Whaaaa no, how dare she not provide details on her intimate life, I'm a long time sub which means we are basically friends! What's a toxic parasocial relation?
well for me it was different i was a lil gae boi (gae moment lol) and then i always wanted to be interested in the older guys (like 16+ older) and then middle school hit... and uhh... im still obsessing with the same exact guy :-) even though there probably 18 by now... welp rip for me ig lol
just came from rewatching the ADHD video and realized she's collected all 4 A's: 1. Autism 2. ADHD 3. Aromanticism 4. Asexuality she really is collecting them all :3
As someone who figured out she was demiromantic a few years ago, the scanning your classmates to see if anyone has finally caught your eye hit soooo close to home. As does the picking someone random to have a crush on just to hit that milestone mark.
@@Jeejune_Jx America is homophobic-af. I'm gonna be direct as can be and ask: Please help with that by watching and supporting Telltale Atheist, Forrest Valkai and of course also this video here.
@Random_gaming_FnAf lmao one kid once called me the f slur for being openly bi and obviously probably more queer than that surface fact so I slapped her and she never insulted me again lol
pleeeeease say aro and not ace when talking about relationships. i’m aro and not ace and asexual meaning aromantic is the biggest misconception that keeps anyone from ever realizing that aro people exist.
“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.
I came out as gay because I was like “Well, I talk to girls more than guys… and I DEFINITELY don’t want to date a guy.” And maybe little small me should have thought “don’t you think maybe you hang out and talk to girls simply because you ARE a girl?” But she didn’t. And so then she came out as gay. And to this day, everyone in my hometown/immediate family still think I’m gay because now it’s been too long to specify.
As someone who recently realized he's bigray, that resonates with me so much. For a while, I thought I was straight, then gay, then just broken... no one ever told me I could be all three 😭
@@youcantakemehottogothese people spit offensive garbage for attention, Jacks dad got mocked, Markiplier’s niece got mocked, these trolls are just animals to be ignored as they scream for attention. Don’t let them drag you down. Jaiden Mark and Jack ignore them and so should we.
can relate, i dont think ive found a single person attractive really, i would just look a few times because i liked that some people looked a bit similar to me and move on with my day like nothing happened
That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.
this gives a similar vibe of having aphantasia but not knowing bout it and thinking that everyone else is exaggerating bout this whole imagining thing and being able to actually PICTURE things in their head
I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.
@@Bella_bumble true that, ever since learning I am an ace, I have felt alone, and feel like nobody would understand me. It doesn't change me as a person, just makes me feel, that this is something my close people should know about, but have never had the confidence to say anything
Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.
Literally SAME! It took me years to realize that my “crushes” on boys at school was really just the gender envy I had of masculine people… turns out I fall under the non-binary umbrella and just wanted to be more masculine. I don’t know if my neurodivergency has anything to do with inability to feel intense romantic attraction towards someone, but the thought of marrying someone and living with them forever just sounds… unpleasant.
@@lunalee3021 thinking the romance in certain movies and shows is dumb, and having a very, incredibly big hard time even understanding what romance of romantic love feels like is very different. I too think certain romances in shows are dumb and unnecessary, but I'm not aromantic, if anything I'm a hopeless romantic with my partner, if you're heterosexual, do you feel attraction to your same sex? No? Well imagine there is no person in the world with opposite sex, that's how it feels like to aromantics in a romantic way and to asexuals in a sexual way
@@lunalee3021 I don't think you understand what an identity is, y'know the thing that makes you, you? Being Asexual or Aromantic is part of an identity because it's who you are. The fact you didn't even consider it's existence is exactly why Jaiden' video was so important to the community; it sheds a light on us and tells people: "yeah, we exist, deal with it."
I don't know if you'll ever read this because it's been two years, but this video helped me a lot when it first came out, I was a 25-year-old with no interest in having a relationship, and I always felt like there was something broken in me, but watching this video made me realized that I am aroace too. I had read about asexuality before, but it was always depicted as simply being disgusted by anything sexual, which is not my case. Your way of describing it and all the stories you shared really resonated with me (I would say for the first time in my life) so I can't stop thanking you for helping me accept myself!
I’m a lesbian and in elementary I used to have crushes on the transfer boys because they didn’t speak English very well so I really had no idea what they were actually like, I just said I had a crush on them 💀 then I dated one of them in 6th grade, and 6th grade was also when I got my first actual crush on a girl, and my ex best friend told him about it. Turns out he was homophobic and he broke up with me because of it 👎 it was for the best though, considering we would have broken up anyway once I figured out I’m gay.
I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice. Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.
Having a mismatch in the level of care you have for someone hurts, it isn't insurmountable but it is an understanding reason for someone to be unable to maintain a friendship after they have been rejected. (this works for crushes, marriage proposals, friendships, acquaintances and probably many more examples of relationships between people)
"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.) Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.
The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!
I'm demi and listen to a lot of country music, about half of all country music is "there was this very attractive girl who I talked to once, and I am now sad she's going away, because I love her" and I was always like "but... why?
This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”
Sigmund Freud didn't oppose any LGBT+ tendencies; he just tried to scientifically describe them, which got him under fire nowadays After a bit of thinking, I find Freud's scientific explanation based, but it doesn't have anything in opposition with LGBT+ tendencies
@@breddie_is_rookie i find it absolutely disgusting how people attempt to discredit possibly one of the greatest minds we've ever had on this planet purely for the sake of "lgbtq"
for reeeeaaaaal though. Just cried in the bathroom at work before watching this video on my lunch break. Like, yeah, sure, I'm an "adult" with a "career" and a "car payment". psht.
Edit 2: Ok please stop giving advice in general actually, I guarantee I’ve already heard it. Edit: This comment is 2 years old. I appreciate all the advice, but I already know about Cupioromanticism. Please stop telling me. Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.
Personally, I love this video. It’s so raw in a way and I fall under the umbrella category of asexuality and aromanticism being demisexual demiromantic, which basically means I don’t feel any romantic or sexual attraction until I have an emotional close bond with somebody. Love your vids 💜
I felt no attraction to anyone for YEEARS and only now am I actually in a relationship with someone, and even that took like several months of talking to them and hanging out
@@psychomanatee3459 YEEEEPPPP My GF and I were completely Demi until each other lmao Was pretty funny when we discussed the feelings we felt for each prior to the Confession™️
"It's none of your business" It's shocking how quickly people forget that. They carry on like your (lack of) orientation actually affects them personally. I sincerely hope none of your detractors have scared you away from continuing to make amazing content.
@Bad Editor To help other people who are feeling a similar thing using a large platform can help people to understand themselves if the creator is feeling something similar
@Bad Editor because the content creator chooses to share that info. Anything beyond what the creator chooses to share is nobody's business, that's the point. In Jaiden's case, she's helping to raise awareness about aro/ace, which a lot of people didn't know about (myself included). Jaiden gave a boost to the popularity of Nuzlockes and Mario Kaizo, so this video is sure to raise awareness about being aro/ace.
@Bad Editor This is because Jaiden wants to share this part of her personality to help us better understand her, but she doesn’t want to share more personal information.
@@olifromsolly6007 imagine being so mad someone does not want children (never even said that) that you make a hate comment. Wait until blind finds out tons of people don’t want kids 💀
@@Sentient-potatoit's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. Some people just aren't meant for that kind of thing. Besides it's not like being a genertic dead end is much of a problem since there are 8 billion people, it's not like humanity will die out?
At 25 my psychiatrist asked why I never was in a relationship and I countered with "How is that connected to my suicid attempt" His response was going on a long rant about the word of god and me looking up other psychiatrists mid session
It's especially annoying when you do tell someone multiple times that you don't want children or a bf/significant other and they laugh at you and tell you that you'll find someone one day. I want to focus on myself and the thought of being in a romantic relationship or having children grosses me out I want nothing to do with either of those things
It's almost as if we've created stereotypes for relationships and those stereotypes, according to society, MUST be fulfilled!! Otherwise we are absolute nobodies who will go nowhere. And if we go nowhere, we should not be happy. Or something along those lines.
i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real
As a fellow autistic one, I can relate to that. I try to but I often struggle with "experiencing feelings". It took me a long time to realize I had feelings for my girlfriend even though I've known her since childhood now because I was never in a relationship before and allways thought I have to instantly fall in love when I see the right one or something. I still have a lot to learn about relationships but I know that my best friend will be there for me, helping me learning about how to love, in a way.
I... Miiiiight be Autistic? I've never been diagnosed but the symptoms exist aaaand.... I used to feel the same way, trying to fit in without even knowing how to emotions I eventually gave up and decided to just give up and just... act like I want to despite everyone else's ideas and time I still wonder what the word "Crush" even means lol
"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right. I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly. I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!
"The more I came to terms with being AroAce, the more empowered I felt." Me, with the brain of a 5 year old: Well of course you do, purple and green are the hulk's colors. That makes you the strongest there is
@@007kingifrit I just looked that up. Apparently you think they don't support a person who isn't straight or that they're not straight? Either way you are probably wrong. As an actual aroace myself, you are a true example of the Dunning Kruger effect which is basically when idiots think they're a lot smarter than they actually are. Before you go "You act smarter than you actually are." Remember that I do not claim to be intelligent, I think of myself as average unlike you who probably think they're smarter than the scientists who observed male to male mating in the wild in animals.
I remember deciding to have a "crush" on the least annoying guy in my class. And would occasionally do those over the top sighs/stares like you see in cartoons growing up. AAAAAAAH THE CRINGE LOL
"We're all pretending to be adults here," is one of the best things I've heard in a while. That aside, it is lovely to see a video covering these topics. (:
Right?? We're all just Children at heart whether we live to be 90 or not. The difference is that, some folks that they're Children and LIVE life full of Vitality 'n all WHILE most pretend to be adults and get all bitter/grumpy due to responsibilities and "old age." It's anyone's pick honestly 🤣🤣
I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻♀️
This might sound a little bit weird, but this video has become somewhat of a comfort point, because it is the only place in all of my life where I feel like someone understands me. My parents are normally really supportive, but when it comes to my being aro, they can't really understand what I mean so they're always telling me "Ah, you'll get married eventually!" I'm kinda hoping that if I click on this video more often RUclips might find some aroace content for me
My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤
4:33 "I realized I can get really excited about people I think are cool and want to get to know them" Knowing now she has ADHD and I have ADHD, it makes so much sense that line was relateable
She could be faking being an Asexual, to bring others into compliance in this line of thinking. Many people would think Asexual is a normal thing and they're right in the head. I don't know if people should be Asexual, It doesn't end well down the road. The family tree being one of them.
Oh. It isn't? Silly me. I hereby take back my laughter from roughly a month ago. I've been informed the thing i laughed at was not actually funny. My apologies everyone. Please stop liking the original comment. It is false.
As a straight man, I found this video not only informative but helpful to my personal understanding of relationships and whether it is that I want to be in one or I feel pressured to be in one. This is an amazing follow-up to a previous video of yours and I'm glad you were able to talk about things in ways that people don't necessarily do.
I agree, especially the part of “you can be happy on your own”, it’s something so basic but it stills hits really hard hearing it or trying make that sink in
Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.
I will never emotionally understand asexuals because I am a very sexual bisexual polyamorous person but I am glad that they find the right label to describe themselves and a community to support them.
Think of it this way: When you see genitalia, you probably think "Wow, that's exactly the place I want to touch", whereas I think "Ew, that's where people drop their stuff in the toilet, I don't wanna touch that!" I do think being bi or pan is fucking cool tho. You guys have almost as many options as there are people, that's awesome!
and very memeable a lot of the lines and a few short segments are very memeable, i've already seen a gif of gremlin Jaiden squatting around the aro flag
For the first 17 years of my life I thought "I really want you to be my friend” = "I have a crush on you" and I legitimately didn't understand the concept of romantic attraction...
yessssss like i was like trying to pretend wanting to be friends with someone to a crush because like idk just didn’t understand what i was but now AROACE AND JAIDEN HELPED ME LEARN THAT
@@dimdongo Friendship is the thing you want. A squish is the emotion you feel. You wouldn't say that "crushes aren't real, that's called a relationship"
This video was 15 minutes of someone narrating and illustrating my entire life experience. The 'picking who to have a crush on', the 'this is a milestone I should be aiming for', the 'wait they're not joking?!'... all of it rang true. Thank you SO MUCH for making this video
For the longest time I thought I was gay because I never liked girls (and that's what society including my hom0phobic parents told me) But it just turns out I don't want to do anything to any person regardless of gender and sexuality lol.
Exactly! I used to think that I'm straight (because that's what the society set as the Default Sexuality) but then I realised that I didn't care about Genders which made me think that I'm Pan. But Later, when I was searching about this spectrum, I came across Aromanticism and Asexuality and felt so dumb for trying to mentally jot down things I like and dislike about a person and forcing myself to like someone (Lol I feel so embarrassed haha). I'm so happy that you made this video!💚
I like how a lot of ace/aro people (including myself at one point) are like “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not interested in anyone?” And Jaiden’s entire attitude is “What’s wrong with all of you? Why are you all so ugly?”
To be honest I feel both options! My friends refuse to believe me that I am aroace. Like I was so overwhelmed by this "I need a crush, think" I forced myself to like my favourite fictional character and told he is my crush.... One time I needed to explain that what a crush is... And lemme say... It didn't go well...
@@hideyourchocobars7353 my demisexual self (who hasn't gotten close to someone like that and might be aromantic too-idk) when turning on the radio is like: .... is this actually how people feel? WHY ARE THESE ALL LOVE SONGS????? Then I go and find random bangers and listen to that on loop till i'm tired of it *and the cycle continues* c:
@@WillSolaceTheWinion Never been in love by Will Jay is a good song if you want to give it a listen. But yeah seriously why is everything on the radio either random stuff, news, talk shows, or romance songs
I've always thought being able to say you're "Ace" sounded so cool, and thinking on it, adding "Aro" to it makes it sound like you're saying "Arrow Ace" which straight up sounds like a superhero name.
That “tunnel vision” mode of a “crush” (where it includes wanting to be their #1 friend, but has no romantic or sexual components) is sometimes called a “squish,” I believe!
I’ve never heard someone articulate, how I’ve felt about being on the Ace spectrum before. The absolute - not lack of awareness, but the trouble processing that people actually feel an emotion you have never experienced. It’s really nice to hear it vocalized. Because while i’ve said it before to my friends, when someone isn’t Ace or Aro, it’s hard to understand you just exist without something society deems so important - It can be kind of isolating, existing in a world where you’re one of the odd people out? You’re the minority. It’s really amazing to see you make a video about this! And like epic pog for discovering what makes you feel comfortable with yourself! Watching this video made me just really warm and happy!! Thank you Jaiden! Congrats on finding yourself
It can be so hard to explain! The amount of times I've been told "You just haven't met the right person yet" has been so frustrating. The worst part being how that lack of understanding can make you second-guess yourself.
The “tunnel vision” feeling you described sounds a lot like platonic attraction, aka “the reason it took me 20 years to realize I was aroace,” because I was like “ah, yes. This must be that ‘crush’ thing everyone talks about.”
I had never heard of being “aromantic” before. This makes me wonder if I’m aromantic. Like, I think I crave wanting to be loved, but just haven’t had that feeling of love. I’ve tried having that feeling. I thought I had it once, but then looking back on it, I didn’t really feel anything. I was just trying to convince myself I felt something, when in reality I just really liked hanging with the person. I think most of the “crushes” I had growing up in High School were just physical attraction, so I know for a fact I’m not asexual because I do experience physical attraction. This is confusing. I gotta look more into this to figure out if I actually am aromantic, or if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, lol.
That is perfectly valid! I forget the exact term, but there is a term for people who desire romantic love but do not feel it. You could also just say it’s basically just aromantic but with a certain attitude about it because of societal pressure. Either way hope it goes well, it’s healthy to experiment with your identity and you deserved to be happy and confident no matter what
Why is there so much random hate on this video? So many people saying Jaiden is lying for attention, that shes evil, that the “lore” doesn’t line up anymore- what??? All of you need to get a life and realize that aroace is not only something to be accepted, but something to be proud of. So leave her alone, you pathetic spiteful people.
yeah! its crazy how obsessed people are about her own private life. that's her own personal details that people don't need to know and is it so hard to respect that?
That’s how Ace rep should be, none of that freaking out about not wanting to sleep with anyone, but freaking out about why no one is attractive! 😅 and then finding out sexual and aesthetic attraction are two different things. (its a more inclusive approach)
god I'm still young and I just learned I'm Aromantic in a fifteen minutes long video of a college drop-out with an enviable talent for drawing.. damn, now everything seems... clearer. (P.D: I'm a huge fan, follow you since 2017.)
apologies if the audio sounds different, my mic exploded during recording
It’s fine!
Oh lol it’s okay lol
It's ok We love you
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its perfectly fine 🙂
*”In the nicest way possible, its none of your business”* is literally the most understandable thing I’ve ever heard
READ MY NAME!!!!!
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Ok ash
For reall XD
Whaaaa no, how dare she not provide details on her intimate life, I'm a long time sub which means we are basically friends! What's a toxic parasocial relation?
@@SpiritOfHugs thats what im sayin, these chronically online kids istg 💀💀💀😭😭
Some asexuals: "I don't feel anything, something is wrong with me"
Chad Jaiden: "I don't feel anything... You all are ugly"
Honestly I resonate with Jaiden with the ugly part. Don't take it personally tho.
I agree
No Sigma Jaiden
I call people gross when they ask if I have a crush
Fr as an ace I can confirm 😅
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE"
Literally the best line in the whole video.
“We’re all strangers not listening to ‘stranger danger’”
and
“We’re all pretending to be adults”
have their moments, but yea
also relatable for fellow aroace folks
well for me it was different
i was a lil gae boi (gae moment lol)
and then i always wanted to be interested in the older guys (like 16+ older)
and then middle school hit...
and uhh...
im still obsessing with the same exact guy :-)
even though there probably 18 by now...
welp rip for me ig lol
exactly 😂
I heard that once
Ok twice
Three times
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Im lonely
just came from rewatching the ADHD video and realized she's collected all 4 A's:
1. Autism
2. ADHD
3. Aromanticism
4. Asexuality
she really is collecting them all :3
Holy shit
Gotta catch em’ all.
@@Pranav_rive lol, I was gonna say that
AK-47
@@jacquelinehillier3724 shes a quad a battery
Jaiden thinking she's bi or pan because she was equally disinterested in everyone is the funniest thing to me.
Seems to be a common aro-ace experience, I had the same thing happen to me. Thought I was pan for at least a year. 😂
yeah i started thinking i was bi for the same reason and then lockdown hit and i started using my brain lmao
no I feel it so bad though
I thought I was bi and greyro UNTIL NOW am I just aro wtf I am having a crisis
i've read somewhere (so cmiiw) that long ago bi people included ace in the label because of the same thing, being 'equally unintrested'
That's how me discovering my aromanticism worked 🤣
When I was younger I thought a crush was someone you hated because you wanted to crush them 💀
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Oh god 💀
That is one of the most aroace thing I have ever heard
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tsundere /j
"We're all pretending to be adults here!"
jaiden has perfectly summed up the internet experience
And the life experience
You like beef bro
@@Radioactive-Braincell88 yeah it's alright, minced beef good in Bolognese
and the comment section experience on this video
7 year olds setting their age to 100 setting up their account on anything
As someone who figured out she was demiromantic a few years ago, the scanning your classmates to see if anyone has finally caught your eye hit soooo close to home. As does the picking someone random to have a crush on just to hit that milestone mark.
!!!NIAGA THGIARTS SNOITAMINANEDIAJ NRUT LLIW SOEDIV YM
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Demon lol
@@JaydenSupport probably the only time i respect jayden for
STEVEN UNIVERSE PFP SPOTTED?????????
demi on both sides and like YEAHS SAME. Same thing for the song lyric understandings.
“At the end of the day, we are all just strangers ignoring the stranger danger rule.”
Its true lol
@@Jeejune_Jx America is homophobic-af. I'm gonna be direct as can be and ask:
Please help with that by watching and supporting Telltale Atheist, Forrest Valkai and of course also this video here.
S tier quote
@@nenmaster5218 the fuck does this have to do with anything?
Lol true
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" would be an awesome senior quote
I’m stealing it.
I think I'll try setting that as my senior quote
@@carlbrutanawanadelwski7026 Ok sure bud, none of us believe your crap. Go get a job freak, instead of framing a youtuber because of your jealousy.
@@TheDerplox no lmao
That's the one I'm going to be using in two years
“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE”
Literally the best one liner in the video
It's a question I ask many a minute
Lol
4:01
dang ppl are still commenting on this this was 7 months ago-
lol
why are there people here hating over aroace? it’s literally just the lack of attraction all together
Morons Thats simple
Mainly cause it's part of lgbtq+ and they're homophonic
its not a real thing, its just a pseudoscience to label one'sself. to be attracted to noone is a problem with you internally.
Glad that picking fake crushes in order to fit in is a universal ace experience
@Random_gaming_FnAf lmao one kid once called me the f slur for being openly bi and obviously probably more queer than that surface fact so I slapped her and she never insulted me again lol
pleeeeease say aro and not ace when talking about relationships. i’m aro and not ace and asexual meaning aromantic is the biggest misconception that keeps anyone from ever realizing that aro people exist.
To me it feels more like a female aroace thing cause I'm aroace but I never thought I needed a crush
I pretended that I had a crush when I was younger because I thought that I was supposed to when I was literally in second grade.
@@Mr_Noob-jp8nvmaybe it might be slightly more female, but I'm male and before I knew I was Aroace I assumed I needed a crush.
If someone ever passes you a note that says "do you like me yes or no" just just tell them I'm not registered to vote
I saw that meme and it made me laugh like a lunatic
I get it
Dude yes
I would just do
A: Tell them they made a mistake
Or
B: Just rip it up
Or eat the paper 😏
6:57 that kissing image reminds me of those "what picture do you see" questions that teachers would ask the class in school
“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.
I came out as gay because I was like “Well, I talk to girls more than guys… and I DEFINITELY don’t want to date a guy.”
And maybe little small me should have thought “don’t you think maybe you hang out and talk to girls simply because you ARE a girl?”
But she didn’t. And so then she came out as gay. And to this day, everyone in my hometown/immediate family still think I’m gay because now it’s been too long to specify.
As someone who recently realized he's bigray, that resonates with me so much. For a while, I thought I was straight, then gay, then just broken... no one ever told me I could be all three 😭
"We're all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule"
Yeah that's the Jaiden we know, classic sense of humor too, good start!
@SoundFoodist wtf dude that's horrible
@@youcantakemehottogothese people spit offensive garbage for attention, Jacks dad got mocked, Markiplier’s niece got mocked, these trolls are just animals to be ignored as they scream for attention. Don’t let them drag you down. Jaiden Mark and Jack ignore them and so should we.
@SoundFoodist What is wrong with you? What if you were in her shoes?? You wouldn't like being told this!
@UCf8J8NnXkq7L54lUSeyjtPA again, what the hell dude
What the fuck happened there?
"That's not gay what the hell is that"
That line was too funny
Owlhouse amphibia yes amazing marcy best character
@Jack Wrath uhm no
Ayyy my gang
Amphibia 4 life
It was pretty funny
All that matters is that you’re happy! 💗
Unironically one of the best comments I've seen in the newest section.
@@ReaperLeviathanFromTheDunes LMAOO REAL
best comment in the newest comments
the fact that i genuinely smiled while reading this comment
W
Rewatching this after the ADHD video. She perfectly describes hyper-fixating on a person and misinterpreting it as a crush lol.
no fucking way, I just found this channel through the ADHD video (on account of having ADD myself) today and then saw this video right afterward lol
Neurodivergent LGBTQIA people, arise.
@NJMilitia so true, it's just an illusion
@NJMitilia it is a real thing because I have it
OMG YES FR
Everyone else: I'm not in a relationship because I'm not attractive
Jaiden: I'm not in a relationship because everyone else isn't attractive
can relate, i dont think ive found a single person attractive really, i would just look a few times because i liked that some people looked a bit similar to me and move on with my day like nothing happened
True
also jaiden: *walks into a room screaming* WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE
Cringe af!
...why does the make sense lol
That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.
She did a great job on the video and you're valid.
everyone is valid mate
Fr I was so emotional watching this, means a lot just to feel seen
Demi was like this except when I found someone I liked and was suddenly like "oh that is feelings that happen' hm".
I just watched that part 😨
this gives a similar vibe of having aphantasia but not knowing bout it and thinking that everyone else is exaggerating bout this whole imagining thing and being able to actually PICTURE things in their head
I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.
If you mean you're in love with jaiden it's just pixels but if it's otherwise then it's fine
@@Edward_Dusk bruh what 💀
LITERALLY SAME! I've been sad and feeling left behind too, its nice to realise im not alone (:
@Logan Floor {UTTP} They were just saying their experience
@@Bella_bumble true that, ever since learning I am an ace, I have felt alone, and feel like nobody would understand me. It doesn't change me as a person, just makes me feel, that this is something my close people should know about, but have never had the confidence to say anything
Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.
right? same with dating people because i wanted to like upgrade them from friend to like best friend / dedicated friend
Literally SAME! It took me years to realize that my “crushes” on boys at school was really just the gender envy I had of masculine people… turns out I fall under the non-binary umbrella and just wanted to be more masculine. I don’t know if my neurodivergency has anything to do with inability to feel intense romantic attraction towards someone, but the thought of marrying someone and living with them forever just sounds… unpleasant.
feels bad man
Dude, same here! Does Asperger Syndrome ring a bell?
yeah this def feels like the autism experience right here
Man, highschool and even college were such a weird time to me. Your "fake developing crushes on people" is resonating with me so much right now.
One of us?
@@lunalee3021 thinking the romance in certain movies and shows is dumb, and having a very, incredibly big hard time even understanding what romance of romantic love feels like is very different. I too think certain romances in shows are dumb and unnecessary, but I'm not aromantic, if anything I'm a hopeless romantic with my partner, if you're heterosexual, do you feel attraction to your same sex? No? Well imagine there is no person in the world with opposite sex, that's how it feels like to aromantics in a romantic way and to asexuals in a sexual way
Relatable
@@lunalee3021 I don't think you understand what an identity is, y'know the thing that makes you, you? Being Asexual or Aromantic is part of an identity because it's who you are. The fact you didn't even consider it's existence is exactly why Jaiden' video was so important to the community; it sheds a light on us and tells people: "yeah, we exist, deal with it."
@@lunalee3021 did you even watch the video
I don't know if you'll ever read this because it's been two years, but this video helped me a lot when it first came out, I was a 25-year-old with no interest in having a relationship, and I always felt like there was something broken in me, but watching this video made me realized that I am aroace too. I had read about asexuality before, but it was always depicted as simply being disgusted by anything sexual, which is not my case. Your way of describing it and all the stories you shared really resonated with me (I would say for the first time in my life) so I can't stop thanking you for helping me accept myself!
I didn't realize "choosing random people to "crush" on because it seems like the thing to do" was a universal thing lmaoo
Stream Young Loud
Not aro and/or ace, but the choosing a random person to "develop a crush on" is pretty relatable in high school 🥲
I’m a lesbian and in elementary I used to have crushes on the transfer boys because they didn’t speak English very well so I really had no idea what they were actually like, I just said I had a crush on them 💀 then I dated one of them in 6th grade, and 6th grade was also when I got my first actual crush on a girl, and my ex best friend told him about it. Turns out he was homophobic and he broke up with me because of it 👎 it was for the best though, considering we would have broken up anyway once I figured out I’m gay.
Maybe I am
Oh shit I did that
I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great
Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice.
Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.
well as she said its an emotional thing, if you really like someone an they reject you it can feel crushing it makes it hard to be around them
What are you kidding me kisses suck hugs all the way
virgin gang lit af
Especially if those hugs last longer than 20 seconds and feel actually genuine instead of weak!
Having a mismatch in the level of care you have for someone hurts, it isn't insurmountable but it is an understanding reason for someone to be unable to maintain a friendship after they have been rejected. (this works for crushes, marriage proposals, friendships, acquaintances and probably many more examples of relationships between people)
"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.)
Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.
you're soy
By evidence with how other react negatively about this for odd reasons,it's really suck tbh
as a trans, gay man: You guys are absolutely a very important part of the community!
Cool.
@@finnscott4848 disgrace
@@Aadan-b3o Nah, you are
What is a man?
@@Somnius1488a person that identify as a man and feel happy being one
“We’re all just strangers refusing to listen to the stranger danger rule”
THAT IS THE REALEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A WEEK!!!
The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!
jdhdhdjdjfdhdjdhjddjd
I'm demi and listen to a lot of country music, about half of all country music is "there was this very attractive girl who I talked to once, and I am now sad she's going away, because I love her" and I was always like "but... why?
@@enderf-r1722 Fr i'm like"... but you just barely met?"
This topic was really brave of you to address. Thanks so much. You've both helped and educated a lot of people.
James: Has a girlfriend
Jaiden: Is aroace
Fanfiction artists: Let's go ahead and ignore that
oh no you had to remind me (vietnam war flashbacks)
@@Marionetteanimates ah yes, the fall of our beautiful motherland...
Oh dear....
That's because majority.
More is power
she can love people just not in romantic ways
This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”
Same
Why, sad that have to poke fun at others instead of looking at your sad, miserable life?@noname-lf8yr
@noname-lf8yr You're cringe. Next question.
@noname-lf8yryour life must be pretty sad if you don’t have anything better to do other than hating on others because of their sexuality
no, it wasn't. you're 12-16 years old and you spend too much time on the internet
Jaiden: I love my family and pets, just platonically. And I would hope that you’re the same
Sigmund Freud: *sweats uncontrollably*
Ayo wtf
Chris Chan: *also sweating*
Sigmund Freud didn't oppose any LGBT+ tendencies; he just tried to scientifically describe them, which got him under fire nowadays
After a bit of thinking, I find Freud's scientific explanation based, but it doesn't have anything in opposition with LGBT+ tendencies
@@alexsiemers7898 bro who are all of these people that fucking their family and relatives.
@@breddie_is_rookie i find it absolutely disgusting how people attempt to discredit possibly one of the greatest minds we've ever had on this planet purely for the sake of "lgbtq"
"Why are none of you attractive?" I can relate
“We’re all pretending to adults here.”
This summarizes my life.
for reeeeaaaaal though. Just cried in the bathroom at work before watching this video on my lunch break. Like, yeah, sure, I'm an "adult" with a "career" and a "car payment". psht.
@@alaxgregory5577 adults cry though? Its a human emotion
Ha that was me and everyone else during junior high
@@Savetion. what do you mean this is sickening?
@@fewcandleanimations ‘twas a bot, my friend
Edit 2: Ok please stop giving advice in general actually, I guarantee I’ve already heard it.
Edit: This comment is 2 years old. I appreciate all the advice, but I already know about Cupioromanticism. Please stop telling me.
Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.
THISSS ^^^^^^^^^
same but tbh you prolly just at an ugly school like me 😭
A lot of effort into this single comment
@SoundFoodist omg??
I'm 13 luckily I don't have to worry about that :)
Hearing other Aces say "...wait they're not joking?" about sex songs is the most validating phrase
Lmfao same!!!
Mood
Ikr haha
XD truu
Agreed m8
Personally, I love this video. It’s so raw in a way and I fall under the umbrella category of asexuality and aromanticism being demisexual demiromantic, which basically means I don’t feel any romantic or sexual attraction until I have an emotional close bond with somebody. Love your vids 💜
As someone who isn't aro nor ace nor both, I have to say that the whole "WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" bit hit suprisingly hard lol 😂
Bro I know, but also 6:43, “I got math involved somehow…”🤣 so good.
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!
I felt no attraction to anyone for YEEARS and only now am I actually in a relationship with someone, and even that took like several months of talking to them and hanging out
Demisexual?
@@psychomanatee3459
YEEEEPPPP
My GF and I were completely Demi until each other lmao
Was pretty funny when we discussed the feelings we felt for each prior to the Confession™️
"It's none of your business"
It's shocking how quickly people forget that. They carry on like your (lack of) orientation actually affects them personally. I sincerely hope none of your detractors have scared you away from continuing to make amazing content.
thats nice
@Bad Editor To help other people who are feeling a similar thing using a large platform can help people to understand themselves if the creator is feeling something similar
@Bad Editor because the content creator chooses to share that info. Anything beyond what the creator chooses to share is nobody's business, that's the point.
In Jaiden's case, she's helping to raise awareness about aro/ace, which a lot of people didn't know about (myself included). Jaiden gave a boost to the popularity of Nuzlockes and Mario Kaizo, so this video is sure to raise awareness about being aro/ace.
@Bad Editor This is because Jaiden wants to share this part of her personality to help us better understand her, but she doesn’t want to share more personal information.
@@colanaxis I don't think it's so much about helping us understand her, more likely it's helping us understand what it means to be aro/ace.
_"You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be happy"_
Based Jaiden
there is nothing based about being a genetic dead end
@@olifromsolly6007 Imagine reducing people to their ability to produce offspring.
@@olifromsolly6007 imagine being so mad someone does not want children (never even said that) that you make a hate comment. Wait until blind finds out tons of people don’t want kids 💀
She did say she does not want kids in a different video tho
@@Sentient-potatoit's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. Some people just aren't meant for that kind of thing. Besides it's not like being a genertic dead end is much of a problem since there are 8 billion people, it's not like humanity will die out?
This reminds me when lil young me forced themselves into having a crush on an actor, without really feeling anything, turns out I'm lesbian LMAO
!!!NIAGA THGIARTS SNOITAMINANEDIAJ NRUT LLIW SOEDIV YM
,.,,,,
@@JaydenSupport what are you on
"Why are you not attractive?" Is now my favorite insult
You see, I'm not aroace, but holy shit do I relate to "Society expects you to be in a relationship."
Tell 'em, always annoyed with people badgering me about it.
Especially now when my friends try to ship me with people when it's not their business in the first place
At 25 my psychiatrist asked why I never was in a relationship and I countered with "How is that connected to my suicid attempt" His response was going on a long rant about the word of god and me looking up other psychiatrists mid session
It's especially annoying when you do tell someone multiple times that you don't want children or a bf/significant other and they laugh at you and tell you that you'll find someone one day. I want to focus on myself and the thought of being in a romantic relationship or having children grosses me out I want nothing to do with either of those things
It's almost as if we've created stereotypes for relationships and those stereotypes, according to society, MUST be fulfilled!! Otherwise we are absolute nobodies who will go nowhere. And if we go nowhere, we should not be happy. Or something along those lines.
the "i didnt even know this was a thing" is such a universal gay feeling and im so glad you led with that
"we don't do that here" me "WE DON'T EVEN DO THAT HERE!" *Progressively throws myself at the wall* "GEEET OUT"
(no hate this is a funny haha laugh 🤭)
Oh my God the "why are none of you attractive?!" being yelled in the room full of people killed me 😂😂😂😂😂
@Savetion (KING OF YT) I know you're a bot, but come on, you couldn't think of anything more clever than "gaymations"?
@Savetion (KING OF YT) I shouldn't be saying this, but you missed the *obvious* opportunity to say "Gayden Animations."
Hey look at that RUclipss report system worked.
Yeah same lol
I know this is supposed to be an at least semi-serious video, but that made me laugh out loud.
i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real
As a fellow autistic one, I can relate to that.
I try to but I often struggle with "experiencing feelings". It took me a long time to realize I had feelings for my girlfriend even though I've known her since childhood now because I was never in a relationship before and allways thought I have to instantly fall in love when I see the right one or something.
I still have a lot to learn about relationships but I know that my best friend will be there for me, helping me learning about how to love, in a way.
As someone also on the Autism Spectrum, I also can relate to finding feelings for someone even though I’m not Aroace.
I remember having “crushes” while not understanding that you actually FEEL something
I’m also autistic 😊
I... Miiiiight be Autistic? I've never been diagnosed but the symptoms exist
aaaand.... I used to feel the same way, trying to fit in without even knowing how to emotions
I eventually gave up and decided to just give up and just... act like I want to despite everyone else's ideas and time
I still wonder what the word "Crush" even means lol
"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right.
I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly.
I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!
A teacher said that? Who says that to a student wtf-
Wait what? How are you gonna have kids to talk to in the first place? Not only was that inappropriate but it doesn't even make sense.
That teacher really didn't think that through huh
That teacher…… is a real weirdo
Ok, so let me get this straight, you dont develop crushes and I get crushes on everyone... *cries in bisexual*
so real
That is called pan from my knowlege
@timohara7717 it can be both
let me get this *straight* - unfortunately i don't think that is possible
"The more I came to terms with being AroAce, the more empowered I felt."
Me, with the brain of a 5 year old: Well of course you do, purple and green are the hulk's colors. That makes you the strongest there is
i must be strong then....
Why u make a salad out of me
you are a gift to society and I am grateful to have seen this comment
@@alannah01 same
@@XeroLive. yay a fellow aroace
“Love is love…but what exactly is love? Its math. Let’s take this drawing board.”
-Jaiden before figuring herself out
last one i heared saying love is love was a pęđo
Jaiden: *comes out*
Companies making pride quizzes: it’s free real estate
Actually though💀
And their always about “ARE YOU GAY”
To make it even more clear that the companies don’t really care abt aroace, most of the questions on the quizzes are like “what is your partner like”
TOP TEN RUclipsRS YOU DIDN'T KNOW WERE LGBT 😱💯 🤪
@Op-gogo basically “you’re gay or be shot at”
I AM STARIGHT BUT I STILL SUPPORTS YOU
OMG YAY AN ALLY (unlike 90% of the recent comments 😂)
Based.
virtue signaling.....
@@007kingifrit I just looked that up. Apparently you think they don't support a person who isn't straight or that they're not straight? Either way you are probably wrong. As an actual aroace myself, you are a true example of the Dunning Kruger effect which is basically when idiots think they're a lot smarter than they actually are. Before you go "You act smarter than you actually are." Remember that I do not claim to be intelligent, I think of myself as average unlike you who probably think they're smarter than the scientists who observed male to male mating in the wild in animals.
That means you’re a straight ally! :D
Choosing a random kid in the class to have a "crush" on is an iconic part of the aroace experience
Same, I chose the one boy I didn't hate and forced myself to stalk his Facebook for two days and then forgot lol
@Louiebruh4 wtf
@@idfk8848 it's a troll, don't bother replying to them
I remember deciding to have a "crush" on the least annoying guy in my class. And would occasionally do those over the top sighs/stares like you see in cartoons growing up.
AAAAAAAH THE CRINGE LOL
im on aro or ace, but before i knew i liked women i would just pick a random cute-ish dude haha
Jaiden:Love is supposed to have emotions and not…a business exchange.
Spy x Family:Let us introduce ourselves
Lmao
@@ky55thmainaccountfan85 where it’s warm :)
@@ky55thmainaccountfan85 yes, because we’re all so HOT!
lmao
No just no.
i feel like the line "Why are none of you attractive?" will become a meme.
bc it will
make it an high upvote
The "bad takes go here" is another good one.
My exact words when I see a group of gay women.
When you look at all the people in the dream community
Dude, you just opened my eyes. My only "crushes" have been people who wanted to be nice to me, for a certain reason.
"We're all pretending to be adults here," is one of the best things I've heard in a while.
That aside, it is lovely to see a video covering these topics. (:
Right?? We're all just Children at heart whether we live to be 90 or not. The difference is that, some folks that they're Children and LIVE life full of Vitality 'n all WHILE most pretend to be adults and get all bitter/grumpy due to responsibilities and "old age."
It's anyone's pick honestly 🤣🤣
*some folks have accepted that they are CHILDREN and...
I am a child
I agree, but on a sidenote, why do you do (: for a smiley face instead of :)??? Random thought lol
“Teens are just big children, and adults are even bigger children.”
I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻♀️
Made my day. Will make that joke for now on
it is scientifically correct that all aromantics smell nice
LMAO
Why are people like this
I find it hard to believe the creator of the world couldn't have noticed that.
"All you need to feel complete is friends and family"
Me: "Nah..."
"And birds."
Me: HELL YEAH.
My man broke the 4th wall he was so hyped
@@arkfuryred fr
Me that started only watching jaiden because she likes birds "hell yeah"
Epic 👍
Can I get a HAIL YEAH for birds
This might sound a little bit weird, but this video has become somewhat of a comfort point, because it is the only place in all of my life where I feel like someone understands me. My parents are normally really supportive, but when it comes to my being aro, they can't really understand what I mean so they're always telling me "Ah, you'll get married eventually!"
I'm kinda hoping that if I click on this video more often RUclips might find some aroace content for me
“At the end of the day we are all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule” -Jaiden
This is a fantastic quote and I need it on a t-shirt
Moral of the story: BE WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANNA BE AND DONT LET PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEAL BAD ABOUT IT
Should be the moral of the story for every facet of life!
Say it again to the people in the back
YEAH LETS GO!👏👏👏💃💃💃
UNLESS that someone is a murderer
...as long as it's legal
My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤
Thank you for being so supportive of your friend!
This is so cute!
Yooo good for you and your friend
I love stories like this, because it’s how I made one of my best friends. Hope you guys are doing great!
The world needs more people like you 🤍💜
4:33 "I realized I can get really excited about people I think are cool and want to get to know them"
Knowing now she has ADHD and I have ADHD, it makes so much sense that line was relateable
"Why is no one attractive?!" Had me laughing so hard I'm awake now. Thank you.
That's actually not funny.
Jaiden could just be putting on a show.
@@artsenalproductions4813what do you mean?
She could be faking being an Asexual, to bring others into compliance in this line of thinking. Many people would think Asexual is a normal thing and they're right in the head. I don't know if people should be Asexual, It doesn't end well down the road. The family tree being one of them.
Wtf are you talking about???@@artsenalproductions4813
Oh. It isn't? Silly me.
I hereby take back my laughter from roughly a month ago. I've been informed the thing i laughed at was not actually funny. My apologies everyone.
Please stop liking the original comment. It is false.
As a straight man, I found this video not only informative but helpful to my personal understanding of relationships and whether it is that I want to be in one or I feel pressured to be in one. This is an amazing follow-up to a previous video of yours and I'm glad you were able to talk about things in ways that people don't necessarily do.
damn respect bro
i agree
I agree, especially the part of “you can be happy on your own”, it’s something so basic but it stills hits really hard hearing it or trying make that sink in
Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.
@Logan dude ur WEAK lmao
@Logan You don't even have a gf. So shut it.
That's because it's true. Just take the L and stop making it into a label
@@NobleTitty you're so outdated that even boomers won't say crap like this lol
Literally
I will never emotionally understand asexuals because I am a very sexual bisexual polyamorous person but I am glad that they find the right label to describe themselves and a community to support them.
You're based. You know that you don't quite understand but you know it's real and you have a base understanding on what it is. Unlike *Some people.*
Think of it this way: When you see genitalia, you probably think "Wow, that's exactly the place I want to touch", whereas I think "Ew, that's where people drop their stuff in the toilet, I don't wanna touch that!"
I do think being bi or pan is fucking cool tho. You guys have almost as many options as there are people, that's awesome!
Thank you for understanding us, or at least trying to. It means the world
“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!?”
*Best line ever.*
READ MY NAME!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!
and very memeable
a lot of the lines and a few short segments are very memeable,
i've already seen a gif of gremlin Jaiden squatting around the aro flag
Have you considered:
Everyone is just ugly
Sure
@TheTylerBomb5000 OMG
For the first 17 years of my life I thought "I really want you to be my friend” = "I have a crush on you" and I legitimately didn't understand the concept of romantic attraction...
yessssss like i was like trying to pretend wanting to be friends with someone to a crush because like idk just didn’t understand what i was but now AROACE AND JAIDEN HELPED ME LEARN THAT
FRRR
relatable
Facts , relatable
Same
Fun fact, a platonic "crush", the feeling were you really wanna get to know someone, but not in a romantic way is called a squish!
WHAT?! IT HAS A NAME?!
That’s adorable 😂😂💜
or it's called wanting someone to be your friend? i guess 'squish' sounds cuter but lmao
No it isn't its called friendship
@@dimdongo Friendship is the thing you want. A squish is the emotion you feel. You wouldn't say that "crushes aren't real, that's called a relationship"
アセクシュアリティは素晴らしいものです! あなたの身元がわかったことおめでとうございます!
This video was 15 minutes of someone narrating and illustrating my entire life experience. The 'picking who to have a crush on', the 'this is a milestone I should be aiming for', the 'wait they're not joking?!'... all of it rang true. Thank you SO MUCH for making this video
For the longest time I thought I was gay because I never liked girls (and that's what society including my hom0phobic parents told me) But it just turns out I don't want to do anything to any person regardless of gender and sexuality lol.
Same 🥲
Exactly! I used to think that I'm straight (because that's what the society set as the Default Sexuality) but then I realised that I didn't care about Genders which made me think that I'm Pan. But Later, when I was searching about this spectrum, I came across Aromanticism and Asexuality and felt so dumb for trying to mentally jot down things I like and dislike about a person and forcing myself to like someone (Lol I feel so embarrassed haha). I'm so happy that you made this video!💚
"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE!?" is so relatable it hurts
Nobb mega noob super noob ññ noob android no ios
it's true
imao lol
totally😄
Same here
I like how a lot of ace/aro people (including myself at one point) are like “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not interested in anyone?” And Jaiden’s entire attitude is “What’s wrong with all of you? Why are you all so ugly?”
I share Jaidens sentiment. Unfortunately there aren't any good songs about them so we're just stuck with 2 upbeat songs, the rest are just depressing
To be honest I feel both options!
My friends refuse to believe me that I am aroace. Like I was so overwhelmed by this "I need a crush, think" I forced myself to like my favourite fictional character and told he is my crush....
One time I needed to explain that what a crush is... And lemme say... It didn't go well...
@@hideyourchocobars7353 my demisexual self (who hasn't gotten close to someone like that and might be aromantic too-idk) when turning on the radio is like:
....
is this actually how people feel?
WHY ARE THESE ALL LOVE SONGS?????
Then I go and find random bangers and listen to that on loop till i'm tired of it
*and the cycle continues* c:
@@WillSolaceTheWinion Never been in love by Will Jay is a good song if you want to give it a listen. But yeah seriously why is everything on the radio either random stuff, news, talk shows, or romance songs
@@hideyourchocobars7353 Oh thanks! I'll probably go listen to that
Gather up, garlic bread enjoyers!!!
*[100 People chanting "Garlic bread army" Sound effects.MP4]*
Hell yeah‼️‼️‼️
Yummeh vread 🍞🍞🍞
"i guess they look conventionally attractive but i dont get it" is probably the most relatable thing ive heard all week
READ MY NAME!!!!!!
!!!!!!!
I've always thought being able to say you're "Ace" sounded so cool, and thinking on it, adding "Aro" to it makes it sound like you're saying "Arrow Ace" which straight up sounds like a superhero name.
TRU
EXACTLY MY THOUGHT LMAOOO
Or a Pokemon move
@@MechaFlyer exactly
It's literally a superpower anyway
That “tunnel vision” mode of a “crush” (where it includes wanting to be their #1 friend, but has no romantic or sexual components) is sometimes called a “squish,” I believe!
@Louiebruh1 imagine having no life or bitches
@Louiebruh1 tf is wrong with you?
I've heard about the term squish, but I didn't know it was like that 🤔 I just assumed the "tunnel vision" was just super strong admiration
TIL a new cute word for my blorbos. Hurray!
@@misskiwishii you talking to the mirror dude?
I’ve never heard someone articulate, how I’ve felt about being on the Ace spectrum before. The absolute - not lack of awareness, but the trouble processing that people actually feel an emotion you have never experienced. It’s really nice to hear it vocalized. Because while i’ve said it before to my friends, when someone isn’t Ace or Aro, it’s hard to understand you just exist without something society deems so important - It can be kind of isolating, existing in a world where you’re one of the odd people out? You’re the minority. It’s really amazing to see you make a video about this! And like epic pog for discovering what makes you feel comfortable with yourself! Watching this video made me just really warm and happy!! Thank you Jaiden! Congrats on finding yourself
It can be so hard to explain! The amount of times I've been told "You just haven't met the right person yet" has been so frustrating. The worst part being how that lack of understanding can make you second-guess yourself.
@@itsjustme6334 like telling a color blind person they're just not looking hard enough 🤣🤣
Fun fact: bread is one of the major things that make us human
garlic bread is one of the major things that make us ace
fun fact: i have done nothing but teleport bread for 3 days
soldier that's not a question@@blackholeguy1529
And baguette is the major thing that make you French human, if ur french tho
As a german person on the ace-spectrum, I very much agree.
I have never felt a video more relatable than this one
Thank you for making this video
The “tunnel vision” feeling you described sounds a lot like platonic attraction, aka “the reason it took me 20 years to realize I was aroace,” because I was like “ah, yes. This must be that ‘crush’ thing everyone talks about.”
“We’re all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule.”
Did Jaiden just… explain the internet?
Yes
Yes. Yes she did
@UC4nTuLLouUct01nka4ZeQyQ ratio 🦀
@UC4nTuLLouUct01nka4ZeQyQ ik ur trying to make the bad german swastika in your name, but thats a hindu symbol. its not tilted.
Yeah... I think she did
I had never heard of being “aromantic” before. This makes me wonder if I’m aromantic. Like, I think I crave wanting to be loved, but just haven’t had that feeling of love. I’ve tried having that feeling. I thought I had it once, but then looking back on it, I didn’t really feel anything. I was just trying to convince myself I felt something, when in reality I just really liked hanging with the person. I think most of the “crushes” I had growing up in High School were just physical attraction, so I know for a fact I’m not asexual because I do experience physical attraction. This is confusing. I gotta look more into this to figure out if I actually am aromantic, or if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, lol.
You can try looking into the many microlabels that exist under the aromantic umbrella!
If you can't find an identity just invent another one.
@@bewawolf19 stop trolling
That is perfectly valid! I forget the exact term, but there is a term for people who desire romantic love but do not feel it. You could also just say it’s basically just aromantic but with a certain attitude about it because of societal pressure. Either way hope it goes well, it’s healthy to experiment with your identity and you deserved to be happy and confident no matter what
@@jaefast5684 cupioromantic?
Why is there so much random hate on this video? So many people saying Jaiden is lying for attention, that shes evil, that the “lore” doesn’t line up anymore- what??? All of you need to get a life and realize that aroace is not only something to be accepted, but something to be proud of. So leave her alone, you pathetic spiteful people.
yeah! its crazy how obsessed people are about her own private life. that's her own personal details that people don't need to know and is it so hard to respect that?
Finally someone who believes the phrase “sex is a distraction from 2005 Battlefront II” more than I do
XD I respect that logic
.., I don’t think she suppprts EA. I don’t think she’s evil.
@@primecreator5257 XD meh.
@@primecreator5257 You're thinking of the Battlefront II from 2017, published by EA. The Battlefront II from 2005 was published by LucasArts.
2005 Battlefront II is above gender, sex is pointless, only battlefront II
"why is no one attractive" is hella relatable. I'm learning more about myself as well because of this video.
Ooop
@SoundFoodist nice bait bro no one cares
I’m ace but I still experience aesthetic attraction. So people look nice, but there’s no emotion.
I have the opposite problem, "why is everybody attractive"
@:D same
Love the line “WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE!” 😂
That’s how Ace rep should be, none of that freaking out about not wanting to sleep with anyone, but freaking out about why no one is attractive! 😅 and then finding out sexual and aesthetic attraction are two different things. (its a more inclusive approach)
When you aren't ace and this is a problem 😩
same
was my fav line
FRRR
god I'm still young and I just learned I'm Aromantic in a fifteen minutes long video of a college drop-out with an enviable talent for drawing.. damn, now everything seems... clearer.
(P.D: I'm a huge fan, follow you since 2017.)
if ur still young why dont you take a shower and get a good AROMA instead
@ wow chill dude. Why so triggered?
Today I learned what Aromantic means and the last three decades are starting to make a lot more sense. Thank you for making this video.
It's never too late to get to know yourself
@@yasminechoerryscherry3701 I completely agree! I am so excited for my future now that I understand myself better.
@@fergerj I’m not exited
@@bill1357 exited?
I honeslty thought that aromantic was part of being asexual and this is the first time i have heard the term. Good to know.
Who needs romance when you have a gamer PC
so real
Cmon, gotta be on that 4090 type shit
FR tho
true and to me a 22 year old. to me dating is dead
Why have romance when you can have Pokémon
“We’re all pretending to be adults here” had me laughing my head off
It’s true
READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!
@卐-SoundyFoodistMan-卐 You have swasticas in your name
@卐-SoundyFoodistMan-卐 i expect nothing less from someone with a swastika in their user
she aint wrong