@Cliff edge lol, I don’t know just the way I was raised. My parents taught me power and control over everyone is the most important thing in life. Maybe I am narcissistic.
The roughest partes, thinkingyou remembered it All, then remembering more. Those ohmygod (and not in agood est) moments of emotional lightning. Cute right through you. At least it starts to make sense, the WHY ifeel this Or that.
@1:15 Fear of abandonment @1:49 Inappropriate guilt @2:22 Trust issues @3:00 Fear of setting boundaries @3:34 Get angry easily @4:08 Trouble letting things go
Once you realize it all you need to know how to deal with it...dealing is not so hard...you just input your energy, time and emotions only at places where you get to rise up not where you are knocked down...that's the trick practice it for at least 3 months you'll start holding your subconscious consciously...that is when you'll be grateful for everything that happened to you because now you have become unshakable avoid triggers learn to ignore...everyone can speak up but it takes guts to ignore and speak impactful. That is real power.
@@humaira9653 hahahaha LOL...I feel you...I had the same reaction as well...might not be so deep as yourself but yeah similar...its ok your intuitive side and many things you possess that you don't even recognize at this time are made up because of this...pain teaches its eternal truth just look for what have you learnt if you focus on what you have lost you can't smile for long and all this world needs is a smiling face a happy angel...so look into that feelings and thoughts are temporary you change your focus they change themselves learn to control your tongue and your reaction and everything will start falling into its place God gave you birth for a reason you were born for a reason trying an finding it.
1. 1:13 you fear abandonment 2. 1:48 you have inappropriate guilt 3. 2:20 you have trust issues 4. 2:58 you have a fear of setting boundaries 5. 3:33 you get angry easily 6. 4:07 you have trouble letting things go Edit: thank you for those likes! I never had so many!
Yeah, I just watched a video of men who secretly record women in public so my mind can never think that there are people out there that don’t mistreat you 😂
I feel this way to. Even if u find someone everyone is going to hurt u eventually so that’s why I have a very small hand picked amount of people I trust
I hope everyone knows that abandonment issues aren't always caused by people necessarily leaving. it could be caused by someone being there physically and never emotionally which left you trying harder to please them. that was me as a child. my parents were never there for me emotionally and i tried my hardest to please them thinking that they would completely cut off the little affection they showed me which affects to this day. i hope everyone becomes more educated on mental health issues and becomes happier.
@@moose8680 they're just invalidating your emotions... Your emotions are valid but the better u become at not reacting with emotion to things the better it'll suit u in the future
I don't understand why people think you can only have a toxic childhood because of your parents. You could also have it because of the kinds of people you surrounded yourself with which would be your friends. Your 'friends' could have abused you emotionally or mentally maybe even physically. And you shut yourself away from the rest of the world and family because of it. You became distant, anxious, maybe even depressed because of your 'friends'. So the point I'm trying to make is that it's not only your parents that can influence and introduce a toxic childhood experience for an individual, it could very well be your own 'friends'. And I say this from experience.
This actually opened my mind a little more to what could actually cause this stuff. My mind always went to my parents and/or myself when it came to childhood damage, so thank you.
I can relate to, only I feel like my abandonment issues and wounded inner child shouldn't be what they are, because I had kind parents and friends...they just couldn't be there for me, whether it was due to friends in the summer with busy-ness or a parent with chronic illness, they weren't there as often. I feel bad, like it shouldn't be a problem that I was left alone a lot, after all, I became independent and learned how to emotionally take care of myself at a young age. But somehow, I'm still confused.
*”The truth is, not everyone is going to mistreat you”* Yes that is true, but thats the thing with trust issue. You dont know who is good and who is bad.
Whenever I see a kid now, even a stranger, I always wish for that kid to grow up happily and be able to endure whatever he/she will be facing in the future. If only a child's innocence and happiness can remain forever.
Exactly. But in addition I wanted to know if my inner wounded child was on life support or in an urn. Since I watched this I guess it's still about here someplace. ( Checks under the couch, in the closet, in a tree...there, in a tree.) Must be on life support.
Yeah my childhood was filled with love by my parents until my mom broke down due to stress. My parents love me but they don’t know that they’ve somewhat traumatized me. My friend had a great childhood. She made a best friend in 2nd grade and seemingly has no crazy trauma. It kinda makes me jealous but that’s how it is I guess
Psych2Go - I did, but I didn’t mention it because it would feel egocentric. But yeah, I recognised that I have at earlier stages in my life had a wounded inner child as a result of narcissistic manipulation, but I have moved on from that and no longer identify with the person who felt that way. It’s scary to realise you don’t recognise your past selves, but I suppose that’s the point of personal development. I can see traits of this wounded inner child in other people I know, and making the connection with how I have felt in the past definitely helps me to empathise more concretely with these people. So thanks for the video, it was enlightening as always 🌻
I have all of the signs, the fear of abandonment, inappropriate guilt, trust issues, fear of setting boundaries, anger issues, and refusal to let go. I already figured that I'd apply to most of these
I had this one small disagreement with one of my friends in primary school, and for some reasons I think about it once a week on average. I keep thinking “if I had said this one word differently, the disagreement wouldn’t have happened. I related way to much to all of them, except I had a near perfect childhood, I have no idea why I express each symptom so strongly.
Anyone else feel like they’re relating to a lot of these videos but have no idea what to do about it because you don’t know what caused it in the first place?
I felt like that at first but talking a lot with a friend, a professional or to myself (maybe through a notebook) about what comes randomly to my mind, my feelings or my past really helped me, it's a bit confusing and blurry at the beginning, you're probably trying to burry it as a defense mechanism that helped you survive then... it takes a lot of time, it's a slow process, but you can start slowly by expressing what's burried :) I also search for a lot of advice on healthline and psychologytoday, I just search things like: "what to do to heal childhood trauma?" and so on... you can do it! much love and luck for your path of healing!
@@carleflores9065 it sound so scarry to find out what's burried in myself. It must be so terrible that it causes me to be like this... Thinking about this make me want to cry...
I've got a lot of trauma from my childhood. I vowed when I became a parent, that I would not be like, or treat my children the way my parents did with me. I have 3 wonderful children who I love unconditionally. I've had therapy for trauma bonds that I had, and I'm stronger and happier because of it.
Often, when I’m not feeling okay or having an episode, I really do feel like my inner child takes over. Like I’m 6 again, crying alone. And then I feel pathetic. I feel like I haven’t grown up. I’m 26. I know I have a lot of unresolved traumatic experiences from childhood. This video makes me feel seen. Thank you.
I hope you find bodywork to heal the trauma as well as therapy. I didn't go for therapy when I was 26 and I really should have. Same for acupuncture, and dance movement therapy and other trauma release things. We all will clear the trauma that is stuck, and rewire our brains. Promise. Look up Bruce Lipton's work
I always thought I had the best childhood anyone could ask for, and the possibility of having a wounded inner child seemed so far fetched to me. But when I realized I am a people pleaser, don't feel safe showing weakness infront of others and am not able to set boundaries without feeling guilty, I got the feeling something may be wrong with my inner child. Somehow this realization created a rush of negaitve emotions like helplessness and sadness, and I felt really small and weak for crying like a baby in my bed. I haven't been to therapy so this is not confirmed by a professional, but I think that when we feel like we're 6 years old again, small and pathetic, it's just that inner child expressing itself, and that is ok! I like to think that there is a grown up version of me that goes to work, does chores, keeps my apartment clean and all of that, and then there is the child version that likes plushies, storys of dragons and fairies, and cute animals. And my grown up version just needs to take care of my child version so both feel safe and acknowledged. Again, this is not anything I heard from a professional but maybe next time you feel like 6 year old you, you can try and let it happen and take care of yourself the way you need it in that moment. And remember you are not pathetic or weak for crying, and you are not the only one who feels like this. :)
@@the_whale_9583 I like this. Reminds me of the quote, “be the adult you needed as a child.” :) I’m definitely a much better adult rather than when I was a child. We’re growing up well and taking care of the wounded children we were.
Crying is never pathetic. The more u think that the more hurt u will feel. I have to learn this lesson the hard way cause I have been told so many times that crying is pathetic. Be ur self. God made crying for a reason so u can let ur emotions out.
I'm trying but l can't never thought what l did in the past would kill me now l regret doing it... I did something so embarrassing in front of my loved ones family, and can't forget it. So awkward and awful 😭😭😭😭😭💔 now the shame is killing me
This hurts my heart. I've been a wounded child and that affected every aspect of my life. My inabilities to speak up and trust my judgement and make authoritive decisions make so much sense. What's difficult is knowing how emotionally stunted both parents are. Tried sharing my feelings once, it backfired horribly. They yelled a lot, and there was no reasoning or seeing that I was calm and not angry. I don't want to blame them for everything, as they were young and did the best they knew. We had love, but also outdated emotionally constipated traditions that suppressed us; anger was a sign of disrespect. It sucks, I have to go on knowing they'll never understand the damage I'm trying to unravel as an adult. And it's difficult. They love me and mean well, but they may never truly KNOW me 💔
same 😔. And I'm only 13, long way ahead....not only my mom is toxic, my brother too. He is the most selfish person I have ever seen. And he fights A LOT with my mom(like many times a day). He held a knife and make death treat to me. My mom tries to control me on EVERYTHING, she never respect me. And she doesn't treat me as a person, instead, her possession. She wants me to give her A LOT of money when i grew up. And She scolds me and attack me for everything I did. I'm stuck with them every day. My father lives in another country. he escape our family long ago, but leaving me here alone 😔. Sometimes I don't think I can go on.
I speak up to my parents about my feelings when i was 17 and they never, not even once trying to understand me. Since that time, i never expecting anything from them. Lately i realise I changed a lot. I'm getting angry so easily, i don't want to meet my family in occasion. And now they wonder why i'm being like this. After thinking about this, i realise that i changed from that day, because of them. They hurt me so bad when i was 17 and it changed my life.
I didn’t realise just how much of a mess I am until this past year. I retire this year and although I knew I was damaged, I didn’t realise just how much. One thing I can honestly say I am proud of is that my children have not been damaged. They tell me I was a great mum. I knew from very young that I would never hit, shout , abuse, or neglect, physically or emotionally. . My kids knew how much they were loved and still do.
OMG IK IM 7 MONTHS LATE, BUT UHM- YOU JUST HELPED ME FIGURE OUT WHY I HAVE A WOUNDED CHILD. I'm so angry all the time because when i was younger no one understood my mental health. not my anxiety, not my adhd, not my insomina they just kept saying to me "i don't get it, why are you upset?"
I looked at my black and white picture when I was 3 years old: all sad and confused. I instantly fell compassion towards myself, took the picture and was holding to my heart saying: "From today, I will never ever neglect you or abandon you. I will always love you and make sure, you will receive self-care regularly." 💗
This happened to me to - I saw a pic of my brother & me when we were little & I cried for them & could not understand why anyone would want to treat them like garbage.
Anytime I showed anger towards any of my family, I was made to feel guilty about it and now whenever I feel angry, I feel guilty about it and somehow making it my fault that I'm angry. I don't know what this means
Chances r ur family still wants to abuse u. I'm no professional, so take it with a grain of salt. Regardless, you have every right to be angry or have bad days just as much as anyone else. Anyone who says otherwise is a lair, blood-related or not.
*sigh* I run into this constantly when I call/visit my parents, I am so close to cutting ties with them. I want them in my life but I can't stand the negativity they make me feel.
@@kristingoldtooth2294 You might need to go no contact in order to truly and rightly heal. Rather than taking 2 steps forward, and 5 steps back during those visits. You might end up never registering any real progress. Love and light 💡 ♥
Yes same. Like I'm literally struggling right now with something I said earlier today. It honestly makes interacting with people difficult since I know I'll feel horrible for at least 2 days after.
Yeah, it's honestly so easy for us to trick ourselves into thinking that we're the bad guys but once in a while, we need to let go of that thought because we actually aren't. It's all in our brains, in my case, overthinking was the root cause of me guilt tripping myself. So I found what makes me overthink and I avoid those triggers at all costs. Try to find out the root cause and avoid its triggers. Have an awesome day!
I know that I have a lot of trauma, but the problem is that I can't remember it so I can't move past it. I have such a hard time saying "No" to things because I feel like I have to do that thing that someone asked me if I could do it or not, even if it is a *massive* inconvenience for me.
@@shogunbirds6589 I have found a sort of peace with mine even though the cause of my bad childhood is still in my life I hope that you can find some type of peace just remember that it may came sooner or later but does get better
Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kidergarten. Then when you hit puberty they take te crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on agebra, history, ect. Being suddenly hit years later with the 'creative bug' is just a wee voice telling you, 'I'd like my crayons back, please.
Or a box of Legos. Then people start telling you that Legos don't do anything for you and won't get you anywhere, and before you know it, those same people don't have jobs, you're an engineer, and they wonder why you don't want to spend time with them anymore.
Dear mother, Memories of childhood are beginning to fade. But I remember beautiful laughter, the wet grass , and the ladybugs we’d catch and play with together. I thought I was on top of the world, even after the abuse. I would forget the marks you left on me , at moments like those. The memories of you screaming , hands around my throat become clear on days my mind is a mess. The cries of my younger brother still haunt me . But when it pours , your cries and screams fade into the background and then I am young again. You hold me close to you, so close I can hear your heart beating. Your scent makes me feel at home. And it pours and pours , and the image of your hair on fire and shattered glass on the floor blend with the beautiful memories, until my mind becomes hazy and I am unable to think straight. It becomes so blurry that I can’t distinguish between the good and bad memories. It continues to pour . I still remember how I would imagine myself in a complete different family, with a present father, loving siblings and a mother who’d cook a delicious meal, especially on days you’d scream and shout , threaten to leave or kill yourself. Why would you expect so much from a seven year old ? It makes me ache , and I wake up in pain in the middle of the night, embracing myself. The memories won’t leave me alone . It pours and it pours It simply won’t stop pouring.
I wish I could share a hug with you, my mother has been through so much and projected her emotions towards me and my siblings that I to this day am terrified of opening up. I never tried it, not as a child nor as an adult. She's sick currently and I get texts from my sister saying that I should try to talk to her. I love her so much but I am so hesitant, I cry myself to sleep every now and then. Every conversation goes south with her, I choose not to let my anger consume me, so I just keep thinking until my thoughts settle down eventually. I wish that I had a happy family... But all I get is how much of an unworthy loser I am.
@@anupreetiboro1352 I am experiencing the same thing as well..I'd jus like to let you know that it's okay to love her from a distance. She's your Mother, yes, but she's also an adult who needs to take care of her herself and actually be an adult. Idk about you, buh my mom would abuse me and then excuse herself by blaming everyone who used to abuse her. What she did to you is not your fault and you deserve to be happy, with or without your mom. I'm sorry if that was out of line..I jus thought I should let you know. You're so much more than someone's daughter. Don't go back if you know she's gonna continue to hurt you. You can't heal if you keep going back...The burn won't heal if you keep touching the stove.
I'm still a kid, but everyone either says I'm too mature, so I sometimes act more childish and almost basically regress and cry a lot at night when no one's watching. Then my mother says I'm too childish. When I used to sleep with my mom, when I cried, the next morning she'd berate me for it. To anyone out there experiencing similar feelings, please hold on! I hope your situation gets better soon :0)
yes! I often cry like a child ( literally crying out loud, in my pillow. I think my inner child feels terrible pain! and I have no idea how to read it and south it) I also understand 'other' children, ( I am an adult now but I still feel children's feelings, and it hurts my heart to see parents who do not understand their children's behaviours and cries!! child psychology is everywhere and for free for heaven's sake!! just today, their was this family of five: the parents, a boy of about 9or 10 Yo, and a little girl probably half that age, and a baby todler! the little 5 year old girl was playing on here own but couldn't stop crying the mother was playing witht he older brother and father was holding the todler! the little one who was crying was obviously feeling lonely, and unheard! she feels jealousy from as the her little sister took all her parents' attention and feels lonely because her big brother doesn't play with her and demands 'loudly' the attention of his mother ! but the mother literally didn't seem to understand that! the little girl told me that her brother often hits her! I looked at the mother and she didn"t look annoyed or anything! its tough to be a kid frankly!! I had to play with her for a while untill she smiled again and then she wanted to play on her own again , then I said goodby and went away! )!
I always got spanked for messy room, not finishing food, yelled at everyday if I wasn't 100%. Anyone else parents keep you at table till plate was finished but most times ended up barfing, I've always been a tiny person, I can't fit that much! I never threw a tantrum, I wasn't spoiled, I was over disciplined.
When I was born I didn't want to drink milk(any kind of milk.) I was the runt in our family, so I was small for my age also. I know what you are saying about having to finish everything on your plate. My mom thought it was psychological that I didn't want to eat but I couldn't eat all that food either. I would throw up too but she said it was just me not wanting to eat. It's too bad adults don't listen to children and children can't completely explain themselves fully. Basically I wanted to say I completely understand what you're saying, I just don't know how to express myself properly. Unfortunately that "not eating thing" has stayed with me because I believe it's medical and not mental.
Omg THIS was my childhood. So many nights falling asleep at dinner table because wasn’t allowed to leave before finishing. I simply couldn’t fit it into my belly lol. And yes, had the belt like pretty much everyday and not allowed to leave room until tidied. So I used to spend days locked in there, because even if I tried it was never good enough. I never force feed or pressure my son into eating anything, to ensure he has a healthy relationship with food and his body when he grows up. I also make tidying up toys a really fun thing. If only my parents had the same basic understanding of this whilst raising us.
i’ve always been weirdly attached to things from my childhood, it feels like someone took my innocence and safety away but i dont remember having any sort of traumatic experience, but having all the symptoms in this video do be making me cry
Pfft, i remember every single traumatic event that I ever experienced in my childhood...I remember every god damn second..And those god damn second lead me to this Socially anxious, skin picking dosorder, untreated depression and self hate...And I still cant get over them and I still stay awake at night because of them...I sometimes randomly cry because of them...I sometimes ounch myself at night too!!
spending time comforting my inner child and speaking with her is such a wholesome thing. and the fact is, i’m still very much a child. i have so much more to learn. i don’t need to rush anything. it’s okay to live in the present moment.
My inner child is definitely hurting still. I’m still trying to unpack my childhood trauma and realizing how bad things really were. I was hurt, lied to, mistreated, shamed, grieving and abandoned at 12. I’m still carrying the weight of it 2 decades later. Nothing was truly resolved and I never knew how to cope and move on. I really want to move on emotionally 😔
Sorry. There are wounds that can never heal. I learned that when I had a session with a psychologist. She dug up mental and emotional traumas long forgotten and buried. I was unable to sleep that night. I later told her my problems cannot be resolved. I just have to make the best of my life as well as I can. My injuries are not inner factors, but caused by external forces I cannot control.
I just realized how many things I supressed from my childhood up to my adulthood. What's sad is that, I have lost so many people that could've been life-long friends of mine but pushed them away...
I agree, but it's so difficult sometimes. I have flashbacks to my child hood all the time, the feeling of desolation is so strong. It is a constant battle..so tired..
To everyone doubting the facts: i am actually diagnosed with childhood trauma and i have a wounded child inside of me for sure. And all of these traits apply on me. Remember that it's okay to seek help if you need to! You are worthy of happiness 💞
I couldn't read that without saying "It's not" okay to help if you need to.. I know that's not what you said it just took me 3-4 tries before I could read it without the it's not
Every time I’ve ever caught feelings for someone their “inner child” vibe is the same as friends I had when I was little but I don’t realize until later on
V's "Inner child" is so realistic masterpiece that is based on real life experience. It's like a psychological treatment. Ps : for the ones who never heard of.
That's where I started - and ended up here. His personality has changed and he has matuted but some people assume that he's depressed even tho we know nothing about his mental health. And thinking about it - maybe his inner child might be hurt or "scared" because of being criticized at a young age.
@@blotart5617 yeah, and he made up with his inner child. It was like he was encouraging and consoling it and also himself. He was like making up between his past and future.
i was really worried about him and i didnt knew what to do anymore . thats when inner child was came out and i was speechless . i was going through the same thing and i didnt knew how to react.....but i understood his situation prefectly..................
Yeah, we’re all connected on a subconscious level. Lots of us think about the same major things at the same time regardless of what our life looks like or even if we know others who are thinking about the same stuff. It’s pretty cool.
I had a childhood issue that I always saw as something rather silly and unimportant, but as I've grown up I'm slowly realizing that it actually affected me a lot more than I could have guessed.
There is nothing u get by thinking of your past life is like a book u need to take next page to see what is waiting there for u close your first page just think how would it be if u die tommorrow how would you live?
i cried my eyes out as this video began. i’m already quite emotionally vulnerable right now due to my current circumstances but when she went through the video i realized i fit each criteria and cried even harder
My advice to you, if you decide to see a doctor. Ask the doctor/therapist whether their practise, is based on an holistic approach to mental wellbeing, such as transpersonal psychology. That can truly make a big difference, in how you feel afterwards (how you feel with yourself) after the consultation. Besides the obvious importancy of feeling comfortable, at an consultation with a therapist. I would personally always choose the therapist who work from a viewpoint of transpersonal psychology.
This is one of those videos where I can't believe how seen I feel, and yet it hurts so much to feel exposed like this. I almost want to send this to some of my friends and say "look, this is me, please be patient." Thanks Psych2Go!
That's right. I dont *fear* abandonment - I know that people are most likely to leave me one day and I've learned to be ok with it. I don't have innapropriate guit because my parents had been trying to guit trip me until it stopped working. I don't have trust issues, not because I trust people but because I trust *myself* in knowing that I can get through any kind of betrayal, so I'm not afraid to risk it. I had to learn to set boundaries or otherwise I'd be destroyed. I do have the last two though, but 2/6 isn't that bad, is it?
I did. However, inter-dependence is more appropriate than independence. No one is fully independent, it is just an ilusion. Yes, I am a free spirit now.
My inner child was destroyed since I was younger then two. 1: I *know* they'll all leave me one day. Everyone does. And yeah, being alone means no one can hurt me, it gives me a sense of security. 2: I feel guilty everyday. 3: I cried. 4:Yeah. I can't say no. I can't even tell someone I don't wanr to be their friend, even when they're toxic.. 5:... 6: I shouldn't let it go. My father is seeing us. And I know what he did. I have to forget when we meet up with him. But he abused us. He gave me PTSD. I can't let that go.
@Heliah Stuurman child abusers do not deserve forgiveness under any circumstance. To forgive an abuser is to submit to an abuser. Forgiving your abuser is not ever necessary. The thought of feeling like you have to forgive them no matter what is one of the many things that gets in the way of healing from abuse. To forgive them is to say it is okay with you what they put you through.
@Heliah Stuurman You just need to find a sliver of empathy for your abuser to move on. To forgive is to trap yourself beneath them, right where they want you. Empathy and the act of forgiveness are 2 different things. Please stop telling people that they have to forgive their abusers. Forgiveness is only for people who make a mistake once or twice maybe. If they attempt to make amends and change themselves and grow as a person, then yeah forgiveness is alright. Child abusers are serial offenders that will never to be able to make any sort of amends. Abusive people always preach that forgiveness is the only way. Now why do you suppose that is?
"you would rather be alone than be abandoned" my mind taking things out of context "friends dont need me i disappoint them🤡" me: "what?" my mind: "what?" **silently laughs in loneliness**
People think growing up and getting matured heals the childhood inner wounds...but they don't know we live with a wounded heart for the rest of our lives,the space is empty and remains empty forever.We as a child had been damaged forever and yes it impacts all relationships.
The Inner Child stayed with me into my 60 yrs of life. I have experienced situations where I wanted to be able to truthfully express myself as a child /adult. In the adult's world of easy transition from child to adults norms...the adult with inner child issues will be seen as an outsider .
I've been bringing out my inner child for a couple of years now. As i couldn't have a proper childhood, i had to pretty much grow up straight away. If i was going to survive , i basically had to trained my thoughts/brain process into an adult. I'm 47yrs old & i enjoy my time with my inner child now.
Same. But when I get angry I can start getting physical. And i’m honestly scared of myself, because if I keep this up i could wind up in jail. But my sister purposely makes me mad, because she thinks it’s funny. It won’t be funny once i end up breaking her arm. I bet that day is bound to come.
I've been wounded so badly that I have anxiety, depression, a wounded inner child, and a badly wounded heart, and I'm also, broken, mentally breaking down, and i bottle up my emotions, and all I truly want is just a friend, yet I can't even accomplish that.
The older I get, the more I want a personal oasis of peace and quiet that no one can disturb..how? Simple. I go visit them..they don't visit me.. that's how I want it.
Inside I'm still the battered 3 y-o, living in fear of his worst enemy, my own father. (The brute's been dead for nearly 60 years---but the damage was done). One of several reasons I never wanted kids, lest they turn out like me. Childhood abuse is now considered a form of PTSD, having many of the same long-term effects.
My inner child is so traumatized to this day. So much so that while writing this I can't open up my feelings as I wish I could.I can't hold friendships,I am alone. Trauma of anything is crippleing,All consuming,like being in a dark hole forever.
Oh geez, I can perfectly relate to all the 6 signs- (especially with the 1st and 6th ones oof) Also on a totally unrelated note, I really love the art style! It looks super cute and simple and gives off this aesthetic and I love the coloring and effort put into the entire video!
Never thought, someone can describe all of my thoughts and fears that much clearly .. Instead of being hurt, abandoned, rejected or blamed by others, it's more comfortable to do it by yourself... At least in the end, it'll hurt us less and may be we'll feel a little happy as well.
The mean things your mother says is not a reflection of who you are, only a reflection of the pain and hurt her own inner child carries. That she projects toward you cause she does not know how to heal it.
My mom says that she will kill me one day she said that she would poison my food but Idk why I still eat the food without even worrying that she might have poison it (She is mostly angry so yeah)
@@steele_heart77 I used to have an imaginary friend named Emily and she was the sweetest person ever But now I have a real-life best friend who's basically the same as her so Emily is gone, I made a scenario where she went to see her sick grandfather back in the UK and never returned Anyway tell your Emily that I said hi :)
i think there is a HUGE difference between "wounded inner child" and "traumatized child". as much as this video is informative, i don't have the impression that this difference has been mentioned. could be something for a next video!
Ur username i- *remembers the my time performance* Hey! You're really brave to tell ur family about ur problems. I can't even bring myself to ask my dad to buy me new headphones ;-; Edit : my new headphones arrived :D
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“Wounded children become wounded adults, and wounded adults can destroy themselves and possibly others.”
Thank you for sharing! Did you relate to this video? :)
And that wounded child is me-
@@Psych2go You're welcome and yeah, to some extent.
That's why I'm still single.
@@ayunisyafiahbtshamsudin3762 me too🙋
"You would rather be alone, than be abandoned" my soul cried when I heard that 🥺
Yup-
I’m living that now.
Aw man
That's literally me
That’s me too. 🥲
If a parallel universe exist, I just wished that the other me is physically and mentally healthy. She doesn’t deserved to feel what I feel.
I would either kill every other version of me and say that I’m the best version or I’d use lots of me to do my bidding. Maybe rule the world.
@Cliff edge lol, I don’t know just the way I was raised. My parents taught me power and control over everyone is the most important thing in life. Maybe I am narcissistic.
@@SelfImprovement1111 or you are a highlander.
There can be only one!
Same here.
He deserved better at just 2 years old...
"Not everyone is going to mistreat you." That sounds like something a person who wants me to become vulnerable and then mistreat me would say!
Omg😂
So true. I absolutely understand what u’r saying
Yes , I told my therapist that and they couldn’t even respond !
So true I know what you mean
Very accurate
The person with a plant on their head has experienced every single problem out there-
Lol
@@alkagaba1247 made my day
Sixty-nine likes ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Silly😂
I am the person with the plant on their head
I felt like crying because, even if this is only a video, I felt like someone finally understood me
I am so sorry! Remember healing is a process 🙏
I had a similar experience
Billie eilish new award
Same
The roughest partes, thinkingyou remembered it All, then remembering more. Those ohmygod (and not in agood est) moments of emotional lightning. Cute right through you. At least it starts to make sense, the WHY ifeel this Or that.
Me:
“ I had a good childhood so I don’t think I can relate. “
-Relates to most of the signs-
“Wait what...?”
Moooooood
it happens haha
Happened to me, too lol
Yes, just yes.
Same
@1:15 Fear of abandonment
@1:49 Inappropriate guilt
@2:22 Trust issues
@3:00 Fear of setting boundaries
@3:34 Get angry easily
@4:08 Trouble letting things go
I have a good few of those honestly, I'm not a the best place in my life but I'm working on it, and some day I will be better than I am now.
I have 5/6
Once you realize it all you need to know how to deal with it...dealing is not so hard...you just input your energy, time and emotions only at places where you get to rise up not where you are knocked down...that's the trick practice it for at least 3 months you'll start holding your subconscious consciously...that is when you'll be grateful for everything that happened to you because now you have become unshakable avoid triggers learn to ignore...everyone can speak up but it takes guts to ignore and speak impactful. That is real power.
i have 6 out of 6 and i cried when i watch through this video even the animation looks all cute
@@humaira9653 hahahaha LOL...I feel you...I had the same reaction as well...might not be so deep as yourself but yeah similar...its ok your intuitive side and many things you possess that you don't even recognize at this time are made up because of this...pain teaches its eternal truth just look for what have you learnt if you focus on what you have lost you can't smile for long and all this world needs is a smiling face a happy angel...so look into that feelings and thoughts are temporary you change your focus they change themselves learn to control your tongue and your reaction and everything will start falling into its place God gave you birth for a reason you were born for a reason trying an finding it.
Who else is a part of the Wounded Inner Child Squad? Stay strong & positive fam!
I am
😁
+1
Me.
Me.
1. 1:13 you fear abandonment
2. 1:48 you have inappropriate guilt
3. 2:20 you have trust issues
4. 2:58 you have a fear of setting boundaries
5. 3:33 you get angry easily
6. 4:07 you have trouble letting things go
Edit: thank you for those likes! I never had so many!
Thanks!
I really appreciate people that takes time to do this 😊
Thanks
Np guys :))
Sounds a Hell of a lot like my BPD.
What was said: "Not everyone is going to mistreat you."
My mind: Everyone is going to mistreat and manipulate you
Same
Yeah, I just watched a video of men who secretly record women in public so my mind can never think that there are people out there that don’t mistreat you 😂
I feel this way to. Even if u find someone everyone is going to hurt u eventually so that’s why I have a very small hand picked amount of people I trust
Yeah i can relate
SAME every time i see someone treating me a little well i'm automatically like "is this manipulation?"
I hope everyone knows that abandonment issues aren't always caused by people necessarily leaving. it could be caused by someone being there physically and never emotionally which left you trying harder to please them. that was me as a child. my parents were never there for me emotionally and i tried my hardest to please them thinking that they would completely cut off the little affection they showed me which affects to this day. i hope everyone becomes more educated on mental health issues and becomes happier.
I had that problem with my mother.
Damn bruh i needed someone else to say it to realize this is also me
shit. Someone actually put it into words.
my parents arent here for me emotionally ever, to the point where Im quite constantly being told to man it up, stop being a wuss and so on
@@moose8680 they're just invalidating your emotions... Your emotions are valid but the better u become at not reacting with emotion to things the better it'll suit u in the future
I don't understand why people think you can only have a toxic childhood because of your parents. You could also have it because of the kinds of people you surrounded yourself with which would be your friends. Your 'friends' could have abused you emotionally or mentally maybe even physically. And you shut yourself away from the rest of the world and family because of it. You became distant, anxious, maybe even depressed because of your 'friends'. So the point I'm trying to make is that it's not only your parents that can influence and introduce a toxic childhood experience for an individual, it could very well be your own 'friends'. And I say this from experience.
Ikr
This actually opened my mind a little more to what could actually cause this stuff. My mind always went to my parents and/or myself when it came to childhood damage, so thank you.
been bullied from age 5 to 16, can confirm
True.....u can have an emotionally wounded inner child because all u got in life were backstabbing "friends"
I can relate to, only I feel like my abandonment issues and wounded inner child shouldn't be what they are, because I had kind parents and friends...they just couldn't be there for me, whether it was due to friends in the summer with busy-ness or a parent with chronic illness, they weren't there as often. I feel bad, like it shouldn't be a problem that I was left alone a lot, after all, I became independent and learned how to emotionally take care of myself at a young age. But somehow, I'm still confused.
I m such a wounded child, that I'm afraid to have children of my own in case I mess them up.. Thank you mom and dad! 🤘
Exactly...
Same i feel like my own problems will hurt my kids and I don't wanna bring them into the world and hurt them
Same. I'm afraid that i can't understand my kids like my parents did to me
I feel the same way, when everytime I think myself having a family I would think myself as a terrible partner AND a mom.
Same...
*”The truth is, not everyone is going to mistreat you”*
Yes that is true, but thats the thing with trust issue. You dont know who is good and who is bad.
very true!
True, it feels everyone will mistreat u at the end and then you will have to go through same stuff again :/
That and everyone hurts someone eventually
*true*
💯
Whenever I see a kid now, even a stranger, I always wish for that kid to grow up happily and be able to endure whatever he/she will be facing in the future. If only a child's innocence and happiness can remain forever.
For real i want to be a child again but with the genius i have now so i cant be more traumatized
thanks
When you already know that there's a wounded child in you, and you don't need any signs, but you still watch the video... Yeah..
Just to watch that I'm not alone going through this..
Exactly. But in addition I wanted to know if my inner wounded child was on life support or in an urn. Since I watched this I guess it's still about here someplace. ( Checks under the couch, in the closet, in a tree...there, in a tree.) Must be on life support.
But I seriously didn't expected the video to be so accurate about my inner experience.
Yup...
You watch this video to help yourself! To find understanding within yourself and go find your own band-aid to not have a wounded child within you!
Is weird how everyone childhood is so different from one another.
R u fine?
Yeah my childhood was filled with love by my parents until my mom broke down due to stress. My parents love me but they don’t know that they’ve somewhat traumatized me. My friend had a great childhood. She made a best friend in 2nd grade and seemingly has no crazy trauma. It kinda makes me jealous but that’s how it is I guess
It is. Because everyone is different.
I never thought my family was dysfunctional at all until I saw how other people live.
@@hel2727 I am obsessed with knowing how others live and hope that whatever I tell others are normal
@@tina1061 A lot of people can probably relate to that, so there's that.
It’s quite weird to know that everybody was once a child and thought and behaved like one, and it’s even weirder to realise that some adults still do
Thanks for sharing this! It does feel weird haha. Did you find this video helpful? :)
lol
Do u kno... the worst memory last the long! And here thats the same case. Peace.
@@Psych2go whenever I read ur comments I imagine the narrators voice
Psych2Go - I did, but I didn’t mention it because it would feel egocentric. But yeah, I recognised that I have at earlier stages in my life had a wounded inner child as a result of narcissistic manipulation, but I have moved on from that and no longer identify with the person who felt that way. It’s scary to realise you don’t recognise your past selves, but I suppose that’s the point of personal development. I can see traits of this wounded inner child in other people I know, and making the connection with how I have felt in the past definitely helps me to empathise more concretely with these people. So thanks for the video, it was enlightening as always 🌻
I have all of the signs, the fear of abandonment, inappropriate guilt, trust issues, fear of setting boundaries, anger issues, and refusal to let go. I already figured that I'd apply to most of these
Same 😀
I didn’t think about it until now, but yes, I agree.
"You have trouble letting things go" yeah that’s like my main personality trait
Same
I had this one small disagreement with one of my friends in primary school, and for some reasons I think about it once a week on average. I keep thinking “if I had said this one word differently, the disagreement wouldn’t have happened. I related way to much to all of them, except I had a near perfect childhood, I have no idea why I express each symptom so strongly.
My parents would literally bully me and yell at me about this.
Same here
Jup, that's me as well. Still thinking about many past events. Still need to take revenge on my 'father'.
Anyone else feel like they’re relating to a lot of these videos but have no idea what to do about it because you don’t know what caused it in the first place?
This is EXACTLY what I was thinking just now
I felt like that at first but talking a lot with a friend, a professional or to myself (maybe through a notebook) about what comes randomly to my mind, my feelings or my past really helped me, it's a bit confusing and blurry at the beginning, you're probably trying to burry it as a defense mechanism that helped you survive then... it takes a lot of time, it's a slow process, but you can start slowly by expressing what's burried :) I also search for a lot of advice on healthline and psychologytoday, I just search things like: "what to do to heal childhood trauma?" and so on...
you can do it! much love and luck for your path of healing!
@@annaturquoise7114 do some deep spiritual work and some inner child work. 🙏
@@J_L_A thank u
@@carleflores9065 it sound so scarry to find out what's burried in myself. It must be so terrible that it causes me to be like this... Thinking about this make me want to cry...
I really love the art of this one.
The characters are so adorable and it fits the theme of the video
Me too despite it making me cry lol
+1
me too ! i wasn’t able to find her online anywhere though
Same! Its so cute :D
I've got a lot of trauma from my childhood. I vowed when I became a parent, that I would not be like, or treat my children the way my parents did with me. I have 3 wonderful children who I love unconditionally. I've had therapy for trauma bonds that I had, and I'm stronger and happier because of it.
i'm really really happy and proud of you!!
Often, when I’m not feeling okay or having an episode, I really do feel like my inner child takes over. Like I’m 6 again, crying alone. And then I feel pathetic. I feel like I haven’t grown up. I’m 26. I know I have a lot of unresolved traumatic experiences from childhood. This video makes me feel seen. Thank you.
crying alone doesn't make you pathetic or immature
I hope you find bodywork to heal the trauma as well as therapy. I didn't go for therapy when I was 26 and I really should have. Same for acupuncture, and dance movement therapy and other trauma release things. We all will clear the trauma that is stuck, and rewire our brains. Promise. Look up Bruce Lipton's work
I always thought I had the best childhood anyone could ask for, and the possibility of having a wounded inner child seemed so far fetched to me. But when I realized I am a people pleaser, don't feel safe showing weakness infront of others and am not able to set boundaries without feeling guilty, I got the feeling something may be wrong with my inner child. Somehow this realization created a rush of negaitve emotions like helplessness and sadness, and I felt really small and weak for crying like a baby in my bed. I haven't been to therapy so this is not confirmed by a professional, but I think that when we feel like we're 6 years old again, small and pathetic, it's just that inner child expressing itself, and that is ok! I like to think that there is a grown up version of me that goes to work, does chores, keeps my apartment clean and all of that, and then there is the child version that likes plushies, storys of dragons and fairies, and cute animals. And my grown up version just needs to take care of my child version so both feel safe and acknowledged. Again, this is not anything I heard from a professional but maybe next time you feel like 6 year old you, you can try and let it happen and take care of yourself the way you need it in that moment. And remember you are not pathetic or weak for crying, and you are not the only one who feels like this. :)
@@the_whale_9583 I like this. Reminds me of the quote, “be the adult you needed as a child.” :) I’m definitely a much better adult rather than when I was a child. We’re growing up well and taking care of the wounded children we were.
Crying is never pathetic. The more u think that the more hurt u will feel. I have to learn this lesson the hard way cause I have been told so many times that crying is pathetic. Be ur self. God made crying for a reason so u can let ur emotions out.
"Make peace with your past-self, aka: your inner child." - Psych2Go
How?
It is dead.
I'm trying but l can't never thought what l did in the past would kill me now l regret doing it... I did something so embarrassing in front of my loved ones family, and can't forget it. So awkward and awful 😭😭😭😭😭💔 now the shame is killing me
This hurts my heart. I've been a wounded child and that affected every aspect of my life. My inabilities to speak up and trust my judgement and make authoritive decisions make so much sense. What's difficult is knowing how emotionally stunted both parents are. Tried sharing my feelings once, it backfired horribly. They yelled a lot, and there was no reasoning or seeing that I was calm and not angry. I don't want to blame them for everything, as they were young and did the best they knew. We had love, but also outdated emotionally constipated traditions that suppressed us; anger was a sign of disrespect. It sucks, I have to go on knowing they'll never understand the damage I'm trying to unravel as an adult. And it's difficult. They love me and mean well, but they may never truly KNOW me 💔
@Chloe Archibald ❤️❤️
same 😔. And I'm only 13, long way ahead....not only my mom is toxic, my brother too. He is the most selfish person I have ever seen. And he fights A LOT with my mom(like many times a day). He held a knife and make death treat to me. My mom tries to control me on EVERYTHING, she never respect me. And she doesn't treat me as a person, instead, her possession. She wants me to give her A LOT of money when i grew up. And She scolds me and attack me for everything I did. I'm stuck with them every day. My father lives in another country. he escape our family long ago, but leaving me here alone 😔. Sometimes I don't think I can go on.
I know what you mean I feel like that too.
Hugs.
I speak up to my parents about my feelings when i was 17 and they never, not even once trying to understand me. Since that time, i never expecting anything from them. Lately i realise I changed a lot. I'm getting angry so easily, i don't want to meet my family in occasion. And now they wonder why i'm being like this. After thinking about this, i realise that i changed from that day, because of them. They hurt me so bad when i was 17 and it changed my life.
I didn’t realise just how much of a mess I am until this past year. I retire this year and although I knew I was damaged, I didn’t realise just how much.
One thing I can honestly say I am proud of is that my children have not been damaged. They tell me I was a great mum.
I knew from very young that I would never hit, shout , abuse, or neglect, physically or emotionally. . My kids knew how much they were loved and still do.
That's good
"Holding on to a time when your needs weren't met."
So THAT'S why I felt angry growing up. I'm beginning to understand.
@Chloe Archibald I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you've begun your journey to healing.
@Chloe Archibald :(
OMG IK IM 7 MONTHS LATE, BUT UHM- YOU JUST HELPED ME FIGURE OUT WHY I HAVE A WOUNDED CHILD.
I'm so angry all the time because when i was younger no one understood my mental health. not my anxiety, not my adhd, not my insomina they just kept saying to me "i don't get it, why are you upset?"
I looked at my black and white picture when I was 3 years old: all sad and confused. I instantly fell compassion towards myself, took the picture and was holding to my heart saying: "From today, I will never ever neglect you or abandon you. I will always love you and make sure, you will receive self-care regularly." 💗
Emily that’s beautiful 💕 xxx
This happened to me to - I saw a pic of my brother & me when we were little & I cried for them & could not understand why anyone would want to treat them like garbage.
beautiful message
That’s so awesome Emily....and just think when u become a child of God, he writes u r name on the palm of his hand!
@@angelinebaekhave2326 Praise God. Stop lying. Everyone is a child of God. Praise God.
Anytime I showed anger towards any of my family, I was made to feel guilty about it and now whenever I feel angry, I feel guilty about it and somehow making it my fault that I'm angry. I don't know what this means
Chances r ur family still wants to abuse u. I'm no professional, so take it with a grain of salt. Regardless, you have every right to be angry or have bad days just as much as anyone else. Anyone who says otherwise is a lair, blood-related or not.
*sigh* I run into this constantly when I call/visit my parents, I am so close to cutting ties with them. I want them in my life but I can't stand the negativity they make me feel.
@@kristingoldtooth2294 You might need to go no contact in order to truly and rightly heal.
Rather than taking 2 steps forward, and 5 steps back during those visits.
You might end up never registering any real progress.
Love and light 💡 ♥
Same is my situation bro.. I feel the same
Same here
I will always carry the trauma of my childhood with me and it still upsets me whenever I think about all the mistreatment I endured.
wanna talk ab it?
@@userm180 i have professionals who i talk to, thank you for asking though ❤️
@@Demureli alrightt :)
I feel guilt at least once a day,
For no reason, I don’t know why, but every little thing
Yes same. Like I'm literally struggling right now with something I said earlier today. It honestly makes interacting with people difficult since I know I'll feel horrible for at least 2 days after.
Chloe Archibald
Relatable 😊
Yeah, it's honestly so easy for us to trick ourselves into thinking that we're the bad guys but once in a while, we need to let go of that thought because we actually aren't.
It's all in our brains, in my case, overthinking was the root cause of me guilt tripping myself.
So I found what makes me overthink and I avoid those triggers at all costs. Try to find out the root cause and avoid its triggers.
Have an awesome day!
S G
Thank you!!
That was really meaningful and will probably help me!
Have a nice day too! And I hope that your having a great life! :D
Me too the same
”The truth is, not everyone is going to mistreat you”
yeeeeeeah, no, i am sick of opening up to people only to get mistreated
I am with you... :(
Same
I’m a close book now.
it may not be everyone, but it's a darn high ratio :,\
Same
I’m here to watch this video as a:
“Am I a wounded inner child”
Lmao same
Let us know how many signs did you relate to!
@@Psych2go i... Relate to 3 or more signs...
That is surprisingly accurate
Psych2Go I’m all of the signs
When you know that you had a bad childhood but you can't remember it
I know that I have a lot of trauma, but the problem is that I can't remember it so I can't move past it. I have such a hard time saying "No" to things because I feel like I have to do that thing that someone asked me if I could do it or not, even if it is a *massive* inconvenience for me.
@@shogunbirds6589 I have found a sort of peace with mine even though the cause of my bad childhood is still in my life I hope that you can find some type of peace just remember that it may came sooner or later but does get better
That means trauma
@@thebrotasticbro9465 yea I know
And lucky for me I don't have to deal with the person who cause it anymore and he might be going to jail
@@Theimaginativepan good! Prayers for you as you heal! Proud of u
Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kidergarten. Then when you hit puberty they take te crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on agebra, history, ect. Being suddenly hit years later with the 'creative bug' is just a wee voice telling you, 'I'd like my crayons back, please.
Same here depression since puberty hey stay strong bro we are here. share stuff , shout out loud and let's get out of this 👍
Or a box of Legos. Then people start telling you that Legos don't do anything for you and won't get you anywhere, and before you know it, those same people don't have jobs, you're an engineer, and they wonder why you don't want to spend time with them anymore.
@@BattlesuitExcalibur absolutely stole the words
I got in trouble for melting crayons on the radiator.
@@rollzolo whhhhhhhhhhhatttttttttt???😨😱
Damn my inner child wasn't wounded, It was murdered D: . I am working on moving forward tho.
Same here
5 out of 6. Mine too.
Same
Same bruh
Godric Leogrant relatable
Dear mother,
Memories of childhood are beginning to fade. But I remember beautiful laughter, the wet grass , and the ladybugs we’d catch and play with together. I thought I was on top of the world, even after the abuse. I would forget the marks you left on me , at moments like those. The memories of you screaming , hands around my throat become clear on days my mind is a mess. The cries of my younger brother still haunt me . But when it pours , your cries and screams fade into the background and then I am young again. You hold me close to you, so close I can hear your heart beating. Your scent makes me feel at home. And it pours and pours , and the image of your hair on fire and shattered glass on the floor blend with the beautiful memories, until my mind becomes hazy and I am unable to think straight. It becomes so blurry that I can’t distinguish between the good and bad memories. It continues to pour .
I still remember how I would imagine myself in a complete different family, with a present father, loving siblings and a mother who’d cook a delicious meal, especially on days you’d scream and shout , threaten to leave or kill yourself. Why would you expect so much from a seven year old ? It makes me ache , and I wake up in pain in the middle of the night, embracing myself. The memories won’t leave me alone .
It pours and it pours
It simply won’t stop pouring.
Omg that made me tear up
I wish I could share a hug with you, my mother has been through so much and projected her emotions towards me and my siblings that I to this day am terrified of opening up. I never tried it, not as a child nor as an adult. She's sick currently and I get texts from my sister saying that I should try to talk to her. I love her so much but I am so hesitant, I cry myself to sleep every now and then. Every conversation goes south with her, I choose not to let my anger consume me, so I just keep thinking until my thoughts settle down eventually. I wish that I had a happy family... But all I get is how much of an unworthy loser I am.
Thank you for sharing this, I hope you can find peace and happiness
This hurts so badly .
@@anupreetiboro1352 I am experiencing the same thing as well..I'd jus like to let you know that it's okay to love her from a distance. She's your Mother, yes, but she's also an adult who needs to take care of her herself and actually be an adult. Idk about you, buh my mom would abuse me and then excuse herself by blaming everyone who used to abuse her. What she did to you is not your fault and you deserve to be happy, with or without your mom. I'm sorry if that was out of line..I jus thought I should let you know. You're so much more than someone's daughter. Don't go back if you know she's gonna continue to hurt you. You can't heal if you keep going back...The burn won't heal if you keep touching the stove.
I'm still a kid, but everyone either says I'm too mature, so I sometimes act more childish and almost basically regress and cry a lot at night when no one's watching. Then my mother says I'm too childish. When I used to sleep with my mom, when I cried, the next morning she'd berate me for it.
To anyone out there experiencing similar feelings, please hold on! I hope your situation gets better soon :0)
yes! I often cry like a child ( literally crying out loud, in my pillow. I think my inner child feels terrible pain! and I have no idea how to read it and south it) I also understand 'other' children, ( I am an adult now but I still feel children's feelings, and it hurts my heart to see parents who do not understand their children's behaviours and cries!! child psychology is everywhere and for free for heaven's sake!! just today, their was this family of five: the parents, a boy of about 9or 10 Yo, and a little girl probably half that age, and a baby todler! the little 5 year old girl was playing on here own but couldn't stop crying the mother was playing witht he older brother and father was holding the todler! the little one who was crying was obviously feeling lonely, and unheard! she feels jealousy from as the her little sister took all her parents' attention and feels lonely because her big brother doesn't play with her and demands 'loudly' the attention of his mother ! but the mother literally didn't seem to understand that! the little girl told me that her brother often hits her! I looked at the mother and she didn"t look annoyed or anything! its tough to be a kid frankly!! I had to play with her for a while untill she smiled again and then she wanted to play on her own again , then I said goodby and went away! )!
@@narimafanficfan People honestly need to try to pay attention to kids’ mental health.
I always got spanked for messy room, not finishing food, yelled at everyday if I wasn't 100%. Anyone else parents keep you at table till plate was finished but most times ended up barfing, I've always been a tiny person, I can't fit that much! I never threw a tantrum, I wasn't spoiled, I was over disciplined.
you're not alone!
When I was born I didn't want to drink milk(any kind of milk.) I was the runt in our family, so I was small for my age also. I know what you are saying about having to finish everything on your plate. My mom thought it was psychological that I didn't want to eat but I couldn't eat all that food either. I would throw up too but she said it was just me not wanting to eat. It's too bad adults don't listen to children and children can't completely explain themselves fully.
Basically I wanted to say I completely understand what you're saying, I just don't know how to express myself properly. Unfortunately that "not eating thing" has stayed with me because I believe it's medical and not mental.
Omg THIS was my childhood. So many nights falling asleep at dinner table because wasn’t allowed to leave before finishing. I simply couldn’t fit it into my belly lol. And yes, had the belt like pretty much everyday and not allowed to leave room until tidied. So I used to spend days locked in there, because even if I tried it was never good enough. I never force feed or pressure my son into eating anything, to ensure he has a healthy relationship with food and his body when he grows up. I also make tidying up toys a really fun thing. If only my parents had the same basic understanding of this whilst raising us.
Me too. Was horrible
Yep, I had to stay at the table until I ate my peas. Peas made me gag. There was way too much yelling in my childhood.
i’ve always been weirdly attached to things from my childhood, it feels like someone took my innocence and safety away but i dont remember having any sort of traumatic experience, but having all the symptoms in this video do be making me cry
Pfft, i remember every single traumatic event that I ever experienced in my childhood...I remember every god damn second..And those god damn second lead me to this
Socially anxious, skin picking dosorder, untreated depression and self hate...And I still cant get over them and I still stay awake at night because of them...I sometimes randomly cry because of them...I sometimes ounch myself at night too!!
It could've been so traumatic that your brain erased it from your memory to protect you.
@@ghostofthemoon our brain can do that??? can u please explain it 👉👈
@@hithere.7842 www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/12/161209081154.htm this is one of the better explaining sources that I can find
@@ghostofthemoon thank you!
Hope who ever sees this has a good day 💕
Thanks!💖💜 you too
Thank you❤ I hope you have a good day too💕
and to you
Aww thanks :)
Thank you, you too 😊💕
spending time comforting my inner child and speaking with her is such a wholesome thing. and the fact is, i’m still very much a child. i have so much more to learn. i don’t need to rush anything. it’s okay to live in the present moment.
My inner child is definitely hurting still. I’m still trying to unpack my childhood trauma and realizing how bad things really were. I was hurt, lied to, mistreated, shamed, grieving and abandoned at 12. I’m still carrying the weight of it 2 decades later. Nothing was truly resolved and I never knew how to cope and move on. I really want to move on emotionally 😔
heyy, its been a year. how's it going?
my parents divorced when i was around 3 or younger and not being able to legally be with my mum until 6
I hope life has been a little kinder to you Toni.
Do Hooponopo prayer it's a healing prayer 🙏
Sorry. There are wounds that can never heal. I learned that when I had a session with a psychologist. She dug up mental and emotional traumas long forgotten and buried. I was unable to sleep that night. I later told her my problems cannot be resolved. I just have to make the best of my life as well as I can. My injuries are not inner factors, but caused by external forces I cannot control.
I just realized how many things I supressed from my childhood up to my adulthood. What's sad is that, I have lost so many people that could've been life-long friends of mine but pushed them away...
aww *hugs*
Exactly!!
Wishing you a beautiful healthy healing ✨❤️
i'm sorry ab that :(( it's not too late tho, you can still make good friends :)
Omg! The animation in it is even more cute and beautiful. As, it's a child with a leaf on his head 🥺💜
Yes! We have to accept ourselves to heal 💪🏼❤️
Thank you for watching! We agree the animation is so cute!
@@Psych2go Oh, tysm for replying 🖤 lots of love to whole team.
I always new my parents were "less than ideal," but the fact that they were able to make every mistake in the book is quite impressive.
“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Yea yea yea 🙄
I agree, but it's so difficult sometimes. I have flashbacks to my child hood all the time, the feeling of desolation is so strong. It is a constant battle..so tired..
When it said "do your parents blame you a lot as a child?"
I can't hold tears back
Majority of us are battling with some sort of childhood trauma 😞
It sucks
Well something has to keep big pharma and psych majors paid.
It’s so hard. 😭
To everyone doubting the facts: i am actually diagnosed with childhood trauma and i have a wounded child inside of me for sure. And all of these traits apply on me. Remember that it's okay to seek help if you need to! You are worthy of happiness 💞
hoping you're doing well
@@userm180 pretty random now but i'm actually better since i moved out haha hope you are okay
@@Mivo-oh6ux happy for you!!
I couldn't read that without saying "It's not" okay to help if you need to.. I know that's not what you said it just took me 3-4 tries before I could read it without the it's not
No I am not worthy
''Sometimes your mind is the biggest enemy withing yourself''
Yes
Always
1984?
Omg can we just appreciate the art for a moment.. it’s sooo cuteee!!
Every time I’ve ever caught feelings for someone their “inner child” vibe is the same as friends I had when I was little but I don’t realize until later on
Took a min for my brain to process that 😂 but I also can relate
Wow 😮 that’s cool
Actually when I was young I just got pushed around because I was small and smart and didn’t have boundaries 😔
Wanna Die wanna die but don’t really wanna die I didn’t have very many friends growing up maybe that’s why I’m so damn picky 😂
V's "Inner child" is so realistic masterpiece that is based on real life experience. It's like a psychological treatment.
Ps : for the ones who never heard of.
That's where I started - and ended up here. His personality has changed and he has matuted but some people assume that he's depressed even tho we know nothing about his mental health. And thinking about it - maybe his inner child might be hurt or "scared" because of being criticized at a young age.
@@blotart5617 yeah, and he made up with his inner child. It was like he was encouraging and consoling it and also himself. He was like making up between his past and future.
@@BlackWhite-lc3tz yes, exactly and it might be his way of healing.
i was really worried about him and i didnt knew what to do anymore . thats when inner child was came out and i was speechless . i was going through the same thing and i didnt knew how to react.....but i understood his situation prefectly..................
What are y'all talking about?
I believe the saying goes: "im in this video and i dont like it"
Psych2go loves reading my mind... I was just thinking about my inner child
Same here dude. I’ve been reflecting on my past a lot too.
Yeah, we’re all connected on a subconscious level. Lots of us think about the same major things at the same time regardless of what our life looks like or even if we know others who are thinking about the same stuff. It’s pretty cool.
Jack Smothers I feel like that would be a good topic for a future Psych2Go video.
That's good to know! How many signs did you resonate with?
@@Psych2go woah thank you for the reply this is the first time I got a reply from any creator 💜
you're voice is so calming and relaxing tbh
I had a childhood issue that I always saw as something rather silly and unimportant, but as I've grown up I'm slowly realizing that it actually affected me a lot more than I could have guessed.
It felt like, "finally, someone understood's me" and I'm crying real hard.
My inner wounded child rn be like
Why do u need to expose me like that huh
ARMY 💜✊🏼
@@tired607 Army 💜
ARMY 💜
My inner child isn't dead...
it's bleeding out on the floor, begging to be put out of its misery.
*cries*
I wish I could erase most of my memories from 3 - 18.
There is nothing u get by thinking of your past life is like a book u need to take next page to see what is waiting there for u close your first page just think how would it be if u die tommorrow how would you live?
hardcore goth
@@cristopher7019 Respectfully, meat stack of blood and bones, you wouldn't live because you would be dead
"you would rather be alone than be abandoned"
"the truth is, not everyone is going to mistreat you"
I...was not expecting that to hit so hard.
Why is her voice so peaceful and calming? It’s beautiful.
i can relate to this a lot 🥺
i hope everyone can find peace, & this is a very cute animation style 🤍
I'm glad to hear this video has helped you. Thank you for watching!
Me after watching this video
" I am not the only one suffering "
Thankyou pysch2go for making us feel that there is someone who can understand us .
hoping you're ok
i cried my eyes out as this video began. i’m already quite emotionally vulnerable right now due to my current circumstances but when she went through the video i realized i fit each criteria and cried even harder
She’s got such a soft voice that I feel an urge to meet her
After every time i watch psych2go. I tell myself...
"I need to see a doctor"
You are not the only one
Yeah same,i maybe young but i know i needed one.
*cry laughs in american with crap insurance* Man I wish I could get help.
Same 😔
My advice to you, if you decide to see a doctor. Ask the doctor/therapist whether their practise, is based on an holistic approach to mental wellbeing, such as transpersonal psychology. That can truly make a big difference, in how you feel afterwards (how you feel with yourself) after the consultation.
Besides the obvious importancy of feeling comfortable, at an consultation with a therapist. I would personally always choose the therapist who work from a viewpoint of transpersonal psychology.
"Avenge me." 🤣😂 The art style and sense of humor in this video added so much comfort to a weighty topic--great job, everyone!
This is one of those videos where I can't believe how seen I feel, and yet it hurts so much to feel exposed like this. I almost want to send this to some of my friends and say "look, this is me, please be patient." Thanks Psych2Go!
I have an inner child.
His name is Indy and hes super cute but when he comes out I cant drive or cook.
LMAO
Sounds like DID
You might be a little. Look into ddlg/mdlb
Mitchell Saxon that went 0-100 real quick
U look cute👦😘👦
... who else’s wounded inner child has become an independent spirit
That's right. I dont *fear* abandonment - I know that people are most likely to leave me one day and I've learned to be ok with it. I don't have innapropriate guit because my parents had been trying to guit trip me until it stopped working. I don't have trust issues, not because I trust people but because I trust *myself* in knowing that I can get through any kind of betrayal, so I'm not afraid to risk it. I had to learn to set boundaries or otherwise I'd be destroyed. I do have the last two though, but 2/6 isn't that bad, is it?
@@Diane_666 u did great by learning and polishing up your personality, this is how a wounded person should do.
@@Diane_666 I wish to learn what you have learnt and stay strong!!
I did. However, inter-dependence is more appropriate than independence. No one is fully independent, it is just an ilusion. Yes, I am a free spirit now.
Damnn👌🏻💪🏻
My inner child was destroyed since I was younger then two.
1: I *know* they'll all leave me one day. Everyone does. And yeah, being alone means no one can hurt me, it gives me a sense of security.
2: I feel guilty everyday.
3: I cried.
4:Yeah. I can't say no. I can't even tell someone I don't wanr to be their friend, even when they're toxic..
5:...
6: I shouldn't let it go. My father is seeing us. And I know what he did. I have to forget when we meet up with him. But he abused us. He gave me PTSD. I can't let that go.
So was mine, but you’ve probably been through.
You never have to forgive him. Cut him out of your life and just thrive. They absolutely hate that. You are not alone.
@Heliah Stuurman child abusers do not deserve forgiveness under any circumstance. To forgive an abuser is to submit to an abuser. Forgiving your abuser is not ever necessary. The thought of feeling like you have to forgive them no matter what is one of the many things that gets in the way of healing from abuse. To forgive them is to say it is okay with you what they put you through.
@Heliah Stuurman You just need to find a sliver of empathy for your abuser to move on. To forgive is to trap yourself beneath them, right where they want you. Empathy and the act of forgiveness are 2 different things. Please stop telling people that they have to forgive their abusers. Forgiveness is only for people who make a mistake once or twice maybe. If they attempt to make amends and change themselves and grow as a person, then yeah forgiveness is alright. Child abusers are serial offenders that will never to be able to make any sort of amends. Abusive people always preach that forgiveness is the only way. Now why do you suppose that is?
"you would rather be alone than be abandoned"
my mind taking things out of context "friends dont need me i disappoint them🤡"
me: "what?"
my mind: "what?"
**silently laughs in loneliness**
Same zhebdhebushs
People think growing up and getting matured heals the childhood inner wounds...but they don't know we live with a wounded heart for the rest of our lives,the space is empty and remains empty forever.We as a child had been damaged forever and yes it impacts all relationships.
I wish it could be that easy to heal emotional wounds, but it's definitely not.
@@lunamoth7044 true 😭
"does your parents blame you alot as a child?"
Me: no but my classmates did
Same
Same af
Same
Same. And to make matters worse teachers did too.
My classmates and my father.
You guys should make a show with this animation style to teach psychology.
The Inner Child stayed with me into my 60 yrs of life.
I have experienced situations where I wanted to be able to truthfully express myself as a child /adult.
In the adult's world of easy transition from child to adults norms...the adult with inner child issues will be seen as an outsider .
I've been bringing out my inner child for a couple of years now. As i couldn't have a proper childhood, i had to pretty much grow up straight away. If i was going to survive , i basically had to trained my thoughts/brain process into an adult. I'm 47yrs old & i enjoy my time with my inner child now.
happy for you!!
Each and every one of these described me so well I started to get angry... and then angering easily was another sign. I need to think about this...
3:34 I start too cry if I get angry, and get angry really easily, it's really just becoming a problem,
Same. But when I get angry I can start getting physical. And i’m honestly scared of myself, because if I keep this up i could wind up in jail. But my sister purposely makes me mad, because she thinks it’s funny. It won’t be funny once i end up breaking her arm. I bet that day is bound to come.
I've been wounded so badly that I have anxiety, depression, a wounded inner child, and a badly wounded heart, and I'm also, broken, mentally breaking down, and i bottle up my emotions, and all I truly want is just a friend, yet I can't even accomplish that.
The older I get, the more I want a personal oasis of peace and quiet that no one can disturb..how? Simple. I go visit them..they don't visit me.. that's how I want it.
How do you find that inner peace when you’re stressed out
I'm still a wounded child. Inside and outside. I'm 14.
The video made me tear up
Now 15 and it got even worse
I hope you're getting help. Ask an adult who you feel you can trust to find professional help for you. You are important!!
Me too
Inside I'm still the battered 3 y-o, living in fear of his worst enemy, my own father. (The brute's been dead for nearly 60 years---but the damage was done). One of several reasons I never wanted kids, lest they turn out like me. Childhood abuse is now considered a form of PTSD, having many of the same long-term effects.
Same pal
You're not alone
Never replace this dude with plant on his head to someone else 😢💕
My inner child is so traumatized to this day.
So much so that while writing this I can't open up my feelings as I wish I could.I can't hold friendships,I am alone.
Trauma of anything is crippleing,All consuming,like being in a dark hole forever.
When you radically accept yourself, much greatness will come your way ❤️🌟
Wouter, how and where do I begin to except my self in a radical way?
Oh geez, I can perfectly relate to all the 6 signs-
(especially with the 1st and 6th ones oof)
Also on a totally unrelated note, I really love the art style! It looks super cute and simple and gives off this aesthetic and I love the coloring and effort put into the entire video!
Considering that I fit all the said signs, my inner child isn’t wounded. They’re on the brink of death.
Same
“You would rather be alone than be abandoned.”
Maybe THAT’S why I can’t keep friends.
Never thought, someone can describe all of my thoughts and fears that much clearly ..
Instead of being hurt, abandoned, rejected or blamed by others, it's more comfortable to do it by yourself... At least in the end, it'll hurt us less and may be we'll feel a little happy as well.
My mother can say mean things when she is mad, so I see myself as a mistake and I think I bring problems to them.
You are not a mistake
nobody same
same
The mean things your mother says is not a reflection of who you are, only a reflection of the pain and hurt her own inner child carries. That she projects toward you cause she does not know how to heal it.
My mom says that she will kill me one day she said that she would poison my food but Idk why I still eat the food without even worrying that she might have poison it (She is mostly angry so yeah)
Hehe... watching this with Multiple Personalities. I literally have an inner child, her name is Emily. And she is very wounded.
Well I hope Emily has a marvelous day! She deserves all the hugs and love in the world!! *gives hugs*
I give her virtual hug
@@cyn_0987 Aw, thank you! She says she hopes you have an even *more* wonderful day! 💖💖
@@cyn_0987 I read "hugs" as "lungs" at first and was so confused lol
@@steele_heart77 I used to have an imaginary friend named Emily and she was the sweetest person ever
But now I have a real-life best friend who's basically the same as her so Emily is gone, I made a scenario where she went to see her sick grandfather back in the UK and never returned
Anyway tell your Emily that I said hi :)
Fear of abandonment: only came to terms with it around 10 years ago. Thanks to the life circumstances. 🙏🙏🙏
To the person reading this. May you have beautiful life ❣️😍
YOU TOO!
Same to you
You as well!
Same to you🥰
i think there is a HUGE difference between "wounded inner child" and "traumatized child". as much as this video is informative, i don't have the impression that this difference has been mentioned. could be something for a next video!
All i Need is to embrace and love my wounded inner child unconditionally.
Me: I have a wounded inner child.
My mum: What do you mean wounded?!
I am not going to ever tell my family about how severe my ptsd is
Do it for your own good
Ur username i-
*remembers the my time performance*
Hey! You're really brave to tell ur family about ur problems. I can't even bring myself to ask my dad to buy me new headphones ;-;
Edit : my new headphones arrived :D
@@thunder_heads family would probably say : tHaTs YoUr VaULt !!!