Timestamps 1. 0:49 “It’s ok to have feelings and to express them” 2. 1:38 “You are safe” 3. 2:29 “It’s not your fault when other people are in a bad mood” 4. 3:22 “I hear you and see you” 5. 4:05 “I love you” Time travel :D
My parents always said, "Children are meant to be seen and not heard" and "I love you but I don't like you". I'm in my 50's now but I can hear it like it was yesterday.
It needs to be said, so I'm going to say it. "I love you, but I don't like you," is a hateful thing to say to a child. It should always, always, always be "I love you." What your parents said was WRONG. Something that sometimes helps me with things like that is to specifically say the words YOU ARE WRONG, out loud if I can, when memories and critical voices come up.
Recently, I’ve realized that my childhood has wounds that still heavily effect me today. I really needed this video, and it came out at such a perfect time.
I hear so often how parents can affect children, but what about siblings ? I had great parents but a very abusive sister who always criticized me& those criticism stayed with me my whole life. I’m just wondering if anyone else had this problem. My sister was toxic & I had to finally get her out of my life.
@toxicjakepaul fan true, even after more than 20 years i still got triggert if someone just grab my shoulder out of nothing. My first reaction is still after 20 years to give them a elbow. I always got attacet from behind. For that reason i still sometimes jump up when i see a sudden movement or fast moving shadow.
@toxicjakepaul fan i always was the one that was standing his ground and fighting back. At the age of 9 my brain had the wonderfull idea of cropping up the anger and used that as feul to fight and defend. I was a walking bomb back in the time.
As someone working through some of these issues I can confirm accessing these emotions and working through them will truly change your life and get you out of habitual bad habits. Whoever you are you are loved you are worthy and you deserve happiness 💜 happy healing everyone
My entire life along with all of my dreams smothered by unmerciful negative forces, has fallen deep down to the chasm of despair and insidious calamity... My life is nothing but just a huge fiasco, and it always was this way since the beginning of my existence, however I just had not discerned so due to my child-like outlook on the world along with seclusion within the entertainment world... I am devoid of worth altogether, and nobody with a sound mind would consider to provide love or happiness, because in reality I have not done anything nor made any achievements to deserve such prestige.
These hit close, despite not having issues with my parents. Other kids can be cruel as well and without support from parents/guardians/teachers in facing your problems can also damage your inner child
These other kids are probably being abused in some kind of way either at home or from someone else so instead of pointing fingers maybe try to understand where it’s coming from
“Its ok to have feelings and express them” I was always scared to speak my mind to not hurt others even when they were in the wrong… I am sooooo glad I found my voice!♥️
Still working on these issues. My father always said he loved me unconditionally but never showed it and was never really there for me, he’d drop me off at my grandparents for long periods of time and my emotions were irrelevant because he “always has it worse”. Very abusive and manipulative and absent a lot as well. Especially if a woman was involved. My mom was in my life till I was 9, then didn’t get to see her again till I was in 18, she let me drink and do any drug I wanted. At first I thought she just felt sorry for me but as I finally was forced by the courts to get clean or face 5 years in prison for possession, I slowly started to gain a sober mind back. And I started to realize that she didn’t want me and didn’t really care as she never called or texted to check on me, I always had to get in contact with her first which was always a challenge. Point is, I still struggle, I live across the country now. Trying to find myself. I’ve realized I wasn’t meant to be where I was as it always brought me down. I personally feel as though my parents didn’t love me because they don’t love each other, have strong hatred toward one another and I remind them of one another. I was brought up in an amazing household until their divorce, then that’s when my mom left and my dad started being the way he was toward me. Still is. I refuse to have any contact with him to this day because every time I give in, he promises to change but doesn’t even try and just goes back to treating me the same way. I don’t know, just felt like someone needed to read this to know they aren’t alone. We all struggle and have issues. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to need help.
Felt this deep in my soul... 😔 I'm so sorry for all the pain that you have gone through. It's not easy navigating a world where the parental love we are supposed to have doesn't exist. I sincerely hope that you meet/have met good people who love and appreciate you for YOU. Keep going and don't EVER give up no matter how hard things get! Wishing you all the peace and happiness in the world and beyond 💗
I have read it and I am so glad you were able to change in adulthood. You didn't deserve that and you don't have to repeat it. You can live as successfully and as happy as you chose. I wish you all the beauty in life going forward!
Coming from someone who is older then he cares to admit - I hope those of you who are in the early stages of life, understand exactly how much of a blessing this channel is. I will probably wrestle with issues for the remainder of my life...but I am happy for those coming along behind to have such wonderful insights set before them - do not take what you heard in this video lightly... here is light among the shadows.
When you've been through a lot of trauma from a very young age & don't know how to control or understand your emotions you just try & deal with them, then when your older & you hear about what your emotions were doing etc even the things I didn't know were connected like when you said about moving home a lot, Never got told I love you & how you don't think that would have such an impact on your emotions but it does, thank you for explaining everything in terms everyone can understand, keep up the Amazing work your doing. X😎🐘
The first one is quite interesting for me...I've always thought that emotions were a sign of weakness and a possible weak point to abuse. And now I'm here,trying to open to others to heal myself (kinda) but still with all my defenses up. This duality is quite tearing me apart
I'm going through the same thing. I tried to have a relationship but it didn't work partly due to this, but I'm going to a psychologist soon and possibly getting therapy. That would probably benefit you, too. And if that's inaccessible to you, then stay strong, keep the faith. I know how hard it is. I had to tell a teacher at my school about my PTSD who called my dad to convince him that I needed help. Please, never give up on yourself. You are worthy and you are loved. You will smile again one day.
This was a good one. My inner child got ran over by a truck causing me to accept abuse later in life. I cry every time I have to leave the house, but I know God will heal me.
'gods gonna heal you'? If I'm being honest I'm just gonna say God will not help you can only help yourself and if you just think you can keep the same behavior and actions and gods just going to heal you it won't work I tried for 3 years and they/he/she didn't do anything for my whole life and I accepted abuse and things like that because I thought that God would come along and help. He never did.
My childhood wasn't easy, so I don't like to talk about it. However I recognize that perhaps the lack of communication was an issue. It still is. I used to express myself through art, but now I don't have the motivation or what's necessary to do it. So I just write to myself once in a while.
I really needed to hear #1. I’ve always felt in survival mode. My mother always scolds me for expressing any honest emotions which led me to shut them down. I learned to abhor crying and feel ashamed. Thanks to this video, I have found that writing is my safe place. It’s where I can express, cry, get angry, without feeling ashamed.
*tears up a bit * your amazing keep doing what you love, and mauby eventually you can express your self in the real world again... *anxious sigh * *relive * :) post
This is so true and everything you say is what I went through. Still experiencing it as my mother is 98 and still continuing the same thing. It's hard to continue life and was never told I love you. Raised by a mean manipulative mother. Still going strong.
Screw that broad, I have an emotionally manipulative mother as well who has only ever offered conditional love. Take my advice, you never needed her and you never will.
Try and look up more ways to heal your own inner child you can be the parent that you always wanted to the younger you this can also be done in therapy ❤
Yeah, I can definitely relate to some of these. Especially the expression of feelings and lack of love for myself. I still bottle up my emotions and put my needs on the back burner. I also find it very difficult to love myself.
3 times a week?! Wow, you are a powerhouse in putting in that hard work! I feel you so hard on all of this having been through it myself over the years. It's basically manifesting an experiance you've never had before in life, and that's HARD. I know it's difficult to feel that love for yourself yet, but you're doing a brilliant job at showing it to yourself. Practice WILL eventually create the result of you feeling healed finally one day. I don't know you, but I'm proud as hell of you!
I went through all of those things as a child, except moving. Today I'm diagnosed with BPD and in therapy. It helps but it's so rough to unlearn all these unhealthy behavior patterns and thoughts. I think people don't realize that the things they do or say to their children can affect them in so many ways and eventually can cause issues with their mental health in the long term :(
When you start to remind these things, it actually hurts to remember them, but I hope this is part of the healing, working through these emotions that I couldn't work on when I was a child.
Being an age regressor, this video really helped me and my Little so much. This video and topic means so much to me and I’m so happy you’re bringing this to light
I’ve stopped regressing because, well a lot of things, but I found I was going to an age where a whole lot of traumatic stuff happened, and I wasn’t coping with it all and got too needy etc. Since I’ve stopped, I’ve been watching all sorts of videos on relationship styles and abandonment issues and a whole lot of other topics, but any time one has mentioned inner child I’ve scoffed and found something else to watch. Until today. Today I watched one and cried. I have a question though. Do you find that the age that you regress to naturally is the age of the inner child that needs healing, or is that just a coincidence with me? I’m aware of other things that happened when I was a baby but I’m not sure whether to start with that or the older stuff. Also, do you find it’s helpful to your overall healing when you regress or does it stir up stuff that you might not actually be ready to deal with? I’ve been afraid to try it again after such an intense experience, but I am still drawn to it.
I’ve found for me that sometimes regressing is revisiting the difficult situations in my life while viewing it through my child’s eyes helps me gain a new perspective of my younger self, and that’s helped me gain empathy for myself today. Feeling and embracing the mental state of my Little is a somewhat peaceful and healthy coping mechanism for me. I only regress when I know I’m safe, and nothing can jolt me out of my experience. When I’ve had traumatic or stressful experiences throughout the day, it helps me to review the situations through my child’s eye. It helps me notice things or think of things I might not have before. Regressing helps me unwind in a way that doesn’t harm myself or others around me. At first it can sometimes be a scary experience to be as vulnerable as you were when you were younger, so maybe start imaging yourself you’re talking to your inner child, or giving them a hug or telling them it’ll be alright.
@@kagebybee4117 that’s very interesting. Thank you. I don’t think I got beyond the scary part lol. At the time I thought I was with someone who would keep me safe but as time went on I realised I wasn’t safe with him. So I stopped. Maybe I’ll try it on my own at some point. I really hadn’t considered that as an option. Thank you. I hope you have a wonderful week 😘
@@moniquem783you may be able to address all the trauma from different ages of your inner child ask what age are you that needs healing and see if you can see the age like an image of yourself it could change depending on different ages of trauma you went through x
*5 things your inner child needs to hear right now* 0:49 - It’s ok to have feelings and to express them 1:38 - You are safe 2:29 - It’s not your fault when people are in a bad mood 3:22 - I hear you, and I see you 4:05 - I love you Much love ❤️🚀🌙
Inner child is an important topic to care for, Thanks for bringing this up for me & others Psy Group. This is a major problem I’ve been having and I think I’m coming out of despair, part thanks to y’all of course. Love your videos.🖤
Thank you for this wonderful message… in just a few minutes so much was covered in such a gentle, loving fashion. This one spoke to me as if it were written just for me….
I usually don't comment a lot on these videos, mostly because I feel scared that I might not be validated somehow, but this video really came at the right time. It had been a while since I started to feel that something was still wrong in my life, something that I haven't completed solved. It turned out it was still my inner child, struggling to live on others' and even my own expectations. I shouldn't be so hard on myself, which is something I'm still trying to do. But besides all of that, I truly thank you Psych2go for these videos, they really truly helped me a lot during these tough days.
With all the knowledge I've gained about my personality and my upbringing I'm slowly starting the process of loving myself. It's very hard when your brought up on shaky foundation but you can be the one to set a new standard for yourself and your future. TY PSYCH2GO for Being the Reassurance I needed; You guys are awesome! NEVER STOP EDUCATING & ENLIGHTENING PEOPLE!
Last two days I have felt so vulnerable learning about my inner child but now I am starting to understand how to help myself after the trauma of being adopted it’s a fascinating way to heal yourself x
I come from a family where everyone is afraid to be vulnerable. I was told I was loved but didn’t feel it. It wasn’t said often. My mom guilt trips me , and isn’t enthusiastic on my dreams or concerned about my emotions. Tells me to seek therapy which I have but still do not help me to stay positive. But she has a wounded inner child too even tho she fails to admit it , conditioned to her mothers toxicity. I wasn’t taught to express my feelings so I bottled them up because we were always taught children were to be seen and not heard. Or it was being disrespectful. Or they’re from another generation so - they couldn’t say this or that .. and I saw why they were messed up. Instead of teaching me and the rest of us better , they followed suit the things that tore them apart as children. I don’t feel completely safe with expressing to my mom cause she shuts me down. Therapy has been the only way. But I wish I could find also other additional people to talk too. I don’t even think my friends take me serious. This video was good to know.
I learned to use the silent treatment in arguments. Not because of a desire to hurt, but because I realized that speaking was pointless and only made them come back harder and made me feel worse than when I started. So I just wouldn't respond until they gave up. Now I just don't get into arguments to start with. Being honest is pointless.
This is a very hard hitting topic You know, somethings will haunt you. But those haunts .... They're another experience and your life is yours so, for myself, the best hurt to the haunts is living in spite of them and being the person those horrors never wanted you to be. Love yourself and share that accordingly
My dad was very vocal bout expressing his love for his children and he's been gone 4 yrs n it's been 4 yrs since I've felt unconditionally loved, my mother is an e emotional cripple and I can count on my hands hugs, words of encouragement or any type of positive feedback about anything
I am almost 40, and have just learned about CEN in the last year. It has had a profound effect on my marriage and other relationships! Thank you for spreading awareness, Psych2Go! ❤️
I’ve got an unhealthy addiction since I was 11 years old and now I’m 23 and in two months I’ll be 24. Since the last six months I’ve been trying to get rid of this addiction and It’s been really hard. I started the addiction when I was a child and I believe that I really need to heal my inner child so I won’t relapse again. Good luck with the healing journey everyone! 🍀
Hope you were able to overcome those strongholds but if those troubles are still there please don't give up. I believe in you. God is our strength and refuge. Either way, I am praying for you. Love always🙏🏼💙
I relate to 1,3, and 4 as someone who's suffered years of emotional abuse domestically it's really hard to develop a healthy understanding of who you are and what is actually your fault...
As an teen with good amount of anxiety your channel has taught me that not everything is your fault and i apply it on real basis. Me as a person tends to take every small thing on my head and overthink. Which then leads to severe anxiety so the day i started applying that not everyone is responsibility which i should take care i felt totally free. So others i would give a suggestion: "TREAT YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE YOU LOVE"
I have a feeling that when I was a child, I had some kind of anxiety. When I got anxious, I took it out on myself. Because I didn’t know what was happening when I got shout-y for no reason and I didn’t have a bone in my body to harm someone else (and I still don’t). This behavior made me hate myself throughout secondary school. I still do. But, I’m working on it, not sure if self-deprecating humour helps but if I do it very inconsistently, I’ll be alright. This video rocks. Thanks guys.
I was raised as a military child. All over the world. But my.mother always made our home a safe nurturing and loving place. She always said, your home should be your castle. My siblings and I were very blessed.
I really needed this. Thank you very much. My inner child has been wounded for years, and I couldn't figure out how to fix it. But things have been getting better now. :)
This video has been a big help. It has been challenging to love myself at times. My parents are narcissists and contributed to my low self-esteem and being anti-social.
My mom didn't believe in expression and feelings she was always angry about everything As a child I once was I always teaching myself self love and happiness and safe And happy I didn't like moving as I got older because they made me uncomfortable and scared as a kid for the unknown
My Dad was my hero growing up..he was tough! Served for 25yrs on the HMCS kootney. I always wanted to make him proud and id try so hard as a kid to get an "atta boy!" ....i never got one, he never said he loved me and now as an adult i crave affirmation that what im doing is appreciated almost to the point of obsession. Tell your kids you love them..dont let them end up like me
I had a very loving mom and hardworking dad growing up and we only moved 3 times as a child and spent a lot of time with helping others in our family and around our family but we had a lot of other people take advantage of us and it caused a break down in so many ways even though we stood for what was right not so much wrong and it happens to the best of people unfortunately as it has to my kids whom I miss so much bc of others taking severely abusively advantage of them and others not letting them communicate with me like they want to as I know they do but are not able to express it much bc of others either. Despire everything God knows the truth and we know it in our heart of hearts no matter what others try to say do or lie about it all!
Thank you for saying that psych2go im felling better now I always thinking that "am i wanted?", "Who am I?" And i always feel lost, nowhere to go, being a puppet by someone, and falling
Wow. I didn’t realize how much I needed this video. Between this and therapy, I’m really trying to dig myself out of this hole. Thank you so much, Psych2Go.
I was literally just thinking about this very thing not 10 minutes ago; I was never taught what I needed to know for adulthood as a child. Indeed, I was mocked, ridiculed, and humiliated by the very people I was supposed to be able to trust (family). As a result, I have fumbled my way through adulthood, making one mistake after another, never having a clear plan or defined goal, and still regularly insulted by those I grew up with (parents). This has frankly affected every aspect of my adult life; personally, professionally, financially, etc. I keep trying to do the best I can, with what I have, where I am, and even try to forgive, but sometimes it's almost like a curse that follows me everywhere I go; I often am still made to feel stupid, incompetent, worthless and unlovable. So, yes, the timing of this video couldn't be better; it doesn't solve the overriding issues, but it does help the mind and heart to hear. And, for anyone who reads this, if you are trying to make peace with your past self, please know that you really are not alone, that there are people who care about you, and that you are worthy of love and compassion.
I started waching this Chanel to better understand one of my friends better and have just been like ohhhhh so that’s why I do that and then cry for a while
The 1st one was definitely me, I never knew why I hid my emotions, but I think it was because whenever I would cry during school I would get laughed at. So I’m pretty sure I had some sort of anxiety as a kid, and still do
Seriously one of the best RUclips channel I've found. I don't relate to all of the content..but I certainly appreciate the beacons you all put out when something hits home.
so, i’m still young, and cannot cut ties with my parents (would, not with my ma, but with my dad), so i’m in the middle of when i’l receive trauma but i’ve decided that step by step to start to heal the inner child inside of me, hearing that an everybody no matter the age has an inner child makes me feel better about this fact because i am just leaving my childhood, yet i have the mentally of an adult, and i know to heal an inner child it takes a bit of time so i’m starting now.. i’ve decided to take things into my own hands, because my online parental figures can’t always help me, and people irl just tell me that he’s worried so i’ll start by myself with help by loved ones
I’ve been struggling for the past year. I’ve been living my life with the expectation of other peoples happiness and I am so tired. I can’t seem to stop this cycle. I try and I find myself still on this ride. I feel so trapped in my life but I’m so afraid of disappointing my family. I’m so afraid of being judged and it keeps me in line. I feel like no one knows me and I’m afraid to be seen. So I keep on pleasing everyone and trying to control their emotions by pretending to be happy. I’m so sad.
Omg I literally just learnt that lesson from a narcissistic friend this year (I'm 36 years old)!! "You're not responsible for my feelings" that was a HUGE lesson for me
I can't remember ever being told they love me, not even when they came to me to take my money. Your videos almost every single one of them speak to me as if you have seen how my life has been to this point, it is frightening how someone i never met can tell these things i relate so much with, but it also feels really nice to know there is atleast one person out there who understands what i went through and going through.
Man I never thought my inner child would start recovering ever until well... comfort characters lol. I grew attached to a certain character that spoke to my inner child on a personal level and somehow that's been helping me lol!
I feel like I needed to hear this video. I don’t have good memory of my childhood at all, but I do know that emotions were not shown often, and before my grandma was sent to a nursing home, she was abusive to my mom, my brother, my dog, and me, so I think that had some effect on my life now. Thank you for this video, I needed it. 😊
It may not be from my parents, but a lot of these came from my, "friends" in elementary school. I was bullied a lot and these matched pretty well. I'm still upset, but this certainly helped.
Oh my gosh! I have been crying through the whole video.Who is the one that's crying? Me?my inner child? We both? As an adult with crippling social anxiety and other mental issues, I don't know anymore
I feel some of these so much , especially number 3. Also, "I love you" thinking back to my childhood, I dont really feel like I wasnt loved, but I also cant really remember that love being expressed. In the sense of love now I mean like a motherly or brotherly love. I have only ever felt love towards anyone else in the past few years. This love I'm not really sure what to think of either. Going by what I feel only, it was surely the strongest love I have ever felt toward someone not in family or so. At the same time this love interest told me on more than one occasion that it wasnt love, only a crush, which I have a hard time disputing. I can only go by what I feel and if it wasnt love, i'm not sure how to know that. Anyhow I have just started seeing a new psychologist, intent being to finally get a "real" diagnose. I have long felt that I wanted to see if I have ADD/ADHD but am always met by "Its very hard to diagnose at your age" . I have been met with this response over more or less the past 12 years. Noone wanting to go further than , "its hard now" and "you'll be fine". Now in the past few weeks since getting my new contacts finally I feel a bit of hope again and instead of "its hard" or "its expensive" I am now getting, "its hard but not impossible" and my company is paying the bill so no worries there , for now. (also, if anyone had listened to me when I initially asked to be tested, I would have had both parents alive. Now both are gone, dad about a year ago and mom a few years before. Sooo. Is it A. Easier now or B. Harder now? I try not to dwell on it but for sure it would have been easier to do SOMETHING while my parents were alive right. Finally feeling like someone listens/reacts, EVEN if it in the end turns out to be too hard to diagnose, I will atleast have that. Now I am just thinking i'm worthless and have more or less lost the fight. No strength to go on fighting, and in a way thinking "well sure I can fight, but whats the point?". Well, right now , I feel like I have gotten a boost to keep fighting. Also listening to and watching your videos makes me feel, although maybe just a little but still, like there ARE things worth fighting for and It makes the things I need to do, like ask for help and talk things out, easier. So thank you guys SO much for helping people in situations like this and worse ofcourse. Love you guys. When I can, financially I want to become a member for a while to give SOMETHING back, but I cant right now.
I just had a realization. These things always say, "love yourself". They tell me to love myself unconditionally, to be happy with who I am while still trying to make myself better. I was never bothered with loving myself. I wondered why I didn't feel the need to. Was it some hidden trauma? No, my life has been amazing. Was it just me lying to myself? No again. Then I realized that the reason un-saved people feel the need to love themselves because no one can love them perfectly. They love themselves because no one else will. I realized then that I was loved with a love so perfect, so unconditional, and so pure that it makes the love I feel for my family, friends, and other relationships seem like pure hate by comparison. I don't feel the need to love myself because I realized I'm already loved more than I could ever know by God.
Okay the third one just right out slapped me in the face! As a person with low self worth and self love hearing this hit hard. I'm very unsure about the other things though... I always my mother by my side who was there for me and my siblings when we were feeling sad, hugged us to make us feel better and is a genuinely good mother figure. My father is the exact opposite so I kinda got love from one parent and was neglected and met with high expectations from the other.
As a person who like to learn about mental heath, I assume this is a great video for younger generation. I hope that people who have mental issue can learn from this channel. For people who are struggling with mental health, remember that you're not alone💘💘💘💘
Every one of these is what my inner child needed to hear, except the "you are safe" I did that one yesterday. 1-5 was like a warm hug that felt like a gut punch. Lost 3 families 2 through abandonment the third neglect and developed a masochistic personality where aslong as I only hated and blamed myself atleast I could love and protect what I loved, it has all been improving.
I experienced a lot of these traumas as a child, parents never encouraged healthy communication, and that caused me to be afraid to speak up, instead my mother expected me to be quiet and obedient, not talk out of turn and bs like that, now as an adult, that I can express myself freely She expects me to be more talkative w her but she forgets she never let me so why should I now?
Red Sun Red Sun over paradise Red Sun Red Sun over paradise Golden rays of the glorious sunshine Sending down such a blood-red light Now the animals slowly retreat to the shadows Out of sight Arid winds blow across the mountains Giving flight to the birds of prey In the distance machines come to transform Eden Day by day Only love is with us now Something warm and pure Find the peace within ourselves No need for a cure When the wind is slow and the fire's hot The vulture waits to see what rots Oh how pretty, all this scenery This is nature's sacrifice When the echoes boom with a brisk attack The reptile's tail ripped from its back When the sun sets We will not forget the Red Sun over paradise
I love your channel! It is very relatable and when you look at the comments you find those who have been through the same although it does sometimes reveal that somethings you thought were normal are actually very cruel people.
Timestamps
1. 0:49 “It’s ok to have feelings and to express them”
2. 1:38 “You are safe”
3. 2:29 “It’s not your fault when other people are in a bad mood”
4. 3:22 “I hear you and see you”
5. 4:05 “I love you”
Time travel :D
thanks kawaiiii!
Thank you time traveler
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HOW DOES THIS SAY 3 MONTHS AGO?? 😳🤨
welp im brought to tears
My parents always said, "Children are meant to be seen and not heard" and "I love you but I don't like you". I'm in my 50's now but I can hear it like it was yesterday.
Yep. I heard it often too.
I guess war is a cruel parent, but an effective teacher.
It needs to be said, so I'm going to say it. "I love you, but I don't like you," is a hateful thing to say to a child. It should always, always, always be "I love you." What your parents said was WRONG. Something that sometimes helps me with things like that is to specifically say the words YOU ARE WRONG, out loud if I can, when memories and critical voices come up.
What does I love you but I don’t like you even mean? I have some speculations, but it doesn’t really make sense to me.
@@CassandraMarable It means "I don't love you."
Recently, I’ve realized that my childhood has wounds that still heavily effect me today. I really needed this video, and it came out at such a perfect time.
I hear so often how parents can affect children, but what about siblings ? I had great parents but a very abusive sister who always criticized me& those criticism stayed with me my whole life. I’m just wondering if anyone else had this problem. My sister was toxic & I had to finally get her out of my life.
One word: Bullying. It destroyed me.
@toxicjakepaul fan true, even after more than 20 years i still got triggert if someone just grab my shoulder out of nothing.
My first reaction is still after 20 years to give them a elbow.
I always got attacet from behind.
For that reason i still sometimes jump up when i see a sudden movement or fast moving shadow.
@toxicjakepaul fan i always was the one that was standing his ground and fighting back.
At the age of 9 my brain had the wonderfull idea of cropping up the anger and used that as feul to fight and defend.
I was a walking bomb back in the time.
@toxicjakepaul fan both, 3 to 5 against one most of the time.
As someone working through some of these issues I can confirm accessing these emotions and working through them will truly change your life and get you out of habitual bad habits. Whoever you are you are loved you are worthy and you deserve happiness 💜 happy healing everyone
As are you my lovely xxx
Gracias, You too
I so agree…
Happy healing! Thank you, love to you! ❤
My entire life along with all of my dreams smothered by unmerciful negative forces, has fallen deep down to the chasm of despair and insidious calamity... My life is nothing but just a huge fiasco, and it always was this way since the beginning of my existence, however I just had not discerned so due to my child-like outlook on the world along with seclusion within the entertainment world... I am devoid of worth altogether, and nobody with a sound mind would consider to provide love or happiness, because in reality I have not done anything nor made any achievements to deserve such prestige.
It's not your fault when somebody is in a bad mood. This hit hard in more ways than one.
These hit close, despite not having issues with my parents. Other kids can be cruel as well and without support from parents/guardians/teachers in facing your problems can also damage your inner child
Yep
These other kids are probably being abused in some kind of way either at home or from someone else so instead of pointing fingers maybe try to understand where it’s coming from
“Its ok to have feelings and express them” I was always scared to speak my mind to not hurt others even when they were in the wrong… I am sooooo glad I found my voice!♥️
Same
Hey I have the exact opposite thing
@@thecelesteial5918 i didn't get it
@@mixedvibes7 I have no care whatsoever who I hurt
@@thecelesteial5918 well that kinda sounds rude but i also had that thing brfore.
Still working on these issues. My father always said he loved me unconditionally but never showed it and was never really there for me, he’d drop me off at my grandparents for long periods of time and my emotions were irrelevant because he “always has it worse”. Very abusive and manipulative and absent a lot as well. Especially if a woman was involved. My mom was in my life till I was 9, then didn’t get to see her again till I was in 18, she let me drink and do any drug I wanted. At first I thought she just felt sorry for me but as I finally was forced by the courts to get clean or face 5 years in prison for possession, I slowly started to gain a sober mind back. And I started to realize that she didn’t want me and didn’t really care as she never called or texted to check on me, I always had to get in contact with her first which was always a challenge. Point is, I still struggle, I live across the country now. Trying to find myself. I’ve realized I wasn’t meant to be where I was as it always brought me down. I personally feel as though my parents didn’t love me because they don’t love each other, have strong hatred toward one another and I remind them of one another. I was brought up in an amazing household until their divorce, then that’s when my mom left and my dad started being the way he was toward me. Still is. I refuse to have any contact with him to this day because every time I give in, he promises to change but doesn’t even try and just goes back to treating me the same way. I don’t know, just felt like someone needed to read this to know they aren’t alone. We all struggle and have issues. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to need help.
Felt this deep in my soul... 😔
I'm so sorry for all the pain that you have gone through. It's not easy navigating a world where the parental love we are supposed to have doesn't exist. I sincerely hope that you meet/have met good people who love and appreciate you for YOU. Keep going and don't EVER give up no matter how hard things get! Wishing you all the peace and happiness in the world and beyond 💗
So sorry that you had few supports.
I have read it and I am so glad you were able to change in adulthood. You didn't deserve that and you don't have to repeat it. You can live as successfully and as happy as you chose. I wish you all the beauty in life going forward!
Jesus loves you and he's waiting for you with open arms ❤️
I hope you can feel better now :) have a good day.
Coming from someone who is older then he cares to admit - I hope those of you who are in the early stages of life, understand exactly how much of a blessing this channel is. I will probably wrestle with issues for the remainder of my life...but I am happy for those coming along behind to have such wonderful insights set before them - do not take what you heard in this video lightly... here is light among the shadows.
"Unhappy is he to whom the memories of childhood bring only fear and sadness." - H.P. Lovecraft
When you've been through a lot of trauma from a very young age & don't know how to control or understand your emotions you just try & deal with them, then when your older & you hear about what your emotions were doing etc even the things I didn't know were connected like when you said about moving home a lot, Never got told I love you & how you don't think that would have such an impact on your emotions but it does, thank you for explaining everything in terms everyone can understand, keep up the Amazing work your doing. X😎🐘
The first one is quite interesting for me...I've always thought that emotions were a sign of weakness and a possible weak point to abuse.
And now I'm here,trying to open to others to heal myself (kinda) but still with all my defenses up.
This duality is quite tearing me apart
I'm Proud of you. Good luck!
I'm going through the same thing. I tried to have a relationship but it didn't work partly due to this, but I'm going to a psychologist soon and possibly getting therapy. That would probably benefit you, too. And if that's inaccessible to you, then stay strong, keep the faith. I know how hard it is. I had to tell a teacher at my school about my PTSD who called my dad to convince him that I needed help. Please, never give up on yourself. You are worthy and you are loved. You will smile again one day.
@@wanderingpaladin4927 meh,tried many psychologists,didn't work
Wouldn’t it be so nice, if you could travel back in time, and hug yourself a child? ❤️
Well, I am working on it. Time-travel squad unite 🚀🌙
Yay
Yes, I’d love to go back. This adult s*** is killing me!
Yeah. I wish I could raise myself
omg the vid was published today but u posted that 3 months ago how ???
Dude you can already time travel (I'm just kidding around, I know exactly what you mean XD )
This was a good one. My inner child got ran over by a truck causing me to accept abuse later in life. I cry every time I have to leave the house, but I know God will heal me.
'gods gonna heal you'? If I'm being honest I'm just gonna say God will not help you can only help yourself and if you just think you can keep the same behavior and actions and gods just going to heal you it won't work I tried for 3 years and they/he/she didn't do anything for my whole life and I accepted abuse and things like that because I thought that God would come along and help. He never did.
Dear God help those who help themselves
❤❤
My childhood wasn't easy, so I don't like to talk about it. However I recognize that perhaps the lack of communication was an issue. It still is. I used to express myself through art, but now I don't have the motivation or what's necessary to do it. So I just write to myself once in a while.
Do you believe in God ?
I really needed to hear #1. I’ve always felt in survival mode. My mother always scolds me for expressing any honest emotions which led me to shut them down. I learned to abhor crying and feel ashamed. Thanks to this video, I have found that writing is my safe place. It’s where I can express, cry, get angry, without feeling ashamed.
*tears up a bit * your amazing keep doing what you love, and mauby eventually you can express your self in the real world again... *anxious sigh * *relive * :) post
This is so true and everything you say is what I went through. Still experiencing it as my mother is 98 and still continuing the same thing. It's hard to continue life and was never told I love you. Raised by a mean manipulative mother. Still going strong.
Be the difference in your family's life!
Screw that broad, I have an emotionally manipulative mother as well who has only ever offered conditional love. Take my advice, you never needed her and you never will.
Try and look up more ways to heal your own inner child you can be the parent that you always wanted to the younger you this can also be done in therapy ❤
Yeah, I can definitely relate to some of these. Especially the expression of feelings and lack of love for myself. I still bottle up my emotions and put my needs on the back burner. I also find it very difficult to love myself.
3 times a week?! Wow, you are a powerhouse in putting in that hard work! I feel you so hard on all of this having been through it myself over the years. It's basically manifesting an experiance you've never had before in life, and that's HARD. I know it's difficult to feel that love for yourself yet, but you're doing a brilliant job at showing it to yourself. Practice WILL eventually create the result of you feeling healed finally one day. I don't know you, but I'm proud as hell of you!
I went through all of those things as a child, except moving. Today I'm diagnosed with BPD and in therapy. It helps but it's so rough to unlearn all these unhealthy behavior patterns and thoughts.
I think people don't realize that the things they do or say to their children can affect them in so many ways and eventually can cause issues with their mental health in the long term :(
When you start to remind these things, it actually hurts to remember them, but I hope this is part of the healing, working through these emotions that I couldn't work on when I was a child.
Being an age regressor, this video really helped me and my Little so much. This video and topic means so much to me and I’m so happy you’re bringing this to light
Me to! 🌱
I’ve stopped regressing because, well a lot of things, but I found I was going to an age where a whole lot of traumatic stuff happened, and I wasn’t coping with it all and got too needy etc. Since I’ve stopped, I’ve been watching all sorts of videos on relationship styles and abandonment issues and a whole lot of other topics, but any time one has mentioned inner child I’ve scoffed and found something else to watch. Until today. Today I watched one and cried.
I have a question though. Do you find that the age that you regress to naturally is the age of the inner child that needs healing, or is that just a coincidence with me? I’m aware of other things that happened when I was a baby but I’m not sure whether to start with that or the older stuff. Also, do you find it’s helpful to your overall healing when you regress or does it stir up stuff that you might not actually be ready to deal with? I’ve been afraid to try it again after such an intense experience, but I am still drawn to it.
I’ve found for me that sometimes regressing is revisiting the difficult situations in my life while viewing it through my child’s eyes helps me gain a new perspective of my younger self, and that’s helped me gain empathy for myself today. Feeling and embracing the mental state of my Little is a somewhat peaceful and healthy coping mechanism for me. I only regress when I know I’m safe, and nothing can jolt me out of my experience. When I’ve had traumatic or stressful experiences throughout the day, it helps me to review the situations through my child’s eye. It helps me notice things or think of things I might not have before. Regressing helps me unwind in a way that doesn’t harm myself or others around me. At first it can sometimes be a scary experience to be as vulnerable as you were when you were younger, so maybe start imaging yourself you’re talking to your inner child, or giving them a hug or telling them it’ll be alright.
@@kagebybee4117 that’s very interesting. Thank you. I don’t think I got beyond the scary part lol. At the time I thought I was with someone who would keep me safe but as time went on I realised I wasn’t safe with him. So I stopped. Maybe I’ll try it on my own at some point. I really hadn’t considered that as an option. Thank you. I hope you have a wonderful week 😘
@@moniquem783you may be able to address all the trauma from different ages of your inner child ask what age are you that needs healing and see if you can see the age like an image of yourself it could change depending on different ages of trauma you went through x
*5 things your inner child needs to hear right now*
0:49 - It’s ok to have feelings and to express them
1:38 - You are safe
2:29 - It’s not your fault when people are in a bad mood
3:22 - I hear you, and I see you
4:05 - I love you
Much love ❤️🚀🌙
time traveler
Thank you but what the heck how did you comment this 3 months ago
Why is this 6 months ago :D
you guys are almost at 9 million! thats so awesome!! 👏
Inner child is an important topic to care for, Thanks for bringing this up for me & others Psy Group. This is a major problem I’ve been having and I think I’m coming out of despair, part thanks to y’all of course. Love your videos.🖤
Thank you for this wonderful message… in just a few minutes so much was covered in such a gentle, loving fashion. This one spoke to me as if it were written just for me….
Still going through a lot of discovery within myself at the moment... this sort of content Is really what I need to hear. Thank you 😊
I usually don't comment a lot on these videos, mostly because I feel scared that I might not be validated somehow, but this video really came at the right time.
It had been a while since I started to feel that something was still wrong in my life, something that I haven't completed solved. It turned out it was still my inner child, struggling to live on others' and even my own expectations.
I shouldn't be so hard on myself, which is something I'm still trying to do.
But besides all of that, I truly thank you Psych2go for these videos, they really truly helped me a lot during these tough days.
You guys rock! Healing my inner child made me whole again and it all begins with a conversation.
What did you do to heal your inner child?
With all the knowledge I've gained about my personality and my upbringing I'm slowly starting the process of loving myself. It's very hard when your brought up on shaky foundation but you can be the one to set a new standard for yourself and your future. TY PSYCH2GO for Being the Reassurance I needed; You guys are awesome! NEVER STOP EDUCATING & ENLIGHTENING PEOPLE!
That's nice
Beautiful!! Best wishes on your journey of self-love! ❤✨
@@SphereofCygnus TY!! And same to you if you not there already! 😊
@@jarryj1995 Aw thank you! 🙏 I'm working on it! ❤
crysis core indeed...I cried so hard at that game goddammit
wow, this actually made me cry. my inner child was very hurt and still is a bit. in therapy to try and help us be happier in our skin. thank you.
I don't think anyone has said "I love you" when ever i could have heard them but i still had a good childhood.
Last two days I have felt so vulnerable learning about my inner child but now I am starting to understand how to help myself after the trauma of being adopted it’s a fascinating way to heal yourself x
My inner child has healed since, but thank you, though!
I come from a family where everyone is afraid to be vulnerable. I was told I was loved but didn’t feel it. It wasn’t said often. My mom guilt trips me , and isn’t enthusiastic on my dreams or concerned about my emotions. Tells me to seek therapy which I have but still do not help me to stay positive. But she has a wounded inner child too even tho she fails to admit it , conditioned to her mothers toxicity. I wasn’t taught to express my feelings so I bottled them up because we were always taught children were to be seen and not heard. Or it was being disrespectful. Or they’re from another generation so - they couldn’t say this or that .. and I saw why they were messed up. Instead of teaching me and the rest of us better , they followed suit the things that tore them apart as children. I don’t feel completely safe with expressing to my mom cause she shuts me down. Therapy has been the only way. But I wish I could find also other additional people to talk too. I don’t even think my friends take me serious. This video was good to know.
Psych2go: it's okay to have feelings, and to express them
Toxic parents: *we say otherwise*
I learned to use the silent treatment in arguments. Not because of a desire to hurt, but because I realized that speaking was pointless and only made them come back harder and made me feel worse than when I started. So I just wouldn't respond until they gave up.
Now I just don't get into arguments to start with. Being honest is pointless.
This is a very hard hitting topic
You know, somethings will haunt you.
But those haunts ....
They're another experience and your life is yours so, for myself, the best hurt to the haunts is living in spite of them and being the person those horrors never wanted you to be.
Love yourself and share that accordingly
My dad was very vocal bout expressing his love for his children and he's been gone 4 yrs n it's been 4 yrs since I've felt unconditionally loved, my mother is an e emotional cripple and I can count on my hands hugs, words of encouragement or any type of positive feedback about anything
If I can go back in time to tell my kid self that things are gonna get tough but they’re loved and unique, I would.
I am almost 40, and have just learned about CEN in the last year. It has had a profound effect on my marriage and other relationships! Thank you for spreading awareness, Psych2Go! ❤️
These are the little pieces that put us together 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I’ve got an unhealthy addiction since I was 11 years old and now I’m 23 and in two months I’ll be 24. Since the last six months I’ve been trying to get rid of this addiction and It’s been really hard. I started the addiction when I was a child and I believe that I really need to heal my inner child so I won’t relapse again.
Good luck with the healing journey everyone! 🍀
Hope you were able to overcome those strongholds but if those troubles are still there please don't give up. I believe in you. God is our strength and refuge. Either way, I am praying for you. Love always🙏🏼💙
I relate to 1,3, and 4
as someone who's suffered years of emotional abuse domestically it's really hard to develop a healthy understanding of who you are and what is actually your fault...
Hoping for you and everyones healing. You CAN still get wound as an Adult.
@@ririzamel285 Thanks
What do you mean by "you can still get wound as an adult"?
#2 is something I really needed.
I moved from house to house way to often and just now in my 20's I'm finally feeling more grounded.
My inner child says … thank you 🙏🏻 😊
And my inner child says "I'M F***ING INVINCIBLE".
I needed to hear this, thank you so much ❤️
Is it weird to say that I've never heard an "I love you" in my entire life?
My parents never said it me, it is weird but that weirdness belongs to them. They're dead now, it was their loss they never met the real me.
As an teen with good amount of anxiety your channel has taught me that not everything is your fault and i apply it on real basis.
Me as a person tends to take every small thing on my head and overthink.
Which then leads to severe anxiety so the day i started applying that not everyone is responsibility which i should take care i felt totally free. So others i would give a suggestion: "TREAT YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE YOU LOVE"
Story of my life. Thank you so much. At times like this, reparenting is a MUST.
I have a feeling that when I was a child, I had some kind of anxiety. When I got anxious, I took it out on myself. Because I didn’t know what was happening when I got shout-y for no reason and I didn’t have a bone in my body to harm someone else (and I still don’t). This behavior made me hate myself throughout secondary school. I still do. But, I’m working on it, not sure if self-deprecating humour helps but if I do it very inconsistently, I’ll be alright. This video rocks. Thanks guys.
"I hear you and I see you" I'm crying
I was raised as a military child. All over the world. But my.mother always made our home a safe nurturing and loving place. She always said, your home should be your castle. My siblings and I were very blessed.
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What @ sap him I pray the universe grant your heart desired I know of a great man thanks Amen
I really needed this. Thank you very much.
My inner child has been wounded for years, and I couldn't figure out how to fix it.
But things have been getting better now. :)
Wu wei wisdom is a channel here on RUclips. They deal with inner child healing. You can also find books on trauma
This video has been a big help. It has been challenging to love myself at times. My parents are narcissists and contributed to my low self-esteem and being anti-social.
My mom didn't believe in expression and feelings she was always angry about everything
As a child I once was I always teaching myself self love and happiness and safe And happy
I didn't like moving as I got older because they made me uncomfortable and scared as a kid for the unknown
My Dad was my hero growing up..he was tough! Served for 25yrs on the HMCS kootney. I always wanted to make him proud and id try so hard as a kid to get an "atta boy!" ....i never got one, he never said he loved me and now as an adult i crave affirmation that what im doing is appreciated almost to the point of obsession. Tell your kids you love them..dont let them end up like me
I had a very loving mom and hardworking dad growing up and we only moved 3 times as a child and spent a lot of time with helping others in our family and around our family but we had a lot of other people take advantage of us and it caused a break down in so many ways even though we stood for what was right not so much wrong and it happens to the best of people unfortunately as it has to my kids whom I miss so much bc of others taking severely abusively advantage of them and others not letting them communicate with me like they want to as I know they do but are not able to express it much bc of others either. Despire everything God knows the truth and we know it in our heart of hearts no matter what others try to say do or lie about it all!
Praying so heavily. 😪💔🙏
To Everyone:- You're amazing and I believe in you☺️🌹💐
Thank you for saying that psych2go im felling better now
I always thinking that "am i wanted?", "Who am I?"
And i always feel lost, nowhere to go, being a puppet by someone, and falling
I just realised that one of my close friends need these words so much
I don't know how u guyz post the exact same vedioes on my thought and problems in the correct time when I need it😫Thanqu so much🤗💕
Wow. I didn’t realize how much I needed this video. Between this and therapy, I’m really trying to dig myself out of this hole. Thank you so much, Psych2Go.
Can you make a video about ocd and how it makes you feel about yourself and what other problems it can cause btw love your videos❤️❤️❤️❤️
I was literally just thinking about this very thing not 10 minutes ago; I was never taught what I needed to know for adulthood as a child. Indeed, I was mocked, ridiculed, and humiliated by the very people I was supposed to be able to trust (family). As a result, I have fumbled my way through adulthood, making one mistake after another, never having a clear plan or defined goal, and still regularly insulted by those I grew up with (parents). This has frankly affected every aspect of my adult life; personally, professionally, financially, etc. I keep trying to do the best I can, with what I have, where I am, and even try to forgive, but sometimes it's almost like a curse that follows me everywhere I go; I often am still made to feel stupid, incompetent, worthless and unlovable. So, yes, the timing of this video couldn't be better; it doesn't solve the overriding issues, but it does help the mind and heart to hear. And, for anyone who reads this, if you are trying to make peace with your past self, please know that you really are not alone, that there are people who care about you, and that you are worthy of love and compassion.
thank you for making this channel. just literally, thank you😭
I started waching this Chanel to better understand one of my friends better and have just been like ohhhhh so that’s why I do that and then cry for a while
I definitely needed this. Ironic this video came up at this time, as I was just learning about my inner child.
the first and third ones hit so close to home i legitimately started crying
Oh my god you provide sources. Hard to trust the internet without them.
The 1st one was definitely me, I never knew why I hid my emotions, but I think it was because whenever I would cry during school I would get laughed at. So I’m pretty sure I had some sort of anxiety as a kid, and still do
Thanks for helping me get IN TOUCH with my INNER CHILD
Seriously one of the best RUclips channel I've found. I don't relate to all of the content..but I certainly appreciate the beacons you all put out when something hits home.
This is me..,always told to suck it up ..if I was sad or crying 😢…I’m going to be ok❤️
I loved this video and this topic!❤️❤️❤️ But am I the only one in love with the narrator’s voice? It’s so soothing and warm🥰
My inner child certainly needs healing. I prefer to have a healthy mindset to have a happier outlook on life.
so, i’m still young, and cannot cut ties with my parents (would, not with my ma, but with my dad), so i’m in the middle of when i’l receive trauma
but
i’ve decided that step by step to start to heal the inner child inside of me, hearing that an everybody no matter the age has an inner child makes me feel better about this fact
because i am just leaving my childhood, yet i have the mentally of an adult, and i know to heal an inner child it takes a bit of time
so i’m starting now.. i’ve decided to take things into my own hands, because my online parental figures can’t always help me, and people irl just tell me that he’s worried
so i’ll start by myself with help by loved ones
This hit the mark too much that I started crying.
I’ve been struggling for the past year. I’ve been living my life with the expectation of other peoples happiness and I am so tired. I can’t seem to stop this cycle. I try and I find myself still on this ride. I feel so trapped in my life but I’m so afraid of disappointing my family. I’m so afraid of being judged and it keeps me in line. I feel like no one knows me and I’m afraid to be seen. So I keep on pleasing everyone and trying to control their emotions by pretending to be happy. I’m so sad.
Omg I literally just learnt that lesson from a narcissistic friend this year (I'm 36 years old)!! "You're not responsible for my feelings" that was a HUGE lesson for me
“…and some grow strong in the broken places.”
I can't remember ever being told they love me, not even when they came to me to take my money.
Your videos almost every single one of them speak to me as if you have seen how my life has been to this point, it is frightening how someone i never met can tell these things i relate so much with, but it also feels really nice to know there is atleast one person out there who understands what i went through and going through.
Man I never thought my inner child would start recovering ever until well... comfort characters lol. I grew attached to a certain character that spoke to my inner child on a personal level and somehow that's been helping me lol!
I feel like I needed to hear this video. I don’t have good memory of my childhood at all, but I do know that emotions were not shown often, and before my grandma was sent to a nursing home, she was abusive to my mom, my brother, my dog, and me, so I think that had some effect on my life now. Thank you for this video, I needed it. 😊
It may not be from my parents, but a lot of these came from my, "friends" in elementary school. I was bullied a lot and these matched pretty well. I'm still upset, but this certainly helped.
Oh my gosh! I have been crying through the whole video.Who is the one that's crying? Me?my inner child? We both? As an adult with crippling social anxiety and other mental issues, I don't know anymore
I feel some of these so much , especially number 3.
Also, "I love you" thinking back to my childhood, I dont really feel like I wasnt loved, but I also cant really remember that love being expressed. In the sense of love now I mean like a motherly or brotherly love.
I have only ever felt love towards anyone else in the past few years. This love I'm not really sure what to think of either. Going by what I feel only, it was surely the strongest love I have ever felt toward someone not in family or so. At the same time this love interest told me on more than one occasion that it wasnt love, only a crush, which I have a hard time disputing. I can only go by what I feel and if it wasnt love, i'm not sure how to know that.
Anyhow I have just started seeing a new psychologist, intent being to finally get a "real" diagnose. I have long felt that I wanted to see if I have ADD/ADHD but am always met by "Its very hard to diagnose at your age" . I have been met with this response over more or less the past 12 years. Noone wanting to go further than , "its hard now" and "you'll be fine". Now in the past few weeks since getting my new contacts finally I feel a bit of hope again and instead of "its hard" or "its expensive" I am now getting, "its hard but not impossible" and my company is paying the bill so no worries there , for now. (also, if anyone had listened to me when I initially asked to be tested, I would have had both parents alive. Now both are gone, dad about a year ago and mom a few years before. Sooo. Is it A. Easier now or B. Harder now? I try not to dwell on it but for sure it would have been easier to do SOMETHING while my parents were alive right.
Finally feeling like someone listens/reacts, EVEN if it in the end turns out to be too hard to diagnose, I will atleast have that. Now I am just thinking i'm worthless and have more or less lost the fight. No strength to go on fighting, and in a way thinking "well sure I can fight, but whats the point?".
Well, right now , I feel like I have gotten a boost to keep fighting. Also listening to and watching your videos makes me feel, although maybe just a little but still, like there ARE things worth fighting for and It makes the things I need to do, like ask for help and talk things out, easier. So thank you guys SO much for helping people in situations like this and worse ofcourse. Love you guys. When I can, financially I want to become a member for a while to give SOMETHING back, but I cant right now.
I never thought about just joining here on RUclips. I can manage the lowest tier here for now. Thank you guys so much!
Amanda has such a soothing voice, she could read from a telephone directory and I would listen 😊
How is your voice so soothing. I withdrew to a closet and diagnosed but untreated ADHD . I lived in closets and outside
I just had a realization. These things always say, "love yourself". They tell me to love myself unconditionally, to be happy with who I am while still trying to make myself better. I was never bothered with loving myself. I wondered why I didn't feel the need to. Was it some hidden trauma? No, my life has been amazing. Was it just me lying to myself? No again. Then I realized that the reason un-saved people feel the need to love themselves because no one can love them perfectly. They love themselves because no one else will. I realized then that I was loved with a love so perfect, so unconditional, and so pure that it makes the love I feel for my family, friends, and other relationships seem like pure hate by comparison. I don't feel the need to love myself because I realized I'm already loved more than I could ever know by God.
Like I said, kids are cruel, Jack. And I'm very in touch with my inner child.
Okay the third one just right out slapped me in the face! As a person with low self worth and self love hearing this hit hard.
I'm very unsure about the other things though... I always my mother by my side who was there for me and my siblings when we were feeling sad, hugged us to make us feel better and is a genuinely good mother figure. My father is the exact opposite so I kinda got love from one parent and was neglected and met with high expectations from the other.
The timing of this was crazy synchronistic because I just had an episode of ptsd because of just this
As a person who like to learn about mental heath, I assume this is a great video for younger generation. I hope that people who have mental issue can learn from this channel. For people who are struggling with mental health, remember that you're not alone💘💘💘💘
Every one of these is what my inner child needed to hear, except the "you are safe" I did that one yesterday. 1-5 was like a warm hug that felt like a gut punch. Lost 3 families 2 through abandonment the third neglect and developed a masochistic personality where aslong as I only hated and blamed myself atleast I could love and protect what I loved, it has all been improving.
I experienced a lot of these traumas as a child, parents never encouraged healthy communication, and that caused me to be afraid to speak up, instead my mother expected me to be quiet and obedient, not talk out of turn and bs like that, now as an adult, that I can express myself freely She expects me to be more talkative w her but she forgets she never let me so why should I now?
Red Sun
Red Sun over paradise
Red Sun
Red Sun over paradise
Golden rays of the glorious sunshine
Sending down such a blood-red light
Now the animals slowly retreat to the shadows
Out of sight
Arid winds blow across the mountains
Giving flight to the birds of prey
In the distance machines come to transform Eden
Day by day
Only love is with us now
Something warm and pure
Find the peace within ourselves
No need for a cure
When the wind is slow and the fire's hot
The vulture waits to see what rots
Oh how pretty, all this scenery
This is nature's sacrifice
When the echoes boom with a brisk attack
The reptile's tail ripped from its back
When the sun sets
We will not forget the Red Sun over paradise
Like I said, kids are cruel, Jack. And I love minors.
thank you! i love the style, video and va!
I love your channel! It is very relatable and when you look at the comments you find those who have been through the same although it does sometimes reveal that somethings you thought were normal are actually very cruel people.
Very helpful!!! Thank you 😊
Love this!!! This explains a lot to me. Especially the moving around a lot.
I’m soooooo happy I watched this! #3 was needed.