I swear it be the broke ones that live with their mama live in a project living a halfway house just got out of jail one outfit to their name ran over sneakers don't even have a green card or debit card... just all around losers...
I'm a very ugly female and I believe that I'll stay single forever. Nowadays I feel like relationships are all about looks and I sadly don't have them. My nose looks strange, my forehead is too big, my mouth is kinda small and I hate my eyebrows. I hate my body and I hate my skin (I have pimples on my face and on my back. I am glad that I at least managed to not have acne anymore.) My personality is also shit. I have trust and abandonment issues. I'm very insecure about myself. People are always better than me which makes me kind of sad because it reminds me of how talentless I am. I am stupid. I'm always tired and can get easily irritated if I feel like somebody's provocating me which leads to a lot of people thinking I'm just plain rude. I am socially awkward which also leads to a lot of people misunderstanding me because I'm too retarded to even make a sentence. I'm very straight-forward and I always try saying what I think but sometimes it comes across as rude. According to a boy in my class I'm seen as arrogant. I don't know why but nevermind.... There is nothing positive about me but people like my mother still somehow love me and I'm glad for that. As long as she is standing beside my I'm glad that I'm alive (and no I'm not depressed, I don't want people make false assumptions)
Reading the comments people don’t get it. He’s basically saying that you are unattractive to THAT person not in general . He says look to find someone who had mutual attraction. This is reality . Some girls and guys NEED to listen and put this into practice and stop getting used for sexual relief! Love yourself, know your worth , know the signs when someone is NOT attracted ! Thanks for this video ! Hopefully it will help someone
So true even when they say that you are not what they envision you to be .yes love yourself because it goes the same for them. So just like them looking for some one whom they think are attractive always have two or three on your wait-list I never settle for one I always have a wait-list
Also if your out on a date with a man and you both happen to see some friends or acquaintances of his and he doesn’t introduce you but just talks to them while you just stand there...he’s not the one. Walk away.
Please, men can street you to a 5 star restaurant , take you to all their family and friends and still get dogged out. Men have many reasons why they treat women a certain way. It could be bc they are using that woman for a place to live or using her financially.
These tips means he's definitely not interested in you. Although, he still cannot be interested in you and do all this. As the guy said, even if he's not in a serious relationship or want to pursue a serious relationship, if he thinks the woman is HOT or their social circle thinks she's HOT, he will show her around as a trophy. Doesn't mean he will treat the trophy nicely, still can put it on a shelf and let you get dust.
At the end of the day if they're not attracted to you move on and find someone that's going to be attracted to you I don't know what is the big deal the signs are right there
The problem is that women chase men. They think if they do enough things for him he will "eventually" fall in love with her . Meanwhile he sees her as his insurance for a dull night. Shes probably the 9 th down on the list of chics he ranks .
Not all the time,a man may stay around because the woman offers many material things so its to his benefit and keep a broke hottie on the low anyway.Just a front that he really likes you because he is a player have to play the field right and do things to make it appear that he is in love.
@@tinisharealtalktime6626 yes my cousins do it all the time.They have good looks,nice body but no Morales,values and self respect.I need a man who is also spirtually connected to God to encourage more honest behavior. I mean nobody will ever be perfect but dont hurt people's heart!!!!
I completely agree, but most of the time something wrong with them as well. Just like some men accepted unattractive women, we accept unattractive men, jobless, deformed in someway. It's really amazing how perfect we have to be as women, but we have to accept the lowest of the low...
Omg! I was dating a guy who did all these things. Especially the never forgives. When my sister told him off that he is using me he immediately broke it off and told me to not call him again. I wouldn't say he thought I was ugly but I was from a poor family and much smarter than him so he wouldn't introduce me to his rich parents. By the way, I earn much more money than him now with my degree and have an amazing husband. That guy was an idiot anyway.
True. I'm an ugly duckling who once got dumped for being 12 minutes late to a random barbecue lmao. Fast forward ten years (minus 10 lbs, acne cleared up, braces off, all that) and my long-term boyfriend just drove three hours to come see me at my mom's place after a big fight, asking me to forgive him for being "too hard on me" by telling me not to yell at him again 🙄😂 Men 🤷🏻♀️
I had a boyfriend that treated me badly- and sometimes I just put off personal hygiene and wouldn't brush my hair just because I just wanted to see him or would get distracted from some other thing.. one day I went to get my haircut, dyed it red and it was washed and come by - the look in his eyes were different, I was treated way differently then I did before . I didn't understand I was the same person . Fast forward to my current husband it doesn't Matter if I don't brush my hair , that I gained weight and where baggy clothes he still looked at me the same way he did in high school and never changed the way he treated me . I want to look beautiful but I don't feel that way and he will show me off regardless and if anyone says other wise he gets real defensive. Say what you want about him but talk about me and hes ready to fight.
if its you in this pp, then youre not ugly ma'am, i think you misunderstood things. Sadly this happens a lot in relationships, sometimes you need to ask why, most guys cant figure it out.
@@dakotamabry1645 real people see deeper than surface level superficial looks. You are blessed to be with someone who see you for you and loves you just the way you are. Stay blessed! X
I was at the store today....a guy who kept looking at me and his friend walked by and his friend said " she is ugly ". I really wanted to smile at him just because he hadn't took a good look at himself. Plus, I didn't find him attractive. The moral of the story is who cares. As long as I take good care of myself spirituality, mentally and physically that is all I need. Also, I know that God made me fearfully and wonderfully. To all those who are down, know that you are beautiful 😍.
I was with someone that I later realized was not attracted to me. You hit the signs. He would never forgive me for some of the smallest things. I didn't take it personally. I actually started losing attraction toward him too so it was easy to move on.
I'm working on me for the past 5 months from the breakup,I'm more motivated more now then I have in years!!! I've lost 15 lbs, going back to church and having a relationship with God.getting my financial situation back on track, taking a camping trip with the girls this summer!!!I'm learning to forgive myself and him.
This may be a weird way of looking at this, but whenever I used to feel down on myself and have low self esteem I think of all the (usually women that I personally find) conventionally unattractive that are in happy, healthy, and satisfying relationships with people who love them. I may not find them to be attractive but there is someone out there currently with them who is proud to be with them and find them to be beautiful. No matter how people have treated you in the past you have the ability to find someone who finds your beautiful! Just look around you! It’s not just conventionally attractive people who find their perfect matches!
Some of the ladies missed the point and got triggered by the title. This wasn’t a debate about whether or not pretty women get treated poorly, or whether there are some dudes who just don’t want to commit to anyone. He specifically addressed signs that a man is not attracted to you. If a man finds you attractive, but doesn’t want to commit, just wants sex etc. he still won’t be ashamed to be seen with you in public. He will not be ashamed to introduce you to friends and family. He may be willing to spend more on you even though he has no intentions of marrying you. There is absolutely a difference between the way a guy treats a woman he’s attracted to vs. one he’s not attracted to.
Girl This. Women are Hilarious. Often I Just Observe. I Often See and Understand Men's Pov's frm it. The title is what it is, he said what he said and women still on here disputing it.
Not always true. A man might find you attractive and still not put any effort in or introduce you to people if he is sleeping with multiple others. For a narcissist, it's about supply.
I feel this from guys being dark skinned they find me attractive, but Im not their type that dream girl society brainwashed men to find attractive. I am confident that if I was light skinned and not change one feature on my face that some men would treat me different. I love being dark skin, and there are men who love it too and they treat me like a dream girl. So you just got to go where your appreciated.
Baby you are beautiful and attractive color of skin dont mean shat to real men with intelligence and good intentions. Keep being you and be around positive people you will be found by the right one
When you get older and look back at your life you will realize how God protected you from so many dangerous men who preferred lighter skin and you will bless HIS name once again.
@@Mujermaravilla3 is that not you in the photo? How can you say you're ugly? Please don't believe all the nonsense they ever told you. No one is ugly. It's just different strokes for different people...... Some men meet a perfectly gorgeous woman with a nice self esteem and still carry out these actions towards them. Why? Because they are intimidated and feel the need to break her ego. The idea 8s to make you think less of yourself and place them high on a pedestal so they can control you. Don't ever fall for that. Anyone who is in a related and can't treat you right does not deserve a minute more of your time. Just exit rather than accept all the shit he throws or tells you.
also its so weird after having so many people disrespecting you .... you become all defensive . then when someone does find you attractive you become dismissive because you are used to the abuse . you end up sabotaging a good thing . its terrible . and yet this good guy lives a continent away. hes a good guy . would not want to mess this one up.
Many times women will lie in their photos too like they have pics posted when they're fresh outta high school or photos from a decade ago or they'll photoshop their pics. I have a guy friend who says guys can't stand women who try to hide themselves what they look like right now when they take pics.
This was right on point!! And is exactly the reason why I only talk to guys who are crazy about me, guys who go out of their way to talk to me first! If I have to talk to them… If I have to chase them down, then I know I’m not really his cuppa tea. Ladies, you know when you’ve been on the other side of that, when a decent guy was offering you a date but for whatever reason he didn’t do it for you… So you didn’t really care, and you did not give him second chances. It’s all about finding the right combination where are YOU are feeling the guy and the GUY is feeling YOU, equally. At this point in my life I only want to hear the hard truth I don’t have time for sugarcoated BS. Great video!
So do u think they really care to have a competition on who's cooler ? We are grown lol that's so weird tho but one time I got called soft ? But I'm just feminine I think he use to manly chicks
Ive been called beautiful and ugly! Ive experience pretty privilege and the ugly experience . Ive had my ex found me attractive and as soon as I gained they start complaining and start comparing. So you will know when you are in a good place . Stop being in denial and being comfortable. Walk out if you are not happy. If you are not confident or happy within yourself you will always attract the worse people 👑
The issue is that guy's who are not interested in a relationship will pretend and act like hes interested in a relationship. If a guy doesn't find you attractive then he should just leave you alone
I like how you delivered this message! 100% FACTS!!! In the beginning of our relationship, my husband used to let me get away with murder because he liked me so much. When someone truly likes you, they FORGIVE you and they want to show you off! Too many people are afraid to face the obvious truth. Great video!
They want trophies. But many women who were considered attractive and trophies experienced being mistreated and ignored. Like the guy would be the most romantic dude in front of others and just ignore them behind doors, they were just interested in the "new shiny car". What also happens with these guys is that few years later when a woman gets some wrinkles or her body shape changed because she had a baby she's no longer "trophy material" and there he goes finding a younger and more attractive shiny new car. This behavior usually comes from guys with some financial and social status, so they can actually lure the new trophies, others can't do the same and end up renting the woman they are with.
My friend is married, everytime he would separate from his wife, he would lie about being single, sleep with a lot of women and ghost them all when the wife was ready to return.
These type of men are egotistical & have a self esteem problem. They’ll go find a woman who thinks they’re above your average & then get played. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. No what they say about you , love yourself first. If you know your worth then you will make someone very happy one day. Stay blessed!🙏🏾🙌🏾💯✌🏾
Don't feel bad about this. Be glad you know and move on. Some men get a thrill out of knowing you are into them while not also being into you. Of course, that means they've got nothing going on themselves.
The idea is to know when to get lost and occupate space in peoples life. If she or he doesnt like than you better understand and leave. Dont stay like a piece of shit in peoples life just because you have mental problems. Leave understand that you are ugly, you stink, you have no style and your are idiot. You can tell him that so he rather weik up. There are psykopats who like to hang in exes lifes just bcz they hope for more. No that is not correct. We need to breath let space free for the next coming. You are not the one bye.
Man this made a lot of sense. I’ve been dealing with someone that checked all the boxes especially the not forgiving part. I remember thinking if I was younger, hotter, skinnier or prettier he wouldn’t be talking to me like that! I’m done with him but he’s jus started calling me again because he broke up with the women he left me for, (Younger and hotter) and now he wants me back!🙄 But as a friend with all of the girlfriend benefits!! I’m X-ing him outta my life,… blocking all his numbers and continuing on the positive path I began after he dumped me!!
He used to always call me beautiful in the beginning but it’s been almost 6 months since he complimented my appearance. And then he never liked my Instagram pictures but likes everything his ex posts. Anyways, I’m breaking up with him this week.
Dated a man yearns ago that only responded well to me when other men gave me attention. He would suddenly be attentive and affectionate. His energy changed when I decided to walk away permanently.This lasted way longer than it should have.
Everything you said in this video is true, that's what really happens. They keep you around long enough for them to find someone else and drop you like a hot potatoe. You'll never be good enough for any friends or family. Because he's ashame of you. Best to let it go.
I greatly appreciate you breaking it down. I have failed to realize all 5 of these which over the past 40 years has left me broken down and beaten and severely low self esteem. We women need to say these 5 reasons every morning and evening like prayers. If you do not fit his bill then you must recognize that he does not fit yours. Start looking at this man's character. That is what is most important. And wish I knew and understood these 5 reasons back in my early 20's. My life would have been so much happier.
I experienced not meeting his best friends and we were engaged. He wouldn't like going out with me alone, and if he did, he would invite his mother and sister with us. He wouldn't give me public affection and he acted like he didn't know me.
If they find you unattractive but still wants to date you, sound like to me, they just want to get in your panties and once they get it, they moving on or they are insecure themselves and want to tear you down...
I think this way sometimes, too, but you'r e not ugly. You're fearfully and wonderfully made! We have to stop letting men, the lack of not having a man, or people in general validate who we are. The video is good, but should be retitled. We are not ugly, but unique in our own way. This can breed low self esteem and comparison. 9 times out of 10, the dudes treating you this way weren't worth your time anyway and God was protecting you. I know it hurts, but don't accept a lie about yourself as your truth. Someone treated me like this and even told me I wasn't a woman, so I understand! Lift up your head Queen, look in the mirror, smile, and tell yourself how beautiful you are because you are beautiful just the way you are!
I’m guilty of all of these and that’s why I stopped dealing with women who I don’t feel measure up to my standards just because they may be a “soft target.” That is the number one reason attractive men deal with less attractive women...for easy sex,full compliance and or financial gain.
so, how do you deal w/the crushing loneliness, that most of your gender cant seem to handle, and thus, why they have to snatch up any prey that comes in their vicinity. its been a year, so Id really like to know if you held up to your newfound vow of decency.
Your not ugly. Your just probably attracting the wrong guys. Your not his type. Unfortunately this happens to me a lot too. These guys usually just want to use you but you don't have their heart or they are simply not into you.
This makes so much sense. Last guy I dated never took me out and then find out he was taking someone else out. He only wanted to see me at night. He eventually told me he kept the ugly one in the dark and took the pretty one at night. I’m ugly and really struggling to make it day by day. Thanks for clarification
All women are not beautiful, there are ugly women, that's just something women have to accept for the ones who lack beauty, just like all men are not rich,tall with a big penin, that's somthing men have to accept who lack money, height and large manly parts. So what you have to do is find things about yourself that you find attractive and appreciate outside of your looks. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you're not beautiful only a strong minded person can do that..so that's something about you that is a plus, you are stronger than alot of women...men like talking to women who are more realistic than delousional...being realistic and aware of you not being beautiful, gives you more power to ghost a guy before getting invested by watching his behavior towards you.
And this is why you don’t even bother dating someone who you aren’t physically attracted to begin with. It’s messed up. Better to hurt someone’s feelings initially rather than stringing someone along, for what?
This is such valuable information that women need to hear. So so sick of women making excuses for someone who treats them like a stale side dish they settled for instead of a delicious main meal. Women need to be honest with themselves and their friends.
This doesn’t always mean he thinks you’re ugly, he might still think you’re attractive but you’re just not the girl for him because he doesn’t like your personality or you’re too different
Nobody forced them to be in a relationship with that person, if I'm not romantically interested with the person I simply don't get in a relationship with them. These people are just using you, they are interested in what you can provide them.
So interesting .... I feel this ... I thought he was attracted but he never committed never met his friends never met his family ...after 3 years of it all on his terms it ended because he told me he was also seeing other women broke my heart 💔
This is soooo true... Keep the title, very correct. I am attractive but I have darker skin and that is not everyone's cup of tea, regardless of how biased it is. That does not mean I am actually ugly, it just means for a certain sector of folks I am ugly. I rather have the truth than a lie. I have dealt with this in the my past.
Thanks for explaining this. I have been dealing with this and I was trying to figure out what I was doing wrong like you said. It was stressful and making my stomach hurt. I couldn't figure it out. I thought I could win him over by loving him and being a good woman. Thank you 🤗
A guy I was with would always always talk about this girl which I was assuming was his Dream Girl he said it was a girl with dark black hair I have dark hair but its not jet black, a girl with blue eyes , mine are brown, a girl with sleeve tattoos, I have 3 tattoos but they are not on my arms, n very thin im curvy and lastly he make remarks about my booty and that I needed to do squats and im like nope no thanks next cuz guess what? The next man I was with accepted every single thing about me.
I've been in and out with an ex who wasted my precious time. Recently, He tried to get back with me I'm so glad I rejected him, when he had the nerve to email me with a new email address I had his numbers blocked and email blocked. If I get to know any man with the mentioned signs in this video, I'll be sure to back out, being alone is far better then being with a man who holds you at lower esteem, just wants to use you when it's convenient for him and later kick you to the curb. God willingly ,I'll be sure to never revisit such experience again.
I have a crush on this one guy, I feel like I'm doing too much for him. Ever since I met him, I've tried to change my looks, personality, voice, and other things. He's not even into me. Why am I like this?
Ah, Chaz is basically narrating the story of my life: having a crush on someone who doesn’t find me attractive personality and face wise while he’s in love with someone else and then attract men whom I find unattractive. My response to this whole situation, “Goddammit, just let me fucking die already!”
the forgiveness part was the most messed up to me. I'm so confused about how forgiving someone has anything to do with looks. Oh yes, I forgot men value looks. So, if you don't look a certain way you have no value. Noted.
its pathetic. they really dont seem to have any self awareness, to realize what aholes they are. like, if someone's not "good enough" for you, then dont date them!?!?!?!? not rocket science. if you cant get someone "better", then, thats your fault, but dont take it out on the ppl who are nice enough to go out w/you, just cuz you cant get someone "better", and you cant handle being alone, either.
I dont know about this one. I've heard many men say that what they want out of life is pretty simple. I've dealt with some shit with men and I dont feel my looks have anything to do with it. I've been told all my life that I am attractive and still went through some of what was mentioned. I've been made to feel that I'm ugly, but I know I'm not ugly.
This is probably the most honest video regarding this subject I've ever listened to. I think it works this way on both ends, to some degree. In my experience, though, I've actually given the guys I don't find attractive a chance, even ending up in a relationship. I've even been too forgiving trying to hold on to something that never should have happened in the first place. But for what? Their behavior never changed. It often got worse, and over time, it became apparent that me not being physically attracted to them was my subconscious trying to tell me we weren't compatible in other more important ways either. That's why I'm single now, and plan on staying that way unless a guy comes along that fits my ideal. Like the men he's talking about, I'm done settling.
Yep I learned this three years to late, the dude I've always been in love with would always want to watch movies or go out for breakfast never dinner or out to places where I know he really enjoyed. One day I found out he took another girl to a football game and was supposed to meet up with me that night, I thought okay why would he take this girl to a football game but hang out with me at night. I knew what was up but was to da*n in love. Come to find out he was only into me because he knew how I felt about him and he had never been with a black woman. He has always dated white women and I was just a race he never got to be with so that's why he hooked up with me, and to this day that shiit HURTS.
That's the most disgusting thing I ever heard. Stop falling in love and sleeping with assholes. If he's not taking you out on real dates then he's not serious about you.
Yeah, similar thing happened to my bestie. She's a very attractive black woman and has a great body but the guy she was seeing wouldn't introduce her to his friends and family, wouldn't take her to very public places and usually only had evening dates. Later we found out he was seeing two other white girls, one of which we saw him with at a friend's party. 😑
It also happened to me being a white a girl and the guy being asian, I wasn't his race so I wasnt good enough, also my white traits were not unicorn like (no blue eyes and blond hair) so he could show me around as an imported sports car. The thing is he was the one wanting a relationship and saying he was serious and his parents would be ok about it. Cause i stated i wasn't up for temporary and/or casual relationships and if i wasn't his type we could stay as friends and he could keep freely looking for his Mrs. Right and let me find mine or just be alone. He still did it, he still had me as his dirty little secret. He would get me gifts and we would go on dinners and trips but he didn't take photos of us or kept them, and being in different cities, he would often come to my city. Excuse was brilliant, i worked weekends so that was the days he and his friends would plan something, but i couldn't joing because I was working. The worse thing is that you notice these things and they will tell you that "you are imagining things", "you are misunderstanding", "it's nothing like that", but when pressured against the wall his solution was dumping me. And then being at my door next week inviting me for dinner, so he expected everything would remain the same but just as "friends", so he wouldn't have to introduce me to anyone or do anything. This guy knew I had been out of a relationship that caused me severe depression (i was used as rebound) and knew i was struggling with health issues, at one point doctors suspected cancer, and even ruled out i still had physical symptoms. I told him "if you are not up for a long term commited relationship, please don't play with me. I can get severely ill, mentally and physically (later on i was diagnosed with a neurological autoimmune which stress and emotional trauma can aggravate the condition badly). All because he wanted to play having a girlfriend until someone better come along. Why go around looking for entertainment when one woman can provide everything you need for the here andt the now? Sex, affection, admiration, commitment, cheerleading, love. He actually doesn't have to think you are ugly, simply not good enough for him or to be shown around him.
My father was a handsome, curly head man with a big personality. And he would entertain a lot of woman. I saw the difference in the treatment. Some he would say they was lights off material. And all these things makes sense. He would only see them at night and use time with his kids as a reason not to meet up and do something earlier in the day.He married a beautiful woman he met after 2 months while he was away from his on-off lady .When she got her citizenship and left him he went back to his regular on-off lady
So the beautiful woman was with him just because of the benefit of the citizenship. I think he was way out of his league, then they will call these women "gold diggers". Doesn't feel so nice being used.
Hmmm… This makes sense. This guy has taken me out a couple times, dinner, concerts etc. but he’ll go weeks without talking to me. He also always seems to be checking other women out. I had a chance to meet his mom but he said he had made “other plans.” We have some mutual friends but I have never met anyone in his family. Maybe, it’s time to bail.
The title alone has me over here dying laughing. Tears are running down my face😂😂😂 Then your face on the thumb nail looks like you want to say, "nah, you ain't it sis". I just can't!!
omg, this really hit home!!! I feel like this about my bf :( He is super physically attractive, but I am not attracted to his demeanor or mentality. He has put me off so much. He loves me more than I love him. He is trying to be better, but it's not enough because there is no real substance there. This video really allowed me to see that I am stringing him along :( I didn't know what to call it. Thank you for putting out this content.
Some men are just insecure and it has nothing to do with you. It’s not sometimes that you’re ugly it’s just that they think they can do better. Women just switch up on these men. Start distancing yourself from him more and find other men to have fun with.
My momma always said honey there is someone out there for everyone & find someone that into u more than u are into them cuz they will treat u better😉😉. But when I twisted this video 2 think of how I have treated "ugly" or someone that I found unattractive in the past especially when u mentioned that unforgiveness piece, I realized that u were on point with this video so I'm gonna replay this & listen better. So I won't waste my ⏰ or anyone else's ⏰ from here on out🤗.
I love hearing the minds of guys. I already knew this specifically but the extra details are nice . Sometimes when we fall inlove we are totally blinded
He said I’m “not his typical type” but that he wants to make me happy that I deserve the world and I’m special to him.. we go out he’s not secretive about me .. but That killed me. I’m an attractive woman
This is so harsh to watch 😕😕 my husband keeps telling me how he’s not attracted to me anymore and a lot of your words are just like knifes straight to my soul but thank you for the video tho…
It's really hurtful when you realise that someone you hold in high esteem is looking down their nose at you :(
I feel your hurt, he does not deserve you
And they tell you that you have a big nose and tell you that you're ugly and look like a man! So cruel
Been through that it hurts
Yes regardless of what type of relationship it is!
Some men can only see your worth when you NO LONGER want them! Pick you and you’ll never pick any man over you
the irony is that some of these types are no oil paintings themselves!
I swear it be the broke ones that live with their mama live in a project living a halfway house just got out of jail one outfit to their name ran over sneakers don't even have a green card or debit card... just all around losers...
Seriously!
I live this comment because it’s so true.
I am an oil painter, even modern art is abstract not unrealistic
Sal, yah, like MOST of them!
This is why I'm glad to be single. I just feel that our society literally judges ones' looks for their approval.
man looks on the body; God looks upon the heart.....
@@poetessbritt Amen
@@poetessbritt AMEN sister
@Willy Thomas 🤣🤣That's so true.. Women and men should be nice to one another.
Same
I have pretty much confirmed that dating & relationships are impossible at this point 😂😂😂
U n me both🙍
🙁 "Don't give up on your faith, love comes to those who believe it, and that's the way it is" -Celine Dion
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 same here
I'm a very ugly female and I believe that I'll stay single forever. Nowadays I feel like relationships are all about looks and I sadly don't have them. My nose looks strange, my forehead is too big, my mouth is kinda small and I hate my eyebrows. I hate my body and I hate my skin (I have pimples on my face and on my back. I am glad that I at least managed to not have acne anymore.)
My personality is also shit. I have trust and abandonment issues. I'm very insecure about myself. People are always better than me which makes me kind of sad because it reminds me of how talentless I am. I am stupid. I'm always tired and can get easily irritated if I feel like somebody's provocating me which leads to a lot of people thinking I'm just plain rude. I am socially awkward which also leads to a lot of people misunderstanding me because I'm too retarded to even make a sentence. I'm very straight-forward and I always try saying what I think but sometimes it comes across as rude.
According to a boy in my class I'm seen as arrogant. I don't know why but nevermind....
There is nothing positive about me but people like my mother still somehow love me and I'm glad for that. As long as she is standing beside my I'm glad that I'm alive (and no I'm not depressed, I don't want people make false assumptions)
@@xxxxcxxxc6917 i feel you
im all this AND depressed 😂
Reading the comments people don’t get it. He’s basically saying that you are unattractive to THAT person not in general . He says look to find someone who had mutual attraction. This is reality . Some girls and guys NEED to listen and put this into practice and stop getting used for sexual relief! Love yourself, know your worth , know the signs when someone is NOT attracted ! Thanks for this video ! Hopefully it will help someone
So true even when they say that you are not what they envision you to be .yes love yourself because it goes the same for them. So just like them looking for some one whom they think are attractive always have two or three on your wait-list I never settle for one I always have a wait-list
Thank you people just be dumb af
Exactly! Everyone is ugly to somebody. Everyone is beautiful to someone. Seek MUTUAL ATTRACTION.
Nicely put Princess Jasmine😉
@@maxscot4236 Nah, we're not gonna result to spiritual manipulation, spells and white magic to get or keep our man/woman. Thanks all the same lol!
This is such an odd topic, so strange I had to click and watch 😂
Same!!
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Same lol
That’s why I clicked to watch lmao
right HAHAHHA
lol
Also if your out on a date with a man and you both happen to see some friends or acquaintances of his and he doesn’t introduce you but just talks to them while you just stand there...he’s not the one. Walk away.
or calls you his "friend"...
LOL, that could also mean he's cheating.
@@angelataylor7799 This hapened to me..Thank God i got over him. He introduced me by my name to his frnd.
A lot of the times ppl judging and treating ppl bad off looks, are the main ones that are not attractive they damn self.
True
Lol
Thank you
I see that all the time... Like do you even have a fucking mirror
Facts!!!!👏👏😅😅😅
Please, men can street you to a 5 star restaurant , take you to all their family and friends and still get dogged out. Men have many reasons why they treat women a certain way. It could be bc they are using that woman for a place to live or using her financially.
Yep. This video is clickbait
YESS
This the one!
These tips means he's definitely not interested in you. Although, he still cannot be interested in you and do all this.
As the guy said, even if he's not in a serious relationship or want to pursue a serious relationship, if he thinks the woman is HOT or their social circle thinks she's HOT, he will show her around as a trophy. Doesn't mean he will treat the trophy nicely, still can put it on a shelf and let you get dust.
I’m fine with being ugly as long as it keeps those jerks away 🤣
At the end of the day if they're not attracted to you move on and find someone that's going to be attracted to you I don't know what is the big deal the signs are right there
The problem is that women chase men. They think if they do enough things for him he will "eventually" fall in love with her . Meanwhile he sees her as his insurance for a dull night. Shes probably the 9 th down on the list of chics he ranks .
Not all the time,a man may stay around because the woman offers many material things so its to his benefit and keep a broke hottie on the low anyway.Just a front that he really likes you because he is a player have to play the field right and do things to make it appear that he is in love.
@@vanillaconover3484 you're right about that so fake fake love
@@tinisharealtalktime6626 yes my cousins do it all the time.They have good looks,nice body but no Morales,values and self respect.I need a man who is also spirtually connected to God to encourage more honest behavior. I mean nobody will ever be perfect but dont hurt people's heart!!!!
Truth
Everyone isn’t for everyone.
and often times it's hard for people to accept this simple truth.
It's just that simple...
Facts. No matter how good you look you'll never be everyone's cup of tea. And that's just fine.
I completely agree, but most of the time something wrong with them as well. Just like some men accepted unattractive women, we accept unattractive men, jobless, deformed in someway. It's really amazing how perfect we have to be as women, but we have to accept the lowest of the low...
@@dreamyx01 aint that as real as it getd
Omg! I was dating a guy who did all these things. Especially the never forgives. When my sister told him off that he is using me he immediately broke it off and told me to not call him again. I wouldn't say he thought I was ugly but I was from a poor family and much smarter than him so he wouldn't introduce me to his rich parents. By the way, I earn much more money than him now with my degree and have an amazing husband. That guy was an idiot anyway.
he he am jealous over here
He sure was an idiot, glad u found the right guy tho❣
Dang. . . his loss. Good for you!
Never forgiving you is on the spot. They think they doing you a favor
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True. I'm an ugly duckling who once got dumped for being 12 minutes late to a random barbecue lmao. Fast forward ten years (minus 10 lbs, acne cleared up, braces off, all that) and my long-term boyfriend just drove three hours to come see me at my mom's place after a big fight, asking me to forgive him for being "too hard on me" by telling me not to yell at him again 🙄😂
Men 🤷🏻♀️
I had a boyfriend that treated me badly- and sometimes I just put off personal hygiene and wouldn't brush my hair just because I just wanted to see him or would get distracted from some other thing.. one day I went to get my haircut, dyed it red and it was washed and come by - the look in his eyes were different, I was treated way differently then I did before . I didn't understand I was the same person . Fast forward to my current husband it doesn't Matter if I don't brush my hair , that I gained weight and where baggy clothes he still looked at me the same way he did in high school and never changed the way he treated me . I want to look beautiful but I don't feel that way and he will show me off regardless and if anyone says other wise he gets real defensive. Say what you want about him but talk about me and hes ready to fight.
if its you in this pp, then youre not ugly ma'am, i think you misunderstood things. Sadly this happens a lot in relationships, sometimes you need to ask why, most guys cant figure it out.
Girl my boyfriend got on a 28hour flight with lay overs to come see me across the world pahaha
@@dakotamabry1645 real people see deeper than surface level superficial looks. You are blessed to be with someone who see you for you and loves you just the way you are. Stay blessed! X
@@Angel-ou6rc well guess you won that competition then pahaha
I was at the store today....a guy who kept looking at me and his friend walked by and his friend said " she is ugly ". I really wanted to smile at him just because he hadn't took a good look at himself. Plus, I didn't find him attractive. The moral of the story is who cares. As long as I take good care of myself spirituality, mentally and physically that is all I need. Also, I know that God made me fearfully and wonderfully. To all those who are down, know that you are beautiful 😍.
those were red pill incel boys who saw you beautiful and felt like they need to "humble" you!! They always expose themselves!
I was with someone that I later realized was not attracted to me. You hit the signs. He would never forgive me for some of the smallest things. I didn't take it personally. I actually started losing attraction toward him too so it was easy to move on.
That was good for you. Love your comment. You got it sis!💜😊👍
Thats crazy you cute as hell
@@angel-yt9df she cute to you but she maynot be cute to someone else...everybody is entitled to their own opinions
Because that sounds draining...lol
Good for you, sister ❤
I laughed so hard just reading the title
Lol ikr
Same here!🤣
Same, the title had me screaming!
Me too 😂😂😂
B brownin lmao
I got one #6 He won’t kiss you 😘 Anyone else ever had someone try and kiss you that you weren’t physically attracted to?! ✋🏽😣
CANDI C True. Bc I wasn’t attracted to my ex anymore and I was dodging them kisses like dusty men dodging child support. 😩😬
Brit Glitz 😂😂😂 Giiirrrlll! Not dusty men dodging CS lmao
Love this one. Its true. I can only kiss someone I'm physically attracted to.
Meeks J Me too.. If I am not attracted, I’m dodging them kisses like bullets 😬
CANDI C If you do gotta kiss him and he’s a GOOD kisser ... girl be careful ...
I'm working on me for the past 5 months from the breakup,I'm more motivated more now then I have in years!!! I've lost 15 lbs, going back to church and having a relationship with God.getting my financial situation back on track, taking a camping trip with the girls this summer!!!I'm learning to forgive myself and him.
That’s beautiful & good for you & yes forgive yourself & him god is going to bring you your hubby 🙏🏾
It's hurt that when your own boyfriend thinks you are ugly, and starts leaving you out slowly, and secretly dislikes your appearance
Then in the starry night you leave him faster than a flycat.
I’m ugly and I proud! ✊🏾( Spongebob voice)
I’m so ugly everyone died 😜 P ⭐️
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣 Love this!
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Me too...
This may be a weird way of looking at this, but whenever I used to feel down on myself and have low self esteem I think of all the (usually women that I personally find) conventionally unattractive that are in happy, healthy, and satisfying relationships with people who love them. I may not find them to be attractive but there is someone out there currently with them who is proud to be with them and find them to be beautiful. No matter how people have treated you in the past you have the ability to find someone who finds your beautiful! Just look around you! It’s not just conventionally attractive people who find their perfect matches!
some of us are too ugly
I love what you said it's encouraging ❤
That’s true if a guy is really feeling you, I mean REALLY feeling you, he will try his hardest to prove that to you.
Some of the ladies missed the point and got triggered by the title. This wasn’t a debate about whether or not pretty women get treated poorly, or whether there are some dudes who just don’t want to commit to anyone. He specifically addressed signs that a man is not attracted to you. If a man finds you attractive, but doesn’t want to commit, just wants sex etc. he still won’t be ashamed to be seen with you in public. He will not be ashamed to introduce you to friends and family. He may be willing to spend more on you even though he has no intentions of marrying you. There is absolutely a difference between the way a guy treats a woman he’s attracted to vs. one he’s not attracted to.
@Robin D. I don't just observe men. I actually listen to what they themselves say. I'm not one of those women who tell men what they are thinking.
Girl This. Women are Hilarious. Often I Just Observe. I Often See and Understand Men's Pov's frm it. The title is what it is, he said what he said and women still on here disputing it.
@@lorainel6430 no it’s true men do treat women better that they are attracted too this is facts
Not always true. A man might find you attractive and still not put any effort in or introduce you to people if he is sleeping with multiple others. For a narcissist, it's about supply.
I feel this from guys being dark skinned they find me attractive, but Im not their type that dream girl society brainwashed men to find attractive. I am confident that if I was light skinned and not change one feature on my face that some men would treat me different. I love being dark skin, and there are men who love it too and they treat me like a dream girl. So you just got to go where your appreciated.
Baby you are beautiful and attractive color of skin dont mean shat to real men with intelligence and good intentions. Keep being you and be around positive people you will be found by the right one
@@houston3rdwrdlouisiana371 thank you love
When you get older and look back at your life you will realize how God protected you from so many dangerous men who preferred lighter skin and you will bless HIS name once again.
This is true but no one will ever admit it..
The darker she is , the badder she is ✊
As an ugly woman I can relate to what he said. I think a lot of women don't believe they are unattractive.
Welcome to the ugly girl club, I am ugly too and I know it, I also know I deserve respect
@@Mujermaravilla3 no your not
@@Mujermaravilla3 is that not you in the photo? How can you say you're ugly? Please don't believe all the nonsense they ever told you. No one is ugly. It's just different strokes for different people......
Some men meet a perfectly gorgeous woman with a nice self esteem and still carry out these actions towards them. Why? Because they are intimidated and feel the need to break her ego. The idea 8s to make you think less of yourself and place them high on a pedestal so they can control you. Don't ever fall for that.
Anyone who is in a related and can't treat you right does not deserve a minute more of your time. Just exit rather than accept all the shit he throws or tells you.
Oh I'm unsttractive alright...I just don't have the courage to take photos...
@@Mujermaravilla3 you know you are beautiful, stop playing.
also its so weird after having so many people disrespecting you .... you become all defensive . then when someone does find you attractive you become dismissive because you are used to the abuse . you end up sabotaging a good thing . its terrible . and yet this good guy lives a continent away. hes a good guy . would not want to mess this one up.
Hi, I wonder why these men will start/ pursue you in the first place , if they are not
attracted to you... Conny
yup, nonsense. I guess, to boost their self esteem
@@DarkroomMedia007 did she e er get karma for that? Bc that is low.
To "smash"/stroke their ego
Many times women will lie in their photos too like they have pics posted when they're fresh outta high school or photos from a decade ago or they'll photoshop their pics. I have a guy friend who says guys can't stand women who try to hide themselves what they look like right now when they take pics.
Free Pootang. Nuff said
This happened to me. I really liked him and he wasn’t into me.... you have to move on
You’re so pretty wow
Divine M Awww thank you
This was right on point!! And is exactly the reason why I only talk to guys who are crazy about me, guys who go out of their way to talk to me first! If I have to talk to them… If I have to chase them down, then I know I’m not really his cuppa tea. Ladies, you know when you’ve been on the other side of that, when a decent guy was offering you a date but for whatever reason he didn’t do it for you… So you didn’t really care, and you did not give him second chances. It’s all about finding the right combination where are YOU are feeling the guy and the GUY is feeling YOU, equally. At this point in my life I only want to hear the hard truth I don’t have time for sugarcoated BS. Great video!
Soo True girl! 👍👍
Touchy subjects are the most important to discuss 💯🤷♀️
Kelly Kelz true
Facts!
@Dr.'sorders I couldn't agree more
It’s sad because the guy who did this to me ain’t even all that 😂😂😂😂😂
It's always the ugly ones that do this lol
Lol haa exactly
Yup always the ones who have to trick you & manipulate u into falling for them
Yes and when you fall for someone you weren’t attractive too at first you fall hard 😩
🤣🤣
Listen to a mans insult. A guy called me lame but in a joking way. I took that as him thinking hes cooler than me so i had to dip
What about if a man says you're a square
@@hereisayana8207 same ish. He thinks he’s cooler Than you
@@ari-jv wow it will never work then ... only want to use us
So do u think they really care to have a competition on who's cooler ? We are grown lol that's so weird tho but one time I got called soft ? But I'm just feminine I think he use to manly chicks
Ive been called beautiful and ugly! Ive experience pretty privilege and the ugly experience . Ive had my ex found me attractive and as soon as I gained they start complaining and start comparing.
So you will know when you are in a good place . Stop being in denial and being comfortable. Walk out if you are not happy. If you are not confident or happy within yourself you will always attract the worse people 👑
I've often said, You don't need EVERYONE to find you ATTRACTIVE, THE RIGHT ONE)S WILL FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE! 😊
The issue is that guy's who are not interested in a relationship will pretend and act like hes interested in a relationship.
If a guy doesn't find you attractive then he should just leave you alone
exactly!!!! My ex bf did pretend as well and for no good reason in my opinion!!! Weird stupid behavior, time wasters, basically!
I like how you delivered this message! 100% FACTS!!! In the beginning of our relationship, my husband used to let me get away with murder because he liked me so much. When someone truly likes you, they FORGIVE you and they want to show you off! Too many people are afraid to face the obvious truth. Great video!
I agree
They want trophies. But many women who were considered attractive and trophies experienced being mistreated and ignored. Like the guy would be the most romantic dude in front of others and just ignore them behind doors, they were just interested in the "new shiny car". What also happens with these guys is that few years later when a woman gets some wrinkles or her body shape changed because she had a baby she's no longer "trophy material" and there he goes finding a younger and more attractive shiny new car.
This behavior usually comes from guys with some financial and social status, so they can actually lure the new trophies, others can't do the same and end up renting the woman they are with.
i’ve been treated this way by every ugly guy i thought i was giving a chance to LOL! now i’m getting what i want, i was trying not to be shallow 🤦🏾♀️
I avoid ugly guys like plagues
Yep, men will even do this to women much more attractive than themselves. Very delusional but it's up to us not to let them.
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maybe the guys thought they were giving an ugly girl a chance too 😂
They hunt a pretty woman down and then treat her like she's the ugly one...lol
My friend is married, everytime he would separate from his wife, he would lie about being single, sleep with a lot of women and ghost them all when the wife was ready to return.
I know a gut who did the same thing. What does it mean ? He loves his wife ?
These type of men are egotistical & have a self esteem problem. They’ll go find a woman who thinks they’re above your average & then get played. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. No what they say about you , love yourself first. If you know your worth then you will make someone very happy one day. Stay blessed!🙏🏾🙌🏾💯✌🏾
Your comment is so very true! Exactly!
Ready to get my feelings hurt with this video 😭😭😂
aliassylvie3 don’t say that! Lol
Thats how i feel lol
I had my lifevest on girl🤣
aliassylvie3 I’m scared to watch! 😂😂😩
Im not- theres great 🐈under this roll💅
Don't feel bad about this. Be glad you know and move on. Some men get a thrill out of knowing you are into them while not also being into you. Of course, that means they've got nothing going on themselves.
And I feel like a lot of men don't like to put any effort in a woman even if they do find them attractive, they just want things to be easy.
Man Please! You don't have to do all of that....If you think I'm ugly or fat you don't have to talk to me..point.blank...period!
exactly. if he thinks the lady is ugly. stay away
The idea is to know when to get lost and occupate space in peoples life. If she or he doesnt like than you better understand and leave. Dont stay like a piece of shit in peoples life just because you have mental problems. Leave understand that you are ugly, you stink, you have no style and your are idiot. You can tell him that so he rather weik up. There are psykopats who like to hang in exes lifes just bcz they hope for more. No that is not correct. We need to breath let space free for the next coming. You are not the one bye.
Man this made a lot of sense. I’ve been dealing with someone that checked all the boxes especially the not forgiving part. I remember thinking if I was younger, hotter, skinnier or prettier he wouldn’t be talking to me like that! I’m done with him but he’s jus started calling me again because he broke up with the women he left me for,
(Younger and hotter) and now he wants me back!🙄 But as a friend with all of the girlfriend benefits!! I’m X-ing him outta my life,… blocking all his numbers and continuing on the positive path I began after he dumped me!!
Yes queen!!! stay strong, you got this!!!
That's right Tracie, you found your worth girl!
My exact same story!!
He used to always call me beautiful in the beginning but it’s been almost 6 months since he complimented my appearance. And then he never liked my Instagram pictures but likes everything his ex posts. Anyways, I’m breaking up with him this week.
Dated a man yearns ago that only responded well to me when other men gave me attention. He would suddenly be attentive and affectionate. His energy changed when I decided to walk away permanently.This lasted way longer than it should have.
I’ve had someone do this to me before, and it broke me down. I didn’t understand why but I do know and it cool! Thanks for sharing ☺️
Kba gotta step your game up
Same sis. But I’m glad I know the truth 😊☺️. Hope you’re okay
It may or may not be the reason. Please don't assume it was all about looks, guys might say this to shame us and divert from their own issues.
My boyfriend never calls me beautiful. Never calls me pretty. Never calls me sexy or cute. Nothing.
My ex was the same way too but would make comments like that to other women on social media
@@PinkPisces how does this describe a narc ? Just curious ? Is this a mind game to them?
@@PinkPisces make sense my bd is a narc mind games ,gaslight etc etc 😑
@@PinkPisces I'm no longer with him im 3 years sober from his a$$ 😂 but some of these traits brought back nightmares
Everything you said in this video is true, that's what really happens. They keep you around long enough for them to find someone else and drop you like a hot potatoe. You'll never be good enough for any friends or family. Because he's ashame of you. Best to let it go.
Facts!
Daaaayum I am ugly as hell! Lmao!
Pandora Popstar 😂
Lol. You funny.
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🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
Same 😭😭😂😂
I greatly appreciate you breaking it down.
I have failed to realize all 5 of these which over the past 40 years has left me broken down and beaten and severely low self esteem.
We women need to say these 5 reasons every morning and evening like prayers.
If you do not fit his bill then you must recognize that he does not fit yours. Start looking at this man's character. That is what is most important.
And wish I knew and understood these 5 reasons back in my early 20's. My life would have been so much happier.
It’s sweet that he kept apologizing. I totally agree with and have experienced the 5 points he brought up!
T J me too
Lolita La Negra thank you love 💕
Now I don't feel as bad. I see all y'all pretty chicks out here getting the same treatment so now I don't have to question as much as I once did.
@@whenunouknow8879 yeah, some men are just jerks.. I’ve learned that how I was treated in the past was more about them than me or what I had to offer.
I experienced not meeting his best friends and we were engaged. He wouldn't like going out with me alone, and if he did, he would invite his mother and sister with us. He wouldn't give me public affection and he acted like he didn't know me.
That is so sad!!!
My male friends usually say that I’m “not their type” or “not so pretty” but they’re always asking me to date them DESPERATELY. I just don’t get it.
If they find you unattractive but still wants to date you, sound like to me, they just want to get in your panties and once they get it, they moving on or they are insecure themselves and want to tear you down...
They're trying to knock knock you down a keg so you can sleep with them. It's called Negging.
If they are calling you not so pretty, why would you stick around them anyway?? Even as friends, that's insulting you
They are trying to sleep with you
Either they are trying to use you for cheap sex , a place to stay, or financial gain.
He said he was into “medium ugly” people and he had to force himself to be attracted 😂😂😂 it hurts so bad 😂😂😂😂
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Oh.... I didn’t know i was ugly until now. I had my thoughts but this has confirmed it
nicki nic Men find beauty in different things. If your man hasn’t found you yet, Don’t give up
Better Late Than Broke well thank you honey!
I think this way sometimes, too, but you'r e not ugly. You're fearfully and wonderfully made! We have to stop letting men, the lack of not having a man, or people in general validate who we are. The video is good, but should be retitled. We are not ugly, but unique in our own way. This can breed low self esteem and comparison. 9 times out of 10, the dudes treating you this way weren't worth your time anyway and God was protecting you. I know it hurts, but don't accept a lie about yourself as your truth. Someone treated me like this and even told me I wasn't a woman, so I understand! Lift up your head Queen, look in the mirror, smile, and tell yourself how beautiful you are because you are beautiful just the way you are!
Nichole Hamilton well thanks nichole for those kind words!
BillyeBadass thanks!!!
I’m guilty of all of these and that’s why I stopped dealing with women who I don’t feel measure up to my standards just because they may be a “soft target.” That is the number one reason attractive men deal with less attractive women...for easy sex,full compliance and or financial gain.
Elizabeth Noir I absolutely agree with you on that as well 💯
I'm glad you stopped using them like this and want to be honest now
Yep and what goes around definitely comes back around
@@rhondadickey2525 it breeds hate and resentment toward the whole gender.
so, how do you deal w/the crushing loneliness, that most of your gender cant seem to handle, and thus, why they have to snatch up any prey that comes in their vicinity. its been a year, so Id really like to know if you held up to your newfound vow of decency.
Wow I really needed this slap in the face. This is what happens every single time. I'm so done with dating I've made my peace with dying alone
Your not ugly. Your just probably attracting the wrong guys. Your not his type. Unfortunately this happens to me a lot too. These guys usually just want to use you but you don't have their heart or they are simply not into you.
Same here
This makes so much sense. Last guy I dated never took me out and then find out he was taking someone else out. He only wanted to see me at night. He eventually told me he kept the ugly one in the dark and took the pretty one at night. I’m ugly and really struggling to make it day by day. Thanks for clarification
You are beautiful love 💕
All women are not beautiful, there are ugly women, that's just something women have to accept for the ones who lack beauty, just like all men are not rich,tall with a big penin, that's somthing men have to accept who lack money, height and large manly parts. So what you have to do is find things about yourself that you find attractive and appreciate outside of your looks. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you're not beautiful only a strong minded person can do that..so that's something about you that is a plus, you are stronger than alot of women...men like talking to women who are more realistic than delousional...being realistic and aware of you not being beautiful, gives you more power to ghost a guy before getting invested by watching his behavior towards you.
You are definitely not ugly! Level up and start investing in yourself. Deal with men who find you attractive.
Lmaoooo I just realized I’m ugly to EVERYBODY I talk too 😂😅
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Same girl
Me too!!
Girl you are gorgeous 😘😘
Damn. This is triggering AF. Looks like 90% of the guys I’ve dealt with really weren’t interested
Or they were just f***boys. Don't blame yourself, that just gives them more power.
And this is why you don’t even bother dating someone who you aren’t physically attracted to begin with. It’s messed up. Better to hurt someone’s feelings initially rather than stringing someone along, for what?
I can’t believe you need to be told. If a man does anything like this to me he’s unattractive.
This is such valuable information that women need to hear. So so sick of women making excuses for someone who treats them like a stale side dish they settled for instead of a delicious main meal. Women need to be honest with themselves and their friends.
This doesn’t always mean he thinks you’re ugly, he might still think you’re attractive but you’re just not the girl for him because he doesn’t like your personality or you’re too different
That's ok. What he doesn't like about her the next man may not have an issue with
That was deep, when he said the person feels like they are doing you a favor
Nobody forced them to be in a relationship with that person, if I'm not romantically interested with the person I simply don't get in a relationship with them.
These people are just using you, they are interested in what you can provide them.
So interesting ....
I feel this ...
I thought he was attracted but he never committed never met his friends never met his family ...after 3 years of it all on his terms it ended because he told me he was also seeing other women broke my heart 💔
This is the reallest, most valuable relationship video I ever seen. Like seriously thank you. 😆
Agreed
This is soooo true... Keep the title, very correct. I am attractive but I have darker skin and that is not everyone's cup of tea, regardless of how biased it is. That does not mean I am actually ugly, it just means for a certain sector of folks I am ugly. I rather have the truth than a lie. I have dealt with this in the my past.
I swear this is my life story. I'm not pretty enough to be married. No amount of loyalty, cooking, cleaning, loving, going half, working, submission.
Thanks for explaining this. I have been dealing with this and I was trying to figure out what I was doing wrong like you said. It was stressful and making my stomach hurt. I couldn't figure it out. I thought I could win him over by loving him and being a good woman. Thank you 🤗
A guy I was with would always always talk about this girl which I was assuming was his Dream Girl he said it was a girl with dark black hair I have dark hair but its not jet black, a girl with blue eyes , mine are brown, a girl with sleeve tattoos, I have 3 tattoos but they are not on my arms, n very thin im curvy and lastly he make remarks about my booty and that I needed to do squats and im like nope no thanks next cuz guess what? The next man I was with accepted every single thing about me.
If he only he only wants to see you after 11 pm. You ain't for him.
And I've noticed that some of these guys with such expectations are even "uglier" than their partners lol
yup. less smart, educated, and succesful, too.
I've been in and out with an ex who wasted my precious time. Recently, He tried to get back with me I'm so glad I rejected him, when he had the nerve to email me with a new email address I had his numbers blocked and email blocked. If I get to know any man with the mentioned signs in this video, I'll be sure to back out, being alone is far better then being with a man who holds you at lower esteem, just wants to use you when it's convenient for him and later kick you to the curb. God willingly ,I'll be sure to never revisit such experience again.
Yes!! Facts!! I love these harsh videos lol sometimes I feel delusional and I need a reality check before I start making fantasies in my head.
Yasss same !!
Guys don’t worry if a a guy girl finds you "ugly" that doesn’t mean you are unattractive or ugly not everyone has good taste ;)
I have a crush on this one guy, I feel like I'm doing too much for him. Ever since I met him, I've tried to change my looks, personality, voice, and other things. He's not even into me. Why am I like this?
Bruh i had an ex like this. I already suspected that he didn't find me attractive because of how he acted, but this just confirms it. 🙃
@@KTF_7 I did and he treats me like a princess !!! A guy will go the extra when you're the girl he really wants. 😊
Thanks for the signs ☺️
Hearing it made me sad..and reminded me of how foolish I was..but truth hurts🤦♀️
Chazz out here looking like a whole snack
Ah, Chaz is basically narrating the story of my life: having a crush on someone who doesn’t find me attractive personality and face wise while he’s in love with someone else and then attract men whom I find unattractive. My response to this whole situation, “Goddammit, just let me fucking die already!”
As I like to say: We always want those who don't want us. Someone you like doesn't like you, and someone who likes you, you don't like them. 🤷🏽♀️
@@blackcatlady2172 Ain’t that the truth?!
Same
Someone needs to hear this, but still won’t get it and reject this very true information.
You're glowing bro 👌😍
the forgiveness part was the most messed up to me. I'm so confused about how forgiving someone has anything to do with looks. Oh yes, I forgot men value looks. So, if you don't look a certain way you have no value. Noted.
its pathetic. they really dont seem to have any self awareness, to realize what aholes they are. like, if someone's not "good enough" for you, then dont date them!?!?!?!? not rocket science. if you cant get someone "better", then, thats your fault, but dont take it out on the ppl who are nice enough to go out w/you, just cuz you cant get someone "better", and you cant handle being alone, either.
I dont know about this one. I've heard many men say that what they want out of life is pretty simple. I've dealt with some shit with men and I dont feel my looks have anything to do with it. I've been told all my life that I am attractive and still went through some of what was mentioned. I've been made to feel that I'm ugly, but I know I'm not ugly.
Most man are just shit, they want best of both worlds or they have self-esteem issues themselves.
This is probably the most honest video regarding this subject I've ever listened to. I think it works this way on both ends, to some degree. In my experience, though, I've actually given the guys I don't find attractive a chance, even ending up in a relationship. I've even been too forgiving trying to hold on to something that never should have happened in the first place. But for what? Their behavior never changed. It often got worse, and over time, it became apparent that me not being physically attracted to them was my subconscious trying to tell me we weren't compatible in other more important ways either. That's why I'm single now, and plan on staying that way unless a guy comes along that fits my ideal. Like the men he's talking about, I'm done settling.
Yep I learned this three years to late, the dude I've always been in love with would always want to watch movies or go out for breakfast never dinner or out to places where I know he really enjoyed. One day I found out he took another girl to a football game and was supposed to meet up with me that night, I thought okay why would he take this girl to a football game but hang out with me at night. I knew what was up but was to da*n in love. Come to find out he was only into me because he knew how I felt about him and he had never been with a black woman. He has always dated white women and I was just a race he never got to be with so that's why he hooked up with me, and to this day that shiit HURTS.
That's the most disgusting thing I ever heard. Stop falling in love and sleeping with assholes. If he's not taking you out on real dates then he's not serious about you.
Yeah, similar thing happened to my bestie. She's a very attractive black woman and has a great body but the guy she was seeing wouldn't introduce her to his friends and family, wouldn't take her to very public places and usually only had evening dates. Later we found out he was seeing two other white girls, one of which we saw him with at a friend's party. 😑
I'm sure that did hurt you. Just know that he obviously is very immature. A bum. Keep your head up cause there's someone for you. You deserve better.
It also happened to me being a white a girl and the guy being asian, I wasn't his race so I wasnt good enough, also my white traits were not unicorn like (no blue eyes and blond hair) so he could show me around as an imported sports car.
The thing is he was the one wanting a relationship and saying he was serious and his parents would be ok about it. Cause i stated i wasn't up for temporary and/or casual relationships and if i wasn't his type we could stay as friends and he could keep freely looking for his Mrs. Right and let me find mine or just be alone.
He still did it, he still had me as his dirty little secret. He would get me gifts and we would go on dinners and trips but he didn't take photos of us or kept them, and being in different cities, he would often come to my city. Excuse was brilliant, i worked weekends so that was the days he and his friends would plan something, but i couldn't joing because I was working.
The worse thing is that you notice these things and they will tell you that "you are imagining things", "you are misunderstanding", "it's nothing like that", but when pressured against the wall his solution was dumping me. And then being at my door next week inviting me for dinner, so he expected everything would remain the same but just as "friends", so he wouldn't have to introduce me to anyone or do anything.
This guy knew I had been out of a relationship that caused me severe depression (i was used as rebound) and knew i was struggling with health issues, at one point doctors suspected cancer, and even ruled out i still had physical symptoms. I told him "if you are not up for a long term commited relationship, please don't play with me. I can get severely ill, mentally and physically (later on i was diagnosed with a neurological autoimmune which stress and emotional trauma can aggravate the condition badly).
All because he wanted to play having a girlfriend until someone better come along. Why go around looking for entertainment when one woman can provide everything you need for the here andt the now? Sex, affection, admiration, commitment, cheerleading, love.
He actually doesn't have to think you are ugly, simply not good enough for him or to be shown around him.
@@Sarablueunicorn Wow!
My father was a handsome, curly head man with a big personality. And he would entertain a lot of woman. I saw the difference in the treatment. Some he would say they was lights off material. And all these things makes sense. He would only see them at night and use time with his kids as a reason not to meet up and do something earlier in the day.He married a beautiful woman he met after 2 months while he was away from his on-off lady .When she got her citizenship and left him he went back to his regular on-off lady
So the beautiful woman was with him just because of the benefit of the citizenship. I think he was way out of his league, then they will call these women "gold diggers". Doesn't feel so nice being used.
Hmmm… This makes sense. This guy has taken me out a couple times, dinner, concerts etc. but he’ll go weeks without talking to me. He also always seems to be checking other women out. I had a chance to meet his mom but he said he had made “other plans.” We have some mutual friends but I have never met anyone in his family. Maybe, it’s time to bail.
He's just not that into you, dump him!!!
The title alone has me over here dying laughing. Tears are running down my face😂😂😂 Then your face on the thumb nail looks like you want to say, "nah, you ain't it sis". I just can't!!
omg, this really hit home!!! I feel like this about my bf :( He is super physically attractive, but I am not attracted to his demeanor or mentality. He has put me off so much. He loves me more than I love him. He is trying to be better, but it's not enough because there is no real substance there. This video really allowed me to see that I am stringing him along :( I didn't know what to call it. Thank you for putting out this content.
Some men are just insecure and it has nothing to do with you. It’s not sometimes that you’re ugly it’s just that they think they can do better. Women just switch up on these men. Start distancing yourself from him more and find other men to have fun with.
My momma always said honey there is someone out there for everyone & find someone that into u more than u are into them cuz they will treat u better😉😉. But when I twisted this video 2 think of how I have treated "ugly" or someone that I found unattractive in the past especially when u mentioned that unforgiveness piece, I realized that u were on point with this video so I'm gonna replay this & listen better. So I won't waste my ⏰ or anyone else's ⏰ from here on out🤗.
Yea but I want to be as attracted to the guy as well or else it ain't fun on my part
I love hearing the minds of guys. I already knew this specifically but the extra details are nice . Sometimes when we fall inlove we are totally blinded
He said I’m “not his typical type” but that he wants to make me happy that I deserve the world and I’m special to him.. we go out he’s not secretive about me .. but That killed me. I’m an attractive woman
Hope you are out of that relationship. The "i want you to be happy" "you deserve the best" is bait and to keep you on the hook.
This is so harsh to watch 😕😕 my husband keeps telling me how he’s not attracted to me anymore and a lot of your words are just like knifes straight to my soul but thank you for the video tho…
Red Flags! When all is good, then they begin picking you apart and asking why You questions.