How His Villain Arc Begins...
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She smiled in his face the whole time, no respect, no love, no sympathy. Dude don’t ask, just move on.
He deserves better and she deserves someone on her (lower) level.
What she did was wrong but he also seems a little to sensitive
why did the dude agree to do this video... I feel sorry for him
@@sierra4763 she was playing with him, he was committed, is not too sensitive to feel betray, and betray is a hard emotion to feel, people have kill for less,.
Actually we have a whole category of crime born out of betrayal that have lesser sentences as we know that betrayal can lead to incontrolable reactions.
His villain arc just began he will never look women same again and women wonder why men treat them like crap and they still get love because they all backwards
There is no shame in getting cheated on. Someone elses' character is not under your control. How you respond to it is 100% under your control
Applause for this. People blame themselves for not noticing a red flag but non cheaters should give themselves grace. We don't move like dirtbags, so often times we don't recognize the cheating activity we live through.
Claiming you can get cheated on in a “situationship” is foolishness. Stop it bruh. 😂
@@catallguy43 You need to hold responsibility if it's a serious relationship you want. I did not hover around an individual, hoping they would ease into the idea that matched mine. I did not marry my husband without laying it all out on the table. I did not hope he could read my intentions, or by being patient. " I want marriage, children, and a long life with someone. Here are my personal outlooks on politics, religion, sexuality, temperament, communication, finances, gender roles, kids, morals/values, past trauma, worldviews. Now lets sit down at the table, lay it all out, and see if we are foundationally compatible". We were married within a year. 12 years ago. 2 kids in and deeply in love, because we both did the work. People who have behavioral issues in either direction, do not get absolved from accountability. You need to know who you are dealing with.
@@Skywalker721 use some critical thinking my boy
@@Skywalker721if you and the other person have feelings, don't fucking chat, even if it's not official yet. If you know the other person has feelings, don't cheat, you can just leave, easy. But don't talk to others or do others if you have an intimate relationship with someone
Called my mom after ending an 8 year relationship. Sometimes you just need someone who cares to hear you
I'm with Preach it depends what kind of relationship you have with your mother, but if your moment off pain you can go to the person that loves you the most then who do you go? It's no shame.
I haven't cried about my partner, but I have cried with my mom before. Sometimes you really do just need to talk to someone you know cares for real.
To me, that's a big difference. An 8 year relationship that is guaranteed to involve your family, where your family more than likely had a relationship with your significant other.
Calling your mom in a situation like that, so you both can essentially mourn the loss of a significant person that played a role in both of your lives.
I'm so happy that my son feels I am a safe haven that he can come to at any hour just to talk. He doesn't do it that often, but when he does, I know he needs it, and I don't care, I drop everything! Too many men take their lives because they don't have an outlet for their innermost thoughts fears and emotions. When he meets the right person hopefully; they will listen to each other. More men speak to.their mothers than you would imagine.
@@bobos245there's literally no difference you can't tell someone how much they care about someone
Shaming the man for calling his mom for a break up is so wrong, i am actually disappointed in you guys
Real bro.Aba has been taking consistent Ls the past few videos.
Lol
Y'all are way too soft
@@adityapai2173 I agree! Usually he's more in the middle ground, lately he's been a bit more closed minded and judgemental.
@@crystalrenner7608 Yeah keep telling men that, see what happens. We have emotions, too and if it's deep to us it's deep to us. If you're gonna say we're too soft for expressing this pain you better not be one of them "men need to express their emotions more and not be robots" people.
He did say he plead the fifth.. yall need to stop being so soft
Fact that she deleted a bunch of stuff says more than anything he read
You know it was full of messages like "you are so much bigger than him you have nothing to worry about" kinda shit.
Bitches these days are wild
The moment he noticed she was deleting stuff is the moment he should've just got up and left, and forgot all about her, because you KNOW she was cheating without a doubt from seeing that bit. And right after that you see his little smirk/smile and it cuts to him basically hurting while reading the messages...and you can see it fully when he gives the phone back.
She didn't want to hurt him. That's how I took it
@@DaveRedskyoh well that remedies the whole situation
@@CaliJose209 wtf are you talking I'm just talking about facts here...
If she didn't care, she wouldn't delete anything or hide anything
She could literally be like, Who cares 🤷♂️
Nothing wrong with wanting to talk to your mom during a breakup, and nothing wrong with crying about a breakup. I’ve never called my mom about a breakup, but it doesn’t make him any less a man.
Yes that felt weird. Maybe black people think that way? But I would assume only in the US because in Brazil your mom is your best friend when it comes to that. The relationship is very close similar to Italian moms. Usually if someone is going to see me cry it was my mom not my dad.
On God if I'm in a heated moment in my life I need someone to talk too I call my mama because one day zi can't
I feel like this would be normal in my culture as well...
Agreed this has to be normalized. There's some men that will hold that in and see nothing wrong with the trauma that comes with it.
@@EbonyPopeyea you’re slow, it has nothing to do with black people, but with people in general.
She pissed me off so bad. “I just assumed we weren’t exclusive” if thats the assumption then why move like yall are and delete messages?? 😭😭
Oh yeah she's full of it just trying to avoid responsibility at any cost known women like this
@@frigginfranky yea I cut some “friends” off who were like this. But if the turns were tabled and he did this….you get it 💀
Imagine saying “
I didn’t know we were in a relationship so I cheated on you” . Like you’ve been dating for months doesn’t that even correlate you are in a way in a relationship and exclusive to each other. Her saying she didn’t know they were exclusive and didn’t know how exclusive even means and cheated with his friends she’s a dead beat cheater
@@minecraftvvg4250 and also, she should’ve been mature and communicated what the status is instead of assuming but didn’t and used that to her advantage. Like “I’m still gonna do me cause I don’t know for sure if we’re exclusive buttttt he can’t get mad if he finds out cause I didn’t know teehee 🤭” 🙄
I think communication is what was needed. Did he communicate they were exclusive. Anybody is free to date whomever until they both agree to be exclusive.mens issue they don't want to clarify anything they want women to assume we know. They being said she could have said something too
I heard “situationship” and threw my hands up. Maybe because im old but it’s either you’re openly dating or dating exclusively. The line is pretty clear.
You can feel that pain. Anyone who's ever loved someone & gotten cheated on by them knows exactly what he's feeling.
Only people who got cheated on can know that heartbreaking pain.
As a person who has not been cheated or nor loved whatsoever, this seems like a critical thinking error
@@mariasafron7789She probably prefers the type of guy who doesn't cry to his mom. Still, I don't see why she's so numb to his feelings.
@mariasafron7789 Beauty is not everything. It is mostly compatibility that creates the issue
@@mariasafron7789 They are equally as physically attractive as each other.
I hate the term situationship. Like grow up. If you cant set boundaries with the person your sleeping with then you need to stop having sex.
I'm with you there, shite term
Yep dumb term for people that want the best of both worlds
They're not going to stop.
Or… you can accept the situation you agreed to like an accountable adult. Just saying 🤷🏾♂️
I agree. It’s sick that some people try to normalize toxic behavior. No it’s not a situationship. It’s being a terrible human being
He dodged a bullet. He’s still young and can get someone right for him. Be a shame to stay and then be betrayed at 50
it’s over
@@dikshasharma2181 projection
Don't minimize the impact of this situation.
@@bashengatheblackmanta7003 He needs to reflect and overcome the trauma that is this woman. He'll be fine.
@@VVabsa give him time,he will grief over this for a time and then he'll get better and move on
4:56 wtf happened to all that talk about men's mental health, guys? If this guy has no friends and his mom is the only one he has, then better her than just internalizing it and creating a ticking time bomb for the future.
They were commenting on on rare it is Abs even said it could be his ignorance, dummy
@@drdre1223 i watched the video, and I still don't think it was cool because Aba even made another dig about don't call his mom later on, dummy. The whole video is about how this dude went on his villain arc because of how savage this woman is to him. What if his mom is the only thing keeping this guy from going off? I think its weird too to go crying to his mom but if thays all he got, its all he got. I'm not gonna shame him for it so he doesn't go to her next time and bro just snaps. There is a chance that guy can actually see this clip, and do just that
Real
Came here to say this. I had a heartbreak when I was 20, my mom was with me in the car and I couldn't stop crying, she was there confirming me. Also, when my grandma died, we cried together. I mean it's not weird, Aba was just a huge ahh for that take. Mocking people about their relationship with their moms.
@@drdre1223yea it was an uncommon L on their part. My mother is the only woman I can comfortably cry in front off without being judged or losing respect from
“I haven’t felt that spark” Spark this, spark that. Love is way more than just “a spark” it’s a choice.
I always say , sparks are dangerous! Would you sit in a room with sparks going off or would you prefer a well wired up room with a steady flow of electricity? 😂
@@somer0703keeping this forever
@@JaeSpade999 😁
in most cases sparks are simply lust
People want that disney bs.
9:16 this is him realizing he spent so much time chasing a complete piece of shit. Move on bro. You're better than this.
Nah. Bad advice. Its not her. It's him... she wants a man and he is just a good looking boy. It's going to keep happening to him till he learns to be the bad boy all girls want OR become a red pill idiot with no partners.
I think we have all had that moment where we realize someone wasnt the person we thought they were. Time to move on.
He as well took an L
Didn’t expect to see you here man
Have you people forgotten he just admitted that the first time they were together, he took her for GRANTED. That was the big mistake he did, Because as a woman, emotionally she was done and just going through the motion with him.
If someone cheats on you its a character flaw in them, not you.
Facts💯
It's also on you for dating/ taking someone serious who could do that to you lol.
Its literally written all over her that she's a peace of shit idk how someone involved with her couldn't tell...
Its usaully a lil bit of both.
you have to take some responsibility for being naive enough and not seeing the warning signs and being blindsided by whatever you thought was real that wasn't. the only way you really get over it is figuring out what you did wrong and how to avoid it again. it's not that you made them cheat or anything like that, but that you couldn't detect that and maybe you believed her too much.
i mean look at him at 12:41 he's asking "so what do you think this is now?"...that's his fault at that point. he's gotta pull his head out of his you know what and grab his balls and have some dignity and move on from that scumbag
His first mistake was accepting a "situationship" in the first place. A sad thing to see a guy emotionally destroyed in this way.
If your “not exclusive” then why delete messages 😭😭😭😭 This girl bro.
Maybe she doesnt want him to see dick pics or nudes /s
Maybe they were super XXXX wild or something? No excuse though 🤣
You gotta wonder if it's a byprodict of internet brainrot with people like these. They're exposed to content driven by awful people who use their platforms to justify awful behavior like ghosting, running up someone else's bill, unrealistic dating expectations, etc.
Her laughing and giggling to his reaction is diabolical work
She was smirking the whole time. She’s immature and doesn’t deserve the guy. And she says “like” at least twice per sentence.
she wasnt brave enough to take accountability when she got made. the smirking is a defensive mechanism when in a stressful situation. how dont you understand this?
That’s a cold blooded b’itch! That situation would’ve been my villain origin story STG!
I read that as "diabolical wok"😅... Something's wrong with me LMAO
@@HypocritesExposdI’m hoping karma gets her when she finds someone she actually is enamored with.
I was disappointed that Aba basically shamed the guy for calling his mom. He was clearly breaking down at that moment and needed someone who would hear him. Someone I know almost killed himself over a breakup, and I had to practically corner him to make him finally talk. I will never forget that moment. I'm grateful he let himself open up. I'm grateful he is still here!
Men, please don't let the fear of being judged stop you from talking when you are going something like that.
Exactly, Aba is just childish here. He acts like a red pill, these male codes are just ridiculous 9 out of 10 times.
He is a human being and needs support when being sad, offcourse the person who gave birth to you, can be your pillar. If anything it makes sense.
thats terrifying omg
Right because who else you gonna cry to???
@@shelleypoo76 Sounds like you are shaming the guy as well.
@shelleypoo76 yourself, maybe. No issue with him crying to his mum but generally men don't cry to anyone.
She lost her husband and won't figure it out for another 10 years, until the "Cool guys" run through her and walk away.
Facts
Bro is handsome AF. You got options. Move on brother. Its hard but you gotta move on.
He's like 🤔
"all that money I wasted for this....... Biych"
Your first time can be difficult to move from, especially if you never would think your s/o would be sneaky.
Fr
He has the looks but not the behavior of someone who has options. He just needs to be more conscious of his validation seeking
@@k.m9900Exactly. A man with no options is “necessitous”. He is reeking of needing validation from her. A guy with options would drop her instantly
She seems awful, it's obvious he likes her, it's a shame he was so invested into someone that had no respect.
I know, this is painful to watch. She's evil.
When u switch genders thats what y get. She is the man, he is the woman
Exactly I do not feel bad for guy like this because it seem to me they like be treated that way
@@munchk1n393nah he will learn and turn into the type of guy women say they hate but love.
@@AOK342 Yerp never ending cycle 🔄
She had a look of MALICE on her face, when he was expressing his feelings about it. He needs to get away from this despicable woman as soon as possible
She enjoys seeing him like that.
@@mac1bcShe's a succubus who gets off on it. She probably brags to other woman about it as well.
She seems like an air head as well, like nothing is going on in her brain
@@mac1bc Yes i agree. A clear smirk in the beginning when he started talking about how he was restricted and when he saw the phonr, she was so happy to see him hurt. He needs to get away asap
Yea she’s seems really narcissistic and like a bit of sociopath
Wish I could cry to my mum... make the most of them while they're around...❤
If yall got bad relationships with your mom that’s alright bro💀💀
Lmaoo say thatt
Fax
nah fr
Nah genuinely lmao
Just cause I’m not crying to my mom don’t mean it’s a bad relationship lol
Soon as i saw her deleting them messages I would've been outta there 😂
This. That right there told me everything I needed to know.
Facts ! That would have been my cue to say fuck this shit and fuck you I'm out !
man this is a fact. I don't need this video embarrassment in my life lol I know what time she on as soon as she started deleting.
Same, bro😂 deleting messages?? You're treating yourself like a Playstation at that point. You just begging to be played😂
So you are like him. Would run away and cry to your mom rather than change your ways, get better, and make sure women don't cheat on you. Ok
She absolutely deleted nudes, didn’t have enough time to even Think of the freaky texts.
Or maybe don’t delete everything and he could se some videos when she write him example “ I must learn and feel tired”.
It was nudes?
They searched each other's names on their phones. Why would nudes pop up when you're searching names/mentions
@@k.m9900 I wouldn't have a clue, but maybe she texted the other guy, this is what you are getting and what hes missing out on tonight?
probably had videos of her guts being rearranged too
If a girl says, “oh this guy reached out to me, but I don’t like him, so you don’t have to worry.” That’s the guy you should *_DEFINITELY_* worry about. If a girl wasn’t interested in some guy hitting her up and hitting on her, she wouldn’t even pay him the time of day. There would be no difference between that guy and a lamp for her, but if she feels the need to tell you not to worry about the guy, it’s because she feels guilty about liking the guy.
Exactly that’s when you ask questions..an if you feel in your heart she’s not being genuine and or that you need to check her phone for proof..your better off just ghosting her. She is not for you. She not worth it leave her to the streets where she came from.
nah, if a girl says that. Don't worry, leave.
@@bobbob-vw4cc true
In my experience if a woman is talking about any guy in a bad manner but is still showing him attention, then you know what’s up.
@@TheLandOfTearsyes
My man's is dejected, i saw the switch up and i felt that shit in my heart soul and mind. This shit is crazy then the fact that she knew poorly covered her tracks before, the smile after and then how she reacted even after he told her how he feels it's crazy. I hope he leaves her alone, and i hope she learns from this. I hope they both do
Felt that shit too it hurt man what a sad word😢
That set is such a beautiful place to bleed out 😂😂
I can see it in his eyes that he hated her guts and this is his villain arc also he will never look at women the SAME EVER AGAIN PERIOD. “Created a monster” well here you go
@@reborngreatnesss5712you’re doing too damn much relax.
I can say this changed his perspective but I wouldn't call this villain arc just yet, we don't know how much pain he's been through we know he had anther relationship that didn't end well but we don't know him. He could take this in stride or he could go villain but it's too soon to say
All these situationships, netflix and chill friends, unset boundaries, unlabeled relationships are a great way to set ourselves for failure. Ive rarely/ never saw someone gaining something positive from that kinda relationship.
Gotta demand clear boundaries and labels. Saves you time and keeps them accountable.
Exactly
man what happened to love, it's just hoeing around from all ends with guys and women these days. we gotta bring back passion and devotion
I had to scroll a decent amount to finally come across a mature, logical response. All these people keep claiming she cheated in a situationship. He should’ve communicated better if he wanted exclusivity instead of entertaining this nonsense.
Birth control happened.
Delete everything, move on bro.
Yeah, move on. But it does take time tho
fact she laugh in his face, she don't care about you bro, she probably only with him till she find someone better or wait for her ex to take her back, I would broke up and leave and block her on everything
He’s sensitive and smart and way better looking than she is.
Not for a man we are not yall and how he talk and body language he look weak and probably let her lead him with the p3ssy. He didn't know her that long as well. Come on this dude had to see some red flags @kathyriver98
He’s about to get a ton of DMs from women throwing themselves at him because this video, she’s gonna be the fun girl getting used and abused because of this video. He doesn’t realize it yet but he has won.
He’s the fall back guy, the bench warmer, second string. Say adios my friend and don’t look back. She will bring nothing but problems to your future.
Asian guys tend to be closer to their mom's, mostly because their dad's tend to be workaholics. Its a cultural thing.
100%. Some of the most gruff, stoic Asian men I know are the biggest mama's boys.
That's why they don't get taken seriously. And mexican men be living at home their whole life
I perceive that as a good thing
African thing too
Asians in general really, but idk wtf she is, def white washed family.
I think talking to your mom after a breakup makes a lot of sense. When you're heartbroken, you just want someone to comfort you and be on your side. What love is better than the unconditional love of a mother?
lol….sometimes. Definitely him. But there are also men that are better served going through the pain and processing it internally. Feeling the emotions intelligently and intentionally.
THEN VILLAIN ARC 😏
Yag
@@zeejay5397 Maybe in your fantasy that is how it turns out. But in reality it's suicide more often than not.
I bet it happens more than men would be willing to say.
@@dg2drunk you are saying people kill themselves more often than resolve conflict in the healthy way I described? Damn…
She put him on layaway and he was in denial about it. Her action, her words, everything said “you’re just the backup”.
Well put! Layaway… that’s a really great descriptor for this sh*tuationship.
Crying to mom - I've been on the verge of tears twice in the last 5 years and both times I called mom... also another story -
My best friend asked me to drive him to his parents house after he told me his wife is divorcing him... he walked in the door, hugged his mom in front me and just started wailing... I put a hand on his back said it's OK, went inside, told his dad "your son needs you right now, he's with mom (names excluded) I sat down on the couch and let them have their moment of need.
It was an awkward moment that I didn't feel awkward in because I thought "this is the appropriate place to do this" his family came by and we made frozen pizzas and just let him vent while watching game show network. My friends parents were like the "step parents" to my friend group... so they just know how to handle an emotional/traumatized men... if I didn't have my parents and I'd need to cry/be vulnerable... I'd call my best friends parents. They're real ones.
Yeah he needs to leave. She doesn’t care for him. He’s breaking down his feelings and she has no emotion. And it seems like this is just revenge from what happened in their past. She was hiding a whole bunch of stuff. And notice she didn’t even say sorry or try to make him feel better about the situation.
@@mariasafron7789 Dude in one comment you say you are a psychologist. In another you say you are a psychology student. 🤣
I think you are something else. Its called a liar.
@@mariasafron7789 You are so full of shit really. In one comment you say stop diagnosing people in a 3min clip. And now here you are saying you are seeing avoidant attachment in action. Oh so 3 minutes was enough to diagnose that? Without the OFFICIAL list of questions you have to ask the client to come up with that?
You are talking out of your ass and you are indeed a ''student'' lol
@@jameswayton2340well is the egg a chicken? Lol 😂 yeah I wouldn't have made that claim but it's not completely erroneous.
6/10
She doesn't give a damn about how he feels 🫤
Hard watching a man try and keep a straight face while dying inside.
Joy, love, and optimism in his face gone.
Really? I find it entertaining
He were not obligated to go through it. Maybe while his crying on his momma lap this was her advice. Go on son and cry like a baby in front of that mid chick
@@negaalex3186demon time
he needs to learn how to protect himself from such vampires, I know in an Ideal world he wouldn't have to, but from the story of his last relationship before reconnecting with this bad one, she also sucked him dry and not in the good way.
@@negaalex3186 Empathy is a learned skill.
You can see bro’s soul just phasing back and forth between being calm and crashing out.
Yep he'll crash out after this episode p
She’s not his friend she doesn’t care about him at all. She could see he was hurt and hurting and she was smiling laughing to herself. And it’s plain to see
That whole making fun of him for crying to his mom was really weird and off-putting ngl
of course they’re gonna make fun of a guy who shares his life with his mom. they just can’t imagine being that close with their mom sadly
I felt exactly the same way, and calling him hyper sensitive for being able to express his feelings is wild
Relax. They didn’t “make fun” of him. They simply expressed the fact that they found it strange.
This is how the world treats men. It's up to you as a man to figure it out. Don't give your power to a woman.
Aba found it strange, Preach said that it's common in some place/cultures. @@kinggeorge90
She's a sociopath, just like all cheating slags. Quite frankly, as soon as I saw her deleting texts, I wouldn't have even bothered exchanging phones and called the whole thing off.
Lol that phrase cracks me up, cheating slags 😂
Accurate tho
you get it, and the way she was giggling and fakesmiling thru the whole thing was a red flag but then she got serious after the exchanging phones part you just can't make this up, he should just move on and find someone who's willing to be loved AND give love back
And then wanted to switch back early. There was a bunch of stuff even more devastating stuff that he was spared from reading.
It’s clear she’s using him to fill a space until someone she really wants comes along. Great that he got to see what she’s all about though.
...only great if he heeds it. I would have finished my obligation to the show and never talked to her again.
He's literally out of her league in not just looks but character too.
@@garydrago their both average
Lmao fill a *space* is such a good line, sounds like he filled a few spaces.
I´ve been in this situation, my ex broke up with me saying she needed some time "alone", the next week she started seeing a guy that I discovered talked and visited her at her job while we were at the relationship. It´s the type of thing that develops trust issues in any person.
the whole poking fun at the calling your mom thing was off to me. almost implying that being close to your mom was somehow emasculating. i dont really understand what that had to do with being a guy, as aposed to it being a child expressing themselves to their parental figure.
Asians are close to their mom especially if you're born there
I'm close to my mom as well. When I lost my home and my car to my ex, I called the only person I knew I could show my heart to and express all the complicated emotions I was going through without telling me to man the fuck up or tear my ex down for any number of reasons to try to make me feel better. I didn't need answers, I needed to feel secure and loved, and my mom the only woman in my life who's let me cry without looking at me differently after. When you look at your phone right now and tell yourself "if shit hit the fan right now, who could I call to help me realize things will be okay?". I'm a Veteran, and my first instinct isn't to call another struggling traumatized Marine going through their own shit, it's to call my mom. She'll always answer, and she's never sugar coated and coddled me, but she'll always love me and hear me out when I'm screaming so loud people can't hear what I'm trying to say.
sometimes the only one who wont judge you is your mother or father and if you want to unburden yourself and be vulnerable its safer ...cause even your friends throw shit back in your face....
because thats what women do. no men does that shit. daughters go cry to their mothers about men, men dont go cry like little bitches to their mom about a woman. dude is 30000% feminine and clearly has been raised by his mom and took everything after her. overly sensitive, dude literally almost starts crying and put his head down refusing to speak like a child. hes pathetic. this shit is cringe to watch, shes looking at him with 0 respect, 0 empathy u can clearly see in her eyes shes toying with him cuz hes a coward with no self respect or any courage.
@@SubPsionmost people's mothers are their primary source of pain.... definitely not the person most people call when they're in pain
OMG He is so handsome and mature! She doesn't deserve him, he is out of her league
Right like the way he talked. He was very well spoken. I don’t think I would be able to talk like that if I was in his position.
So only ugly guys deserve this treatment ?
Fr tho, he is so cute and his personality doesn’t seem crap, he deserves someone wayyy better
He is. He’s way out of her league.
Yupyup this guy is cute. She doesn't know what she's thrown away.
My sons ALWAYS have a soft place to land when their feelings are hurt. Im their mother!! What kind of mother would I be if I rebuke my sons when they come to me crying?!
I could NEVER!! I am and will ALWAYS be their shoulder to cry on. I may talk to them or simply sit in silence as they express whatever they are feeling at that moment.
No matter what I’m teaching my sons it’s okay to be vulnerable and express any and EVERY emotion openly!!
that is just not a masculine thing to do for men . From both optics and function it is not a good look for a guy to cry to his Momma.
@@PHlopheis it it bad in function? What negative does it do. And look at the comments? Optics? Vast majority of people don’t find it weird or bad that he did that, so by optics do you mean how YOU view him? Thats on you
Every emotion? You ain’t one of those boy moms are you?
@@PHlophegood look? Who's he trying to look good for?
Exactly
I've learned something with Preach: don't think everyone is your friend, do not distort the meaning of words calling random ppl friends. Some ppl use this friendship card to keep a foot in your life, trying to use you, controlling you and to boost their ego. Keep your standards high, if ppl have no consideration for you, no respect, empathy etc, they are not your friend. And ppl need to stop this "situationship" stuff, there is just 2 situations, you are in or you are out.
People need to stop trying to double back, once it’s over just move on. That double back stuff never work. Delete that person from your life and in your mind. You’ll be surprised how easy it is to get over when you focus on life.
a woman hurt me a long time ago. so i told her this: "after this message, i will forget you. i will erase you from my life. you will be a stranger to me in my mind and if we talk, i will say i don't know you."
the next day, she messaged me and my response was "i'm sorry. who are you, miss?" that got her big mad and i never heard from her again. and i legit dont even know her name anymore.
erase her and move on because that's the best revenge you can do.
That’s some next level Copium I wish I had the ability to do that 💀
I mean the mature thing to do is to end all communication and move on. Don’t look back. You got a little petty but you were hurt. Overall you’ve had the most mature way to move on from heartbreak I’ve seen in these comments.
The irony in writing this
@@heavygaming6596hes not over it but its understandable. Human emotions are complicated
@@seeksolace2059 🤝
When he was talking about his feelings she had 0 facial expression, as soon as he saw the messages she couldn't stop smiling.
He was being genuine the whole time, and it looked like she was holding back laughter. Rotten to the core, smh.
She was enjoying his pain. She knew what he would find and thought it was funny.
It’s called Duping delight, or dupers delight, look it up. I personally think it’s a trait psychotic people have where when they find out they’ve deceived you,,the spirit behind the deception can do nothing but smile at watching the victim become hurt. The Joker has an overly exaggerated version of this going on.
They get off on causing deception and harm. A person can have a perfectly good relationship and sex life and when they cheat the high of getting caught will have them getting off double time. It’s all related.
@@nedflanders4158if she enjoyed the pain why would she delete messages? she shouldve kept them in there to maximize suffering
I mean, I think she's fucked up. But some people smile/laugh when they're nervous or uncomfortable. So let's not pretend we know exactly what someone's reaction means
"Snakes in the grass now its time to cut the lawn"🎶🎵🎶
I swear man, dating is just a mess nowadays. People say its always been this way, but i dont know. I feel like MF's today are far more narcissistic than before. Its just ugly out here. Be careful.
We're in a generation of people who look to what they can get out of it at all costs to an absurd degree. Rather than what they can offer first.
It definitely isn't the same as before. Just the single fact that you can go online and chat with tons of people makes it 10 times easier to cheat because it's easy and you don't even have to leave home to do it. People have 10x more options than before, so people are always doubting if they could find someone better and don't commit.
I don't know who those people are say "it's always been," no you haven't been there, so that says it all that they don't know.. I don't know either and I'm not gonna do that
they are and thats why im hagmaxxing. I cant stand my fellow gen z females
100%
You can’t understand a son going to his mother, feeling vulnerable and needing someone to talk to and trusting her with those emotions? That says more about you and your mother’s relationship than it does about him. Have I ever cried to my mother about a relationship? No…but there’s nothing wrong with it.
Maybe Aba just doesn't have that type of relationship with his own mother so he's projecting a bit. I don't think it's very fair of him to make it seem weird though. If a man is going to cry and be vulnerable you would think his mother would be the best place to go because your mum loves you unconditionally and wants the best for you. I have a daughter and a son, i would hope in the future both would come to me when they are upset and need comforting.
Yeah. I did that with my mom about my ex. My mother abused the situation to break my relationship of 5 years. You can't trust those bitches, not even own mother.
@@kublakhan2342if you son moves like that you've failed as a mother.
My mother has bad Anxiety, I do trust her but I would not want to upset her and deal with the drama.
@@TheAcad3mic nonsense
She gonna act like she didn't do anything slimy. Like she was just deleting messages because she thought she was innocent? 😂
She was deleting quite and handful of messages too. Wasn’t even looking through his phone bc she was locked in on what he saw.
you can see in her eyes how cold she is, she aint give a fuck
It could be also some photos her body, you know this parts that this guy can’t touch from years because “she wasn’t ready and don’t want hurry” and was sending someone met week ago. She has energy this type of girl.
Because for me she acted from him good girl totally oposite how she is in bed with someone else.
@@user-rr3sq8mh8x True
Me personally, when I had my first break up the second I got off the phone I had a severe panic attack that lasted two hours. I had to call my mom to call me down.
"Shes not your friend, move on." I think thats the best advice given from Aba this vid. Hopefully people learn to speak whats on their minds. I cant read your mind, you gotta let me know what your thinking
4:35 I don't know too many guys who hide in bushes, Aba.😁
Damn, you ain't gotta do him like that😂😂🤣🤣
Yeah he said that like what he did wasn't also weird
😂
😂😂😂😂😂
I don’t think he went crying to his mom. Yes, he called her. But it could be interpreted that at that time he just really needed to her the voice of someone who he knew without a doubt truly loved him/cared about him.
It also sounded like his mom picked up that something was wrong and asked him how he was doing.. which broke open the flood gates.
everything about him changed after that phone switch, whatever she was trying to do didnt work. Shes not your friend she uses him when she get bored or lonely
The way he was thinking after she said her fear is needingvmoney from others....
I only have a mom , no dad he died. Cried to my mom once about shit I was going through because I had no one else to talk to but she made it about her instead of listening to my issues I was having with struggling with homelessness, etc
Its that smirk. Like she has actual malice. He should run, not look back and lose her number. She'll regret it in the future but he won't.
Because she does. Gonna cheat? alright, bad enough. Cheat with his FRIENDS? That's another level of deviousness that doesn't happen unless there is harm intended.
She's energy vampire. She likes creating drama to feed on the negative energy. She's sick! I've dumped multiple energy vampires and I can confirm that I have never regretted it! They are just sad to lose their favorite punching bag, they never cared about you as a person! They are so empty on the inside they have to steal your energy, there is something fundamentally wrong with such people!
Honestly im not 100% sure its a smirk. What i mean is its more as if she is trying to make a facial expression that says ''I'm too cute looking to be guilty of something''. I met a narcissistic girl and she did this exact same thing when i was talking to her about a previous fight we had. She just stared at me with this weird fucked up smile sitting silently on the bed.
Like it is really weird. Its like their last line of defense ''Oh i just sit still and don't react to what he is saying or questions he asks and i don't engage with him and just sit here smiling like a toddler''. Its their way of coping hard and mentally removing themselves from taking responsibility.
Tho yea she was probably smirking constantly.
@@jameswayton2340 Yeah I suppose it could be that too... But still no matter what the reason, smiling while someone is hurting right in front of you is evil. No empathy to be found. I've had people who tried to distance themselves from their own actions too by playing dumb etc, acting like it never happened. Who knows if they actually believe it themselves, if they are trying to convince themselves? Personally I have stopped making excuses for them, so I don't fall into their mind games again. One can only believe "I don't remember" so many times before you figure out they are playing you, you know? Yes if they are conventionally attractive it's very possible they know they can get away with ALOT of crap only by looking cute, especially girls... I knew a narc girl in school, no I actually knew multiple fucked up girls who avoided responsibility by acting like "I'm just innocent baby" etc. But the last one was 27 years old at the time... My younger sister has the "younger sibling syndrome" except she's a psychopath.
He looked at her with shame. This guy would be a great dad
He's the type of dad that makes daughters like her. 😄
@@carlo8108no that’s you brotha
@@okmnhy9610 a guy with no standards for himself who can't set boundaries, gets played and y'all call him dad material out of sympathy. Y'all are all softies. 💀
@@carlo8108 right on brotha hopefully you’re raising strong independent single mothers ;)
@@okmnhy9610 oh ok. You're one of those cornballs that are mad at women because you've been played so you have a soft spot for corny men like yourself. We all gotta learn the lesson, little guy. Stop trying to fall in love with these hoes and you won't get your little feelings hurt. 🤣
Bro, what the fuck is "situationship". Your either in a relationship or your not. You could have an open relationship but by this guys reaction, that's clearly not the case. He communicated his feelings clearly enough just by his body language that he was in his mind in a committed relationship. She wanted to have fun and fuck around. Sadly, with either side of the coin, this ain't nothin new, just another case of "belonging to the streets".
Lol bro hy, but this guy in the vid will never look at love the same again bro shits sad
It’s like everything “created” by people without moral code or self respect. Y
You know since centuries some “job” was called wh..re but suddenly they call herself as a s.ex workers/creators.
I think it was a mistake giving it a name
It's evident they never talk about the nature if their relationship.
A situationship is a relationship for two people who refuse to commit to each other. Or, where one refuses to commit and the other refuses to let the other go. This video was the second scenario. He believed that they were for the most part in a monogamous relationship, without defined commitment, but the expectation was that neither of them were still out playing the field. Seems like she was misleading him to string him along, knowing that she was never going to actually commit to him. It seems like she just didn’t want to be alone, so keeping him around meant that if whatever she was actually seeking didn’t work out, she would always have him as a fallback and wouldn’t ever have to actually be “single”.
In Asian culture going to ur parents for guidance or advice is fairly normal
its going to the Momma that is bizarre
Whats the difference lol
@@PHlophe?
In Asian culture wouldn’t a women like this get shamed 🤔
Sounds like she “graduated” from this relationship. Brother run!
more like avoidant attachment meets anxious attachement.. this situation is really rare tho bc almost alway avoidant attachment style is found in men
@@mariasol1545shut up, this is how most people are, including women
I repeat, MOST people, INCLUDING most women
More like dropped out
@@mariasol1545 “I’m strong, independent don’t need a man” sounds like avoidant attachment to me. And which gender usually says that?
@@WolfamongSheep626 women have been in the workforce helping build households since... 40+ years ago. get out of your echo chamber.
I feel really bad for people who get cheated on. I wonder how some people are able to forgive and move past it.
Simps. People who forgive cheaters are simps
Not meny, haven't dated anyone in 10 years and keeping it that way
It ruins your trust
@@dmwanderer9454 no people are just mature and move on plan and simple
I was a simp, but sometimes u gotta go through that hurt in order to learn.
@@dmwanderer9454you can forgive but move on
He's still a Chad for coming out on top. At least he now fully understands who he was giving his time and energy to.
He’s average to slightly above looking be so fr
he gotta fix the mom thing tho... that's weird
@@mariasol1545not tf it’s not😂😂
Chad? he got mad femme energy. How is that chad brev
@@eghoseisiramen1892emotions can run high, shit I even slipped up after a 6 year almost went down the drain lol
I would think crying to your mom or dad is the safest person to cry too.
Great vid and stuff, just wanted to come out and say to the guys with a close relationship with their moms that it's completely OK and valid to call up someone you love when you're at a low. Please don't feel ashamed of that. People need a shoulder to cry on sometimes, if it's your mom then it is your mom. More so, be very very happy and lucky you have such a safe relationship with your mom.
Great advice
" it's completely OK and valid"
so you are the arbiter of what is ok and valid? Do we need your permission first or something?
@@bobbob-vw4cc That’s not what was implied. Work on your reading comprehension. Call your mom.
@@bobbob-vw4cc you may now proceed to call your mom about the mean lady in the youtube comments who told you that you shouldn't be ashamed of calling her for emotional support
@@ciciciciciclala again, it's always been ok, she's your mother. Why do I need you to tell me it's ok?
Finding out she cheated, puts the whole "I hurt her really bad" into question. Probably played out a slight just to leave, and have him be the bad guy
Unfortunately a scene very commonly mimicked. It’s simply too easy to do and always give those who use it an out.
She cheated because she wanted him to know what hurting her felt like. It's not mature of her but it's understandable.
@@EvolianTiger in my opinion, its not really understandable at all. That's what unhealthy, vindictive, narcissistic people think "getting even" means. There's plenty of people that get angry or feel hurt by their partners and never once consider cheating. Cheating is a sign of a deep lack of values, self-control, accountability and empathy. People need to stop treating infidelity like the "natural conclusion" to a relationship breaking down, because for a lot of individuals, it is not even remotely close to being considered an option even as retaliation for perceived injustices.
And it is almost always a completely disproportionate response to the original slight.
@@EvolianTigercheaters are gonna cheat no matter what another person does. It's a personal issue of theirs and just who they are.
@@EvolianTiger he didn't cheat on her or anything even remotely as bad as what she did to him. She would have mentioned it specifically 💀. She's definitely the type..anything to make her feel justified.
This chick is the definition of a sociopath. And this dude kept going back to her. And she got away with it because honestly, she could. Better late than never that he learned though.
I agree somethings wrong with her
@@mariasafron7789Agree on the diagnosis statement, but she definitely show anti social personality traits and pathologies.
He didn't learn
@@damson9470 he learned now.
@@mariasafron7789 Yea i'm definitely a real psychologist too...and in my professional opinion people should continue to self diagnose so I don't have to work as hard. Thank you internet!!
bro this exact situation happened to me - the anger watching this is UNREAL
This is what a relationship with a narcissist looks like:
Edit: This asian man is FINEEEEE af, he won’t have issues getting a lady! I hope he chooses correctly next time, a good and faithful person! 🙏
Yep. He needs to leave. Never stay with a cheater.
Lol why the pic of Selena Gomez
He looks attractive, but that simp mindset is off putting
@@djaeger-k5m Yeah him also wearing his heart on his sleeve is also a massive liability for himself in the future. You could see immediately that he was totally thrown off balance and all semblance of emotional stability escaped him. My man's life flashed before his eyes because of a woman and thats just a very dangerous and comprising place to be in at any given time in your life.
@@beambooi6431calm down he’s human and he just found out he was cheated on. This whole idea of “alpha” men have zero emotions is just dumb and yall need to get off the internet.
Nahhhh, she’s crazy. She smiling like it’s all good.
how old are u?
She knows it isn’t “good”. That’s why she’s smiling. Emotional sadism
@@Sebastian-tf2gu25
maturity is learning how to cut out toxic friendships to better yourself.
I have a terrible relationship with my mom, we haven't even spoken in years. But the idea of a grown man opening up to his mom and crying in front of her just seems comforting. It makes a lot of sense to me, I would sacrifice a lot to have a relationship with my mom like that.
Notice she says she's "surprised" and "confused" at the end but not ashamed or at the least empathetic. "I just wanted validation" yeah and at the cost of your relationship with this guy. Go cry about it- I hope her other relationships fall apart if she's going to be a manipulative scumbag like this without any shred of guilt.
Guy, distance yourself from that woman
11:02 As soon as I heard her say "Situationship" yeah... This term and culture needs to go. Its either you're together or not.
Yup. I.find many use that term when they don't want to admit they know they just f buddies or if they don't want to admit to themselves it's not a relationship
Your right, guys in the wester world need to wake up and smell the daisies because the coffie isnt for you thats why some not all guys are trying to find someone in other countries because of the maddness of the western world and thats if the are trying and some guys dont want to try, they know there getting nowhere fast and its a cold crule world we live in but theres nothing that can be done apart from the choses we make
Friends with benefits is completely different tho. I'm referring to situationship as actually having entire effortful relationships on the side like emotions are just a commodity to them.
There is no such thing as a situationship, you’re just fuck buddies but some people don’t like how the latter term makes them feel.
situation-ships are messy by nature, but I noticed that they tend to attract people who're mentally unhealthy. Even in situations where people do establish boundaries like, exclusivity or non-exclusivity, how much time to spend together, being open about seeing other people (so the other person can manage their expectations), sexual health (you both go consistently to get tested and you're honest with each other about your tests), etc. one party usually fudges things up due to their own poor emotional and mental health
I'm at only 9:23. MANS. IS DIFFERENT. I can feel it through the screen. Yo, this is wild. This dude might have the greatest villain arc this generation. You'd expect a momma's boy to react different, but I guess he was right when he said he learned to stand up.
He wasn't a momma's boy. He was a guy that was close to.his mother. A mommas boy would not 180 like that
Holy crap man I feel so bad for this dude. I’ve been there and I suspect a lot of guys have. To feel like you know somebody and then realize it’s all wrong, that hurts more than anything.
When you find out your girl cheated on you, it's time to find a woman to be with, instead of Grade A TRASH. Betrayal should not be tolerated.
TERRANCE OUT
Wtf terrance. I see you all the time. Do you watch comicbook videos??? Trying to remember where else ive senn you comment.
I say this all the time. No one, regardless of gender, orientation, etc, should ever tolerate betrayal for ANY REASON. Drop that ish and move on.
This man is so kind. He seems like a good guy.
4:40 This is the first time in a while I've full disagreed with Aba. My mum was the only person that I could cry in front of without being ashamed for the first 24 years of my life, to the point that it took her passing away to make me realise that it's okay to cry in front of other people occasionally.
That probably comes from the fact that I was bullied very heavily until I was 16 and for most of my childhood my mum was the only person I could turn to for any kind of emotional support as my Dad has always been stoic to a fault.
Like you said though, everyone has different relationships with their mum's.
Agree 👍
IF men really are being shamed for crying, then it makes perfect sense to go to the person who won't shame you.
Everyone in that situation is looking for love, understanding & empathy. He did the right thing going to his mother.
Yag
@@Mona-Devriesyou can cry and you should but not as grown man at your momma lap. There's place and time for it
@@PercyEarlFixingBindsLLCfacts
@@PercyEarlFixingBindsLLCwhy? Cause you say so? And what is the time and place?
"Villains are not born, they are made" Villain arc incoming!
Accountability is like kryptonite.
For men too.
@@cha9165from what I see men seem pretty comfortable admitting their wrong doings
@@fruke2629 Men are more likely to do it but from experience it's a moderate majority, like 65-75% of men.
@@fruke2629ofcourse you wouldn't admit that your kind don't take accoutibility when I see rapists blaming children. 😂. At least most rapists area women. It's men.
@@fruke2629@fruke2629 ofcourse you wouldn't admit that your kind don't take accoutibility when I see rapists blaming children. 😂. At least most rapists area women. It's men.
Many people end up at their parents' houses after divorces, break-ups, etc. If anything, a parent is the perfect person to vent to. Especially if you still have them around.
More and more I am starting to realize that asking a woman to see her phone is one of the easiest ways to draw out a whole bunch of shifty behavior and red flags.....
That's just being a nosy, weak man. If she cheats she cheats, who cares🤷🏿♂️
Asking anyone to see their phone is the biggest way to see some shit you don’t want to. Why you making it a woman thing? My ex had a whole secret life when I checked his phone. People suck in general
@@Yoshiecatattck Because women tend to get more attention in general. People cheat regardless of gender, but men typically don't have many "options" in terms of dating. That's why most men tend jump the gun and assume that a relationship might be exclusive than it actually is (and therefore also act more loyal to their partner), while women generally prefer to go into situationships and keep their options open. The guys who are serial cheaters are typically those who are more desirable by the opposite sex. If the tables were turned in terms of how both genders experience relationships, I'm sure that men would show similar behavior, but that isn't the case. Many women entertain guys who message them for self-affirmation/validation, some even while being in relationships.
As a black man, I cried to my mom about my girl 5:38
Jesse, Now where did we go wrong with yo ass. she gone plot how to take out of the female that did you wrong . its a reason we are never asking females for advice. There is objective perspective . Mane, what is you doiiiiing !
Bruh we same i asian and i cry to my mom about my last relationship
@@Deedlanger you’re both lucky to have a loving mother mine’s dead
As a black man I told her and broke down at one point and I remember my mom smiling like this girl and laughing saying "this is something to cry over?" Never cried about a girl/woman again
@@AA-qt6zp now that hurts
2:10 I'm sick a yo shyt 😅😅😅😅
The wayyyy I was hollering at the side eyes 😂😂 these 2 are a perfect duo
i have gone through this before. some people wouldnt want to be with you bt never want anyone else to have you either. the mnt you try to move on they will do their best to pull you back in just to drop you off again when you start getting too comfortable
His first heartbreak. He's going to learn from his mistakes. He seemed to be holding accountability right from the start. Something she seemed allergic to.
My mom is the only women I would let see me cry. It’s the only unconditional love a man can have. Parents I mean
you just haven’t found the right woman
Yes! I thought it was very weird for Aba to assume that you wouldn't cry in front of your mom. Now it happened in my life in fron of both of my parents. But it was super rare to do that in front of my dad especially when I was grown up. Let's be real it would feel weird since men just don't bond with these things. But with my mom I never had any problems telling her about my relationships etc.
@@ayoreef9683 Every single woman I've met in my 20+ years of living uses things you tell them in an argument against you later. Only my grandma doesn't. Haven't met a single other woman who doesn't including my mom. I don't think women like that even exist anymore
I'm a safe space enough for my boyfriend to cry in front of me.I sit by and tell him it's ok to cry or i hold him and he'll cry. It's healthy for people to cry no matter your gender. Crying is a release, not a weakness.
@@ayoreef9683 cope
Guys, Girls and everyone in between I hope no idiots have sympathy for her because deleting messages before she switched phones was all I needed to know. Any messages were directly related to him.
Yup Most likely and text showing she cheated
Who exactly is between a guy & a girl wtf 😂😂😂
@@mikewayne8902 I never know G. The times are weird now but they are included too
she spent twice as much time deleting messages as he did looking at her phone and he still caught her out in a bald faced lie about them no less in 10 seconds! 🤣
I think more and more ppl exhibit psychotic behavior, coming up with justifications and not understanding the feelings of others.
Just crazy to see it play out.
i hope his villain arc goes infamous
Omg that’s mean
Hate makes hate. You want him to go out there and hurt other girls who end up causing guys to get hurt like this?
@@matterking1yup. You sow the wind, you reap the storm
I hope he goes to therapy, there isn't a point to hurt someone who opens their heart to him.
@@LudwigVaanArthans no. He needs therapy not revenge
"With friends like that, who needs enemies?"
At 8:30 right now and holy shit. You can see exactly the moment he read the message, his sadness and heartbreak when he originally declined to ask a question and then his anger and “you know what fuck that” when he changed his mind.
Bro lost all feelings for her in that moment. Just imagine the messages she deleted
Finished video: she’s grimy as all hell. She knew she was leading him on and she definitely tried to downplay her actions. I hope he moves on from her and finds someone much better, I hurt a lil bit for him when I saw that. Y’all are definitely right, he cares about her WAY more than she cares about him.
You can actually pinpoint the moment his heart rips in half
This girl is addicted to lying.