What did a professional say or do that made you immediately lose trust in them?
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Got the boot from my psychiatrist because "if you wanted to be better, you would be by now". Thanks for kicking over the pile of progress I was making
The hell wrong with this psychiatrist? I would be happy to take patients day to day, no matter what progress they made. Not only money in it but also my purpose is realized.
I'd report him
I understand incentivizing your patient to make progress and get better, but you do that by being compassionate, showing ways, and supporting them. Kicking them out bc they don't get better at the rate you arbitrarily set up for them seems highly unethical.
I was told by a consultant that the MRI of my brain was fine. I asked what were the sections that were darker and different from one side of my brain to the other. He was not impressed at my question and asked me what I wanted him to do about it. i asked him to refer me to someone who knew what they were looking at. He was furious and marched me out of the office. In fairness he did refer me to a Neurologist. It turned out I had an Arterial Veinous malformation. When I saw the Neurosurgeon he told me I had several aneurysms that would require surgery. Surgery went well.
At least the neurologist knew what was up
Headache specialist who condescendingly asked, "Now what makes you *think* you have migraines?" Oh, gee, doc, I dunno. Maybe it was the diagnoses from three different neurologists in two countries?
I was summarizing my medical history to a new psychiatrist and told him I had Asperger's. He immediately condescendingly said, "Who told you that you have Asperger's?" Well gee, how about a respected local center and all my fellow autistic friends, one of whom picked up on it within the first 30 seconds of meeting me? And how about the fact that I'm so good at spotting it that people have literally been diagnosed because picked up on it and told them to get tested? I should have walked out right there. Between that and him trying to change my known-working meds to ones that would harm me, I left and never went back, and left him a scathing 1-star review. Some people should just retire.
That’s horrible and I don’t think they should be a headache specialist. Because I am believed just from explaining my symptoms when it’s a migraine vs an extremely painful eye strain headache.
I had a therapist tell me once when I asked her how she stayed so thin and lost weight fast after her baby was born, “ Oh all you have to do is not eat. That’s what I do, I just stop eating or never eat anything hardly at all.” And I said “ Are you serious right now?” and she says “ Yes, that’s what you might want to do if you want to lose weight. Try not eating.” and it was at this moment I realized my therapist could have Anorexia and was telling me to try it myself, and that made me not want her advice ever again.
That's a major yikes. Did you report her? It shouldn't be legal for a therapist to have a mental disorder and *recommend it*.
That's horrifying! I'm glad you recognized it and didn't trust her on this very bad 'advice'.
Cutting down carbs is an effective way of losing weight, though it might be different for some people. Easiest way is to remove bread/potatoes/rice from your meals. You can eat anything but those, I managed to lose a kilo a month just doing that. No extra excercise, no specific meal plan, just reducing my carb intake. Though come to think of it, I reduce my heavy meals to once a day though, so take it with a grain of salt.
@@iqbalindaryono8984 please don't give unsolicited diet advice. She didn't ask us, she just shared an experience. Can't speak for her, but I know many people (myself included) find that kinda rude.
@@fullmoonshadow6967 It shouldn't be legal but it is.. So who're you planning to report to?
I have Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. My doctor knew this. When I was 23, he refused to renew my prescription for birth control because I "wasn't married." I went to Planned Parenhood from then on, and haven't gone back to that doctor since.
Why am I not surprised your doctor was a he.
Also, doesn't he know birth control can be used to even out irregular periods? Not just for its main purpose? Jeez...
Heres maybe a good story to hopefuly brighten your day:
I've had the same Pediatrician since i was 4 hours old, right up till i was 18. this lady waited 4 YEARS to retire so she could keep seeing me untill I turned 18 and was technically out of her bracket, and even then waited two more months to have one final visit to make sure i was ok and set me up with an adult oriented doctor (dont know the name).
i hope her retirement is treating her well and that shes happy, shes the only doctor I've had long term and i trusted her compleatly, she even got to meet my service dog!
My psychiatrist told me I wasn’t autistic or had ADHD on the first visit to him and he even took it off my file. I quit him immediately and started at a different place after that. I’m working on getting re-diagnosed now because of him.
The funny thing is I was mute that whole session which is a sign of autism, he should’ve noticed that if he was a “professional
Fellow aut here, with ADD and two ADHD family members- That sounds absolutely insane, and that dude should probably lose his practising license.
I wanna add to bank of fun. Psychologist that works with my little brother, diagnosed autistic since early childhood, told me on phone consultation there's no way I am autistic cause I am verbal and don't present like Rain Man
This is tragically common. Now I do think autism is overdiagnosed and ADHD shouldn't even be a thing (I think society should include help for people who are inclined like this by default) but you are no way going to determine a person has autism or can be diagnosed with ADHD on the first visit unless its SUPER obvious. They need to be extensively tested for that.
Psychologists casually dismissed all the abuse and trauma I've gone through. I've already learned to deal with my problems completely alone and no matter how many times people say "You deserve help", I'm not gonna take the risk of being retraumatized.
This happened just yesterday. My son had a root canal by his regular dentist. One of the roots is crooked and the dentist couldn't clean it properly so he referred my son to an endodontist. All the endodontist was supposed to do was clean that root and patch the tooth so my son could return to his dentist to complete the root canal.
Fast forward to yesterday. We drove an hour to the endodontist's office. The office looked like a palace. Who on Earth has antique furniture and original art works in their waiting room? The waiting room looked more like a museum. I started getting a bad feeling.
Sure enough. The endodontist wanted $1500 upfront in addition to insurance. That's more than my son brings home in a week. My son couldn't pay all of it that day, so the endodontist refused to see him.
My son's dentist was flabbergasted. They've decided to just pull the tooth next week and do an implant.
My Docs waiting room was the same and the office was magnificent ! 😳 yet he told me that my MRI of my brain was fine and did not diagnose a defect that even I could see.
Jesus christ. If it weren't for the money, they probably would be shut down for extortion. But you know authorities, they won't do shit if their pockets are being stuffed.
I find the some of the shittiest doctors/dentist/oral surgeons/ has the nicest decor right before they overcharge you to hell and back!! And fuck up my wisdom tooth extraction and put me in the worst pain i’ve ever felt in my life.
It's actually better that way. Root canals destroyed my health. Because of all the microtubules they can't properly disinfect them. One study showed 100% of all roots in root canaled teeth had some type of pathogen present.
Fire alarms became mandatory by law in my country, one in every bedroom. Dude putting them up mentions my boobs, how comfy my bed looks and some other deep creeps. The second he leaves, I call husband (electronic & audio tech) at work and tell him we need to check these alarms as soon as he comes home. No hidden cameras, but man, not a pleasant experience!
It’s a good thing you checked the guy sounds like a total CREEP!!
Story 21: it's mysogeny. The medical profession is still stuck in the belief that women are lesser than men and our medical issues are unimportant. Especially when it comes to reproductive issues. I too have experienced this... I was suffering from crippling pain and heavy flow every month, and sometimes it would skip months and be even worse when it did come back. Took **ten years** to get the doctor to take me seriously and I was finally diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome
For millennia women died in childbirth and the husband just married a new woman in a heartbeat. Our pain does not matter and if we die it is no big deal. Since most Drs are men they apply that devaluation to their female patients. I don’t know if it is learned carelessness or something hardwired in the male brain.
@@Lily_of_the_Forest My doctor was a woman. So not only is it learned carelessness, it's infectious learned carelessness >_
@@cyberra0180 really? I had more trouble with male doctors than female. I am sorry women are being as horrible as men.
Many doctors are still learning practices from textbooks that have just been reprinted from the 1940s when there's better more ethical practises that exist, so the rampant callousness from doctors especially in modern day with the addition of mental health, doesn't surprise me whatsoever. Research to teaching pipeline is so ridiculously long that it could take decades for that mentality to change. Wasn't that long ago that medicine believed that infants couldn't feel pain at all and/or wouldn't remember the pain and would do procedures on awake babies.
That blows. You have my sympathy on that matter.
The presence of nonchalant professionals shouldn’t be permitted in any field, least of all the medical field. And people who are blatantly disrespectful and disregarding their patients’ concerns, or don’t take others’ worries seriously? They shouldn’t be allowed to practice their trade, because it’ll inevitably get someone killed.
That’s… the whole damn point of being in the field: help with a patient’s concerns. If there’s ever a health-related concern, a medical professional is supposed to take that shit seriously, because on the off chance that something lethal gets ignored, the ignorant doctor somehow gets off without any blame. It’s insane.
I had a doctor that offered me a new medication as an injection, but with the stipulation that it had to be done right that moment and i couldn't look the medication up online or anything first.
I didn't get that shot.
Did you find anything out about that medicine? If so what was it and what would it do?
I mean, we all know how "just take the shot and don't ask any questions" goes now, so I'm not sure how he thought that would work....................
@@Gunnergamingyt2 I STILL don't know!! All I know is that it was for my migraines. Oh! And I forgot to mention a detail that makes things even MORE wild:
it was a 3-month dose. Whatever it WAS, whatever it DID, would be delivered in a dose to keep doing it for THREE MONTHS!
Story 2 reminds me of how I spent 4 years dealing with so many problems because my family doctor refused to refer me to a specialist. Turns out I have arthritis. Took a simple blood test to figure it out
Major yikes. Makes me remember a story my dad told me about how he went 10 years as an improperly-diagnosed diabetic. He was marked as one type, but was the other. Unfortunately, it's been two years since I've spoken to him, and I don't remember which one he actually is.
Went to an OB for intimate issues along with unusual periods. The minute I said I was taking medication for anxiety she stopped listening about my intimate problems and told me it was all in my head.
the amt of drs who would misdiagnose patients and blame it all on their mental health is sickening
When I say I have anxiety people always tell me that no one's even paying that much attention to me at al. Which.. you know? Doesn't change the fact that I focus on how I look to the others at all! They just assume that they understand and they act like it isn't a real issue.
Pretty sure the dislocating shulder things was a gross violation of the hypocatic oath. Idk though, not a doctor.
😂😂😂😂😂 you think oaths mean anything?
The hyppocratic oath thing as a mandatory to the profession was abandoned like a century ago- Its pretty obscure and rare to find a doctor who actually took one nowadays.
I think it is
@@ManticorpseI believe that.
I'm not trying to excuse the doctor, just provide a bit of context.
For many EDS patients with a history of shoulder dislocations it can be trivial to dislocate or sublux the shoulder joints.
It can even happen multiple times a day without being caused by trauma or even movement, so this will often not hurt nearly as much as a regular person dislocating for the first time.
As I said before, it does not, in any way, shape or form, excuse what the doctor did. People with EDS are gaslit and traumatized by doctors all the time.
My daughter has an issue with her hip that makes her leg turn 90 degrees in... A doctor suggested she might have fucking anxiety!
This was while she was in the hospital due to the pain this caused and she was unable to walk.
The next day we thankfully got a knowledgeble doctor, who had a group of medical students with him that taught them about EDS and asked to show my daughters hyperflexibility before doing it.
I've just moved countries due to the small healthcare system in Iceland just not being equipped to handle a complex case of EDS. I hope Denmark will be better.
Hysterical female, anxiety is common diagnosis from Drs. My mom became a legal opioid addict because of this phenomenon. I hate taking any drugs because I’ve been given At least 5 different ones later recalled by FDA Medical in USA sucks - I know because I have family that has lived overseas in military and had much better care
If only they shared the names of those doctors...
I'm female. I've learned to take the medical community as a whole with a grain of salt at about the age 18 or 19.
This was the first time I'd passed out at work from menstrual pain, and all I got from the doctor was, (and this is an actual quote), "You're too sensitive to your body."
I've chronic one sided back pain, checked my ovaries once and would go no further. ANY new abdominal pain, brushed off as female issues.
About the only time I'm not treated as a walking uterus and ovaries, is if I need stitches or an OBVIOUS infection taken care of. But then they'll disregard a bad reaction to an antibiotic, or that analgesics don't work the way they are supposed to on me.
(My one experience with a twilight drug, the drug did nothing it was supposed to do. I was wide awake and aware, during and after the procedure, still have memory of the procedure, and still rather irritated by the whole thing, even years later...)
By chance, do you have red hair (or red undertones)? I ask because It is fairly well known that gingers have issues with meds.
My male OB and his female nurse laughed when I said I'd need pain management if they wanted to do weekly cervical checks or not do them. He said they're necessary and don't risk infection, both of which are lies. I switched immediately (should have done it before honestly) and my new OB told me she won't do them unless I'm showing symptoms of labor and will be helping manage my pain. Love her so much better.
I have the same thing as the op with the broken arm, the sentence on my records is highlighted in fricking yellow because I could die, AND an ER doctor prescribed me an medication that has ibuprofen in it only without reading my records as I forgot to mention my allergy (just had my knee cap go out of place for the 3rd time just two hours max before so I was obviously not in a place to remember). BUT! Only after hitting enter and probably going "I'm such a good doctor, that girl will be okay in no time", he then realized the yellow highlighted text on the very top of my records: ALLERGIC TO IBUPROFEN, DO NOT GIVE AS IT WILL BLOCK AIR WAYS ON THE PATIENT.
He immediately wrote me an new prescription for an medication that I could take after cancelling the first one, but his mistake is still showing up on my medication prescription list.
OH AND I had an broken ankle for over A YEAR before someone finally listened to me and got me into a scanning and then I had a cast on my leg for the whole following summer, was not happy that it took a year (because the first doctor I visited immediately after breaking my ankle ALSO MESSED UP)
I actually had a nurse get mad and scream and yell at me for being allergic to ibuprofen.
I want to be up front and say I don’t know if I really am since I can take all other NSAIDs(I’d actually taken an aspirin several hours before the ibuprofen plus I’d taken others before that I was able to continue to take and I’ve even taken a few new ones) but all I know is that the only time I took ibuprofen I had facial swelling. My face blew up like a blowfish, and I got to have fun in the ER with epinephrine and Benadryl.
Could it have been something totally unrelated to the ibuprofen? Sure, but no reasonable medical provider is willing to take the chance of allowing me to try ibuprofen again and I’m perfectly ok with that.
I have one about a letter of recommendation too. When I was in university I wanted to do a study abroad program. It required letters of rec from two professors. Since most of my classes were those huge lectures types I didn't have many to choose from who actually knew who I was. I had three total. My first one happily agreed and wrote me a fantastic letter. But the second one told me to literally write it myself and he would sign it! This dude had been there for a couple decades and was honestly pretty terrible at even teaching us but to not even take just ten minutes to throw some generic bs onto a document was ridiculous. I already didn't like him much but that made me lose the last shred of respect I had for him. I was afraid to ask my third professor because he was one with very differing views from me and we got into many (civil) debates in class. Yes these debates were relevant and not just random. But he immediately said he would and wrote a glowing rec which very much surprised me. That incident actually led me on a journey of reconsidering a lot of my world views so I guess thanks awful useless professor for kicking that off?
Honestly, that third professor is the best kind of professor in my opinion (and somewhat experience), because if they're willing to have a civil debate about the topic during lecture and treat you as an equal when discussing the topic at hand, then they both know that you're engaging with the subject and not just doing rote memorization and that you're wanting to engage further on aspects of the subject from your perspective. Personally, I'd bet that the main reason for the glowing recommendation was that you were absolutely one of their favorite students for having that type of discussion with the prof in the first place.
@@rayhatesu Not out of highschool yet, but I totally agree. I've had a few teachers (not many due to regular house moves and some poor areas) that absolutely fit this. Even back in elementary, I had one or two like this. Best I can remember was my 7th & 8th grade principal, who I both got free guitar lessons from, and also kicked the ass of in badminton twice. We regularly discussed his cat, and I taught him a lot about the old furball. (His cat was 19) Another instance was my 9th grade math teacher, who I held regular debates with. I also once had a debate with a substitute of the math teacher.
I've been told many times that I could easily be a lawyer because of how well I present my points and how easily I pull up valid and logical responses without a second thought.
Recently even shot my own mother's arguments down by outwitting her several times in a heated discussion about my safety in public as a transman.
It's always best when you can have a civil debate with someone, have them take you seriously, and not hate you when you end up right over them. Even better when they *know* you're doing it to learn things, and just happen to already be somewhat (or wholly, in some cases) educated on the topic.
I have a story similar to story 12. Honestly, I guess there's two reasons to go into pediatrics: you love kids and you want to treat them. Or, you hate kids and want easy access to fun torture victims.
And almost *zero* parents or other people responsible for children will believe that it could *ever* be reason two... there's always some "it's the child's fault" reason when a kid dislikes their doctor or is openly mistreated by said doctor in front of their parent or guardian.
@katanah3195 There were only two dentists in my isolated mountain town when I was a kid. Mom disliked one because he gave kids candy after a session if they were good. She felt he was trying to just make more cavities to fill. So she took us to the other one. The sadistic bastard who would *drill* into perfectly healthy (and unanesthetized) teeth so that on the next visit, he could show Mom the xrays of the "new cavities." We never told because he said if we did, he'd work on us next time without anesthetic. Mom expected kids to scream and cry in the dental office because that had been her own experience.
@@katanah3195 Yep, it especially sucks because with how malleable kids are, they often *will* think that it was their fault.
@@lucindawelenc2191 oof mate, that really sucks
My old psychiatrist, after I told him about how I want to know about any conditions and such that are put in my file, put BPD in my file without telling me. And when I asked about it, he essentially told me 'well it's not like I can actually diagnose you so what about it?' I switched as soon as possible afterwards to a lovely lady.
for me it was when a doctor misdiagnosed brain cancer as toenail fungus while looking at the kids arm. never doing anything more to actualy check
Ok, I have to ask: how? What symptoms of those two conditions overlap? Please tell us more!
@@tookitogo they dont, thats the thing. the doctor was so far misdiagnosing it its like trying to walk to the store down the street and ending up in anouther state entirely...
@@neock I know. I’m just trying to understand what on earth the doc was thinking, because it doesn’t make any sense!
@@tookitogo thats the thing., he wasnt thinking. and this was a pattern. i honestly dont think he even had a medical license, but cant prove that.
and ya, it dont make sence. but this is common from many big hospital branches in cali...
@@neock Yikes. :(
Story 2: this is a prime example of medical gaslighting that minorities and women OFTEN have to put up with
Around 6:30 - Yeah, my dad had a similar experience with a highschool art teacher. I saw a few of the things he made, and he would've made a very promising artist. So imagine the amount of support he's giving me since I myself have taken up art.
Sorry, this is going to sound weird, but I'm not sure of the tone of your last sentence. Is your father really encouraging your art, or is it sarcastic?
@@xeldrine66i imagine being very supportive to spite the teacher. That’s what i would do.
@@shhinysilver1720 You're probably right. It's just that sometimes a sentences intonation is lost in writing.
@@xeldrine66 it's genuine, sorry i didn't make that clear lol
@PinkNinjanerd No, it's totally fine. I'm really happy for you. I know what it's like to have a supportive parent. It's just that you never know what the tone of the comment is on the internet.
Hope you and your father have a good day.
Story2 : did you know that heart attacks and other related pulmonary problems are a lot harder to diagnose in women because studies were only done on men. Many women are diagnosed with heart burn because the symptoms aren’t as severe and end up having major heart attacks. Just something to think about.
Had a concussion from getting smacked into a concrete wall. Dad takes me to an ER. I've got a wad of towels pressed against a wound on the side of my head that is pouring blood. My face looks like something out of a horror film. Receptionist at the ER casually says, "We can't treat him if you don't have all of your insurance paperwork," then "We close in 25 minutes too." As if that doesn't beat it, the doctor who finally agrees to treat me lays me down and says I need staples. So he puts one in my head, then turns to the nurse and says, "Ok, I know it's your first day, but you try now." Nurse tried 3 times until my Dad who was sitting right there just told them to stop fooling around and fix me.
It sounds like he might have taken you to an urgent care facility rather than an actual hospital ER, because hospital ERs are open round the clock and are legally required to treat you regardless of whether or not you have insurance
@@crazycorgiladyus7418 might have been. I don't remember. The nurse with the staples was the bigger groan for me.
The worst was the doctor who told my mom she was too old to be having a baby and should just abort because the fetus isn't growing properly. My mom, in her mid 40's, dropped the doctor and had my sister a few months later with a much better doctor. About a year later, her bowels ruptured from the basketball sized cancer tumor growing from one of her ovaries. That's why my sister hadn't growing properly in the womb, not because my mom was in her 40's.
As for me and the awful stuff from supposed 'professionals' said to me, here's a few:
The 'grief counselor' who only wanted to brag about his son being a chef on a cruise ship and telling me that all my problems would go away if I just did everything my abusive bio sperm donor said (not calling him a father). "You need to listen to your father, no matter what."
The gynecologic who told me, "Of course it hurts; periods hurt," when I told her it hurt to sit up or lay down, and that I was going through a pack of heavy duty pads in one week, or less, with how heavy the flow was and how big the clots were.
The therapist who said, "Cheer up, other people have it worse than you," and, "You're too young to be depressed." First time I ever considered jumping out a window just to get away from someone.
The doctor who told me, "Maybe you should shower more often," when I continued to have chronic UTIs/bladder infections for years. Turns out I have PBS (painful bladder syndrome).
The doctor who told me, "You don't need an x-ray of your spine," when I'd been suffering from chronic, crippling back pain for years. Demanded the x-ray, even though she huffed about it. Turns out I had micro fractures on my spine; been corrected now, but damage was done.
The psychiatrist who told me, "I don't believe in prescribing medications, because things like depression and anxiety can only be managed by behavior methods; using medicine to control them is a crutch and an excuse." Saw him only once.
The ER doctor who told me, "It can't hurt that bad; I'm going to discharge you," because I wasn't crying or screaming, but was bent over double from horrific pain in my lower back. After demanding a CT scan, x-ray, and MRI, it was discovered a couple discs in my back had bulged, hence the pain.
The specialist that told me, "There's nothing we can do for fibromyalgia." I'm now on a medication that lessens the pain, prescribed by a doctor that actually cares.
The RN (registered nurse) who told me, "It's all in your head," when I told her I was having trouble sleeping at night due to paranoia and night terrors.
There's more, but those are the ones that are off the top of my head.
14, and my dad takes me to my phsycian for weird periods. I would go 3 months without a period, and then have one, and be in a lot of pain. We went so I could get so birth control or be sent to an OBGYN. Was told I didn't need birth control, and I should just "predict" when my periods would come, and take ibuprofen for the pain. First of all my periods were irregular so I had no idea when they would start, and two even if I did know when they would start I wouldn't have been able to recognize the signs. Struggled with extreme menstrual pain for all my teenagehood, and never went back to that quack. BTW still go months without periods currently it has been 6 months since my last period but I don't want children due to the likelihood I will pass down my genetic mitochondrial disease so I'm hoping whatever is going on will make me infertile.
could be ovaric cysts, that tends to run in families & has those symptoms EXACTLY. Might wanna get that checked by a doc who knows wtf they're doing, rather than go back to that idiot
@@pokegirl1799 Yeah I'm currently in the process of getting a diagnosis as I mentioned this to my new primary care, and she is concerned, and wants to know whats going on.
I have eczema, *the* *doctor* *said* *it* *was* *my* *period.* I hate doctors
A quick Google search says that's a _skin condition._ How does anyone with a frontal lobe think that's a period!?
wha- but... but that's... that doesn't...
*doc used confusion, it's super effective*
This video just reminded me of a family doctor I used to see. I've always had allergies as a kid, but it was usually just a nose itch or something mild. The first time I had an allergy reaction that actually caused my throat to close up, I was panicking,. Mum took me to the family doctor we've been going to since we were babies. Told him what's wrong, he checked my lungs and breathing, then said nothing was wrong with me and sent me home with medication I can't remember. While waiting for the nurse to get the medication ready for me to take home, I started itching so bad my whole body went red, had to walk back into the room and talk to the doc a second time. But he still said there's nothing wrong with me so he sent me home with random medications. Only once we got home, did my mum bring up the possibility of allergies. Somehow was fine after a few hours and the reaction just went off by itself. Never went back to the same doctor again.
22:10 I have the very similar story. I had changed GP to a different practice and went for an appointment to figure out something that was really bothering me. I was experiencing heat intolerance and it triggered excessive sweating because my body thinks it’s too hot and thus tries to cool down with sweat. I’m autistic and it was really dysregulating to sweat puddles after unloading the dishwasher, so I went in to the doc with my mom to help with advocating for myself. Doc was more focused on treating my sweating rather than figure out why it was happening, I also have a family history of thyroid issues and my mom practically had to demand a blood test be done for me. I got a call back saying everything was normal, but I was really not satisfied with my care so got a second opinion from my naturopath. Turns out I might have POTS, which can cause heat intolerance and excessive sweating. I am now undergoing tests with a cardiologist to see if I qualify for the diagnosis, but needless to say I will never see that doc again. She had good bedside manner, but her being young and fresh out of medical school meant she wasn’t really helpful due to not having enough experience in her practice. Oh yeah, and the naturopath saw my iron levels were low on the separate blood test I did for her.
My first thought when you said excessive sweating after unloading dishes was POTS. Sending you good vibes for a diagnosis and stuff! It could also be good to take a look at the trifecta of EDS, POTS, and MCAS
I have Ehlers-Danlos. I was first diagnosed with general joint hypermobility around age 8, but didn’t get my real diagnosis until last year. Luckily I never had awful doctors like that, although as a kid I would do crazy stuff like dislocating my collarbone as a party trick
Hi fellow Zebra! EDS already sucks enough! I'm glad you got your diagnosis!!
My current boss chose to throw in my ability to focus as a reason to cut my hours. I am certified AD/HD by a doctor.
Story 2 : misogyny
Which, unfortunately, the medical profession as a whole has a long history of. That, for example, is the reason symptoms for an infarct are much better known for men than women: for a long time, they only ever looked at men having that problem. They just assumed it must work exactly the same way on women (it doesn't). Lots of stuff like that.
Though they did invent "hysteria" treatments that ... well, to make things easier on the doctors, they invented the ... ah ... personal massager. That's one way to get repeat visits, I guess.
Undersparked, you wanna hear a worst doctor story than story 2? My childhood PCP missed a lump in my neck that turned out to be cancerous and I only discovered when I finally switched doctors after I turned 18!!!
We lost a highway worker in a work zone crash. Drunk smashed into him. A peer at another state department said, “it’s only a highway worker.” That’s probably the closest I’ve ever come to actually unaliving someone.
now I'm not saying unaliving him would've been valid, but I am saying I know several people who wouldn't have been able to NOT do it in that case and if it had happened in front of ME, I would've testified on your side
Story 10: I had the opposite happen to me. My confidence was floor low 3 months in. Tf I am having a hard time managing the clutch and the shifter. Still having a tough time getting into roundabouts. Small details all over. Though I was dumb, yet, my teacher was the opposite. He did not let mistakes pass and was really harsh on some of them. Yet he still said the same: you will get it, others managed to do so, so will you. Exam is just some elaborate version of "paperwork". And he was right, took me 3 tries but I passed, did not pass out of nervousness. And those mistakes he was extremely harsh? I've been saved a few times already thanks to them. I now know he was harsh to make them stick with me and to save my life out there from reckless drivers. God bless you Mariano 👍
One time I had a raging headache. I'm used to migraines so at first I took some meds and tried to sleep it off, but it just wouldnt let up. I tried to call a doctor, but they dismissed it because I have anxiety, and it's in my records. Its a pattern with my doctors, the moment they see my file saying I'm mentally ill, that's the end of the conversation.
Anyways i called an hour later, saying it kept getting worse and I couldn't move my neck and he lost it on me asking if I am that desperate for attention I need to waste their time.
Anyway I was too scared to call them, and so called my mom, who just drove me to the ER. She was FURIOUS. When hearing my symptoms they freaked and had me put on antibiotics, while they waited for results after what I think was a spinal tap
Turns out I had viral meningitis. Viral's still dangerous, but the least bad of the two....If it had been bacterial I'd have been dead most likely.
Edit: Also FYI bacterial meningitis is so bad they don't wait for test results, you're to be put on treatment right away. The moment they saw it was viral they ceased the antibiotics, as it's useless then.
A few that come to mind for me:
-Had teacher telling me that i wouldn't get into the art course i wanted to because they have high standards, i got in and when i left they told me i was one of the best students they had.
-Had my back checked due to constant pain, was told that the slighty displaced vertebra + my mild scoliosis couldn't possible be the reason. I know i can't do anything about it, but like, not even a chance it causes the pain? And then they just send me off with nothing?
-Had severe pain in my hip that got worse everytime i moved. A caretaker told me that sport helps against joint pain. I told him that sport helps at being fat.
-Therapist telling me that i am only depressed due to the death of my brother. It has been 5 years at that point and i was doing really well with my grieve and i only told the therapist about him because he asked about it
I live in an apartment complex and the management was crappie 💩 and I don't recommend anyone rent an apartment from them 😢.
As someone who's had an ovarian cyst... my doctor told me birth control actually makes the cyst bigger! (but it does prevent a new one from coming up)
"Our bodies do that too, don't be dramatic"
I didn't know that degradation of joints is a normal occurance in teens at the time
Story 13: My optometrist also told me to limit wearing my glasses when I first got them (I'm also near/short sighted). However, he told me this because for one: I didn't need them for things like worksheets, only to see the classroom's whiteboard or watch TV, and two: adjusting to wearing glasses for the first time could cause headaches, which is not something you want when you're in school trying to learn
I was on a job site and was chatting with my foreman about life advice and stuff in general and out of nowhere he says" and don't let anyone tell you the earth is round"😮😮😮 I took all the life advice he'd just given and chucked it.
Haha my pregnancy was full of these idiots.
17 year old me, sitting in the OBGYN office because me and my ex made another human. Red flag number one was that the OB was super condescending and spoke to me like I was in elementary school. Between appointment one and two I developed debilitating morning sickness (looking back it was probably HG, but wtf do I know). I go to my OB telling her I can’t even keep water down and I had lost several pounds and was incredibly concerned. This woman had the unmitigated GAUL to look me in the eye and tell me “women in the Holocaust only had bread and water and they delivered healthy babies”, then offered to write a note for school so I could have a water bottle on my desk. Never went back after sobbing all the way home. Both my mom and history teacher (who was an angel my entire pregnancy and so helpful) were ready to go throttle this doc. Next one was 110 times better.
My mom was talking to a nurse and was venting about how I was getting no relief from my morning sickness despite my (new) doctor’s best efforts. The nurse responded with “well I see tons of patients like this and these pregnancies usually resolve themselves”. Screw that one nurse.
Also screw the nurse that told me I should abort my baby if she ended up having a genetic disorder. The same genetic disorder that I was living with. My peanut did not in fact have my disorder or yeet herself from existence and is a wonderful gremlin with no medical issues outside of a food allergy and terrible eyesight.
Happy for your baby 💚
Holy shit. That nurse went _way_ over the line telling anyone that they should abort because of a disability. That is _deeply personal_ decision that a medical professional _should not_ be doing anything other than giving you the _option_ for.
@@UnstableEquilibrium what made it worse was the fact that it’s a disability that would have been passed down from me. Might as well tell me you think I shouldn’t have been born.
Doctor said my best weight loss option was a gastric ball. He said he’d performed thousands of them and had only once failed to see someone lose weight and keep it lost.
Me and another person of my weight class got them within a month of each other. We both lost about 10kg and then slowly gained it all back, at the same rate. By the time the year was up and we had to get the gastric ball removed, we were both at our original weights.
Turns out, my next doctor said, that process is successful long-term for about 20% of people in my weight class and he said he was apalled at the other doctor’s claims. I spent thousands on being at a healthy weight for two months.
It seems like it would make it worse in the long run because the ball would stretch out your stomach so you can eat while you have it and later more and not feel full when its taken out.
@@mysurfing3550 Yup. Now I’m looking at a gastric sleeve option, with a doctor that is presenting actual statistics and a backed-ip prognostic, which is what the other doctor should have offered in the first place.
OMG the work experience one triggered me. I wanted to work in veterinary practice. I had known this forever, everyone around me knew this is what I was going to do with my life. I requested veterinary practice. I got a local bird-based zoo. Sounds ok until I found out that someone else was given a veterinary practice. Someone who has no interest in veterinary medicine! They didn't ask for that placement and didn't want it, they weren't interested at all! I was so mad!!!
The woman with arm pain and shortness of breath? I’m no doctor but I’d have sent her to ER because that sounds like a heart attack or very serious problems like the poor woman actually had.
Yeah, seriously the second I heard the symptoms the first thing I thought was heart attack or stroke at the very least go to the ER!!
Got one of these. Met with a psychiatrist because I have a strong suspicion that I have undiagnosed autism and ADHD, and I wanted to try to get a diagnosis and see if medication can help me with executive dysfunction. Very first visit, I brought up how I was anxious about the diagnosis process because of how hard it is for adults to get a diagnosis compared to children. She told me that's because adults "grow out of it." Considering that's literally untrue, it's a fundamental difference in how your brain works, I lose all faith in her and cut it off then and there. Not sure what to do now other than meeting a different person someday.
Had a cardiologist tell me I dont have POTS (Post Orthostatic Tacicardia Syndrome) after doing all of the research myself due to being medgically neglected in the past. He told me I was "Just Anxious" and proceeded to test me for the condition after some persistents on my end. He proformed the test incorrectly, and when I pointed this out, he said somthing along the lines of "fine. I'll refer you to a POTS specialist since clearly you think you know what you're talking about."
Two months later I was tested by the specialist. Positive Orthostatic results. I was diagnosed the same day and given a letter from the specialist stating that my condition was so severe I shouldn't have been walking around as I was a clear fall risk due to the condition. This is one of the milder experiences I have had with medical negligence and idiot doctors.
My wife was diagnosed with a cyst then when she went back diagnosed with gas, she had appendicitis and needed immediate surgery.
Just because someone has a doctorate, diploma or degree doesn't mean that they know anything about the subject they have a doctorate, diploma or degree for. I had a doctor tell me that there is no such thing as back pain and everyone who claims it are lying. I have a separated vertebrae in my back so after she said that I went straight into the waiting room and said that if anyone was going to see that doctor that I seriously question whether she had actually gone to medical school and that I thought she was a fraud, 3 people walked out with me.
Story 10 about the driving instructor happened very similar to me as well. I was so excited when I had finally enough money to buy driving lessons. In Germany, learning to drive is pretty expensive. You can expect to pay at a minimum 1200 € but it goes up to 2500 €, depending on how long you need to learn.
The first lessons were so great though I really disliked my driving instructur from the very beginning. Then, he started to tell me I was too stupid to learn to drive a manual car. Here in Europe, most of the cars are manual. And automatic cars are much more expensive.
I was so distressed and wanted to change to another instructor. But I was also very shy at the moment and didn't know how to step up.
In the end, a random thing "saved" me: the instructor got a mild heart attack and had to go to rehab. I got a new instructor and from then on I learned with ease and got my licence at first try.
Years later, an acquaintance told me that my first instructor was infamous for making young women believe they can't learn to drive properly. When they were desperate enough, he would offer private lessons in exchange for sex. I guess he wanted me as target too.
Went to the doctor for an headache. He told me i had a fever. The next week i woke up in the night with an ear splitting headache. Went to the hospital. The doctor accused my mother of neglect and it almost seemed she would report my mother cause she said my mother waited too long to come to the hospital. My blood pressure was so high the nurses were scrambling around looking for different types of machines to test it cause the couldn't believe it was that high. The doctor cussed out my mother saying that she almost allowed me to die. My mom was so shocked. She didn't know what to say cause she already sent me to the doctor and i got medication. Since then I've been thinking about everytime this man diagnosed me and wondered if he knew what he was doing
That 2nd one hit me immediately because I had a similar experience with my old doctor.
I went to him many, many times from being in pain basically everywhere. I could barely walk, my back hurt so much, I could barely breathe because inflating and deflating my lungs sent pain all over. The first time he said I was just anxious, the second time he told me to take ibuprofen twice a day for a week and it'll clear up. The third time he said I was overexaggerating "normal" feminine pain. The fourth time he said it was because I was due my period. The fifth time he, in many words, basically told me to stop coming to him with this problem. The sixth time he checked me over and said I was faking to avoid getting a job (I was in secondary school?).
Another time we went to him for something else I was with my mother so he decided to actually do something. We went in because I was exhausted all the time and nothing was helping, so he sent me for a blood test. He never told me the results and never followed up on it, any attempt to find out he'd tell me I'd get a letter then nothing.
We ended up getting a new doctor 4 years or so later because he retired. She set up an appointment with me immediately and her first words to me were "I am angry for you", because she'd gone through my medical history with my previous doctor. She'd seen how many times I'd gone to him with pain and he'd written "No action required" at the end of all of them, even though she could clearly see by what was written that it needed to be looked into more. She also told me that the blood test had actually returned results that I had an underactive thyroid and I should've been on medication, but she could clearly see he never set up a follow up appointment with me and never prescribed me the meds I needed.
Turned out I have a lot of physical medical problems that he would've found had he just put me through for other tests like he was supposed to. I'm on a high dose of thyroid meds because it dipped even lower in the years he did nothing as well as a lot of other meds and mental health meds too because she put me in for that stuff as well and guess what! There was stuff there too!
I lost all faith in my doctor when he couldn't figure out why I'd been deathly ill for going on a week. He theorized it could be hepatitis and they scheduled a test. Then, the next night my condition got worse and I was taken to the hospital where they discovered my ruptured appendix.
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Story 17 about the allergy. I wanted to give an anecdotal experience of mine. I worked in a healthcare related job that requires gloves to be worn constantly. My employer at the time was cheap, and when ordering gloves, they got the cheatest they could. I started getting rashes on the tops of my hands. It was reoccurring but clearly not a latex allergy bc it would clear up. It was my period/hormones that caused irritations during certain times of my cycle.
My point is there is some medically based reasoning for the allergists response, that being said, I see this story as the allergist not being thorough and blaming it on an easy thing rather than do more testing.
A few months before I was awarded Disability, I was at the chiropractor's office. I was telling him how my back was killing me. He told me I "should get laid" to ease the pain.
ok, what the actual f••• was this doctor on? That's the 2nd biggest leap in logic I've seen in this comment section, & I'm pretty sure the 1st one was fake.
Landlord told me to ignore my lease. 😳
As someone with Ellers-Danlos, I can imagine how bad that would be as even just when my hips pop out once it hurts like hell. repeatedly would be unbearably painful, that basically sounds like torture
Avis is the only car company where I had to get police involved to have a car returned. They didn't want to accept their own payment confirmation (same branch) and wanted me to pay the fee again (at a higher rate). They only accepted that payment confirmation after police told them that this kind of fraud is up to ten years in prison with at least one year sentencing if they intend to pull through with that. The guy still had to go to court for the attempt but probably only had to pay a fine.
I lost faith in a doctor when he went to Web MD just like I did before arriving to the appointment
My therapist kept trying to break me and my spouse up.
They would try and get me to say my spouse was lazy and never helped with anything, and any time I did express frustration about anything (like, even not about spouse), it was always "so why are you still with Person?"
Ummm, cuz a little thing like not being able to fix my car themselves instead of taking it to the shop or forgetting to take the trash can to the curb one week are not divorce worthy?? We have been together over 2 decades; if I don't remember earplugs exist a couple nights in a row so I can sleep through the snores, pretty sure that would be my own fault and not theirs. And again, not a divorce worthy problem.
The first therapist I had said my not wanting to be alive was just attention seeking behavior and that I was just a teen with no reason to be depressed and it was all in my head... Was also seeing my parent.
Being a trans male, it terrifies me just how much gets passed off as "it's your period"
Real glad they won't be able to use that excuse for me coming a few years from now.
AYE at least you’ve got that 🤣
A doctor calling me chubby repeatedly cuz my bmi (that chart created by a eugenics doctor) was high. Then, she said I should only eat one meal a day. I still wear small clothes most of the time. I'm was smaller than the doctor herself. I'm still asking myself WTF
I'm going to add to what this person has said, BMI doesn't account for a number of factors, such as body width, torso to leg ratio, and muscle mass (since muscle weighs more than fat). A good number of show bodybuilders, who have incredibly low body fat and over-large muscle mass due to steroid use in some cases, are all considered "Morbidly Obese" just due to the combination of height and weight they hit, which are the major factors for the Body Mass Index.
@@rayhatesuThey also often have a similar lifespan as "real" morbidly obese people.
Another EDS patient, here 👋
I went to the emergency department following a bad wrist dislocation. I'd subluxed my ankle while walking and fallen on my wrist. I'd set it myself (we get really good at setting our own dislocations and subluxations), but it still didn't feel right and there was a prominent bump on the back of my hand, right above the wrist joint. It was obvious that I still had a carpal bone out of place and I couldn't get it to go back in, so I went to the hospital for help. Needing help setting unusual or stuck dislocations is a common reason for an EDS patient to show up at emergency.
When I first spoke to the ED doctor, I asked him if he was familiar with EDS (always my first question). He said yes and that he'd worked under a well-known EDS specialist at the Mayo Clinic. I was like, "Oh, that's awesome," and explained what I wrote above.
He interrupted me to say, "But EDS patients don't experience pain from dislocations."
It's literally classified as a severe chronic pain condition. I have centralised pain hypersensitisation, which is when the brain comes to interpret almost everything as varying degrees of pain, because of prolonged, repeated exposure to severe pain over time. Sure, some of my regular dislocations aren't particularly painful, but if an impact against concrete forces the bones in my wrist to crumple over each other, then YES, that's going to hurt like hell!!
So I just stared at him for a moment, dumbfounded, before saying, "I'm going to need a different doctor. I'm not safe in the care of a doctor who thinks I couldn't possibly be in pain." Cue an ugly back-and-forth where he referred to me as a "stroppy little girl" (I was 20yo) and threatened to have me thrown out.
I got my then-boyfriend to go find the head nurse, who was familiar with me from previous visits and sorted out that second opinion for me -- thank goodness.
Incidents like that make me frankly terrified at what might have happened to a patient who wasn't able to advocate for themselves the way I did. It's hard enough for EDS patients to get adequate medical care, at the best of times.
Before I knew that I have adhd, some of the theories to explain my problems:
My multilingual lifestyle is putting too much strain on my brain
I need a boyfriend, as my body relies on the hormones produced during heterosexual intercorse (I thought I might be lesbian at that time, but didn't understand how that would lead to problems with my attention)
I have to find a real hobby that I enjoy longer than the usual few months
I have to want to do better
They can't help me if I don't explain the problem. Why don't I pay attention, why don't I sleep etc
I have to stop googling symptoms that I think I have and accept that I'm just not as intelligent as my parents like to believe (my parents were told that I'm intellectually gifted, I was described as "dumb as sch*" by some teachers)
When I learnt to play the piano, I was taught one thing that I personally was very confused and furious at:
“Don’t memorise the piano pieces you learn, you need to read as you play.”
Excuse me but, *HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO READ TWO STAFF LINES, THE NOTES, FINGER NUMBERS, AND ALL OTHER THINGS AT 110 BPM*
True but if you do it a lot you'll get fast like regular reading
@@mysurfing3550 I was taught to do it, and later they actually told me to memorise the pieces in later grades, I was pissed
I had a dr tell me you can not be allergic to amoxicillin. My daughter has allergic reactions every time she gets prescribed amoxicillin. I refuse to see that dr ever again
Story 7 feels eo heartbreaking, because the guy had such realistic expectations, yet the advisor didn't hear a word of it. How could "I want to see how a venue is run" be interpreted as "I want to be a pop star"?
for me it was the fact that the mechanic working on my car paused for 30 seconds on the phone. he told me he couldn't find the issue, and I told him it was because it was an intermittent issue.
I once had a technician come to install a new window shutter because the old one was so rotten I couldn’t open it anymore. First time he came he measured it, second time he came and suddenly had the wrong measurements and took them again and left without doing much. Took him three trips to install a new one when it could’ve been two. Meanwhile I couldn’t open my window shutter for months and couldn’t use my balcony. All because with a third trip he could charge my landlord even more money. Professional incompetence at it’s finest.
"Trust me." A police officer actually told me that. I absolutely hate that saying. Why must i trust anyone, especially strangers?
Its called medical misogyny, and unfortunately is all too common. this is the reason most women want a female Ob/Gyn. It is not fear of being molested for most of us, its fear of being dismissed or misdiagnosed. I've experienced it in ER settings myself, while having a miscarriage. he sent me home saying it'd be fine. yeah-3 days later rushed back because the uterine artery had ruptured and i was bleeding to death-and all because the extreme symptoms I was having for something already extremely traumatic went completely ignored. I had an emergency surgery to remove the fetus and cauterize the artery. all because one male ER doctor decided to say it was normal without so much as actually doing any sort of physical exam. Just gave me some meds to help with pain and shooed me out the door.
reading through the comments you could do several videos about bad experiences with doctors.
Got told by a GI specialist that the stomach and intestines were completely unrelated.
HUH??? WTF THAT'S THEIR SPECIALTY, HTF THEY GRADUATE???
im pretty sure the doctors in story 12 were multiple kids in trench coats
You really gotta look after yourself when it comes to health care (at least where I am in the US). I’ve had a doctor who seriously must’ve thought I was someone else because she kept getting upset at me for things I didn’t do, like missing appointments and testing, and acted like I was abusing my meds which I’ve never ever done.
Had another doctor try to take me off all medications I’m on and give me something else that I refused because it had given me HALLUCINATIONS in the past.
Had a doctor give me antacids for terrible stomach pain, and then my mom suggested I might be allergic to gluten. I was.
Had another doctor admit that she just googles symptoms and suggests whatever it tells her. 🤷🏻♀️
0:40 in my experience you have about a 50:50 chance that your doctor is not completely incompetent. (maybe worse)
i had lyme disease and 2 doctors did diagnose it as just some sort of bacterial diarrhea. my mum had to test my blood herself and ship me right into the hospital where they diagnosed neuro borreliose.
on another occasion my mum fractured two bones (scapula and sternum) and it took 3 doctors to find the fractures (all of them had access to the x-ray the forst one made, but only the third bothered to look at the image)
yeah, my trust into this profession in a little strained.
story 2 is nothing new. It's incredibly common.
School counselor: "sometimes you have to put your morals and ethics aside to get thins done."
Uhhhh, thats not how ethics and morals work...
For years my grandpa’s doctor said that my grandpa has fibromyalgia, a condition that causes chronic pain. But 2 weeks ago he had a heart attack, even though this doctor said that his heart was healthy. It was not healthy at all, he was only getting 1/3 the blood flow of a healthy person. Now I am seriously questioning this doctor because he didn’t rule out heart disease when his father died of heart disease.
A physical therapist I had when I was 15 also pulled a "look at what this one can do" on me. Undiagnosed gastrocnemius recession due to a birth defect, literally could not put my feet flat on the ground and always toe walked. My family thought it was just my autism until that point when they finally decided to take me in for physical therapy. If I tried to put my feet flat, there would be a burning, stabbing sensation in the soles. My first appointment with these guys, they told me to walk flat, and the closest I could do was bend over and waddle like a duck. They then made me do it again in front of the entire team. When I came back the next week, they made me do the most grueling exercises they had. I was genuinely in pain after every session, but I was too shy to tell them so at 15. Thankfully, this was in early 2020 and later, during the pandemic, we moved to Ohio, and I never had to go there again. Ended up seeing a different specialist who ended up prescribing me surgery. Worked like a charm. I still walk on my toes occasionally but I can walk flat now.
The government, every time sounds come out their mouths.
I was Story 20......difference was mine end up being a 40lB (I'm not f-ing here) Cyst....I was lucky and it was just a liquid one. No cancer. But f those people who doesn't listen to their patients. I get it. Some people lie for meds. Yet seriously. Listen to people. My doctors just told me to lose weight f them.
All these doctor stories remind me of a story a friend told me. She had a really swollen, red eye for unknown reasons, so, naturally, she went to see a doctor. Here's how that conversation was described to me:
Friend: Hello Doctor.
Dr. (looking at the computer monitor): Hello, please sit down.
Friend: Em, Thanks.
Dr.: Sure, what seams to be the problem?
Friend: Well, my eye is swollen.
Dr. (still looking only at the monitor): Does it hurt?
Friend: Yes.
Dr.: Did you get hit?
Friend: No...
Dr. (finally turns to look at the friend): Oh, you're right, your eye does look swollen...
I know of a criminal defense lawyer who told his client, “I used to worry about how the judge would rule. Then I stopped worrying when I realized that no matter how the judge ruled, I would still wake up the next morning in my own bed.”
That rental car one? 100% sounds like they got scammed. Whether the dude at the desk runs the location or gets a commission by being the one responsible for the rental, that whole scenario reeks
For story 13 I had a strabismus at age 1 the optometrist told my parents I was fine. My parents finally got a second opinion and was almost blind in one eye from not using it and there were plenty of easy treatments.
The music one reminds me of a convo I had with my friend a few months back. They want to become a VA (voice actor). I told them , "the industry is a pain in the ass to get into and the pay is shit. However, once you get in you'll be amazing." And I truly belive that. Obviously I'm very biased, but I honest to god think that they will be my generation's Matt Mercer. I don't think it is a bad thing to warn someone when something might be challenging, but that doesn't mean you should discourage them.
For this whole thread I just wanna say if you're uncomfortable with something always seek a second opinion especially if its medical.
I have something called gastreoparesis that was brought on by diabetes. It affects the stomach’s ability to digest food properly. One treatment that is used is erythromycin, an antibiotic. Unfortunately I’m allergic to it. My endocrinologist recommended trying the erythromycin treatment 3 or 4 times before I found another endocrinologist. My allergies are listed in my medical records and we had detailed conversations about the medication and how it affected me each time she suggested it. 🤦♀️
A psychiatrist laught at me for admiting I was abused and downplaying it like everyone else had.
My wife injured her shoulder while working. She had a house-cleaning business. She went to see the doctor and he said "You just have arthritis." When she doubted this, he muttered under his breath "How dare she question my judgement?" He basically refused treatment. As it turned out, the problem went away on its own. Did she have arthritis? Nope. She died from cancer at age 74 and never had it. Thing was, he wasn't a bad doctor, not really. I went to him a few times and he was always quite good at recognizing problems and dealing with them. But that one time...
For some reason, it's hard d for doctors, even female doctors, to take female patients seriously.
It was only in the 80s or 90s that someone noticed that drugs were ONLY tested on MEN! And to start to realize that, hey, dosing (and the drug itself), doesn't always work the same way between sexes.
It seems like only recently that they've noticed that women have different heart attack symptoms than men.
It's almost like male and female are different?!? Gee, medical and science community, I could have told you that when I was five!
Highschool guidance counselor (90's) steered me away from web design because, "no one will need web design because anglefire and geocities is a thing." Avoided her like the plague from then on. Pieced together my own college plan. Didn't go great, but better than the alternative.
Opthamologist said “your optometrist sent you to me because I’m the expert on this” then settled on the “wait and see” method. Asked my optometrist to refer me to someone else. That someone else caught something the other guy didn’t and kept me from going blind in one eye