Thankyou, yes I've found my happiness :) The best thing is to push all the negativity away and to stay positive. Then you will learn new positive people someday. That's my experience :)
Nah bro mom doesn't give a s**t about my emotions that's why I watch how to be mature when you grow up and what to do as an adult i also but not always make noose ropes alot of them are just hanging in my room and I intentionally agitate my cat in order to scratch me in my arm (the cat is vaccinated) to cause scratches so it's not considered self harm and some good excuse to tell my mom
@Bacon Bandito Both are harmful. What is your intention in coming on this channel and being negative, invalidating people's feelings and illnesses, and just being a garbage human being? Seriously, why?
@Bacon Bandito I don't think it was saying that it should be taken more seriously than other forms of abuse, but it should be taken more seriously than it currently is.
As a survivor of post traumatic depression, sexual assault , depression , adhd and a survivor of emotional abuse...i love this chanel for what its doing my favourite chanel ...and it just so wow ...i respect this chanel so much ❤
Summary: 1. They are overly critical of you. 2. They intentionally humiliate you. 3. They purposefully intimidate you. 4. They mean to isolate you. 5. They are rejecting of you. 6. They want to exploit you. 7. They have a harmful level of control over you. Still watch the video for more details! ❤
@@fantastic_fern9135 If the situation meets all the criteria lf gaslighting then it's more than annoying. It's toxic. I mean over time people under such toxicity lose confidence in themselves and doubt and question themselves on every occasion.
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas I tend to doubt and question myself when I’m around my dad, but it isn’t too bad because I only go to visit him every other weekend and on Thursdays
It’s even worse when you as a victim have OCD. Once I start to question if what he’s doing really is emotional abuse, I can’t stop over analyzing the situation. It gives me anxiety and makes me feel like I don’t even want to think about it, which again makes me feel stuck in my own pain. Anyone else?
I would think what he was doing was just my OCD unwanted thoughts and when I confronted him about things that made me question his commitment to me he said its just my OCD and to think rationally. He broke up with me 2 days after saying its my OCD thoughts and he's gonna marry me.
More signs of emotional abuse: They try to make you feel less or inferior to them They try to purposefully lower your self esteem They pin the blame for everything on you and others If you ever get mad at them they try to make you believe you’re only upset because of something else that happened to you and now you’re taking it out on them for no reason When you bring up anything they’ve done wrong to you, they’ll say that they feel attacked or hurt They never back up what they say with their actions (if they say they care about you and the next day they completely ignore you) They talk to other people about you in a negative way (maybe sometimes even when you’re there) If you have a mental illness/disorder/disability they will try to use that against you, or if you don't they might accuse you of having one They repeatedly start talking about a conflict even after it was already resolved in order to spark it up again They will lecture you for hours on end when you did nothing wrong They point out any mistake you make and criticize you harshly for it They compare you to other people They act like they’re trying to be understanding when really they’re just attacking you They try to make you feel like you’re crazy (gaslighting) When you’re around them you have a feeling of anxiety but you don’t understand why One second you can be having a great time with them and suddenly they get angry at you out of nowhere They accuse you of things you never did (this could very likely be projection) They will never let you forget anything you did wrong, even bringing up a small mistake you made years ago When you get angry they convince you that they’ve done nothing wrong and they make you think there’s something wrong with you because you got angry They never admit they were wrong unless it’s in a way that benefits them They’re highly hypocritical If they apologize, they don’t apologize for what they did Ex: “I’m sorry you were mad” or “I’m sorry I used the word asshole” (instead of apologizing for calling you an asshole or apologizing for making you mad) They belittle you They’re unpredictable They act like they’re just trying to help when in reality they’re hurting you They try to convince you there’s something wrong with you They cross your boundaries with full knowledge of what they are doing and do not care about what they’ve done They will do things even after you’ve clearly told them no multiple times When they lose control over you it makes them lose. their. freaking. mind. It literally drives them insane They’re paranoid They will use your words against you They are inconsistent with how they act towards you, one day they might give you so much attention that you wish they would go away and the next they will completely ignore you for no reason (I might have accidentally said some twice with a slightly different wording, if I did, please let me know. I also know a bunch more signs of emotional abuse but there are way too many to list, so I might just add a few more later. Also, a lot of these might be manipulation and not abuse, but they’re pretty much the same thing) If you’re wondering how I know so many signs of abuse, I’ll tell you. I have experienced all of this firsthand through my father. My dad is emotionally and mentally abusive to me and my siblings. He was diagnosed with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and I honestly believe he has antisocial personality disorder (more commonly known as sociopathy.) All he cares about is control and when he loses control he loses his mind (he even went so far as to throw a rock through my moms window because he was so angry). My dad has caused me to have multiple panic attacks and I just don’t know what to do about him. I have to visit him every other weekend and in Thursdays and my mom is trying to figure it out so that I don’t have to anymore, but for now I just have to wait until I’m 18. I’m just venting right now, so I understand if you don’t care, but talking about it helps, so if you read all this, thanks, I guess
Sending you warm thoughts and well wishes. I am in tears reading through these and can relate. You are strong and brave and seem to have a lot of knowledge on this and thank goodness you can see that it's NOT you that is the problem. You have so much freedom waiting on you on the other side of this. Keep persevering and remember there is so much support out there if you need it in the meantime until you turn 18. People want to help so please remember that when thinking about whether to reach out to them or not. Take care and KEEP BEING YOU.
I go through the same thing with my dad. Out of nowhere, he blames me for things I haven't done. He yells at me, curses at me, and calls me mean names. I just want it to stop. I don't know if its ever going to go away. He is very rude and always yells at me for almost no reason. I just hope I don't have to see his face again and I will go away from him for the rest of my life.
I'm going through the same thing, only my dads never been diagnosed because hes convinced nothing is wrong. Hes put my siblings and I through so much pain and anger and we're all really sick of it. I avoid him when hes in the house and sometimes go days without talking to him. I really feel for you, and I hope things get better for the both of us and anyone else who can relate💜
@@hauntedbabydoll2005 yeah, I also usually avoid my dad. It was also really hard to get him diagnosed, he wouldn't have gotten diagnosed at all if the courts didn't order he talk to a psychiatrist, and even then it took over a year for him to get diagnosed because he wouldn't stop lying. It's hard dealing with someone like that, and I hope that things will get better for both of us soon
I watched the movie again recently. Aside from the abuse and the trauma, I feel like Charlie's dilemma (and Sam's, for that matter) is largely universal. So many of us are afraid to accept love, especially from ourselves, because we think we're not worthy of it. We settle for loneliness and anguish because we believe that's the best we can hope for. And some of us go to the extreme of disregarding our own needs to satisfy others because we can't realistically imagine someone giving us genuine compassion. Some people struggle with this more than others, but I don't think anyone is really safe from the pain of fear that Charlie exemplifies. We all fight the same war, just in different ways. And sometimes, we have to help each other fight. That's life, it seems. But after we fall, what shall be said for us? What stories shall be told of our efforts? I do not know. All I can say now is that this war alone does not define any one of us. We are not soldiers doomed to fight for eternity. We are not a sad story. *We are alive. We are infinite.*
Signs of emotional abuse seem unconfident or lack self-assurance. struggle to control their emotions. have difficulty making or maintaining relationships. act in a way that's inappropriate for their age.
When i was in grade 8 i was emotionally abused by my teacher she gave me severe anxiety and depression and i still have it to this day years and years later. My anxiety and depression has gotten a little bit better over the years but it's always going to still be lingering behind me. most likely for the rest of my life. Anyone out there suffering with any kind of mental illness depression and anxiety You Are Not alone in this battle. I know you probably hear that all the time that You Are Not Alone but it's 100% true. One thing that helps me through the years was this ''Just remember you are freaking Legend because nothing is more terrifying then going to war with your mind every single day''
@@elizabethnoel7103 Thanks, every so often I can use a reminder that I got on well with my father. My mother died of cancer when I was quite young. I suppose getting along with parents is a lucky thing, since I know a lot of people who didn't. My peer relations in school were universally awful, though.
I am strongly 100% against abuse, especially if it makes the person do the most unthinkable horrors to themselves and others!!!!! Honestly, i can't think of the most best way to express how horribly wrong it is!!!! If you see someone crying more than they should, you reach out to that person and let them know that hope is alive and well! It's a touchy subject in many situations for us all...
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Yes. I wish I had known all these warning signs previously. :( I'm sad I had to go through years of it, but thankful that there's help like this out there for other people who were like me, and can recognize the abuse earlier...they might be able to get out of the abusive relationships sooner than I was able to. It's still very difficult to leave, but maybe it will help to know you don't deserve the abuse you are taking...
Same, and they are. But I already knew this already. There’s nothing I can do about it anyways I am to young. 😭😭 and can’t go anywhere, mostly because of this pandemic going on.
@Cøffəə Løaf I'm not even sure but yesterday I asked my mom for a piece of something that she was gping to give my sister and she said to me to me that if i talked more then I would get more benefits. She already knows I don't like talking to people and I prefer my own company but she does things like these all the time. I'm wondering if this is a sign of emotional abuse or if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing. Btw I'm 14😔
It's heartbreaking to think that the ones most likely to abuse us are our loved ones, and they might not even realize this. You always hurt the ones you love. 😢💔
No.... my partner doesn't hurt me and I don't do it too. People who really hurts you don't love you and/or they are only interested in themselves. When you really love someone, you want the other person to be happy, so you care about him/her. That's my opinion.
The scariest bit is knowing that sometimes they mean well, and therefore don't raise that they're doing exactly the polar opposite of what they wanna do... I feel like that's why some parents are overly controlling and manipulative.
No excuse, married for 52 years, I’ve called him out, yet still getting the same old crap, a narcissist, gets worse with age, backstabbing is the normal, no conversation and talked down. Things need to change, I’ve always supported him in his career, difficult too often, it’s no longer there for him for the last 17 years! About to time to stop living in the past, not much more I’m going to appreciate him, everything is always my fault 😡
@La Luma Fact. My mom says she loves me. But then it’s back handed compliments. Will go out if her way to humiliate me. Tells me “I need makeup to get a boyfriend.” Apologizes for saying that. Then says it again. And again. And again. That’s not love. That’s intent to hurt. It doesn’t matter if they also do nice things for you It’s like if someone does nice things for you and out of nowhere they punch you in the throat. You’re understandably upset but the person says “why are you mad at me?” I do all these nice things for you. I don’t understand what I did wrong. Clearly you have issues if you’re upset with me because I never did anything wrong. I just bought you lunch too and you’re upset with me?!” That’s. Not. Love
Used to be like this, not everything on the list. Regardless, was never okay. Anyone who watches these videos, before pointing at everyone else. Look at yourself and don’t beat up yourself about having these qualities. You can change and you will change. One way I’m trying to change is to become my younger self. A helper, so if this has helped anyone in the slightest, I’m doing what I should’ve done all a long. I’m sorry to the person I was like this to and I do hope she gets better. Take care.
Me too. If I might add, it's important to know that you might not be emotionally abusive consciously, nor would it occurs all the time. So you may not even notice that you're that kind of person before it's too late. Our brain is really good at tricking us into believing everything we do is fine/right, in order to protect us from facing our past trauma, protect our ego or even reduce the amount of work we need to do on our-self. The easiest way to figure out if you might be in this situation is to look at your closest friend, partners and family member. Those you really trust probably gave you some hints at some point in your life, that you might have overlooked. Last point, especially for men. As we grow up we tend to fit into a mold that is what we believe we should be like, as a man. The way we tend to associate "being strong" with hiding our true feelings behind physical strength, authority and anger is probably some of the most common and worst mistake we can make. Believe me, you will never feel weaker and more miserable than when you realize you've hurt the person that meant the most to you and that was one of the few to really love you for who you really are. So stop acting like "others" around you might do, educate yourself on emotional intelligence, learn how to truly love yourself and live your happiest life.
My younger self was an idiot... I'm embracing the new me and the grey hairs in my beard. I think I've heard people say grey is a sign of wisdom and maybe it's true because something changed in me mentally around the same time the Grey's showed up. Self doubt was one of my weakness and was used against me several times. That's the kind of mind fuckery and mental cataloguing normal people do not take part in and if they do it's not because they want to use it against you
For forty years I have been happily married to a wonderful guy who is not put off by my volatile temperament. And I know I've got a short fuse. Whenever something sets me off or triggers me, I NEVER direct it at him. And after I'm done yelling and pounding the table, I apologize to him for being crabby. And am always forgiven, with a wink and a nod.
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@@Psych2go Yes! It was so accurate and I strongly relate to all of it. I recommend something a lot of people struggle with ''Signs of faking a mental illness'' or "Signs Your mental illness is real".. I've been struggling with this my whole life as well! - still - Thank you Psych2Go!
Parents should really watch this kind of videos.....it will make them realize where they are going wrong in their parenting and will also improve many children's emotional health better. I hope my family watches this someday:'(
the problem is that they never will see what they are doing wrong. No matter if you show them the video or not, they continue their actions and ignore what was shown to them (literally a part of the video).
@@gymnastkristen5824 Exactly abusers don't care . They will never have the humility to say . I messed up especially if they emotionally abused you as a child. Or by the time they figure it out it's to late
It is really difficult to get out of a relationship when you have your own family and partner that is emotionally abusive. They break you down until you doubt your own reality. I am learning boundaries and being more assertive to my family and partner now. They all need to know you won't let them do this to you. Especially if they know you won't fight back. It took me 43 years from therapy to finally realize enough is enough. Emotional abuse affects you physically and emotionally to the point where you have medical conditions. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It is hard I know. I am still dealing with mine.
There's a difference between playful teasing as the occasional activity, and outright tormenting someone as a chronic and ongoing form of abuse... My friends and I would engage in teasing each other. You couldn't get by with anything remotely embarrassing around us... BUT we did it constantly within our friend-group... and we did it to a different guy most of the time... I mean, there were only so many of us, so repeats happened... AND some of us were a bit more prone to comical antics or verbal miscues and embarrassing goofs than the others. We could even get outright vicious (to the casual observer) with some of the insults and harassments. BUT we'd just give the guy crap for a few minutes and find something else to do, or someone else would do or say "something funny/stupid" and we'd dog-pile on them... which ever came first. AND we were still friends. It wouldn't sound like it about half the time... insults and threats and trash talk ongoing... we often sounded like we hated each other... BUT let some poor bystander decide to step in and interfere with our "picking" on one of the guys... even the kid getting picked on would join the dog-pile... Sent my high school principal to his office in tears more than once, just for "sticking up" for the target of "verbal abuse" at lunch... haha Tormenting someone to tears... Picking one "unpopular kid" and creating a non-stop bombardment... Never letting someone "live it down"... Yeah, that's not just teasing. That's bullying and abuse. ;o)
Yea, But usually it's my siblings. I can't say anything around my sister or she'll just point out my mistakes. I truly thinks she hates me. I remember once I was doing this writer thing and I had to go on stage and talk. I remember I started crying while on stage cause of my anxiety and once I got off stage. I remember talking to my brother and sister about my meltdown and they fucking told me they laughed when I cried. I couldn't believe it, I thought the would have a bit of sympathy, but they didn't. Is it bad whenever I think of my sister, I feel like crying. I know younger siblings are suppose to be annoying, but I feel like my sister is taking it a bit too far. I can't even count how many times she has made me feel worthless. I'm sorry for rambling, I just needed to get some stuff off of my chest, I have plenty more experiences but that's all I share for now. I'm very sorry for this again.
@@blackpoppies2765 Don't worry is okay! I get it actually! Little sisters can be annoying, but sometimes they take things to far. My little sister is so sassy towards me and rarely listens to me
What everyone forgets is that people can be unintentionally abusive. Both of my grandmothers were abused growing up. My mother's mom, didn't know she had continued the cycle. She can be very childish, especially when she loses a game. She gets upset, and often says, 'Nevermind, I don't want to play anymore.' Then no one wants to play without her, and we're all left miserable. I grew up with this kind of abuse, because no one was brave enough to tell her how badly it hurt all of us. My whole family is dealing with mental illnesses, and disorders, and sometimes she makes fun of being 'special'. I do love my grandmother, and she is trying to fix her broken relationship with my mom. But I do hope that one day, I'll be able to walk away.
My best friend was an emotional abuser. He would insult me, call me names, even when I asked him to stop. This affected my mental health a lot. I would question if I was good enough, if I would ever be as good as he was. Remember, just because someone is your friend, it doesn't give them the right to hurt you, emotionally, or physically.
This video caused me to have a mental breakthrough. Very straightforward and honest video. I truly appreciate you putting this out there. I feel like a free man rid of the toxic baggage where I could never draw closure. Today, I absolutely can. No one deserves emotional abuse!
Being emotionally abused for 3 and a half years was one of the hardest things I didn’t realize I went through... it’s hard to fully connect with someone ever again.
I feel you...went thorugh the same hell for nearly 5 years. Still on medication and had some psychotherapy sessions. However, after a year, I still have a hard time doing everything. Hope you had more luck than me
Everybody says that they should get out of the situation when their friends are in that state but when they’re in that situation themselves, it feels like they’re trapped
Bacon Bandito It’s not as straight forward as you put it. There are so many people in toxic relationships with people that they have known for since they were three and because of that, they feel they’re in they’re in the wrong since, they’ve known them for so long it shouldn’t be a big problem.
Bacon Bandito some people are conditioned to believe this behavior is normal, and sometimes this may be the person’s only group of friends...when I finally walked away from a friendship like this after being tired of being scapegoated the person proceeded to stalk me...watch my social media...and spread rumors to the remaining friends..it’s not easy dealing with people like this
Bacon Bandito because abusive people most times won’t change their behaviors when you set boundaries with them, a person can be as direct as they can be, but sometimes this causes the abusing person to become even more abusing
["They intentionally humiliate you"] There's a reason why I avoid talking to my younger brother. Almost every second or third thing he ever says to me is another insult. He thinks he's being funny and I've made it explicitly clear to him that his words offend me but he just casually says that he doesn't care and continues like nothing happened. ["They want to exploit you"] Yeah, there's only so many times that someone could ask me to lend them money before I consider ignoring them once I'm able to move out (grandma). Also no, I will not help you buy that new game you want. I don't care if it's Christmas, I'd give you a lump of coal if I actually cared enough to make the effort of getting one (little bro). ["They have a harmful level of control over you"] I'm usually afraid to do just about anything in front of my grandmother because she seems to have dedicated her life to calling me out for every little thing I do "wrong" (or at least not her way) and most of these are just common mistakes that anyone could make. Actually you know what, let's add her to the "intentionally humiliate you" group too. Because, whenever she does find these mistakes, she lectures me as if I do this every day even if it was literally only the third time I had done this during that year. In fact, she'll even tell me word-for-word that anyone with common sense wouldn't have let that stuff happen as if everyone else in the world is supposed to have a spider sense for when a shirt on the other half of a clothes line, outside of your field of vision, decides to fall off because of a sudden gust of wind! Even when she "apologizes", she still makes it sound as if I was the reason for her behaviour. And you know what the worst part is? She makes her words sound polite at all times so I haven't noticed anyone else in my family showing any signs of discomfort around her in the slightest. Everyone loves her and since she doesn't sound like she's being rude or offensive, it's not like I could actually bring it up without looking like the bad guy of the situation. It's not that she's actively being malicious either, she genuinely believes that she has done anything wrong. Even when I've called her out on her rudeness before, she just redirects the blame to me like always. *Sigh* Sorry, I just really needed to vent.
Damn that's rough.. i hope you get away from these people as soon as possible. everyone deserve love not this shit. i also have a brother that would intentionally misgender me a lot of time + gave me trauma etc. i avoid him as well, bc he make me feel like i'm not valid for no reason.
This is everyone in my life right now. I keep trying to tell myself I shouldn't let it affect me. I'm trying to learn to love myself before it's too late 😔
I’m sorry to hear this, please surround yourself with healthier people and set boundaries with the abusive ones, you don’t deserve to be abused, you deserve love ❤️
Dang u precious human being. Just cut bad people off and if you can’t then I recommend you do some good mental stuff like.. exercising, eating healthy (and have a cookie once in a while ya know?), meditate, hobby, etc. These keep u in check! We’re here if u need us ❤️ 🙏
I'm going through the same thing it hurts like hell when someone you love tears you down, my bully uses my past bad relationship against me. You think you're confiding in someone who cares for you but every chance they get they throw it all in your face so it's like going through all the bad memories again, he says I'm worthless to society because I don't want to give him children, he says that's all women are good for. Thank God I have sense enough not to have children with this evil hurtful person.
Toxic people call me "immature"... i do not know if it is their way of attacking me for my weaknesses but hey?? If being "immature" is one of my flaws?? I am proud of it! It makes me PERFECTLTY IMPERFECT.
My parent's relationship was very emotionally abusive in retrospect. I never knew my dad bc he left when I was a year old, but my mum and dad were on and off a lot anyway. He was very emotionally abusive and is also a narcissist. I was born in 1992 and my mum has been an alcoholic for most of my life. All throughout my childhood. She was very emotionally neglectful and abusive and sometimes physically abusive when she was drunk. Even today, she can be very hurtful. Yelling, name calling, and recently, calling ME abusive when I yell back at her for constantly getting at me. I'm just trying to keep away from her but she barges into my room to continue calling me lazy and useless. It's not all the time though. But I do think that her relationship with my father affected her own personality. This has a knock on effect on me. Being an only child I could never reach out and talk to anyone. Even today I don't see myself as good enough as other people and even if I'm emotionally numb. It's hard some days but I get by.
1. Yes. Sometimes, it's too hard to just ignore. 2. YES! Relatable. 3. Definitely. 4. They used to do it to me all the time, now I'm doing it to them and I'm not just returning the favour 5. Yeah...I hate fake friends. 6. Oh, that's annoying. 7. This is *the most* relatable one. People used to try and take control of me all the time and I hated it.
As a victim of emotional abuse, I’ve been put through all of the things discussed in this video, I’ve survived the emotional abuse. This must be very great strength from myself.
having strict parent be like: will she be angry if I didn’t get A,will he be angry if I had a nightmare or will she be angry if I forgot to do my chores?
@@haydensl23 -- I'm 70, by the way, and I can relate. At your age I endured being called "Knot Head" by a father who apparently couldn't remember what my real name is. I have not grieved for him in the thirty years since his death. Good riddance!
At least they are fine with you getting A , when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that, it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time and everything bad that happens it's my fault.
From the age of 5 until 15, i have been emotionally abused throughout bullying and toxic relationships. Throughout growing up i have been doubting myself in everything i do. It may sound stupid but the bullying i induced for 10 years has emotionally scared my mind. These videos help me understand what i went through and what i am still going through. So i would like to say thank you for releasing this video.
I'm thankful to psych2go for this accurate video! Timestamps- Here's helping fellow viewers out as a token of gratitude 1) 0:47- They're overly critical of you 2) 1:28- They intentionally humiliate you 3) 2:11- They purposefully intimidate you 4) 2:39- They mean to isolate you 5) 3:03- They're rejecting you 6) 3:38- They want to exploit you 7) 4:03- They have a harmful level of control over you
I've just realized that my ex-best friend(whom I left her cuz of her manipulativeness) has emotionally abused me more than I actually thought. I have to keep these tips in mind for the future and friends. Thank you so much for making this video!
I used to cry myself to sleep with an extreme pain in my chest. Sure, your words stab me like knives but it's most likely what I deserve to hear. Maybe I'm just too prude or sensitive or weak. I should just wake up the next morning and pretend that the light in my eyes are still there 😞 You didn't lay one hand on me but you left me bruised with such pain it feels like you did.
Thank you for this video. A few years back I went through emotional abuse and it would’ve helped me if I saw this video sooner. I hope for others struggling with this problem see this video and recognize what is going on so they can seek help. My heart goes out to everyone out there who has/is going through emotional abuse ❤️
I walked out of a 13 year (mostly emotional) abusive marriage. I can totally relate to these signs. Deciding to leave was tough but by far the best choice I’ve made 🌸💙🌸.
This is how I felt in my childhood. I didn't think I was being emotionally abused by my parents but it makes sense now. I think my dad did this a lot with my mom. He still does and I never realized that was emotional abuse. I also have done this to my siblings when I was younger sometimes I catch myself wanting to do it to others like my niece and nephew to get them to listen but I know it doesn't work that way. I feel like I'm being like my parents and that's what stops me from even using the silent treatment or humiliation.
My dad would yell at me literally over the smallest things. Even when I didn’t understand something he would yell at me. My mom was never happy with who she was dating. I was a only child so my friends had to help me. My parents didn’t understand what they were doing to me. I had to pretend everything was ok at home and at school. They put me in to a deep stage of depression from 12 to now. Most people don’t understand how serious mental illness can be. Remember to love yourself ❤❤❤.
If you’re reading this, know you are amazing. Stay strong! I was in an extremely emotionally abusive relationship. Once you point out the parts that aren’t normal, you can’t unsee it. Wish I had seen this years ago!
starting to think I’m in an emotional abusive relationship with an ex friend and they came back in my life. I’m scared of them but I still want to be friends with them and I don’t know what to do. this helped me finally realize that I am in a emotionally abusive relationship. thanks guys
Have your own back, Be your own hero Never allow yourself to be a Victim No matter what happens No matter what anyone does to you.. Grieve Heal Let go. Move on even Stronger, Than you ever was before you were hurt This is what creates a Warrior, Life will hit you down over and over again, But you always have the Choice to Get back up and not give up.. You are divine You are Magick Never allow anything to keep your magick locked down... Never allow anyone to make you stop believing in yourself. Stay strong 💪 You are so loved and appreciated ❤
Hmm, i can relate to this. My aunt is doing it to me. She loves to embarrassed me in front of my uncle. She interapks me if i’m talking to my uncle. Just so ya know, i’m blind from birth, i’n not here for that, though. I’m staying here for my studies i’m taking ged. She loves to insert if i’m explaining something to my uncle. As if my explanation is no good. I’m fine with that, as soon as i’ll finish my studies i’ll go back to my parents. This is my temporary home. Thanks much for this.
I just ended a friendship with a very emotional abusive friend and even though I finally feel free, her tactics are still an influence.. Well. At least I don't need to ask for her permission to do the things I love
I've just realized I'm being emotionally abused. If I'm treated like this when I still have my senses, I know what to expect when I'm totally dependent on my son
when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time, and everything bad that happens is my fault.
I've known this behavior from my dad, ex-husband and multiple "friends", since I was 17. I started having seizures because of the severe psychological abuse. They called it an idiopathic seizure disorder. When I 😭 cry, my body goes into shock. Because I'm crying so hard, my heart hurts. Now, I've been married now with hubby #2 for 23 years. I still can't give him all of me because if I do, I'll lose myself. My heart still hurts 💔 everyday. Maybe one day I'll be able to make sense of it and love my husband completely ❤️
My mother does all of this to me... And once she had been called to school because my friends noticed and told the teachers.. When she came back home she started shouting at me saying I deserved it and it's not abuse...
Im 12… I suffer from most of these from, my mom. Thankfully I’m not anywhere near from suicide though I’ve had thought before in the past but in the end nothing will happen
Im so glad I was able to leave my abusive relationship! Logically ... I knew better , but the gaslighting is so strong that I questioned myself and what was true or false . I then gave even more effort and my caring heart and just ended being shoved and degraded ... and up cheated on in the end . Stay strong and PROTECT YOUR SAFETY !
My mother who is I believe clinically depressed, lacks the ability to speak English fluently, is constantly verbally and emotionally abused by my 37 year old brother. We are a family of 7, my eldest sister passed, but we all hold similar feelings about this one brother. He’s an incredibly mean, hostile, socially ignorant person. But whenever we speak up, my father and my mother tell us that it’s just how he is. That arguing with him is just as bad as him yelling at my mother or father. So they stay on his side, protecting his abusive ways. It hurts me inside, it really does. My mother can’t even ask a single question without my older brother belittling her, making her feel stupid, and insulting her. He does it all the time. And the amount of times where they actually spoke up about his abuse, was less than 5... I’m 22 and I really hope I find a way out of this place. It’s mentally draining hearing this for 15 years of my life. It’s as if I put myself in my mothers shoes... But I can’t help it, I love her and wish my brother wasn’t like this. I’ve grown to hate him to the point where I don’t wanna interact with him.
my dad and his girlfriend. my dads girlfriend threats me and my little sister. she said that shell kill me, yells at me for no reason, mocks me, ect. the only excuse my dad has is that "she was blowing off steam" or "she never grew up with other kids" or "she dident mean it" it really hurts when my dads does not stand up for me, and talk to his girlfriend about what she does to me, i already told him how it makes me feel, he brushes it off completely it hurts more than it should lol.
Thank you. I think I just got out of an emotionally abusive text conversation, so this helped validate the awful feelings I’ve been experiencing over the past couple days.
I know these symptoms. I lived with them for most of my life. It wasn't until I walked away from them that I started to recover. 😢😢 Even now after all these time, I still feel their shadow over me. Whenever I feel stressed, I kept on hearing their abusive talk down to me. These warning signs will never disappear even with help. The best you should do is recognize and acknowledge them. Transform them into a source of strength and self support. Professional caregivers can help. It is the best way to break the cycle. 🙂
i just wanna say that this kinda stuff can sometimes be disguised as "jokes" or them "just playing around", after a while these "jokes" they can still affect your mental health
I hope anyone experiencing this right now finds happiness
thank you
Thank you but it's not...
It only keep's getting worse
Thankyou, yes I've found my happiness :) The best thing is to push all the negativity away and to stay positive. Then you will learn new positive people someday. That's my experience :)
...soon when I leave my shitty country and abusive family
@@toqa6735 same. I can't live on this tiny, homophobic island anymore 😢
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Think Different - Thought Provoking Ideas i feel this in so many levels
And Ernest loved soo many women.
im not special tho
Nobody ever really showed a lot of kindness to me ever so I just see other people special
Didn't he commit suicide
I think emotional should be taken more seriously. It can cause self harm, suicide and more.
Nah bro mom doesn't give a s**t about my emotions that's why I watch how to be mature when you grow up and what to do as an adult i also but not always make noose ropes alot of them are just hanging in my room and I intentionally agitate my cat in order to scratch me in my arm (the cat is vaccinated) to cause scratches so it's not considered self harm and some good excuse to tell my mom
How's your life Friend
@Bacon Bandito Both are harmful. What is your intention in coming on this channel and being negative, invalidating people's feelings and illnesses, and just being a garbage human being? Seriously, why?
@Bacon Bandito I don't think it was saying that it should be taken more seriously than other forms of abuse, but it should be taken more seriously than it currently is.
Sup people
Also emotional abuse:
They ignore you
They disappear when you need them
They ghost you
Gaslighting
Not making you a priority
No that’s wanting to be too clingy or dependent (in my opinion)
They don’t have to make you a priority
EchøFøx exactly
Gaslighting is the worst thing to go through! Definitely should be included in the list.
This is me
As a survivor of post traumatic depression, sexual assault , depression , adhd and a survivor of emotional abuse...i love this chanel for what its doing my favourite chanel ...and it just so wow ...i respect this chanel so much ❤
Can we just talk about how calming her voice is?
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Summary:
1. They are overly critical of you.
2. They intentionally humiliate you.
3. They purposefully intimidate you.
4. They mean to isolate you.
5. They are rejecting of you.
6. They want to exploit you.
7. They have a harmful level of control over you.
Still watch the video for more details! ❤
Thanks for the summary, it's insanely helpful! 😁
Sopratio going through all this !
@@craig3714 Oh no. I hope you get the help you need. ❤
It’s scary how much I relate 😭😭😭😭😭😭
The ones applicable to me:
1,2,3,4,5
Not quite sure about 6 and 7
“Gaslighting are lies with a purpose to confuse and control.”
― Tracy Malone
My dad gaslights all the time, it’s annoying and I hate it
@@fantastic_fern9135 If the situation meets all the criteria lf gaslighting then it's more than annoying. It's toxic. I mean over time people under such toxicity lose confidence in themselves and doubt and question themselves on every occasion.
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas I tend to doubt and question myself when I’m around my dad, but it isn’t too bad because I only go to visit him every other weekend and on Thursdays
Oh yes I deal with that now
It’s even worse when you as a victim have OCD. Once I start to question if what he’s doing really is emotional abuse, I can’t stop over analyzing the situation. It gives me anxiety and makes me feel like I don’t even want to think about it, which again makes me feel stuck in my own pain. Anyone else?
I would think what he was doing was just my OCD unwanted thoughts and when I confronted him about things that made me question his commitment to me he said its just my OCD and to think rationally. He broke up with me 2 days after saying its my OCD thoughts and he's gonna marry me.
More signs of emotional abuse:
They try to make you feel less or inferior to them
They try to purposefully lower your self esteem
They pin the blame for everything on you and others
If you ever get mad at them they try to make you believe you’re only upset because of something else that happened to you and now you’re taking it out on them for no reason
When you bring up anything they’ve done wrong to you, they’ll say that they feel attacked or hurt
They never back up what they say with their actions (if they say they care about you and the next day they completely ignore you)
They talk to other people about you in a negative way (maybe sometimes even when you’re there)
If you have a mental illness/disorder/disability they will try to use that against you, or if you don't they might accuse you of having one
They repeatedly start talking about a conflict even after it was already resolved in order to spark it up again
They will lecture you for hours on end when you did nothing wrong
They point out any mistake you make and criticize you harshly for it
They compare you to other people
They act like they’re trying to be understanding when really they’re just attacking you
They try to make you feel like you’re crazy (gaslighting)
When you’re around them you have a feeling of anxiety but you don’t understand why
One second you can be having a great time with them and suddenly they get angry at you out of nowhere
They accuse you of things you never did (this could very likely be projection)
They will never let you forget anything you did wrong, even bringing up a small mistake you made years ago
When you get angry they convince you that they’ve done nothing wrong and they make you think there’s something wrong with you because you got angry
They never admit they were wrong unless it’s in a way that benefits them
They’re highly hypocritical
If they apologize, they don’t apologize for what they did Ex: “I’m sorry you were mad” or “I’m sorry I used the word asshole” (instead of apologizing for calling you an asshole or apologizing for making you mad)
They belittle you
They’re unpredictable
They act like they’re just trying to help when in reality they’re hurting you
They try to convince you there’s something wrong with you
They cross your boundaries with full knowledge of what they are doing and do not care about what they’ve done
They will do things even after you’ve clearly told them no multiple times
When they lose control over you it makes them lose. their. freaking. mind. It literally drives them insane
They’re paranoid
They will use your words against you
They are inconsistent with how they act towards you, one day they might give you so much attention that you wish they would go away and the next they will completely ignore you for no reason
(I might have accidentally said some twice with a slightly different wording, if I did, please let me know. I also know a bunch more signs of emotional abuse but there are way too many to list, so I might just add a few more later. Also, a lot of these might be manipulation and not abuse, but they’re pretty much the same thing)
If you’re wondering how I know so many signs of abuse, I’ll tell you. I have experienced all of this firsthand through my father. My dad is emotionally and mentally abusive to me and my siblings. He was diagnosed with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and I honestly believe he has antisocial personality disorder (more commonly known as sociopathy.) All he cares about is control and when he loses control he loses his mind (he even went so far as to throw a rock through my moms window because he was so angry). My dad has caused me to have multiple panic attacks and I just don’t know what to do about him. I have to visit him every other weekend and in Thursdays and my mom is trying to figure it out so that I don’t have to anymore, but for now I just have to wait until I’m 18. I’m just venting right now, so I understand if you don’t care, but talking about it helps, so if you read all this, thanks, I guess
Sending you warm thoughts and well wishes. I am in tears reading through these and can relate. You are strong and brave and seem to have a lot of knowledge on this and thank goodness you can see that it's NOT you that is the problem. You have so much freedom waiting on you on the other side of this. Keep persevering and remember there is so much support out there if you need it in the meantime until you turn 18. People want to help so please remember that when thinking about whether to reach out to them or not. Take care and KEEP BEING YOU.
I go through the same thing with my dad. Out of nowhere, he blames me for things I haven't done. He yells at me, curses at me, and calls me mean names. I just want it to stop. I don't know if its ever going to go away. He is very rude and always yells at me for almost no reason. I just hope I don't have to see his face again and I will go away from him for the rest of my life.
I'm going through the same thing, only my dads never been diagnosed because hes convinced nothing is wrong. Hes put my siblings and I through so much pain and anger and we're all really sick of it. I avoid him when hes in the house and sometimes go days without talking to him. I really feel for you, and I hope things get better for the both of us and anyone else who can relate💜
@@hauntedbabydoll2005 yeah, I also usually avoid my dad. It was also really hard to get him diagnosed, he wouldn't have gotten diagnosed at all if the courts didn't order he talk to a psychiatrist, and even then it took over a year for him to get diagnosed because he wouldn't stop lying. It's hard dealing with someone like that, and I hope that things will get better for both of us soon
my sister does every one of these things to me
“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”
― Alice Walker
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
My absolute favourite quote of all time, and it rings so true! 💖
I watched the movie again recently. Aside from the abuse and the trauma, I feel like Charlie's dilemma (and Sam's, for that matter) is largely universal. So many of us are afraid to accept love, especially from ourselves, because we think we're not worthy of it. We settle for loneliness and anguish because we believe that's the best we can hope for. And some of us go to the extreme of disregarding our own needs to satisfy others because we can't realistically imagine someone giving us genuine compassion.
Some people struggle with this more than others, but I don't think anyone is really safe from the pain of fear that Charlie exemplifies. We all fight the same war, just in different ways. And sometimes, we have to help each other fight. That's life, it seems.
But after we fall, what shall be said for us? What stories shall be told of our efforts? I do not know. All I can say now is that this war alone does not define any one of us. We are not soldiers doomed to fight for eternity. We are not a sad story. *We are alive. We are infinite.*
Ah💔
Signs of emotional abuse
seem unconfident or lack self-assurance.
struggle to control their emotions.
have difficulty making or maintaining relationships.
act in a way that's inappropriate for their age.
I'm just that
Why does this sound like me? I don't remember anyone abusing me...
This is definitely define me
This is exactly like me
Inapropiate how, elaborate
When i was in grade 8 i was emotionally abused by my teacher she gave me severe anxiety and depression and i still have it to this day years and years later. My anxiety and depression has gotten a little bit better over the years but it's always going to still be lingering behind me. most likely for the rest of my life. Anyone out there suffering with any kind of mental illness depression and anxiety You Are Not alone in this battle. I know you probably hear that all the time that You Are Not Alone but it's 100% true. One thing that helps me through the years was this ''Just remember you are freaking Legend because nothing is more terrifying then going to war with your mind every single day''
1: “very critical of you and holds you to a higher standard”
School teachers: 👁👄👁
And parents too 👁️👄👁️
Kinomiuko oh yea- forget about those 👅
👍❤️
and my stalker in school to
They might as well have put a dunce cap on me.
*To the unique person that’s reading this:*
*You’re a very intelligent and adorable human! Stay healthy during quarantine*
PINK ROUND thank you
Youre the first one who called me adorable and intelligent😭
Thank you💞
@@wannabeemo7422 You are welcome!! ^^
@@Ari-pf9qn Thank you ♥♥
This is such a great message to share! Thanks for sharing! What did you think about this video?
Emotional abuse doesn't just come from people in relationships. It also comes from peers in school and at work.
Yes and it's so weird to explain it to people who have never been through anything like this.
And your parents too 😪
@@elizabethnoel7103 Thanks, every so often I can use a reminder that I got on well with my father. My mother died of cancer when I was quite young. I suppose getting along with parents is a lucky thing, since I know a lot of people who didn't. My peer relations in school were universally awful, though.
It’s everywhere that’s why we got safe guard our heart ❤️
@mikasa gal and even family members
When people treat you like they dont care "Believe" them...
@Jack Smith If they treat you poorly dont respect you ignore you lie,,treating you unfair.....
Always be kind and patient with yourself - healing takes time but I promise you will get there.
I am strongly 100% against abuse, especially if it makes the person do the most unthinkable horrors to themselves and others!!!!! Honestly, i can't think of the most best way to express how horribly wrong it is!!!! If you see someone crying more than they should, you reach out to that person and let them know that hope is alive and well!
It's a touchy subject in many situations for us all...
Love how this channel is spreading so much awareness on mental health and other issues that aren't talked about often
Thank you! Glad you have you here! We are trying our best to bring up awareness on different topics that most people aren't comfortable discussing. What other topics do you like us to cover?
Yes. I wish I had known all these warning signs previously. :( I'm sad I had to go through years of it, but thankful that there's help like this out there for other people who were like me, and can recognize the abuse earlier...they might be able to get out of the abusive relationships sooner than I was able to. It's still very difficult to leave, but maybe it will help to know you don't deserve the abuse you are taking...
Still, we, on the other side, think, maybe there is something wrong with us....😢
This is driving me crazy!
i needed this, wanted to see if my parents are actually treating me right
:’(
Same, and they are. But I already knew this already. There’s nothing I can do about it anyways I am to young. 😭😭 and can’t go anywhere, mostly because of this pandemic going on.
Cøffəə Løaf The exact same thing I go through, it’s just my dad not mom. 😭😭
@Cøffəə Løaf
Welcome to my life😔😔
@Cøffəə Løaf I'm not even sure but yesterday I asked my mom for a piece of something that she was gping to give my sister and she said to me to me that if i talked more then I would get more benefits. She already knows I don't like talking to people and I prefer my own company but she does things like these all the time. I'm wondering if this is a sign of emotional abuse or if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing.
Btw I'm 14😔
It's heartbreaking to think that the ones most likely to abuse us are our loved ones, and they might not even realize this. You always hurt the ones you love. 😢💔
No.... my partner doesn't hurt me and I don't do it too.
People who really hurts you don't love you and/or they are only interested in themselves.
When you really love someone, you want the other person to be happy, so you care about him/her. That's my opinion.
The scariest bit is knowing that sometimes they mean well, and therefore don't raise that they're doing exactly the polar opposite of what they wanna do...
I feel like that's why some parents are overly controlling and manipulative.
Yeah, i just found out about verbal abuse a few months ago. No wonder I used to have very low self esteem.
No excuse, married for 52 years, I’ve called him out, yet still getting the same old crap, a narcissist, gets worse with age, backstabbing is the normal, no conversation and talked down. Things need to change, I’ve always supported him in his career, difficult too often, it’s no longer there for him for the last 17 years! About to time to stop living in the past, not much more I’m going to appreciate him, everything is always my fault 😡
@La Luma
Fact. My mom says she loves me. But then it’s back handed compliments. Will go out if her way to humiliate me. Tells me “I need makeup to get a boyfriend.” Apologizes for saying that. Then says it again. And again. And again. That’s not love. That’s intent to hurt. It doesn’t matter if they also do nice things for you
It’s like if someone does nice things for you and out of nowhere they punch you in the throat. You’re understandably upset but the person says “why are you mad at me?” I do all these nice things for you. I don’t understand what I did wrong. Clearly you have issues if you’re upset with me because I never did anything wrong. I just bought you lunch too and you’re upset with me?!”
That’s. Not. Love
my dad always yells at me, and then when i cry he yells even more asking “why are you crying?!”
i deserve a lot better..
stay strong guys ❤️✨
Thanks for this video, I’m just now realizing i was emotionally abused and neglected when i was younger, my household is a lot better now.
Its not normal when your mother fits perfectly in almost every point of this topic.
Used to be like this, not everything on the list. Regardless, was never okay. Anyone who watches these videos, before pointing at everyone else. Look at yourself and don’t beat up yourself about having these qualities. You can change and you will change. One way I’m trying to change is to become my younger self. A helper, so if this has helped anyone in the slightest, I’m doing what I should’ve done all a long. I’m sorry to the person I was like this to and I do hope she gets better. Take care.
Great advice.
Me too.
If I might add, it's important to know that you might not be emotionally abusive consciously, nor would it occurs all the time. So you may not even notice that you're that kind of person before it's too late. Our brain is really good at tricking us into believing everything we do is fine/right, in order to protect us from facing our past trauma, protect our ego or even reduce the amount of work we need to do on our-self.
The easiest way to figure out if you might be in this situation is to look at your closest friend, partners and family member. Those you really trust probably gave you some hints at some point in your life, that you might have overlooked.
Last point, especially for men. As we grow up we tend to fit into a mold that is what we believe we should be like, as a man. The way we tend to associate "being strong" with hiding our true feelings behind physical strength, authority and anger is probably some of the most common and worst mistake we can make. Believe me, you will never feel weaker and more miserable than when you realize you've hurt the person that meant the most to you and that was one of the few to really love you for who you really are.
So stop acting like "others" around you might do, educate yourself on emotional intelligence, learn how to truly love yourself and live your happiest life.
My younger self was an idiot... I'm embracing the new me and the grey hairs in my beard. I think I've heard people say grey is a sign of wisdom and maybe it's true because something changed in me mentally around the same time the Grey's showed up. Self doubt was one of my weakness and was used against me several times. That's the kind of mind fuckery and mental cataloguing normal people do not take part in and if they do it's not because they want to use it against you
For forty years I have been happily married to a wonderful guy who is not put off by my volatile temperament. And I know I've got a short fuse. Whenever something sets me off or triggers me, I NEVER direct it at him. And after I'm done yelling and pounding the table, I apologize to him for being crabby. And am always forgiven, with a wink and a nod.
i can only fantasize about the day i can finally feel happy
Thank you for uploading this, I've been emotionally abused my whole life. And I swear it causes a huge harm.
Thank you for watching! I hope this helps more awareness on this topic. It is an important topic that isn't often discussed in the community. What do you think about the content? Did you find them accurate? What other videos do you like us to cover more on?
same
@@Psych2go Yes! It was so accurate and I strongly relate to all of it.
I recommend something a lot of people struggle with ''Signs of faking a mental illness'' or "Signs Your mental illness is real".. I've been struggling with this my whole life as well! - still -
Thank you Psych2Go!
me too. since age 5.
thanks school teacher. students.
It does :(
Parents should really watch this kind of videos.....it will make them realize where they are going wrong in their parenting and will also improve many children's emotional health better.
I hope my family watches this someday:'(
the problem is that they never will see what they are doing wrong. No matter if you show them the video or not, they continue their actions and ignore what was shown to them (literally a part of the video).
@@gymnastkristen5824 Exactly abusers don't care . They will never have the humility to say . I messed up especially if they emotionally abused you as a child. Or by the time they figure it out it's to late
It is really difficult to get out of a relationship when you have your own family and partner that is emotionally abusive. They break you down until you doubt your own reality. I am learning boundaries and being more assertive to my family and partner now. They all need to know you won't let them do this to you. Especially if they know you won't fight back. It took me 43 years from therapy to finally realize enough is enough. Emotional abuse affects you physically and emotionally to the point where you have medical conditions. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It is hard I know. I am still dealing with mine.
To whosoever reading this:
You are the best human being ever, you don't deserve emotional abuse, you are kind, loving and caring.
:)
Thank you ❤️
Minty gacha, you are just as amazing. And I've also been through abuse
😭
Thank you. Needed that.
Look, Doesn't anyone's Parents/Friends just tease you, but is kind of hurtful? Because same..
There's a difference between playful teasing as the occasional activity, and outright tormenting someone as a chronic and ongoing form of abuse...
My friends and I would engage in teasing each other. You couldn't get by with anything remotely embarrassing around us... BUT we did it constantly within our friend-group... and we did it to a different guy most of the time... I mean, there were only so many of us, so repeats happened... AND some of us were a bit more prone to comical antics or verbal miscues and embarrassing goofs than the others.
We could even get outright vicious (to the casual observer) with some of the insults and harassments.
BUT we'd just give the guy crap for a few minutes and find something else to do, or someone else would do or say "something funny/stupid" and we'd dog-pile on them... which ever came first.
AND we were still friends. It wouldn't sound like it about half the time... insults and threats and trash talk ongoing... we often sounded like we hated each other... BUT let some poor bystander decide to step in and interfere with our "picking" on one of the guys... even the kid getting picked on would join the dog-pile... Sent my high school principal to his office in tears more than once, just for "sticking up" for the target of "verbal abuse" at lunch... haha
Tormenting someone to tears... Picking one "unpopular kid" and creating a non-stop bombardment... Never letting someone "live it down"... Yeah, that's not just teasing. That's bullying and abuse. ;o)
Yup and despite asking them to stop they "think it's funny".
@@adventurousbec Ikr
Yea, But usually it's my siblings. I can't say anything around my sister or she'll just point out my mistakes. I truly thinks she hates me. I remember once I was doing this writer thing and I had to go on stage and talk. I remember I started crying while on stage cause of my anxiety and once I got off stage. I remember talking to my brother and sister about my meltdown and they fucking told me they laughed when I cried. I couldn't believe it, I thought the would have a bit of sympathy, but they didn't. Is it bad whenever I think of my sister, I feel like crying. I know younger siblings are suppose to be annoying, but I feel like my sister is taking it a bit too far. I can't even count how many times she has made me feel worthless. I'm sorry for rambling, I just needed to get some stuff off of my chest, I have plenty more experiences but that's all I share for now. I'm very sorry for this again.
@@blackpoppies2765 Don't worry is okay! I get it actually! Little sisters can be annoying, but sometimes they take things to far. My little sister is so sassy towards me and rarely listens to me
What everyone forgets is that people can be unintentionally abusive.
Both of my grandmothers were abused growing up. My mother's mom, didn't know she had continued the cycle. She can be very childish, especially when she loses a game. She gets upset, and often says, 'Nevermind, I don't want to play anymore.' Then no one wants to play without her, and we're all left miserable.
I grew up with this kind of abuse, because no one was brave enough to tell her how badly it hurt all of us.
My whole family is dealing with mental illnesses, and disorders, and sometimes she makes fun of being 'special'.
I do love my grandmother, and she is trying to fix her broken relationship with my mom. But I do hope that one day, I'll be able to walk away.
My best friend was an emotional abuser. He would insult me, call me names, even when I asked him to stop. This affected my mental health a lot. I would question if I was good enough, if I would ever be as good as he was. Remember, just because someone is your friend, it doesn't give them the right to hurt you, emotionally, or physically.
This video caused me to have a mental breakthrough. Very straightforward and honest video. I truly appreciate you putting this out there. I feel like a free man rid of the toxic baggage where I could never draw closure. Today, I absolutely can. No one deserves emotional abuse!
The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal. Astrid Alauda. Let's stand up to Bullies❤️🙏,
Deffo xxxx🥰🥰🥰
Stand up 🙏there are so much tears in my soul 💜💘
Yes😢
Being emotionally abused for 3 and a half years was one of the hardest things I didn’t realize I went through... it’s hard to fully connect with someone ever again.
I feel you...went thorugh the same hell for nearly 5 years. Still on medication and had some psychotherapy sessions. However, after a year, I still have a hard time doing everything. Hope you had more luck than me
You’re not alone. Me too me too
I'm deeply sorry 😔❤ hope it gets better friend.
Everybody says that they should get out of the situation when their friends are in that state but when they’re in that situation themselves, it feels like they’re trapped
@Bacon Bandito its not that easy
I don't expect anything from my friends that I couldn't do myself.
Bacon Bandito It’s not as straight forward as you put it. There are so many people in toxic relationships with people that they have known for since they were three and because of that, they feel they’re in they’re in the wrong since, they’ve known them for so long it shouldn’t be a big problem.
Bacon Bandito some people are conditioned to believe this behavior is normal, and sometimes this may be the person’s only group of friends...when I finally walked away from a friendship like this after being tired of being scapegoated the person proceeded to stalk me...watch my social media...and spread rumors to the remaining friends..it’s not easy dealing with people like this
Bacon Bandito because abusive people most times won’t change their behaviors when you set boundaries with them, a person can be as direct as they can be, but sometimes this causes the abusing person to become even more abusing
["They intentionally humiliate you"]
There's a reason why I avoid talking to my younger brother. Almost every second or third thing he ever says to me is another insult. He thinks he's being funny and I've made it explicitly clear to him that his words offend me but he just casually says that he doesn't care and continues like nothing happened.
["They want to exploit you"]
Yeah, there's only so many times that someone could ask me to lend them money before I consider ignoring them once I'm able to move out (grandma). Also no, I will not help you buy that new game you want. I don't care if it's Christmas, I'd give you a lump of coal if I actually cared enough to make the effort of getting one (little bro).
["They have a harmful level of control over you"]
I'm usually afraid to do just about anything in front of my grandmother because she seems to have dedicated her life to calling me out for every little thing I do "wrong" (or at least not her way) and most of these are just common mistakes that anyone could make.
Actually you know what, let's add her to the "intentionally humiliate you" group too. Because, whenever she does find these mistakes, she lectures me as if I do this every day even if it was literally only the third time I had done this during that year. In fact, she'll even tell me word-for-word that anyone with common sense wouldn't have let that stuff happen as if everyone else in the world is supposed to have a spider sense for when a shirt on the other half of a clothes line, outside of your field of vision, decides to fall off because of a sudden gust of wind! Even when she "apologizes", she still makes it sound as if I was the reason for her behaviour.
And you know what the worst part is? She makes her words sound polite at all times so I haven't noticed anyone else in my family showing any signs of discomfort around her in the slightest. Everyone loves her and since she doesn't sound like she's being rude or offensive, it's not like I could actually bring it up without looking like the bad guy of the situation.
It's not that she's actively being malicious either, she genuinely believes that she has done anything wrong. Even when I've called her out on her rudeness before, she just redirects the blame to me like always.
*Sigh*
Sorry, I just really needed to vent.
Mmangaliso Masinga aw that’s ok! Just know ur not alone so if u need to vent more I’m here!
Damn that's rough.. i hope you get away from these people as soon as possible. everyone deserve love not this shit. i also have a brother that would intentionally misgender me a lot of time + gave me trauma etc. i avoid him as well, bc he make me feel like i'm not valid for no reason.
there's a reason why i try to avoid school as much as possible. toxic environment and is unpleasant to go to
Try being humiliated by a cousin for 10 years since you were 6.. it destroyed my self esteem and self worth
This came on my recommend right after my dad was verbally abusing and threatening me...
This channel knows when something is up
This is everyone in my life right now. I keep trying to tell myself I shouldn't let it affect me. I'm trying to learn to love myself before it's too late 😔
♥️♥️♥️🙏
I’m sorry to hear this, please surround yourself with healthier people and set boundaries with the abusive ones, you don’t deserve to be abused, you deserve love ❤️
Dang u precious human being. Just cut bad people off and if you can’t then I recommend you do some good mental stuff like.. exercising, eating healthy (and have a cookie once in a while ya know?), meditate, hobby, etc. These keep u in check! We’re here if u need us ❤️ 🙏
I'm going through the same thing it hurts like hell when someone you love tears you down, my bully uses my past bad relationship against me. You think you're confiding in someone who cares for you but every chance they get they throw it all in your face so it's like going through all the bad memories again, he says I'm worthless to society because I don't want to give him children, he says that's all women are good for. Thank God I have sense enough not to have children with this evil hurtful person.
I was verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused as a child. I don't understand how adults can be so cruel. 💔
*I'M WORKING SO HARD EVERY DAY TO MAKE MY CHANNEL AS GOOD AS YOURS, I'M NEW ON RUclips BUT I BELIEVE IN MYSELF, thanks for being an example*
Is it like looking for animators or something you're struggling with?
Toxic people call me "immature"... i do not know if it is their way of attacking me for my weaknesses but hey?? If being "immature" is one of my flaws?? I am proud of it! It makes me PERFECTLTY IMPERFECT.
My parent's relationship was very emotionally abusive in retrospect. I never knew my dad bc he left when I was a year old, but my mum and dad were on and off a lot anyway. He was very emotionally abusive and is also a narcissist. I was born in 1992 and my mum has been an alcoholic for most of my life. All throughout my childhood. She was very emotionally neglectful and abusive and sometimes physically abusive when she was drunk. Even today, she can be very hurtful. Yelling, name calling, and recently, calling ME abusive when I yell back at her for constantly getting at me. I'm just trying to keep away from her but she barges into my room to continue calling me lazy and useless. It's not all the time though. But I do think that her relationship with my father affected her own personality. This has a knock on effect on me. Being an only child I could never reach out and talk to anyone. Even today I don't see myself as good enough as other people and even if I'm emotionally numb. It's hard some days but I get by.
1. Yes. Sometimes, it's too hard to just ignore.
2. YES! Relatable.
3. Definitely.
4. They used to do it to me all the time, now I'm doing it to them and I'm not just returning the favour
5. Yeah...I hate fake friends.
6. Oh, that's annoying.
7. This is *the most* relatable one. People used to try and take control of me all the time and I hated it.
Thank you for this video.
I'm recovering from 10 years of emotion/verbal abuse. It's a hard journey of recovery.
As a victim of emotional abuse, I’ve been put through all of the things discussed in this video, I’ve survived the emotional abuse. This must be very great strength from myself.
having strict parent be like: will she be angry if I didn’t get A,will he be angry if I had a nightmare or will she be angry if I forgot to do my chores?
@@haydensl23 -- I'm 70, by the way, and I can relate. At your age I endured being called "Knot Head" by a father who apparently couldn't remember what my real name is. I have not grieved for him in the thirty years since his death. Good riddance!
At least they are fine with you getting A , when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that, it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time and everything bad that happens it's my fault.
@@lizlyrics484 I’m really sorry taht u have to go through this like I can’t even get a A so I think u getting one means ur smart
@@thatquietkid410 thank u , youre really nice
@@lizlyrics484 ur welcome bestie np
From the age of 5 until 15, i have been emotionally abused throughout bullying and toxic relationships. Throughout growing up i have been doubting myself in everything i do. It may sound stupid but the bullying i induced for 10 years has emotionally scared my mind. These videos help me understand what i went through and what i am still going through. So i would like to say thank you for releasing this video.
I'm thankful to psych2go for this accurate video! Timestamps- Here's helping fellow viewers out as a token of gratitude
1) 0:47- They're overly critical of you
2) 1:28- They intentionally humiliate you
3) 2:11- They purposefully intimidate you
4) 2:39- They mean to isolate you
5) 3:03- They're rejecting you
6) 3:38- They want to exploit you
7) 4:03- They have a harmful level of control over you
I've just realized that my ex-best friend(whom I left her cuz of her manipulativeness) has emotionally abused me more than I actually thought. I have to keep these tips in mind for the future and friends. Thank you so much for making this video!
I used to cry myself to sleep with an extreme pain in my chest. Sure, your words stab me like knives but it's most likely what I deserve to hear. Maybe I'm just too prude or sensitive or weak. I should just wake up the next morning and pretend that the light in my eyes are still there 😞
You didn't lay one hand on me but you left me bruised with such pain it feels like you did.
Knowing this will always happen where ever you go-- the abusers know they can!
Thank you for this video. A few years back I went through emotional abuse and it would’ve helped me if I saw this video sooner. I hope for others struggling with this problem see this video and recognize what is going on so they can seek help. My heart goes out to everyone out there who has/is going through emotional abuse ❤️
I walked out of a 13 year (mostly emotional) abusive marriage. I can totally relate to these signs. Deciding to leave was tough but by far the best choice I’ve made 🌸💙🌸.
This is how I felt in my childhood. I didn't think I was being emotionally abused by my parents but it makes sense now. I think my dad did this a lot with my mom. He still does and I never realized that was emotional abuse. I also have done this to my siblings when I was younger sometimes I catch myself wanting to do it to others like my niece and nephew to get them to listen but I know it doesn't work that way. I feel like I'm being like my parents and that's what stops me from even using the silent treatment or humiliation.
just realized how much denial i’ve been in about my mom being emotional abusive
the fact you searched for this says it all. take care stranger 💕
My dad would yell at me literally over the smallest things. Even when I didn’t understand something he would yell at me. My mom was never happy with who she was dating. I was a only child so my friends had to help me. My parents didn’t understand what they were doing to me. I had to pretend everything was ok at home and at school. They put me in to a deep stage of depression from 12 to now. Most people don’t understand how serious mental illness can be. Remember to love yourself ❤❤❤.
If you’re reading this, know you are amazing. Stay strong!
I was in an extremely emotionally abusive relationship. Once you point out the parts that aren’t normal, you can’t unsee it. Wish I had seen this years ago!
starting to think I’m in an emotional abusive relationship with an ex friend and they came back in my life. I’m scared of them but I still want to be friends with them and I don’t know what to do. this helped me finally realize that I am in a emotionally abusive relationship. thanks guys
I was emotionally abused by my mom growing up. Now as an adult I'm messed up because of it I have anxiety major depression ADD and PTSD because of it.
Have your own back,
Be your own hero
Never allow yourself to be a Victim
No matter what happens
No matter what anyone does to you..
Grieve
Heal
Let go.
Move on even Stronger,
Than you ever was before you were hurt
This is what creates a Warrior,
Life will hit you down over and over again,
But you always have the Choice to Get back up and not give up..
You are divine
You are Magick
Never allow anything to keep your magick locked down...
Never allow anyone to make you stop believing in yourself.
Stay strong 💪
You are so loved and appreciated ❤
“My mom’s been emotionally abusing me for years,” I realize as I watch this. 😳
No wonder I rarely speak to her now that I’m at college
When my mom's the one who's emotionally abusing me and I can't do anything about it
Same 😭 I should move out
@@simplejoyyys Much strength 👏🏽❤️
@@simplejoyyys same
Same here
Hmm, i can relate to this. My aunt is doing it to me. She loves to embarrassed me in front of my uncle. She interapks me if i’m talking to my uncle. Just so ya know, i’m blind from birth, i’n not here for that, though. I’m staying here for my studies i’m taking ged. She loves to insert if i’m explaining something to my uncle. As if my explanation is no good.
I’m fine with that, as soon as i’ll finish my studies i’ll go back to my parents. This is my temporary home. Thanks much for this.
Thank YOU for helping us and raising awareness 💝💖💖
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@@Psych2go talk about everything.
i’m sick of worrying that i’m just too dramatic and that i’m ungrateful for looking this up
Your voice can really help when I'm lost in thoughts and anxiety
I just ended a friendship with a very emotional abusive friend and even though I finally feel free, her tactics are still an influence.. Well. At least I don't need to ask for her permission to do the things I love
I hope you know your value and love yourself
:D have a good day/night.
@@loveyourself6459 Thank you❤ You too☺🤗
Love to u xxx
@@moonchild66 💖💖
I've just realized I'm being emotionally abused. If I'm treated like this when I still have my senses, I know what to expect when I'm totally dependent on my son
when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time, and everything bad that happens is my fault.
I've known this behavior from my dad, ex-husband and multiple "friends", since I was 17. I started having seizures because of the severe psychological abuse. They called it an idiopathic seizure disorder. When I 😭 cry, my body goes into shock. Because I'm crying so hard, my heart hurts. Now, I've been married now with hubby #2 for 23 years. I still can't give him all of me because if I do, I'll lose myself. My heart still hurts 💔 everyday. Maybe one day I'll be able to make sense of it and love my husband completely ❤️
My mother does all of this to me... And once she had been called to school because my friends noticed and told the teachers.. When she came back home she started shouting at me saying I deserved it and it's not abuse...
The 3 dislikes are my toxic family members o__0
I just found out my dad is abusing me, well thanks for making that clear
Im 12… I suffer from most of these from, my mom. Thankfully I’m not anywhere near from suicide though I’ve had thought before in the past but in the end nothing will happen
Im so glad I was able to leave my abusive relationship! Logically ... I knew better , but the gaslighting is so strong that I questioned myself and what was true or false . I then gave even more effort and my caring heart and just ended being shoved and degraded ... and up cheated on in the end . Stay strong and PROTECT YOUR SAFETY !
There is no help out there....you have to get out all by yourself or learn to stay quiet until you can leave.
Love your content. I really needed this
Thank you for watching! You got this! :)
Thank you for making these, they're super helpful ♥️
Me, realizing my mom is emotionally abusing me.
And kind of phisically, 'cus she likes to slap me
@Bacon Bandito that shouldn't be acceptable just because it's your mothers culture doesn't mean it's right to abuse you
@Bacon Bandito it will over long perperiods of time and the damage can be subtle it's wrong to hit someone period
me realizing my own sister is emotionally abusing me
What a bully. I really wish she wouldn’t abuse you. She needs to stop. I’m sorry you’re going through this
My mother who is I believe clinically depressed, lacks the ability to speak English fluently, is constantly verbally and emotionally abused by my 37 year old brother. We are a family of 7, my eldest sister passed, but we all hold similar feelings about this one brother. He’s an incredibly mean, hostile, socially ignorant person. But whenever we speak up, my father and my mother tell us that it’s just how he is. That arguing with him is just as bad as him yelling at my mother or father. So they stay on his side, protecting his abusive ways.
It hurts me inside, it really does. My mother can’t even ask a single question without my older brother belittling her, making her feel stupid, and insulting her. He does it all the time. And the amount of times where they actually spoke up about his abuse, was less than 5...
I’m 22 and I really hope I find a way out of this place. It’s mentally draining hearing this for 15 years of my life. It’s as if I put myself in my mothers shoes... But I can’t help it, I love her and wish my brother wasn’t like this. I’ve grown to hate him to the point where I don’t wanna interact with him.
as someone who has been mentally abused by 2 people...this is a great video to help out people before they get mentally abused!...
my dad and his girlfriend. my dads girlfriend threats me and my little sister. she said that shell kill me, yells at me for no reason, mocks me, ect. the only excuse my dad has is that "she was blowing off steam" or "she never grew up with other kids" or "she dident mean it" it really hurts when my dads does not stand up for me, and talk to his girlfriend about what she does to me, i already told him how it makes me feel, he brushes it off completely it hurts more than it should lol.
If this is still happening, record what she says. Try to talk to a counselor or adult you trust at school about it then because they could help
Can a sign of emotional abuse be felling scared or panicked when you hear the persons voice, or seeing them, or even someone mentioning them?
That is a gigantic red flag,IMO.
YES 100%
When the video has just been released a minute ago and there’s already one dislike
I had to find out if my mum was emotionally abusing me, through her words, and turns out, she is! Wow, what a splendid start to the year.
Thank you. I think I just got out of an emotionally abusive text conversation, so this helped validate the awful feelings I’ve been experiencing over the past couple days.
Unfortunately the perfect description of my childhood award goes to......
I guess my bosses are emotionally abusing me
So have I and it been hell. 😔
My family literally does this to me everytime I can visit !
I know these symptoms. I lived with them for most of my life. It wasn't until I walked away from them that I started to recover. 😢😢 Even now after all these time, I still feel their shadow over me. Whenever I feel stressed, I kept on hearing their abusive talk down to me. These warning signs will never disappear even with help. The best you should do is recognize and acknowledge them. Transform them into a source of strength and self support. Professional caregivers can help. It is the best way to break the cycle. 🙂
To anyone experiencing this: you are enough, you are loved, you are important, and you are beautiful. God bless! ♡︎♡︎♡︎
I have a cousin who is autistic and needs to be around other people, but since we have to be inside now he isn't doing well
he's acoustic? just plug him in...
jk
The worst feeling in the world is when your parents compare you to other kids
Greetings from South Africa ❤️
i just wanna say that this kinda stuff can sometimes be disguised as "jokes" or them "just playing around", after a while these "jokes" they can still affect your mental health
This video helped me see that I made the right decision getting out. Thank God I'm free.