You are so right. What they tell everyone you did to them, is actually what they did to you. What they say all they did for you - is what you did for them. You are left standing there scratching your head. Thanks for your comment!
@@kerrytaggart8206 NARCs are extremely confusing until you get beyond them and into recovery and begin listening to others like Paula. Once we all come together, our combined terrible experiences all make sense.
My biggest mistake in my marriage of 25 years was I didn't listen to my gut. I felt like the life was slowly being sucked out of me. I convinced myself that I was just too sensitive and I needed to toughened up. He was so good at killing my soul and never gave a damn. I am so happy this life sentence is over. I am so content and happy now. 😊
By the body n blood of Jesus Christ 🙏 I pray that all narcissistic souls be healed n delivered immediately. 🙏 thank u Lord Jesus Christ gif answered 🙌 🙏 prayers 🙏 Amen 🙏
Currently divorcing a covert narcissist after 33 years. I knew something was off but didn't understand what was happening. He hated to see me excited or enthusiastic about anything, it triggered negative comments from him. He had a habit of giving reasons why something wouldn't work and came up with the wildest scenarios. He was triggered by my happiness as if there was something wrong with being happy.
He walked out after a narcissistic rage. That night in my sleep I wrestled with a palpable demon speaking in an otherworldly language. It scared me so much I woke up calling out to God to save me from it. That demon never came back. I never let the narcissist return.
Great insight. My nightmares all involve my abuser laughing at me, smiling at my failings. After nearly destroying me, he haunts me in my dreams. He is pure evil and I am lucky to be free, alive, and light.
I get free from boundage after I gave my life to Jesus and born again. And yes, there IS a strong demonic backround behind such a person. Just now, after years I found out it was a narcisist. I realy felt I am facing the devil himself. But Jesus saved me.
It seemed too good to be true. Love bombing. At a time I was healing from a painful divorce. He swooped in like a caring, supportive person. But all along subtly sprinkling criticism and blame on my decisions. He told me not to let myself be treated badly by anyone else again. And yet, and yet, and yet….. he was the most evil, cruel, underhanded liar I’ve had the misfortune to live with. I banished him forever without regret. Evil be gone!!!
Yes. Your nightmares are similar to my own. How they get enjoyment out of crushing others...is so bizarre. Don't feel alone. We are so blessed to be away from the NARCS!
@@delemaniar9816 We can't even escape them in our dreams or in our times of rest and repose.. They invade our thoughts also. It's absolutely evil from the pit of hell.. But we can overcome it! 🍃🌸🍃
It's not that we weren't listening to our gut or our intuition. It's more that we lacked spiritual discernment. When you're not a person that is disceptive and manipulative you're certainly not going to conceive the person proffessing and acting like they love you is playing you because that's not natural. Your brain, like a computer, can't reconcile that because it doesn't have that stored information to draw from. God was speaking to our spirits and we put the narcissist above God. He allows it so we learn to follow Him and hear His voice above man. Narcissistic abuse serves a higher purpose. It lends us the opportunity for a spiritual awakening. We experience evil face to face and we need God to heal us and make us whole again. Our heavenly Father loves us with an agape love that no man can satisfy or give us. It's supernatural and divine. We were seeking love through man and the world and a carnal mind. Without God and putting the Kingdom first and His will first in our lives we will be afflicted by narcissists. That's their job! That's their assignment here, to destroy God's creation. The physical world is narcissistic. It's Satan's kingdom. Satan is the king of the airwaves( communication/ false narratives/ deception) We will absolutely be fooled and be tricked if you think you can detect a higher demonic intelligence on your own, and God will continue to allow it for your greater good until you submit to Him so he can direct you to godly people. When you believe you can do it of your own strength in a wicked world then you're making yourself your own god just as the narcissist does. Seek first the kingdom and all else will be added! GBY
Since I no longer sleep in the same room as my husband, I no longer have scary dreams or have to cast demons out of my bedroom because he brought these demons home from places he should have never been.
Once after sex with him I felt an energy came into me, as avchristian I knew that it was a transfer of demons. I cried so much, and begged Jesus tonhelp me. I went to church and that demon was cast out of me, that was my last time with him. That proved to me that they are devils, I thank God He deliverd me. Never again thank you Jesus
@okiedokie4358 yep, they don't have to be in black magic, or any thing ocuitic, for there to be transferring of spirits. The demon in them them just wants to destroy us. The bible says satan come kill steal and destroy. Its all demonic, but Christ deliverd me. Bless you
Women need to guard themselves. Energy/spirits can definitely be transferred through sexual activity and that is why I have been celibate for 13 years.
I had gut feelings from the very beginning and swept them under the rug. I often questioned that maybe it was me. Moving forward, I will NEVER ignore my gut, even if it may be wrong. I don’t care. Also, I will NEVER allow myself to be treated that way again from anyone! I am now very much in touch with my inner b*tch. She is my friend and will protect me. Also, I don’t need to be loved bombed, I don’t need to be flattered. I know who I am and I’m comfortable in my own skin now.
Same !!! Last time aswell. I'll never ignore them. I'm suspecting strongly I have someone I have to interact with who has more than 'a little something going on'. I'm not wasting time wondering if I've got it right because my past lessons tell me I was on track each time previously. Just didn't listen because that love bombing can be so intoxicating and happen so fast, even when you know its actually a warning sign
There is a point where CHOICE is envolved with the narcissist , just as it is our CHOICE to stay in the LIGHT. I have developed into a Resìster to the narcissist's. They KNOW that YOU KNOW who they are.....GAME OVER PERIOD. I've experienced the one-eyed Jack.They TRY to destroy you in so many underhanded ways. They are fuming mad that you KNOW how to expose them and are ON to their CYCLES of Abuse. NO WAY.......JUST NO. STAY IN THE LIGHT. They always destroy themselves, I Chose with GOD'S WISDOM & STRENGTH WATCH IT HAPPEN. THEY CHOSE to stay in the dark!!! Thank YOU PAULA for the knowledge of narc.exposure. 🎉🎉🎉
Ephesians 6:12 NLT For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
And the Bible also says that satan and his demons were put or cast out of the heavens to the vicinity of the earth. They are busy destroying while they have the time here that they have. Soon God will destroy them and their followers. In the Bible, demons were expelled out of people. I think some people have bad tendencies and the demons are attracted to them and become involved in their lives and cause them to harm others. I experienced my husband turning very bad…..i divorced him because it was all way to creepy and I wanted nothing to do with it or him.
Yes, we can detect the subtle (or not so subtle) "offness" in their demeanor (or, should that be "demoner" in their case) when it manifests in front of us
It’s the same demon as well, I grew up with it and literally every relationship I’ve had has been with one, I just don’t date anymore, I’m happy single. But it’s the SAME demon in every single one
I think they body jump in families. As it gets older it starts on a child and then takes over when the host dies. They are Satan soldiers so they have the same training. Walk slow and keep looking for them. Now they walk up on you quietly. They start vibrating as they are lying and manipulating. Go slow you can see them. It's us against them now. s@jenbodhi1133
@jenbodhi1133 I'm like you, i was raised by the most diabolical one I've met....my mother. I learned trauma bonding early; most all my long term relationships were with Narcs, im 47.. Its not bad being single...after 5 years i met someone. Hes kind, honest..not perfect but definitely a real man. Not abusive, a good friend. 💜 but talk about a small circle..😂
@@Lena-so2lq oh I’m so glad to hear that for you! I’m 41 and I think I’m not interested in relationships anymore, I own a business and I’m happily growing that and hoping to retire early and spend some time in Africa, I just keep to myself because every person I meet seems to be a narcissist lol. I wish you the best!
I actually described it as head to toe Leeches, for 20 years - parasitic .....predatory - I was anesthetized, and depleted via their feeding....until I became very sick....and then got served divorce papers. but.....with the help of Podcasts, you tube channels, and therapy....two years, later.... amidst scar tissue......I am myself! Thank you Paula!
Dear Janine Love your comment as sad as it is it is full of inner light! Tx for sharing this. This scars carry them as a branding of you own love that heals the bloody wounds of the dark ones. Hands up for your surviving!!! 🎉
I came back to this video today because I wanted to share something that listening to this brought to light. In 2015 he had a meeting at the table with a group of flying monkeys telling them how horrible I was that I was never going to stop drinking. He told them I was a lost cause. I then took his words internally and walked as fast as I could to the bridge downtown. He made me think I was a demon and that there was nothing else left for me. He then realized that I had left the house away from him and the flying monkeys and headed towards the bridge. Of course the flying monkeys scatted and went to their houses. It was me staring down at the river while he became a real person again. He then yelled out a blanket statement that he was sorry for everything and to please don't jump. He told me that if I needed to leave him I seriously could. He told me that he could not swim and that he would also kill himself trying to save me. It took a moment and I finally realized that my life was worth more. I was talked away from the bridge and he drove me home. Immediately after that, he began to tell me that he doesn't know if I'm stable enough for the marriage. It was so confusing. What was so crazy is that I actually stopped drinking two years after and he was the number one person against my sobriety. I didn't understand it and I finally got the answer I was looking for with dr. Ramani. It all became clear and now here it is 2024. I'm still alive and listening to narc con. What a blessing!
It is frightening to look evil in the eye and to realize that evil exists in people to this extent. For people who always try to see the good in people, even though they are evil, it makes it difficult. Only God can free these people - but the person must also be willing and want to recognize and get rid of the monster in Him.
They can wait years like shingles ready to strike when you are low. I'm single at 55 and FREE to SCARED 😳 to even think about letting someone in my life.
I'm with you on being with someone. After 16 years I just want to have my space and freedom. I miss GOOD sex and good company but I don't want to start sorting thru the rubbish
I fully understand where you are coming from. Live freely and luv who you are. Look in the mirror each day and tell yourself what a beautiful creation you are and smile and begin your day on a happy positive note! You are worth it!!
It's so important I stay plugged into narc con videos, 12 step recovery programs, God and myself with staying zero contact in order to heal continually
I knew. I didn’t have a word for it. I can never unsee it now! I always said “maybe it’s me” and believed it. 38 years I loved him. 32 years married. Thank you Paula. Thank you Remi for the background entertainment ❤ it always makes me smile.
Now that I’ve healed, I’ve noticed when I would get around one, I seemed to feel off balance and talk alot and feel stupid.. now that I’m healed, I feel keenly in touch with my dislike of them, don’t care what they think, I’m now calm and short with them.. I’ve noticed I go out of my way a bit to NOT give them what I know they want.. adoration etc… sort of have a chuckle to myself, since I KNOW the things that disturb them… lol.. I KNOW two wrongs don’t make a right, but I seem to humor myself with it.. God bless everyone dealing with this nightmare.. you will heal.. you WILL get to the other side and life will be beautiful again.. I’ve survived a lifetime of these people! This community is AMAZING loving people ❤
i also chuckle to myself since i have healed and got the education. I tap into the community to remind myself i am sane again. i resonate wholly with your comment especially when you said you would talk alot sensing his silence and feel stupid. i had the vile discard Thank God its over now 🙏
I get this. In my relationship, it was a competition who could pull their phone out and find a restaurant- or directions or whatever. Also, when traveling, he played a game- who could notice the most. (Who was most perceptive.) so many competitions I always lost.
It took me awhile to know something was wrong as I vulnerable at the time, but once I got strong and God started to show me the devil in him I was like Satan be gone in Jesus name😂😂😂
OMG. You reminded me of when I was out with the Ex-Narc a person was telling a story very emotionally sad. The Narc was laughing. I gently said oh honey don't laugh they're really hurt. He turned to me with the most horrific look on his face and said " what the F did you say". I was so shocked even frightened I just sunk into my seat. That's when I should have followed my gut..knowing something was wrong BUT again never been with anyone TOXIC. I couldn't believe what I saw/heard.
I see many times the switch from evil to me and super nice in the next minute to the one he (my son ) wants to impress, it’s scary to me now at this point
@@phoenixd9679 I once said to my narc that if X could see how he treated and spoke to me in our house, that X would never allow him in their home again. To have a personality in private ( i.e. nuclear family) that is so different from the facade they portray in public is sheer psychopathy, especially when it's extreme.
Living with one .older he gets the worst he gets .I stay away from him .he hardly talks to me .he watches every thing I do and loves to pull me up on yes dishwasher. He rearranges it after I have filled it .garbage anything that in a normal day I do notice it since he retired. Also research s everything I happen to mention about a newspaper or news content that's in the news .double checks everything I say or do .and yes in a heated argument his eyes bulge and turn black .sometimes I like to leave .we don't sleep together. His health is not that great on a lot off pills .some days he can be Mr Charming .he has no friends .and doesn't bother that much with his family.
Omg I had a very similar experience except I was telling a story of a time that I was being bullied by a narcissist co worker and my narcissist ex began laughing at my painful experience. I know it sounds silly here but it actually was very cruel what the co worker was doing. I never experienced that type of bullying in high school. Him laughing at my pain, was strange and I should have known then.
Anyone else notice that the NARCS love to watch videos online of people falling, and slipping, and having bricks fall on their heads, and getting in car crashes? Nothing makes them laugh more than seeing other people hurt...if you see this kind of "humor" in your NARC - know you better begin planning your escape. I just escaped an entire NARC family that were all like this. I had no idea what I was surrounded with until educators like Paula began showing me the truth. Thank you Paula.
Napoleon Hill recounts his famous interview with the devil. Whether he actually spoke to the devil or not is up for debate, what the devil had to say, however, is not. Are you a drifter?
AFV. I watched that one time with my nark family, and I noticed they didn’t wince, cover their mouth in shock, say omg and then laugh. There was just glee.
Paula ❤ You are definitely on to something. Most "experts" in this field will shy away from this because most don't want to believe that the devil is real and he is active. He always has been. The narcissist is an easy vessel for the devil to enter into. We need to pray for them. 🙏🏽 Genesis 3:1 Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? 2 Corinthians 11:14 And no marvel; for even Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. Luke 22:3 Then entered Satan into Judas surnamed Iscariot... Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. God's Word has all these answers. The Bible has helped me heal in many ways.🙏🏽📖❤️
1 Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Much love to you, Paula and Remy ❤🐾
These type of individuals (and their demons) cause so much harm to their unsuspecting victims, and the time it takes to recover is proof thereof. It's an emotional hurt like no other.
It's a spiritual illness they leave you with like you're slowly being poisoned with drops of evil. They break your spirit and pull you out of your natural essence and integrity.
Raised by narcissists. Such degradation. Mother left for neighbor and never said why. They destroyed a part of me. It's different and harder when your born into it. U rock
One was most likely destroyed by the narcissist. Don't forget how we show up after such damage. My mother wrecked my empathic father and framed him as the problem 24/7 all my siblings (5) turned from him, after the divorce, except me. I had a lifelong normal healthy relationship with him behind my family. It was the only way I could have a relationship with my own parent without it being used as a tool of torture. There's no supply for a narcissist from another narcissist. They need to drain your power because they have none. They need a battery to plug into like when you charge your phone.... GBY
My narcissistic mother told me on a regular basis that there was something wrong with me! That was always very sweet and giving and I think it was a protective tactic. I was warning so that she wouldn’t hit me like she used to hit my sister.! Unfortunately they set me up for a number of narcissistic relationships, romantical and otherwise throughout my life and I wound up marrying my husband who was a narcissist! my father was very sensitive and he wound up killing himself just to get away from my mother and I can see that they leave you totally devastated, but I’m recouping my energy but at the end of it there was times I felt like I don’t wanna be on this planet anymore! it’s the grace of God and I got through this. And I would say no weapon formed against me shall prosper, I could do all things through through Christ to strengthen me, I am divinely guided and protected, I walked through the valley of death. I have no fear. God is good. This experience cannot help, but put you in the third version of yourself that is more wise that I have to say for sure and God uses all things for the greater good of everybody concerned in the end. Thank you for addressing what people will not that these are principalities that are against us. They want us off our purpose and distract us.
I think I knew that there was something wrong with this person, but I think I was so starred for love and affection that the love bomb totally intoxicated me, and I like you said the snake charmer hypnotized me and led me to sleep to a full sense of security! Then he knew there was no escaping, and the Jekyll and Hyde came into place! I think part of the lesson with these people is that we have to have self-love because if we don’t have self-love just like the narcissist, how can we love anybody else? I’m 60 And working on self love and boundaries and it starting to come more naturally because I know I need to protect myself myself. You can’t just let anything in or else you’re gonna get destroyed.! You have to think of yourself to these people at bay! I’m perfectly fine being alone! And I’m never alone because God is always with me
@mariedeflon Scripture teaches us; “you are fearfully and wonderfully made.” That means you Marie. “We are made in the image of God.” Therefore, you are light and love. Someone reminded me of that years ago, and I’ve never forgotten it. Stick that in your brain and keep it there… Blessings to you…
I was trying to share an intimate moment with the ex narc in a bath tub one evening and he made a strange comment to me said he was just joking. He told me you're like a frog that's being boiled alive slowly. At the time I thought what an odd thing to come out with but in hindsight I had alarm bells going off inside. They can say sinister things like this and say it was a joke but it's really the truth disguised as a joke. I was scared to live on my own and scared of letting go of financial security but it comes down to either staying alive and saving your soul or hanging on to the bitter end when they completely anhialate you or bring you down so much that you want to destroy yourself and commit suicide. If you've been taken histage by one of these demons get out now while you’re still alive, the longer you stay in it the worse it gets. If you have managed to escape for Gods sake go no contact and block them on everything don't fall for them hovering you, they will promise to change even apologise with and beg with crocodile tears but don't fall for it stay strong and keep letting go and keep moving forward. Don't underestimate the lengths they will go to hover you they are master manipulators. Cut them and any flying monkeys they send your way out of your life. Put yourself first because you deserve better, you deserve the best.
If your not healthy these people will appear lovely. When you learn and when you overcome your own demons you can see these lovely people for who they really are. You see they mingle and intertwine with our own personality and trauma to over power and destroy us bc they are a parasite and need another human....the other human will not fair well. During this, you think your living the high life. They take their time and you can be fooled for decades and even die without having a joyful relationship in your life. They live to steal your time your life through future faking to keep you hanging on. Your just playing a role or position in their lives. They dont care about you but they dont want to give you up either....even though they could find a new supply it is a lot of work and fear for them so they prefer to keep you and will only completely take the new supply if forced. If you have a lot of bickering, arguing, hurt, mistrust....your with a narcissist...research it. Your mistrust is not from your abusive past. It is bc they have learned about your past and plays on those insecurities to keep you thinking all the problems are bc of you and keep you trying and trying...while they have a whole other life that does not include you.
Right! They're being used. They send flying monkeys to afflict us but they are Satan's flying monkeys. So while they laugh at our pain Satan's laughing at them. And God laughs at them all under His footstool.
I always thought something wasn’t right, but then I thought it was because of the addictions until one day I typed in RUclips toxic relationships and came up with covert narcissism. Then I saw all the narcissism with the people in my life. Praise the Lord these videos were on RUclips, and I also think the Lord I came across you, dear Paula. God bless you and dear Remi. From JANESVILLE, WI
Couldn't agree with you more! Paula is a GEM, Remi is a dear and all of us warriors need to educate ourselves concerning the evil damage these narc monsters can cause. From BELOIT WI! :) God Bless...
@@yhwhzmyking.4243 God bless you BELOIT Wisconsin. Wow I go there at least once a week. Only like 17 miles from me. God bless you and your loved ones and thank you for commenting. From JANESVILLE, WI
@@Laura-qr1ml smiles….. I have been there, so so many times and I still go to that area. It would be so fun to get together…… God bless you and I pray Psalms 91 over you and your loved ones. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
I think the movies are partly to blame when we overlook the strangeness of the sudden love bombing. We may feel like "finally, it's happened to me and I deserve it" etc. etc. and reason to ourselves that sometimes it does happen like that in real life, so why not this time... and then we don't take a critical enough look at THIS person and their intentions.
Agreed. We also act like unconditional love is the norm. While some receive unconditional love, many do not. Some people are literally starved of love so when a narc targets someone, it's relatively easy if that person is love starved and has low self esteem.
Hollywood is very dark. Now that I see it as programming - I can't watch many movies now. The breaking up of families, enticing people into thinking money=happiness. My narc loved movies. Loved the fairytale of everything satan likes to offer. You sell your soul to become like the stars in these movies.
@@wendynash2587 This is a great insight. Once I learned what Hollywood was about, I stopped watching movies and I don't have a TV. It's an easy way that people are programmed. I'm not surprised your narc loved movies. The music industry is the same way, in my opinion.
I believe there is a spiritual component. Your predator in the wilderness analogy reminds me of 1 Peter 5:8-10: Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.
My first interactions with my sister in law before my brother married her was so disturbing I couldn't sleep for 5 days, and at one point every time I closed my eyes I would see disturbing close up images of twitchy parasites. I tried for years to try to think the best of her, but could always see this vicious and mean side, even when she was being nice. This was a really big challenge in my family. We are Christian, and sister in law is also a professed Christian. For the first several years, her FOG manipulation would make me feel like a deer in the headlights. Like what you were saying, I often questioned myself. She was so sure and persistent with her accusations against me that I often went into a spiral of self doubt. I was wired to always defer to the opinions of others. And everyone else in the family rolled over to appease her to keep the peace. I have been NC for 5 years now. Going NC was very liberating. I feel like it strengthened my relationship with God, because I was no longer investing so much of my time into stressing out about her. Also, I recently found out that she is bipolar, and she recently had a trip to the mental hospital. I had heard that NPD/BPD just gets worse over time. I mean, you're dealing with someone who is already very disconnected from reality. And they have a lot of aggressive tendency. She gets a sense of satisfaction from intimidating and raging at others. It makes her feel superior. If someone stays in that pattern of disconnect from reality and finding pleasure in raging at others, that only goes in one direction.
@Kmathis2352 I am currently watching the spiral happen right before my eyes. My ex narc is literally losing his mind. Nothing I would’ve ever wanted for him, but he destroyed our marriage, by the horrible decisions he made for himself, that affected me. Now it’s backfired on him and he’s spiraling, mentally and financially. I feel sorry for him, compassionate, but not enough to stay with him, after so much betrayal. God is my strength. He has kept me sane and never left me during all of this. I’m grateful.
Once you realise you actually WERE RIGHT all along , leaving can be quite a simple and relatively easy step , the biggest leap is rediscovering yourself and your place in the world ! The recovery is full of ups and downs , three steps forward and two steps back , but every step is closer to being fully healed ! Even after two years I was recently caught off guard when I suffered a challenging setback , it shook me to the core , but I managed to get back on track ! The important thing is that you stay calm and keep focussed on the end goal , a stronger and wiser and better version OF YOU ! ❤
Well Paula, once again you've nailed it. Since becoming a Christian and asking God for knowledge and discernment daily, I've noticed the demonic influence in my fathers eyes. I've even told him that satan was working through him. It threw him back but then the demon gained a stronghold. I pray for him but just can't be near him anymore. The last time I visited him, he was so destructive to my core being. It took me a month to get back to a peaceful state.
I’m under a narcissist whom I had to return an engagement ring. I found that I have to attend my church twice daily and it has helped a lot. I also have dogs now to get busy. However he still attacks especially gaslighting but now I tell him what he is doing. He loves to watch ID and laugh at my neighbors issues. He even asked the neighbors husband to come stay with us for 1 week and he pulled a list of 13 things he hates about me
I totally get what you're sharing. I have very similar experience with my father. It took a long time for me to realize what I needed to do was to separate myself for however long to heal and strengthen again. May God bless you. May you find peace in the Lord Jesus. 🙏🕊💗🙏
When my ASPD (undiagnosed but I can’t see it could be anything else) older sister was born, apparently the nurse commented on her eyes (ok, always a shade of brown) as “deep, dark pools”. Those eyes were BLACK during the final discard (and I’m sure during all the abuse throughout the years) - I have it on video. I would say she came into the world angry and sociopathic.
Yes, I did know something was wrong, but I wanted to trust him. I ignored the red flags. I ignored the knowing because as you said they make you feel so special.
My second narcissistic partner, hopefully the last one, used to cast curses on people and often bragged about how he knew all kinds of curses and how effective they were. Once, I even recorded him on video lighting a candle, salting it, and casting different curses on people. It was terrifying. He was laughing during the casting. Maybe he thought he was funny 😢
I knew something was horribly evil with her 😢 and there's a child involve ,my beautiful princess But God is the one i trust for to keep n protect my little princess from that evilness
I am in a relationship. I stambled on this channel some 6 weeks ago. I got struck after watching one of your videos. I need HELP. I live in Zambia and in africa there is no awareness of this but its real. I cannot believe what i have been through for 13yrs, the issue of red flags can only say sorry to myself for looking the other way. I am so grateful that now i Know..
This is why we have to become emotionally sober. When you are thinking clearly you can feel this energy instantaneously. I can remember saying to him at one point “you have the same energy as your son” (who I knew first - long story) and he said “yeah but I use it for the good” - when I think about that now it literally makes me sick. He was trying to imply his own child (who he was very likely abusing) was bad somehow .. but it certainly had nothing to do with his saintly self .. it is just so utterly twisted; but yeah trust it when you feel that energy and run for your life. I know for a fact not everyone made it out of this person’s orbit alive.
My 42 yr old daughter was killed by her narcissist boyfriend after five yr relationship. She has now been gone 6 months and our entire family is completely devastated....especially me as her mother.
If it seems archaic to some, then consider this: Could it be that it is, indeed, an ancient evil? Something that has been not only surviving, but actually thriving, expanding, and evolving in recent times. But now, in today’s times, all of this is coming into The Light. Heaven’s Fire is burning bright and is being carried by many more people. Times are changing. May God bless you Paula, protect you, and empower you as you continue to shine the light.
When speaking about the evil entity; “when you’ve seen it you know it’s there”. This is so true. The evil spirit shows itself eventually. You will know, because you can’t believe what you’re seeing, and wondering… Who is this person? When this was mentioned in the video, it literally made my skin crawl and gave me the chills all over again. These spirits do exist, even though I never really believed that someone I loved could embody this kind of evil cruel spirit… 💔
Yes I knew, but egnored it, and I suffered ,unbelievable, imbarisment, in ever part of my life, and the pain I still feel is terrible, irs the way,they make you feel, and then slowly, take your life apart, until you have no control, your just there, just barely existing, used and abused at will. A living nightmare.
My mother warned me not to marry him but I didn't listen. 25years later I realized that I married a covert narcissist. When I walked away from the marriage 5years ago, it broke not only my heart but the hearts of my 2 wonderful children, but he couldn't care less. When he didn't want to work on the marriage and blamed me for everything that was wrong, not taking any responsibility for his actions I knew that this man didn't love me. What hurt the most is that I was not worth fighting for!!!😢😢😢😢
That intense focus the narc gives you in the beginning is really a spiritual feeding of your soul. They get their fill and vomit you in the devalue stage.
I knew it was too good to be true. . . I was caregiving for my mom and stressed out and the attention and distraction was wonderful . . .I got swept up. . . but as it went on I couldn't understand why he'd be flirting with baristas, waitresses, still keeping in contact with old girlfriends all in front of me . . . all very confusing. For a time I thought "am I was overreacting?". . .and actually questioning my emotions! After asking God for wisdom and discernment, I finally figured out I wasn't jealous, but rather my disgust in his disrespect for me. I told him that and he just smirked at me. thank God for internet where we all have gone searching for clarity and found channels such as yours. Once again Remmy is a scene stealer. . . such a good boy!
They have been terribly spoiled as children in some wealthy families therefore have NO boundaries. I agree that they make you tingle like you have been electrified. Their evil tactics are insurmountable!!
Huge insight. Thank you. Divorced and left the passive aggressive covert narc ex romance June 2017. He was a lay minister in the church. Hah With your help and learning and reading and listening I am almost able to see the narc before any damage is done. I feel them. It's ghastly I believe they are demonic. Their influence on others is horrendous Thank you for your input
Even in the garden of Eden the snake was gaslighting Eve. 'Are you sure you were told you couldnt eat that fruit' . Then when Jesus went up into the mountains to fast and pray, the devil was there. Trying to take dominion by his taunts and attempts at control. Each time Jesus would respond by 'it is written' and tell the devil basically to get lost ! ' if you are the son of God throw yourself off these mountains ' etc. He didnt win. On any occasion. We have to stay firm in our confidence of who is in control as believers, and for non believers its important to be aware of the spiritual realm.
That's the beginning of "Narcissism " when sin entered the world. The serpent gaslit Eve. He convinced her she could have the same power and knowledge as God. Just as the narc feign power and knowledge. What did Eve do when she felt shame? she saw that she was naked and covered herself.... just as the narc feels shame and covers himself with a mask.
That's the beginning of "Narcissism " when sin entered the world. The serpent gaslit Eve. He convinced her she could have the same power and knowledge as God. Just as the narc feign power and knowledge. What did Eve do when she felt shame? she saw that she was naked and covered herself.... just as the narc feels shame and covers himself with a mask.
I saw the demons in her eyes. People might think I'm crazy for saying this. But I saw them and can't unsee them. So I've stayed away. I've just stayed away.
so Narcissist came barreling into my life - quickly recognized what i was dealing with (was married to one - broke free with the help of God) new Narcissist pumped me with electric energy (as Paula describes) again, started earnest pray - broke free -BUT moving forward by the grace of God - have all this energy - like a quirky wonderful gift -
Red flags were all there! I ignored them all, thinking it was just a quirky moment! But knew deep down all was not well with this person! May this bad encounter diminish from my thought process completely.
So true Paula! Thank God I found your website. I have been listening to you for a year now, and I am finally free from the narcissist. It took moving to a different state to escape. Your words are very important, and I continue to look forward to seeing something new from you. Take care.
I'm from an insanely commited *non* spiritual part of the world in EU and yes, even saying 'this is evil' will make most label you as a dogmatic simpleton. So much gaslighting and painful, dangerous confusion. You using true worlds like evil and demonic is likely what initially made me click on one of your videos. Not to be too flattering but you always have _so_ many insights of precise and deep truth, put into clearly understandable words, one hit after the other, for me like no other. 🎯 Thank you so much for putting your words out there into this strange world, so we can hear them. 🙏
Thank you, dear Paula, again for speaking on this demonic spirit. I stand in agreement with you, my dear. I also pray, in Jesus, mighty name that is demonic spirits are cast to the pits of hell, and never to read their heads…. for we do not fight against flesh, but dark principalities. God bless you from Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
❤ Hello Worthy People My sister and I had a raging alcoholic father and a covert narc mom. I managed to survive with my empathy intact, but she did not. Sadly, she’s become a malignant narcissist. I believe it’s because she could do no wrong. AND she made the conscious decision to twist all painful feelings into anger. She told me. She is also a criminal; embezzlement and attempted murder. All I can do is pray for her. 😢. They ruined my sweet little sister.
I'm extremely grateful that you discuss the evil of Narcissism; I've always felt they are evil because of their total barrenness of empathy, conscientiousness and integrity and it's wonderful to finally see someone address this. I've caught it in their eyes. I had a weird paranormal experience with my ex-husband's demon. I woke up from a dead sleep and caught him staring and smirking at me, the duper's delight. He looked like a dark haired man, sitting on a non-existent chair with knees crossed, arms and elbows on his knees leaning forward towards me, smoking a cigarette. He was grinning, like he knew a secret, that "I gotcha" look in his eyes. I saw that demon through my ex-husband's eyes at times. At the time, I had no idea what I saw. From my own experiences, all of the Narcs in my family and my ex-husband's family, are born Narcs. None of them had a traumatic childhood....it seems to be genetic in their cases anyway. I've disconnected from my family so I'm not sure about the 4th generation but I already had suspicions about particular children... On a side note, Remi must go for the most wonderful strolls before your videos because I can see the beautiful green leaves and blooms out your window. In my part of Canada, just a few fresh blades of grass are poking up and we're desperate to get on with Spring. Sending you a hug and Remi a kiss from a very grateful follower.
Early on in my relationship with the ex narc, I playfully told him he was the devil. It was meant to be a flirty communication- but he took it very badly. He grew angry and told me not to talk about the devil. He would also never allow any talk about death in any way.
Yes !... I knew it from early days but never believe it is demonic, never knew demons can exist in human that appears normal, .... but now the whole experience has taught me Soo much, .
This is a great podcast. I agree with every word of yours, this is how I experienced it. And yes, I saw it and new it instinctively, but as a healer and a light worker I thought that my light was needed in this dark place, that it was my assignment from God to help, heal this soul and bring it to the Light…
I was asleep beside her, and the demon showed itself to me in a vision . It was right over me looking at me. Thanks Paula, what you are saying is 100 percent correct.
Thank you so much for all your work Paula. Your advice is gold and you are helping so many people. I was with a narcissist for 37years and everything you said is true. He made me feel like I was the problem and he even used to say whenever we argued that "it's not a competition ". I didn't realise that I was competing and this always puzzled me. He made me feel combative and that it was a competition and I also realised that it was a projection from him because he was competing with me. I have learnt that I did always know that something was off about him but I dismissed my instincts and I thought it was me that was the problem and I took all the blame. This happened because I did have problems because of past childhood abuse, so I had very low self-esteem and no boundaries. I am learning all about self love now and realising that its not selfish to love yourself in the proper way. We all need to love and respect ourselves enough to listen to our own instincts when they tell us that something is wrong, we need to believe it and love ourselves and protect ourselves and stay far away from people that are not good for us. This is a precious gift from God to be your own best friend and keep yourself away from danger.
So good! Thank you. My ex husband became competitive with me as mother of new born TWINS. It was so disturbing and heartbreaking that he would emotionally terrorize me while trying to breastfeed and create a peaceful nest for our babies. Your analogy of the parasite harvesting energy is accurate. This man used be an incubator to harvest strong DNA and also lock me in as supply for many years. Sounds kooky but I believe it! Also, I think I hear Remy snoozing. So adorable. Calms my heart rate💝
I noticed it right away the first time that one of my neighbors was a narcissist; his behavior was abnormal, strange, full of hatred, lying, manipulative, as if he wanted to gain control of me. Since then I have treated him and his monkey wife the same way your dog on your sofa behaves: ignoring everything, showing disinterest, saying nothing, as if I don't see them. and and leave them alone with their evil. This has been the case since mid-January and this "Silence" helps very well and protects me.Thank you for this video.
I don’t go for PDA’s in this way but I feel compelled to thank you, Paula, for your brilliant, deep perspectives on narcissism. You have captured that most important ingredient of narcissism by adding the spiritual component. This is missed by all others I have viewed and really helped tie up the explanation of the soullessness, danger and destruction of these folks. Thinking dancing with a narcissist can just be an innocuous pastime was a grave mistake with dire consequences risking my own soul. Which I have done too many times because of not knowing what I was doing the tango with. Thank you for the transformative education you have offered to me that I have gratefully accepted. ❤
Please prayers for me and my situation I had two children by a narc for 8 yrs I went through the lows and highs constantly being ignorant that he was being influenced by dark forces finally got out after I was shot at but even 6 yrs later after I moved away got married graduated school became a data analyst and the Lord elevated me the narc found out where I stay and came and stole my car because it was in both of our names I am now moving again and going to court for a permanent restraining order and full custody for my children because I know that he won’t stop coming for me he even still has my photos on his Facebook
I am a survivor! The difficult lessons learned have made me a much stronger person, a much better partner, and while the lessons are painful, the freedom of truth are fantastic!
Great insight Paula. Like many of us, I knew there was something not right within the 'relationship'. Always felt an uneasy feeling around the Narc. The love bombing at the beginning blinds us to what we are really feeling. I think it's the emotional cruelty they inflict on us that is so difficult to understand. Consequently, the betrayal trauma we suffer is so hard to deal with. Truly demonic beings. Enjoy the walk with Remy. Thanks Paula x
My ex was diagnosed as narcissistic anti social, he told me that he knew the demon was there and he’d let it take over him, it felt really good to be abusive and he enjoyed it, he’d try to keep it at bay as much as possible, but he really enjoyed himself when he let it out and he said it took over, but he let it, so I do think they work together in a way
What psychology calls " malignant" scripture says, God has seared their conscience and turned them over to a reprobate mind after they rejected Him ( choosing their pride and wickedness) too many times.
Oh my 😳😳 I don't want to believe it but deep down, and after bitter experience, I know what you say is true 💯. May God safeguard us from their presence and their abuse now and forever more.
I believe it, I actually do think these dark triad folk actually talk to the demons. They're tormented 24/7 by the demons voices in their heads. My theory is if they lash out, they feel better because the demon rewards them for doing so and the voices stop temporarily. Once the demon is not satisfied again, the voices come back. Then the cycle continues. Thats just my theory though.
@@jenbodhi1133 yep its as if the demons speak to them nonstop, constantly telling them all of their insecurities. Thats why they push their insecurities, and guilt onto you. I couldn't imagine living with that, its their own personal hell on earth. And the devil knows all your insecurities so the demons know exactly how to torment them.
You have NAILED this !!! Yes . I knew something was “ different” right away .. but it was disguised . This piece you have done here is such important reality . 11 years later i experienced it has not changed with him but gotten deeper and more unhidden and off rails of rationality .
I have just discovered your content and feel so blessed to find someone connecting recovery from Narc abuse and the spiritual path; we are being led to better things and our suffering was not in vain. Thank you - please keep doing what you do :)
Malignant and hateful narcissists are real joy busters. Your joy is their misery and your misery is their joy.
You are so right. What they tell everyone you did to them, is actually what they did to you. What they say all they did for you - is what you did for them. You are left standing there scratching your head. Thanks for your comment!
Well said
It’s like the age old saying:
“misery loves company“
Now when I read this comment outright, I wonder just how messed up these twisted minds are.
@@kerrytaggart8206 NARCs are extremely confusing until you get beyond them and into recovery and begin listening to others like Paula. Once we all come together, our combined terrible experiences all make sense.
Yes, it is actually a demon. You can actually see the devil in their eyes.
Not true. Just a predatory human. Don't be a sheep
I sure saw it and it's dark black eyes.
I saw it so often in those flat reptilian eyes
Exactly I can see it sometimes too his eyes get very dark
I just did few hours ago and it is sad my adult son ! Scared at this point all his anger escalated
My biggest mistake in my marriage of 25 years was I didn't listen to my gut. I felt like the life was slowly being sucked out of me. I convinced myself that I was just too sensitive and I needed to toughened up. He was so good at killing my soul and never gave a damn. I am so happy this life sentence is over. I am so content and happy now. 😊
I know the feeling death of a 1000 little cuts & jabs verbally emotionally and we just kept denying it, but felt it.😢
It is sort of like a prison sentence 🤔 I've seen in different YT videos, that prisons are full of dark triad folks. Not surprising
Nice way to say it, life sentence 💯
Hip Hip Hooray
By the body n blood of Jesus Christ 🙏 I pray that all narcissistic souls be healed n delivered immediately. 🙏 thank u Lord Jesus Christ gif answered 🙌 🙏 prayers 🙏 Amen 🙏
Exactly! People say narcissists are inmature toddlers, but kids are not so sadistic and cruel. None of child has such disgusting energy. Great video❤
Currently divorcing a covert narcissist after 33 years. I knew something was off but didn't understand what was happening. He hated to see me excited or enthusiastic about anything, it triggered negative comments from him. He had a habit of giving reasons why something wouldn't work and came up with the wildest scenarios. He was triggered by my happiness as if there was something wrong with being happy.
We need to rebuke these narc demons in Jesus name.
👍
Amen
Amen
Amen
Amen
He walked out after a narcissistic rage. That night in my sleep I wrestled with a palpable demon speaking in an otherworldly language. It scared me so much I woke up calling out to God to save me from it. That demon never came back. I never let the narcissist return.
Great insight. My nightmares all involve my abuser laughing at me, smiling at my failings. After nearly destroying me, he haunts me in my dreams. He is pure evil and I am lucky to be free, alive, and light.
I get free from boundage after I gave my life to Jesus and born again.
And yes, there IS a strong demonic backround behind such a person.
Just now, after years I found out it was a narcisist.
I realy felt I am facing the devil himself.
But Jesus saved me.
I once had this same dream the narc laughing at me wow
It seemed too good to be true. Love bombing. At a time I was healing from a painful divorce. He swooped in like a caring, supportive person. But all along subtly sprinkling criticism and blame on my decisions. He told me not to let myself be treated badly by anyone else again. And yet, and yet, and yet….. he was the most evil, cruel, underhanded liar I’ve had the misfortune to live with. I banished him forever without regret. Evil be gone!!!
Yes. Your nightmares are similar to my own. How they get enjoyment out of crushing others...is so bizarre. Don't feel alone. We are so blessed to be away from the NARCS!
@@delemaniar9816
We can't even escape them in our dreams or in our times of rest and repose.. They invade our thoughts also. It's absolutely evil from the pit of hell..
But we can overcome it!
🍃🌸🍃
No empathy, regard, remorse, moral compass or conscience is a very dangerous thing!
It's not that we weren't listening to our gut or our intuition. It's more that we lacked spiritual discernment.
When you're not a person that is disceptive and manipulative you're certainly not going to conceive the person proffessing and acting like they love you is playing you because that's not natural. Your brain, like a computer, can't reconcile that because it doesn't have that stored information to draw from.
God was speaking to our spirits and we put the narcissist above God. He allows it so we learn to follow Him and hear His voice above man.
Narcissistic abuse serves a higher purpose. It lends us the opportunity for a spiritual awakening. We experience evil face to face and we need God to heal us and make us whole again. Our heavenly Father loves us with an agape love that no man can satisfy or give us. It's supernatural and divine.
We were seeking love through man and the world and a carnal mind.
Without God and putting the Kingdom first and His will first in our lives we will be afflicted by narcissists. That's their job! That's their assignment here, to destroy God's creation. The physical world is narcissistic. It's Satan's kingdom. Satan is the king of the airwaves( communication/ false narratives/ deception)
We will absolutely be fooled and be tricked if you think you can detect a higher demonic intelligence on your own, and God will continue to allow it for your greater good until you submit to Him so he can direct you to godly people.
When you believe you can do it of your own strength in a wicked world then you're making yourself your own god just as the narcissist does.
Seek first the kingdom and all else will be added!
GBY
So well said 🙏🏽🙏🏽🤍💪🏽🕊
💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you for writing this out here ❤
Amen! 🙏🏽
❤❤
Since I no longer sleep in the same room as my husband, I no longer have scary dreams or have to cast demons out of my bedroom because he brought these demons home from places he should have never been.
Once after sex with him I felt an energy came into me, as avchristian I knew that it was a transfer of demons. I cried so much, and begged Jesus tonhelp me. I went to church and that demon was cast out of me, that was my last time with him. That proved to me that they are devils, I thank God He deliverd me. Never again thank you Jesus
Omg I had this happen aswell I felt possessed I felt what was in him it was horrible
I also felt he had put black magic on me wanting me dead, I felt under his control
@okiedokie4358 yep, they don't have to be in black magic, or any thing ocuitic, for there to be transferring of spirits. The demon in them them just wants to destroy us. The bible says satan come kill steal and destroy. Its all demonic, but Christ deliverd me. Bless you
Women need to guard themselves. Energy/spirits can definitely be transferred through sexual activity and that is why I have been celibate for 13 years.
@@susandemille2520and men for that matter!
I had gut feelings from the very beginning and swept them under the rug. I often questioned that maybe it was me. Moving forward, I will NEVER ignore my gut, even if it may be wrong. I don’t care. Also, I will NEVER allow myself to be treated that way again from anyone! I am now very much in touch with my inner b*tch. She is my friend and will protect me. Also, I don’t need to be loved bombed, I don’t need to be flattered. I know who I am and I’m comfortable in my own skin now.
I had those gut feelings too, but pushed them aside. Never again.
The time is now❤Thanks so much Sis❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉Love you and stay beautiful❤
Amen!
Same !!! Last time aswell. I'll never ignore them. I'm suspecting strongly I have someone I have to interact with who has more than 'a little something going on'. I'm not wasting time wondering if I've got it right because my past lessons tell me I was on track each time previously. Just didn't listen because that love bombing can be so intoxicating and happen so fast, even when you know its actually a warning sign
There is a point where CHOICE is envolved with the narcissist , just as it is our CHOICE to stay in the LIGHT. I have developed into a Resìster to the narcissist's. They KNOW that YOU KNOW who they are.....GAME OVER PERIOD. I've experienced the one-eyed Jack.They TRY to destroy you in so many underhanded ways.
They are fuming mad that you KNOW how to expose them and are ON to their CYCLES of Abuse.
NO WAY.......JUST NO.
STAY IN THE LIGHT. They always destroy themselves, I Chose with GOD'S WISDOM & STRENGTH WATCH IT HAPPEN. THEY CHOSE to stay in the dark!!!
Thank YOU PAULA for the knowledge of narc.exposure. 🎉🎉🎉
Ephesians 6:12 NLT
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
Exactly! ☮️❤️ Thank you!
EXACTLY
And the Bible also says that satan and his demons were put or cast out of the heavens to the vicinity of the earth. They are busy destroying while they have the time here that they have. Soon God will destroy them and their followers. In the Bible, demons were expelled out of people. I think some people have bad tendencies and the demons are attracted to them and become involved in their lives and cause them to harm others. I experienced my husband turning very bad…..i divorced him because it was all way to creepy and I wanted nothing to do with it or him.
AMEN 🙏🏽
Amen
You are 100 percent correct. You know for sure when you SEE the demon in them
Yes, we can detect the subtle (or not so subtle) "offness" in their demeanor (or, should that be "demoner" in their case) when it manifests in front of us
It’s the same demon as well, I grew up with it and literally every relationship I’ve had has been with one, I just don’t date anymore, I’m happy single.
But it’s the SAME demon in every single one
I think they body jump in families. As it gets older it starts on a child and then takes over when the host dies. They are Satan soldiers so they have the same training.
Walk slow and keep looking for them. Now they walk up on you quietly. They start vibrating as they are lying and manipulating. Go slow you can see them. It's us against them now.
s@jenbodhi1133
@jenbodhi1133 I'm like you, i was raised by the most diabolical one I've met....my mother. I learned trauma bonding early; most all my long term relationships were with Narcs, im 47..
Its not bad being single...after 5 years i met someone. Hes kind, honest..not perfect but definitely a real man. Not abusive, a good friend. 💜 but talk about a small circle..😂
@@Lena-so2lq oh I’m so glad to hear that for you! I’m 41 and I think I’m not interested in relationships anymore, I own a business and I’m happily growing that and hoping to retire early and spend some time in Africa, I just keep to myself because every person I meet seems to be a narcissist lol.
I wish you the best!
I actually described it as head to toe Leeches, for 20 years - parasitic .....predatory - I was anesthetized, and depleted via their feeding....until I became very sick....and then got served divorce papers. but.....with the help of Podcasts, you tube channels, and therapy....two years, later.... amidst scar tissue......I am myself! Thank you Paula!
Sounds similar to my life. Sending LOVE to you and all out there in these 🤬 situations. I'm Thankful you are back to yourself.
Dear Janine
Love your comment as sad as it is it is full of inner light! Tx for sharing this. This scars carry them as a branding of you own love that heals the bloody wounds of the dark ones. Hands up for your surviving!!! 🎉
Well done
You are a survivor of demonic abuse. Your a warrior!! 💚💚
Yessss! Good for you
I came back to this video today because I wanted to share something that listening to this brought to light. In 2015 he had a meeting at the table with a group of flying monkeys telling them how horrible I was that I was never going to stop drinking. He told them I was a lost cause. I then took his words internally and walked as fast as I could to the bridge downtown. He made me think I was a demon and that there was nothing else left for me. He then realized that I had left the house away from him and the flying monkeys and headed towards the bridge. Of course the flying monkeys scatted and went to their houses. It was me staring down at the river while he became a real person again. He then yelled out a blanket statement that he was sorry for everything and to please don't jump. He told me that if I needed to leave him I seriously could. He told me that he could not swim and that he would also kill himself trying to save me. It took a moment and I finally realized that my life was worth more. I was talked away from the bridge and he drove me home. Immediately after that, he began to tell me that he doesn't know if I'm stable enough for the marriage. It was so confusing. What was so crazy is that I actually stopped drinking two years after and he was the number one person against my sobriety. I didn't understand it and I finally got the answer I was looking for with dr. Ramani. It all became clear and now here it is 2024. I'm still alive and listening to narc con. What a blessing!
It is frightening to look evil in the eye and to realize that evil exists in people to this extent. For people who always try to see the good in people, even though they are evil, it makes it difficult. Only God can free these people - but the person must also be willing and want to recognize and get rid of the monster in Him.
They can wait years like shingles ready to strike when you are low. I'm single at 55 and FREE to SCARED 😳 to even think about letting someone in my life.
I'm with you on being with someone. After 16 years I just want to have my space and freedom. I miss GOOD sex and good company but I don't want to start sorting thru the rubbish
Fear not
I agree 💯 with everyone's assessment here....
Thank you, Paula. You are such a blessing.
I fully understand where you are coming from. Live freely and luv who you are. Look in the mirror each day and tell yourself what a beautiful creation you are and smile and begin your day on a happy positive note! You are worth it!!
It's so important I stay plugged into narc con videos, 12 step recovery programs, God and myself with staying zero contact in order to heal continually
🙏🌹
I knew. I didn’t have a word for it. I can never unsee it now! I always said “maybe it’s me” and believed it. 38 years I loved him. 32 years married. Thank you Paula. Thank you Remi for the background entertainment ❤ it always makes me smile.
They hate the term demon because it is the truth and this world hates to be confronted by truth.
Keep speaking truth.
Now that I’ve healed, I’ve noticed when I would get around one, I seemed to feel off balance and talk alot and feel stupid.. now that I’m healed, I feel keenly in touch with my dislike of them, don’t care what they think, I’m now calm and short with them.. I’ve noticed I go out of my way a bit to NOT give them what I know they want.. adoration etc… sort of have a chuckle to myself, since I KNOW the things that disturb them… lol.. I KNOW two wrongs don’t make a right, but I seem to humor myself with it..
God bless everyone dealing with this nightmare.. you will heal.. you WILL get to the other side and life will be beautiful again.. I’ve survived a lifetime of these people!
This community is AMAZING loving people ❤
I too smile to myself When I deliberately don't give them what they crave it's empowering ❤❤❤
i also chuckle to myself since i have healed and got the education. I tap into the community to remind myself i am sane again.
i resonate wholly with your comment especially when you said you would talk alot sensing his silence and feel stupid.
i had the vile discard
Thank God its over now 🙏
"They feed us, to grow into something they can feed off"🤯 No truer statement!✔️🎯
So true!!
I am so broken, shattered, 20 years of betrayal, and actually believing it was my fault, 20 year of my life and no clue if any of it was real
Same for me Heather , 20yrs and all my fault
Same here. ❤❤
Praying for your healing journey
You know now and will HEAL
Your on your journey to happiness ❤🎉🎉❤
It was a competition brushing our teeth.
I get this. In my relationship, it was a competition who could pull their phone out and find a restaurant- or directions or whatever. Also, when traveling, he played a game- who could notice the most. (Who was most perceptive.) so many competitions I always lost.
It took me awhile to know something was wrong as I vulnerable at the time, but once I got strong and God started to show me the devil in him I was like Satan be gone in Jesus name😂😂😂
OMG. You reminded me of when I was out with the Ex-Narc a person was telling a story very emotionally sad. The Narc was laughing. I gently said oh honey don't laugh they're really hurt. He turned to me with the most horrific look on his face and said " what the F did you say". I was so shocked even frightened I just sunk into my seat. That's when I should have followed my gut..knowing something was wrong BUT again never been with anyone TOXIC. I couldn't believe what I saw/heard.
I see many times the switch from evil to me and super nice in the next minute to the one he (my son ) wants to impress, it’s scary to me now at this point
@@phoenixd9679 I once said to my narc that if X could see how he treated and spoke to me in our house, that X would never allow him in their home again.
To have a personality in private ( i.e. nuclear family) that is so different from the facade they portray in public is sheer psychopathy, especially when it's extreme.
Living with one .older he gets the worst he gets .I stay away from him .he hardly talks to me .he watches every thing I do and loves to pull me up on yes dishwasher. He rearranges it after I have filled it .garbage anything that in a normal day I do notice it since he retired. Also research s everything I happen to mention about a newspaper or news content that's in the news .double checks everything I say or do .and yes in a heated argument his eyes bulge and turn black .sometimes I like to leave .we don't sleep together. His health is not that great on a lot off pills .some days he can be Mr Charming .he has no friends .and doesn't bother that much with his family.
Omg I had a very similar experience except I was telling a story of a time that I was being bullied by a narcissist co worker and my narcissist ex began laughing at my painful experience. I know it sounds silly here but it actually was very cruel what the co worker was doing. I never experienced that type of bullying in high school. Him laughing at my pain, was strange and I should have known then.
Reactive abuse is so difficult. Thank God I'm not a narcissist. I can't imagine doing these things to another individual. Ruminating is difficult
Anyone else notice that the NARCS love to watch videos online of people falling, and slipping, and having bricks fall on their heads, and getting in car crashes? Nothing makes them laugh more than seeing other people hurt...if you see this kind of "humor" in your NARC - know you better begin planning your escape. I just escaped an entire NARC family that were all like this. I had no idea what I was surrounded with until educators like Paula began showing me the truth. Thank you Paula.
Napoleon Hill recounts his famous interview with the devil. Whether he actually spoke to the devil or not is up for debate, what the devil had to say, however, is not. Are you a drifter?
That laughter makes me cringe
Yes! I always thought that was weird. Narc would split a gut laughing and I would stare at him, bewildered at what was so funny.
AFV. I watched that one time with my nark family, and I noticed they didn’t wince, cover their mouth in shock, say omg and then laugh. There was just glee.
This is so true! He loved watching people fall, trip, bike crashes, etc. I hated that stuff.
Paula ❤ You are definitely on to something. Most "experts" in this field will shy away from this because most don't want to believe that the devil is real and he is active. He always has been. The narcissist is an easy vessel for the devil to enter into. We need to pray for them. 🙏🏽
Genesis 3:1 Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
2 Corinthians 11:14 And no marvel; for even Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.
Luke 22:3 Then entered Satan into Judas surnamed Iscariot...
Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
God's Word has all these answers. The Bible has helped me heal in many ways.🙏🏽📖❤️
1 Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
Much love to you, Paula and Remy ❤🐾
@@HeatherMarieeei love all of these verses. Your's is one of my favorite.
@@Lena-so2lq 🙏🏽❤️📖
These type of individuals (and their demons) cause so much harm to their unsuspecting victims, and the time it takes to recover is proof thereof. It's an emotional hurt like no other.
It's a spiritual illness they leave you with like you're slowly being poisoned with drops of evil.
They break your spirit and pull you out of your natural essence and integrity.
Raised by narcissists. Such degradation. Mother left for neighbor and never said why. They destroyed a part of me. It's different and harder when your born into it. U rock
One was most likely destroyed by the narcissist.
Don't forget how we show up after such damage.
My mother wrecked my empathic father and framed him as the problem 24/7 all my siblings (5) turned from him, after the divorce, except me. I had a lifelong normal healthy relationship with him behind my family. It was the only way I could have a relationship with my own parent without it being used as a tool of torture.
There's no supply for a narcissist from another narcissist.
They need to drain your power because they have none. They need a battery to plug into like when you charge your phone....
GBY
My narcissistic mother told me on a regular basis that there was something wrong with me! That was always very sweet and giving and I think it was a protective tactic. I was warning so that she wouldn’t hit me like she used to hit my sister.! Unfortunately they set me up for a number of narcissistic relationships, romantical and otherwise throughout my life and I wound up marrying my husband who was a narcissist! my father was very sensitive and he wound up killing himself just to get away from my mother and I can see that they leave you totally devastated, but I’m recouping my energy but at the end of it there was times I felt like I don’t wanna be on this planet anymore! it’s the grace of God and I got through this. And I would say no weapon formed against me shall prosper, I could do all things through through Christ to strengthen me, I am divinely guided and protected, I walked through the valley of death. I have no fear. God is good. This experience cannot help, but put you in the third version of yourself that is more wise that I have to say for sure and God uses all things for the greater good of everybody concerned in the end. Thank you for addressing what people will not that these are principalities that are against us. They want us off our purpose and distract us.
I think I knew that there was something wrong with this person, but I think I was so starred for love and affection that the love bomb totally intoxicated me, and I like you said the snake charmer hypnotized me and led me to sleep to a full sense of security! Then he knew there was no escaping, and the Jekyll and Hyde came into place! I think part of the lesson with these people is that we have to have self-love because if we don’t have self-love just like the narcissist, how can we love anybody else? I’m 60 And working on self love and boundaries and it starting to come more naturally because I know I need to protect myself myself. You can’t just let anything in or else you’re gonna get destroyed.! You have to think of yourself to these people at bay! I’m perfectly fine being alone! And I’m never alone because God is always with me
@mariedeflon
Scripture teaches us; “you are fearfully and wonderfully made.”
That means you Marie.
“We are made in the image of God.”
Therefore, you are light and love. Someone reminded me of that years ago, and I’ve never forgotten it. Stick that in your brain and keep it there… Blessings to you…
🫂💕🫂
I was trying to share an intimate moment with the ex narc in a bath tub one evening and he made a strange comment to me said he was just joking. He told me you're like a frog that's being boiled alive slowly. At the time I thought what an odd thing to come out with but in hindsight I had alarm bells going off inside. They can say sinister things like this and say it was a joke but it's really the truth disguised as a joke. I was scared to live on my own and scared of letting go of financial security but it comes down to either staying alive and saving your soul or hanging on to the bitter end when they completely anhialate you or bring you down so much that you want to destroy yourself and commit suicide. If you've been taken histage by one of these demons get out now while you’re still alive, the longer you stay in it the worse it gets. If you have managed to escape for Gods sake go no contact and block them on everything don't fall for them hovering you, they will promise to change even apologise with and beg with crocodile tears but don't fall for it stay strong and keep letting go and keep moving forward. Don't underestimate the lengths they will go to hover you they are master manipulators. Cut them and any flying monkeys they send your way out of your life. Put yourself first because you deserve better, you deserve the best.
Less is more
If your not healthy these people will appear lovely. When you learn and when you overcome your own demons you can see these lovely people for who they really are. You see they mingle and intertwine with our own personality and trauma to over power and destroy us bc they are a parasite and need another human....the other human will not fair well. During this, you think your living the high life. They take their time and you can be fooled for decades and even die without having a joyful relationship in your life. They live to steal your time your life through future faking to keep you hanging on. Your just playing a role or position in their lives. They dont care about you but they dont want to give you up either....even though they could find a new supply it is a lot of work and fear for them so they prefer to keep you and will only completely take the new supply if forced. If you have a lot of bickering, arguing, hurt, mistrust....your with a narcissist...research it. Your mistrust is not from your abusive past. It is bc they have learned about your past and plays on those insecurities to keep you thinking all the problems are bc of you and keep you trying and trying...while they have a whole other life that does not include you.
spot on - God Bless !
Well said. 💯 agree 👍
From day 1 they're expecting you to leave them and therefore plotting your demise. They operate from I'll get you before you get me.
Making a healthy soup (trying to clean up my eating habits) and listening to Paula on this topic. A good way to spend my afternoon. Tick ✅
Self care nice
@@atirliag2833Certainly working on it.🙂
Good idea. 😊
Thank you Nicole for your support and I hope the soup was delicious 🌹
@NarcCon Thanks Paula it was nice with Sourdough bread.
THIS SOUNDS LIKE A HORRER FLIM BUT SADLY SO TRUE
If the devil can't destroy you. The devil sends the narcissist to do their bidding...😈👿🤬
Right! They're being used. They send flying monkeys to afflict us but they are Satan's flying monkeys. So while they laugh at our pain Satan's laughing at them.
And God laughs at them all under His footstool.
Narcissist are his children!
Wow! That just sent chills
I always thought something wasn’t right, but then I thought it was because of the addictions until one day I typed in RUclips toxic relationships and came up with covert narcissism. Then I saw all the narcissism with the people in my life. Praise the Lord these videos were on RUclips, and I also think the Lord I came across you, dear Paula. God bless you and dear Remi.
From JANESVILLE, WI
I was shocked at first. 8 years since i found Sam Vaknin and discovered all these channels. We are not alone!! 💜🌹
Couldn't agree with you more! Paula is a GEM, Remi is a dear and all of us warriors need to educate ourselves concerning the evil damage these narc monsters can cause. From BELOIT WI! :) God Bless...
@@yhwhzmyking.4243 God bless you BELOIT Wisconsin. Wow I go there at least once a week. Only like 17 miles from me. God bless you and your loved ones and thank you for commenting.
From JANESVILLE, WI
Mine was in Pewaukee, WI... 🤔 We should start a group!
@@Laura-qr1ml smiles….. I have been there, so so many times and I still go to that area. It would be so fun to get together…… God bless you and I pray Psalms 91 over you and your loved ones.
From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
I think the movies are partly to blame when we overlook the strangeness of the sudden love bombing. We may feel like "finally, it's happened to me and I deserve it" etc. etc. and reason to ourselves that sometimes it does happen like that in real life, so why not this time... and then we don't take a critical enough look at THIS person and their intentions.
Agreed. We also act like unconditional love is the norm. While some receive unconditional love, many do not. Some people are literally starved of love so when a narc targets someone, it's relatively easy if that person is love starved and has low self esteem.
I felt like that when my narc ex gf and I got together. “Finally, after all this time…….could she be my one?” No.
By design.
Satan is the king of the airwaves.
It's all programming just like the narc does....
Hollywood is very dark. Now that I see it as programming - I can't watch many movies now. The breaking up of families, enticing people into thinking money=happiness. My narc loved movies. Loved the fairytale of everything satan likes to offer. You sell your soul to become like the stars in these movies.
@@wendynash2587 This is a great insight. Once I learned what Hollywood was about, I stopped watching movies and I don't have a TV. It's an easy way that people are programmed. I'm not surprised your narc loved movies. The music industry is the same way, in my opinion.
I believe there is a spiritual component. Your predator in the wilderness analogy reminds me of 1 Peter 5:8-10:
Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.
That dogs is so cute it makes me feel so much better
My first interactions with my sister in law before my brother married her was so disturbing I couldn't sleep for 5 days, and at one point every time I closed my eyes I would see disturbing close up images of twitchy parasites. I tried for years to try to think the best of her, but could always see this vicious and mean side, even when she was being nice. This was a really big challenge in my family. We are Christian, and sister in law is also a professed Christian. For the first several years, her FOG manipulation would make me feel like a deer in the headlights. Like what you were saying, I often questioned myself. She was so sure and persistent with her accusations against me that I often went into a spiral of self doubt. I was wired to always defer to the opinions of others. And everyone else in the family rolled over to appease her to keep the peace. I have been NC for 5 years now. Going NC was very liberating. I feel like it strengthened my relationship with God, because I was no longer investing so much of my time into stressing out about her. Also, I recently found out that she is bipolar, and she recently had a trip to the mental hospital. I had heard that NPD/BPD just gets worse over time. I mean, you're dealing with someone who is already very disconnected from reality. And they have a lot of aggressive tendency. She gets a sense of satisfaction from intimidating and raging at others. It makes her feel superior. If someone stays in that pattern of disconnect from reality and finding pleasure in raging at others, that only goes in one direction.
@Kmathis2352
I am currently watching the spiral happen right before my eyes. My ex narc is literally losing his mind. Nothing I would’ve ever wanted for him, but he destroyed our marriage, by the horrible decisions he made for himself, that affected me. Now it’s backfired on him and he’s spiraling, mentally and financially. I feel sorry for him, compassionate, but not enough to stay with him, after so much betrayal.
God is my strength. He has kept me sane and never left me during all of this. I’m grateful.
In the beginning the love bombing was even abnormal
My gut was feeling that it was abnormal
Same!!
Run
@@MarjyGTVbecause no one loves early in a relationship. They are up to something
@@luvyatubers you are exactly right
Have you all heard this one
“You are everything I have searched the world over for “
Once you realise you actually WERE RIGHT all along , leaving can be quite a simple and relatively easy step , the biggest leap is rediscovering yourself and your place in the world ! The recovery is full of ups and downs , three steps forward and two steps back , but every step is closer to being fully healed ! Even after two years I was recently caught off guard when I suffered a challenging setback , it shook me to the core , but I managed to get back on track ! The important thing is that you stay calm and keep focussed on the end goal , a stronger and wiser and better version OF YOU ! ❤
Well Paula, once again you've nailed it. Since becoming a Christian and asking God for knowledge and discernment daily, I've noticed the demonic influence in my fathers eyes. I've even told him that satan was working through him. It threw him back but then the demon gained a stronghold. I pray for him but just can't be near him anymore. The last time I visited him, he was so destructive to my core being. It took me a month to get back to a peaceful state.
I’m under a narcissist whom I had to return an engagement ring. I found that I have to attend my church twice daily and it has helped a lot. I also have dogs now to get busy. However he still attacks especially gaslighting but now I tell him what he is doing. He loves to watch ID and laugh at my neighbors issues. He even asked the neighbors husband to come stay with us for 1 week and he pulled a list of 13 things he hates about me
I totally get what you're sharing. I have very similar experience with my father. It took a long time for me to realize what I needed to do was to separate myself for however long to heal and strengthen again. May God bless you. May you find peace in the Lord Jesus. 🙏🕊💗🙏
The eyes change color. From amber to dark brown almost black. When the eyes turn dark they say things that stem from hatred and jealousy.
It's envy which is hate.
Demons hate everything God created. They hate love.
They're just doing their job steal, kill and destroy.
I saw it😮
very true
When my ASPD (undiagnosed but I can’t see it could be anything else) older sister was born, apparently the nurse commented on her eyes (ok, always a shade of brown) as “deep, dark pools”. Those eyes were BLACK during the final discard (and I’m sure during all the abuse throughout the years) - I have it on video. I would say she came into the world angry and sociopathic.
I witnessed this happen when I was a teen. I called it shark eyes then. Now I know what I was seeing.
Yes, I did know something was wrong, but I wanted to trust him. I ignored the red flags. I ignored the knowing because as you said they make you feel so special.
Yes, Paula, I knew all along, but I questioned myself.
The Ex narc I was with is a warlock as well. They do spell work on us. Protect yourself beloveds❤
yea i did a video on that. full on warlocks. full of malintent. awful
@@FindYourFree okay, I'll check it out. Thank you 💗
My second narcissistic partner, hopefully the last one, used to cast curses on people and often bragged about how he knew all kinds of curses and how effective they were. Once, I even recorded him on video lighting a candle, salting it, and casting different curses on people. It was terrifying.
He was laughing during the casting.
Maybe he thought he was funny 😢
I knew something was horribly evil with her 😢 and there's a child involve ,my beautiful princess But God is the one i trust for to keep n protect my little princess from that evilness
🤞🏾⏳🙏🏾
I am in a relationship. I stambled on this channel some 6 weeks ago. I got struck after watching one of your videos. I need HELP. I live in Zambia and in africa there is no awareness of this but its real. I cannot believe what i have been through for 13yrs, the issue of red flags can only say sorry to myself for looking the other way. I am so grateful that now i Know..
Yes, so so true they can play good side even for a while and then boom they stripped the rug from under your feet.
This is why we have to become emotionally sober. When you are thinking clearly you can feel this energy instantaneously. I can remember saying to him at one point “you have the same energy as your son” (who I knew first - long story) and he said “yeah but I use it for the good” - when I think about that now it literally makes me sick. He was trying to imply his own child (who he was very likely abusing) was bad somehow .. but it certainly had nothing to do with his saintly self .. it is just so utterly twisted; but yeah trust it when you feel that energy and run for your life. I know for a fact not everyone made it out of this person’s orbit alive.
My 42 yr old daughter was killed by her narcissist boyfriend after five yr relationship. She has now been gone 6 months and our entire family is completely devastated....especially me as her mother.
@@Cherps91 Oh my gosh. That is absolutely terrible. I am so sorry.
"Emotionally sober" ~ That's a great description and exactly what is needed.
They know they are demons, but they think they are good people who work for the good Lord God
@@saluma1447 + they think they are God ...
If it seems archaic to some, then consider this: Could it be that it is, indeed, an ancient evil? Something that has been not only surviving, but actually thriving, expanding, and evolving in recent times. But now, in today’s times, all of this is coming into The Light. Heaven’s Fire is burning bright and is being carried by many more people. Times are changing. May God bless you Paula, protect you, and empower you as you continue to shine the light.
When speaking about the evil entity; “when you’ve seen it you know it’s there”.
This is so true. The evil spirit shows itself eventually. You will know, because you can’t believe what you’re seeing, and wondering… Who is this person?
When this was mentioned in the video, it literally made my skin crawl and gave me the chills all over again.
These spirits do exist, even though I never really believed that someone I loved could embody this kind of evil cruel spirit… 💔
Yes I knew, but egnored it, and I suffered ,unbelievable, imbarisment, in ever part of my life, and the pain I still feel is terrible, irs the way,they make you feel, and then slowly, take your life apart, until you have no control, your just there, just barely existing, used and abused at will. A living nightmare.
My mother warned me not to marry him but I didn't listen.
25years later I realized that I married a covert narcissist.
When I walked away from the marriage 5years ago, it broke not only my heart but the hearts of my 2 wonderful children, but he couldn't care less.
When he didn't want to work on the marriage and blamed me for everything that was wrong, not taking any responsibility for his actions I knew that this man didn't love me.
What hurt the most is that I was not worth fighting for!!!😢😢😢😢
My situation is exactly the same.
Same here
"seeing a Nar going into action and coming into somebody else, it's amazing what you see!"
You are absolutely right!!!
delivery ministry has literally saved me
That intense focus the narc gives you in the beginning is really a spiritual feeding of your soul. They get their fill and vomit you in the devalue stage.
I knew it was too good to be true. . . I was caregiving for my mom and stressed out and the attention and distraction was wonderful . . .I got swept up. . . but as it went on I couldn't understand why he'd be flirting with baristas, waitresses, still keeping in contact with old girlfriends all in front of me . . . all very confusing. For a time I thought "am I was overreacting?". . .and actually questioning my emotions! After asking God for wisdom and discernment, I finally figured out I wasn't jealous, but rather my disgust in his disrespect for me. I told him that and he just smirked at me. thank God for internet where we all have gone searching for clarity and found channels such as yours. Once again Remmy is a scene stealer. . . such a good boy!
Thank you for this Video. To be aware of dark entities is heavy, but real. We've got to be brave for this.
They have been terribly spoiled as children in some wealthy families therefore have NO boundaries.
I agree that they make you tingle like you have been electrified.
Their evil tactics are insurmountable!!
Huge insight. Thank you. Divorced and left the passive aggressive covert narc ex romance June 2017. He was a lay minister in the church. Hah
With your help and learning and reading and listening I am almost able to see the narc before any damage is done. I feel them. It's ghastly
I believe they are demonic. Their influence on others is horrendous
Thank you for your input
Even in the garden of Eden the snake was gaslighting Eve. 'Are you sure you were told you couldnt eat that fruit' . Then when Jesus went up into the mountains to fast and pray, the devil was there. Trying to take dominion by his taunts and attempts at control. Each time Jesus would respond by 'it is written' and tell the devil basically to get lost ! ' if you are the son of God throw yourself off these mountains ' etc. He didnt win. On any occasion. We have to stay firm in our confidence of who is in control as believers, and for non believers its important to be aware of the spiritual realm.
Needed that reminder ❤
Amen thank you Jesus.
That's the beginning of "Narcissism " when sin entered the world.
The serpent gaslit Eve. He convinced her she could have the same power and knowledge as God.
Just as the narc feign power and knowledge.
What did Eve do when she felt shame? she saw that she was naked and covered herself.... just as the narc feels shame and covers himself with a mask.
That's the beginning of "Narcissism " when sin entered the world.
The serpent gaslit Eve. He convinced her she could have the same power and knowledge as God.
Just as the narc feign power and knowledge.
What did Eve do when she felt shame? she saw that she was naked and covered herself.... just as the narc feels shame and covers himself with a mask.
I saw the demons in her eyes. People might think I'm crazy for saying this. But I saw them and can't unsee them. So I've stayed away. I've just stayed away.
My ex's demon showed himself to me...
Light always wins over the dark : the enemy comes to steal , kill , and destroy
so Narcissist came barreling into my life - quickly recognized what i was dealing with (was married to one - broke free with the help of God) new Narcissist pumped me with electric energy (as Paula describes) again, started earnest pray - broke free -BUT moving forward by the grace of God - have all this energy - like a quirky wonderful gift -
Red flags were all there! I ignored them all, thinking it was just a quirky moment!
But knew deep down all was not well with this person!
May this bad encounter diminish from my thought process completely.
So true Paula! Thank God I found your website. I have been listening to you for a year now, and I am finally free from the narcissist. It took moving to a different state to escape. Your words are very important, and I continue to look forward to seeing something new from you. Take care.
I'm from an insanely commited *non* spiritual part of the world in EU and yes, even saying 'this is evil' will make most label you as a dogmatic simpleton. So much gaslighting and painful, dangerous confusion.
You using true worlds like evil and demonic is likely what initially made me click on one of your videos. Not to be too flattering but you always have _so_ many insights of precise and deep truth, put into clearly understandable words, one hit after the other, for me like no other. 🎯 Thank you so much for putting your words out there into this strange world, so we can hear them. 🙏
Thank you, dear Paula, again for speaking on this demonic spirit. I stand in agreement with you, my dear.
I also pray, in Jesus, mighty name that is demonic spirits are cast to the pits of hell, and never to read their heads…. for we do not fight against flesh, but dark principalities.
God bless you from Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
❤ Hello Worthy People
My sister and I had a raging alcoholic father and a covert narc mom.
I managed to survive with my empathy intact, but she did not. Sadly, she’s become a malignant narcissist. I believe it’s because she could do no wrong. AND she made the conscious decision to twist all painful feelings into anger. She told me. She is also a criminal; embezzlement and attempted murder. All I can do is pray for her. 😢. They ruined my sweet little sister.
I'm extremely grateful that you discuss the evil of Narcissism; I've always felt they are evil because of their total barrenness of empathy, conscientiousness and integrity and it's wonderful to finally see someone address this. I've caught it in their eyes. I had a weird paranormal experience with my ex-husband's demon. I woke up from a dead sleep and caught him staring and smirking at me, the duper's delight. He looked like a dark haired man, sitting on a non-existent chair with knees crossed, arms and elbows on his knees leaning forward towards me, smoking a cigarette. He was grinning, like he knew a secret, that "I gotcha" look in his eyes. I saw that demon through my ex-husband's eyes at times. At the time, I had no idea what I saw.
From my own experiences, all of the Narcs in my family and my ex-husband's family, are born Narcs. None of them had a traumatic childhood....it seems to be genetic in their cases anyway. I've disconnected from my family so I'm not sure about the 4th generation but I already had suspicions about particular children...
On a side note, Remi must go for the most wonderful strolls before your videos because I can see the beautiful green leaves and blooms out your window. In my part of Canada, just a few fresh blades of grass are poking up and we're desperate to get on with Spring. Sending you a hug and Remi a kiss from a very grateful follower.
Look at dear loyal Remy on the sofa, heart of gold.😊A blessing to you Paula. So happy to see him in your videos, thankyou for sharing 💕
😊 thank you
Thank you. This is important to know and address the spiritual side of this disorder. Bible mentions these things. ❤ xxx
Early on in my relationship with the ex narc, I playfully told him he was the devil. It was meant to be a flirty communication- but he took it very badly. He grew angry and told me not to talk about the devil. He would also never allow any talk about death in any way.
They fear death.
Satan knows the end of the story so his minions( narcissists) are here to bring as many souls as possible with him.
Yes !... I knew it from early days but never believe it is demonic, never knew demons can exist in human that appears normal, .... but now the whole experience has taught me Soo much, .
I love Remy! Cute little bark to say goodbye! ❤🐾
🤓🐕
This is a great podcast. I agree with every word of yours, this is how I experienced it.
And yes, I saw it and new it instinctively, but as a healer and a light worker I thought that my light was needed in this dark place, that it was my assignment from God to help, heal this soul and bring it to the Light…
I did this too. For a whole narcissistic family. It has almost killed me.
I was asleep beside her, and the demon showed itself to me in a vision . It was right over me looking at me. Thanks Paula, what you are saying is 100 percent correct.
Thank you so much for all your work Paula. Your advice is gold and you are helping so many people. I was with a narcissist for 37years and everything you said is true. He made me feel like I was the problem and he even used to say whenever we argued that "it's not a competition ". I didn't realise that I was competing and this always puzzled me. He made me feel combative and that it was a competition and I also realised that it was a projection from him because he was competing with me. I have learnt that I did always know that something was off about him but I dismissed my instincts and I thought it was me that was the problem and I took all the blame. This happened because I did have problems because of past childhood abuse, so I had very low self-esteem and no boundaries. I am learning all about self love now and realising that its not selfish to love yourself in the proper way. We all need to love and respect ourselves enough to listen to our own instincts when they tell us that something is wrong, we need to believe it and love ourselves and protect ourselves and stay far away from people that are not good for us. This is a precious gift from God to be your own best friend and keep yourself away from danger.
God is our truth, strength and love. So glad for you.
The parasite and energy igniting you makes all of the sense!!!!!!!
So good! Thank you. My ex husband became competitive with me as mother of new born TWINS. It was so disturbing and heartbreaking that he would emotionally terrorize me while trying to breastfeed and create a peaceful nest for our babies. Your analogy of the parasite harvesting energy is accurate. This man used be an incubator to harvest strong DNA and also lock me in as supply for many years. Sounds kooky but I believe it! Also, I think I hear Remy snoozing. So adorable. Calms my heart rate💝
🐕🙋♀️
I noticed it right away the first time that one of my neighbors was a narcissist; his behavior was abnormal, strange, full of hatred, lying, manipulative, as if he wanted to gain control of me. Since then I have treated him and his monkey wife the same way your dog on your sofa behaves: ignoring everything, showing disinterest, saying nothing, as if I don't see them. and and leave them alone with their evil.
This has been the case since mid-January and this "Silence" helps very well and protects me.Thank you for this video.
Look at the beautiful background !!!😊
I don’t go for PDA’s in this way but I feel compelled to thank you, Paula, for your brilliant, deep perspectives on narcissism. You have captured that most important ingredient of narcissism by adding the spiritual component. This is missed by all others I have viewed and really helped tie up the explanation of the soullessness, danger and destruction of these folks. Thinking dancing with a narcissist can just be an innocuous pastime was a grave mistake with dire consequences risking my own soul. Which I have done too many times because of not knowing what I was doing the tango with. Thank you for the transformative education you have offered to me that I have gratefully accepted. ❤
Good morning/afternoon or evening Paula and sweet Remy always peaceful and relaxed 😌 ❤❤
Thank You! A lot of us had traumatic upbringing and Don't become Narcissistic and we'll just leave it there.lol love you for that ❤
Please prayers for me and my situation I had two children by a narc for 8 yrs I went through the lows and highs constantly being ignorant that he was being influenced by dark forces finally got out after I was shot at but even 6 yrs later after I moved away got married graduated school became a data analyst and the Lord elevated me the narc found out where I stay and came and stole my car because it was in both of our names I am now moving again and going to court for a permanent restraining order and full custody for my children because I know that he won’t stop coming for me he even still has my photos on his Facebook
Lord Jesus I pray for this individual and her children please help them in a miraculous way and keep them safe and happy.
May the Lord be with you, favor you and protect you and your 2 children, family in Jesus name amen.
I am a survivor! The difficult lessons learned have made me a much stronger person, a much better partner, and while the lessons are painful, the freedom of truth are fantastic!
WOW, best reveal, and explanation I've heard.
Thank you. 🇺🇸
Very welcome
Great insight Paula. Like many of us, I knew there was something not right within the 'relationship'. Always felt an uneasy feeling around the Narc. The love bombing at the beginning blinds us to what we are really feeling. I think it's the emotional cruelty they inflict on us that is so difficult to understand. Consequently, the betrayal trauma we suffer is so hard to deal with. Truly demonic beings. Enjoy the walk with Remy. Thanks Paula x
My ex was diagnosed as narcissistic anti social, he told me that he knew the demon was there and he’d let it take over him, it felt really good to be abusive and he enjoyed it, he’d try to keep it at bay as much as possible, but he really enjoyed himself when he let it out and he said it took over, but he let it, so I do think they work together in a way
What psychology calls " malignant" scripture says, God has seared their conscience and turned them over to a reprobate mind after they rejected Him ( choosing their pride and wickedness) too many times.
Oh my 😳😳 I don't want to believe it but deep down, and after bitter experience, I know what you say is true 💯. May God safeguard us from their presence and their abuse now and forever more.
I believe it, I actually do think these dark triad folk actually talk to the demons. They're tormented 24/7 by the demons voices in their heads. My theory is if they lash out, they feel better because the demon rewards them for doing so and the voices stop temporarily. Once the demon is not satisfied again, the voices come back. Then the cycle continues. Thats just my theory though.
@@MarjyGTV I think you’re right, my ex told me that he felt so much tension and pressure and had to be abusive to let it out, like a pot boiling
@@jenbodhi1133 yep its as if the demons speak to them nonstop, constantly telling them all of their insecurities. Thats why they push their insecurities, and guilt onto you. I couldn't imagine living with that, its their own personal hell on earth. And the devil knows all your insecurities so the demons know exactly how to torment them.
You have NAILED this !!!
Yes . I knew something was “ different” right away .. but it was disguised .
This piece you have done here is such important reality . 11 years later i experienced it has not changed with him but gotten deeper and more unhidden and off rails of rationality .
I,spoke to my x-narc,and he said "he was perfect!"Another jaw dropping moment of narky!🙀
Lol
My x always said, they don't make them like me anymore. 🤣
Sadly, they make too many!! Lol
There is an energy that they emit that is very negative, it sucks the peace & joy out of a room when they are in it.
I have just discovered your content and feel so blessed to find someone connecting recovery from Narc abuse and the spiritual path; we are being led to better things and our suffering was not in vain. Thank you - please keep doing what you do :)
🙏🌹
YES ! they live in a symbiotic relationship. One's without a body uses they willing with a body. Thank you Paula love from Socorro NM 🤠.