Imagine a time when a huge percentage of said women are grossly overweight. I live in Vegas and the number of women who should NOT be wearing tight clothing is astonishing.
@@SetTheCurve He's right though. Largely a waste of time. I get that a blind squirell finds a nut every once in a while, but the odds just going out into real life are so much better. lol
It's the illusion of choice. When you had to meet someone at a bar or book club or bowling or church, you didn't have many options and people would happily pick a partner. Now girl's can go on a dating app and get 20 people expressing interest a day. It makes them feel like they are waaaaaaay higher value than they are.
Indeed the paradox of choice plays a big part, in the old days women would be restricted to the neighborhood guys but now with the internet the market is literally worldwide with some guys willing to fly girls out. I agree that online should probably be avoided but unfortunately there are many others who will still pursue the online route.
@@Mrbfgray Dude, you can embrace real life all you want. The truth is that in real life she still meets men she finds on dating sites whether you like it or not .
After watching my mom, niece, sister,and wife before and after makeup, I can honestly tell you women think too highly of themselves. It’s amazing what women can do in the before and after looks with makeup. So how about a dating app where women’s pictures don’t have makeup, filters, current etc…
Make up just makes woman look more girly. Literally giving them higher sighs of juvenile characteristics. Man’s obsessing over makeup making woman supposedly so much more attractive is just 😂
I think men should do the same on apps. Flowing hair, straight jaw, then a troll comes to date them. The guy says, I thought you knew I was using a filter. Hilarious.
well, whatever's stopping you from using a pretty picture for the dating app? Use filtes all you like, if you think that'll improve your chances dramatically. It makes zero sense to pick up a photo where you look your worst and use it for self-presentation with people who need to make a choice based only on your photo. Shows you are not only ugly, but also stupid.
Also men tell men the harsh truth i met women that would never put themselves in the bad guy's shoes and tell a woman she's unnattractive even if it's for her own good.
Don’t forget about all these other injection and surgeries (lip injections, bbl, fake boobs etc)women need to do to look good these days. No natural beauty anymore all fake everything.
It's crazy how competitive dating is nowadays. I feel as if men have to be absolutely perfect in order to even have a chance at dating. Hearing stories about how some of my older family members met each other and it was so simplistic and not nearly as cut throat and competitive. If our uncles, grandfathers, fathers had to deal with the way dating is today most of them would have never met a woman and had kids. Social media and dating apps has completely ruined it.
Not only that but once men get their foot in the door they can't break any of the 368 rules of modern dating that men must observe or the girl with disappear.
I'm a 67 year old guy and I don't remember it being like this when I was younger. My co-worker's wife introduced me to the women who would become my wife. I was 34 and she was 27. 33 years later and we're still together.
@@RichRocketMan The fact that they need the makeup to feel "attractive" is actually very unattractive. The same goes for all the other toxics she puts in her hair and on her or in her body as well, and the filters used in photos etc.. It all comes down to the fact, that she is a very weak and insecure person.
Exactly. I saw a post from a girl on twitter that says “beards are the male equivalent to makeup”. As soon as we wash our face or shower, our beard is still there. Makeup washes off. It’s not the same lol.
I make well over 100K, I'm over 6 feet tall, I have a 6-pack. I was ignored on dating apps. I have since removed myself from all social media and the dating scene.
You stand a better chance meeting them in person at say church, a hobby club, anywhere in public. They are a whole lot less pickier there than on dating apps. I get hit on all the time on vacation then nothing on dating apps taught me that.
Yeah, but they themselves are not aware of that. They constantly complain about these chads chesting on them or just refusing to be anything more then casual fuckbuddies. While the guys that would commit to them are just invisible to them.
talking with a friend, she told me that she prefers that a handsome guy breaks her heart than having a good relationship with an ugly guy, I am myself ugly and she broke my heart a little. I was asking her why she doesnt take one of the guys that are chasing her and that was her response. so I agree there are a lot of girls that have that mentality but i dont dont think all of them think like this
I have to be honest, that’s pretty much how I feel as a man when it comes to most women. As Jerry Seinfeld said to Elaine years ago. 95% of the population is UNDATEABLE…
70% of US women are overweight. If you want a fit woman, there goes 70% of the population lmao. What if you want a fit and chaste woman with a good personality? As an Eastern, I bid you good luck.
Been married and divorced twice and that's before realizing the nightmare that is dating nowadays. At 55, I am probably too brutally honest to attract the overly-sensititive and entitled personalities that seem to permeate today's 'batch'. It's a good thing I don't mind being alone because that seems to be preferable at this time...
I can totally relate to this. I tried to date and literally lost my mind trying to get anyone to notice me. Now I try hard to work on myself by myself. I’m not improving myself to impress a women. I’m improving myself to learn how to live happy; alone. I just can’t afford the mental gymnastics required find a partner anymore.
I recently watched a vid of a guy explaining why more men are getting lonely now and the comments of all the women where harsh to say the least. Unsurprizingly they painted themselves the victim stating that "men are never truly lonely" and that women should never lower their standarts. I'm afraid it's only gonna get worse guys.
A female associate asked me why she cant find a good guy who is serious. I told her theres probably atleast 300 good guys in her likes that would be serious if she just stopped chasing 9/10s. She was about a 7 but the years have not been good to her she is now about a 5 maybe 4. Anyway after i told her that if she dont lower her standards she will probably end up alone.. She went off on me. 😑 lol...
Well there are more women 5&below out there than men below an 8, but social media and the sisterhood of feminism, with simping, tells women 2s-7s they're 9s and since women date across&up, they want 9s and 10s. I'm happy to be in the 8-9 range and enjoy all the peaceful 5s-7s. A pleasant 7 will always be better than a bishhy 9. Stay sane bro, your hormones need it
@@lengting yeah dude most 9s shouldn't need make up, so if you see a 9 with make up, she's a 4 or a 5 (maybe a 6 if she doesn't have a dad and needs attention she sees others getting)
@@lengting Also most girls seem to go out with a checklist of what they want and when they realize most guys don't have those features they'll say the guys are ugly. For example I showed pictures of Chris Evans, Andrew Garfield or Henry Golding. And almost every girl said those guys aren't good-looking. But then girls think Rege-Jean Page or Idris Elba are the hottest guys ever. Fact is most guys don't have curly hair. Or darker skin. But thanks to a vocal group of girls and their fantasy they expect every guy to complete their checklist.
@@noobbotgaming2173 and you have to be able to look them in the eye and tell them that you don't care what they want because what they deserve and what they want are two different things and they didn't have a dad to tell him that so you have to make sure that you let them know that you don't care what they want, unless they are worthy of investment yet if it isn't being reciprocated, it never will be
Dating apps are a joke. I’ve been following Courtney’s channel for over a year and have been working my ass off on self-improving myself in every possible way: going to the gym 5x a week, Invisalign to straighten my teeth, bought an all new wardrobe, better grooming habits, becoming more financially stable etc. Downloaded Hinge about a month ago. First week was super successful. Got a ton of matches and went on dates with four different women. This past week however, I had dates set up with three more women and they ALL texted the day of to cancel with no offer to reschedule. Although I can’t know the real reason for sure, I feel like it doesn’t matter how good someone is, there will ALWAYS be someone better or more attractive who comes along and takes your place.
And that's why you stay off the apps. They're literally designed to suck money out average looking guys in order to get matches. These platforms are to make money not help people find actual relationships. Gotta go out in public to meet people. Trust me women are far far far more receptive in person cuz they aren't being bombarded with messages. On the apps they're overstimulated & your right there's always gonna be someone better looking but most of those better looking guys are just looking to smash & dash. That's those women's fault if they fall for it.
Keep improving man work out more than you do now and groom better than you do now you got to keep going up don’t stop at a ceiling keep improving because if you don’t and just stop the people that don’t stop will pass you by
Just work on yourself my friend. You can jump through all the hoops laid out here; won't matter. Build your wealth, and yourself, and go overseas. Move there, don't bring a wife back. You'll live happy ever after. If you think you can marry her back here, save some time. Just give her half of what you have, and move on.
The problem with in person interactions is we have no idea which girls are single, or want to be hit on. Most women will just politely decline you or say they have a boyfriend even if they dont if they dont like ANYTHING about you on youre first approach
They aren’t attracted to men, they are just attracted to what the man has. Men actually love girls even if they brought nothing to the table. That’s what you call true love
AND: Men love women for what they actually are. Women love men according to the image and vision that they get in their mind about them. So they'll subconsciously try to change their men and at that point if the man keeps being genuine to himself, the woman is going to get frustrated and bitter. If the man actually changes, she will complain about the fact that he has changed to then leave him. Women are literally never happy and they unconsciously lead their relationship into failure at one point
It's the Chad Thundercock Syndrome. Men far above them hit them up on dating apps, hit it then quit it. Women think they can pull this caliber of men after that and get run through by high status men and eventually lose their mind when they can't get one to commit. They don't understand because they sleep with men they want to commit to, but don't but don't connect the pieces that men don't think this way when dealing with a "fun girl".
@@DmMoiMienNamke.mandimoiroNgu There is hypergamy within reason... then there's delusional hypergamy. Meaning, I totally lack self-awareness of my flaws because the culture tells me that I'm perfect thus my man has to be perfect as well.
Ive been living along my whole life. been single forever and im 24. its very hard to believe people like you when I am so lonely and feel like i have no value as a human. just wasting space and oxygen
A friend of mine was married since the late 2000's. Unfortunately his wife passed away from cancer about 3 years ago and now that he is dating again he mentioned how much worse dating is now.
It's probably mostly age. Dating is like finding a parking spot. You have to show up early to get the best spots. After a while, all that are left are handicapped.
I agree. I have a friend who is recently divorced and has put himself back on to the dating. Bars, clubs etc. and a lot of trouble finding a woman. While his ex wife is constantly getting hit on even though she’s only average looking.
@@PeppaPigParody They don't wanna hear that, though. It that lifestyle mandates self-discipline and a willingness to unlearn unhealthy habits and ideas. That's just too heavy of a lift for most of these boys.
The guys who said that we don't stop the action to take group pics is right on the money. I have plenty of fun nights out with friends but I never really stop to take a picture.
Women used to be fun to be around. And I'm not talking bedroom fun, I just legitimately enjoyed their company. A few of my best friends in college were women. That was back in the early '00s. Things have really changed, and so quickly too. It's sad. Between politics, the culture war, and dynamics between the sexes, socializing has really suffered.
Isn't it entirely sad, that women have become so jaded, that they cannot be interesting and fun, without all this drama. Men want women like that, from back 20/30 years ago.
I say, men just need to stick to themselves. Stay single, find purpose, make a stable life in which you will be happy. Considering the average marriage is shorter than the lifespan of household pet. Just get a dog, a dog can love unconditionally, and can lower stress levels. As for the whole social media scene. We have known for years; the negative effects social media has on an individual's mental health. Yet we still continue to utilize it, it creates narcissistic behavior, low empathy, low self-esteem and financial instability. We are a society damaged by technology and those negative traits carry over into the relationships.
Dude I grew up surrounded by women hahaha my mother my grandmother my sisters many of my friends growing up were girls. I can still look my mother in the eye and tell her that women are nuts and she will laugh and she will agree
Your outwards appearance, your body and the shape you are in are much deeper than people think. It shows so much about a person's character and non-fluid intelligence.
@@Texasmade74 non-fluid intelligence is the facts you know. If you are overweight you obviously don't know it's bad for you in many, many ways. If you do know and you don't do anything about it, then this shows your character is weak and frankly sucks.
I’m so glad I missed this dating app scene. I’m 34 now and have been married to my wife for 10 years. I had just turned 24 and she had just turned 20. I have never regretted that decision. Dating today sounds like a sweet hell I never want to experience.
Man you're both young, you are definitely part of this culture and you are influenced by these dynamics. I'm sorry but if you think you're outside you'll end up being destroyed by her. Don't think your relationship is eternal, try to be mindful of all the moments you're living, make an effort to maintain the relationship etc etc and do this mostly for you, because there is a high probability she will left you for another guy or simply break up with you. And if you're prepared, you will able to rise again. Otherwise, you'll be fucked forever.
97% of women are below average without makeup and filters. So good luck to all the guys that get married and see her natural self on the regular. You’re only fooling yourself if you think she’s attractive.
It frankly shouldn't matter since the vast majority of men should avoid dating apps. I'm convinced that most of the women on these sites are just looking for attention, free meals, and cash. And what man with an ounce of self respect is willing to provide any of those things unearned?
You ask couples how they met and what they thought of each other before dating, and it is always the guy saying she was sooo beautiful and I just had to meet her! You ask the girl and she says "when we met..I was meh. But then I was lonely or whatever and gave him a chance and he was funny and had a good time and I started liking him and now yada yada..we have been married 20 years." It has always been like this. That is why guy dating coaches say you have to raise interest level. Women think you are more attractive the more she knows you. Very few men have the looks or status where women are blown away. You see those examples in media because it is rare and people are fascinated. Because most people do not ever get that. Nothing about the graphs showing women think guys are ugly before she knows them is at all surprising or new. Always been this way. Your job as a guy is to raise that up.
The only way to win is by not playing. Work out and be fit year-round, make money, learn a language, learn to play an instrument, and accept the fact giving women attention and spending time/money/energy on them has a negative ROI.
men who go to dating apps needs to wake up we are not the same she is speaking bullshit she thinks we are the same we are not dating apps is a lost game foe men.
I lost 14% bodyfat ( i am at ~11% now ), am a software developer in a very well paying company, am 6 foot 4, speak two languages and learning spanish right now and i have taught myself playing the guitar the last 4 years. All this stuff is useless when I just go to work ( very male dominated, programmers ), gym and then home. My big problem is that i have no clue where to meet women in a setting that i am interested in. The only " outside " interest i have is the gym and i dont want to be "that guy" that hits on women at the gym. I will just have to force myself to develop new interests. also @Another Account i guess.
Its because women spend so much time on apps like Tik Tok, IG and watch shows like Euphoria where all they see is very attractive men because that's what the algorithm shows them and they think thats actually the "norm", so when a guy doesnt look like Chris Hemsworth they think he's ugly because their main reference point is heavily skewed, Bad times ahead for the average man
Oh bad times are coming for these shallow women too. The way apps operate aren't good or healthy for anyone. We're already seeing it. The growth of mgtow/red pill that was a response to the unrealistic standards of women has lead to rise in men being lonelier but content while women's mental health is going into the toilet. They're just as lonely they just try to convince themselves they aren't. Men are least honest with ourselves.
I do not care if they think Chris Hemsworth is the standard or some crap like that. What I hate is that they change when they turn 30+ and no man wants them. No. You have chosen your path. Stay on it.
There is a reason for that. Aging has a visible masculinization effect on human faces and it doesn't distinguish between male and female ones. That's why old women look like old men. The obvious difference is that for women more feminine faces are preferred, while when it comes to men, more masculine faces are preferred. Everyone gets uglier with age, but after around 50 or so, women just get considerably uglier. There is even an old joke about that: "Older men look like Sean Connery. Older women also look like Sean Connery."
Im 63 and for me it's not the aging so much with a older woman..it's being 50lbs overweight...a older woman can be attractive if they just work out and not eat so much...and if they are feminine and dress like it.
@@frankward8003 With age losing weight is harder. The reality of life is many people will have teenagers/young adult kids that still need catering for or old parents that they need taking care of +a job and the free time goes through the window. For most people the kids/grandkids/elderly parents will take priority before going to the gym. And as far as I understood after a certain age people just don't have as much energy as they had in their 20s or 30s.
30 year old guy here, never been in a serious relationship, dont use dating apps, had my time on the partying and one night stand scene, grew tired of it. I have a good career in sales, earn above average wage, get compliments on the way I dress from female colleagues. My "problem" seems to be I just completely lost interest in a relationship. I have my hobbies, have my routine, my job... Every time a woman comes in I tend to be very straightforward with what I want/think which most women these days don't seem to like, but probably I could also be less blunt if I cared. I am OK being single though, I don't let myself be lonely, do not think I am depressed either. I know women find me physically average or below average, but since I stopped caring about what they think and developed my own style and started to do things for ME, I get women interested. Guys need to start becoming honest with themselves, this is going to sound cliche but no one will want to be with you if you don't want to be with yourself. Its easy to complain that everything is unfair etc. but that's how it is, life is not fair and only person you are going to be with 100% until death is yourself.
Dating apps are for 🔔ends, I'm being serious, funking weirdos all of em, both men and woman, they are designed for life's losers. All relationships are full of grief, stress, bickering, and millions of other type of shyte you have to deal with. Life is hard as it is without some other lying person with you, and believe me they are funking lying all the time.
Stopped caring - I haven't cared my whole life and it's gotten me no where. (in regards to attracting and staying in relationships). And yes, if you're happy it will reflect. If you enjoy the company of others genuinely, it will show. Empathy molecules and autism? I don't know, getting people to "like you" is so weird. Seems like they have an idealized version that they want to mold you into even if inside you're not that person. I've seen it happen, or they think you're attractive, then the get to know you more, then they go, "oh, not as attractive anymore". Personality goes a long way.
@@gabrielguzman6018 You can be physically attractive and have a bad personality, as evidenced by my history. I've dated very nice looking women, it breaks down when I show lack of confidence and lack of interest in children. Also I have no interests besides reading and watching youtube.
Thanks for this real positive video. I'm a 32 years old virgin kissless, lonely guy for entire decades. I can say, certainly that learning to love yourself and improve your own physical appearence can be a very positive thing for men as well.
Wait you've never been laid let alone kissed. That's not a virgin. That's a celibac. Bro, I used to be like you until someone told me you need get laid. That doesn't mean to go after any woman and be like Hugh Hefner or ask any random woman on the street to get laid. Now that would be considered creepy, inappropriate, and uncomfortable. You'd be surprised how many women don't want to date virgins let alone 30 but you need to this before it's too late. As for hitting a home run that's something you have to figure out yourself. As for getting on base, Go to the strip club. They will do that big time. Of course you have to tip them, but not excessively. You don't need to make it rain to get a kiss from them. Just a couple of bucks and you finally got on base for the first time. First Time I Kissed A Girl: 21. First Time I Got Laid: 28. For those two, neither of the two weren't the last time either. I had a few partners (all women), numerous times, kissed too many women to count. Funny Story: I had a guy who asked me "How many times have you been laid?" I responded "Times or Partners? Because I don't know how many times I have had it." I had to make him look stupid & uneducated without calling him stupid & uneducated.
Yeah, forget about women and have fun with your hobbies. Get a Jeep, maybe a boat and a motorbike and go out on lots of adventures. You can live a really rich and free life.
I can definitely say I am in the 80% of men that women find unattractive. It's been that way my entire life, and I've come to accept the fact that I'll be single the rest of my life and I'm fine with that.
I'm also not that attractive. I sometimes get double takes from women here or a smirk rather than a smile. Those who have been there will know what I mean. I've done quite well in my career, retired early at 50 and I'm off to Cebu early next year. There are options out there!! ✈️✈️✈️
"Women find 80% unattractive". The title should be: "Average women are rejecting average men because average women get bombarded with DMs from Chads & Tyrones who only want to have sex making average men invisible. In other words, women who are 4s and 5s are getting hit on by Chads & Tyrones that are 10s which's causing women to have illogically high standards leaving all other men in the dust". This should be the title and on top of that - this is what's really going on but nobody's talking about it.
I used dating apps for a few months. It’s was the most demoralizing and depressing few months in my life. It really black pulled me on dating. I’ve been single ever since and have barely tried with any woman. I think these apps are terrible for Mens mental health.
Modern life is just messed up. It’s almost impossible to just find a true love and get on with your life. Everyone is greedy and everything is conditional. We truely live in a hard time
everything is conditional, they say pets love is unconditional but that is incorrect. if i start mistreating my dog, forget to feed her and keep her locked in a cage, well then shes not going to love me anymore. modern life IS messed up, completely true, but love is not impossible, there are females somewhere right now thinking and feeling the exact same things as you.
I had a conversation with a female friend recently and I tried to express why my standards are so low, I think I failed because what I was trying to express is that whether online or IRL I have to bring my A-game, just to have a chance with someone who's way below me. I hate it because often it makes me think that in order to date, love, be fulfilled, I have to have little to no standards the bar I have for women is so low. Meanwhile on the flip side if I don't bring my absolute best in every aspect of life everyday for months or years I don't deserve companionship, love, or a relationship. There are no days off and I realize this now, but I think I've decided that most women aren't worth my time or energy anymore, as for the ones that are, they won't date me, even if our numbers match, so insert forever alone meme here.
In a LTR but I agree, if we split, looking at how things are nowadays I wouldn't bother again. The juice really isn't worth the squeeze! If my only motivation for running a business or gyming was modern Western women, I'd have quit them both a long time ago and just do the bare minimum to get by. Wait until sex bots become a thing lol. Having to bring so much to the table for a delusional entitled narcissistic nag who thinks they're 4-9 leagues higher than they are, what's the point. But this seems to be most of them now, they're really not worth the effort you have to put in to be good enough to have the 'privilege' of their company.
I had this mentality also for a long while but its the wrong mindset. Your problem is that you dont demand anything from women. You dont let them qualify themselves for your love and effection and then you become needy and unwanted. flip the script my friend other then going up and saying hi. Look at it this way a gold bar dont need to tell anyone its valuable it just is. Have this attitude and you will be way better off.
In my late 50’s, here’s the deal on dating sites. I tried them for a while, and many women said “can’t meet a good man”. When you meet them and talk to them, the reason why becomes all too clear. Want to meet real people, try the real world, it’s easier for you because there are no “filters” when someone is right there in front of you.
I find the statement to be increasingly true over time. The problem is women are also becoming increasingly offended by being hit on or even approached in person.
Not just that fam. Real world interactions will always be better but most of these women don't even know how to have a fun conversation ,playfully flirt or let alone be an interesting individual themselves. When you ask them a question they respond with "Yes","No","Oh that's cool","Haha" etc. the same women have actual interest in you. When they start talking about something its usually about clothes, makeup, or complaining about something... They cannot hold a serious conversation or a conversation about their dreams, lifegoals etc. When you flirt with them they have no idea how to respond other than "Thank you". Some of them even get offended. My man nowadays most of those women are like toddlers and you can't babysit all of them.
When I was on dating apps, I swiped left on anyone using a filter. I didn't want the disappointment when I saw them in person and they didn't look like their photos.
Whenever I see a filter it's a sign of her low intelligence because she's unable to use them in a way you are not sure whether it's a filter or not. And that's the only way they were supposed to be used.
When I get depressed working night shifts I search for a connection. I come to these videos and laugh at how depressing everything else is, I feel better not engaging in this stupid game and go back to being alone.
@@erickvart love women and enjoy women. You sound bitter. Someone took to many red pills. You can become a better version of yourself and get with women at the same time. You should be doing both
Concur. If it were this difficult throughout human history, the species would never have survived this long. One good war, famine or plague would have long since wiped us out, due to lack of sufficient number to enable the population to recover. Without making any editorial comment as to whether it is good or bad, it is no surprise to me that in the developed world, birth rates are absolutely cratering given the state of the sexual marketplace
@@devilsadvocacy You forget about all the Rpe that went on in history. The great khan forced himself upon so many women that now 1/5 of the world population is a descendant of him. A massive amount of men in our history died before they had to chance to make someone pregnant. It has always been the case that a smaller group of men produced way more offspring or where able to keep more offspring alive.
@@mezjean5966 You missed the point. We now have monogamy, and laws that proscribe rape. Had there been those things in Khan’s time, and someone/thing had the power to stop him, the world’s population would be smaller by roughly whatever the actual number of people that are carrying some of his DNA
@@devilsadvocacy When you say "we" have monogamy. Who is we? plenty of men out their with multiple wives. But I'm still sticking to my point that a smaller group of men produce a larger group of offspring. And a large group of men will never produce any. Oh and btw laws do not prevent anything.
Great video. Think that was the best summation of what my own thoughts that I've ever heard. With Online dating there is a gap between how people present themselves and reality. And to do well you need to play that game and glam yourselves up, as you have to compete with others that are doing it. A lot of my exes who I met through real life, would never have swiped on me on a dating app. That really sums it up.
I remember reading a discussion between women asking how long you need to date a man before letting him see you without makeup. That very question, as well as the answers it received, speaks volumes. The bitter truth is that women's looks are an artificial creation consisting of layers of applied makeup, painted, plucked eyebrows, dyed hair, bras designed to create the illusion of large breasts, and in some cases Botox and plastic surgery. Take a look at the photos of famously "beautiful" actresses and models without makeup. It's frightening.
There's some truth in that & women are happy to acknowledge it but they just enjoy making the best of their looks & presentation -like they enjoy dancing...it's life affirming to them. Also, they fear the judgement of their peers so they feel they have to look their best in social situations. Not only that but they can only feel confident if they know they look good & they can only enjoy themselves if they feel confident. I wash & polish my car. It's only an old car & it's not valuable but it looks good when it's shiny and anyway the polish protects the paintwork. No one thinks it's a Lamborghini. I'm just making the best of what I have. Girls are the same...they're not trying to fool you; they know only too well what they look like in the mornings.
@@ferney2936 But they clearly are out to fool people by pretending to be something they're not. If that wasn't their goal, they wouldn't be spending so much money and time disguising their true appearance, right? Your car washing analogy doesn't make sense because creating a completely false and artificial appearance is hardly the same as removing accumulated dirt. Altering one's true appearance by applying layers of face paint, Botox injections, breast implants, artificially increasing the size of one's lips with collagen injections, etc., is hardly comparable to taking a shower and combing your hair in the morning.
@@wardandrew23412 I see your point; I'm just saying that I personally feel that when they put on their warpaint & a nice dress when they go out for the evening & it makes them feel confident, it's just the grown up equivalent of the way little girls like to dress up in Princess dresses
@@ferney2936 No doubt there are women who simply like to look good without the specific purpose in mind of attracting interest from men. But we also need to remember that male attention is a tremendous boost to a woman's self confidence, so I have a bit of difficulty believing women who say they don't try to look good for men, don't have that in the back of their mind regardless.
Strip them naked, take off the makeup, false lashes, fillers and jewellery and shave their head. Now judge them. They will look so bloody average and yet they think they can pick, choose and control men.
One thing she did not really mention is how some women also hide their weight on most dating apps too…. The one time I get a match on a dating app, I spend weeks and months getting to know is a completely different person than what is in front of me on the date.
They also lie about their age on dating apps. Quite a bit, honestly. There is also a reason you have to list your height on most apps (women want that info) and you don't give your weight (information men would find useful). Ms. Jellyroll USA is 60 pounds overweight and is told she is a BBW. Couch Potato Cam is a guy who is 60 pounds overweight & he is instead told he is a fat slob. But hey, without double standards, most women wouldn't have standards at all.
Same here. I walked away feeling like shit because I had been lied but also I didn’t want to hurt this person because of her weight. I didn’t say anything about it to her but wish I did because she was lying by omission. It’s okay for men to have standards too
@@ShezInAustralia I'm in healthcare, I can tell you the majority of obese people (both men & women) will never be fit again. In fact, most of them only get bigger. Yeah, there are a few cases where a health condition or medication caused them to gain weight, but the great majority are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices and a lack of discipline. Regardless of appearance, those aren't attractive traits anyway, and very few people will suddenly get the discipline to make the changes, even for their health, not even looks.
I wish kids had more positive influencers like you. I guess it’s just the stereotypical ignorance young people have had forever but perpetuated by technology and society longer into life. Too many people don’t self reflect to see the problems on both sides of dating.
I’m at a point where I am confident in myself but have resigned myself to being single for awhile. Nothing is real. It’s all an illusion. Online dating has made things worse. Deep down I still have hope I’ll meet someone in the wild but it’s a long shot.
Even if a man is better looking in a relationship, society would say the girl looks better. The data is clouded by society’s bias. Even if a girl is “ugly” her friends will tell her she’s a 10 so she’d expect a 10 man
I'm considered a very attractive guy at 6 foot 4 tall, every women I ever been with I eclipsed them in looks everyone always tells me why are you dating her? My reason because it's the best I can get. Ironic right? Lol that's the society we live in
@@william11724 I've been with different levels of women and the ones who treat you the best are the 5-6s. I made the mistake of going for a higher one and married her it lasted ten years. But I should have married the other one. And I have no doubts id still be married today.
I actually mentioned this to a friend a few years back. When I did, she said I was being sexist and went off on a loud, angry tangent. Seeing this video, I am somewhat glad to see that I wasn't crazy. Honestly, I'm not sure exactly what kind of photos I take. Being legally blind, taking selfies isn't the easiest thing for me. Honestly, I think I am much better off meeting women in person than on any dating site I've ever been on. But that's just me.
hey Matt! I feel you brother, I am now 60, lost the better part of my sight, almost completely blind. How tired are you of hearing how the right woman won’t care about your physical disability. If they’re this picky about just average looking guys can you imagine how they’re going to treat us. I just live my best life and don’t worry about it, love to find companionship but I’m tired of crashing and burning, for something that’s not even within my control nor can do anything about. You’re not alone!
Thank you, Courtney! I also conducted a "social experiment" on the dating aps, posing as a woman (pre-pandemic, back in Spring, 2012). It was shocking to me the quality of people that reached out and their responses! I IMMEDIATELY felt bad for women, given their options, but what really struck me as interesting was that I felt SO much better about myself! I know I'm not FUGLY; I know I'm intelligent, have a great personality and sense of humor. Seeing what my "competition" was - a bunch of idiot bro douches with ZERO social skills, was affirming! The lessons I walked away with were that I was raised properly and have values that will be valued by the right person. I know I am not for everyone and I have to be fine with that. The experiment also reinforced my conviction in being a gentleman, treating all women kindly and with respect, while maintaining my own self-respect. It will be noticed and appreciated. By the by - online dating NOW is a COMPLETE shitshow of prostitutes (no disrespect), scammers and fakes. Just gotta keep "your pole in the water (no crude pun intended)" and don't take it so seriously. Work on yourself and the law of attraction will provide. Regarding filters and subterfuge - anyone remember this amusing "parable?" www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2013/11/07/man-sued-wife-ugly-baby-hoax_n_4231992.html
The issue is not with looks or quality of pictures. Suggesting men to work on their looks and pictures is to cater to the dumb social media/dating app game. It's a losing proposition. The actual issue is that most of women aren't looking to establish any sort of significative relationship with any man. They've embraced the single woman lifestyle and are quite content with the attention they get from social media and the steady dose of random dick that is readily available to them. More to the point, women who actually do need to use dating apps are already very low in the hierarchy themselves. Genuine highly attractive women don't need any of that at all. If you are man and you want to date a woman then you should take part in as many different activities and be as social as possible. You should find ways to meet as many women as possible and to talk to them as much as you can. You need to socialize in person. It's an uphill road but dating apps are not the answer.
Best reply so far on here. I am in agreeance with the bar is set high for men, but most of the men here believe women find men attractive in the ways we find women attractive. It's simple really... You want a women to fall in love with you? Go out there and be bold. Approach a woman and be confident. Practice, get good at it. Women find men who are bold and assertive attractive like men find a pair of pretty face, well shaped breasts and a tight ass attractive. Take care of yourself physically and hit the gym, eat healthy, clean your apartment, clean your fingernails and get a better wardrobe... Bet you bottom dollar you will land a good looking lady that's into you
Suggesting men to work on their looks and pictures is to cater to the dumb social media/dating app game is so so wrong. Looking better is a tremendous benefit out in the real world. Women do not like men who do not care for their appearance. Period.
Wheat Waffles did a video of a 6ft 3 attractive guy (a 6 in looks and 7 overall) who got 3 dates that went nowhere from 16 000 right swipes over 3 months. Let that sink in.
I’m an average looking guy by any means, don’t do well on dating apps never have. I’ve always dated incredibly beautiful women i met from work, I’m not afraid of letting my personality show and not many humans- men and women have real life confidence. I’d say the percentage of men and women with real life confidence between 18-30 is about 5% maybe less!
The reason I'm single at 46 with no children is due to the fact I fancy women who don't like me and the women that like me are either married, taken or single however 10 years older than me. However lots of single moms with multiple kids with different guys find me attractive though. Gals in their early or mid 30's who don't have children ignore me. Lol
@@athos5359 that's absolutely correct. Attractive women in their 20's are chasing super-popular Magic Mike or a Giga-Chad. I know this 24 year old guy who's married to a 37 year old women with 5 kids with multiple men. He was an incel before they met.
I hooked up with a woman that was below average and I joked that I was a doctor and she said: “if you were I’d be even more confused.” So women are getting guys that are a lot better looking than them. She always has a better deal or a hotter guy just around the corner.
I got plenty of interactions on dating apps, the problem is that many women on them are pretty freaking damaged. I would much rather just meet someone organically or remain single.
Dating app world is the land of misfit toys. All these women have been run through and ‘hurt’ Only use dating apps for sex. Seriously. It’s all they’re useful for.
@@CM-le4yh I didn't say mentally. They're more damaged emotionally. Lol As for organically, I mean the old fashioned way. Like we did before the internet. Lol
I made a conscious effort to go out and take better photos of myself. I worked out, went from 215 to 170lbs, bought new clothes, went places with nice backgrounds and used a tripod to actually get better photos. I use Photofeeler to get ratings on my photos and I can honestly say I got better. I still get no matches on dating apps but it's fun to have good photos of myself. One criticism I've been told is that "I'm trying too hard". Is it that you have to look good without looking like you're trying to look good?
When you're on your death bed, or just old and unhealthy, you'll wish you'd spent more time taking walks in beautiful scenery and less time trying to impress women. I know plenty of old, divorced guys who would agree with me.
Women always find a silly reason to reject you, try to little, try to hard, or whatever. Its all a lie, they dont care how professional the photos are, the right dude cannot do any wrong, and the wrong dude cant do anything right. It is like that.
Most women I have met in person after connecting online don’t even look like themselves. After countless dates where the woman in person was between 20-50 lbs overweight and 5-10 years older than in the pictures, I don’t meet any woman in person anymore until we have had a videochat. Period.
This is great information. I appreciate you, Courtney. Regarding hypocrosy, my ex girlfriend lived with her mother and she was 34. She did not get criticized much. But, if I met this woman and I was 34 as a man, she would never have been my girlfriend. Point being, in my opinion, in the 2020's, it is much harder to be a man that a woman.
We need gender revolution. Women took the leadership and are destroying the human race. Such a dating standard changes everything. I love technology but this is its darkest and evil side.
Apps can be very depressing for men. Average women get bombarded. Average men get breadcrumbs. I use them and had like 3 hook ups from apps, but it's tough. I agree with the photos - men don't take many photos, don't ask their friends. One of my "action" photos playing pool was actually taken by a girl I dated 😂
There are more women 5&below out there than there are men below an 8. It's true but when social media, simps, and the sisterhood convinces 2s-5s that they're 9s&10s, they only want 9s&10s cuz women date across&up
Retinols, sunscreen, diet, excercise, super helpful. You really don’t need to do a lot. I know skincare is just hard because some of us are acne prone. Do not put too much into it. Drink less, love yourself.
@Lukey boy lol who told you that? Everyone loves free compliments, dude. Compliments should always be free. When you want something in return for them and become submissive, that’s when you’re simping. Plus he’s complimenting her work. What’s wrong with that?
A chick with high standards is viewed at as low quality by me. It's one of the main reasons i remain single. I think I speak for a lot of men when i say we are sick of having to provide for these spoiled women. Not even with money. just everything they expect from us. can't we just relax and have a healthy relationship without expectations?
Women should be encouraged to have high standards. Theres a difference between having high standards and unrealistic standards. Whats stopping you from being high value alpha male?
@@maximustrolleus9860 80% of women thinking less than 10% of men are attractive isn’t high standards. That’s unrealistic standards. You’re making excuses for the fact that female choice in of itself is the issue here. It is women choosing to be this unrealistic, not men. “High value alpha male.” You’re watching too many red pill grifter gurus.
@@thehylander266 no im more blackpilled then redpilled but im still realistic. according to the bell curve, vast majority of guys are in the middle. and as speaking as a guy, lets be real, most guys are lazy and put in no effort. ive had guys say that real men dont wear cologne lol and then complain about not finding someone lol. if your at least like a 4-5/10, then you have no excuses. this is the prime demographic that redpill can help out. even wheat waffles admitted that and said that your game and social skills should be maxxed out and you can easily get women that even good looking guys may not. if your average looking, then you have potential to be a high value alpha male. if you cant get women, then the cold harsh truth is that your low value. and guys need to be realistic too. i know guys who are fat and yet refuse to date fat or ug ly women. ppl gotta stay in their league. watch the video cringiest kiss on tlc. would you agree that the guy is the perfect definition of a socially awkward low value male? if your not that cringey or weird looking, then you have a chance. if someone truly is a sub5, then the cold harsh truth is that they need to find someone fat or ug ly. i know plenty of despo women who cant find any guy cuz they are fat or ug ly. no guy is truly an in cel. there are women living on the streets with missing teeth who will date you. if thats the best you can do, then you have to accept your reality. this is how it works in nature. alphas attract alphas, betas attract betas and omegas attract omegas.
Courtney I became disabled a couple of years ago and these dating apps are horrible for disabled people they need a app for disabled people! We need love to! I quit these bullshit apps and started going out more and meeting women in the real world were we can see each other in person! I actually found someone to share my life with! People need to get out and meet real people!
I’ve noticed I enjoy the company of 7-8s rather than 9-10s. A lot less drama and sh*t to deal with. I’ve been on this planet 33 years and can count on one hand the 9-10s (appearance wise) women I have met who are also kind, compassionate, and intelligent.
I’ve also met women who actively will not take a second glance at a guy and keep it pushing because they probably want someone better and keep their guard up. I understand why they must have their guard up, but it’s to the point where they have it up for the wrong people they’re around and it makes the real interaction scene dead as much as the dating app scene.
Guys just delete all dating apps and social media except RUclips and never look back, it was the best decision i ever made in my life, you will realize that a lot of people in real life are different.
Men I am telling you, unless you want kids, its so much better avoiding women. They take the one thing you have limited amounts of and cannot get more of no matter how hard you try, time. I am 47, divorced with 3 sons who I kept after my divorce. I can tell you, its so much cheaper to leave her. The time you save alone you can work more or sit and go fish. Its up to you gentlemen. Dont let you life pass you by. And when women get desperate enough, which they always do, they will come sniffing around. Most women these days just arent a pleasure to be around. They are angry, grossly over weight, and unhappy creatures. Why invite that into your life? I do feel bad for women though. They have been utterly lied to for decades. And only at the end, do they understand. I hope channels like these, by women will reach more women. But for monetary reasons they seem mostly to attract men. Such a waste.
Amen brother. It's not worth the time and effort. It's not supposed to be this way, but the internet, social media and society in general ruined it all. I also agree women have been lied to since the 60s. Basically they were taught that they should have more MANLY traits and they don't need a man. They all have an inflated self worth that literally only the top 5% of men can give. But when you are a top 5% man, there is no reason to settle down and be monogamous since you have the pick of 100% of women!
@SirDiesalot I do see your point of looking at other women from other places, but there is a catch there too. I know SEVERAL men that found women from the Philippines, and although the men are not alone, there are other complications. Most women from the Philippines expect you to move their entire family in. Also many, get westernized and expect to spend your money. I know one of these guys are about to pay $30,000 on a wedding. Again I do agree, you can get a girl at least, but be warned, they will become Americanized very quickly and you'll be suffering through the same pain all men do.
A lot of what keeps men from dating apps and even making much of an effort is not just how one sided dating is in favour of women (at first at least) but also the amount of relationships that either fail and cost the man everything or the relationships that stand the test of time but are mediocre at best. Staying single and indifferent isn't the most fulfilling option in a man's life but it's by far the most secure and peaceful.
The majority of guys cannot be unattractive(below average) that’s not how averages work. Women should adjust their standards or they risk not finding anyone at all.
That part about the filters thing is absolutely spot on. I went on a date once with a nurse I matched with who looked fit, attractive and looked like she had really clear glowing skin, just overall healthy and attractive and when I met with her she was at least twice the size than what she showed in her pics, oily and dirty skin, not well groomed or presented at all. When I asked her out of curiosity what was up with her pics she told me that she deliberately alters her appearance plus those pics were taken 3+ years ago when she was slimmer 💀 Never let a woman who pastes herself with makeup or alters her appearance online ever knock your self worth guys, just work on yourself and you'll naturally weed them out.
If you look like your thumbnail, you're lucky to have someone who bothered with an augmented pic. Most probably just reject you at first sight. Sorry but you're the poster boy for unattractive.
Thank you: as a male the question I have is; why do men get married.? Why peruse a girl? The promise of sex? All in, If I make 200K plus, have a nice car, a house, average looking. Why do I need a woman. So, what does the women have would want me to give up all of that, because believe me, that is exactly what she wants. My money. Get your own and then give me a call!!!
Keep her on the low. Just tell her you two are in a relationship but we don't marry. Though you have to check the laws, sometimes if they live in your house she is entitled to money...
You know, something that just occurred to me while listening to you, Courtney (I LOVE your stuff by the way), was what if there was an app (or an actual scientific study) that put up the profile pictures of a grid of guys (or girls). Not just one at the time, but a grid of 9 or 16 pictures of guys (or girls) - sort of like a person would actually encounter in a real-world situation like a club, party or event. Then the user is given a somewhat short period of time to click on up to 3 or 4 of them. Then the user is presented with another page of 9 or 16 prospective dates/mates to click on. And so on for a few (or even several pages). Mix in new pictures, but some that were already displayed, maybe. And compile the choices of the user. I honestly think this might be an interesting study of "off the cuff" attraction (which, let's face it, is tremendously important). It might even be useful in helping the "chooser" better understand what they are attracted to. Unfortunately, I'm sure the more nefarious and capitalistic folks out there would find a way to turn it against the users for a profit. Worse still, the Marxists would figure out a way to further divide men from women, compatible mates and partners, from each other. Sorry, my cynicism is showing!
I remember that study. It flat out said that dating sites were horrible for men and encouraged men to go out to in person events as they offered a MUCH greater chance of meeting a romantic interest. In my opinion, unless you're in the tiny demographic of guys who look incredible by all standards, dating sites only serve to crush your ego.
Yup. Dry spell for like 2 years, one date from an app. Then I went to rehab, and was getting a bit healthier and interacting with women irl and had interest as well as 2 flings. The flings boosted my ego for sure but the letdown when they didn't wanna commit was, well heartbreaking especially as one I was falling for after 6months of hanging out and good nookie. Anyways, she makes a good point that getting out there is way better than not. Idk I'm not ready to give up yet after some setbacks.
Do you realize thaat this statistics is useless? The only way you can interfere from sample to pupulation is by using central limit theory. There are 2 conditions: data has natural desctribution, and events are indepenendent. Botth are not fullfiled. Women opinions are not indepenedent, they influence each other. So bascially it is just some opinion on some app, no way representative. Probably the only people who responded are those who are not sucessful on dating. How can you conclude anything from it? Like maybe some group of women who has lots of time on particular dating app - just clicked this or that while most likel sitting in a bus or being bored. And then people call it 'study'.
Women have way too much power and options on dating apps. Because of this, they tend to be extremely picky. If a woman sees a man on the street that she is extremely attracted to, she would probably ignore that same guy on a dating app because she feels like she can always do better 🤷🏽♂️
Look, whoever has the power- has the power to be picky. That's how the market works. If you went to a car lot and knew there were only ten cars you could afford it would take you far less time to choose than it would if you were informed you could pick any car on the lot for free. The disconnect is that women think they can buy even the most expensive car when, in reality, they're only renting (not even leasing) it. They don't have anywhere close to enough money to own it. The real problem on the apps is that there is a fundamental misunderstanding what the end goals are.
Keepin it real, people in this area called ugly can’t really control what they’re gonna look like. If they don’t have a glow up, shouldn’t be a big deal. People not gonna look the same their whole life, even if they do things that keep themselves looking young, there’s a time where that fades. Yea looks are cool, but looks shoud never outweigh personality traits, and people don’t tend to think in that way. I’ve been called ugly countless times, but my father says we look alike and if he’s not ugly, then neither am I. At the end of the day, somebody will like or love you for who you are and not entirely focus on what they look like. If people call you ugly, why are they even wasting their time and energy talking to you? I just brush it off and go on bout my day.
There is something called reality. Also some women because they had a 10/10 or 9/10 guy on dating apps now believe that is what they can get out of life even the ones that are 3/10 women
Thank you for saying this! I don't know why so many people are focused on looks. I would be far more worried about someone's personality than how they look, because that's what's really going to make or break a relationship.
@@AM-ut7dg a guy asked his gf this deep question How is the guy that has 95% of the things that she wants gonna show her that if she rejects him on the first 5% that he doesn't have???
Love the wholesomeness of this channel. Sharing genuine and caring information that everyone can benefit from. The better we as men can learn to become, the better it will be for everyone around us. So much toxic information out there.
@@tylermiller3120 My perspective is that there are healthy ways to evolve and grow for our own mind, body, spirit. Success doesn't always mean making 6 figures, it can mean having financial stability, responsibility, purpose, and joy. It can mean knowing that you're capable of discipline of working out 1-2 hours 5 days a week and seeing how far you can push yourself. It can be knowing that in the face of hard times you stay true to your values and knowing who you are. I don't think "men" need to be better, I think it would be good if everyone, individually, became better, for themselves. We become better at certain things in our life by putting in self-love, effort, and work and that helps other people around us (family, friends, community, relationships, etc).
Tom Brady, Johnny Depp, and Sly Stallone did all that superficial image stuff; and now they are living in regret. Dating apps are a relic. There are no good girls on dating apps; just bitter hook-up veterans. Think that I will just stay single; and keep my happy ass on the sidelines. Seriously. At best you end up divorced with parental visitation. That sounds so much worse than any part of being a single male. Just saying.
You've hit the nail on the head. If you can't look good in a photo, your screwed. I get a totally different reaction in person, than from a photo. Very nice analogy, of which is absolutely true. Another well done video that tells it like it is, whether we men like it or not.
Imagine a time when 80% of women are using a filter to alter their appearance in pictures, saying 80% of men are ugly 😂
You forgot they use 10lbs of makeup too
After asking men to use product and lot of changes to be more atractive.... but this still not enough 🤷♂️🤦♂️
Are they confident enough without make up? 😅
Imagine a time when a huge percentage of said women are grossly overweight. I live in Vegas and the number of women who should NOT be wearing tight clothing is astonishing.
@@butcho7492 I live here too and agree
If you're a man, do yourself a favor and stay off the dating apps.
@@SetTheCurve He's right though. Largely a waste of time. I get that a blind squirell finds a nut every once in a while, but the odds just going out into real life are so much better. lol
@@SetTheCurve meeting people in the real world will always be better though.
Nope. They're the only way to get dates
If you’re not AT LEAST a top 20% guy it’s a total waste of time. Don’t know how that feels though
hinge is pretty solid
It's the illusion of choice. When you had to meet someone at a bar or book club or bowling or church, you didn't have many options and people would happily pick a partner. Now girl's can go on a dating app and get 20 people expressing interest a day. It makes them feel like they are waaaaaaay higher value than they are.
and yet...the world..including the US is about to have a massive shortage of people. talk about women shooting themselves in the proverbial foot.
Embrace real life and avoid online dating nonsense.
Exactly...the women know it and 😂
Indeed the paradox of choice plays a big part, in the old days women would be restricted to the neighborhood guys but now with the internet the market is literally worldwide with some guys willing to fly girls out. I agree that online should probably be avoided but unfortunately there are many others who will still pursue the online route.
@@Mrbfgray Dude, you can embrace real life all you want. The truth is that in real life she still meets men she finds on dating sites whether you like it or not .
After watching my mom, niece, sister,and wife before and after makeup, I can honestly tell you women think too highly of themselves. It’s amazing what women can do in the before and after looks with makeup.
So how about a dating app where women’s pictures don’t have makeup, filters, current etc…
Haha yeah women perform feats of magic with make up!
Make up just makes woman look more girly. Literally giving them higher sighs of juvenile characteristics. Man’s obsessing over makeup making woman supposedly so much more attractive is just 😂
I think men should do the same on apps. Flowing hair, straight jaw, then a troll comes to date them. The guy says, I thought you knew I was using a filter. Hilarious.
well, whatever's stopping you from using a pretty picture for the dating app? Use filtes all you like, if you think that'll improve your chances dramatically. It makes zero sense to pick up a photo where you look your worst and use it for self-presentation with people who need to make a choice based only on your photo. Shows you are not only ugly, but also stupid.
@@pgp1962 oh, but they do, I'm given to uunderstand). Like very old men using their old pictures... like 20 years back? I say better they use filters.
Makeup = inflated ego
Inflated ego = inflated expectations of a man’s looks
Women are wizards with makeup, if it didn't exist, 80% of women would be undatable too.
@@Crazea fr
Also men tell men the harsh truth i met women that would never put themselves in the bad guy's shoes and tell a woman she's unnattractive even if it's for her own good.
Make up + plus social media
Don’t forget about all these other injection and surgeries (lip injections, bbl, fake boobs etc)women need to do to look good these days. No natural beauty anymore all fake everything.
It's crazy how competitive dating is nowadays. I feel as if men have to be absolutely perfect in order to even have a chance at dating. Hearing stories about how some of my older family members met each other and it was so simplistic and not nearly as cut throat and competitive. If our uncles, grandfathers, fathers had to deal with the way dating is today most of them would have never met a woman and had kids. Social media and dating apps has completely ruined it.
Not only that but once men get their foot in the door they can't break any of the 368 rules of modern dating that men must observe or the girl with disappear.
Might be seeing a massive drop in population here soon. The chads can keep up for a while, but they might get sick of paying child support.
Back then people were forced to talk in person not behind a screen that you swipe right. Lol
I'm a 67 year old guy and I don't remember it being like this when I was younger. My co-worker's wife introduced me to the women who would become my wife. I was 34 and she was 27. 33 years later and we're still together.
Money never mattered either back then.
''Or Are Men Just Ugly'' says literally every woman who then spends hours on makeup to look better
Exactly. They can cheat, we can't
Spot on! Most women who APPEAR attractive with make-up are truly not attractive without it.
@@RichRocketMan The fact that they need the makeup to feel "attractive" is actually very unattractive. The same goes for all the other toxics she puts in her hair and on her or in her body as well, and the filters used in photos etc.. It all comes down to the fact, that she is a very weak and insecure person.
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Exactly. I saw a post from a girl on twitter that says “beards are the male equivalent to makeup”. As soon as we wash our face or shower, our beard is still there. Makeup washes off. It’s not the same lol.
I make well over 100K, I'm over 6 feet tall, I have a 6-pack. I was ignored on dating apps. I have since removed myself from all social media and the dating scene.
That's insane.
No wonder we're speeding towards a population collapse.
You stand a better chance meeting them in person at say church, a hobby club, anywhere in public. They are a whole lot less pickier there than on dating apps. I get hit on all the time on vacation then nothing on dating apps taught me that.
I'm a heterosexual man, but that doesn't mean that I'm attracted to every woman I see. I think that would be unusual for someone
that doesn't mean you rate 80 % of men below average.
80-90% of women i see daily are unattractive too. This shit goes both ways...don't let these hoes online get you down.
@@peppybocan I rate 40% womens as average.And 60% below average.But i only SIMPed for one girl and i did not get her.So i gave up long time ago
Far from it these days since half of them are either overweight or tatted up like gang members
@@Returntonature145 so you rate no women as above average since your 100% is accounted for?
Someone said women on dating sites would rather share the alpha chads, instead of being exclusive with an average dude. Seems about right to me.
Yeah, but they themselves are not aware of that. They constantly complain about these chads chesting on them or just refusing to be anything more then casual fuckbuddies. While the guys that would commit to them are just invisible to them.
Rollo Tomassi.
That is not exclusive to any dating app, and it is not new. It has been like that for centuries!
talking with a friend, she told me that she prefers that a handsome guy breaks her heart than having a good relationship with an ugly guy, I am myself ugly and she broke my heart a little. I was asking her why she doesnt take one of the guys that are chasing her and that was her response. so I agree there are a lot of girls that have that mentality but i dont dont think all of them think like this
@@lad7534 98% of women thinks like that, but very few of them will admit it, for a lot of reasons. ;)
I have to be honest, that’s pretty much how I feel as a man when it comes to most women.
As Jerry Seinfeld said to Elaine years ago. 95% of the population is UNDATEABLE…
I remember that episode. When Elaine asked him how all of these people are hooking up, Jerry's response was "alcohol"!
Amen! I have a feeling this world will be full of cat ladies and broken men in 15 to 20y
70% of US women are overweight. If you want a fit woman, there goes 70% of the population lmao.
What if you want a fit and chaste woman with a good personality? As an Eastern, I bid you good luck.
Just remember Relationship George will kill independent George! Hahaha Don’t let the worlds collide.
@@praetorian1877 As a lifelong bachelor in his 50s I'll tell you the independence is in no way overrated.
Been married and divorced twice and that's before realizing the nightmare that is dating nowadays. At 55, I am probably too brutally honest to attract the overly-sensititive and entitled personalities that seem to permeate today's 'batch'. It's a good thing I don't mind being alone because that seems to be preferable at this time...
I can totally relate to this. I tried to date and literally lost my mind trying to get anyone to notice me.
Now I try hard to work on myself by myself. I’m not improving myself to impress a women. I’m improving myself to learn how to live happy; alone. I just can’t afford the mental gymnastics required find a partner anymore.
I recently watched a vid of a guy explaining why more men are getting lonely now and the comments of all the women where harsh to say the least. Unsurprizingly they painted themselves the victim stating that "men are never truly lonely" and that women should never lower their standarts. I'm afraid it's only gonna get worse guys.
A female associate asked me why she cant find a good guy who is serious. I told her theres probably atleast 300 good guys in her likes that would be serious if she just stopped chasing 9/10s. She was about a 7 but the years have not been good to her she is now about a 5 maybe 4. Anyway after i told her that if she dont lower her standards she will probably end up alone.. She went off on me. 😑 lol...
@@dnegel9546 "modern" women avoid responsebility like the plaque. It's nothing but grim humor at this point.
@@dnegel9546 I see that so often.
What video?
@@eduardomassa7507 i think the title was " why more men are lonely"
Well there are more women 5&below out there than men below an 8, but social media and the sisterhood of feminism, with simping, tells women 2s-7s they're 9s and since women date across&up, they want 9s and 10s. I'm happy to be in the 8-9 range and enjoy all the peaceful 5s-7s. A pleasant 7 will always be better than a bishhy 9. Stay sane bro, your hormones need it
Facts, makeup has inflated their egos thus inflate their expectations
Feminism has its origin in government psyops ,the Cia and the 3rd Reich...
@@lengting yeah dude most 9s shouldn't need make up, so if you see a 9 with make up, she's a 4 or a 5 (maybe a 6 if she doesn't have a dad and needs attention she sees others getting)
@@lengting Also most girls seem to go out with a checklist of what they want and when they realize most guys don't have those features they'll say the guys are ugly.
For example I showed pictures of Chris Evans, Andrew Garfield or Henry Golding. And almost every girl said those guys aren't good-looking. But then girls think Rege-Jean Page or Idris Elba are the hottest guys ever.
Fact is most guys don't have curly hair. Or darker skin. But thanks to a vocal group of girls and their fantasy they expect every guy to complete their checklist.
@@noobbotgaming2173 and you have to be able to look them in the eye and tell them that you don't care what they want because what they deserve and what they want are two different things and they didn't have a dad to tell him that so you have to make sure that you let them know that you don't care what they want, unless they are worthy of investment yet if it isn't being reciprocated, it never will be
Dating apps are a joke. I’ve been following Courtney’s channel for over a year and have been working my ass off on self-improving myself in every possible way: going to the gym 5x a week, Invisalign to straighten my teeth, bought an all new wardrobe, better grooming habits, becoming more financially stable etc.
Downloaded Hinge about a month ago. First week was super successful. Got a ton of matches and went on dates with four different women. This past week however, I had dates set up with three more women and they ALL texted the day of to cancel with no offer to reschedule. Although I can’t know the real reason for sure, I feel like it doesn’t matter how good someone is, there will ALWAYS be someone better or more attractive who comes along and takes your place.
Use John Anthony Lifestyles texting scripts on setting up dates.
Dating apps are a capitalist scam. It’s part of why America is a dying nation.
And that's why you stay off the apps. They're literally designed to suck money out average looking guys in order to get matches. These platforms are to make money not help people find actual relationships. Gotta go out in public to meet people. Trust me women are far far far more receptive in person cuz they aren't being bombarded with messages. On the apps they're overstimulated & your right there's always gonna be someone better looking but most of those better looking guys are just looking to smash & dash. That's those women's fault if they fall for it.
Keep improving man work out more than you do now and groom better than you do now you got to keep going up don’t stop at a ceiling keep improving because if you don’t and just stop the people that don’t stop will pass you by
Just work on yourself my friend. You can jump through all the hoops laid out here; won't matter.
Build your wealth, and yourself, and go overseas. Move there, don't bring a wife back.
You'll live happy ever after. If you think you can marry her back here, save some time.
Just give her half of what you have, and move on.
The problem with in person interactions is we have no idea which girls are single, or want to be hit on. Most women will just politely decline you or say they have a boyfriend even if they dont if they dont like ANYTHING about you on youre first approach
That’s life buddy 😂
They aren’t attracted to men, they are just attracted to what the man has.
Men actually love girls even if they brought nothing to the table. That’s what you call true love
AND: Men love women for what they actually are. Women love men according to the image and vision that they get in their mind about them. So they'll subconsciously try to change their men and at that point if the man keeps being genuine to himself, the woman is going to get frustrated and bitter. If the man actually changes, she will complain about the fact that he has changed to then leave him. Women are literally never happy and they unconsciously lead their relationship into failure at one point
Men love idealistically, women love opportunistically.
@@baw-mq4bt that's a stupid platitude that simply isn't true
Exactly! Sad but true.
@@baw-mq4bt This is such a great way of saying it in a single sentence. Hats off to you bro.
Average women don’t believe in dating average men. Their sense of entitlement is astounding.
Because it is too confronting and does not adhere to the laws of social media and delusions of grandeur.
Tyquandoe3490, That isn't entitlement, that is delusional grandeur!!
It's the Chad Thundercock Syndrome. Men far above them hit them up on dating apps, hit it then quit it. Women think they can pull this caliber of men after that and get run through by high status men and eventually lose their mind when they can't get one to commit. They don't understand because they sleep with men they want to commit to, but don't but don't connect the pieces that men don't think this way when dealing with a "fun girl".
its called hypergamy
@@DmMoiMienNamke.mandimoiroNgu There is hypergamy within reason... then there's delusional hypergamy. Meaning, I totally lack self-awareness of my flaws because the culture tells me that I'm perfect thus my man has to be perfect as well.
*one of the most powerful traits in life is the ability to live and enjoy life on your own.*
Ive been living along my whole life. been single forever and im 24. its very hard to believe people like you when I am so lonely and feel like i have no value as a human. just wasting space and oxygen
@@chanmanthegreat1429 Well, it is true. 53 here and single. Happiness is interior and personal, never forget that!!
@@chanmanthegreat1429 *not everyone can enjoy solitude. if u feel lonely being alone, u are not meant to live life alone.*
Hell yeah I've only just recently realised this.
soooo true....that person who's happy alone, who's also got a goal AND drive? Shiiit that person cannot be stopped.. The world has it coming!🤣
For men, dating is like a job interview. For women, dating is like window shopping.
A friend of mine was married since the late 2000's. Unfortunately his wife passed away from cancer about 3 years ago and now that he is dating again he mentioned how much worse dating is now.
that's such a shame for your friend. Bless him.
The dating scene is almost night & date Vs the pre social media age & especially Instagram
It's probably mostly age. Dating is like finding a parking spot. You have to show up early to get the best spots. After a while, all that are left are handicapped.
I agree. I have a friend who is recently divorced and has put himself back on to the dating. Bars, clubs etc. and a lot of trouble finding a woman. While his ex wife is constantly getting hit on even though she’s only average looking.
@@travis3430yeah it’s almost like things change with time.
I’m ok with this because I can wipe off the “beauty” of 80% of women with a wet wipe.
Lol. Classic !
Lies again? UEFA SW Ugly America
Your not a window wiper
You nailed it!
Copium
"If you're not that attractive and you suck at taking photos, you're screwed."
One could argue we are not screwed :P
😂
men can make themselves attractive tho, go gym, make more money, etc.
@@PeppaPigParody They don't wanna hear that, though. It that lifestyle mandates self-discipline and a willingness to unlearn unhealthy habits and ideas. That's just too heavy of a lift for most of these boys.
@@PeppaPigParody going to the gym but not a guarantee
bwahahaha good one
The guys who said that we don't stop the action to take group pics is right on the money.
I have plenty of fun nights out with friends but I never really stop to take a picture.
Good, no evidence 😂
Women used to be fun to be around. And I'm not talking bedroom fun, I just legitimately enjoyed their company. A few of my best friends in college were women. That was back in the early '00s.
Things have really changed, and so quickly too. It's sad. Between politics, the culture war, and dynamics between the sexes, socializing has really suffered.
Yeah. It’s like stepping on eggshells when you are around them. Can’t even make jokes.
Isn't it entirely sad, that women have become so jaded, that they cannot be interesting and fun, without all this drama. Men want women like that, from back 20/30 years ago.
Deteriorated not "changed"
I would add social media to that list. It exacerbated all of the worst female traits. Women changed after smart phones, facebook, and dating apps.
I miss the days before fast internet and smart phones. We sure had a lot of fun!
I say, men just need to stick to themselves. Stay single, find purpose, make a stable life in which you will be happy. Considering the average marriage is shorter than the lifespan of household pet. Just get a dog, a dog can love unconditionally, and can lower stress levels. As for the whole social media scene. We have known for years; the negative effects social media has on an individual's mental health. Yet we still continue to utilize it, it creates narcissistic behavior, low empathy, low self-esteem and financial instability. We are a society damaged by technology and those negative traits carry over into the relationships.
Yep. And find young boys to mentor and learn how to make money. That will give so much more purpose than chasing women.
Exactly 💯
And do one night stands.
Stop offering unsolicited advice to other people.
Totally agree and you are so right about the narcissistic behaviour and other negative traits carried over into a relationship.
So you're saying women are shallow too? I grew up with 2 older sisters.. I've known this awhile
Dude I grew up surrounded by women hahaha my mother my grandmother my sisters many of my friends growing up were girls. I can still look my mother in the eye and tell her that women are nuts and she will laugh and she will agree
Your outwards appearance, your body and the shape you are in are much deeper than people think. It shows so much about a person's character and non-fluid intelligence.
@@rattlehead999 non fluid intelligence??Your weight has absolutely no correlation with your intelligence
@@rattlehead999 you can tell someone character based on Body Fat percentage and hair color?
@@Texasmade74 non-fluid intelligence is the facts you know. If you are overweight you obviously don't know it's bad for you in many, many ways.
If you do know and you don't do anything about it, then this shows your character is weak and frankly sucks.
The lack of female commenters in your videos is truly telling. No accountability whatsoever
Dating nowadays feels harder than getting a university degree….
It's easier to become an astronaut for an average guy than succeed in marriage.
it's like playing a game on Veteran difficulty with jammed controller buttons
Men are dropping out of college, women are overpowering them even there ironically
It is. I went through 5 years in college single
I’m so glad I missed this dating app scene. I’m 34 now and have been married to my wife for 10 years. I had just turned 24 and she had just turned 20. I have never regretted that decision. Dating today sounds like a sweet hell I never want to experience.
Count your blessings
So why are you watching dating coaches on RUclips?
Man you're both young, you are definitely part of this culture and you are influenced by these dynamics. I'm sorry but if you think you're outside you'll end up being destroyed by her. Don't think your relationship is eternal, try to be mindful of all the moments you're living, make an effort to maintain the relationship etc etc and do this mostly for you, because there is a high probability she will left you for another guy or simply break up with you. And if you're prepared, you will able to rise again. Otherwise, you'll be fucked forever.
Insane how it has changed so much in 10 years
@@iRideuWatch RUclips recommended
Maybe these dating apps need to post photos of the women without makeup and filters, lol! 😁 🤡 😳 🤢
97% of women are below average without makeup and filters. So good luck to all the guys that get married and see her natural self on the regular. You’re only fooling yourself if you think she’s attractive.
They also should list their weight
That will never happen.
@@chasehudson5881 the results would shut down all dating sites forever.
It frankly shouldn't matter since the vast majority of men should avoid dating apps. I'm convinced that most of the women on these sites are just looking for attention, free meals, and cash. And what man with an ounce of self respect is willing to provide any of those things unearned?
You ask couples how they met and what they thought of each other before dating, and it is always the guy saying she was sooo beautiful and I just had to meet her! You ask the girl and she says "when we met..I was meh. But then I was lonely or whatever and gave him a chance and he was funny and had a good time and I started liking him and now yada yada..we have been married 20 years."
It has always been like this. That is why guy dating coaches say you have to raise interest level. Women think you are more attractive the more she knows you. Very few men have the looks or status where women are blown away. You see those examples in media because it is rare and people are fascinated. Because most people do not ever get that.
Nothing about the graphs showing women think guys are ugly before she knows them is at all surprising or new. Always been this way. Your job as a guy is to raise that up.
The only way to win is by not playing.
Work out and be fit year-round, make money, learn a language, learn to play an instrument, and accept the fact giving women attention and spending time/money/energy on them has a negative ROI.
men who go to dating apps needs to wake up we are not the same she is speaking bullshit she thinks we are the same we are not dating apps is a lost game foe men.
Just get better looking and let girls come to you
blah blah blah. You are regurgitating what those in the "Superior Male Industry" have told you.
I lost 14% bodyfat ( i am at ~11% now ), am a software developer in a very well paying company, am 6 foot 4, speak two languages and learning spanish right now and i have taught myself playing the guitar the last 4 years.
All this stuff is useless when I just go to work ( very male dominated, programmers ), gym and then home. My big problem is that i have no clue where to meet women in a setting that i am interested in. The only " outside " interest i have is the gym and i dont want to be "that guy" that hits on women at the gym.
I will just have to force myself to develop new interests.
also @Another Account i guess.
I have done all of that and still can’t get a date. Mainly because when I try to meet women in public their faces are glued to their phones
They find 80% of men financially unattractive. There's an important difference.
Bingo.
Its because women spend so much time on apps like Tik Tok, IG and watch shows like Euphoria where all they see is very attractive men because that's what the algorithm shows them and they think thats actually the "norm", so when a guy doesnt look like Chris Hemsworth they think he's ugly because their main reference point is heavily skewed, Bad times ahead for the average man
Eh just let a disaster or 2 happen
All those "ugly" dudes start looking like Chris Hemsworth when you're starving
Oh bad times are coming for these shallow women too. The way apps operate aren't good or healthy for anyone. We're already seeing it. The growth of mgtow/red pill that was a response to the unrealistic standards of women has lead to rise in men being lonelier but content while women's mental health is going into the toilet. They're just as lonely they just try to convince themselves they aren't. Men are least honest with ourselves.
I think the same can be said for women when many men were obsessed with Rihanna or a beautiful woman on social media.
I do not care if they think Chris Hemsworth is the standard or some crap like that.
What I hate is that they change when they turn 30+ and no man wants them.
No. You have chosen your path. Stay on it.
@@jadamills3243 Rihana??? . . . 😂
I'm tired of this excuse that "oh men don't try to look good and they don't shower" bro, really?
Time is the equalizer when it comes to looks. As a man of 65 ,there simply aren't any women my age that are remotely better looking than me.
😅 Yikes, at 31 the shift is starting to become immediately noticeable.
There is a reason for that. Aging has a visible masculinization effect on human faces and it doesn't distinguish between male and female ones. That's why old women look like old men. The obvious difference is that for women more feminine faces are preferred, while when it comes to men, more masculine faces are preferred. Everyone gets uglier with age, but after around 50 or so, women just get considerably uglier. There is even an old joke about that: "Older men look like Sean Connery. Older women also look like Sean Connery."
Im 63 and for me it's not the aging so much with a older woman..it's being 50lbs overweight...a older woman can be attractive if they just work out and not eat so much...and if they are feminine and dress like it.
Yours is a truth that comes too late for some.
@@frankward8003 With age losing weight is harder. The reality of life is many people will have teenagers/young adult kids that still need catering for or old parents that they need taking care of +a job and the free time goes through the window. For most people the kids/grandkids/elderly parents will take priority before going to the gym. And as far as I understood after a certain age people just don't have as much energy as they had in their 20s or 30s.
30 year old guy here, never been in a serious relationship, dont use dating apps, had my time on the partying and one night stand scene, grew tired of it. I have a good career in sales, earn above average wage, get compliments on the way I dress from female colleagues. My "problem" seems to be I just completely lost interest in a relationship. I have my hobbies, have my routine, my job... Every time a woman comes in I tend to be very straightforward with what I want/think which most women these days don't seem to like, but probably I could also be less blunt if I cared. I am OK being single though, I don't let myself be lonely, do not think I am depressed either. I know women find me physically average or below average, but since I stopped caring about what they think and developed my own style and started to do things for ME, I get women interested. Guys need to start becoming honest with themselves, this is going to sound cliche but no one will want to be with you if you don't want to be with yourself. Its easy to complain that everything is unfair etc. but that's how it is, life is not fair and only person you are going to be with 100% until death is yourself.
The right woman will eventually come along and follow your lead. Just make sure she's younger than 30 though and not an ex "party girl".
Dating apps are for 🔔ends, I'm being serious, funking weirdos all of em, both men and woman, they are designed for life's losers. All relationships are full of grief, stress, bickering, and millions of other type of shyte you have to deal with. Life is hard as it is without some other lying person with you, and believe me they are funking lying all the time.
Stopped caring - I haven't cared my whole life and it's gotten me no where. (in regards to attracting and staying in relationships). And yes, if you're happy it will reflect. If you enjoy the company of others genuinely, it will show. Empathy molecules and autism? I don't know, getting people to "like you" is so weird. Seems like they have an idealized version that they want to mold you into even if inside you're not that person. I've seen it happen, or they think you're attractive, then the get to know you more, then they go, "oh, not as attractive anymore". Personality goes a long way.
@@glen4326true it does but it helps if they're attracted to
@@gabrielguzman6018 You can be physically attractive and have a bad personality, as evidenced by my history. I've dated very nice looking women, it breaks down when I show lack of confidence and lack of interest in children. Also I have no interests besides reading and watching youtube.
Online dating is one of the most destructive things that has happened to western civilization.
i'd say social media.
If the world took filters and make up from women, I would probably get 10x more matches on Tinder.
Men don't use makeup, women do.
Thanks for this real positive video. I'm a 32 years old virgin kissless, lonely guy for entire decades. I can say, certainly that learning to love yourself and improve your own physical appearence can be a very positive thing for men as well.
I'm 56 in the same boat I'm fine and you will be too!!!
Wait you've never been laid let alone kissed. That's not a virgin. That's a celibac.
Bro, I used to be like you until someone told me you need get laid. That doesn't mean to go after any woman and be like Hugh Hefner or ask any random woman on the street to get laid. Now that would be considered creepy, inappropriate, and uncomfortable.
You'd be surprised how many women don't want to date virgins let alone 30 but you need to this before it's too late. As for hitting a home run that's something you have to figure out yourself. As for getting on base, Go to the strip club. They will do that big time. Of course you have to tip them, but not excessively. You don't need to make it rain to get a kiss from them. Just a couple of bucks and you finally got on base for the first time.
First Time I Kissed A Girl: 21.
First Time I Got Laid: 28.
For those two, neither of the two weren't the last time either. I had a few partners (all women), numerous times, kissed too many women to count.
Funny Story: I had a guy who asked me "How many times have you been laid?" I responded "Times or Partners? Because I don't know how many times I have had it." I had to make him look stupid & uneducated without calling him stupid & uneducated.
Yeah, forget about women and have fun with your hobbies. Get a Jeep, maybe a boat and a motorbike and go out on lots of adventures. You can live a really rich and free life.
Having a passion besides vidgames sports and drinking is attractive. Finding a hobby helps you feel and look better.
Honestly you have avoided a lot of pain and drama lol
I can definitely say I am in the 80% of men that women find unattractive. It's been that way my entire life, and I've come to accept the fact that I'll be single the rest of my life and I'm fine with that.
I am only attracted to attractive women. I am bored of dating average ones😑. I only get attention from them.
@MichaelShields777: You can lower your standards, and you can find love. May 2023. USA.
I'm also not that attractive. I sometimes get double takes from women here or a smirk rather than a smile. Those who have been there will know what I mean. I've done quite well in my career, retired early at 50 and I'm off to Cebu early next year. There are options out there!! ✈️✈️✈️
Work on personality and lift weights.
That's because over 80% of the women only see men from the outside so their perception is superficial at best
"Women find 80% unattractive".
The title should be: "Average women are rejecting average men because average women get bombarded with DMs from Chads & Tyrones who only want to have sex making average men invisible. In other words, women who are 4s and 5s are getting hit on by Chads & Tyrones that are 10s which's causing women to have illogically high standards leaving all other men in the dust".
This should be the title and on top of that - this is what's really going on but nobody's talking about it.
This 👆👆
basically true. i can't believe how many 3 and 4/10 women I've seen getting constant attention and dates from men above their level.
why are mid women getting attention from top tier men? Is it because these women would be really easy?
Yeah. You can get them in bed in like an hour or less without spending money.
The chads and tyrones aren’t DMing them it’s the other way around.
I used dating apps for a few months. It’s was the most demoralizing and depressing few months in my life. It really black pulled me on dating. I’ve been single ever since and have barely tried with any woman. I think these apps are terrible for Mens mental health.
Modern life is just messed up. It’s almost impossible to just find a true love and get on with your life. Everyone is greedy and everything is conditional. We truely live in a hard time
Amen.
everything is conditional, they say pets love is unconditional but that is incorrect. if i start mistreating my dog, forget to feed her and keep her locked in a cage, well then shes not going to love me anymore. modern life IS messed up, completely true, but love is not impossible, there are females somewhere right now thinking and feeling the exact same things as you.
I had a conversation with a female friend recently and I tried to express why my standards are so low, I think I failed because what I was trying to express is that whether online or IRL I have to bring my A-game, just to have a chance with someone who's way below me. I hate it because often it makes me think that in order to date, love, be fulfilled, I have to have little to no standards the bar I have for women is so low. Meanwhile on the flip side if I don't bring my absolute best in every aspect of life everyday for months or years I don't deserve companionship, love, or a relationship. There are no days off and I realize this now, but I think I've decided that most women aren't worth my time or energy anymore, as for the ones that are, they won't date me, even if our numbers match, so insert forever alone meme here.
I hear you buddy! I am right there with you! Hopefully you can make the best of your time and energy!
you are an ethnicel right
In a LTR but I agree, if we split, looking at how things are nowadays I wouldn't bother again. The juice really isn't worth the squeeze! If my only motivation for running a business or gyming was modern Western women, I'd have quit them both a long time ago and just do the bare minimum to get by. Wait until sex bots become a thing lol.
Having to bring so much to the table for a delusional entitled narcissistic nag who thinks they're 4-9 leagues higher than they are, what's the point. But this seems to be most of them now, they're really not worth the effort you have to put in to be good enough to have the 'privilege' of their company.
I had this mentality also for a long while but its the wrong mindset. Your problem is that you dont demand anything from women. You dont let them qualify themselves for your love and effection and then you become needy and unwanted. flip the script my friend other then going up and saying hi. Look at it this way a gold bar dont need to tell anyone its valuable it just is. Have this attitude and you will be way better off.
Dude look elsewhere. Foreign women would be all over you and don't have a big obesity problem like the US does. Consider International dating sites
In my late 50’s, here’s the deal on dating sites. I tried them for a while, and many women said “can’t meet a good man”. When you meet them and talk to them, the reason why becomes all too clear. Want to meet real people, try the real world, it’s easier for you because there are no “filters” when someone is right there in front of you.
Does not work anymore. Why would a hot 20yr old settle for a normal looking guy when she can pick any chad she wants at will.
I find the statement to be increasingly true over time. The problem is women are also becoming increasingly offended by being hit on or even approached in person.
Not by the right guy
@@dnegel9546 looks alone isn’t what attracts women
Not just that fam.
Real world interactions will always be better but most of these women don't even know how to have a fun conversation ,playfully flirt or let alone be an interesting individual themselves. When you ask them a question they respond with "Yes","No","Oh that's cool","Haha" etc. the same women have actual interest in you. When they start talking about something its usually about clothes, makeup, or complaining about something... They cannot hold a serious conversation or a conversation about their dreams, lifegoals etc. When you flirt with them they have no idea how to respond other than "Thank you". Some of them even get offended. My man nowadays most of those women are like toddlers and you can't babysit all of them.
When I was on dating apps, I swiped left on anyone using a filter. I didn't want the disappointment when I saw them in person and they didn't look like their photos.
Whenever I see a filter it's a sign of her low intelligence because she's unable to use them in a way you are not sure whether it's a filter or not. And that's the only way they were supposed to be used.
When I get depressed working night shifts I search for a connection. I come to these videos and laugh at how depressing everything else is, I feel better not engaging in this stupid game and go back to being alone.
You need a G mindset. Believe you can have whatever you want or whoever you want. Don’t let the world put limitations on your mind.
It’s not about limitations bro.. it’s dealing with all that bullsh*t of someone else and a “connection”… work on yourselves kings.
@@erickvart love women and enjoy women. You sound bitter. Someone took to many red pills. You can become a better version of yourself and get with women at the same time. You should be doing both
@@toma3447 lol saying I took too many red pills after you just stated you love and enjoy women… okay 👌
Find God bro
Gosh, when did finding love become such a big chore?
That's what I feel like these days.
It's more like winning the lottery
@@andradeb2695 yeah Lol .
Not everyone deserves love
Men aren't loved. Women are incapable of doing that towards men.
They're obeyed and respected.
Dating shouldn’t be this much of a hassle
Concur. If it were this difficult throughout human history, the species would never have survived this long. One good war, famine or plague would have long since wiped us out, due to lack of sufficient number to enable the population to recover.
Without making any editorial comment as to whether it is good or bad, it is no surprise to me that in the developed world, birth rates are absolutely cratering given the state of the sexual marketplace
I disagree. Ideally, dating is a major commitment so it kinda make sense for both genders to be picky when choosing their partner.
@@devilsadvocacy You forget about all the Rpe that went on in history. The great khan forced himself upon so many women that now 1/5 of the world population is a descendant of him. A massive amount of men in our history died before they had to chance to make someone pregnant. It has always been the case that a smaller group of men produced way more offspring or where able to keep more offspring alive.
@@mezjean5966 You missed the point. We now have monogamy, and laws that proscribe rape. Had there been those things in Khan’s time, and someone/thing had the power to stop him, the world’s population would be smaller by roughly whatever the actual number of people that are carrying some of his DNA
@@devilsadvocacy When you say "we" have monogamy. Who is we? plenty of men out their with multiple wives. But I'm still sticking to my point that a smaller group of men produce a larger group of offspring. And a large group of men will never produce any. Oh and btw laws do not prevent anything.
Great video. Think that was the best summation of what my own thoughts that I've ever heard.
With Online dating there is a gap between how people present themselves and reality. And to do well you need to play that game and glam yourselves up, as you have to compete with others that are doing it.
A lot of my exes who I met through real life, would never have swiped on me on a dating app. That really sums it up.
I remember reading a discussion between women asking how long you need to date a man before letting him see you without makeup. That very question, as well as the answers it received, speaks volumes. The bitter truth is that women's looks are an artificial creation consisting of layers of applied makeup, painted, plucked eyebrows, dyed hair, bras designed to create the illusion of large breasts, and in some cases Botox and plastic surgery. Take a look at the photos of famously "beautiful" actresses and models without makeup. It's frightening.
There's some truth in that & women are happy to acknowledge it but they just enjoy making the best of their looks & presentation -like they enjoy dancing...it's life affirming to them. Also, they fear the judgement of their peers so they feel they have to look their best in social situations. Not only that but they can only feel confident if they know they look good & they can only enjoy themselves if they feel confident.
I wash & polish my car. It's only an old car & it's not valuable but it looks good when it's shiny and anyway the polish protects the paintwork. No one thinks it's a Lamborghini. I'm just making the best of what I have. Girls are the same...they're not trying to fool you; they know only too well what they look like in the mornings.
@@ferney2936 But they clearly are out to fool people by pretending to be something they're not. If that wasn't their goal, they wouldn't be spending so much money and time disguising their true appearance, right? Your car washing analogy doesn't make sense because creating a completely false and artificial appearance is hardly the same as removing accumulated dirt. Altering one's true appearance by applying layers of face paint, Botox injections, breast implants, artificially increasing the size of one's lips with collagen injections, etc., is hardly comparable to taking a shower and combing your hair in the morning.
@@wardandrew23412 I see your point; I'm just saying that I personally feel that when they put on their warpaint & a nice dress when they go out for the evening & it makes them feel confident, it's just the grown up equivalent of the way little girls like to dress up in Princess dresses
@@ferney2936 No doubt there are women who simply like to look good without the specific purpose in mind of attracting interest from men. But we also need to remember that male attention is a tremendous boost to a woman's self confidence, so I have a bit of difficulty believing women who say they don't try to look good for men, don't have that in the back of their mind regardless.
Strip them naked, take off the makeup, false lashes, fillers and jewellery and shave their head. Now judge them. They will look so bloody average and yet they think they can pick, choose and control men.
One thing she did not really mention is how some women also hide their weight on most dating apps too…. The one time I get a match on a dating app, I spend weeks and months getting to know is a completely different person than what is in front of me on the date.
They also lie about their age on dating apps. Quite a bit, honestly. There is also a reason you have to list your height on most apps (women want that info) and you don't give your weight (information men would find useful).
Ms. Jellyroll USA is 60 pounds overweight and is told she is a BBW. Couch Potato Cam is a guy who is 60 pounds overweight & he is instead told he is a fat slob. But hey, without double standards, most women wouldn't have standards at all.
Weight can be changed. Ugly and short can’t.
Same here. I walked away feeling like shit because I had been lied but also I didn’t want to hurt this person because of her weight. I didn’t say anything about it to her but wish I did because she was lying by omission. It’s okay for men to have standards too
Don't ever swipe right on someone who doesn't have a full body shot photo on her profile. There's a reason she doesn't!
@@ShezInAustralia I'm in healthcare, I can tell you the majority of obese people (both men & women) will never be fit again. In fact, most of them only get bigger. Yeah, there are a few cases where a health condition or medication caused them to gain weight, but the great majority are overweight due to poor lifestyle choices and a lack of discipline. Regardless of appearance, those aren't attractive traits anyway, and very few people will suddenly get the discipline to make the changes, even for their health, not even looks.
Just remember sometimes the prettiest berry in the forest is the most poisonous. Just a example that not everything that looks good is good for you.
You know we’re mostly adults, right? 😂😂😂
Facts
Facts 💯💯💯
@@Macheako 80% of women don't realise that.
I wish kids had more positive influencers like you. I guess it’s just the stereotypical ignorance young people have had forever but perpetuated by technology and society longer into life. Too many people don’t self reflect to see the problems on both sides of dating.
I’m at a point where I am confident in myself but have resigned myself to being single for awhile. Nothing is real. It’s all an illusion. Online dating has made things worse.
Deep down I still have hope I’ll meet someone in the wild but it’s a long shot.
I have the same mindset.
At least you’re not kidding yourself anymore
An illusion indeed.
It's all so tiresome.
I never met you Michael, I hope you meet someone as well.
I feel you and that’s true I’m the same way I have found someone in the wild like you say right at work I turned around saw her and hurried over lol
Even if a man is better looking in a relationship, society would say the girl looks better. The data is clouded by society’s bias. Even if a girl is “ugly” her friends will tell her she’s a 10 so she’d expect a 10 man
Also makeup will skew the data, making a girl think she’s more attractive than she really is
It’s a joke anymore I can’t really stand women I find that they are pretty to look at but know how ugly they really are on the inside.
I'm considered a very attractive guy at 6 foot 4 tall, every women I ever been with I eclipsed them in looks everyone always tells me why are you dating her? My reason because it's the best I can get. Ironic right? Lol that's the society we live in
Yaaas, Queen. That’s what they say.🙄
@@william11724 I've been with different levels of women and the ones who treat you the best are the 5-6s. I made the mistake of going for a higher one and married her it lasted ten years. But I should have married the other one. And I have no doubts id still be married today.
I actually mentioned this to a friend a few years back. When I did, she said I was being sexist and went off on a loud, angry tangent. Seeing this video, I am somewhat glad to see that I wasn't crazy. Honestly, I'm not sure exactly what kind of photos I take. Being legally blind, taking selfies isn't the easiest thing for me. Honestly, I think I am much better off meeting women in person than on any dating site I've ever been on. But that's just me.
meeting woman irl is way better, and less of a hassle
She wasn't your friend. A true friend wouldn't act that way.
hey Matt! I feel you brother, I am now 60, lost the better part of my sight, almost completely blind. How tired are you of hearing how the right woman won’t care about your physical disability. If they’re this picky about just average looking guys can you imagine how they’re going to treat us. I just live my best life and don’t worry about it, love to find companionship but I’m tired of crashing and burning, for something that’s not even within my control nor can do anything about. You’re not alone!
If she got mad and loud you were probably 99% correct
Not your friend anymore!
Thank you, Courtney! I also conducted a "social experiment" on the dating aps, posing as a woman (pre-pandemic, back in Spring, 2012). It was shocking to me the quality of people that reached out and their responses! I IMMEDIATELY felt bad for women, given their options, but what really struck me as interesting was that I felt SO much better about myself! I know I'm not FUGLY; I know I'm intelligent, have a great personality and sense of humor. Seeing what my "competition" was - a bunch of idiot bro douches with ZERO social skills, was affirming! The lessons I walked away with were that I was raised properly and have values that will be valued by the right person. I know I am not for everyone and I have to be fine with that. The experiment also reinforced my conviction in being a gentleman, treating all women kindly and with respect, while maintaining my own self-respect. It will be noticed and appreciated.
By the by - online dating NOW is a COMPLETE shitshow of prostitutes (no disrespect), scammers and fakes. Just gotta keep "your pole in the water (no crude pun intended)" and don't take it so seriously. Work on yourself and the law of attraction will provide.
Regarding filters and subterfuge - anyone remember this amusing "parable?"
www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2013/11/07/man-sued-wife-ugly-baby-hoax_n_4231992.html
Just remember, guys and gals… Your looks will eventually fade… But your character will remain! 💯
Unfortunately.
Cope
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@@armin3057 yes 🤣🤣
@@Lo-to7zh
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The issue is not with looks or quality of pictures. Suggesting men to work on their looks and pictures is to cater to the dumb social media/dating app game. It's a losing proposition.
The actual issue is that most of women aren't looking to establish any sort of significative relationship with any man. They've embraced the single woman lifestyle and are quite content with the attention they get from social media and the steady dose of random dick that is readily available to them. More to the point, women who actually do need to use dating apps are already very low in the hierarchy themselves. Genuine highly attractive women don't need any of that at all.
If you are man and you want to date a woman then you should take part in as many different activities and be as social as possible. You should find ways to meet as many women as possible and to talk to them as much as you can. You need to socialize in person. It's an uphill road but dating apps are not the answer.
thank you!
Sounds about right. As a lifestyle , Learning how to be open to socializing beats Dating Apps...! StayWell : )
Best reply so far on here. I am in agreeance with the bar is set high for men, but most of the men here believe women find men attractive in the ways we find women attractive.
It's simple really... You want a women to fall in love with you? Go out there and be bold. Approach a woman and be confident. Practice, get good at it. Women find men who are bold and assertive attractive like men find a pair of pretty face, well shaped breasts and a tight ass attractive. Take care of yourself physically and hit the gym, eat healthy, clean your apartment, clean your fingernails and get a better wardrobe... Bet you bottom dollar you will land a good looking lady that's into you
Suggesting men to work on their looks and pictures is to cater to the dumb social media/dating app game is so so wrong. Looking better is a tremendous benefit out in the real world. Women do not like men who do not care for their appearance. Period.
Its not just social media man .Its just how people are
Wheat Waffles did a video of a 6ft 3 attractive guy (a 6 in looks and 7 overall) who got 3 dates that went nowhere from 16 000 right swipes over 3 months. Let that sink in.
I’m an average looking guy by any means, don’t do well on dating apps never have.
I’ve always dated incredibly beautiful women i met from work, I’m not afraid of letting my personality show and not many humans- men and women have real life confidence.
I’d say the percentage of men and women with real life confidence between 18-30 is about 5% maybe less!
The reason I'm single at 46 with no children is due to the fact I fancy women who don't like me and the women that like me are either married, taken or single however 10 years older than me. However lots of single moms with multiple kids with different guys find me attractive though. Gals in their early or mid 30's who don't have children ignore me. Lol
gals in their early or mid 30'swho don't have children only care about 20 year old chads
@@athos5359 that's absolutely correct. Attractive women in their 20's are chasing super-popular Magic Mike or a Giga-Chad. I know this 24 year old guy who's married to a 37 year old women with 5 kids with multiple men. He was an incel before they met.
Hey, that’s my life you’re talking about there sir
Women with multiple kids multiple daddys are not attracted to you, theyre after an ATM.
Single moms want some help. They dont really like you
I hooked up with a woman that was below average and I joked that I was a doctor and she said: “if you were I’d be even more confused.”
So women are getting guys that are a lot better looking than them. She always has a better deal or a hotter guy just around the corner.
Yea....you were one of em....but....personally I think if you sleep wit trash....ya don’t get to say “I’m better than trash” 😂❤️
I never said I was better
I don't get her comment???? Can you explain.
Why is she confused?
What was she confused by?
Your comment doesn’t make sense; we have no frame of reference.
I got plenty of interactions on dating apps, the problem is that many women on them are pretty freaking damaged. I would much rather just meet someone organically or remain single.
Dating app world is the land of misfit toys. All these women have been run through and ‘hurt’
Only use dating apps for sex. Seriously. It’s all they’re useful for.
@@kyleconnor2759 yeah they aren't worth the time in my opinion.
And the island of misfit toys reference... Nice
Damaged mentally? could you please explain what you mean by meet someone organically
@@CM-le4yh I didn't say mentally. They're more damaged emotionally. Lol As for organically, I mean the old fashioned way. Like we did before the internet. Lol
@Oki right back at you.
I like that she’s kind. It’s refreshing
I made a conscious effort to go out and take better photos of myself. I worked out, went from 215 to 170lbs, bought new clothes, went places with nice backgrounds and used a tripod to actually get better photos. I use Photofeeler to get ratings on my photos and I can honestly say I got better. I still get no matches on dating apps but it's fun to have good photos of myself. One criticism I've been told is that "I'm trying too hard". Is it that you have to look good without looking like you're trying to look good?
When you're on your death bed, or just old and unhealthy, you'll wish you'd spent more time taking walks in beautiful scenery and less time trying to impress women.
I know plenty of old, divorced guys who would agree with me.
Don't worry. I get matches on Tinder and it's still a load of crap.
You actually look really attractive so I am surprised that you didn't get any matches.
Women always find a silly reason to reject you, try to little, try to hard, or whatever. Its all a lie, they dont care how professional the photos are, the right dude cannot do any wrong, and the wrong dude cant do anything right. It is like that.
Don't worry man, women get the same thing with trying too hard.
Most women I have met in person after connecting online don’t even look like themselves. After countless dates where the woman in person was between 20-50 lbs overweight and 5-10 years older than in the pictures, I don’t meet any woman in person anymore until we have had a videochat. Period.
Says the old pale boomer
@@WestCoastCultured yeah femcel
Dating apps result in the "paradox of choice " the more choices people have, the less happy the are with that choice.
I like listening to your perspective, Courtney.
This is great information. I appreciate you, Courtney. Regarding hypocrosy, my ex girlfriend lived with her mother and she was 34. She did not get criticized much. But, if I met this woman and I was 34 as a man, she would never have been my girlfriend. Point being, in my opinion, in the 2020's, it is much harder to be a man that a woman.
We need gender revolution. Women took the leadership and are destroying the human race. Such a dating standard changes everything. I love technology but this is its darkest and evil side.
Apps can be very depressing for men. Average women get bombarded. Average men get breadcrumbs. I use them and had like 3 hook ups from apps, but it's tough. I agree with the photos - men don't take many photos, don't ask their friends. One of my "action" photos playing pool was actually taken by a girl I dated 😂
80% of women are bearish on men.
My counter trend stock market brain: bullish 😂
There are more women 5&below out there than there are men below an 8. It's true but when social media, simps, and the sisterhood convinces 2s-5s that they're 9s&10s, they only want 9s&10s cuz women date across&up
Retinols, sunscreen, diet, excercise, super helpful. You really don’t need to do a lot. I know skincare is just hard because some of us are acne prone. Do not put too much into it. Drink less, love yourself.
I love Courtney, she's just so down to earth and supportive.
Just relax...
@Lukey boy throwing her a genuine compliment isn’t simping. Watch it again
Youre no pirate
@Lukey boy lol who told you that? Everyone loves free compliments, dude. Compliments should always be free. When you want something in return for them and become submissive, that’s when you’re simping. Plus he’s complimenting her work. What’s wrong with that?
@Lukey boy Do something noteworthy, and I'm sure you'll get a pat on the head buddy. 🤣🤣
Tbh, the so called phenomenon called " The shiny object syndrome" is apparent in people on dating apps. Too many damn options = anxiety 🙃
Or in some cases FOMO too..
Instant gratification, no long term vision
A chick with high standards is viewed at as low quality by me. It's one of the main reasons i remain single. I think I speak for a lot of men when i say we are sick of having to provide for these spoiled women. Not even with money. just everything they expect from us. can't we just relax and have a healthy relationship without expectations?
Relationship without expectations is not a relationship.
@@dnegel9546
There are expectations and unhealthy unrealistic expectations.
Women should be encouraged to have high standards. Theres a difference between having high standards and unrealistic standards. Whats stopping you from being high value alpha male?
@@maximustrolleus9860
80% of women thinking less than 10% of men are attractive isn’t high standards. That’s unrealistic standards. You’re making excuses for the fact that female choice in of itself is the issue here. It is women choosing to be this unrealistic, not men. “High value alpha male.” You’re watching too many red pill grifter gurus.
@@thehylander266 no im more blackpilled then redpilled but im still realistic. according to the bell curve, vast majority of guys are in the middle. and as speaking as a guy, lets be real, most guys are lazy and put in no effort. ive had guys say that real men dont wear cologne lol and then complain about not finding someone lol. if your at least like a 4-5/10, then you have no excuses. this is the prime demographic that redpill can help out. even wheat waffles admitted that and said that your game and social skills should be maxxed out and you can easily get women that even good looking guys may not.
if your average looking, then you have potential to be a high value alpha male. if you cant get women, then the cold harsh truth is that your low value. and guys need to be realistic too. i know guys who are fat and yet refuse to date fat or ug ly women. ppl gotta stay in their league. watch the video cringiest kiss on tlc. would you agree that the guy is the perfect definition of a socially awkward low value male? if your not that cringey or weird looking, then you have a chance.
if someone truly is a sub5, then the cold harsh truth is that they need to find someone fat or ug ly. i know plenty of despo women who cant find any guy cuz they are fat or ug ly. no guy is truly an in cel. there are women living on the streets with missing teeth who will date you. if thats the best you can do, then you have to accept your reality. this is how it works in nature. alphas attract alphas, betas attract betas and omegas attract omegas.
Courtney I became disabled a couple of years ago and these dating apps are horrible for disabled people they need a app for disabled people! We need love to! I quit these bullshit apps and started going out more and meeting women in the real world were we can see each other in person! I actually found someone to share my life with! People need to get out and meet real people!
Oh man! that must be though! I wish you good luck.
@@marioruiz481 thanx bro!
How would you see a dating app for disabled people? You mean disabled women would meet disabled men?
@@hihtitmamnan no for men and women
@@zosometalgod ???
I’ve noticed I enjoy the company of 7-8s rather than 9-10s. A lot less drama and sh*t to deal with. I’ve been on this planet 33 years and can count on one hand the 9-10s (appearance wise) women I have met who are also kind, compassionate, and intelligent.
I’ve also met women who actively will not take a second glance at a guy and keep it pushing because they probably want someone better and keep their guard up. I understand why they must have their guard up, but it’s to the point where they have it up for the wrong people they’re around and it makes the real interaction scene dead as much as the dating app scene.
Exactly, they’re turning themselves into magnets for crappy guys that only have good looks.
Women have their guard up for everyone but the abusive drug dealer with 3 babies he had with three different women before her😂
@@themusicman669 You mean the type of a-hole so many women think they can save from themselves?
Guys just delete all dating apps and social media except RUclips and never look back, it was the best decision i ever made in my life, you will realize that a lot of people in real life are different.
Very helpful! This helped to convience me to quit wasteing money on dating sites. Never knew about filters used on dating sites.
Men I am telling you, unless you want kids, its so much better avoiding women. They take the one thing you have limited amounts of and cannot get more of no matter how hard you try, time. I am 47, divorced with 3 sons who I kept after my divorce. I can tell you, its so much cheaper to leave her. The time you save alone you can work more or sit and go fish.
Its up to you gentlemen. Dont let you life pass you by. And when women get desperate enough, which they always do, they will come sniffing around. Most women these days just arent a pleasure to be around. They are angry, grossly over weight, and unhappy creatures. Why invite that into your life?
I do feel bad for women though. They have been utterly lied to for decades. And only at the end, do they understand. I hope channels like these, by women will reach more women. But for monetary reasons they seem mostly to attract men. Such a waste.
Look into visiting the Philippines. Trust me.
@@Chris9183 Why not make an A.I. Robot Women, I think it would be easier lol
Amen brother. It's not worth the time and effort. It's not supposed to be this way, but the internet, social media and society in general ruined it all.
I also agree women have been lied to since the 60s. Basically they were taught that they should have more MANLY traits and they don't need a man. They all have an inflated self worth that literally only the top 5% of men can give. But when you are a top 5% man, there is no reason to settle down and be monogamous since you have the pick of 100% of women!
@SirDiesalot I do see your point of looking at other women from other places, but there is a catch there too. I know SEVERAL men that found women from the Philippines, and although the men are not alone, there are other complications. Most women from the Philippines expect you to move their entire family in. Also many, get westernized and expect to spend your money. I know one of these guys are about to pay $30,000 on a wedding.
Again I do agree, you can get a girl at least, but be warned, they will become Americanized very quickly and you'll be suffering through the same pain all men do.
@@Chris9183 been to PI many times. Cebu is always nice.
A lot of what keeps men from dating apps and even making much of an effort is not just how one sided dating is in favour of women (at first at least) but also the amount of relationships that either fail and cost the man everything or the relationships that stand the test of time but are mediocre at best.
Staying single and indifferent isn't the most fulfilling option in a man's life but it's by far the most secure and peaceful.
The majority of guys cannot be unattractive(below average) that’s not how averages work. Women should adjust their standards or they risk not finding anyone at all.
Courtney always hits it on the head with the right amount of tact, fundamental truth, and good advice.
That part about the filters thing is absolutely spot on. I went on a date once with a nurse I matched with who looked fit, attractive and looked like she had really clear glowing skin, just overall healthy and attractive and when I met with her she was at least twice the size than what she showed in her pics, oily and dirty skin, not well groomed or presented at all. When I asked her out of curiosity what was up with her pics she told me that she deliberately alters her appearance plus those pics were taken 3+ years ago when she was slimmer 💀
Never let a woman who pastes herself with makeup or alters her appearance online ever knock your self worth guys, just work on yourself and you'll naturally weed them out.
I would have said thanks for your time- and got up and left.
@@butcho7492 Oh trust me, if this ever happens again I'm not even going to carry on
If you look like your thumbnail, you're lucky to have someone who bothered with an augmented pic. Most probably just reject you at first sight. Sorry but you're the poster boy for unattractive.
@Yo Ya lmao I wonder if you're the nurse. Appreciate you taking a look tho!
Thank you: as a male the question I have is; why do men get married.? Why peruse a girl? The promise of sex? All in, If I make 200K plus, have a nice car, a house, average looking. Why do I need a woman. So, what does the women have would want me to give up all of that, because believe me, that is exactly what she wants. My money. Get your own and then give me a call!!!
Keep her on the low. Just tell her you two are in a relationship but we don't marry. Though you have to check the laws, sometimes if they live in your house she is entitled to money...
Just tell them you are broke and you will quickly filter out the gold diggers and may find a decent woman that would love you for you
You know, something that just occurred to me while listening to you, Courtney (I LOVE your stuff by the way), was what if there was an app (or an actual scientific study) that put up the profile pictures of a grid of guys (or girls). Not just one at the time, but a grid of 9 or 16 pictures of guys (or girls) - sort of like a person would actually encounter in a real-world situation like a club, party or event. Then the user is given a somewhat short period of time to click on up to 3 or 4 of them. Then the user is presented with another page of 9 or 16 prospective dates/mates to click on. And so on for a few (or even several pages). Mix in new pictures, but some that were already displayed, maybe. And compile the choices of the user. I honestly think this might be an interesting study of "off the cuff" attraction (which, let's face it, is tremendously important). It might even be useful in helping the "chooser" better understand what they are attracted to. Unfortunately, I'm sure the more nefarious and capitalistic folks out there would find a way to turn it against the users for a profit. Worse still, the Marxists would figure out a way to further divide men from women, compatible mates and partners, from each other. Sorry, my cynicism is showing!
I remember that study. It flat out said that dating sites were horrible for men and encouraged men to go out to in person events as they offered a MUCH greater chance of meeting a romantic interest. In my opinion, unless you're in the tiny demographic of guys who look incredible by all standards, dating sites only serve to crush your ego.
Yup. Dry spell for like 2 years, one date from an app. Then I went to rehab, and was getting a bit healthier and interacting with women irl and had interest as well as 2 flings. The flings boosted my ego for sure but the letdown when they didn't wanna commit was, well heartbreaking especially as one I was falling for after 6months of hanging out and good nookie. Anyways, she makes a good point that getting out there is way better than not. Idk I'm not ready to give up yet after some setbacks.
Do you realize thaat this statistics is useless? The only way you can interfere from sample to pupulation is by using central limit theory. There are 2 conditions: data has natural desctribution, and events are indepenendent. Botth are not fullfiled. Women opinions are not indepenedent, they influence each other. So bascially it is just some opinion on some app, no way representative. Probably the only people who responded are those who are not sucessful on dating. How can you conclude anything from it? Like maybe some group of women who has lots of time on particular dating app - just clicked this or that while most likel sitting in a bus or being bored. And then people call it 'study'.
Women have way too much power and options on dating apps. Because of this, they tend to be extremely picky. If a woman sees a man on the street that she is extremely attracted to, she would probably ignore that same guy on a dating app because she feels like she can always do better 🤷🏽♂️
Well thats because they can do better. A girl who is a 1-5 is getting hit on by 9/10s
Apps don’t reveal social skills, confidence, style, charisma, charm and social proof.
Look, whoever has the power- has the power to be picky. That's how the market works. If you went to a car lot and knew there were only ten cars you could afford it would take you far less time to choose than it would if you were informed you could pick any car on the lot for free. The disconnect is that women think they can buy even the most expensive car when, in reality, they're only renting (not even leasing) it. They don't have anywhere close to enough money to own it. The real problem on the apps is that there is a fundamental misunderstanding what the end goals are.
I would suggest trying to find them in real life then.
I may be an introvert who hates social interaction, but even I would prefer meeting women in person instead of on a dating app.
Really? Then why do 90% of women need make-up to enhance their looks.
Keepin it real, people in this area called ugly can’t really control what they’re gonna look like. If they don’t have a glow up, shouldn’t be a big deal. People not gonna look the same their whole life, even if they do things that keep themselves looking young, there’s a time where that fades.
Yea looks are cool, but looks shoud never outweigh personality traits, and people don’t tend to think in that way. I’ve been called ugly countless times, but my father says we look alike and if he’s not ugly, then neither am I.
At the end of the day, somebody will like or love you for who you are and not entirely focus on what they look like. If people call you ugly, why are they even wasting their time and energy talking to you? I just brush it off and go on bout my day.
There is something called reality. Also some women because they had a 10/10 or 9/10 guy on dating apps now believe that is what they can get out of life even the ones that are 3/10 women
Thank you for saying this! I don't know why so many people are focused on looks. I would be far more worried about someone's personality than how they look, because that's what's really going to make or break a relationship.
What so many of you fail to realize is that people are not just rejecting you based on looks.
I don’t like to call ppl ugly, but I see lots of unattractive people in happy relationships. I know you do too
@@AM-ut7dg a guy asked his gf this deep question How is the guy that has 95% of the things that she wants gonna show her that if she rejects him on the first 5% that he doesn't have???
Love the wholesomeness of this channel. Sharing genuine and caring information that everyone can benefit from. The better we as men can learn to become, the better it will be for everyone around us. So much toxic information out there.
Just outta curiosity why is you believe that men need to be better?
@@tylermiller3120 My perspective is that there are healthy ways to evolve and grow for our own mind, body, spirit. Success doesn't always mean making 6 figures, it can mean having financial stability, responsibility, purpose, and joy. It can mean knowing that you're capable of discipline of working out 1-2 hours 5 days a week and seeing how far you can push yourself. It can be knowing that in the face of hard times you stay true to your values and knowing who you are. I don't think "men" need to be better, I think it would be good if everyone, individually, became better, for themselves. We become better at certain things in our life by putting in self-love, effort, and work and that helps other people around us (family, friends, community, relationships, etc).
Tom Brady, Johnny Depp, and Sly Stallone did all that superficial image stuff; and now they are living in regret. Dating apps are a relic. There are no good girls on dating apps; just bitter hook-up veterans. Think that I will just stay single; and keep my happy ass on the sidelines. Seriously. At best you end up divorced with parental visitation. That sounds so much worse than any part of being a single male. Just saying.
Yeah divorce is depressing.That why i am very scared to marry a women .
Always great comments! You make much more sence than many people realize. Keep up the great work!
You've hit the nail on the head. If you can't look good in a photo, your screwed. I get a totally different reaction in person, than from a photo. Very nice analogy, of which is absolutely true. Another well done video that tells it like it is, whether we men like it or not.