The Reasons Why So Many Black Women Are Single (her advice went viral!)
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- Discussing the main reasons why so many Black women are single.
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From what I've seen, a lot of our women allow themselves to be influenced by the media too much.
Social media that is
And their circle. And don't let them be single while you're trying to get at her smh.
You just said a lot
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*Media is ran by fake Jews*
I remember being turned down by black women nonstop in my teens and 20s for being a nerd, being focused on my studies. I studied, founded a company and started making serious money, by default I dated white women as they were the only women who were interested in me, black women would not match with me on dating apps, and women of other races happily came on board, so I married a white lady, only to find I would get stares from black women when I took my wife anywhere, I was also called a sell-out. I find it eye-opening that so many black women are single when they have turned the process of belittling and rejecting black men into a hobby.
Oh,I hear you
Yup! About 20 years ago I was walking back from lunch with a colleague. This was on 125th street a bit east of the Apollo. I'm a skinny white dude 6'1" and he's a BM 6'5", muscles, dreds, gorgeous, brilliant smile ......... and gay as a goose and more than a bit flamboyant. Well..... the Looks of Death I got from every BW between 15 and 85 blew my mind! I was half expecting them to hurl their shopping bags at me....
But all I could think to myself was, "Ladies, even if I spontaneously combusted as you clearly want, he still wouldn't be available! He's very happy with his boyfriend!!!" smdh.
I later asked a another colleague who was a BW what was up with that. She laughed and said, "He could've been covered in rainbows & glitter and twirling like a ballerina and it would'n't've mattered. They just saw you two and thought, 'Another one off the market'. That he was never on the market to begin with was irrelevant."
Sorry you went through that but people gotta be more careful and stop making this one sided. Your story is a literal copy of what I went through and I myself am a woman.
I think it's that on both sides its just crappy, the women and men who are kind hearted and nerdy get tricked and carry this hatred and do it to the next. It's sad to watch.
You wouldn't believe how the woman's spaces and man spaces all sound bitter but exactly the same. It's scary to watch
@@jazsmans9523 I’m skeptical, since women are the sexual selectors, it’s unusual for men to turn down women. In the rare circumstances I have personally witnessed it it’s due to the woman having a terrible reputation for promiscuity, I’m not suggesting you have such a reputation. We’re you rejected by black men simply because you’re a black female? This doesn’t sound like the majority of black men.
This is really sad.
She is so correct, I used to work with a Chinese lady who told me when she was in dating mode, she tried to date the the most handsome guy she could find, but when she realized it was time to marry and start a family, she didn't look for just looks anymore, she looked for character and stability
it's 2023...any man still taking black women seriously in 2023 is a dayum fool...
@negative949 I feel U, I had to leave the matrix and marry a women from a different culture- been almost 24 years of peace and love
@@negative949The post KS era has vindicated the h3ll out of me. I dropped out of the dating pool over 7 years ago, and before that had begun to date non BW exclusively. In the end most of em are the same. It's just that, like everything else toxic and degenerate, it's more pronounced in our community. It's been hilarious to watch the dudes that called me a sellout end up with crazy baby mammas and non stop drama. Now they look at me like "dam you was right dog". 😂
@@negative949the. Stop talking about us 24/7
@@sdneytaco2226 Thank you for checking 🙏 these sellouts. They are looking for validation for abandoning the black community. My sisters are doing their best to survive so many adverse oppressions since slavery. And it has become apparent that one of our black community's biggest obstacles, unfortunately, are certain black men... and they have gotten worse... as if that were possible. How dare people put down my sisters for getting an education 🎓 👩🏽🎓so they can take care of themselves and their children 😤 and rise out of WS oppressions. Meanwhile, the bm making babies and leaving our children fatherless, and impoverished financially and emotionally at epidemic proportions, then blaming the women that try to raise our babies alone. 💥And WHY do these fools keep coming onto our channels??? Leave my sisters alone. I can't stand them. Why don't they feel contented with the "others" that they have put above their black heritage. They disgust me. BTW. I am happily married w children, have 5 degrees I'm just getting agitated by the unmitigated gall of these disgusting sellouts bm. Stop getting on our channels! Leave my young sisters alone. Shut the heck up and go somewhere... nobody cares!
Men have stopped asking why black women have these problems. We just are walking away.
It's a modern woman! Run away quickly.
💯
Modern men are just as bad 🤷🏽♀️
We over that shit
ITS OK BECAUSE WE DO NOT NEED EACH OTHER ANYMORE. WE ARE BOTH BROWN ANYWAYS. WE DON’T NEED TO MAKE OUR RACE PURE, ONLY WHITE PPL THINK LIKE THAT. WE WANT ANY WOMAN BECAUSE THATS THE WAY LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO BE.
HELP YOURSELVES THE SAME WAY WE BLACK MEN HAVE TO HELP OURSELVES
There's no single reason why most black females are single/ unwed. As a black woman I do find an astronomical count of other black women who are simply insufferable in terms of attitude posture & general thought processing. Seriously, it's hard to tolerate us even as friends; I couldn't imagine being a man trying to cope on an intimate level. And there's nearly no point in communicating bc we largely only hear what's validating; none of what's corrective bc we can't be wrong. It's a big mess.
Exactly
@iamtrendyvybes4686 I thought I was the only one who felt this way! Glad to know it’s not me.
🗣Repent Israelites all praise to the most high YAHAWAH AND HIS SON YAHAWASHI🤴🏽🦁🔥🛸⌛️
The so called black man, Latino, and Native Americans are the Israelites. Yahawah chosen people. That are scattered in all nations through our fathers. Making them Israelite foreigners/Scattered sheep/The multitude.
Yahawashi speaking: Matthew 15:24
“But he answered and said, I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel.”
Deuteronomy 7:6 “For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God: the LORD thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth.
Deuteronomy 32:39 “See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god with me: I kill, and I make alive; I wound, and I heal: neither is there any that can deliver out of my hand.”
Luke 12:51
“Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division:
bw are abusive narcissist
The single reason is.....
YOURE DUMMMMMMMMM
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😂
“Go where you are appreciated and valued.”
I so agree.
When they catch a "mutated STD then they "cry out" the anyone in the medical field.
This the message right here
& that would be OVERSEAS! Colombia, Panama, Belize, Brazil, Thailand, Philippines, Africa If you fancy a Black woman. Also India, Arabia. Germany, Denmark, Sweden amongst other places in Europe If you fancy a White woman.
Point is is that BLACK MEN ARE HIGHGLY DESIRED ALL OVER THE WORLD GLOBE & that is a factamundo! Every since the PASSPORTBROS went viral, global literally THOUSANDS of women from 2cnd, & 3rd world countries have been PUTTING IN THEIR BIDS VERBALLY & BECONNING WE MAERICAN BLACK MEN TO COME BE WITH THEM facts
& they are VERY AWAR of the ABUSE, NEGLECT, DISRESPECT, & MISTREATMENTS that we are being undeservingly FORCED to deal with & given by our OWN UNGRATEFUL Black AmeriKKKan community fefail members!
These FOREIGN WOMEN ARE SHOWING & PROVING that they will literally treat us/you/ i.e Brothaz LIKE KINGS & MANY REFER TO US AS THEIR KINGS IRONICALLY as well when they make videos from their countries more facts.
American Men, but American BLACK Men in specificity are HIGHLY SAUGHT AFTER bkz typically we for one HAVE AMERICAN CITIZENSHIP, MAKE MORE $$$, are typically more HANDSOME, TALLER, MORE WELL BUILT PHYSICALLY, we also TREAT WOMEN VERY FAIRLY/WELL & we are KIND, SWEET, ATTENTIVE, we are SELF CONFIDENT & NOT THREATENED BY A WOMAN HAVING A JOB/CAREER ETC & so on. MORE PRETTIER/BEATIFUL AESTHICALLY/PHYSICALLY THAN AMERICAN WOMEN
But do not go with a man just because he likes you. You need to be feeling it too.
I was Valedictorian of my high school. I was on the basketball team, in AP classes, won the Florida State Forensics Championship, Was Male Student Of The Year, and did acting. My high school sweetheart (who I knew I could be with for a lifetime) broke up with me for a drug dealer who dropped out. This literally happened.
I carried that weight around for years. But I had to let it go. Stay bitter or get better, that's the only choice life gives us. I'll never forget that, but I can't let that be the only chapter in my story. Life (and dating) does get better fellas. Don't give up on yourself, trust me.
and i want ALL black woe-men to know that this happens to MILLIONS of black boys and young men every year. so enough already with the gaslighting that y'all don't be chasing the bad boys
@@mgtow-balance3409 you only know hoes if you know hoes. If you can't name a church or a bakesale you've been to in the last year, that's on you. Good men know where good women go. The others don't, complain about the loser women they are around.
Should have gotten a white girl.
My sister left a church and family loving young man for a bum that doesn’t work and smokes weed all day.
I hate that mfer with a passion and he’s living in my grannies house for free.
Im moving back there soon to set the house in order.
How did that turn out?
Most black men and women don't have a healthy example of a good family structure. So a lot of us dwell in this fantasy world of relationships. Some of the young men think about being Ballers or getting all the women. The young women are saying well I'm not going to have the struggle like my mom did; I want a man that make a lot of money and he has to have swag at the same time. Sorry for the old school references. I'm an old-timer. My wife and I will be celebrating 27 years of marriage this September.
So let me get this straight, it's men's fault because we think you like ballers? What kind of mental pretzel gymnastics are you doing? Men chase for what they want you don't go into a store and accept what the store gives you, you pay for what you want and men don't want these modern women that's why you don't get the men it's simple economics. Keep blaming men not realizing you should compete you will be left without one
I've been saying this: The Blk community collectively needs a mental health program of deep psychotherapy of at least 3-6 months - before we can even begin to put our perspectives back in order again. Decades of maltreatment and abuse has left most of us in a state of not knowing which way is up or what's actually productive as a human. You cannot move on from life's traumas and truly prosper if you're still hanging on to a lifetime of unresolved anger, resentment, and trauma passed down from parents to children - or trauma passed down from greater society (read: YT society) to your demographic (ala racism, bigotry, social segregation, and WS).......
BW need to date other races of men and should have standards in dating.
Thanks you
@mukaniwatkins2598 but other races not running to marry bw either look around 😂😂😂😂
I sure did! I married the man that liked me and never ever regretted my decision! I love him and trust him with my life!!
How abt solving fatherlessness?
From what I see, marriage is not the priority of many black women seeking relationships, but children are. That is why single mom and baby mama culture is so strong and common in the black women's community.
You do know that Africans American are not the only black people in this world? I’ll be really nice if y’all be specific when talking about black people in general, and say African-Americans instead of saying black women. Because Africa is full of black women and we value marriage and actually get married at a young age. You will never catch baby mama BS in Africa communities unless they are divorces so, it’ll be nice if you y’all just stick to African-Americans stead of saying black woman because other people that are not black think we’re just like African-Americans and we’re not. I got married at 21. I am 30 with four kids and happily married.
@@leymong5182 well, that my mistake sorry for that
It’s actually disgusting ….!!…let’s start calling it out for what it is …raising a nation of bastards
these chicks are used up and stuck in there ways
with trauma from bad experiences. +high expectations
bad attitudes, Not fit but overweight, No walls, bitter
An a ton of em have a hatred of men..
and let’s say that they have NOT been hop skip an falling on 🍆 once they’ve been single too long they become hard to deal with an set in there ways; narrow minded
as in they don’t want to compromise an are unwilling to compromise. their relationship muscles have atrophied personalities are difficult to get along with they don’t care what a man wants an with all this they have ridiculous standards especially if she’s got a degree or 💰 she thinks she’s better than she is..
when finding someone that you like is hard enuff finding someone that likes you back is harder still to set standards that skip 90% of the pop intentionally it’s Crazy to me. An is a sure way to get you disappointed, ..the subconscious root cause of all this is i think many don’t find value in men and or fathers tbh. an that’s the pink elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about.
ask em about there past an they are always shifting blame but, won’t talk about the behaviors that lead their men not being in the house. they refuse to let it sink in that the guys attention:validation adoration you get while you are in your 20(s) you don’t get while you in your 40(s)+
they don’t prioritize relationships an marriage in life…then wonder why their not in a marriage or relationship lol they don’t realize their mindset is repelling what they say they want.
ladies had plenty of chances but ignored em an chose not to pursue because of shallow criteria like height not even considering moral character an ethics.. you ladies aren’t alone because of men but because of you; and your choices.
Wrong ! you guys just pass up good women for IG models.
I was married for 30 yrs faithfully and there is know way you will love and know a person with out perseverance , trust and forgiveness love will come when you first begin to love yourself ☺️💕
My "Marriage Experience" with my supposed Black Queen was TERRIBLE. It was so traumatic on me that I literally felt like I was in a Civil War. It gave me PTSD & I never served a day in the military. I don't even want to date no more & risk opening my heart to such heart ache. Y'all can keep marriage. Marriage is for fools & babies and I ain't neither no more.
I am very sorry about your experience 😢.
You were married to the wrong woman.
@@GodwordrulesBlack women are all “the wrong woman.” 🤷🏽♂️
@@nnekaonyiloforThis person's experience is an excellent and all too familiar example as to why "getting married" is not and should not be "the goal". Technically, anyone can find a mate and get married. However, a loving, happy, compatible, life-long committed, kind, sharing, compassionate, respectful marriage is a whole different thing and definitely goal worthy.
Allow God to heal you. I’ve gone through a horrible marriage but this time I gave it to God and He truly out did himself. I wish you all the best my brother and as your sister I really hope you are blessed with all your hearts desires. 🙏🏽
7:28 it took me until my 30s to realize this. And then someone told me "go with the girl who likes you, not the one you like". $#!t the shit goes smoother with the person who actually want to be there with you.
May I ask you something??? With dating the person who likes you but let's say you don't like them. Are you still happy? Do you feel that it's a void with not being with who you truly wanted?😊
@@sablesupremacy888 In my opinion...I can love anyone I choose. If someone has good character I will love her.
@@aaronbrutus2654 that's beautiful! I like that!😉
Boy bye. If my man doesn’t like me back and adore me then he can go
Men love different
I’m a Marriage, Relationship, Divorce and Dating Coach, I must admit that everything mentioned in this video as hard as it is for me to say this, it’s true ❤ But I have also realized that there’s a lot of influence that a lot of Women have endured and become either a product of their own environment or throughout their early teen to mid adult years, they’ve seen things that were acceptable and not wrong nor was it ever corrected! Thanks for being transparent and sharing your thoughts with us ♥️🙏🏽🙌🏽💯
Facts
When men date women for many many years; and say they are still not ready for marriage
In your mind; what would be valid reasons for this way of thinking? I've spoken to various friends about this and men/women have varying degrees of opinions.
What say you ?
@@CinnamonTwist0204
They have seen their friends lose everything they own in divorce court.
Next?
Loool seems u all have that job role
Why are many women and men adverse to hearing the TRUTH. The is bitter and must be served.
It's crazy how a lot of people are so self absorbed and locked in to their beliefs on everything. They can't really experience things fully and develop character to appreciate somebody with character and vulnerability.
Rebecca is spot on and I don't blame her, for stop serving black women in match making. That's it "focus on who likes you". Love your channel Nneka..new subbie here 💜
what percentage of black women would take this great advice? 25%. that is the current marriage rate of black women compared to 80% for Latinas and Asians. my two young cousins (about to enter college), one black, one black and Asain. both are pretty. my black cousin said she wants to go to school for a career in psychology. My asian cousin said she want to find a husband. Both 17!!!! Two DIFFERENT mentality. Which one has the best probability of winning?
Yeah she was making some good points
Matchmaking doesn't work anyway.
Guys when you are younger, it seems like the dating scene is unfair to you but I promise- as you age and as you develop your career and truly find yourself.. women will start to chase you down like nobody's business. Don't rush it Kings.
Unrealistic expectations yield unfulfilled dreams. Finally, the truth is being seen. Enduring relationships are founded on mutual enrichment & compromise. You're overlooking the very men possessing the qualities you're searching for. The handsome, wealthy playboy is not the husband material. The average working guy is more of a solid bet. Great video, ladies!
Grateful for your bold, courageous, generous, wise, elegant truth! Thank you dear beautiful Sister of Deep Truth!
A Relationship It's Takes... Fun, Respect, LOVE, Brains & Teamwork.
Yikes, you are gonna piss some people off with this one 😂.
I always tell people this, women choose who gets to F”@K, men choose who becomes girlfriends, fiancées and wives”
Use the power wisely.
This is true too funny to me but.
I stop trying to be faithful and stop respecting and trying to please women when I was 15 years old.
I use to be faithful and attentive and gave my all an got friendzoned.
I realized then I just want sex instead of friendship. If I can only have one it's just sex.
So I became the guy she complains about. So I can be the one fxxxcking.
Now women won't tell me about the guy they are cheating on with me. I'm the guy she cheats with. I'm the guy she talks about in her friend zone
Typically men chase women for just sex. An those women who I have sex with chase me for a commitment.
I never in my life dated for marriage...just sex.
💯 no wedding no womb
@@avybezgood for you. next!
That’s a lot of chasing going on!
Very spot on.
Even after recently separating from a 13-year marriage to a Japanese woman, my experience trying to date American Black women thus far has led me to conclude that I'll be going back overseas to find a new wife. South African women are some of the most gorgeous women in the world to me.
So many ABW have all of these impractical physical and economic expectations that I'd rather not be burdened with.
Bro make a u turn ASAP. Don't even look back. Finding a good wife material in the US or West is like finding a needle in a needle stack.
so why didn't your marriage last to this Japanese woman? I thought Asian women were perfect.
@@rosejames5172What makes Asian women perfect?
If it didn't work with your first marriage it might just be you 😂😂
@@rosejames5172who said they were perfect ?
"...Loyal to me, faithful to me, committed to me..." You are not the principal, you are not the center of existence.
I've never met a "single" bw. They usually have some dude in the background that they are being satisfied by. Single to a bw just means not having a commitment, doesn't mean she cannot get her wants and needs met.
Wonderful
Truth Indeed, And you better believe it.
Rebecca Lynn Pope was spot on. In the dating world, I was going after a particular type of woman that I thought I was attracted to. When I was getting rejected and turned down, I became quite discouraged. Then one day I decided to sign up on a site thats seen around the world and a day later, I was blown away. I had over a 150 messages. A week later, I had over 600. 😮😮😮😁😁😁👏 what I realized is: I was fishing in the WRONG LAKE. I was so focused on a certain type of woman that I was completely ignoring the nationalities that were totally into me. So I gave it a go. Best thing that ever happened to me.
That is exactly what happened to me too. Once I realized my value was in S East Asia it was game over. My only regret is not leaving BW 15 years ago.
We shall drink the tears of the strong black woman!
How can you fix something if you can't even admit that anything you're doing is wrong? No hope for them and no sympathy from men is coming.
The last comment about going where you are loved and liked is so important. I'll share my story and my path to self improvement etc as an anecdotal experience for others to maybe learn from.
I grew up in a black middle and upper class bubble, and also a black farming community in a rural Midwest state. Summers were going to private schools, Jack & Jill events, church camps, travel around the US or abroad etc. Back on the family farm, I went to the same mid sized black church my family had been attending for two generations, and had my crush on the nice church girls et but they didn't' seem interested in me or the guys at church like me. At my majority white rural school, I never had any problems attracting girls of other races.
As an adult, I ended up pursuing my career as a musician, and ended up living in Korea, and Japan for a few years playing in the jazz and concert/symphonic scene. I had no problems dating in Korea and ended up easily attracting women ranging from Afrikanners, Swedes, a long term relationship with a Korean woman, Scottish Canadians, and even a lovely woman from Ghana. I later on lived in Atlanta, Austin, and a few others places and during all those years, I was only ever able to attract one black woman for relationship. I spent a lot of time self-reflecting, doing personal development, seeking therapy, got a style consultant and dating coach and the only real outcome is that I was being approached even more by women of other races.
I met my wife via online dating a few years earlier and we reconnected via online dating after she graduated from law school. We dated with intention and were engaged after six months and married a year later. It's been 10 years, and we've been happily married; my family loves her completely if not more than me I presume because they keep inviting her on trips, trying to get her abroad to visit our African family members (by marriage) and more. She's white, of Irish descent, and fits in well with my family who are also lawyers.
My mom expressed to me she had hoped I would have been able to find a black woman to marry but then said "she saw how I struggled, and saw how all of my other cousins struggled too." Most of my first cousins are successful black men; business owners, lawyers, engineers, teachers, and only one is married to a black woman who is actually an African immigrant (that's also a lawyer). The rest are married or in long term relationships with well educated or career driven Latinos, African or Caribbean immigrants, or white women. I ponder why that is, and what happened to all of us that we were not able to attract women of our race.
I reflect on my childhood and a lot of those girls at church that my young nerdy self was interested in; all of them ended up single mothers, or married street dudes who ended up leaving them. I ran into one locally a few years ago, and she told me who she married and divorced and I said "I was surprised you married him" to which she said "so were my parents." I hate that this sounds like a stereotype nerdy black guy gets rich and marries white woman type of thing but that's my life.
Awww… this kind of resonated with me in a strange way. Although I cannot relate to your struggles of attracting the same race woman, I feel I do not have any real connection with black men and the high expectations of dealing with one so I hope to meet a man of any back ground who will love me and accept me. Not compare me to other women or thinkhis financial income makes him more valuable than myself. I would love to be married and share my love the same as you have found💕stay blessed.
Wow, just wow....
I saw this trend since the 90’s growing up and it’s sad. You just have to let them fail & learn🤦♂️
You preaching sis!❤
Absolutely wonderful to see a young intelligent black woman focus on intrinsic values that allow love to flow and develop for those who honestly seek a committed relationship.
lol...the only thing a Black woman can do for me is show me where the white women at🤣
I’m extremely impressed with Nneka and this video detailing the “Why” behind many women are single. This video speaks about accountability and that is very rare today. My first time watching her content and will look at more.
Exactly! This is when I knew my husband was my husband. He was the total opposite from my exes. I also matchmade my sorority sister and her husband. They are celebrating their 3 years wedding anniversary this year. Also, I started to post matchmaking advice on my Tiktok videos. I got some pushbacks from women just like Rebecca Lynn Pope did. The problem that i am seeing is that these same types of women are twerking in their videos and doing what Sexyy Red and Megan Thee Stallion does, but they want a man like a Russell Wilson or a Morris Chestnut. Men like Russell Wilson and Morris Chestnut don't date women who act like Sexyy Red and Megan Thee Stallion. I am happily married, by the way. Most women dont want to listen to me. But the ones who have listened are now married or engaged.
My Big mama use to say “Want the ones that … WANT YOU!!!!”
That’s great advice
Want the ones that want you and you will pay all the bills and he uses his money for strippers and others too numerous to mention not gullible for a ring/marriage but character...integrity and respect works both ways...
Truth Indeed
Great points.
When Nice became Bad. And Bad became Good. Then, being a Side Chick became popular before it was even a thing. Because Bad Boys started to take center stage in music, movies and other media. And like any trend, it just became more and more popular. However, the reality of finding a Corporate Thug will never exist in a way that is sustainable; because Thugs and Responsible Men are usually on two different paths, are two different types of Men and are usually in competition with each other; to a degree. Just like a Bad Boy will never be a Good Guy unless he has the proper motivation to change.
And the Love of Money and Power has done more to destroy Modern Women than anything else. Because, if a Person loves money more than relationships; you'll never have a good one. And true power and/or influence is gained through establishing good relationships with reliable and trustworthy people.
Wow. You’re so right about that. !!
Yes. You never get a corporate thug.
Best wishes with you videos; I personally believe in this subject because it is ruining the black community, and brothers aren't innocent either. Thanks for the message 👍🏾
Great comment
Yes great balanced comment ...thus one sided view of men and saying they are lonely there are good women who are lonely too why.... Ask them how they gave been poorly treated by these non innocent brothers
@@ruthy_love3389non innocent brothers that THEY chose, he can’t force you to be his
A great video, Nneka! Shout out to Rebecca Lyn Pope for a fantastic take! My sentiments too. Also great that from your name, Nneka, you’re clearly of Igbo (Nigerian) descent. We ought to talk sometime 😊. Rob
Spot on!!!! Great video for reference! I appreciate hearing this from black women 👏👏👏
This is a year old, but thank you, and I hope you're still posting. God Bless you and all your work!
Women and men need to know that we need to look inside the person first to find compatibility. Too often we look for the wrong things with unrealistic expectations.
It's about putting in the work, if there is no substance of what a Women wants especially Black Women. They will not put in the work, or be committed to put in the work.
She's absolutely right when I was in college s friend of mine was slaying alot of black females on campus and shockingly .I noticed females coming by earlier in the day for their dose but not willing to talk to single guys on campus they seemed pretty ok with sharing one dude it was sad and a very eye opening moment .
Lmao, was he white?😂😂
My first gf was black: she cheated on me with a dopeboy, then dumped and humiliated me, then went and have 2 abortions, and ended up as a single mom.
My 2nd crush was a BW: she chose to hookup with a dude who didn’t care about her “because he’s tall”( I’m 6’1 ), gave her an STD, then dumped her.
I’d be a total idiot to invest in a 3rd, I rather go to East-Asia for a wife.
Men, FORGET THESE MODERN WOMEN! You’ve been warned!
Damn cuz....I got me one in Bangkok...You need to vet them don't get the free lance girl don't meet them in a bar...Try to meet the young ones without kids at college campuses or at the market
Maybe it's the type of woman who is choosing to be with.
First things first. When you LOVE someone it's NATURAL NOT DEMANDING. You hope you find your BEST FRIEND within your relationship because FRIENDSHIP is the FOUNDATION to ANY RELATIONSHIP. How can you have a RELATIONSHIP and you can't even be FRIENDS?
This war seems like it will never end and it seems neither side is truly winning. At what point does each individual evaluate themselves to make sure they are doing the necessary work to get the results they want? More talking points or revenge conversations but no real results. One thing is for sure, you can't run from you. No matter where you go or what race you date YOU will still show up and this applies to both women and men. Just make sure you have done your work so that you can be a blessing and not a curse to the person you are aligning yourself with. There is a difference between grown folks and adults. Adults hold themselves accountable when applicable which keeps others from having to do it for them. Grown folks talk about it,complain, blame everybody else, won't take the time to learn which means they never grow, and then don't move. Adults assess, evaluate, learn, grow and take action. Grown folks have the need to be right. Adults have the desire to do right. Your results determines which applies to you. There needs to be a shift in mindset, healing and some heart transplants if we as a people will ever rise and be who we could be! 🙏🏽
the gender war is not real all races of men and women talk about each other behind the scenes now people run to the internet to tell their business
Very nice to call for self accountability in general. But men are not choosing divorce 80% of the time...
@@bplayerr1 I agree most of the time men are not filing for divorce. Other than the selfish narrative that is spoken of in theses spaces we can not deny the other whys behind the divorces. People need to heavily discuss what marriage looks like to them before they make that life decision. Finances, sex, home ownership, sickness, religion, children, etc. Some people just aren't built for marriage which it is why it is so easy for them to leave.
Great video and message. We need more sisters like you to break it down like this on a regular basis.
I’m guilty of having the attitude of being “fiercely independent.”
I feel saddened that those relationship coaches stopped doing their work with Black Women. When hearing this, it feels painful like someone else is giving up on us. Thank you for your comments Sis❤.
you can only rewind and play back the tape so many times before it wears out. At some point, people stop talking to a loud, argumentative, obnoxious, overly entitled, money hungry childish brick wall and move to greener pastures.
I have found that most people who claim independence suffer delusion.
And by no means am I directing that towards you, "I do not know you, and sincerely dont want you to be offended".
But the definition of "Independence" in todays society is terribly skewed, I recognized this during quarantine.
When the F/M unemployment rate was 3:1
The Economy, Political Climate & Resources determine who's independent or not, all of which are volatile and contingent on things out of the person claiming independence control.
And a Major factor in establishing modern independence, is technology
The introduction & adoption of a New Technology can change that in an instance I've seen it happen twice in my life time tech bubble in the 90's was a major one.
And Artificial Intelligence will change the landscape again. The Strength of being independent can turn into a weakness over night.
We're in the Goldie Lox era, this is only temporary.
Many thanks sis for your steady input!👍👍
Awesome video. I'm 55yo blk man single I dated many different women and they all this in common. Being on a date is like being on a 6 figure income a year job interview. I don't know what they want from men these days I see why their alone their expectations are for the 1% of men and them men are celebrities. Millionaire athletes with options. I flew over seas 🛫 to the Philippines 🇵🇭. Now the women their yes are far more corporatetive but the catch is they expect you to be the Man take care them and their family . Filipina women are very jealous. But can be extremely loyal at least the ones in the provinces.
I'm living in Thailand now 😊
Why are so many black men clicking and commenting on this video? If you have found your perfect non black wife, you should be spending time with them but the fact that you all purposely clicked on this video to leave dissertations about why you no longer date BW shows how sick and obsessed many of you are. You are still the hurt little boy mad that Monica from middle school didn't want you. Get over it and go watch videos on how to make Ming Lee dumplings or egg rolls, or how to invest in stocks, or how to take advantage of the new NFT/AI craze. Truth is, many of you were rejected because you picked girls out of your league who could smell the weakness in you.
@@purposepit7473I was with you until you started showing your racism against Asians. You're disgusting.
@@chefk2854 Yooo I was there in March in Bangkok....Ill be in Laos or Bangkok in September
@@purposepit7473I love this comment. They'll never admit that they were batting out of their league and overlooking good women to turn hoes into housewives. And I don't believe they're having luck overseas either. The marriage stats show who the real problem is. High divorce rates with every race of women ....
Great speaking points , we need more dialogue on this! I’ve been married and still looking for that wife! People are unrealistic on your priorities and principles that sustain marriage and respect
Women want love, men want respect.A man that chooses a woman to be his wife will know that she respects him first and that is why she loves him.
As a black man that speaks for himself…I value peace …I go through enough fighting this world , my job, racism, etc …and I have to come home and do the same with my Queen too?… nah I’d rather be alone
Woman. You are right on point.
So many people make out of court settlements. Particularly Women. .. I am a Man. And too am still single. .. I 'd rather be single and frustrated with emotions that I can manage. Rather with emotions being undervalued and underappreciated!
How very true the points made on this video. I am a married "Black" woman just as my mother and grandmother on my mom and dad's side. I observed and followed the script. The qualities I observed and were viewed as important and critical were such things as intelligence, hard-working, honesty, geninuity, etc. and not the superficial aspects often focused on today. Men are for women and women are for men. In a family men lead and that's simply the way it is. Women support and nurture and nothing is wrong with that. The masculinity of men and femininity of women complement and enhance each other.
Very well spoken and explained
Keep doing what you do
As women we should not give up on each other. For some, once the seed is planted it takes time and experience for the knowledge to blossom into action. Blessings to you and your family
"YOU CAN NOT MOLD STALE BREAD."
---MS. PINK BOOK LESSONS.
Wow that’s deep
POOKIE and RAY RAY has always been the #PREFERENCE not new and continues to be the case KS "You Cant Make This Shit Up!"
I listen to this and I’m glad I never married or had children with these BW this is sad! I’ve been single for 8 years and I love this vacation! I get to look at myself and know that my values are why I’m unmarried with no children! Sad that I had to come to this realization! My income has gone up in my career at least I’m winning in that area.
Guess what? There are women out here that have the same views, character and experience as yours and still get teased or looked at sideways as wasting their life being single by choice (choosing not to get knocked up by any bs men).
They going to hit the wall soon or put in "too nice and down-to-earth" category.
They don't want good girls (ladies) either.
@@nubiansis4440 Problem with your comments is single by choice! Since over Half the BM population is unmarried and childless with 64 percent of us in Middle class this means y’all have suitable men! I worked in sales door to door the numbers don’t support your comments! You refused to accept suitable men who are marriage minded! What age are BM who are married minded at? And what age do Men of all races reach they financial peak in they careers? In order to be a part of the selection process you have to know the market!! The majority of BW don’t know the dating market so you justify it with this single by choice Nonsense! Only young people make these statements. Sorry I’m not buying this product on the market! Many BW are unfit to be wives to the BM who are in the age group of they financial peak unmarried and childless! That’s over half the BM population so how are you single by choice?? It’s a numbers game!!
Colorism plays a role in why a lot of us are sinlge too
A lot of men do not want a dark skinned women. It is what it is.
Any excuse is better than none!😢
The flea bag from my old school the only one married now.
All the other girls would bully and call her names, because she was smelly and stuff , but foward the clock on 30 years, shes the only one still married to the same guy , they got about 10 kids , but they happy when you see em
All those pretty girls that use to give her hell , all been divorced 2/3 times ,kids for different guys ,some of em gone through hell and back fighting over kids etc and still single searching for love. thats how God works AP
You did a good job
They always blame someone's "coaching style" or their "tone" but trust me that's a diversion. What they really hate it's the truth and the fact that they have a lot of work to do. If it was just the tone or the coaching style, they wouldn't have had a problem with Monique and many others.
Also, don't try to help black women unless there's big money in it for you. I say this because they will use shame, insults and guilt trips. They also believe they are beyond reproach and that no one is allowed to talk about them and yet they talk about everything and everyone.
As a Black Man, I gave up on Black women a long time ago. Watching the Black women in my family being unable to keep a man and after being around these women in my family, I clearly understand why men couldn't tolerate them for too long. Bad attitudes and unrealistic expectations seem to be the norm among Black women. I am embarrassed to even say I am related to some of the women in my family. Multiple babies by Multiple men and can't get a man to commit to them because they go after the players and unattainable men and then they wonder why they can't find a good man.
If you have found your perfect non black wife, you should be spending time with them but the fact that you all purposely clicked on this video to leave dissertations about why you no longer date BW shows how sick and obsessed many of you are. You are still the hurt little boy mad that Monica from middle school didn't want you. Get over it and go watch videos on how to make Ming Lee dumplings or egg rolls, or how to invest in stocks, or how to take advantage of the new NFT/AI craze. Truth is, many of you were rejected because you picked girls out of your league who could smell the weakness in you.
@@purposepit7473 you sound mad as fuck. hit dog hollers
@@purposepit7473 And then here you come. With your dissertation. You can hear the misery and bitterness in your tone. Your Masters isn't going to keep you warm nor is that abnormally large amount of body fat that you lug around daily that is slowly killing you. How often do you cry yourself to sleep because you know you are a toy to the men you desire? 🤔
You should say American Black woman. I notice a lot of black women in America is single mothers .
I’m from the Caribbean and a lot of young Black men and women are getting married.
As a little girl growing in the Caribbean I wanted to get married at 18 I got married at 22.
Mostly what I saw growing up was married folks I wanted that being a little girl .
Living in America is so different from the Caribbean values are so different
@@LivingMyBestAlwaysYou mean the 80% out of wedlock birth of BLk American women....I have my passport refuse to date here lol
Brothers get your passports and leave them to date and each other. That’s who they value and who’s plight they sympathize with, other black American women. You don’t have to feel guilty. They’ve told you they don’t need you. They got this. They’re strong and independent. I’m proud of them and believe in their ability to make it alone. Go where you’re valued.
As an African stay where you are. You have proven to be as bad as your women
African women
I’m a happily married 49 year old. My wife who I’ve been with since 2005 is 43. I believe that you ladies miss the target by not having any idea what men want and need. First, there is a huge difference between dating you and actually marrying you. We want peace, respect and for our lady to be naturally sexually appealing and fulfilling. We don’t want someone who doesn’t need and want us. Not to marry. We will “date you”, but commitment, not usually. Our grandparents understood this yet our people over a very short time have come to place everything above the family and that starts with how they present themselves for their men.
I stop dating black women years ago ,after a while u get sick of being treated like 💩
Samehere stopped dating back men years ago and I had peace
@@lindao9377I don’t believe we asked you nor do we care
@@lindao9377 my good friend from high school did the exact same thing (she's black) .I actually encouraged her to give men of other enthic groups a try because I was sick of black dudes screwing her over
My girl is married with 3 kids now and I can't think a better man for her then her husband .
@@6feet6figures good because i wasn't talking to your toxic unwanted ass
Bye ✌🏾
When you discover you've been digging your own grave, let the first thing you throw away be the shovel. Live.
I do not mean to be disrespectful with what i am about to say but this is reality.
When a man works hard to make it to six figures, keeps himself fit, makes choices to be a good moral man and so on. The idea that any woman who is obese to morbidly obese, who is loud, combative, argumentative thinks she deserves him is very insulting.
The idea that a woman like this thinks she deserves a top tier man is where the delusion lives. On top of that, modern women believe they should not have to lift a finger in a relationship. How many of them say they won't cook, won't clean, won't perform any emotional labor but expect a man to pay all the bills, work all day and come home to do housework and still have time to romance her in order to keep her. There is a reason why the marriage rate is the lowest in recorded history. There is a reason why men will not get into a relationship. There is a reason that men are only doing 50/50. There is a reason that 75 percent of BW will never get married. It's not everyone else's fault. The modern woman is hreat for the workforce but offers nothing to a man in a relationship.
A high percentage of BM are also obese to morbidly obese, is loud, combative, foul mouth, saying the NWord 50 times a minute
The truth can never be disrespectful
As many women as there are on this earth and so called modern men feel the need to comment about women they claim they are totally unattracted to. Stick to what you like. Or is it that who you actually think you deserve to be with doesn't want you, just like you don't want fat and loud women. Lol go with what floats your boat. Anyone else is someone else's concern. Js
Get someone to clean if you make six figures and your life will be happier that means you value money over relationship/marriage stop looking at your wife as an object/houseslave...if she cooks 4 out of 7 days make suggestion to eat out some days or order food in...😮😮🙄🙄😳😳
Just because you make good money don’t mean anything , you may have bad attitudes bad hygiene and so forth
I’m a bit overweight obese as call it , but those other things you mention I don’t have.
I don’t deserve a good man I desire a honest loving kind faithful considerate man. A man that has Money won’t look my way Simply because I’m not slim and I’m not what you will call beautiful.
They won’t take the time to know me base on my outer appearance, women who men considered below 5 and below will not be even considered to be a wife.
It also seems like the reason why when you see BW with men of other cultures they have changed their demeanor and are usually more soft and feminine. Or if they have not changed usually those MEN have changed to adapt to OUR culture and are trying to emulate characteristics of "being black"
Usually the black woman has changed demeanor because other men won't put up with problems unnecessarily.
@@AvoidsPikes- precisely, but isn't that a form of self hate. I mean it shows that they have the ability but just not for BM. I can guarantee that the narrative will be that black men don't make them feel secure enough to express their own femininity. However, femininity is not conditional
@@AvoidsPikes- you’re definitely on point with this. I worked in corporate. And most of the females are white. And some black. But when I saw hi. To the black females.. they don’t look my way. But when I say hi. To the white ladies. The say hi back or just wave their hand. !! Today’s black females are just to evil. And bitter. Not all but most !!!
@@ThoughtsrdeadlyFeminity is conditional. If you live in a high crime area your demeanor must be hard to prevent assault.
Please! She is in her so called feminity because other men don't get in the way of it. Plain and simple. I have seen this first hand.
I aways wonder why the court system honored those unrealistic expectations
Why do these content creators make these "issues" black women "issues" as if other races don't face the same issues. See, what I came to realize, these platforms are used to conquer and divide black men and black women. Please read these comments below degrading black women as if this is a black women issue. Also, I never heard of platforms condeming black men and their weak behaviors always shaming black women. As if they are not apart of the problem too.
Me, myself, and I want to get marry but the individuals I have came across are not suitable. I have no kids either. So something is wrong with me because I don't want to settle? Maybe that is not who God designed for me.
Please stop with these conversations already. Are you all God?? What if God's plan is for a woman to met her ideal partner at 39 or 40? What if that is the plan? Who are you all to continue critiqing women who get married older. White women get married older and I dont hear these conversations from their counterparts. Then if a women settled that's another issue and women are condemned for settling.
Everyone need to worry about themselves and their personal growth. How about you all use your platforms to bring conhesion rather than division in the black community.
Media got the black community right where they want them and ya'll feed into it everyday.
Do we have issues as a community, yes, but how are these conversations helping if we are degrading our own ppl in the comments.
I cant wait for these platforms to be dead. Y'all up here talking for coins. Monkey see monkey do. ✌🏽
Comments like yours are the reality yet you’ll see the attention swayed towards the comments that support the narrative of “Black women are the problem”. I peeped game too and it’s disingenuous bc folks are screaming ‘accountability’ yet seem all too happy to run to pile guilt and blame on us. As if once all Black women on earth were women of good character, wisdom etc we wouldn’t be the issue anymore. No, the blame and disdain campaigns would continue with no ability to get to the root of the problems.
What a joke. Nothing will change until the laws change and accountability is enforced. Women in this country can commit paternity fraud, physical abuse, financial fraud, false accusations, parental alienation of the kids, withholding visitation, stalking, property crime, public humiliation, and so on.
Also, let's not talk about healthy living...obesity, lack of physical activity, zero exercise, except walking... Why would a quality black man sign up to marry any woman in the United States; especially a black women? You're still missing the point. Quality Black Men are walking/running away from Black women for everything. Not just relationships. No more smiles at the mall, no help with your flat tire, no heavy lifting, no casual friendships, NO NOTHING.
Of all the single men I know, none of them are looking to date or get married. The men currently in a relationship are all with Asians, Whites, and Hispanics. None of them are even considering a Black woman. Working at it daily will take a generation to turn this around. Otherwise, it will take 1000yrs. Congrats, Ladies; You won!!!??? For the men reading this, STAY SINGLE, work on yourself, travel and explore and don't even think about getting married...anywhere in the world. Marriage is government-sponsored slavery for men.
Yep you are on target
You must be a traveling man like myself. Only men who travel seem to get the big picture in this. Everything u stated is facts.
This is over, ladies be happy.
My philosophy is, women don't need us for survival and thats why relationships are failing. Its different when you are getting with someone out necessity versus, just a want and desire. Its why everyone's standards are so high. So i just deal with women on a professional level. I've given up on traditional relationships
They can't survive too long without us. Turn off the power. Feminism will be an ancient memory within a month.
Hmmmm! This is a great point bro! U juss gave me sum clear insight about the their mindsets nowadays, there at a point to where they can be their own boss, not needing a man for shii not even sexual favors (they have toys). Ur totally right bro 👍🏾
Honestly I’ve lost the plot with today’s women. I really don’t know what they want or looking for. I naturally always do the right thing and do right by them. Treating them like a queen doesn’t seem to appeal to them.
I would love for someone to treat me like a queen & appreciate my vulnerability & knowing where & when I need help. We can also help each other. It isn't a lot of work & will be worth it. I've been single a long time & would like to have a partner. Not a dictator or 1 sided thing. It takes 2
In my humble opinion, the problems in the Black community are far too nuanced for cookie cutter advisement on relationships where Black women are scapegoated. Most of these conversations that I have seen on social media are devoid of a holistic healing approach. They just trigger people and divide us further. Secondly, it seems as if we are feeding into allowing even more division to harm a community that is already very fragile and in need of healing and unity in order to move forward and pull out of this mess that we as a people have had a big part in creating.
You are part of the problem and don't listen. The problem is very clear as pointed by both women in the video, black women don't know how to spot or pick quality black men. Most of the quality and successful black men are with non black women!
Let BW Say and Do Whatever They Want.. Have a Great Life Ladies.. Fellas..SYS..The Arc is Almost Complete.
We live in a broken world. It doesn't matter what skin color we are; women of all skin color are not spared from what Rebecca or you are discussing here. I am non-black. I learned to work on my brokenness and focus on my self-development from RC and Lisa Blakes, a black minister couple. I am grateful to have a 2nd chance after a bitter divorce 12 years ago. For the past 19 months, I am working on a relationship with a wonderful man with the goal to get marry. The woman described in Proverbs 31 is attainable.
Great video. One of the best effort videos to stop a Passport Bro from looking overseas for love and marriage. A lot of black men are done mentally. Physical is next. This means looking for a place to live in Thailand or South America.
I'm married now(Married a foreign black woman 3 years ago) but when I was searching for a black woman in Amerikkka to marry it was really difficult. I became wealthy in my government job and investing in real estate, but I can remember a number of times when black women would pass me by as if I was invisible. I now realize it was not me, it was their unrealistic dating and marriage standards. Oh well, good luck in their search for Mr.Right. lol. Get those passports guys!!!!!!!!!!
Some people just don't want to put in the work that marriage takes for one reason or another.
Thanks sister this is avery educative video
I really like this video. Very refreshing!
Single women also need to stop having sex, cooking and cohabiting with men who haven't married them.Once you start performing wifey duties for a guy who hasn't married you ,he won't see reasons why he should put a ring on your finger anymore because he is already getting these benefits from you without any commitment on his part.
Wrong. The only part you got right was cohabitating.
Right. Totally agree.
As a Méxican I’ve been with a BW, it was the most terrifying thing ever; just too damn aggressive in all aspects w/ sense of entitlement along with being loud 24/7.
So marry someone you have zero feelings for? Humm…Y’all will find out this ish doesn’t work either. I have had gobs of men that were interested in me and seemed like “good guys”.
Long story short non of them were good guys…and it took me years of observation to see this. I chose to stay platonic and in time I saw their true colors.
Y’all reaching.
Yes that confused me as well. Why would a man want to marry a woman that’s not even interested in him?
Get a dog ma'am. You seem to lack introspection. Maybe these gobs of "good men" don't think you're a good woman, nor the type to invest in.
fr fr ...you BW are sick and spiritually doomed.
Or, just get to know the person that has good relationship qualities instead of writing him off because you didn't notice "chemistry/spark" on day one. Dating based on spark/chemistry is a horrible foundation to build a relationship on. Spark can literally be formed after, it doesnt always have to be present on day one, and thats mistake many women make.
The way womens brains process info is very draining. Nowhere did anyone say to date someone you have zero feelings for. If that's what you did, it was out of desperation/frustration and it was doomed from the start.
My apologies if that comes off offensive. My intent is not to disrespect you, but I hear these strange extreme rationalities from women too often and i wonder, why speed past ALL of the other possibilities to the worst most extreme misfortune as if it's the ONLY alternative? Lord..
@@hard3tell496Their thinking process is not based in reality alot of times.
No lies detected!😉👊🏾👍🏾
Making The wrong choice's in the Man they Chooses This will continue From Now On The Good man he's Too Good 💯💯💯
OG 59yrs old. It's hard as HELL out there now day's..MARRIAGE it works for some and some it doesn't. Real talk
Black women just don't like to be accountable.......so they are left ALONE to be in their single status 💯💯💯
Nothing worng with being sinlge
You mean we refuse to be held accountable for your lying, cheating, creating babies out of wedlock, and refusal to commit. Avoiding these men is a CHOICE.
Great video 😊
Married to the perfect girl when I was 21 after dating for 3 yrs. Worked, worked, worked so she didn't have to. She decided she wanted to get a job working at a 4 star hotel in the city. Soon after she became involved with a coworker. This changed me for the worse. I'm doing better now, dating but I don't put anyone on a pedestal and no behavior would shock me.
Show the man RESPECT and he will give you the LOVE you need. If you can't respect a man, don't go near love! Respect is the all time to releasing love from the heart of the man into the woman! Period! Nothing more Nothing less.
Respect is earned.
Fellas,
Understand and ACCEPT that these hoaz are for EVERYBODY 💯💯💯
It doesn't matter color, creed, or religion. All over the world, but ESPECIALLY in America, they are for EVERYBODY aka The Streets.
Once you internalize this truth, your life will become emphatically more easy.
Stay safe kings
👑👑👑
It's narcissism. It's everywhere. The last girl I dated I built up. All she did was enjoy the ride and watch everything I did waiting to find fault. Too bad she didn't turn that inspector magnifying glass on herself. I'm looking for a wife, not an immature child.
Let's keep it 100 is accountability on both sides and you have to also be a humble woman who's done the homework and has learned her lesson from being promiscuous and running game
I’m in my late 40’s and I feel bad because I wasted years with the wrong men and I’m not married and I don’t have kids 🙏🏾🙏🏾
God is punishing you. Good luck to you
I was attracted to a classmate in high School. She did not give me the time of day. I lost track of her and heard she had a drop out boyfriend. While I was a sophomore in college, I stopped by a Burger King and there she was working the counter. I ducked out
before she could see me. I called around and asked what happen to her. I was told that she got pregnant and dropped out of school and her boyfriend ran around on her, until they broke up.
I imagine what we could have been.
I did meet a lovely wife in Grad school. “ She did my papers.” 😊🎉
“It doesn’t matter who you like, who likes YOU?” Honestly the best piece of advice I’ve ever gotten was to pick from the pool of men who are interested in me and to not pay any attention to who I like. I’d say it’s the sole advice that got me married. I started to focus on who was in my orbit, then compared them all to see who was the most sincere. I’m so glad I did because I would have been so sorry to miss out on my husband. He’s only gotten more attractive and more precious to me over time❤
I love this!
it all boils down to being patient and realistic (observation is a key) the more anyone REALLY loves oneself, the more chances are that they won't pick someone who will treat them bad and be able to love and appreciate the one that treat them well.
The proof is in the Pudding
BW should shut up and stop making excuses.
@nnekaonyiloforYou are just a misorgnistic pick me girl. And for an Igbo woman, it's even more crazier. Acting like the reason most black women are single are not because black men are nothing to write home about. They are weakest link in the community, no job, no education but rather several jail terms. When will women like you wake up and actually hold these men accountable? When? You act like you can't see the deplorable state of black men. Which reasonable black woman wants to have any thing to do with a demographic that is known for robbery, illiteracy and felonies. This is 2024, this pick me behaviour needs to stop.
Why do you have to get ran through and hit the wall before you wake up? That’s extremely disrespectful to the man who’s investing into you.
They can do whatever they want. You just get your passport. Passport bros are up 🛫
@@imdon8920 I was just about to type the same thing😅😅😅
Never wife up a woman who gave her best years to a bunch of low lifes fellas, never.
Amen 🙏 !! Oh my GOD !! Why don’t they Understand that 😮 !! ..
And I literally just posted this before I read this comment.
We not doing that anymore.