I’m out as a bisexual & a closeted non binary but I’m scared to come out to my parents cause even though my mum’s bi and my parents are fine with me liking girls as well, I’m pretty sure they might be transphobic. Especially my dad... idk.. I’m just rlly scared to come out to them cause i feel like they won’t respect my pronouns or call me Rossie instead of my birth name, and idk if I can deal with knowing my parents refuse to accept who I am.. :/
If they love you now, why would they care. It's like you dyed your hair and they don't like the colour. Edit: I don't know your situation, you might not feel as though it is right for you to do so.
Something that you could consider doing is talking to them about a non binary/transgender person and seeing how they react. Then you might know a little bit about how they would feel if you came out to them.
I saw a youtube short that brought me to your page. I am a 45 year old married woman who thought she was broken my whole life. It wasnt until my very late 30s early 40s that I realized that I am ACE. My husband is 10000% supportive of me (we have been married since 1995) and the relief and profound depth of knowing WHO and WHAT I am is amazing. And i still haven't told my parents (who are both Baptist and in their mid to late 70s) your bravery is amazing and thank you for the short and these videos. You make a big difference in many many lives.
You’re such a fighter, you’re one of the pest people that I know even if it’s only mainly one sided but you’re such a wonderful person and you’re such a role model to the lgbtq+ youth and you’re such an amazing person 💚🌈 🏳️🌈
I think people at school kind of caught on to the fact that I’m non binary even though I haven’t come out yet because of something that happens on multiple occasions. Someone: LETS DO BOYS VS GIRLS TEAMS IN SOCCER me before anyone can say anything: NO. NOT HAPPENING. *awkward silence* Teacher: uhhhh okay then? Laurenzo you inspire me so much your story gives me hopes that this could be me in the future if I hold on and keep going. You are strong and brave for everything you’ve gone through and I’m infinitely proud of you. Thank you ❤️
My goodness! What you said was so strong and I feel so empowered! You truly are fantastic and I'm just blown away by your grit to keep going and never give up!
@@adesso.laurenzo Of course! You've been so wonderful in helping me understand who I am and how I should act and be how I want to be, not based on the boxes that society puts around us.
Thanks for sharing that, I am so sorry your family used religion in that way. My Christian friend/youth workers are the reason i am happy as NB but I know my dad is the same as yours (for want of a better way to put it.) Thanks again though. Every think you post makes me fell stronger as NB.
Compliant sandwiches are so toxic (compliment sandwich is a compliment something mean then another compliment to cover the mean thing) 🥺 I’m so sorry you had to go through this with your family, you’re so strong!
You r sooooooooo brave , we r all so proud of u for being strong and for keep fighting through everything ,u r such a huge inspiration to so many people including myself 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚it’s Zaynub by the way 😊
I'm really sorry for all of that, no one should go through that, but I'm glad that you are doing better now and don't have that toxic family anymore! You deserve better! Thank you so much for sharing, it helps us, and we love you!💖💚💖
My twin had always been expected to be the lgbtq one all my life, and recently they have come out as non-binary... but then there’s me. Hi! I am AFAB and a Demi-boy! I am Demisexual and closeted. I am in love with my best friend and am struggling with how to come out to my parents. Throughout my life, before I even knew about genders or lgbtq+, I was always wondering if here was ever a way for me to be able to live as more than one gender. It was more of just a fantasy at the time. Rather than dreaming of walking down the isle, I dreamed of being able to okie day identify as a male and nothing would change and vise-versa. However, now, I am not really sure what to do. Your videos have inspired my so much and I love your work. You are truly passionate about helping LGBTQ youth and people struggling. I am really happy that I was able to find you and you are one of the few lights at the end of the dark tunnel. Thank you so much, and you are a very strong and beautiful person. We all are! 🟥🟧🟨🟩🟦🟪⬛️⬜️🟫
Your so brave telling this story. It must be very hard for you as well to explain about the family’s opinion on the LGBTQ community. That you moved on and you started to get stronger the more the time came. Your so inspiring especially for teens at a young age. Your a ⭐️. 🥳
I'm so glad that I found someone who can relate. People act like there is only disowning or accepting, but you can be a terrible parent and still look fine to everyone else😭🤧
I see myself a lot into your journey, My parents manipulate my life and they always did. They told me that they accepted that I like girls and at the same time they constantly remind me that I need a man, I need a family, that is a phase, that i want attention, that it’s because I don’t like myself enough for a man. When I was with my ex boyfriend they spoiled me with things that I didn’t even needed, they were so happy and told me that I was cured. They called all the members on my family to celebrate the fact that I was finally sane again. It took me years to realise how toxic they are and always been. Few turata ago I found out that I’m non binary and I already know that I will never be able to tell it to them. It’s an indescribable pain when the people that know you the most, that are supposed to love you can’t and won’t understand you. So yeah thank you for the video I fell less alone
Lauren, I have had the fortunate experience of becoming your chosen family and watching you transform, heal and thrive through this over the years. You have truly risen from under what you experienced and i am so happy. This expression was so real and so touching. I hope it was amazingly cathardic for you and truly helpful for those who are coming out. I love you Laurenzo! You the bomb, yo!
you just make me want to be your friend, you have such a beautiful soul and I'm so glad you talked about this because I feel more confident in myself and the fact that I'm nonbinary and bi, thank you so much for sharing. 💛
Oh wow these texts are like carbon copies of the ones my father sent me! Crazy how coming out stories share these universal themes. My situation is sort of a combination of yours and my sister tho I ended up running away from home and getting free boarding at college until I broke down from the stress and got pink slipped by the police. Luckily I got out of psychiatric care and after a lot of drugs, survival sex, and walking the streets, I put my pride aside and went home to my parents... with a lot of shame and lies to explain things off. Still over year later I’m living at home in a pretty comfy “don’t ask don’t tell” situation and I’m publicly out. I think there’s a lot of “be yourself” rhetoric that gets thrown around in the queer community that’s really harmful for kids. Thank you for emphasizing in your videos that sometimes coming out isn’t always the best option when you’re young and dependent.
My bonus-child came out recently. It was unexpected but my husband and I are educating ourselves and trying to help them with what they need. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s very brave to make yourself vulnerable to help others in their journey. I will be sharing some of your videos with them.
My little brother came out to us when he was 13. We were like, “yeah… no shit, kiddo… clean your room”. When he was in his twenties he complained that he was missing this shared common experience with his peer group of having a “coming out story” that was painful and scary. Hey, Laurenzo… I’m guessing by the architecture that you’re in the same general geographic location as I am. I have lots of alphabet folx in my community. I have pre and post top and/or bottom mtf and ftm peoples. Blood don’t mean shit. Family is who you choose to love. I have personally gone as a silent support when friends needed to see their families. Choose your people.
this really helped me as I only have came out as bi, but still need some time to find my gender and coming out was really hard the first time! Also knowing my family is not very supportive of other genders will make it harder. Thank you so much for posting!
I marvel at people like you who posses the strength and compassion to consider how it will effect your little brother before you unburden yourself by coming out. Its people like you that keeps me optimistic. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Laurenzo, you are so strong and brave. I am agender, and my parents are luckily very supportive but I am having a similar problem at school. I can;t wait until I can walk away, thanks for giving me more confidence that it’s them, not me.
That was rough. I don’t know what to say. I think it’s kind of amazing that you’re the way you are and I know a lot of hard work went into that. I really hope this video gets into the hands of someone who really needs it. 💚
I am so proud of u for doing this. So much courage. Fearless!! Laurenzo. You are a fighter, you are an amazing human!! 💚💚💚You are an amazing person, that is such an inspiration. 💚💚💚You have a new family with everyone on TikTok and here on RUclips!! 💚💚💚 We have a great build up with everyone because of you. A safe place if you will. We love you💚💚💚 -Jaz
*subbed* much love from Vancouver Canada ❤️ ugh I feel for you and I love you thank you for sharing your life with us 🙏😭 you're literally so strong!! You're right this does help being sad sucks but it makes doing everything else alot easier because nothing else comes close to the sadness 😔💔 I feel for you you're so amazing, lean into the fears!!! Let's GOOOOOO 🔥
adesso.laurenzo yes pls!!! Life is a roller coaster and we all trying to make sense of it all , so grateful to have a light like you despite everything going on’ blessings to you always !!
You’ve helped me so much. You wouldn’t even know it. You’ve helped me feel like I belonged and that this could be ME in the future. Content and confident with who I am and can live their truest self. Since I cannot do that now, I can only imagine. Imagine this will be me soon enough. If I am patient enough. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm late to your channel and came to know you by your very informative but comical shorts.(.You look gorgeous with the red hair btw.) But seeing this and realising how brave and yet how sad you have been since you were young made me teary and a little angry on your behalf that you were not supported when you needed it, that you were blamed for things that couldn't possibly be your fault and gaslit by ppl who were meant to Love and protect you. Never feel you are to blame for the actions of others. Your channel really inspires and educates but I'm quite sure it also saves ppl who feel isolated as you once did. I'm so so happy that you are more at peace.with yourself. Even in your shorts your kindness and empathy is visible through your eyes, I know that sounds a bit soppy but it's true. You're a truly caring person , who feels things very deeply. But you are stronger than you know.🌸 In a 🌎 as corrupt and heartless as this, empathetic ppl get hurt and feel hurt deeper than the rest but they also feel and give joy so much more. It warms the heart to know you feel much more content now 💓 . Take Care 🌈🌺 xx
You are one of the most strongest person I know and u have help me through so much and that u are such a idol to me and when I saw ur TikToks I noticed that I and pansexual and nothing with stop me from been just like u xx💛🤍💜🖤 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 love u
You look so beautiful in this video. It just occurred to me. Physically beautiful, but emotionally too. You are so loved now Laurenzo. Sending you mental green hearts that my computer won't facilitate. - Kai
You are so strong and I came out to my parents last summer as bi and 2 months ago I came out as genderfluid. My dad is supporting but the words he uses makes me feel a bit weird. My dad still wasn’t really understood the whole gender thing and ig it’s ok at least he has understood my bf coming out at trans. My mom has supported me through all of it no doubts or anything! She is the first person I told for both changes for me.
You are honestly so amazing and inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story and being so strong bc it is so empowering and helpful! Thank you so much! I love you and your content, you are awesome💕💕
"Bible verses were shared." That's too bad. Religion shouldn't be used as a weapon... depending on how you define it, at that point isn't not spirituality anymore. But good on you for making this video; you're helping lots of people! Let me know if I can ever help. Fwiw, I stopped talking to everyone in my family for about 5 years, and I never talked to my father again before he passed. It might sound harsh, but no regrets here...
I’ve only recently joined the fan base (thx TikTok) but your videos mean so much to me and you’ve inspired so many people to be who they are so thank you💚💚💚 we all love you so much💚💚
I love this so much!! You are so brave and keep going/fighting! I know you don’t know me but you are such an inspiration for me and tons of other people! Thank you so much for sharing and I love you’re Tik Tok family so much! It’s such a positive and happy place to be!
Your story sounds so similar to what I'm afraid of. I'm not out but maybe one day I'll be brave enough. Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a brave person ❤️
You are so amazing. You have struggled so much and you are still a very good person. I just want you to know that I look up to you and admire you so, so much. I am out as bisexual to my family and friends, but I have not told anybody that I am gender-fluid yet. I’ve been planning and preparing to tell my parents and my twin brother, I’ve even been making a little speech to explain what being gender-fluid is, since my family does not know very much about the LGBTQ community. I am still incredibly nervous because I go to a Catholic school and I still don’t know what it will be like there if the school knows that I am part of the LGBTQ community. I am very scared, true, but there are people out there like you who show me it’s okay to be afraid, and that I shouldn’t hide who I am. So thank you so, so, so much!
i think it’s really cool the way that you’re dealing with all this now and how you continued to live and decided to become a better person because of this expirience you’re an awesome and super strong person thanks for being such an encouragement 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
You are so strong and resilient. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are an incredible human being. I am so happy that i discovered your channel. Thank you 💚💚💚
You’re a very strong person! I resonate with your story a lot. I was raised in a high control religious group (sounds similar to your experience) my family has shunned me for going on 5 years now.
My best friend is trans and bi and we're kinda each other's therapist. When we're stressed about something we talk each other through it and help each other out
You are a brilliant person, and this video has probably changed so many lives. All of your videos must supply comfort for the people who think they are alone. Im a closeted bisexual, ik for a fact my parents wouldn't care if i was lgbtqia+ but i still feel nervous about coming out. 💗💜💙 keep up the good work!
kinda scared of coming out.. I know that my parents are transphobic cuz one time I asked my mom if I could cut my hair like super short and she instantly said no cuz it'll make me look like a boy and that it's a sin. but idk if my parents are homophobic
I realized I was a nonbinary, trans ⚧️ mtf 4 yrs ago , I always knew I was to not like other “ men “ , I came to trust myself as a ⚧️, not easy but that’s who I am . ❤❤❤
You're so so so amazing and extremely brave. You have helped so many people so much and this has just cemented you on my most caring person list (not that you already weren't)! But we all love you so so so much and think you are so amazing! Sending lots of love! 💚💚💚💚💚
Hey, I want you to know that you inspire me so much and you are my idol. I want you to know that I support and am here for you. -Taylor from tik tok and insta❤❤❤
Many Christians are not following Jesus's example or teachings. He spent his time with prostitutes, tax collectors and Roman soldiers. He was a friend to everyone, he wasn't exclusive. Anti-gay Christians want people to follow the anti-gay verse in Leviticus 20 :13, but they are not putting people to death as directed in verses 9 & 10. They are not performing animal sacrifice per chapters 1-9, nor are they breaking dishes when someone has a venereal disease per chapter 15. Christians are not following the whole bible. They are cherry picking verses to suit their bias and exclusiveness. Jesus gave a new commandment, "to love one another." Accepting others who are different than we are is loving one another and is inclusive.
No not exactly many Christians believe that jesus loves all of his children and I am a Christian and 88% of my family is not antigay in any way and most people I know are Christian and believe that gay people are people and a lot of Christians are gay like my aunt I am not trying to insult you but I will say that 65% percent are not antigay so don't talk shit about stuff you don't know about.
@@ramongonzales5683 I have quoted bible verses that Christians and Christian organizations are using so I do know what I am talking about. We might be able to agree that it depends on where you live as to what percentage of Christians are anti-gay. When your percentages reach 100% then I will revise what I wrote.
I was also reeeealy scared to come out, because my whole family WAS Mormon ( a religious cult but they make it not look like a cult) and yes I’m not scared to name drop it 🤷🏼♂️ people need to know) and thank goodness they were understanding and supportive (my whole family that knows) and since then we left the Mormon church and we are all good today! 😄 you are so awesome please keep doing what your doing i love your videos! And you are super strong!
Childhood trauma - Developmental trauma. My darling person, I’d like to offer something to you if you would indulge me...close your eyes...take a BIG DEEP breath into your belly and let it out...now say this as if you’re saying it to that part of you that is second guessing yourself: I see you. You are NOT at fault! You are NOT making this up. They CANNOT take your ‘knowing’ away from you. You are a beautiful person and they treated you wrong. I am so sorry. Know that I am here for you.” I’ve found this little affirmation really helpful for my own Complex PTSD (childhood trauma). Feel free to take it if it resonates with you or don’t if it doesn’t. Take care, beautiful one!!!
You have helped me so much and fought to be the person you want to be. It’s extremely hard growing up with parents who say they accept you and love you but there are manipulative little words in every day conversation. I accept you and always will
You are a true fighter and I completely understand how hard it is you are never alone you have loads of people behind you! Thank you for sharing this with us it is really inspiring 🏳️🌈
Even if I've heard the story before in your lives, it still made me cry. It's amazing how after all you've been through you still have the strength to tell us the story, let along help others to come out themselves... I'm so glad I found you, even if you never see my comments in your lives🙂🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ 💛♡💜🖤
I am so sorry your parents did not support you if they actually loved you they would care for your happiness I came out as a Pan and my mom didn't like the idea but she still supported me and my dad fully supported me they both gave me a hug and my dad said if you can't come talk to us about something then we failed you as parents so I am so grateful that they were supportive of me and how I feel I told both of them that I'm more into girls than anything else too but I'll date a trans, guy, nonbinary and they still support me I almost started to cry it was so hard to keep it in because I was always so scared of being disowned
Queer hug💕 Thank you so much for everything you do on this channel. I'm a non-binary and realised it only a couple of weeks ago. And i casually asked my mom what does she thinks about lgbtq+ community and found out that she was soo arrogant and conservative. So... will be in the closet for some time. Again. Thank you so much💕
I am so sorry that these were and are your familial experiences. You are resilient and strong, and I love that you are channeling the negative experiences into helping others 💙 You're awesome.
This.... kind of reminds me of my family. (Minus the religious part - ironically enough, I'm the religious one in the family.) I'm bi but I'm really nervous to come out to anyone because I don't want it getting back to my mother. Thank you for sharing this. It's good to know that I'm not alone.
Wow - that's amazing. That you managed to do it and then another video about it. As one who knows relatively many people from the proud community to see that there are people who have come out and made a video about it it is really exciting. I'm sure everyone in the proud community and will see this video will be inspired. Well done and great support from me!
Well done. I came out as lesbian and feel very non binary but my friends tell me its to early and stuff like that to ask myself if i am nb. I don't really know what to do....
I had an anxiety attack watching this but I'm with my brother so I'm hiding it I think I had it because your story kind scared my my brother does not believe in more than 2 genders my dad said being trans is where he crossed the line idk aboit my mom but I'm scared
I am since happy that you were able to walk out of that toxic and abusive life because some people can't do that. It's good that you put the negative opinions of those people aside to have your own life and be happy with who you are. Therapy is a great thing I agree. I took counciling and it helped me a lot. We are so proud of you Laurenzo! Oh BTW Im alex from tic tok-
I started crying but when you said it was the best decision to walk away and you were in the best mental state i smiled ❤️its so inspirational that you never gave up on who you were no matter what ❤️ 🏳️🌈 happy pride month ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️🌈
Thank you so much for this video! Thank you for sharing your story even when it was extremely difficult. Thank you for being a light in my day and being supportive and encouraging. Just thank you. Hope you have an amazing day. 💚💚💚
Aww no I’ve only started don’t cry Laurenzo 🥺💚💚💚💚 edit:it’s avery btw😊
I’m out as a bisexual & a closeted non binary but I’m scared to come out to my parents cause even though my mum’s bi and my parents are fine with me liking girls as well, I’m pretty sure they might be transphobic. Especially my dad... idk.. I’m just rlly scared to come out to them cause i feel like they won’t respect my pronouns or call me Rossie instead of my birth name, and idk if I can deal with knowing my parents refuse to accept who I am.. :/
i wish you the best of luck, i hope your doing okay.
You're going to do great! However you decide to come out, if at all, is completely valid and entirely up to you ❤🏳️🌈
If they love you now, why would they care.
It's like you dyed your hair and they don't like the colour.
Edit: I don't know your situation, you might not feel as though it is right for you to do so.
Something that you could consider doing is talking to them about a non binary/transgender person and seeing how they react. Then you might know a little bit about how they would feel if you came out to them.
I I wish I wish you the best of luck I hope it goes well when you do tell them
I saw a youtube short that brought me to your page. I am a 45 year old married woman who thought she was broken my whole life. It wasnt until my very late 30s early 40s that I realized that I am ACE. My husband is 10000% supportive of me (we have been married since 1995) and the relief and profound depth of knowing WHO and WHAT I am is amazing. And i still haven't told my parents (who are both Baptist and in their mid to late 70s) your bravery is amazing and thank you for the short and these videos. You make a big difference in many many lives.
I’m very happy for you :)
I wish I could hug young laurenzo
Me too your an inspiration for us all
You’re such a fighter, you’re one of the pest people that I know even if it’s only mainly one sided but you’re such a wonderful person and you’re such a role model to the lgbtq+ youth and you’re such an amazing person 💚🌈 🏳️🌈
You know personally I think that you should really be on the Ellen Show your such a good role model and influencer thank you for doing this
I think people at school kind of caught on to the fact that I’m non binary even though I haven’t come out yet because of something that happens on multiple occasions.
Someone: LETS DO BOYS VS GIRLS TEAMS IN SOCCER
me before anyone can say anything: NO. NOT HAPPENING.
*awkward silence*
Teacher: uhhhh okay then?
Laurenzo you inspire me so much your story gives me hopes that this could be me in the future if I hold on and keep going. You are strong and brave for everything you’ve gone through and I’m infinitely proud of you. Thank you ❤️
Really proud of you for posting this! Came from the live! 💚🏳️🌈
My goodness! What you said was so strong and I feel so empowered! You truly are fantastic and I'm just blown away by your grit to keep going and never give up!
You're so sweet, thank you so much!
@@adesso.laurenzo Of course! You've been so wonderful in helping me understand who I am and how I should act and be how I want to be, not based on the boxes that society puts around us.
Thanks for sharing that, I am so sorry your family used religion in that way. My Christian friend/youth workers are the reason i am happy as NB but I know my dad is the same as yours (for want of a better way to put it.)
Thanks again though. Every think you post makes me fell stronger as NB.
@@adesso.laurenzo I'm glad I found this it here. Cant wait for the live.
Compliant sandwiches are so toxic (compliment sandwich is a compliment something mean then another compliment to cover the mean thing) 🥺 I’m so sorry you had to go through this with your family, you’re so strong!
You r sooooooooo brave , we r all so proud of u for being strong and for keep fighting through everything ,u r such a huge inspiration to so many people including myself 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚it’s Zaynub by the way 😊
Laurenzo thx so much and it’s 100x back at u
I'm really sorry for all of that, no one should go through that, but I'm glad that you are doing better now and don't have that toxic family anymore! You deserve better! Thank you so much for sharing, it helps us, and we love you!💖💚💖
My twin had always been expected to be the lgbtq one all my life, and recently they have come out as non-binary... but then there’s me. Hi! I am AFAB and a Demi-boy! I am Demisexual and closeted. I am in love with my best friend and am struggling with how to come out to my parents. Throughout my life, before I even knew about genders or lgbtq+, I was always wondering if here was ever a way for me to be able to live as more than one gender. It was more of just a fantasy at the time. Rather than dreaming of walking down the isle, I dreamed of being able to okie day identify as a male and nothing would change and vise-versa. However, now, I am not really sure what to do. Your videos have inspired my so much and I love your work. You are truly passionate about helping LGBTQ youth and people struggling. I am really happy that I was able to find you and you are one of the few lights at the end of the dark tunnel. Thank you so much, and you are a very strong and beautiful person. We all are! 🟥🟧🟨🟩🟦🟪⬛️⬜️🟫
Demi Boy club
Your so brave telling this story. It must be very hard for you as well to explain about the family’s opinion on the LGBTQ community. That you moved on and you started to get stronger the more the time came. Your so inspiring especially for teens at a young age. Your a ⭐️. 🥳
I'm so glad that I found someone who can relate. People act like there is only disowning or accepting, but you can be a terrible parent and still look fine to everyone else😭🤧
I see myself a lot into your journey, My parents manipulate my life and they always did. They told me that they accepted that I like girls and at the same time they constantly remind me that I need a man, I need a family, that is a phase, that i want attention, that it’s because I don’t like myself enough for a man. When I was with my ex boyfriend they spoiled me with things that I didn’t even needed, they were so happy and told me that I was cured. They called all the members on my family to celebrate the fact that I was finally sane again. It took me years to realise how toxic they are and always been. Few turata ago I found out that I’m non binary and I already know that I will never be able to tell it to them. It’s an indescribable pain when the people that know you the most, that are supposed to love you can’t and won’t understand you. So yeah thank you for the video I fell less alone
Lauren, I have had the fortunate experience of becoming your chosen family and watching you transform, heal and thrive through this over the years. You have truly risen from under what you experienced and i am so happy. This expression was so real and so touching. I hope it was amazingly cathardic for you and truly helpful for those who are coming out. I love you Laurenzo! You the bomb, yo!
you just make me want to be your friend, you have such a beautiful soul and I'm so glad you talked about this because I feel more confident in myself and the fact that I'm nonbinary and bi, thank you so much for sharing. 💛
Awwwww so proud!!!!💚💚💚💚 ik that’s hard to talk about but that will help so many people. -stella💖
Oh wow these texts are like carbon copies of the ones my father sent me! Crazy how coming out stories share these universal themes. My situation is sort of a combination of yours and my sister tho I ended up running away from home and getting free boarding at college until I broke down from the stress and got pink slipped by the police. Luckily I got out of psychiatric care and after a lot of drugs, survival sex, and walking the streets, I put my pride aside and went home to my parents... with a lot of shame and lies to explain things off. Still over year later I’m living at home in a pretty comfy “don’t ask don’t tell” situation and I’m publicly out. I think there’s a lot of “be yourself” rhetoric that gets thrown around in the queer community that’s really harmful for kids. Thank you for emphasizing in your videos that sometimes coming out isn’t always the best option when you’re young and dependent.
My bonus-child came out recently. It was unexpected but my husband and I are educating ourselves and trying to help them with what they need. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s very brave to make yourself vulnerable to help others in their journey. I will be sharing some of your videos with them.
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My little brother came out to us when he was 13. We were like, “yeah… no shit, kiddo… clean your room”.
When he was in his twenties he complained that he was missing this shared common experience with his peer group of having a “coming out story” that was painful and scary.
Hey, Laurenzo… I’m guessing by the architecture that you’re in the same general geographic location as I am.
I have lots of alphabet folx in my community. I have pre and post top and/or bottom mtf and ftm peoples. Blood don’t mean shit. Family is who you choose to love. I have personally gone as a silent support when friends needed to see their families.
Choose your people.
You are so strong, you've kept going even though it has been tough. I'm glad you have a chosen family who supports you for who you are ❤️
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This video helped me so much, I know that even though it’s hard right now it will get better. Thank you so much Laurenzo 🧡 -Juniper
You are so brave and I’m so proud of you ,I love you so much ♥️🏳️🌈😘
Laurenzo we all support you so much and you are such a inspiration to me and others ,so thank you♥️😘
My mother banned me from Tik Tok and LGBTQ+ Video when I came out but I'm still here
I feel bad for your mother. Imagine giving birth to you. What a disappointment.
@esmeralda ureta hey you don’t need to be here if you are going to say that
@@that.one.teen78 what
@@itsrue7216 I was talking to the earlier comment
@@East9211 I feel bad for your mother. Imagine giving birth to you. What a disappointment.
We all love you Laurenzo you’re loved by all of us you are part of our family and our community ❤️😭🥺🏳️🌈
It’s so amazing that you were strong enough to talk about such a difficult subject for you. Keep pushing forward and always looking to the future 💚💚
this really helped me as I only have came out as bi, but still need some time to find my gender and coming out was really hard the first time! Also knowing my family is not very supportive of other genders will make it harder. Thank you so much for posting!
We love youuu! 💚💚 Im stuck whit my lgbtq+ family. :( im so effing proud of you and to every one thats out or not out
I am one and a half minutes in and your already playing with my heart strings
I marvel at people like you who posses the strength and compassion to consider how it will effect your little brother before you unburden yourself by coming out. Its people like you that keeps me optimistic. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Laurenzo, you are so strong and brave. I am agender, and my parents are luckily very supportive but I am having a similar problem at school. I can;t wait until I can walk away, thanks for giving me more confidence that it’s them, not me.
You’re not alone I support . You are are a role model for me #shorts #funny #LGBTQ 💕🌈 you are amazing person 🌈🥰
That was rough. I don’t know what to say. I think it’s kind of amazing that you’re the way you are and I know a lot of hard work went into that. I really hope this video gets into the hands of someone who really needs it. 💚
I am so proud of u for doing this. So much courage. Fearless!! Laurenzo. You are a fighter, you are an amazing human!! 💚💚💚You are an amazing person, that is such an inspiration. 💚💚💚You have a new family with everyone on TikTok and here on RUclips!! 💚💚💚 We have a great build up with everyone because of you. A safe place if you will. We love you💚💚💚
-Jaz
You're such a great person, and a great role model for the LGBTQ+ youth! 💚🌈🏳🌈
hi, i haven't been around here long, but you're really brave for telling this story! -Levi
*subbed* much love from Vancouver Canada ❤️ ugh I feel for you and I love you thank you for sharing your life with us 🙏😭 you're literally so strong!! You're right this does help being sad sucks but it makes doing everything else alot easier because nothing else comes close to the sadness 😔💔 I feel for you you're so amazing, lean into the fears!!! Let's GOOOOOO 🔥
adesso.laurenzo yes pls!!! Life is a roller coaster and we all trying to make sense of it all , so grateful to have a light like you despite everything going on’ blessings to you always !!
You’ve helped me so much. You wouldn’t even know it. You’ve helped me feel like I belonged and that this could be ME in the future. Content and confident with who I am and can live their truest self. Since I cannot do that now, I can only imagine. Imagine this will be me soon enough. If I am patient enough. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm late to your channel and came to know you by your very informative but comical shorts.(.You look gorgeous with the red hair btw.) But seeing this and realising how brave and yet how sad you have been since you were young made me teary and a little angry on your behalf that you were not supported when you needed it, that you were blamed for things that couldn't possibly be your fault and gaslit by ppl who were meant to Love and protect you. Never feel you are to blame for the actions of others.
Your channel really inspires and educates but I'm quite sure it also saves ppl who feel isolated as you once did. I'm so so happy that you are more at peace.with yourself. Even in your shorts your kindness and empathy is visible through your eyes, I know that sounds a bit soppy but it's true. You're a truly caring person , who feels things very deeply. But you are stronger than you know.🌸
In a 🌎 as corrupt and heartless as this, empathetic ppl get hurt and feel hurt deeper than the rest but they also feel and give joy so much more. It warms the heart to know you feel much more content now 💓 . Take Care 🌈🌺 xx
Really proud of you!!! You have all our support!! Loads of love from two fellow RUclipsrs from London :) we have just subscribed ❤️❤️
@@adesso.laurenzo hello :) it really depends on what your budget is :)
You are one of the most strongest person I know and u have help me through so much and that u are such a idol to me and when I saw ur TikToks I noticed that I and pansexual and nothing with stop me from been just like u xx💛🤍💜🖤 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 love u
adesso.laurenzo omg u replyed thx for the reply ♡︎♡︎𓆉𓆉
You look so beautiful in this video. It just occurred to me. Physically beautiful, but emotionally too. You are so loved now Laurenzo. Sending you mental green hearts that my computer won't facilitate. - Kai
You helped me come out as non-binary to my family! Thanks!
Thank you for being such a great role model! This is has helped so much thank you! 🏳️🌈💚
You are so strong and I came out to my parents last summer as bi and 2 months ago I came out as genderfluid. My dad is supporting but the words he uses makes me feel a bit weird. My dad still wasn’t really understood the whole gender thing and ig it’s ok at least he has understood my bf coming out at trans. My mom has supported me through all of it no doubts or anything! She is the first person I told for both changes for me.
You are honestly so amazing and inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story and being so strong bc it is so empowering and helpful! Thank you so much! I love you and your content, you are awesome💕💕
5 dislikes! That shows how much we love and support you! 🧡🏳️🌈
"Bible verses were shared." That's too bad. Religion shouldn't be used as a weapon... depending on how you define it, at that point isn't not spirituality anymore. But good on you for making this video; you're helping lots of people! Let me know if I can ever help. Fwiw, I stopped talking to everyone in my family for about 5 years, and I never talked to my father again before he passed. It might sound harsh, but no regrets here...
We love and support you. I am so proud of you and how far you've come 💚💚💚
I’ve only recently joined the fan base (thx TikTok) but your videos mean so much to me and you’ve inspired so many people to be who they are so thank you💚💚💚 we all love you so much💚💚
I love this so much!! You are so brave and keep going/fighting! I know you don’t know me but you are such an inspiration for me and tons of other people! Thank you so much for sharing and I love you’re Tik Tok family so much! It’s such a positive and happy place to be!
Ps this is Happy_Watermelon from tik tok 😁
Laurenzo there was a sky but my name is Marayna! And it’s totally fine if you mispronounce it while reading it bc most ppl do 😂
You are so strong, I wouldnt have been able to deal that at all. You are amazing and you did the best decision you could for yourself.
Thank you for posting this! It made me feel less alone and a little more
confident in myself and my identity
Your story sounds so similar to what I'm afraid of. I'm not out but maybe one day I'll be brave enough. Thank you for sharing your story. You are such a brave person ❤️
You are so amazing. You have struggled so much and you are still a very good person. I just want you to know that I look up to you and admire you so, so much. I am out as bisexual to my family and friends, but I have not told anybody that I am gender-fluid yet. I’ve been planning and preparing to tell my parents and my twin brother, I’ve even been making a little speech to explain what being gender-fluid is, since my family does not know very much about the LGBTQ community. I am still incredibly nervous because I go to a Catholic school and I still don’t know what it will be like there if the school knows that I am part of the LGBTQ community. I am very scared, true, but there are people out there like you who show me it’s okay to be afraid, and that I shouldn’t hide who I am. So thank you so, so, so much!
i think it’s really cool the way that you’re dealing with all this now and how you continued to live and decided to become a better person because of this expirience you’re an awesome and super strong person thanks for being such an encouragement 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
You are so strong and resilient. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are an incredible human being. I am so happy that i discovered your channel. Thank you 💚💚💚
I came out to my parents 4 months ago and the told me not to tell anyone about it for another 3 to 4 years.
You’re a very strong person! I resonate with your story a lot. I was raised in a high control religious group (sounds similar to your experience) my family has shunned me for going on 5 years now.
This is really rough to hear. Your videos really were helpful to me as a parent.
My best friend is trans and bi and we're kinda each other's therapist. When we're stressed about something we talk each other through it and help each other out
You are a brilliant person, and this video has probably changed so many lives. All of your videos must supply comfort for the people who think they are alone. Im a closeted bisexual, ik for a fact my parents wouldn't care if i was lgbtqia+ but i still feel nervous about coming out. 💗💜💙 keep up the good work!
You're so touching Laurenzo ! If I could I'd give you a big hug right now 💚💚💚 Thank you for sharing your story. Stay who you are 💚
kinda scared of coming out.. I know that my parents are transphobic cuz one time I asked my mom if I could cut my hair like super short and she instantly said no cuz it'll make me look like a boy and that it's a sin. but idk if my parents are homophobic
Sad I wish I could help
It’s amazing how you stayed so strong through the whole story, thank you for sharing it. I love you💛🤍💜🖤
My parents. Don't NOT support lgbtq but when I came out as NB they said I was wrong
I realized I was a nonbinary, trans ⚧️ mtf 4 yrs ago ,
I always knew I was to not like other “ men “ , I came to trust myself as a ⚧️, not easy but that’s who I am .
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😊 I'm trans and gay
You're so so so amazing and extremely brave. You have helped so many people so much and this has just cemented you on my most caring person list (not that you already weren't)! But we all love you so so so much and think you are so amazing! Sending lots of love! 💚💚💚💚💚
Hey, I want you to know that you inspire me so much and you are my idol. I want you to know that I support and am here for you. -Taylor from tik tok and insta❤❤❤
Brave and eloquent as always & I am humbled by your shoutout fran
Many Christians are not following Jesus's example or teachings. He spent his time with prostitutes, tax collectors and Roman soldiers. He was a friend to everyone, he wasn't exclusive. Anti-gay Christians want people to follow the anti-gay verse in Leviticus 20 :13, but they are not putting people to death as directed in verses 9 & 10. They are not performing animal sacrifice per chapters 1-9, nor are they breaking dishes when someone has a venereal disease per chapter 15. Christians are not following the whole bible. They are cherry picking verses to suit their bias and exclusiveness. Jesus gave a new commandment, "to love one another." Accepting others who are different than we are is loving one another and is inclusive.
No not exactly many Christians believe that jesus loves all of his children and I am a Christian and 88% of my family is not antigay in any way and most people I know are Christian and believe that gay people are people and a lot of Christians are gay like my aunt I am not trying to insult you but I will say that 65% percent are not antigay so don't talk shit about stuff you don't know about.
@@ramongonzales5683 I have quoted bible verses that Christians and Christian organizations are using so I do know what I am talking about. We might be able to agree that it depends on where you live as to what percentage of Christians are anti-gay. When your percentages reach 100% then I will revise what I wrote.
Thank you for sharing your story it makes me feel not so alone stay strong!
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I was also reeeealy scared to come out, because my whole family WAS Mormon ( a religious cult but they make it not look like a cult) and yes I’m not scared to name drop it 🤷🏼♂️ people need to know) and thank goodness they were understanding and supportive (my whole family that knows) and since then we left the Mormon church and we are all good today! 😄 you are so awesome please keep doing what your doing i love your videos! And you are super strong!
Yea it’s basically a cult lol
Childhood trauma - Developmental trauma. My darling person, I’d like to offer something to you if you would indulge me...close your eyes...take a BIG DEEP breath into your belly and let it out...now say this as if you’re saying it to that part of you that is second guessing yourself:
I see you. You are NOT at fault! You are NOT making this up. They CANNOT take your ‘knowing’ away from you. You are a beautiful person and they treated you wrong. I am so sorry. Know that I am here for you.”
I’ve found this little affirmation really helpful for my own Complex PTSD (childhood trauma). Feel free to take it if it resonates with you or don’t if it doesn’t.
Take care, beautiful one!!!
adesso.laurenzo Glad it resonated with you! So welcome.
You have helped me so much and fought to be the person you want to be.
It’s extremely hard growing up with parents who say they accept you and love you but there are manipulative little words in every day conversation.
I accept you and always will
You are a true fighter and I completely understand how hard it is you are never alone you have loads of people behind you! Thank you for sharing this with us it is really inspiring 🏳️🌈
Even if I've heard the story before in your lives, it still made me cry. It's amazing how after all you've been through you still have the strength to tell us the story, let along help others to come out themselves... I'm so glad I found you, even if you never see my comments in your lives🙂🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ 💛♡💜🖤
Funfact: im really close to the age you said you noticed you like girls- i hate people that say "oh your too young to know that"-
I am so sorry your parents did not support you if they actually loved you they would care for your happiness I came out as a Pan and my mom didn't like the idea but she still supported me and my dad fully supported me they both gave me a hug and my dad said if you can't come talk to us about something then we failed you as parents so I am so grateful that they were supportive of me and how I feel I told both of them that I'm more into girls than anything else too but I'll date a trans, guy, nonbinary and they still support me I almost started to cry it was so hard to keep it in because I was always so scared of being disowned
Queer hug💕
Thank you so much for everything you do on this channel. I'm a non-binary and realised it only a couple of weeks ago. And i casually asked my mom what does she thinks about lgbtq+ community and found out that she was soo arrogant and conservative. So... will be in the closet for some time. Again. Thank you so much💕
I am so sorry that these were and are your familial experiences. You are resilient and strong, and I love that you are channeling the negative experiences into helping others 💙 You're awesome.
Are you non binary???? If yes you are brave
Yes they are!
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This.... kind of reminds me of my family. (Minus the religious part - ironically enough, I'm the religious one in the family.) I'm bi but I'm really nervous to come out to anyone because I don't want it getting back to my mother.
Thank you for sharing this. It's good to know that I'm not alone.
Wow - that's amazing. That you managed to do it and then another video about it.
As one who knows relatively many people from the proud community to see that there are people who have come out and made a video about it it is really exciting.
I'm sure everyone in the proud community and will see this video will be inspired.
Well done and great support from me!
Thank you for sharing this and I wish you all the best.
You are who you want to be.
You are beautiful 😻
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Well done. I came out as lesbian and feel very non binary but my friends tell me its to early and stuff like that to ask myself if i am nb. I don't really know what to do....
I had an anxiety attack watching this but I'm with my brother so I'm hiding it I think I had it because your story kind scared my my brother does not believe in more than 2 genders my dad said being trans is where he crossed the line idk aboit my mom but I'm scared
You are amazing you give so much advice we love you 🥺💖
I am since happy that you were able to walk out of that toxic and abusive life because some people can't do that. It's good that you put the negative opinions of those people aside to have your own life and be happy with who you are. Therapy is a great thing I agree. I took counciling and it helped me a lot. We are so proud of you Laurenzo! Oh BTW Im alex from tic tok-
I started crying but when you said it was the best decision to walk away and you were in the best mental state i smiled ❤️its so inspirational that you never gave up on who you were no matter what ❤️ 🏳️🌈 happy pride month ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️🌈
Aww no please don't cry Laurenzo
Edit:now I'm crying
Thank you so much for this video! Thank you for sharing your story even when it was extremely difficult. Thank you for being a light in my day and being supportive and encouraging. Just thank you. Hope you have an amazing day. 💚💚💚
You're such a powerful and amazing person. I'm really happy you're stronger than ever.
You are brave, inspirational, and strong. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It Is empowering!!! ❤️❤️