Not really NB but my mom got me a trans pin. She still won’t call me her son. Yet she says she supports me. Still waiting for the day she calls me a handsome boy 😞
i came out as nonbinary yesterday with a cake that my friend helped me make, and i feel obligated to let you all know that it was basically a gender reveal cake
@@pringles_2471 totally forgot about this comment but i was thinking about when i did this the other day. like it makes so much sense being able to discuss your pronouns and stuff with your family over cake yk
I'm not replying to myself, this is a shared acc lol- I don't know if there even are any normal words in Spanish, there's always a feminine and masculine xD
I came out to my parents as Nonbinary over a year ago. My mom started using my "new" name half a year ago, my dad only before a few days, after my therapist talked to him. I've got friends in school who I'm out to and they immediately started calling me Leigh. I'm proud that I've come so far, I even cutted my hair short and started wearing clothes I like. As I'm a person struggling with depression, I often think I will never live the way I want to, and it's good to see how far I already came.
It's good to find allies and people who support you, thankfully the world is getting better and more people are becoming supportive and less judgemental. I hope all is well or at least getting better. Just remember that if someone is being wrong it's just because they're not educated and you should try to .
@@-lilyy.anaa- Yeah I'm actually doing really well atm. I've been to a daycare hospital for 3 Months now and am being called Leigh there, did come out to my class teacher, she reacted really nice and supportive^^ and kinda my class now also knows I want to be called Leigh. And as a teacher sayed my deadname half of the class immediately corrected him. So yeah, things are really going good :).
I was forced to come out as nonbinary to my parents last night because my mom found my second Insta account. It ended with me screaming at my dad so yea😗✌
It was the same for me until I moved out. I hope most other people still use the pronouns you want them to and that your mom eventually learns more and realizes how dumb that is and how many problems there are with that.
My parents arent supportive of me being non-binary/genderfluid and refuse to call me by they/them (because I'm not more than 2 people) but school is really supportive. I love Laurenzo's videos, they make me so happy and make me feel like I belong. Keep it up 😁❤
Well, my first language is Arabic. I took French in school, and Arabic is even more gendered than that. Even our “you” pronoun isn’t gender neutral. As someone who’s questioning their gender, this is really frustrating, but I doubt anyone will try to figure things out over here
And yes You’re actually really funny !! You help so many of us ! We’re so grateful to have you ! You’re such an inspiration ! Love you 💙 Your non-binary friend Arrow 🏹
My parents said they supported me as non-binary, and yet still won't use my preferred pronouns and name. It's caused a lot of confusion when I'm writing my name or saying my name or pronouns, because I want to be true to who I am, but I don't want my parents to hate me.
Same. My mom is still using my dead name... She just said "Its difficult for me to suddenly call you by a new name since I called you by your birth name for 19 years" Like yea ok, its difficult but she's not even trying. She never corrects herself.
I have the same problem, i came out to my parents as non-binary at the end of March and they still haven't even attempted to use my correct pronouns and name :(
I personally use "E" At the end for Spanish for a neutral ending for non binary Amigo= Male Friend (El) Amiga= Female Friend (Ella) Amige= They/Them Friend (Elle)
Thanks for the vid! Speaking at plural seems really tricky indeed x) I’m french and tho we struggle a lot with our « gendered words » like you said, at least our neo-pronouns (we mostly use iel) are singular just like il/elle are or he/she in English ⭐️
Trying to talk neutral on spanish can be really discouraging. I know some non binary folx that would like to use Elle/le/e (spanish for They/Them) but it gets messy to explain, and they don't feel prepared to explain it to others :( So they put their prefered pronouns only on english. Personally I think that the more people using it, would become less ""weird"" to listen/talk/write and people could understand it better, but I obviously respect pals who prefers sticking to the binary pronouns.
As an italian non-binary person I struggle with pronouns and and names too. But I found out that in the italian vocabulary is been approved the ə. Basically you use it for neutral adjectives or names. Here's an example: male: amico female: amica non-binary: amicə When you use the ə is mute, so it kinda feels like a dialectical form but with time you get used to it. For pronouns, with my friends I've been using ləi. Here's an example: Male: lui è andato a comprare il latte Female: lei è andata a comprare il latte Non-binary: ləi è andatə a comprare il latte. I don't know if "ləi" is in the dictionary yet but for now I'll use it as a solution to my pronouns problem only among friends. I hope I helped some italian non-binary people with this comment🙂
I've gotten used to calling everyone they, since most people I talk about, I don't know their pronouns and I feel that's most respectful. So now I have to teach myself to use other pronouns (She/Her, He/Him) 💀
I’m so sad because, I’m 11, and have had my friends call me Charlie and they/them, so I KNOW I’m non-binary, and I’ve been slowly trying to hint to my parents that I don’t wanna be their little baby Ava anymore, and I asked to have a ‘boy’ hair (I believe myself that hair has no gender) cut and they said “we can talk about this when you’re a LiTtLe older” but for me I know that means “when you ask in three years like you did this time we can just shut you down because WE like you having longer hair”
I was trying from 9-12 to get my hair how I like it. At 10 I got it cut but the fricking hairdresser, despite pics, cut it A BOB so I waited another 2 years for it to be how i wanted it. Stick with it! Some day it will work :D
At first I thought I was Gender-fluid, but after a little less than a month I was like wait, my gender is not fluctuating, but I’m not a boy or a girl...and I still feel like a have a gender so...Non Binary! I came out to my family and friends over text because COVID. Everyone in my family was accepting! And my friends! Even my grandma, who’s mom was a grammar teacher. I think finding a name was the hardest for me. SO. MANY. OPTIONS! Anyways, hope y’all have a good day!
Thank you so much for that Laurenzo, I still struggle sometimes cause I’m out as non-binary finally and people say they’re supportive, yet they still don’t call me by my name or use my pronouns , I mean I go by any pronouns and ppl know that but they keep only referring to me as she/her ! I know it will take them some time but I hope they can call me by name soon ! Also since ppl don’t call me by name irl even though they know it and everyone online call me by name , sometimes when ppl call me /deadname/ irl I don’t answer or turn around cause I feel like they’re not calling me if that makes sense 😅✨
I’m still sort of figuring out how I identify? I’ve struggled my whole life with how identify and just didn’t know enough about non binary / gender fluid stuff. I’ve been debating starting to use they/them pronouns and it was really helpful to hear you talk about having trouble adjusting to other people using them, because I feel like that might be the case for me at first and I wondered if that meant something more significant, it’s nice to know it’s something others experience too
Its Midnight, I’ve been watching your videos all night. They really inspire me and motivate me. And I’m not gonna stop soon because they’re worth watching
Spanish speaker here!! People are using the letter E to try and remove pronouns from words so like friend in Spanish is “Amigo/Amiga” but it would be Amigue. Now it does sound weird and there are times where it doesn’t make sense, so it makes me a bit uncomfortable hahaha that’s why I just go for she/her pronouns. I hate it here 😂😂
I’m 15 and I came out to my mum a while ago as non-binary after debating to myself if I should 😅, and her response to it was- “HUH?!”. She knew what non-binary was! Because I’d told her a couple days before what it meant in preparation. Blah blah- stuff happened and she says that she is fine as long as I’m ME but she thinks I’m too young to know anything about it. A couple days later I asked her if she could call me by They/Them pronouns instead of she/her and she said that no one calls anyone by they or them and went on how it isn’t a thing. Pls if someone is reading this could you give me some advice I don’t know what to do :,) No matter what I tell her I couldn’t get her to believe me.
about the pronouns in other languages, i really dislike when ppl put * or x at the end of words bc it’s unreadable, but fortunately in Portuguese (which had the same issue as other languages that originated from latin) the neutral pronoun is becoming more popular, so instead of saying the articles like a (fem) or o (masc), you can use ê, for pronouns instead of ela (fem) or ele (masc) you can use elu, and for word terminations, -a (fem) or -o (masc) you can use -e so for example we could instead of saying latinx which is unpronounceable we could say latine (which is still neutral and pronounceable!)
I'm a closetted nombinary ftm, it's hard & stressful being closetted. But I do wanna come out. My mom is anstrict Jehovah's witness & anytime we bring up lgbt+ she goes into full blown rants about sin & religion. I don't think she's going to handle it well when I'm ready to come out
I'm Brazilian and we speak portuguese, since everything has a Gender, People are using Elu, Delu, Não-binarie etc, i think it may help for People who speak similar leguages
My friends are supportive about it and my friend is even nonbinary too. But how should I come out to my BEST FRIEND, she is not that educated on LGBTQ+ things involving gender and pronouns. And I’m pretty sure that she will be okay with it but I’m not sure. How should I tell her?
The pronouns thing happens to me, too! I'm genderfluid, and do a little internal happy dance whenever someone uses my requested pronouns. However, my Latin teacher is nonbinary, and I sometimes have a hard time using proper pronouns for them.
I do have those issues regularly when talking in my native German. I don’t live in Germany though, so that isn’t an issue. I’ve been non-binary in my head a looooooot longer than openly, so I don’t have that much of an issue there. My biggest struggle is getting other people to respect my pronouns in every day living without feeling like I am being a hassle. Everybody basically ignores it.
I have the same issue with French. In French I use the new special non binary pronoun "iel" but indeed there is that same problem about adjectives being pronounced differently. I just use feminine in that case to break the "masculine prevails" which is everywhere in French.
its the same with arabic we have the ending to refer to a male or female and its kinda weird when u refer to enby or anyone who use they/them in plural but im getting more familiar with that im using they/she pronouns as well and my friends never used they/them to me bc i think it sounds weird to them😭
This made me realize that there’s a strangely high overlap between my non-binary friends & my Italian speaking friends... The last time I had a conversation about using their pronouns in Italian v. English w/ one of them, this friend decided it was easier to use the pronouns they were assigned at birth (in Italian) instead of going through the hassle of explaining gender identity. We were also working at a school in a more rural area of Italy, so they didn’t necessarily feel comfortable outing themselves to our coworkers & students. I hope that Italians have more of a dialog about this issue, since I’m curious to see what solution(s) they reach
Pronouns are weird it’s even hard for me at times to remember my own pronouns like using them in my head i call myself the right name but pronouns are even hard for me to get correct
You're not the only one to struggle with according the words (I don't know if "according" is the right word, but when you put the masculine or the feminine at the end of a word like you said). I'm French and it's so complicated 😭 For the pronouns we have "iel/ellui" (a contraction of "il/elle" and "lui/elle", wich mean "he/she" and "him/her"), but when we want to say "he/she is happy", we have to say "il est content" or "elle est contente", and there's no official way to use a neutral ending of the word (officially, the masculine is also the neutral, but it's very controversial). Personnaly, when I write, I use the medium point (it's an unofficial way to make adjectives neutrals), so if I want to say "I'm happy" I'll say "je suis content•e". But you can't say that, you have to use the masculine, the feminine or the -ae ending (you say "je suis contentae" but I don't really know how to pronounce it and I don't like to use this for me so I use the masculine). It's very difficult, even for a French person 😭
being nonbinary, I didn't think it would be that hard to be respected, and I didn't think I was that boring that they would forget all about me being nonbinary. It really sucks because I just want to be respected and treated as an adult and not a child anymore.
A couple weeks ago I tried to explain to my family what nonbinary means and about the pronouns, I'm german so it got really complicated at that point because our literal translation of 'them' is the same word as for 'she', but the form of the verb is still different and 'their' is also different and at the end I had the feeling I had more questions than them 🙈 Everything I know about it is through english... So if anybody can recommend a video or something for german language, that would be perfect 🙈 Ps: I love these videos
There's no video I know of, but nibi.space/ has a lot of info. As a neutrois myself I'm considering using 'es'. Like 'schwul' was reclaimed as a self-descriptor instead of a slur I'd like to reclaim 'es' as a perfectly normal and neutral pronoun instead of it being a slur. Everything else just sounds wrong in my ears and doesn't flow. I also shortly considered 'dey/dem' in reference to the English option but found myself continuing to speak in English so, eep. :D
In my language depending which pronouns you use not just is are change but also rest of the damn words so sometimes I try so hard to see how tf should I say some stuff
Ok, so I'm not a non binary but still enjoy all of your videos.. I'm a little young so for the terms I don't understand, I literally have to Google it to see what it means lmao.... But I'm fine with it cuz you are spreading a beautiful message and putting an entertaining twist to it too
I have a question Is it ok if I choose to not come out as non binary to my family since I’m from an African American family and my family is closed minded and old fashioned
Hey! Idk if you talk about this in your other video (haven't seen it) but, in Spanish the community is trying to endorse gender neutral pronouns by using the letter "e" instead of "a" (femenine) or "o" (masculine).
I came out as non binary to my parents at least 3 months ago and they still don’t use the correct pronouns and I feel uncomfortable with correcting them I don’t know what to do :( I also don’t know what to do with my hair or name because I don’t want to have to ask my parents wherever I can change it but I don’t know whether I want to or not too
i almost had to come out as nonbinary and pansexual cause my friend who talks to everyone found my secret tiktok account, and atleast on the moment I thought of telling him my friends dared me to do it, and I just forgot to change it back, he believed me lmao
In Portuguese seems like is the same as Spanish, French and Italian... I am trying to learn how to be a better ally and respect pronouns but I really don't know how to call nonbinary people in Portuguese, when even people/person in Portuguese is a female term. Pretty Tricky!
I’m nonbinary and lesbian and I have only came out to some friends and not my parents so idk what to say. I think I should atleast tell them in non binary but idk how
Do you have any tips on coming out if you might be unsupported, I can’t be deadnamed and the wrong pronouns used on me anymore From Alec, she/they girlflux
In belguim for they/them pronouns they use hun/hen or Hun/Zij pronouns which can be a struggle for some ppl cause there arent alot of ppl who are nonbinary in my country ;-;
@@britte848 yeah,i'm litterly agender and the only one that is agender in my school as also the only one part of the lgbtq community (i'm pansexual-v-) sadly even some ppl still use she/her pronouns on me even if i came out as agender
I’m questioning my gender and who I like but I’m scared bc my dad homophobic and if I’m a different gender and/or like someone else I’m gonna be so hated 😔✌🏼️
I am trying to understand: What is the concept of “non-binary” and how is it different than “agender”? Also, what is the significance? Just trying to understand. Thanks!
I hate speaking German. My first language. Because as far as I know we do not have anything gender neutral. Pronouns, Titles, ... If there is something please tell me.
Ok so i want to come out to my mom about it but I’m honestly scared 😬 how should I come out to her, any ideas? Also I feel like she will say “ur to young”
hi i actually just came out today but my dad keeps saying the wrong name or the wrong pronouns bc he forgets can u help me to get him more used to me? he’s struggling but he’s trying and i want to help him in anyway possible
Very annoying in French. Luckily there are little tricks one can use, overall I'd say it's easier than Spanish/Italian/Catalan. For ex: you can say "mon ami-e" and the -e is silent anyway so here you can speak without actively picking masc or fem ending.
it depended on the person! my chosen family/close friends were immediate :) colleagues at uni took a little bit of time, but wanted to. but strangers and people not close to me/acquaintances may still not use they/them
I have a question and i'm really sorry if you find it offensive i'm just wondering about something. Being non-binary is like being outside the binary , not being a girl or a boy. How do you know what a girl or a boy is or classify's as so you can know that your not that?( like what characterizes a boy and/or girl? ). Again i'm so so sorry if i shouldn't have asked this i' just curious.
We use "sila/siya" in our language and it automatically means he/she/they
Lucky, in my language even objects are gendered
@@yourtransuncle7252 how-
@@yourtransuncle7252 saaaame we don't even have they/them pronouns only she/he
Great to be enby and live in germany
@@belaizy4225 lmao I'm half czech and half polish
@@belaizy4225 uggghhhhhh I feel that. I just use he/him out of necessity
Not really NB but my mom got me a trans pin. She still won’t call me her son. Yet she says she supports me. Still waiting for the day she calls me a handsome boy 😞
I'm not your mom, and I idk what you look like, but hey, I'd bet money that your a handsome boy, and I hope one day your mom sees that too!
Same
I am your new parent and you are a very handsome boy and I love you and I appreciate you being alive
I am your honorary parent joining these honorary parents
YOU ARE SUCH A HANDSOME BOY AND WILL BE SUCH A HANDSOME YOUNG MAN
You are handsome I’m sure of it
i came out as nonbinary yesterday with a cake that my friend helped me make, and i feel obligated to let you all know that it was basically a gender reveal cake
That is so cool!
That’s actually a good idea… I might do that
@@pringles_2471 totally forgot about this comment but i was thinking about when i did this the other day. like it makes so much sense being able to discuss your pronouns and stuff with your family over cake yk
Best gender reveal cake ever! Because this one is not about assigned gender!
Fun mini problem with being out, my Spanish class. My professor asked for pronouns and El/Ella is just staring at me.
I hate Spanish, they genderise everything T^T
@Anon Y. Mous this is why move to america lmfaoi
@@destryedbyhippiepwrs America is the worst english speaking country to move to rn, or just in general.
I'm not replying to myself, this is a shared acc lol-
I don't know if there even are any normal words in Spanish, there's always a feminine and masculine xD
All my Spanish teachers has said that you could use @ to make it more gender neutral. For example ell@
I came out to my parents as Nonbinary over a year ago. My mom started using my "new" name half a year ago, my dad only before a few days, after my therapist talked to him. I've got friends in school who I'm out to and they immediately started calling me Leigh. I'm proud that I've come so far, I even cutted my hair short and started wearing clothes I like. As I'm a person struggling with depression, I often think I will never live the way I want to, and it's good to see how far I already came.
It's good to find allies and people who support you, thankfully the world is getting better and more people are becoming supportive and less judgemental. I hope all is well or at least getting better. Just remember that if someone is being wrong it's just because they're not educated and you should try to .
Just want to put in that I think Leigh is an awesome name!
@@-lilyy.anaa- Yeah I'm actually doing really well atm. I've been to a daycare hospital for 3 Months now and am being called Leigh there, did come out to my class teacher, she reacted really nice and supportive^^ and kinda my class now also knows I want to be called Leigh. And as a teacher sayed my deadname half of the class immediately corrected him. So yeah, things are really going good :).
@@MxSatNt513 Thanks ^^
@@IrDaNoobKing Thank you ^^
It is still wierd for me to be spoken about with he/him or they/them instead of only she/her because I was adapted to my old pronouns a lot
I was forced to come out as nonbinary to my parents last night because my mom found my second Insta account. It ended with me screaming at my dad so yea😗✌
KJ Powers are you ok?
I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible. Are you ok?
@@isabelgracce yeah I'll be fine☺
@@kelsiestringer7124 I'm ok☺
U3U I came out as pan to my parents and it ended in me going to therapy and parents controlling me
No i was 2nd but hi just came out still call me her cause my mom "doesn't do pronouns"
It was the same for me until I moved out. I hope most other people still use the pronouns you want them to and that your mom eventually learns more and realizes how dumb that is and how many problems there are with that.
I will use your pronouns no matter what :)
"I don't do pronouns 🙄"
"You literally used 'I,' a pronoun-"
"Don't you talk back to me!"
"'You' and 'me' are also pronouns"
"😡"
@@justaperson5677 lmao so true
My parents arent supportive of me being non-binary/genderfluid and refuse to call me by they/them (because I'm not more than 2 people) but school is really supportive. I love Laurenzo's videos, they make me so happy and make me feel like I belong. Keep it up 😁❤
I came out a few months ago and can attest these are BIG daily struggles. Thanks Laurenzo. Glad I'm not the only one
im glad it's not just me!
Well, my first language is Arabic. I took French in school, and Arabic is even more gendered than that. Even our “you” pronoun isn’t gender neutral. As someone who’s questioning their gender, this is really frustrating, but I doubt anyone will try to figure things out over here
Arabic is such an interesting comparison!!!! Thank you for mentioning that one!
@@adesso.laurenzo I’m curious. Why do you think it’s interesting?
Soner or later someone will figure it out. German is still an absolute mess but we are figuring it out someway. Time is on our side.
And yes You’re actually really funny !! You help so many of us ! We’re so grateful to have you ! You’re such an inspiration ! Love you 💙
Your non-binary friend
Arrow 🏹
Arrow 🏹!!!!! aww than you so much :) You are so sweet and kind *sending a hug*
I'm Spanish, and here we use an e as a gender neutral alternative, so instead of saying "ella/ello" we say "elle"
My parents said they supported me as non-binary, and yet still won't use my preferred pronouns and name. It's caused a lot of confusion when I'm writing my name or saying my name or pronouns, because I want to be true to who I am, but I don't want my parents to hate me.
I have the same problems 😕
I suppose we can suffer together
Same. My mom is still using my dead name... She just said "Its difficult for me to suddenly call you by a new name since I called you by your birth name for 19 years"
Like yea ok, its difficult but she's not even trying. She never corrects herself.
I have the same problem, i came out to my parents as non-binary at the end of March and they still haven't even attempted to use my correct pronouns and name :(
I hope when I have a kid they feel confident enough to tell me anything they need to because I'll just be happy that they are mine 🥰
I personally use "E" At the end for Spanish for a neutral ending for non binary
Amigo= Male Friend (El)
Amiga= Female Friend (Ella)
Amige= They/Them Friend (Elle)
Did you know that in Spanish the word "non-binary" has feminine and masculine endings? That's hilarious!!! "Nonbinaria" and "Nonbinario"
Well thats ironic
It's the same in italian too😂
Same in italian
Thanks for the vid! Speaking at plural seems really tricky indeed x) I’m french and tho we struggle a lot with our « gendered words » like you said, at least our neo-pronouns (we mostly use iel) are singular just like il/elle are or he/she in English ⭐️
so interesting! thanks for writing this!
My struggle is getting other people to use my pronouns, no matter how much I remind them.
Trying to talk neutral on spanish can be really discouraging. I know some non binary folx that would like to use Elle/le/e (spanish for They/Them) but it gets messy to explain, and they don't feel prepared to explain it to others :( So they put their prefered pronouns only on english.
Personally I think that the more people using it, would become less ""weird"" to listen/talk/write and people could understand it better, but I obviously respect pals who prefers sticking to the binary pronouns.
As an italian non-binary person I struggle with pronouns and and names too. But I found out that in the italian vocabulary is been approved the ə.
Basically you use it for neutral adjectives or names.
Here's an example:
male: amico
female: amica
non-binary: amicə
When you use the ə is mute, so it kinda feels like a dialectical form but with time you get used to it.
For pronouns, with my friends I've been using ləi. Here's an example:
Male: lui è andato a comprare il latte
Female: lei è andata a comprare il latte
Non-binary: ləi è andatə a comprare il latte.
I don't know if "ləi" is in the dictionary yet but for now I'll use it as a solution to my pronouns problem only among friends.
I hope I helped some italian non-binary people with this comment🙂
I've gotten used to calling everyone they, since most people I talk about, I don't know their pronouns and I feel that's most respectful.
So now I have to teach myself to use other pronouns (She/Her, He/Him) 💀
Yess! Portuguese (Brazil) is the same thing! Have the feminine and masculine in EVERY adjective aaaaaaaaa
I’m so sad because, I’m 11, and have had my friends call me Charlie and they/them, so I KNOW I’m non-binary, and I’ve been slowly trying to hint to my parents that I don’t wanna be their little baby Ava anymore, and I asked to have a ‘boy’ hair (I believe myself that hair has no gender) cut and they said “we can talk about this when you’re a LiTtLe older” but for me I know that means “when you ask in three years like you did this time we can just shut you down because WE like you having longer hair”
Oh no, I’m sorry... I hope things get better with your parents soon :(.
@@florian5560 oh thank you so much!
I was trying from 9-12 to get my hair how I like it. At 10 I got it cut but the fricking hairdresser, despite pics, cut it A BOB so I waited another 2 years for it to be how i wanted it.
Stick with it! Some day it will work :D
i'm sorry...this was 3 years ago, what happened ? ❤
Why are your videos so adorable :3
Love your channel!!!!! You help me sooo much!
You are so welcome!
At first I thought I was Gender-fluid, but after a little less than a month I was like wait, my gender is not fluctuating, but I’m not a boy or a girl...and I still feel like a have a gender so...Non Binary! I came out to my family and friends over text because COVID. Everyone in my family was accepting! And my friends! Even my grandma, who’s mom was a grammar teacher. I think finding a name was the hardest for me. SO. MANY. OPTIONS! Anyways, hope y’all have a good day!
Hi! I'm enby too. A problem I have is my parents still calling me their daughter out of habit.
This is kind of off topic but are you guys watching the inauguration?!? 😆💙
😂
My issue is
french class which is ✨ mandatory ✨ as you need a foreign language to graduate
*Il Elle intensifies*
My friend just came out as they/Them and they were so scared that they went to me and my friend first. We immediately Showed our support!
Thank you so much for that Laurenzo, I still struggle sometimes cause I’m out as non-binary finally and people say they’re supportive, yet they still don’t call me by my name or use my pronouns , I mean I go by any pronouns and ppl know that but they keep only referring to me as she/her ! I know it will take them some time but I hope they can call me by name soon ! Also since ppl don’t call me by name irl even though they know it and everyone online call me by name , sometimes when ppl call me /deadname/ irl I don’t answer or turn around cause I feel like they’re not calling me if that makes sense 😅✨
I hope people come around too💚
I’m demigender and I’m still deciding wether I want to use they/them or a lesser-known pronoun like ze/zer so this video helped somewhat
Hey, I'm still learning all this, if you don't mind could you explain demigender?
@@rainbowhow6431 It’s basically when you’re on the spectrum between a binary gender and being non-binary, you partially identify as both
I just came out non binary! You were a great role model for me coming out and everyone is so supportive 😊 Thank you!
i’m watching this because i’m planning on coming out to my mom today
I have a question:
What’s done of the best ways to tell parents you want to change your name?
this is literally my fave LGBT channel!
I’m still sort of figuring out how I identify? I’ve struggled my whole life with how identify and just didn’t know enough about non binary / gender fluid stuff. I’ve been debating starting to use they/them pronouns and it was really helpful to hear you talk about having trouble adjusting to other people using them, because I feel like that might be the case for me at first and I wondered if that meant something more significant, it’s nice to know it’s something others experience too
Its Midnight, I’ve been watching your videos all night. They really inspire me and motivate me. And I’m not gonna stop soon because they’re worth watching
Spanish speaker here!! People are using the letter E to try and remove pronouns from words so like friend in Spanish is “Amigo/Amiga” but it would be Amigue. Now it does sound weird and there are times where it doesn’t make sense, so it makes me a bit uncomfortable hahaha that’s why I just go for she/her pronouns. I hate it here 😂😂
Although I'm not non-binary my best friend is and they're so scared of correcting people who say he/him and I really wanna help them but idk how
thanks for being an ally!!!! and thanks for being here!
Edit: they say it doesn't matter and they don't mind am I the one in the wrong if I correct everyone who sais it wrong for them 🤣
I’m 15 and I came out to my mum a while ago as non-binary after debating to myself if I should 😅, and her response to it was- “HUH?!”. She knew what non-binary was! Because I’d told her a couple days before what it meant in preparation. Blah blah- stuff happened and she says that she is fine as long as I’m ME but she thinks I’m too young to know anything about it.
A couple days later I asked her if she could call me by They/Them pronouns instead of she/her and she said that no one calls anyone by they or them and went on how it isn’t a thing.
Pls if someone is reading this could you give me some advice I don’t know what to do :,)
No matter what I tell her I couldn’t get her to believe me.
I support this community because we have are own opinions on who we are but we are all people
i take spanish and she just has me use what ever i was with the genders
about the pronouns in other languages, i really dislike when ppl put * or x at the end of words bc it’s unreadable, but fortunately in Portuguese (which had the same issue as other languages that originated from latin) the neutral pronoun is becoming more popular, so instead of saying the articles like a (fem) or o (masc), you can use ê, for pronouns instead of ela (fem) or ele (masc) you can use elu, and for word terminations, -a (fem) or -o (masc) you can use -e
so for example we could instead of saying latinx which is unpronounceable we could say latine (which is still neutral and pronounceable!)
I came out but my dad doesn't use my name because "we've been using it for 13 years", so I don't know what to do.
I'm a closetted nombinary ftm, it's hard & stressful being closetted. But I do wanna come out. My mom is anstrict Jehovah's witness & anytime we bring up lgbt+ she goes into full blown rants about sin & religion. I don't think she's going to handle it well when I'm ready to come out
This really helped!! Thank you!❤️❤️
I'm Brazilian and we speak portuguese, since everything has a Gender, People are using Elu, Delu, Não-binarie etc, i think it may help for People who speak similar leguages
My friends are supportive about it and my friend is even nonbinary too. But how should I come out to my BEST FRIEND, she is not that educated on LGBTQ+ things involving gender and pronouns.
And I’m pretty sure that she will be okay with it but I’m not sure.
How should I tell her?
Have you tried giving hints or something? Or maybe just get into a deep talk with her or something and then mention it
The pronouns thing happens to me, too! I'm genderfluid, and do a little internal happy dance whenever someone uses my requested pronouns. However, my Latin teacher is nonbinary, and I sometimes have a hard time using proper pronouns for them.
I do have those issues regularly when talking in my native German. I don’t live in Germany though, so that isn’t an issue.
I’ve been non-binary in my head a looooooot longer than openly, so I don’t have that much of an issue there.
My biggest struggle is getting other people to respect my pronouns in every day living without feeling like I am being a hassle. Everybody basically ignores it.
I have the same issue with French. In French I use the new special non binary pronoun "iel" but indeed there is that same problem about adjectives being pronounced differently. I just use feminine in that case to break the "masculine prevails" which is everywhere in French.
its the same with arabic we have the ending to refer to a male or female and its kinda weird when u refer to enby or anyone who use they/them in plural but im getting more familiar with that
im using they/she pronouns as well and my friends never used they/them to me bc i think it sounds weird to them😭
This made me realize that there’s a strangely high overlap between my non-binary friends & my Italian speaking friends...
The last time I had a conversation about using their pronouns in Italian v. English w/ one of them, this friend decided it was easier to use the pronouns they were assigned at birth (in Italian) instead of going through the hassle of explaining gender identity. We were also working at a school in a more rural area of Italy, so they didn’t necessarily feel comfortable outing themselves to our coworkers & students. I hope that Italians have more of a dialog about this issue, since I’m curious to see what solution(s) they reach
Thanks for posting this!🖤 Im a Non-binary kid and im currently struggling to come out.
You're videos help me so much!🥰🖤
Pronouns are weird it’s even hard for me at times to remember my own pronouns like using them in my head i call myself the right name but pronouns are even hard for me to get correct
You're not the only one to struggle with according the words (I don't know if "according" is the right word, but when you put the masculine or the feminine at the end of a word like you said). I'm French and it's so complicated 😭
For the pronouns we have "iel/ellui" (a contraction of "il/elle" and "lui/elle", wich mean "he/she" and "him/her"), but when we want to say "he/she is happy", we have to say "il est content" or "elle est contente", and there's no official way to use a neutral ending of the word (officially, the masculine is also the neutral, but it's very controversial). Personnaly, when I write, I use the medium point (it's an unofficial way to make adjectives neutrals), so if I want to say "I'm happy" I'll say "je suis content•e". But you can't say that, you have to use the masculine, the feminine or the -ae ending (you say "je suis contentae" but I don't really know how to pronounce it and I don't like to use this for me so I use the masculine). It's very difficult, even for a French person 😭
being nonbinary, I didn't think it would be that hard to be respected, and I didn't think I was that boring that they would forget all about me being nonbinary. It really sucks because I just want to be respected and treated as an adult and not a child anymore.
A couple weeks ago I tried to explain to my family what nonbinary means and about the pronouns, I'm german so it got really complicated at that point because our literal translation of 'them' is the same word as for 'she', but the form of the verb is still different and 'their' is also different and at the end I had the feeling I had more questions than them 🙈 Everything I know about it is through english... So if anybody can recommend a video or something for german language, that would be perfect 🙈
Ps: I love these videos
There's no video I know of, but nibi.space/ has a lot of info. As a neutrois myself I'm considering using 'es'. Like 'schwul' was reclaimed as a self-descriptor instead of a slur I'd like to reclaim 'es' as a perfectly normal and neutral pronoun instead of it being a slur. Everything else just sounds wrong in my ears and doesn't flow. I also shortly considered 'dey/dem' in reference to the English option but found myself continuing to speak in English so, eep. :D
@@johapunkt3053 Thanks a lot 🙏♡
I live in Greece and we don't have a translation for they/them cuz it sounds like feminine pronouns
Kinda off topic but your hair looks great!
In my language depending which pronouns you use not just is are change but also rest of the damn words so sometimes I try so hard to see how tf should I say some stuff
can anyone help me with how to tell my parents that I have a new name now? like literally H A L P M E H
in portuguese is dichotomic like that... but we recently have been using neutral (not oficial) neopronouns. they are amazing srsly. (ela/ele/elu)
Ok, so I'm not a non binary but still enjoy all of your videos.. I'm a little young so for the terms I don't understand, I literally have to Google it to see what it means lmao.... But I'm fine with it cuz you are spreading a beautiful message and putting an entertaining twist to it too
I have a question
Is it ok if I choose to not come out as non binary to my family since I’m from an African American family and my family is closed minded and old fashioned
Ofc you never have to come out at all
Of course, but you have to deal with all the misgendering. If you're okay with that.
@@the.midnightskies8908 I’m dealing with it
@@caff-nolongeractive9344 you mean transphobic?
Hi there! Definitely don't right now - and watch this youtube video of mine FIRST *sending a hug* :) ruclips.net/video/BermFCwUHKo/видео.html
When you’re dad and sisters assumed my gender omg
Hey! Idk if you talk about this in your other video (haven't seen it) but, in Spanish the community is trying to endorse gender neutral pronouns by using the letter "e" instead of "a" (femenine) or "o" (masculine).
You are special. You are loved.
Ngl I was just staring at the nonbinary flag
Its SO pretty
I came out as non binary to my parents at least 3 months ago and they still don’t use the correct pronouns and I feel uncomfortable with correcting them I don’t know what to do :( I also don’t know what to do with my hair or name because I don’t want to have to ask my parents wherever I can change it but I don’t know whether I want to or not too
i almost had to come out as nonbinary and pansexual cause my friend who talks to everyone found my secret tiktok account, and atleast on the moment I thought of telling him my friends dared me to do it, and I just forgot to change it back, he believed me lmao
Omg, I'm enby and pan too, love you💜
In Portuguese seems like is the same as Spanish, French and Italian... I am trying to learn how to be a better ally and respect pronouns but I really don't know how to call nonbinary people in Portuguese, when even people/person in Portuguese is a female term. Pretty Tricky!
I’m nonbinary and lesbian and I have only came out to some friends and not my parents so idk what to say. I think I should atleast tell them in non binary but idk how
You have an amazing personality and I love your content
Im not Non-binary but I love these videos :D
I dont know how to come out being bi tho :(
Love your videos tho :))))))
Turns out im Lesbian-
My French teacher use iel as a French non-binary pronoun
Do you have any tips on coming out if you might be unsupported, I can’t be deadnamed and the wrong pronouns used on me anymore
From Alec, she/they girlflux
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In belguim for they/them pronouns they use hun/hen or Hun/Zij pronouns which can be a struggle for some ppl cause there arent alot of ppl who are nonbinary in my country ;-;
same in the netherlands! hen/hun, die/diens en zij plural!
@@britte848 yes,i find it abit sad there are not alot of non-binary ppl in belguim (i'm not sure about netherlands) i barely see any non-binary ppl
@@fandomcult8172 true! i was lucky to have 2 other non-binary people in my class! But i haven’t seen any other non-binary people here
@@britte848 yeah,i'm litterly agender and the only one that is agender in my school as also the only one part of the lgbtq community (i'm pansexual-v-) sadly even some ppl still use she/her pronouns on me even if i came out as agender
when you get a popup for FTM surgery on the video:
I’m questioning my gender and who I like but I’m scared bc my dad homophobic and if I’m a different gender and/or like someone else I’m gonna be so hated 😔✌🏼️
I am trying to understand: What is the concept of “non-binary” and how is it different than “agender”? Also, what is the significance? Just trying to understand. Thanks!
ive recently come out as non binary but im struggling to tell people my new name, what should i do?
Speaking Chinese is no problem, but when you write it, there is no in between unless you write “it” which can be offensive. -_-
Woooo
Idk which one to come out first that I'm bi or non binary which should I do first?
either! :) before you come out, please watch this youtube of mine for helpful tips 😉ruclips.net/video/BermFCwUHKo/видео.html
@@adesso.laurenzo thank you so much 💓
I hate speaking German. My first language.
Because as far as I know we do not have anything gender neutral. Pronouns, Titles, ...
If there is something please tell me.
Ok so i want to come out to my mom about it but I’m honestly scared 😬 how should I come out to her, any ideas? Also I feel like she will say “ur to young”
So I have a question and I’m not sure if you will be uncomfortable with it? So what gender were you originally born as?
I love your videos 🤗
hi i actually just came out today but my dad keeps saying the wrong name or the wrong pronouns bc he forgets can u help me to get him more used to me? he’s struggling but he’s trying and i want to help him in anyway possible
I got mixed signals from my dad it was weird
Very annoying in French. Luckily there are little tricks one can use, overall I'd say it's easier than Spanish/Italian/Catalan.
For ex: you can say "mon ami-e" and the -e is silent anyway so here you can speak without actively picking masc or fem ending.
How do I ask to become non binary cus I know my dad and others in my family don’t support lgbtq I’m not sure what to do
@@IrDaNoobKing k thx
How long did it take for people to respect your pronouns?
it depended on the person! my chosen family/close friends were immediate :) colleagues at uni took a little bit of time, but wanted to. but strangers and people not close to me/acquaintances may still not use they/them
@@adesso.laurenzo Oh, ok, thank you
Tysm for the video 💛⬜💜🖤
Of course!!
My friend we do A lot of text role plays and stuff and I am non-binary so she’ll be like Hai Gurlll oops hey Friendddddddd
I have a question and i'm really sorry if you find it offensive i'm just wondering about something. Being non-binary is like being outside the binary , not being a girl or a boy. How do you know what a girl or a boy is or classify's as so you can know that your not that?( like what characterizes a boy and/or girl? ). Again i'm so so sorry if i shouldn't have asked this i' just curious.
Can you try and explain this a little more clearly and I could try and explain it for you?
in German there's no such thing as They them.....I and many other nb's go by made up pronouns like dey or xier