Matchmakers Advice: Are Short Guys "Date-Worthy?"
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- Опубликовано: 19 окт 2024
- Short men seem to get the short stick in the dating world on average, being seen as "lesser than" their tall counterparts.
Join Master Certified Matchmaker Genevieve Gresset and Certified Dating Coach/Matchmaker Heather Drury as they give advice to a man's dating dilemma of rejection based on his physical appearance.
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Since Tinder height is no longer a preference. It's a requirement.
Tinder is the worst way to meet people.
I’m going to say this once again, It’s not the guy’s confidence, but hers. Guys have to find the woman that feels confident about them(the guy). Yes the best guys can do is to be at your physical and financial peak, but each woman is different and the more options a woman has, the more picky she can get. Some women don’t feel confident about dating a guy that’s short, fat, or too masculine. Some women don’t want to date a short guy because that guy will be shorter than her friend’s boyfriends/husbands, thus giving her the insecurity. Or they only feel confident based on their friends/family’s approval or if she knows the guy will intimidate her ex-in some shape or form. Also by having a taller guy, means other guys will think twice about hitting on her.
I met a woman that said she does not want to date a short guy because her kids would be short. This can be proven by simply going to a sperm bank and the minimum height is 5’9 or 5’10 because the sperm that’s shorter than that usually expires because no woman selects it. ITS A REAL THING.
Women will never give up their height requirements.
True. They’re always a flight risk. It happened to me twice and I’m 5’7.
I thought the girls was committed but as soon as a Denzel at work, church or elsewhere came around, I could tell when a change in attitude or habits would arise. One girl broke things off with me with the “Nice” guy cliche and I met her at church. The other girl tried to engage senseless conflict over me going home once a month.
These ladies talk like women think rationally about relationships. ha!
It is NOT all about confidence, that is BS.
I hope all tall men out there know that she only sees you as a status symbol to impress her friends. If you were not tall, she’d kick your ass to the curb just like the rest of us.
I think women who only care about height are insecure and they just wanna show off how good they look with their partner. Like thinking about it it's just so dumb that some people would choose a tall man who has a really bad personality over a shorter guy who would give them the world.
My boyfriend is 5'6 and I am 5'9 and we are in a loving relationship. Always wanting to evolve and staying loyal to each other.
I really hope shorter guys know there are women who don't care about stupid things like this 🥰 there are so many possibilities so don't give up!
@@lediaaa23 women who don't care about height are very few and far between. I would say 95% care about height to some degree. There are the minimum height girls who set their height bar at 5'10, 6', 6'2", etc. There are the "at least 2 inches taller than me in my favorite 5 inch heels" girls and the "at least as tall as me" girls. Even if you do meet her height requirements, you have to compete with taller men and men under 5'8" don't stand much of a chance unless they have something else that makes them exceptional.
I am a guy who is 5’4” after being rejected by about every western woman I ever showed interest in, I got my passport and ended up marring a very good looking Asian girl 17 years younger than me. 12 years later we are doing great with 2 beautiful daughters!
Amen! That's living the dream. I'm also short and a convert to Buddhism. My goal is to work remotely in move to either SE Asia or Nepal. America has passed its peak, for reasons other than dating and marriage.
Congrats, you dodge a bullet with western women. They are the worst.
What country did you find her?
Fellow 5'6 guy here reporting in.
Best advice for short guys. Forget about dating, short women is more strict in the hight requirement.
These women were basically laughing at the guy and just want his money. And giving him a bunch of bulshit advice. They know very well how hard it for a short guy to get a date. They most likely never dated a short guy and never will themselves.
They just want your money.
Accept that you are fucked when it comes to attracting women and then move on from there. Ps: professionals don't descriminate about hight. Although they do discriminate agaist race sometimes.
Anyways, be happy that you are healthy and have a job and enjoy life.
Truth top to bottom
No Lies Told . Just Get a Escort .
The dude Abides
True brother
I feel bad for this man trying to find help. I'm 48 years old and short at 5'5 as well as completely bald ( if I don't shave my head I'd have the Patrick Stewart hairline) since 22 years old. For the past 32 years, I have been rejected by thousands of women for being too short no matter if the woman was 4'10 or 5'10. How do I know it's because of my height? Well, it's because women boldly tell me things like "Your not tall enough to be a real man", "Sorry but I like wearing heels too much", and the one I hear the most is "I don't do short guy thing". Those are the nicest rejections I received that were mentioned for my height. I don't like mentioning things I have done to prove what I bring to the table because then it makes me sound like I am entitled to have a relationship which I know doesn't work that way but DAMN! I sacrificed so much and work so hard to achieve where I am right now to be independent, financially stable, and even able to travel to the world with a spouse with low-cost benefits. I retired from the Military after 20 years so I have decent retirement benefits that I could share with my wife and kids if we had any. I had my own businesses such as art studios and photography along with a lot of things I like doing as interesting hobbies. I always get compliments on my dressing style and charisma, and generally how I treat people because I love people and socializing. I don't like talking about myself like this but it seems after 32 years of being single and rejected by thousands for my height and at 48 years old it doesn't really matter anymore what I say and I just want to make an example to show the possibilities women miss out when they judge a man by his height and not the substance of what's in his heart. I have been on a few dates over the years however it seems that the only women who will consider white or black men who are 5'6 and shorter normally are morbidly obese women with 3-5 kids from other men and it just seems they are settling for us if we have resources to help raise her kids. Short Hispanic and Asian men have a better chance of dating within their own race because I guess stereotypically 5'5 is average for a man in their race. It's like women of every race see that black and white man are supposed to be at least 5'9 by default other wise any shorter than we are considered birth defects. Seriously, look at sperm bank requirements and you will see one of the requirements for a man to deposit sperm is he has to be no shorter than 5'9 or 5'10. I know I can't be that bad of a guy since a lot of rejections received with women mentioning a "great" personality, sense of humor, and a lot to offer but followed by "I just can't do the short guy thing". Why give a compliment during a rejection when the thing I'm being rejected for is something I can't change about myself (my height). I like being short, I'm 5'5 and according to statistics only 5% of American men are my height I like standing out from the crowd and my attitude toward being short is I like being short because it betters my chances of meeting a woman who taller than me (and heels are welcomed anytime). I paid $8,000 to a personal matchmaker service where you go in face to face and meet the matchmaker for a three-hour interview. I told them I don't care what race or how tall a woman is or if she even has a job or not, all I want is someone that has no kids because I don't have any of my own and not morbidly obese to the point they can enjoy my active lifestyle. All they called me with to match me had 3-5 kids Exactly what I told them I didn't want. Even a woman missing both her arms rejected me saying I don't do the short guy thing lol I liked her because she was funny with a good personality and carried herself well, we had a lot in common and we laughed a lot. When I finally asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and meet in person the first thing she asked "how tall are you?" I said 5'5 and the last message I got from her was "sorry I don't do the short guy thing" and never heard back from her again.
i am 44 years old, 5ft7, not balding btw and can tell exactly the same story. Got rejected my whole life. still a virgin. I believe him 100%. Its just facts.
Sorry man dating market is awful right now, just like every other market at the moment honestly. Also don't give your money to "match makers", it's always a scam that never goes anywhere (unless you're tall/good looking).
@@Mikewee777 I have no desires to be a content creator.
alexander the great was 5'1. james deen 5'6.
@@TheDevi78 its an excuse man. there are other issues. probably lack of confidence for starters. Maybe too nice as well. An old-school gentleman. doesn't work. 5'8 here. Actually 5'7 3/4 . been with my share of hot chicks. Im 61 and still can pull. Personality and confidence -- actually believing it -- is big. Its not bs. you have to exude that confidence and know how to talk to them. I had a lot of practice from the time I was a young man though. If what you say is true, don't give up. figure out what works. Check out youtuber -- skills of attraction for starters. dress well. Important. also what can you offer. Your still young enough. What's the worse thing that can happen. they say no. laugh it off. it's all in the head man -- not your height. I got rejected a lot too. its part of the game.
Sizist? Do you mean not being attracted to obese people? The difference is that one is controllable and indicative of a healthy life style, while the other is determine by your gene pool. Beside, attraction to a specific trait is not discriminatory.
Guys women can always hook up with a 6f tall that she likes so much. Women ha e absolutely no reason to hook up with a short guys. In fact most women rather hook up forever with a 6f guy hopping that one will commit than to give a short guy a chance.
We short men are not being rejected we are not being considered at all.
Women woukd rather work hard all they lives then to end up with a guy like us. Apparently being short is the worst possible thing you can be in this day and age. Even rich short men have trouble finding a date.
Best to forget about dating these women (we are just not what they want) and find other interesting things in life.
Absolutely correct. We are the unattractive men of our species. (Search peacock mating) tall men are attractive naturally. Her mind and body response to his presence, not us short men.
Fellas, life ain't fair. VALIDATION come from inside and is internal. External validation makes it easier but is temporary.
As a 5’3” man, women only see me as friend material.
100, both there husbands are 6ft
Lmaoooo
Thanks for this video. I'm even smaller than the guy who wrote in- I'm 5'-4" and 100 pounds. However, I've never felt insecure about my height and weight. In fact, I actually like being a smaller guy. However, I don't like women's unrealistic expectations. But there are lots of 5'-2" women and I wouldn't mind dating someone 5'-6". If she doesn't want to, it's her loss.
I feel like those stats on women's height are skewed by age (younger cohorts are taller) or vary by area. All the woman I see on dating apps around me are generally 5'4 or taller. I'd say around 90 percent. I don't particularly care if a woman is taller than me, but I don't seek those woman out either. (I'm 5'4 btw). Those are just the woman that appear. And like you say, its not like short woman aren't looking for tall guys as well. As for guys being "sizeist", its not like " heavier" woman are without standards.
I'm 31 and 5'8 tall.
Have never had a girlfriend.
It's a really awkward height because you're tall enough where no one feel's sorry enough to give you a chance, but you're not tall enough to be seen as ''regular/ normal''
I think height is just one aspect of the struggle, you really have to be in the goldilocks zone of being around 6ft tall, educated, high-income earner, independent, not to much/ not to little amount of body hair, well groomed and well styled, politically agreeable, have hobbies and a strong friendship group etc.
I don't have that stuff.
If I don't have anyone inspiring me to do better I simply wont.
Women, despite often themselves being underdeveloped as adults, don't have time for a ''project'' boyfriend.
They have like 15 years to work through a rugby team's worth of men in order to find a suitable breeding match before their eggs are low-viability and they can't make babies.
Such is life.
It sounds like you're feeling frustrated and stuck, and I can understand how that would be tough. Height, while it can feel like a big deal, is just one factor among many in relationships. What's really important is focusing on becoming the best version of yourself for you, not just to meet others' expectations. Instead of waiting for someone to inspire you, finding motivation within yourself is key-working on your confidence, passions, and growth will naturally attract the right people. Relationships thrive on emotional connection, mutual respect, and personal fulfillment, and you'll find someone who values you for more than just a checklist.
Those 5'2 women all want guys over 6' tall
You had 2 relationships already, you are lucky, I am 26 in a month and didn't have none at all.
Short women demand tall men, not just men who are taller than them. What on earth are you thinking?
relationships are all about initial attraction. for these ladies to say its about confidence or humour or whatever and itz not height is pure BS and insensitivity to the fact that none of that (humor confidence etc etc) comes into play when you dont even get to first base because that women doesn't even consider you because of your height. And Im not even getting into the number thing meaning tall guys get infinitely more chances right out off the gate. Come on be real people
Guys 5'5 and under should not waste time dating.
I’m 5’3” and seriously feel like only half a man. Going bald too. It’s just not fair that I will never reach my full genetic potential.
@@Josh-fp2qn YUP just get a REAL DOLL and study MGTOW you'll thank me!
I find shorter men are more serious, driven, and loyal. Not sure why and I’m sure some tall men are this way but shorter men just seem way more in their masculine energy to me.
It's great that you notice those traits in shorter men! Confidence, drive, and loyalty can definitely shine through, regardless of height. Masculine energy really comes from within.
Being turned down and played by women you may not understand this..we cant be confident because that would be lying and imposter syndrome we give up because of your cruelty and become stone cold and hard from your words until there is nothing left worth loving nobody kindness or softness left.
Im 5'6' bald virgin who never even kissed a woman, I'm not ashamed of being short but its just the impossible levels of compensation it has to take for women to find me attractive is daunting. It doesn't matter how much money or how much sucess women are still gonna look at my height, theres no way passed that reality.
I understand how challenging and discouraging that can feel, but remember that attraction is more than just about height. While it may seem like an uphill battle, building confidence in yourself, focusing on personal growth, and embracing what makes you unique can often make a bigger impact than you think. Success and self-assurance tend to attract people who value you for who you are, beyond just physical traits. Don’t lose hope-confidence can change how others see you.
I am short, and I wish I was a few inches shorter. I prefer courting a girl who is taller than me, provided she is a strong Christian and is more emotionally, and physically, and spiritually mature than I am, and can hold me close and not feel like I am crushing her, and who does not want children.
I love kids, but I am like a boy myself in some ways, and do not have the temperament necessary to deal with misbehaving children.
The ways in which I am like a small boy are no let to my life, or living in the real world.
That being said, I have no problem liking a girl who is either shorter than me or who is exactly my height.
Was about to type that the statement of your dating pool consisting of all those below your height assumes that women just want someone tallER than they are. However, the speaker on the left contradicted herself as I was about to type this; she acknowledges that a very short woman can still have a height requirement well above her own height. Accept it or not, dating is a competition. In this competition, you are most certainly being judged against other potential romantic interests. For women, height is most certainly a weighted requirement.
You're right that dating often feels like a competition, and people do have their preferences, including height. It's true that some women may prioritize height more than others, even if they're shorter themselves. However, it’s also worth noting that while height might be one factor, many people ultimately value connection, compatibility, and shared values more than physical traits alone.
I am short (approximately five feet and five inches tall), and I wish I was slightly shorter by a few inches. I have liked and still like girls who are shorter than me and who are exactly my height, but not because I am taller, it has to do with their external beauty, and body shape, and what they are wearing. I was born heterosexual, and choose to remain heterosexual, so beauty and fashion are huge factors for me.
That said, I prefer girls who are taller than me because I can barely take care of myself, and I want to be with a girl who can take care of me not only physically in some ways, but also emotionally. I am feminine in that I am very emotional and dramatic, and I do not say that as a bad thing. The Lord God made me the way I am for a reason.
I have no problem at all with a girl wearing high heels even if she is already taller than me. I prefer another kind of shoe, and that has nothing to do with how taller that makes the girl look; it has to do with something I have thought about since I was very young that is too personal to share online.
What matters more to me than how tall or how short a girl is is she a Christian, and her personality, and her political views, and tastes in food, and music, and bookes, and movies. I do not mind if she is more emotionally, and physically, and spiritually mature than I am, provided she does not rub it in my face like a boy I knew once upon a time.
I love children, but I have no desire to be a father because I have not the temperament to deal with a miscreant boy or girl. I also have no interest in carnal copulation because I have a bad back, and do not want to risk my back seizing up. Hugging and cuddling is as far as I am willing to go regarding intimacy with a girl. I am okay with playing musical chairs with a female friend, and if I happen to sit with her when the music stops, that is just fine with me.
Honestly Americans are obsessed with height. Possibly because of your strong sense of loving sports like basketball. I live in the UK. Lots of shorter guys in relationships over here.
It's true that height seems to be a bigger focus in certain cultures, especially in places like the U.S. where sports like basketball are more popular. In the UK, it does seem like there's less emphasis on height when it comes to relationships. It's refreshing to see how different cultures value different traits!
You ask, “Why!” A woman once told me that she wanted a son who could be a basketballer, and a short father would not produce one.
They are working with some stats from 1970. The average height man is not 5 foot 8 and and the average woman is not 5 foot 2 to 5 foot three.
In the USA today, those averages are closer to 5 foot 10 and 5 foot 5.
This is why the guy is having such difficult difficulties at 5 foot six. Because the majority of women are not even interested in dating a man of average height, much less 4 inches below average height. FACTS
I see your point, and height averages have certainly shifted over time. While it’s true that many women may prefer taller men, it’s important to remember that attraction goes beyond just physical traits like height. Confidence, personality, and emotional connection often weigh more heavily in long-term relationships. Focusing on what makes you unique can be more valuable than focusing on stats.
You've got a clue about how short men feel, ladies. No offence, but that was the worst advice ever.
By the way, it's not 2%, it's 14% per cent of the population who are 6ft and over.
Let's meet halfway and say that I ain't.
No
ngl ; i used to be short. got constantly mocked for it during dating. but as soon as i ( late bloomer ) shoy up to 5'11 ? the SAME WOMEN came back trying to pretend they didnt trash me for years. sure , the sex was fun ; but thats all they get now is a pump/dump ; seems thats what they liked previously , so why not get my turn on the carousel?
and as for the " men are size-ish and women are height-ist" . no man cares about a womans height ; you cant change that.
i cant sit there and say " okay body , grow 4 inches!" and have it happen.
women however CAN control how many cookies they shovel into their mouth. at least men have a preference for something " women can CONTROL"
p.p.s. = you cant " see confidence" , but you CAN see height. attraction is " instant". try again.
-There’s nothing wrong with being “sizest.” Both men and women should naturally be unnattracted towards unhealthy traits. No one is meant to be obese.
-There’s nothing wrong with “high standards.” Every person of both sexes should not settle or lower their standards. To you, your significant other should catch your eye from across the room. If the woman if fundamentally attracted to taller men, let her marry a taller man. If a man is fundamentally attracted to taller women in an area where none are available, let him leave and continue his search. If he finds no one, it’s better to die alone, than to settle.
-Men who are short should stop looking for validation from women who have already rejected them in person. Instead, focus on yourself until you become the best version of yourself. Continue your search without coming across as desperate. Also, a woman that can be bought isn’t worth having.
I understand your points about preferences and high standards, and it's important not to settle for less than what aligns with your values. However, empathy is crucial when discussing body image and health-everyone’s journey is different, and focusing on well-being over appearance is more positive. Improving oneself should always come first, and confidence grows from personal growth rather than seeking external validation. Rejection happens, but it’s part of the process of finding someone who values you for who you truly are.
I’m pretty sure these women helped out a lot of guys and are very good at what they do but everything that they’re saying is complete bullshit. It’s always gonna be a hype when it comes to win especially now in the social media and dating app
My friends have boyfriends who are 6 ft or taller. If I bring a guy along who's not AT LEAST as tall as they are, that would not make me look good 😅
I respect your honesty.
You are competing with your friends and worried about their judgement.
Question. Do you think this is a mature approach to dating?
So you're not actually looking for "love", you just want a trophy. Got it.
And people wonder why divorce is so rampant
This comment is a prime example
@@paulinejackson5861 What an honest statement. The best one yet. I wish all women would be the same as you.
Homie im 5'8 and its been brought up as a problem many times
Which is insane, 5'8 is an inch under average. Delusion has hit preposterous proportions.
I think these women have no idea how cut throat this world is for short dudes
I get where you're coming from, and it can definitely feel like the world is tougher for shorter guys in the dating scene. Sometimes it might seem like certain perspectives don’t fully grasp the added difficulties, but the key is to stay true to yourself. Focusing on self-confidence and your personal strengths can help you stand out in ways that go beyond physical traits.
Women won’t take accountability for anything lol
I think it really depends on the person, not just the gender.