How about you start preaching to women on habits to become real women? There are a lot more unattractive women in the world today - both physically with bull/pig nose rings looking like farm animals as well as having ugly characters?
My dad always told me never be afraid to give a compliment to someone or congratulate them. A real man, a good man makes the people around him feel good about themselves by being genuine and generous
Pretty good refresh. 1.) Curiosity is interest engaged. I think everyone should want to delve. Otherwise? The interaction is just a one way conversation with a wall put up. And who wants that? ALSO) I LOVE FACTOR! I use them for quick "office food", and it's been extremely convenient for eating in between medical codes. 2.) Hobbies suggest that we live a fuller life. It's also a nice way to see compatibilities quickly. We see personality with what folks love. 3.) Plans and execution shows "critical timing and decision making". No one likes disorganized impromptu, which also leans to having folks think that there's no foresight. Heavily agreed on this. 4. & 5.) Genuine compliments - the easiest of random act of kindness. It's a nice icebreaker. And yes, it shows a person better attention to detail by observation. At the same time? Speaking positively shows a brighter aura. As Monty Python suggests? "Always look on the bright side to life!" 😊 6.) I think humility is modesty. And also showing we are human. Humanistic traits make us relatable. And people love who and what they relate with. 😃 Great video. This is a great reminder to be more human. And be the best parts of being human. 😃
You know Courtney, I’ve been following your channel for a couple years now and I have to say that I enjoy just listening to your voice. It’s so calming and I can hear the kindness in your voice whenever you share advice. Keep going!
Courtney, this is one of my favorite videos you've done for real. When you mention being honestly curious, an active listener, sincerely humble, keeping an open mind, it all points to having real authentic character. Also, Courtney you have modeled showing outstanding character that isn't fake through your content. I really love to give complements to people and it has changed my life. Healthy vulnerability is also something that isn't addressed enough.
Hi Courtney: It warms my heart that you think these things are attractive. Beyond romantic or sexual chemistry, these are just good things to do, or good things to be, etc.
be approachable, curious 😂, have a hobby, be authentic🤣, be able to plan and execute… organized, prioritize, have a purpose with your life, give a genuine compliment. Don’t be lying. Don’t gossip, speak highly of others. Don’t trash talk last relationship. Don’t be cocky, don’t talk shit about yourself, don’t act like you know it all, be self aware. Say you don’t know.
Being humble and giving genuine compliments goes a really long way. I work in an environment where I see thousands of people every week and try to really make an extra effort to do this.
I definitely agree with number 5. One of my friends a while back would always have some kind of drama to trash talk someone about every time I was around her and it was so offputting.
Vulnerability is my biggest struggle. Being positive or around positive people will manifest so much good in your life. It’s not woo woo just difficult to articulate. As someone who used to be very negative I was able to see the change.
Great stuff! 1 comment...Do NOT compliment women you aren't dating, especially at the work place. Basically anything can be considered sexual harassment. I also believe there are other factors when it comes to compliments. I went to 1 high school dance...a Sady Hawkins dance, at a different school, and I was asked to the dance by the girl. I was reluctant because I didn't really like her. But I said yes. When I picked her up, her dress was gorgeous. I told her she looked really pretty. We spent the night dancing and chatting. Afterwards I thought this is a girl I would like to see again. Never heard from her again. I tried getting in contact with her and her friend told me she doesn't want to see me again. I asked why. She said she thought it was creepy I said she was pretty and that she didn't want me stalking her... In case anyone is wondering how to really mess up a young man...
So these are the words clipped from the triplets. 1:11--because curiosity (about what?) ;) 2:22--or they know something (uncertain--I'll get back to you when I find out if I know anything) ;) 3:33--get 50% off (oddly 1/2 the time I assessed) ;) 4:44--trying to be attractive (that implies effort=exercise=probably not) ;) 5:55--taking initiative (initiative is not the problem--it is right after that goes awry) ;) 6:66 (7:06)--values his time (I've been de-valued so much that time is now very high on the list) ;)
@@palliaskamen5722 111, 222, 333 etc. only on clock. Sometimes there is an odd synchronicity as in this video especially at 3:33 which is half of the six triplets that I went up to and she says "get 50% off". And naturally, other times it is completely meaningless without even one humorous aspect to it.
I swear, Courtney is either the ultimate girlfriend, the ultimate wingman, or possibly the ultimate red flag... 😃 Everyone needs a Courtney in their life
Oh please. I've not heard a single damn thing thats actually a revelation. Whether Courtney wants to believe it or not, but women are the problem. They will blow you off before you've even uttered a word. Women will insult you when you tell them no. Women will cheat on you because they can. Women can't bond with a man if he's not a 1%er. No my friend, Women will first need to check their behavior before we can continue anything from our side.
Recently, I ended a friendship with someone who had nothing good to say about anyone in the workplace. Was draining to be around them, and I began to be associated with their negative outlook.
I'm 100% all of this, I'm a nice, genuine, humble, and caring guy. I'm 28 and currently casually dating 4 girls, and I'm not rich or muscular .I'm overweight around 250 lbs.6'2 and I'm planning to lose weight. Don't listen to guys that say "nice guys finish last" because that's it's not true ! I did it, and you can too! it's EVERYTHING Courtney said!
Here in Cleveland one of our many radio stations, 105.7 FM, flipped the switch today and it's Christmas music for the remainder of the year. Alrighty then, *let the festivities begin!*
Regarding 'Compliments'.............I tried that ONCE!! I won't make that mistake again!! I told a woman I work with that she smelled nice as she walked past me first thing in the morning!(at work) Got screamed at, her exact words were ....'I ALWAYS SMELL NICE!!!.... WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY??? WHAT ARE TRYING TO SAY LIKE??? DON'T I USUALLY SMELL NICE????.......... Seriously!! And women wonder why men don't 'compliment' them any more!!.........THAT'S WHY!!
I often see comments like yours and always wonder why men don't get that women don't like personal comments like that. How someone smells is just far too personal unless you are actually in a relationship already. It just makes people feel embarrassed.
@@brianthesnail3815 How can a compliment EVER be anything but PERSONAL??? Women constantly spray themselves with perfume for just ONE REASON.........TO SMELL NICE!!! So why the hell would they be offended or 'embarrased' when someone compliments them about it?? As I already said I worked with this women for many months before one day complimenting her! It's not like she didn't know me, and I certainly wasn't 'creepy' about it!! The only thing she should of been 'embarrased' about, is the way she reacted!! Very childish and quite frankly, very RUDE!! But don't worry, I WON'T BE DOING IT AGAIN!!! FFS!!
@@ifitistobeitisuptome You have known the woman for 'many months' which I assume is less than a year. Trust me, that is way too personal a comment. I know men think it's a only a 'compliment' but yes it is personal. You are invading her space. I am a 60 year old man and have never commented on a woman's hair, clothes, appearance or perfume except my wife and only well after we started dating. Actually, it can come across as creepy no matter how well intended. I strongly advise young men not to do it.
I just broke up with my first bf because he was constantly negative. He always had something to complain about or criticize. It’s exhausting to be around
It amazes me sometimes that people can be so bitter about other people. That's not to say that speaking positively about someone is always easy, but my parents called #4 the Thumper rule. I really liked the advice in the video. Giving genuine compliments is something I have struggled with my entire adult life, and I am slowly getting better at it.
Great video and some food for thought. Thanks for this, it’s the minor things that us guys sometimes forget about. Will most definitely watch this again.
Oh my god yes just on the first point I had to jump here and comment. My husband doesn't understand how attractive he is to me when he just goes off on whatever thing he learned about! Even dares to call it useless information. I have to tell him to stop talking to my husband that way sometimes!
Thanks for the video. I think this is one of your better ones. I'm too old for a relationship, but I still like to learn these things. If I fall through a wormhole and find myself back in time, I can use all of these things.
I will enlighten you guys about something, maybe it's obvious tho. The last young lady I went on 2 dates with said "you are a great date planner", and "you are easy to talk to", and she was even impressed that I volunteer, I mentor a freshman in high school. But when you don't make more money than her, she's out of there. Even when she tells you "you are so handsome. You look amazing!" Even when you run into her afterwards. Just want to inform you guys that looks, style, and demeanor aren't everything. Unfortunately with a lot of women (at least in DC) money is by far the #1. Stack your funds, Gentlemen.
Very true. I'm over 50 and in good shape and can count the amount of meaningful compliments I've received on one hand with a few fingers missing. 100% truth
I remember some older woman told me, "I love your swagger young man." I must've been in my early 20s at the time. I am 40 years old now. So like you said, men remember compliments
I believe some if not all of these could apply also to women. Definitely the one about curiosity in being open to growing intellectually. I find that very attractive and women, especially ones that are kind and two others.
Everybody’s favorite topic is themselves so highlighting their best attributes, listening to them and not judging will always make them associate you with good feelings
I'm not a curious person and I like living in my little world. I don't want to know too much. Some ignorance can be good. If I decide to date it will be with someone on my level like that and not a woman above my leauge. Some folks are happy to not know too much.
Being curious is a twist on Jordan Peterson's Rule 9 from his 12 Rules for Life - "Assume the person you are listening to might know something you don't". I am literally coming to the end of listening to the audiobook now. It's extremely inspiring
Most of the things discussed on this channel are true, that's why I never had a problem attracting women irl, but almost all of them were already taken for over 20 years so I'll put this down as fate or just bad luck (or rather lacking luck?), but online "dating" is different, actually a 180° flip where everyone is single but zero interest ie no likes/matches at all on any app. I just feel bad for guys much younger than me...
My advice for any of you, what also for me is also so hard to be humble and done! Just be honest withyourself and be who you are! Any of you! God luck!
Realizing that you are not an expert in everything is more like confidence in your understanding of a situation, as opposed to confidence in your ability to be invincible.
Forcing these traits can/will end in disaster, so fellas, remember her rule #1: be authentic. Have the maturity to be able to handle unexpected or unconventional people/conversations.
Did all these things, still had to delete and block that girl because she didn't want to respect me after my short incongruency finished again at the next day.
One psychologist explained the human as a dog running on fullspeed with a helium baloon tied to the tail. The dog is what we do and the choices we make and the baloon is our intellect trying to explain and defend it.
When I’m in a group setting, I don’t talk much. It’s too taxing on my brain for me to follow everything going on and I get burnt out so my brain just freezes and I become overly self conscious and I just sit there. Then I feel shame about having just sat there and then I feel like I’m being outcasted, then I realize that I am because people aren’t talking to me. One on one I’m fine, or in small groups of people that I’m close with. But anything else I feel like I constantly give off weak body language. It doesn’t help that I’m 5’2” so I feel small compared to everybody else.
@@daniellehotsky1776 Yeah and I feel like I have to always explain myself. Because when people meet me they think I’m a fucking star lol. I used to work in sales so I’m really good at meeting new people. I just struggle when I’m forced to “hang” in a group setting and make small talk and socialize. I can’t follow all the bullshit lol. Feel like I can never get a word in.
Asking people to have a decent personality these days seems to be an enormous task. I know this was for men but really this applies to everyone, men and women. Further, I've found women fail on all these points much harder than men. Far too often these days women are under the impression they just have to show up and 'things happen'.
I would never dis an ex to a new person. Mostly because I'm dear friends with nearly everyone I've dated. I don't see any sense in loving somebody for a period then feeling obligated to dislike them later.
I met a girl with nothing. Living under a bridge. And she was adorable! And we had an incredible dating life & I found her a home & it turned out sweet! It's not about having it all. *Society lies!*
How sad is it that I wouldn't have been at all surprised if it had turned out that the same homeless woman you met had said "Sorry, I prefer taller guys." Lol
Thank you for always being consistent with your videos, the quality of your content is exceptional, and is incredibly helpful, especially when things don't seem to make sense, when you always feel like you try your best, but something isn't working, which i feel is often because of past experiences, which is an unfortunate side effect of wanting to help everyone.
The problem with hobbies is that if you get serious about them, you pursue them without caring whether or not they are attractive to women. On the other hand, a wife who knows her husband has a serious hobby worries less about him straying.
Why is that a problem? If you are worried that women will find you unattractive because of your hobby, women find that level of self-consciousness decidedly unattractive.
A 41 year old guy who smokes cigarettes and drinks Scotch at a run down tavern says that he still lives at home with his dad and mom, who give him a $1200 monthly allowance.
I agree. How you speak positively or negatively about something/someone is always a bigger reflection on the person speaking. It's always nice to see someone at the very least keeping negativity to a minimum.
I literally do everything courtney says and not one person reciprocates anything. Im alone no matter how much you tell me change courtney and its making me too tired to care. I hope your channel has as much success and we do trying your lies.
00:29 🤔 Being genuinely curious about various things and people makes you more interesting and engaging. Asking great questions, actively listening, and having an open mind are attractive traits that lead to better conversations. 01:37 🧠 Curiosity demonstrates intellectual engagement and a desire to understand others deeply, making you more approachable and engaging in social interactions. 03:50 🎨 Having hobbies or passions showcases your well-roundedness, indicating an ability to handle diverse situations, fostering openness, and demonstrating confidence and passion. 05:38 🗓 Planning and executing, showing initiative in dating or life in general, demonstrates ambition, reliability, and responsibility, signaling stability and purpose, which are attractive qualities. 07:30 💬 Offering genuine compliments boosts others' self-esteem, establishes rapport, and displays kindness and sincerity, making you more likable and appealing. 09:08 😊 Speaking positively about others and avoiding excessive negativity portrays a positive character, fostering better connections and attractiveness. 11:54 🙌 Embracing humility, admitting faults, and being open to growth and learning are more attractive than projecting a know-it-all or overly confident attitude.
Courtney is absolutely the best "male advice" channel I've yet seen on youtube. The Negative Nanny "women are horrible" channels will have you guys living your WORST LIFE.
Yeah... Nah. Don't pretzlise your self fellas. The woman is NOT the destination for your ship, but if she's interested in your itinerary, perhaps you'll let her aboard for a journey or two together -- until you deport her, or she jumps ship! 👉Either way: The integrity of your ship is priority #1.(aka: the relationship of your self with your Self).
I would say for men, you should give genuine compliments but do so sparingly. The reason that I add that caveat is because most women are typically inundated with compliments, many of them based on their looks. If you give them out too often, it will lose its meaning because scarcity is what buttresses a compliment's value.
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How about you start preaching to women on habits to become real women? There are a lot more unattractive women in the world today - both physically with bull/pig nose rings looking like farm animals as well as having ugly characters?
😂
Valuable tips! Thank you Cortney 😊
Hey courtney, pls make more videos like the ones you did asking different ladies their opinions comparing 2 different men
1) Curiosity
2) Having a plan
3) Giving genuine compliments
4) Speaking positively about others, even about the bad people
5) be humble
Thanks for the summary. Cheers on you
It's all so simple and doesn't work
She talked a lot about hobbies too.
Well, i'm 4 for 5. I'm not humble.
What’s the 6th? 😂
My dad always told me never be afraid to give a compliment to someone or congratulate them. A real man, a good man makes the people around him feel good about themselves by being genuine and generous
Pretty good refresh.
1.) Curiosity is interest engaged. I think everyone should want to delve. Otherwise? The interaction is just a one way conversation with a wall put up. And who wants that?
ALSO) I LOVE FACTOR! I use them for quick "office food", and it's been extremely convenient for eating in between medical codes.
2.) Hobbies suggest that we live a fuller life. It's also a nice way to see compatibilities quickly. We see personality with what folks love.
3.) Plans and execution shows "critical timing and decision making". No one likes disorganized impromptu, which also leans to having folks think that there's no foresight. Heavily agreed on this.
4. & 5.) Genuine compliments - the easiest of random act of kindness. It's a nice icebreaker. And yes, it shows a person better attention to detail by observation.
At the same time? Speaking positively shows a brighter aura. As Monty Python suggests? "Always look on the bright side to life!" 😊
6.) I think humility is modesty. And also showing we are human. Humanistic traits make us relatable. And people love who and what they relate with. 😃
Great video. This is a great reminder to be more human. And be the best parts of being human. 😃
You know Courtney, I’ve been following your channel for a couple years now and I have to say that I enjoy just listening to your voice. It’s so calming and I can hear the kindness in your voice whenever you share advice. Keep going!
Thank you so much! You are so kind 🥹
She does have a nice voice. I rarely even “watch” her videos, I just listen to them in the car on the way to or from work.
@@CourtneyRyan You do have a good voice. You could do voice overs professionally.
Courtney, this is one of my favorite videos you've done for real. When you mention being honestly curious, an active listener, sincerely humble, keeping an open mind, it all points to having real authentic character. Also, Courtney you have modeled showing outstanding character that isn't fake through your content. I really love to give complements to people and it has changed my life. Healthy vulnerability is also something that isn't addressed enough.
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Hi Courtney: It warms my heart that you think these things are attractive. Beyond romantic or sexual chemistry, these are just good things to do, or good things to be, etc.
be approachable, curious 😂, have a hobby, be authentic🤣, be able to plan and execute… organized, prioritize, have a purpose with your life, give a genuine compliment. Don’t be lying. Don’t gossip, speak highly of others. Don’t trash talk last relationship. Don’t be cocky, don’t talk shit about yourself, don’t act like you know it all, be self aware. Say you don’t know.
Being humble and giving genuine compliments goes a really long way. I work in an environment where I see thousands of people every week and try to really make an extra effort to do this.
thankyou
I definitely agree with number 5. One of my friends a while back would always have some kind of drama to trash talk someone about every time I was around her and it was so offputting.
Vulnerability is my biggest struggle. Being positive or around positive people will manifest so much good in your life. It’s not woo woo just difficult to articulate. As someone who used to be very negative I was able to see the change.
Great stuff! 1 comment...Do NOT compliment women you aren't dating, especially at the work place. Basically anything can be considered sexual harassment. I also believe there are other factors when it comes to compliments. I went to 1 high school dance...a Sady Hawkins dance, at a different school, and I was asked to the dance by the girl. I was reluctant because I didn't really like her. But I said yes. When I picked her up, her dress was gorgeous. I told her she looked really pretty. We spent the night dancing and chatting. Afterwards I thought this is a girl I would like to see again. Never heard from her again. I tried getting in contact with her and her friend told me she doesn't want to see me again. I asked why. She said she thought it was creepy I said she was pretty and that she didn't want me stalking her...
In case anyone is wondering how to really mess up a young man...
So these are the words clipped from the triplets.
1:11--because curiosity (about what?) ;)
2:22--or they know something (uncertain--I'll get back to you when I find out if I know anything) ;)
3:33--get 50% off (oddly 1/2 the time I assessed) ;)
4:44--trying to be attractive (that implies effort=exercise=probably not) ;)
5:55--taking initiative (initiative is not the problem--it is right after that goes awry) ;)
6:66 (7:06)--values his time (I've been de-valued so much that time is now very high on the list) ;)
What do you mean by clipped from the triplets?
@@palliaskamen5722 111, 222, 333 etc. only on clock. Sometimes there is an odd synchronicity as in this video especially at 3:33 which is half of the six triplets that I went up to and she says "get 50% off". And naturally, other times it is completely meaningless without even one humorous aspect to it.
Being humble sometimes I enjoy humbling others much more. It makes the world a far better place.
I swear, Courtney is either the ultimate girlfriend, the ultimate wingman, or possibly the ultimate red flag... 😃
Everyone needs a Courtney in their life
Bruh. Ultimate grifter
She's from Cleveland. They're built different out there.
Oh please. I've not heard a single damn thing thats actually a revelation. Whether Courtney wants to believe it or not, but women are the problem. They will blow you off before you've even uttered a word. Women will insult you when you tell them no. Women will cheat on you because they can. Women can't bond with a man if he's not a 1%er.
No my friend, Women will first need to check their behavior before we can continue anything from our side.
@@smugforce7859 She is not a grifter. You want a grifter, go listen to Tim Pool.
@@SanVic you only see grifters if they're not attractive lol
Recently, I ended a friendship with someone who had nothing good to say about anyone in the workplace. Was draining to be around them, and I began to be associated with their negative outlook.
I was really hoping it was electromagnetism because I understand how that works 😢
curiosity is dissed .. they think your just a nerd who does care about the important things .. like football
Let us put your knowledge about electromagnetism into the "Hobbies" box and you are on track, buddy.
Hmm you are correctly POYNTING it 😜
Science is about being logical, has no place here.
I was hoping for video game playing stoner as a secret strat to being hot. Dang.
I'm 100% all of this, I'm a nice, genuine, humble, and caring guy. I'm 28 and currently casually dating 4 girls, and I'm not rich or muscular .I'm overweight around 250 lbs.6'2 and I'm planning to lose weight. Don't listen to guys that say "nice guys finish last" because that's it's not true ! I did it, and you can too!
it's EVERYTHING Courtney said!
well duh ur fucking 6"2 they dont care
Here in Cleveland one of our many radio stations, 105.7 FM, flipped the switch today and it's Christmas music for the remainder of the year.
Alrighty then, *let the festivities begin!*
I for one like having my Christmas music right after Halloween. I just wish our stations down here got a little more variety.
You're actually trying to help people and I commend this.
Regarding 'Compliments'.............I tried that ONCE!! I won't make that mistake again!!
I told a woman I work with that she smelled nice as she walked past me first thing in the morning!(at work)
Got screamed at, her exact words were ....'I ALWAYS SMELL NICE!!!.... WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY???
WHAT ARE TRYING TO SAY LIKE??? DON'T I USUALLY SMELL NICE????..........
Seriously!! And women wonder why men don't 'compliment' them any more!!.........THAT'S WHY!!
I often see comments like yours and always wonder why men don't get that women don't like personal comments like that. How someone smells is just far too personal unless you are actually in a relationship already. It just makes people feel embarrassed.
@@brianthesnail3815 How can a compliment EVER be anything but PERSONAL??? Women constantly spray themselves with perfume for just ONE REASON.........TO SMELL NICE!!! So why the hell would they be offended or 'embarrased' when someone compliments them about it?? As I already said I worked with this women for many months before one day complimenting her! It's not like she didn't know me, and I certainly wasn't 'creepy' about it!! The only thing she should of been 'embarrased' about, is the way she reacted!! Very childish and quite frankly, very RUDE!! But don't worry, I WON'T BE DOING IT AGAIN!!! FFS!!
@@ifitistobeitisuptome You have known the woman for 'many months' which I assume is less than a year. Trust me, that is way too personal a comment. I know men think it's a only a 'compliment' but yes it is personal. You are invading her space. I am a 60 year old man and have never commented on a woman's hair, clothes, appearance or perfume except my wife and only well after we started dating. Actually, it can come across as creepy no matter how well intended. I strongly advise young men not to do it.
I just broke up with my first bf because he was constantly negative. He always had something to complain about or criticize. It’s exhausting to be around
I am what I am, and while I want to grow and evolve, I'm not changing to cater to women. If they don't like it, step off and let the next one through
The matching nail polish and sweater color looks cool!
Genuine compliment - My God you're easy to look at. So well put together
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It amazes me sometimes that people can be so bitter about other people. That's not to say that speaking positively about someone is always easy, but my parents called #4 the Thumper rule. I really liked the advice in the video. Giving genuine compliments is something I have struggled with my entire adult life, and I am slowly getting better at it.
These habit’s definitely attract the people who you want to be hanging around with. Thank you for the insight, always inspired by videos like this 👍
Yes. They definitely kill relationship chances, but for friends there is no better than this advice.
Courtney's advice is great! And remember guys, it doesn't work with every woman, especially if you are in her "friend zone."
"Always be yourself, because everyone else is always taken." -unknown.
Great video and some food for thought. Thanks for this, it’s the minor things that us guys sometimes forget about. Will most definitely watch this again.
Oh my god yes just on the first point I had to jump here and comment. My husband doesn't understand how attractive he is to me when he just goes off on whatever thing he learned about! Even dares to call it useless information. I have to tell him to stop talking to my husband that way sometimes!
Thanks for the video. I think this is one of your better ones. I'm too old for a relationship, but I still like to learn these things. If I fall through a wormhole and find myself back in time, I can use all of these things.
I will enlighten you guys about something, maybe it's obvious tho.
The last young lady I went on 2 dates with said "you are a great date planner", and "you are easy to talk to", and she was even impressed that I volunteer, I mentor a freshman in high school. But when you don't make more money than her, she's out of there. Even when she tells you "you are so handsome. You look amazing!" Even when you run into her afterwards.
Just want to inform you guys that looks, style, and demeanor aren't everything. Unfortunately with a lot of women (at least in DC) money is by far the #1.
Stack your funds, Gentlemen.
I don't think Courtney understands how little men get complimented. I still remember when the old lady at the gas station called me handsome.
Very true. I'm over 50 and in good shape and can count the amount of meaningful compliments I've received on one hand with a few fingers missing. 100% truth
I remember some older woman told me, "I love your swagger young man." I must've been in my early 20s at the time. I am 40 years old now. So like you said, men remember compliments
My colleague (😂who is 38 and i am 24) say this morning , i am happy i have something nice to look to, and not to the other old womans here🤣👌🏼
@@risenmeqs9806In other words he just let you know - that he wants to f* you..
I enjoy compliments but living in a small town. I don't know when the Last time I've had one.
I believe some if not all of these could apply also to women. Definitely the one about curiosity in being open to growing intellectually. I find that very attractive and women, especially ones that are kind and two others.
She’s ok in what she’s said just learn and be yourself the truth hurts but it will make you grow into maturity
Everybody’s favorite topic is themselves so highlighting their best attributes, listening to them and not judging will always make them associate you with good feelings
I'm not a curious person and I like living in my little world. I don't want to know too much. Some ignorance can be good.
If I decide to date it will be with someone on my level like that and not a woman above my leauge. Some folks are happy to not know too much.
Being curious is a twist on Jordan Peterson's Rule 9 from his 12 Rules for Life - "Assume the person you are listening to might know something you don't". I am literally coming to the end of listening to the audiobook now. It's extremely inspiring
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Most of the things discussed on this channel are true, that's why I never had a problem attracting women irl, but almost all of them were already taken for over 20 years so I'll put this down as fate or just bad luck (or rather lacking luck?), but online "dating" is different, actually a 180° flip where everyone is single but zero interest ie no likes/matches at all on any app. I just feel bad for guys much younger than me...
Not trash talking my ex(es) when asked about them is very difficult. I believe its best to say, "It didn't work out because_____" then move on.
My advice for any of you, what also for me is also so hard to be humble and done! Just be honest withyourself and be who you are! Any of you! God luck!
Realizing that you are not an expert in everything is more like confidence in your understanding of a situation, as opposed to confidence in your ability to be invincible.
Forcing these traits can/will end in disaster, so fellas, remember her rule #1: be authentic.
Have the maturity to be able to handle unexpected or unconventional people/conversations.
Courtney what's your take on cologne for men, Solja Boy, SBOY for him and for her perfume ?????
Give Women Compliments, 8:19 compliments. I agree with her 100%
100% agree, thanks Courtney.
Did all these things, still had to delete and block that girl because she didn't want to respect me after my short incongruency finished again at the next day.
One psychologist explained the human as a dog running on fullspeed with a helium baloon tied to the tail. The dog is what we do and the choices we make and the baloon is our intellect trying to explain and defend it.
When I’m in a group setting, I don’t talk much. It’s too taxing on my brain for me to follow everything going on and I get burnt out so my brain just freezes and I become overly self conscious and I just sit there. Then I feel shame about having just sat there and then I feel like I’m being outcasted, then I realize that I am because people aren’t talking to me.
One on one I’m fine, or in small groups of people that I’m close with. But anything else I feel like I constantly give off weak body language. It doesn’t help that I’m 5’2” so I feel small compared to everybody else.
I have the same. :) you are just more introverted person. It's exhausting to be around many people. I feel better in small groups.
@@daniellehotsky1776 Yeah and I feel like I have to always explain myself. Because when people meet me they think I’m a fucking star lol. I used to work in sales so I’m really good at meeting new people. I just struggle when I’m forced to “hang” in a group setting and make small talk and socialize. I can’t follow all the bullshit lol. Feel like I can never get a word in.
Just found these videos - Courtney, you are my guru!
What states are better for dating (mentality/values)
Just been eating healthy food the last 9month and taking care my hygiene,love going to the golf gym nrl sports
Because I can always admit
When it comes to me
being a man
we don't always have the best judgment
when it comes to our behavior towards other people
Haven't watch it all so hoping being able to design data structures in java is top of the list.
That skill is so important, its too good to make it on the list 👌
Great video. Always love hearing your ideas and opinions
Asking people to have a decent personality these days seems to be an enormous task. I know this was for men but really this applies to everyone, men and women.
Further, I've found women fail on all these points much harder than men. Far too often these days women are under the impression they just have to show up and 'things happen'.
Merry Christmas and a happy, healthy New Year to you and yours Courtney
I like the way that Courtney talks. Good content. Cheers!
Love your channel, thanks you for simplifying things:)
I would never dis an ex to a new person. Mostly because I'm dear friends with nearly everyone I've dated. I don't see any sense in loving somebody for a period then feeling obligated to dislike them later.
You just got yourself a new subscriber. Thanks for the videos Courtney. They're really helping me in my self improvement.
I don't know, I have too many hobbies. Fishing, racing, sim racing, guitar playing. I think that is too many considering my work load lol
Great video Courtney. These are important traits and very attractive!
I met a girl with nothing.
Living under a bridge.
And she was adorable!
And we had an incredible dating life & I found her a home & it turned out sweet!
It's not about having it all.
*Society lies!*
How sad is it that I wouldn't have been at all surprised if it had turned out that the same homeless woman you met had said "Sorry, I prefer taller guys." Lol
Happy Diwali Courtney!!!!🪔🎇
Nailed it as usual Courtney!
You and Teddy are such a beautiful couple!! Congrats
Awesome insights ! Really love your mindset and way of thinking . High quality content 👌
Thnx Courtney for making men around the world more handsome.
Lots of love and rrspect from new delhi
India.
Thank you for always being consistent with your videos, the quality of your content is exceptional, and is incredibly helpful, especially when things don't seem to make sense, when you always feel like you try your best, but something isn't working, which i feel is often because of past experiences, which is an unfortunate side effect of wanting to help everyone.
Thanks
me: being curious, asking her couples of question
her: oh my god, what do you want!!!
The problem with hobbies is that if you get serious about them, you pursue them without caring whether or not they are attractive to women. On the other hand, a wife who knows her husband has a serious hobby worries less about him straying.
Why is that a problem? If you are worried that women will find you unattractive because of your hobby, women find that level of self-consciousness decidedly unattractive.
Great video! I learned something new!
Love the colour of your top ... dark 🤎
Courtney dankie vir goeie advies! DIt klink goed!
The ability to cook makes women attractive
Thank you very much, Courtney. On point. Very true. You rocks, girl.
Thank you Courtney, I now Own a piece of Helfy 75 foods !! Thank you for your business
Real men appreciate you ! You helping a lot of people !
Love your videos! And nice save at 9:39
Daaamn you're so already so mature it's crazy. Some people are even living at their moms house with 35+
A 41 year old guy who smokes cigarettes and drinks Scotch at a run down tavern says that he still lives at home with his dad and mom, who give him a $1200 monthly allowance.
You need money. Anything after that is a bonus. There are few examples of woman who chooses a guy with these traits over the guy with money.
Refraining from pooping your pants on dates is key
I agree. How you speak positively or negatively about something/someone is always a bigger reflection on the person speaking. It's always nice to see someone at the very least keeping negativity to a minimum.
I literally do everything courtney says and not one person reciprocates anything. Im alone no matter how much you tell me change courtney and its making me too tired to care. I hope your channel has as much success and we do trying your lies.
Well you're atheist so there's that 😏 🤷🏻
Be ready on time or go alone (my time is just as valuable as yours)
00:29 🤔 Being genuinely curious about various things and people makes you more interesting and engaging. Asking great questions, actively listening, and having an open mind are attractive traits that lead to better conversations.
01:37 🧠 Curiosity demonstrates intellectual engagement and a desire to understand others deeply, making you more approachable and engaging in social interactions.
03:50 🎨 Having hobbies or passions showcases your well-roundedness, indicating an ability to handle diverse situations, fostering openness, and demonstrating confidence and passion.
05:38 🗓 Planning and executing, showing initiative in dating or life in general, demonstrates ambition, reliability, and responsibility, signaling stability and purpose, which are attractive qualities.
07:30 💬 Offering genuine compliments boosts others' self-esteem, establishes rapport, and displays kindness and sincerity, making you more likable and appealing.
09:08 😊 Speaking positively about others and avoiding excessive negativity portrays a positive character, fostering better connections and attractiveness.
11:54 🙌 Embracing humility, admitting faults, and being open to growth and learning are more attractive than projecting a know-it-all or overly confident attitude.
Courtney is absolutely the best "male advice" channel I've yet seen on youtube. The Negative Nanny "women are horrible" channels will have you guys living your WORST LIFE.
They are bussin in this video and her skin is glowing 🥵
Yeah... Nah. Don't pretzlise your self fellas.
The woman is NOT the destination for your ship, but if she's interested in your itinerary, perhaps you'll let her aboard for a journey or two together -- until you deport her, or she jumps ship!
👉Either way: The integrity of your ship is priority #1.(aka: the relationship of your self with your Self).
2:11 jbp 12 rules of life
I would say for men, you should give genuine compliments but do so sparingly. The reason that I add that caveat is because most women are typically inundated with compliments, many of them based on their looks. If you give them out too often, it will lose its meaning because scarcity is what buttresses a compliment's value.
Courtney Ryan I’m a big fan of you’re Chanel I just started watching you’re videos recently can you do a video about “ GIRLS who are clout chaser’s “ and why they only go after the guys who have MONEY 💴
I wear my suit a lot and women like it compliments every time.
These all will work in another reality on earth 3
Is there a difference?