I love the fact that Courtney gets the hand thing! It’s the first thing I notice. I love slightly feminine hands. It’s an indication of gentleness, and that they take care of themselves.
I think the beer thing is just association of alcohol with masculine culture in general. Now excuse me imma go train my hands while wearing my vintage tshirt and chain, then go hangout with my grandparents watching a documentary about nominative determinism. My DMs are open, ladies.
I too get emotional when I see old people walking alone or crossing streets by themselves. Its a feeling not everyone understands but only few can see their pain and loneliness. It also makes me worried about my parents, if something happens to me. Appreciate Courtney as she has this gift and I find this an amazing quality.
Food for thought: older people have lived a long life and have weathered many storms. While I don’t doubt the unique sorrows associated with growing old and losing your spouse - I also believe they have a strong sense of finality and peace. They are not looking forward like we are with all of our anxieties and plans. They are generally looking back, and that entails a certain kind of placidness. No doubt they appreciate company, but I also think they are along the most content people in the world.
It's odd to just assume that a person is very sad and lonely just because they are old. The fact is that older people are generally more content than younger people. This has been proven by studies.
As a dude, the things that stand out to me: A conservative yet playful attire - something that lets the imagination work. Yoga pants...for obvious reasons Head tilting down a little, and looking up to meet your eyes. The way a ponytail bounces when a girl is running. Really turns my head. Wearing wedges with a skirt that is just a quarter inch too short. And on the less physical side: Sharing in decision making - making a real suggestion for dinner or a date. Being grounded - not being into astrology, crystals, etc. Someone who solves their own problems (corollary, someone who doesn't complain about things in their power to resolve) Can carry a conversation. Seriously, some women just... can't.
Agreed on most of these. I'm a guy, with the usual instincts hardwired, and yoga pants do draw my eye, but I still don't think they're any more appropriate to wear in public than just nylons.
I feel compelled to let you know how positive your content has been for me. I'm sure others would agree. Your approach is very open, honest, and most importantly - healthy. Thank you!
I loved the “weird search history” comment 😂 I think that if you want to do a hand judging episode it should be done with your ladies as well as you included.
I think a video on ovulation and periods will be good for most men to know. Like what things men should be aware of to do for women and how to treat them during these phases. Things women appreciate more that men do and things they hate when on periods and when ovulating
Hello Courtney. As usual, you and your video are a real class act. I really enjoyed seeing your humor in this. Congratulations on your marriage. Take care.
For any prudent man out there that enjoys learning history, documentaries are definitely a fun entertaining supplemental tool to your research. They're not always accurate, a lot of times people want conformational bias so they will make a documentary to prove such bias but it can still be helpful with filling in gaps or adding a different perspective
Exactly! Instead of always hunting for books on a topic, for me historical documentaries have been a good starting point. So clean, presenting views from both sides, discussions from both parties, much much better! PBS did/still does awesome ones
This is why I stopped watching them, they're propaganda for people who think they're too smart to fall for propaganda. Especially now that sports docs are being produced by the person who the documentary is about. Jordan did his own doc, Brady did his own, even the Manziel one was done by his team.
I’m a documentary junkie. There is so much fascinating stuff in this real world that we all live in; why fill your brain with nonsense from Hollyweird.
documentaries are for psuedo intellectuals. They're designed to push a specific message to viewers. It's quite literally the worst thing to consume if you want to be properly informed about a topic. @Aaron-kj8dv was spot on. They're propaganda for people who think they're to smart for propaganda
First, I think the fact that "Nominative Determinism" is a big, compound word that sounds fancy makes it something that gives someone the feeling that talking about it will feel similarly fancy. But it doesn't. A lot of girls get misled by the aesthetic of a word rather than the function or logic of it. It's a dumb word that describes a mostly non-existent phenomena.
One thing that my girlfriend does that is soooo attractive is that, she smiles and makes eye contact while tilting her head down, the tilt adds dimension to the face smiling and keeping eye contact. It hypnotizes me to her beauty and attraction.
Hey Courntey, would you please do some "girls rate" and/or "would you rather" videos based around the criteria of men not wanting any children. We've seen a lot about fashion, health, cars, income, fidelity, etc., but children don't up, especially the guys who don't want any at all like myself.
My big turn-ons when it comes to women? How about things like... Self-awareness / honest self-assessment, especially combined with open and honest communication. For example: "I don't want to admit it, but I need some help." "I don't need help, but I still want you to help me " "I don't need you to do anything; just listen." (Bonus points if she comments on how much she appreciates that I want to do something, even though doing so isn't necessary.) "I want you to say (or do) something." (Bonus points if she can articulate what she wants me to say / do.)
A couple of things that women do that I find incredibly attractive: Showing genuine kindness towards someone, reading, doing very feminine things that require their concentration, like doing their nails, putting on makeup, or brushing their hair. Oh, and wearing sun dresses...there is just something about sun dresses.
Nominal Determinism: Dennis’ are more likely to become dentists than other names! I remember reading that when I first learned of the concept. I love that you brought it up, because at times I worry that my brain made something up or that I’m just remembering it wrong. But nope, that is a thing, and I’m happy you brought it up! Love the blue sweater too!
As someone who was raised on John Hughes movies, I distinctly remember a time when well-educated intellectuals were “nerds” and definitely considered unattractive. But in recent years it seems to be noticed and appreciated by women. I assume “nominative determinism” is shorthand for being a nerd and having general knowledge about some special thing she’s interested in.
The fact she mentioned at the beginning that she was ovulating should have been a hint about weird preferences. I know some women who get very..umm..slick down there when a gentle warm breeze goes by, yet on the other end of the cycle dry up like the Sahara Desert. At any rate, as for nominative determinism, I think it applies more easily to people of English descent, as a lot of them grow up with last names that represented their occupation historically (e.g., Smith, Carpenter, Baker, Cook, Merchant, Brewer, Knight, etc.). I wonder how they would explain somebody naming their child Joe or Jane Social Media Influencer.
One of the hottest things for a woman to do is just be really sweet and attentive. When a girl looks deep into my eyes while we’re talking, and I can tell she’s really listening, the rest of the world just fades away a little bit, and life feels softer for a moment. That can also be a more familial affection thing, if she is off-limits in one way or another (i.e., brotherly/sisterly love, φιλεω). Additionally, a good smile can make my day. Months ago at the gym, this girl handed me a plate, looked me dead in the face, and flashed a big, cheerful smile, and I still remember it.
I was intrigued by the discussion about nomative determinism. I looked up my surname and believe I am on a path of destiny. I tend to be more cerebral than many. Thanks for the inspiration.
As you pointed out and, funny though it may be, her ovulating plays a very key role in what she finds attractive. Women's attraction trigger do change throughout the course of their cycle, so what she finding attractive now she may very well find fair to outright repulsive in two weeks. Would love for you to do a video speaking to this in greater detail to help your male audience better understand this nuance of being female.
I think it's important to keep in mind that there are probably 200 things that a woman may say turns her on, attracts her to any given male, etc. but that at the end of the day those things are NOT what will make her want a relationship with you. Perfect example for me is that I had just about EVERYTHING possible in common with this one girl I matched with on Hinge a few months ago. Spiritually we were the same which is rare for me, politically we were almost identical (we actually both did a stupid test thingy), music preference was very similar, we were both of similar attractiveness physically, and we both talked each other's ears off before we finally met for the date. But the reality is, all of this can be in common but there still be NO chemistry. She and I got along OK, but there were no sparks, we might have made pretty good friends. And that's the main point I wanna make to other men who might be worried that they now suddenly have to watch everything they do to make sure they're attracting their dream girl with each small thing they wear, say, do etc. The thing about love and romance and all that stuff is that you can't MAKE it happen, you can only be open to when it does happen and put yourself out there to be seen by women who you like. You can only make opportunities, you cannot make outcomes. So don't sweat the small stuff, don't worry about, for instance, if maybe the girl of your dreams might like dude's who wear graphic tees, if the woman of your dreams won't date you because you aren't her cookie-cutter idea of a stud in her wet dreams, then she isn't ready for a relationship! Just be authentic to yourself while also improving yourself and who you want to be.
You fuc*ed up by talking too much prior to meeting. Prob didint have anything interesting to talk about in person. = instant dead end. Next time set up the date early, keep the mystery alive over the phone convos, save it for in person
Maybe, I mean in many cases what you said could be correct, but I would say she and I had plenty to talk about in person. In fact, she wouldn't get the fuck out of my car at the end of the night because she kept talking lol. I think in our case, there just wasn't sexual chemistry or sparks. Sometimes everything could be great on paper but maybe you just don't actually feel that turned on in person.@@Dylan-lt9eo
I'm pretty sure the hottest thing in the world right now is the nuclear reactions in particle colliders :x I jest. Definitely agree on your point about the shirts. If the guy wearing the shirt wasn't attractive, alcohol logo shirts would be on her red flags list instead. Also, your point about old people reminds me of the scene in Scrubs where JD has a daydream about going to a grandpa kennel to adopt a grandpa XD
Hottest things that Women do: 1. When they a their hair in a single braid and it goes over one of their shoulders 2. When they look up at you with their chin tucked down. 3. When their hip switches when they walk. 4. When they flip their hair to one side. 5. When they put their hair behind their ear. 6. When they stroke their hair all the way down and out. 7. When they stick their hip out to one side and put their hand on their hips. 8. When they wear cropped shirts, belly doesn't even have to show. 9. When she wears something that reveals her shoulders. Anything. 12. When she can dance. 10. Industrial ear piercing (idk what's wrong with me but this one gets me everytime)
I would like to add something to the grandma point. When our aunt where dying on cancer, and my brother were spending some time with her, his (thenkfully) now ex girlfriend was furious. How sick is that?! Personaly, I would be glad, that he's caring, but that sicko was jelous. Still don't get it.
This girl in the video was really talking about hot men doing random things, not random men doing hot things. In the end, it all boils down to the same old golden rule - "Be attractive. Don't be unattractive".
I had to Google Nominitive Determinism. The next time I talk about Lamelo Ball being a basketball player and Usain Bolt being a 100m sprinter I now know there's a specific term for that.
I think channels like Courtney’s will inspire other RUclips creators who are tired of the red pill stuff, and in search of something that’s actually inspiring.
Absolutely 💯. I DESPISE the overly pushy and negative Red Pill content. But I didn't always. For a while, it resonated with the broken tangled mess I had become.
@@davidvanwinkle5033 I’m glad to hear you got out of it, David. The way I see it, RP’s main problem is that it doesn’t offer any real hope. It benefits from men’s existing frustrations and then amplifies them by feeding their audience cherry-picked stories of women being at their worst.
@@DanishmasteryIf you're able to parse the good from the bad with RP, there is some decent information to glean off of it. There is a lot of doom and gloom that overshadows the good points made and it seems like struggling guys can't see the forest through the trees. It also doesn't help on those panel podcasts they pick the worst examples of women while the majority aren't all that delusional.
@@RedX32 very well stated. 👏. The "Red Pill", if used as informative, is useful at its base level. But if used as motivation or inspiration, it is poison.
The examples I've seen that support nominative determinism use the surname. The name, Michael Baker, would signify they have a greater gravitation towards a career in baked goods. This couldn’t have been the case in history since the surname was used to identify the individual’s occupation. Webber means “a man who weaves,” Brewer signifies “a man who brews,” and Baker denotes “a man who bakes”. In the current timeline of an individual’s life, they’re given a surname first and then they get a career. But in history, the individual’s occupation came first and the surname last in order to identify their occupation.
Attractive things women do: the messy hair bun and cute little workgloves to help with heavy work the guys are doing, mention their dad or grandpa in a loving way, a higher pitch light sounding voice climaxed with a shy giggle.
weird - I'm kinda the opposite! People who aren't coordinated kinda annoy me :) But I'd be curious to hear your spiel. I can see how it would be sort of adorable.
My nominative determinism example- My last name has the word "vast" in it....I've always loved anything to do with space. While I don't currently work in the industry, astronomy and rocketry have been lifelong obsessions and hobbies of mine.
I posted in another video similar: For me it’s rocking a ponytail. No buns. Makeup- I love the natural look so less is more here. Hair- the style has to fit. Thicker the better, I love curls and waves. But it has to suit their personality and style. Hand gestures- certain women have a specific hand gesture technique that I am drawn to during conversations or just in general. Her voice has to be easy on the ears. Eyes- I focus on the eyes. A girl in a sundress is deadly attractive. And an instant WOW is coming out of the shower hot too, the wet hair does it for me.
The reason why you cry for old people is because you know at the back of your mind, they are near death and there's something sad about that, also to mention they all remind us of our own grandparents, all my grandparents are dead now and I'm always feeling sad when i see any old man or woman.
Courtney, it's the first time I'm hearing of nominative determinism. My name is Anil. It's a very common name in my country India. "Anil" in the Tamil language means "squirrel". I have this habit of gathering up fragments of what I read or hear so that I could use it in my talks or writings. I jot them down in diaries. My heart/mind is a basket of gathered fragments. Why am I telling you all this? Because the squirrel also gathers fragments of food for future use, for winter or times of scarcity. I'm by name and nature a squirrel! I've been doing this for decades now. Nothing i find striking is lost; it's all saved. But i haven't been doing it to live up to my name or anything. I had this habit long before I knew it's meaning. Is this nominative determinism?
The message I got from this is Be yourself because different women like different things so instead of trying to be something your not to impress your odds are just as good being something you are. And trim your nails. But it won't matter nearly as much if your veins don't pop out like a root system. In which case you need to try to make them soft and gentle looking.
I have never heard of "nominative determinism", outright it sounds like astrology. When you mentioned based on your last name it does make sense as people used to make their earnings from trades/services. These same trades and services were then passed down to the next generation. I.E. if you were a brewer your father was likely a brewer and your sons were likely to be brewers and you all held the same last name, commonly associated with that brew.
I watched the other video you did reviewing this lady's tiktok (?) and you mentioned nominative determinism so I looked it up. I have no idea what someone whose last name is Brooks could do for a career other than studying small bodies of water. As far as my first name, as a Christian I want to serve the Lord, but Jeremiah was never allowed to marry and was known as the weeping prophet because he wasn't listened to by the Israelites in the exile. He was ignored his entire life.
I’ve haven’t watched this yet but I’ve followed you for a bit and I know one thing… you have incredible insights and a genteel way. Send you have wisdom beyond your years…. Bravo I kind of watch these things to learn about women but I’ll tell you.. Man women should follow you to learn about Women. Amazing!!!!
I really like women with deep voice. Not manly voice, but deep women voice. What is funny I found out later that there is proven theory that when women is in ovulating stadium of their period their voices are on deeper frequencies than normal and men find them subconsciously more attractive. :) So maybe I am not the only one. :)
The hands thing is definitely a thing! I still don't quite understand it though. My ex once took my hand, looked it over, and remarked "your fingers are so thick.. these hands could RUIN me" and I just laughed with a blush.
So i have really big hands and long slender fingers. Ive played guitar for 16 years. I learned on acoustic which made my hands much stronger than if i learned on electric. Word got out at my unit that i gave good shoulder rubs and i swear, over half the unit would shout my name amd demand shoulder rubs. Ive had a lot of compliments on my hands and their strength.
I gotta *_hand_* it to ya, I did not nominatively find these to be inherently determinate. However, I guess I could wrap my necklace around it given the context of the imbalanced endocribe systems of certain effected individuals.
Your name also can predetermine who you marry and where you live! I read about it in The Happiness Hypothesis. People's names are more likely to resemble the sound of the name of their city or significant other. Wild stuff.
that TikTok girl is HILARIOUS :D I had to look up nominitive determinism, I'd never heard that phrase before, but I've thought about that concept! I think the obvious ones here are the surnames "Smith" and "Wood"... coming from medieval times when someone's surname was often what they did for work. Smith = blacksmith, wood = wood chopper/lumberjack. Thanks for the vid Courtney, some interesting stuff to think about there. As a side note, I wear a lot of tshirts that would probably fall into the "vintage" category, but that hipster look is pretty popular over here (Melbourne Australia) so I blend right in :)
On the nominative determituve thing on my moms side have a lot of surnames that end it something + Meyer. and Meyer is an occupational German name for farmer. And I always thought farming was a sweet gig
To provide an example of nominative determinism: I know a woman named Melody who is a fantastic pianist and a budding composer. Her work is familiar yet fresh and her playing is soulful and powerful, yet technically proficient. Maybe the person in that video is onto something...
Well back in the day names were not given the day the child was born, they were given once a personality was established/observed, because names were words that had meaning, not made up random assortment of letters like they are today. Also, your last name would indicate your line of work because if you were born to a candlemaker, you were expected to be a candle maker. Now of course everybody can choose what they want to do, ans everything about your personality as an adult comes from your childhood, any kind of version of love you were exposed to, the choices you made, and your living environment you grew up in. People aren't born a certain way, they develop into a certain person. Intelligence isn't genetic, obesity isn't genetic, and neither are preferences
Howdy. I am a 67 geezer. Anna Jorgensen gave some hints. Walk slowly with long strides like Clint Eastwood and Henry Fonda. Never flip and flap one's hands around. Command things with balanced moves. One move and one result. Push the shopping cart back into the cart queue with one hand and bull's eye accuracy. And Jordan Petersen advices to take on responsibilities to give one's life meaning. At the local buffet restaurant I have taken on to push in chairs left pulled out and blocking isles. Some bourgeoise don't return their dish trays but leave them on the table, though buffet restaurant. I carry the trays to the return shelves. Not a big effort to make the restaurant inviting and welcoming. The look in peoples' eyes ! Usually I observe 3 or 4 ladies place themselves in an ambushing position to try to hi-jack my attention when I leave. When finished I stand up and 2 ladies rush beside me. Then I grab my tray and stand still. 2 more ladies rush in front of me. I take 2 steps and stop. Another 2 rush. When all ambushers have played their cards I can finally carry my tray to the shelf and leave. In High Regards.
I've been watching documentaries almost every single day about a variety of subjects for the pas 10 years and throught that I've gain a substantial common knowledge about almost everything. I would say it has a bit of a downside. In daily conversations, I easy get bored with mundain conversations and claims that are downright wrong or baseless. I try to be polite, but often cannot resist the temptation to express that the other person is wrong because of this or that fact.
Now that you explain the nominative determinism thing, I think there is something to that. And this is just looking at my own life. But there are definitely odd similarities between myself and my namesakes. As a Catholic I attribute that to some Divine Inspiration when the names were chosen, I don't think the names dictate the characteristics, but there are some odd cowinky dinks. Edit: Since you asked for people to share. My middle name is Joseph, like St. Joseph the Carpenter. I am not a carpenter, I work as an engineer. However, I have always been skilled with my hands and since a young age have engaged in wood working as a hobby.
I looked at my hands, thinking they're the ugliest things about me. Then when she showed the "10/10" hands, I thought to myself "wtf, mine are way more attractive than those! lol!"
It would be a long list for me if I were to name all the things that I find attractive that women do so I feel like I should keep it brief and group them in. When they showcase their physical talents or flexibility by doing a handspring, cartwheel, etc or other similar abilities. When they do their hair or fix up their makeup or clothing. When they act shy, embarrassed or a little vulnerable. When they stand up for themselves, the people they care about or their convictions (this depends of course) The way they carry their items around. I used to find it so cute the way some of the girls carried their books The way they walk or run or do exercises. The way they smile, laugh or even take life less seriously. When they make something like a meal or do a simple task. When they showcase their confidence or courage in a difficult situation. When they show their compassion, kindness and empathy. There’s so many things that we find attractive that it wouldn’t possible for me to list them all.
Hi Courtney, what do you think of this theory: the reason why women notice and care about these things is because they get pregnant. Women pay the higher price in romantic relationships. Therefore, they pay attention to these details. Should men be more conscious in being equally observant?
Nominative determinalism is actually the reverse of the reality of how names and occupation became connected. Surnames came from occupation, not the reverse order. For example Baker, Shoemaker, Smith, Guillotine 😂
I don't think it's about surnames. I think it's about the idea that if you name your daughter "Destiny" she's more likely to grow up to be a stripper, where as if you name her "Gertrude" she's more likely to become a librarian.
As a guy, things that women do that are attractive to me: 1. Wearing a sweatshirt and jeans. I saw a woman today, wearing a casual outfit. Normally she’s super put together. She’s always beautiful, but something about her wearing a simple non hooded sweatshirt charmed me senseless, even though I didn’t expect it. 2. Curiosity. A woman who is curious in general is so hot I lack the words to describe it. A different coworker wondered about something that was tangentially related to what we were talking about, and she just had to know the details of whatever sparked her attention. I remember thinking, “wow, her excitement at searching for some history and answers to her questions is waaaaay hotter than I imagined! 3. Reminding us we’re important and respected. Just a simple, “I really appreciate you,” can make my day a happy one! 4. Asking for our help processing and strategizing a professional or personal matter. A friend has come to me, asking my opinion on what she should do to with her career. I remember being so sooo honored that she would ask my opinion. When I explained my own thought process and how I arrived at my perspective, she listened attentively, asking questions and taking my advice. It was so meaningful to me, I’m smiling just thinking about it! It showed me how much she valued and trusted me as a friend to give her a thoughtful consideration regarding what I thought she should do. 5. This is more of a fashion style, but knee boots and white, gray, or red thigh socks over black leggings drives me wild, I don’t know why I love it, but trust me, I do! 6. A willingness to try new activities! An adventurous spirit is so amazingly attractive to me! A girl you can come home to and say, “let’s take a trip to the mountains/ ocean/ park/ etc” is super endearing to me, and suggests a life full of adventure, exploration and learning! 7. On a physical level, I love a woman who has strong calves and shapely legs. Something about a former high school or collegiate soccer player, with legs that are fit and athletic… just wow.
when a girl wears a cap when a girl wears a ponytail when a girl wears pink or yellow underwear when a girl does some domestic activity and leans over etc
I’ve found that people will be attracted to a others, then find reasons to justify it later. Not a bad thing, it just means that each person will have reasons that change from even between their potential romantic partners.
As a guy, I find it very attractive when my girlfriend asks me to fix/repair something for her (rewire a light, fix a sink, change a tire) and spends time with me while I do said task. As opposed to asking me to do something and then walking away.
And my passion and love for learning is definitely the first thing I would say to describe myself. Maybe respectful first, but close enough. Lol. Wow this video is meant for me. Lol.
A true example of nominative determinism is women named Flo are most likely to move to the state of Florida and men named George are most likely to move to the state of Georgia if they were born outside of those states
Women need to remember that men aren't mind-readers, so women should bring up topics they're interested in also to push the conversation further. The woman I'm dating does this sometimes and it's refreshing.
Nominative determinism - Ok so this might be a bit abstract way of thinking about this but I am an Interior Designer whose maiden name was Jones. "Keeping up with the Joneses" obviously is used in comparing other your lifestyle or things to others. I create the designs other people might want to mimic to "keep up". Too out there? 😂
when a man can take care of an old person it shows that he can take care of you when you are old. there is also the element of "raising kids is soooooo hard!!!!" its a LOT easier when you have mom, dad, dad's mom, dad's dad, mom's dad, and mom's mom to take care of some of the work and give you rest days. hanging around with your parents REQUIRES that you be on good terms with them in the first place so if you hang out with them then you can rely on them for kid help.
First, thanks for the video. Secondly, I apologize for not having faith in you. I had to pause the video to look up nominative determinism. I'd heard of the idea but had forgotten the name. I looked at a few things but didn't go deeply into the idea because I'm a strong skeptic. Either way, I should have had faith that you would tell us. I just became overcome with curiosity and stopped the video to do a search. The idea does lead to a joke that I've heard in several places where someone will go into a rant about giving kids "normal" names. In the joke, the person always says, "If you name your daughter 'Sky,' which is more likely - that she will earn a Ph.D. or that she will dance on a pole?" When I was in college, I wore necklaces for a few years. In the long run, I decided that I don't have the looks or the personality to make jewelry work for me. I've written previously about my wearing those Casio digital watches since I was about twenty years old. I have a feeling that those wouldn't count as watches in your list of things that men need to wear. My Casio watches were purely functional and not real jewelry. I don't think she's weird for liking the look a guy wearing a necklace as he gets out of the shower. Just because I could never pull that off doesn't mean she's weird for liking it. You asked about what men like. I think I gave you this one on your other video on this topic, but I'll repeat it. I'm oddly attracted to an attractive woman with attractive legs wearing an ankle bracelet. I don't like anything gaudy or large. Something delicate subtle can look very beautiful. I can see where women being attracted to hands makes sense. I'm encouraged to think that women would like men who enjoy documentaries. For myself, reading seems to work better than watching a documentary, but I would see them as the same principle. Maybe some women would see them as very different. Along those lines, how do you feel about men who stop to read historical markers along highways? Is that a good sign of intellectual curiosity, an adorable quirk, or just an annoying delay on trips? I don't think she's weird to like men wearing beer logo T-shirts. I don't think I could make that look work for me, but I'm not a drinker. To be honest, I don't think I've ever really made a T-shirt look work for me. The T-shirts that come the closest for me are T-shirts related to things that I've accomplished. I did bicycle tours for a few years, and I ended up with a bunch of bicycle tour T-shirts. I think wearing them gave me more confidence because they reminded me of accomplishment. I used to feel good wearing T-shirts that I got at fire schools. My company let a few engineers join the day crew of the fire crew. In my case, I think upper management just wanted me to get burnt to death. Either way, I felt confident wearing a T-shirt that I had gotten for completing fire school. I grew up spending a good bit of time with my maternal grandmother. We were pretty close, and her appreciating that in a man is sweet. I got along well with all four of my grandparents, but I never lived near them. Once I started my career, I didn't get to see them much. For a while, I had good talks with my aunt on a regular basis, but she developed dementia and couldn't talk on the phone any longer. Again, I live too far away to see her. I don't know that I could score any points on this measure, but again, her finding that attractive is really nice. Like most guys, there are specific physical traits that draw me, but that discussion just seems creepier than a woman talking about noticing a man's hands. I have non-traditional pets, so a woman who likes non-traditional pets appeals to me quite a bit. Part of that appeal is that we have something in common. Another part of that appeal is that she doesn't mindlessly follow the crowd. A woman's liking my sense of humor touches me. I'm too tired and in too much pain tonight to remember any more of these.
I cannot believe that 70s Medallion man makes a return, 😂 coming out of a steamy shower c/w his dog tags on a chain, towel around his waist. He might as well ask her to bring his Military t-shirt over, which is draped over the chair! Whilst he and his Grandma pop up on 60" TV screen as they talk about Jesus and the afterlife!
I made chicken stroganoff for my in laws today. They’re almost 80. Does that count? 😉 Also, you had me laughing my butt off at “Courtney McCracken”. 😂😂😂 Now here are three things that I think is sexy when women do it: 1. Wearing glasses; 2. French manicure (or whatever that is called) 3. A natural comedian, if she can make me laugh, she has my heart, and probably my wallet too.
Well I am an Introvert ISTP to be more specific so I am socially awkward with women that I am interested in I suck at small talk really bad which makes it worse. I tend to be attracted to the mildly introverted types because it is less stressful. The physical attractions are a women that is active, fit, and likes to be outside but still feminine. The neck just below the ear with a nice smell drives me wild and long hair at least down to the shoulders. Im 54 about to be 55 nice long hair with a little grey is hot.
*gets out of shower, puts on Miller Lite t-shirt before leaving to watch documentaries about nominative determinism with my grandma*
bro, leave some for the rest of us, geez
Ultimate sigma move.
don't forget the necklace
That checks ALL the boxes !!
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I love the fact that Courtney gets the hand thing! It’s the first thing I notice. I love slightly feminine hands. It’s an indication of gentleness, and that they take care of themselves.
I think the beer thing is just association of alcohol with masculine culture in general.
Now excuse me imma go train my hands while wearing my vintage tshirt and chain, then go hangout with my grandparents watching a documentary about nominative determinism. My DMs are open, ladies.
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I too get emotional when I see old people walking alone or crossing streets by themselves. Its a feeling not everyone understands but only few can see their pain and loneliness. It also makes me worried about my parents, if something happens to me. Appreciate Courtney as she has this gift and I find this an amazing quality.
Food for thought: older people have lived a long life and have weathered many storms. While I don’t doubt the unique sorrows associated with growing old and losing your spouse - I also believe they have a strong sense of finality and peace. They are not looking forward like we are with all of our anxieties and plans. They are generally looking back, and that entails a certain kind of placidness. No doubt they appreciate company, but I also think they are along the most content people in the world.
It's odd to just assume that a person is very sad and lonely just because they are old. The fact is that older people are generally more content than younger people. This has been proven by studies.
I have to admit, I think about what's going to happen to me when I get older. My dad died eight years ago and my mom is getting older.
Just because they’re by themselves in that moment doesn’t mean they’re alone lol, you don’t even know them
Many of them just want to be left alone without some younger person driving them nuts by pestering and pitying them.
As a dude, the things that stand out to me:
A conservative yet playful attire - something that lets the imagination work.
Yoga pants...for obvious reasons
Head tilting down a little, and looking up to meet your eyes.
The way a ponytail bounces when a girl is running. Really turns my head.
Wearing wedges with a skirt that is just a quarter inch too short.
And on the less physical side:
Sharing in decision making - making a real suggestion for dinner or a date.
Being grounded - not being into astrology, crystals, etc.
Someone who solves their own problems (corollary, someone who doesn't complain about things in their power to resolve)
Can carry a conversation. Seriously, some women just... can't.
Agreed on most of these. I'm a guy, with the usual instincts hardwired, and yoga pants do draw my eye, but I still don't think they're any more appropriate to wear in public than just nylons.
Nah bro that you would have a masculine women and get on nofap
u sound mad typical
"I'm ovulating right now"....... That phrase terrified me until I met my wife, then, hotter words could not be spoken.
Luckyyyyyy 😭
so anal
I feel compelled to let you know how positive your content has been for me. I'm sure others would agree. Your approach is very open, honest, and most importantly - healthy. Thank you!
I loved the “weird search history” comment 😂
I think that if you want to do a hand judging episode it should be done with your ladies as well as you included.
I think a video on ovulation and periods will be good for most men to know. Like what things men should be aware of to do for women and how to treat them during these phases. Things women appreciate more that men do and things they hate when on periods and when ovulating
Easy, pay attention. AVOID BOTH.
Al Bundy already did a documentary on it.
You do not need a video. You have Star Trek. "Shields up!"
Hello Courtney. As usual, you and your video are a real class act. I really enjoyed seeing your humor in this. Congratulations on your marriage. Take care.
ha - I had to learn this the hard way, over time, with a number of my ex's.
For any prudent man out there that enjoys learning history, documentaries are definitely a fun entertaining supplemental tool to your research. They're not always accurate, a lot of times people want conformational bias so they will make a documentary to prove such bias but it can still be helpful with filling in gaps or adding a different perspective
Exactly! Instead of always hunting for books on a topic, for me historical documentaries have been a good starting point. So clean, presenting views from both sides, discussions from both parties, much much better!
PBS did/still does awesome ones
This is why I stopped watching them, they're propaganda for people who think they're too smart to fall for propaganda.
Especially now that sports docs are being produced by the person who the documentary is about. Jordan did his own doc, Brady did his own, even the Manziel one was done by his team.
I’m a documentary junkie. There is so much fascinating stuff in this real world that we all live in; why fill your brain with nonsense from Hollyweird.
I watch a lot of history documentaries and I fall asleep to one pretty much every night (and then rewatch it several times since I fell asleep).
documentaries are for psuedo intellectuals. They're designed to push a specific message to viewers. It's quite literally the worst thing to consume if you want to be properly informed about a topic. @Aaron-kj8dv was spot on. They're propaganda for people who think they're to smart for propaganda
First, I think the fact that "Nominative Determinism" is a big, compound word that sounds fancy makes it something that gives someone the feeling that talking about it will feel similarly fancy. But it doesn't. A lot of girls get misled by the aesthetic of a word rather than the function or logic of it. It's a dumb word that describes a mostly non-existent phenomena.
Ironically, talking about "nominative determinism" was a big red flag for me, on par with astrology or being par of an MLM scheme.
Dawg the whole idea made me laugh. I thought "did I do that?" then I remembered I named myself after my youtube channel, not the other way around.
One thing that my girlfriend does that is soooo attractive is that, she smiles and makes eye contact while tilting her head down, the tilt adds dimension to the face smiling and keeping eye contact. It hypnotizes me to her beauty and attraction.
Hey Courntey, would you please do some "girls rate" and/or "would you rather" videos based around the criteria of men not wanting any children. We've seen a lot about fashion, health, cars, income, fidelity, etc., but children don't up, especially the guys who don't want any at all like myself.
My big turn-ons when it comes to women? How about things like...
Self-awareness / honest self-assessment, especially combined with open and honest communication. For example:
"I don't want to admit it, but I need some help."
"I don't need help, but I still want you to help me "
"I don't need you to do anything; just listen." (Bonus points if she comments on how much she appreciates that I want to do something, even though doing so isn't necessary.)
"I want you to say (or do) something." (Bonus points if she can articulate what she wants me to say / do.)
...These 🤌 💯
A couple of things that women do that I find incredibly attractive: Showing genuine kindness towards someone, reading, doing very feminine things that require their concentration, like doing their nails, putting on makeup, or brushing their hair. Oh, and wearing sun dresses...there is just something about sun dresses.
Nominal Determinism: Dennis’ are more likely to become dentists than other names! I remember reading that when I first learned of the concept. I love that you brought it up, because at times I worry that my brain made something up or that I’m just remembering it wrong. But nope, that is a thing, and I’m happy you brought it up!
Love the blue sweater too!
Hottest thing in a girl, for me, is expression/expressiveness. Sing like nobody is listening, dance like nobody is watching.
As someone who was raised on John Hughes movies, I distinctly remember a time when well-educated intellectuals were “nerds” and definitely considered unattractive. But in recent years it seems to be noticed and appreciated by women. I assume “nominative determinism” is shorthand for being a nerd and having general knowledge about some special thing she’s interested in.
Nerds are the best providers during good times. At least when no one is worried about hunger or war.
But nerds always won in the John Hughes movies
The fact she mentioned at the beginning that she was ovulating should have been a hint about weird preferences. I know some women who get very..umm..slick down there when a gentle warm breeze goes by, yet on the other end of the cycle dry up like the Sahara Desert. At any rate, as for nominative determinism, I think it applies more easily to people of English descent, as a lot of them grow up with last names that represented their occupation historically (e.g., Smith, Carpenter, Baker, Cook, Merchant, Brewer, Knight, etc.). I wonder how they would explain somebody naming their child Joe or Jane Social Media Influencer.
❤loved the comments 😊
One of the hottest things for a woman to do is just be really sweet and attentive. When a girl looks deep into my eyes while we’re talking, and I can tell she’s really listening, the rest of the world just fades away a little bit, and life feels softer for a moment.
That can also be a more familial affection thing, if she is off-limits in one way or another (i.e., brotherly/sisterly love, φιλεω).
Additionally, a good smile can make my day. Months ago at the gym, this girl handed me a plate, looked me dead in the face, and flashed a big, cheerful smile, and I still remember it.
I was intrigued by the discussion about nomative determinism. I looked up my surname and believe I am on a path of destiny. I tend to be more cerebral than many. Thanks for the inspiration.
As you pointed out and, funny though it may be, her ovulating plays a very key role in what she finds attractive. Women's attraction trigger do change throughout the course of their cycle, so what she finding attractive now she may very well find fair to outright repulsive in two weeks. Would love for you to do a video speaking to this in greater detail to help your male audience better understand this nuance of being female.
It would be my pleasure 😊
I think it's important to keep in mind that there are probably 200 things that a woman may say turns her on, attracts her to any given male, etc. but that at the end of the day those things are NOT what will make her want a relationship with you. Perfect example for me is that I had just about EVERYTHING possible in common with this one girl I matched with on Hinge a few months ago. Spiritually we were the same which is rare for me, politically we were almost identical (we actually both did a stupid test thingy), music preference was very similar, we were both of similar attractiveness physically, and we both talked each other's ears off before we finally met for the date. But the reality is, all of this can be in common but there still be NO chemistry. She and I got along OK, but there were no sparks, we might have made pretty good friends. And that's the main point I wanna make to other men who might be worried that they now suddenly have to watch everything they do to make sure they're attracting their dream girl with each small thing they wear, say, do etc. The thing about love and romance and all that stuff is that you can't MAKE it happen, you can only be open to when it does happen and put yourself out there to be seen by women who you like. You can only make opportunities, you cannot make outcomes. So don't sweat the small stuff, don't worry about, for instance, if maybe the girl of your dreams might like dude's who wear graphic tees, if the woman of your dreams won't date you because you aren't her cookie-cutter idea of a stud in her wet dreams, then she isn't ready for a relationship! Just be authentic to yourself while also improving yourself and who you want to be.
You fuc*ed up by talking too much prior to meeting. Prob didint have anything interesting to talk about in person. = instant dead end. Next time set up the date early, keep the mystery alive over the phone convos, save it for in person
Maybe, I mean in many cases what you said could be correct, but I would say she and I had plenty to talk about in person. In fact, she wouldn't get the fuck out of my car at the end of the night because she kept talking lol. I think in our case, there just wasn't sexual chemistry or sparks. Sometimes everything could be great on paper but maybe you just don't actually feel that turned on in person.@@Dylan-lt9eo
I'm pretty sure the hottest thing in the world right now is the nuclear reactions in particle colliders :x I jest. Definitely agree on your point about the shirts. If the guy wearing the shirt wasn't attractive, alcohol logo shirts would be on her red flags list instead. Also, your point about old people reminds me of the scene in Scrubs where JD has a daydream about going to a grandpa kennel to adopt a grandpa XD
Particle colliders ARE pretty hot.
Hi Courtney! Stuff happens sometimes, so there is nothing for you to feel bad about! Hope that you and your husband have a great weekend!
Thank you my friend, you too! 🥹
@@CourtneyRyan You're a 10 wifey.
I believe that people named "Karen" hear "caring". They keep hearing that they're "caring" and so they get upset in order to show how much they care.
Thank you for tuning in, my friend!
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Hottest things that Women do:
1. When they a their hair in a single braid and it goes over one of their shoulders
2. When they look up at you with their chin tucked down.
3. When their hip switches when they walk.
4. When they flip their hair to one side.
5. When they put their hair behind their ear.
6. When they stroke their hair all the way down and out.
7. When they stick their hip out to one side and put their hand on their hips.
8. When they wear cropped shirts, belly doesn't even have to show.
9. When she wears something that reveals her shoulders. Anything.
12. When she can dance.
10. Industrial ear piercing (idk what's wrong with me but this one gets me everytime)
I think the hottest thing is sleeping under my blanket💀
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I would like to add something to the grandma point. When our aunt where dying on cancer, and my brother were spending some time with her, his (thenkfully) now ex girlfriend was furious. How sick is that?!
Personaly, I would be glad, that he's caring, but that sicko was jelous. Still don't get it.
This girl in the video was really talking about hot men doing random things, not random men doing hot things.
In the end, it all boils down to the same old golden rule - "Be attractive. Don't be unattractive".
The first one probably, don't think so about the rest
I had to Google Nominitive Determinism. The next time I talk about Lamelo Ball being a basketball player and Usain Bolt being a 100m sprinter I now know there's a specific term for that.
I think channels like Courtney’s will inspire other RUclips creators who are tired of the red pill stuff, and in search of something that’s actually inspiring.
Absolutely 💯. I DESPISE the overly pushy and negative Red Pill content. But I didn't always. For a while, it resonated with the broken tangled mess I had become.
@@davidvanwinkle5033 I’m glad to hear you got out of it, David. The way I see it, RP’s main problem is that it doesn’t offer any real hope. It benefits from men’s existing frustrations and then amplifies them by feeding their audience cherry-picked stories of women being at their worst.
@@DanishmasteryIf you're able to parse the good from the bad with RP, there is some decent information to glean off of it. There is a lot of doom and gloom that overshadows the good points made and it seems like struggling guys can't see the forest through the trees. It also doesn't help on those panel podcasts they pick the worst examples of women while the majority aren't all that delusional.
@@RedX32 very well stated. 👏. The "Red Pill", if used as informative, is useful at its base level. But if used as motivation or inspiration, it is poison.
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That content, paired with real world guidance, would help millions of disillusioned men. Women, too, possibly.
The examples I've seen that support nominative determinism use the surname. The name, Michael Baker, would signify they have a greater gravitation towards a career in baked goods. This couldn’t have been the case in history since the surname was used to identify the individual’s occupation. Webber means “a man who weaves,” Brewer signifies “a man who brews,” and Baker denotes “a man who bakes”. In the current timeline of an individual’s life, they’re given a surname first and then they get a career. But in history, the individual’s occupation came first and the surname last in order to identify their occupation.
Attractive things women do: the messy hair bun and cute little workgloves to help with heavy work the guys are doing, mention their dad or grandpa in a loving way, a higher pitch light sounding voice climaxed with a shy giggle.
"Nominative Determinism" ... I've not heard that term before, but I appreciate the expansion to my vocabulary.
Gotta say, clumsiness is sexy. I have a whole spiel about this, but I won’t go into that now.
Also, a girl who dresses modest, but classy.
weird - I'm kinda the opposite! People who aren't coordinated kinda annoy me :) But I'd be curious to hear your spiel. I can see how it would be sort of adorable.
My nominative determinism example- My last name has the word "vast" in it....I've always loved anything to do with space. While I don't currently work in the industry, astronomy and rocketry have been lifelong obsessions and hobbies of mine.
I posted in another video similar:
For me it’s rocking a ponytail. No buns.
Makeup- I love the natural look so less is more here.
Hair- the style has to fit. Thicker the better, I love curls and waves. But it has to suit their personality and style.
Hand gestures- certain women have a specific hand gesture technique that I am drawn to during conversations or just in general.
Her voice has to be easy on the ears.
Eyes- I focus on the eyes.
A girl in a sundress is deadly attractive.
And an instant WOW is coming out of the shower hot too, the wet hair does it for me.
Courtney: "My name is Courtney McKracken, I could be a ..."
Me: "Pirate"
Her: "Chiropractor"
Me realizing she meant Crackin and not Kraken: "Oh"
loool same here.
The reason why you cry for old people is because you know at the back of your mind, they are near death and there's something sad about that, also to mention they all remind us of our own grandparents, all my grandparents are dead now and I'm always feeling sad when i see any old man or woman.
Courtney, it's the first time I'm hearing of nominative determinism. My name is Anil. It's a very common name in my country India. "Anil" in the Tamil language means "squirrel". I have this habit of gathering up fragments of what I read or hear so that I could use it in my talks or writings. I jot them down in diaries. My heart/mind is a basket of gathered fragments. Why am I telling you all this? Because the squirrel also gathers fragments of food for future use, for winter or times of scarcity. I'm by name and nature a squirrel! I've been doing this for decades now. Nothing i find striking is lost; it's all saved. But i haven't been doing it to live up to my name or anything. I had this habit long before I knew it's meaning. Is this nominative determinism?
The message I got from this is Be yourself because different women like different things so instead of trying to be something your not to impress your odds are just as good being something you are. And trim your nails. But it won't matter nearly as much if your veins don't pop out like a root system. In which case you need to try to make them soft and gentle looking.
I have never heard of "nominative determinism", outright it sounds like astrology. When you mentioned based on your last name it does make sense as people used to make their earnings from trades/services. These same trades and services were then passed down to the next generation. I.E. if you were a brewer your father was likely a brewer and your sons were likely to be brewers and you all held the same last name, commonly associated with that brew.
Came here from the most recent video. Love this one. So great!
I watched the other video you did reviewing this lady's tiktok (?) and you mentioned nominative determinism so I looked it up. I have no idea what someone whose last name is Brooks could do for a career other than studying small bodies of water. As far as my first name, as a Christian I want to serve the Lord, but Jeremiah was never allowed to marry and was known as the weeping prophet because he wasn't listened to by the Israelites in the exile. He was ignored his entire life.
I’ve haven’t watched this yet but I’ve followed you for a bit and I know one thing… you have incredible insights and a genteel way. Send you have wisdom beyond your years…. Bravo I kind of watch these things to learn about women but I’ll tell you.. Man women should follow you to learn about Women. Amazing!!!!
I really like women with deep voice. Not manly voice, but deep women voice. What is funny I found out later that there is proven theory that when women is in ovulating stadium of their period their voices are on deeper frequencies than normal and men find them subconsciously more attractive. :) So maybe I am not the only one. :)
I have an example of nominative determinism.
There is a Urologist in Toledo, OH named Richard Tapper
The hands thing is definitely a thing! I still don't quite understand it though. My ex once took my hand, looked it over, and remarked "your fingers are so thick.. these hands could RUIN me" and I just laughed with a blush.
So i have really big hands and long slender fingers. Ive played guitar for 16 years. I learned on acoustic which made my hands much stronger than if i learned on electric. Word got out at my unit that i gave good shoulder rubs and i swear, over half the unit would shout my name amd demand shoulder rubs. Ive had a lot of compliments on my hands and their strength.
I gotta *_hand_* it to ya, I did not nominatively find these to be inherently determinate.
However, I guess I could wrap my necklace around it given the context of the imbalanced endocribe systems of certain effected individuals.
Kindness and a big smile
Your name also can predetermine who you marry and where you live! I read about it in The Happiness Hypothesis. People's names are more likely to resemble the sound of the name of their city or significant other. Wild stuff.
A man with lots of money is like a girl being pretty . Food for thought.
that TikTok girl is HILARIOUS :D
I had to look up nominitive determinism, I'd never heard that phrase before, but I've thought about that concept!
I think the obvious ones here are the surnames "Smith" and "Wood"... coming from medieval times when someone's surname was often what they did for work. Smith = blacksmith, wood = wood chopper/lumberjack.
Thanks for the vid Courtney, some interesting stuff to think about there. As a side note, I wear a lot of tshirts that would probably fall into the "vintage" category, but that hipster look is pretty popular over here (Melbourne Australia) so I blend right in :)
There is a vasectomy doctor named Dick Chopp, a gynecologist named Lauren Hyman, and a dentist named Chip Silvertooth
I love when a woman puts on sneakers and gym shorts. It’s not a sexual thing but it just looks so wholesome to me. It’s ok to be comfortable.
8:50 you don’t drink, That’s an attractive thing for men like me who don’t drink >
On the nominative determituve thing on my moms side have a lot of surnames that end it something + Meyer. and Meyer is an occupational German name for farmer. And I always thought farming was a sweet gig
That Tik Tok lady is so adorable! Especially in how she expresses herself!
To provide an example of nominative determinism:
I know a woman named Melody who is a fantastic pianist and a budding composer.
Her work is familiar yet fresh and her playing is soulful and powerful, yet technically proficient.
Maybe the person in that video is onto something...
Well back in the day names were not given the day the child was born, they were given once a personality was established/observed, because names were words that had meaning, not made up random assortment of letters like they are today. Also, your last name would indicate your line of work because if you were born to a candlemaker, you were expected to be a candle maker. Now of course everybody can choose what they want to do, ans everything about your personality as an adult comes from your childhood, any kind of version of love you were exposed to, the choices you made, and your living environment you grew up in. People aren't born a certain way, they develop into a certain person. Intelligence isn't genetic, obesity isn't genetic, and neither are preferences
Howdy.
I am a 67 geezer.
Anna Jorgensen gave some hints. Walk slowly with long strides like Clint Eastwood and Henry Fonda. Never flip and flap one's hands around. Command things with balanced moves. One move and one result. Push the shopping cart back into the cart queue with one hand and bull's eye accuracy.
And Jordan Petersen advices to take on responsibilities to give one's life meaning. At the local buffet restaurant I have taken on to push in chairs left pulled out and blocking isles. Some bourgeoise don't return their dish trays but leave them on the table, though buffet restaurant. I carry the trays to the return shelves. Not a big effort to make the restaurant inviting and welcoming. The look in peoples' eyes ! Usually I observe 3 or 4 ladies place themselves in an ambushing position to try to hi-jack my attention when I leave. When finished I stand up and 2 ladies rush beside me. Then I grab my tray and stand still. 2 more ladies rush in front of me. I take 2 steps and stop. Another 2 rush. When all ambushers have played their cards I can finally carry my tray to the shelf and leave.
In High Regards.
I had a female coworker long ago tell me I had a very attractive wrist bone. I never heard that one before.
Much like a guy might think a woman has attractive ankles...
I've been watching documentaries almost every single day about a variety of subjects for the pas 10 years and throught that I've gain a substantial common knowledge about almost everything. I would say it has a bit of a downside. In daily conversations, I easy get bored with mundain conversations and claims that are downright wrong or baseless. I try to be polite, but often cannot resist the temptation to express that the other person is wrong because of this or that fact.
Now that you explain the nominative determinism thing, I think there is something to that. And this is just looking at my own life. But there are definitely odd similarities between myself and my namesakes. As a Catholic I attribute that to some Divine Inspiration when the names were chosen, I don't think the names dictate the characteristics, but there are some odd cowinky dinks.
Edit: Since you asked for people to share. My middle name is Joseph, like St. Joseph the Carpenter. I am not a carpenter, I work as an engineer. However, I have always been skilled with my hands and since a young age have engaged in wood working as a hobby.
So that's why all the women seem excited and giggly when I'm walking through the nursing home with my sleeves rolled up to visit my Grandma.
I looked at my hands, thinking they're the ugliest things about me. Then when she showed the "10/10" hands, I thought to myself "wtf, mine are way more attractive than those! lol!"
It would be a long list for me if I were to name all the things that I find attractive that women do so I feel like I should keep it brief and group them in.
When they showcase their physical talents or flexibility by doing a handspring, cartwheel, etc or other similar abilities.
When they do their hair or fix up their makeup or clothing.
When they act shy, embarrassed or a little vulnerable.
When they stand up for themselves, the people they care about or their convictions (this depends of course)
The way they carry their items around. I used to find it so cute the way some of the girls carried their books
The way they walk or run or do exercises.
The way they smile, laugh or even take life less seriously.
When they make something like a meal or do a simple task.
When they showcase their confidence or courage in a difficult situation.
When they show their compassion, kindness and empathy.
There’s so many things that we find attractive that it wouldn’t possible for me to list them all.
Hi Courtney, what do you think of this theory: the reason why women notice and care about these things is because they get pregnant. Women pay the higher price in romantic relationships. Therefore, they pay attention to these details. Should men be more conscious in being equally observant?
Nominative determinalism is actually the reverse of the reality of how names and occupation became connected. Surnames came from occupation, not the reverse order. For example Baker, Shoemaker, Smith, Guillotine 😂
I don't think it's about surnames. I think it's about the idea that if you name your daughter "Destiny" she's more likely to grow up to be a stripper, where as if you name her "Gertrude" she's more likely to become a librarian.
Guillotine?
As a guy, things that women do that are attractive to me:
1. Wearing a sweatshirt and jeans. I saw a woman today, wearing a casual outfit. Normally she’s super put together. She’s always beautiful, but something about her wearing a simple non hooded sweatshirt charmed me senseless, even though I didn’t expect it.
2. Curiosity. A woman who is curious in general is so hot I lack the words to describe it. A different coworker wondered about something that was tangentially related to what we were talking about, and she just had to know the details of whatever sparked her attention. I remember thinking, “wow, her excitement at searching for some history and answers to her questions is waaaaay hotter than I imagined!
3. Reminding us we’re important and respected. Just a simple, “I really appreciate you,” can make my day a happy one!
4. Asking for our help processing and strategizing a professional or personal matter. A friend has come to me, asking my opinion on what she should do to with her career. I remember being so sooo honored that she would ask my opinion. When I explained my own thought process and how I arrived at my perspective, she listened attentively, asking questions and taking my advice. It was so meaningful to me, I’m smiling just thinking about it! It showed me how much she valued and trusted me as a friend to give her a thoughtful consideration regarding what I thought she should do.
5. This is more of a fashion style, but knee boots and white, gray, or red thigh socks over black leggings drives me wild, I don’t know why I love it, but trust me, I do!
6. A willingness to try new activities! An adventurous spirit is so amazingly attractive to me! A girl you can come home to and say, “let’s take a trip to the mountains/ ocean/ park/ etc” is super endearing to me, and suggests a life full of adventure, exploration and learning!
7. On a physical level, I love a woman who has strong calves and shapely legs. Something about a former high school or collegiate soccer player, with legs that are fit and athletic… just wow.
when a girl wears a cap
when a girl wears a ponytail
when a girl wears pink or yellow underwear
when a girl does some domestic activity and leans over
etc
I’ve found that people will be attracted to a others, then find reasons to justify it later. Not a bad thing, it just means that each person will have reasons that change from even between their potential romantic partners.
Funny, I just got home taking my grandma to change her cellphone. Then I see this video hahaha. The odds.
+1 to the ovulation video. I did a search and didn't find that it was created already.
As a guy, I find it very attractive when my girlfriend asks me to fix/repair something for her (rewire a light, fix a sink, change a tire) and spends time with me while I do said task. As opposed to asking me to do something and then walking away.
same
Courtney spiking that ball over the hot hands validation
* in Muscle man voice *
You know what else is hot?
My mo-
Re the Hands thing, it’s the opposite way for me too, it’s definitely one of those weird things that is one of my weird quirks too.
Also, my 2 “jobs” are taking care of my grandma and volunteer football coaching so yay me I guess 😂
And my passion and love for learning is definitely the first thing I would say to describe myself. Maybe respectful first, but close enough. Lol. Wow this video is meant for me. Lol.
A true example of nominative determinism is women named Flo are most likely to move to the state of Florida and men named George are most likely to move to the state of Georgia if they were born outside of those states
Women need to remember that men aren't mind-readers, so women should bring up topics they're interested in also to push the conversation further. The woman I'm dating does this sometimes and it's refreshing.
Nominative determinism - Ok so this might be a bit abstract way of thinking about this but I am an Interior Designer whose maiden name was Jones. "Keeping up with the Joneses" obviously is used in comparing other your lifestyle or things to others. I create the designs other people might want to mimic to "keep up". Too out there? 😂
No you're not
your name is Courtney and you give advice about courtship
I certainly have learnt something from this video.
What one woman finds attractive another one doesn't find attractive.
It’s like a guy named Jim Beam and works a liquor store. Nominative determination at its finest 😉
I love Big nice hands with seeing veins for sure 😭 but I do like a hint of rugged, like I don’t want them too smooth or pretty
when a man can take care of an old person it shows that he can take care of you when you are old.
there is also the element of "raising kids is soooooo hard!!!!" its a LOT easier when you have mom, dad, dad's mom, dad's dad, mom's dad, and mom's mom to take care of some of the work and give you rest days. hanging around with your parents REQUIRES that you be on good terms with them in the first place so if you hang out with them then you can rely on them for kid help.
it also requires them to be alive and around.
First, thanks for the video.
Secondly, I apologize for not having faith in you. I had to pause the video to look up nominative determinism. I'd heard of the idea but had forgotten the name. I looked at a few things but didn't go deeply into the idea because I'm a strong skeptic. Either way, I should have had faith that you would tell us. I just became overcome with curiosity and stopped the video to do a search. The idea does lead to a joke that I've heard in several places where someone will go into a rant about giving kids "normal" names. In the joke, the person always says, "If you name your daughter 'Sky,' which is more likely - that she will earn a Ph.D. or that she will dance on a pole?"
When I was in college, I wore necklaces for a few years. In the long run, I decided that I don't have the looks or the personality to make jewelry work for me. I've written previously about my wearing those Casio digital watches since I was about twenty years old. I have a feeling that those wouldn't count as watches in your list of things that men need to wear. My Casio watches were purely functional and not real jewelry. I don't think she's weird for liking the look a guy wearing a necklace as he gets out of the shower. Just because I could never pull that off doesn't mean she's weird for liking it.
You asked about what men like. I think I gave you this one on your other video on this topic, but I'll repeat it. I'm oddly attracted to an attractive woman with attractive legs wearing an ankle bracelet. I don't like anything gaudy or large. Something delicate subtle can look very beautiful.
I can see where women being attracted to hands makes sense.
I'm encouraged to think that women would like men who enjoy documentaries. For myself, reading seems to work better than watching a documentary, but I would see them as the same principle. Maybe some women would see them as very different. Along those lines, how do you feel about men who stop to read historical markers along highways? Is that a good sign of intellectual curiosity, an adorable quirk, or just an annoying delay on trips?
I don't think she's weird to like men wearing beer logo T-shirts. I don't think I could make that look work for me, but I'm not a drinker. To be honest, I don't think I've ever really made a T-shirt look work for me. The T-shirts that come the closest for me are T-shirts related to things that I've accomplished. I did bicycle tours for a few years, and I ended up with a bunch of bicycle tour T-shirts. I think wearing them gave me more confidence because they reminded me of accomplishment. I used to feel good wearing T-shirts that I got at fire schools. My company let a few engineers join the day crew of the fire crew. In my case, I think upper management just wanted me to get burnt to death. Either way, I felt confident wearing a T-shirt that I had gotten for completing fire school.
I grew up spending a good bit of time with my maternal grandmother. We were pretty close, and her appreciating that in a man is sweet. I got along well with all four of my grandparents, but I never lived near them. Once I started my career, I didn't get to see them much. For a while, I had good talks with my aunt on a regular basis, but she developed dementia and couldn't talk on the phone any longer. Again, I live too far away to see her. I don't know that I could score any points on this measure, but again, her finding that attractive is really nice.
Like most guys, there are specific physical traits that draw me, but that discussion just seems creepier than a woman talking about noticing a man's hands.
I have non-traditional pets, so a woman who likes non-traditional pets appeals to me quite a bit. Part of that appeal is that we have something in common. Another part of that appeal is that she doesn't mindlessly follow the crowd.
A woman's liking my sense of humor touches me.
I'm too tired and in too much pain tonight to remember any more of these.
When you wear our clothes, especially our flannel shirts.
I cannot believe that 70s Medallion man makes a return, 😂 coming out of a steamy shower c/w his dog tags on a chain, towel around his waist.
He might as well ask her to bring his Military t-shirt over, which is draped over the chair! Whilst he and his Grandma pop up on 60" TV screen as they talk about Jesus and the afterlife!
I made chicken stroganoff for my in laws today. They’re almost 80. Does that count?
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Also, you had me laughing my butt off at “Courtney McCracken”. 😂😂😂
Now here are three things that I think is sexy when women do it:
1. Wearing glasses;
2. French manicure (or whatever that is called)
3. A natural comedian, if she can make me laugh, she has my heart, and probably my wallet too.
It's just too bad that only about 0.01 percent of women are actually funny.
Imagine losing "attractiveness" points, because all your grandparents are already dead. 😂
I love wen women lafs, and wen women nurtures me or others around me
The documentary thing is true. A girl at work told me she likes it alot when I talk about world history or even ww2 to her
Nominitive determinism:
"Bookman. The Library cop's name is Bookman? That's like an ice cream man being named Cone!" - Kramer (Seinfeld)
I know I can't even look at myself in the mirror after a shower, I'd be all over myself if I did. 😂
My name is Himnish and I am a computer science engineer, yea no nominative determinism here😂
Well I am an Introvert ISTP to be more specific so I am socially awkward with women that I am interested in I suck at small talk really bad which makes it worse. I tend to be attracted to the mildly introverted types because it is less stressful. The physical attractions are a women that is active, fit, and likes to be outside but still feminine. The neck just below the ear with a nice smell drives me wild and long hair at least down to the shoulders. Im 54 about to be 55 nice long hair with a little grey is hot.
Read How to be a 3% man by Corey Wayne. Really helpful to get out of your awkward self.
Lmao, this cracked me up.