I'm a 27 year old INFJ. I was always regarded as 'special'. Yet I was always conflicted by my contradictory personalities to the point I suspected for a long time that I have some sort of personality disorder like bipolar/sociopathy/psychopathy/covert narcissism. It was great just recently to learn about INFJ. I've watched many amazing videos about INFJ but this is certainly next level. Thank you!
A lifetime of feeling/being unseen/not understood leaves one with a deep appreciation for the gift of being seen. When someone is at their lowest point to help them be/feel seen…what a precious thing to be able to give. ( INFJ-what a miserable and highly valued gift, the gift of seeing but never to be seen) i think we understand the value to the point of agony.
Great comment. Yes that seems to be our cross if you see it that way. I've come to realize though that I actually get so much pleasure from people opening to me and trying to solve their riddles. I almost forget a lot of the time whether they're interested in me or analysing with me which is what I enjoy although I do find I can only do for so long with another person..
Wow! You REALLY NAILED IT! lol! Dark night of the soul is our only path to the light! Working up the courage to finally take that first step can take most of your life but there are no shorcuts unfortunately. I guess our job is so important that we arent allowed access to our power until we tame the beast. (Can't help drifting toward the abstract can we? lol)
This has been the most insightful view into my personality type that I’ve ever seen. It was truly eye opening and confirmation that the steps I’m taking in life currently are indeed going in the right direction. Thank you so much truly
The aspect of the « introverted » Fe is very true for me. I am always thinking about other people’s feelings and analyse their actions but I never come to the point where I take action to help them or talk with them about the problems I see upcoming or already could be there. I just reached the end of the video and I wanted to say thank you for this video !
This is so accurate! I’m not sure if you’ve seen Harry Murrel(?) on RUclips but his channel is called cpt and he talked about this in the difference between what he calls “convergent” and “divergent” functions. It’s very fascinating
I’ve always done the same and felt the exact same way 😭. Always constantly analyzing people’s behaviors and relationships between others but never voice it out loud lol.
I'm 53 and I think it was easier for me being INFJ when younger ... I had more time alone when younger to revive, process, take a break, I don't have that luxury so much now , its very draining
I'm 52, and you could not pay me to be 25 again. The depression has been crippling. Imagine Willie Wonka not being able to make chocolate. Instead he sells insurance and makes everyone else feel safe. I went through several sudden course corrections before I locked the gates. The magic word is NO! LOL.
So a good in depth video. 💜INFJ here (37 years old). I am a very creative INFJ. 80 percent of my life revolves around it and I have an eye for aesthetics. I love coloring my hair, but otherwise don't wear jewelry or make-up. XD I'm currently noticing how my Se is slowly fighting its way to the surface. I no longer just want to dream about my creative projects, but also put them into action. (That's why I admire ESTJ and ENTJs) I'm trying to be more part of the external world, which is tiring but not impossible. I really had to smile when you brought up the dating issue. Just yesterday I decided against dating apps because the whole system annoys and stresses me out. I've gotten to the point where I want to go out and meet new people and experience the world (not depending on an App or an Algorythmus). I really like the goofy part of my Se, I call it my inner ESTP (even though of course I will never be an ESTP and don't want to be one). But there are times when I just need it. If I trust and like someone, I'm up for any nonsense. :D My friends (almost all extroverts) say I have my own charm and wit, which makes them want to adopt me. I struggled with being an INFJ for a very long time, but now I enjoy it. We are stronger as we think!!! Thanks again for the work you put into your videos. :D
I am an INFJ in my 50's, I was diagnosed with Autism 1 at age 40. After that I started to develop my TI and SE more. Others started to notice and I found out quickly who my friends are. My Son really had a reaction I didn't expect. He told me he didn't really know a lot about me as a person before then. He thought I liked to cook and clean as a hobby. When he saw the real me, he realized I was not just about my role as a parent. I wish I could say it made our relationship better, but the jury is still out. He has his own obstacles to overcome before we can get closer. I do respect that. For context he is an INTP.
This is spot on! As early as 2nd grade I was journaling and constantly reflecting on life. I'd school my sister on how to gauge my mom's feelings and when to ask for permission. I was a family mediator keeping a watchful eye on the the dynamics and interpreting what was not being said between the two in terms of their feelings, misgivings, and inappropriate or crossing the line behaviors/ways of engaging. I was very insecure in my rationale (Ti) and would hide a lot of my cognitive-driven conclusions. When I did speak up and share that aspect circumventing Fe, people would blow up and respond in ways that brought on guilt and shame to keep my mouth shut further. I thought I was just sharing my perspective as A perspective but others were not seeing it as objective as I was but more of a reflection of my subjectivity to how I see them/situation or move through the world. The hardest part is when the Ni vision is tested and challenged to change. Really, really difficult. You end up spending so much energy pushing the vision and life pushing against it... then you are required to practice surrendering/accepting. I much preferred peace and harmony and took on the neutrality of Switzerland. I used to be the type to Fe-heavy hand the world as a way of creating a sense of control. At some point, a massive change/disruption in my life (not paying enough attention to Se/Si) turned everything on its head. I learned to get comfortable with sharing my Ni insights with someone I trust, relinquish the hold Fe had that were maladaptive and instead replace it with a better balance between Fe/Fi. I do believe you swing when you go through a growth spurt/disruption period/hitting rock bottom. I'm in a relationship with a Ti-heavy user and have taken it as an opportunity to securely develop mine, to stop hiding behind others and foster confidence (it's okay to be wrong sometimes and it's okay to speak up and people not like how you perceive things). I've learned how to develop boundaries which leads to developing principles and this ends up protecting me (even if it's not always Fe oriented and might even put off people; I no longer feel guilt for disappointing others with what I think). I don't always like how I share or dissect a situation... I'm working on that, but at least feel a little more at ease with opening up. I have a love/hate relationship with Se. At 38, I'm finally learning how to navigate the world WITH the world instead of dismissing or hiding from it. It normally feels very passive but that always tends to get me into trouble creating some sort of needing to be saved from it. When I am "with it" it can feel good to have that sense of control but also a bit bland and mundane. I long for the days where I don't have to care about what the world says is important and can just drift for as long as I want. Looking back though, some of the best years in my life were when I was engaging and experiencing rather than hibernating and introversing. I realize I really need to start putting foot to pavement to get anywhere with Ni and do everything I want to do before I die. I'm in a race against the clock, though I've been burning some years on a time out. I know I have to get back into it... just preparing for the next leg. Great video presentation! I also see the functions the way you do. It's so simple and other people complicate the meanings too much in an attempt to make it new. Your approach is very intuitively obvious in a very good and true way. 😊I googled "how to get a personality" after this video 😅 NOT SERIOUS, BUT SERIOUSLY
That's interesting. I'm a 34-year-old INFJ and I've always cared about my higiene, I stated wearing make-up when I was 13 or 14, I've always cared about about looking aesthetic and I've always painted my nails. I love dancing and singing. My two cents so far is that the individual natal chart can show the specific manifestation of a person's type that seems to be the more general framework for the person.
I totally agree. I also grew up with an ISFP mother who always taught me how important it is to have nice looks, encouraged me to put on makeup before leaving the house, and it became like a small voice in the back of my head. I think our upbringing has a lot to do with how our personality is shaped into the individuals we are. Not cognitive functions alone.
Yes, I too care about how I present myself, in all circumstances. I want to project an image that I respect others, and myself. I also find it annoying when others don’t take the time to do the same. No one needs to look at my worst version of myself, on any level. Mic drop. -INFJ
It's interesting when INTJ's eventually start to loop in Ni-Ti at times (because they do). There is even the simultaneous Ni-Ti-Fi loop or Ni-Fi-Ti loop. It can be completely detached from the external world or there could be little bits of Se information coming in while in this loop, but Ni is definitely running the show, but even though it is, it seems like the purpose of all of it is to dig deep into what you think and feel. It isn't at all about taking an action or achieving some outcome for your self or others in external reality. It can lead to that, but anyway the point is I think this a key thing that all INJ's share is that looping experience in a way that others don't because of Ni leading it. It really is a shame the whole Te/Fe being lost on each other. I feel like everyday there is an INJ friendship somewhere in the world that could have started or become something interesting or more, but the Te/Fe thing pushes the other away somehow (not always, but it happens).
This is amazing, and unprecedented in any video I've seen before. Thanks a bunch!! I finally feel like I understand this stuff It's funny, from childhood until my late 20's, I was very strong in Fe (people loved being around me as I could make them feel welcomed and allowed to be authentic), and I was well aware that I could fall into overthinking, paranoia, isolation, etc. I also felt especially great for a few years when I was out dancing a lot and meeting new people (blossoming Se that had been missing). Then, through a host of unfortunate developments, I started to doubt myself and become scared of being rejected (childhood trauma re-emerged and strengthened), which led to my Ni and Ti totally taking over, and I have now been fighting that stuff for over 8 years. It's been really tough to say the least. During all this time, I've suspected the issues to lie in my defensiveness (shame), but could never discern whether I was making myself small and clownish or making myself easy-going and open, and so I couldn't find a strategy to trust and follow to get out of it. With the information from this video, I now know exactly what is missing and I'm so excited to finally break out of this crazy loop. Thank you so much
I appreciate this video. I am an INFJ who is in their early 30's and still trying to figure out where I fit in. You explained the functions in a way that resonates with me to improve or at least work on my 3rd and 4th functions. To be honest, even my 2nd, FE. I have been staying in my comfort zone and not growing into my potential. Anyway, I would love to see more about INFJ from you. I am happy that I stumbled across this video. ❤
You will find it. I am a 48 year old INFJ and had my dark night of the soul recently and its tough. Sadly we dont get an easy run at life and until you feel like you have lost everything it is difficult to find the introspective space and time to drag the demons into the light where they can be forgiven, yes forgiven. A demon can not be "killed" just like you cant kill only part of yourself. It must be studied, understood, forgiven and finally integrated. This is the shadow work process Carl Jung decribes and he should know as an INFJ himself. Find a safe place in nature that you can return to any time you want and dont bring any distractions (you know what I mean) sit with yourself and go fishing for what hurts you most and confront it. That is where I would start. Good luck sister! Love -J
since high school i have been trying to understand myself and i have learned things on my own. without knowing anything about personality types, i've only recently found all of this. and its both fascinating and gratifying to listen to this and to see where all these functions were showing up in my life. due to the kind of home environment i was in i think many of these had to kick in much earlier, for me to navigate life at that time. i knew them, i just didn't know what to call them. a lot of my life felt like i was holding a candle and paper, and i would venture out into the darkness and map it out. so that i could turn to someone latter on and show them the way, the map i had made, if they needed it. thank you. great video.
I am an INFP with an INFJ husband (which I only just found out today) I can see that I used to express very strong Fe traits which he LOVED! I did a lot of the Fe for the both of us. But then I started express my Fi. This shift unfortunately caused a huge amount of conflict. As it felt like our values were not aligned anymore, if we had understood about the functions, we could have navigated that a bit more gracefully. I would’ve understood what a loss my Fe traits was to him, (because he hasn’t stepped into his own Fe )
Including myself as a part of the group has been an extremely helpful statement to me (in one of your earlier videos), just thinking about myself never clicked, but including myself in the group I’m trying to take care of does.
"Including myself in the group I'm trying to take care of". 😭 That, right there is key! Is a beautiful, deep soul healing, peace producing/inducing action we NEED to practice daily. Just like in an airplane if the oxygen masks fall we need to place one on ourselves first so we can help others! 💞
Very well done! I mean very well done! The detail and the whole production was excellent. I wasn't bored, loved the visuals and received a lump sum of knowledge that will definitely aid me overcoming this depression. The break down is ridiculous (in a good way. 👍🏾 ) I really appreciate you and your work. Thanks! ❤ Definitely have to rewatch this one a few times.
Your video was incredibly clear thank you. You explained things with very appropriate terms cause as an INFJ, I can say we usually feel misunderstood. By the way, I think people don't realize how touching it can be for us to be totally understood. So I guess we just try to really deeply listen to others in return and try to provide something to others or some advice when we talk with someone. I think it's fair to say we practice active listening and we're genuinely trying to find solutions while we continue to discuss with someone. It makes sense when your second function is your "tool" function. But I think that also explains why we usually don't like small talk. I think we prefer talking with a purpose in mind and when there is something that can be achieved through conversations. We don't just talk to talk. I think it's just a very (Ni) trait. It was very interesting to me when you talked about trying to do more hugs, taking action, and not staying shy with the (Fe) function for INFJs. It's certainly not bad advice but I think the examples you gave correspond more to a Sensory (Se) approach. Something you'll usually see ENFJs do more. But I think that's exactly the reason why INFJs are qualified as free therapists and I think that role corresponds exactly to our niche way to be. Direct contact is more an expression of (Fe) through the senses. But it doesn't mean that's the only way to express it. (Se) also stays our weakest function we naturally neglect. I think we make our (Fe) shine through active listening, emotional support and changing people's way of looking at things to see them in a more hopeful and brighter light. So not in a sensory way but more in an abstract way to heal your soul. That's probably a kind of support people rarely pay attention to but I can tell people who noticed what we were doing can say we really helped them to take the time to think about the meaning of their life, share their sufferings, making them heard. And I think you can agree because of what you said about your conversation with this INFJ. I'd just like people could pay more attention to the different kinds of support someone can receive and realize that sensory attention isn't always what someone needs. I think it's particularly obvious for traumas such as someone's mourning for example. I don't think sensory attention or making a good meal could help someone to get out of it as efficiently. Of course it helps, I'm not saying it's useless by any means but, I don't think it can directly help to go beyond some traumas. I think that's situations where you need to accept reality but find a way to live with that because we all have to. All of this to say, I think it's more the kind of support we will tend to provide when we decide to take action with our Fe even if our role might appear more discreet. I was very surprised to hear that some people actually really liked our softer approach compared to ENFJs. It's very interesting cause I've heard some people being pissed off by ENFJs because they were too outgoing for them and were taking too many actions and were causing more trouble. Even if I love them so much and admire them for being so nice and outgoing, I think I can see where people are coming from with this. I think the fact we tend to be more introspective and reflect more on things about a problem pushes us not to directly act sometimes and actually, people prefer to deal with things by themselves sometimes. So even if it's passive, it can actually be the right approach to take with certain people. Of course, we always want to help just like them even if others can't tell. But I think the only difference is we take a step back before assessing the situation to judge if we should act or not. As INFJs, the (Ni) function we have is also a function that reflects on reality and the potential, of what will happen if I act to impact reality, so every single decision we make is well thought out basically. That's why we might struggle with spontaneity but that's also what allows us to approach things carefully. I think people miss the value of not acting in the right circumstances and the damage acting can create sometimes. I heard from ENFJs themselves that people didn't like their interventions sometimes and that it caused them much sadness. That actually makes me sad myself cause I prefer that ENFJ approach, always trying to help rather than someone who doesn't care and I tried to be more like them and be more outgoing about helping others. So then I don't really know what to think if people actually value this more toned-down (Fe) approach. It seems that Thinker types tend to generally like it more for example. So maybe this more neutral attitude of not directly taking action is a fair role to occupy for us, maybe that's what really corresponds to us. In the end, I think we have our own more subtle way to act with (Fe). I feel like INTPs actually feel the same way as us compared to ENFJs, some said to me they sometimes get someone's problem but don't know how to act about it. And the fact (Se) is a blindspot for them doesn't push them to participate in reality unlike us but in the same way, we still don't take as much action as ENFJs. And ENTPs, I guess the balance we have between Feeling and Thinking turns them on for some of them and gives them a Feeler who can talk with them without being shocked by their blunt approach despite the fact they get people's feelings. But contrary to us they prioritize (Ti) so I guess that's why you'll rarely see their (Fe) come out. Or you'll usually see it entertainingly. I get why people say INxJs are usually stubborn and it's hard to change our way but, the thing about the (Ni) function is it's not some normal type of stubbornness. It would be more fair to call it perseverance. People tend to forget that even if our (Se) Extraverted Sensing function is low, we're not taking decisions out of nowhere. As I said, as (Ni) doms, all our decisions are well thought out. We take feedback from our whole (Se) life experience to come to our conclusion. Even if someone else can't look at our past to judge if what we say is justified, if we take a decision it's because we know it is and we know it's the best decision to take in a precise circumstance. I don't think people tend to question dom functions from other types as much as they do with (Ni) doms. Nobody questions how INFPs feel or what INTPs think so I don't see why we would do with what INFJs envision. As it is rightly said in the video, (Ni) is a function that can hardly exist in daily life. The problem is usually we actually have to go against people because we work a lot in manifesting things. We picture something, then we organize reality to make it real. We can't simply listen to you and give up on what we want to achieve if it's totally achievable for us because we can't imagine it as clearly as we can. People tend to struggle to envision things with clarity and can be a little shy when they have to deal with guessing and uncertainty because they don't have facts to choose safely. But you won't always have this luxury in life. Sometimes you'll have to take the right call. I get it can be scary, but for us INxJs, it rarely is because we easily identify the patterns and get what are the most likely outcomes when we consider all the existing parameters in one single situation. It's like playing with probabilities. So we have no other way but to go against the tide sometimes because we're made to envision the future with more confidence and shape it. We have no other choice but to ignore, continue working and prove to others we were right all along and even if they don't get how we knew it was possible or it was most likely going to happen since day 1. Of course, nobody can 100% predict the future, but that doesn't mean you can't evaluate the most likely outcomes based on life experience or influence it. People could have more faith in us and question our decisions less too. We know what we're doing most of the time and that's our dominant function. No need to be a genius to evaluate that the probability of arriving at work on time is higher than the probability for a meteor to crash on the planet tomorrow. So I don't see why it should be debated as much. It becomes more apparent with personality types who have a lower (Ni) function because they start to act paranoid and make more far-fetched predictions or bold statements INxJs would never make because the patterns for it simply don't exist in life or it is a minority. When we don't have enough data to establish solid probabilities, we will say we absolutely don't know. We know what we're doing. Sorry for this novel btw...
This takes some serious guts, girlfriend. I give you props. -INFJ p.s. as an INFJ female in mid life, I can say, as a child, my FE took a very long time to develop and I would say I spend most of my time looping. It really, really sucked. But I am very well integrated now, it just takes a while to develop that confidence, for some of us.
You rock, I'm as stoked about your videos as I am about Wenzes' & Michael Pierce's. Really helpful. One of those INFJs, here. Trying to make sure I make the most out of this life.
Wow, I feel so seen. I did an online personality quiz a few weeks ago and I got INTP, I related to parts of it (for example the logical Ti thinking) but not all of it. Have looked other possible similar types, tested my cognitive functions for INTP, INTJ, and INFP… Researched and watched your videos on all those three types and all partly resonated but not fully… was struggling with many having to choose a little bit between feelings and logic, as I think I am a logical person like an INTP but also I am very aware of social situations and not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings based on logic. But also I wouldn’t make a decision purely based on feelings alone like an INFP. I am organised a bit, but not as much as an INTJ and not as little as an INFP. I saw an article about how INFJs can have an internal contradiction between introverted intuition and introverted thinking, between logic and thinking. I thought THAT IS ME, that’s why I can’t choose between INTP and INFP…. They’re too one or the other, too feelings OR logic? Tested my cognitive functions for INFJ and it was a strong match. Watched your video and it was from the get go so spot on, the pictures of the astrological signs and seeing eye, I have such an interest int he occult and base a lot of my life choices on it, then everything you said was just so accurate. I know INFJs are a rare one, but I feel so strongly that is me. I think even the fact I have gone to so much internal consideration of archetyping myself fits lol
You could also mention the shadow functions of a type. I feel like a lot gets left out. It would be nice to also see how the shadow functions affect a person's life, and I could see a lot of connections between the shadow and the main functions. Overall, great video. I'm really glad I found you.
Socionics shows Ni is intuition of time. Which is visions of the past and future. 8 types have + Ni that visualizes the future with minimal reference to the past. The other 8 types have - Ni that sees the past repeating itself in the future. INFJ (IEI) has + Ni which makes them optimistic that they can counsel people to improve for the better.
"Potential" My INFJ brain was screaming at me say potential! When you were talking about Ni. Vision sounds ok and yet potential is more apt. In my opinion.
I grew up in a house full of Fjs, so I was encouraged --- sometimes aggressively --- to engage this function ! I was involved in many activities, in childhood ,and adolescence, and was surrounded by people of all ages, constantly. In other words, I was socialised towards extraversion. ( As you stated). Although I am well into adulthood, I still have moments where I can isolate for long periods of time. But I have no problem slipping into Fe when the occasion occurs ; I have noticed that I can be charming , and convincing when I need to be. I worked in restaurants as a server, for much of my twenties , so I really had to call upon The Great Mother( Fe) to thrive in an oftentimes hectic, but exciting work environment ( Se). These were the years where my external functions were refined.
Greatly appreciate the ideas and insights discussed and their presentation. Your approach is thoughtful and respectful. The ideas and insights are so well thought out an overly dramatic presentation is not needed. Perhaps that is my appreciation of the Ni qualities of the video and the limited Se glitz. I especially appreciate the comments on the differences between male and female propensities relating to Fe and Ti. From the perspective of a 60+ INFJ male, it mirrors my experience. My enjoyment and fulfillment in life has greatly increased as I developed my Fe more fully and minimized the Ti. It is a good point that societal factors are involved in perpetuating these male/female differences. A heartfelt thank you for your hard work in putting this video together.
Thank you so much for this video. It's helped clarify a lot of weakness points I've tried working on and couldn't quite point. 😅Infj. Been seeing for five years if I could be something else but no this video had the help guide that I've never seen, so many thanks again.
you're so spot on! i will say, as i learn about other functions i learn how to value them in others. and i appreciated when you explained how we basically strengthen each function in order as we age. when i was in grade school i was very much in my own mind, and because of how studious and logical i came across sometimes, i tested intj at first. of course i am still in Ni a lot, but i have been stregthening my Fe over several years. and i definitely see the trejectory of working out my self-criticism and confidence, then i can focus more on the physical activities i love and facilitating fun experiences for others. ❤️ luv ya
Your videos are great, though the one thing that kind of raises my hackles is all the mystic stuff. Like there's a depth to conceptual thinking that can still coexist with logic and the real world, or maybe it expresses in artistic ways. I guess maybe INFJs can be more prone to being taken in by quackery and conspiracies if poorly educated? I suppose this tags me as one of the aforementioned pedants. This also really explains how exercise, even though it's not fun, leaves me feeling so much better. I really appreciate how much you explain the functions unlike most everything else I've found so thank you!
Thank you soooo much for this video! I truly appreciate your breakdown of the initials NI, FE etc., etc. Every time I would hear those initials it meant nothing to me and I would get confused and frustrated because I don't have them memorized and people don't explain them. It needs to be explained like you're doing here, in laymens terms.. So thank you. I'm taking screen shots etc And yes, since early childhood I have had this personality. I remember vivid conversations in elementary school warning certain people about how fake some others were that they idolized and how in middle school they're not even going to remember them! 😊 Wisdom in elementary school! Looking back, I was 100 percent correct! How did I know that stuff at such a young age? I don't know . I just did. I'll be 50 in September. Half a century! And so I'm very grateful to be learning more about this, even now at my older age. It explains sooooo much.
Good informative video Alexis! I didn’t see the previous 1, but I’m sure this was an improvement. I’d like to think that I use Fe & Ti in a balanced way, but as an enneagram 5, I do lean towards Ti more. Fe, I mostly use w/ others. For Ni, I like to have a lot of space for introspection, or at least interact w/ other Ni users.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us, i really needed to hear it. I simply love how you explain everything. It's true that with Ni it's difficult to find a way to make an impact, it depends heavily on how good are your Fe skills, rather then getting stuck with Ti. And setting the tone actively instead of reacting, although this is a bit scary, yes i found out that often this works out well. Thank you Alexis you are awesome!!❤
Interesting I'm a male INFJ, probably more of the "Ti flavor" and I feel like I was using my Ti more as a teenager (albeit maybe not very well lol) . And I didn't really start using my Fe in a healthy way until around 20ish. I was pretty isolated as a teen and didn't fit in in my school so maybe that was part of it. . . I like that way of describing INFJs as two different flavors!
As a male INFJ too, I did the same, used my Ti befor and way more than my Fe (deeply I mean, not juste in suface to be "correct"), only use it deeply for the ones that I really care, so for The One... and it doesn't mean that I don't listen my Ti either.... but I'll be like do we really have to get into this ?... others is my Ti that I will mostly listen, even at work, the truth is truth, if you like it or not, and it goes for everyone, just I'll just as an INTJ around meaningless people (to me of course, and conversely, not insulting anyone) But I'm wondering if there is not sligthy difference, beetween gender of each type, I feels this the way for INFJ for example, I think that many males will use their Ti way more early than females ones, I'm just wondering, I don't know... many videos, talk in fact to improuve Ti, instead of using Fe automaticly, and I'm not anymore in this case, I've did this mistake when i was really young, and than it triggered my Ti... because my SI was like: never again... without knowing all this stuff of MBTI... now I'm at improving my Se, just to live, and shot down my Ni, it works fine now, I want to use it when it's needed, (deeply again cause I'll always be an Ni Hero so...) not for dreaming, it brings nothing execpt letting your life goes away... Well sorry, to put that as an answer, this comment trigger mine so^^ thanks if you take time to read this.
Getting older, at 37, typing the same since I was 13 and reading a nice book on the types this is a good dive. Important to differentiate between how people feel and validity, those have nothing to do with one another. People are deeply prone to invalid views and feelings, your behavior however can be modulated to produce results in each social habitat you may encounter. I enjoyed your explanation of being seen, you deduced this as a sensory experience but the book I read had a very different view I came to agree with. The INFJ most of all, challenged only by the INFP which it may arise from, possess shocking and unrestrained concepting power. This applied through FE and later TI with development allows total cognitive malleability. The INFJ gains the ability to almost literally mimic and inhabit the cognitive stack of other people and indeed perhaps other animals, not unlike a Betazoid from Star Trek. The bigger the individual INFJ intellect and horsepower the more spooky the entanglement, which is why Carl reads like an INFJ to me, and Freud seems so contrived. You do indeed fall naturally into mentoring, volunteering, seeing hospice patients, experiencing spirituality, and yes being quite silly and expressive through phase development!
Your voice sounds clear and on a good volume on the first part of each sentence and goes into a vocal fry with a low volume by the end of each sentence and it's not letting me concentrate :'( And this is one of the best videos I've seen on the subject. Just some feedback x_x
There is a new book out called ‘hidden potential’ I think it might be up your alley, since that seems to be one of your big themes. By Adam Grant if I remember right
TI took over my life as a teenager. I spent the better part of my twenties learning to suppress that to allow my FE to flourish. Needless to say, I was a horrible person to be around as a kid/young adult
I think at times I am not an INFJ but then I remember when I got married my mom asked what I wanted and I just wanted to be married in a specific church. After that I said whatever makes people happy. I already knew the dress I wanted after 2 dresses and my mom said look at more places. I went everywhere she wanted and after a month of dress shopping I still picked the second dress I put on. I let my mom, dad, mother in law do what they wanted and my bridesmaids could wear whatever they all agreed on. Is that INFJ?
Fi is more into harmony than Fe. Socionics Model G shows INFJ counselors primarily use NiFi on the job while dipping into Fe. Off the job INFJs go wild in FeSe. Getting involved with the community.
I wonder if the way we are raised encourages us to develop our functions ima certain order. You seem to be talking to people who overvalue Ti and undervalue Fe. And maybe this is the most common scenario. I grew up on an authoritarian environment where my thoughts were not valued and I had an explosive parent. I learned early to anticipate with my Fe. To people please. But it was too much. My Ti kicked in and I realized logic was above people’s immature demands. I could set a boundary if requests were illogical. Logic became my protector. Later I realized I didn’t need to go to other people to know the facts. I could use my own Se to fact check other people. But I suppose all these things could be explained by saying my Fe began including myself.
Thanks a million for the explanation.I have a question.I spend most of my time alone.When i am alone i think or process things(ideas,concept,feelings,emotion etc) in an imagined conversation.I mean its as if i am explaining(the feeling,idea,emotion,concepts) to a friend,family,myself.Sometimes i get carried away until i tell myself to snap out of it. SO WHICH COGNITIVE FUNCTION IS IT?
Stop reading me 🤣 this is the problem In all my friendships. I would literally DIE for My friends but please don't ask me to hang out with them. Even more, don't ask me to initiate! I'll begrudgingly go somewhere they invite me to but I will never ever EVER ask them to accompany me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and I have lost friends over this. "Oh well, you can't expect a friend to actually spend time with you. Their fault not mine!" 💀 but fine! I'll develop the dumb FE 😂
I’m very sure I’m a INFJ but when I hear descriptions of Ni… I just am just… lost I guess. Like I get the function, I understand it and I know I use it but I just don’t get how I use it and it makes me doubt and wonder if I’m even an INFJ or that maybe I am with just very low Ni? Like I literally can’t tell. But watching this I find myself relating to literally everything but Ni, I mean I do relate to Ni and I do relate to ALOT of INFJ’s sort of “stereotypes” and I do think I’m using Ni, I know I use it and I know I have it but when I think back and ask myself “when have I used Ni?” I like find very tiny answers. I don’t know if that even makes sense but that’s where I’ve been for so long, I know I’m for sure and XNFJ but yeah.
Grouping people into archetypes is TiNe. Which is why Jung was an INTP. The vast majority of Jungiqn typology was created by TiNe users. Including in Socionics.
Your kim kardashian cracked voice is distracting.... I forget what i am listening to and get irritated.... Pls try to work on it.... Thanks for the content
I'm a 27 year old INFJ. I was always regarded as 'special'. Yet I was always conflicted by my contradictory personalities to the point I suspected for a long time that I have some sort of personality disorder like bipolar/sociopathy/psychopathy/covert narcissism.
It was great just recently to learn about INFJ.
I've watched many amazing videos about INFJ but this is certainly next level. Thank you!
A lifetime of feeling/being unseen/not understood leaves one with a deep appreciation for the gift of being seen. When someone is at their lowest point to help them be/feel seen…what a precious thing to be able to give. ( INFJ-what a miserable and highly valued gift, the gift of seeing but never to be seen) i think we understand the value to the point of agony.
Great comment. Yes that seems to be our cross if you see it that way.
I've come to realize though that I actually get so much pleasure from people opening to me and trying to solve their riddles.
I almost forget a lot of the time whether they're interested in me or analysing with me which is what I enjoy although I do find I can only do for so long with another person..
Wow! You REALLY NAILED IT! lol! Dark night of the soul is our only path to the light! Working up the courage to finally take that first step can take most of your life but there are no shorcuts unfortunately. I guess our job is so important that we arent allowed access to our power until we tame the beast. (Can't help drifting toward the abstract can we? lol)
I love how the thumbnail didn't go for a more Fe oriented, welcoming and polite face, but more of an analyzing and figuring you out face.
lol
I am captivated by the way you present. Delivery style and thought process.
Agreed
Presentation fine…gravely voice distracting!
This has been the most insightful view into my personality type that I’ve ever seen. It was truly eye opening and confirmation that the steps I’m taking in life currently are indeed going in the right direction. Thank you so much truly
The aspect of the « introverted » Fe is very true for me. I am always thinking about other people’s feelings and analyse their actions but I never come to the point where I take action to help them or talk with them about the problems I see upcoming or already could be there. I just reached the end of the video and I wanted to say thank you for this video !
This is so accurate! I’m not sure if you’ve seen Harry Murrel(?) on RUclips but his channel is called cpt and he talked about this in the difference between what he calls “convergent” and “divergent” functions. It’s very fascinating
I’ve always done the same and felt the exact same way 😭. Always constantly analyzing people’s behaviors and relationships between others but never voice it out loud lol.
@@heathermartin7459 that would feel rude right?
I’m a 58 yo INFJ and am so glad that I am not a 25 yo INFJ anymore. Whew. It’s a hard road, but worth the time improving yourself through the years.
I'm 53 and I think it was easier for me being INFJ when younger ... I had more time alone when younger to revive, process, take a break, I don't have that luxury so much now , its very draining
I'm 52, and you could not pay me to be 25 again. The depression has been crippling. Imagine Willie Wonka not being able to make chocolate. Instead he sells insurance and makes everyone else feel safe. I went through several sudden course corrections before I locked the gates. The magic word is NO! LOL.
BY FAR, one of the best layed out videos on INFJ. Helped me understand immensely. Thank you
Laid.
So a good in depth video. 💜INFJ here (37 years old). I am a very creative INFJ. 80 percent of my life revolves around it and I have an eye for aesthetics. I love coloring my hair, but otherwise don't wear jewelry or make-up. XD I'm currently noticing how my Se is slowly fighting its way to the surface. I no longer just want to dream about my creative projects, but also put them into action. (That's why I admire ESTJ and ENTJs) I'm trying to be more part of the external world, which is tiring but not impossible.
I really had to smile when you brought up the dating issue. Just yesterday I decided against dating apps because the whole system annoys and stresses me out. I've gotten to the point where I want to go out and meet new people and experience the world (not depending on an App or an Algorythmus).
I really like the goofy part of my Se, I call it my inner ESTP (even though of course I will never be an ESTP and don't want to be one). But there are times when I just need it. If I trust and like someone, I'm up for any nonsense. :D My friends (almost all extroverts) say I have my own charm and wit, which makes them want to adopt me.
I struggled with being an INFJ for a very long time, but now I enjoy it. We are stronger as we think!!!
Thanks again for the work you put into your videos. :D
I am an INFJ in my 50's, I was diagnosed with Autism 1 at age 40. After that I started to develop my TI and SE more. Others started to notice and I found out quickly who my friends are.
My Son really had a reaction I didn't expect. He told me he didn't really know a lot about me as a person before then. He thought I liked to cook and clean as a hobby. When he saw the real me, he realized I was not just about my role as a parent.
I wish I could say it made our relationship better, but the jury is still out. He has his own obstacles to overcome before we can get closer. I do respect that. For context he is an INTP.
This is spot on! As early as 2nd grade I was journaling and constantly reflecting on life. I'd school my sister on how to gauge my mom's feelings and when to ask for permission. I was a family mediator keeping a watchful eye on the the dynamics and interpreting what was not being said between the two in terms of their feelings, misgivings, and inappropriate or crossing the line behaviors/ways of engaging.
I was very insecure in my rationale (Ti) and would hide a lot of my cognitive-driven conclusions. When I did speak up and share that aspect circumventing Fe, people would blow up and respond in ways that brought on guilt and shame to keep my mouth shut further. I thought I was just sharing my perspective as A perspective but others were not seeing it as objective as I was but more of a reflection of my subjectivity to how I see them/situation or move through the world. The hardest part is when the Ni vision is tested and challenged to change. Really, really difficult. You end up spending so much energy pushing the vision and life pushing against it... then you are required to practice surrendering/accepting.
I much preferred peace and harmony and took on the neutrality of Switzerland. I used to be the type to Fe-heavy hand the world as a way of creating a sense of control. At some point, a massive change/disruption in my life (not paying enough attention to Se/Si) turned everything on its head. I learned to get comfortable with sharing my Ni insights with someone I trust, relinquish the hold Fe had that were maladaptive and instead replace it with a better balance between Fe/Fi. I do believe you swing when you go through a growth spurt/disruption period/hitting rock bottom. I'm in a relationship with a Ti-heavy user and have taken it as an opportunity to securely develop mine, to stop hiding behind others and foster confidence (it's okay to be wrong sometimes and it's okay to speak up and people not like how you perceive things).
I've learned how to develop boundaries which leads to developing principles and this ends up protecting me (even if it's not always Fe oriented and might even put off people; I no longer feel guilt for disappointing others with what I think). I don't always like how I share or dissect a situation... I'm working on that, but at least feel a little more at ease with opening up.
I have a love/hate relationship with Se. At 38, I'm finally learning how to navigate the world WITH the world instead of dismissing or hiding from it. It normally feels very passive but that always tends to get me into trouble creating some sort of needing to be saved from it. When I am "with it" it can feel good to have that sense of control but also a bit bland and mundane. I long for the days where I don't have to care about what the world says is important and can just drift for as long as I want. Looking back though, some of the best years in my life were when I was engaging and experiencing rather than hibernating and introversing. I realize I really need to start putting foot to pavement to get anywhere with Ni and do everything I want to do before I die. I'm in a race against the clock, though I've been burning some years on a time out. I know I have to get back into it... just preparing for the next leg.
Great video presentation! I also see the functions the way you do. It's so simple and other people complicate the meanings too much in an attempt to make it new. Your approach is very intuitively obvious in a very good and true way. 😊I googled "how to get a personality" after this video 😅 NOT SERIOUS, BUT SERIOUSLY
That's interesting. I'm a 34-year-old INFJ and I've always cared about my higiene, I stated wearing make-up when I was 13 or 14, I've always cared about about looking aesthetic and I've always painted my nails. I love dancing and singing. My two cents so far is that the individual natal chart can show the specific manifestation of a person's type that seems to be the more general framework for the person.
The inferior se is also very powerful, it has its own nature for sure. Which I think manifests as a strong desire for aesthetic pleasure somehow
I totally agree. I also grew up with an ISFP mother who always taught me how important it is to have nice looks, encouraged me to put on makeup before leaving the house, and it became like a small voice in the back of my head. I think our upbringing has a lot to do with how our personality is shaped into the individuals we are. Not cognitive functions alone.
@@Nikki-fx6yy Yes, it does. But in this case I wasn't influenced by anyone in my family. I just like colors and adornments 😁
Yes, I too care about how I present myself, in all circumstances. I want to project an image that I respect others, and myself. I also find it annoying when others don’t take the time to do the same. No one needs to look at my worst version of myself, on any level. Mic drop. -INFJ
It's interesting when INTJ's eventually start to loop in Ni-Ti at times (because they do). There is even the simultaneous Ni-Ti-Fi loop or Ni-Fi-Ti loop. It can be completely detached from the external world or there could be little bits of Se information coming in while in this loop, but Ni is definitely running the show, but even though it is, it seems like the purpose of all of it is to dig deep into what you think and feel. It isn't at all about taking an action or achieving some outcome for your self or others in external reality. It can lead to that, but anyway the point is I think this a key thing that all INJ's share is that looping experience in a way that others don't because of Ni leading it. It really is a shame the whole Te/Fe being lost on each other. I feel like everyday there is an INJ friendship somewhere in the world that could have started or become something interesting or more, but the Te/Fe thing pushes the other away somehow (not always, but it happens).
This is amazing, and unprecedented in any video I've seen before. Thanks a bunch!! I finally feel like I understand this stuff
It's funny, from childhood until my late 20's, I was very strong in Fe (people loved being around me as I could make them feel welcomed and allowed to be authentic), and I was well aware that I could fall into overthinking, paranoia, isolation, etc. I also felt especially great for a few years when I was out dancing a lot and meeting new people (blossoming Se that had been missing). Then, through a host of unfortunate developments, I started to doubt myself and become scared of being rejected (childhood trauma re-emerged and strengthened), which led to my Ni and Ti totally taking over, and I have now been fighting that stuff for over 8 years. It's been really tough to say the least. During all this time, I've suspected the issues to lie in my defensiveness (shame), but could never discern whether I was making myself small and clownish or making myself easy-going and open, and so I couldn't find a strategy to trust and follow to get out of it. With the information from this video, I now know exactly what is missing and I'm so excited to finally break out of this crazy loop.
Thank you so much
Thats sounds so rough. Im sorry to hear that. Big hugs to you.
@@lg3rm553 Thanks, appreciate it
I appreciate this video. I am an INFJ who is in their early 30's and still trying to figure out where I fit in. You explained the functions in a way that resonates with me to improve or at least work on my 3rd and 4th functions. To be honest, even my 2nd, FE. I have been staying in my comfort zone and not growing into my potential. Anyway, I would love to see more about INFJ from you. I am happy that I stumbled across this video. ❤
You will find it. I am a 48 year old INFJ and had my dark night of the soul recently and its tough. Sadly we dont get an easy run at life and until you feel like you have lost everything it is difficult to find the introspective space and time to drag the demons into the light where they can be forgiven, yes forgiven. A demon can not be "killed" just like you cant kill only part of yourself. It must be studied, understood, forgiven and finally integrated. This is the shadow work process Carl Jung decribes and he should know as an INFJ himself. Find a safe place in nature that you can return to any time you want and dont bring any distractions (you know what I mean) sit with yourself and go fishing for what hurts you most and confront it. That is where I would start. Good luck sister! Love -J
You helping every personality type grow into the best person they can become. We all appreciate you alexis :)
since high school i have been trying to understand myself and i have learned things on my own. without knowing anything about personality types, i've only recently found all of this. and its both fascinating and gratifying to listen to this and to see where all these functions were showing up in my life. due to the kind of home environment i was in i think many of these had to kick in much earlier, for me to navigate life at that time. i knew them, i just didn't know what to call them. a lot of my life felt like i was holding a candle and paper, and i would venture out into the darkness and map it out. so that i could turn to someone latter on and show them the way, the map i had made, if they needed it. thank you. great video.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Feels good doesn't it?
I am an INFP with an INFJ husband (which I only just found out today)
I can see that I used to express very strong Fe traits which he LOVED! I did a lot of the Fe for the both of us. But then I started express my Fi. This shift unfortunately caused a huge amount of conflict. As it felt like our values were not aligned anymore, if we had understood about the functions, we could have navigated that a bit more gracefully.
I would’ve understood what a loss my Fe traits was to him, (because he hasn’t stepped into his own Fe )
Including myself as a part of the group has been an extremely helpful statement to me (in one of your earlier videos), just thinking about myself never clicked, but including myself in the group I’m trying to take care of does.
"Including myself in the group I'm trying to take care of". 😭 That, right there is key! Is a beautiful, deep soul healing, peace producing/inducing action we NEED to practice daily. Just like in an airplane if the oxygen masks fall we need to place one on ourselves first so we can help others! 💞
Very well done! I mean very well done! The detail and the whole production was excellent. I wasn't bored, loved the visuals and received a lump sum of knowledge that will definitely aid me overcoming this depression. The break down is ridiculous (in a good way. 👍🏾 ) I really appreciate you and your work. Thanks! ❤
Definitely have to rewatch this one a few times.
Your video was incredibly clear thank you. You explained things with very appropriate terms cause as an INFJ, I can say we usually feel misunderstood. By the way, I think people don't realize how touching it can be for us to be totally understood. So I guess we just try to really deeply listen to others in return and try to provide something to others or some advice when we talk with someone. I think it's fair to say we practice active listening and we're genuinely trying to find solutions while we continue to discuss with someone. It makes sense when your second function is your "tool" function. But I think that also explains why we usually don't like small talk. I think we prefer talking with a purpose in mind and when there is something that can be achieved through conversations. We don't just talk to talk. I think it's just a very (Ni) trait.
It was very interesting to me when you talked about trying to do more hugs, taking action, and not staying shy with the (Fe) function for INFJs. It's certainly not bad advice but I think the examples you gave correspond more to a Sensory (Se) approach. Something you'll usually see ENFJs do more. But I think that's exactly the reason why INFJs are qualified as free therapists and I think that role corresponds exactly to our niche way to be. Direct contact is more an expression of (Fe) through the senses. But it doesn't mean that's the only way to express it. (Se) also stays our weakest function we naturally neglect. I think we make our (Fe) shine through active listening, emotional support and changing people's way of looking at things to see them in a more hopeful and brighter light. So not in a sensory way but more in an abstract way to heal your soul. That's probably a kind of support people rarely pay attention to but I can tell people who noticed what we were doing can say we really helped them to take the time to think about the meaning of their life, share their sufferings, making them heard. And I think you can agree because of what you said about your conversation with this INFJ. I'd just like people could pay more attention to the different kinds of support someone can receive and realize that sensory attention isn't always what someone needs. I think it's particularly obvious for traumas such as someone's mourning for example. I don't think sensory attention or making a good meal could help someone to get out of it as efficiently. Of course it helps, I'm not saying it's useless by any means but, I don't think it can directly help to go beyond some traumas. I think that's situations where you need to accept reality but find a way to live with that because we all have to.
All of this to say, I think it's more the kind of support we will tend to provide when we decide to take action with our Fe even if our role might appear more discreet.
I was very surprised to hear that some people actually really liked our softer approach compared to ENFJs. It's very interesting cause I've heard some people being pissed off by ENFJs because they were too outgoing for them and were taking too many actions and were causing more trouble. Even if I love them so much and admire them for being so nice and outgoing, I think I can see where people are coming from with this. I think the fact we tend to be more introspective and reflect more on things about a problem pushes us not to directly act sometimes and actually, people prefer to deal with things by themselves sometimes. So even if it's passive, it can actually be the right approach to take with certain people. Of course, we always want to help just like them even if others can't tell. But I think the only difference is we take a step back before assessing the situation to judge if we should act or not. As INFJs, the (Ni) function we have is also a function that reflects on reality and the potential, of what will happen if I act to impact reality, so every single decision we make is well thought out basically. That's why we might struggle with spontaneity but that's also what allows us to approach things carefully. I think people miss the value of not acting in the right circumstances and the damage acting can create sometimes. I heard from ENFJs themselves that people didn't like their interventions sometimes and that it caused them much sadness. That actually makes me sad myself cause I prefer that ENFJ approach, always trying to help rather than someone who doesn't care and I tried to be more like them and be more outgoing about helping others. So then I don't really know what to think if people actually value this more toned-down (Fe) approach. It seems that Thinker types tend to generally like it more for example. So maybe this more neutral attitude of not directly taking action is a fair role to occupy for us, maybe that's what really corresponds to us.
In the end, I think we have our own more subtle way to act with (Fe). I feel like INTPs actually feel the same way as us compared to ENFJs, some said to me they sometimes get someone's problem but don't know how to act about it. And the fact (Se) is a blindspot for them doesn't push them to participate in reality unlike us but in the same way, we still don't take as much action as ENFJs. And ENTPs, I guess the balance we have between Feeling and Thinking turns them on for some of them and gives them a Feeler who can talk with them without being shocked by their blunt approach despite the fact they get people's feelings. But contrary to us they prioritize (Ti) so I guess that's why you'll rarely see their (Fe) come out. Or you'll usually see it entertainingly.
I get why people say INxJs are usually stubborn and it's hard to change our way but, the thing about the (Ni) function is it's not some normal type of stubbornness. It would be more fair to call it perseverance. People tend to forget that even if our (Se) Extraverted Sensing function is low, we're not taking decisions out of nowhere. As I said, as (Ni) doms, all our decisions are well thought out. We take feedback from our whole (Se) life experience to come to our conclusion. Even if someone else can't look at our past to judge if what we say is justified, if we take a decision it's because we know it is and we know it's the best decision to take in a precise circumstance. I don't think people tend to question dom functions from other types as much as they do with (Ni) doms. Nobody questions how INFPs feel or what INTPs think so I don't see why we would do with what INFJs envision. As it is rightly said in the video, (Ni) is a function that can hardly exist in daily life. The problem is usually we actually have to go against people because we work a lot in manifesting things. We picture something, then we organize reality to make it real. We can't simply listen to you and give up on what we want to achieve if it's totally achievable for us because we can't imagine it as clearly as we can. People tend to struggle to envision things with clarity and can be a little shy when they have to deal with guessing and uncertainty because they don't have facts to choose safely. But you won't always have this luxury in life. Sometimes you'll have to take the right call. I get it can be scary, but for us INxJs, it rarely is because we easily identify the patterns and get what are the most likely outcomes when we consider all the existing parameters in one single situation. It's like playing with probabilities. So we have no other way but to go against the tide sometimes because we're made to envision the future with more confidence and shape it. We have no other choice but to ignore, continue working and prove to others we were right all along and even if they don't get how we knew it was possible or it was most likely going to happen since day 1. Of course, nobody can 100% predict the future, but that doesn't mean you can't evaluate the most likely outcomes based on life experience or influence it. People could have more faith in us and question our decisions less too. We know what we're doing most of the time and that's our dominant function. No need to be a genius to evaluate that the probability of arriving at work on time is higher than the probability for a meteor to crash on the planet tomorrow. So I don't see why it should be debated as much. It becomes more apparent with personality types who have a lower (Ni) function because they start to act paranoid and make more far-fetched predictions or bold statements INxJs would never make because the patterns for it simply don't exist in life or it is a minority. When we don't have enough data to establish solid probabilities, we will say we absolutely don't know. We know what we're doing.
Sorry for this novel btw...
This takes some serious guts, girlfriend. I give you props. -INFJ p.s. as an INFJ female in mid life, I can say, as a child, my FE took a very long time to develop and I would say I spend most of my time looping. It really, really sucked. But I am very well integrated now, it just takes a while to develop that confidence, for some of us.
You rock, I'm as stoked about your videos as I am about Wenzes' & Michael Pierce's. Really helpful. One of those INFJs, here. Trying to make sure I make the most out of this life.
Yeah this is pretty on point regarding my thought processes and life experiences. I appreciate the clarity you’ve provided me, keep it up 👍
Wow, I feel so seen. I did an online personality quiz a few weeks ago and I got INTP, I related to parts of it (for example the logical Ti thinking) but not all of it. Have looked other possible similar types, tested my cognitive functions for INTP, INTJ, and INFP… Researched and watched your videos on all those three types and all partly resonated but not fully… was struggling with many having to choose a little bit between feelings and logic, as I think I am a logical person like an INTP but also I am very aware of social situations and not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings based on logic. But also I wouldn’t make a decision purely based on feelings alone like an INFP. I am organised a bit, but not as much as an INTJ and not as little as an INFP. I saw an article about how INFJs can have an internal contradiction between introverted intuition and introverted thinking, between logic and thinking. I thought THAT IS ME, that’s why I can’t choose between INTP and INFP…. They’re too one or the other, too feelings OR logic? Tested my cognitive functions for INFJ and it was a strong match. Watched your video and it was from the get go so spot on, the pictures of the astrological signs and seeing eye, I have such an interest int he occult and base a lot of my life choices on it, then everything you said was just so accurate. I know INFJs are a rare one, but I feel so strongly that is me. I think even the fact I have gone to so much internal consideration of archetyping myself fits lol
You could also mention the shadow functions of a type. I feel like a lot gets left out. It would be nice to also see how the shadow functions affect a person's life, and I could see a lot of connections between the shadow and the main functions.
Overall, great video. I'm really glad I found you.
Socionics shows Ni is intuition of time. Which is visions of the past and future.
8 types have + Ni that visualizes the future with minimal reference to the past.
The other 8 types have - Ni that sees the past repeating itself in the future.
INFJ (IEI) has + Ni which makes them optimistic that they can counsel people to improve for the better.
Such a nice video, once again you've shown a higher understanding of MBTI than most of the youtuber out there 🙂
Yes! Lovely presentation! As an INFJ I found this very helpful and validating.
I’m a INFP and my brother is a INFJ. We get things done. I don’t know he lets me dream and tells me the steps. We just have to trust eachother.
Good content. Love how detail oriented this content is. You did a great job. 🤗
"Potential" My INFJ brain was screaming at me say potential! When you were talking about Ni. Vision sounds ok and yet potential is more apt. In my opinion.
It’s interesting to hear someone who obviously knows this subject from many perspectives.
I grew up in a house full of Fjs, so I was encouraged --- sometimes aggressively --- to engage this function ! I was involved in many activities, in childhood ,and adolescence, and was surrounded by people of all ages, constantly.
In other words, I was socialised towards
extraversion. ( As you stated).
Although I am well into adulthood, I still have moments where I can isolate for long periods of time.
But I have no problem slipping into Fe when the occasion occurs ; I have noticed that I can be charming , and convincing when I need to be.
I worked in restaurants as a server, for much of my twenties , so I really had to call upon The Great Mother( Fe) to thrive in an oftentimes hectic, but exciting work environment ( Se). These were the years where my external functions were refined.
Great video. I enjoyed all the labeling and going through the strengths and weaknesses of our type. Very helpful
That thumbnail looked into the depths of my soul.
Greatly appreciate the ideas and insights discussed and their presentation. Your approach is thoughtful and respectful. The ideas and insights are so well thought out an overly dramatic presentation is not needed. Perhaps that is my appreciation of the Ni qualities of the video and the limited Se glitz. I especially appreciate the comments on the differences between male and female propensities relating to Fe and Ti. From the perspective of a 60+ INFJ male, it mirrors my experience. My enjoyment and fulfillment in life has greatly increased as I developed my Fe more fully and minimized the Ti. It is a good point that societal factors are involved in perpetuating these male/female differences. A heartfelt thank you for your hard work in putting this video together.
Thank you so much for this video. It's helped clarify a lot of weakness points I've tried working on and couldn't quite point. 😅Infj. Been seeing for five years if I could be something else but no this video had the help guide that I've never seen, so many thanks again.
At first i was hesitant to watch your video because the video seemed long, but now, I am grateful i watched it ~ INFJ 😃
Pakistani INFJ?
@@Express700-3 yes
@@haseebjaved2516 From Lahore?
@@Express700-3 no. Gujranwala. Whats ur type?
you're so spot on! i will say, as i learn about other functions i learn how to value them in others.
and i appreciated when you explained how we basically strengthen each function in order as we age.
when i was in grade school i was very much in my own mind, and because of how studious and logical i came across sometimes, i tested intj at first. of course i am still in Ni a lot, but i have been stregthening my Fe over several years.
and i definitely see the trejectory of working out my self-criticism and confidence, then i can focus more on the physical activities i love and facilitating fun experiences for others.
❤️ luv ya
I love how you perfectly explain the functions, it really makes me feel like I could improve my life for the better lmao
Your videos are great, though the one thing that kind of raises my hackles is all the mystic stuff. Like there's a depth to conceptual thinking that can still coexist with logic and the real world, or maybe it expresses in artistic ways. I guess maybe INFJs can be more prone to being taken in by quackery and conspiracies if poorly educated? I suppose this tags me as one of the aforementioned pedants. This also really explains how exercise, even though it's not fun, leaves me feeling so much better. I really appreciate how much you explain the functions unlike most everything else I've found so thank you!
Thank you soooo much for this video! I truly appreciate your breakdown of the initials NI, FE etc., etc. Every time I would hear those initials it meant nothing to me and I would get confused and frustrated because I don't have them memorized and people don't explain them. It needs to be explained like you're doing here, in laymens terms.. So thank you. I'm taking screen shots etc And yes, since early childhood I have had this personality. I remember vivid conversations in elementary school warning certain people about how fake some others were that they idolized and how in middle school they're not even going to remember them! 😊 Wisdom in elementary school! Looking back, I was 100 percent correct! How did I know that stuff at such a young age? I don't know . I just did. I'll be 50 in September. Half a century! And so I'm very grateful to be learning more about this, even now at my older age. It explains sooooo much.
Good informative video Alexis! I didn’t see the previous 1, but I’m sure this was an improvement. I’d like to think that I use Fe & Ti in a balanced way, but as an enneagram 5, I do lean towards Ti more. Fe, I mostly use w/ others. For Ni, I like to have a lot of space for introspection, or at least interact w/ other Ni users.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us, i really needed to hear it. I simply love how you explain everything. It's true that with Ni it's difficult to find a way to make an impact, it depends heavily on how good are your Fe skills, rather then getting stuck with Ti. And setting the tone actively instead of reacting, although this is a bit scary, yes i found out that often this works out well. Thank you Alexis you are awesome!!❤
My employer sponsored our Meyerson Briggs personality test and I ended up as INFJ. We all posted our test results to improve teamwork
You are great explainer❤
Recommend setting playback speed to .75.
Excellent overview. Thank you. (That's my Fe haha). Definitely helped clarify some things.
67, just woke up to find i infj. May i ask , what propelled you into these specfic insights i wish i would have know, 50 years ago.
Very helpful and in depth
Interesting I'm a male INFJ, probably more of the "Ti flavor" and I feel like I was using my Ti more as a teenager (albeit maybe not very well lol) . And I didn't really start using my Fe in a healthy way until around 20ish. I was pretty isolated as a teen and didn't fit in in my school so maybe that was part of it. . . I like that way of describing INFJs as two different flavors!
As a male INFJ too, I did the same, used my Ti befor and way more than my Fe (deeply I mean, not juste in suface to be "correct"), only use it deeply for the ones that I really care, so for The One... and it doesn't mean that I don't listen my Ti either.... but I'll be like do we really have to get into this ?... others is my Ti that I will mostly listen, even at work, the truth is truth, if you like it or not, and it goes for everyone, just I'll just as an INTJ around meaningless people (to me of course, and conversely, not insulting anyone)
But I'm wondering if there is not sligthy difference, beetween gender of each type, I feels this the way for INFJ for example, I think that many males will use their Ti way more early than females ones, I'm just wondering, I don't know... many videos, talk in fact to improuve Ti, instead of using Fe automaticly, and I'm not anymore in this case, I've did this mistake when i was really young, and than it triggered my Ti... because my SI was like: never again... without knowing all this stuff of MBTI... now I'm at improving my Se, just to live, and shot down my Ni, it works fine now, I want to use it when it's needed, (deeply again cause I'll always be an Ni Hero so...) not for dreaming, it brings nothing execpt letting your life goes away...
Well sorry, to put that as an answer, this comment trigger mine so^^ thanks if you take time to read this.
Getting older, at 37, typing the same since I was 13 and reading a nice book on the types this is a good dive. Important to differentiate between how people feel and validity, those have nothing to do with one another. People are deeply prone to invalid views and feelings, your behavior however can be modulated to produce results in each social habitat you may encounter. I enjoyed your explanation of being seen, you deduced this as a sensory experience but the book I read had a very different view I came to agree with.
The INFJ most of all, challenged only by the INFP which it may arise from, possess shocking and unrestrained concepting power. This applied through FE and later TI with development allows total cognitive malleability. The INFJ gains the ability to almost literally mimic and inhabit the cognitive stack of other people and indeed perhaps other animals, not unlike a Betazoid from Star Trek. The bigger the individual INFJ intellect and horsepower the more spooky the entanglement, which is why Carl reads like an INFJ to me, and Freud seems so contrived.
You do indeed fall naturally into mentoring, volunteering, seeing hospice patients, experiencing spirituality, and yes being quite silly and expressive through phase development!
Your voice sounds clear and on a good volume on the first part of each sentence and goes into a vocal fry with a low volume by the end of each sentence and it's not letting me concentrate :'(
And this is one of the best videos I've seen on the subject. Just some feedback x_x
There is a new book out called ‘hidden potential’ I think it might be up your alley, since that seems to be one of your big themes. By Adam Grant if I remember right
TI took over my life as a teenager. I spent the better part of my twenties learning to suppress that to allow my FE to flourish. Needless to say, I was a horrible person to be around as a kid/young adult
I think at times I am not an INFJ but then I remember when I got married my mom asked what I wanted and I just wanted to be married in a specific church. After that I said whatever makes people happy. I already knew the dress I wanted after 2 dresses and my mom said look at more places. I went everywhere she wanted and after a month of dress shopping I still picked the second dress I put on. I let my mom, dad, mother in law do what they wanted and my bridesmaids could wear whatever they all agreed on. Is that INFJ?
As an INFJ when I flip the switch to Se from Ni I feel I can over indulge (not in control).
You know a infj....more than infj content creators 🙂
Fi is more into harmony than Fe.
Socionics Model G shows INFJ counselors primarily use NiFi on the job while dipping into Fe.
Off the job INFJs go wild in FeSe. Getting involved with the community.
awesome video
I wonder if the way we are raised encourages us to develop our functions ima certain order. You seem to be talking to people who overvalue Ti and undervalue Fe. And maybe this is the most common scenario.
I grew up on an authoritarian environment where my thoughts were not valued and I had an explosive parent. I learned early to anticipate with my Fe. To people please. But it was too much.
My Ti kicked in and I realized logic was above people’s immature demands. I could set a boundary if requests were illogical. Logic became my protector.
Later I realized I didn’t need to go to other people to know the facts. I could use my own Se to fact check other people.
But I suppose all these things could be explained by saying my Fe began including myself.
Thanks a million for the explanation.I have a question.I spend most of my time alone.When i am alone i think or process things(ideas,concept,feelings,emotion etc) in an imagined conversation.I mean its as if i am explaining(the feeling,idea,emotion,concepts) to a friend,family,myself.Sometimes i get carried away until i tell myself to snap out of it.
SO WHICH COGNITIVE FUNCTION IS IT?
Please make a video for intj
INTJ is next!!
Do you plan on making/offering a 2024 Vision Book? Looking forward to it.
Yes I am!! Thank you!!
@@AlexisKingsley Yesss! So exciting!!
Stop reading me 🤣 this is the problem In all my friendships. I would literally DIE for My friends but please don't ask me to hang out with them. Even more, don't ask me to initiate! I'll begrudgingly go somewhere they invite me to but I will never ever EVER ask them to accompany me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and I have lost friends over this. "Oh well, you can't expect a friend to actually spend time with you. Their fault not mine!" 💀 but fine! I'll develop the dumb FE 😂
I’m very sure I’m a INFJ but when I hear descriptions of Ni… I just am just… lost I guess. Like I get the function, I understand it and I know I use it but I just don’t get how I use it and it makes me doubt and wonder if I’m even an INFJ or that maybe I am with just very low Ni? Like I literally can’t tell. But watching this I find myself relating to literally everything but Ni, I mean I do relate to Ni and I do relate to ALOT of INFJ’s sort of “stereotypes” and I do think I’m using Ni, I know I use it and I know I have it but when I think back and ask myself “when have I used Ni?” I like find very tiny answers.
I don’t know if that even makes sense but that’s where I’ve been for so long, I know I’m for sure and XNFJ but yeah.
This age is when my friend started calling me a 'rare bird' haha.
I stand up when i wipe my butt. What does Myers and Briggs say about that?
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What’s with the intense not warm stare into the camera on all the thumbnails for these videos?
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Grouping people into archetypes is TiNe.
Which is why Jung was an INTP.
The vast majority of Jungiqn typology was created by TiNe users. Including in Socionics.
I get my personality from Jesus Christ of Nazareth.....
Voice hight level going down into a throat gargle at the end of each sentence, makes this presentation unlistenable.
Your kim kardashian cracked voice is distracting.... I forget what i am listening to and get irritated.... Pls try to work on it.... Thanks for the content
I can't stop laughing....this is totally the most stupid video of explaining an infj