5 Stages Of Bisexuality

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  • Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024

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  • @Courtney-Jai
    @Courtney-Jai  2 года назад +414

    Hi everyone I'm the youtuber in Heartstopper ❤ go watch it on netflix 😊

    • @hazelyt6039
      @hazelyt6039 2 года назад +20

      wow that’s crazy did Netflix contact you to put you on the show?

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  2 года назад +53

      @@hazelyt6039 kind of I was contacted by thr company making the show at the request of Alice oseman

    • @paulj6138
      @paulj6138 2 года назад +12

      That show is so special to me I can't get enough When will you post your reaction to later episodes Think I saw you talking about #5
      So glad they are renewed 😍🤪

    • @paulj6138
      @paulj6138 2 года назад +3

      @@Courtney-Jai that's super cool
      The show is life-changing for probably thousands of people and it's already Historic as a positive game changer in so many ways Alice needs to be sure that any difficult plot does not get in the way of keeping viewers happy and optimistic One way is to keep NICK AND CHARLIE As a loving caring couple
      I know that would make me happy

    • @austinhodges5014
      @austinhodges5014 2 года назад +2

      I new that was you

  • @Anna-fc5pk
    @Anna-fc5pk 4 года назад +8566

    1) confusion
    2) confusion
    3) confusion
    4) confusion
    5) more confusion

    • @daisychainsaw
      @daisychainsaw 4 года назад +177

      “trust the process”

    • @oworcestershire7331
      @oworcestershire7331 4 года назад +206

      7) uncontrollable fear and anxiety
      8) more confusion

    • @lostinmymind7488
      @lostinmymind7488 4 года назад +52

      @@oworcestershire7331 ssssshhhhh don't talk about the bonus levels! Everyone needs to discover them by themselves NO RUclips GUIDES!

    • @thelifeofvedamariiee1485
      @thelifeofvedamariiee1485 4 года назад +2

      Anna 😭THIS IS A GOOD ONE !

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 4 года назад +7

      more like denial, deniAl, denial... means you are just gay. bisexuals dont exist. men who want orgasm, they exist.

  • @achild5864
    @achild5864 5 лет назад +12062

    im having difficulty differentiating between admiration and attraction

  • @lennypayne4241
    @lennypayne4241 4 года назад +6297

    When I first realized I was bi at the age of 13, I didn't know the word for it so I legit thought of myself as "half gay".

    • @DietDrKelp-ty3fh
      @DietDrKelp-ty3fh 4 года назад +186

      Lenny Payne I’m deadddd 🤣🤣🤣

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 4 года назад +36

      bisexuals are just gay people not wanting to br called gay. That is why you now have the q in lgbt. Bisexuals dont exist. but straight guys can have sex with man. they are still straight!!!!

    • @Tequila_Rose
      @Tequila_Rose 4 года назад +475

      @@eduardochavacano ¿?¿?

    • @laufxyson7960
      @laufxyson7960 4 года назад +631

      @@eduardochavacano wth, stop trying to invalidate bisexual people

    • @eduardochavacano
      @eduardochavacano 4 года назад +4

      musicfret i presented an idea and argument. You responded with a command. Dude, Im not your butler! Go get a dog and feel like you have power over something.

  • @uiziwg
    @uiziwg 4 года назад +2542

    11: straight
    12: *hyping girls up bc they are beautiful* + *making "jokes" about liking women*
    13: bi curious
    14: fuck im bi

    • @strawberryyvibes
      @strawberryyvibes 3 года назад +90

      Oh shit I'm on the second stage you just described
      That probably says something about my situation hahahah

    • @chiaram3469
      @chiaram3469 3 года назад +130

      the "making jokes about liking women" hits harder than i thought 😔🤚

    • @melikeince1580
      @melikeince1580 3 года назад +28

      I'm at somewhere around 3th and the last stage

    • @yawnpits
      @yawnpits 3 года назад +5

      Same

    • @tanyayao1250
      @tanyayao1250 3 года назад +24

      That's basically me in a nutshell

  • @TheGuitars14
    @TheGuitars14 5 лет назад +4322

    Does anyone else go through crazy phases where they’re more interested in guys and then late they’re more interested in girls? And then sometimes they’re not interested in anyone and you feel so all over the place? Yeah me. Edit: I had no clue this comment blew up until 8 months later!

    • @ingrid5753
      @ingrid5753 5 лет назад +378

      Collin Meadows I can totally relate! I identify as bi, but I currently crave having a bf and not a gf. A few days ago however, I was longing for a gf. But right now, I’m kinda just chilling on my own and being fine with that.

    • @mattyy101
      @mattyy101 5 лет назад +81

      Ye man but only sex w guys no dating or any of that shit.. attracted to women

    • @thembashawn
      @thembashawn 5 лет назад +33

      You're not alone

    • @naomirodriguez9638
      @naomirodriguez9638 5 лет назад +65

      Yes lol it’s so annoying

    • @connorm0161
      @connorm0161 4 года назад +12

      Yea it’s like I’m confused I’m only 14 but I’m attracted to girls but sometimes I would be attracted for boys for a week but then I’d be like nah I don’t want that and then I wouldn’t and Id go back to being straight and I wouldn’t be gay anyway bc I don’t think my dad would be proud

  • @arirudd5560
    @arirudd5560 5 лет назад +2697

    My stages of discovering I’m bi:
    1: I’m straight
    2: am I tho?
    3: I AM A LESBIAN!
    4: nah I’m straight
    5: I AM A LESBIAN!
    6: wait men are hot tho... but girls are hot tho...
    7: I’m confused
    8: I’m bi shy and ready to cry 😎👌

    • @rolo1233
      @rolo1233 4 года назад +11

      Same thank God year 2019 is over next step coming out 😅🙈🙈#petrified

    • @levolancer
      @levolancer 4 года назад +21

      u...are me my friend ✌🏼

    • @Alien_cancerian
      @Alien_cancerian 4 года назад +7

      Same

    • @mollyw264
      @mollyw264 4 года назад +19

      haha literally me but instead of thinking I was a lesbian, I very briefly thought that I was aromantic. Nothing wrong with being aromantic but boy was I wrong

    • @מעין-צ9ג
      @מעין-צ9ג 4 года назад +7

      @@rolo1233 yeah... 2020 hasn't been going better.

  • @onfireman8816
    @onfireman8816 4 года назад +2783

    My sexuality: confused

    • @avastars3393
      @avastars3393 4 года назад +108

      I am bi
      My girl crush... straight
      Guy crush...... gay
      Story of my life

    • @kermitthefrog7072
      @kermitthefrog7072 4 года назад +3

      Same

    • @CarrieBradshawSATC
      @CarrieBradshawSATC 4 года назад +16

      I'm straight and like girls. Always have done. Would like to be bisexual and start dating men also.

    • @avastars3393
      @avastars3393 4 года назад +10

      @@CarrieBradshawSATC then do it as long as it makes you happy

    • @ramiromunoz1161
      @ramiromunoz1161 4 года назад +1

      Same

  • @SoggyPinkyToe
    @SoggyPinkyToe 3 года назад +944

    QUICK TIP: if you are stressing about what u identify as, feel free to go "label-free". You don't have to choose if YOU don't want to

    • @broliciousfilms
      @broliciousfilms 3 года назад +8

      Yes!

    • @renatoamaral7719
      @renatoamaral7719 3 года назад +20

      @@twink276 Exactly In the end everyone can fuck and date whoever they want so it's not other people's perrogative to have you labeled if you dont want to label yourself

    • @idontwannabeanonymous4725
      @idontwannabeanonymous4725 3 года назад +6

      Please, help me. I consider myself as a straight woman, I never had a crush on woman, but than, I kinda freaked out when I find out that when I see orgasm and moaning woman turns me on. Am I bi? This is important for me, because I live in the religious society. Though, I'm not againts lgbtq either.

    • @renatoamaral7719
      @renatoamaral7719 3 года назад +6

      @@idontwannabeanonymous4725 in the end you can choose to not label yourself into anything and jut love and hang out with whichever sex you want

    • @idontwannabeanonymous4725
      @idontwannabeanonymous4725 3 года назад +1

      @Juntasan Shunsa thanks for your reply

  • @daisychaine1742
    @daisychaine1742 5 лет назад +3561

    that's a sick fish tank dude

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +88

      Thanks man it's in dire need of a good clean and some corals haha

    • @armanred7940
      @armanred7940 5 лет назад +35

      I see Marlene,Nemo and Dory.

    • @black_horse_lover2655
      @black_horse_lover2655 5 лет назад +1

      ellery glee
      Do you really not know how to read?

    • @daisychaine1742
      @daisychaine1742 5 лет назад +3

      @@black_horse_lover2655 unfortunately i never learned how

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +5

      @@daisychaine1742 I mean I think it perfectly fine what you said so ....

  • @eros-arcana
    @eros-arcana 5 лет назад +5318

    Me: Mom i'm bi
    Her: cool
    Me: do you actually realise what i'm telling you? I might bring over a girl someday instead of a boy.
    Her: Honey, with those damn commitment issues you have, you ain't bringing a girl neither a boy.
    Me:... now that hurt!

  • @user-sh3xo1gj7q
    @user-sh3xo1gj7q 5 лет назад +4403

    Me: _has had more crushes on guys than girls_
    Me: _but checks out more girls than guys_
    Me: Uhhh... I thought I was straight ..

    • @mia-qf3sf
      @mia-qf3sf 5 лет назад +81

      k_y ME ME ME

    • @merel6763
      @merel6763 5 лет назад +66

      This is me😂

    • @kpopuniverse1273
      @kpopuniverse1273 5 лет назад +161

      Me
      Makes gay jokes because gay used to mean happy
      Sees hot guy
      Me: I’m straight
      Me
      Sees a hot female body that is goals
      Me
      It’s just a phase I’m still straight
      Also me:
      Has lots of guy and girl anime crushes (can’t resist anime characters are so cute and hot)
      Me in public
      Sees a female mannequin in store
      Me: stares at the body
      Me: I want that body
      Me
      But that guy-
      Me
      I don’t even care anymore! I’m done! This is so confusing

    • @mommyzawa
      @mommyzawa 5 лет назад +116

      Right ok same, I’m really confused rn coz I don’t know if this is attraction or just wishing I had there body. Because I’ve been attracted to guys before and it hasn’t felt like this but when I see a good looking girl I’ll say in my head “ooh she cute👀” then be like “woah, where did that come from?”

    • @erinhemby1450
      @erinhemby1450 5 лет назад +7

      Same 🥴🤣

  • @zacharysnyder2520
    @zacharysnyder2520 3 года назад +206

    Being bi is always a struggle. As a 27 year old man I’m still dealing with it. Just love who you love. There is no time limit. Just be you.

    • @obiecastro2482
      @obiecastro2482 Год назад +1

      Just be yourself,,dont commit sin to love someone but not REAL love ,,,its fake dont continue ,,you will suffer till end,,,that is the major ultimate decease,!very very very v v difficult to cure decease .....to be gay or bi or others,,,
      You are fighting with Satan ,
      But praying to God and really follow what is written in the bible ,your struggle will be solved till you become señior age,,,,
      You will be amazed you are healed by God,,,,

    • @solstiqa
      @solstiqa 4 месяца назад

      @@obiecastro2482💀 the only disease in here is your faith in a fairytale bearded man that ‘created the world’ bffr. Even if god was real, and he was homophobic, he wouldn’t create gay, lesbian, bi and other types of people just for fun..

    • @asloii_1749
      @asloii_1749 4 месяца назад

      @obiecastro4282 lol you’re a silly guy!

    • @subritikarmakar7897
      @subritikarmakar7897 3 месяца назад

      I am 23 girl and I alsy don't get it about myself

  • @wrenclark4907
    @wrenclark4907 4 года назад +1943

    Me at 12 years old: “I’m totally straight”
    Also me at 12 years old: *goes to a wedding in a suit and converse*

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  4 года назад +372

      I mean converse are pretty boss so I respect your choices I did the same for my prom

    • @beepbooping2460
      @beepbooping2460 4 года назад +49

      i wore a suit and doc martens to a performance i was in and basically INSISTED that that was my outfit. So yeah. Big ass mood.

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +3

      Eleanor Clark Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @wrenclark4907
      @wrenclark4907 4 года назад +1

      Courtney-Jai haha thanks man!

    • @Jsv_1021O4
      @Jsv_1021O4 4 года назад +5

      Same, thought I was so straight but I literally wore a glittery white tux to my aunt's wedding, I was the ring bearer

  • @giovanny1062
    @giovanny1062 4 года назад +1390

    Others: Bi people have double options!
    Me: I'm doubly heartbroken 😔😪

    • @clarabomben
      @clarabomben 4 года назад +37

      omg why is this so real haha

    • @rebekahsquires2073
      @rebekahsquires2073 4 года назад +4

      G M yes

    • @desireeloveros1055
      @desireeloveros1055 4 года назад +16

      I mean 0×2 still = 0

    • @rebekahsquires2073
      @rebekahsquires2073 4 года назад +4

      Desiree Loveros exactly

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

  • @Alchemist1330
    @Alchemist1330 5 лет назад +1967

    attracted to women's lips and guy's abs so... Tom Hardy.

    • @zvanev
      @zvanev 5 лет назад +13

      Alchemist1330 SSLALAKAKSKLAKS

    • @mattynayzerya9167
      @mattynayzerya9167 5 лет назад +43

      Gift from god

    • @bonesbones2364
      @bonesbones2364 5 лет назад +10

      Oof

    • @zcythegeist
      @zcythegeist 5 лет назад +18

      That's a fact right there. Lol

    • @Criszcrosscut
      @Criszcrosscut 5 лет назад +26

      Bitch same, and Chris Evans and Charlie Hunnam and Shawn Mendes gud laaawwwd! I'm gay af! 😍

  • @caseyjmarkovich
    @caseyjmarkovich 2 года назад +142

    I think the show heartstopper was well representing the Bisexual community. Now I came out to my mother before high school which was 7 years ago before starting high school. Last night I watched the second half of the show and love it. For the last few years, I have been wrestling with my sexuality and my Christian faith. last night I broke down in tears, I came to terms with my sexuality after wrestling with it. I love both men and women. I've watched your videos a few years before this show heartstopper. Just trying to understand what I felt. I talked to God last night and I know it may seem controversial, I felt his presence in the room hugging me, and just being there was amazing. I feel more clear about my sexuality than I have in years! Thank you, Courtney!

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  2 года назад +19

      No problem and isn't hmthat point of faith , if you believe God wants you to live happy then you go live happy

    • @NomadicIsaac
      @NomadicIsaac Год назад +4

      I felt God's presence at the gay affirming non-profit Q Christian Fellowship's Chicago conference in 2019 and it was special and meaningful to me. The church I grew up with won't change their minds, but I know the freedom and acceptance I've experienced.

    • @bobby1970
      @bobby1970 Год назад

      Please don't let religion ruin your life. Religion is so toxic and all man made up. It's very controlling and a cult. It can be down right dangerous.

    • @angelnancy507
      @angelnancy507 5 месяцев назад

      You should be ashamed, you want to taste everything ,because you are spoilt no control

    • @xaylink2221
      @xaylink2221 20 часов назад

      Ok

  • @Irregulargremlin
    @Irregulargremlin 4 года назад +2832

    Me coming here to find a informative video:
    My brain: oh no he's hot

  • @wildmoonchild9404
    @wildmoonchild9404 4 года назад +1775

    I feel like I’m bi because of a girl in my art class a year and a half ago. But before her, I’ve only had crushes on guys, so I was very confused and mistook it for “I just want to be her friend”. So I started questioning and looking at videos of how to figure out if you’re bi and things like that. I feel like the most confusing part is I don’t know if I’m making it up or if it’s real. I talked to my brother about it and we have a very close relationship and I tell him everything, and he said “Don’t put a label on it if it causes so much stress on you. When you find someone, you find someone.”

  • @ImTyde
    @ImTyde 4 года назад +2872

    Me at ages:
    8: straight
    9: straight
    10: straight
    11: straight
    12: straight
    13: straight
    14: straight:
    15: kinda curious but not really
    16: holy sh*t I guess I'm Bi

    • @haninhilal9080
      @haninhilal9080 4 года назад +77

      fucking same

    • @LOrco_
      @LOrco_ 4 года назад +172

      For me it was like:
      Straight
      Yep still straight
      Definitely straight
      Well boys are cute, but straight
      Not so sure
      Gay(?)
      Girls are cute too tho
      Bi

    • @davigurgel2040
      @davigurgel2040 4 года назад +5

      Same thing lol

    • @yexalenn
      @yexalenn 4 года назад +49

      Me:
      6:IDK
      7:IDK
      8:Straight
      9:Straight
      10:Bisexual
      11:Bisexual
      12:Bisexual
      Yeah, I'm pretty young

    • @simonelliott5804
      @simonelliott5804 4 года назад +28

      8 straight
      9 straight
      10 straight
      11 straight
      12 eh u wot mate I’m confused now

  • @cranberryjuice1005
    @cranberryjuice1005 3 года назад +102

    “I was friends with everyone but also friends with no one” THAT HIT SO HARD OMG WHAT-

  • @evs5757
    @evs5757 4 года назад +1649

    My stages of bisexuality:
    I'm bisexual.. I think?
    Ok I have a girlfriend, feels nice.
    I broke up with her, it just didn't feel right...
    I'm single and I'm not sure what I like
    I have a boyfriend
    I think I'm straight
    Oh no I came out as bi, and now I feel like I'm straight
    But girls are so hot..
    But I kinda prefer relationships with boys.. Am I straight or..
    Help ima cry lol

    • @jocelynm3900
      @jocelynm3900 4 года назад +256

      You do not have to have a label 💛 just do what you feel is right and what makes you happy. Don't worry about an outside perspective

    • @evs5757
      @evs5757 4 года назад +94

      @@jocelynm3900 my mum says the same thing, thank you ❤️

    • @peachiee1
      @peachiee1 4 года назад +31

      meeeee tooooo im really scaredddd

    • @AdventuresInMyaLand
      @AdventuresInMyaLand 4 года назад +172

      You are bi! Some people label it as heteromantic bisexual where you prefer romantics relationships with the opposite sex. Trust me I feel the same way

    • @evs5757
      @evs5757 4 года назад +33

      @@AdventuresInMyaLand Thank youuu

  • @spideybetta
    @spideybetta 4 года назад +1858

    Are we gonna ignore the fact my guy has Nemo, Marlin, and Dory in that fish tank?

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  4 года назад +250

      Oh trust me plenty of people gave seen lol

    • @philosphergaming6954
      @philosphergaming6954 3 года назад +14

      @@Courtney-Jai bro but it is some times ok to find someone of your same sex attractive. I doesn't means that now your sexuality has changed

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  3 года назад +35

      @@philosphergaming6954 ofcourse you could use the same principle of their attractive but not my type in regards to this

    • @hiimlexi8989
      @hiimlexi8989 3 года назад +1

      ikr

    • @isafaria4201
      @isafaria4201 3 года назад

      Thanks for that

  • @noahwelch5064
    @noahwelch5064 5 лет назад +550

    10-12 I'm straight as a ruler
    13+ looks at slightly bent ruler....
    Oh ! I'm bi

    • @luisamoreira7183
      @luisamoreira7183 5 лет назад +9

      I'm exactly that, but not sure if i'm bi or not

    • @_beansinacan_1577
      @_beansinacan_1577 5 лет назад +2

      I’m a demiromantic gray-ace

    • @duckcylinder9903
      @duckcylinder9903 5 лет назад +5

      i just go by queer bc its vague and says im not straight

    • @awhahoo
      @awhahoo 5 лет назад +5

      A weirdo That does art

    • @emilydavid816
      @emilydavid816 5 лет назад +4

      I’m a twelve year old girl and I’m so confused at the moment and i don’t really know what to do. Does anyone have some tips on what to do?

  • @LaurenElizabethYT
    @LaurenElizabethYT 3 года назад +98

    I’m realizing that I’m bi, but have a heavy lean toward men (I’m a woman) so I feel like I’m now “allowed” to identify as bi, because I feel like others won’t take me seriously and just see me as a curious straight girl.
    I think I’m both physically and romantically attracted to both men and women, although I have more of a broad “type” with men. Like there’s a lot of ‘types’ (both physical and personality types) that I’m attracted to, whereas with women, I feel like I’m more “picky”, both with physical and romantic attraction.
    I’ve been thinking about trying out tinder with “looking for a woman” settings. But again, I feel like any bi woman or lesbian will just see me as an experimenting straight girl and not want to waste their time.
    Thanks to anyone who read this long comment. I’m just rambling because I don’t have any friends to vent my sexuality-based confusion to🤣

    • @ballynaxx9175
      @ballynaxx9175 Год назад +2

      A lot of gurls say their bi when they are not

    • @bi_twix
      @bi_twix Год назад +24

      This is basically exactly how I feel. I don't know if I'm allowed to use the label bi or even really want to use the label. It's so difficult for me to talk about my confusion and struggles with my friends, even though I'm out to them as bi. It's just so hard to put into words for people who haven't experienced this questioning phase and also admitting that I don't know how I feel about girls definitively.
      And then there's that girl I'm interested in and everytime we look at each other I go back to ... "Yeah I'm definitely bi."
      I still don't know if I'm interpreting to much into this😕🥲
      Also, thank you for your comment. It's always nice seeing that you're not alone.
      Have a nice week

    • @writerwannabe8778
      @writerwannabe8778 Год назад +2

      ​@@bi_twixSame thing for me.

    • @bi_twix
      @bi_twix Год назад +9

      Just to give a little update here, I have asked the girl out and now were practically dating, even though we aren't officially togethr just yet. I have no doubt that I do like girls anymore, and I guess I'd still be capable to feel attraction towards guys, so technically I'd call myself bi but I've started to not really care about labeling myself anymore :)
      I wish you all who are struggling lots of strength and patience. It'll all make sense some day. Don't pressure yourself into labeling if it's not that clear to you, even though it's easier said than done. You're valid either way :)

    • @WiloPolis03
      @WiloPolis03 Год назад +8

      Oof I know this is an old comment but this hits so close to home, the whole "i'm bisexual BUT i'm more attracted to this gender than that gender, so am I *really* bi???" thing is the worst haha

  • @galaxybun8775
    @galaxybun8775 5 лет назад +1353

    Signs of my bisexuality before I knew (before, I thought I was straight):
    1. Being touchy with girls
    2. Wishing I wasn't straight even though I thought I was (who does that?)
    3. Being huge into the lgbt+ community
    4. Having a one second crush on a girl the schoolyear before I realized
    5. Liking a crush on my best friend. This happened two days before I realized I was bi. A happy little bisexual.

    • @rat3661
      @rat3661 5 лет назад +27

      All About April I was the exactly the same way. I loved the lgbt+ community and I was in different lgbt groups even though I didn’t discover I was bi.

    • @dutchsingerxx491
      @dutchsingerxx491 5 лет назад +20

      Howly crap, that's litteraly me!

    • @teylawhite687
      @teylawhite687 5 лет назад +23

      All About April honestly, 2 is a mood

    • @ryanjackson3756
      @ryanjackson3756 5 лет назад +41

      Honestly same. Though, I think I might still be a couple of steps behind. I’m at the stage where I’m wondering if I actually am bi.
      I get a little touchy sometimes, in the past I’ve wished I wasn’t straight, I’m way into the lgbt+ community (I have gay friends too which is probably at least partially why), I have had mini crushes on girls for like a second and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t thought about kissing a girl.
      But I’m still a little unsure. How did you finally just know?

    • @milli6680
      @milli6680 5 лет назад +15

      2. Is soo me and I've always thought I was the only one😂

  • @girlknight199
    @girlknight199 5 лет назад +841

    me: he's cute
    also me: oh she's cute too
    me as well: *WAIT WHAT-*

  • @Someone-zt1ni
    @Someone-zt1ni 4 года назад +564

    “Sexuality isn’t a lifestyle, it’s a sexual orientation” That was an insight. It hit me hard and I had to stop the video to analyze it. This line is genius

    • @joshsmith2760
      @joshsmith2760 3 года назад +14

      It's not a preference, it's an orientation.

    • @Someone-zt1ni
      @Someone-zt1ni 3 года назад +4

      @@joshsmith2760 yeah sorry, I wrote this a while ago but you’re totally right

    • @tonyhoughton6857
      @tonyhoughton6857 2 года назад +1

      I am very confused I am a male crossdresser who has wanted to be a woman all my life and I don't fancy other men just women other crossdressers or trans.Am I weird straight guy lesbian this is doing my head in I just want to know

    • @Someone-zt1ni
      @Someone-zt1ni 2 года назад +2

      @@tonyhoughton6857 obviously I don’t know your life or feelings but have you considered being a trans lesbian or another gender identity/ sexuality? There are many people talking about their experiences so maybe you could look them up and see which resonates with what you’re feeling! I wish you luck!

    • @tonyhoughton6857
      @tonyhoughton6857 2 года назад

      @@Someone-zt1ni thank you I definitely know that if I transition I would definitely become a lesbian. I have been told that gender is different from sexuality as I have been fascinating about the female body for so long now it's the one I find most attractive

  • @nickshank4520
    @nickshank4520 Год назад +30

    I wish this type of video had been around years ago. When I was in school, especially in middle school when I was first starting to mature a bit, I was bullied very heavily for being gay despite believing I was straight. As I got older, looking back on it, I know I repressed every ounce of feeling I had for other guys because I couldn't possibly be what all the bullies told me I was. I got so used to repressing, that I'm pretty sure I completely lost sight of half my sexuality for most of my life. Fast forward to a few years ago, when as a happily married man, I worked with a guy that literally every time I saw him I pictured making out with him in my head and thinking about how cute he was. My wife actually completely supported me and helped me work through my completely awkward and 100% confused stage that had me questioning everything. So many years...and tears... later, I finally accepted who I am. For me though, since I didn't realize I was bi until I was 35 and happily married, I feel like the experiences that I could have had as a younger person were ripped away from me. Part of me feels like I don't really even know myself, which makes me angry at all the phlegm-wads that took away any chance I may have had to experience that side of myself. That's one of the reasons I loved "Heartstopper" so much, because this issue was addressed in season 2 with the plot between the two teachers. I had to have a good cry about it before I could move on. Thank you for all the encouragement toward working through all the many different emotions involved in acceptance.

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  Год назад +5

      I'm very sorry to hear what you had to go through , I also wish I had a video like this to help me through alot of things being the one that nick watches in heartstopper was a massive moment for me because I finally got to be what I never had. I finally got to give back what so many people deserve a life line , someone to say it's okay to be you now I hope no one has to feel like we did and everyone can have those moments of happiness.

  • @tayramoslvr
    @tayramoslvr 4 года назад +1122

    1. I'm straight
    2. I'm questioning
    3. I'm lesbian!
    4. I'm straight
    5. Im bi!💖💜💙

    • @a_cat9699
      @a_cat9699 4 года назад +27

      I’m still confused ):

    • @Stephanie-sp6wd
      @Stephanie-sp6wd 4 года назад +4

      Georgia D same 😔

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Kimi Broadhurst Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @ediechanel2320
      @ediechanel2320 4 года назад +4

      6. I’m pan 😳♥️

  • @hihanlaing8197
    @hihanlaing8197 5 лет назад +560

    Look at the fish tank does anyone else see Nemo Marlin and Dory

  • @drebedford144
    @drebedford144 5 лет назад +655

    I completely zoned out for half of the video cause I was look at Nemo, Marlin and Dory in the background.

  • @danielweasley4748
    @danielweasley4748 3 года назад +17

    I feel like not making your sexuality your identity is reallly important. Its not your entirety, its essentially a sexual preference. Putting more attention and importance on how I feel and my experience in the moment rather than an idea of a 'Bisexual Person' has really been a big shift for me in accepting whatever is happening. Thankyou so much for makingn this!! Really helped me a lot and drop a lot of shame around it

  • @manwhogivesiloveyous6124
    @manwhogivesiloveyous6124 5 лет назад +1900

    Uhhmmm excuse me... what's your skin care routine sir? I'm just a lil bit curious.

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +160

      Not much really I use L'Oréal for men face wash everyday , sometime I might use a mudmask from lush and I use Coco butter for my hands and feet and loreal face moisturizer

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +283

      I can do a video on it if you want

    • @manwhogivesiloveyous6124
      @manwhogivesiloveyous6124 5 лет назад +39

      Oh thank you!!

    • @cridecar
      @cridecar 5 лет назад +23

      @@Courtney-Jai Please do, I'm 20 and a guy and I need improvement asap lol

    • @Miquelalalaa
      @Miquelalalaa 5 лет назад +9

      cridecar Sleep and diet.

  • @onetwothreefour5041
    @onetwothreefour5041 5 лет назад +1573

    My mom: if u like a girl thats ok honey..
    Me: SGJDIFOGP I STRAIGHT.
    me on social media: damn girls cute doe

    • @natalieparks5428
      @natalieparks5428 5 лет назад +45

      THIS EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME WTH

    • @honeybear9
      @honeybear9 5 лет назад +19

      My situation rn

    • @sxriyah3638
      @sxriyah3638 5 лет назад +1

      Lynibugz hah dats me-

    • @lauraelise434
      @lauraelise434 5 лет назад

      skskskksks, R E L A T A B L E.
      my dad: Laura, you can tell me if you like girls. It doesn't matter to me.
      my mom: oh, btw laura. Your stepbrother just came out as gay.
      me: oOP THAT BOI CUTE.
      me on twitter: 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈⇛girls like girls⇚🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

    • @nisamlelo
      @nisamlelo 5 лет назад +17

      my parents are homophobic so, can't relate

  • @katie228_
    @katie228_ 5 лет назад +604

    Me figuring out I am no
    1. She's so pretty
    2. Stop your straight
    3. He's so cute
    4. Yes your straight
    5. She's beautiful
    6. Am I straight?
    7. Holy shit Tom Holland
    8. See I'm straight
    9. She is so cute
    10. Ffs I give up

    • @jaydine6336
      @jaydine6336 5 лет назад +12

      Lmfao me
      (Even though I'm still confused)

    • @katie228_
      @katie228_ 5 лет назад +9

      @@jaydine6336 yup I'm super confused

    • @kpopuniverse1273
      @kpopuniverse1273 5 лет назад +3

      Me

    • @louisestokken4660
      @louisestokken4660 5 лет назад +6

      UnpredictableJaydine my mom told me that all people are actually a little bisexual before they find the one. That’s was what helped me through it. And a lot of people are confused. I talked to one of my friends she told me also she was confused! It’s totally natural and you will always be accepted!

    • @user-gv4hj1bl2z
      @user-gv4hj1bl2z 5 лет назад

      omg same ha
      😂

  • @marrdiar
    @marrdiar 3 года назад +95

    I honestly am experiencing this right now I'm 14 and am bi. I've only said that to myself because I couldn't say it to anyone else. I've been questioned since the beggining of Middle School and it was always hard for me to socialize going through with what I had to. This video made me feel alot better about myself💕💕.

    • @melikeince1580
      @melikeince1580 3 года назад +3

      💜

    • @daeng5745
      @daeng5745 Год назад +1

      But what is bi refer to watch? Gay porn/straight porn or???

  • @juliacd9283
    @juliacd9283 4 года назад +483

    The "It's a sexual preference, not a lifestyle" phrase was really beautiful. I don't know what I am or in what phase I'm in but thank you for this video.

    • @witchypoo7353
      @witchypoo7353 3 года назад +3

      my mother still uses the term lifestlye & idk how to not not feel hurt by that

    • @ncarolina27803guy
      @ncarolina27803guy Год назад

      WIshing you luck with your walk into finding out more of yourself and what adventures are in store for you.

    • @JungleBoi9
      @JungleBoi9 Год назад +1

      Sexual orientation works, too.

    • @vishwajeetsingh6340
      @vishwajeetsingh6340 Год назад

      It's not even sexual preference...its sexual orientation....preference means u chose to be so....but orientation means it just is...u have no control on it

  • @PilotScooper
    @PilotScooper 4 года назад +830

    As a 77 year old USAF veteran who has been in a stable relationship with an incredible man for 48 years, I had my first heterosexual experience and my first homosexual experience within a week of each other when I was an eighteen year old college freshman in 1960. I had always been sexually attracted to men, but had crushes on women too. I've had two great relationships with women, one lasting for a couple of years, but on the Kinsey scale I am clearly more attracted to - and feel more comfortable in - relationships with men.
    I'm lucky to have family and many straight friends who are very supportive.

    • @PilotScooper
      @PilotScooper 4 года назад +61

      @deyokes on yt Haven't you heard? Eighty is the new fifty. I still do long distance bicycle touring and regularly fly my single engine airplane on 500 - 1000 mile cross-country flights. ;-)

    • @jayeshchouhan1880
      @jayeshchouhan1880 4 года назад +29

      Holy shit!!!!! That's so amazing!!! I want something just like this! You. Are. Really. Lucky.

    • @huedenise
      @huedenise 4 года назад +8

      Stan Cooper thats awesome!

    • @mooptom2599
      @mooptom2599 4 года назад +19

      I’m 18 now and I found out yesterday that I always smile when I’m with this girl but..... I have dreams of boys

    • @eggs1632
      @eggs1632 4 года назад +4

      @@PilotScooper wowowowowowow

  • @marteumar8429
    @marteumar8429 5 лет назад +722

    Representation to my bi boys out there.. this is something always piss me off, how bi people are discriminated by straight people and by gay people, and for bi boys this is even harder.
    We need more bi boys on media, tv, movies, netflix shows, RUclips or whatever, we need to normalize bi boys. We need to show to all those young boys that it’s ok.

  • @octoberboiy
    @octoberboiy 4 года назад +32

    I think the biggest issue is you are never quite sure if you’re Bi or gay. I mostly like guys but at random times (sometimes at times when I’m almost completely sure I’m gay) I see or meet a girl and I feel very attracted to her. Then it makes me start hoping and thinking maybe I’m straight and the gay side is just an illusion caused by being single, but then I see a cute guy again and I know that’s not the case.

    • @thomaxtube
      @thomaxtube Год назад +3

      We all have countless past/ parallel/ future lifetimes on earth and other places, what you have chosen to be in this life is right for you to experience and accept now. Everything else you can be/ you are experiencing in another time & place. The soul is eternal and makes no mistakes about the lives it chooses to live : we choose : to learn and to expand our self awareness of it being everything everywhere, all at once. ❤

    • @mrm4862
      @mrm4862 Год назад +1

      This. sometimes I don't understand if im bi or gay

    • @bobby1970
      @bobby1970 Год назад +1

      ​@@mrm4862I've decided that I'm definitely bi. Absolutely without a doubt. I believe there are a whole lot more bisexual people than homosexual people, so I would say you are probably bi. If so, please accept it. There's nothing wrong with it. Whatever you do, don't let religion get in the way.

  • @yolandagomez3323
    @yolandagomez3323 5 лет назад +155

    I couldn't stop looking at your fishes.
    THEY'RE NEMO AND DORY

    • @cheeseych0c0late
      @cheeseych0c0late 4 года назад +7

      Yolanda Gómez I love that this is what you took from this video

  • @graceclover8697
    @graceclover8697 5 лет назад +683

    Me figuring out my sexuality (female):
    I’m straight
    I’m bi?
    I’m definitely bi
    I’m totally straight
    I’m Aromantic
    Obviously straight
    (Im at this point rn)
    I’m obviously straight... right😳
    Bi maybe??
    Confused as hell

    • @lanaqueen7967
      @lanaqueen7967 4 года назад +14

      Same here, I'm still confused tho

    • @KC-cr2xw
      @KC-cr2xw 4 года назад +16

      dude exactly the same over here. I keep going back and forth and honestly all I can say is that im not straight. the said part Is that it took me almost a year to get to this point. also definitely relate to the romantic part...Im pretty sure im demiromantic or greyromantic as well a biromantic (?) but not sure lol send help

    • @cat1312.
      @cat1312. 4 года назад

      SAME.

    • @random.fandom.011kh9
      @random.fandom.011kh9 4 года назад

      Grace Clover Exactly me (Female) ----------I got a feelin' that you could be feelin'
      A whole lot better than you feel today
      You say you got a problem
      Well, that's no problem
      It's super easy not to feel that way
      When you start to get confused
      Because of thoughts in your head
      Don't feel those feelings, hold them in instead
      Turn it off like a light switch
      Just go, click
      It's a cool little Mormon trick
      We do it all the time
      When you're feeling certain feelings
      That just don't seem right
      Treat those pesky feelings like a reading light
      And turn 'em off, light a light switch

    • @user_3330
      @user_3330 4 года назад

      SAME

  • @ezmazethings7158
    @ezmazethings7158 5 лет назад +2708

    How I figured out I was bi...
    1. I’m straight
    2. Wait, am I bi?
    3. No I’m straight
    4. I’m completely gay
    5. Maybe I am bi?
    I still don’t know. (;_;)

    • @thecamclassic
      @thecamclassic 5 лет назад +40

      Same with me

    • @justsomeautisticwoman6202
      @justsomeautisticwoman6202 5 лет назад

      Ezmaze Things same tho

    • @user-if4df7lk1z
      @user-if4df7lk1z 5 лет назад +6

      Follow your heart.

    • @lj9759
      @lj9759 5 лет назад +7

      @@kristian2319 honestly, there are loads of girls out there that are into pleasuring a guy in that way so you could just be straight...

    • @floraltart
      @floraltart 5 лет назад

      Me omg

  • @McFLYismyworld4
    @McFLYismyworld4 4 года назад +45

    I've finally gotten to that acceptance stage, but I was confused for a long time because I prefer romantic relationships with men but sexual relationships with women. There's no strict rules about it, which is comforting. Seems that I'm not alone in this.

    • @joshsmith2760
      @joshsmith2760 3 года назад

      Are you female?

    • @manifestedpowerz1875
      @manifestedpowerz1875 3 года назад

      Idk what th I am(:

    • @howto-wiki8291
      @howto-wiki8291 2 года назад +2

      I , a man.. have only and always enjoyed participating in romantic relationships with women.. how would I know if I wanted a romantic relationship with a man do you just know , or do you start to develop consistencies (feelings) towards guys that are close to you and respect you. Bc part of respecting me is respecting the man that I am

    • @kidnap_kid
      @kidnap_kid Год назад +1

      Same! Exactly the same.

    • @kidnap_kid
      @kidnap_kid Год назад

      @@howto-wiki8291 if they start to feel like your best friend, and it feels weird when you don't talk to them etc, that's usually a good start to a romantic relationship. I've always preferred to be friends first. But there's no definite right way.

  • @Abugelis911
    @Abugelis911 5 лет назад +3353

    You will never know why I got so many likes

  • @ugh2703
    @ugh2703 5 лет назад +480

    Me figuring things out
    I’m straight
    She’s pretty
    But I’m straight
    He’s cute
    So I’m straight
    Oh but she’s really pretty
    But I’m straight
    And she’s really pretty
    Maybe I’m gay
    Oh but he’s super hot
    No I’m straight
    Oh she’s pretty
    Oh he’s cute
    Oh what’s happening to me
    So I’m Bi?
    I’m still questioning

    • @jess01510
      @jess01510 5 лет назад +5

      May bi ...
      I don't think you have to choose at that point

    • @WyattThumbsUp
      @WyattThumbsUp 5 лет назад +9

      Yep, the cycle

    • @_beansinacan_1577
      @_beansinacan_1577 5 лет назад

      I’m sure you’ll figure it out eventually, there wasn’t really a cycle for me. For 13 years I was like I’m straight and then all of a sudden I was like holy shiznit I’m gray-ace 😂😂

    • @larajarnjak295
      @larajarnjak295 5 лет назад +3

      mood

    • @mochi-san1561
      @mochi-san1561 5 лет назад +3

      Me too...

  • @ctraye6293
    @ctraye6293 5 лет назад +1746

    Me for 14 years: I’m straight
    Me: I’m- wait...
    Me: I’m bi
    Me: I’m gay
    Me: I’m straight
    Me: I’m bi
    Mom: *you’re straight*
    Me: _dies_
    Me: I’m bi?
    Me: *_CONFUSION INTENSIFIES_*

  • @b00ne85
    @b00ne85 3 года назад +14

    I watched this 2 years ago wondering if I was bi… this helps me so much. I am bi and I’m forever grateful to you for helping me when I was in the darkest point in my life.😁thank you🥰

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  3 года назад +5

      Well I'm just happy a video like this could make such a difference to someone's life , I'm happy you realised who you are.

  • @t.maurice1804
    @t.maurice1804 5 лет назад +1367

    My stages:
    1.) I'm gay 😕 ages 5 -11
    2.) I'm straight😊 ages 12-18
    3.) I'm bi?😳 ages 18-19
    4.) No..gay🙄 ages 20 -21
    5.) I'm bi..🤔 ages 22 -24
    6.) Haven't been with a girl in a while...gotta be gay 🤷🏾‍♂️ ages 25 -26
    7.) I like what I like fuck it! 😎 27-
    Update:: wow so cool to see all the likes from this just wanted to say @courtney-jai thanks for your inspiration and courage. Your videos has helped me to be more open for conversation about my sexuality. Even created a separate channel and all 🤣🤣 thanks man! Best wishes and to all of you below as well 😁😁

    • @ocytocine96
      @ocytocine96 5 лет назад +15

      The exact same

    • @jokerrorschach6405
      @jokerrorschach6405 5 лет назад +8

      I can sympathize with this.

    • @ocytocine96
      @ocytocine96 5 лет назад +19

      @Anna Long you're young don't put pressure on yourself. Allow yourself to grow and found who you truely are

    • @t.maurice1804
      @t.maurice1804 5 лет назад +8

      @Anna Long that's cool that you're somewhat aware. But try not to focus too much on that especially at 10. Enjoy your childhood while it last...all the little things. 😊

    • @mjade1673
      @mjade1673 5 лет назад

      Awe 😇🤗✊

  • @NicoSchurr
    @NicoSchurr 5 лет назад +490

    This is just raw bisexual energy: being everything at once!

  • @precyberpunk7026
    @precyberpunk7026 5 лет назад +941

    Trying to fit in as many groups as you can is bisexual culture

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +51

      I thought that was my life for a long time

    • @meandmybobbygee1812
      @meandmybobbygee1812 5 лет назад +35

      Honestly, I'm a middle for everything, even sexuality.

    • @annabel7896
      @annabel7896 5 лет назад +16

      When he said that I felt it so hard becuase it's so true, I don't fit into anything but I try to very damn hard

    • @Laurasunivers3
      @Laurasunivers3 5 лет назад +2

      annabel yeah same here

    • @hannyaespinoza5111
      @hannyaespinoza5111 5 лет назад +1

      Mood

  • @plutorin.2923
    @plutorin.2923 4 года назад +466

    my stage of figuring out my sexuality
    1. im totally straight
    2. wait hold on-
    3. nope im pansexual
    4. sike im completely straight
    5. but that girl is so pretty thooo
    6. WAIT I THINK I'M ASEXUAL
    7. wait am i?
    8. confusion
    9. confusion
    im really really confused right now please help me :(

    • @auerbacher69
      @auerbacher69 3 года назад +9

      i feel that.

    • @riyaxziz
      @riyaxziz 3 года назад +16

      I’m going to screenshot this because this is exactly my life right now

    • @glazed6510
      @glazed6510 3 года назад +5

      Felt the confusion 😔✊

    • @iarasofia9439
      @iarasofia9439 3 года назад +3

      That's my life in 10 steps always on repeat

    • @edibleturd
      @edibleturd 3 года назад +10

      does it matter what sexuality you have? just go for whatever the fuck you like and figure out what you are later.
      if you can't figure it out and someone asks then just say you're bi until you can.
      sexuality is just a bullshit way to categorize the fetishes people like to pretend aren't fetishes anyways, so don't take it too seriously. why would being attracted to a D or a V be any different from being attracted to intelligence or stupidity, toned abs or flabs, flat chests or bouncy badonkadonks?

  • @rebe1617
    @rebe1617 4 года назад +1226

    No one:
    Me: stares at the fishes the whole time

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  4 года назад +268

      I would almost be offended if you didnt their very pretty

    • @animemusic8
      @animemusic8 4 года назад +20

      stares at him the whole time. He's so gorgeous.

    • @thorr18BEM
      @thorr18BEM 4 года назад +6

      *whole time. *they're pretty.

    • @rebe1617
      @rebe1617 4 года назад +1

      thorr18BEM oops

    • @thefunnyman8073
      @thefunnyman8073 4 года назад +1

      asexual mood

  • @ArthurBrinkman-c5z
    @ArthurBrinkman-c5z 5 лет назад +2412

    When I was a teenager there was no one to talk to. I prayed and prayed to not be gay. I got married to hide myself. That didn't work so I again prayed and prayed. Then I accepted two things.
    1st. I'm gay and 2nd there is no god.

    • @lokebrandon
      @lokebrandon 5 лет назад +117

      Lmaooooo

    • @troubledcheech
      @troubledcheech 5 лет назад +82

      Thank you for that

    • @alihakim5924
      @alihakim5924 5 лет назад +28

      Sick mind.

    • @ginb1289
      @ginb1289 5 лет назад +283

      There is a God and he was answering you, just wasn't the answer you were expecting. In other words, you were fine all along.

    • @fridagutfelt1914
      @fridagutfelt1914 5 лет назад +118

      @@ginb1289 they were obviously not fine since they had to hide their sexuality for several years. Stop

  • @KYNGA100
    @KYNGA100 4 года назад +10

    I'm 25 and realised this year that I'm bi after meeting a girl on my campus~ After months of internal debate, I'm happy and can openly talk about it.

  • @orionbailey5812
    @orionbailey5812 4 года назад +349

    He’s cute I’m just leaving it at that

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  4 года назад +106

      That's sweet thank you

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Orion Bailey Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад +1

      Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

  • @thelordofcream
    @thelordofcream 4 года назад +101

    My stages
    1. I’m gay
    2. I’m asexual (Denial)
    3. I love girls but guys are also hot
    4. But I’m straight, right?...
    5. I can’t take this I’m Bi
    6. I have to be straight!
    7. There’s no rules, I’m bi

    • @diamonddorsey9488
      @diamonddorsey9488 4 года назад +3

      Same though. I need to get to stage seven though

    • @ajl7704
      @ajl7704 4 года назад

      got over stage 2 i think im around stage 3-4

    • @Ryanbros
      @Ryanbros 4 года назад

      Same it’s just I kept thinking I’m straight then two minutes later no I’m asexual and then a couple weeks later I would think I might be bi

  • @heartsthekitteh6239
    @heartsthekitteh6239 5 лет назад +313

    My five stages (as a guy):
    1. I'm definitely straight.
    2. Dudes are kinda fine, but I only REALLY like girls
    3. Man, it sure is fun to mess with guys
    4. Wow, I haven't thought about girls in while
    5. Hmm. Guys are generally hotter than girls.

  • @Ashley-su1yw
    @Ashley-su1yw 2 года назад +4

    I’ve been friends with this girl for 4-5 years now. 2 years go by and she’s a really good friend, the nicest person I’ve ever met. I also thought she was really pretty! I loved her hair, and she always brought me into conversations when she could tell I felt left out.
    Then one day, I got butterflies. I had only ever had crushes on guys before, and had never even felt REAL butterflies before. But the butterflies I started getting around her, were so real and different, I didn’t even know they were butterflies. I went maybe a day, then I finally realized I got butterflies around her and I liked her!
    Everything went by so quickly, it was like flipping a switch.

  • @adaslothland850
    @adaslothland850 4 года назад +199

    For me it was like:
    1) Clueless
    “Gays are okay, and they deserve rights, but I’m not gay”
    2) Noticing
    (Little me, without any damn knowledge on different varieties of sexual preferences) “Lol I think I’m into girls”
    2) Denying
    “There’s no way I’m Bi, I was just going through a phase at that time, I was young”
    3) Giving a chance to the idea
    ”Maybe, but most likely no”
    4)Giving a tought to the idea
    ”Maybe, I’m not sure...”
    5)Giving a possibility to the idea
    ”Maybe, probably?”
    6)Acceptance, still hesitated
    ”I’m bi. I am, am I not?”
    7)Sure
    ”Nah fam I’m totally bi, boys are cute, girls are cute, it’s as simple as that”
    7,5)pAnIc
    ”I live in the most homophobic country in Europe, what am I going to do??? Will something bad happen??? What should I do??? I’ll stay closeted until death!!!”
    8)Confused doubting ”Maybeiamactuallystraightmaybeitsjustaphase”
    9) 7 and 8, on repeat.

    • @X606
      @X606 4 года назад +30

      I really feel the “Gays are okay, and they deserve rights, but I’m not gay”, that's exactly how I've felt for so long and whenever any "gay thoughts" came up it really freaked me out but I somehow convinced myself that I was straight for so long anyway.

    • @sabrielysgimelindez1126
      @sabrielysgimelindez1126 4 года назад +10

      omg you just described my process xD, for the longest time i was like maybe im heteroflexible like im straight but i wouldnt mind dating a girl, and then i was like "do i like her or do i just like her "style?" and then i had a proper crush on a girl (and let me add a STRAIGHT GIRL) and was like fuck im bi! and with that came the thought "oh no i have to come out eventually" thankfully i have the greatest friends i could ask for and they know and suport me but i havent told my family and a part of me knows that they'll be okay with it but im just not ready for that conversation.

    • @adaslothland850
      @adaslothland850 4 года назад +13

      Sabrielys Gimelindez that “maybe I’m straight but I wouldn’t mind dating a girl” hits too close to home

    • @blakemtg47
      @blakemtg47 3 года назад +1

      Russia?

    • @adaslothland850
      @adaslothland850 3 года назад +2

      @@blakemtg47 Turkey.
      Yeah it’s not in EU (for understandable reasons) but it’s still partially in Europe. Just like Russia.
      Though your guess is close enough, we’re usually around the same rankings with Russia when it comes to most homophobic countries in Europe.
      Oh what a time to be a proud citizen!/s

  • @catherinelinsey1378
    @catherinelinsey1378 4 года назад +269

    I realized I was bi at summer camp when the prettiest girl kissed me and I didn’t pull away🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @joannalance2842
      @joannalance2842 4 года назад +62

      Damn... so freaking lucky 😂

    • @kreisigal
      @kreisigal 4 года назад +12

      Catherine Linsey lucky👁👄👁

    • @saalamander4406
      @saalamander4406 4 года назад +8

      😭😭😭share your luckk with MEEEEEE😭

    • @elberethgilthoniel4068
      @elberethgilthoniel4068 4 года назад +3

      I wish it was me

    • @kritikasingh7731
      @kritikasingh7731 4 года назад +5

      I wish the girl i had crush on for years didn't pull away when i kissed her🤦🏾‍♂️

  • @parazodiaz474
    @parazodiaz474 4 года назад +652

    My stages of realisation
    I am gay
    I am asexual
    I am Trans
    I am Pan
    Finally, I am Bi

    • @leon.skennedy7077
      @leon.skennedy7077 4 года назад +19

      This is the exact same phase I went through 🤣

    • @isaiasholguin5393
      @isaiasholguin5393 4 года назад +2

      Same

    • @FernandoAlonso-cj6pr
      @FernandoAlonso-cj6pr 4 года назад +2

      Wtf does pan and trans have to do with it?, asexual is when you dont feel attracted, and trans is gender identity.

    • @parazodiaz474
      @parazodiaz474 4 года назад +4

      @@FernandoAlonso-cj6pr I had this edge of being a woman, take woman mannerisms, wear high heels, put make up, thinking about how I Lucky I would have been if I had boobs and Vagina...

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад

      Parazo Diaz Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

  • @stephenowen4637
    @stephenowen4637 Год назад +5

    Amazingly I am 57 and your denial section was my life in school in the 80s.... I threw myself into work, went overseas and never accepted who I am ... I am now coming back to UK because I think I can live my life finally honestly as myself...

  • @ofeliar9978
    @ofeliar9978 5 лет назад +392

    when you’re 14 and have already gone through all these stages
    ✌️

  • @AarmOZ84
    @AarmOZ84 5 лет назад +866

    My stages:
    1. I am straight.
    2. Wouldn't mind kissing that guy.
    3. No, I am very straight.
    4. Trying not to stare at the hot guys in the locker room.
    5. I am very straight.
    6. Why do I keep dreaming about making out with dudes?
    7. I'm so confused!
    8. Yeah. I am very bisexual.

    • @divanighttime4835
      @divanighttime4835 5 лет назад +53

      Omg same but change guy to girl it especially with the locker room thing I’m just like looking at the wall like “oh that’s a nice wall” and on the inside it just don’t stare don’t stare don’t stare

    • @ivka_zivka
      @ivka_zivka 5 лет назад +6

      Seme just girl version

    • @adriiann5288
      @adriiann5288 5 лет назад +3

      Lmao me

    • @oof-rr5nf
      @oof-rr5nf 5 лет назад

      @@casualpotato9375 He literally just said he's bi, why would you say that?

    • @andreasdiaries
      @andreasdiaries 5 лет назад +6

      Aaron Hart maybe just gay 😂

  • @Heidelbuam
    @Heidelbuam 5 лет назад +727

    just like looking at your face,lips and eyes manifests my gayness :) You are a beautiful young man :)

  • @artweldon
    @artweldon 4 года назад +2

    I know this is a year old, but wanted to say.. Spot On. Very good post. It is amazing that young people like you have the courage to be public open about such important subjects and have a drive to help others. Great! Thanks for sharing.

  • @KH-ld8jj
    @KH-ld8jj 4 года назад +209

    When I first realized that I might be attracted to women as well, it messed up my sleep, like I couldn’t sleep properly. It was the only thing that’s on my mind and it affected my mental health. Accepting my sexuality, though it was a slow process, was the best decision in my life. I’ve only come out to, like, only 4 people but I’m happier now and feel more like myself.

    • @rebekahsquires2073
      @rebekahsquires2073 4 года назад +2

      Kim B same here

    • @leigha3083
      @leigha3083 4 года назад +4

      I'm like this right now, but I told a close friend of mine. I really trust her but now I feel like I'm gonna make it weird :( shes completely ok with it and said its literally fine and she will wait for me to fully realise and be there for me whether I'm straight or bi but I feel like I'm still going to be awkward about it... I just needed to talk to someone but I overthink a lot. I've also been crying and losing a lot of sleep. I've been questioning it A LOT and when my therapist asked me of my sexuality I literally couldnt say "I'm straight" instead what came out was "I think I'm straight but idk" I'm only 15 but I'm so confused :(

    • @joleneestrada5795
      @joleneestrada5795 3 года назад +1

      I’m going through the exact same thing I’m already mentally messed up, my parents and friends are homophobic Christians, I go to a Catholic School, and now I’m feeling confused, alone and depressed.
      Beautiful isn’t it
      (Sorry I know no one cares but I had to let it out)

    • @kumashock4074
      @kumashock4074 3 года назад +1

      I feel you...I used to have dreams where I would pretty much try the whole dream to get with a girl in secret or touch her boobs in private but somebody would always come in and interrupt and I think those dreams had a lot to do with internalized fear about being interested in women or being out. At that time...I still thought I didn’t really like women/had no proof that I actually liked women. LIKE AN IDIOT. Laying over here dreaming about touching tiddies and thinking I wasn’t gay 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @sarahthebug6613
      @sarahthebug6613 3 года назад

      @@leigha3083 Aaa I can relate so much

  • @aminazzzz
    @aminazzzz 4 года назад +252

    My stages of figuring out that I’m bi:
    Me: I’m straight
    Me: that girl looks so pretty
    Me: he’s fine af
    Me: I don’t really like guys
    Me: I may be a lesbian
    Me: I’m definitely bi

    • @mbsucks101
      @mbsucks101 4 года назад +1

      marshall law

    • @billhildebrand5053
      @billhildebrand5053 4 года назад

      Amina Ahmed Hey, guy, you are cool. I like your lips too. But is it all based on feeling ???
      Here is a different perspective.. love you....ruclips.net/video/IomSK8pudTc/видео.html
      This guy got his own story . But u have great communication skills...😄😀

    • @karensimango6619
      @karensimango6619 4 года назад +1

      I really thought I was the only one who thought I was lesbian

  • @mikegaisser4527
    @mikegaisser4527 5 лет назад +53

    “Either you will accept it or completely deny it” Dude, I can relate 😫

  • @Lovetravelling4218
    @Lovetravelling4218 Год назад +4

    Thank you, Jai. I’m happy that you are helping me through my struggles. In fact thanks from all of us.

  • @nojamsmelxx2002
    @nojamsmelxx2002 5 лет назад +215

    Me:
    I’m straight, I have to be straight or I get disowned
    I’m straight
    *feels attracted to girls*
    What if...? No I’m straight!
    I can’t be bi.. I’ll go to hell
    Straight straight.
    *meets the love of my life*
    Oh Fuc- nope can’t
    What if.....I can’t be...
    FINE I’M BI!
    What if I’m straight though?
    Nope definitely bi, time to keep it a secret :)

    • @johnjames5587
      @johnjames5587 4 года назад

      your usually my type too but i'm a larger man so you probably wouldn't be interested in me

    • @Fuzzled369
      @Fuzzled369 4 года назад +2

      Hell isn't real god is loving thus would not design a place of torment towards his own creation

    • @Fuzzled369
      @Fuzzled369 4 года назад +2

      Fun fact.. when you die all that's left is your soul, your soul cannot be tormented because it cannot feel pain.
      Thus hell isn't even functional

    • @nicholasgutierrez957
      @nicholasgutierrez957 4 года назад

      Same here

    • @johnjames5587
      @johnjames5587 4 года назад +1

      @@Fuzzled369 i believe everyone gets their own paradise filled with things they like and totally tailored for them so hell does not exist

  • @MichaelSimpsonLegal
    @MichaelSimpsonLegal 5 лет назад +413

    Sorry, have to comment about the fish, an off-topic point. They are quite beautiful, photo-bombing you throughout the video. I was becoming fixed on the fish, Congrats on how well you are taking care of these.

  • @lj8612
    @lj8612 5 лет назад +376

    I swear this couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I just came out as bi!

    • @TyronJonesTJ
      @TyronJonesTJ 5 лет назад +4

      AcFoil I did too

    • @lj8612
      @lj8612 5 лет назад +4

      Tyron Jones Well done!

    • @Xandropolis
      @Xandropolis 5 лет назад

      Same!

    • @user-nf3ey4kn3n
      @user-nf3ey4kn3n 5 лет назад +2

      @Sports Right, but believing in Jesus, having real faith and love in him, will save you because he died for our sins and gave us a second chance at going to heaven, when we sure as hell didn't deserve it.

    • @user-nf3ey4kn3n
      @user-nf3ey4kn3n 5 лет назад +2

      @Sports Don't worry! Its okay! Being a Christian, I obviously believe in these scriptures in the bible, and it is just if a person leaves a hateful comment with it, I don't agree with that, because we may not believe in this, or support the LGBTQ+ community, but we still must love and respect one another, as we are all brothers and sisters under Christ, no matter what we say we identify as. This being what Christ wants us to do, but we are also human and make mistakes which is why we must forgive as well. God bless you as well.😁👍

  • @Echo_Night
    @Echo_Night 3 года назад +7

    I'm female and I'm in the denial stage. I live in a divorced family where my mom and dad split. My dad is a Christian and homophobic. I left his house may of last year. I am scared to come out to my family and to accept it myself because I grew up thinking this was wrong. I did grow up in a household where this was taught as wrong. I only recently found out about 6 months ago. I'm starting to get through this stage, thanks to all of the RUclipsrs that have stated their opinion on the LGBTQ+ community. I thank you all I hope I can get through the rest of this stage.

    • @cupcake2009ist
      @cupcake2009ist 3 года назад

      It’s nothing wrong with being gay your family will be upset at first but they will grow to accept you.

  • @nellwyn
    @nellwyn 4 года назад +235

    The problem is I always thought I was straight my whole life. It's just past few years have been very confusing. I'm 21 rn and it's mf confusing. I think I'm finally able to accept that I'm a bi but I don't think I'm ready to talk to my parents or sibs rn or ever idk what to do.

    • @nevillephilpott3293
      @nevillephilpott3293 4 года назад +14

      Nellwyn EXOL I am having this same feeling! I am finally really thinking about me and want to share it but I just can’t bring myself to say it

    • @yourstruly2232
      @yourstruly2232 4 года назад +17

      Bruh in my country its hard and i dont think im ever gonna come out until I either move to another country or they allow gay marraige. Its so hard because no one understands. They are still stuck in their old ways. Can't wait to get out of this hell hole.

    • @LMvdB02
      @LMvdB02 4 года назад +2

      Bruh just bring home someone of the same gender lol

    • @zenpie5093
      @zenpie5093 3 года назад +8

      It’s okay, take your time to figure everything out and don’t rush it! I am 27 now and only started accepting that part about me 6-8 months ago and have only come out to a few close friends and my s.o.. I still feel confused and hope to be out and proud openly one day but for now being out to myself and some friends also feels quite nice.
      In case you have some Bi (online-)friends you might want talk to them about your experiences. This helped me understand so much about myself 💖💜💙

    • @sunflowergarden9794
      @sunflowergarden9794 3 года назад

      How do I for sure know I’m bi? Because I think I’m attracted to girls but I have not been with one. What am I?

  • @shanehughes3511
    @shanehughes3511 5 лет назад +197

    Went to an all boys school so noticed the male attraction I had first. Wasn't until I reached my late teens I realised I was also attracted to women more than I had noticed.
    So for anyone saying bi sexuals are just gay men in denial how about you not talk.
    I was like okay im gay and then was like no bi.
    So I didn't have that I'm straight but like men phase homophobes claim to just be gay men in denial.
    Bi sexuality is REAL AND ALOT MORE MEN ARE BI THEN ADMIT

    • @michaelgaynor6866
      @michaelgaynor6866 4 года назад +4

      YEP!

    • @angelusvastator1297
      @angelusvastator1297 4 года назад +8

      Yes say it for those in the back. The Romans and Greeks knew about this back then.

    • @RS-js2df
      @RS-js2df 4 года назад +1

      More power to bi boys 💜💜

    • @yourstruly2232
      @yourstruly2232 4 года назад

      I got a question. I find some men really active but I do not like watching gay porn is it normal or not? Cause im confused like hell.

    • @RS-js2df
      @RS-js2df 4 года назад

      @@yourstruly2232 It depends on your personal preference, a lot of straight women like lesbian porn, that doesn't invalidate their straightness

  • @보라색심장
    @보라색심장 5 лет назад +187

    I started out as homophobic because that the environment I was raised in and then I started supporting the lgbtq community and then I started realizing that I wasn't 100% and noticed that I actually had a lot of crushes on girls

    • @보라색심장
      @보라색심장 5 лет назад +10

      @@acidsugar385 yeah I mean for me it was the religion that my parents brought me up into that made me feel like it was wrong. I haven't really thought that someone was straight when they've been plotted with a member of the same gender but when I do read lgbtq books I tend to not like the lesbian ones just because I don't feel like that would be me in les relationship. And having been brought up with people saying "nobody's really gay" and shit like that it does make me doubt myself sometimes. But just recently I had a crush on a girl and I think for me that was what completely confirmed it.
      When you think that "these people are clearly straight" it might be because of the stereotypes on gay relation ships, and now days there's nothing that confirms someone's sexuality except when the person themselves confirm it.

    • @WadeWalker22
      @WadeWalker22 5 лет назад

      Rain Josephdun dumbest shit I've heard

    • @보라색심장
      @보라색심장 5 лет назад +3

      @@am-ji6wb for the most part people are very accepting of bisexuality but some people refuse to believe that it exists but it's really not that big of a deal once you accept yourself

    • @보라색심장
      @보라색심장 5 лет назад +2

      @@am-ji6wb of course it's going to be hard especially after being raised in a way that apposes who you are. As long as you stay away from homophobic people you will eventually learn to accept youself
      Your English is fine don't worry

    • @보라색심장
      @보라색심장 5 лет назад +1

      @@am-ji6wb no problem

  • @daletaylor777
    @daletaylor777 Год назад +3

    I am so glad that you are putting out these videos and creating a space for those who are questioning and perhaps freaking out about their sexuality.

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  Год назад +1

      This is actually what I did for years before I did the reacts I have alot of videos planned just need to get them filmed how I want

  • @chaeyoungsbish
    @chaeyoungsbish 5 лет назад +230

    I’m at the confused stage on whether I’m Bi or Lesbian😂

    • @MaskMastic
      @MaskMastic 5 лет назад +13

      Same honestly

    • @ivyrainbitch
      @ivyrainbitch 5 лет назад +2

      Charizard Rules 🤣🤣

    • @dojacatstanaccount7936
      @dojacatstanaccount7936 5 лет назад +18

      I don't fuckin know why, but I feel like all lesbians I know labelled them as bi when they were teens

    • @kpopuniverse1273
      @kpopuniverse1273 5 лет назад +1

      Me lol

    • @sonne5540
      @sonne5540 5 лет назад +6

      Same. And sometimes straight😂

  • @piney_studios
    @piney_studios 4 года назад +402

    My stage:
    Yeah I’m straight. I like guys
    Hmm I like guys still but girls look pretty.
    I can’t be gay, I’m just jealous of the girls haha
    Frick I’m lesbian
    No I’m straight
    Crap I like both.
    BI PRIDE

    • @tamarmishan7406
      @tamarmishan7406 4 года назад

      This is me rn i swear

    • @oliviarediess6244
      @oliviarediess6244 4 года назад +1

      This is me

    • @avastars3393
      @avastars3393 3 года назад +3

      Wow you described me in a few words

    • @noahabdullah9867
      @noahabdullah9867 3 года назад

      @Saydet Loves the Planet Some like women, some like men, some like men and women at the same time But if you love women more than men, naturally, you find women more beautiful and better, but if you love men more than women, you will see men better and more beautiful. But if you love men and women with the same love and passion, you will see them together with the same beauty

    • @noahabdullah9867
      @noahabdullah9867 3 года назад

      Some like women, some like men, some like men and women at the same time But if you love women more than men, naturally, you find women more beautiful and better, but if you love men more than women, you will see men better and more beautiful. But if you love men and women with the same love and passion, you will see them together with the same beauty

  • @jewe1z
    @jewe1z 5 лет назад +113

    Its a scary feeling at first

    • @alo8203
      @alo8203 5 лет назад +5

      Indeed it is

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад +16

      Shook me to my core but once you get past that it's like your seeing the world in colour for the first time

    • @chaderoop5563
      @chaderoop5563 5 лет назад +1

      That's how I feel right now, I think I need help lol

  • @jennyneon
    @jennyneon 3 года назад +25

    *So much confusion,* one time you're straight, the other you're bi, _why is it so difficult omg._ :( :(
    Well, I am officially a bisexual male. Happy Pride Month!

  • @amberfranke5970
    @amberfranke5970 4 года назад +69

    I always feel like I’ll come out one day and then end up changing my sexuality entirely

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  4 года назад +17

      And you could do but thats down to human experience thered nothing wrong with that ,who we are now is not who we will be in 10 years time.

    • @amberfranke5970
      @amberfranke5970 4 года назад +13

      Courtney-Jai true. But I’m scared about it. I don’t know who I am. And I understand at my age that’s normal, you’re questioning your sexuality. Of course it’s going to feel like one confusing and long ass journey. But I’m tired of debating am I straight, gay, or bi. I just want it figured out so I never have to be scared of losing people over my sexuality and then finding out I wasn’t really what I came out as and I just lost people in the process.

  • @estradiolvalerate8925
    @estradiolvalerate8925 5 лет назад +258

    My story went like this
    "Straight" but never really hang out with girls, only with your typical male friend group but that was until 8th grade.
    In 8th grade, i became friends with a really cool person, which was male, if you would see me giggling like a little girl at something he would say at the time you would think i was totally into him. But i was still completly unaware of that.
    I wasnt his only friend, but he was certainly mine. He was probably the most important person in my life at that time, he was kind of my psychologist, he was really good at listening and giving good insightful responses.
    He at one point got a girlfriend, i was kinda jealous, but i still didnt realise it at the time, and i also wasnt sure if i was jealous over him having a girlfriend and that i didnt, or if i was jealous that he was with someone else instead of with me. That was in 2012. We were really close for only 2 years, 8th and 9th grade. Havent been that close ever since we both went to highschool in 2014.
    We went to the same highschool but he was in a different class, he made friends, and i was the loneliest i had ever been, seeing him pass by was awful, like we didnt finish something, i didnt even know what that was yet, i just felt empty. Years went by. The worse 3 years of my life.
    About a year and a half ago in August of 2017 in 11th grade, after i failed one of the two exams i had, i decided to not go back to try to do it again. I had enough.
    I realised that high school was not helping me at all, in fact it was destroying me.
    I realised i could be free now, and that i could be myself in anything that i do.
    I started really thinking about how i felt about him all those years ago, why did i feel so good when i was around him, why did i feel so empty when we stopped hanging out, and then it hit me, i realized that what i had was a fucking crush, years later for the first time ever i saw it for what it was, a crush for the straight best friend (at least i think he was straight? maybe he was bi like me? guess we'll never know, its too late now anyways), such a fucking cliché thing. The crush for the straight best friend. But thats what apparently happened, i had a crush for him. I wanted to be with him, i never even told him, what if he said he was straight? That would make things so weird. Kinda glad i only realised this stuff now and not while we were still friends, because me feeling like this while being around him would be unbereable.
    But part of me kinda still wants to track him down and tell him how i felt back then...but im too much of a pussy...
    In 2018 i was gradually and unconsciently fantasizing less and less about girls, the prevolent string was becoming more and more about me being submissive and being touched by someone instead of doing the touching.
    The times i masturbated to that fantasy were the best orgasms i ever had in my life.
    Now i just lean into it. I discovered i fucking love the feeling of being submissive and now i just do what feels right.
    Never been with either gender, even though i really want to so bad.
    ---sincerely a pathetic lonely little slut who wakes up craving cock, and sometimes pussy.

    • @rottenbutterfly9675
      @rottenbutterfly9675 5 лет назад +27

      I think you really should give dating guys a try. I am bisexual too. I did not realise that until I was 21. I denied it and when I fell in love with a girl I fell into depression. Now I live what I feel. All of my friends and family know it and accept me. I date girls and feel happy and free. I formed a new self and I'm confident like never before in my life. Wishing you the best!

    • @estradiolvalerate8925
      @estradiolvalerate8925 5 лет назад +4

      @@rottenbutterfly9675 ❤

    • @vvc1356
      @vvc1356 5 лет назад +23

      The end note😂 ! !! Same experience though , and it keeps happening, all the time with straight girls, it’s so annoying, I wish it would stop lol

    • @rolexded3471
      @rolexded3471 5 лет назад +1

      hey man... well just wanted to say hi. are u on instagram??? I am not straight either. reply if u want.

    • @barbzchunli735
      @barbzchunli735 5 лет назад +30

      THE LAST BIT HAS ME ROLLIN SKSJSKSKDKS

  • @sodaxxtea4522
    @sodaxxtea4522 5 лет назад +76

    1. I am straight.
    2. But I like i girl?
    3. Would I kiss a guy? Um, sure?
    4. I could also kiss a girl, though.
    5. Extra bi

  • @ashleyhensley350
    @ashleyhensley350 4 года назад +12

    It took me until my early 20's to realize I am legit bisexual. I thought my attraction to other women was due how the media portrayes us. I think that was my denial talking back then. It as an ah ha moment for me. I had another similar moment this year when I realized I am some where on the aromantic spectrum. Both realizations were freeing and explained so much about me.

    • @thatperson9835
      @thatperson9835 3 года назад

      How did you understand you're aromantic? I mean... I have friends who have never been in love and they're in their 20s now. Could that mean that they're aromantic?

    • @ashleyhensley350
      @ashleyhensley350 3 года назад +3

      @@thatperson9835 I have never experienced the feelings people describe with being in love or even having a crush.

    • @thatperson9835
      @thatperson9835 3 года назад

      @@ashleyhensley350 Oh. I see. Thank you for your answer. I hope you're fine.

  • @BuffPlates
    @BuffPlates 5 лет назад +356

    how to come out:
    me: MOM I JUST FAILED THE STAAR TEST. D:
    me: jk im bi
    mom: thank god, wait WHAT-
    me: runs to room and starts crying my ass out
    mom: I am so disappointed
    me: at least I didn’t fail the star test.. right?
    mom: well at least you aren’t gay
    me: mom bisexual means your half gay
    mom: SO YOUR GAY?
    me: kinda..
    mom: OH LORD JESUS CLEANSE THIS CHILD OF IT’S GAYNESS
    me: oh lord this is gonna be a LONG night.
    mom: do you not like girls anymore
    me: mom I like girls and boys
    mom: oh god.
    So many asked for the to be continued part.
    Also,
    Texas Represent 🤠🤠🤠

  • @ivorottaway5679
    @ivorottaway5679 4 года назад +883

    Me: thinks I’m straight
    Me: watch’s gay p0r^
    Me: 🙃

  • @irobbartist6093
    @irobbartist6093 5 лет назад +88

    Yeah, it's very confusing and doesnt stop. Particularly male bisexuality doesnt have that great of a space and representation, at least what I've experienced. Its you're either "dl straight" or "claiming bi but you're really gay" so it feels like no one really gets it completely unless you are very lucky to finding some bisexual friends. but really its jumping around a bunch of social circles to feel like you're fully experiencing your sexuality.

    • @antwanwilson7228
      @antwanwilson7228 5 лет назад +9

      I feel you 💯. Being a black man, you are force to choose either gay or straight.

    • @theblackhole05
      @theblackhole05 5 лет назад +7

      Yeah they really do. I'm bi asf. I think I just got it through my friends head

    • @BrysonRyenn
      @BrysonRyenn 5 лет назад +1

      Yeah being black and bisexual, it’s so difficult for people to understand my sexuality and some see me as claiming bi but gay which is not the case because I very much am attracted to women and men

    • @antwanwilson7228
      @antwanwilson7228 5 лет назад +2

      @@BrysonRyenn The guys I talk to claim they're gay but when we start talking, it appears they're bisexual based on past sexual relationships. I've heard of some gay guys that only had sex with women because they're being secretive. IDK but everyone has their own thing. I'm finally understanding that bisexual is a real sexuality and not a cover.

    • @burnt.norton
      @burnt.norton 5 лет назад +2

      i have a girlfriend atm but i’m starting to be attracted to guys not only women and idk what to do or say to her, i feel like she’s gonna dump me because i’m “gay” or something

  • @ducle7066
    @ducle7066 3 года назад +13

    Him: actually talking about important stuff
    Me: hi nemo🙃

  • @masalahunty
    @masalahunty 5 лет назад +140

    I am going through the denial and depression phase 😖

    • @AarmOZ84
      @AarmOZ84 5 лет назад +23

      Please talk to someone. Don't hide how your feeling.

    • @mcyeru
      @mcyeru 5 лет назад +3

      Brooo sometimes you’ll be gay and other times you’ll be straight, I live in a Christian fam so I’m not very open about it but you can still accept it. I’m in the closet too 😂😌

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  5 лет назад

      You will get through just remember you have people to talk to here

    • @bipride9320
      @bipride9320 5 лет назад

      Same

    • @xalphagmrx8281
      @xalphagmrx8281 5 лет назад

      Same here. I'm totally sure that i'm bi but i don't want to be. I'm sure of it cause i've liked both boys and girls. I want to be normal and all.Also my mom is homophobic and i'm scared of coming out.I'm going through the depression and the staying home and playing games thing.Everything he said described me rn. My friends are okay with it tho,they even thing its cool. We will all go through this. I hope someday i will have the courage to tell my family about it and i hope you do too. Thx for the time you've spend while reading this. Happy pride month! Gave a great day.

  • @nobutheyonyou7990
    @nobutheyonyou7990 5 лет назад +90

    I used to question my sexuality a few months ago (I’m still not 100% sure) and I realised I am straight after all. I only started questioned because I was interested in the LGBT+ community to the point where I started following a lot of LGBT accounts on Instagram and thinking about it daily. The thought of me being that interested in it while only being an ally seemed unlikely to me and starting to question it made want to figure it out and I started testing it out to see If I liked girls or not. I tried to look at girls lips and see If I wanted to kiss them but I was so caught up in the possiblity of me actually being bi that I wasn’t able to tell. Of course the ones I tried were people I had known for years and liking them anyway seems unlikely thinking back at it. I realised after not feeling anything specific to not try to rush into figuring it out but call myself straight until proven otherwise later in life. I know the struggle of being unsure of what you are but haven’t been in the hard denial stage as I never really thought I was bi for sure. I also decided from the start that if I turned not straight I would accept myself immediately and kept on reminding myself of this while I was questioning.
    Through this time of questioning and experiencing myself I have gained more awareness of bisexuality and other sexualities and learned more about myself. I have become an even bigger ally and have found my passion for equality and human rights. I want to say that questioning and figuring out you were wrong is totally okay and valid and that it only makes you grow as a person. I don’t know about anyone else being in this kind of situation (everyone I’ve seen on the internet talking about questioning their sexuality has been lgbt) but if you are it would be nice to know that I’m not the only one.
    To anyone questioning out there: you are valid and it’s completely okay to be unsure. You don’t need to rush into things, take your time and enjoy life while doing it. You will get through this and you will always have people there for you even If you don’t see it right now. You are loved.

    • @smudge8882
      @smudge8882 5 лет назад +6

      Thank you for sharing your story. That is actually a common thing; questioning and figuring out that you're wrong. It's true that not many people talk about it. One of my sisters identified as a lesbian for almost a decade, while my other two sisters are bisexual, and for a while I was questioning what I was. I kept going back and forth between thinking I was a cishet and thinking I was cis and bisexual. It was only later that I realized I am neither of those two options; I'm actually non-binary (so not cis) and asexual. Then I went through those five stages of figuring out that I'm biromantic. Around when I figured that out, the sister who identified as a lesbian came out as bisexual (after a decade of exclusively dating girls). It turns out both me and her were wrong initially about what we are.

    • @smudge8882
      @smudge8882 5 лет назад +2

      Meanwhile I also know a couple people who thought they were LGBT and later realized they were straight. One of them though they were pansexual, but it turns out she just likes guys and the "girl" she had liked was actually a trans dude. Another friend thought they were a trans dude, but later realized she was a cis woman.

    • @nobutheyonyou7990
      @nobutheyonyou7990 5 лет назад +7

      S Mudge i really wish that questioning but figuring out you’re cishet after all would be more talked about. It shows that it’s okay not to know what you are, or to realise what you really are later in life. It should be talked about more online that you don’t need to be sure and that you can change your label later if you find out it’s not right.

    • @smudge8882
      @smudge8882 5 лет назад +8

      @@nobutheyonyou7990 I very much agree with you. I find that in non-LGBT spaces, people think of questioning to automatically mean that that person IS whatever they were questioning. That can be destructive because it doesn't allow a person to safely question.

    • @nobutheyonyou7990
      @nobutheyonyou7990 5 лет назад +5

      S Mudge When I was questioning I wanted to tell someone but I didn’t because I feared that If I wasn’t people would still think I was when I said I wasn’t. Those few months of questioning could really have been better if society had made questioning a more open topic where I wouldn’t be scared to tell someone without being 100% sure.

  • @TyronJonesTJ
    @TyronJonesTJ 5 лет назад +124

    I love this video. Everything you said was on POINT to the T. I’ve been dealing with my sexuality since I can remember and it was just so confusing. I was always was attracted to girls but I also started having attraction towards guys too but I never understood why. I’ve been called gay not a lot but by a few people for dumb reasons and I actually started believing it but I stopped believing because I was attracted to women. My first kiss and my virginity was took by women. Thing is I was in denial for a while because I never knew you could like both even though that’s how I felt I thought it was just straight or gay not bisexual. I’ve finally accepted myself and told my close family and friends last year in 2018 and they were very accepting. I plan on making videos like these explaining my experiences and everything too. Thanks Courtney 💪🏽💙

  • @StepUpMedia039
    @StepUpMedia039 8 месяцев назад +2

    Being bisexual or even gay is a gift and it's a beautiful part of you and never something to hide or be ashamed of. Search your heart and feelings and never let anyone tell you how to share or experience love with others.

    • @SDRicky
      @SDRicky 7 месяцев назад +1

      Gift my ass

  • @elmo6231
    @elmo6231 4 года назад +151

    2019: hm am I really straight ?
    2020: * downloads TikTok * Yh nope

    • @kristiant96
      @kristiant96 4 года назад +4

      yes because tik toks are real life.

    • @person876
      @person876 4 года назад +1

      Omg did that today though...

    • @agnesslittlelife
      @agnesslittlelife 4 года назад +2

      Fr tik tok made me realize im bi

  • @nualahalpin6119
    @nualahalpin6119 5 лет назад +168

    My stages
    1: Bisexual just means gender equality, right? it's only fair or equal if I date both
    2: whoops whoops that's not what it means abort abort
    3: god it's so sad I can't date girls... they're just so amazing, and I can't... really wish I was bi so I could date girls...
    4: I'M SO GAY (well, technically bi, but)
    5: no I'm not, I'm straight
    repeat steps four and five for the rest of eternity. the suffering never ends.

  • @thepanpatriotsfan9295
    @thepanpatriotsfan9295 5 лет назад +48

    How it worked for me:
    1: I am totally straight
    2: Some men are hot
    3: My sister came out as gay to me, and that gave me the confidence to realize my own sexuality.

    • @AJ-mw6dh
      @AJ-mw6dh 5 лет назад +5

      Mine,,,,,,,, Since
      1: I didn't know what I was
      2: 13 when I hit the puberty I was straight looking for middle
      3: 16 I started a gay relationship with a High School foreign student from Germany (He was top)
      4: 18 He left back to Germany
      5: Had a crash on my prom date
      6: Now I lean straight but I would bottom one night stand once a year

  • @josephfroton2339
    @josephfroton2339 Год назад +2

    Sharing it is the healthiest thing you can do! It's great to see younger people have a much more positive experience with self acceptance. Great work!

    • @Courtney-Jai
      @Courtney-Jai  Год назад +1

      They do now but I wouldn't say it was quite there when I came out almost 10 years ago but making videos like this makes a positive change