As an INFJ, small talk is like torture to me. I sound like a fool because I stumble over words and can't explain myself (or just have nothing to say at all). However, if I am in a deep conversation with someone who seems "real" or "genuine" to me, I can talk a mile a minute and explain myself very clearly.
exactly the same for me, In small talk I kind of stutter and slur my words, but in a one on one conversation I can explain the 4th dimension and shit like that.
n a I enjoy listening to others speak about their own passions and what brings them joy, even if I don’t have any interest in the actual topic. I like watching their happiness.
Being an INFJ is so hard sometimes. I make one slip, one thoughtless mistake, and I think about it constantly. If somebody doesn't talk to me one day, I feel like I've offended them deeply. I feel emotions so deeply but I have to hide it tol avoid causing trouble for others.
Jay Tea it’s like you’ve reached into my mind, pulled out the comment that I’ve been wanting to say for a long time now, and said it better than I ever could. Thank you, Jay. Wishing you happiness and peace of mind now (one year after you first posted this), and in the future.
OMG yes, like that time I told my piano teacher about my classmate not being able to come to class because of going to China until I realized she was asking about someone else with the same name and not telling her I made a mistake when I was seven tortured me till this very day.
Being an INFJ can be hard sometimes: feeling misunderstood by everyone around you, suddenly experiencing about fifty different emotions simultaneously without warning, being criticized for being "too passive" and gentle, having this feeling in your gut that you're different, but you can't do anything about it 'cause you'll come off sounding arrogant if you say it like that, and worst of all, thinking that your strengths don't mean anything. And yet, in the end, I always end up smiling and thinking, "Man, I wouldn't have it any other way..."
Yeah, you run into the problem of most people not liking being "read", and that's fair, but the thing is, we're trying to HELP them. But in a vast majority of cases, they're too busy thinking we're arrogant to seriously consider that possibility... A lot of our intentions are misunderstood...
As an INFJ, I definitely relate. I randomly came across a quote the other day and it just rang painfully true. It was, "It breaks my heart how well the misunderstood understands others." In my experience, if you spend enough time with certain types of people who are not INFJ's, they can still empathize enough to at least get very close to understanding you. It will never be the same as an INFJ-INFJ connection, but it can still be very rewarding and fulfilling. Its a real cherished treat to find people like that.
I usually try and gauge how self aware someone is before even hinting that I can read them like a book. If you can find the right approach, people seem to still be receptive to help. Soft, warm language, often combined with analogies and metaphors, (INFJ's seem to be especially adept at coming up with them) that do not focus too specifically or heavily on that person or their behavior, can be a great tool to nudge someone towards being open to your thoughts. Sometimes, I find the best solution can be to just find a way to offer someone the chance to simply be heard and understood. If there is any type that could see the value in that concept, its an INFJ.
Just to make this clear for people who keep saying “infjs can’t be that rare because the comment section is filled with them” just think about it for a minute, infjs crave to be understood and are properly the type to be most interested in this Myers Briggs personality topic because so far it’s been the most accurate test for us and we often watch videos about these topics from time to time to feel understood again and to understand other types because we’re understanding people who feel the need to learn more about humans and their personalities so it shouldn’t surprise you to find the majority of infjs on RUclips in the comment section of any personality related videos. Thank you for reading
Thank you for this. I'm rare. Yes I know arrogant. The rest of the world can come and kiss my butt. It's not our fault that these personality thingies interest is😂
The life of an INFJ is a deeply troubled and strange one. The most pertinent conundrum being how we can simultaneously feel so much and yet feel so little.
Well said. How many INFJs out there have instinctively placed "The" at the beginning of their name..like when choosing a username? I am TheJennLynn@gmail.com I think we are so good at feeling everything and nothing at all bc we are good at compartmentalizing our emotions and experiences, we see both sides of the coin and we refuse to be burned twice or make the same mistake twice, so perhaps we are good at creating coping mechanisms , emotional sheilds.
so funny.... my user name for my PSN is THE_FATED_LOVE Us INFJ's see the world upside down...we see the world as if it should be, yet go insane over the reality before us... So we end up building entire worlds and monoliths to our ideas.... entire kingdoms with its own way of life and ideology can be built... just be us staring forward.. blanking out.. and connecting all our imaginative ideas with practical logic.. we feel nothing because we'd simply much rather feel what others have to say about the world around them... feeling ourselves is much to labor intensive, as we INFJ's simply think their are much better things to thing about than "myself".. but thats the problem with us..... the Kingdoms and Worlds we build within our minds that cannot be put into words.... and only are understood via "feeling".... are left under appreciated...we have nobody to marvel at what we have created.. nobody to validate our version of perfection... most importantly we have nothing to "challenge it against".... as thats what we do... On a daily basis INFJ's have a kinda... "open mat sparring" thing taking place 24/7 within our minds when it comes to thoughts... we evaluate, idealize, rip apart, shake up, and retry our ideas consistently in our heads.. Our ideas are like books on shelves... not to be trifled with.... and though our ideas our incomplete thanks to us bouncing around in our heads all the time, that incomplete idea is the most genuine and beautiful solution to something.... to humanity... to life.... Us INFJ's however....... would most likely feel that the world around us wont understand.. wont get it.... wont see what we see.... we usually come up with some of the most profound speculations of life.... only to be put on a shelf, so we can come back to later.... deeming Humanity much to young a species to understand... I can go on and on... about how since I was a child.. I cried.. endlessly about death.... thought so much of it... I used to stare at people when I was 6-7 years old thinking I could "influence them" with my own influence... I couldnt put it into words when I was younger.. I grew up so alone..... I had friends along the way.. but all have drifted away.... but thats what it was.... I grew up thinking I "could see the intent" behind people.... I could tell you the countless times ive "known" things I shouldnt have... in so many different fields... I just... know.... Even typing this is annoying because it can be perceived as just another whack job that never grew up.... but thats what happens... people have expressions in the world that should be seen and experienced.. yet it falls to the wayside because we feel "nobody will understand"... expression gets lost in the sands of time.... thus making us INFJ's not want to FEEL anymore.. because we know that NOBODY will understand... or see what we see.... You are me, and I am you....
Am I the only infj who cares very deeply about people but because of my strong insight I see a lot about a person's morals and if I disagree morally with people I am very turned off to being their friend?
omg describes me EXACTLY! i am a young female as well and truly and auhentically wish the best for everyone I want everyone I meet to be ok at least. but once I notice there often non existing morals I am turned off and cant help but withdraw...wishing them the best from afar...
Carrie Nielsen spoiler alert there’s a lot of work romance that takes place and you ought to speak up when it happens otherwise the drama will find you
Yes, precisely! I feel like I have an extra sense of knowing things that aren't said, when things are going to happen, and like you said, reading into someone's personality and deciding what's good for me or not. ♡
any other INFJ's feel like they always know how others are feeling and always listen to how others feel but you just cant open up and end up always having to help yourself😂..good times
"always know how others are feeling"....*always* ? so it is absolutely impossible you have ever not read someone right in their emotion or believed any lie in your life?
Yes but the good thing about being unpaid is that you are free to take a hiatus anytime you want. It is literally free choice and when you truly feel in your heart that some people are like baby birds where the only way they can learn how to fly is to let them fall instead of carrying them on your back you feel less guilty for taking time off. They feel good talking to you but the days you are gone will force them to think and reflect on their own and maybe wonder what you would be saying to them right now.
THANK YOU!! I find I am avoiding people these days because they basically talk to me for hours for input about all the problems in their life. I enjoy helping but it can be draining when it is all the time
@@peachlife5118 random people used to come up to me and tell me all their problems. I'm a very good listener so one day I decided enough was enough and started talking and opening up more. Strangers don't approach anymore with their issues, lol. I'm still a bit shy and reserved though, but I am no longer a doormat to other people's problems.
couldn't have explained it better myself. a walking contradiction, do you remain firm and toughen up your personality, or do you become who you truly are?.. but then you need to set boundaries and have a shield in case people harm you, or take advantage of the situation. those are things INFJ's should probably learn earlier in their lives to avoid situations such as those.
It makes perfect sense I often tell people in just getting to know " I'm a walking talking contradiction" Prime example my 2 favorite places are the beach and the desert.. I never think in black and white and can have contradictory opinions on one subject..
On anther note, INFJ's often really want to understand ourselves, and a way to do that is to seek videos like this, articles and other literature on being an INFJ. We realize we feel different, and it's a stereotypical INFJ thing to do to seek outside information to understand why we are the way we are. Because we know others like us feel this way, we rally together very well and support one another. I don't necessarily think it's that many of us are mistyped, but that we yearn so much for the company of others like us and who understand us that we'll reach out on social media and the internet to find it. We're not that hard to find on the internet, you just have to know where to look. Also, many INFJ's may not be mistyped, but under stress and/or underdeveloped. We utilize our lowest function in our stack (extraverted sensing) when we're under high stress. I struggled with extreme depression in high school and was typed as an ISFJ. Otherwise, throughout my entire life since I started taking the test periodically (about ten years) I've been typed as an INFJ.
Francis Vincent Ong lol. well, there are 7.5 billion people in the world. and based on the comments, we have about 400 people who claim to have this personality type. from my experience, people will be more vocal and more attracted to what they identify with. we can assume that folks watching this video are just curious. but I bet the majority of the views are INFJs wanting to learn more about their personality type.
Real INFJ would tell you it's the worst personality.. judgement is never a good trait and most of the time I wish I could turn off my brain and be a extrovert (female) It sucks because INFJ can also hold a dark side.. And it becomes like a sea anchor, you get to a point you start looking at people like a virus, it's not good :c But If you know what your doing you spend 90% of your time reading people or listening to music We get to feel a lot more things then most people.. So all and all we're very funny but have a semi shot fuse and the most devastating tongue in the world.. "Kings of shit talking and then some!" (for me iq 167) But 'real' INFJ is a death sentence 'we' tend to be frequently volatile(the bluest!!) Watch out for my bite, I have the biggest one 'if' you arouse my anger. We ARE the "seer of souls" and I can tell you "just how much" of pos you really are and have NO problems/shame destroying someone in public "sjw style!" Or could also be that i'm Gemini, who knows? Still tho INFJ is the sweetest and tenderest of all the souls.. a truly kindred spirit and a blessing to anyone lucky enough to grab hold of one! It's late and I need as much sleep as I can get
That uniqueness doesn't seem so valuable when nobody around you acknowledges it or values it in the same way. When we are the only ones who see ourselves we simply feel more alone and misunderstood.
INFJ is my type - and I do feel like a rarity. I just had a friend confide in me last night and the first thing I said is "that must so difficult for you to go through". She felt understood. People like confiding in me, and unfortunately they feel upset when I don't pour my life's story or everything I am doing out to them. However, I have to work things out in my own mind, in my own way, in my own time. I feel like I gain strength by processing things inwardly instead of bouncing ideas off on someone else.
BurgundyandBlue1111 Exactly. We understand how the world around us functions better than most. Therefore, the answers you seek are best found from within.
You are your own counsellor too. No one can give you what you give to others as best as you do because your quality is so rare. I have the same issue. I learned young that I couldn’t feel as understood talking to people about myself as they felt talking to me. So I stopped sharing because finding others like me is hard. I shared whatever I had to in my own alone time and relied on Allah as my counsel. Those alone times with God are my best and favourite moments. Helps me unwind and then get back to everything else
Being an INFJ and being full of so many contrasts is more than difficult (at least it is to me sometimes). However, I don't wanna be someone else. Instead of hating the inner conflicts I have, I try to manage them as effectively as possible. I try to see my personality as a gift. And when I know how to deal with this gift, I wanna share it with other people. :) Maybe some of you feel the same...
I love being an INFJ. It is hard to communicate my ideas with others, but I love how people seem more open and trustful when I talk to them. It makes me happy that I can help people and understand them.
No. I mean, on the one hand, I hate being me. On the other hand, I don't want to be "someone else". More like... I wish I was myself, but in a different world. But that's impossible. So... yeah. I can either hate myself, or hate the world. Easier to hate myself, I suppose. Even if it's the world's fault that I hate myself. "Complicated" would be an understatement in this case.
So fucking accurate. I've never had an INFJ friend who I can relate to and I've always felt awkward and odd until I discovered these personality types. I'm happy that there are people like me and I wish I can meet them someday!
It's hard to be INFJ when our personality made us feel a lot of things, pretend to don't know anything, but when someone lie you don't know what to do 'cause you know they're lying but feel bad to tell them they lie to the wrong person.
Totally relatable 😂 I laugh, but it is SO embarrassing and painful. If it’s not about an important topic, I’m nodding and smiling, going along with their lies a little, feeling a little amused and a lot sad inside, feeling awfully disrespected and disappointed… all the while hoping that, maybe, this wasn’t a total waste of my energy and that, once they feel safely in control, they will say or do something of any value. More often than not it was not worth my effort. I have to do this ALL THE TIME and I am totally exhausted. I just cannot do this anymore. I am exhausted and fed- up.
I love being an INFJ... Understanding who I am, what I need, how to set boundaries, and what feeds me, helped my level of happiness tremendously. The younger me thought I needed to be extroverted and I would end up emotionally exhausted- many times falling into States of depression. The younger me also didn't understand how to balance my need 'to do' with my need 'to do me' - this imbalance caused me to be irritable and withdrawn from loved ones. Understanding who you are and what you need and constantly working towards achieving that balance and those boundaries is worth the payoff. I'm about to be 40 years old and I am finally unapologetic about who I am and what I need as an individual while simultaneously feeling at home in my marriage and career. I pray that all the other INFJs on this comment thread take the time to love themselves as much as they inherently love those around them so that they can better improve the world as we are meant to.
Hello, young ENFJ here. Lately, I’ve been more withdrawn lately. This mostly due to my reduced speech since I just got my wisdom teeth surgery. Because my face is stiff (therefore less expressive), my Fe has been used less, to the point where my introverted intuition and introverted thinking have stepped up. Speaking selectively has saved me a lot of energy, which has led to overthinking about a lot of things. To sum it up, my mental energy is bottled up and implodes frequently. One up to being in my head more is my increased peace of mind due to less engagement in small talk. I have been told I come off as distant these days- which feels weird from an outside perspective, but oddly satisfying internally. These are the benefits of working out my auxiliary function: iN.
I read so many stuff on INFJ personality type so I can understand myself better, and I remember the first time i started reading about it and when I first found out that I am INFJ, I was so surprised how accurate everything was and it was scary at first, like how can this test that I took because friend made me tell me everything about my life and how I see things...so anyways, this video was really helpful and interesting, as I'm trying to find, learn, everything there is on INFJs personality :D
+Johnny Pirate Its uncanny how accurate it is. I felt like the people behind 16 personalities understood me better than a lot of my friends and family.
+Johnny Pirate Did you notice that we seem to be the most studied? I'm one (Or at least I have all of the traits) and I've noticed that we're studied in sort of a..... a beautiful, yet catastrophic kind of way. Almost as if to view it like - I feel bad that they have so many thoughts and anxiety, ect, yet they're fascinating and I want to know more.
Hello, fellow INFJs! I've never met another one in person (that I know of)! But I'm so glad to know I'm not as weird and different as I thought and there are other people who just want everyone to be happy and that there are people out there who live in their own heads 90 % of the time too!
Very bizarre how people want that novelty of being the 1% or from what I've heard - .5% (Male) of the population. Yet I've read about at on of INFJ's who dislike the novelty, and wish they could be more outgoing.
Because being special has both pros and cons. As for the latter; keep being misunderstood, no one's advice working for you, keep clashing with the ideas of the crowds and almost always feeling like you don't belong. I'm not an INFJ, but as a female INTJ I can pretty much understand those people who would gladly swap their type for a more common and accepted one.
We're the ones who are forced to write, and/or speak our thoughts within our own minds. People simply don't understand how we are so emotionally independent.
TheFrozenGargon ....outgoing; can’t do it. won’t do it. ‘do nothing that is of no use’- miyamoto musashi. being an ‘outgoing’ person has never, ever served me well. i stay home and read. i care for animals. i study. i build my personal fortune. i build my future. dating? forget it. i know the odds of meeting someone like myself. i keep my circle small & close... tight. no flakes. flakes get dropped, fast. i see manipulators. they’re everywhere. too many is too much. another reason to stay home. i can deal with a few, but they’re exhausting. some ppl sparkle. most do not. i’m not great at picking problem ppl out of crowds, usually takes an action or two or a few words so i’ll catch their wavelength. most times i walk away. goodnight.
I discovered being an INFJ years ago via a quite lengthy test online I took.. but never cared much for it... I put it on the same pedestal as my zodiac sign... interesting but practically useless lol I took the test again 2 times years later last week. All 3 Myers Brigg tests came back as INFJ.... However.... after various emotionally draining situations over the years I began looking more into... "myself".... For years... since I was young I struggled with extreme depression and indifference to this world and reality... Crying fits in school over "reality not making sense"..... arguments with people whom I loved that thought "I was too confusing" and while I made complete sense, I didnt make sense at the same time.... my emotions contradicted themselves.... I have very few friends.. if not any at all.... I find the only people I talk too for months on end are My mother and my girlfriend.... and thats it.... ive been incredibly lonely yet incredibly okay with that loneliness for years upon years now... I dont like bright lights whatsoever, and honestly I thought I was going fucking crazy for years.... Since I was young I.... its hard to describe... I always felt like I understood ones "intentions"... I always felt that I could understand what someone was going to do or say... or feel... When I was young, I would literally play" games" in my head with people by trying to "influence them" with my emotions.... to feel them.... obsessed with whatever life they had.... at times things would go my way.. and I would cast if off as coincidence.... I would stare at people from afar, and try to influence them.... I was like this at 6-7 years old... and still am in ways... my entire life I would say to people "I wish you could see what I see....".... I wish I could just touch peoples foreheads and see years upon years worth of thought in a single touch... Now that ive been doing much more research into myself from last week... im discovering so much about myself.... so many things make sense.... my indifference towards reality.... why I have so close people in my life... the accuracy of the way I think....INFJ's think.... Its a confirmation of something going on for YEARS within my life.... it answers so many "whys".... Being an INFJ is not something of novelty.... everyone just wants to cling to something special no matter what it is... everyone wants to stand out because their entire life they've felt themselves squatting along in life... no gratifications.... just sitting by as others walk past them.. Everyone wants to be special until being special means living in such despair that its hard to exist... it literally becomes hard to live in such spaces... I hope you all find the light...
I am super outgoing but intensely private. It's so hard reconciling these two things. Ni helps me avoid situations that can become problematic but that doesn't go over too well with people that don't understand that I'm avoiding them because they are trouble. I'm an LCSW, btw.
I'm an infj and I always struggle with wanting to be close to other people and having all these creative ideas etc., but I really need a lot of time for myself to simply exist without any obligation, in order to think everything through and make sense of what I'm feeling and create new ideas etc. So it kind of leaves me realizing the things I want / feel etc., but because I spend so much time coming to the realization, I rarely act upon these things. Lol.
Apparently, I'm an INFJ, but I don't see it. INFJ's seem to be described as being highly intelligent and something quite rare, and special. I'm not any of those things. Lol.
+Mark Robins exactly, I did notice that in myself as an INFJ. I always felt bad when someone disliked my motives or opinions but at the same time I value independance. This can leave to much annoyance in an arguement where I know and want everyone to have their own ideals even if they clash with mine but at the same time I dislike mine being opposed. I remember 90% of my arguements ending with "This leads to nowhere, you believe your thing and I'll believe mine, let's just stop arguing"
What about good narcissists victims? Struggle with addictions? I strongly relate to INFJ but I think I've become jaded from the amount of times I've been used and treated like crap. I'm not as caring as I used to be and have become even more introverted.
I think it's a back and forth phase, and once you set up a shield "boundaries' it makes your life easier when you actually follow them and act upon them, as if you're programming yourself but in a more sensible way lol. I also get treated like crap because I'm either too nice, or I don't set up proper boundaries between myself and others. Just make it clear, you have a shield just like everyone else, and it's your job to take care of yourself and to analyze whoever is in front of you. I plan to go back to reading quotes daily as they have helped. Take care, and continue to be nice, but only when it is needed, not in an environment where you might be taken advantage of. This personality type is very hard to manage and balance, but with hard work and practice, may we bring back goodness and kindness and also become more balanced/armored individuals so no one can take advantage of us!
sara abdelnaby I agree sara and thank u! I've been working a lot on my 'issues' and have become much better at being assertive and keeping my boundaries in place. It sure is a balancing act isn't it! Can be tough that's for sure. Take care! 🦋
When i didn't know i was an INFJ, i always thought i have some mental issues, bacause i've always been 10 miles away out of the crowd. I describe myself as a realistic person. People don't understand our aspects 😄 The hardest thing for me is to talk to strangers, but not because they are strangers, but because it's hard for me to keep up with the coversation when i'm not interested in the person, and the person can damn tell that. Oops...
Before i even knew i was "infj" i already found that i was very easy to trust but even my best friends sometimes didn't know things about me. Sometimes there are times where it's impossible to not feel horrible about something very small because of so much sacrificing for others.
I'm an INFJ the person I feel the most at home and relaxed with is an ENFP. She's also very unexpected and funny, and kind. I think our two types compliment eachother very well :D
i am a infj and when I hear all this in video that felt longer than it actually is, I started to feel really emotional almost sad but happy. when you hear all these about your being it weighs heavy on my heart
yesterday I made personality test and I ended up as INFJ. Everything is correct! In addition about that we don't take care about ourselves as to the others, because of that I have lower picture about myslef. but when I have read more about INFJs I felt and better about myself :) now I see how special we are :)
I'm an INFJ and I think the hardest part is feeling misunderstood. People often think I'm stuck up and cold, no matter how nice I try to be, simply because I'm quiet and very reserved. Sometimes I think people assume this because of my phenotype and style (which probably plays a part), but I think a lot of it has to do with me being incredibly introverted and just needing a lot of alone time.
I can relate on that! I don’t know how many times I’ve been told that I look mad and people always make fun of me saying that people are scared of me because I look pissed off all the time..... I don’t think people realize how much if hurts our feelings when they say things like that because we’re usually very kind and caring people once you get to know us we just don’t open up to everyone
@@karag2584 I can so relate! People are always asking me 'what's the matter/what am I angry about?' and it's inevitably that I'm just in my head and distracted.
Yeah, we're complicated, but we're really great and loyal friends. If you take the time and effort to get to know one of us, you'll have a true friend, probably for life. Someone there always to talk to and confide in. I've had a good best friend since I was little, and we've been the best of friends for years. :) She is my one only really good friend in my life that I feel blessed to have, and don't know what I would do without a good friend like her. I would really feel lonely, more than I do already just from feeling like a weirdo misfit all the time :/ ... Not sure if she is INFP or INFJ like me....we share so much in common, but she typed as INFP the first time when taking a test, and then INFJ when she took it again. But I'm thinking she's more an INFP
+Just anobody Depends on the person who wants to be friends with an INFJ. I've always had a hard time trying to connect to others (no wonder - I'm an INTJ) but the person I would call my best friend, the one with whom I can discuss pretty much anything and don't feel bad/vulnerable about is actually an INFJ. Sure, she's not easy to understand sometimes, but not impossible either. It's worth trying in my opinion. But this is an INTJ perspective, I'm not sure how other types perceive the challenges of being friends with an INFJ. How is your experience? Do you have close friends that put up with your so-called complicatedness? :)
Anthony Ellis I admire intj’s so much I really enjoy their presence because being around them helps me calm my emotions and kinda feel less like an emotional mess
Very Interesting. INFJ Here. I'm currently building a house for an INTJ homeowner. I admire how sharp he is, loves to bend the rules, and is quick to act on, what most people consider tough decisions. He is sooo straight to the point in everything he does. So far we have made a great team. Between our two personalities, we both know how different we view things, but the same time just make things work seamlessly. I envy how sharp your minds are with making very well though out decisions. Really nothing bad to say. INTJ's do seem like their ability to trust in their logic a little too heavily, might hinder them a little bit. Maybe bring a bit of a stubborn side; but I believe it's usually outweighed by how thorough they usually are.
+Juliet Diaz I've been told that over the years sure... right now I'm comparing personality types with two females at 1:22am, then we're going to have a threesome. enfp+enfj+infj=3some apparently lmao
+Juliet Diaz seriously I just did... but it's been a thing going on for a few months now, point is... I was making a funny of the meshing of personality types. It's always eventful, as I'm sure you could imagine ;) #infjdarkside
“You’re just overanalyzing everything, chill.” Me (An INFJ-T Type): (My Mind) “Do you have any idea how many endings to this conversation I’ve conjured up just during that one sentence? Unfortunately for you, you just got the most negative out of those outcomes.” (What I actually end up saying) “Uhhhhhhhhh - aight. That’s cool.”
As INFJ I struggle a lot with meeting new people, making new friends. I have super high standards for myself but also for those that I share my energy with, so unless someone really clicks I don't want to spend my energy on them, and that sucks, because I feel kind of lonely, misuderstood and unappreciated. I want to connect with people and I want friends, but finding genuine people that I really connect with seems super hard and takes a lot of effort and I feel just discouraged. But when I do have a great relationship with someone, I tend to be the more attached one, the one that keeps it together, the one that cares more. Can anyone relate?
I have taken the 16 personalities test 3 times over the past 3 years (and countless others on different sites and in books etc) and each time have gotten INFJ (or INFJ-T)... It makes me pretty proud to be part of that 1%. But what annoys me, is those who say they are an INFJ type, and aren't. I get it, it's a unique type and its exciting to be different than others, but why not share with the world your ACTUAL personality type? That way, you can have actual conversations with people who are REALLY like you, instead of pretending and therefore learning nothing about yourself. I don't know, it just seems pointless to me. I love talking to REAL INFJs and getting to compare our lives and feelings, because we really are similar. The people who are pretending are missing out on that. okay, rant over :))
Im a real INFJ and I think it really sucks alot of the time! I'd gladly switch and be an ES type, I think life would be a whole lot easier.. but alas.. I cannot..
Hey, an enfp here. Wow reading all these comments is so interesting. I don’t really know any infjs so its interesting hearing how yall think. It is so facinating seeing the similarities that us two personality types have but also the differences and things i admire about you guys :) You guys just seem like such great genuine types of people so I hope that ill get to meet an infj one day
I only just discovered this personality system a few hours ago and it amazed me the myers briggs test is so accurate it's like it read me like a book still can't believe I'm a infj
***** Well when you visit i'll stop spamming. :p ;) lol seriously, a couple INFJ's said my channel os there get together paradise, i'm a non-profit cultural channel man. :)
my boss for my internship says i have a heart and a drive but i am not able to do certain things v well. we r tangled in our emotions and internal mind, these emotions can be really helpful but at the same time it can hinder our progress its blessing and a curse
I recently found the personality test and believe I am an INFJ-A. I am 20 years old and the most helpful kid in the family, or the "doormat" by other relatives and people, as well as the most misunderstood by everyone in the family because I am always experimenting with new ideas and am the go-to person when in need. Six months ago, my family discovered that I have a friend with whom I communicate. My siblings began to celebrate for me, but internally I know they were laughing at me. When I hang out with small groups of people, I appear to be an energetic extrovert until my therapy service ends and I become drained from it. Because my target group is an introvert like me, it becomes boring and awkward. So, I start a deep relevant topic that is turned into a debate in which I agree with everything they say but they disagree with my nuances as INFJ to further help them elaborate their points and I am misunderstood and wrongfully labeled. The other people believe they have won the argument, but I am thinking internally that I should have let them suffer in awkwardness and boredom because I have lot of fun stuff going on my mind. I think it is critical to understand who you are so that you can suffer less and stop believing there is something wrong with you. By the way, Quilbot is what I use to paraphrase my words so that I can be understood. I'll end here, thank you for reading, and I hope you find some comfort, my fellow INFJs.
One thing I’d be interested to see if other INFJs have experienced is in regards to conversations. Personally, I’m always conflicted when I’m having a conversation because more often than not, I will have an intense opinion or viewpoint that I feel very strongly about. But I’m always worried about bringing it up because I know if I don’t explain my reasoning convincingly, people will view my argument as holding no water or not valid. But the problem is that I often times have INTENSE opinions and feelings that I just....can’t explain or elaborate on. And as a result I run the risk of losing the argument even if I might be right. I definitely feel like I’m in the right, but I can’t be convincing enough, so people write me off like I’ve lost the argument, which sucks more than anything in the world. TLDR: I want to convince people to my viewpoint because I view it as “right” or morally correct, but since I lack the conversational skills to be persuasive, people are not convinced to come over to my way of thinking, which frustrates me greatly because I feel like I should be listened to even if I can’t articulate why my point is superior. I want people to agree with me without having the ability to convince them to do so.
Why do you communicate? To demonstrate that you’re right? To have a particular thing done? To socialise? To waste some time? To seek information? To vent? You say you want to ‘convince’ people. I have bad news for you. The majority of people don’t think, pleased as they are with having opinions they’ve uncritically ingurgitated from those who know how to manipulate them. Of course, you could learn how to manipulate them ‘for their own good’ and lead them like animals down the garden path. I am not interested in being a shepherdesses. I want to live in a society with peers who at least make an effort to think for themselves, not amongst sheep. So, me being blunt (after many unsuccessful attempts at being diplomatic) is a sign of respect, actually. The purpose never justifies the means. Never- ever. Call me whatever under the sun- I have made up my mind and nothing will change that. A life without (self-) respect and morality is nothing. Call me ‘idealistic’, ‘autistic’, ‘unintegrated’, ‘naive’, ‘immature’ 🤷🏻♀️ Of course, I do care and feeling rejected hurts like hell, but NO. Oh, no. 😄 So, this is what I think. You choose what to think and do. Oh, another thing. If you are right (proven with facts, not rhetorical devices) does it matter that everyone else think you’re wrong?… If not only what you say is right, but also, your intention is right, I’d say just express it. Nicely at first, but if need be, as intensely as you can. They won’t like you, but they will (secretly- because they’re too proud 😄) respect you (and, sometimes, they will do what you showed them, when you can’t see them 😉). If they don’t see it, accept it, and/or do it, well… it’s their choice and loss, but you will have done your duty to them and yourself.
As an INFJ, when my friends gave me presents for birthday the most common they would say is "arent you happy?" "My present is suitable for you right? Why are you so silent?" It's so hard to show my happiness, the warmth and fuzziness I feel in my heart to the world. I would remember in silent details of that happy day and forever keep in my mind, the happiness around me feels so good, Im probably basking in the atmosphere. I'm sorry if that doesn't make sense but yea, my most happy state is when I silently smile and stare at my love ones enjoying themselves.
I've heard things like, "you're so deep," "you're very quiet," and "I feel like I can come to you for anything," my whole adolescent life and into my adult life. It's been a strange kind of existence, but hearing things like this video helps me to frame the things that I do. Every time I've taken the Myers-Briggs test, INFJ is always my result. And I don't think that that it's a bad thing.
this is so accurate and gives an insight into why I do things sometimes! But my dreams are for the unity of the whole world, not just one person, which is probably why my test results came out with INFJ and ENFJ..!
I am one of the INFJs, and I am aware of it. Not only what is described in this video fits my overall well-being. I'm still having other conflicts here and there and I am also still a teenager, which also adds up to the large range of confusion within my personality. Thank you for this video, I love it!! I hope you all are having a nice day/night! If not, I wish you all a good thing to happen to you very soon and I hope that thing makes you feel great again. ^^
Hello! ENFP here! I think INFJs are amazing, although often misunderstood unfortunately, so I just want to say I appreciate you! Some of my most treasured friendships are with INFJs. (Also I think an INFJ would make a great life partner for this weirdo ENFP, haha)
I was really debating whether I'm actually an INFJ(for the 20th time) but this video nails me to a T. Especially the part about seeming aloof to those not close to me or seeming enigmatic and kind. People often assume 1 of 2 things about me: either that I'm a complete mystery to them even if I've shared things with them, some may even say I'm cold and unfeeling. But many people who know me either mildly or intimately say I'm an incredibly kind person and that I'm definitely empathic(which INFJs are often called empaths). I often share very little with people beyond surface level things like that I like playing video games or my positions on politics.
Plot twist: I am an INFJ who loves being alone and one on one with others (not crowds), but when I see the world with problems, I become an ENJF in order to talk about my inner thoughts and observations loudly enough for people to hear on youtube. This confusing type of switch from introvert to extrovert for certain situations only, is an "ambirvert."
2:10 That's not really correct, such as some other parts of the video. But don't get me wrong the video was really good in my opinion. i am an INFJ, and one thing about "us" is that "we" are not all fluffy and warm as the MBTI community see "us". Being typed as an INFJ means that you are in the borderland of every characteristic. That means, that you can't be direct about something so specify such as intellectual interest regarding INFJ's, because "we" are completely particular beings. None of "us" presents some sort of "consistency", i have a lot of interest on science because i want to know how those stuff works and i don't really aim on doing something 100% meaningful. I would say that it is 30% curiosity, 30% personal interest, 40% meaningful to society. Yes, a great part of the reasons of pursuing science is meaning (in any sort) but the point is, when addressing INFJ's interests, the more direct you are, the more wrong you are. "We" are abstract, particular beings, set apart from the rest of the world, even "our own kind". So yea, sorry for the long post but be careful when addressing INFJ personal world and interesting.
Wow, this is really me. i had little faith about personality tests, but this one hit every point on the nose. there are lots of things where i thought my responses were wrong, and i needed to change... but now i see that it's just me being myself. that's enough for me. it's so awesome to see all of my infj friends in the comments. let's keep rocking the world our way!
This video really enlighted me and just want to share some things about me... One thing that makes me feel down about myself is that i am too self conscious and when, for example, i am working i give so much of me to that workplace that if it feels that i did something wrong about me and im not giving all of myself to it because i just feel like a different person and i dont fit in society... I work as a waiter and being an introvert person sometimes it feels too draining while i talk with others. What should i do to better myself. Thank you for this video and i hope everyone in this comment section feels like they are not alone and they are in some way special and that sometimes different is good :）
ok so I took the test as honest as possible and according to it im an INFJ and I do relate to alot of this..but i ain't that soft (no offense ) what I'm trying to say is that "I'm no saint" ..I do have tons of epiphanies and I am pretty reclusive..(only allow certain ppl in my deep thoughts)..and do think that everyone has potential to do whatever they want in life but I don't care if ppl understand me or not ..bc honestly I don't even understand myself or who I am.. like... I just accept the fact that I'm like this and just try to live life to the max..and I don't believe only like 2.5% of the world is INFJ in fact I believe we all have this personalityy deep somewhere inside of us...ppl just express this personality differently in their own way..everybody is unique in their own way and I'm not 2.5% of the world but only 1 vs the rest of the world..just like everybody else....different....unique btw thanks for taking your precious time to read this comment..ik it's long..
INFJ here and this is very true for me. I'm majoring in Clinical Psychology and I enjoy working with people and bringing my ideas to others to benefit society as a whole.
Not too long ago I learned about The Myer-Briggs personality indiciator, and I recently learned that I am an INFJ. It was a surreal experience, reading the description that described me in ways that I myself rarely acknowledged but were very true with me. I feel like I understand myself a lot more now.
The first step once you confirmed you are INFJ is realizing you're not a mistake! The second step is to enrich the life of others, through our obervations, love and insights, deductions and analysis and counseling etc. Our difference gives us a role only we can fullfill the way we do! We might not change this world, but at least we can change and bless the life of those nearest to us - even if it's just a bit. It's not useless! We are not useless! We are here for a reason! Each of us has unique given gifts and strengths (no matter the personality type.) With our gifts we can decide whether we want to be a blessing or a curse for others. Everyone has the potential for both, but the choice is solely up to us alone! To you! To ONLY YOU! Be the peace you seek and the friend you want! Be kind, for everyone is fighting a hard battle you know absolutely nothing about! Spread the love and the help you want to receive and god or the universe will bless your efforts and yourself as a result! You will reap what you sow for sure. This I believe. INFJ over and out~
a little late, but the MBTI is more about cognitive functions, not the 4 letters. Look up the cognitive functions of INFP&INFJ and you’ll see they are extremely different, though they share 3 of the same letters.
I don't know what type I am. I got INTJ once but I got INFJ twice. I'm 100% introvert (not an extroverted introvert), I don't like to show or talk about feelings and emotions even if I'm always overwhelmed, I don't have any friends because I prefer being alone, don't like talking to people at all (always quiet, only talk if I have to) and I'm an anxious introvert, but I would like to have one best friend with similar interests than a small group of people. I'm an introvert but I'm also scared about letting people in to get to know myself, even family. I have felt different from others my whole life and have always been a loner. I'm not a cold person because I do take peoples feelings and emotions in consideration but I like to keep to myself and I'm kind of distant. I relate to both INTJ and INFJ. I'm so lost. I'm a female if that even matter.
Probably yes. They share the same functions, only in a bit different order. Both use Fe for communicating with others and Ni for absorbing information. My guess is that they could have a very strong connection. :)
We'reAllLivingInHetalia Isn't type relative to the final outcome and not the current state of being? Which always becomes confusing, to never come off hypocritical to find the truth. Does anyone feel like dying with their harsh criticism in thoughts?
i’ve never felt so understood! i feel like i’m always searching for something and day to day tasks seem frivolous. trudging through a 9-5 that i hate feels so pointless and wasteful in the grand scheme of the universe. i want to find a place where i fit in and let my soul thrive in it. i know it sounds like any personality type would agree, but i think we just get it on a different level.
I've never found a more exact description of an INFJ than this... I personally like having conversations but only if I feel I can trust that person or if I genuinely am interested on the topic, otherwise I just keep quiet and listen to what they say, which it does not bother me really; I like listening others and get to ask them questions. I sometimes feel that I am interrogating when I am having coversations though... I feel like INFJs are walking contradictions, it feels like everything is in the middle and that, honestly, can be frustrating. Everything you do and think molds to the situation, and most of the time you do consider what others might feel or think about your decisions.
As an INFJ, small talk is like torture to me. I sound like a fool because I stumble over words and can't explain myself (or just have nothing to say at all). However, if I am in a deep conversation with someone who seems "real" or "genuine" to me, I can talk a mile a minute and explain myself very clearly.
Same small talk seems pointless to me
exactly the same for me, In small talk I kind of stutter and slur my words, but in a one on one conversation I can explain the 4th dimension and shit like that.
Michael Lang agreed. But I’ve found learning “small talk” as a survival skill makes life a lot easier. Just have to adapt.
Michael Lang EXACTLY
Michael Lang omg yes it sucks😢
My life summed up in one sentence: I feel I was made to understand but not to be understood. INFJs UNITE!
That one hits home with me
Truth
Wonderful! you took the words right out of my mouth!
Yep
andrielisilien YES
Basically we're dead silent until someone brings up something we like
n a I enjoy listening to others speak about their own passions and what brings them joy, even if I don’t have any interest in the actual topic. I like watching their happiness.
@@saraspence3829 exactly
YES
I don't even want to admit this but it's so true! 😭😖
EXACTLYY😭😭
Being an INFJ is so hard sometimes. I make one slip, one thoughtless mistake, and I think about it constantly. If somebody doesn't talk to me one day, I feel like I've offended them deeply. I feel emotions so deeply but I have to hide it tol avoid causing trouble for others.
Yeah, today the girl i like didn't talk to me and i was torturing myself thinking "what the hell did i do?"
so very true. dealing with that rn
OMG YES
Jay Tea it’s like you’ve reached into my mind, pulled out the comment that I’ve been wanting to say for a long time now, and said it better than I ever could. Thank you, Jay. Wishing you happiness and peace of mind now (one year after you first posted this), and in the future.
OMG yes, like that time I told my piano teacher about my classmate not being able to come to class because of going to China until I realized she was asking about someone else with the same name and not telling her I made a mistake when I was seven tortured me till this very day.
I hate being an infj sometimes. I have phases where I have an emotional break down when I think about all my flaws.
All us INFJ people do. Whenever I feel like I'm sad and I'm so emotional I'm scared to tell people.. Im terrified to ask for help to..
Thespiana X yeah and when i do talk to someone about it (rarely happens) i regret it because i feel like im burdening them and judge me
I feel you... it's really hard to open up to people
+its black and blue awww :( we all felt that way sometimes...or a lot but after all it was just a refection.
ppls are shitty :< don't let them beat us down!
Being an INFJ can be hard sometimes: feeling misunderstood by everyone around you, suddenly experiencing about fifty different emotions simultaneously without warning, being criticized for being "too passive" and gentle, having this feeling in your gut that you're different, but you can't do anything about it 'cause you'll come off sounding arrogant if you say it like that, and worst of all, thinking that your strengths don't mean anything.
And yet, in the end, I always end up smiling and thinking, "Man, I wouldn't have it any other way..."
EXACTLY!! It's just like, I know SO much about others but can't tell other people because they'll definitely think I'm arrogant
Yeah, you run into the problem of most people not liking being "read", and that's fair, but the thing is, we're trying to HELP them. But in a vast majority of cases, they're too busy thinking we're arrogant to seriously consider that possibility...
A lot of our intentions are misunderstood...
As an INFJ, I definitely relate. I randomly came across a quote the other day and it just rang painfully true. It was, "It breaks my heart how well the misunderstood understands others." In my experience, if you spend enough time with certain types of people who are not INFJ's, they can still empathize enough to at least get very close to understanding you. It will never be the same as an INFJ-INFJ connection, but it can still be very rewarding and fulfilling. Its a real cherished treat to find people like that.
I usually try and gauge how self aware someone is before even hinting that I can read them like a book. If you can find the right approach, people seem to still be receptive to help. Soft, warm language, often combined with analogies and metaphors, (INFJ's seem to be especially adept at coming up with them) that do not focus too specifically or heavily on that person or their behavior, can be a great tool to nudge someone towards being open to your thoughts. Sometimes, I find the best solution can be to just find a way to offer someone the chance to simply be heard and understood. If there is any type that could see the value in that concept, its an INFJ.
Powerful words. Unfortunately at the end of the day I can't say that. Can you help me? Can any Infj's please help me? I wanna feel better about myself
Just to make this clear for people who keep saying “infjs can’t be that rare because the comment section is filled with them” just think about it for a minute, infjs crave to be understood and are properly the type to be most interested in this Myers Briggs personality topic because so far it’s been the most accurate test for us and we often watch videos about these topics from time to time to feel understood again and to understand other types because we’re understanding people who feel the need to learn more about humans and their personalities so it shouldn’t surprise you to find the majority of infjs on RUclips in the comment section of any personality related videos. Thank you for reading
That and because their deck is stacked with INFP's.
And it’s a video about infjs ... :)
Thank you uwu
Thank you for this. I'm rare. Yes I know arrogant. The rest of the world can come and kiss my butt. It's not our fault that these personality thingies interest is😂
Oh my gosh yes. You are right
The life of an INFJ is a deeply troubled and strange one. The most pertinent conundrum being how we can simultaneously feel so much and yet feel so little.
The Journeyman do you ever see 33?
The Journeyman do you ever see 33?
How does that work?
Well said. How many INFJs out there have instinctively placed "The" at the beginning of their name..like when choosing a username? I am TheJennLynn@gmail.com
I think we are so good at feeling everything and nothing at all bc we are good at compartmentalizing our emotions and experiences, we see both sides of the coin and we refuse to be burned twice or make the same mistake twice, so perhaps we are good at creating coping mechanisms , emotional sheilds.
so funny.... my user name for my PSN is THE_FATED_LOVE
Us INFJ's see the world upside down...we see the world as if it should be, yet go insane over the reality before us...
So we end up building entire worlds and monoliths to our ideas.... entire kingdoms with its own way of life and ideology can be built... just be us staring forward.. blanking out.. and connecting all our imaginative ideas with practical logic..
we feel nothing because we'd simply much rather feel what others have to say about the world around them... feeling ourselves is much to labor intensive, as we INFJ's simply think their are much better things to thing about than "myself"..
but thats the problem with us..... the Kingdoms and Worlds we build within our minds that cannot be put into words.... and only are understood via "feeling".... are left under appreciated...we have nobody to marvel at what we have created.. nobody to validate our version of perfection... most importantly we have nothing to "challenge it against".... as thats what we do...
On a daily basis INFJ's have a kinda... "open mat sparring" thing taking place 24/7 within our minds when it comes to thoughts... we evaluate, idealize, rip apart, shake up, and retry our ideas consistently in our heads.. Our ideas are like books on shelves... not to be trifled with.... and though our ideas our incomplete thanks to us bouncing around in our heads all the time, that incomplete idea is the most genuine and beautiful solution to something.... to humanity... to life....
Us INFJ's however....... would most likely feel that the world around us wont understand.. wont get it.... wont see what we see.... we usually come up with some of the most profound speculations of life.... only to be put on a shelf, so we can come back to later.... deeming Humanity much to young a species to understand...
I can go on and on... about how since I was a child.. I cried.. endlessly about death.... thought so much of it... I used to stare at people when I was 6-7 years old thinking I could "influence them" with my own influence... I couldnt put it into words when I was younger.. I grew up so alone..... I had friends along the way.. but all have drifted away.... but thats what it was.... I grew up thinking I "could see the intent" behind people.... I could tell you the countless times ive "known" things I shouldnt have... in so many different fields... I just... know....
Even typing this is annoying because it can be perceived as just another whack job that never grew up....
but thats what happens... people have expressions in the world that should be seen and experienced.. yet it falls to the wayside because we feel "nobody will understand"...
expression gets lost in the sands of time.... thus making us INFJ's not want to FEEL anymore.. because we know that NOBODY will understand... or see what we see....
You are me, and I am you....
Am I the only infj who cares very deeply about people but because of my strong insight I see a lot about a person's morals and if I disagree morally with people I am very turned off to being their friend?
I'm the same with you, don't worry
omg describes me EXACTLY! i am a young female as well and truly and auhentically wish the best for everyone I want everyone I meet to be ok at least.
but once I notice there often non existing morals I am turned off and cant help but withdraw...wishing them the best from afar...
yep. so true!
Carrie Nielsen spoiler alert there’s a lot of work romance that takes place and you ought to speak up when it happens otherwise the drama will find you
Yes, precisely! I feel like I have an extra sense of knowing things that aren't said, when things are going to happen, and like you said, reading into someone's personality and deciding what's good for me or not. ♡
any other INFJ's feel like they always know how others are feeling and always listen to how others feel but you just cant open up and end up always having to help yourself😂..good times
so true
Yes exactly,and at times,it kills myself,deep within my own heart
Yes. Yes yes.
"always know how others are feeling"....*always* ? so it is absolutely impossible you have ever not read someone right in their emotion or believed any lie in your life?
Absolutely. I truly believe I feel the pain that's been inflicted in someone, more so than they do.
being an infj is basically like being an unpaid shrink
SO goddamn true. why do i care so much, i ask myself...
Yup
Yes but the good thing about being unpaid is that you are free to take a hiatus anytime you want. It is literally free choice and when you truly feel in your heart that some people are like baby birds where the only way they can learn how to fly is to let them fall instead of carrying them on your back you feel less guilty for taking time off. They feel good talking to you but the days you are gone will force them to think and reflect on their own and maybe wonder what you would be saying to them right now.
THANK YOU!! I find I am avoiding people these days because they basically talk to me for hours for input about all the problems in their life. I enjoy helping but it can be draining when it is all the time
@@peachlife5118 random people used to come up to me and tell me all their problems. I'm a very good listener so one day I decided enough was enough and started talking and opening up more. Strangers don't approach anymore with their issues, lol. I'm still a bit shy and reserved though, but I am no longer a doormat to other people's problems.
as an infj, I often feel like a walking contradiction, if that even makes any sense
couldn't have explained it better myself. a walking contradiction, do you remain firm and toughen up your personality, or do you become who you truly are?.. but then you need to set boundaries and have a shield in case people harm you, or take advantage of the situation. those are things INFJ's should probably learn earlier in their lives to avoid situations such as those.
It makes perfect sense I often tell people in just getting to know " I'm a walking talking contradiction" Prime example my 2 favorite places are the beach and the desert.. I never think in black and white and can have contradictory opinions on one subject..
Emily Sanco i am a walking starburst, that's what I've figured out.
Emily Sanco I’m one too I relate
As an ENTP, I'd like to ask if EVERYONE is indeed a walking contradiction.
This comment section is like walking inside of my thoughts and ive never felt more comfortable and understood in my whole life
right
same bro
im crying
I find life draining.
Amen Paul!
Depends on how you live.
Drain gang
IsaacSkating YESS
Facts
I read somewhere that INFJ is the rarest personality type, but looking at the RUclips comment sections, you would think 75% of the world are INFJ.
Yes. In our INFJ vs. ISFJ video, we talk a bit about people over-identifying as INFJ. :)
CelebrityTypes I used to be an ISFJ, but 1 year later I took the test again and I was an INFJ.
On anther note, INFJ's often really want to understand ourselves, and a way to do that is to seek videos like this, articles and other literature on being an INFJ. We realize we feel different, and it's a stereotypical INFJ thing to do to seek outside information to understand why we are the way we are. Because we know others like us feel this way, we rally together very well and support one another. I don't necessarily think it's that many of us are mistyped, but that we yearn so much for the company of others like us and who understand us that we'll reach out on social media and the internet to find it. We're not that hard to find on the internet, you just have to know where to look. Also, many INFJ's may not be mistyped, but under stress and/or underdeveloped. We utilize our lowest function in our stack (extraverted sensing) when we're under high stress. I struggled with extreme depression in high school and was typed as an ISFJ. Otherwise, throughout my entire life since I started taking the test periodically (about ten years) I've been typed as an INFJ.
Francis Vincent Ong lol. well, there are 7.5 billion people in the world. and based on the comments, we have about 400 people who claim to have this personality type. from my experience, people will be more vocal and more attracted to what they identify with. we can assume that folks watching this video are just curious. but I bet the majority of the views are INFJs wanting to learn more about their personality type.
Real INFJ would tell you it's the worst personality.. judgement is never a good trait and most of the time I wish I could turn off my brain and be a extrovert (female)
It sucks because INFJ can also hold a dark side.. And it becomes like a sea anchor, you get to a point you start looking at people like a virus, it's not good :c
But If you know what your doing you spend 90% of your time reading people or listening to music We get to feel a lot more things then most people.. So all and all we're very funny but have a semi shot fuse and the most devastating tongue in the world.. "Kings of shit talking and then some!" (for me iq 167) But 'real' INFJ is a death sentence 'we' tend to be frequently volatile(the bluest!!) Watch out for my bite, I have the biggest one 'if' you arouse my anger. We ARE the "seer of souls" and I can tell you "just how much" of pos you really are and have NO problems/shame destroying someone in public "sjw style!" Or could also be that i'm Gemini, who knows? Still tho INFJ is the sweetest and tenderest of all the souls.. a truly kindred spirit and a blessing to anyone lucky enough to grab hold of one!
It's late and I need as much sleep as I can get
Just to let you all know, we as INFJs are in this battle together, somewhere out there, beneath this pale moonlight!
Can you see behind people's social mask?
+Atum 777 yeah, easily
+Seth Joslin r u infj?
+Atum 777 yes sir/ma'am
Seth Joslin what makes infjs psychic?
Guys, the inner conflict INFJs have can be conquered once you realize how special and unique and valuable you are. love life :)
I know I’m unique but being an infj can be a blessing and at the same time feel like a curse
Harry Shin thank you....💕💕💕💕.
Trying to!
That uniqueness doesn't seem so valuable when nobody around you acknowledges it or values it in the same way. When we are the only ones who see ourselves we simply feel more alone and misunderstood.
SO TRUE .I am feel so uplifted!!
INFJ is my type - and I do feel like a rarity. I just had a friend confide in me last night and the first thing I said is "that must so difficult for you to go through". She felt understood. People like confiding in me, and unfortunately they feel upset when I don't pour my life's story or everything I am doing out to them. However, I have to work things out in my own mind, in my own way, in my own time. I feel like I gain strength by processing things inwardly instead of bouncing ideas off on someone else.
BurgundyandBlue1111 Exactly. We understand how the world around us functions better than most. Therefore, the answers you seek are best found from within.
Yeah, that's just Ni at work. Bouncing ideas off on someone else = Ne
You are your own counsellor too. No one can give you what you give to others as best as you do because your quality is so rare. I have the same issue. I learned young that I couldn’t feel as understood talking to people about myself as they felt talking to me. So I stopped sharing because finding others like me is hard. I shared whatever I had to in my own alone time and relied on Allah as my counsel. Those alone times with God are my best and favourite moments. Helps me unwind and then get back to everything else
Being an INFJ and being full of so many contrasts is more than difficult (at least it is to me sometimes). However, I don't wanna be someone else. Instead of hating the inner conflicts I have, I try to manage them as effectively as possible. I try to see my personality as a gift. And when I know how to deal with this gift, I wanna share it with other people. :) Maybe some of you feel the same...
+OlisART you, yes you! I like your prospective.
@OlisART
Yes I feel exactly the same. Management is the key to what we are.
I can't say I exactly feel the same, sadly. I hate being an infj. It's quite a lonely life.
I love being an INFJ. It is hard to communicate my ideas with others, but I love how people seem more open and trustful when I talk to them. It makes me happy that I can help people and understand them.
No. I mean, on the one hand, I hate being me. On the other hand, I don't want to be "someone else". More like... I wish I was myself, but in a different world. But that's impossible. So... yeah. I can either hate myself, or hate the world. Easier to hate myself, I suppose. Even if it's the world's fault that I hate myself. "Complicated" would be an understatement in this case.
So fucking accurate. I've never had an INFJ friend who I can relate to and I've always felt awkward and odd until I discovered these personality types. I'm happy that there are people like me and I wish I can meet them someday!
Hey :D
Yesss !!! Samee problem !
I feel you and understand you
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Revati Shivnekar i might be a INFJ :)
It's hard to be INFJ when our personality made us feel a lot of things, pretend to don't know anything, but when someone lie you don't know what to do 'cause you know they're lying but feel bad to tell them they lie to the wrong person.
Totally relatable 😂 I laugh, but it is SO embarrassing and painful. If it’s not about an important topic, I’m nodding and smiling, going along with their lies a little, feeling a little amused and a lot sad inside, feeling awfully disrespected and disappointed… all the while hoping that, maybe, this wasn’t a total waste of my energy and that, once they feel safely in control, they will say or do something of any value. More often than not it was not worth my effort. I have to do this ALL THE TIME and I am totally exhausted. I just cannot do this anymore. I am exhausted and fed- up.
We are tough, but extremely fair.
And so true says on my channel. :)
Jorge Pena i agree!!!
I am fair, live and let live.
I love you INFJs. You are my favorite. ;ں; (luv, ENFJ)
I would like to know more ENFJs. I really admire you guys.
+Mariah Dawn Awww
+Mariah Dawn Thank you :)
+Mariah Dawn I'm an INFJ and I really respect and adore ENJFs ;v;;
+stuffofme xx ask away, anything to help you understand our (or just my) social incompetence
I found this to be a disturbingly accurate. Thanks for sharing.
I love being an INFJ... Understanding who I am, what I need, how to set boundaries, and what feeds me, helped my level of happiness tremendously. The younger me thought I needed to be extroverted and I would end up emotionally exhausted- many times falling into States of depression. The younger me also didn't understand how to balance my need 'to do' with my need 'to do me' - this imbalance caused me to be irritable and withdrawn from loved ones. Understanding who you are and what you need and constantly working towards achieving that balance and those boundaries is worth the payoff. I'm about to be 40 years old and I am finally unapologetic about who I am and what I need as an individual while simultaneously feeling at home in my marriage and career. I pray that all the other INFJs on this comment thread take the time to love themselves as much as they inherently love those around them so that they can better improve the world as we are meant to.
Hello, young ENFJ here. Lately, I’ve been more withdrawn lately. This mostly due to my reduced speech since I just got my wisdom teeth surgery. Because my face is stiff (therefore less expressive), my Fe has been used less, to the point where my introverted intuition and introverted thinking have stepped up. Speaking selectively has saved me a lot of energy, which has led to overthinking about a lot of things. To sum it up, my mental energy is bottled up and implodes frequently. One up to being in my head more is my increased peace of mind due to less engagement in small talk. I have been told I come off as distant these days- which feels weird from an outside perspective, but oddly satisfying internally. These are the benefits of working out my auxiliary function: iN.
I read so many stuff on INFJ personality type so I can understand myself better, and I remember the first time i started reading about it and when I first found out that I am INFJ, I was so surprised how accurate everything was and it was scary at first, like how can this test that I took because friend made me tell me everything about my life and how I see things...so anyways, this video was really helpful and interesting, as I'm trying to find, learn, everything there is on INFJs personality :D
When I started reading up on INFJs I was SO shocked and surprised that everything is 300% accurate
+Johnny Pirate Its uncanny how accurate it is. I felt like the people behind 16 personalities understood me better than a lot of my friends and family.
+Johnny Pirate Did you notice that we seem to be the most studied? I'm one (Or at least I have all of the traits) and I've noticed that we're studied in sort of a..... a beautiful, yet catastrophic kind of way.
Almost as if to view it like - I feel bad that they have so many thoughts and anxiety, ect, yet they're fascinating and I want to know more.
Come over to my channel INFJ :) Moving spirtuality forward in abstract ways, don't forget to comment :)
There is no way you are all INFJ’s. If the video is correct😬. I have seen so many comments groups like this that all say stuff like this....😂😂😂
that must be very difficult for you.
Hello, fellow INFJs! I've never met another one in person (that I know of)! But I'm so glad to know I'm not as weird and different as I thought and there are other people who just want everyone to be happy and that there are people out there who live in their own heads 90 % of the time too!
Jessica Moore U can contact me i am a male INFJ
My email q1403q@gmail.com
I don't seem to meet any either. However I just joined a local Meetup group for INFJ's.... looking forward to my first meeting with them.
@@mr.d.572 any news from meetup?
Very bizarre how people want that novelty of being the 1% or from what I've heard - .5% (Male) of the population. Yet I've read about at on of INFJ's who dislike the novelty, and wish they could be more outgoing.
Because being special has both pros and cons. As for the latter; keep being misunderstood, no one's advice working for you, keep clashing with the ideas of the crowds and almost always feeling like you don't belong. I'm not an INFJ, but as a female INTJ I can pretty much understand those people who would gladly swap their type for a more common and accepted one.
We're the ones who are forced to write, and/or speak our thoughts within our own minds. People simply don't understand how we are so emotionally independent.
TheFrozenGargon ....outgoing; can’t do it. won’t do it. ‘do nothing that is of no use’- miyamoto musashi.
being an ‘outgoing’ person has never, ever served me well. i stay home and read. i care for animals. i study. i build my personal fortune. i build my future. dating? forget it. i know the odds of meeting someone like myself.
i keep my circle small & close... tight. no flakes. flakes get dropped, fast.
i see manipulators. they’re everywhere. too many is too much. another reason to stay home. i can deal with a few, but they’re exhausting.
some ppl sparkle. most do not. i’m not great at picking problem ppl out of crowds, usually takes an action or two or a few words so i’ll catch their wavelength. most times i walk away.
goodnight.
I discovered being an INFJ years ago via a quite lengthy test online I took.. but never cared much for it... I put it on the same pedestal as my zodiac sign... interesting but practically useless lol I took the test again 2 times years later last week. All 3 Myers Brigg tests came back as INFJ....
However.... after various emotionally draining situations over the years I began looking more into... "myself"....
For years... since I was young I struggled with extreme depression and indifference to this world and reality... Crying fits in school over "reality not making sense"..... arguments with people whom I loved that thought "I was too confusing" and while I made complete sense, I didnt make sense at the same time.... my emotions contradicted themselves....
I have very few friends.. if not any at all.... I find the only people I talk too for months on end are My mother and my girlfriend.... and thats it.... ive been incredibly lonely yet incredibly okay with that loneliness for years upon years now... I dont like bright lights whatsoever, and honestly I thought I was going fucking crazy for years....
Since I was young I.... its hard to describe... I always felt like I understood ones "intentions"... I always felt that I could understand what someone was going to do or say... or feel... When I was young, I would literally play" games" in my head with people by trying to "influence them" with my emotions.... to feel them.... obsessed with whatever life they had.... at times things would go my way.. and I would cast if off as coincidence.... I would stare at people from afar, and try to influence them.... I was like this at 6-7 years old... and still am in ways...
my entire life I would say to people "I wish you could see what I see....".... I wish I could just touch peoples foreheads and see years upon years worth of thought in a single touch...
Now that ive been doing much more research into myself from last week... im discovering so much about myself.... so many things make sense.... my indifference towards reality.... why I have so close people in my life... the accuracy of the way I think....INFJ's think....
Its a confirmation of something going on for YEARS within my life.... it answers so many "whys"....
Being an INFJ is not something of novelty.... everyone just wants to cling to something special no matter what it is... everyone wants to stand out because their entire life they've felt themselves squatting along in life... no gratifications.... just sitting by as others walk past them..
Everyone wants to be special until being special means living in such despair that its hard to exist... it literally becomes hard to live in such spaces...
I hope you all find the light...
I am super outgoing but intensely private. It's so hard reconciling these two things. Ni helps me avoid situations that can become problematic but that doesn't go over too well with people that don't understand that I'm avoiding them because they are trouble. I'm an LCSW, btw.
I'm an infj and I always struggle with wanting to be close to other people and having all these creative ideas etc., but I really need a lot of time for myself to simply exist without any obligation, in order to think everything through and make sense of what I'm feeling and create new ideas etc. So it kind of leaves me realizing the things I want / feel etc., but because I spend so much time coming to the realization, I rarely act upon these things. Lol.
Apparently, I'm an INFJ, but I don't see it. INFJ's seem to be described as being highly intelligent and something quite rare, and special. I'm not any of those things. Lol.
+Nicholas Grefe Maybe you just have a poor self confidence.
Easy on yourself buddy :p
+Nicholas Grefe Guaranteed this kid is downright brilliant, but like me has no self confidence.
I can see myself as all of these, I think of myself as a wise person, but I'm not intelligent in any school subject.
+Mark Robins exactly, I did notice that in myself as an INFJ. I always felt bad when someone disliked my motives or opinions but at the same time I value independance. This can leave to much annoyance in an arguement where I know and want everyone to have their own ideals even if they clash with mine but at the same time I dislike mine being opposed. I remember 90% of my arguements ending with "This leads to nowhere, you believe your thing and I'll believe mine, let's just stop arguing"
Saying "that must be very difficult for you" to every problem anyone has is the best consoling you can give a person
Not for an INFJ.
Haha, what a good point! Such a simple concept; It's unfortunate we don't see it used often enough.
Jeez..
"That must be very difficult for you"
Maybe not the same words, but certainly a recognition that someone is going through something difficult.
Because we live in problems, i show that well on my channel.
What about good narcissists victims? Struggle with addictions? I strongly relate to INFJ but I think I've become jaded from the amount of times I've been used and treated like crap. I'm not as caring as I used to be and have become even more introverted.
I think it's a back and forth phase, and once you set up a shield "boundaries' it makes your life easier when you actually follow them and act upon them, as if you're programming yourself but in a more sensible way lol. I also get treated like crap because I'm either too nice, or I don't set up proper boundaries between myself and others. Just make it clear, you have a shield just like everyone else, and it's your job to take care of yourself and to analyze whoever is in front of you. I plan to go back to reading quotes daily as they have helped. Take care, and continue to be nice, but only when it is needed, not in an environment where you might be taken advantage of. This personality type is very hard to manage and balance, but with hard work and practice, may we bring back goodness and kindness and also become more balanced/armored individuals so no one can take advantage of us!
sara abdelnaby I agree sara and thank u! I've been working a lot on my 'issues' and have become much better at being assertive and keeping my boundaries in place. It sure is a balancing act isn't it! Can be tough that's for sure. Take care! 🦋
Jen Clark yep yep yep yep!
Me too. It is very hurtful indeed.
Me too and that made me more apathetic. Is like not being me anymore. Feeling so much that now I don't feel nothing. Like my soul is missing
Life's been tough. . .
Yup
JuandelaCruz001 sweet.
Much love, hope a year has helped.
thank 'god' it has..
yep
Being an INFJ is so lonely and frustrating.
I feel you
INTJ: We are the most rarest.
INFJ: How cute.
i sometimes wish i can be more entj since i lead the worker, entj seems more practical than intj
intj
😂
When i didn't know i was an INFJ, i always thought i have some mental issues, bacause i've always been 10 miles away out of the crowd. I describe myself as a realistic person. People don't understand our aspects 😄 The hardest thing for me is to talk to strangers, but not because they are strangers, but because it's hard for me to keep up with the coversation when i'm not interested in the person, and the person can damn tell that. Oops...
Same
Before i even knew i was "infj" i already found that i was very easy to trust but even my best friends sometimes didn't know things about me. Sometimes there are times where it's impossible to not feel horrible about something very small because of so much sacrificing for others.
Infj is pretty rare. But i find them a lot in my life. Its like im gravitating toward them 😂 Im an enfp
@Felix Edbert
Because INFJs mainly are compatible or compliments the ENFPs. They make good mates. Do your research. Its true.
I'm an INFJ the person I feel the most at home and relaxed with is an ENFP. She's also very unexpected and funny, and kind. I think our two types compliment eachother very well :D
The legendary ENFP 0.0 -INFJ
Chances are low you've never met an ENFP, as they're extremely common
It's the infj's natural partner
i am a infj and when I hear all this in video that felt longer than it actually is, I started to feel really emotional almost sad but happy. when you hear all these about your being it weighs heavy on my heart
yesterday I made personality test and I ended up as INFJ. Everything is correct! In addition about that we don't take care about ourselves as to the others, because of that I have lower picture about myslef. but when I have read more about INFJs I felt and better about myself :) now I see how special we are :)
I felt and feel*
Same Here i took the test as well and got INFJ,im glad im not alone
I'm an INFJ and I think the hardest part is feeling misunderstood. People often think I'm stuck up and cold, no matter how nice I try to be, simply because I'm quiet and very reserved. Sometimes I think people assume this because of my phenotype and style (which probably plays a part), but I think a lot of it has to do with me being incredibly introverted and just needing a lot of alone time.
yes this is accurate!!!
Simone Amato Mason do you like monograms?
I can relate on that! I don’t know how many times I’ve been told that I look mad and people always make fun of me saying that people are scared of me because I look pissed off all the time..... I don’t think people realize how much if hurts our feelings when they say things like that because we’re usually very kind and caring people once you get to know us we just don’t open up to everyone
People think me as ill mental boy/dumb because I don't talk in their presence
@@karag2584 I can so relate! People are always asking me 'what's the matter/what am I angry about?' and it's inevitably that I'm just in my head and distracted.
I want to have an INFJ friend!!
I don't think you do. We're complicated. :(
Yeah, we're complicated, but we're really great and loyal friends. If you take the time and effort to get to know one of us, you'll have a true friend, probably for life. Someone there always to talk to and confide in. I've had a good best friend since I was little, and we've been the best of friends for years. :) She is my one only really good friend in my life that I feel blessed to have, and don't know what I would do without a good friend like her. I would really feel lonely, more than I do already just from feeling like a weirdo misfit all the time :/ ... Not sure if she is INFP or INFJ like me....we share so much in common, but she typed as INFP the first time when taking a test, and then INFJ when she took it again. But I'm thinking she's more an INFP
+Just anobody Depends on the person who wants to be friends with an INFJ. I've always had a hard time trying to connect to others (no wonder - I'm an INTJ) but the person I would call my best friend, the one with whom I can discuss pretty much anything and don't feel bad/vulnerable about is actually an INFJ. Sure, she's not easy to understand sometimes, but not impossible either. It's worth trying in my opinion. But this is an INTJ perspective, I'm not sure how other types perceive the challenges of being friends with an INFJ. How is your experience? Do you have close friends that put up with your so-called complicatedness? :)
You're fully welcome come visit my channel, and tell me if you're interested in the subject matter. :)
Am i a INFJ?
Hey similar sounding guy i think about being a INTJ, INTP, and ENTP you too?
Checkout my channel, tell me if you spiritually think alike?
I really love these "xxxx in Five Minutes" videos. Please continue to make them and maybe do one for ENFP next!
Not sure if this is important but gonna throw it out there. I'm an INTJ and INFJ is one of my favorite types to deal with.
INTJs are my best friends.
I'm infj and my bf is intj. It's pretty cool.
Anthony Ellis I admire intj’s so much I really enjoy their presence because being around them helps me calm my emotions and kinda feel less like an emotional mess
Very Interesting. INFJ Here.
I'm currently building a house for an INTJ homeowner. I admire how sharp he is, loves to bend the rules, and is quick to act on, what most people consider tough decisions. He is sooo straight to the point in everything he does. So far we have made a great team. Between our two personalities, we both know how different we view things, but the same time just make things work seamlessly. I envy how sharp your minds are with making very well though out decisions. Really nothing bad to say. INTJ's do seem like their ability to trust in their logic a little too heavily, might hinder them a little bit. Maybe bring a bit of a stubborn side; but I believe it's usually outweighed by how thorough they usually are.
I'm an infj and I've never met an infj boy :( lol that's my dream
wassup... INFJ here
+The Neighbor Slayer hiiii :) haha I bet you're really cool
+Juliet Diaz I've been told that over the years sure... right now I'm comparing personality types with two females at 1:22am, then we're going to have a threesome. enfp+enfj+infj=3some apparently lmao
+Juliet Diaz
seriously I just did... but it's been a thing going on for a few months now, point is... I was making a funny of the meshing of personality types.
It's always eventful, as I'm sure you could imagine ;)
#infjdarkside
+Juliet Diaz it's more of an enfp thing I think, as the enfp in our triad has initiated everything lol
“You’re just overanalyzing everything, chill.”
Me (An INFJ-T Type):
(My Mind)
“Do you have any idea how many endings to this conversation I’ve conjured up just during that one sentence? Unfortunately for you, you just got the most negative out of those outcomes.”
(What I actually end up saying)
“Uhhhhhhhhh - aight. That’s cool.”
As INFJ I struggle a lot with meeting new people, making new friends. I have super high standards for myself but also for those that I share my energy with, so unless someone really clicks I don't want to spend my energy on them, and that sucks, because I feel kind of lonely, misuderstood and unappreciated. I want to connect with people and I want friends, but finding genuine people that I really connect with seems super hard and takes a lot of effort and I feel just discouraged. But when I do have a great relationship with someone, I tend to be the more attached one, the one that keeps it together, the one that cares more. Can anyone relate?
Oh, yes, I can relate.
i can relate.
Thank you for the most thorough and accurate summary of INFJ on the internet.
i love that INFJs are so rare, yet these videos are so popular because we never really feel sure that we are an INFJ, and just need to be sure
I wish i weren't tested as INFJ. It gives me f***in' migraine.
Same
I have taken the 16 personalities test 3 times over the past 3 years (and countless others on different sites and in books etc) and each time have gotten INFJ (or INFJ-T)... It makes me pretty proud to be part of that 1%.
But what annoys me, is those who say they are an INFJ type, and aren't. I get it, it's a unique type and its exciting to be different than others, but why not share with the world your ACTUAL personality type? That way, you can have actual conversations with people who are REALLY like you, instead of pretending and therefore learning nothing about yourself.
I don't know, it just seems pointless to me. I love talking to REAL INFJs and getting to compare our lives and feelings, because we really are similar. The people who are pretending are missing out on that.
okay, rant over :))
Im a real INFJ and I think it really sucks alot of the time! I'd gladly switch and be an ES type, I think life would be a whole lot easier.. but alas.. I cannot..
Yes definitively ES types lifes are far easier
Im sure they are!
Hey, an enfp here. Wow reading all these comments is so interesting. I don’t really know any infjs so its interesting hearing how yall think. It is so facinating seeing the similarities that us two personality types have but also the differences and things i admire about you guys :) You guys just seem like such great genuine types of people so I hope that ill get to meet an infj one day
As an ENFP I just want to say I love you guys & find you valuable & love the conversations our two types have. 😎
I only just discovered this personality system a few hours ago and it amazed me the myers briggs test is so accurate it's like it read me like a book still can't believe I'm a infj
Come to my channel INFJ to INFJ and judge the activities structuring of everything :)
***** Well when you visit i'll stop spamming. :p ;) lol seriously, a couple INFJ's said my channel os there get together paradise, i'm a non-profit cultural channel man. :)
Stumbled upon this video without ever hearing about this before. Describes me almost 100%
To all the infjs like me ....
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL 💜
Bhawna Singh thank you❣️
this sounds like me alright, I want everyone to live their best, to make earth to become idealistic heaven together joining forces.
my boss for my internship says i have a heart and a drive but i am not able to do certain things v well. we r tangled in our emotions and internal mind, these emotions can be really helpful but at the same time it can hinder our progress its blessing and a curse
Agreed
I recently found the personality test and believe I am an INFJ-A. I am 20 years old and the most helpful kid in the family, or the "doormat" by other relatives and people, as well as the most misunderstood by everyone in the family because I am always experimenting with new ideas and am the go-to person when in need. Six months ago, my family discovered that I have a friend with whom I communicate. My siblings began to celebrate for me, but internally I know they were laughing at me. When I hang out with small groups of people, I appear to be an energetic extrovert until my therapy service ends and I become drained from it. Because my target group is an introvert like me, it becomes boring and awkward. So, I start a deep relevant topic that is turned into a debate in which I agree with everything they say but they disagree with my nuances as INFJ to further help them elaborate their points and I am misunderstood and wrongfully labeled. The other people believe they have won the argument, but I am thinking internally that I should have let them suffer in awkwardness and boredom because I have lot of fun stuff going on my mind. I think it is critical to understand who you are so that you can suffer less and stop believing there is something wrong with you. By the way, Quilbot is what I use to paraphrase my words so that I can be understood. I'll end here, thank you for reading, and I hope you find some comfort, my fellow INFJs.
One thing I’d be interested to see if other INFJs have experienced is in regards to conversations.
Personally, I’m always conflicted when I’m having a conversation because more often than not, I will have an intense opinion or viewpoint that I feel very strongly about. But I’m always worried about bringing it up because I know if I don’t explain my reasoning convincingly, people will view my argument as holding no water or not valid. But the problem is that I often times have INTENSE opinions and feelings that I just....can’t explain or elaborate on. And as a result I run the risk of losing the argument even if I might be right. I definitely feel like I’m in the right, but I can’t be convincing enough, so people write me off like I’ve lost the argument, which sucks more than anything in the world.
TLDR: I want to convince people to my viewpoint because I view it as “right” or morally correct, but since I lack the conversational skills to be persuasive, people are not convinced to come over to my way of thinking, which frustrates me greatly because I feel like I should be listened to even if I can’t articulate why my point is superior.
I want people to agree with me without having the ability to convince them to do so.
Why do you communicate?
To demonstrate that you’re right?
To have a particular thing done?
To socialise?
To waste some time?
To seek information?
To vent?
You say you want to ‘convince’ people. I have bad news for you. The majority of people don’t think, pleased as they are with having opinions they’ve uncritically ingurgitated from those who know how to manipulate them. Of course, you could learn how to manipulate them ‘for their own good’ and lead them like animals down the garden path.
I am not interested in being a shepherdesses. I want to live in a society with peers who at least make an effort to think for themselves, not amongst sheep. So, me being blunt (after many unsuccessful attempts at being diplomatic) is a sign of respect, actually. The purpose never justifies the means. Never- ever. Call me whatever under the sun- I have made up my mind and nothing will change that. A life without (self-) respect and morality is nothing. Call me ‘idealistic’, ‘autistic’, ‘unintegrated’, ‘naive’, ‘immature’ 🤷🏻♀️ Of course, I do care and feeling rejected hurts like hell, but NO. Oh, no. 😄
So, this is what I think. You choose what to think and do. Oh, another thing. If you are right (proven with facts, not rhetorical devices) does it matter that everyone else think you’re wrong?… If not only what you say is right, but also, your intention is right, I’d say just express it. Nicely at first, but if need be, as intensely as you can. They won’t like you, but they will (secretly- because they’re too proud 😄) respect you (and, sometimes, they will do what you showed them, when you can’t see them 😉). If they don’t see it, accept it, and/or do it, well… it’s their choice and loss, but you will have done your duty to them and yourself.
INFJ female 💃🏾☺🙈❤
KKS369(",) Boop -INFJ
KKS369(",) same
KKS369(",) same
Same INFJ - T❤️
Me ENTP, ur perfect match.
I love INFJ's I'm an ENFP 🤗🌌🖤👾💻🥞🥞🥞
As an INFJ, when my friends gave me presents for birthday the most common they would say is "arent you happy?" "My present is suitable for you right? Why are you so silent?"
It's so hard to show my happiness, the warmth and fuzziness I feel in my heart to the world. I would remember in silent details of that happy day and forever keep in my mind, the happiness around me feels so good, Im probably basking in the atmosphere. I'm sorry if that doesn't make sense but yea, my most happy state is when I silently smile and stare at my love ones enjoying themselves.
I've heard things like, "you're so deep," "you're very quiet," and "I feel like I can come to you for anything," my whole adolescent life and into my adult life. It's been a strange kind of existence, but hearing things like this video helps me to frame the things that I do. Every time I've taken the Myers-Briggs test, INFJ is always my result. And I don't think that that it's a bad thing.
i'm infp and i feel like the only type who understands me is infj. they are even better than enfjs! love you guys
this is so accurate and gives an insight into why I do things sometimes! But my dreams are for the unity of the whole world, not just one person, which is probably why my test results came out with INFJ and ENFJ..!
You can come visit my channel, i think to be the same NFJ or ENFJ. :)
My beautiful INFJS, you are loved and precious in this world, your ideas are valued and cherished ❤️
- your fellow ENFPs
I am one of the INFJs, and I am aware of it. Not only what is described in this video fits my overall well-being. I'm still having other conflicts here and there and I am also still a teenager, which also adds up to the large range of confusion within my personality. Thank you for this video, I love it!!
I hope you all are having a nice day/night! If not, I wish you all a good thing to happen to you very soon and I hope that thing makes you feel great again. ^^
Is it possible to be a mix of two personality types? I see parts of myself in INFP and INFJ, but neither to the full extent
I keep going back and forth between infp and infj, figuring out which one fits me most.
Hello! ENFP here! I think INFJs are amazing, although often misunderstood unfortunately, so I just want to say I appreciate you! Some of my most treasured friendships are with INFJs. (Also I think an INFJ would make a great life partner for this weirdo ENFP, haha)
I was really debating whether I'm actually an INFJ(for the 20th time) but this video nails me to a T. Especially the part about seeming aloof to those not close to me or seeming enigmatic and kind. People often assume 1 of 2 things about me: either that I'm a complete mystery to them even if I've shared things with them, some may even say I'm cold and unfeeling. But many people who know me either mildly or intimately say I'm an incredibly kind person and that I'm definitely empathic(which INFJs are often called empaths). I often share very little with people beyond surface level things like that I like playing video games or my positions on politics.
“Don’t take it so personally.”
Me (An INFJ):
“WellifyousayitlikethatthenIABSOLUTELYWILLTAKEITPERSONALLY.”
Plot twist: I am an INFJ who loves being alone and one on one with others (not crowds), but when I see the world with problems, I become an ENJF in order to talk about my inner thoughts and observations loudly enough for people to hear on youtube. This confusing type of switch from introvert to extrovert for certain situations only, is an "ambirvert."
Actually, our shadow functions are those of an ENFP, not ENFJ.
why this video seems longer than it is ?
feras sait Information heavy.
2:10 That's not really correct, such as some other parts of the video. But don't get me wrong the video was really good in my opinion. i am an INFJ, and one thing about "us" is that "we" are not all fluffy and warm as the MBTI community see "us". Being typed as an INFJ means that you are in the borderland of every characteristic. That means, that you can't be direct about something so specify such as intellectual interest regarding INFJ's, because "we" are completely particular beings. None of "us" presents some sort of "consistency", i have a lot of interest on science because i want to know how those stuff works and i don't really aim on doing something 100% meaningful. I would say that it is 30% curiosity, 30% personal interest, 40% meaningful to society. Yes, a great part of the reasons of pursuing science is meaning (in any sort) but the point is, when addressing INFJ's interests, the more direct you are, the more wrong you are. "We" are abstract, particular beings, set apart from the rest of the world, even "our own kind". So yea, sorry for the long post but be careful when addressing INFJ personal world and interesting.
Wow, this is really me. i had little faith about personality tests, but this one hit every point on the nose. there are lots of things where i thought my responses were wrong, and i needed to change... but now i see that it's just me being myself. that's enough for me. it's so awesome to see all of my infj friends in the comments. let's keep rocking the world our way!
I first discovered I’m an INFJ about half a year ago and I still can’t believe there are so many people out there like me!
This video really enlighted me and just want to share some things about me... One thing that makes me feel down about myself is that i am too self conscious and when, for example, i am working i give so much of me to that workplace that if it feels that i did something wrong about me and im not giving all of myself to it because i just feel like a different person and i dont fit in society... I work as a waiter and being an introvert person sometimes it feels too draining while i talk with others. What should i do to better myself. Thank you for this video and i hope everyone in this comment section feels like they are not alone and they are in some way special and that sometimes different is good :）
ENFP here and would love to meet INFJs 🙂
Infj with an enfp little sister, we get along (unless sibling crap happens) and I wouldn't have it any other way.
My jaw literally dropped from how relatable this video was. Still I think this personality type is probably too rare for me to have
I am an INFJ and my whole channel is about the mission to help unify and help others reach understanding and peace. This video is truth!
my infj brothers and sisters i love you
ok so I took the test as honest as possible and according to it im an INFJ and I do relate to alot of this..but i ain't that soft (no offense ) what I'm trying to say is that "I'm no saint" ..I do have tons of epiphanies and I am pretty reclusive..(only allow certain ppl in my deep thoughts)..and do think that everyone has potential to do whatever they want in life but I don't care if ppl understand me or not ..bc honestly I don't even understand myself or who I am.. like... I just accept the fact that I'm like this and just try to live life to the max..and I don't believe only like 2.5% of the world is INFJ in fact I believe we all have this personalityy deep somewhere inside of us...ppl just express this personality differently in their own way..everybody is unique in their own way and I'm not 2.5% of the world but only 1 vs the rest of the world..just like everybody else....different....unique
btw thanks for taking your precious time to read this comment..ik it's long..
Holy shit 2:24 got too real
Yes! Lol
INFJ here and this is very true for me. I'm majoring in Clinical Psychology and I enjoy working with people and bringing my ideas to others to benefit society as a whole.
Not too long ago I learned about The Myer-Briggs personality indiciator, and I recently learned that I am an INFJ.
It was a surreal experience, reading the description that described me in ways that I myself rarely acknowledged but were very true with me. I feel like I understand myself a lot more now.
The first step once you confirmed you are INFJ is realizing you're not a mistake!
The second step is to enrich the life of others, through our obervations, love and insights, deductions and analysis and counseling etc. Our difference gives us a role only we can fullfill the way we do!
We might not change this world, but at least we can change and bless the life of those nearest to us - even if it's just a bit.
It's not useless! We are not useless! We are here for a reason! Each of us has unique given gifts and strengths (no matter the personality type.) With our gifts we can decide whether we want to be a blessing or a curse for others. Everyone has the potential for both, but the choice is solely up to us alone! To you! To ONLY YOU!
Be the peace you seek and the friend you want! Be kind, for everyone is fighting a hard battle you know absolutely nothing about!
Spread the love and the help you want to receive and god or the universe will bless your efforts and yourself as a result! You will reap what you sow for sure. This I believe.
INFJ over and out~
Thanks!
I'm an INTP and love INFJs. I feel like we're so similar.
Is there any way to know for sure if I'm an INFJ? Some tests say INFP, some INFJ, and can relate to both...
+atidiaX 16personalities.com is really good at giving good descriptions and having an accurate test.
+atidiaX I had the same question! This article helped me figure it out - www.personalityhacker.com/infp-vs-infj/
read both, :)
If its that close, you should look into the videos and descriptions of INFP and INFJ.
a little late, but the MBTI is more about cognitive functions, not the 4 letters. Look up the cognitive functions of INFP&INFJ and you’ll see they are extremely different, though they share 3 of the same letters.
I don't know what type I am. I got INTJ once but I got INFJ twice. I'm 100% introvert (not an extroverted introvert), I don't like to show or talk about feelings and emotions even if I'm always overwhelmed, I don't have any friends because I prefer being alone, don't like talking to people at all (always quiet, only talk if I have to) and I'm an anxious introvert, but I would like to have one best friend with similar interests than a small group of people. I'm an introvert but I'm also scared about letting people in to get to know myself, even family. I have felt different from others my whole life and have always been a loner. I'm not a cold person because I do take peoples feelings and emotions in consideration but I like to keep to myself and I'm kind of distant. I relate to both INTJ and INFJ. I'm so lost. I'm a female if that even matter.
Perfect! Well written & helpful awesome video. Truthful & honest!
Thank you so much look forward for more intuitive learning tools!
I'm an INFP, tho I can relate with the INFJs, too. I think we'll get along well.
this describes me perfectly...
should there be a conection between INFJ and ENFJ?
just curious, i'm ENFJ btw.
Am i similar to you ENFJ or i'm INFJ? Check my channel for spiritual cultural help. :)
Probably yes. They share the same functions, only in a bit different order. Both use Fe for communicating with others and Ni for absorbing information. My guess is that they could have a very strong connection. :)
We'reAllLivingInHetalia Isn't type relative to the final outcome and not the current state of being? Which always becomes confusing, to never come off hypocritical to find the truth. Does anyone feel like dying with their harsh criticism in thoughts?
i’ve never felt so understood! i feel like i’m always searching for something and day to day tasks seem frivolous. trudging through a 9-5 that i hate feels so pointless and wasteful in the grand scheme of the universe. i want to find a place where i fit in and let my soul thrive in it.
i know it sounds like any personality type would agree, but i think we just get it on a different level.
Tax Accountant INFJ here. Don’t ask me how it happened.
I've never found a more exact description of an INFJ than this...
I personally like having conversations but only if I feel I can trust that person or if I genuinely am interested on the topic, otherwise I just keep quiet and listen to what they say, which it does not bother me really; I like listening others and get to ask them questions. I sometimes feel that I am interrogating when I am having coversations though...
I feel like INFJs are walking contradictions, it feels like everything is in the middle and that, honestly, can be frustrating. Everything you do and think molds to the situation, and most of the time you do consider what others might feel or think about your decisions.
Do ESTPs in 5 minutes! (INFJs are seriously awesome.)