Oh my goodness she said exactly how i feel! I feel like my autism and ADHD are in constant conflict with ky need for perfect order and my inability to keep my house the way i need it!
Story of my life; having to constantly over explain why I can’t do something NT/non disabled people find easy because the reasons are so numerous and unusual, and often only one of the reasons doesn’t explain why I can’t, because it’s usually several reasons combined that make me unable to do the thing. I give one explanation and still get blank stares, so I explain the next reason etc etc, then they just look at me like I’m making up excuses not to do the thing. 😢😣
Really helpful for me to hear about her burnout. My Integrated Autism Service doctor was not remotely surprised to hear I had had a severe breakdown 20 years ago. I am very glad I have the diagnosis now albeit so late in life. It has been hard to take on board at times but on the whole it feels like I have found out who I am! At last!!
4:20 WOW! Your experience with diagnosis as an adult mirror mine in so many ways. I was suicidal and extremely depressed and burning out fast. I could not go to work. I can't go back to work now. I had the same problems... but its been almost 7 years now and things are going better. Thanks so much for sharing this.
Your Chanel has literally given me hope and has helped immensely in normalising what I am experiencing so I just wanted to appreciate you and the work you do! Because in my situation it’s been a matter of life and death having access to your content and contents alike, so thank you x
Oh dear g-d. This girl is me. A downward spiral from the digital marketing content scene sent me on the dx trail. 1 day left to go. Your videos, among a few others, have been incredibly helpful. I can't believe so many of us in our 30s, 40s, and older are just now getting help.
Im 39 and just found out I was autistic last year. I look back and so much lines up - all Of the masking just to blend in somewhat normally. The problem with an autism diagnosis is “ok.. so now what?”.. in ways it is actually more confusing now that I know that I’m autistic
Thank you, both. I don't know if this is helpful, but in case it is: An acquaintance, also from Norway, also had vertigo caused by crystals in the inner ear. At the hospital, a physio therapist adjusted his neck, and immediately solved the issue. His story kind of amazed me, especially the fact that the hospital personnel were aware of this method.
Wow this video was amazing. Thank you. I have my assessment date on Wednesday at 28 years old and feel somewhat lost. I look forward to watching more of your videos :) xx
How ideal with social anxiety for me what works is I'm going somewhere I specifically talk to employees so I get to have familiar faces and these places I go to it makes it easier for me cause before I started doing that I was having massive panic attacks and now I don't really have as many and usually there's so mild I can just keep going through. You just have to find what works for you.
This video prompted a thought. Do people with ASD experience pain in a different way and maybe respond to medications for pain differently. Pain will cause me to become incapable of thinking for days. Anaesthesia will cause a meltdown when coming to. They think I’m being combative but what I discovered this time was I was hand flapping when coming out of it. Tramadol caused the same thing. Narcotics in general cause meltdowns.
Working on my ASD dx, but I'm also combative coming out of anesthesia. I get 'Emotional' on pain meds. Not sure about feeling more pain. I am a natural redhead and THAT has been studied, and found that the same gene that causes red hair causes us to feel more pain and also causes us to have trouble getting numb. I have to have the highest grade of novocaine at the dentist, and I need more time for it to kick in.
Hi, thankyou for making these videos. I feel slightly called out though! I am currently under my local Mental health Team with anxiety and bouts of depression AGAIN. I burnt out after 5 weeks at work after lockdown due to change and social anxiety making it difficult to work. I stumbled across one of your previous videos about girls on the spectrum and wondered if it could be possible that I may also be autistic. I have taken tests onlinre and scored in the 30s but kept results to myself. A few weeks ago my CPN brought up autism so I told her about my research and online test results and she agreed it may be a possibility. I have undertaken online courses in autism to support those I worked with. Although they mentioned that autism may present differently in females there wasn't a lot of information about how different it could be. I realised that I stimmed through that studies but thought I couldn't be autistic because I can force myself to make eye contact. I would never have considered that I may be autistic if it wasn't for your videos. Please keep making them. 🌟
I noticed one more common thing females on the Autism Spectrum do more than males, is that they try to fit in (mask) so much more, that they also use like watching Series and Movies to understand emotions better, and how you react in Situations and what you may can say in some Situations. And then using those which hides a lot of actual lower social skills and end up that you use way too much energy.
This was freakishly like listening to myself w/ a Norwegian accent, even the job being almost the same. Last year I became suspicious I may fall on the spectrum after seeing a Yo Samdy Sam video. My misophonia (which I’m still told is something I’m just making up & I’m being childish) was at an all time high. Apparently it had been made worse due to the side effects of medications used to treat a rare & potentially fatal infection that hospitalized me for weeks. I found one of her videos when doing a search about sound protection. As the video progressed I was stunned at just how similar our characteristics were. I have wanted to seek help ever since, but am afraid I won’t be taken seriously & dismissed…AGAIN. I experienced a few traumatic events several years ago. Any time I have sought help since, even for ailments I believed to have been viral, etc (down to actually seeing blood where there shouldn’t be 🤢), it’s usually written off to my still recovering from the major infection mentioned above, being a hypochondriac, but usually to the stress my body went through from the traumatic events. Though I don’t deny they shook me to the core of my being, the things that have me wondering if I fall on the spectrum were in existence decades before they occurred….including my earliest childhood memories. I really want to find out, it would explain so much, and I would greatly welcome the guidance/assistance it might bring. I just can’t bear the humiliation of not being taken seriously for evaluation.
It's so funny, I'm reading all the comments here, and even the way we write a response about this video seem similar (additionally I look at your name, I see the hearts and the rainbow colors and Rainbow Brite, and I see another me out there in the world 🌈)... I hope you get help somehow, as I hope I get help for myself somehow... Being stuck (and not believed & seemingly invisible to others (with invisible issues)) when you feel like you have so much potential and so much to offer feels really sucky & heartbreaking 💔... But I hate ending off on a sad note.. So I'm sending Rainbows of Love your way!! 🌈🌈 🌈 ❤💜💋💋 (PS. I loved Rainbow Brite as a kid, I also loved JEM! (Truly Outrageous..) With her magic pink star earring ⭐)
My daughter is autistic and has vertigo! Bppv in childhood, or something. She gets really dizzy for a few minutes, can’t stand up and then it’s gone again. It will most likely grow away, but might turn into migraine have I heard
I cannot stand having this condition i have zero communication with people even family members, I don’t have a career don’t have any true friends ,I don’t have girlfriend. Every time I plan good routine then act on it get burnout
Hey i've had a friend tell me and she just Said she thought I behaved a bit like her autistic friend and that she recognised some traits and that she just wanted to tell me incase it would help me :) and i actually had already self dx cause i've done a lot of research (i was 16) but My parents didn't want to take Care of the diagnosis so i had to do the whole process
I told someone I thought they were autistic and they took it very hard, because there is so much stigma around it and because he already had so many self-esteem issues. One other friend suggested bringing it up subtly, like mention articles about people's experiences and see how they respond. This can at least start to change the way they think about autism before they think about how it fits with themselves. If I was more patient I would have done it this way instead of telling him flat out, lol
Holy Sh**! I feel like I just found my soulmate! I feel like I'm watching a Norwegian version of myself... The parallels to my own life are freaky 🤯🤯🤯 (Even the way she answers your questions, apologetic/laughing and long back-storied are things that I would do) ... Now I'm starting to wonder about myself... I always thought it was ADD & OCPD for myself. It's like having the odd-couple in one person, 2 complete opposites in 1. In a constant paradox. I don't know anymore... 🙄🤔🙃
I have taken 4 AQs and all of them resulted as Autism spectrum disorder. I am concerned and since I am gonna have an appointment with a psychiatrist for the first time soon I think I should bring it up and consider a diagnosis. I pretty much relate to the criteria and could say I fit the traits of autism but I want to make sure. I don't know if it's the right thing😐
You can definitely say you wish to be diagnosed, and can say that you suspect being on the autism spectrum, and then maybe ask if the psychatrist knows enough about it to do that maybe.
@@JoanneWhitlock He has another video where he discusses specifically social anxiety with another girl... Unrelated to autism, I've researched social anxiety a ton throughout the years, in the end I've realized, really there is no easy way out (like drinking alcohol, which I've done, and sometimes (only on rare occasions) it's worked out superbly & was AH-MAZING!! to be FREE 🌈 💜 🦄 👯♀️ ❤, but obviously that's not a long-term or healthy solution - (just to be clear, I'm not recommending drinking alcohol of course, just sharing my experience, also the drinking alcohol wasn't "AH-MAZING!", the finally being able to FREE & ME! feeling was AH-MAZING!). It's just like a muscle, building it stronger. It's always extremely hard for me. It's either I face it or I don't. It's only mattered to me when I've given up on social events that have really mattered to me, that is when it has really broken my heart. 💔 I don't care about the social events that most of the world care about and am quite introverted, so I'm lucky in that aspect. Sorry if my response was more than you were asking for! Either way, I wish You luck on your social anxiety journey!! 💜👯♀️❤
@@JoanneWhitlock Just watched one of your videos, so maybe I didn't respond appropriately to your question regarding social anxiety with all the extra-ness I added that you didn't ask for 😉... Anyhow, I laughed when you said that you thought that speaking in Spanish would give you confidence to speak 🤭, I can relate to the far-out methods I've thought of to be able to put the pieces of My Puzzle together. Yep, yep! Be Well ☀️😊🥰
A huge thanks for making all these videos with autistic women… This is infinitely appreciated 🙏
Oh my goodness she said exactly how i feel! I feel like my autism and ADHD are in constant conflict with ky need for perfect order and my inability to keep my house the way i need it!
Story of my life; having to constantly over explain why I can’t do something NT/non disabled people find easy because the reasons are so numerous and unusual, and often only one of the reasons doesn’t explain why I can’t, because it’s usually several reasons combined that make me unable to do the thing. I give one explanation and still get blank stares, so I explain the next reason etc etc, then they just look at me like I’m making up excuses not to do the thing. 😢😣
Really helpful for me to hear about her burnout. My Integrated Autism Service doctor was not remotely surprised to hear I had had a severe breakdown 20 years ago. I am very glad I have the diagnosis now albeit so late in life. It has been hard to take on board at times but on the whole it feels like I have found out who I am! At last!!
4:20 WOW! Your experience with diagnosis as an adult mirror mine in so many ways. I was suicidal and extremely depressed and burning out fast. I could not go to work. I can't go back to work now. I had the same problems... but its been almost 7 years now and things are going better.
Thanks so much for sharing this.
Thank you for all of your videos. My 5 year old daughter was diagnosed with autism in March and I have been learning a lot from you.
I think a lot of Aspies have gone through the same experiences, myself included.
Ive never been so excited to go follow someone on instagram! Im in that burnout stage myself anf trying to find my way out of it.
Charlotte, The Spectrum Girl is delightful ! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Your Chanel has literally given me hope and has helped immensely in normalising what I am experiencing so I just wanted to appreciate you and the work you do! Because in my situation it’s been a matter of life and death having access to your content and contents alike, so thank you x
That is so heart warming! Happy to have you here! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).
Oh dear g-d. This girl is me. A downward spiral from the digital marketing content scene sent me on the dx trail. 1 day left to go. Your videos, among a few others, have been incredibly helpful. I can't believe so many of us in our 30s, 40s, and older are just now getting help.
Im 39 and just found out I was autistic last year. I look back and so much lines up - all
Of the masking just to blend in somewhat normally. The problem with an autism diagnosis is “ok.. so now what?”.. in ways it is actually more confusing now that I know that I’m autistic
she's so bubbly and cute.
Thank you, both. I don't know if this is helpful, but in case it is: An acquaintance, also from Norway, also had vertigo caused by crystals in the inner ear. At the hospital, a physio therapist adjusted his neck, and immediately solved the issue. His story kind of amazed me, especially the fact that the hospital personnel were aware of this method.
Charlotte-- I relate so much to your struggle to find the short answer! That made me giggle! Great interview!
Omg seeing her look down to pick at her fingernails while you were talking made me giggle, cause that is exactly me
Dee from Hove, UK.
Listening to you it sounds like my story. Stay strong xxx
You know who you are now! Be happy and move forward no one can stop you now.
Her work issues sound just like mine before I had a breakdown.
Wow this video was amazing. Thank you. I have my assessment date on Wednesday at 28 years old and feel somewhat lost. I look forward to watching more of your videos :) xx
Thanks Dan, for another great interview. I can relate to the social anxiety part of Charlotte's journey, all too well. 🙏🤍
How ideal with social anxiety for me what works is I'm going somewhere I specifically talk to employees so I get to have familiar faces and these places I go to it makes it easier for me cause before I started doing that I was having massive panic attacks and now I don't really have as many and usually there's so mild I can just keep going through. You just have to find what works for you.
Thanks you for talking with an autistic woman! Also i Love that she's norvegian from a fellow Scandinavian woman :)
This video prompted a thought. Do people with ASD experience pain in a different way and maybe respond to medications for pain differently. Pain will cause me to become incapable of thinking for days. Anaesthesia will cause a meltdown when coming to. They think I’m being combative but what I discovered this time was I was hand flapping when coming out of it. Tramadol caused the same thing. Narcotics in general cause meltdowns.
Working on my ASD dx, but I'm also combative coming out of anesthesia. I get 'Emotional' on pain meds. Not sure about feeling more pain. I am a natural redhead and THAT has been studied, and found that the same gene that causes red hair causes us to feel more pain and also causes us to have trouble getting numb. I have to have the highest grade of novocaine at the dentist, and I need more time for it to kick in.
Big thanks for this upload! Anxiety is horrible but we can beat it!
Hi, thankyou for making these videos.
I feel slightly called out though! I am currently under my local Mental health Team with anxiety and bouts of depression AGAIN. I burnt out after 5 weeks at work after lockdown due to change and social anxiety making it difficult to work. I stumbled across one of your previous videos about girls on the spectrum and wondered if it could be possible that I may also be autistic. I have taken tests onlinre and scored in the 30s but kept results to myself. A few weeks ago my CPN brought up autism so I told her about my research and online test results and she agreed it may be a possibility.
I have undertaken online courses in autism to support those I worked with. Although they mentioned that autism may present differently in females there wasn't a lot of information about how different it could be. I realised that I stimmed through that studies but thought I couldn't be autistic because I can force myself to make eye contact.
I would never have considered that I may be autistic if it wasn't for your videos.
Please keep making them. 🌟
I noticed one more common thing females on the Autism Spectrum do more than males, is that they try to fit in (mask) so much more, that they also use like watching Series and Movies to understand emotions better, and how you react in Situations and what you may can say in some Situations. And then using those which hides a lot of actual lower social skills and end up that you use way too much energy.
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I took digital media design in college. Graphic design art classes were fun. 👍
This was freakishly like listening to myself w/ a Norwegian accent, even the job being almost the same. Last year I became suspicious I may fall on the spectrum after seeing a Yo Samdy Sam video. My misophonia (which I’m still told is something I’m just making up & I’m being childish) was at an all time high. Apparently it had been made worse due to the side effects of medications used to treat a rare & potentially fatal infection that hospitalized me for weeks. I found one of her videos when doing a search about sound protection. As the video progressed I was stunned at just how similar our characteristics were. I have wanted to seek help ever since, but am afraid I won’t be taken seriously & dismissed…AGAIN. I experienced a few traumatic events several years ago. Any time I have sought help since, even for ailments I believed to have been viral, etc (down to actually seeing blood where there shouldn’t be 🤢), it’s usually written off to my still recovering from the major infection mentioned above, being a hypochondriac, but usually to the stress my body went through from the traumatic events. Though I don’t deny they shook me to the core of my being, the things that have me wondering if I fall on the spectrum were in existence decades before they occurred….including my earliest childhood memories. I really want to find out, it would explain so much, and I would greatly welcome the guidance/assistance it might bring. I just can’t bear the humiliation of not being taken seriously for evaluation.
It's so funny, I'm reading all the comments here, and even the way we write a response about this video seem similar (additionally I look at your name, I see the hearts and the rainbow colors and Rainbow Brite, and I see another me out there in the world 🌈)... I hope you get help somehow, as I hope I get help for myself somehow... Being stuck (and not believed & seemingly invisible to others (with invisible issues)) when you feel like you have so much potential and so much to offer feels really sucky & heartbreaking 💔... But I hate ending off on a sad note.. So I'm sending Rainbows of Love your way!! 🌈🌈 🌈 ❤💜💋💋 (PS. I loved Rainbow Brite as a kid, I also loved JEM! (Truly Outrageous..) With her magic pink star earring ⭐)
thank you life im autistic and well its a big confort and good to know about this
What a Great girl
I'm a graphic designer as well and I'm in that burn out right now. Same struggle and symptoms. 😩
I love the hair.
My daughter is autistic and has vertigo! Bppv in childhood, or something. She gets really dizzy for a few minutes, can’t stand up and then it’s gone again. It will most likely grow away, but might turn into migraine have I heard
I love Charlotte ☺️She's so nice
Yes she’s lovely!!
Been Following her for a long time!
I cannot stand having this condition i have zero communication with people even family members, I don’t have a career don’t have any true friends ,I don’t have girlfriend. Every time I plan good routine then act on it get burnout
How to bring up to someone that you think she is on the spectrum? Actually we break up but want to tell her..
Hey i've had a friend tell me and she just Said she thought I behaved a bit like her autistic friend and that she recognised some traits and that she just wanted to tell me incase it would help me :) and i actually had already self dx cause i've done a lot of research (i was 16) but My parents didn't want to take Care of the diagnosis so i had to do the whole process
Be sure to tell her why you think she’s on the spectrum so she can understand your perspective
I told someone I thought they were autistic and they took it very hard, because there is so much stigma around it and because he already had so many self-esteem issues. One other friend suggested bringing it up subtly, like mention articles about people's experiences and see how they respond. This can at least start to change the way they think about autism before they think about how it fits with themselves. If I was more patient I would have done it this way instead of telling him flat out, lol
Holy Sh**! I feel like I just found my soulmate! I feel like I'm watching a Norwegian version of myself... The parallels to my own life are freaky 🤯🤯🤯 (Even the way she answers your questions, apologetic/laughing and long back-storied are things that I would do) ... Now I'm starting to wonder about myself... I always thought it was ADD & OCPD for myself. It's like having the odd-couple in one person, 2 complete opposites in 1. In a constant paradox. I don't know anymore... 🙄🤔🙃
Wow she is so beautiful! Personality and look, Im in love !!!🥰 !
The bunnies could be the resumption of cooking videos.
Ha! She is great!
I have taken 4 AQs and all of them resulted as Autism spectrum disorder. I am concerned and since I am gonna have an appointment with a psychiatrist for the first time soon I think I should bring it up and consider a diagnosis. I pretty much relate to the criteria and could say I fit the traits of autism but I want to make sure. I don't know if it's the right thing😐
You can definitely say you wish to be diagnosed, and can say that you suspect being on the autism spectrum, and then maybe ask if the psychatrist knows enough about it to do that maybe.
I am relating so well right now. I need to go make my assessment
hi, did I miss the bit about social anxiety? did I blink?
I'm with You! 😁... I was thinking maybe it was the part where she spoke about work and having to interact with a lot of clients all the time.. 🤷♀️
@@moodymandy hi, do you know anyone who talks about social anxiety?
@@JoanneWhitlock He has another video where he discusses specifically social anxiety with another girl... Unrelated to autism, I've researched social anxiety a ton throughout the years, in the end I've realized, really there is no easy way out (like drinking alcohol, which I've done, and sometimes (only on rare occasions) it's worked out superbly & was AH-MAZING!! to be FREE 🌈 💜 🦄 👯♀️ ❤, but obviously that's not a long-term or healthy solution - (just to be clear, I'm not recommending drinking alcohol of course, just sharing my experience, also the drinking alcohol wasn't "AH-MAZING!", the finally being able to FREE & ME! feeling was AH-MAZING!). It's just like a muscle, building it stronger. It's always extremely hard for me. It's either I face it or I don't. It's only mattered to me when I've given up on social events that have really mattered to me, that is when it has really broken my heart. 💔 I don't care about the social events that most of the world care about and am quite introverted, so I'm lucky in that aspect. Sorry if my response was more than you were asking for! Either way, I wish You luck on your social anxiety journey!! 💜👯♀️❤
@@JoanneWhitlock This is the video ruclips.net/video/dxJwH74o1Ck/видео.html
@@JoanneWhitlock Just watched one of your videos, so maybe I didn't respond appropriately to your question regarding social anxiety with all the extra-ness I added that you didn't ask for 😉... Anyhow, I laughed when you said that you thought that speaking in Spanish would give you confidence to speak 🤭, I can relate to the far-out methods I've thought of to be able to put the pieces of My Puzzle together. Yep, yep! Be Well ☀️😊🥰
Rather than rabbits check out ponies of horses.
Good video
This is great because I am trans ftm so I show the symptoms of women but I’m a guy which makes things very annoying :)
You got this king 👑. Keep your head up 👍
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It’s still OK to say aspergers it’s not insulting or demeaning
You speak for yourself. As a history/archaeology major I am not for it
It’s history is toxic and dividing
@@Girllookhoworangeyoulook ?
Now it is just autism
00:49 "newly discovered"? Surely you meant "recently diagnosed".
oh hey second I guess
Can she use You Tube?