly friendly comments, asks her questions about her private life, compliments her overtly and even giggles (when he never does that with you). This is a real thing. I dated few man like that and then for many years a wonderful man who never did that. Reverse the roles: a woman who is overly friendly and gives a ton of attention and a huge tip to a male waiter while ignoring her boyfriend. Isn't such a behaviour toxic?
I always live by she’s not yours it’s just your turn theory. They always run off eventually and I always replace them quickly. Hookup culture is the way to go since most women have no clue how to be a good wife. Stifle your emotions men.
Sadly, I can only give this one thumbs up.
mgtow united
You're my new favorite big sister. But respectfully ma'am in a later video you said social media is warping everybody's perception and in this video you said it's okay to have an Instagram. They seem at odds with each other in my opinion ma'am. So glad I saw you on Abba and preach.n
"I think the standards that we have for people" That's the problem. Phrasing like a journalist hiding reality. "We" = Women. Be precise, name your kind. Men's standards really haven't changed much if at all.
Wrong. Men's standards have changed. They have become pathetic now. They're so pathetic, that men still say "I'll smash" to a fat woman with terrible attitude on Tiktok. Look at simps, that's the clearest sign that men's standards have changed for the worse.
As an Eastern man, I want to say to my fellow Western men, raise your standards.
I just want to thank all the beautiful and lovely woman who don't judge men based off their height
The problems there are when there is an imbalance to the relationship: one person who does a lot more than another can tear a relationship apart. The lawyer was right both sides should have some source of income, savings, or means to make money if it does not work out years after marriage. Being self substaining earner would look good to starting a new relationship also.
Who cares? After the divorce, that will most likely ibe nstigated by the woman for X reason, sh'ell leave with the kids, the house, and will demand child support and alimony. So she doesn't need to be financially independaent, it'll happen after the divorce, just by magic. While she'll be fucking another dude she would have met 3 month prior the divorce.