INFJs' sensitivity means they have a deep appreciation for beauty and the arts. They can be moved to tears by music, art, theatre, books, films, food or flowers. INFJs are very aware of other people's moods and feelings and can feel them themselves, leading them to be exhausted.
I am INTP-A and I am just like this. People are baffled when I get too passionate over a song, an art etc. But then again we, INTPs are not a fan of being limited to a personality type so we don’t actually conform to MBTI
INFJ's can not only see through people - we can see through veneers in just about every situation, including people's motives and agendas. We sit back and look at the big picture.
NWO coming next fall before Elections Oligarchs do not want Trump in control regardless if he wins or not... One World Government coming with a One World Leader-the Mahdi AC Another Christ this one false the Orthodox Jews still waiting for the 1st Messiah they missed out on Jesus Christ and will be deceived by the false messiah the Mahdi... church finally going home this Spring Matthew 24:32,33 Summer is near Hes right at the door.
This is exactly what happened with my verbally abuse sister... I complete eviscerated her. Very little remorse from my side. It needed to be said before I bl8cked all avenues for an additional verbally abusive response from her. A bit of sadness w a greater sense of relief.
Anyone find that people out of nowhere decide you are an enemy and want to bring you down in very deliberate and often emotionally violent ways? I've had people randomly seek out to cause me pain and I've never quite understood it. It's super weird because I hate confrontation and conflict, but no matter how much of a hermit I try to be, lately there's always some random person who decides they are 'against me.'
Unbelievably so, and I've also figured out the reason why is we trigger them to reflect and boom!! Nuclear denial of true self and rage projected unto us, the mirror. Let them be.
It's the worst when it's a boss or teacher. Nowhere to hide! It's as if they're mad that you exist. We challenge their facade just by being us. They know we can destroy them so they launch a preemptive attack.
Yes, this has occurred throughout my blessed life. I say blessed because true or better yet, mature INFJ possess the understanding, foresight, restraint and skill to navigate the shadow projections of those who are triggered by their exposed reflection.
Real life example: I told my neighbor, "The reason why you drink alcohol isn't bec you are an alcoholic. It is only bec you missed your dad who you saw drank on a daily basis." My neighbor cried & stayed silent for a while after I told him this. Dec last year, he quit drinking. Nobody believed he would ever stop drinking before this.
I can smell their intentions, manipulations and lies long before they open their mouth. And they call me crazy, that it's "all in your head, you're imagining things". And it hurts every single time. That's why my respect is earned.
We're also chameleons. We can play the game, but we don't need or actually care about it. People stuck in keeping up appearances often react badly when the INFJ just walks away because the game is no longer interesting.
With all the chaos going on in the world, I would love to have a conversation with a mature INFJ who understands the truth. When all the dots keep connecting and the puzzle pieces keep coming together, it all makes sense to me. I am the only one who wanted to talk about the elephant in the room. Speaking truth scares people and causes them to avoid you. Sadly, it has led to a life of isolation. God bless
@@paulivanlara1050 Nice. If you are a believer, then there is a good chance that we will at least meet in Heaven. Time is running out. God bless you and your family
As an INFJ that grew up in a dysfunctional home I am very sensitive to other's pain -- which is why I will never say the really hurtful things I know about a person when I have a door slam. This is where Stoicism fits so well with being an INFJ.
@@INFJcircle Negative politeness is when we shut up in order not to hurt someone's feelings. Problems is - this way abusers keep on abusing others and they interpret our silence as green light to continue with mobbing and bullying. It is real problem when their target is someone with suicidal idealizations and this ends up as murder actually - which abusers will never end up in jail for - unless there is a note explaining the reasons.
@@ranc1977 It's not "negative politeness". It is standing in your integrity and NOT behaving the same as the bully. It is recognizing that the bully DOES NOT CARE what you have to say. It is understanding that the best option is to move on; to completely remove this person and the feelings you have about them from your life. As a person able to do this there will be no suicidal ideation -- there will be a person who has recognized the bully for what they are and will have a newfound strength to get along without them. At least that has been my experience. 💜
@@Candyliz2003 First of all, many people are not able to move on - because of low finances, elderly or children , contracts and property or lack of visa. What I am talking about suicidal idealizations are the future victims and targets which bullies will eventually abuse in their lives. All bullies are bullies because someone strong in authority never confronted them with their wrongdoings - and all people were protecting their peace - and this way serial killers and psychopaths walk away hands free from their crimes - since nobody screams at them that they are abnormal and predators.
@@ranc1977 I understand and empathize with the situations you describe. I was in 2 brutally violent marriages -- they were succeeding chapters of the violent house I grew up in -- they were not "easy" to extricate myself from and friends and family were frustrated with me for not leaving sooner (children, lack of finances). I know *very* well the difficulties one can face - including the push-back from those who believe you should remain. Re psychopaths and serial killers: I think you've thrown the impossible into this discussion. While there is truth that some people will keep at their bad behavior as long as they get away with it (Trump), psychotic individuals (and narcissists) don't care what you think or say and will do what they want to regardless of opinion or law.
I absolutely refuse the statement that “I intimidate others.” NO. Others are intimidated by me, and that’s on them! I am just going about my life, and they need to own their responses and deal with them without assigning the blame to me.
Being able to tell people what they are thinking before they think about it is both a blessing & a curse. As an INFJ, I tend to scare people away. They think you stalk them when all you said was the truth.
I love seeing videos from other INFJs, it is a small group and may not have as many videos or followers... But you still want to help other INFJs and I adore that
Recently, I've meet another INFJ, and I cought her sayin something insensitive in a various ocasions. It was shocking to realize I can appear insensitive too, despite being extreemly considered. Turns out she meant something different from what I have imagined. And if two INFJ's can not understand each other, I can imagine how difficult it is for other personality types to understand us. Your channel truely helps reflect on ourselves, and much needed especially for our personality type.
This helped me realise when I have fought for the truth without compromising my principles and not EVER backing down, every single one of the abusive individuals stopped attacking me in their tracks, rolled over and played victim. Every. Single. One. They realise I am relentless and decide to play other strategies like 'ruining' my reputation with other people and becoming victims. I am so proud of myself and will happily embrace the fact that even though I am a soft spoken, slight and feminine woman, I am intimidating!
Absolutely. I know what you mean. It’s like they try the bully tactic, then if it doesn’t work they just switch to another. Exhausting. Stay strong and keep your boundaries sure and firm! Jay
This is so true for me too. A few years ago when i was still working a day job, i was constantly made fun of by an older lady in our team. 2 years in, during our company's Halloween party she decided to openly joke suggestively about me being dressed up and down as Tinkerbell by a male coworker, i finally had to draw the line and pointed out to our team leader that we agreed not to continue if she ever pulls another sexual innuendo stunt (which sadly happens too often). Thankfully there were other coworkers preparing around as this older lady starts to gaslight me, one of them was the HR. A month later i heard she "willingly" resigns. I was the only team member she didn't invite on her going-away party 😂 The cherry on top is seeing the look on her face as i hug one of my friendly and respectful lady co-workers (not a team member) before she leaves the building for another country. I think she couldn't believe that i would have actual meaningful friendships in the company for such a short period of time unlike her who kept getting in odd superficial and unprofessional behaviors against co-workers. She always seem to start fights like how someone would try to be a pick-me choose-me over something so incredibly stupid.
I needed this. The last 4 years has been especially hard for me. I feel like everyone is lying to me and nothing makes sense. My friends hate it when I try to talk about current events and the future. I don’t want to do what everyone else is doing.
Same here. A friend since college in 1970 became hateful recently when I told her I see the US will be run by a dictator, maybe as soon as 2025 no matter which political party is in power. Her response was instantly that the vaccine mandates were good.
I know the feeling, it’s unbelievable, but many people want to be lied to. I have chosen to not try to convince friends and family about the inconsistencies of our current generation, it’s not my job. My focus is on living my best life while I can, and not get distracted by the tomfoolery.
Totally relate the past few years have been rough! As INFJ I am very intuitive and I try to use it to help myself and others but it’s a blessing and a curse!
Long comment: The purpose of being here is to completely accept people as they ARE, not how one wishes they could be. And Love them exactly where they are in their travels or place in life. Even strangers We like to understand the puzzle but people hide pieces of themselves… Also don’t mistake your brain for the beautiful soul behind THAT brain. The brain is only a tool in the toolbox… not everything different needs to be picked apart. Rather celebrated for its uniqueness, including others The Thoughts themselves, need to be exposed for their oddness, not the world we are “thinking” about. NEVER take your thoughts as anything other than superficial, then you miss a whole world going on outiside of those thoughts…. On an end “thought”… be open to the world outside of your brain/thought process. that’s when the magic happens. There is zero magic in our thoughts though our brains would have us believe differently. Projection of our own shadow is truly believing the issue is “out there”…. Because we often feel other’s projections as well as our own. None of it really matters. Theirs OR ours Have a peaceful life. It’s why we are here.
Re: lies and deception "freak us out" more than other personality types. That is spot-on, Sir! How did you EVER put all these puzzle pieces together so aptly? Astonishing! Thank you.
So far the most indepth, simple and succinct INFJ channel I have found. I can swap others, but Jay, always got to listen to him cause I know there is something I can gain. And I know he covers it all.
Groups of people do this, alot of them is because they tok psychology 101 and realise how objective psychology is, and how easy it is to ceeate and invent, in psychology so they play with the knowledge they where given . Infj is made up whether it fits you or not. It dont mean a damn thing, colerique does, sociopath does, anxious does, injf mtbi sigma.. 0 meaning all msde up all bullshit dellusion from a spinn off desceiption to something that close ressemble the targeted msrket. Trust me .. its part of that big propaganda machien to dumb ya down
This is exactly true. Anyone else also have an extremely sensitive nervous system? I can feel it in body so much that I’m learning to protect myself. I get physically sick sometimes from others not even bad people just sick people. It’s intense. It’s honestly too much ❤ love and light to all
and look into things which over stimulate your nerves - like garlic, coffee, tobacco, alcohol and remove them from your diet if you can. Its a massive challenge mate, but you just have to develop the superpower and alchemise/transmute (create) the energy into something - whether it be helping others (like a podcast or YT channel - if you are ready for this part of the journey), or doing a physical sport like boxing. Anything to turn that energy into a creative force which either aids in making you physically more capable, strong and prepared to help others (eg Boxing); or, anything creative which you resonate with which is for others: like cooking an amazing meal, writing songs, painting, volunteering at the homeless shelter - its all creating joy and happiness and hope for those who have little - and at the same time, you are clearing your energy in a constructive, selfless manner - which is key for transmutation. If you hold in, it will turn toxic - which means the opposite of creation, destruction. The frustration will build up in you and you will either start to destroy yourself (consciously or subconsciously) via self destructive habits (drugs, sex, laziness); or, you will hold them inside which will lead to disease - OR, you may project that destructive energy outwardly onto others around you - which makes us feel good initially, but it always finds it's way back to us 10 fold. So learning how to transmute this energy, and then giving yourself the time and space to allow this alchemy to take place, is vital in maintaining your spiritual and mental health.
Innocent until proven guilty is spot on. Because of this approach I basically always enter a situation with optimism and openness, unless of course, there is something about the individual that triggers a gut instinct from the start. It's the openness and optimism that can reveal what's currently going on with the individual. Many people are really thrown by the openness. They either don't trust it or they think it's something they can take advantage of. Typically, it's one of those two.
Your videos just saved my marriage! My husband was very mad at me for going against the herd. He felt betrayed. With your videos I could finally express to him what I now realized I am and how I function. He had no idea and he was so grateful I explained it to him. You really are amazing. Thank you AGAIN
This is so great to hear! Sometimes it’s so tough to tell others how we function. I’m glad the videos helped you and thank you for letting me know. Means a lot to me. Jay
My ex-boyfriend of 7 years and my mother got together and had an "intervention" where they told me the words I used were too big and the conversations I had were "too much" so they had me tone down my vocabulary and simplify my sentences so "regular" people could understand me better.... I had another boyfriend before this who used a dictionary to look up words when we would talk. I gave him an A for effort on that. 😅
Omg that was close to what happened to me. Not exactly but close. My ex fiancée was a journalist… a reporter and an anchor and after I broke it off, he said I’d always intimidated him. He was far from stupid, but it was hard to get into deep conversations with him. We loved long drives and exploring new areas, but often except for talking about the scenery, the conversations were limited due to my ability to tell his unease if I brought up subjects too “deep” for him.
@casssmith2610 I hear that. Some people can't handle anything deeper than surface level conversations. My mom does that a lot... Anything more than two sentences out of me, and she starts whining about how I'm putting her to sleep or boring her 🙄
I applaud my best friend, whenever he's Hung up on a word, he'll put his hand up "for the people at home, what does that mean?" My parents bought new dictionaries when I was in middle school. It was the only books I ever saw them buy.
Wow wtf!!!! Intervention??? Thank you for sharing this because I actually had a mental breakdown from always watering myself down, idc anymore I’m gonna be my best! That’s absolutely ridiculous! Were great and were meant to be fuck that no faking
I've only recently found out I'm an INFJ. Well, then that explains it. I've been called intense, intimidating, and mysterious. I can smell people's BS miles away and don't waste a second to be in their company. I'm a great listener that's why people confide to me easily but it's always hard for me to open up with others. It takes a long time before I can fully trust someone.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told someone was afraid of me. It used to make me sad but not anymore. It can even be helpful sometimes in protecting my family.
Same here! I never understood what was so scary about me😊. I learned not to care and it indeed helped me to protect my kids and myself. A true mama bear 😂.
Many people have told my mom they are scared of me not just friends who told me but family and her friends tell her that the way I think is way too ahead for them to understand and they are scared bc I say things in a logical way or even In a psychopathic way to people I dislike or just normal logical things. For example: I told my mom that if there wasn't any food in the apocalypse that I would use the people around as a food source the way I see it is that getting killed or surviving till the end. Everyone is part of the food chain and everyone gets eaten or killed at some point in life. Sure not saying killing someone for fun is okay but if it's self-defense or for food I see it as normal.
These videos are so spot on for INFJs. They are actually comforting & help me to feel relief knowing that I actually “fit in” with others who have these personality types.
I'm 22 Years Old Male INFJ currently in Last Semester of my Degree. A few months ago I heard about MBTI in random podcast later on, i searched it and the rest is history😂, i ardently consumed so much content uncountable videos, blogs, quora answers etc. Here are my Golden Nuggets : INFJ:4 FUNCTION STACKS 1) Introverted Intuition 2) Extroverted Sensing 3) Introverted Thinking 4) Extroverted Feeling Understand them deeply! • Future Focused , Creative, Info Junkie about the topic that are curious to us, Deep, insightful , Empathetic, Visionary, Caring, Absorb others Feelings, Old souls, Quest for learning, Putting your feet in other person shoes, Crave Meaning, Big Picture thinking, Pattern analyzer, Make Connection in seemingly unconnected things, Good writing than speaking, Chameleons, Need Alone Time to recharge, sensitive to criticism, Private & standoffish , Feel unfit in group setting, like one or one ( small group setting), exhausted by Large crowds, Noises and flashlights, Self critical, Set high standards, Struggle in Small Talk, Mysterious, Have idealism, Abstract thinkers, Seeing beyond the obvious, Strong Gut Feeling which make them good future anticipator, Making world better place, Keenly Analyze body language subtle cues and voice tone of others, Soul Crushing Stare, Minimalistic, Dislike Superficiality & show-off, Avoid conflict Seeking harmony, Love Reading, Good with language, Doorslam Others( means part from others suddenly without explaining them as if they don't exist), Emotionally sensitive but high pain tolerance/resilient, High in introspective/contemplating/Reflecting Energy or cerebral power but limited Physical energy. U might have interest in Psychology, Philosophy, Theology. Weaknesses : UnHealthy Perfectionism (All or none approach, Done is better than Perfect ) Over Planning & Procrastination ( Due to Perfectionism ,u Feared a lot from Failure that u don't even try which leads to procrastination. U have strong urge to control all the variables of future to avoid surprises as a little bit changing in your expected future can pivot you to dismiss your plan. Avoid Over planning just set priorities ) Overthinking/Other Analyzing Ni-Ti Loop ( Do some sensory Concrete Stuff e.g walking, playing etc as we lack in our 4th function extrovert sensing, be more spontaneous and LIVE In Present moment " ) Overwhelm/Burnout ( Come out of your comfort zone but don't overwhelm yourself , Set healthy boundaries, Start saying No, First Take care of your Health & needs then others) We lack in Action Parts due to our shadow function 'Extrovert Sensing' which deals with real concrete sensory world, and due to introverted intuition we are so much in our heads all the time ,we make up so much in our heads that we think vision and only vision gonna leads us to results. Its deception to yourself, wake up to reality. Action is the Antidote! Action-> Motivation -> Action...... Growth Journey could be slow in beginning as compare to others but as the time passes you would surpass others, Infjs have unique style of learning others are learning 2×2 = 4 but we are learning multiplication and forming deep insights in our brain that we can apply on other sceneries also. Feeling incompetent is a nightmare to us so don't Campare with others and embrace your unique strengths. Don't let avoiding mundane robotic stuff spoil your bigger vision! Proverb: Seeing trees for the forest , But in Infj case it is vice verca , Infj see forest for the trees. Means anticipate bigger vision planned everything in head but in term of doing boring stuff necessary for desired results, Infj be like: No no I'm not doing this, is this for which i born. Trust Your Intuition & set realistic expectations with yourself and others! Rather than setting detailed goals set themes for year or next chapter of your life e.g " Growth, Focus, Healthy relationships, Competence, Fitness etc. Avoid people pleasing, own yourself be honest to yourself, don't unnecessarily mould yourself acc to others. I Think INFJs have 4 Needs & Dimentions : 1) Intellectualism ( Philosophy, Political science, History, Psychology Sociology... in Short " Literature Type " Person. 2) Creativity ( Graphic Designing, content creation, Script writing, Copy writing, content writing, ghost writing, Any Type of writing..,Painting, Crafting, " Artistic Type " 3) Helping " Doctors, Psychotherapist, NGOs, Any Sort Of helping humanity or working for betterment of the world. 4) Purpose/Meaning Religion/Spirituality. In Islam especially Mysticism. Crave Meaning in everything they do. Existential Crisis can be expected in your 20s. Order could vary. U can fulfill your needs acc to your life conditions/ environment. Also choose carrier acc & Beware! Give importance to money , we have tendency to be acstetic and deep down we somehow consider it evil.It is not our big motivation as we are not materialistic but still finances shouldn't be Ignored. Atleast make priority to earn enough which is sufficient to maintain minimalistic lifestyle. ~ WE DON'T HAVE TO DO SO MANY THINGS, BUT FEW RIGHT THINGS. ~ I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME, I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER FEELS, I'M NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS!!! ~ IT'S OK TO BE I'M PERFECT, ITS OK TO FAIL SOMETIMES,ITS OK TO MOVE SLOW. ~ TASTE THE AMAZINGNESS OF PRESENT MOMENT! ~ STOP WORRYING ABOUT FUTURE, IN THE LONG RUN, WE ALL ARE DEAD. • Prioritize Yourself and Your Family fist then think about rest of the world & its problems. • Set boundaries take care of your health & needs. Put yourself first than others. • Be a Bit Selfish Buddy😎. There are so many channels on RUclips regarding Infjs, but i found these 3 the best if you wanna learn more : 1)Wenzes INFJ couch 2)Frank James 3)The INFJ Circle YOUR FELLOW INFJ,
Oh, my goodness!!!!! Constantly adding to our knowledge databases? Again, I thank you for providing evidence that I am not the only weirdo out there. For heaven's sake, when the Titan sub exploded, I began to hear a whole lot of ridiculousness from my friends and contacts. In turn, I became curious (as you pointed out) and spent the next three to four weeks reading every book I could find on the Titanic sinking. I became obsessive. Now I am a pseudo-Titanic expert. How "gaga" we INFJs truly are! 🙃
I’m the same… I watch a docu on something and can’t just stop there. I’m researching everything I can about that subject, no matter what it is. I oft wish that I could turn that off but when I try, it just keeps haunting me until I dig in!! But then I have so few to discuss my findings with, usually my bestie across the country listens or my adult grandson. But anyone else gives me that dead stare, like wtf is wrong with you?
@@casssmith2610 Wow, it's great to find kindred spirits! I have just seen the film Napoleon - I already knew a lot about him but I had to extra research Josephine and also what happened to his son. I still "have to" get into his military tactics, why he was so special, what he did differently etc. I often feel guilty because I think I waste my time and I must spend my energy elsewhere. I seem weird😂 and I can't share this with most people, except one or two and my adult sons, especially one of them.
I'm constantly researching because I have to know the truth about things, what it means, how it fits in now, and how it is affecting people and what long range effects it will have. I need to start getting paid for all that! 😊
We see the beginning , the process and ending in one vision.. We are human lie detectors.. yes, we scare people... I've learnt not to intrude so personally in their lives... I just smile now... We are highly intuative... empaths.
Nope ya wrong, your position as a ceo kight scare people, your rash atttitude whennyou can fire people might be the problem, your. Energy as a liability to some going wrong is probably the issue. Whennyou peddling some bullshit people walk away.. when you are real people stick around.. if you think people fear you, you forget the rules of ethiquette and a reality that many people dont fear.. so you most likely get walked away on or many just dont view interacting with you as worthy
@JamesCraig-on8oo what experiance/s influenced your inner world to bring about such a judgemental response.. I may be wrong for you... but in reality, I have found it to be the best approach... Such anger in your words, Jamescraig...
@@juliemarks9751 its not anger but there is defiant attitude and challenges to what is said, in my comment. What i am conveying, is simple, but it is lost on those with too much ego. This label, INFJ it does not mean much.. its the same as saying PTSD, it soften and generalise and even hides the meaning behind what is being said.. as far as i jf goes it hides the bullshit of arrogance egocentric and narcism, and when you mae this echo chamber where you paint yourself as this rare sigma injf introvert but really the man with the plan bull shit. You start living in a dellusion, because you cant be wrong your this underground psych spy nobody know about right... its false.. its an illusion yall gathering and crowding around and while you hid your bs behind this veil of injf, your bs gets worse, weve seen this happen in many group turning radical in their own ways.. because of this exact thing this video and other alike are doing. And the people who buys into it.. like there is no questioning in your mind whether injf is a thing or not, ur it right ? Your hiding your bullsht. Now as far as the comment i commented to
Same. Also can’t STAND when necessary info is not only missing but takes FOREVER to obtain as most people beat around the bush, no matter how directly we ourselves ask the questions.
When I was only 8 years old;.........my Mom used to tell me that amongst all of her children (my eldest sister and my elder brother) I was different to the point where even she couldn't understand me. She said she regrets the fact that I'm her son because I was weird socially and in relation to the outside norm. I never understood the fact why I was different from the herd. When other kids were playing outside.... I was watching The X- files sitting alone in my room. What made my life miserable is the fact that I knew exactly what manifests into what, and this power has been the primary burden of my life.
Your mother didn't know how to raise a wise soul...too bad for her... she might have learned something along the way. INFJs are here to make wonderful social change, we never conform to what's already here. We're game changers.
I'm not going to comment on what your mom said, as I don't want to hurt your feelings. I just hope that there was no lasting damage made and that you are Ok today. Take care of yourself ❤️
Hey there, being INFJ myself and watching The XFiles or reading a book alone at 10 yo, truly makes me feel identified with what you said, the problem is not being miserable but to overcome that, remember you are valuable and worthy in God’s eyes!
This video made me tear up a little bit. Everything you mentioned is so accurate,Jay! It’s a balm to my aching soul. How I long for people to just love and live life honestly and authentically instead of lying, manipulating, and withholding love from others. I feel so totally exhausted sometimes from being around people who are like this. Thanks for creating an online space for us INFJs! :)
I choose to live a boring life: I'm tired of liars, I'm tired of shallow people, I'm tired of phony people, drunks, racist and angry people.. You get the picture? I am a mature INFJ!! My experience throughout my life, learning people have to help themselves before we can help.. We have people that are takers and they're looking for? givers, and that's what takers live for, and how they live..
Shallow conversation doesnt have to drain you. Get used to using your insight to facilitate humor through irony etc. because joy gives positive energy reinforcement and allows the introduction of a deep thought or subject but keeps it light hearted for those who are unprepared for high intensity conversation. Consider self deprecating humor as a good starting point. Love you guys
For this reason, I compare us INFJ'S as woolf's. We can evolve in packs but we can as well leave it, for someone lonely time for reflection, evolution or simply for resting. And those animals are very wise to.
I mistyped myself a few times for years before I figured out I was an infj. And when I started reading about and watching videos about INFJ it was a breath of fresh air. Everything people tried to criticize me for or ended up being triggered over was just a part of my natural authentic self. Thanks for your channel! ❤
I'm reading "Gifts Differing" by Isabel Briggs Meyers and Peter Meyers, and in the chapter dedicated to INFJ and INTJ (they are described togheter) there this phrase: "these people cannot be successfully coerced. They will not even be told anything without their permission, but they will accept an offer of facts, opinions, or theories, for free consideration; the excellence of their understanding must be trusted to recognize what is true". I think this is the whole point of a possible "intimidating" effect (maybe it's more a puzzling effect): INFJ and INTJ are independent thinkers, they don't accept ideas or rules that doesn't make sense. A lot of people never question anything about what is commonly accepted or a general rule. I realized I'm probably INTJ (but I feel I am an IN-something), but I see INFJ share a lot of similarities with INTJ if not in thinking, in how they are perceived by others, like other introverts, so I keep watching videos after in order to understand good strategies to overcome our common problems. At the moment the most recommended strategy is: "be yourself" and cope with the results.
Thank you for compiling this. Being an INFJ is, at times, a lonely existence. I am blessed with a husband who tries his best to understand me, and to use my "powers" for his own benefit. After years together, he finally accepted I wasn't trying to hurt him ;)
I’m an INFJ. I’m quiet and very unassuming by nature. I’m also a blind person. I can hear when people are BS-ing me. The inflection of the voice changes. It’s something I’ve learned to hone in on over 40 years. #SolidarityToMyFellowINFJ’s 👩🏾🦯👩🏾🦯➡️
Amazing! I can hear it to😊 someone has to be a natural born lier to fool me or for me to be very distracted and lost in thoughts, and God damn! does that make me feel stupid when it happens. Does people around you often tell you that you're imagining things?
We can understand cultures as well! Habitual tactics, antics, behaviors, they don’t know it themselves. People share everything with INFJs. TMI and we can keep it to ourselves. 🐇 🕳️ of knowledge! Fun too! Can’t stand the herd 🐄 🐄 🐄.
@@koylejeune4332 Don’t care! Hahaha 🤣 that burns your hide. Are you fussing and snorting? Are you angry 😡 😤 😠 don’t care. Hahaha 🤣 you’re still a follower! 🚪 slam! I don’t put up with arrogant people.
You got the infj dagger eyes. I can see you showing it for a second a time and it gives me chills. Rip whoever screwed you ; I don’t the have yet to recover psychologically
Being infj gives me everything I need and I have need of no other people. It's the perfect disposition for ghosting and I love it. No more crazy train trauma drama from the other inmates.
I see myself as a very unassuming person yet I have been hurt so many times by people, including suggestions that I see a psychiatrist. I reckon this is because I am not one of the herd and am always ready to stand up for my beliefs. Thanks for all you share with us. It is spot - on.
Being part of the herd, when they are led by lies is not a mental illness however, usually, when part of a herd, and you drift offf all the time, yes that is mental illness.. hard diffrence to make isnt it. Makes it even hsrder when half of your psychy is sumed up by few word you know nothing about but is design for you to relate with . If you aint psych yet this will drain your brain enought that you will be ;)
Wow after I took the test two yrs ago and got INFJ, I did some research and I remember wanting to cry because I finally felt like there are other people like me out there!! i felt so understood. Like I wasn’t wrong for being the way I am. I love being intuitive as it comes so naturally to me. It’s very beautiful.
I have taken this test in the past and came up with INFJ. Today you slammed it in my face that that is exactly what I am. With every point you made I felt like you were peering into my very soul. Thank you for this video.
Not only are we adept at seeing where things are headed etc, we cannot not do that! YES WOW. You have nailed it all. Realized a few years ago way too late in my life that people get uncomfortable around me for seemingly zero reason because I do not see, care about or play into their ego identity self! Their 'story' they're weirdly identified with. I'm going for reality, what's really there, what's authentic, simple, clear, casual, friendly, lighthearted, accepting, low key, kind (overly kind), honest - and it had always blown my mind how people inexplicably react badly to that! They sense that I don't play into their ego identity, and the reason I figured it out was because I watched how other people interact with each other. They're always fawning or playing into each other's fake self, and I just don't even see that or pick up on it. I just communicate straight and kind. But boy that doesn't work cuz people are really invested in their story and if you don't see it and play into it, you can get a lot of backlash unexpectedly from out of nowhere. Yes I finally realized how to use that power of ripping people apart, if only in my mind to detach from them when needed. Or to their face when necessary, with zero remorse. You can hurt me pointlessly & selfishly 3 or 4 times, and I'll figure you had a bad day, it all doesn't matter, it's a misunderstanding, no problem etc. But presume upon my good nature and tear me up with your meanness one more time, I will rip you apart. As some people describe that with infjs, I will eviscerate you verbally, tell you all about yourself, and leave your guts laying on the floor... and say right you got a problem with that? I kept telling you to stop being ugly to me. Go cry more - I gave you the best of myself for a long time and you abused it 😂 Bye now! I did know for years that I somehow identified with the character Julia on that old TV show called Designing Women. She would often do that (beautifully) to people toward the end of the show when their BS was exposed lol. But it took me way late in life to even be able to stand up for myself at all, I had 'doormat syndrome'. SUBSCRIBED! Glad to find you! This is straight-to-the-core GENIUS info. (Are you also are a 5w6 Enneagram type? I am. Lots of INFJs are 5s in the Enneagram system.)
Interesting and eye opening ! Yes for myself red flags appear numerously and then it ‘ s oh ! wait a minute can this really be so . Eventually they reveal themselves again & again and you call out their deceit and they act ignorant . Soo phoney . Then they get peeved and angry that you see through them . Walk away is the solution quietly .
By that definition 0 injf would be democrat they woul all be trump supporter and conservative. But no.. most of these streamer are democrats and alot of these commentator also.. this show its bullshit.. you are something else and you are being lied to causebit easier to put a veil on something confusing rather than breaking it down
I'm able to at times see things to come, but I wanted to know how I could do this. I have just realized that I am a INFJ last year and I am so grateful for now knowing why my life has been the way that it is. I always noticed that I thought so much different than most others and I always felt like I was never understood or listened to about anything I did or said. I just don't know why I never did any research to self discovery to try and understand more about myself, but it was not until my little brother was listening to something on RUclips about the INFJS so I began to think about it and I started reading more about it and I came across a RUclips channel that really stuck with me and I was so excited to listen each and every day. I am happier than I have been in the past and I continue to listen and learn about myself every day. Thank You for your channel. Keep up the good work and I hope you are successful and have all your dreams come true.
One of my closest friends told me that I scare people with my intelligence and honesty. I asked why I'm alone. I don't want to be alone but I can't seem to get a date. Being alone all the time is taking its toll on my mental health. It's hard.
Yes, even as INFJ‘s we still need social interaction. While I enjoy being alone, I try to make sure to get out a few times a week at least. It’s a balance. You could try different social groups, activities, etc., and as long as you don’t have to stay there more than a couple of hours it should energize you instead of drain you. Jay
Intelligence and honesty are valued by intelligent and honest people. Those people will be very hard to find in our society as our society glorifies attributes expressed by celebrities, athletes, and smarmy politicians.
I'm going to be honest its not your intelligence. The infjs I know/live with can be overly critical of others while not being able to accept (verbally because while they modify their actions it is extremely hard to vocally admit wrong) their own flaws at times. Then it's the extreme anxiety and dislike for new situations that can be draining when you want to share with them. And the smug/bossy attitude that sneaks out at times. I love my infjs but sometimes I have to put my foot down. Maybe try meeting new people and ask an enfp or entj for honest feedback. These youtubers will gas you up to think you're perfect but no mbti is we're just human. You'll find your tribe, give it some time.
We see through things and people instantly, but (in my case anyway) really hope we’re wrong… but rarely are (which usually makes me sad because I like to hope people aren’t the useless or unpleasant people I see them to be).
Word! I've been told so many times that I'm pessimistic that I've lost count. The frustrating part is that, even if my gut feelings and predictions sometimes are horrible and discouraging, I tend to think it's probably unjustified and that I shouldn't be cynical. And even though it almost always ends up tragically unraveling like predicted and oftentimes worse. Even then despite the insight into the abyss of human depravity. I still find myself discovering beautiful little quirks in people tho, subtle, unconscious and mostly unnoticed. That is what makes for me not giving up on hope. humanity is beautiful at it's core but something becomes fundamentally wrong without precens.
Omg, that's what my 40-year-old son said about me. INTJ, here. He said exactly that, that if I get angry, run. In other words, you don't want to stick around for the comeuppance.
I will be 61 years old, April. The twentit took me a long time to realize I am and INF. J, it's very hard for me to communicate with other people because. As you say, one thing, I can't stand your small talk. But I really enjoy a Jeep conversation with someone that has knowledge and wisdom. It helps me to grow small talk. Where's the completely out? I love learning new things. I have so many different interests. I love musi like to build things. Mechanical things plumbing, electrical carpentry. I used to buy real estate and the joy of buying real estate was to buy an old building in remodeling. And look at the before and the after it was like art to me. I didn't care about the money.
I had just recently became quite angry with someone who i had a pretty strong idea of within my mind, and when i saw that the reality completely demolished that idea, i was perturbed. Long story short, this friend behaved in a manner that was very unfitting, and unfair to other people. I had constructed this idea that she was much more mature and discplined. When i saw the polar opposite, i was profoundly disappointed. Being aware she was dealing with a lot, personally. I did not push my point any further. I resigned myself to apologizing, said i had made a mistake, and accepted her response that i knew was just a rationalization. As far as she knows, she was right. How i truly feel, however, is that i placed her well-being above my principles, and deprived myself of genuine closure. This chapter is not over. But, i fear that if i point out how her behaviour is indicative of something much deeper, connected to her unresolved weaknesses, and how it will not be helpful for her in the future, i may be invalidated once again. An impasse within myself. Ive been obsessing over this for days.
I was in a similar situation this past year. My advice (and honestly its really hard) is unless she is actively and continually hurting you or other people, you should let it go. Ask yourself are you, they, and everyone else otherwise happy? You don't have to trust them, but don't hold a grudge against your friend. Unfortunately going back on your words is not a good move, but like me, you will know next time if it happens again to not apologize for things you didnt do and be more assertive. Sometimes all you can do is learn from your mistakes and let others do the same. I nearly lost a friend over this. She was acting avoidant and I was gently but continually pressing a topic that was bothering me because I was concerned about her. I later found out she was only recently going to therapy and had serious anxiety problems over it. I should have just let it be until she was less stressed or more firmly asserted what I needed to discuss from the beginning. All was well after she finally opened up about it but I basically had to force her to admit her deepest insecurities on/off over 3 months, which was not fun for either of us.
@@bbevis2357 That does resonate with me. When the feelings were fresh, I was inches away from slamming the door on my connection with her, and not ever to look behind me again. What I was feeling, was a deep, swirling vortex that was incessantly knawing at me, enticing me to submit and to give in to that urge. But, perhaps I was correct to not do that. My god, was I ever besieged by those demons in that moment... You're right. And that is why I feel this impasse. If I correct course and open up about how I truly felt, it may realign myself emotionally, but it would also confirm that violation of ethical principle, and that would compel me to become more vigilant. Perhaps to absolve the conundrum, is to, in fact, let it go. It truly would not provide myself any real solace by hitting myself in the head with a hammer. The advice is much appreciated, friend. 🙏
I often ask strange questions to people after I get to know them a little that can become more meaningful or give insight on their way of thinking and mood while still being reminiscent of small talk. Questions like “If you could no any #/amount of anything what would it be? (I wish to know how many grains of sand there are definitively) Would you enjoy living in a house made of cactus, like some desert birds do? This, at least, is what I do to gauge the mood/wavelength. I also learned to rely on my gut feelings. If I feel like I should be on edge around someone and keep it in the back of my mind, analyze, stay friendly, and see how they treat me. Sometimes when they do this they think they’re better than me or treat me as beneath them. Or outright tell me questionable things that marks red flags. But it’s always interesting to think about how it will play out and how to verbally defend myself if needed if they tend to argue or get easily mad.
This is SO good! Re future, I just call it extrapolating...logically looking at something in present time and viewing it up the line. Herd mentality is behind most of society's games---'fitting in', 'now I'm supposed to's', status, etc. I'm a sigma empath which is close to INFJ traits. The comments on this thread are awesome.
Wow! Guilty as charged. It is very hard to find friends. Even little things annoy others. One night my family had dinner with friends. We walked on the beach afterward and I pointed out some simple constellations to my kids. The other family literally got angry "What was I now, an astronomer!!" Typical behavior all too often. That was the end of us.
Omg he was saying a word!! I’ve taken the Meyers Briggs Test many times in my formative years and always tested as an ENFJ, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more introverted and began testing as an INFJ. What he described in this video is nail on head. One thing that rang so true is the wanting to roll my eyes when someone is exaggerating to impress or show off. Also the deeper meaning of that specific person is someone who is excruciatingly insecure and no one else is picking up on it in the time but us INFJs!! The insecurity has nearly a stench it is so cringe. You’re almost embarrassed for the person when they realize INFJs see right through them and are not impressed. I could go on and on but leave it there. I liked the video very much.
I remember everything what the other person said something to me in a conversation, and then when we happen to have a word again I use that information and they would be shocked that I remember everything what they said in that convo, and I live for that. Sometimes people would really go crazy the amount of times I have remembered their birthday or name when we have just talked for just once. Being an INFJ is insane, cause you know how to MANIPULATE people's reactions and ACTIONS.
I’ve always been skeptical about categorizing yourself based on a generalized test (apparently ironically that’s in line with INFJ) but gosh darn if the more I hear people talk about and describe INFJ characteristics the more I understand why I fell into this category on the test. There’s a lot in here that matches up with what I experience all the time.
What an amazingly eloquent and simple to understand video. It's absolutely refreshing to this INFJ-A(Thank God it's an "A" and not a "T" anymore) I wish I could sit down with you and just talk for hours and hours...a girl can dream!!!!❤
Feels like a breath of fresh air!!! Im infj but also an extreme empath, can be draining! Ive been called a witch before hahaha! Im not!!! My late boss used to focus om my expression and when he was annoyed used to shout "ag what now!?" Hahaha! He used to say i never say anything without a full backup story and plan. Its a pitty there are so few of us, i dont like wasting time with small talk between family members but still entertain them from time to time. Tanks for another excellent video!!! 🤗🌸
It takes time and maturity to see the world and people for what they are. It is indeed a super power. People are taken aback by us as we are so very deep. Others find us intimidating and I have been told this many times. We are lone wolves as we beat at our own drum. We have to be true to who we are even though it can be a tough journey. I don’t feel I have a boring life. I rather have those who embrace their authentic self rather than have superficial so called friends.
I was told at 15 I was an INFJ. I have an IQ of 153 and this kind of intelligence seems to be common among us. I have lived in Syracuse, NY most of my life. I was born here and it is a very quaint, old city with about 150,000 and Onondaga Couny is small with only 500,000. I have NEVER met another INFJ!!! I really have never felt lonely even though I have spent most of my life alone. I do not currently have any "friends" outside of my husband's sister's, who I am just recently reaching out to. At 49, I was yet prepared to become social because, of course, I do not have small talk so meeting new people is challenging. It never matters, because alone for me is bliss with Christ. I have been married 10 years to an INFP-T, we are perfectly matched. Thank you for this video. The world has become so selfish and violent. Men and women have confused their rightful positions and we are now all surrounded by evil...and treachery.
@@iconworldclassllc7045 MENSA it is a society for people with high IQs. When we meet no one is concerned with anything that would cause biases. We are unified by our geekiness. MENSA is Latin for table. Our logo is a oval (round) table
@IvanaKaraman isn't it strange how you likely find that spreading joy is enough until you one day connect with the person, lover or friend, who just gets it?! Knowing God, King Jesus, intimately took off the chill that loneliness might leave. I would rather be alone than have relationships with no depth
@@iconworldclassllc7045 MENSA has a test. You only have to score in the top 2%. I scored one of the top 3 scores ever in the history of ASVAB testing. That is the test to determine eligibility for any and all branches of the armed services. They won't tell exactly where I was, 1,2, or 3, but I believe I was first.
Omg this is so spot on... Lately the superpower of understanding people at a glance and read their energy though is becoming such a problems in my intimate relationships. My romantic partners on one hand feel seen like never before and at the same time they become scared and hide behind denial and the comfort of what they know...which is making so hard to keep a long lasting relationship. The game of continue self development and research of our personal truth is not an easy path to follow, and often a lonely one..
Since very young, I have used the ' innocent until proven guilty ' motto and say if they are guilty, it because they have proved it. It's not that I go looking for the wrong doing, but if it being presented time after time, actions will be taken😂 That's so interesting that you mentioned here🤭
Others feel like we are peeping toms, so to speak, and see through their facade! We are just using a natural ability to 'know' the truth and they realize it. So true about hating lying, it is a deal breaker for me. That is counter to deep meaningful conversation, which I thrive on!
Thank you so much for your videos 🥰 Sometimes I wonder is there anyone out there like me? I appreciate your perspective. Sometimes I feel I am intimidating to others but I am unsure why. I have the added complication of being an INFJ and autistic. So, life with others feels very complicated.
Enjoy your unique perspective. Intimidation can weed out some problem people who wouldn't be worth your time anyway. I'm an old INFJ with an adult autistic daughter. When we go out in public, people clear a path for us! The ones who approach are the ones who get us.
A MILLION THANKS FOR THIS ENLIGHTENING VIDEO. It is intellectual and emotional GOLD to an INFJ like myself. Ive always felt these amazing, yet isolating, realizations since I was a child but never truly realized how rare we are until my 40's. Its especially difficult to realize we're authentically gifted when 99% of other MBTI types aren't as aware. Hopefully this vid can help others realize their power earlier so they dont have to experience decades of doubt/confusion or being told were delusional. LOL It' def a huge relief to know my tendency to DOOR SLAM harmful or treacherous people is'nt disfunctional- rather its about self preservation. btw I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my chair when you did the funhouse mirror image and said YUMMY😂😂😂 THANKS AGAIN ❤
Brilliant insights. Remarkable analysis. So helpful. So timely and needed. Extraordinary wisdom. How did you manage to encapsulate and summarize so accurately in such a brief video - so many life changing insights and tips? You are a gifted being and are helping many of us more than you may ever know. It’s like you peeked into my head and my heart. And my journal lol. Thank you ever so much 🌿
You read me like a book..! (As well as many of us, I’m sure). Your amazing brother & Thank you, this has helped our family in so many ways. Where they can better understand me. Especially, upon my return from deployments and now as a veteran. 👍
INFJ stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging, which represents the core personality traits of this type. However, the INFJ Heyoka empath is an even rarer variant, as they possess an additional layer of empathic sensitivity, often referred to as being a "Heyoka."
Heyoka empaths are said to be the rarest and most powerful variety, acting as a spiritual mirror to those around them to assist their growth. The Heyoka's unorthodox approach to life makes others question their own preconceived notions of what's right and wrong, real and fantasy.
The reason there are so few INFJ or Heyoka is because it is those at the highest level of the game. An Heyoka has mastered becoming a mirror, (until you have aquired the abilities of the opposition, the narcisisst, you can't see through their mirror) until you become something you can't see through it.
What is the highest level of empath? Some are more powerful than others. The Heyoka empath is the most powerful of all the types, because this kind of empath is, essentially, an emotional mirror, and tend to be more spiritual than the others. They are also said to be able to read minds.
Sounds like an INFP to me. Also has huge amounts in common with INTJs & INTPs. What is the common thread? We're all Introverted intuitives. It's great to begin studying your own type. It's the quickest way to begin understanding the cognitive functions. But you set yourself up with an enormous blind spot if you don't follow through and study the other types. You're not the only one who has super powers. Plus, focusing on your superpowers can render you unaware of the superpowers of less similar types. You don't want to be blindsided by making that mistake!
When I first found out that I was an INFJ I didn't quite understand what that meant...I'm so glad I found your channel, you speak truth, and I want to thank you for that. If it's ever possible, I would love to give you a hug. Thank you!
I relate to this on such a personal level it’s making my stomach hurt. Especially with the lying thing. I thought I was just a judgy asshole I was just going to put this on as background noise but I ended up watching the full thing.
This is what scares me as an INFJ, I have ideas, philosophies, frameworks that may bring many constructive harmony in the world by encouraging inconsistencies and critical thinking towards the people and the organizations they attach to. But I fear someone may be so shaken and be too deep in their guilt that they take it out on me or others or themselves and I want to live a peaceful life, and I hate to have my peace threatened by a person who can't overcome their own guilt and give me the proper time to help the person
❤❤❤ Youre always on point. It takes an INFJ to know an INFJ!!! 😂😂😂🙏🙏 🙏 Ive ALWAYS heard " ur crazy". By my parents an family& many others. Cause i seen through the lies an seen theyre intentions!! Im grateful i now have confidents in my discernment.💪 💪 💪 THANK YOU Jay!!! ❤❤❤
This is so accurate... Especially, the thing with believing "innocent until proven guilty". Also, knowing when they are lying, giving them a chance, only to get disappointed, is exhausting sometimes.
I always thought there was something wrong with me because I could read eyes from my earliest years and always know when someone was lying. At the same time I never let anyone know when I know they are full of it! Some people (non infj) always said I should always call people out.
INFPs scare INFJs :)) Because we can see through that anxiety (which we also feel) but choose to share our love instead with people. Many INFJs are scared of their own power sometimes and don't share their unique talents with the world. I wish we could see more INFJs taking charge of their own lives and the ones that they love (because yall are way more fitted to do that job than INFPs tbh)
I know you are trying to boost us, but this just felt like a whole lot of ego stroking. I do appreciate learning more tho most of your videos have been spot on for me. I only know my meyerbriggs(?). because my bff insisted. I am more into tarot and astro. She thought it would be fun to see how they overlap. The amount of scorpio in my chart certainly intersects with INFJ. It is kinda lonely, huh. Glad to find you all here.
Infs just seem like people with Asperger's. Constantly pointing out the truth and pointing out patterns they recognise. Since the science behind those personality types is pretty weak, I think its just a way for logically thinking persons to label themselves.
Thanks for this affirmation! I had known that this was my personality type for quite a long time, but had not taken a look at it in any recent years. I had a tragic occurrence a couple of years ago, and this really helped to explain, quite possibly anyway, how and why things unfolded the way they did. Thank you again! ☺️
Almost 49 years old and I've never met a single other person that thinks like me, or even really understands me. I fear I will finish walking my life without a bestest friend
First I found out that I am autistic 🥰 Then I found out that almost all of my autistic personality traits lines up with being INFJ ♥️ Autistic pattern recognition, so I can see what is coming in the future. Need for deep conversation. A deep sense of justice, see through people who are lying. Notice the smallest details in people's reactions and body language. Hyper empathic, and burning for a better world. And more. I have found many other autistic people that often are INFJ or INTJ.
It's called "decerning of spirits". You see deception. You see lies. You were raised by narcissists that intensified your senses to the energy and vibration of everything around you.
Honestly, “Intimidation” just comes naturally for us. It’s the “vibe” or “aura” that we give off, or sometimes could even be our face being mistaken as a “resting bitch face”. For me, I have come to appreciate those who aren’t “afraid” of us. People seem to dub me as “the bully” or “the villain” of their story when all I did was trying my best to be there for them. Controlling & toning down my Honesty is a challenge too, as I do not know if my Honest will be appreciated or just seen as “being too aggressive”
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INFJs' sensitivity means they have a deep appreciation for beauty and the arts. They can be moved to tears by music, art, theatre, books, films, food or flowers. INFJs are very aware of other people's moods and feelings and can feel them themselves, leading them to be exhausted.
Sensitivity means you feel & think deeply
CBT explains this ability as social anxiety and shyness, something to cover up and be ashamed about.
I am INTP-A and I am just like this. People are baffled when I get too passionate over a song, an art etc. But then again we, INTPs are not a fan of being limited to a personality type so we don’t actually conform to MBTI
I nearly had a car accident recently looking at the sun shining through the clouds. Just beautiful
@@alc6398 You don't understand mbti.
INFJ's can not only see through people - we can see through veneers in just about every situation, including people's motives and agendas. We sit back and look at the big picture.
It’s not solely about the INFJs, we can see through people. But immature INFJs can’t tell the difference.
NWO coming next fall before Elections Oligarchs do not want Trump in control regardless if he wins or not... One World Government coming with a One World Leader-the Mahdi AC Another Christ this one false the Orthodox Jews still waiting for the 1st Messiah they missed out on Jesus Christ and will be deceived by the false messiah the Mahdi... church finally going home this Spring Matthew 24:32,33 Summer is near Hes right at the door.
Watch Glenn Beck on NWO coming next fall... Tucker Carlson with Bret Weinstein
@@noveltycrusade You then probably can't see his middle finger pointing at your comment.
@@noveltycrusade I trust most people are not concerned about you at all or what you yap about.
If you've lied to us or betrayed us, watch out.
Our calm demeanor, kindness and empathy will turn very easy to something no one expects.
Agree.
Jay
This is exactly what happened with my verbally abuse sister... I complete eviscerated her. Very little remorse from my side. It needed to be said before I bl8cked all avenues for an additional verbally abusive response from her. A bit of sadness w a greater sense of relief.
True that, you guys are insane! lol
@@pauerasmus582🤣😂😂
Truth
Anyone find that people out of nowhere decide you are an enemy and want to bring you down in very deliberate and often emotionally violent ways? I've had people randomly seek out to cause me pain and I've never quite understood it. It's super weird because I hate confrontation and conflict, but no matter how much of a hermit I try to be, lately there's always some random person who decides they are 'against me.'
Yes! Me too. And I don't understand it. Along with competition and intentional harm.
Unbelievably so, and I've also figured out the reason why is we trigger them to reflect and boom!! Nuclear denial of true self and rage projected unto us, the mirror. Let them be.
It's the worst when it's a boss or teacher. Nowhere to hide! It's as if they're mad that you exist. We challenge their facade just by being us. They know we can destroy them so they launch a preemptive attack.
Yes, this has occurred throughout my blessed life. I say blessed because true or better yet, mature INFJ possess the understanding, foresight, restraint and skill to navigate the shadow projections of those who are triggered by their exposed reflection.
@@AnnAndNala yup totally.
Real life example: I told my neighbor, "The reason why you drink alcohol isn't bec you are an alcoholic. It is only bec you missed your dad who you saw drank on a daily basis." My neighbor cried & stayed silent for a while after I told him this. Dec last year, he quit drinking. Nobody believed he would ever stop drinking before this.
Jeez this is powerful . We have a beautiful gift ❤😢
Yikes.
This is what being of service looks like at it’s best.
You have the gift of healing.
That's cool 😎 I qualified as a INTP and it said INFJ women are really good for me.
I can smell their intentions, manipulations and lies long before they open their mouth.
And they call me crazy, that it's "all in your head, you're imagining things".
And it hurts every single time.
That's why my respect is earned.
It's gaslighting.
Narcissists are always out looking for what they believe are “easy targets.“
Yes, but we are not easy target. We might look like though
May kasabihan din, papunta ka pa lang pabalik na Ako. .😅😅
@@naw478they might think that lol
We're also chameleons. We can play the game, but we don't need or actually care about it. People stuck in keeping up appearances often react badly when the INFJ just walks away because the game is no longer interesting.
That!
And we walk....
@@mkmcatI fly away, literally. 😂
😂 that's true. Meanwhile their game continues daily.
No truer words were ever spoken!
With all the chaos going on in the world, I would love to have a conversation with a mature INFJ who understands the truth. When all the dots keep connecting and the puzzle pieces keep coming together, it all makes sense to me. I am the only one who wanted to talk about the elephant in the room. Speaking truth scares people and causes them to avoid you. Sadly, it has led to a life of isolation. God bless
Hi there. I feel like you remind me a lot to myself. lol.
Likewise... 🙏✨🌠
@@paulivanlara1050 Nice. If you are a believer, then there is a good chance that we will at least meet in Heaven. Time is running out. God bless you and your family
@@TreyB-Måneravn May The Lord also bless you. Take care
Hello. I understand your point of view, its how I feel. I'm here to chat online. There are lots of us you are not alone x
I give my love to all my INFJ brothers and sisters, hope you find peace and happiness, keep strong, keep well, we are a rare species,
Thank you💙
thank god there are only a few of you people! ifthere were more life would be hell lol
@@pauerasmus582 not 100% sure if that was meant to be rude, but definitely 90% sure…
@@Alystra17 what about 91%?
@@pauerasmus582 90%
As an INFJ that grew up in a dysfunctional home I am very sensitive to other's pain -- which is why I will never say the really hurtful things I know about a person when I have a door slam. This is where Stoicism fits so well with being an INFJ.
I’ve been able to stop saying those things over time as well. I think it’s part of maturing, sounds like you matured early.
Jay
@@INFJcircle Negative politeness is when we shut up in order not to hurt someone's feelings.
Problems is - this way abusers keep on abusing others and they interpret our silence as green light to continue with mobbing and bullying. It is real problem when their target is someone with suicidal idealizations and this ends up as murder actually - which abusers will never end up in jail for - unless there is a note explaining the reasons.
@@ranc1977 It's not "negative politeness". It is standing in your integrity and NOT behaving the same as the bully. It is recognizing that the bully DOES NOT CARE what you have to say. It is understanding that the best option is to move on; to completely remove this person and the feelings you have about them from your life. As a person able to do this there will be no suicidal ideation -- there will be a person who has recognized the bully for what they are and will have a newfound strength to get along without them.
At least that has been my experience. 💜
@@Candyliz2003 First of all, many people are not able to move on - because of low finances, elderly or children , contracts and property or lack of visa.
What I am talking about suicidal idealizations are the future victims and targets which bullies will eventually abuse in their lives.
All bullies are bullies because someone strong in authority never confronted them with their wrongdoings - and all people were protecting their peace - and this way serial killers and psychopaths walk away hands free from their crimes - since nobody screams at them that they are abnormal and predators.
@@ranc1977 I understand and empathize with the situations you describe. I was in 2 brutally violent marriages -- they were succeeding chapters of the violent house I grew up in -- they were not "easy" to extricate myself from and friends and family were frustrated with me for not leaving sooner (children, lack of finances). I know *very* well the difficulties one can face - including the push-back from those who believe you should remain.
Re psychopaths and serial killers: I think you've thrown the impossible into this discussion. While there is truth that some people will keep at their bad behavior as long as they get away with it (Trump), psychotic individuals (and narcissists) don't care what you think or say and will do what they want to regardless of opinion or law.
I can tell an a hole by their walk. Non verbal gives a lot away but so does tone, choice of words, etc.
I absolutely refuse the statement that “I intimidate others.” NO. Others are intimidated by me, and that’s on them! I am just going about my life, and they need to own their responses and deal with them without assigning the blame to me.
So true
Seriously! So sick of toxic people!
Just stare at them…people often hate silence. 😁
It's just semantics. You shouldn't just bulldoze. Empathy and delicacy have their time and place.
Correct
Being able to tell people what they are thinking before they think about it is both a blessing & a curse. As an INFJ, I tend to scare people away. They think you stalk them when all you said was the truth.
I love seeing videos from other INFJs, it is a small group and may not have as many videos or followers... But you still want to help other INFJs and I adore that
Recently, I've meet another INFJ, and I cought her sayin something insensitive in a various ocasions. It was shocking to realize I can appear insensitive too, despite being extreemly considered. Turns out she meant something different from what I have imagined. And if two INFJ's can not understand each other, I can imagine how difficult it is for other personality types to understand us.
Your channel truely helps reflect on ourselves, and much needed especially for our personality type.
Being articulate SPEAKING is not our best.. in WRITING it is ...
@@kpopandotherplaylists2518 omg right??
If you got offended, that is a you problem period.
Relax bud @@JamesCraig-on8oo
Interesting perspective
This helped me realise when I have fought for the truth without compromising my principles and not EVER backing down, every single one of the abusive individuals stopped attacking me in their tracks, rolled over and played victim. Every. Single. One. They realise I am relentless and decide to play other strategies like 'ruining' my reputation with other people and becoming victims. I am so proud of myself and will happily embrace the fact that even though I am a soft spoken, slight and feminine woman, I am intimidating!
Absolutely. I know what you mean. It’s like they try the bully tactic, then if it doesn’t work they just switch to another. Exhausting. Stay strong and keep your boundaries sure and firm!
Jay
Me too
This is so true for me too. A few years ago when i was still working a day job, i was constantly made fun of by an older lady in our team. 2 years in, during our company's Halloween party she decided to openly joke suggestively about me being dressed up and down as Tinkerbell by a male coworker, i finally had to draw the line and pointed out to our team leader that we agreed not to continue if she ever pulls another sexual innuendo stunt (which sadly happens too often). Thankfully there were other coworkers preparing around as this older lady starts to gaslight me, one of them was the HR. A month later i heard she "willingly" resigns. I was the only team member she didn't invite on her going-away party 😂 The cherry on top is seeing the look on her face as i hug one of my friendly and respectful lady co-workers (not a team member) before she leaves the building for another country. I think she couldn't believe that i would have actual meaningful friendships in the company for such a short period of time unlike her who kept getting in odd superficial and unprofessional behaviors against co-workers. She always seem to start fights like how someone would try to be a pick-me choose-me over something so incredibly stupid.
I needed this. The last 4 years has been especially hard for me. I feel like everyone is lying to me and nothing makes sense. My friends hate it when I try to talk about current events and the future. I don’t want to do what everyone else is doing.
Same here. A friend since college in 1970 became hateful recently when I told her I see the US will be run by a dictator, maybe as soon as 2025 no matter which political party is in power. Her response was instantly that the vaccine mandates were good.
I know the feeling, it’s unbelievable, but many people want to be lied to. I have chosen to not try to convince friends and family about the inconsistencies of our current generation, it’s not my job. My focus is on living my best life while I can, and not get distracted by the tomfoolery.
Totally relate the past few years have been rough! As INFJ I am very intuitive and I try to use it to help myself and others but it’s a blessing and a curse!
This is a good thing.....conformity is the devil's tactic....
Long comment: The purpose of being here is to completely accept people as they ARE, not how one wishes they could be. And Love them exactly where they are in their travels or place in life. Even strangers
We like to understand the puzzle but people hide pieces of themselves…
Also don’t mistake your brain for the beautiful soul behind THAT brain. The brain is only a tool in the toolbox… not everything different needs to be picked apart. Rather celebrated for its uniqueness, including others
The Thoughts themselves, need to be exposed for their oddness, not the world we are “thinking” about. NEVER take your thoughts as anything other than superficial, then you miss a whole world going on outiside of those thoughts…. On an end “thought”… be open to the world outside of your brain/thought process. that’s when the magic happens. There is zero magic in our thoughts though our brains would have us believe differently.
Projection of our own shadow is truly believing the issue is “out there”…. Because we often feel other’s projections as well as our own. None of it really matters. Theirs OR ours
Have a peaceful life. It’s why we are here.
Re: lies and deception "freak us out" more than other personality types. That is spot-on, Sir! How did you EVER put all these puzzle pieces together so aptly? Astonishing! Thank you.
Thank you my friend I appreciate the kind words 🙏
Jay
So far the most indepth, simple and succinct INFJ channel I have found. I can swap others, but Jay, always got to listen to him cause I know there is something I can gain. And I know he covers it all.
Groups of people do this, alot of them is because they tok psychology 101 and realise how objective psychology is, and how easy it is to ceeate and invent, in psychology so they play with the knowledge they where given . Infj is made up whether it fits you or not. It dont mean a damn thing, colerique does, sociopath does, anxious does, injf mtbi sigma.. 0 meaning all msde up all bullshit dellusion from a spinn off desceiption to something that close ressemble the targeted msrket. Trust me .. its part of that big propaganda machien to dumb ya down
I am allergic to lies.
Ah choo !
yes, do not lie to me.
This is exactly true. Anyone else also have an extremely sensitive nervous system? I can feel it in body so much that I’m learning to protect myself. I get physically sick sometimes from others not even bad people just sick people. It’s intense. It’s honestly too much ❤ love and light to all
research into Stoicism. It might help.
and look into things which over stimulate your nerves - like garlic, coffee, tobacco, alcohol and remove them from your diet if you can. Its a massive challenge mate, but you just have to develop the superpower and alchemise/transmute (create) the energy into something - whether it be helping others (like a podcast or YT channel - if you are ready for this part of the journey), or doing a physical sport like boxing. Anything to turn that energy into a creative force which either aids in making you physically more capable, strong and prepared to help others (eg Boxing); or, anything creative which you resonate with which is for others: like cooking an amazing meal, writing songs, painting, volunteering at the homeless shelter - its all creating joy and happiness and hope for those who have little - and at the same time, you are clearing your energy in a constructive, selfless manner - which is key for transmutation. If you hold in, it will turn toxic - which means the opposite of creation, destruction. The frustration will build up in you and you will either start to destroy yourself (consciously or subconsciously) via self destructive habits (drugs, sex, laziness); or, you will hold them inside which will lead to disease - OR, you may project that destructive energy outwardly onto others around you - which makes us feel good initially, but it always finds it's way back to us 10 fold. So learning how to transmute this energy, and then giving yourself the time and space to allow this alchemy to take place, is vital in maintaining your spiritual and mental health.
Experience the emotions, don't be the emotions.
Thank you sincerely
same here,I can feel the pain of others like literally😢
Innocent until proven guilty is spot on. Because of this approach I basically always enter a situation with optimism and openness, unless of course, there is something about the individual that triggers a gut instinct from the start. It's the openness and optimism that can reveal what's currently going on with the individual. Many people are really thrown by the openness. They either don't trust it or they think it's something they can take advantage of. Typically, it's one of those two.
Your videos just saved my marriage! My husband was very mad at me for going against the herd. He felt betrayed. With your videos I could finally express to him what I now realized I am and how I function. He had no idea and he was so grateful I explained it to him. You really are amazing. Thank you AGAIN
This is so great to hear! Sometimes it’s so tough to tell others how we function. I’m glad the videos helped you and thank you for letting me know. Means a lot to me.
Jay
Why would you marry a normie anyway ? I’m joking
He'll listen to a bloke on the internet but not his own wife? As an INFJ, I would not tolerate this.
My ex-boyfriend of 7 years and my mother got together and had an "intervention" where they told me the words I used were too big and the conversations I had were "too much" so they had me tone down my vocabulary and simplify my sentences so "regular" people could understand me better.... I had another boyfriend before this who used a dictionary to look up words when we would talk. I gave him an A for effort on that. 😅
Ha ha ha, thanks for sharing that. Yes, we research and read so much that our vocabulary grows and we can’t help it! Thanks for watching.
Jay
Omg that was close to what happened to me. Not exactly but close. My ex fiancée was a journalist… a reporter and an anchor and after I broke it off, he said I’d always intimidated him. He was far from stupid, but it was hard to get into deep conversations with him. We loved long drives and exploring new areas, but often except for talking about the scenery, the conversations were limited due to my ability to tell his unease if I brought up subjects too “deep” for him.
@casssmith2610 I hear that. Some people can't handle anything deeper than surface level conversations. My mom does that a lot... Anything more than two sentences out of me, and she starts whining about how I'm putting her to sleep or boring her 🙄
I applaud my best friend, whenever he's Hung up on a word, he'll put his hand up "for the people at home, what does that mean?"
My parents bought new dictionaries when I was in middle school. It was the only books I ever saw them buy.
Wow wtf!!!! Intervention??? Thank you for sharing this because I actually had a mental breakdown from always watering myself down, idc anymore I’m gonna be my best! That’s absolutely ridiculous! Were great and were meant to be fuck that no faking
I've only recently found out I'm an INFJ. Well, then that explains it. I've been called intense, intimidating, and mysterious. I can smell people's BS miles away and don't waste a second to be in their company. I'm a great listener that's why people confide to me easily but it's always hard for me to open up with others. It takes a long time before I can fully trust someone.
This is me to a T!
This is me too
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told someone was afraid of me. It used to make me sad but not anymore. It can even be helpful sometimes in protecting my family.
O thats sooooo true! People want to stay away from me (as if they can hide after being offensive)!
@@HettieJansenVanVuurenExactly!
Same here! I never understood what was so scary about me😊. I learned not to care and it indeed helped me to protect my kids and myself. A true mama bear 😂.
Many people have told my mom they are scared of me not just friends who told me but family and her friends tell her that the way I think is way too ahead for them to understand and they are scared bc I say things in a logical way or even In a psychopathic way to people I dislike or just normal logical things. For example: I told my mom that if there wasn't any food in the apocalypse that I would use the people around as a food source the way I see it is that getting killed or surviving till the end. Everyone is part of the food chain and everyone gets eaten or killed at some point in life. Sure not saying killing someone for fun is okay but if it's self-defense or for food I see it as normal.
Probably because our personality is very different from theirs.
These videos are so spot on for INFJs. They are actually comforting & help me to feel relief knowing that I actually “fit in” with others who have these personality types.
Nah fr I thought I died and went to hell
I'm 22 Years Old Male INFJ currently in Last Semester of my Degree. A few months ago I heard about MBTI in random podcast later on, i searched it and the rest is history😂, i ardently consumed so much content uncountable videos, blogs, quora answers etc.
Here are my Golden Nuggets :
INFJ:4 FUNCTION STACKS
1) Introverted Intuition
2) Extroverted Sensing
3) Introverted Thinking
4) Extroverted Feeling
Understand them deeply!
• Future Focused , Creative, Info Junkie about the topic that are curious to us, Deep, insightful , Empathetic, Visionary, Caring, Absorb others Feelings, Old souls, Quest for learning, Putting your feet in other person shoes, Crave Meaning, Big Picture thinking, Pattern analyzer, Make Connection in seemingly unconnected things, Good writing than speaking, Chameleons, Need Alone Time to recharge, sensitive to criticism, Private & standoffish ,
Feel unfit in group setting, like one or one ( small group setting), exhausted by Large crowds, Noises and flashlights, Self critical, Set high standards, Struggle in Small Talk, Mysterious, Have idealism, Abstract thinkers, Seeing beyond the obvious, Strong Gut Feeling which make them good future anticipator, Making world better place, Keenly Analyze body language subtle cues and voice tone of others, Soul Crushing Stare, Minimalistic, Dislike Superficiality & show-off, Avoid conflict Seeking harmony, Love Reading, Good with language, Doorslam Others( means part from others suddenly without explaining them as if they don't exist), Emotionally sensitive but high pain tolerance/resilient, High in introspective/contemplating/Reflecting Energy or cerebral power but limited Physical energy.
U might have interest in
Psychology, Philosophy, Theology.
Weaknesses :
UnHealthy Perfectionism (All or none approach, Done is better than Perfect )
Over Planning & Procrastination ( Due to Perfectionism ,u Feared a lot from Failure that u don't even try which leads to procrastination.
U have strong urge to control all the variables of future to avoid surprises as a little bit changing in your expected future can pivot you to dismiss your plan. Avoid Over planning just set priorities )
Overthinking/Other Analyzing Ni-Ti Loop
( Do some sensory Concrete Stuff e.g walking, playing etc as we lack in our 4th function extrovert sensing, be more spontaneous and LIVE In Present moment " )
Overwhelm/Burnout
( Come out of your comfort zone but don't overwhelm yourself , Set healthy boundaries, Start saying No, First Take care of your Health & needs then others)
We lack in Action Parts due to our shadow function 'Extrovert Sensing' which deals with real concrete sensory world, and due to introverted intuition we are so much in our heads all the time ,we make up so much in our heads that we think vision and only vision gonna leads us to results.
Its deception to yourself, wake up to reality.
Action is the Antidote!
Action-> Motivation -> Action......
Growth Journey could be slow in beginning as compare to others but as the time passes you would surpass others, Infjs have unique style of learning others are learning 2×2 = 4 but we are learning multiplication and forming deep insights in our brain that we can apply on other sceneries also.
Feeling incompetent is a nightmare to us so don't Campare with others and embrace your unique strengths.
Don't let avoiding mundane robotic stuff spoil your bigger vision!
Proverb: Seeing trees for the forest , But in Infj case it is vice verca , Infj see forest for the trees. Means anticipate bigger vision planned everything in head but in term of doing boring stuff necessary for desired results, Infj be like: No no I'm not doing this, is this for which i born.
Trust Your Intuition & set realistic expectations with yourself and others!
Rather than setting detailed goals set themes for year or next chapter of your life e.g " Growth, Focus, Healthy relationships, Competence, Fitness etc.
Avoid people pleasing, own yourself be honest to yourself, don't unnecessarily mould yourself acc to others.
I Think INFJs have 4 Needs & Dimentions :
1) Intellectualism
( Philosophy, Political science, History, Psychology Sociology... in Short " Literature Type " Person.
2) Creativity ( Graphic Designing, content creation, Script writing, Copy writing, content writing, ghost writing, Any Type of writing..,Painting, Crafting, " Artistic Type "
3) Helping
" Doctors, Psychotherapist, NGOs, Any Sort Of helping humanity or working for betterment of the world.
4) Purpose/Meaning
Religion/Spirituality. In Islam especially Mysticism. Crave Meaning in everything they do. Existential Crisis can be expected in your 20s.
Order could vary.
U can fulfill your needs acc to your life conditions/ environment.
Also choose carrier acc & Beware! Give importance to money , we have tendency to be acstetic and deep down we somehow consider it evil.It is not our big motivation as we are not materialistic but still finances shouldn't be Ignored. Atleast make priority to earn enough which is sufficient to maintain minimalistic lifestyle.
~ WE DON'T HAVE TO DO
SO MANY THINGS, BUT
FEW RIGHT THINGS.
~ I DON'T CARE WHAT
OTHERS THINK OF ME, I
DON'T CARE WHAT
OTHER FEELS, I'M NOT
RESPONSIBLE FOR
OTHERS!!!
~ IT'S OK TO BE I'M
PERFECT, ITS OK TO
FAIL SOMETIMES,ITS
OK TO MOVE SLOW.
~ TASTE THE
AMAZINGNESS OF
PRESENT MOMENT!
~ STOP WORRYING
ABOUT FUTURE, IN THE
LONG RUN, WE ALL ARE
DEAD.
• Prioritize Yourself and
Your Family fist then think
about rest of the world &
its problems.
• Set boundaries take care
of your health & needs.
Put yourself first
than others.
• Be a Bit Selfish Buddy😎.
There are so many channels on RUclips regarding Infjs, but i found these 3 the best if you wanna learn more :
1)Wenzes INFJ couch
2)Frank James
3)The INFJ Circle
YOUR FELLOW INFJ,
Wow!! Man, you explained it really well.
@@asthasinha3641 Shukriya, from India?
@@Express700-3 Haan.
@Estranger344 can you please tell me about the podcast where you heard about INFJs?
Oh, my goodness!!!!! Constantly adding to our knowledge databases? Again, I thank you for providing evidence that I am not the only weirdo out there. For heaven's sake, when the Titan sub exploded, I began to hear a whole lot of ridiculousness from my friends and contacts. In turn, I became curious (as you pointed out) and spent the next three to four weeks reading every book I could find on the Titanic sinking. I became obsessive. Now I am a pseudo-Titanic expert. How "gaga" we INFJs truly are! 🙃
Haha....I'm not the only one! I always have an interest - project, a topic I'm very much into for a period. I research literally everything.
I’m the same… I watch a docu on something and can’t just stop there. I’m researching everything I can about that subject, no matter what it is. I oft wish that I could turn that off but when I try, it just keeps haunting me until I dig in!! But then I have so few to discuss my findings with, usually my bestie across the country listens or my adult grandson. But anyone else gives me that dead stare, like wtf is wrong with you?
@@casssmith2610 Wow, it's great to find kindred spirits! I have just seen the film Napoleon - I already knew a lot about him but I had to extra research Josephine and also what happened to his son. I still "have to" get into his military tactics, why he was so special, what he did differently etc. I often feel guilty because I think I waste my time and I must spend my energy elsewhere. I seem weird😂 and I can't share this with most people, except one or two and my adult sons, especially one of them.
I'm constantly researching because I have to know the truth about things, what it means, how it fits in now, and how it is affecting people and what long range effects it will have. I need to start getting paid for all that! 😊
We see the beginning , the process and ending in one vision..
We are human lie detectors.. yes, we scare people...
I've learnt not to intrude so personally in their lives... I just smile now...
We are highly intuative... empaths.
Good idea. I agree.
Jay
Nope ya wrong, your position as a ceo kight scare people, your rash atttitude whennyou can fire people might be the problem, your. Energy as a liability to some going wrong is probably the issue.
Whennyou peddling some bullshit people walk away.. when you are real people stick around.. if you think people fear you, you forget the rules of ethiquette and a reality that many people dont fear.. so you most likely get walked away on or many just dont view interacting with you as worthy
@JamesCraig-on8oo works for me.. so it's right for me... Not looking for validation.. your option is about you.
Enjoy your journey..
@JamesCraig-on8oo what experiance/s influenced your inner world to bring about such a judgemental response.. I may be wrong for you... but in reality, I have found it to be the best approach...
Such anger in your words, Jamescraig...
@@juliemarks9751 its not anger but there is defiant attitude and challenges to what is said, in my comment.
What i am conveying, is simple, but it is lost on those with too much ego. This label, INFJ it does not mean much.. its the same as saying PTSD, it soften and generalise and even hides the meaning behind what is being said.. as far as i jf goes it hides the bullshit of arrogance egocentric and narcism, and when you mae this echo chamber where you paint yourself as this rare sigma injf introvert but really the man with the plan bull shit. You start living in a dellusion, because you cant be wrong your this underground psych spy nobody know about right... its false.. its an illusion yall gathering and crowding around and while you hid your bs behind this veil of injf, your bs gets worse, weve seen this happen in many group turning radical in their own ways.. because of this exact thing this video and other alike are doing. And the people who buys into it.. like there is no questioning in your mind whether injf is a thing or not, ur it right ? Your hiding your bullsht.
Now as far as the comment i commented to
I dont want to soak up information, I want to drown in it.
Same. Also can’t STAND when necessary info is not only missing but takes FOREVER to obtain as most people beat around the bush, no matter how directly we ourselves ask the questions.
That disbelieving look they get when you know things about yet another subject. Priceless!😆
Sounds like you're describing Te
Me too!
You must be describing "entertainment".
"Infj's do not rebel for the sake of rebelling..."
That is true... Nice trait.
When I was only 8 years old;.........my Mom used to tell me that amongst all of her children (my eldest sister and my elder brother) I was different to the point where even she couldn't understand me. She said she regrets the fact that I'm her son because I was weird socially and in relation to the outside norm.
I never understood the fact why I was different from the herd. When other kids were playing outside.... I was watching The X- files sitting alone in my room. What made my life miserable is the fact that I knew exactly what manifests into what, and this power has been the primary burden of my life.
Your mother didn't know how to raise a wise soul...too bad for her... she might have learned something along the way. INFJs are here to make wonderful social change, we never conform to what's already here. We're game changers.
I'm not going to comment on what your mom said, as I don't want to hurt your feelings. I just hope that there was no lasting damage made and that you are Ok today.
Take care of yourself ❤️
Hey there, being INFJ myself and watching The XFiles or reading a book alone at 10 yo, truly makes me feel identified with what you said, the problem is not being miserable but to overcome that, remember you are valuable and worthy in God’s eyes!
My mom has been saying the same thing throughout my whole life. It no longer matters though- I have mentally door slammed her
It’s a blessing not a burden. Why would you want to be like others and fit into a dysfunctional society?
This video made me tear up a little bit. Everything you mentioned is so accurate,Jay! It’s a balm to my aching soul. How I long for people to just love and live life honestly and authentically instead of lying, manipulating, and withholding love from others. I feel so totally exhausted sometimes from being around people who are like this. Thanks for creating an online space for us INFJs! :)
I choose to live a boring life:
I'm tired of liars,
I'm tired of shallow people,
I'm tired of phony people, drunks, racist and angry people..
You get the picture?
I am a mature INFJ!! My experience throughout my life, learning people have to help themselves before we can help..
We have people that are takers and they're looking for? givers, and that's what takers live for, and how they live..
Shallow conversation doesnt have to drain you. Get used to using your insight to facilitate humor through irony etc. because joy gives positive energy reinforcement and allows the introduction of a deep thought or subject but keeps it light hearted for those who are unprepared for high intensity conversation. Consider self deprecating humor as a good starting point. Love you guys
Use the small talk for your detective work, I do it all the time and it’s fun to empathize with people.
For this reason, I compare us INFJ'S as woolf's. We can evolve in packs but we can as well leave it, for someone lonely time for reflection, evolution or simply for resting. And those animals are very wise to.
💯THIS!!
"wolves" (INTP correction).
I mistyped myself a few times for years before I figured out I was an infj. And when I started reading about and watching videos about INFJ it was a breath of fresh air. Everything people tried to criticize me for or ended up being triggered over was just a part of my natural authentic self. Thanks for your channel! ❤
Glad you found us, and happy to have you aboard
I'm reading "Gifts Differing" by Isabel Briggs Meyers and Peter Meyers, and in the chapter dedicated to INFJ and INTJ (they are described togheter) there this phrase:
"these people cannot be successfully coerced. They will not even be told anything without their permission, but they will accept an offer of facts, opinions, or theories, for free consideration;
the excellence of their understanding must be trusted to recognize what is true".
I think this is the whole point of a possible "intimidating" effect (maybe it's more a puzzling effect): INFJ and INTJ are independent thinkers,
they don't accept ideas or rules that doesn't make sense. A lot of people never question anything about what is commonly accepted or a general rule.
I realized I'm probably INTJ (but I feel I am an IN-something), but I see INFJ share a lot of similarities with INTJ if not in thinking, in how they are perceived by others,
like other introverts, so I keep watching videos after in order to understand good strategies to overcome our common problems.
At the moment the most recommended strategy is: "be yourself" and cope with the results.
by comment you are intj
Your dead nuts on all this. Well done.
ALWAYS enjoy your comments! Ya, we have to be ourselves; easier now in my mid-60's than it was when I was much younger.
Thank you for compiling this. Being an INFJ is, at times, a lonely existence. I am blessed with a husband who tries his best to understand me, and to use my "powers" for his own benefit. After years together, he finally accepted I wasn't trying to hurt him ;)
I’m an INFJ. I’m quiet and very unassuming by nature. I’m also a blind person. I can hear when people are BS-ing me. The inflection of the voice changes. It’s something I’ve learned to hone in on over 40 years.
#SolidarityToMyFellowINFJ’s 👩🏾🦯👩🏾🦯➡️
Amazing! I can hear it to😊 someone has to be a natural born lier to fool me or for me to be very distracted and lost in thoughts, and God damn! does that make me feel stupid when it happens. Does people around you often tell you that you're imagining things?
Yes. . They say that I’m “reading too much into the situation” …until they discover I was right.
“Keep upholding truth and justice.” Thank you, Jay. I really needed to hear that. It has been so long since I have heard anyone say that.
Very important to remember you can’t be wrong if you’re in the right. Thanks for your comment.
Jay
We can understand cultures as well! Habitual tactics, antics, behaviors, they don’t know it themselves. People share everything with INFJs. TMI and we can keep it to ourselves. 🐇 🕳️ of knowledge! Fun too! Can’t stand the herd 🐄 🐄 🐄.
Exactly. Great points. Pattern recognition and recall is a big strength of the INFJ. Thanks for the comment!
Jay
There are born leaders and followers. Right there with you about the herd. Can’t stand that sort of mentality.
@@koylejeune4332 Don’t care! Hahaha 🤣 that burns your hide. Are you fussing and snorting? Are you angry 😡 😤 😠 don’t care. Hahaha 🤣 you’re still a follower! 🚪 slam! I don’t put up with arrogant people.
@@roberttrough6439 a bit overboard but I like the energy. And yes, arrogant people are distasteful to me.
You got the infj dagger eyes. I can see you showing it for a second a time and it gives me chills.
Rip whoever screwed you ; I don’t the have yet to recover psychologically
Being infj gives me everything I need and I have need of no other people. It's the perfect disposition for ghosting and I love it.
No more crazy train trauma drama from the other inmates.
That stupid but i laughed, was that your intended goal ?
@@JamesCraig-on8oo I dunno you sound like a real genius. Probably way too smart for me.
You can go back to finger painting
@@halcyonzenith4411 and you sound like an edgelord
@@quandaIedingIe thanks for proving the point. See ya
@@halcyonzenith4411 2 different people
I see myself as a very unassuming person yet I have been hurt so many times by people, including suggestions that I see a psychiatrist. I reckon this is because I am not one of the herd and am always ready to stand up for my beliefs. Thanks for all you share with us. It is spot - on.
Being part of the herd, when they are led by lies is not a mental illness however, usually, when part of a herd, and you drift offf all the time, yes that is mental illness.. hard diffrence to make isnt it. Makes it even hsrder when half of your psychy is sumed up by few word you know nothing about but is design for you to relate with .
If you aint psych yet this will drain your brain enought that you will be ;)
Wow after I took the test two yrs ago and got INFJ, I did some research and I remember wanting to cry because I finally felt like there are other people like me out there!! i felt so understood. Like I wasn’t wrong for being the way I am. I love being intuitive as it comes so naturally to me. It’s very beautiful.
I have taken this test in the past and came up with INFJ. Today you slammed it in my face that that is exactly what I am. With every point you made I felt like you were peering into my very soul. Thank you for this video.
I’ve watched a lot of INFJ videos, but this one summed it up for me like no other video. Everything was spot on, almost eerie.
Awesome, thank you for watching!
Jay
I am looking for INFJ sisters😂😂 let’s connect girls here… it’s so hard these days everyone is either superficial or just intimidated by us.
hey 👋
@@saganasivakumaran4242 how are you Sagana? Where are you from?? Are you an INFJ?
Would love to gain an injf sisterhood…how do we connect?
Hey ladies, I would love to connect too.
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Not only are we adept at seeing where things are headed etc, we cannot not do that!
YES WOW. You have nailed it all. Realized a few years ago way too late in my life that people get uncomfortable around me for seemingly zero reason because I do not see, care about or play into their ego identity self! Their 'story' they're weirdly identified with.
I'm going for reality, what's really there, what's authentic, simple, clear, casual, friendly, lighthearted, accepting, low key, kind (overly kind), honest - and it had always blown my mind how people inexplicably react badly to that!
They sense that I don't play into their ego identity, and the reason I figured it out was because I watched how other people interact with each other. They're always fawning or playing into each other's fake self, and I just don't even see that or pick up on it. I just communicate straight and kind. But boy that doesn't work cuz people are really invested in their story and if you don't see it and play into it, you can get a lot of backlash unexpectedly from out of nowhere.
Yes I finally realized how to use that power of ripping people apart, if only in my mind to detach from them when needed. Or to their face when necessary, with zero remorse.
You can hurt me pointlessly & selfishly 3 or 4 times, and I'll figure you had a bad day, it all doesn't matter, it's a misunderstanding, no problem etc. But presume upon my good nature and tear me up with your meanness one more time, I will rip you apart. As some people describe that with infjs, I will eviscerate you verbally, tell you all about yourself, and leave your guts laying on the floor... and say right you got a problem with that? I kept telling you to stop being ugly to me. Go cry more - I gave you the best of myself for a long time and you abused it 😂 Bye now!
I did know for years that I somehow identified with the character Julia on that old TV show called Designing Women. She would often do that (beautifully) to people toward the end of the show when their BS was exposed lol. But it took me way late in life to even be able to stand up for myself at all, I had 'doormat syndrome'.
SUBSCRIBED! Glad to find you! This is straight-to-the-core GENIUS info.
(Are you also are a 5w6 Enneagram type? I am. Lots of INFJs are 5s in the Enneagram system.)
Interesting and eye opening ! Yes for myself red flags appear numerously and then it ‘ s oh ! wait a minute can this really be so . Eventually they reveal themselves again & again and you call out their deceit and they act ignorant . Soo phoney . Then they get peeved and angry that you see through them . Walk away is the solution quietly .
By that definition 0 injf would be democrat they woul all be trump supporter and conservative. But no.. most of these streamer are democrats and alot of these commentator also.. this show its bullshit.. you are something else and you are being lied to causebit easier to put a veil on something confusing rather than breaking it down
I’m one of your sisters,,,
Eviscerate them
I’m also a Leo/ dragon
We have a list of famous infj ‘s////including I think Lincoln, Barack, Oprah....
I'm able to at times see things to come, but I wanted to know how I could do this. I have just realized that I am a INFJ last year and I am so grateful for now knowing why my life has been the way that it is. I always noticed that I thought so much different than most others and I always felt like I was never understood or listened to about anything I did or said. I just don't know why I never did any research to self discovery to try and understand more about myself, but it was not until my little brother was listening to something on RUclips about the INFJS so I began to think about it and I started reading more about it and I came across a RUclips channel that really stuck with me and I was so excited to listen each and every day. I am happier than I have been in the past and I continue to listen and learn about myself every day. Thank You for your channel. Keep up the good work and I hope you are successful and have all your dreams come true.
One of my closest friends told me that I scare people with my intelligence and honesty. I asked why I'm alone. I don't want to be alone but I can't seem to get a date. Being alone all the time is taking its toll on my mental health. It's hard.
Yes, even as INFJ‘s we still need social interaction. While I enjoy being alone, I try to make sure to get out a few times a week at least. It’s a balance. You could try different social groups, activities, etc., and as long as you don’t have to stay there more than a couple of hours it should energize you instead of drain you.
Jay
Intelligence and honesty are valued by intelligent and honest people. Those people will be very hard to find in our society as our society glorifies attributes expressed by celebrities, athletes, and smarmy politicians.
I'm going to be honest its not your intelligence. The infjs I know/live with can be overly critical of others while not being able to accept (verbally because while they modify their actions it is extremely hard to vocally admit wrong) their own flaws at times. Then it's the extreme anxiety and dislike for new situations that can be draining when you want to share with them. And the smug/bossy attitude that sneaks out at times. I love my infjs but sometimes I have to put my foot down. Maybe try meeting new people and ask an enfp or entj for honest feedback. These youtubers will gas you up to think you're perfect but no mbti is we're just human. You'll find your tribe, give it some time.
@@Chillipep Our society glorifies narcissism.
We see through things and people instantly, but (in my case anyway) really hope we’re wrong… but rarely are (which usually makes me sad because I like to hope people aren’t the useless or unpleasant people I see them to be).
I can relate so much to this.
I agree. But never expect too much.
It's so tempting to try to help/ fix them though, but in reality, its not going to get any better.
Word! I've been told so many times that I'm pessimistic that I've lost count. The frustrating part is that, even if my gut feelings and predictions sometimes are horrible and discouraging, I tend to think it's probably unjustified and that I shouldn't be cynical. And even though it almost always ends up tragically unraveling like predicted and oftentimes worse. Even then despite the insight into the abyss of human depravity. I still find myself discovering beautiful little quirks in people tho, subtle, unconscious and mostly unnoticed. That is what makes for me not giving up on hope. humanity is beautiful at it's core but something becomes fundamentally wrong without precens.
I hate having to fore-warn people, "You really don't want me to go there..." I warn people to "RUN" if I go silent and just stare at them.
Hahaha. I think that’s good advice.
Jay
Omg, that's what my 40-year-old son said about me. INTJ, here. He said exactly that, that if I get angry, run. In other words, you don't want to stick around for the comeuppance.
They don't realize that we are extreme planners.
mate, you're cringe af
The magic of RUclips sent me here and BOOM 💥 I discovered I'm an INFJ yrs ago. Everything you have outlined in your videos are spot on 🎯 Thank you 🙏
I will be 61 years old, April. The twentit took me a long time to realize I am and INF. J, it's very hard for me to communicate with other people because. As you say, one thing, I can't stand your small talk. But I really enjoy a Jeep conversation with someone that has knowledge and wisdom. It helps me to grow small talk. Where's the completely out? I love learning new things. I have so many different interests.
I love musi like to build things.
Mechanical things plumbing, electrical carpentry. I used to buy real estate and the joy of buying real estate was to buy an old building in remodeling.
And look at the before and the after it was like art to me. I didn't care about the money.
You sound very INFJ! Thanks for sharing and watching!
Jay
I had just recently became quite angry with someone who i had a pretty strong idea of within my mind, and when i saw that the reality completely demolished that idea, i was perturbed.
Long story short, this friend behaved in a manner that was very unfitting, and unfair to other people. I had constructed this idea that she was much more mature and discplined. When i saw the polar opposite, i was profoundly disappointed.
Being aware she was dealing with a lot, personally. I did not push my point any further. I resigned myself to apologizing, said i had made a mistake, and accepted her response that i knew was just a rationalization.
As far as she knows, she was right. How i truly feel, however, is that i placed her well-being above my principles, and deprived myself of genuine closure.
This chapter is not over. But, i fear that if i point out how her behaviour is indicative of something much deeper, connected to her unresolved weaknesses, and how it will not be helpful for her in the future, i may be invalidated once again.
An impasse within myself.
Ive been obsessing over this for days.
I was in a similar situation this past year. My advice (and honestly its really hard) is unless she is actively and continually hurting you or other people, you should let it go. Ask yourself are you, they, and everyone else otherwise happy? You don't have to trust them, but don't hold a grudge against your friend. Unfortunately going back on your words is not a good move, but like me, you will know next time if it happens again to not apologize for things you didnt do and be more assertive. Sometimes all you can do is learn from your mistakes and let others do the same.
I nearly lost a friend over this. She was acting avoidant and I was gently but continually pressing a topic that was bothering me because I was concerned about her. I later found out she was only recently going to therapy and had serious anxiety problems over it. I should have just let it be until she was less stressed or more firmly asserted what I needed to discuss from the beginning. All was well after she finally opened up about it but I basically had to force her to admit her deepest insecurities on/off over 3 months, which was not fun for either of us.
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That does resonate with me. When the feelings were fresh, I was inches away from slamming the door on my connection with her, and not ever to look behind me again.
What I was feeling, was a deep, swirling vortex that was incessantly knawing at me, enticing me to submit and to give in to that urge. But, perhaps I was correct to not do that.
My god, was I ever besieged by those demons in that moment...
You're right. And that is why I feel this impasse. If I correct course and open up about how I truly felt, it may realign myself emotionally, but it would also confirm that violation of ethical principle, and that would compel me to become more vigilant.
Perhaps to absolve the conundrum, is to, in fact, let it go. It truly would not provide myself any real solace by hitting myself in the head with a hammer.
The advice is much appreciated, friend. 🙏
Once we see it, it can't be unseen. I tried doing this for years and it led to personality collapse. Not fun. Tragic!
I often ask strange questions to people after I get to know them a little that can become more meaningful or give insight on their way of thinking and mood while still being reminiscent of small talk. Questions like “If you could no any #/amount of anything what would it be? (I wish to know how many grains of sand there are definitively) Would you enjoy living in a house made of cactus, like some desert birds do? This, at least, is what I do to gauge the mood/wavelength.
I also learned to rely on my gut feelings. If I feel like I should be on edge around someone and keep it in the back of my mind, analyze, stay friendly, and see how they treat me. Sometimes when they do this they think they’re better than me or treat me as beneath them. Or outright tell me questionable things that marks red flags. But it’s always interesting to think about how it will play out and how to verbally defend myself if needed if they tend to argue or get easily mad.
This is SO good! Re future, I just call it extrapolating...logically looking at something in present time and viewing it up the line. Herd mentality is behind most of society's games---'fitting in', 'now I'm supposed to's', status, etc. I'm a sigma empath which is close to INFJ traits. The comments on this thread are awesome.
Wow! Guilty as charged. It is very hard to find friends. Even little things annoy others. One night my family had dinner with friends. We walked on the beach afterward and I pointed out some simple constellations to my kids. The other family literally got angry "What was I now, an astronomer!!" Typical behavior all too often. That was the end of us.
Omg he was saying a word!! I’ve taken the Meyers Briggs Test many times in my formative years and always tested as an ENFJ, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more introverted and began testing as an INFJ. What he described in this video is nail on head.
One thing that rang so true is the wanting to roll my eyes when someone is exaggerating to impress or show off. Also the deeper meaning of that specific person is someone who is excruciatingly insecure and no one else is picking up on it in the time but us INFJs!! The insecurity has nearly a stench it is so cringe. You’re almost embarrassed for the person when they realize INFJs see right through them and are not impressed. I could go on and on but leave it there. I liked the video very much.
Yes, it’s tough because we can see through the lies. Thanks so much for watching!
Jay
I remember everything what the other person said something to me in a conversation, and then when we happen to have a word again I use that information and they would be shocked that I remember everything what they said in that convo, and I live for that. Sometimes people would really go crazy the amount of times I have remembered their birthday or name when we have just talked for just once. Being an INFJ is insane, cause you know how to MANIPULATE people's reactions and ACTIONS.
I’ve always been skeptical about categorizing yourself based on a generalized test (apparently ironically that’s in line with INFJ) but gosh darn if the more I hear people talk about and describe INFJ characteristics the more I understand why I fell into this category on the test. There’s a lot in here that matches up with what I experience all the time.
What an amazingly eloquent and simple to understand video. It's absolutely refreshing to this INFJ-A(Thank God it's an "A" and not a "T" anymore) I wish I could sit down with you and just talk for hours and hours...a girl can dream!!!!❤
Thank you so much, means a lot to me. 🙏
Jay
How did u change from T to A. Plz share some tips. 😊
Holy moly… you just quoted my favorite of the good emperors. I am such an INFJ.
Feels like a breath of fresh air!!! Im infj but also an extreme empath, can be draining! Ive been called a witch before hahaha! Im not!!! My late boss used to focus om my expression and when he was annoyed used to shout "ag what now!?" Hahaha! He used to say i never say anything without a full backup story and plan. Its a pitty there are so few of us, i dont like wasting time with small talk between family members but still entertain them from time to time. Tanks for another excellent video!!! 🤗🌸
Sociopath not injf but okay do you boo
@@JamesCraig-on8oo jou hol skattebol
Is that a curse, did you just curse me ?
@@JamesCraig-on8oo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 no i wont do that im a good person skattebol is a type of name you would call a loved one or a treasured person
It takes time and maturity to see the world and people for what they are. It is indeed a super power. People are taken aback by us as we are so very deep. Others find us intimidating and I have been told this many times. We are lone wolves as we beat at our own drum. We have to be true to who we are even though it can be a tough journey. I don’t feel I have a boring life. I rather have those who embrace their authentic self rather than have superficial so called friends.
I was told at 15 I was an INFJ. I have an IQ of 153 and this kind of intelligence seems to be common among us. I have lived in Syracuse, NY most of my life. I was born here and it is a very quaint, old city with about 150,000 and Onondaga Couny is small with only 500,000. I have NEVER met another INFJ!!! I really have never felt lonely even though I have spent most of my life alone. I do not currently have any "friends" outside of my husband's sister's, who I am just recently reaching out to. At 49, I was yet prepared to become social because, of course, I do not have small talk so meeting new people is challenging. It never matters, because alone for me is bliss with Christ. I have been married 10 years to an INFP-T, we are perfectly matched. Thank you for this video. The world has become so selfish and violent. Men and women have confused their rightful positions and we are now all surrounded by evil...and treachery.
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I live 20 minutes from you. High IQ as well…120. No where near yours. Lol but I am an INFJ too.
@@iconworldclassllc7045 MENSA it is a society for people with high IQs. When we meet no one is concerned with anything that would cause biases. We are unified by our geekiness. MENSA is Latin for table. Our logo is a oval (round) table
@IvanaKaraman isn't it strange how you likely find that spreading joy is enough until you one day connect with the person, lover or friend, who just gets it?! Knowing God, King Jesus, intimately took off the chill that loneliness might leave. I would rather be alone than have relationships with no depth
@@iconworldclassllc7045 MENSA has a test. You only have to score in the top 2%. I scored one of the top 3 scores ever in the history of ASVAB testing. That is the test to determine eligibility for any and all branches of the armed services. They won't tell exactly where I was, 1,2, or 3, but I believe I was first.
Omg this is so spot on... Lately the superpower of understanding people at a glance and read their energy though is becoming such a problems in my intimate relationships. My romantic partners on one hand feel seen like never before and at the same time they become scared and hide behind denial and the comfort of what they know...which is making so hard to keep a long lasting relationship. The game of continue self development and research of our personal truth is not an easy path to follow, and often a lonely one..
Since very young, I have used the ' innocent until proven guilty ' motto and say if they are guilty, it because they have proved it. It's not that I go looking for the wrong doing, but if it being presented time after time, actions will be taken😂 That's so interesting that you mentioned here🤭
Others feel like we are peeping toms, so to speak, and see through their facade! We are just using a natural ability to 'know' the truth and they realize it. So true about hating lying, it is a deal breaker for me. That is counter to deep meaningful conversation, which I thrive on!
Thank you so much for your videos 🥰 Sometimes I wonder is there anyone out there like me? I appreciate your perspective. Sometimes I feel I am intimidating to others but I am unsure why. I have the added complication of being an INFJ and autistic. So, life with others feels very complicated.
Enjoy your unique perspective. Intimidation can weed out some problem people who wouldn't be worth your time anyway. I'm an old INFJ with an adult autistic daughter. When we go out in public, people clear a path for us! The ones who approach are the ones who get us.
Excellent video. All so true and resonates with me. Thank you fellow INFJ😊
Absolutely 😊I recently got told I was INTENSE😂I've heard that a few times. INFJS are also very, very observant as well.
A MILLION THANKS FOR THIS ENLIGHTENING VIDEO. It is intellectual and emotional GOLD to an INFJ like myself. Ive always felt these amazing, yet isolating, realizations since I was a child but never truly realized how rare we are until my 40's. Its especially difficult to realize we're authentically gifted when 99% of other MBTI types aren't as aware. Hopefully this vid can help others realize their power earlier so they dont have to experience decades of doubt/confusion or being told were delusional. LOL It' def a huge relief to know my tendency to DOOR SLAM harmful or treacherous people is'nt disfunctional- rather its about self preservation. btw I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my chair when you did the funhouse mirror image and said YUMMY😂😂😂 THANKS AGAIN ❤
I really love the way you say “skills”❤
Thanks to Appalachia ;)
Jay
Brilliant insights. Remarkable analysis. So helpful. So timely and needed. Extraordinary wisdom.
How did you manage to encapsulate and summarize so accurately in such a brief video - so many life changing insights and tips? You are a gifted being and are helping many of us more than you may ever know.
It’s like you peeked into my head and my heart. And my journal lol. Thank you ever so much 🌿
I’m glad the video helped you and thank you for your kind comment. Means a lot to me!
Jay
This is a must view video for any INFJ.
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Thank you my friend.
Jay
You read me like a book..! (As well as many of us, I’m sure). Your amazing brother & Thank you, this has helped our family in so many ways. Where they can better understand me. Especially, upon my return from deployments and now as a veteran. 👍
INFJ stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging, which represents the core personality traits of this type. However, the INFJ Heyoka empath is an even rarer variant, as they possess an additional layer of empathic sensitivity, often referred to as being a "Heyoka."
Heyoka empaths are said to be the rarest and most powerful variety, acting as a spiritual mirror to those around them to assist their growth. The Heyoka's unorthodox approach to life makes others question their own preconceived notions of what's right and wrong, real and fantasy.
The reason there are so few INFJ or Heyoka is because it is those at the highest level of the game. An Heyoka has mastered becoming a mirror, (until you have aquired the abilities of the opposition, the narcisisst, you can't see through their mirror) until you become something you can't see through it.
What is the highest level of empath?
Some are more powerful than others. The Heyoka empath is the most powerful of all the types, because this kind of empath is, essentially, an emotional mirror, and tend to be more spiritual than the others. They are also said to be able to read minds.
Infj-AT Heyoka here... born a Native American, Apache, mixed Jew also Ashkenazi and Sephardic, Black Asian, Hispanic too mostly white....
Guess that could be why I feel out of place even among INFJ's. I just do my thing and help everyone I can.
This comment section is very validating in a life thats very lonely and isolating. If no one has told you yet, I appreciate your existence. ❤
INFJ here. I felt seen watching this. Def joining the Circle.
Sounds like an INFP to me. Also has huge amounts in common with INTJs & INTPs. What is the common thread? We're all Introverted intuitives. It's great to begin studying your own type. It's the quickest way to begin understanding the cognitive functions. But you set yourself up with an enormous blind spot if you don't follow through and study the other types. You're not the only one who has super powers. Plus, focusing on your superpowers can render you unaware of the superpowers of less similar types. You don't want to be blindsided by making that mistake!
When I first found out that I was an INFJ I didn't quite understand what that meant...I'm so glad I found your channel, you speak truth, and I want to thank you for that. If it's ever possible, I would love to give you a hug. Thank you!
You are welcome! Virtual hugs and fist bumps coming your way! 👊🤗
Jay
@@INFJcircle 🤗
I relate to this on such a personal level it’s making my stomach hurt. Especially with the lying thing. I thought I was just a judgy asshole
I was just going to put this on as background noise but I ended up watching the full thing.
This is what scares me as an INFJ, I have ideas, philosophies, frameworks that may bring many constructive harmony in the world by encouraging inconsistencies and critical thinking towards the people and the organizations they attach to. But I fear someone may be so shaken and be too deep in their guilt that they take it out on me or others or themselves and I want to live a peaceful life, and I hate to have my peace threatened by a person who can't overcome their own guilt and give me the proper time to help the person
@sersnuggles7697:
Perhaps take the weight of responsibility off your shoulders.🙏🕊
❤❤❤ Youre always on point. It takes an INFJ to know an INFJ!!! 😂😂😂🙏🙏 🙏
Ive ALWAYS heard " ur crazy". By my parents an family& many others. Cause i seen through the lies an seen theyre intentions!!
Im grateful i now have confidents in my discernment.💪 💪 💪 THANK YOU Jay!!! ❤❤❤
You are welcome! I understand what you’re saying. Glad to be here for you!
Jay
This is so accurate... Especially, the thing with believing "innocent until proven guilty". Also, knowing when they are lying, giving them a chance, only to get disappointed, is exhausting sometimes.
Broad perspective and unconventional thinking. True visionaries...
I always thought there was something wrong with me because I could read eyes from my earliest years and always know when someone was lying. At the same time I never let anyone know when I know they are full of it! Some people (non infj) always said I should always call people out.
INFPs scare INFJs :)) Because we can see through that anxiety (which we also feel) but choose to share our love instead with people. Many INFJs are scared of their own power sometimes and don't share their unique talents with the world. I wish we could see more INFJs taking charge of their own lives and the ones that they love (because yall are way more fitted to do that job than INFPs tbh)
Nah infps look like babies tbh
@@redefinedliving5974yes I was bouta say I’m not scared of no one
I know you are trying to boost us, but this just felt like a whole lot of ego stroking. I do appreciate learning more tho most of your videos have been spot on for me. I only know my meyerbriggs(?). because my bff insisted. I am more into tarot and astro. She thought it would be fun to see how they overlap. The amount of scorpio in my chart certainly intersects with INFJ. It is kinda lonely, huh. Glad to find you all here.
As an INFJ I think INTJs and ENTJs are way more intimidating 🤷🏾♀️
Infs just seem like people with Asperger's. Constantly pointing out the truth and pointing out patterns they recognise. Since the science behind those personality types is pretty weak, I think its just a way for logically thinking persons to label themselves.
They are not as emotional I guess. I always liked intj. Great conversationalists.
Thanks for this affirmation! I had known that this was my personality type for quite a long time, but had not taken a look at it in any recent years. I had a tragic occurrence a couple of years ago, and this really helped to explain, quite possibly anyway, how and why things unfolded the way they did. Thank you again! ☺️
government doesn't like INFJ
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Almost 49 years old and I've never met a single other person that thinks like me, or even really understands me. I fear I will finish walking my life without a bestest friend
Hi. Same. I’ve said for years that all the people I want to meet are in their houses or don’t exist. Both make meeting difficult.
First I found out that I am autistic 🥰
Then I found out that almost all of my autistic personality traits lines up with being INFJ ♥️
Autistic pattern recognition, so I can see what is coming in the future. Need for deep conversation.
A deep sense of justice, see through people who are lying.
Notice the smallest details in people's reactions and body language.
Hyper empathic, and burning for a better world.
And more.
I have found many other autistic people that often are INFJ or INTJ.
It's called "decerning of spirits". You see deception. You see lies. You were raised by narcissists that intensified your senses to the energy and vibration of everything around you.
Honestly, “Intimidation” just comes naturally for us. It’s the “vibe” or “aura” that we give off, or sometimes could even be our face being mistaken as a “resting bitch face”.
For me, I have come to appreciate those who aren’t “afraid” of us.
People seem to dub me as “the bully” or “the villain” of their story when all I did was trying my best to be there for them.
Controlling & toning down my Honesty is a challenge too, as I do not know if my Honest will be appreciated or just seen as “being too aggressive”