Very interesting topic. I'm a black man, very humble upbringing, but have spent my entire adult life living in the suburbs and in management roles in my profession. I don't see this as being an "issue" that would impact any promotions or stigmatize a BW. If she conducts herself appropriately, and dresses appropriately I think it's a non-issue. The same way a large breasted woman would have to conduct herself, professionally (i.e no cleavage showing). In my opinion, the biggest obstacle I see that BW need to overcome, especially in the work place, are easily corrected (i.e. tattoos that are exposed, fingernails that get in the way of them efficiently doing their jobs, and accepting professional "critique" w/o making it a personal situation).
So you don’t have an issue with excessive wigs and weaves, crazy lashes and makeup? Also tattoos are not easy to cover up with many of them having tattoos on their necks, forearms and hands!!!
@@knowEgo I agree 100% about the tattoos, that's why I included it in the examples I gave, as being an "issue" in the work place. Tattoos on the neck, hands etc are not conducive to promotions in a professional setting. As far as the wigs and weaves, I personally do not like these either. However, in the context of a professional work setting, I don't see the "extreme" versions of the wigs & weaves as I see in the social setting. If a woman did wear these hair styles at work the likelihood of her being considered for a promotion would be very, very minimal.
I have a similar experience. As long as the dress and demeanor are professional, people can’t help the body they were born with. That being said, there are plenty of women that have major issues with other women because of their beauty or body. I’ve seen it. It isn’t pretty.
Yea I don’t know if it affects them negatively in terms of professional. However, dating interracially is different story. When her booty is over the top. I have plenty of white male friends and they will say yea I’m not into all of that. A few like it but not the majority
This is 100% facts. The smaller and more medium proportioned your body features are the more attention you will get from ALL races of men. A smaller body is an advantage, because you have more options in the dating and marriage market. Good video.
Ditto!! I am a BM. But, I have very little interest in ANY woman that is: 1) overweight, 2) huge behind, and 3) bigger than a size 6. Just what I like.
@@terencem723 it's nice to hear that some black men genuinely prefer women on the thin side. I've lost weight and have been self-conscious about not fitting into the bootylicious category anymore
I call it "Gluteocentrism". You focus on the rear end at the expense of the spirit. I compare it to blonde hair in the white community. It may seem attractive in the lower-class white community but in the upper class, you're seen as a so-called "bimbo". I think that's why women like Marilyn Monroe, Anna Nicole, and Jessie Jane suffered so much. Films like Legally Blonde tried to combat that stereotype but there's no "Legally Big Butt" movie for black women. "He that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” - Galatians 6:8✝
@@Seeingthingsdifferently-n2p It's got a long history. During the Roman Empire, blonde hair was associated with harlots. Harlots were legally required to dye their hair blonde. It was associated with the cult of Venus (Aphrodite). The Bible calls her Ashtoreth. King Solomon (Siamun) also built temples to her in Egypt, where she was called Isis. She's the "Jezebel Spirit".
@@MiguelDLewisYou’re not wrong, but blondness nowdays is more complicated, at least here in Europe. Bottle blonde, like Marilyn who was really a brunette, is seen as jezebel, because wp are suckers for everything natural. Natural blondes is connected to luxury since the richer countries in western Europe tend to have a blonder population, and poorer immigrants all over Europe tend to be darker. It’s all about being naturally closer to money, and if you’re cheating (like Marilyn) it shows and it’s trashy.
Yall don't want to be thin though. The essential invisibility we get; the jokes. Some black women won't even work out because they don't want to "lose their (insert thick body parts here). How important is the "privilege" of constant sexual attention? Why would this conversation not apply to women who are not trying to date out? I know I've seen black men online parroting "feminine, fit, and friendly." Is that only the red pill, manosphere BM or is it bs?
Feminine, Fit, Friendly is only the START. Its not end all be all. Thats why i never simplify it like that. Because i dont care about how fit, feminine and friendly you are if you have children, if you have a bunch of tattoos, if wear a bunch of weave in your head. i prefer slim or skinny women, but since im black man i will still sleep with sistas who have a big butt, who are bbws and even sleep with white girl or midgets. Because i fetishized them. Not that their are preference. I like sleeping with goth chicks or emo chicks. But thats not my preference just a fetish. I tell men, Get Muscles, Get a haircut that women like, learn how to be articulate and charismatic. But thats not all With sistas you still need edge and swagga. But yet and still thats not all. Just a start. i tell men losing weight and getting a six pack will increase your options. But its not the only thing that will. Black men mostly prefer skinny women, especially when we get older and start wanting more than just a FXXXX In highschool we chased after thick girls just more cushion for the pushing. But after we get our issue off we lose interest and dont any more. i have literally made love to a slim woman for 3 to 4 hours straight no breaks. an i can climax multiple times. The only woman i ever married was a slim woman. Dont get me wrong thick women are cool, but most thick girls got a fupa or muffin top and that turns me off. I have to be really turned on and already in the mood before even being around her to sleep with her, an once i climax once i lose all interest, i dont want her anymore for a week or two. But a slim girl i can go ten times a day. Slim, Slim thick, or Skinny. All three of these women i adore, i dream of in my sleep, Not thick women.
Black Men prefer thin women too. 4 out 5 sistas are overweight or obese 70% of sistas are single mothers ONLY 27% of black women are being married. i think there is a correlation if not albeit causation between the marriage rates and body weight of black women. There are other factors. Like Redpill Kevin Samuels said: Fit, Friendly and Feminie. But he also stated Being Cooperative. sistas inability to be in Cooperation with a mans operation. is another reason for lack of marriage rates
Honestly, some ladies have even argued that overweight (and attractive/curvy) is the new normal since everyone is currently overweight. Also, "Fit" doesn't mean Serena Williams. It's difficult to attain and almost impossible to maintain after childbirth. But there is an in-between...
@kingmelanin7468 I appreciate this comment. These are good points to start with. Although I don't agree that "everyone is overweight" and mentioning a professional athlete us definitely the extreme end of the fit spectrum.
@@kingmelanin7468 i know women who never had children who are obese, an i know women who have had 5 to 8 kids who are underweight still. Normal weight is the goal. Not underweight and not over weight.
I was bullied like a dog for being skinny. When the white boys paid more attention to my small figure, the same black boys who called me a skeleton got mad. You didnt want me, but I'm off limits?
It’s a mind trick! They want you to get fat cuz they know if you stay small and petite that you’ll get attention from other races of men. why do you think they get with fat white women and encourage them to stay fat? Ever notice they don’t complain about their fat snow bunnies? I’ve even had a BM tell me that he’s afraid that his white ex would lose weight and look sexy.
@TheDanster4 What should be and what is are usually not the same. People shouldn't hate ppl because of skin color...Skinny is usually more healthy in most ppl but then you have Samoans and others who may just have different body types. I like skinny women.
Productive Black Men have told BW what we want; Fit, Natural Hair, Less Makeup, No Crazy long lashes or nails, no BBL's. How can we take you to gala's, upscale events, etc. BW do what ever they want to do tho. Maybe one day, BW will start listening and following what we say; until then BW will learn the hard way like some hard headed Men do
I’m slim, got natural hair, no lashes, rarely wear makeup, no BBL and I’m almost invisible to BM. All I attract is white and non black men. And I’m fine with that!
@@faye1417 Fit and Curvy is different then slim. BM still check for slim, but it depends, how tall you are & are those legs looking good in heels? lol. Also are you smiling at BM in public? We all know how smiling towards us is a challenge lol
And just to think I was teased growing up about my naturally shaped body that women are paying and unfortunately dying for. Who knew??? Real bodies do exist but with this BBL phenomenon I don't think ppl kno the difference btwn them now
@@melissa-kml exactly. Very rarely men cannot tell. It's like plastic surgery in the face. Even when it looks good, something in your brain tells you, "something is off".
I remember in the early 2000s when the videos changed and it began to show women with less clothing and bigger butts (rap videos) Even in middle/high school I would say I wanted to get my butt done when I grew up but then I went to college and got older and guys were interested in me without a big booty at that desire began to fade. I started to understand "I was not my body" It was more to me than that. Now I don't think a woman being naturally curvy holds her back because I am curvy, it is about how you as a woman carry yourself and dress for your body type. I remember seeing Buffy for the first time in the Tony Yayo video and all the boys at school were in love. Being that she started out with being Buffy with the Body..in some spaces it's hard to transition out of that but that doesn’t mean it can't be done. I wish her the best and hope that she is doing well now.
As an aside, not all of us Black men subscribe to that "thirsty" behavior displayed by some Black men. That actually rings true for those Black cats, hanging in the streets, talking loud, smoking weed, drinking with their boys and being disrespectful to (Black) women. But on the other side of the coin, you do have a growing number of Black men not paying much attention to (Black) women here in NYC, based on my observation.
Women who get BBLs and think their body is an asset only attracts lusting weirdos, rappers and other toxic hood men. Then they get online and complain they can’t find anybody.
I hope we don’t get to the point where women who are of a larger backside build won’t find the need to suppress their assets. I remember long ago stories of my older sister when she was little my mother would make her wear a girdle because her behind was so big.
Yes, we are created in His image. But, God did NOT create us to be obese. Most Americans are overweight. However, as we all know BW are flat out the most obese @ nearly 40%. It is something that we all can control. I have seen a lot of terrible habits with BW. First, they eat like men!!! Nothing is more of a turn off than hearing sistas talking about "throwing down" over dinner or when eating. Second, no exercise. Always an excuse ("my hair" usually). Third, laying in the damn bed all the time watching TV or on the damn phone or social media while eating ice cream etc. Next time you are grocery shopping pay attention to the items in the cart of most BW. Lots of frozen dinners, sugary sodas, and other unhealthy food. This gets passed on to children.
As a woman with no hips or butt. I want something. To fill out my shape. i feel like a man in my clothes. All the time. A Bbl i couldn't do. Because i dont want to look like everyone else. I have wide shoulders and get teased for not having curves. If i see a woman with hips and a butt, my heart drops because that's the body i want. But god didn't give it. So now i just work with what i have. I just wish i had alittle more even body. They complain about having the butt. But they dress for the butt they have. To get the attention.
9:57 It help kardasians because they have their own businesses, community, and ecosystem to propel them forward. Black women dont have that, they are trying to integrate into the whyte ecosystem with their big booty trying to get acceptance and a place where the whyte women currently reside. Instead of deluding yourselves about "dating out" (hookups and one night stands) focus on building an ecosystem and pulling in your men (brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, other black men) into that ecosystem so it can support itself like the whytes do in their ecosystem.
Here in Texas a lot of these BW use thick to hide behind obese or over weight tbh. I don’t like it for health reasons. And skinny BW are teased by bigger BW all the time since I was young and I’m 40+ PSA….All BM don’t care about thick as much as u think we do
I'm glad I have a nice shapely figure naturally. I'm 32 and I'm 5'1 I get the video but I'd rather be small and curvy than slim. I also prefer black men so I'm good.
The value is when you value yourself and others will follow regardless. The majority of the population of people normally like this shape if she’s like 19 years old , or not black then it’s praised…There is no reason to mistreat this woman because of her shape she was blessed with. Even if it’s not thier preference.
Kim definitely got clowned for her butt. Joe Rogan number 1 podcast in the world, They clowned her and said her butt looked like she had a big diaper on. She did get it, she just navigated the mockery better than most.
Most of the sistas, aren't getting approached. I grew up in a area that was around 45% white, like on my block it was 5 black families and the rest were non black,. We had lots of Asians, Whites and Jews in my neighborhood. The highschool i went too was 40% white and smaller numbers of hispanics and asians. An the rest was black. i never saw large numbers of black girls getting approached by white guys. usually the girls who did have white boyfriends were in AP Honors classes. An they spoke differently. ie called it talking white. I had to teach myself not to talk white, because 90% of black girls didnt like how i talked, it wasnt black enough, i learn to speak a little more hood an tone down the articulation. i am from Saint Louis. where SEXXXY REDDD is from
Growing up I had no figure, was “over weight” for that time, braces , was natural and was paid no mind. Considered nerdy, my parents were strict and did not allow the long weaves and short shorts like a lot of the other girls were able too. Guys always had side comments/ inappropriate jokes. 20 years later those same classmates break their necks trying to get my attention. I’m the same person just smaller and have a shape now(2nd puberty lol). I definitely agree that the beauty standards are just different for our community. I personally feel like I only started attracting bm once I filled out.
I feel so sad for her.. she is so beautiful and was literally one of the models I admire when I was younger. And I must admit having a bigger behind myself, at my age now I do feel a lil ashamed to show it because of the attention I get. Unintentionally. I don’t feel comfortable in jeans or dresses and I try to wear oversized tshirts to cover it a lil. I really hate the attention. Especially from black men. Cause it’s all lust.
Well Its not customary to talk negatively about women in general. So i say that to say,its not polite to call a woman a loser,call a woman a dud etc. Let alone call a woman a loser or dud who is or was a woman who is somewhat famous, attractive ,well known for whatever reasons.someone people want so badly.then u can start to het into the inside of people and go past their surface and esthetic and what u see with the physical eye,down to the real person.then people could begin to understand who a person really is and what they are really about.women often fake,front, hide etc and never get down to a real and hinest truth about themselves or in their personal lives so it will hard to do that with the public audience and then they will be perceived as a fake an all for show. See, attraction for women and beauty is supposed to automatically net them/land them a guy.not only just any man,but a man who would luv,adore, cherish,marry,give his life for, sacrifice for,go to limits for etc all things women are supposed to covet and really desire in sex and relationships mating and dating in life. So when everyone can now judge and see where that person is at in life,what they talking about,what they currently doing,what happened to u etc all these questions because u was that one.u was or are currently the one that attracts and who people want.so who and what did u choose 🤔 and who did u choose to do it with? people expect people who actually attract to actually get the things that people who don't attract or cant attract on the other persons level really get. Basically,a woman who can attract so much is supposed to get the life of marriage family and kids quicker and easier than a woman who cant attract or struggles in that department.so the question is where is buffy or any womans (show off life) for all that attraction and popularity 🤔?where is her man,her kids,her family,her home etc. or are all that is left for people to see her as is to always discuss her booty 🍑 🤔?she is known for her butt and everyone is either past that or still lusting it.its more interesting to know what all that fame and popularity got a person who was or is actually famous for something.wether this video is old or new ijs and talking how people think and judge people in general.
I remember in the 80s when black women's derrieres were becoming noticeably larger than they had been before, a white guy actually asked me (we were military, so such questions got asked), "Do black guys actually _like_ women with butts like that?"
@@nnekaonyilofor recent years with modern women, they went ratchet. I'll give you that. It's about the false "empowerment". Their music is selling because of the mentality of the modern woman. Sexy Red and others represent "female empowerment" to young black women. We know it is not empowerment but young women do not listen to men nor older women who speak sense.
Wouldn't read too much into it, you can find white guys that like pretty much anything. I'm black and when I started hanging out with white guys I was introduced to some of the most bizarre preferences and fetishes. If you can imagine it, there is a group of white guys dreaming about it at night.
@@terencem723beauty standards vary significantly by culture but white guys tend to like their women looking prepubescent. It’s only East Asians that are like that too. The rest of the world prefers more endowed women.
@@terencem723 beauty standards vary significantly by culture but white guys tend to like their women looking prepubescent. It’s only East Asians that are like that too. The rest of the world prefers more endowed women.
All men love sundresses b/c we know that the women adorning them are either going commando or thong. To cover the butt is one thing whereas controlling it while walking is quite another especially if their glutes & hamstrings aren’t toned. Apple Bottoms jeans didn’t fail so the only issue is upon the ambition of the woman who’s highlighted in this video. #KryptonianAccontability
Even though BM desire women with an hour glass shape. What attracts us even more is a woman with a shape like that and kind and respectful. But I do recognize those women problems.Other women can be jealous of them and also some people can assume all of them are conceited. Now to be fair what I’ve noticed are the women that are built like that most of there life are used to the attention such as Buffie they try to hide it. The women that has the body now but didn’t have it before is the ones that always want to flaunt it. In summary it’s definitely a gift and a curse because it also can garner you the wrong attention as well. Ladies definitely have to be careful.
I’ve never been seriously attracted to what I call “exaggerated bodies”. Women with huge breasts and huge butts have always looked cartoonish to me. They appear as novelties burdened with such extremities. They look afflicted. Anything more than a handful is just a waste. 😅
The problem is you don't want to dress modestly you see how nuns dress you see how the true Israelite women of Judah Jewish women dress do you see how Muslim women dress you need to be covered that's why I want to dress in nasty Western eyes clothing. By the way how many people are different so there's nothing shameful about it is the fact that you need to tone up doesn't mean skinny because these are giving European talking points because they don't have it and you do nothing wrong with being thick thick it's how you dress 👗🥻 that's what you keep skipping over
That depends my friend. The thirsty black cats in the streets are the ones who are guilty of looking. The suit and tie types are a different breed. Those brothers will practically walk past sistas without even a glance for the most part.
@@nondumisogasser7155I think he is talking about those "other" brothers. Who are thirsty like those Black men you see hanging out in the streets smoking weed, drinking and talking trash.
Very interesting topic. I'm a black man, very humble upbringing, but have spent my entire adult life living in the suburbs and in management roles in my profession. I don't see this as being an "issue" that would impact any promotions or stigmatize a BW. If she conducts herself appropriately, and dresses appropriately I think it's a non-issue. The same way a large breasted woman would have to conduct herself, professionally (i.e no cleavage showing). In my opinion, the biggest obstacle I see that BW need to overcome, especially in the work place, are easily corrected (i.e. tattoos that are exposed, fingernails that get in the way of them efficiently doing their jobs, and accepting professional "critique" w/o making it a personal situation).
So you don’t have an issue with excessive wigs and weaves, crazy lashes and makeup? Also tattoos are not easy to cover up with many of them having tattoos on their necks, forearms and hands!!!
@@knowEgo I agree 100% about the tattoos, that's why I included it in the examples I gave, as being an "issue" in the work place. Tattoos on the neck, hands etc are not conducive to promotions in a professional setting. As far as the wigs and weaves, I personally do not like these either. However, in the context of a professional work setting, I don't see the "extreme" versions of the wigs & weaves as I see in the social setting. If a woman did wear these hair styles at work the likelihood of her being considered for a promotion would be very, very minimal.
I have a similar experience. As long as the dress and demeanor are professional, people can’t help the body they were born with. That being said, there are plenty of women that have major issues with other women because of their beauty or body. I’ve seen it. It isn’t pretty.
Yea I don’t know if it affects them negatively in terms of professional. However, dating interracially is different story. When her booty is over the top. I have plenty of white male friends and they will say yea I’m not into all of that. A few like it but not the majority
This is 100% facts. The smaller and more medium proportioned your body features are the more attention you will get from ALL races of men. A smaller body is an advantage, because you have more options in the dating and marriage market. Good video.
Ditto!! I am a BM. But, I have very little interest in ANY woman that is: 1) overweight, 2) huge behind, and 3) bigger than a size 6.
Just what I like.
@@terencem723 it's nice to hear that some black men genuinely prefer women on the thin side. I've lost weight and have been self-conscious about not fitting into the bootylicious category anymore
I call it "Gluteocentrism". You focus on the rear end at the expense of the spirit. I compare it to blonde hair in the white community. It may seem attractive in the lower-class white community but in the upper class, you're seen as a so-called "bimbo". I think that's why women like Marilyn Monroe, Anna Nicole, and Jessie Jane suffered so much. Films like Legally Blonde tried to combat that stereotype but there's no "Legally Big Butt" movie for black women.
"He that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.”
- Galatians 6:8✝
this is very true
Wow i never knew this. Please explain on this further. I thought Blonde to them was everything 😮
@@Seeingthingsdifferently-n2p It's got a long history. During the Roman Empire, blonde hair was associated with harlots. Harlots were legally required to dye their hair blonde. It was associated with the cult of Venus (Aphrodite). The Bible calls her Ashtoreth. King Solomon (Siamun) also built temples to her in Egypt, where she was called Isis. She's the "Jezebel Spirit".
@@MiguelDLewisYou’re not wrong, but blondness nowdays is more complicated, at least here in Europe. Bottle blonde, like Marilyn who was really a brunette, is seen as jezebel, because wp are suckers for everything natural. Natural blondes is connected to luxury since the richer countries in western Europe tend to have a blonder population, and poorer immigrants all over Europe tend to be darker. It’s all about being naturally closer to money, and if you’re cheating (like Marilyn) it shows and it’s trashy.
@@Ianopike Yeah the Eurotrash of yesteryear has become the elite of today. Which country are you from?
Thick is always in. It’s how you dress and carry yourself.
61 growing up in Chicago, old shcool, we were looking at faces and hearts.
Real Talk.
My ex had a “ghetto booty” and that was one of her biggest insecurities. She hated the attention she got.
Many “ghetto booty girls” were taught to hide and be ashamed of it. So to see women buying one, was like a slap in the face lol. 😂
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Yall don't want to be thin though. The essential invisibility we get; the jokes. Some black women won't even work out because they don't want to "lose their (insert thick body parts here).
How important is the "privilege" of constant sexual attention?
Why would this conversation not apply to women who are not trying to date out? I know I've seen black men online parroting "feminine, fit, and friendly." Is that only the red pill, manosphere BM or is it bs?
Feminine, Fit, Friendly is only the START. Its not end all be all.
Thats why i never simplify it like that.
Because i dont care about how fit, feminine and friendly you are if you have children, if you have a bunch of tattoos, if wear a bunch of weave in your head.
i prefer slim or skinny women, but since im black man i will still sleep with sistas who have a big butt, who are bbws and even sleep with white girl or midgets. Because i fetishized them. Not that their are preference. I like sleeping with goth chicks or emo chicks. But thats not my preference just a fetish.
I tell men, Get Muscles, Get a haircut that women like, learn how to be articulate and charismatic. But thats not all
With sistas you still need edge and swagga. But yet and still thats not all. Just a start.
i tell men losing weight and getting a six pack will increase your options. But its not the only thing that will.
Black men mostly prefer skinny women, especially when we get older and start wanting more than just a FXXXX
In highschool we chased after thick girls just more cushion for the pushing. But after we get our issue off we lose interest and dont any more.
i have literally made love to a slim woman for 3 to 4 hours straight no breaks. an i can climax multiple times. The only woman i ever married was a slim woman.
Dont get me wrong thick women are cool, but most thick girls got a fupa or muffin top and that turns me off. I have to be really turned on and already in the mood before even being around her to sleep with her, an once i climax once i lose all interest, i dont want her anymore for a week or two.
But a slim girl i can go ten times a day. Slim, Slim thick, or Skinny. All three of these women i adore, i dream of in my sleep, Not thick women.
Black Men prefer thin women too.
4 out 5 sistas are overweight or obese
70% of sistas are single mothers
ONLY 27% of black women are being married.
i think there is a correlation if not albeit causation between the marriage rates and body weight of black women. There are other factors.
Like Redpill Kevin Samuels said: Fit, Friendly and Feminie. But he also stated Being Cooperative.
sistas inability to be in Cooperation with a mans operation. is another reason for lack of marriage rates
Honestly, some ladies have even argued that overweight (and attractive/curvy) is the new normal since everyone is currently overweight.
Also, "Fit" doesn't mean Serena Williams. It's difficult to attain and almost impossible to maintain after childbirth.
But there is an in-between...
@kingmelanin7468 I appreciate this comment.
These are good points to start with. Although I don't agree that "everyone is overweight" and mentioning a professional athlete us definitely the extreme end of the fit spectrum.
@@kingmelanin7468 i know women who never had children who are obese, an i know women who have had 5 to 8 kids who are underweight still.
Normal weight is the goal. Not underweight and not over weight.
I love women with hourglass shape.
I was bullied like a dog for being skinny. When the white boys paid more attention to my small figure, the same black boys who called me a skeleton got mad. You didnt want me, but I'm off limits?
It’s a mind trick! They want you to get fat cuz they know if you stay small and petite that you’ll get attention from other races of men. why do you think they get with fat white women and encourage them to stay fat? Ever notice they don’t complain about their fat snow bunnies? I’ve even had a BM tell me that he’s afraid that his white ex would lose weight and look sexy.
Well slim is back in style. Sorry you went through that.
@@blackseed9293A body type/shape shouldn't be a trend. What happens when skinny is "out of season" again?
@TheDanster4 What should be and what is are usually not the same. People shouldn't hate ppl because of skin color...Skinny is usually more healthy in most ppl but then you have Samoans and others who may just have different body types. I like skinny women.
Productive Black Men have told BW what we want; Fit, Natural Hair, Less Makeup, No Crazy long lashes or nails, no BBL's. How can we take you to gala's, upscale events, etc.
BW do what ever they want to do tho. Maybe one day, BW will start listening and following what we say; until then BW will learn the hard way like some hard headed Men do
I’m slim, got natural hair, no lashes, rarely wear makeup, no BBL and I’m almost invisible to BM. All I attract is white and non black men. And I’m fine with that!
@@faye1417 Fit and Curvy is different then slim. BM still check for slim, but it depends, how tall you are & are those legs looking good in heels? lol. Also are you smiling at BM in public? We all know how smiling towards us is a challenge lol
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@@AA-td1yw Your insults have no power & mean absolutely nothing. I stand on what I said. Period
@@faye1417 congrats to you sister and your non-black husband!
And just to think I was teased growing up about my naturally shaped body that women are paying and unfortunately dying for. Who knew??? Real bodies do exist but with this BBL phenomenon I don't think ppl kno the difference btwn them now
I think they do, what God created naturally cannot be replicated
@@melissa-kml exactly. Very rarely men cannot tell. It's like plastic surgery in the face. Even when it looks good, something in your brain tells you, "something is off".
Why are we caring about other communities understanding black curves 😐. They aren’t supposed to
Because black women insert themselves into these communities.
I remember in the early 2000s when the videos changed and it began to show women with less clothing and bigger butts (rap videos) Even in middle/high school I would say I wanted to get my butt done when I grew up but then I went to college and got older and guys were interested in me without a big booty at that desire began to fade. I started to understand "I was not my body" It was more to me than that. Now I don't think a woman being naturally curvy holds her back because I am curvy, it is about how you as a woman carry yourself and dress for your body type. I remember seeing Buffy for the first time in the Tony Yayo video and all the boys at school were in love. Being that she started out with being Buffy with the Body..in some spaces it's hard to transition out of that but that doesn’t mean it can't be done. I wish her the best and hope that she is doing well now.
As an aside, not all of us Black men subscribe to that "thirsty" behavior displayed by some Black men. That actually rings true for those Black cats, hanging in the streets, talking loud, smoking weed, drinking with their boys and being disrespectful to (Black) women. But on the other side of the coin, you do have a growing number of Black men not paying much attention to (Black) women here in NYC, based on my observation.
As a black man who’s native New Yorker I concur
Women who get BBLs and think their body is an asset only attracts lusting weirdos, rappers and other toxic hood men. Then they get online and complain they can’t find anybody.
I hope we don’t get to the point where women who are of a larger backside build won’t find the need to suppress their assets. I remember long ago stories of my older sister when she was little my mother would make her wear a girdle because her behind was so big.
over the past several decades, women can do whatever they want. Men have no say. Women listen to women then complain about "no good men" later.
How can a buttocks that the creator blessed you with be a curse? That makes no sense to me.
Yes, we are created in His image. But, God did NOT create us to be obese. Most Americans are overweight. However, as we all know BW are flat out the most obese @ nearly 40%. It is something that we all can control.
I have seen a lot of terrible habits with BW. First, they eat like men!!! Nothing is more of a turn off than hearing sistas talking about "throwing down" over dinner or when eating. Second, no exercise. Always an excuse ("my hair" usually). Third, laying in the damn bed all the time watching TV or on the damn phone or social media while eating ice cream etc.
Next time you are grocery shopping pay attention to the items in the cart of most BW. Lots of frozen dinners, sugary sodas, and other unhealthy food. This gets passed on to children.
Stockholm syndrome
Anything can appear as a curse, based on perception!
As a woman with no hips or butt. I want something. To fill out my shape. i feel like a man in my clothes. All the time. A Bbl i couldn't do. Because i dont want to look like everyone else. I have wide shoulders and get teased for not having curves. If i see a woman with hips and a butt, my heart drops because that's the body i want. But god didn't give it. So now i just work with what i have. I just wish i had alittle more even body. They complain about having the butt. But they dress for the butt they have. To get the attention.
If you watch adult content or touch yourself, it will give you a manly body.
I'm 5ft 8in so I have to work with my height
9:57 It help kardasians because they have their own businesses, community, and ecosystem to propel them forward. Black women dont have that, they are trying to integrate into the whyte ecosystem with their big booty trying to get acceptance and a place where the whyte women currently reside. Instead of deluding yourselves about "dating out" (hookups and one night stands) focus on building an ecosystem and pulling in your men (brothers, fathers, uncles, nephews, other black men) into that ecosystem so it can support itself like the whytes do in their ecosystem.
The Kardashians were already rich.
Here in Texas a lot of these BW use thick to hide behind obese or over weight tbh. I don’t like it for health reasons. And skinny BW are teased by bigger BW all the time since I was young and I’m 40+
PSA….All BM don’t care about thick as much as u think we do
I'm glad I have a nice shapely figure naturally. I'm 32 and I'm 5'1 I get the video but I'd rather be small and curvy than slim. I also prefer black men so I'm good.
The value is when you value yourself and others will follow regardless. The majority of the population of people normally like this shape if she’s like 19 years old , or not black then it’s praised…There is no reason to mistreat this woman because of her shape she was blessed with. Even if it’s not thier preference.
Kim definitely got clowned for her butt. Joe Rogan number 1 podcast in the world, They clowned her and said her butt looked like she had a big diaper on. She did get it, she just navigated the mockery better than most.
Most of the sistas, aren't getting approached. I grew up in a area that was around 45% white, like on my block it was 5 black families and the rest were non black,. We had lots of Asians, Whites and Jews in my neighborhood. The highschool i went too was 40% white and smaller numbers of hispanics and asians. An the rest was black.
i never saw large numbers of black girls getting approached by white guys. usually the girls who did have white boyfriends were in AP Honors classes. An they spoke differently. ie called it talking white. I had to teach myself not to talk white, because 90% of black girls didnt like how i talked, it wasnt black enough, i learn to speak a little more hood an tone down the articulation.
i am from Saint Louis. where SEXXXY REDDD is from
That’s unfortunate that you had to become less articulate to attract BW.
@@nnekaonyilofor yes I had to see less bourgeois (boujee) and less uppity. So sistas could relate.
Sad that you gave in to pure ignorance.
@@terencem723 I got tons of box that way
Love women in dresses
Growing up I had no figure, was “over weight” for that time, braces , was natural and was paid no mind. Considered nerdy, my parents were strict and did not allow the long weaves and short shorts like a lot of the other girls were able too. Guys always had side comments/ inappropriate jokes. 20 years later those same classmates break their necks trying to get my attention. I’m the same person just smaller and have a shape now(2nd puberty lol). I definitely agree that the beauty standards are just different for our community. I personally feel like I only started attracting bm once I filled out.
Thank you for sharing! Very relatable story. 💎
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I feel so sad for her.. she is so beautiful and was literally one of the models I admire when I was younger. And I must admit having a bigger behind myself, at my age now I do feel a lil ashamed to show it because of the attention I get. Unintentionally. I don’t feel comfortable in jeans or dresses and I try to wear oversized tshirts to cover it a lil. I really hate the attention. Especially from black men. Cause it’s all lust.
Yes. Having a larger derrière will unfortunately lead to a life of being lusted after, esp in the Black community 😣.
Well
Its not customary to talk negatively about women in general.
So i say that to say,its not polite to call a woman a loser,call a woman a dud etc.
Let alone call a woman a loser or dud who is or was a woman who is somewhat famous, attractive ,well known for whatever reasons.someone people want so badly.then u can start to het into the inside of people and go past their surface and esthetic and what u see with the physical eye,down to the real person.then people could begin to understand who a person really is and what they are really about.women often fake,front, hide etc and never get down to a real and hinest truth about themselves or in their personal lives so it will hard to do that with the public audience and then they will be perceived as a fake an all for show.
See, attraction for women and beauty is supposed to automatically net them/land them a guy.not only just any man,but a man who would luv,adore, cherish,marry,give his life for, sacrifice for,go to limits for etc all things women are supposed to covet and really desire in sex and relationships mating and dating in life.
So when everyone can now judge and see where that person is at in life,what they talking about,what they currently doing,what happened to u etc all these questions because u was that one.u was or are currently the one that attracts and who people want.so who and what did u choose 🤔 and who did u choose to do it with? people expect people who actually attract to actually get the things that people who don't attract or cant attract on the other persons level really get.
Basically,a woman who can attract so much is supposed to get the life of marriage family and kids quicker and easier than a woman who cant attract or struggles in that department.so the question is where is buffy or any womans (show off life) for all that attraction and popularity 🤔?where is her man,her kids,her family,her home etc. or are all that is left for people to see her as is to always discuss her booty 🍑 🤔?she is known for her butt and everyone is either past that or still lusting it.its more interesting to know what all that fame and popularity got a person who was or is actually famous for something.wether this video is old or new ijs and talking how people think and judge people in general.
I remember in the 80s when black women's derrieres were becoming noticeably larger than they had been before, a white guy actually asked me (we were military, so such questions got asked), "Do black guys actually _like_ women with butts like that?"
This definitely proves my point! 😁
You are wrong about the butt shots for female rappers. MC Lyte. Queen Latifa. Lauran Hill. no butt shots. extremely respected. It's about TALENT!!!!
Yes, but what about in recent years? There is a modern day female rapper starter kit, unfortunately.
@@nnekaonyilofor recent years with modern women, they went ratchet. I'll give you that.
It's about the false "empowerment".
Their music is selling because of the mentality of the modern woman. Sexy Red and others represent "female empowerment" to young black women.
We know it is not empowerment but young women do not listen to men nor older women who speak sense.
I have model type of body. Tall and slim with b/c cup size breasts. my body and hair are the main things that get complimented on with white men.
If WM love it, then MOST men probably find you very attractive.
I am a 62 yr old BM. I like a woman who is no bigger than a size 6.
Wouldn't read too much into it, you can find white guys that like pretty much anything. I'm black and when I started hanging out with white guys I was introduced to some of the most bizarre preferences and fetishes. If you can imagine it, there is a group of white guys dreaming about it at night.
@@outdoorgqha! You're right though, the elevation of the preferences of white men is very silly.
@@terencem723beauty standards vary significantly by culture but white guys tend to like their women looking prepubescent. It’s only East Asians that are like that too. The rest of the world prefers more endowed women.
@@terencem723 beauty standards vary significantly by culture but white guys tend to like their women looking prepubescent. It’s only East Asians that are like that too. The rest of the world prefers more endowed women.
All men love sundresses b/c we know that the women adorning them are either going commando or thong. To cover the butt is one thing whereas controlling it while walking is quite another especially if their glutes & hamstrings aren’t toned. Apple Bottoms jeans didn’t fail so the only issue is upon the ambition of the woman who’s highlighted in this video. #KryptonianAccontability
Men don't want all that , we really don't it's the women that want it .Men have to adjust, I don't want none.
Even though BM desire women with an hour glass shape. What attracts us even more is a woman with a shape like that and kind and respectful. But I do recognize those women problems.Other women can be jealous of them and also some people can assume all of them are conceited. Now to be fair what I’ve noticed are the women that are built like that most of there life are used to the attention such as Buffie they try to hide it. The women that has the body now but didn’t have it before is the ones that always want to flaunt it. In summary it’s definitely a gift and a curse because it also can garner you the wrong attention as well. Ladies definitely have to be careful.
Good points!
I’ve never been seriously attracted to what I call “exaggerated bodies”.
Women with huge breasts and huge butts have always looked cartoonish to me.
They appear as novelties burdened with such extremities. They look afflicted.
Anything more than a handful is just a waste. 😅
Good point and I like your use of the word afflicted!
And when they get into their late 30s, the fat on their bellies will start catching up to the fat of their breasts and butts.
Black men are not worried
I never heard any man complain about a big but
Seems you did not talk to many men about this topic.
I have
@@hotmomma1552depends on the race/culture but outsides of whites and East Asians. Most men don’t want girls looking prepubescent
Quit being a pawn to another woman's movement called feminism and alot of these issues become minuscule imo.
I don't care about what ever you say God bless you ok
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The problem is you don't want to dress modestly you see how nuns dress you see how the true Israelite women of Judah Jewish women dress do you see how Muslim women dress you need to be covered that's why I want to dress in nasty Western eyes clothing. By the way how many people are different so there's nothing shameful about it is the fact that you need to tone up doesn't mean skinny because these are giving European talking points because they don't have it and you do nothing wrong with being thick thick it's how you dress 👗🥻 that's what you keep skipping over
3:21 If that is the case how about not treating us like ish then hmm
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Nothing new here move on!
THAT WALL IS UNFORGIVING
Whats your definition of the wall.
Buffie looks damn good for her age .. she's like close to 50. Stop parroting what white men say.
@@utamu777 she only looks good because her booty big and she wears the right clothes. In a thong and string bikini top she may not look as good
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The way a black man would,. Are you serious? Those days are gone. We don't even look at yall.
Why don't you? What's wrong with black women?
I get looked at by black dudes all the time. I never look back though. Y’all are the thirstiest men out here😂 Yall look at anyone
That depends my friend. The thirsty black cats in the streets are the ones who are guilty of looking. The suit and tie types are a different breed. Those brothers will practically walk past sistas without even a glance for the most part.
@@nondumisogasser7155I think he is talking about those "other" brothers. Who are thirsty like those Black men you see hanging out in the streets smoking weed, drinking and talking trash.
@@YogaWDía Not all of us trust me. It's predominantly those hood types you see in the street acting like they never seen a (Black)woman before.