As an infj I feel like I’m friends with everyone and no one at the same time most of the time. I’m constantly trying to make everyone else around me comfortable and happy. But am pretty sure that hardly any of them actually “see” me at all. They just like the way they feel around me. It’s hard, sometimes.
Agreed 1000%. I let people ramble about whatever while I stay quiet so I don’t seem selfish lol. I hardly bring up stuff about myself cuz I don’t wanna seem selfish.
I'm an INFJ and I've started to notice, with my friend's book club that I attend, even though I'm not the "host", i definitely play that role in leading the conversation. It's almost an out-of-body experience to watch myself take the lead (perhaps too much?) and guide the conversation in a way that includes everyone. So yeah - im the total "mom" of the group. But here's the thing: not only do i want to make sure everyone feels included, but im genuinely interesting in hearing EVERYONE'S response to the questions, which i don't feel from the others - i feel like they like to hear themselves talk more than listening to each other.
Very interesting. I felt like a momma bear around my younger siblings (lived with 4 total) but.. want to join a book club as well. It’s wonderful to hear that you can bring people together the way you do.
Yes, this sounds very INFJ to me. We will take up a leadership role if we have to in order to make others feel included. Dominant Ni also makes us feel a bit separated from the world at times. Like there’s a layer of separation there or something That may be what you’re feeling there. sounds like you’re doing great work by the way!
The problem with all the functions being completely opposite of eachother is that both INFJ and INFP are very "paradoxical" where they love and hate something at the same time, and their lives are mostly a living paradox, like loving humans but also hating humans at the same time, Having big goals but always busy doing nothing. Etc Etc
I love INFPs, because they will tell me when they are not happy but they can also see if they are wrong and apologise for it as they understand what my feelings can be. Some of the best people around me are INFPs because I know i can trust their words. ❤
I’m glad to know about MBTI because it helped me understand why I felt so different than most people, and had a hard time fitting in! Now I just see that I’m one of the more rare types. Whew!
I'm future oriented like a typical INFJ, but I can get caught in one of those loops where I reminisce over and over on something in the past, thinking about what I did wrong, where I went wrong, and how I could have handled it better.
I feel like some of us ruminate on the past in order to "master" the future? Like we're prepping for it by reviewing the past and how the future may unfold, because we acknowledge how much one has to do with the other? My little theory ❤️
I cut people loose so easily it almost seems callous. Whether that be childhood friends or family members. Yet, I can be super nostalgic and reminisce about the past because I have much more fond memories of them despite the trauma experienced than in my present life despite being very future oriented as well.
Until now, I haven't been able to definitively determine whether I am an INFJ or an INFP. I understand that online tests aren't always accurate, so I've been studying the eight cognitive functions in depth. However, the process has left me feeling confused. I notice that I exhibit INFJ behaviors and thought patterns in some situations, while in other aspects, I definitely display INFP traits. By the way, in the online tests I've taken annually over the past 8 years, three times I've been classified as INFJ and once as INFP. Apart from the unquestionable "I," my scores for the other three letters (NFJ) fluctuate around 50-60%+-. I used to firmly believe I was an INFJ. For instance, when entering a room, I could immediately sense the overall atmosphere and everyone's emotions. Sometimes, it even felt like I had some sort of superpower, able to perceive things that others couldn't. Another example is that many people might think someone is nice, but just by seeing them and having a brief conversation, I would intuitively feel I should stay away from that person. Although I couldn't explain why, facts would eventually prove that my intuition was correct. This sense applied not just to people but also to analyzing events and making decisions. like a human radar. However, the cost of having this "superpower" has led to extreme mental exhaustion. Perfectionism has also made me very passive in doing anything, as I procrastinate out of fear of failure. Being overly concerned with others' opinions prevents me from allowing myself to make any mistakes. Disliking conflicts, I force myself to please others. All these factors have caused my internal struggle to worsen, bringing me to the brink of depression and even suicidal thoughts. At the time, I didn't understand why I was so unhappy. I could hardly perceive my own emotions correctly. If others were happy, I was happy; if others were anxious, I became anxious too (and back then, I didn't even realize my emotions were syncing with others'). Expressing my own emotions was out of the question. Later, as my suicidal thoughts emerged, perhaps my body instinctively sought self-preservation, so I turned to many psychology books, beginning to face my inner self. I practiced turning off my Fe, focusing only on my inner feelings, and dedicated time to understanding myself. Through continuous and deliberate practice, I gradually stopped caring about others' opinions, no longer feared making mistakes, and tried to be more flexible and spontaneous. After finally overcoming my internal struggle, I took the test again and found I had become an INFP. The intuitive "superpower" I once took pride in wasn't as strong as before. I started showing more INFP characteristics, though I still retained some INFJ traits. Occasionally, I would still be influenced by the emotions of my surroundings and people, but I could quickly refocus on myself. Over time, my sensitivity to the environment diminished significantly. I began to express my own stance and feelings, no longer just pleasing others for the sake of harmony, and cared more about my own feelings. Could these changes have affected my Fe? And it seems my Ni has also changed. I'm not sure. For example, I still tend to make plans because it gives me a sense of security. When it comes to new people, events, or situations, I still need to do a lot of research and schedule everything in advance to feel at ease. For most things, I need to clearly know what I should do and what the next steps are. And I'm very future-oriented, before all the changes, I almost never looked back. This is very INFJ, right? However, at the same time, I don't have just one goal. I'm interested in many things, and although these interests haven't changed much over the past decade, they are quite diverse. I'll be interested in A for a while, then switch to focusing on B, then C, D, E, and eventually back to A. A jack of all trades but a master of none. And I start to think about the past from time to time, although most of the time I would think about how my past experiences affected me now (not sure if this kind of recollection is an INFP trait or an INFJ trait?). But anyway, this is still very INFP, isn't it? I've seen many people say that personality doesn't change, but I seem to have changed quite a bit. This has left me increasingly confused.
Additionally, both types share the traits of being empathetic, compassionate, and idealistic, but they express these qualities in different ways based on their dominant and secondary functions.
Wow this video was amazing thank you so much!!! I am definitely an INFJ and I've come to realise through my growth and self-improvement, I have actually developed the strengths of an INFP too. I know what I want in life and what I feel but I share this in a very INFJ way where I protect social harmony. I am also an ideas generator then use my INFJ skills to obsess, hone in and get stuff done. So I'm beginning to feel balanced as a person. I also have days where I 'plan' to be spontaneous which involves no planning, just a plan not to plan 😂 It also frustrates me in a group setting where I see others feeling anxious or uncomfortable and welcome them in warmly, but I have yet to have anyone do the same for me when I've been feeling that way too.
You just described me so well. I always write down what I want to say especially when the conversation is a difficult topic or when I want to avoid triggering others.
It's true about getting a strong intuition about someone, but then doubting my own intuition. 😅 Then I tell myself to trust my intuition. It's also called discernment.
I agree. I am an INFJ who married an INFP. This is so spot on. We have always said we are so much the same but with just enough difference to keep things interesting. I'll have to share this video with him. He's going to love it.
Hi WM, She 100% wanted to be with me and saw me as I am. Also I can be alone with her. She tends to have nice even emotional energy. I'd totally given up on finding somebody that I could hang out with full time. We've been together 15 years now and I'd say INFP is very compatible IF you can acknowledge and understand the cognitive differences. Cheers
i think infp need the seed to start with, and they are spontaneous and enjoy the creative journey keeping options open, not using judging function. in contrast infj needs to know the end in some way. to know the end from the start is because we see patterns.
I’m an INFJ and my twin sister is an INFP so I love watching videos which compare the two personalities and this is definitely us. I also never realised my clumsiness was because I’m an INFJ and because I’m often focused elsewhere that I walk into things. Finding your channel is helping me understand myself so much more.
Good one, Jay. It seems to me that INFPs have better boundaries. As an INFJ, I'm still glad to be the one who may have sloppy boundaries, but I also reach out to the person standing alone. Another thing: I have 2 friends I think are INFPs, but I can't inspire them to take the test; whereas, I jumped at the idea of finding a way to explain myself. I love the MBTI. I must add: you are a great speaker. Many youtubers talk incessantly about themselves. You get to the point and explain your topic well. It's obvious that you "write first."
One way to inspire them might be to have them read descriptions of each of the 16 temperament type. Then ask them which one describes them the best. Then tell them they can take a free simple test to see if it confirms their intuitive guess. If the test result is consistent with their guess, then most likely they are that type. If the test result is different from their guess, their guess is more likely their type, and the test result was inaccurate. This has been my experience.
Probably your friends are ISFPs. I have a hard time imagining INFPs not being interested in knowing more about /understanding themselves. However, I can see how an Se user like an ISFP who might resemble an INFP might prefer to life real life rather than relying on theoretical explanations.
In terms of values, one thing I’ve noticed as an INFJ is that I could only identify them, in comparison to others. That is, the experience of interacting with others revealed these values to me, as opposed to me intrinsically knowing of their existence. Being FE-auxiliary is challenging for me to know who I am (self). I can’t rightly know who I am, unless I have a basis of comparison via interaction with others. Another challenge, is that I sometimes mistake the emotions of others that I absorb, as my own. A lot of people who donate to charity, for instance, are heavy FE users - so, they want the unfortunate people/animals e.c.t., not to suffer, because they can feel it (absorb emotions). FI users who donate to charity, do so on the basis of what their internal self proposes (feels) - if the organisation’s values align with their internal ones strongly, for instance. We identify patterns, but detail-oriented tasks/work is SUPER draining. Our ability to identify patterns, is often at a high level view and conceptual. We can have many ideas/insights but never take action, due to underestimating how much energy it would take to follow through. That’s the bane of being an INFJ 😂
Totally understand what you’re talking about when it comes to knowing your “self.” very much an INFJ thing. interesting points about charity, too, never thought about that.
Literally today, I needed to go eat something when I first got up, but you know what I did instead? Went in the other room and wrote a song. Spent 3 hours on it. Forgot to feed myself. 😆 Was it worth it? Yes. Was I still hungry after I was done? Absolutely. But if that ain’t an INFJ indicator, I dunno what is. 😆
@@INFJcircle the thing is though, I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits, so I’m not sure which one I am, but I might be a lil more INFJ, but at times I feel more I’m INFP. What am I? I’m not sure. 🤔
I’m absolutely convinced you can be both bc I absolutely am extreme INFP on some topics, and extreme INFJ on others. Every single thing he goes over, I am either one or the other, but never the same one. This is the best video I’ve found that compares the two, but honestly,I’m fell so defeated bc I just want to know why I am the way I am, but I’m not sure what I am bc ‘yes’ to both infp and infj. so exhausting.
I was looking for this comment! I can definitely relate. I found myself to be an INFJ, but wondered why some qualities didn’t totally relate to me, and after watching this video, I realize it’s because I hold INFP qualities as well. Like he said, it’s a map and not a territory. We are proof that both is possible, and that’s a relief tbh lol.
Im an infj and my little sister in infp. I have to say that infps are some of my most favorite favorite people. Even tho im older by a year i was painfully shy and my little sister held my hand through our younger years. She taught me to ride a bike, told me about tampons, was my friend in school when i had none. Infps you are precious❤❤❤
I just told my friend at work take this test last week and she got INFP and I’m INFJ! You’re spot on as always and this video was very helpful to understand my friend better. Thank you 🙏 nil desperandum
@@stephanie_smith it’s very cool isn’t it. We are best friends for sure. I don’t actually think there is anyone else I have ever felt so comfortable with xx
Sir, I want to thank you for this information. I've been struggling to determine which of these I was for almost 5 years. You just provided the clarity I've been searching for all this time. Thank you so much!
@the infj circle , I know this was a few weeks ago, and it might be a bit redundant, but I would very much appreciate it if you did a comparison of infj and enfj. This comparison was so insightful. I'm an infj and my husband and one of our sons are enfj. So I'd love a comparison of those types. Thank you so much for your videos. I was laughing when you got to our SE and said we're probably a bit clumsy. Just the other day I tripped over my dog gate while carrying all my coffee cups from the dishwasher to the coffee cabinet. I fell hard and broke all my cups. I do this sort of thing a lot. My husband was mad because it looks like he beat me up and he had told me multiple times not to go over the gate, lol 😂
🔥👏 Alright brother, this one was definitely very very helpful. Not that your others have not been, but I think I have a big brain moment here… I see the pattern of my life in what you described. I believe strongly to be naturally my an INFJ, but I’ve learned to become an INFP. And so I truly believe I am both or a better way to put it, it seems to me that the INJP is the Yang to the Ying of INFJ. A better way to explain it maybe is, and INFP is a broken or mastered INFJ. Meaning as INFJs get deep into a topic. Once they’ve mastered it, they turn to their INFP if pushed far enough. Not that we don’t like to keep the peace and feel everyone’s vibes, but because when you’ve mastered patterns others have and you’ve gone through, you’d through the BS and start becoming the pessimistic side of the very observant INFJ. Meaning the INFJ may observe and have targeted objections as we do. But sometimes when carried off to areas unexpected where control is taken, we can revert to an INFP very easily. Another way to explain the INFJ is the logical side of us, where the INFP may be the emotional part when we get tired of the same story or see the same patterns repeated with no one learning no matter how much you put in to help them. Seeing my point? I think the INFP is the dark side of the INFJ or the mastered side of it. Though you can have an assertive focused point as an INFJ, you can still see the whole game board like the INFP. What seems the INFP is “unfocused on”, May be a missed understanding that they as an INFJ, didn’t see value in one topic and moved to another or can be they resolved the puzzle that gave them satisfaction to move on, seemingly unfocused. Not necessarily because they are, but because it may have been only a piece of the bigger picture that others can’t see, reverting back to the INFJ. The INFP becomes more assertive the more he understands a matter and sees patterns in peoples behaviors that when found to be dishonest or lingering for reasons we can trace back to, we may assert he INFP and get more direct to the point and what appears as the INFP emotional side. Again INFJ seems to represent our logical, everything is good side and planned out. INFP is the mastery or the war zone of the INFJ. Most times when we’ve had enough of the BS and no longer see the priority as keeping everyone happy, but in fact stirring the pot to get the overall results and to wake up a sleeping people in their own creative way. Hope I made sense. As it seems everything you said made perfect sense to me, but I see myself in both. The side of me I originally intended and still have all the time as I revert to it naturally as it’s who I am naturally. But with experience, I’ve seen the INFP come out roaring which is very unlike me. It’s been learned through experience. So I think you guys may need a new “alphabet title” I suppose because I think, one’s the logical side, the other is the emotional side. Hope you can clarify or add to this if there was any light bulb moments! Thanks again for what you do brother! Again it’s awesome to see others think as you do! 🔥😎
The clumsiness is real, my friend says I’m accident prone 😂 I train Jiujitsu almost daily, spend lots of time outside and even played football when I was younger… doesn’t matter in the slightest bit. The door frame/counter/corner of furniture is the real enemy
I'm someone who has been typed professionally, self+ online and through study... As an INFJ, I actually find myself often doubting my type .. and thinking I could be an ISFP and INTJ. I resonate with INFP but I can feel a very clear difference between the two, obviously due to using completely different functions. Our fourth function is not as difficult as our shadow 😂 I don't use my Ti ... Verbally, or outwardly- I won't outwardly ask "why" or question people. BUT I'm constantly asking questions internally, and my internal dialogue is STRONG. As a childhood abuse survivor my Se works quite a bit better than maybe some others in different circumstances... BUT I miss stupid random details and the bumping into things and not eating etc, such an issue haha. BUT I noticed the interactions between people, what people are wearing, directions, and the "vibe" of a space quite accurately.
My best friend is an INFP and I’m INFJ. Absolutely love him and we can keep up with each other talking about abstract things. The differences between the two types definitely resonates with our dynamic. He helps me explores all the possibilities of life while I help him narrow down choices. He also has a problem with maintaining discipline and I’m always reminding him of that.
This is exactly the difference. Thanks for sharing that,INFP‘s are daydreamers and have tons of ideas, but they have trouble following through. All the conditions have to be perfect for them to get started.
I didn't know forgetting to pee and drink water was an INFJ thing 🥲🥲 I also find myself sitting in the weirdest most UNCOMFY positions for AGES and then I'm like why didn't I move and get more comfortable????
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFP. I never expected to feel like the assertive one in a relationship. This was a fun video! I really thought he and I would understand one another SO MUCH more easily than we actually do! 😅
Definetely an INFJ. When I did the test it came out 3 times INFJ and 3 times INFP. Now I know I am an INFJ, all the description you give resonates with me. I am indeed a chameleon - INFJ according to MBTI and a Reflector according to Human Design. So now I just have to learn myself how to use it as a strength in the world, as well as everything else. Thanks for the video.
i thought i was infp but you really helped me figure out the difference, I really feel the counterculture part & thinking pattern you mentioned, thanks
I love learning new things and mastering them, and then moving on to mastering something new. It’s been that way my whole life so I have acquired a lot of great skills and different life experiences. I’m a Jack of many trades and a master of each. Early in life I learned to evaluate all of my interests, dreams, and passions and then choose the best things to pursue and almost always succeeded with whatever I took on. I had no problems sticking with the things I took on and achieving them. In fact, doing otherwise would have made me feel like I failed. I love the words.. failure is not an option. Your video was really good at noting the differences between the INFP and INFJ. I’d previously thought I was an ENFP but that’s most likely because I did a lot of self-love and overcoming social anxiety work in my early 20s. So I can be extremely sociable and authentic (despite being so unique) however I don’t tend to like long drawn out social events and will actually avoid them at all cost. 😂 I’m also well liked and attract people. I prefer close one on one conversations over group chats any day. I’m also psychic, so it’s just been a normal thing for me to sense what people are really feeling, and if someone is evil or up to no good, I often know it right away no matter if they’re trying to present themselves otherwise. It’s a great trait to possess as it keeps me safe, especially living overseas. I don’t approach, respond, or talk to anyone I sense is up to no good. I fully trust my intuition. I do tend to hold back a great deal of information in my conversations with others, but not because I am trying to fit in, but rather because I know more than they know and more than they can handle knowing.
I have been both because of the level of important of the subject matter or interest and morality that may be considered and their level of honesty or dishonesty that they convey towards me.
I first took the MBTI test at a large company, the managers wanted to see what our teams skills were and to help us work better together. My results were so close on these types I really couldn’t choose. Probably the chameleon effect of being there in the group 🤭🤣Thanks👍🏼Your different scenarios comparing INFJ to INFP confirmed I’m INFJ💃🏻
Great video, a lot of it resonates! It’s as if you’ve given examples from my own life. Love how you put emphasis on how MBTI is our map, or how Jung said it is the skeleton. Bravo my fellow INFJ😊 In regards to planning out things; I always have a plan A, B or C because being too rigid in your plans (simply sticking to one plan) can spoil it as well when unexpected things happen. Usually when I have to opt for plan C I’m more flexible and go with the flow, because not everything is within our control. Plan C is when I let things take it’s own course. It is important that we try to integrate our opposite side, our repressed or underdeveloped functions to be more complete. Being an INFJ has gotten me into “trouble” a lot…I can laugh it away now usually because I accept myself more and understand where it comes from. Sending much appreciation ❤
Yes, our planning is interesting. It’s sort of like our organization, it makes us feel better but we don’t particularly like doing it. Whereas INFP typically do not like a plan at all. It makes them feel stifled.
Very interesting information. I started out trying to understand what was wrong with me. My goal was to become my true authentic self. You can improve and control the things that you do not like about yourself. You can also refine the strengths that you do have by learning from your mistakes. Also your childhood plays a huge role in how difficult this journey has been for most of us. God bless
Better question is INFJ versus ISTP, in my opinion. Lots of similarities. Same four functions, just in different order. I’d like to see a video on that.
Hahaha, this was great! At a loss for words when put on the spot - check. Often get unexplained bruises - check. Questioning everything from birth - check. 😆 Love it, thank you Jay!
I've taken the mbti test in the past, but the last 2 times I got INFJ and that was taken about 4 months apart. The absorbing of emotions hit me because I've had that tendency since I was very little. My parents told me I got upset one time because I couldn't tell someone was laughing really hard, but it was a loud, intense emotion and that's all read. I also didn't handle any loud noises or expressions of anger from others well. It's always like feeling the physical tension corsing through my entire body when it happens, even if I have nothing to do with it. This includes movies and videos too. I handle it better now that I am older, but too much in one day can wear me out. The writing part was very accurate too.
i thought i was an infp bc i'm not good with finishing projects and i procrastinate a lot... but then i got diagnosed with adhd and discovered in reallity i'm just an infj with adhd, since all the other aspects of the infj personality align with me instead of infp...
Thanks, Jay, for sewing all of that together so clearly! Yes, I am an INFJ 😎🔬🔎📝✝️📖💟. I have not considered other types before and probably won’t at any other time either. My intuition pretty much informs me about others, as you’d know yourself. I did take a photo of the two types from my iPad onto my phone and collaged them, when you started, to enable me to follow you more effectively that I would understand the differences, which is probably rather INFJ of me. Hope you have a great day! Mine has just begun. G’day from Jae in SA (South Aus) 🇦🇺
Definitely the end of the day here! I’m glad you enjoyed the video. I’ll probably do some more of these kind of longer educational videos in the future with some other types too.
@@INFJcircle Jay, you have an appealing face and manner so whatever you do I’ll enjoy it. I also like getting your email talks, too . I live in a rural area of three villages near the coast with lovely beaches, and having INFJ company is always good! I do have my own Christian Yt channel, btw, if you touch my icon here. It’s from one of my paintings having been a designer and an artist 30 years 🙂
@@INFJcircle Or, the person I tried to include starts being really nasty to me and then ignores me once they are introduced to others. This happens to me all the time. People are so unbelievable! It's one of the reasons why I am isolating, I am so exhausted with every scenario I am in. I never am in a winning situation. I'm really done with all the nasty people in this world. (I don't mean to sound morbid, it is what it is for me).
I used to test as INFP, but now I test as INFJ. Honestly, listening to this video, I'm even more confused than before because I have traits of both. However, I really appreciate your being kind about exploring the distinctions. When I began looking into this, the first video I saw was a Frank James video where he got really angry at people for not knowing which they were, implying they're either fraudulent or stupid. It made me not even want to explore the topic for a while.
Yes, I think one of the best ways to tell which type you are is to think about whether you love structure and to have everything planned out (INFJ) or you’re more spontaneous in your decision-making (INFP).
@@INFJcircle Well, I value play, but I always need to proceed with the structure I derive from it. So, for instance, as a writer I spend more time on the inspiration phase than most, but I'm a heavy plotter.
My son is INFP, and I’m INFJ. This is relatable for us especially planning. He likes for me to do the planning, but he knows I will think about what he likes and wants.
I'm definitely an INFJ then. It's funny, I was talking to my husband last night about your videos and how you were probably writing a script for it and what you were probably going to talk about. And you did exactly as I had predicted. Very spooky lol
I feel strange though, as I can feel the emotions of others, I can feel how they’re feeling.. But, I’ve also been through so much trauma that I can more than likely relate to their experiences too. Like, it will hit me, “I went through this too!” Although, it’s more the experience rather than the emotional aspect. I feel their emotions, they talk about what happened, and then it brings back memories. I’m definitely an INFJ, but I’m more of an open book, always explaining who I am and what I am because no one tries to understand and they create assumptions and lies, but at the same time, I’m still mysterious. It’s a way of comforting people, sometimes in their distress, you tell them your experience a little. So they don’t feel alone. My emotions are jumbled though, I rarely know what I’m feeling unless it’s powerful and can’t be ignored. What you said about when we feel other’s emotions, it then unlocks ours was mind blowing! Really, thank you for the video.. The biggest difference between INFP and INFJs, is that we INFJs don’t really accept our uniqueness fully, we think something is wrong, but INFPs are complete individualists and rock it. Not that any other MBTI type is unique, but we INFJs are soooooo hard to understand. Even for an INFJ. I’m drawn to help and heal people, and have been my entire life. I’m surrounded by INFPs in my family, and I felt off because of that drive to help and hardly think for myself. But I’m happy that what I am has a name.
I live in Dallas, Texas, USA, and grew up in the White Rock Lake Area. We have a lot of white shale rock everywhere along the roadsides, in fields. People might have a difficult time managing the white rock when they install an in-ground swimming pool in their back yard. At about age 45, I asked myself, “what is this white rock that I have grown up with?” And off I went into a deep dive about the Cretaceous Era, ancient oceans, mountain formation, marine life dying, etc……I still enjoy reading about “White Rock” today, but not to the extent that I did during the initial learning phase. My work is as an interpreter: American Sign Language and English. I have a BA and an MA in Psychology. Geology is no where near my professional interests. But as an INFJ - that’s how I am -- “oh, let’s learn about this now”. And off I go on a deep dive into research and learning.
Yep, and I think if you imagine that you studied white rock for maybe three hours, and then we’re onto something else that would be like an INFP. I don’t want to put time limits on them, but they typically move on from things pretty quickly. Basically a “not so deep dive.” Thanks for the comment!
It is really interesting. There was a "season" in my life where people would call me -- people I didn't even know, to give them counsel. They would tell me their life's story and cry, etc. and I don't even know how they got my telephone number.
i love comparing INFP and INFJ with overlapping stereotypes.. as example, INFP 2w1 vs INFJ 4w5. this is a very interesting subject and helps me understand much better what makes INFP an INFP and so on. in most case, healthy and functional INFP would looks outwardly agreeable to the point they looks like Fe aux such as IxFJ to rly tell them apart we need to fully understand its motivations behind their thoughts since healthy INFPs also able to be accomplished, logical, and cautious. you are able to 'felt' their motivations and core personality is inspiration-based; related to their personal ideals. as example, if they idolizes nice-saint-like figure and inspired by its values they strive to be something like that (unconsciously or not) for themselves. Fi-Ne, right? to rly consider something as 'inspiration' you would unconsiously see their values matched with yours for INFJs, i just felt these kind of person is intimidating, intentionally-or-not, poking someone with certain 'true-yet-uncomfortable' truth. actually INFP also able to poke someone, but the impact is higher when INFJs doing this. it's like.. certain strong impersonal truth lies there. INFJs motivation mostly collective-based; directly pointing out 'I want this community to be like this' for everyone's sake and its execution mostly not rly understood by everyone (their idea execution often seems a bit unusual; people just did not get it, but gets the job done as it should) both INFP and INFJ able to adopt both motivations, but as long as i see, what comes first would be different (since INFJ lead by Ni). sometimes it did not figured out easily but someday you will understand tbh after i learned this, i did not understand cognitive function community still categorizes them stereotypically-based. i still understand if it's 16p would be stereotypical but not the cognitive function.. since it's 'cognitive'. i remember heard INFP said 'i am INTP in everyday life since i am logical' when in fact seems Si-Te enough although not dominant. INTP logic isn't outwardly-based, you mostly see them blabbering about things based on their mind anyway im an INTP hehe
I have been accused of being an INTJ more than once but never an INFP. However I test as INFJ. I do hyper focus on my interest like nobody else I know and my intuition can make some people kind of uncomfortable along with me getting some strange looks at times. Not always easy being an INFJ.
It’s definitely not easy being an INFJ. And yes, we can definitely make people uncomfortable at times. The tests are pretty accurate in my opinion. even online tests, as long as the person is being honest.
This was really helpful. :D I was pretty sure I'm INFJ before the video, but I'm interested in the differences to learn something. If I haven't my great intuition, I would be totally lost in the big world. For sure :D I always have bruises on my elbows because I keep getting caught on the door frame or door handle when I take turns too tight because my head is somewhere in creative worlds. And I really can speak a lot better if I had wrote down the things before. Nethertheless I hate phone calls with and without writing things down. 🤣 Greetings from Germany 🤭😊
Hahaha 😂 yup 👍 you’re right on! I NFJ. I would like to turn off the I and the F like a valve sometimes maybe open the valve a little trickle. Protects me! Oh my you’re spot on.
I relate a lot to this channel, as an INTJ empath. I share a lot of traits with INFJs, but where I diverge is with Fi, as mine is strong, and I also have no codependent or people-pleasing tendencies. I always want to help people & make them feel comfortable, and aid them to unlocking their potential, but never once have I needed anyone to like me, which I appreciate about being an INTJ.
That must be so relieving! I think that’s a major difference too, Fi is much more sure of its own feelings. i’ve noticed this about INTJ‘s, they just really don’t care where as I care very much.
@@INFJcircle If I could toggle between being an INTJ & INFJ, I feel like I’d be “perfect,” since I love being an Ni-dom, but the next best thing I can do is learn thru observation & experiences. I know that I lack the innate tenderness & sensitivity needed in situations where someone is grieving, for example, so I try to learn from those with strong Fe (healthy examples of it), which would allow me to show up better for people in those circumstances.
Is there a hybrid of both? I do some for infp and i do some for infj. Ive gotten both multiple times on different platforms. 😅 I cant let it go. I wanna know mine.
I see it like this: an INFJ is the one who might where more minimal, modern, elegant clothes with strong cuts, and the INFP might be more drawn to mixing and matching, wearing what they find on the street, flowing clothes. The INFJ will likely have a very curated and minimal home where the know exactly what they want to place in it and where, and the INFP will be more likely to go with the flow and collect what they find, and keep things of sentimental value. An INFJ as a musician will want structure and to tend to every last detail, and the INFP might be more open to jamming and seeing where the flow takes them. An INFP is pensive , brooding, analytical, and calculative, and INFP dreamy, flowing, possibly a bit more chaotic. Im an INFJ and have come up that way for years, but I used to come up as an INFP in my younger years. Interestingly, I did wear more flowing clothes back then, I would travel the world a bit aimlessly, dreaming and writing poetry and not being so concerned with end goals or career creatively. Nowadays I’m all about things being curated, together, minimal, and envisioning and seeing through my end results and objectives very thoroughly before I undertake things.
I think I'm Infp and I decorated my home with items that I collected along the way and had sentimental value and I Def dress like you wrote. Flowing is my feeling on things. Great observation
@@rosellaboduroglu Hehe, indeed! Actually I’m an INFJ and my home is a conglomerate of things I collected and found along the way too, but I think in a different way than an INFP- I was for instance extremely specific about what I wanted- I wanted an acrylic chair but couldn’t afford one- then I found one outside my building shortly after 😆 My friends had left some of their woodwork shelves behind but I was very specific to not wanting many browns or dark colors in my flat, so I painted them white. That kind of thing. And everything either fits into the aesthetic goal perfectly, or serves a function, and minimalism is always the goal. I know another INFJ and we laugh about how people always ask us why we don’t have more furniture 🤣 And on the note of Infp- I’m sure not every infp wears flowing clothes (though many do) buuut, the feeling of flowing is definitely there ;)
I a INFJ but I am fast at making decisions. It is always clear what I want and what I don't want. I am married with an INFP and it is a dream relation. I am very focused yes my will is strong.
Ok so I've watched several and took a quiz (not official). Since last post still confused altho you've done best job explaining. Definite strong characteristics of both. Can one evolve?
Your an INFJ if you constantly check videos like this to validate what you already know.
Yes, and that’s a very INFJ thing to do! Because we aren’t sure about our “self.”
Yes exactly...I constantly doubt if I am a infj lol 😂
Agree entirely. I wonder all the time about this.
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So true!😊
You know ur an infj when you randomly drag someone into ur conversation to make them feel good but then immediately disappear when they're comfty😅
lol! Yeah I was def not super at home in that environment. I was like “here man, let me save you and leave!”
I most definitely have this trait.
Exactly 😂
Yeap
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As an infj I feel like I’m friends with everyone and no one at the same time most of the time. I’m constantly trying to make everyone else around me comfortable and happy. But am pretty sure that hardly any of them actually “see” me at all. They just like the way they feel around me. It’s hard, sometimes.
Agreed 1000%. I let people ramble about whatever while I stay quiet so I don’t seem selfish lol. I hardly bring up stuff about myself cuz I don’t wanna seem selfish.
this!!!! 😭
This!!! 😩
Yep! That's exactly how me and my INFJ boyfriend are too! Sorry it sucks the way people are!
Same here
I'm an INFJ and I've started to notice, with my friend's book club that I attend, even though I'm not the "host", i definitely play that role in leading the conversation. It's almost an out-of-body experience to watch myself take the lead (perhaps too much?) and guide the conversation in a way that includes everyone. So yeah - im the total "mom" of the group. But here's the thing: not only do i want to make sure everyone feels included, but im genuinely interesting in hearing EVERYONE'S response to the questions, which i don't feel from the others - i feel like they like to hear themselves talk more than listening to each other.
Very interesting. I felt like a momma bear around my younger siblings (lived with 4 total) but.. want to join a book club as well. It’s wonderful to hear that you can bring people together the way you do.
Yes, this sounds very INFJ to me. We will take up a leadership role if we have to in order to make others feel included. Dominant Ni also makes us feel a bit separated from the world at times. Like there’s a layer of separation there or something That may be what you’re feeling there. sounds like you’re doing great work by the way!
The problem with all the functions being completely opposite of eachother is that both INFJ and INFP are very "paradoxical" where they love and hate something at the same time, and their lives are mostly a living paradox, like loving humans but also hating humans at the same time, Having big goals but always busy doing nothing. Etc Etc
This is our life 😂 husband infj wife infp
I love INFPs, because they will tell me when they are not happy but they can also see if they are wrong and apologise for it as they understand what my feelings can be. Some of the best people around me are INFPs because I know i can trust their words. ❤
I’m glad to know about MBTI because it helped me understand why I felt so different than most people, and had a hard time fitting in! Now I just see that I’m one of the more rare types. Whew!
I totally get you, it is a huge help for those of us who know we are different!
Jay
I'm future oriented like a typical INFJ, but I can get caught in one of those loops where I reminisce over and over on something in the past, thinking about what I did wrong, where I went wrong, and how I could have handled it better.
I get that too. I will doubt my past decisions sometimes. But I’m future oriented (for the most part) as well. Thanks for the comment!
Jay
Yes, I do that sometimes as well. We can be pretty hard on ourselves sometimes. But most of the time I’m thinking about the future like you.
I feel like some of us ruminate on the past in order to "master" the future? Like we're prepping for it by reviewing the past and how the future may unfold, because we acknowledge how much one has to do with the other? My little theory ❤️
I cut people loose so easily it almost seems callous. Whether that be childhood friends or family members. Yet, I can be super nostalgic and reminisce about the past because I have much more fond memories of them despite the trauma experienced than in my present life despite being very future oriented as well.
I feel one aspect of an IFNJ, is the ability to see through things. Most don't possess that .
Yes, and even the INFP has the tendency to go in with herd mentality and not question things as much.
Yeah, like gimmicks of now a days.
YES!!@@TheFloridaTraveler
@@INFJcircle yep, i agree
I don’t get this! Didn’t you say INFP know their feelings and values and don’t care about what others think as much?
Until now, I haven't been able to definitively determine whether I am an INFJ or an INFP. I understand that online tests aren't always accurate, so I've been studying the eight cognitive functions in depth. However, the process has left me feeling confused. I notice that I exhibit INFJ behaviors and thought patterns in some situations, while in other aspects, I definitely display INFP traits. By the way, in the online tests I've taken annually over the past 8 years, three times I've been classified as INFJ and once as INFP. Apart from the unquestionable "I," my scores for the other three letters (NFJ) fluctuate around 50-60%+-.
I used to firmly believe I was an INFJ. For instance, when entering a room, I could immediately sense the overall atmosphere and everyone's emotions. Sometimes, it even felt like I had some sort of superpower, able to perceive things that others couldn't. Another example is that many people might think someone is nice, but just by seeing them and having a brief conversation, I would intuitively feel I should stay away from that person. Although I couldn't explain why, facts would eventually prove that my intuition was correct. This sense applied not just to people but also to analyzing events and making decisions. like a human radar.
However, the cost of having this "superpower" has led to extreme mental exhaustion. Perfectionism has also made me very passive in doing anything, as I procrastinate out of fear of failure. Being overly concerned with others' opinions prevents me from allowing myself to make any mistakes. Disliking conflicts, I force myself to please others. All these factors have caused my internal struggle to worsen, bringing me to the brink of depression and even suicidal thoughts.
At the time, I didn't understand why I was so unhappy. I could hardly perceive my own emotions correctly. If others were happy, I was happy; if others were anxious, I became anxious too (and back then, I didn't even realize my emotions were syncing with others'). Expressing my own emotions was out of the question. Later, as my suicidal thoughts emerged, perhaps my body instinctively sought self-preservation, so I turned to many psychology books, beginning to face my inner self. I practiced turning off my Fe, focusing only on my inner feelings, and dedicated time to understanding myself.
Through continuous and deliberate practice, I gradually stopped caring about others' opinions, no longer feared making mistakes, and tried to be more flexible and spontaneous. After finally overcoming my internal struggle, I took the test again and found I had become an INFP. The intuitive "superpower" I once took pride in wasn't as strong as before. I started showing more INFP characteristics, though I still retained some INFJ traits. Occasionally, I would still be influenced by the emotions of my surroundings and people, but I could quickly refocus on myself. Over time, my sensitivity to the environment diminished significantly. I began to express my own stance and feelings, no longer just pleasing others for the sake of harmony, and cared more about my own feelings.
Could these changes have affected my Fe? And it seems my Ni has also changed. I'm not sure.
For example, I still tend to make plans because it gives me a sense of security. When it comes to new people, events, or situations, I still need to do a lot of research and schedule everything in advance to feel at ease. For most things, I need to clearly know what I should do and what the next steps are. And I'm very future-oriented, before all the changes, I almost never looked back. This is very INFJ, right?
However, at the same time, I don't have just one goal. I'm interested in many things, and although these interests haven't changed much over the past decade, they are quite diverse. I'll be interested in A for a while, then switch to focusing on B, then C, D, E, and eventually back to A. A jack of all trades but a master of none. And I start to think about the past from time to time, although most of the time I would think about how my past experiences affected me now (not sure if this kind of recollection is an INFP trait or an INFJ trait?). But anyway, this is still very INFP, isn't it?
I've seen many people say that personality doesn't change, but I seem to have changed quite a bit. This has left me increasingly confused.
I am pretty decisive, about big stuff. The little stuff, not so much. -INFJ
Additionally, both types share the traits of being empathetic, compassionate, and idealistic, but they express these qualities in different ways based on their dominant and secondary functions.
my dad is an INFP, forever idealistic and positive, and I love that as an INFJ
Wow this video was amazing thank you so much!!! I am definitely an INFJ and I've come to realise through my growth and self-improvement, I have actually developed the strengths of an INFP too. I know what I want in life and what I feel but I share this in a very INFJ way where I protect social harmony. I am also an ideas generator then use my INFJ skills to obsess, hone in and get stuff done. So I'm beginning to feel balanced as a person. I also have days where I 'plan' to be spontaneous which involves no planning, just a plan not to plan 😂 It also frustrates me in a group setting where I see others feeling anxious or uncomfortable and welcome them in warmly, but I have yet to have anyone do the same for me when I've been feeling that way too.
I wanted to write something similiar. I think this personality types can much learn from another.
You just described me so well. I always write down what I want to say especially when the conversation is a difficult topic or when I want to avoid triggering others.
I need to start writing down what I wanna say to avoid the urge to interrupt so I don’t forget what I wanted to say.
@@DoofenSpyroDragon16 same, I hate looking back at a conversation and wishing I had mentioned something.
It's true about getting a strong intuition about someone, but then doubting my own intuition. 😅 Then I tell myself to trust my intuition. It's also called discernment.
Great job on this vid. I'm married to an INFP and you've outlined the differences splendidly.
I'm glad! Very cool that you’re married to an INFP!
What did your infp partner do that made you love her?
I agree. I am an INFJ who married an INFP. This is so spot on. We have always said we are so much the same but with just enough difference to keep things interesting. I'll have to share this video with him. He's going to love it.
I sent this to my wife. She often wonders why I care what other people think 😉This vid will explain that it's hard wired!
Hi WM, She 100% wanted to be with me and saw me as I am. Also I can be alone with her. She tends to have nice even emotional energy. I'd totally given up on finding somebody that I could hang out with full time. We've been together 15 years now and I'd say INFP is very compatible IF you can acknowledge and understand the cognitive differences. Cheers
i think infp need the seed to start with, and they are spontaneous and enjoy the creative journey keeping options open, not using judging function. in contrast infj needs to know the end in some way. to know the end from the start is because we see patterns.
I’m an INFJ and my twin sister is an INFP so I love watching videos which compare the two personalities and this is definitely us. I also never realised my clumsiness was because I’m an INFJ and because I’m often focused elsewhere that I walk into things. Finding your channel is helping me understand myself so much more.
Infj married to an infp here. This is so my husband & me. 😊 this was helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
Good one, Jay. It seems to me that INFPs have better boundaries. As an INFJ, I'm still glad to be the one who may have sloppy boundaries, but I also reach out to the person standing alone.
Another thing: I have 2 friends I think are INFPs, but I can't inspire them to take the test; whereas, I jumped at the idea of finding a way to explain myself. I love the MBTI.
I must add: you are a great speaker. Many youtubers talk incessantly about themselves. You get to the point and explain your topic well. It's obvious that you "write first."
Yes, I love MBTI too. The boundaries thing is a very good point. Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate that!
One way to inspire them might be to have them read descriptions of each of the 16 temperament type. Then ask them which one describes them the best. Then tell them they can take a free simple test to see if it confirms their intuitive guess. If the test result is consistent with their guess, then most likely they are that type. If the test result is different from their guess, their guess is more likely their type, and the test result was inaccurate. This has been my experience.
@@369ladynada Thanks for responding. They won't read about the other types. They aren't that curious, while I am outrageously curious.
Probably your friends are ISFPs. I have a hard time imagining INFPs not being interested in knowing more about /understanding themselves. However, I can see how an Se user like an ISFP who might resemble an INFP might prefer to life real life rather than relying on theoretical explanations.
In terms of values, one thing I’ve noticed as an INFJ is that I could only identify them, in comparison to others. That is, the experience of interacting with others revealed these values to me, as opposed to me intrinsically knowing of their existence.
Being FE-auxiliary is challenging for me to know who I am (self). I can’t rightly know who I am, unless I have a basis of comparison via interaction with others. Another challenge, is that I sometimes mistake the emotions of others that I absorb, as my own.
A lot of people who donate to charity, for instance, are heavy FE users - so, they want the unfortunate people/animals e.c.t., not to suffer, because they can feel it (absorb emotions). FI users who donate to charity, do so on the basis of what their internal self proposes (feels) - if the organisation’s values align with their internal ones strongly, for instance.
We identify patterns, but detail-oriented tasks/work is SUPER draining. Our ability to identify patterns, is often at a high level view and conceptual. We can have many ideas/insights but never take action, due to underestimating how much energy it would take to follow through. That’s the bane of being an INFJ 😂
Totally understand what you’re talking about when it comes to knowing your “self.” very much an INFJ thing. interesting points about charity, too, never thought about that.
As an INFJ, I am proud of my analogies, ways of explaining things to different audience accordingly.
Literally today, I needed to go eat something when I first got up, but you know what I did instead? Went in the other room and wrote a song. Spent 3 hours on it. Forgot to feed myself. 😆
Was it worth it? Yes.
Was I still hungry after I was done? Absolutely.
But if that ain’t an INFJ indicator, I dunno what is. 😆
Yes! Once we get locked in, we can’t stop!
@@INFJcircle the thing is though, I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits, so I’m not sure which one I am, but I might be a lil more INFJ, but at times I feel more I’m INFP. What am I? I’m not sure. 🤔
I can relate 100%. I can't for the life of me understand why I get brilliant insights when I am so tired or exhausted
Thanks from a fellow INFJ, in middle age, a gal, who appreciates your work, very much.
Thank you so much, been sick but getting back to everyone. I really really appreciate your donation and I really really appreciate you!
Jay
Watching your videos really helps me to understand myself better and not feel so guilty about being who I am. Thanks!!!
That is awesome, that’s what it’s all about, thank you for watching and being a part of the circle.
As an INFJ I drifted off into my own thought while watching several times so I had to redo parts. Lol I dig the video
Lol...me too!!
It happens! Thank you for watching.
One of the better INFP/INFJ vids I've seen. Thank you!
I’m absolutely convinced you can be both bc I absolutely am extreme INFP on some topics, and extreme INFJ on others. Every single thing he goes over, I am either one or the other, but never the same one. This is the best video I’ve found that compares the two, but honestly,I’m fell so defeated bc I just want to know why I am the way I am, but I’m not sure what I am bc ‘yes’ to both infp and infj. so exhausting.
I was looking for this comment! I can definitely relate. I found myself to be an INFJ, but wondered why some qualities didn’t totally relate to me, and after watching this video, I realize it’s because I hold INFP qualities as well. Like he said, it’s a map and not a territory. We are proof that both is possible, and that’s a relief tbh lol.
Im an infj and my little sister in infp. I have to say that infps are some of my most favorite favorite people.
Even tho im older by a year i was painfully shy and my little sister held my hand through our younger years.
She taught me to ride a bike, told me about tampons, was my friend in school when i had none.
Infps you are precious❤❤❤
I just told my friend at work take this test last week and she got INFP and I’m INFJ! You’re spot on as always and this video was very helpful to understand my friend better. Thank you 🙏 nil desperandum
This was the best breakdown of the two traits Ive ever seen.
Thanks!
Finding the balance between these two types would be magical
Thanks for this! Just listening now. My daughter is INFP
So cool that you have an INFJ and an INFP in the same family!
Me too... my teenage daughter is an infp, and I'm an infj. We are both artists too. We have some of the best conversations!!
@@stephanie_smith it’s very cool isn’t it. We are best friends for sure. I don’t actually think there is anyone else I have ever felt so comfortable with xx
@@INFJcircle it truly is. I’m going to listen again on my way to trapeze as I think I fell asleep as listened at night last time 😂
Sir, I want to thank you for this information. I've been struggling to determine which of these I was for almost 5 years. You just provided the clarity I've been searching for all this time. Thank you so much!
@the infj circle , I know this was a few weeks ago, and it might be a bit redundant, but I would very much appreciate it if you did a comparison of infj and enfj. This comparison was so insightful. I'm an infj and my husband and one of our sons are enfj. So I'd love a comparison of those types. Thank you so much for your videos.
I was laughing when you got to our SE and said we're probably a bit clumsy. Just the other day I tripped over my dog gate while carrying all my coffee cups from the dishwasher to the coffee cabinet. I fell hard and broke all my cups. I do this sort of thing a lot. My husband was mad because it looks like he beat me up and he had told me multiple times not to go over the gate, lol 😂
🔥👏 Alright brother, this one was definitely very very helpful. Not that your others have not been, but I think I have a big brain moment here…
I see the pattern of my life in what you described. I believe strongly to be naturally my an INFJ, but I’ve learned to become an INFP. And so I truly believe I am both or a better way to put it, it seems to me that the INJP is the Yang to the Ying of INFJ. A better way to explain it maybe is, and INFP is a broken or mastered INFJ. Meaning as INFJs get deep into a topic. Once they’ve mastered it, they turn to their INFP if pushed far enough. Not that we don’t like to keep the peace and feel everyone’s vibes, but because when you’ve mastered patterns others have and you’ve gone through, you’d through the BS and start becoming the pessimistic side of the very observant INFJ. Meaning the INFJ may observe and have targeted objections as we do. But sometimes when carried off to areas unexpected where control is taken, we can revert to an INFP very easily. Another way to explain the INFJ is the logical side of us, where the INFP may be the emotional part when we get tired of the same story or see the same patterns repeated with no one learning no matter how much you put in to help them. Seeing my point? I think the INFP is the dark side of the INFJ or the mastered side of it. Though you can have an assertive focused point as an INFJ, you can still see the whole game board like the INFP. What seems the INFP is “unfocused on”, May be a missed understanding that they as an INFJ, didn’t see value in one topic and moved to another or can be they resolved the puzzle that gave them satisfaction to move on, seemingly unfocused. Not necessarily because they are, but because it may have been only a piece of the bigger picture that others can’t see, reverting back to the INFJ. The INFP becomes more assertive the more he understands a matter and sees patterns in peoples behaviors that when found to be dishonest or lingering for reasons we can trace back to, we may assert he INFP and get more direct to the point and what appears as the INFP emotional side. Again INFJ seems to represent our logical, everything is good side and planned out. INFP is the mastery or the war zone of the INFJ. Most times when we’ve had enough of the BS and no longer see the priority as keeping everyone happy, but in fact stirring the pot to get the overall results and to wake up a sleeping people in their own creative way. Hope I made sense. As it seems everything you said made perfect sense to me, but I see myself in both. The side of me I originally intended and still have all the time as I revert to it naturally as it’s who I am naturally. But with experience, I’ve seen the INFP come out roaring which is very unlike me. It’s been learned through experience. So I think you guys may need a new “alphabet title” I suppose because I think, one’s the logical side, the other is the emotional side.
Hope you can clarify or add to this if there was any light bulb moments!
Thanks again for what you do brother! Again it’s awesome to see others think as you do! 🔥😎
you're an INFP. You use a lot of creative Ne
The clumsiness is real, my friend says I’m accident prone 😂 I train Jiujitsu almost daily, spend lots of time outside and even played football when I was younger… doesn’t matter in the slightest bit. The door frame/counter/corner of furniture is the real enemy
I'm someone who has been typed professionally, self+ online and through study... As an INFJ, I actually find myself often doubting my type
.. and thinking I could be an ISFP and INTJ.
I resonate with INFP but I can feel a very clear difference between the two, obviously due to using completely different functions.
Our fourth function is not as difficult as our shadow 😂
I don't use my Ti ... Verbally, or outwardly- I won't outwardly ask "why" or question people.
BUT I'm constantly asking questions internally, and my internal dialogue is STRONG.
As a childhood abuse survivor my Se works quite a bit better than maybe some others in different circumstances... BUT I miss stupid random details and the bumping into things and not eating etc, such an issue haha. BUT I noticed the interactions between people, what people are wearing, directions, and the "vibe" of a space quite accurately.
OMG!!!!!!!! I broke my DAMN toe last week. You are scaring me!!!!!
When you said Jack of all trades, I really felt that.
My best friend is an INFP and I’m INFJ. Absolutely love him and we can keep up with each other talking about abstract things. The differences between the two types definitely resonates with our dynamic. He helps me explores all the possibilities of life while I help him narrow down choices. He also has a problem with maintaining discipline and I’m always reminding him of that.
This is exactly the difference. Thanks for sharing that,INFP‘s are daydreamers and have tons of ideas, but they have trouble following through. All the conditions have to be perfect for them to get started.
I didn't know forgetting to pee and drink water was an INFJ thing 🥲🥲 I also find myself sitting in the weirdest most UNCOMFY positions for AGES and then I'm like why didn't I move and get more comfortable????
Too relatable 😂
I think I’m INFJ with INFP tendencies.
This is very INFJ!
100%... Learn to stretch like a cat every day
Si demon
@@Thilosophocl3s yeah
This is the best explanation!
Thank you!
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFP. I never expected to feel like the assertive one in a relationship. This was a fun video! I really thought he and I would understand one another SO MUCH more easily than we actually do! 😅
Definetely an INFJ. When I did the test it came out 3 times INFJ and 3 times INFP. Now I know I am an INFJ, all the description you give resonates with me. I am indeed a chameleon - INFJ according to MBTI and a Reflector according to Human Design. So now I just have to learn myself how to use it as a strength in the world, as well as everything else. Thanks for the video.
"Maybe you run into door frames" shut up 😂😂😂😂😂 i always end up doing that, i miss a step in the stairs as often as i can...
i thought i was infp but you really helped me figure out the difference, I really feel the counterculture part & thinking pattern you mentioned, thanks
I love learning new things and mastering them, and then moving on to mastering something new. It’s been that way my whole life so I have acquired a lot of great skills and different life experiences. I’m a Jack of many trades and a master of each.
Early in life I learned to evaluate all of my interests, dreams, and passions and then choose the best things to pursue and almost always succeeded with whatever I took on. I had no problems sticking with the things I took on and achieving them. In fact, doing otherwise would have made me feel like I failed. I love the words.. failure is not an option.
Your video was really good at noting the differences between the INFP and INFJ. I’d previously thought I was an ENFP but that’s most likely because I did a lot of self-love and overcoming social anxiety work in my early 20s. So I can be extremely sociable and authentic (despite being so unique) however I don’t tend to like long drawn out social events and will actually avoid them at all cost. 😂 I’m also well liked and attract people. I prefer close one on one conversations over group chats any day.
I’m also psychic, so it’s just been a normal thing for me to sense what people are really feeling, and if someone is evil or up to no good, I often know it right away no matter if they’re trying to present themselves otherwise. It’s a great trait to possess as it keeps me safe, especially living overseas. I don’t approach, respond, or talk to anyone I sense is up to no good. I fully trust my intuition.
I do tend to hold back a great deal of information in my conversations with others, but not because I am trying to fit in, but rather because I know more than they know and more than they can handle knowing.
I have been both because of the level of important of the subject matter or interest and morality that may be considered and their level of honesty or dishonesty that they convey towards me.
I first took the MBTI test at a large company, the managers wanted to see what our teams skills were and to help us work better together. My results were so close on these types I really couldn’t choose. Probably the chameleon effect of being there in the group 🤭🤣Thanks👍🏼Your different scenarios comparing INFJ to INFP confirmed I’m INFJ💃🏻
this made me laugh at myself as an infj 😂 this helped cleared my confusion bw the two. Thank you! (:
When I decide that I'm going to do something it's as good as done.
Great video, a lot of it resonates! It’s as if you’ve given examples from my own life.
Love how you put emphasis on how MBTI is our map, or how Jung said it is the skeleton. Bravo my fellow INFJ😊
In regards to planning out things; I always have a plan A, B or C because being too rigid in your plans (simply sticking to one plan) can spoil it as well when unexpected things happen. Usually when I have to opt for plan C I’m more flexible and go with the flow, because not everything is within our control. Plan C is when I let things take it’s own course.
It is important that we try to integrate our opposite side, our repressed or underdeveloped functions to be more complete.
Being an INFJ has gotten me into “trouble” a lot…I can laugh it away now usually because I accept myself more and understand where it comes from. Sending much appreciation ❤
Yes, our planning is interesting. It’s sort of like our organization, it makes us feel better but we don’t particularly like doing it. Whereas INFP typically do not like a plan at all. It makes them feel stifled.
I test and I go back and forth between INFP and INFJ, and now I realize why. I'm both. It's exhausting.
Very interesting information. I started out trying to understand what was wrong with me. My goal was to become my true authentic self. You can improve and control the things that you do not like about yourself. You can also refine the strengths that you do have by learning from your mistakes. Also your childhood plays a huge role in how difficult this journey has been for most of us. God bless
Better question is INFJ versus ISTP, in my opinion. Lots of similarities. Same four functions, just in different order. I’d like to see a video on that.
As an INFP some things you’ve contrasted I’ve leaned more towards the INFJ.
Great video. You explained it so well. Thank you 🙏🏾
Glad it was helpful!
Hahaha, this was great! At a loss for words when put on the spot - check. Often get unexplained bruises - check. Questioning everything from birth - check. 😆 Love it, thank you Jay!
I've taken the mbti test in the past, but the last 2 times I got INFJ and that was taken about 4 months apart. The absorbing of emotions hit me because I've had that tendency since I was very little. My parents told me I got upset one time because I couldn't tell someone was laughing really hard, but it was a loud, intense emotion and that's all read.
I also didn't handle any loud noises or expressions of anger from others well. It's always like feeling the physical tension corsing through my entire body when it happens, even if I have nothing to do with it. This includes movies and videos too. I handle it better now that I am older, but too much in one day can wear me out. The writing part was very accurate too.
Excellent work. I always question myself and have wondered, yet again, if I am an INFP. I am, thanks to listening to you, definitely an INFJ. Or am I?
Questioning yourself is a very INFJ trait, an INFP would be more sure of what they feel. See what I did there? You sound INFJ to me from this comment.
i thought i was an infp bc i'm not good with finishing projects and i procrastinate a lot... but then i got diagnosed with adhd and discovered in reallity i'm just an infj with adhd, since all the other aspects of the infj personality align with me instead of infp...
Thanks, Jay, for sewing all of that together so clearly! Yes, I am an INFJ 😎🔬🔎📝✝️📖💟. I have not considered other types before and probably won’t at any other time either. My intuition pretty much informs me about others, as you’d know yourself. I did take a photo of the two types from my iPad onto my phone and collaged them, when you started, to enable me to follow you more effectively that I would understand the differences, which is probably rather INFJ of me. Hope you have a great day! Mine has just begun. G’day from Jae in SA (South Aus) 🇦🇺
Definitely the end of the day here! I’m glad you enjoyed the video. I’ll probably do some more of these kind of longer educational videos in the future with some other types too.
@@INFJcircle Jay, you have an appealing face and manner so whatever you do I’ll enjoy it. I also like getting your email talks, too . I live in a rural area of three villages near the coast with lovely beaches, and having INFJ company is always good! I do have my own Christian Yt channel, btw, if you touch my icon here. It’s from one of my paintings having been a designer and an artist 30 years 🙂
Omgosh, this is me, I try to involve outsiders, but it always backfires on me. Thanks, Jay.
The people who are leaving that person out do sometimes get angry that you brought them into the group. Sad.
@@INFJcircle Or, the person I tried to include starts being really nasty to me and then ignores me once they are introduced to others. This happens to me all the time. People are so unbelievable! It's one of the reasons why I am isolating, I am so exhausted with every scenario I am in. I never am in a winning situation. I'm really done with all the nasty people in this world. (I don't mean to sound morbid, it is what it is for me).
I’m a writer first as well. This all makes sense. Thank you. -infj
There should be another video like this but INFJ vs INTJ, because some can't tell the difference wisely
I used to test as INFP, but now I test as INFJ. Honestly, listening to this video, I'm even more confused than before because I have traits of both. However, I really appreciate your being kind about exploring the distinctions. When I began looking into this, the first video I saw was a Frank James video where he got really angry at people for not knowing which they were, implying they're either fraudulent or stupid. It made me not even want to explore the topic for a while.
Yes, I think one of the best ways to tell which type you are is to think about whether you love structure and to have everything planned out (INFJ) or you’re more spontaneous in your decision-making (INFP).
@@INFJcircle Well, I value play, but I always need to proceed with the structure I derive from it. So, for instance, as a writer I spend more time on the inspiration phase than most, but I'm a heavy plotter.
My son is INFP, and I’m INFJ. This is relatable for us especially planning. He likes for me to do the planning, but he knows I will think about what he likes and wants.
How nice for you.
After watching the video, I’m definitely more of an INFJ, I just overthink and get nervous when people accuse me of being mistyped 😅
I've never had anything more true to who I am than being labeled an INFJ. Through and through.
I'm definitely an INFJ then. It's funny, I was talking to my husband last night about your videos and how you were probably writing a script for it and what you were probably going to talk about. And you did exactly as I had predicted. Very spooky lol
Now that is spooky! I’ve had some kind of weird things happen this week myself!
I love your channel so much! Dude I was waiting for u to drop this info. Thanks a million.
No problem! I’ll be doing these kind of longer educational videos from time to time so stay tuned.
Jay you are the most talented infJaaay 😇 keep sharing your talents ✨
Yes, I definitely feel more comfortable with clear expectations.
Thank you sooooo much for this. I am an INFJ-T thru and thru!!!!
thinking about something and then OOM, BUMP into the physical world... lol 🤣
Omg you’ve been so helpful with helping me realize the difference between the two. Thank you 🙏🏼!
You are very welcome, these two are really tough to nail down!
Can you imagine what life is like for the INFJ with PTSD 🤯 Every sense and trait tripled, and that’s likely on a good day.
I don't think I ever met an INFJ or an INFP without CPTSD from their childhood. But they tap into their enormous power as they heal themselves.
this video is pure gold, thank yoy thank you thank you!!!❤❤❤❤
I’m an INFJ and my daughter is an INFP. This was accurate.
You know you’re an INFJ when strangers start telling you about their dogs and what type of snacks they feed them.
I always thought I was an INFP, but after this video I believe I am a hybrid! Is that possible?
Idk... I tend to be pretty dedicated to my goals, and do obsess on things...I LOVE a deep dive.
I feel strange though, as I can feel the emotions of others, I can feel how they’re feeling.. But, I’ve also been through so much trauma that I can more than likely relate to their experiences too. Like, it will hit me, “I went through this too!” Although, it’s more the experience rather than the emotional aspect. I feel their emotions, they talk about what happened, and then it brings back memories. I’m definitely an INFJ, but I’m more of an open book, always explaining who I am and what I am because no one tries to understand and they create assumptions and lies, but at the same time, I’m still mysterious. It’s a way of comforting people, sometimes in their distress, you tell them your experience a little. So they don’t feel alone. My emotions are jumbled though, I rarely know what I’m feeling unless it’s powerful and can’t be ignored. What you said about when we feel other’s emotions, it then unlocks ours was mind blowing! Really, thank you for the video.. The biggest difference between INFP and INFJs, is that we INFJs don’t really accept our uniqueness fully, we think something is wrong, but INFPs are complete individualists and rock it. Not that any other MBTI type is unique, but we INFJs are soooooo hard to understand. Even for an INFJ. I’m drawn to help and heal people, and have been my entire life. I’m surrounded by INFPs in my family, and I felt off because of that drive to help and hardly think for myself. But I’m happy that what I am has a name.
thank you so much for your videos 💝 i love learning more and more about my personality !
I live in Dallas, Texas, USA, and grew up in the White Rock Lake Area. We have a lot of white shale rock everywhere along the roadsides, in fields. People might have a difficult time managing the white rock when they install an in-ground swimming pool in their back yard. At about age 45, I asked myself, “what is this white rock that I have grown up with?” And off I went into a deep dive about the Cretaceous Era, ancient oceans, mountain formation, marine life dying, etc……I still enjoy reading about “White Rock” today, but not to the extent that I did during the initial learning phase. My work is as an interpreter: American Sign Language and English. I have a BA and an MA in Psychology. Geology is no where near my professional interests. But as an INFJ - that’s how I am -- “oh, let’s learn about this now”. And off I go on a deep dive into research and learning.
Yep, and I think if you imagine that you studied white rock for maybe three hours, and then we’re onto something else that would be like an INFP. I don’t want to put time limits on them, but they typically move on from things pretty quickly. Basically a “not so deep dive.” Thanks for the comment!
@@INFJcircle I deep dive into topics for extended periods of time: weeks, months, more.
WOW! I love what you do for a living and what you have spent your life studying!!
Except for the rocks! 😂😅
It is really interesting. There was a "season" in my life where people would call me -- people I didn't even know, to give them counsel. They would tell me their life's story and cry, etc. and I don't even know how they got my telephone number.
i love comparing INFP and INFJ with overlapping stereotypes.. as example, INFP 2w1 vs INFJ 4w5. this is a very interesting subject and helps me understand much better what makes INFP an INFP and so on. in most case, healthy and functional INFP would looks outwardly agreeable to the point they looks like Fe aux such as IxFJ
to rly tell them apart we need to fully understand its motivations behind their thoughts since healthy INFPs also able to be accomplished, logical, and cautious. you are able to 'felt' their motivations and core personality is inspiration-based; related to their personal ideals. as example, if they idolizes nice-saint-like figure and inspired by its values they strive to be something like that (unconsciously or not) for themselves. Fi-Ne, right? to rly consider something as 'inspiration' you would unconsiously see their values matched with yours
for INFJs, i just felt these kind of person is intimidating, intentionally-or-not, poking someone with certain 'true-yet-uncomfortable' truth. actually INFP also able to poke someone, but the impact is higher when INFJs doing this. it's like.. certain strong impersonal truth lies there. INFJs motivation mostly collective-based; directly pointing out 'I want this community to be like this' for everyone's sake and its execution mostly not rly understood by everyone (their idea execution often seems a bit unusual; people just did not get it, but gets the job done as it should)
both INFP and INFJ able to adopt both motivations, but as long as i see, what comes first would be different (since INFJ lead by Ni). sometimes it did not figured out easily but someday you will understand
tbh after i learned this, i did not understand cognitive function community still categorizes them stereotypically-based. i still understand if it's 16p would be stereotypical but not the cognitive function.. since it's 'cognitive'. i remember heard INFP said 'i am INTP in everyday life since i am logical' when in fact seems Si-Te enough although not dominant. INTP logic isn't outwardly-based, you mostly see them blabbering about things based on their mind
anyway im an INTP hehe
I am an INFP
I have been accused of being an INTJ more than once but never an INFP. However I test as INFJ. I do hyper focus on my interest like nobody else I know and my intuition can make some people kind of uncomfortable along with me getting some strange looks at times. Not always easy being an INFJ.
It’s definitely not easy being an INFJ. And yes, we can definitely make people uncomfortable at times. The tests are pretty accurate in my opinion. even online tests, as long as the person is being honest.
@@INFJcircle thank you for putting in the work here.
This was really helpful. :D I was pretty sure I'm INFJ before the video, but I'm interested in the differences to learn something. If I haven't my great intuition, I would be totally lost in the big world. For sure :D I always have bruises on my elbows because I keep getting caught on the door frame or door handle when I take turns too tight because my head is somewhere in creative worlds. And I really can speak a lot better if I had wrote down the things before. Nethertheless I hate phone calls with and without writing things down. 🤣
Greetings from Germany 🤭😊
Hahaha 😂 yup 👍 you’re right on! I NFJ. I would like to turn off the I and the F like a valve sometimes maybe open the valve a little trickle. Protects me! Oh my you’re spot on.
Excellent comparison, very helpful!
Glad it was helpful!
Well, now I'm questioning who I "thought" I was.
I think I failed my previous personality test lol
How to tell you're INFJ: The Himalayan salt lamp 😂 I have so many it's terrifying.
I relate a lot to this channel, as an INTJ empath.
I share a lot of traits with INFJs, but where I diverge is with Fi, as mine is strong, and I also have no codependent or people-pleasing tendencies. I always want to help people & make them feel comfortable, and aid them to unlocking their potential, but never once have I needed anyone to like me, which I appreciate about being an INTJ.
That must be so relieving! I think that’s a major difference too, Fi is much more sure of its own feelings. i’ve noticed this about INTJ‘s, they just really don’t care where as I care very much.
@@INFJcircle If I could toggle between being an INTJ & INFJ, I feel like I’d be “perfect,” since I love being an Ni-dom, but the next best thing I can do is learn thru observation & experiences.
I know that I lack the innate tenderness & sensitivity needed in situations where someone is grieving, for example, so I try to learn from those with strong Fe (healthy examples of it), which would allow me to show up better for people in those circumstances.
Thank you. You just helped me understand my son. I am an INFJ and he is a INFP. 😂
Is there a hybrid of both? I do some for infp and i do some for infj. Ive gotten both multiple times on different platforms. 😅 I cant let it go. I wanna know mine.
I see it like this: an INFJ is the one who might where more minimal, modern, elegant clothes with strong cuts, and the INFP might be more drawn to mixing and matching, wearing what they find on the street, flowing clothes. The INFJ will likely have a very curated and minimal home where the know exactly what they want to place in it and where, and the INFP will be more likely to go with the flow and collect what they find, and keep things of sentimental value. An INFJ as a musician will want structure and to tend to every last detail, and the INFP might be more open to jamming and seeing where the flow takes them. An INFP is pensive , brooding, analytical, and calculative, and INFP dreamy, flowing, possibly a bit more chaotic.
Im an INFJ and have come up that way for years, but I used to come up as an INFP in my younger years. Interestingly, I did wear more flowing clothes back then, I would travel the world a bit aimlessly, dreaming and writing poetry and not being so concerned with end goals or career creatively. Nowadays I’m all about things being curated, together, minimal, and envisioning and seeing through my end results and objectives very thoroughly before I undertake things.
I think I'm Infp and I decorated my home with items that I collected along the way and had sentimental value and I Def dress like you wrote. Flowing is my feeling on things. Great observation
@@rosellaboduroglu Hehe, indeed! Actually I’m an INFJ and my home is a conglomerate of things I collected and found along the way too, but I think in a different way than an INFP- I was for instance extremely specific about what I wanted- I wanted an acrylic chair but couldn’t afford one- then I found one outside my building shortly after 😆 My friends had left some of their woodwork shelves behind but I was very specific to not wanting many browns or dark colors in my flat, so I painted them white. That kind of thing. And everything either fits into the aesthetic goal perfectly, or serves a function, and minimalism is always the goal. I know another INFJ and we laugh about how people always ask us why we don’t have more furniture 🤣 And on the note of Infp- I’m sure not every infp wears flowing clothes (though many do) buuut, the feeling of flowing is definitely there ;)
I a INFJ but I am fast at making decisions. It is always clear what I want and what I don't want. I am married with an INFP and it is a dream relation. I am very focused yes my will is strong.
Ok so I've watched several and took a quiz (not official). Since last post still confused altho you've done best job explaining. Definite strong characteristics of both. Can one evolve?