I remember being really young (like 12) and tell one of my trans friends “hey I think I’m gender fluid” (I am non binary now) and my friend just looked at me and gave me the biggest hug and at that moment I knew I had chosen the right family 🥰
Thank you for saying "being non-binary is no big thing" because I feel like some folks in my circle are kinda making it a big thing. I keep telling them, "I'm the same person I always have been, the color inside is just on the outside now." And thank you for making these videos. They have gotten me through my THIRD coming out!
I feel non-binary and have experimented with they/them pronouns around my friends. I am 17 going on 18 in January and I talked to one of my older sisters about it and she's behind me and supports me 100% but I'm just scared of the rest of my family's responses... my family is not supportive of me being pansexual saying its not a thing and that I'm bi and when I said I had a non-binary friend my family tells me that's not a thing... I just don't know what to do.. I don't even know if I want to come out at all anymore because my family keeps getting worse with what they say about the lgbtq+ family...
Safety is first!! If you are 17, i'd say wait until you are safely out of the house & financially independent. Then you can distance however much is needed for safety (mental, physical, and emotional wellness are impt). Good luck!
@@xz740 oh my god. Please stop misgendering them and read the comment again. They said they go by they/them and are pansexual, but their family says that isn’t a real thing.
Could you maybe do a video that’s basically the breakdown of all things nonbinary and different situations for nonbinary people (such as dysphoria, top surgery, etc.) for parents? It might be easier for me, and other viewers, to show their parents a breakdown of being nonbinary so that they might understand it better. If you can’t do that, I understand, but thank you for being a really informative RUclipsr and I love being a subscriber!!
@@adesso.laurenzo YES YES YES!!! I'm 23 and feel confident I can explain my gender queerness to my family, but so many parents are just searching for answers, or maybe you might be able to say something someone else coming out might find hard to explain. (I'm just imagining sitting your parents down in front of this video to begin a conversation.)
This is very random but I have no one to tell but I chopped my hair! It’s now really short with a floppy side and it’s bright purple!! I’m so excited because yesterday I went to the grocery store and this dude went “have you been helped sir” and I like basically died in a hyvee.i think I definitely prefer it to ma’am. Have a nice day!!!
My plan is when I turn 18 I’m gonna start with social changes and a little bit of medical. This will give me some time to confirm if I truly feel this way. Also my toxic parents won’t be able to do shit🥰
you got reddit? there’s this subreddit called r/TransTryouts ! it’s for lgbtq and questioning to try out names and pronouns. you just make a post and the lovely people on the subreddit us your pronouns/name in a sentence. if not, tell me your name and i’ll use it in a sentence :)
Me: I wanna cut all my hair off and I’m so excited! Mom: no what if it looks bad Me: my issue not yours Mom:ugh I’ll text the lady *5 weeks later still not having short hair and being sad*
My coming out journey has been very long. I think there’s always been that feeling that I wasn’t “normal” when it came to my gender/sexuality. I really started questioning my identity when I was introduced to the LGBTQ+ community in 6th grade (11 years old). I gravitated towards people who were a part of the community as. As they came out and explained to me more and more what their identities meant, I started to realize I was like them. I’ve always felt like I wasn’t a girl and that I liked other girls the way I liked boys. I never had words for it though. Once I was introduced to the community, it was much easier for me to accept myself and realize that I wasn’t broken or unlovable because of my identity. I came out as bisexual at first and later realized that didn’t fit me. I’m 16 now and have since come out as demi-pan and trans-masc non-binary. My gender identity was harder for me to discover. I always knew I didn’t care about the gender of those I was attracted to. The hard part for me was finding a gender identity that fit me. I picked non-binary because it feels the most inclusive for how I feel as a person. I started using the name Alex and they/them pronouns a couple years ago. I recently discovered I also use he/him pronouns. I learned I could identify more with one side of the spectrum more than another and that I didn’t owe anyone androgyny. I also learned that having more than one set of pronouns was completely valid and that neopronouns existed as well. I’ve learned a lot about my identity and about the LGBTQ+ community in the past five years. I’m lucky to have found my identity so young. Coming out is never easy, but it felt so good to come out and finally be able to be myself out loud. (Sorry this was so long! Thanks for reading and have a great day!)
I should also mention that my chosen family was a huge help in my coming out journey. They made me feel validated and loved when I needed it the most. ❤️
I've been confused about my gender identity for a really long time. Watching a channel like yours has given me a lot of confidence about coming out as nonbinary to my family and friends soon!
Hello! I am a huge fan of you and I follow you on RUclips and TikTok. Right now I am in middle school and was assigned the gender female at birth and have never thought about this like at all and didn't even know about the LGBTQ+ community until a few months ago when my sister came out as bi. I was doing research about the community online when I found your channel and am now obsessed. I am really still really confused about my pronouns, whether she/her or they/them, but your videos are definitely a huge help. I just want to say thank you so much and keep making your videos. Thank you so much, Adesso Laurenzo!
Ive known that i am non binary for a few months now and I’m so glad to say that i have figured out who i am. Where ever you are on this journey I wish you the best of luck!
I'm on the non binary spectrum, if I'm being more specific I am a demigirl but if someone asks me for pronouns/gender I use non binary because most people understand that one better, thanks for sharing your story!
@@ZZ-lo3ek ...a spectrum is literally just a range of different things. And the fact that you’re “othering” people- calling us “gender alphabet people” when we’re really just normal people- shows your character.
@@ZZ-lo3ek 1. If intersex isn’t a sex, are intersex individuals male or female? 2. It may have started out wrong, but gender identity is a very real thing that isn’t hurting anyone today.
Thank you sm for sharing💕 I’m writing a story and the main character is non-binary so I really wanted to know how the characters backstory might be and build on that so thank you for sharing it helped me build my characters backstory further 😁
So basically, I think I'm non-binary, I don't know what pronouns to use but biologically I'm a female and feel so uncomfortable when people use she/her. I love it when people mistake me for he/him although that doesn't happen very often anymore. I came out to my best friend and she supported me and asked me whether to use they/them pronouns but I didn't want to like inconvenience her? Or really let anyone else know? So I said not to? I came out to another one of my friends who's LGBTQIA+ already and she uses they/them pronouns for me now. I just feel like coming out to everyone but I'm scared and I hate being split up into different genders in school like being with all females doesn't feel right and has never really felt right? Idk. Anyway, that's all lmao
Omg I didn’t know you were 29! Cool! That just goes to show you are never too young or old to discover yourself! I hear so many trans and nonbinary stories that start out in grade school or something, and I just can't relate to any of that. I always just kinda was a sheep when it came to new things. And then a habit forms and now I'm just used to being in the girl's bathroom because it has become my learned default. Having that default is nice to have when there isn't a third option. Though I loved getting to experience gender inclusive bathrooms at my second ever pride festival! It really opened my eyes!
I am curious about your process of using a new name. If you are comfortable sharing, how did that evolve for you? Thanks for all the information you share!
I'm non-binary but i'm not out to my parents but i came out to two of my cousins and they acceot but they're confused and gave me a weird looj about it and never use my pronouns which is sad but its ok. And i wanted to tell my sister that i'm non-binary cause i came out to her first coming out as Bisexual and she accepted me and i was happy so i thought "maybe she'll accept" but one random day we were talking about non-binary people and none was good so now i'm depressed because i can't be myself and comfortable in my house and that isn't good. And my parents (mostly my mom) isn't homophobic but she doesn't acceolpt me. Idk if technically shes homophobic or not but i know anytime we have conversations i know they make me feel less than i am. Btw sorry for rant i just needed to get that off my chest. btw you're an inspiring youtuber thank you.
See I love seeing these videos because I am so ready to come out but I have to wait till my sister can help me come out and just in case my parents don’t like it and kick me out I will be with her and be happy with who I am so yeah I have to wait and I will try to Record and post it when I can and how it will go I love my sisters and my sisters baby
I wanted to have a specific gender, like agender or something, but honestly I’ve given up on finding one that fits now. It’s so complicated! I am simply non binary. Also, great video!
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They are so awesome . I really love their content on tik tok :)
I'm 98% sure DemiMale, but this conclusion was reached after thinking through two years full of physical and emotional trauma. So... not really sure if this is because of circumstances or not. But things are looking up, so maybe I'll get to know the real me from the next year onwards! =D
Hi soo im non binary and use they/them and wanna come out but my family is not really accepting and don't think non binary exists and i dont think they will respect my pronouns do you have any advice
I really want to try use only they/them pronouns but i still use she/they bc people around wont understand me, at first cause of language i speak and second i live in pretty transphobic place
I’m not sure if I’m non-binary or gender fluid, I feel comfortable using all pronouns but at the same time I don’t? I’m not really sure, can you help? D:
See, for a few months now I’ve thought I was Genderfluid, but now I’m really not sure, and I think I’m just nonbinary. I really want to shave my head but I *know* I will look like a deranged rat with a shaved head, plus my school doesn’t allow shaved heads and stuff
Hey Laurenzo I am non binary and people say hey are you boy or girl I respond with neither bc they are like oh you have long hair you're a girl well no im not bc hair does not mean anything and they are like you are trans no im not im non binary bc i dress like well idk what i dress like but its not girly or boyish its neutral i look like a girl but i think a little like a boy no wonder I dont like school
I remember being really young (like 12) and tell one of my trans friends “hey I think I’m gender fluid” (I am non binary now) and my friend just looked at me and gave me the biggest hug and at that moment I knew I had chosen the right family 🥰
You have very good friends
For every who is just starting there NB journey like me im sure it will all be great. I wish you all lots of luck 🏳️🌈
Thank you for saying "being non-binary is no big thing" because I feel like some folks in my circle are kinda making it a big thing. I keep telling them, "I'm the same person I always have been, the color inside is just on the outside now." And thank you for making these videos. They have gotten me through my THIRD coming out!
I feel non-binary and have experimented with they/them pronouns around my friends. I am 17 going on 18 in January and I talked to one of my older sisters about it and she's behind me and supports me 100% but I'm just scared of the rest of my family's responses... my family is not supportive of me being pansexual saying its not a thing and that I'm bi and when I said I had a non-binary friend my family tells me that's not a thing... I just don't know what to do.. I don't even know if I want to come out at all anymore because my family keeps getting worse with what they say about the lgbtq+ family...
Safety is first!! If you are 17, i'd say wait until you are safely out of the house & financially independent. Then you can distance however much is needed for safety (mental, physical, and emotional wellness are impt). Good luck!
@@adesso.laurenzo thank you!
@@xz740 Their family is not being supportive, and a lot of unsupportive families can make their LGBTQ+ kids’ lives unsafe. You’re not helping.
@@xz740 did you even read the comment? They go by they/them and are PAN, not bi.
@@xz740 oh my god. Please stop misgendering them and read the comment again. They said they go by they/them and are pansexual, but their family says that isn’t a real thing.
Could you maybe do a video that’s basically the breakdown of all things nonbinary and different situations for nonbinary people (such as dysphoria, top surgery, etc.) for parents? It might be easier for me, and other viewers, to show their parents a breakdown of being nonbinary so that they might understand it better. If you can’t do that, I understand, but thank you for being a really informative RUclipsr and I love being a subscriber!!
Thanks for this! I will add it to my list :)
@@adesso.laurenzo YES YES YES!!! I'm 23 and feel confident I can explain my gender queerness to my family, but so many parents are just searching for answers, or maybe you might be able to say something someone else coming out might find hard to explain. (I'm just imagining sitting your parents down in front of this video to begin a conversation.)
That's a really good idea :o
This is very random but I have no one to tell but I chopped my hair! It’s now really short with a floppy side and it’s bright purple!! I’m so excited because yesterday I went to the grocery store and this dude went “have you been helped sir” and I like basically died in a hyvee.i think I definitely prefer it to ma’am. Have a nice day!!!
Lucky! I'm so happy for you! :)
Yay! I did this last month as well, and I agree, it is a great feeling.
Congrats! 🎉
Honestly I’ve been thinking about he/they pronouns, but I’m also afraid to test them out
omg same help
Me too but with she/they :))
My plan is when I turn 18 I’m gonna start with social changes and a little bit of medical. This will give me some time to confirm if I truly feel this way. Also my toxic parents won’t be able to do shit🥰
you got reddit? there’s this subreddit called r/TransTryouts ! it’s for lgbtq and questioning to try out names and pronouns. you just make a post and the lovely people on the subreddit us your pronouns/name in a sentence. if not, tell me your name and i’ll use it in a sentence :)
this is so interesting! thank you for sharing💚🌈
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Me: I wanna cut all my hair off and I’m so excited!
Mom: no what if it looks bad
Me: my issue not yours
Mom:ugh I’ll text the lady
*5 weeks later still not having short hair and being sad*
My coming out journey has been very long. I think there’s always been that feeling that I wasn’t “normal” when it came to my gender/sexuality. I really started questioning my identity when I was introduced to the LGBTQ+ community in 6th grade (11 years old). I gravitated towards people who were a part of the community as. As they came out and explained to me more and more what their identities meant, I started to realize I was like them. I’ve always felt like I wasn’t a girl and that I liked other girls the way I liked boys. I never had words for it though. Once I was introduced to the community, it was much easier for me to accept myself and realize that I wasn’t broken or unlovable because of my identity. I came out as bisexual at first and later realized that didn’t fit me. I’m 16 now and have since come out as demi-pan and trans-masc non-binary. My gender identity was harder for me to discover. I always knew I didn’t care about the gender of those I was attracted to. The hard part for me was finding a gender identity that fit me. I picked non-binary because it feels the most inclusive for how I feel as a person. I started using the name Alex and they/them pronouns a couple years ago. I recently discovered I also use he/him pronouns. I learned I could identify more with one side of the spectrum more than another and that I didn’t owe anyone androgyny. I also learned that having more than one set of pronouns was completely valid and that neopronouns existed as well. I’ve learned a lot about my identity and about the LGBTQ+ community in the past five years. I’m lucky to have found my identity so young. Coming out is never easy, but it felt so good to come out and finally be able to be myself out loud. (Sorry this was so long! Thanks for reading and have a great day!)
I should also mention that my chosen family was a huge help in my coming out journey. They made me feel validated and loved when I needed it the most. ❤️
I've been confused about my gender identity for a really long time. Watching a channel like yours has given me a lot of confidence about coming out as nonbinary to my family and friends soon!
I never get to do this sooo.
FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRRRST
Good job by dude😤
My parents won't even try to use they/them pronouns they told me to my face that this is just a phase
Lorenzo: so today we'll be talking about my non-binary journey!
The public: *DUN DUN DUN*
Hello! I am a huge fan of you and I follow you on RUclips and TikTok. Right now I am in middle school and was assigned the gender female at birth and have never thought about this like at all and didn't even know about the LGBTQ+ community until a few months ago when my sister came out as bi. I was doing research about the community online when I found your channel and am now obsessed. I am really still really confused about my pronouns, whether she/her or they/them, but your videos are definitely a huge help. I just want to say thank you so much and keep making your videos. Thank you so much, Adesso Laurenzo!
Ive known that i am non binary for a few months now and I’m so glad to say that i have figured out who i am. Where ever you are on this journey I wish you the best of luck!
I'm on the non binary spectrum, if I'm being more specific I am a demigirl but if someone asks me for pronouns/gender I use non binary because most people understand that one better, thanks for sharing your story!
@@ceo9395 you seem like a really kind person,
@@xz740 spectrum isn’t a word only specific to autistic people. It just means there’s a wide variety of things. e.g: a spectrum of light.
@@xz740 and there are intersex people too. Male, female, and intersex are all sexes. Genders are different.
@@ZZ-lo3ek ...a spectrum is literally just a range of different things. And the fact that you’re “othering” people- calling us “gender alphabet people” when we’re really just normal people- shows your character.
@@ZZ-lo3ek 1. If intersex isn’t a sex, are intersex individuals male or female?
2. It may have started out wrong, but gender identity is a very real thing that isn’t hurting anyone today.
you’re 29??? you look 17. you’re gorgeous. keep slaying :)))
Thank you sm for sharing💕 I’m writing a story and the main character is non-binary so I really wanted to know how the characters backstory might be and build on that so thank you for sharing it helped me build my characters backstory further 😁
So basically, I think I'm non-binary, I don't know what pronouns to use but biologically I'm a female and feel so uncomfortable when people use she/her. I love it when people mistake me for he/him although that doesn't happen very often anymore. I came out to my best friend and she supported me and asked me whether to use they/them pronouns but I didn't want to like inconvenience her? Or really let anyone else know? So I said not to? I came out to another one of my friends who's LGBTQIA+ already and she uses they/them pronouns for me now. I just feel like coming out to everyone but I'm scared and I hate being split up into different genders in school like being with all females doesn't feel right and has never really felt right? Idk. Anyway, that's all lmao
Your username is my entire life
29 and non-binary for 5 years howdy 👋🏽
Omg I didn’t know you were 29! Cool! That just goes to show you are never too young or old to discover yourself! I hear so many trans and nonbinary stories that start out in grade school or something, and I just can't relate to any of that. I always just kinda was a sheep when it came to new things. And then a habit forms and now I'm just used to being in the girl's bathroom because it has become my learned default. Having that default is nice to have when there isn't a third option. Though I loved getting to experience gender inclusive bathrooms at my second ever pride festival! It really opened my eyes!
What pronouns do you use in Italian? I'm francophone so it's always interesting to see how others deal with latin languages
currently, i use female so (lei è alta) for example...but not a fan... hoping to find another option at some point!
I am curious about your process of using a new name. If you are comfortable sharing, how did that evolve for you? Thanks for all the information you share!
I'm thinking about becoming Non-binary because I don't really like being called a girl or a lady and they do that a lot at my school.
@@xz740 I have no idea what you're saying at all..
I'm non-binary but i'm not out to my parents but i came out to two of my cousins and they acceot but they're confused and gave me a weird looj about it and never use my pronouns which is sad but its ok. And i wanted to tell my sister that i'm non-binary cause i came out to her first coming out as Bisexual and she accepted me and i was happy so i thought "maybe she'll accept" but one random day we were talking about non-binary people and none was good so now i'm depressed because i can't be myself and comfortable in my house and that isn't good. And my parents (mostly my mom) isn't homophobic but she doesn't acceolpt me. Idk if technically shes homophobic or not but i know anytime we have conversations i know they make me feel less than i am. Btw sorry for rant i just needed to get that off my chest. btw you're an inspiring youtuber thank you.
Thank you so much you are so helpful and yes i am non binary im androg
I’m 23 and I think I’m non-binary and it’s so nice to hear your story as someone who has similar experiences at my age 🤗
Randomly stumbled across your channel, and this was very interesting and informative! Thank you ❤️
only 11 hours late. also I thought I was non binary but I'm starting to think I'm transgender. gender dysphoria has me confused
i’m a demigirl (questioning still tho) and i go by Bry :) (pronounced Breye
See I love seeing these videos because I am so ready to come out but I have to wait till my sister can help me come out and just in case my parents don’t like it and kick me out I will be with her and be happy with who I am so yeah I have to wait and I will try to Record and post it when I can and how it will go I love my sisters and my sisters baby
I wanted to have a specific gender, like agender or something, but honestly I’ve given up on finding one that fits now. It’s so complicated! I am simply non binary. Also, great video!
They are so awesome . I really love their content on tik tok :)
-Happiness in genderfluid-
What happens if your parents don’t believe in non-binary?!
Me: * looks down at my small female hands * *looks up at your big ol’ man looking hands * you are lucky
There is 0 dislikes bc people here are part of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally
I'm 98% sure DemiMale, but this conclusion was reached after thinking through two years full of physical and emotional trauma. So... not really sure if this is because of circumstances or not. But things are looking up, so maybe I'll get to know the real me from the next year onwards! =D
I’m pretty sure I’m fluidflux but I’m not sure. Your videos help me a lot :)
Awesome video, thank you for sharing your story❤️P.S. Whaatt, you look 19! 👀
Hi soo im non binary and use they/them and wanna come out but my family is not really accepting and don't think non binary exists and i dont think they will respect my pronouns do you have any advice
Wait is Mouse your cat? If so we named our cats the same!
I really want to try use only they/them pronouns but i still use she/they bc people around wont understand me, at first cause of language i speak and second i live in pretty transphobic place
well i'm pansexual (which no one i have met expects)
I’m not sure if I’m non-binary or gender fluid, I feel comfortable using all pronouns but at the same time I don’t? I’m not really sure, can you help? D:
See, for a few months now I’ve thought I was Genderfluid, but now I’m really not sure, and I think I’m just nonbinary.
I really want to shave my head but I *know* I will look like a deranged rat with a shaved head, plus my school doesn’t allow shaved heads and stuff
Shave it! What are they going to do? Make you were a wig😂😂
@@izzymcgraw5358 probably exclude me
@@oaktwig6413 do you go to a private school?
@@izzymcgraw5358 Idk, I got to a school rated outstanding in the uk, idk if it is private or not
@@oaktwig6413 wow, well maybe after you get out of school. You only live once
Hi! :)
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Ik my mom suports LGBTQ+ but im still scared to tell her im non bianary ... any tips perchance.?
Hey Laurenzo I am non binary and people say hey are you boy or girl I respond with neither bc they are like oh you have long hair you're a girl well no im not bc hair does not mean anything and they are like you are trans no im not im non binary bc i dress like well idk what i dress like but its not girly or boyish its neutral i look like a girl but i think a little like a boy no wonder I dont like school
Just don't take up smoking x
My parents are homophobes :(
I'm nb tooo and i love you
Nope. I exist.
You look 16 mate. I think you're rather non-aging
Omg you look 25 at most
I’m a baby NB :3