Wife Of The Year. Betrayal Worse Than Cheating
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I think A&P were a little to harsh here.
Did she break a boundary? Yes, by talking about the injury.
Did she not speak up? Yes, I could imagine she was shocked.
Was the husband put in a hard position? Yes, but he did the right thing seemingly.
One important thing is she admits fault here. Broke up with those "friends". I can kind of forgive her for being shell-shocked (or a coward). With some time, or maybe therapy, the relationship should be able to push through.
What do you think?
No. Youre underplaying how foul what she did was. She just didnt "not speak up". She cowerd while her husband was publicly branded as her abuser (due to her gossiping to her friends).
I & most people can never trust someone after that. No therapy will make up for your shit character.
You sound like a person who's allergic to a little something I like to call....... accountability.
Why did you leave out the part where SHE WALKED OUT THE DOOR WITH THEM WITHOUT SAYING A WORD!? All of those things up to that point, yes, it’s messed up but they could be worked through. But then LEAVING WITH THEM!? No. Done. Betrayal of the highest order without the possibility of parole.
She can admit fault but she can't admit that her husband isn't an abuser. Sorry buddy but you've completely lost the plot.
Its not just the not speaking up part
Its also the part where she left with them, indirectly confirming the false accusation
If anyone have a wife indirectly confirming false allegations of being a wife beater how is anyone gonna take that other than betrayal
So nobody in her family thought for second that jumping a guy who was in the military from behind in the dark was a bad idea....
My exact thinking looks. They forgot he was a trained man.... probably for those exact situations aswell
If they get dunked on imma laugh. Even the wife. Don't assuIt your partner and not expect them to fight back self defense
Lots of people are incapable of thinking about how other people might react to their actions. I don't know many men who react in a nonviolent manner when someone jumps on their back.
That's what shocked me the most, he's military, he's literally supposed to have a strong defensive mechanism. Like bruh
Literal brainrot levels of logic. But this dude is clearly also not the sharpest tool in the shed so they sound perfect for each other. Dude apologized for him defending himself in a potentially life threatening situation. No self respecting man would do that.
The fact the her friends just assumed she was a victim and she was willing to go along with it is fucking scary!
Most likely there is missing pieces. That's crazy AF for someone to just assume somebody to be a wife beater out of nowhere, and to say it out loud even more
@Miam_miam_la_gauffre In this day and age? Nah. Too many things are falsely labeled as abuse and far too many people are far too comfortable with confidently accusing innocent men of abuse.
@Miam_miam_la_gauffre You have not had enough life experiences then. In domestic disputes, women lie or over exaggerate and conveniently leave out bits about their contributions to the dispute ALL THE TIME and are just automatically believed without pushback
@@Miam_miam_la_gauffreare you joking? People will JUMP to believe anyone claiming abuse off of nothing. It takes nothing.
There’s a little more to the story I heard, she would hangout with her lady circle and they would all share about how their husbands arnt doing enough and she is the biggest sheep and just follows and shares bad sounding stories about her husband
"I stopped telling that story out of respect for my husband"
"I figured no harm no foul because he's not in the room"
So which is it?
Evil
Vile
Annnnnnnnd the word of the day isssssssss "Integrity"!! Learn it
Smh that's some wild shii fr
I think she thought he just didn't want her to tell the story in front of him because it makes him sad or something. She seems to have a pattern of not thinking from his perspective as a man at all. Girl is not bright and needs everything spelled out for her 🤦♀
She says she stopped telling the story but TELLS THE STORY for advice on social media though???!! This girl has worms for brains. Also to think that jumping on the back a man out of the MILITARY in the dark was a good idea.... just smh
I left a girlfriend for not standing up for me during a party when some trashy friend of hers started talking $hit that she could easily disprove with a word. The second she didn't have my back, I knew she was a waste of time. Never regretted my choice for a second.
I know why she tried to leave with them and why she stayed silent. It's what immature adults and kids do when caught in a lie. She was quiet because she was so afraid of getting caught that she was legit contemplating sticking with the story that he was beating her. She was willing to destroy her man's reputation and life just to avoid getting caught.
I had a boyfriend pull that crap on me. He pranked me once with pretending to cheat on me, I saw it was actually just a prank but my body remembered the trauma as though it was real. I moved on but at a party he told the story to everyone and laughed about how I was still butt hurt about it. Don't regret leaving one bit.
@@theresefrancis9283I’m a guy and that is someone that had no respect for you and probably has no respect for others. What he did was play with your emotions for fun, that is not something you do to a person you care about. I’m glad you left too. Wish you luck in the future.
💯 all her fault. Don’t sneak up on a military member who’s literally been trained to kill and then when he reacts correctly to being jumped on in the dark, lie on him like he’s an abuser purely for attention every time you get the chance in the future. Fucking disgraceful backstabbing idiot, he’s too good for her and needs to move on.
I agree. She was caught in a lie and didn't want to be caught! She didn't want to lose the attention she was getting. I also agree with Aba that there is something more to the picture than what we see. There is something to her and her husband's relationship we don't know that caused her to crave the attention the lie gave her more than the love and care of her husband.
Good for you for knowing your worth! If your partner doesn't stand up for you, leave them! I went through this bs with my husband for 7 years concerning his toxic family. Shtf after I couldn't take their abuse anymore. I ripped them a new one and threw all their dirty laundry back in their faces. My husband finally started to see them for who they were. His own brother even betrayed him. After that, he had my back. We no longer talk to them and he's always telling me how sorry he is that he put me through that. It worked out for me eventually but I wouldn't advise anyone else to tolerate what I did.
Can we take a moment to appreciate the girls family for sticking up for the husband. Oftentimes you would see the family stick with the girl no matter what but after apologies were given out the girls family was fully on his side. This also adds to the fact that the girl was raised right but still chose wrong.
I suspect she had told a BUNCH of crazy things to these people that had never happend or were twisted so hard to make her look a victim and had maybe even implied or said that the husband had been the one who hurt her knee even though she tripped directly in front of her family memebers so they knew the truth and then probably a bunch of other things she had told these other people that her family in the room KNEW was not true.
Prob why she is got the cold shoulder all the way home after and has no way to spin it and the husband is so resolute with all of her family behind him.
Social media is a sickness. Even grown people with good parents can be deluded into being part of the victim community.
@@Flintlockon She couldn't defend husband about her knee to the friends because she told the friends that her husband atked her and bruised her knee. She stayed quiet because the brother was there and saw she fell down and hurt her knee so he would'v told everyone that she was lying if she had said something to defend the husband.
I can sympathize with them immediately wanting to attack him for hurting her, it's a blood thing. But yeah kudos to them for coming around. They of all people knew that he wasn't a wife beater.
The family KNOW her and all of her potential bullshit. Give them five minutes to consider, let cooler heads prevail, and they know what she's capable of.
"I like the sympathy and attention from people other than my husband"
I think that is a key phrase. Her loyalty was to that attention rather than her husband and immediate family.
Ooooooooooh ohhhhhhhhh oooooooooooh FUCK WHERE WAS THIS I NEED A FUCKING TIMESTAMP HOLY FUCK.
That changes EVERYTHING. Fuck this chick no redemption.
Like the stephen curry case with his wife anything for attention or emotional stimulation some women can’t love themselves
You are very observant. Cause to me that was the part that highlighted her mindset the most to me.
And the reason she didn't know what to do or say was she was trying to get out of it without HER looking bad. She didn't want to look like a liar to her friends. That was more important than her husband looking like an abuser.
Exactly this
The words of the enemy accuse you, but the silence of the friend condemned you.
👍👍like that 🌻
As a man that got cheated on and falsely accused of domestic violence. The cheating is much more sufferable. But having your name tarnished is far more destructive to your existence
Not for a normal man
@@paulmitchell6485 I'd rather be cheated on than have people I know convinced that I beat my wife because my wife all but confirmed it. I think I'm pretty normal, so there's that
And the same "friends" (sic) that dog your name in public and call you anything and everything but a white child of God are non-existent with their apologies once you're proven innocent. Suddenly, the cowards don't know who you are anymore.
@@paulmitchell6485yes, for a normal, secure in himself man. I would much rather have my ass kicked than have my integrity impugned.
@@paulmitchell6485 - you must never have been accused of something you didn't do.
Yall missed it she told on herself. She said that she’s loving the attention she was getting from the friends. She loved it in the moment and didn’t want to loose the feeling.
Yep. Her love for that attention and the lies she told to get it carried her to that car on autopilot she wanted the lies more than her husband.
Aba was right. She has deeper issues of not emotionally bonding with her husband and she fulfills it with idiot friends
Bingo, selfish to the core.
Yep, for some instant gratification from the attention is a powerful drug. It's sad but she's toxic at is point if that story is true.
That love for attention is ruining an entire generation of young people when it comes to dating. As someone who has never put much stock into other people’s sympathy or opinions it’s really strange to see from the outside.
Military vet here, please don't do no shit like this.... this was cause and effect here.
I thought it was common sense not to scare a vet.
NOT a vet here.. Same result. I was a hood rat. You don’t walk up on someone let alone jump ON THEIR BACK! WTF?
That's a double negative, so you want us to do it lol
@@gimpinainteasy Note to all future Darwin awards competitors: Don't jump anybody with weapon experience, combat experience, lethal self defence experience, or even someone twitchy/ jumpy.
Actually no, don't jump anybody at all, unless it's on an actual awful person, & that you're aware of the outcome & can handle it.
Biggest f'up of her life.
She ended her marriage when she walked out with them. She destroyed his trust. I would dump her like a bad habit. She cannot be trusted.
Yep, she has made clear she will allow "attention" to get her focus... she will cheat on him at some point in time and she will "seek it out". She is narcissist in a bad way. She has created a massive load of trouble for her husband. Like most females... their pain is only over "catching consequences" NOT over doing wrong.
I remember when my girlfriend was pregnant with my son. He rode very low in her womb, which caused her pain randomly. One day, we went to the doctor for a prenatal checkup, and she was in pain. It was at the hospital, so I grabbed a wheelchair so she wouldn't have to walk. When we get to the office and she's called in, she's in pain to the point that she's crying a little. I'm in the waiting room because they asked me to wait there looking down the hallway to the exam room. In the exam room, the nurses are talking to her and periodically look up at me with angry looks on their faces. They thought that I was hurting her in some way, and I could tell by their looks. My girlfriend assured them that it was because of the baby, and that I wasn't violent like that. Once they examined her, they could obviously see that the baby was indeed riding low, and they took her word for it. But I was kinda mad that they initially thought I'd hit a pregnant woman. So I definitely understand what this man is going through.
I don't know if this is a thing in every state but in NJ. When admitted for your labor they will separate you from whoever is with you and will straight up ask you if your safe at home and that your not experiencing any abuse at all. Fathers are also somewhat ignored or I should say noting counts unless the mothers said it. Drove my husband nuts that he could answer on things as we had already discussed about it. Yet they would not do it unless I verbally said it and signed. He couldn't do that, he was offended. To this day he still feels salty about it.
women get abused the most when they're pregnant so they were being safe
My daughter fell and a tooth came out. My wife heard the dentist assistant say it took more than a fall for that to happen. She was suggesting that I hit my daughter. I believe woman love drama so they will make a whole movie script in their minds. Than they will judge you for their made up scenario.
@@kaoe145 they think about those stories because often it *is* those stories. I understand that it sucks to be suspected of something that you didn't do, but please try to understand that otherwise they might miss the situations that are actual abuse and not be able to help those kids/women
@@pnx1412that is what I was thinking to. It is going to make you feel a certain way, I know I would, but if it helps one person that is actually in abusive situation then it is worth it
Guy was a military trained man who had been taught be combat ready at a moment ....and this girl and her family thought it was a good idea to surprise him from behind in the dark..........
Fire hawt😂😂😂😂
Where does it state that he was an infantry soldier? In fact most jobs in the military don’t have anything to do with combat. Maybe 10% of the military is actually the ones physically fighting.
Theres a large difference between jumping on the back of an inventory supply officer, a human intelligent specialist and a Navy Seal.
@@Michael-pi8ps even military personnel in logistics are more equipped to fight in a "surprise scenario" compared to most civilians.
@@Michael-pi8ps Combat training, also known as "boot camp" is litterally the first required step to being enlisted in the army ( for every new inlisted militant ).
@@Michael-pi8ps good point but also most jobs also have some combat training cus you can never be sure when shits gona hit the fan
If a guy walks into his house, lights off, thinking he's alone, and then you jump on him? The BEST case is a separated shoulder
And he’s in the military 😂 what did she think?
Facts! She’s lucky to be alive.
I wouldn't even do that to my friends. I like not having knife wounds and my blood in my body.
dont do that to someone with a pacemaker
Seriously I thought it was gonna be a Bang Bang ‼️
I've been in a similar situation and it almost cost me my life. My ex was anemic. Obviously, she bruised easily. S3X left her bruised...and not from rough stuff. Just on the regular. So as we go about town, random dudes are inquiring as to why she's all bruised up. Looking at me all kind of ways. She makes jokes (about kicking my ass, if I hit her, etc.) and doesn't nip that ish in the bud. I had dudes threaten to KILL ME for "abusing" my girl. I ended up leaving town and ending that (obviously). As a dude...this stuff is NOT funny or a "joke". If your girl acts this kind of way...BAIL. IMMEDIATELY. This has real world consequences.
The comment about a mother walking out on her child struck home for me: my mother and dad didn’t have the best marriage, she constantly cheated and was abusive, he was trying his best whilst defending himself against her level of craziness, well they decide to split up on December 26th (her decision because it “couldn’t wait until after Christmas) and it got UGLY, just UGLY. She ran off saying she needed protected and she was afraid he’d kill her or something and claiming he was “dangerous”, the cops asked if she needed to rescue her son and daughter and she said “nah”, like she told the cops “oh he’s dangerous and super violent, he’ll kill me”. The cops knew my dad (next door neighbour was a local Sergeant) and they looked at her like “okay? If he’s dangerous then aren’t your kids potentially in danger of this rage?”
She abandoned us for a couple years to sleep around, party with guys, wait for my dads depression to be real bad because he was struggling as a single father with no support, when grandma died, his mother, that’s when my mother swooped in to “save the day” and she got full custody because dad at that time didn’t have any fight in him, something he regrets to this day but that ain’t his fault imo. She went on to massively abuse me over the years whilst she cut all contact with my dad so I couldn’t reach out for support, the abuse often being violent in nature where she also encouraged my brother violently attack me (many hospital visits). It takes a certain kind of woman to speak behind her husbands back, make claims to her friends and then leave those important details out the post, and then claim to be “too scared” to say anything and walk out the door without her kid. Like if her friends truly believed her husband was volatile they’d ask if she needed help escaping with her kid, but this mother just silently walked out which to her friends confirmed the abuse, and just left her kid. This woman from the post and my mother and birds of a feather, they’re cut from the same cloth. All very “me, me, me” but speaks little about her family.
> It takes a certain kind of woman to speak behind her husbands back, make claims to her friends and then leave those important details out the post, and then claim to be “too scared” to say anything and walk out the door without her kid.
That's literally most women after a divorce. When the exception becomes the rule, what do we do?
I'm so sorry you went through that.
Sorry to hear. Lots of parents are left alone to care for kids, and I'm sorry both weren't able to do a good enough job by you.
I'm sorry about ur situation. In this story though, the kid wasn't at home, the grandparents had taken him for the weekend.
You know..........ONLY WOMEN do this. And MANY of them. You'll get an occasional, "oh, my daddy showered inappropriately with me when I was a child" (Joe Biden) but they're REALLY RARE.
But HOW MANY WOMEN do thi sto their kids? There are TENS OF THOUSANDS OF STORIES o fsuch abuses out there.
How long do you wahmen think you can do this and we won't walk away? Well, we're walking away now. Live with the consequences of your actions, ladies.
When people say *"please don't talk about this incident anymore,"* it doesnt mean that its okay to talk about it just because they aren't around. She's a trash person for that, alone.
Fully agree
talking about it puts him at risk even though he didnt do anything wrong
She was trash to begin with when she jumped him in the dark, got flipped and mad at him for self defense
you guys are missing that she loved the attention she got and pity points by talking to her girl friends and others. she said herself that it felt good in the post.
attention and validation is like a drug that many wmen today cant live without. be careful out there men. do not commit to modernwmen
she lacks allegiance to her household and attributed malice to bro after she jumped on him from behind? she must be stupid or something leaving him all alone in her neighborhood on his day off like a weirdo
I like how she blamed her friends when she’s the one that put that image in their head to begin with
Victim Mentality
This is what victim Complex creates, She so wanted to be a victim she let those *friends* paint her as one, without correcting them and even betrayed her Husband to keep up the Facade.
yeah just shows she still hasn’t taken accountability, just shifting the blame
I would say both her and her friends deserve each other and both parties are at fault. She created a spark and the friends fueled the fire. No actual friend would just believe one side of the story.
It could be them who "brainwashed" her some people are like that but its irrelevant result is same and he needs to leave. 1. those "friends" will be spilling the beans so rumours will go around and its only question of time when cops show up 2. even if he can forgive her he cant continue relationship with her its just too risky you never know when and to whom she will tell the story and also longer they stay together the stronger will be implication that he is real abuser who didn't let her leave. Also her reaction only means she don't actually love him he is ATM and provider but not partner to her.
Not to mention Air Traffic Controllers make on average like 200k a year. A few of my buddies do it for work; it’s one of the most stressful jobs you can have. Controllers are in the top ten professions with issues for suicide, depression, alcoholism, divorce, and anxiety.
Sounds like a good man taking care of his family; doing everything he can do. Gets betrayed on every level by his wife. That’s sad man
Not only did she let another dude threaten him in his own house, but when he was finally disgusted enough she told HIM to leave his own house for nothing also. That needs to be shown as the worst part among the other collective of shit. That dude goes out with all of that in his head, mistakes can get made. That women is a 10 on the worst scale of people.
thanks for bringing that up. As a female, I thought I could easily understand the inaction and then eventually walking out with the friends (because she was too ashamed to face him)....but that later part you brought up doesn't fit....i guess we women be needing the drama....and then her posting it online or wherever.....i dunno
She is selfish, while she only lightly touched on it near the beginning but she got good replies when she complained about him so she played the crowd and ended up describing him as abusive. She goes and tells on herself even more at about 10:25 "I want...I want... I want... Loves (me) even more" This has nothing to do with what she did to him and everything to do with her not being treated the way she WANTS to be treated.
She didn't speak up in the moment because she had lied to her friends for pity and she didn't stop herself in the moment, her sister in law pulled her back, she was willing to destroy his life to avoid being called a liar.
I was engaged once. We were hanging out with her friends from high school at a party. (First time meeting these people) They all got drunk and started to attack my masculinity. I sat there quietly. I turned to her and she was piling on insinuating that she had better sex with past partners. I said nothing and walked outside for space. About a week later, her mom came to visit us and asked how planning the wedding was going. I said "it's not. I'm not sure I want to marry her." Spoiler: We split up the next week. Relationships are sacred. Treat them as such.
Extremely lucky you all decided to drink that day and see the real side of them before marriage.
Very sorry, she sounds horrible
Good on you bro. Never date/marry someone who speaks negatively about you with friends and family.
Some women are such trash. I'm glad you dodged that bullet!
@huricanethreeonesix Nah, she's a wonderful person. We had a 1 year old son at the time, so it was tough. She tried hard to hurt me when I filed for paternity, but in the end, we are good friends. She has our son on the weekends. She still struggles a bit in life, though. She's with a good guy now and seems to have grown.
the audacity to blame the guy for all this is unbelievable
I know. Why didn't anyone think this through? Preach is correct. She was clouded by the fantasy in her head.
It never happened lol
But don’t you understand, you should always believe a woman
Cueing a classic meme from Coach Greg Adams, "It's Jermaine's fault!...It's always Jermaine's fault!"
But you dont understand this is literally a made up story. They admitted in the edit it was fake. probably some man looking to farm male outrage. Congrats! Youve been milked!@@lalaalal7847
I have a 2nd cousin (much older) who was in Marine Force Recon during Vietnam. He is a great guy, but he has occasional flashbacks that clearly put him in another place and time. A few of my friends in high school were in a scout troop where he was the leader. One night when they were camping, one of the kids thought it would be funny to sneak up on and scare him. That kid wound up on the ground face down and a split second from a broken neck before my cousin regained his senses.
The moral of that story is that you do not jump on people’s backs in the dark, and you especially do not jump on the backs of military personnel with the intention of surprising them in the dark.
He can never trust her again. Her loyalty belongs to whomever is making her feel good in the moment.
Bingo that's my situation actually
@@johnmora5599 I’m sorry. That’s a really hard place to be. 💕
She never forgave him for that incident. She mentions that her family was firmly "on my husband's side" and that eventually she "accepted him back". She always saw herself as the victim and views him in a violent manner
True she definitely still has some resentment. Who does that? Those friends will never ever now believe he is not a abuser. Doing that to a person you proposedly love is foul?
She'll be happy to live without him then, won't she? Enjoy single motherhood.
@@twatmunrohush. Many single mothers like myself had no choice as my ex husband was violent. My son is serving in the military. I obviously did a good job. Stop putting down single mothers. It is brave to raise kids on your own when the alternative is having financial stability but your kids witness their father beating their mother.
This is a good point. It's like when women have a dream that her husband cheated on them and then wake up feeling upset with the husband even though the women know factually he didn't cheat.
In this case, the man reacted like he was getting jumped by a stranger but many women feel like men are "just supposed to know" what women feel or think that he should have been surprised by being jumped but also at the same time known that it was his wife.
@@Latin00032 "just supposed to know"... Yeah... That hurts deep...
Husband need to divorce, she is DANGEROUS
And lose half his shit. It’s a lose/lose for him. Unreal :/
@@danjohnson2986 could be worse, he could lose his life or lose time away from his son by being in prison for false allegation
@@danjohnson2986Precisely. So sad.
@@danjohnson2986Would you rather stay and put up with false accusations against you even though you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong? Or would you rather lose money, fight through court and get your peace back?
You’re right though, it’s a sticky situation.
@@danjohnson2986depends on how long they been married and if she’s a SAHM or not. idk why y’all think in divorce people really are splitting things 50/50. they aren’t.
That's the type of situation that'll turn a good guy nuclear.
She marked her husband as a danger to the community in such a permanent way. I'm the back of every person's mind is "she must have been scared for her to do that"...
I agree with this being worse than cheating.
The worst part about this, no matter what he does, her friends will think that he's still beating her. If he gets angry, "he did it". He does nothing "he feels guilty cause he got caught". Someone else comes and talks to them, "He convinced them, but I won't be fooled". Once someone comes to that conclusion it's over.
And they will spread this. They will tell other people he is a wife beater. He can only hope it doesn't get around too much and people at work or future friends/lovers hear about it or it will do even more damage.
I was thinking exactly the same. If she tells them she lied, they'll think he's coercing her to say that. She literally cannot repair this damage.
@@cmargaretpalacios7257 literally the only way to recover would have been for her to immediately deny it when it was even brought up. By even letting it be entertained people will always question if she just denied it later due to coercion
That’s exactly what she wanted! She likes the feeling/treatment of being seen as a victim because of the care she gets from others. To sacrifice her own man for attention is beyond me 🤦🏻♀️
omg i didn't even think of this...
At the end she didn't say "I just want to be able to hug him and tell him how sorry I am" or "I want the chance to show him that I love and care for him deeply"- she wants him back to make her feel loved and desired. To have her scars kissed and be swept off her feet. Not out of a desire to care for and love him, or to try and right the wrongs she committed. That says it all for me.
You acting as if you would say that, get off your high horse. It's easy to judge someone when the camera is not on you.
@@DominantBtch Not everyone is a narcissistic attention 304. Some people care for others more or at least about as much as they care for themselves. You know nothing about the person you're responding to. You telling someone, they're on a high horse, tells me, that you are probably just as scummy as the person this video was about, and can't even fathom/admit/stand, anyone being better than that.
Thinking that everyone is basically like you, is a sign of an immature, inexperience and/or not very capable mind.
I’m glad you caught that, too. Her desire for her husband is what he does for her not who he is and what he deserves from a wife. She told on herself w these corny lines at the end.
I noticed that too. It's ALL about her.
Good catch, that was something that i didn't grasped at first, but you're right. She's all about her and that's it.
This is worse than cheating. This is bearing false witness on top of betrayal.
what I've deduced:
*she lied to her "Friends" enough to make them think she was being abused
*she could have said something in the moment to squash the issue but didn't( a lie was told and she was caught in it)
*walking out the house to only CONFIRM their suspicions/thoughts
Opinion:
to say enough lies to be believed someone is abusing you means that you were looking for affirmation/attention/validation, not all apply, but thats the general understanding. To shrivel up and cower... helped those who believe they are correct in their understanding made the case seem more true. To walk out the house when told to do so for your safety when your husband is standing there defending himself from YOUR words is betrayal on the same level as sleeping with another man that is not your husband. The same as when you're husband shares with you something that he's never shared with another person and you decide to share it. If you ask your husband to stop doing something you hate and he continues, would you think he cares when you find out that it's caused others to think badly of you because of it? Possibly even get the police to show up at your door asking questions? Make me not make sense here
If she cheats: you have to throw her away
False accusation: you have to throw her away and clear your name
Unlikely that you can even clear your name fully. I can't imagine a situation where if I was 'convinced' someone beat his partner, that I would ever truly FORGET it. There might be a situation that'd redeem it slightly (though I can't imagine such a situation, personally), but you can't disprove something as circumstantial as that. You're done, forever. And you can bet that rumor won't stay behind closed doors
Facts
I think in the beginning when he said I'll never do it again with something very significant just like you said. Someone that says I'll never do it again usually does it again
@@mkaylor121 Maybe because the manipulative bish made it seem like it was his fault. A lot of men in general take the blame in the relationships even when the blame is clearly on the women. Cuz yall avoid accountability like the plague like the crazed woman in the video
@@mkaylor121he said that because of course he never wants to hurt his wife. It's not something he can stay true to however because if he was jumped on and scared again he may very well react the same way. Which is a totally expected and acceptable reaction to being presumably attacked.
Two lessons here - don’t jump on someone’s back, off guard with the lights off, etc etc. And don’t discuss your marriage with your “friends”.
I wouldnt say dont discus your marriage woth friends because some friends can provide necessary insight and advice just depends on the type of people your sharing information with. It also inportant to note that when sharing you share an accurate protrayal of both side of events do the right perspective can be received.
@@lukecaine-mckenzie2390nah don't discuss it cuz lot of people tend to put their partner in bad light when telling stories to make them seem right. If u r looking for advice it's different that means you accept accountability or u know no one is at fault but if u r looking for who's right or wrong better to communicate with your partner and work it out
Thats a fact
Unfortunately it's so common place for women to intimately discuss their SO, that they don't realize the level of disrespect that it shows. That's why her friends feel so comfortable weighing in on things that they shouldn't even know. Which ends up with them also disrespecting him.
@@lukecaine-mckenzie2390you can't share both sides cause you're not your spouse, and your friends don't live with you so they don't see the whole picture, all they know is what you complain about which gives them a negative and biased pov
This woman was addicted to sympathy and attention from non-family members. It's why she kept quiet as others spoke ill of her husband's parenting; and it's why she didn't defend him when he was aggressively accused of domestic abuse. She loved the feeling sympathy and support more than her own husband and the truth.
She's the abuser in multiple ways. Let your next guy kiss your stretch marks. This person isn't a wife in marriage. She's unhealthy for his soul. This is betrayal on the highest level. She absolutely told everyone he's an abuser. Low life has zero respect for her child's father. Disgusting
Preach I agree, I’d rather get cheated on then be accused of DV. As a man, just being accused of DV can ruin your life/reputation.
You can get cheated on, then get accused of DV
Absolutely! If she Cheats, 100% you know shes not the one. Problem Solved.. Exactly right, even the ACCUSATION. Makes Most peoples' family even look at them differently.
Nah bro that's a stretch, although I have never been accused of DV but I was accused of SA just because I stated the fact that I didn't want to date her, I was only 16 at that time and nobody believed her cause they know i dont move like that, except for the girls in our class, they were saying all sorta stuff about me. But I'd still not be cheated on, especially after marriage, that shi hurts way more.
I agree as well with preach at least when you get cheated on it clean and cut with what happen.but in this case you can't fight or nothing any thing you do is put under question. With this there is no wining.
Yea 100% agreed, rather realize she aint the one and move on with my life with the hurt of the cheating than have to live with a shattered reputation
She didnt respect his military service by surprising him in the dark. She didn’t respect his work and he as a husband by telling the story and then not defending him and going along with it.
And if he didn't have military service (which he never had) it would be different how? Oh wait, he didn't have it.. so yea
@@scottiedpoy8508he was in the air force which is a part of the military therefore he has military service. I’m guessing you’re confused by the meaning of words.
@@bloodaonadeline8346 and it was later cleared up he is air traffic controller. Its not like he was on thr ground fighting Afghani's. You seem to be the one in the dark
@@bloodaonadeline8346 Whats worse is they are all irrelevant. Any man or woman could react in a similar way..
@@bloodaonadeline8346 Hell why not, would you be thrilled if someone jumped on your back in a home where no one currently resides? Or has everyone in Murica just gotten so soft they coulsn't fathom reacting in a similar way or anyone outside of service could do such a thing? That where we at?
It’s weird that they think she was getting abused as a woman thats very weird too. The best answer to how that happened is she was trying to create some drama, & planted little seeds overtime mot that her husband is abusive, that she’s the good woman, the victim, & she let them guess how bad was her husband, didn’t correct them or nothing & if she stood up for him they would know she was playing victim & she let them think such thing ab her husband. She probably didn’t know it would get out of hand but she did know what she did, at the moment of picking who to walk alongside with during the argument it was her reputation or his. It’s just odd, no one would come to the conclusion & say they are an abuser without “evidence” or claim at some point before.
For those who didn’t get it, she’s the type to get a bruise from a fall & say “my husband was upset yesterday” to spice things up. She would never claim her husband did it because if it comes out she was lying she would say she didn’t say anythings so they can’t blame her. I feel like she was shocked that it would get out of hand, she didn’t say anything because they saw how mad they were at him & if they knew she was lying that anger would go to her. She cried because shes too sensitive & everything got out of control. She can’t take a hit she’s just a coward.
the relationships' done for, you don't recover from a double blow like that,
no matter how much you love a person, that knife didn't just get put in, it was twisted and then some,
and when it was pulled out, it left a gaping hole when his trust was ripped out.
the fact that she walked out of the door indicates to me she's to some degree comfortable with the idea of destroying her husband's reputation for the sake of attaining victim status
Like what the actual heck? I'm still appalled by that.
I will say this, she probably shit talked so much about him that she was scared shitless that she will be labeled a liar and thought that husband will forgive her "since they are a family unit". Bitch didn't understand that husband isn't your father, he doesn't share your DNA nor growing up together part. Only parents (not all) can forgive betrayals not a dude/lass that decided to form a family unit.
Well yeah. Everything was about how she felt, never about he felt.
She even admitted she liked the sympathy from people other than her family.
She played with fire and got burnt, now she’s trying to recoup her loses.
yeah agree. and I think the wife have something else hiding here. Like what did she actually said? I imagine it is actually worst then what being written by her. and that is also why she did not say anything because she afraid got caught exaggerating or falsifying the past story.
That victim status must be the most intoxicating thing on Earth, considering how quickly people will trade everything for it.
I think the real reason she didn't say anything in that moment was because she had told a lot of lies and was scared she would be exposed
I think you are absolutely right. She was living on a high from this secret life and the treatment and attention her lies brought her so when it appeared during that party i believe her that she was in a daze trying to choose between her fantasies and the truth that was less exciting for her and wanted to keep it going even for a few more moments and pretend it was both true and not true and her love for her lies carried her to that car.
As a man i agree with Preach and Aba. That is absolutely terrifying i am not sure how you could more completely betray a partner or a marriage.
Bingo !
She was looking for sympathy from her friends, she didn't expect them to have that reaction berrating her husband, her talking was basically admiting she lied, she thought following was the lesser evil than making her husband look like a monster.
She knew he loved her, and thought he would forgive her if she apologized enough.
This is a story of zero accountability and victimhood ingrained in a lot of women, victimhood feels not good, but great to some people, and she rode that high for too long.
That or they said many things about him drawing their own conclusions, and she never corrected them or stood up for him before to correct the narrative. They formed narratives about her husband, and she allowed it to develop until we got to this point. Her silence was compliance and convinced them more and more that their beliefs were corrected. Especially when she embraced the sympathy, and I believe she did enjoy the comfort she got from it.
This is what victim Complex creates, She so wanted to be a victim she let those *friends* paint her as one, without correcting them and even betrayed her Husband to keep up the Facade.
I agree with some of this. I think she vented to friends and drew a less than charitable image of her husband in their minds. And I think she knew that subconsciously, but liked the attention and sympathy and didn't want to correct it. Now that it had come to a head, she was forced to look like a fool to either her husband or friends. She chose the sympathy.
Imagine knowing you'd fight tooth n nail for someone and they won't even speak up for you. That shit's gotta hurt.
I’ve seen it and heard this happened so many times from private conversations with other men. Being accused of heinous crimes that they didn’t do just because they want to say something, They are angry, they need to rent paid, etc…
And honestly, the coward Ness is what gets me. There’s nothing to do but close that, chapter in your life and block that number, and someday move on.
There's nothing worse than seeing the person you love, share your live, child and dedicate you energy to, transform into a stranger right next to you. That's what he witnessed.
happened to me the other day. gave my ex everything and all i got back was infidelity that revealed itself via a STI. this woman became pregnant with my child not long ago and had been lying for months so safe to say this is trauma that’ll last a while.
That’s a very deep hurt.
@@PharaohYTCbro...😢
@@PharaohYTCHope everything works out for you man 🙏
Ngl feels harder when your mom is that person.
It was pure instinct on his part. She betrayed him so much.
She betrayed him and her little son. She wants to be a single mother so bad.
@@24xstephx24 She deserves to be or not a mother at all when he takes their son.
If someone leaps on my back in the dark, they're getting an elbow to the ribs and are 100% getting tossed off my shoulder with 100% of my core strength to the ground. Not everyone lives a la la life where it's all happy and things like that, this guy was treated rather poorly from the get go. The way her family immediately treated her like a soft butterfly the second an accident happened and turned on him instantly. Then this?
@@ZavaXavier He's not going take her son, and you're a horrible person for suggesting that.
What's messed up is that this is totally something my ex would have done; be shell-shocked and not stick up for me if someone verbally accused me of something. When in uncomfortable situations, she wouldn't even stand up for herself. Even when we broke up after being engaged, she allowed her parents to take the ring from her against her will, even after she agreed to return it to me. And we were in our 30s! Men, a sweet girl is nice, but make sure she knows how to at least verbally defend you and herself. Why? Because if she can't do it for herself, she won't do it for you and your kids.
I remember reading this story months ago, surprised to see you guys make a video about it now.
Being falsely accused of domestic violence has cost me a year in jail and 2 years of probation. You accuse me of that, and you're dead to me
EDIT: No, I never had priors. Never been arrested before. No record at all. What I did to deserve it? Well, I broke up with her after her confessions of infidelity. She got mad, went home, and call the cops. Yes, it is that easy, yes thats all it takes. A cop told me, himself, that when a DV call is made, someone has to get arrested. More often than not, it's the male. Regardless who put the call in, 9/10 times the man is in handcuffs even if he's the victim. "Something he has to prove in court" were his exact words.
This reminds me of the fact I'm happily single. Just making my money and taking care of my parents and siblings. No drama.
Disgusting truly, im sorry brother.
that's crazy, do you mind sharing what happened?
How can someone be convicted so easily just on the words of a woman? Wtf is up with the justice system and basic human rights?
Thinking about all that, yeah I agree with Preach now, I’d rather get cheated on.
Your whole reputation destroyed. Let us say he dosent take her back, well she can file something, and get her friends to help her too. Your whole life ruined, your reputation in the town ruined. Your kid now is going to believe you’re a deadbeat.
She's literally the bored housewife. Like you guys said, she probably told her friends other more disturbing things
This is the type of shit that happens when someone is scared of doing an honest day’s work.
like the other commenters said, she is a validation seeker. Seeks validation from her husband, from the friends. Slave to her own insecurity
That's something I noticed, how did her friends make such a bold accusation to his her husbands face in front of everyone over one old story and a current bruise on the knee?? She must have done more to let them think he was abusing her. She admitted to liking the sympathy.
Not only were her friends Bold but they had enough ammo to make even their husbands ready to square up, on behalf of second hand stories, I’m sure her reaction just cemented and made the friends husband think yh something is definitely wrong here. For another man to be so ready to step to a Military Trained man, in HIS OWN HOME, at least he has to feel he’s in the right. What information did he hear from his wife that was enough to give him that confidence 🧐
She admitted she liked the attention. So I definitely believe she let them assume or downright told them about abuse.
15:28 some girls are like that, that friend that thinks she has a say in your relationship and gets involved making things worse. And the girl that lets that friend have that much power over her. Not knowing her friend probably is jealous and doesn’t want her to have peace without needing her company as a friend.
Yeah, you don't come back from that. There's no undoing that kind of betrayal.
She’s either told them flat out that he beat her or she hinted that he did.
I’ve seen this exact scenario run in front of me before. A girl being asked if she was being abused and she just broke down into tears.
Much much later she admitted she hadn’t but the way she acted when asked was enough to make the men draw conclusions and go after her boyfriend. Huge mess.
The guy had never touched her, she was just tired of him and had been cheating
Believe all women❌
Take everything a woman says with a grain of salt✅
Your ass gotta be a detective bro
Your average woman
@@jpraise6771 What's really sad is that some people feel like this mentality works across the board. The shit these awful women pull hurts other women - and men - who are genuinely struggling, hurting, and afraid of reaching out. And when they do, so many people have this mentality. "Well, she could be lying." "Well, I've never seen it. They seem happy in public." "So many women lie for attention; this is just that." "Take it with a grain of salt."
A lot of abuse goes unreported and unnoticed - both for men and women, I'll stress - because of these situations. Don't let these awful people warp your perception of others. You should still show compassion and care for others even though some people lie for attention. Or, if nothing else... just move on with your day instead of shaming others or going out of your way to accuse them of lying (even behind their back.). Their actions will come back around to them and they'll deal with the consequences - but don't discount the very real and very serious pain so many abused partners go through every day.
Did they beat his ass?
Yup Domestic abuse claims are worse than being cheated 100%. She was so worried about losing her only "friends" that she forgot about her whole entire life and didnt even stick up for him. Crazy.
I don't disagree, but I have a question for you. Is it worse if it's your woman herself spreading the false claims, or like this where it's other people and the woman does nothing?
Dude, it's not even a claim, it's being bullied and gaslighted by some random bitch.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978 both are bad, but her not defending makes it seem like shes a victim and scared to even speak about it for the potential repercussions. So that's arguably worse.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978worse for her to spread the lies herself. But for people to accuse me and her to not defend me and then leaves with them. She’d be dead to me
not just that, if he was cheated on he can put 2 and 2 together and understand he's always working, not always there for her due to work, her feeling neglected sexually and romantically. you can make sense that being cheated on meant the relationship lacked something. but her not defending the husband is so senseless and it must be so powerless for the husband to be in a situation where the love of his life is on the other side of the room with all the power to defuse the room and still nothing. if someone accused my family of doing things I know they didn't do especially if I was in the same room as the accusers, any normal person would've been beyond livid.
Her walking out the door is equal to Scar pushing Mufasa off the cliff into the stampede😂😂😂
I agree..not defending or falsely accusing your husband is a worse offense than cheating. That's a seriously deep cut..that is almost irreparable.
Also: There IS wayyyyy more to this story she's not telling. Pretty sure she told her friend all kinds of horror stories and doesnt want to admit it in her post or to her husband.
Yeah, I'm gonna say it's real. I had a similar incident with a girl I started dating after my 4th deployment. I had always told her that if I ever fell aspleep by myself in a place I don't usually sleep, to shake my feet if she needed to wake me up. One time I dozed off on a couch, she came to wake me up, and she geabbed my shoulder and shook, and when I woke up I instinctively took a swing. I never made conctact, but she told the story once, and from then on I was an abuser in the eyes of her friends and even her sister. I never once struck that woman, and anytime we even had a minor argument, everyone would rush to her to protect her from the big bad abusive man. She never once stood up for me. What's even worse, most civilians don't realize what we go through, and how alot of what we might do in certain situations is pure instinct. Sneaking up on a veteran in a dark room that he expects to be empty is just asking to get hurt. The second he senses something wrong, his instincts take over.
She fucked the marriage because she to this day, doesn't seem to understand what her husband has been through, and when she opens her mouth and makes him look bad, even if it's unintentional, is too much of a coward to properly defend her husband until it's too late.
I don't know even one veteran that likes being hyper-vigilant, on alert, *all* the time. It's got to be nerve-wracking. Most people feel bad if someone else startles them and they *yell,* much less physically react. But instead of coming to an understanding about him, instead of using it as a lesson, she kicked him when he was down. She happily joined others doing the same, which is just a whole other level of gross.
Yep. And it's not just you military guys. I know/have roomed with guys that have spent time in lock up to one degree or another, and you absolutely did not want to wake them up by grabbing or shaking their body. You could yell full volume a couple feet away and no problem they would wake up normally and be cool, but you even gently shake them by the shoulder while they're asleep, they're waking up ready to swing if they're not swinging already.
I’m so sorry that happened to you! Much love and thank you for your service.
I had a homie that struck me in the neck for this once. He told me to only wake him below the knee because its how his brothers would wake him in the service, If you touch any higher it will seem insulting. Well one night he was crashing at my place, and i went to wake him and totally forgot and i hit his stomach with the back of my hand on the side, he immediately had his eyes wide open and my throat cusped. Was trippy for me cause I knew how to handle myself and never imagined someone would react so fast to waking up. Man did he feel like shit for it and y'know it was my own fault. I didnt think twice about it. When the time comes tho, youd be super grateful for it (as in needing the response in a dire situation). I have my own quirks too, when I sleep next to someone I cant sleep heavily. I wake up at the slightest sound. You'd have to be a ninja and open my door without a creak, and even then I might somehow "feel" you in my sleep.
Lol bro that's not the same story at all. While you are certainly not an abuser, swinging at your partner for trying to wake you up is much easier to be misconstrued for abuse though id say it's more of the type where people would have compassion for you as it seemed to be unconscious. Nevertheless you're still at fault. That's the reality. It's like someone drunk beating their wife. They're technically not purposely doing it but it's abusive nonetheless. Though most normal people would still have compassion for the person also accused of abuse and understand they need to get help.
In her story, she physically jumped on his back to surprise him. He was being attacked for all he knew and was simply protecting himself off instinct. Pretty different from you taking an actual swing at someone waking you up. I think most people would actually throw someone off their back because it's an instinctual thing in terms of human behavior. Swinging at someone waking you up isn't normal human behavior in the context of your story.
I'm not attacking you but I just fail to see how you can't comprehend how your story couldn't be misinterpreted by most people. You should at least be understanding of that even if it's not right.
He saw her true colors. He can't unsee that. There is no saving the marriage.
Sad
When she said she saw the love leave his eyes and he's treating her different that was the nail in the coffin. When a man falls out of love it's O V E R 😂
She's cooked.
He needs to RUN!!!
Get a grip.
Don’t scare people into thinking they are being attacked….pretty simple.
False accusations is worse than cheating. DEFINITELY.
Amen
Nothing feels more isolating than to be punished for a crime you did not commit.
Try telling that to social services oh they don’t care and enjoy giving false accusations saying that would give them even more of a power trip
@Magi-of8mx crazy how nowadays, people rooted for guilty verdicts. If you're silent, you're assumed guilty. If you defending yourself, you're assumed guilty. It's wild.
What is the point of debating that issue? It's like making a statement that raping a 1 year old is worse that raping a 2 year old! Both are unforgivable; I don't even understand how the guy can say that he still loves her; betrayal is betrayal and in my opinion once trust is lost it can never be regained. My belief about the genuineness of the story is 99% chance it is absolute BS, just made up to cause controversy, 1% it is a genuine story, because like it or not there are crazy people in existence!
If she cheats, it’s her reputation that’s ruined. If he gets accused of being abusive, it’s his.
Doing something and being accused of something are different situations. If she was accused of cheating she isn't a cheater neither is the guy if he was accused of being an abuser. It's in the word accusation.
True but I wouldn’t even care about my reputation at that point. The only person whose opinion I care about is my wife and family so if she betrayed me like that after we have a kid and all the effort I put in idk if I could ever trust again.
Honestly, if she cheats, his reputation takes a huge hit
Yup exactly this
@@Dinofrog17 it matters little what happened, it matters what people think has happened.
Ive been thru something similar, trust me that was the beginning of the end of the relationship. You lose all trust and respect for your partner.
When the trust is gone, there is betrayal like that, it’s almost impossible to move forward.
She liked the attention and sacrificed her husband for it. Why is she telling her friends to f off? She clearly has been painting a picture for some time. There is no way they just jumped to that conclusion right there and then
Exactly 💯
It’s impossible for a woman to take any accountability. It’s all somehow their fault for giving her attention and listening to what she says.
She told them to f-off so she wouldn't have to explain herself and tell them the truth. Also shifting blame to them ruining her marriage, instead of taking responsibility.
@Davidsworldtravels No need for generalizations on women here.
@@okie6293 But its absolutely true lol
She sounds EXTREMELY sheltered. I don’t think she’s ever experienced expectations and accountability, on any fronts. She has only hurt her husband and child but ultimately has stunted and limited herself. This is truly sad for this family.
Man or woman this is exactly correct, met enough men and wo-men children and they genuinely act like a toddler caught taking cookies, when they lie about potentially life threatening shit😂😅
That behavior comes from enablement in the family. Which makes sense if her sister blindly believes her. I know my family BS's. I don't take sides in my family anymore. I'm genuinely the black sheep in my family because of how immature they are. It's pisses me off. And any time I try to call them out on shite, they start crying and yelling and acting like victims and gaslighting me and threatening me. It's sickening. At this point in my life, something happens to them, I'm minding my own business.
I agree
not really i think didn't have to live with her any longer sense she should her true self and now he has time to find someone who wont back stab them
@@Jake38nine I think you and I have similar family dynamics, unfortunately.
I feel like you just summarized my own life just there, and thats not a good thing.
Its even worse that you aren't the only other person I know with said family experiences.
Had a similar situation happen and it's rough for sure. Wife and I purchased a rental property which we never really discussed doing extensive work on but she decided to do so on her own but worked on the plans with her father. This was during the lockdowns so we were way understaffed at work and I was working 12-14hrs a day with a 1hr commute each way as well as Saturday half days. Her family kept asking why I was avoiding the work when I was the one funding it by being at work. It was crazy that I would need to defend my absence which then lead to a dispute and things have just never been the same.
Agree 100 percent
This woman could not resist getting the sympathy
Can we discuss the fact shes proud of herself for telling her friends to eff off... but i don't see her telling them she's sorry and correcting her lies of omission. I don't see her trying to repair anything. She's just sitting and waiting for him to fix things or not be upset/ hurt by her absolute betrayal of his trust. She's proven herself to be selfish this entire story and in need of attention. That man deserves better.
To be fair on her end, she can’t really decide anything here, it’s all on the husband, because even if she did try to do all of this, it can still fail because the husband is just like, “I just don’t trust you anymore” or some shit and get a divorce. It can help to some degree definitely if she does this, but the ball is in the husband’s court now… so we will have to wait and see (assuming this gets a 2nd video and we get an update ti this specific post)
Exactly
@@aidenmeislitzer7774that does not matter 1 bit ain't to to be fair 🤡, what's FAIR is her straighting out the lies she told no matter what he decides, she 100 should've told them she was lying and that he deserved an apology from them as well (rather they listen to that or not) but she absolutely sucks at accountability and took the easy way out, she doesn't deserve to be forgiven with the actions she made even after the fact
Underrated comment!!! Her friends were just trying to defend her based on the stories and information that she told them. She intentionally lied and minipulated them for sympathy and attention. She is the worst type of person.... Even if she confessed to everything right there in the living room, her friends should be the ones telling her to "eff off" BUT she made things 100x worse by leaving out the door with them further trying to justify all her lies. She is a total coward and a loser. If she somehow repairs her relationship with her husband, there would be no coming back for that friendship for me. If I was her friend, I wouldn't want any form of apology, I would just totally remove her from my life.
@@aidenmeislitzer7774 ain't no to be fair, what's fair is telling the truth no matter what he decides, people like u and her don't deserve to be forgiven, only willing to do right if it benefits u
8:48 she doesn't love that man.
She only loves the fact that other people like her family and friends love him. She clearly doesn't think for herself
He f*cked up by being the one who always sacrifices. He got with her when she was still a fat b*tch. He chose to live at an inconvenient area coz it was "close to her home town". He had to leave the house and stay with someone after the whole suprise party incident. I'll never excuse a woman for her actions, but if there was an "Enable ain't sh*t bitches Guidebook", he was hitting all the points
She only thinks of herself, that's why she's so hyperfocused on the sympathy and attention, while staying disloyal to her supposedly life-partner
I think she loves him but you are 100% right, she doesn’t think for herself
Her fellow demonic egotistic narcissistic sociopathic psychopaths aka friends don't love him.
@@DadsCigaretteRun she put herself in a dilemma because she didn't have the courage to stand up for her husband when it mattered most
My husband is former military and I would NEVER advise anyone to do this to a current or former member of the military. She’s lucky to be alive.
lol that implies that she would've been killed for this false accusation, which would inadvertently prove he and other military husbands are dangerous and abusive
@@crazguykwan8955 Get a grip. She's talking about the surprise "attack".
@@crazguykwan8955Obviously talking about jumping them in their house when it's dark and they think they're alone.
She's proven herself to be a worthless individual and friend, let alone WIFE. She doesn't have the loyalty and internal courage to have your back at literally no cost to herself, and that is a fundamental character flaw, not a one-time mistake.
15:21 OP implied she felt good when she garnered sympathy from her friends. So she subconsciously enjoyed playing victim which is why she probably walked out with the friends.
she 100% embellished that story to farm pity points.
women's jungian shadow is dark af..
This is what victim Complex creates, She so wanted to be a victim she let those *friends* paint her as one, without correcting them and even betrayed her Husband to keep up the Facade.
Its Narcissism level 1000
I didn’t see this before I posted something similar. I totally agree. She is likely lonely due to the long hours her husband works and staying home with the kid is weighing on her- so she was living and loving the moment someone gave her that victim attention. She is a fuggin snowflake ass betch for doing this to her man. He need to drop her and RUN.
She is lying. She is taking revenge on her husband passive agressivly. She will not forgive him for her broken shoulder. She is horrible, she is playing the victim. I hope he never return to her.
I must say, that makes FAR more sense than her version of events.
All for some stupid idea that SHE did in the first place.
This is exactly it, not just the shoulder but the whole situation. Despite how understanding she claims to be about her husbands work situation she secretly resents it all. She victimized herself and determined she deserves the validation her friends gave her, and now here she is trying to gain more of that validation by claiming she was soooo understanding in the time leading up to the incident. Like she has plausible deniablity and just made an honest minstake in the moment.
I think people do things and lie to themselves about the rationale for the choices they make. Below the surface this makes sense, but she never understood that the rational wouldn't be acceptable to someone else. He will be forever seen as lesser if he comes back and worst as a victims of your emotional cruelty.
This take has to be the top comment. She just couldn't get over the fact how he reacted to her "surprise". She wanted to feel better by making him feel bad.
Spot-on assessment guys! Someone reacting physically to a shock or surprise is called an "autonomic reflex" which is a concept well considered within law. It can be argued that there is no "mens rea" (guilty mind) in this case. Also, I heard the author state that the husband was "stationed in Texas." Is the husband in the military? If so, has he been on active service and could this then, be an explanation for his "over reaction?" As for walking to the car with the "friends" without explaining the truth of the story, I suspect that she was holding a grudge about the incident and was revelling in the sympathy and attention she was getting from the "friends." This, along with the fact that the wife thought it was a good idea to jump on the husband's back, when he wasn't expecting anyone to be present, might indicate that the wife is emotionally immature. Can he ever trust her after this? 😯
When someone is truly scared, you will either see the best or the worst of that person. Thats really the best way to tell who you can depend on in a stressful situation. How someone acts/reacts when the sh!t hits the fan will signal some very important things about their shadow side.
If i was that guy, i would be soo mad and disappointed. Imagine you are going home after a long day at work, its dark inside and all of the sudden some fucker jumps on your back. You throw his ass on the ground only to realise its your gf and now you have her brother and dad all in your face. Amazing.
If he defends himself it's gonna be labeled as my sognistic instead of self defense too
@@Diamondr11Blue we got morons defending pranksters getting shot or stabbed for intentionally trolling people
We're doomed as a society
Happy Birthday! LOL
that got sorted though? any parents reaction would be the same, and the father didnt do anything to him and understood what happened.
How is your comment from 2 years ago
Me and my ex fiancé had been together for nearly 6 years, we were 1 week from the wedding and to make a long story short, we were arguing over something irrational and she took a standing floor lamp and busted the bulb and backed me into a corner. I told her if she came at me with it I would kill her, I would have no choice but to defend myself, she dropped it and ran into the master bedroom and I began to hear the toilet flushing. She was flushing my medications down the toilet since she knew I would struggle without my medications. Then I started hearing banging and crying, I immediately went to the front yard and called 911 and stayed on the line describing the noises I was hearing to the dispatcher until the police arrived. Before they went in I told them about the lamp and that I threatened to defend myself and that I was afraid she was going to hurt herself and try and blame me for it. They then went in and knocked on the master bedroom door to which she refused to come out. Eventually they got her to open the door and sure enough she was bleeding and all bad looking and first words out were “im scared if he’s out there”. Cops immediately said they weren’t buying it. I packed a bag of clothes while they were there and left. came back the next morning with a police officer to move out. It’s called a civil standby and the cop only stays for 15 minutes but I got moved out. Called in all my people from social media and they came to the rescue: never looked back and haven’t spoke to her since that night. Now I’m happily married going on 5 years with two awesome kids with the woman of my dreams. I truly believe she would have killed Me in my sleep.
Edit: I don’t care if you believe it or not, its irrelevant. I do appreciate the kind words. I live a blessed life and your kind gestures are the whipped cream and sprinkles on top. Thank you and god bless you like he has me!
That's terrifying! I'm glad you made it out safely.
Thank God! That was divine intervention omg. I don’t understand women like this.. I could NEVER flush my man’s meds down the toilet, there is NO anger that justifies that, if you love someone… you can’t claim you love someone if that love is conditional on your mood and getting your way..
My love is not conditional on my mood… if I’m mad at my bf, my underlying trust and respect doesn’t just go out the window.. there are LINES you don’t cross… Jesus. There are too many scary people who have no lines. I’m glad u escaped her, and I hope she has a record and never victimizes anyone else
Wow
Damn. I am 33 and with a woman for over 8 years and we have two children together and everything was going well. She had a daughter when I met her and I have been dad to her for her entire life. Last year out of nowhere she claims she is gay and believes she is a man. She is 95 pounds and under 5 feet tall. I am obviously sad about all of this but tried to figure out what we can do. She starts lying about everything and being mean to me and the kids. She had a job for three weeks and was fired for hitting on an underage girl that worked at the store. This last weekend was it.i wasn’t even in the house and she messages me saying she isn’t safe around me. Which is horse shit I’ve never done anything to her ever. She calls the police and claims I hit her and messages family saying she has been sexually assaulted. Luckily everyone including police knew she was lying. She then disappeared and I have the kids at home and she has been gone almost a week. I haven’t been working cause I have no child care and no friends or family in my state. Idk wtf is wrong with people these days
The WORST MISTAKE couples make is allowing others to meddle in their relationship. Keep all of it to yourself!
Walking out aside, even just telling a story about a mistake that you are deeply ashamed of and have asked to not be told anymore is a hard to forgive offense. My mom did that to me once and it took 6 years and a lot of work for her to regain my trust. Spouting off on someone's deep shame as a crowd pleaser at a cocktail party is knowingly humiliating them and it shows them that you neither truly loved nor respected them. I really feel for this guy.
She was addicted to the attention and sympathy that she got from her friends. She cut the friends off and turned around and made them the bad guy so that she could continue to be the victim. Clearly, no accountability. You know she was feeding their mindset.
this here
She sought them out. She found friends who didn't know him so they would believe her lies. The whole dinner was a set-up. She said they asked her to tell about the time she broke her collar bone so they already knew. Her mistake was inviting her brother and sister-in-law. If they weren't there a fight would have broke out and her husband would have been the bad guy. The court would have labeled him an abuser and he would have been screwed royally.
This this this all day
Exactly. I bet she told all kinds of lies to those friends. If not straight out lies, lies by omission & ate up all that sympathy.
there is a reason why people should be aware of kind of people they are having around them or their partners. the old saying "you can tell value of a man by the company he is keeping" people can be influenced be it positively or negatively.
11:03 I think they are almost equally upsetting and destroy trust. But there are different ways you can find out someone cheated, how many times, when, with who and why etc all can make it far worse. So cheating could be worse or equal.
She was lying to her friends by omissions for a while. She was so deep in her lies that she didn't have the courage to own it. It's disgusting that she would rather destroy a perfectly good marriage than own that she has been dishonest.
Didn't have the courage?
My man, what she did was intentional and malicious, not a slip up of lacking courage
It's called accountability. It's their kryptonite...
The worst part is after that she says "I told my friends to leave me the fuck alone". Like after all that she still acting like it is anyone's fault but her own!
@@huricanethreeonesix and to make it worse, it makes no sense to say that to them, so they’re probably going to think he is beating her and sending that text himself!
@@huricanethreeonesix she didn't tell them that. It's just for the sake of the story to Garner sympathy. 🙄 Now she wants to "play a victim" and dodge accountability. That's what these types of ppl do.
It doesn't matter good or bad as long as it's attention
With a "wife" like that, who needs enemies? She won't even have to go out & look for work. She's going to clean that man's bank account & get all her nosy "friends" to back her up in court. 🤦♂️
another post in reddit with her disposable account would be like .. my husbond tries to hide the bonds he get within our marriage how can i get the share after our break up
Ok now yall might be reaching
@@damntae6540that’s not a reach if you understand the stories men have told, that are exactly like this. Them doing absolutely nothing wrong and STILL getting taken to the cleaners. Are you just ignorantly yapping, or ignore those actual facts?
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@@damntae6540Big mama tell you that never happens?
Never thought i'd see the day.. but I guess this is the example of 'Silence is Violence'. And she went about causing it.. First by surprising him in the silence.. and then inadvertently causing him more pain by walking out the door and keeping quiet. And you know that those friends will always assume that he was abusing her, no matter what.
sometimes a person can say or do something that there is no way back from
that was a massive betrayal
he may well forgive you
but he will never forget how you did that to him when you were all he had!
so sad
especially for the child
Cheating is betrayal. What she did was betrayal with a side of reputation damage. unfixable.
I caught my ex telling my friends at a party that 'he'll eat anything' which is faaaaaaaaaaaar fromt he truth, i'm probably the most pickiest eater. I let it go, next time we're at a lineup at the club and she's telling my friend (a girl) whispering sh*t in her ears. I asked my friend and she said, max (my name) i can't get involved but you need to think about your relationship. That was it.
Women do this ALL THE TIME. They have no respect for anyone but the tatted muscle dude that screws them literally and figuratively. I'm telling you guys right now, they have ZERO respect for any man who gets into a relationship with them.
@@Ed-xv4sy "I had a bad experience with a women once, IT MUST MEAN WOMEN ALWAYS DO THIS!!1!1"
Do you even hear yourself?
@@Dice-Zalright buddy
@@suberon9173Once it happens to him then he'll be like "dammm maybe they had a point". Until then, he'll keep his cape on tight🤣🤣
@@Dice-ZI think that is worse than getting cheated on for men. Being accuse of Domestic violence???? When someone cheats, it reflects mostly on their character but when you’re accused of DV, that’s all on you. You can lose everything. Reputation is really everything
All I can say, is that I feel the husband. Ex-wife did both, cheated and lied about it and when I confronted her she got embarrassed, angry, defensive. I asked for them papers and stayed at my brothers for a couple days and in that time she told everyone I was abusing her our entire relationship (10 and a half years 6 and a half years married) f*cking coward a** narcissist almost started all out war between our families because she lied and didn’t want to take accountability.
Long story short I am happily divorced, and I haven’t looked back since 2018.
Yes, my sister STILL wants smoke.
God Bless you brother.
I am so sorry. You keep your head up. D:
My mother lied to her friends about my father hitting her. She was a drunk, got into numerous bar fights ( trying to get with other women's men) or fell off bar stools when she passed out. She blamed my father for the bruises, and even slapped me upside the head when I made the mistake of pointing out she wasn't telling the truth. Was absolutely thrilled when my father filed for divorce and kicked her evil ass out.
@@nekk-ra7080you didn't make a mistake there
Pretty much the same story for me. Ex was cheating with 3 different men and when i caught her, she accused me of abusing her for years. Mom wants the smoke lol
The most messed up part is the effect this fallout will have on their poor son.
Preach speaking facts cause nah that hurts way more
The reason that most men would rather be cheated on than go through this is because being cheated on doesn't necessarily speak to our character. Being accused of being an abuser does impeach our character!
Exactly. With being cheated on, most people aren’t going to blame you, and it’ll be the cheater who suffers the consequences. However, being falsely accused of being an abuser, you have a much worse fate. If no one would have spoken up for the man, it really would have completely ruined his life.
That feeling of being accused when you are innocent, people KNOW you're innocent, people who you trust your life with KNOW you're innocent and they don't speak up. That's another level of hurt. It's frustrating, sad, disappointing, and scary all at the same time. And even if your exonerated from the claims, there'll always be some who believe the false claims.
@@danhumphrey8357 Women will definitely try to blame men for cheating on them
@@MrIkOgNiTofor sure. I don't blame, but I definitely ask the obvious question of if they're satisfying their partner or not. It's a relevant detail. Doesn't excuse anything, but still relevant.
Lol this happened to me. I walked a girl home once after university and she tried kissing me and I told her I wasn't into her like that and Im just going to go home. So then she hugged me and I told her I have to go home as it was late and I left. The next week she started telling everyone in our friends group that I had tried to GR*PE her. I was so confused but as weird as it sounds I was more confused and frustrated than I was hurt by it. Frustrated that no matter what I said people believed her side of the story. There was no way I could prove that nothing happened.
I will say though, this may be unpopular, but the pain from getting cheated on is far worse. I can only speak about myself. The false accusations is more frustration than emotional pain. Being cheated on is the most emotionally painful thing I personally dealt with. I can't deny it.
in her post, she states that when she had conversations with lana and her husband about how her own husband was always gone working and wasnt really helping around the house or with their son, she stayed silent when they bashed him and said he needed to step up and drive 2hr+ to work. she had already validated their assumptions about him during all these chats by not speaking up so they had a warped view of him when they finally met him and it got worse when more info (the surprise party and her bruises that day) was introduced. if she had defended him from the very beginning when she was hanging out with them prior to the weekend get-together, that whole scenario most likely never would have happened. she mentioned how she liked being praised for her hard work and acknowledged for doing most of it on her own and how her husband needed to stop slacking despite him doing his best. im not sure if that means she has narcissistic tendencies but that could maybe explain why she was nonconfrontational and didnt defend her husband when it mattered most as it wouldve forced her to admit she was wrong to the two people she was receiving that praise from and leaving with them couldve been her avoiding telling the truth especially when admitting lies and deceits of your own can be the most difficult thing to share. whatever it is, it most definitely potentially ended her marriage
Yes, I think being caught in a lie was why she stayed silent. If she speaks she would have to admit she lied or her brother would know she was lying.
@@benry007i could be wrong, but i dont think she ever mentioned that she apologized for anything. not the surprise party and jumping on her then bf in the dark or when her husband was accused of domestic violence and she was the only one who could shed light on the truth but didnt. i think she also shouldve apologized to lana and her husband for misrepresenting her relationship and not correcting them causing them to act out and accuse her husband unjustly but instead she was angry with them and told them to go away and never contact her again. she didnt take accountability at all in my eyes and if anything, her family is the only reason why she knows she was wrong as they sided with her husband both times and showed they were disappointed in her
where did she post it?
do you have the link to the original post??
Very good analysis.
I had this happen to me in college ... i was blamed for something by a woman that saw me and another girl engage in and basically had the same situation where the girl tried to manipulate the facts and have me look like a monster amd she didnt say anything till i mentioned going to the dean about it.. then admits she was scared of being judged and shy and didnt wamt the confrontation.. its wild but it happens smh
Your wife or your husband is like your entire world, foundation and support system, that pain she caused him in that moment is indescribable. I agree I'd rather have them cheat than have that happen. That's just total and complete loss at its purest and greatest form.
This hits close to home for me.
My wife and I met when we were 18, and we started dating shortly after that. Not long after we started dating, she got pregnant. Needless to say, her parents weren't happy, and they despised me. Her mother came around to liking me fairly quickly once I showed that I wasn't going to be a deadbeat father. But her father hated me for years.
Even after we got married about 6 years after we started dating, he still hated me. So much so that he would leave threatening notes on my car, and even one time, he literally threw me out of his house because my wife told him that our daughter couldn't stay the night. He yelled at me and shoved me through his house and then pushed me out the front door.
Every time he threatened me or attacked me physically or accused me of being an abusive father/husband, my wife said nothing. And what was I supposed to do? If I had lashed out at him, I would have proven him right. So my only lifeline was my wife, and she never defended me.
It's been years since all of that happened, and my father in law finally came around to liking me. I'm cordial with him, but the damage is done. And even though I love my wife more than anything, there are scars there. It hurts me deeply that she never stood up for me when I couldn't stand up for myself.
I dont understand how you people use the word love in this context
Since you are together, you should talk about this with her. Maybe her parents had a lot of influence in her mind and she kind of agreed to her father in some aspect, maybe she was raise in a way that confront her father would be disrespect, maybe she was afraid. But we should be able to talk about our feelings with a partner.
@lizziebennet2084 I have talked with her about this. Many times.
I'm sorry you had this experience. My parents did not like my husband either at first. My dad tried to start something with him and I put my dad out. It was exceptionally hard to do and I didn't have a relationship with my parents for years after that. They eventually came around and my husband is their favorite son in law now. Unfortunately my husband has not defended me to the same degree with his mother. He is not willing to lose her even temporarily. Nothing ever as confrontational as the other situation but she makes nasty comments about me constantly that he let's slide because she's just old and always been that way. She does say nasty comments to everyone but still.......I feel your pain a little.
Divorce
I’ve been screwed over by girlfriends’ jealous friends like this before.. it’s horrible
Dude y’all need to do something about that hardwood floor.
I 1000% agree with Preach. Getting cheated on would actually make more sense than that scenario. That shit would feel like a bad dream I can’t wake up from and I would physically feel the love I had for her leave my body.
Woman here and I don’t blame you. One bit. This lady was a coward. She has years of apologizing to do.
@@user-lt1jd1ye3vyears of apologies? Nah divorce.. outta my life, clearly never actually cared
@user-lt1jd1ye3v no amount of apologies will fix this imo
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v Apologizing can't rebuild a broken bond. Maybe start making concessions the husband's way for a start. Move close to his job so he can see his kid would be nice. And not trashing him behind his back to her friends to the point they're so quick to think ill of him is also a step in the right direction. But seeing how she told him to leave the house tells me she's the type that gets her way and doesn't really make concessions.
Yeah, at least with cheating there's levels and context that can change things. Betraying your partner by letting them be insulted, accused and threatened, and then leave with the people treating him like that? There's no coming back from that.
Things will never go back to normal after that. She's waaaaayyy too messy to be trusted. I hope he divorces her, remarries and gets full-custody so that she can't lie to the child about their father being a deadbeat.
He won’t be able to get full custody with his work schedule. Plus, I can almost guarantee you she’d bring up the injuries as a sign that he’s abusive, so he should have custody. Women’s lawyers always tell them to allege abuse in custody disputes.
Idk, she sounds like a type of person who would lies if it'll gain her symphaty or whatever benefit. She has no respect and integrity.
@@RedPillUniversity2024her bringing this up in court might not be bad for her but it won't good for her either. As he's in the military, he will immediately go on child support and the women no longer have the government backing them like they use to. In my state if the father goes for visitation and is refused.... generally by the 3rd reported incident she's on her way to jail for a few hours. Then the government backs the father like they use to for the mother 10 years ago.
If you pay your child support the state will make sure you see your kids. If the woman plays games and violated court orders they get the hammer now.
@@dustinb1070 That’s not true. The courts will tell her to let you see your kids but they won’t do anything to her if she doesn’t. So what is this “hammer” that you’re referring to? A lecture in the courtroom?