Maybe? haha TikTok is my main platform. But we also have the RUclips channel here, Instagram, & soon a website & will be having Club Memberships & ZOOM calls :)
@@adesso.laurenzo yeah I'm like 99.999% sure it's you now lol. By the way, love your stuff! Even though they were just some short skits on my recommended page, a lot of them made me feel more confident in myself as a trans man during a time when I really needed it. Keep up with the good work!
My suggestion if you don’t know if your parents are homophobic or transphobic if to watch a tv show or movie with them that you know has lgbtq+ representation in it and see how they react (this can also be an opportunity for you to explain any terms they might not understand to help your coming out go smoother)
This is what Im hoping to do with my older brother, but kind of the opposite, like ill ask him what he thinks it means and ill explain what it really does. We’re watching the Owl House together :D (also any TOH fans Lumity pog)
i just used my gay uncle and the fact that i often overhear things from other rooms. yeah... uh, it was pretty explicit. got quiet, said we dont talk about him and said "christians don't support gay people"
My mother just skips through, even when me and her both know its a good movie when we watch the trailer. Then she saw the girl likes the girl in the trailer she skipped through.
Hi Laurenzo, thanks for this video, I bought a non-binary flag for Christmas and since I’m moving in my own apartment very soon I really wanted to come out so I received my flag on Christmas Day , but when they asked me what flag it was and why I got it , nothing , no answer just closeted enby panic I couldn’t say anything! I was rlly mad at myself cause I really wanted to it yk , online I have my name and my pronouns and here I’m still closeted even though I’m moving out soon 🤦🏼✨
You're so welcome! I'm glad you'll have your own apartment soon!!!!!! Don't be mad at yourself. Self love is the most important kind of love. It will happen when the timing is right :) I'm glad you have your name and pronouns. Definitely keep an eye out here for community posts to meet some LGBTQ+ peeps!
@@Kai-iy3kk i am trying speaking to them but my dad is very supportive since i explained what it meant unfortunately my mum still isn't supportive but i'm just explaining stuff and hoping she accepts me eventually
Awfully weird lol. My dad was okay when I came out but the rest of my family really isn't. I'm blessed that he's alright with it. I think your mom would have a harder time understanding
My parents claim that they are doing this for me but yet they keep saying things don't abandon your femininity or changing your gender without talking to your family and deciding together is such an american thing
I came out to a friend of mine as Non-Binary and it took him a while to get used to it, but now he's really supportive and even asked one of his friends to buy me a binder. I'm really glad to have him as a friend. He's the only one in my real life I'm out to, because my family is kinda wierd with everything lgbt related. I'm planning on coming out to my other friends. I know they're all very supportive, but I'm still scared.
Coming out to people that you care about can be really scary but, as long as you know that they're supportive of you, everything will be fine. I was in a similar situation as you just a few years ago but, it went really well for me and, I hope it goes well for you too. Good luck with coming out!
Same situation here, Go on! Having friends that know and understand (or try to) is so good, is a healthy way to deal with it all and with the time you'll feel safe in who you are.
Last night my parents found that I was Trixic and Nonbinary because they were going through my phone and messages to my friends and both of my parents are homophobic and transphobic
Omg so true, when I said I was lesbian my mom said that she thinks that I’m actually bi bc I talked about how cute all of the male actors are, btw I’m like really young so she might be right bc I am still figuring things out but still
if you are old enough i'd start collecting money get a job make sure you're secure so right when you turn 18 you can move out and away from those awful people
I came out to my friend’s parents first because I knew that they supported LGBTQ+ because my friend is bi and they support her, they would’ve been my plan to go to if I got kicked out for being non-binary and lesbian. So glad I didn’t have to do that
my parents being highkey homophobic and dead naming people and saying “if you liked girls i wouldn’t support nor love you anymore”, like ok thanks 😃😃 now how am i supposed to tell them i don’t want to be a female and i like all genders 😳🤚
Here's my problem. My mum knows I'm omnisexual and is very supportive, even my brother is gay. She loves the LGBTQ community but...when she started to get suspicious I might be trans ( more specifically a Demiboy in my case) she got mad? And said, oh your not a boy, it's all because kids at school are saying they are trans, I know your not trans I have birth to you. BUT THIS IS WHERE IS GETS WEIRD. I came out as non binary and my mum was open to it, and stuff. She uses my name sometimes ( very rarely, I'm too scared to correct) but rarely uses they them. But this was before I realised I was trans. So when I asked if she could you he/they ( mainly he) pronouns she went all defensive?! I'm so confused. I don't have any other family where I live. Well, my dad's side but there all abusers and transphobes and all that. We don't have any family friends that can help me. There's only one teacher at school who I know that is BEYOND SUPPORTIVE of gay , and trans kids. When she hears someone use gay as an insult she tells them of. She asked for our pronouns and preferred name if we are trans. But that's all. I have one LGBTQ friend, who I don't know well, and one good friend who is an Ally. Soooo not that much support ahaha. I love my mum but I'm just confused why she won't accept me being demiboy
I will forever remember this for whem i come out to my mom and try to get her to understand and transphobic dad who is really scary and I now won't come out to him. EVER but I will keep everything you have said in mind for when I come out to my parents and my friends that I have to find and my teachers. . .
@@FirstKingOfMushrooms you're so valid and amazing! i hope one day your family sees that in you. good luck for when you do come out! sending love your way
This must help ppl so much, I’m rlly glad my mum isn’t homophobic ;w; I’ve told my mum and teacher that I’m a demiboy and they were supportive :) Fun Fact: When I came out to my mum as Polysexual she told me that she was actually bi :>
@@KameronSkye That’s awesome! But just to let you know I am Polysexual which means to be attracted to most genders but not all, I understand the confusion though, and it’s fine :) But funny enough a couple days ago I realised that I am polyamorous so, yeah! :D
After coming out to my close friends and my partner on the 31th I said goodbye to my gender as well as the new year in pretty big whatsapp chain to a lot of folks... This russian doll of coming out is a nightmare
I came out to my mum as trans as I thought she would be fine as my sister has trans friends and I have trans friends and she is okay but noooooooooooooooooooooooooo. I told her and she instantly tells me no, it's just a phase and other dog poop. And every time I try to ask her about it she goes " hi (dead name), you can use (preferred name) as a nickname but nothing more."
IM SO SORRYY---- what are your pronouns and name and gender so i can give you some well deserved euphoria?? you are so amazing and that won't ever change based off of what anyone says. you are such a good person and even better for being who you are. you don’t deserve to be crushed by someone who doesn't love you enough to make you happy
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 Thank you!!!! I was originally going with just Blu but it didn't feel as right as Blau and it's kind of ironic to me and I love the name. 😁🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
when your homophobic and transphobic parents read your coming out text to your friends but still deadname and misgender you and have even told them your not bi but now you think your a lesbian but they cut off your contact from all your lgbtqia+ friends: guess i failed step one
Same, I don't even think I will get or want a boyfriend/girlfriend in the next few years. But since my parents are so strongly assuming that I'm straight, I just let them believe this as long as I don't have a boyfriend
I accidentally came out to my friend that I had just met I didn’t mean to say it but it just kinda came out of my mouth and she told one of my other friends and I really wish I didn’t come out to her
@@transmasctsukasa sameeeeee, but I can’t contact my bio dad, he left and didn’t come back, yet I can’t do anything legally, because he’s my legal guardian, even though he literally hasn’t been around for half my life.
My mother just came out as bi to me and the rest of my family and I couldn’t be prouder of her :)) it also made me really happy since I’m also bi. (I was never worried abt not being accepted for who I am though since both of my parents are very supportive and open minded)
I am bi and I already told most of my friends and my therapist who are all very supportive. My parents are allies and I think they are starting to suspect my true sexuality. I don’t know if I should wait a few years to come out since I’m only 12. I have a reliable environment unlike many others in the comments below, so I’m going to keep my fingers crossed that you guys can successfully come out when you’re ready. 😌
I recently came out as nonbinary. My mom said she'll support me and that she loves me and my dad was like "oke... uhm yk it's going to be hard to use your new name and pronouns but I'll try". But they haven't used my name or my pronouns yet. I hope they'll use them soon.
hopefully they do, it makes sense if they dont use them right away. im still adjusting to my friends it/its pronouns. though if they havent used them yet, they might not support
I recommend telling your friends and other family before your parents. Also can I say this is the most yay vibing comment section and I love it 🤘🤟🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Agreed. I came out to my friends first just to get an understanding of how to bring it up in a conversation. It was super helpful, and I eventually came out to my parents.
idk if you care but i actually came out to my older sister that i thought was homophobic-? it was actually a month ago. I mean she kind of is but anyways. She would always say disgusting things about the LGBTQ+ community. My parents do fully support btw. I had wanted to tell her so many times but like you get the picture, anyways when i told her, she had said that it's okay and if its what i believe then its okay, she just doesn't believe in it- she also said she knew- which my parents said the same thing. owo
I accidentally came out to my parents in June last year, and my mom told me to stop. My dad asked me why I liked women, I ALMOST asked him why HE liked women- Edit: they didn't accept me, I told my Gramma I was nb and she used the right pronouns, my mom DIDN'T-
I've made hints about being attracted to girls but haven't told my parents. They seem meh, but I'm still waiting until I have moved out!! Edit: The other week I said to my mum that I would marry a female character and she didn't seem overly pleased, more confused. I am come out sooner than I think...
I have homophobic and transphobic parents and I’m both pansexual and genderqueer .-. It honestly scares me to come out but I want to my freshman year if hs (abt 2 yrs) But I’m scared of what will happen and I’m scared they won’t believe or will just not care and invalidate me by not accepting me and not using they/them pronouns But I have to do it one day and in the end, I don’t have to give them an explanation to why I’m who I am today Bc I was born this way and they can either accept it or I’ll find a safer environment to stay ✌️😗
The only homophobic people ive encountered is my friends friend, my other friends friend XD, and my teacher. My teacher legit said, “Theyre all just blinded by sin”
I’m glad I have a friend that’s supportive of me wanting to identify as male because coming out to my mother didn’t go well. She’s very supportive of anyone in the LGBTQIA+ community...except me. She raised me as a girl and she will see me as a girl. I came out to her thinking she would be equally supportive of me as she was everyone else but this was not the case. Since I still live under her roof, I basically told her I would pretend my coming out never happened. But once I leave her roof, I’m living my life as *me* because I am who I am and I will not let the shackles of “but not my child” slow me down.
my sister came out as trans to our parents who are transphobic before she even knew she was trans saying “mom i want to be a girl” with a response of “but you cant be a girl since youre already a boy” anyways you remind me of my 6th grade pe teacher, lol ik thats random, you guys sound so similar not only in voice but in positivity
i was outed and i have to pretend im straight lmao. i know being in the closet sucks, but it’s the best you could do at the moment. i used to be in the pantry too.
“Surround yourself by people who are LGBTQ+” *Me over here with like two straight friends but I met all of them before we came out* The odds of this happening is unreal-
I made a lot of these mistakes.. BUT apparently my parents are super supportive and awesome. They are super accepting of who I am :D so it ended up ok in the end.
I came out as pansexual to my parents a while ago, it's a safe situation in my case, there is just some lack of knowledge but I can understand how 😅. But because of that I tend to trust my lgbt+ friend group a lot!
First, Im a minor and Im not going to tell you my exact age. Next, you should stop caring about other peoples parenting skills. Lastly, my parents are really good parents and they deserve respect so shut up.
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My friend told me this at the skl the other day after a teacher said "girls and boys" (I'm considering enby/gender-queer and he knows) So he said it should be the guys, gals and non-binary pals and it just stuck 😂
I’m bi and in my mind I never even thought that my family would at all even care, and they're fine with me being bi but whenever I mention it I feel kinda awkward, and IDK why has anyone ever felt like this, and if so do you have any advice? EDIT: in another comment I posted I said that I was lesbian but here I say I'm bi that's bc I'm confused about my sexuality, just wanted to mention that so that people don't ask
For me talking to non LGBTQ people about LGBTQ things is awkward as well and I figure it’s because I think it makes them uncomfortable My advice would be to just speak regularly about it, don’t emphasize it because it’s just like a guy talking about some girl
Hi I’m 11 and pan and agender. I’ve not come out to my parents yet. I have a partner. My parents are not homophobic, they are supportive of my older brother who is pan as well. I want to come out . I just don’t know what to say. Is there any tips on what to do.
Idk- my parents seem to semi okay with lgbtq+ sexuality, but not so much the gender orientation. Which is bad for me since I’ve been recently questioning if I was a Demigirl. #Religiousparentstruggles
Umm ..... I'm enby and I go by they/them pronouns but I have some "female" traits. I'm also Omnisexual with a female preference. My parents are LGBT positive, but... They only accept gay, lesbian, transgender (ftm or mtf) and bisexual. They don't agree with not identifying as male or female and they think that pan/omni is just being extra. And they think that being genderfluid is just messed up. Not to mention I'm okay with dating more than one person, which they also don't like...so.... Uh, any suggestions???? Most of my friends are LGBTQ positive and accept me, though the only one I've come out to is my very amazing trans friend, whose family is transphobic but are trying to get better. I honestly don't know what to do
I came out cause I knew my parents weren't homophobic but then I guess they CHANGED their mind and now they don't even let me wear my rainbow socks.. What do I do?
A tip if you don’t know what your parents think about the LGBTQ+ community, say that a friend of yours came out or someone came out as the same thing as you, for example (I’m bisexual and gender fluid) Me:Hey my friend came out as Bi the other day Parent:oh that’s cool Your parents will probably not pretend they are not homophobic and act upset if they *are* homophobic, but I’m closeted so what can I say on this topic anyways-
Can someone tell me if my parents are being homophobic - that’s what a gay does( context a male in a vlog was fanning over how pretty a mask was) - being non-binary is all placebo - you too stupid to actually know so stop - my mom lecture me when I asked if I could have a few male clothes ( it was to try out my gender more) - girls aren’t supposed to have short hair - where my dads from it’s don’t say don’t tell Anyway those are just some of the thing off the top of my head I am bisexual( though I identify more with being a lesbian) maybe cis female
I wish i could tell my moms best friend but she is a Christian that thinks gay is bad (not saying any religion is bad btw) so it like im telling my mom since she died but my aunt is very supportive it 3 am and i watching your videos but im only 11 almost 12 but im a bisexual non-binary with they/them/her/she
Any non gay people here just trying to learn about LGBT so you could help youre gay friend come out to other people or there parents... I just realized how hyper specific this comment is lmao
instead of coming out to people one by one I did it in a group chat of everyone in my phone . . . with a meme . . . the best part was a huge chunk of them responded with finallys the other group of people where like I fing know it.
Before i came out My mom wouldnt let me cut my hair short so i did and she cussed me out calling me a trans freak when she found out and shed act homophobic to me a year and a half later a came out to my family they were eh about it they treat me the same as before there nice my dad was happy and supported me he would help me come out to my friends he tried to take me to pride festivals around pride month and my mom told me it was to much or i was coming out as a trend or would get mad and yell if i talked about girls being pretty/cute she a year later came around slowly and is still a little homophobic but she buys me rainbow stuff when before she wouldn't and is slowly learning my flags (pan/genderfluid/poly) but even though shes sorta used to the fact i like anyone and gender doesn't matter im scared to tell her that i feel like i might be trans but im not sure i want to try out somethings to see if i am really trans but im afraid she'll get mad at me cuz when i came out as pan she wasn't that mad about it as she was when i cut my hair and called me a trans freak though at the time of that i dont think i was trans but im not sure now i might be but if i tell her i think i am or i wanna see if i am shed be so mad she wouldn't let me see my friends or do anything im scared and im scared that my current boyfriend will leave me
Ok but what about coming out to someone that you don’t know if they are Homophobic or not? Bc my mom is friends with these 2 gay guys but she also seems weirded out by gay stuff on TV but only when it’s guys 💀 So it’s like, do I tell her? Do I wait-? Ik my grandma is homophobic 💀 my dad doesn’t seem to be, but my mom is like idk🤷
What i did before coming out: 1. I asked my parents if they would be fine with it and i also said i'm not lgbt before asking and they said they would be totally fine! 2. Talking to my parents about it 3. Exposing myself
You're never too young to not be straight. you shouldn't care what they say. You be you. I support you and I don't think you are too young. I'm not really sure what to do, but I'll tell you when I have an idea on what to do.
@@catbite5750 I’m sitting here in my bed really upset and your comment just made me feel soo much happier and brighter than ever thank you for supporting me 😊 and remember you also don’t have to complement me and be my parent I’m sure I’ll be just fine (I’m saying that in a nice way 😁) but thank you so so so much you just made my day 😄 if you do have anything that can help me please do respond to me that would be so nice of you but remember take care of yourself also 😊
@@IrDaNoobKing We're not greedy just because we're attracted to both genders or multiple genders. Also it doesn't mean we would date both genders at the same time.
Tip for testing the ice before coming out that I’ve used - say you are doing an experiment and ask your friends + family stuff like “what do you think about the lgbtq+ community?” and “what do you think about global warming?” (mix things up a bit so’s not to arouse suspicion!) If they respond positively, it is probably fairly safe to come out :) ❤
I came out a couple years ago, to my parents in a japanese restaurant, we recently went there, and I just remembered the awkward moment when I came out. My mom, dad, brothers, and friends support me so much. Although, I came out to my brothers as lesbian later. My friends pretty much knew.
living closeted sucks, but its 1000x better then coming out in an unsafe environment. stay safe y'all!
This is so true. I’m 19 years old and still closeted since I’m living with my homophobic and transphobic family.
I came out before i was ready because my mom pressured me for an answer as to why i draw myself feminine and i felt guilty. I regret it.
My friend was forced to come out by a therapist. They turn out to be really homophobic
I’ve been living in the closet for two years now 👀
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Hol' up- so *you're* that person who's Tik Toks keep mysteriously appearing in my recommendations
Maybe? haha TikTok is my main platform. But we also have the RUclips channel here, Instagram, & soon a website & will be having Club Memberships & ZOOM calls :)
@@adesso.laurenzo yeah I'm like 99.999% sure it's you now lol. By the way, love your stuff! Even though they were just some short skits on my recommended page, a lot of them made me feel more confident in myself as a trans man during a time when I really needed it. Keep up with the good work!
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OK I WAS JUST PLANNING ON COMING OUT BECAUSE MY FLAGS ARRIVED- HOW DO YOU KNOW
They stalking ya
Jkjk
Goodluck on coming out! I hope ur friends/Family except for who u r!!♡
@@obamashelf5500 aww ty
@@kogmith Np!♡
did you do it?? good luck! hope they are ok!
These comment sections are the best, bc it's all the gays just vibing 🌈
Yea!
Oh my god your name- ITS AMAZING-
Pansexual gang 😎
@@bred-et4pb Panromatic but still vibing!
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My suggestion if you don’t know if your parents are homophobic or transphobic if to watch a tv show or movie with them that you know has lgbtq+ representation in it and see how they react (this can also be an opportunity for you to explain any terms they might not understand to help your coming out go smoother)
Great idea! Finding out how they feel about the community without implicating yourself is A SAFE METHOD!
Me, whose mom isn't interested in the shows I am: :')
This is what Im hoping to do with my older brother, but kind of the opposite, like ill ask him what he thinks it means and ill explain what it really does. We’re watching the Owl House together :D (also any TOH fans Lumity pog)
i just used my gay uncle and the fact that i often overhear things from other rooms. yeah... uh, it was pretty explicit. got quiet, said we dont talk about him and said "christians don't support gay people"
My mother just skips through, even when me and her both know its a good movie when we watch the trailer. Then she saw the girl likes the girl in the trailer she skipped through.
HERES A REMINDER THAT YOU ARE VALID, OUT OR NOT!!!
no
@@fartface5413 dude shut up
@@tk-ol6iv yeah let them believe it shhhh
@@fartface5413 you aren't valid in that opinion hun
Yes! You are all valid! Take care of yourselves and stay safe.
Hi Laurenzo, thanks for this video, I bought a non-binary flag for Christmas and since I’m moving in my own apartment very soon I really wanted to come out so I received my flag on Christmas Day , but when they asked me what flag it was and why I got it , nothing , no answer just closeted enby panic I couldn’t say anything! I was rlly mad at myself cause I really wanted to it yk , online I have my name and my pronouns and here I’m still closeted even though I’m moving out soon 🤦🏼✨
You're so welcome! I'm glad you'll have your own apartment soon!!!!!! Don't be mad at yourself. Self love is the most important kind of love. It will happen when the timing is right :) I'm glad you have your name and pronouns. Definitely keep an eye out here for community posts to meet some LGBTQ+ peeps!
i mean yes accurate
i am in a similiar situation with my transphobic parents, but they weren't transphobic before i came out so
Hm they probably didn't know they were transphobic
@@Kai-iy3kk i am trying speaking to them but my dad is very supportive since i explained what it meant unfortunately my mum still isn't supportive but i'm just explaining stuff and hoping she accepts me eventually
Awfully weird lol. My dad was okay when I came out but the rest of my family really isn't. I'm blessed that he's alright with it. I think your mom would have a harder time understanding
My parents claim that they are doing this for me but yet they keep saying things don't abandon your femininity or changing your gender without talking to your family and deciding together is such an american thing
@@RoeBonebrake omg my parents have been saying the same thing (but I'm not american I'm British lol)
I came out to a friend of mine as Non-Binary and it took him a while to get used to it, but now he's really supportive and even asked one of his friends to buy me a binder. I'm really glad to have him as a friend. He's the only one in my real life I'm out to, because my family is kinda wierd with everything lgbt related. I'm planning on coming out to my other friends. I know they're all very supportive, but I'm still scared.
Good luck. When I came out to my friends I had to yell at myself to send the text message.
Coming out to people that you care about can be really scary but, as long as you know that they're supportive of you, everything will be fine. I was in a similar situation as you just a few years ago but, it went really well for me and, I hope it goes well for you too. Good luck with coming out!
Same situation here, Go on! Having friends that know and understand (or try to) is so good, is a healthy way to deal with it all and with the time you'll feel safe in who you are.
@@rileyd593 Sameeee
@@rileyd593 Same heh’
Last night my parents found that I was Trixic and Nonbinary because they were going through my phone and messages to my friends and both of my parents are homophobic and transphobic
Do your parents understand what privacy is? I feel so sorry for you.
I just wanted to ask what Trixic is cause i wanna learn?
@@ERROR-zx7uw its when a Non-Binary person is attracted to women so nb|w
@@ERROR-zx7uw nbys attracred to women.
@@BufonMyen thank you!
I came out to my mom a few months ago as lesbian and she was like "so was the conversation about edward and Jacob from twilight you pretending"
i- well, not the most predictable result, but not bad
Omg so true, when I said I was lesbian my mom said that she thinks that I’m actually bi bc I talked about how cute all of the male actors are, btw I’m like really young so she might be right bc I am still figuring things out but still
@@moldperson well, the real question is: did you feel crush feelings, or did you just like the way those boys looked
@@SpikeyBagel I just liked how they looked except 2 yrs earlier I had a crush but that was 2 yrs ago soooo
@@moldperson hmm... yeah idk, you kinda have to figure that one out
guess whos moving in with a step sibling?
Oooo yes please do and good luck!!
I'll reply here for the update xoxo
I hope it goes well
Good luck! I support you🧡
Good luck!
But you know what even worse is? Coming out to parents, that you thought were supportive, but then later finding out that they are complete biggots :)
I came out as Bi to my class in Nursing in a power point and my teacher was so supportive and so was my class
yay!!
congrats!!!
Awesome!
I came out to my parents in a slideshow also ✨
Congratulations!!!
I bought myself two trans flags and one gay flag despite being surrounded by homophobes and they just thought the colors were cute so HAHA
I can't tell my parents they are so homophobic and transphobic that I'm so scared they might hurt me I wanna leave but I can't...
I can feel u
Just stay like this until you are able to support yourself
@@MxNikii ok thank you
if you are old enough i'd start collecting money get a job make sure you're secure so right when you turn 18 you can move out and away from those awful people
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 I've stared collecting a bit of money and hiding it.
Thank you🖤
@@hellsfavoriteangel ok good, keep doing that i wish i could help you. np
I came out to my friend’s parents first because I knew that they supported LGBTQ+ because my friend is bi and they support her, they would’ve been my plan to go to if I got kicked out for being non-binary and lesbian. So glad I didn’t have to do that
my parents being highkey homophobic and dead naming people and saying “if you liked girls i wouldn’t support nor love you anymore”, like ok thanks 😃😃 now how am i supposed to tell them i don’t want to be a female and i like all genders 😳🤚
Here's my problem. My mum knows I'm omnisexual and is very supportive, even my brother is gay. She loves the LGBTQ community but...when she started to get suspicious I might be trans ( more specifically a Demiboy in my case) she got mad? And said, oh your not a boy, it's all because kids at school are saying they are trans, I know your not trans I have birth to you. BUT THIS IS WHERE IS GETS WEIRD. I came out as non binary and my mum was open to it, and stuff. She uses my name sometimes ( very rarely, I'm too scared to correct) but rarely uses they them. But this was before I realised I was trans. So when I asked if she could you he/they ( mainly he) pronouns she went all defensive?! I'm so confused.
I don't have any other family where I live. Well, my dad's side but there all abusers and transphobes and all that. We don't have any family friends that can help me. There's only one teacher at school who I know that is BEYOND SUPPORTIVE of gay , and trans kids. When she hears someone use gay as an insult she tells them of. She asked for our pronouns and preferred name if we are trans. But that's all. I have one LGBTQ friend, who I don't know well, and one good friend who is an Ally. Soooo not that much support ahaha. I love my mum but I'm just confused why she won't accept me being demiboy
I will forever remember this for whem i come out to my mom and try to get her to understand and transphobic dad who is really scary and I now won't come out to him. EVER but I will keep everything you have said in mind for when I come out to my parents and my friends that I have to find and my teachers. . .
Whey are you coming out when you’re like 14 , chill just wait until your fully developed and the make a decision.
@@thewingedhussars6313 So in a year. Okay
@@thewingedhussars6313 how do you know what age they are? they can come out at any point theyd like to when they are ready. shut up
@@FirstKingOfMushrooms you're so valid and amazing! i hope one day your family sees that in you. good luck for when you do come out! sending love your way
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 Aw, thank you 💖💖
This is soo off topic but laurenzo's hair is having a mind of its own 🤣🤣. Love you laurenzo
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This must help ppl so much, I’m rlly glad my mum isn’t homophobic ;w; I’ve told my mum and teacher that I’m a demiboy and they were supportive :)
Fun Fact: When I came out to my mum as Polysexual she told me that she was actually bi :>
Oh my gosh yes I'm polyamorous and bi and questioning my gender identity but I'm so glad theres another poly person in the comments!
@@KameronSkye That’s awesome! But just to let you know I am Polysexual which means to be attracted to most genders but not all, I understand the confusion though, and it’s fine :)
But funny enough a couple days ago I realised that I am polyamorous so, yeah! :D
After coming out to my close friends and my partner on the 31th I said goodbye to my gender as well as the new year in pretty big whatsapp chain to a lot of folks...
This russian doll of coming out is a nightmare
I came out to my mum as trans as I thought she would be fine as my sister has trans friends and I have trans friends and she is okay but noooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
I told her and she instantly tells me no, it's just a phase and other dog poop. And every time I try to ask her about it she goes " hi (dead name), you can use (preferred name) as a nickname but nothing more."
I am so sorry about this. I hope she comes around soon because that must hurt...
IM SO SORRYY---- what are your pronouns and name and gender so i can give you some well deserved euphoria?? you are so amazing and that won't ever change based off of what anyone says. you are such a good person and even better for being who you are. you don’t deserve to be crushed by someone who doesn't love you enough to make you happy
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 OvO I'm Blau and I use They/Them pronouns. I'm non-binary
@@rottofox cool that's blue in german but you probably new that:) nice pronouns :D
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 Thank you!!!! I was originally going with just Blu but it didn't feel as right as Blau and it's kind of ironic to me and I love the name. 😁🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
When you are the only lgbtq+ person you know.....
when your homophobic and transphobic parents read your coming out text to your friends but still deadname and misgender you and have even told them your not bi but now you think your a lesbian but they cut off your contact from all your lgbtqia+ friends: guess i failed step one
I don’t feel the need to come out as bi to some of my homophobic family members until I possibly get a girlfriend and if I don’t, then that’s ok too!
Same, I don't even think I will get or want a boyfriend/girlfriend in the next few years. But since my parents are so strongly assuming that I'm straight, I just let them believe this as long as I don't have a boyfriend
I accidentally came out to my friend that I had just met I didn’t mean to say it but it just kinda came out of my mouth and she told one of my other friends and I really wish I didn’t come out to her
I just casually came out as a Demigirl and she had no reaction. At all. I love my friends.
My mom and stepdad are supportive but I'm worried about my biological dad
Your mom and stepdad might help with this
My same situation
@@transmasctsukasa sameeeeee, but I can’t contact my bio dad, he left and didn’t come back, yet I can’t do anything legally, because he’s my legal guardian, even though he literally hasn’t been around for half my life.
I’m Am in the exact situation ngl
Just to clarify, he's never said he's homophobic or transphobic, he just never talks about lgbtq+ problems and such
My mother just came out as bi to me and the rest of my family and I couldn’t be prouder of her :)) it also made me really happy since I’m also bi. (I was never worried abt not being accepted for who I am though since both of my parents are very supportive and open minded)
@Mekki that's so cute and I'm so happy for youuuu🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 💗💜💙
That’s great!
my guidance counselor thinks bisexuality isn’t real.. like aren’t you there to support everyone?
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w h a t ?
Jeez like how can you have the nerve to just say its NOT REAL
I am bi and I already told most of my friends and my therapist who are all very supportive. My parents are allies and I think they are starting to suspect my true sexuality. I don’t know if I should wait a few years to come out since I’m only 12. I have a reliable environment unlike many others in the comments below, so I’m going to keep my fingers crossed that you guys can successfully come out when you’re ready. 😌
I recently came out as nonbinary. My mom said she'll support me and that she loves me and my dad was like "oke... uhm yk it's going to be hard to use your new name and pronouns but I'll try". But they haven't used my name or my pronouns yet. I hope they'll use them soon.
hopefully they do, it makes sense if they dont use them right away. im still adjusting to my friends it/its pronouns. though if they havent used them yet, they might not support
@@lilafian maybe you could practice using it’s pronouns? Like write down things you like about your friend while using your friends pronouns
@@boogerrrrr i’m used to them now lol i’ve been using them and i’m only not using them when i’m with my mom bc my friend is still half closeted lol
I recommend telling your friends and other family before your parents.
Also can I say this is the most yay vibing comment section and I love it 🤘🤟🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
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Agreed. I came out to my friends first just to get an understanding of how to bring it up in a conversation. It was super helpful, and I eventually came out to my parents.
idk if you care but i actually came out to my older sister that i thought was homophobic-? it was actually a month ago. I mean she kind of is but anyways. She would always say disgusting things about the LGBTQ+ community. My parents do fully support btw. I had wanted to tell her so many times but like you get the picture, anyways when i told her, she had said that it's okay and if its what i believe then its okay, she just doesn't believe in it- she also said she knew- which my parents said the same thing. owo
My siblings pride flag got here a few days ago!! And I’m going to get a pan one for us both 😊
I accidentally came out to my parents in June last year, and my mom told me to stop. My dad asked me why I liked women, I ALMOST asked him why HE liked women-
Edit: they didn't accept me, I told my Gramma I was nb and she used the right pronouns, my mom DIDN'T-
What did Dad Reply?
I've made hints about being attracted to girls but haven't told my parents. They seem meh, but I'm still waiting until I have moved out!!
Edit: The other week I said to my mum that I would marry a female character and she didn't seem overly pleased, more confused. I am come out sooner than I think...
I have homophobic and transphobic parents and I’m both pansexual and genderqueer .-.
It honestly scares me to come out but I want to my freshman year if hs (abt 2 yrs)
But I’m scared of what will happen and I’m scared they won’t believe or will just not care and invalidate me by not accepting me and not using they/them pronouns
But I have to do it one day and in the end, I don’t have to give them an explanation to why I’m who I am today Bc I was born this way and they can either accept it or I’ll find a safer environment to stay ✌️😗
The only homophobic people ive encountered is my friends friend, my other friends friend XD, and my teacher.
My teacher legit said,
“Theyre all just blinded by sin”
I just come out yesterday
Congrats!! Have an awesome day
i came out on new years day. congtats!
@@yourlocalcupofconfusion322 great way to start off the new year! Congrats to you too 😊
@@doubleagente thank you
Congrats
I wish I knew about you before I came out bc my parents dont think I'm actly trans & that makes me sad
step one: practice coming out too your shampoo bottle in the shower. (that actually helps me a bit lol)
I told my mom I wanted to change my name, and she compared my name to a freaking deodorant ;^:
not to be offensive but thats funny lmao
I’m glad I have a friend that’s supportive of me wanting to identify as male because coming out to my mother didn’t go well. She’s very supportive of anyone in the LGBTQIA+ community...except me. She raised me as a girl and she will see me as a girl. I came out to her thinking she would be equally supportive of me as she was everyone else but this was not the case. Since I still live under her roof, I basically told her I would pretend my coming out never happened. But once I leave her roof, I’m living my life as *me* because I am who I am and I will not let the shackles of “but not my child” slow me down.
My mom wasn't that transphobic..... until I came out as agender
exact same situation with me
@@dust3437 oof sorry dude. It really sucks.
my sister came out as trans to our parents who are transphobic before she even knew she was trans saying “mom i want to be a girl” with a response of “but you cant be a girl since youre already a boy”
anyways you remind me of my 6th grade pe teacher, lol ik thats random, you guys sound so similar not only in voice but in positivity
Margaret feelings watching this video... Please Laurenzo, breathe...
I didn't come out as pan or trans to my parents or anyone else. My ex went around and told everyone. I wasn't even ready-
i was outed and i have to pretend im straight lmao. i know being in the closet sucks, but it’s the best you could do at the moment. i used to be in the pantry too.
“Surround yourself by people who are LGBTQ+”
*Me over here with like two straight friends but I met all of them before we came out*
The odds of this happening is unreal-
Yeah I came out on accident and I feel like my parents were uncomfortable, which sucked
I wish Laurenzo was my parent lmao
I made a lot of these mistakes.. BUT apparently my parents are super supportive and awesome. They are super accepting of who I am :D so it ended up ok in the end.
I came out as pansexual to my parents a while ago, it's a safe situation in my case, there is just some lack of knowledge but I can understand how 😅. But because of that I tend to trust my lgbt+ friend group a lot!
Yooooo congrats!
I came out to my parents as ftm about 7 months ago now I’m in gender therapy, counseling, and I’m about to get a binder and start hormone blockers.
First, Im a minor and Im not going to tell you my exact age. Next, you should stop caring about other peoples parenting skills. Lastly, my parents are really good parents and they deserve respect so shut up.
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My friend told me this at the skl the other day after a teacher said "girls and boys" (I'm considering enby/gender-queer and he knows) So he said it should be the guys, gals and non-binary pals and it just stuck 😂
Nobody
Laurenzo: **aggressively** I CARE ABOUT YOU
I’m bi and in my mind I never even thought that my family would at all even care, and they're fine with me being bi but whenever I mention it I feel kinda awkward, and IDK why has anyone ever felt like this, and if so do you have any advice? EDIT: in another comment I posted I said that I was lesbian but here I say I'm bi that's bc I'm confused about my sexuality, just wanted to mention that so that people don't ask
For me talking to non LGBTQ people about LGBTQ things is awkward as well and I figure it’s because I think it makes them uncomfortable
My advice would be to just speak regularly about it, don’t emphasize it because it’s just like a guy talking about some girl
@@filthyfrank8328 thx (im trying to make a heart but idk how to do it)
its 2021 and im planning on coming out, but i didnt know how... luckly i saw this!
Hi I’m 11 and pan and agender. I’ve not come out to my parents yet. I have a partner. My parents are not homophobic, they are supportive of my older brother who is pan as well. I want to come out . I just don’t know what to say. Is there any tips on what to do.
Idk- my parents seem to semi okay with lgbtq+ sexuality, but not so much the gender orientation. Which is bad for me since I’ve been recently questioning if I was a Demigirl. #Religiousparentstruggles
I LOVE how this channel always has safety as a forefront. As a momma I realllyyyy appreciate it.
Wow the RUclips community was really lacking this kind of common sense mentorship. Amazing work.
What if you got outed to homophobic parents…..:
I did my parents now hate me….
Umm ..... I'm enby and I go by they/them pronouns but I have some "female" traits. I'm also Omnisexual with a female preference. My parents are LGBT positive, but... They only accept gay, lesbian, transgender (ftm or mtf) and bisexual. They don't agree with not identifying as male or female and they think that pan/omni is just being extra. And they think that being genderfluid is just messed up. Not to mention I'm okay with dating more than one person, which they also don't like...so....
Uh, any suggestions????
Most of my friends are LGBTQ positive and accept me, though the only one I've come out to is my very amazing trans friend, whose family is transphobic but are trying to get better.
I honestly don't know what to do
I came out cause I knew my parents weren't homophobic but then I guess they CHANGED their mind and now they don't even let me wear my rainbow socks.. What do I do?
A tip if you don’t know what your parents think about the LGBTQ+ community, say that a friend of yours came out or someone came out as the same thing as you, for example (I’m bisexual and gender fluid)
Me:Hey my friend came out as Bi the other day
Parent:oh that’s cool
Your parents will probably not pretend they are not homophobic and act upset if they *are* homophobic, but I’m closeted so what can I say on this topic anyways-
So I'm uranic and planning on waking up early to draw in chalk "I'm uranic"on my mom's driveway to come out on my bday
Can someone tell me if my parents are being homophobic
- that’s what a gay does( context a male in a vlog was fanning over how pretty a mask was)
- being non-binary is all placebo
- you too stupid to actually know so stop
- my mom lecture me when I asked if I could have a few male clothes ( it was to try out my gender more)
- girls aren’t supposed to have short hair
- where my dads from it’s don’t say don’t tell
Anyway those are just some of the thing off the top of my head
I am bisexual( though I identify more with being a lesbian) maybe cis female
I wish i could tell my moms best friend but she is a Christian that thinks gay is bad (not saying any religion is bad btw) so it like im telling my mom since she died but my aunt is very supportive it 3 am and i watching your videos but im only 11 almost 12 but im a bisexual non-binary with they/them/her/she
2:05 Can my support adult be someone I know on Discord but not irl? They do live in the same country as me at least, and they’re LGBTQ+ too.
no one
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no crap sherlock im pan
Any non gay people here just trying to learn about LGBT so you could help youre gay friend come out to other people or there parents... I just realized how hyper specific this comment is lmao
instead of coming out to people one by one I did it in a group chat of everyone in my phone . . . with a meme . . . the best part was a huge chunk of them responded with finallys the other group of people where like I fing know it.
Before i came out My mom wouldnt let me cut my hair short so i did and she cussed me out calling me a trans freak when she found out and shed act homophobic to me a year and a half later a came out to my family they were eh about it they treat me the same as before there nice my dad was happy and supported me he would help me come out to my friends he tried to take me to pride festivals around pride month and my mom told me it was to much or i was coming out as a trend or would get mad and yell if i talked about girls being pretty/cute she a year later came around slowly and is still a little homophobic but she buys me rainbow stuff when before she wouldn't and is slowly learning my flags (pan/genderfluid/poly) but even though shes sorta used to the fact i like anyone and gender doesn't matter im scared to tell her that i feel like i might be trans but im not sure i want to try out somethings to see if i am really trans but im afraid she'll get mad at me cuz when i came out as pan she wasn't that mad about it as she was when i cut my hair and called me a trans freak though at the time of that i dont think i was trans but im not sure now i might be but if i tell her i think i am or i wanna see if i am shed be so mad she wouldn't let me see my friends or do anything im scared and im scared that my current boyfriend will leave me
Ok but what about coming out to someone that you don’t know if they are Homophobic or not? Bc my mom is friends with these 2 gay guys but she also seems weirded out by gay stuff on TV but only when it’s guys 💀
So it’s like, do I tell her? Do I wait-? Ik my grandma is homophobic 💀 my dad doesn’t seem to be, but my mom is like idk🤷
Yo altleast when we outta da closet we will be FASHIONABLE
I had one of my guy friends confessed to me that he was gay I said I am proud of you for being Who You Are
What i did before coming out:
1. I asked my parents if they would be fine with it and i also said i'm not lgbt before asking and they said they would be totally fine!
2. Talking to my parents about it
3. Exposing myself
Oopsies 😅 too late I already came out to my homophobic parents
Me here because I’m about ready to come out but my parents have made it very clear they’re homophobic.
I’m like 12 years old and I’m 100% positive I’m a lesbian but I’ve been told so many times I’m to young to be thinking about sexuality what do I do?
You're never too young to not be straight. you shouldn't care what they say. You be you. I support you and I don't think you are too young. I'm not really sure what to do, but I'll tell you when I have an idea on what to do.
@@catbite5750 I’m sitting here in my bed really upset and your comment just made me feel soo much happier and brighter than ever thank you for supporting me 😊 and remember you also don’t have to complement me and be my parent I’m sure I’ll be just fine (I’m saying that in a nice way 😁) but thank you so so so much you just made my day 😄 if you do have anything that can help me please do respond to me that would be so nice of you but remember take care of yourself also 😊
I came out to my mum as bisexual and she’s so supportive but I don’t know how to tell her that I’m experimenting with she/they pronouns
I know that this is 2 months late but
What do I do if someone you thought you can trust outs you
My friend is pan and both her parents are very homophobic so thanks for this video
Err... So, how do I know if my dad is homophobic, because I'm the only bi person on my family 😅
@@IrDaNoobKing ???
@@IrDaNoobKing We're not greedy just because we're attracted to both genders or multiple genders. Also it doesn't mean we would date both genders at the same time.
I came out to one of my friends as mtf transand she was really nice and supportive but I'm still closeted and it's painful 😖😣
Well I already came out but at least it was good
I think I’m just gonna come out to my parents in my fencing gear-
Pfffft yes very genius
good thing I have my non binary and ally friends
Tip for testing the ice before coming out that I’ve used - say you are doing an experiment and ask your friends + family stuff like “what do you think about the lgbtq+ community?” and “what do you think about global warming?” (mix things up a bit so’s not to arouse suspicion!) If they respond positively, it is probably fairly safe to come out :) ❤
Good Advice
I came out a couple years ago, to my parents in a japanese restaurant, we recently went there, and I just remembered the awkward moment when I came out. My mom, dad, brothers, and friends support me so much. Although, I came out to my brothers as lesbian later. My friends pretty much knew.
t this was just in my recommended feed i feel like this was planned
Straight people should have to come out
4:54 this is why I'm scared about getting my wisdom teeth removed
hello lgbtq community
Ello
i’m about to come out to my mom so thanks for the tips!