I don't think it's possible for me to be selfish even if I wanted to be. Other people's pain and animals' pain always weighs me down anyway. It's not because I'm better than anyone else, it's just how my mind works. I can't be happy here. I can only distract myself sometimes.
I LOVE the black screen, it inspired me. You are right. We got to focus on ourselves. We came here alone , we leave alone. If you can not put time in for yourself to realize you are really by yourself you will always be afraid of detachment. People are planning to be around groups of people for their future. I planning to be by myself, that’s self mastery!!👩🏽🦱
I remember a family friend telling me once that I need people in my life. Oh yes, I should put trust into abusers and users, very nice(!) - not. Anyone who constantly depends on others for every little thing is weak IMO.
I don't think anything guarantees happiness, suffering is unavoidable regardless, but I would more or less argue the opposite. All other factors being considered I think that compassionate people are happier. One argument I could make is that when you think about or contemplate the happiness/suffering of other people you're projecting your own happiness/suffering on to them so the double-think required to hold conflicting attitudes about something (i.e. your happiness/suffering is ultimately good/bad but the happiness/suffering of at least some other people is either ultimately bad/good or neutral) creates a natural dissonance that makes it impossible to make sense of reality (when I say that anyone else's happiness is inherently good I'm affirming the value of my own happiness since it's the same thing. Because we experience happiness and suffering as inherently good and bad I think the same dissonance is implied if we deny that our own happiness and pain is always ultimately good and bad or if we claim that something other than happiness/suffering matters intrinsically). I think we're naturally moral/philosophical schizophrenics since we hold conflicting beliefs and values all the time and think nothing of it. Another argument is that as social animals a sense of being connected to others is pleasurable but I'm less interested in an argument that's rooted in how we just so happen to be wired (by natural selection) than an eternal, universal/logical truth that applies to every possible world. I don't think some of what you describe as selfishness qualifies (like needing the validation of other people which everyone, or at the _very least_ every psychologically normal person, must to some degree). I can see how not being bothered by the suffering of other people can make your life much easier but I think distance also explains why some basically or relatively compassionate people don't ruminate over all the problems in the world (a lot of people don't spend much time thinking about how bad their own futures will be because of that 'distance' either). It's hard for me to imagine being completely happy and at peace and not caring at all about the happiness/suffering of others or even wanting them to suffer, being relatively insensitive is something else (not fundamentally or morally but in terms of how easily I can imagine being happy despite it). It's even harder for me to imagine someone in a perfect state of happiness being aggressive than their just being selfish (there may very well be people who want to torture or bully people just for fun but without anger or fear or the capacity to be emotionally threatened by others I can't understand why you would ever want to hurt someone). The greatest happiness I've ever felt was when I felt at peace with the whole world (when I didn't have to interact with them, obviously). Don't misunderstand me, I don't like or have any great compassion or sympathy for all people all of the time but I naturally don't like 'conflict' (if I could end my worst enemy's suffering by snapping my fingers I would but I'm not really invested in their well-being, it's just the reasonable thing to do and requires no sacrifice on my part. I don't want to explain). At times, if I think they suffer unbearably or if they're not an immediate threat to me, their suffering will emotionally bother me, I'm bothered by people's suffering by default in the absence of strongly resenting them, but there are times; not always, when I'm genuinely humiliated by the fact that I feel pity for people who would not feel the same for me. I don't like the idea of not having compassion for all people, maybe you could say I have an all or nothing personality. I don't like the idea of their being a single exception to the universal compassion rule (just as I wouldn't want a bodhisattva or an angel to see me as the single exception to that rule). I don't like the arbitrariness of it. Again, I definitely do not care about all people, it's just something I can't really make peace with. I don't like having a personality that doesn't care about every single possible person's happiness/suffering. There are plenty of generally happy people who are very kind (I hate when people say people are 'happy' as though it were a personality trait and even being 'happy with one's life' or something like that seems to treat happiness as something other than a moment to moment emotional state. That said, even when I'm in an ok mood or enjoying myself there is always some deadly, threatening stressor that I must keep below the surface, if I was a dog my happiness would probably be pure) and miserable people who are selfish and cruel. In fact, I think many people are selfish and cruel because they are miserable and kind because they can afford to be; because they're happy and emotionally secure. I think it depends a lot on how someone 'uses' their pain and personality has a lot to do with it. This is already long but I think egalitarianism is morally superior to both pure altruism and pure egoism. We should care about the happiness and suffering of all sentient beings whether it's our own or anyone else's, we shouldn't make a distinction to begin with. Whatever compassion I ever have for people there is always an 'egocentric' aspect to it in that I'm projecting myself on to them, I care about someone else's suffering because I care about my own suffering. I'm relating myself to their problem (even if the object of their pain is something that wouldn't bother me or something I have no personal experience with or if I reject a belief or value that enables or primes them to have a negative emotional response to something) which is why I could never get into something like deep ecology, I can't identify with the planet itself or other insentient things.
8:00 I was always someone who believed in the greater good, give to others and they'll give back. Nah, I was just a slave to be used, even with simple things like if I asked for a homework answer, they would just say no, I don't get it, is it that hard to lift up your notebook and just show me the answers? I was always the one who helped others. Now I'm just bitter and tired of people, 90% of people are at least subconsciously evil and narcy, no point helping ANYONE and I will just say No.
Yeah I get that but I AM not narcissistic I am just supremely confident in my LEGENDARY RARE TENNIS CHARACTER that many people just get intimidated or threatened by saying to me that I should get over myself the ones who say that just don't understand unfortunately or NEITHER can't comprehend how CRAZY I can be I mean if that is TRUE well I can't really comprehend neither so it's all EQUAL this year I have just been in HEAVEN NO SUCH THING AS EARTH anymore 😂😂😂
that's exactly what i've been thinking ever since i become selfish, i earn more money now than ever before even though it's not enough for me to say it due to the inflation & how expensive shit is now.
As the great *Ayn Rand* once said... "There is a virtue to selfishness." She knew what was coming and whats here now is a society full of people looking to use one another.
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The majority of people these days are glued to social media, but there are a few who are not and have something to say that isn't manufactured by the media but from their own minds.
Exactly. If you don't have social media in this world, people think that something is wrong with you. I had an ex-friend tell me that in the US, people think you're a whore or something for not having Snapchat. Such a shitty world we live in; everything revolves around materialism and consumerism.
This is a selfish world. Period. If you are selfish, you are no different than any other person. You are just another drop of dirt in an already dirty ocean 🤷.
it seems that way doesn't it? logically we should understand that being selfish is just a human impulse because of course we find ourselves to be number 1 priority because we cant feel others pain besides our own. That's why pain is the meaning to life, without pain you cant have pleasure, you wouldn't know what bad is. If we pretend others cant feel any sensations, then we will find life to be meaningless which implies suffering is meaningless.
Makes perfect sense. Everyones in it for themselves. The problem is that we can only infer other people's consciousness and not directly access it which leads to so much unnecessary suffering.
We are back again with the black ⚫️ screen maaannnn😂.How do u know?did u experience that,the worse is when u have the reputation of good person or generous ur dead,everybody gonna come to u for everything.i used to be like that,those same ppl make me change.i was brole,n stress3d abt mobey,now im chilling,i used to be depleted, stress3d abt money. But ,i would say everything needs balance.
Is it just me or are things getting crazier out here
No its not u n yes usa is f uo
Up
It's just you
it got insane since the late 2010's started, now it's next level of madness.
I don't know about that if ANYTHING I'm going crazier for the perfect reasons 😂😂😂
I don't think it's possible for me to be selfish even if I wanted to be. Other people's pain and animals' pain always weighs me down anyway. It's not because I'm better than anyone else, it's just how my mind works. I can't be happy here. I can only distract myself sometimes.
I LOVE the black screen, it inspired me. You are right. We got to focus on ourselves. We came here alone , we leave alone. If you can not put time in for yourself to realize you are really by yourself you will always be afraid of detachment. People are planning to be around groups of people for their future. I planning to be by myself, that’s self mastery!!👩🏽🦱
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@@theprisoncalledlife Hold on & be strong. I know it’s scary out here!!
I remember a family friend telling me once that I need people in my life. Oh yes, I should put trust into abusers and users, very nice(!) - not.
Anyone who constantly depends on others for every little thing is weak IMO.
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I don't think anything guarantees happiness, suffering is unavoidable regardless, but I would more or less argue the opposite. All other factors being considered I think that compassionate people are happier. One argument I could make is that when you think about or contemplate the happiness/suffering of other people you're projecting your own happiness/suffering on to them so the double-think required to hold conflicting attitudes about something (i.e. your happiness/suffering is ultimately good/bad but the happiness/suffering of at least some other people is either ultimately bad/good or neutral) creates a natural dissonance that makes it impossible to make sense of reality (when I say that anyone else's happiness is inherently good I'm affirming the value of my own happiness since it's the same thing. Because we experience happiness and suffering as inherently good and bad I think the same dissonance is implied if we deny that our own happiness and pain is always ultimately good and bad or if we claim that something other than happiness/suffering matters intrinsically). I think we're naturally moral/philosophical schizophrenics since we hold conflicting beliefs and values all the time and think nothing of it. Another argument is that as social animals a sense of being connected to others is pleasurable but I'm less interested in an argument that's rooted in how we just so happen to be wired (by natural selection) than an eternal, universal/logical truth that applies to every possible world. I don't think some of what you describe as selfishness qualifies (like needing the validation of other people which everyone, or at the _very least_ every psychologically normal person, must to some degree).
I can see how not being bothered by the suffering of other people can make your life much easier but I think distance also explains why some basically or relatively compassionate people don't ruminate over all the problems in the world (a lot of people don't spend much time thinking about how bad their own futures will be because of that 'distance' either). It's hard for me to imagine being completely happy and at peace and not caring at all about the happiness/suffering of others or even wanting them to suffer, being relatively insensitive is something else (not fundamentally or morally but in terms of how easily I can imagine being happy despite it). It's even harder for me to imagine someone in a perfect state of happiness being aggressive than their just being selfish (there may very well be people who want to torture or bully people just for fun but without anger or fear or the capacity to be emotionally threatened by others I can't understand why you would ever want to hurt someone). The greatest happiness I've ever felt was when I felt at peace with the whole world (when I didn't have to interact with them, obviously). Don't misunderstand me, I don't like or have any great compassion or sympathy for all people all of the time but I naturally don't like 'conflict' (if I could end my worst enemy's suffering by snapping my fingers I would but I'm not really invested in their well-being, it's just the reasonable thing to do and requires no sacrifice on my part. I don't want to explain). At times, if I think they suffer unbearably or if they're not an immediate threat to me, their suffering will emotionally bother me, I'm bothered by people's suffering by default in the absence of strongly resenting them, but there are times; not always, when I'm genuinely humiliated by the fact that I feel pity for people who would not feel the same for me.
I don't like the idea of not having compassion for all people, maybe you could say I have an all or nothing personality. I don't like the idea of their being a single exception to the universal compassion rule (just as I wouldn't want a bodhisattva or an angel to see me as the single exception to that rule). I don't like the arbitrariness of it. Again, I definitely do not care about all people, it's just something I can't really make peace with. I don't like having a personality that doesn't care about every single possible person's happiness/suffering. There are plenty of generally happy people who are very kind (I hate when people say people are 'happy' as though it were a personality trait and even being 'happy with one's life' or something like that seems to treat happiness as something other than a moment to moment emotional state. That said, even when I'm in an ok mood or enjoying myself there is always some deadly, threatening stressor that I must keep below the surface, if I was a dog my happiness would probably be pure) and miserable people who are selfish and cruel. In fact, I think many people are selfish and cruel because they are miserable and kind because they can afford to be; because they're happy and emotionally secure. I think it depends a lot on how someone 'uses' their pain and personality has a lot to do with it.
This is already long but I think egalitarianism is morally superior to both pure altruism and pure egoism. We should care about the happiness and suffering of all sentient beings whether it's our own or anyone else's, we shouldn't make a distinction to begin with. Whatever compassion I ever have for people there is always an 'egocentric' aspect to it in that I'm projecting myself on to them, I care about someone else's suffering because I care about my own suffering. I'm relating myself to their problem (even if the object of their pain is something that wouldn't bother me or something I have no personal experience with or if I reject a belief or value that enables or primes them to have a negative emotional response to something) which is why I could never get into something like deep ecology, I can't identify with the planet itself or other insentient things.
8:00 I was always someone who believed in the greater good, give to others and they'll give back. Nah, I was just a slave to be used, even with simple things like if I asked for a homework answer, they would just say no, I don't get it, is it that hard to lift up your notebook and just show me the answers? I was always the one who helped others. Now I'm just bitter and tired of people, 90% of people are at least subconsciously evil and narcy, no point helping ANYONE and I will just say No.
People call me selfish for not wanting to have kids and I say: Hell yeah, I am super selfish! And nothing People can do about it, lol.
How dare you not bringing another slave into capitalism 😢
@@faisaladnan1520 Because I am a monster.
Today is the day I become a narcissist
Yeah I get that but I AM not narcissistic I am just supremely confident in my LEGENDARY RARE TENNIS CHARACTER that many people just get intimidated or threatened by saying to me that I should get over myself the ones who say that just don't understand unfortunately or NEITHER can't comprehend how CRAZY I can be I mean if that is TRUE well I can't really comprehend neither so it's all EQUAL this year I have just been in HEAVEN NO SUCH THING AS EARTH anymore 😂😂😂
that's exactly what i've been thinking ever since i become selfish, i earn more money now than ever before even though it's not enough for me to say it due to the inflation & how expensive shit is now.
As the great *Ayn Rand* once said...
"There is a virtue to selfishness."
She knew what was coming and whats here now is a society full of people looking to use one another.
The majority of people these days are glued to social media, but there are a few who are not and have something to say that isn't manufactured by the media but from their own minds.
Exactly. If you don't have social media in this world, people think that something is wrong with you. I had an ex-friend tell me that in the US, people think you're a whore or something for not having Snapchat. Such a shitty world we live in; everything revolves around materialism and consumerism.
@@buri.bii3 it is sickening
You should make a video with bendectinetruth
This is a selfish world. Period. If you are selfish, you are no different than any other person. You are just another drop of dirt in an already dirty ocean 🤷.
I’m selfish and I feel better for short while , then reality hits me , you can’t be happy here.
I believe so.
It is temporary. In the end nothing matters.
7:59 So fucking true
it seems that way doesn't it? logically we should understand that being selfish is just a human impulse because of course we find ourselves to be number 1 priority because we cant feel others pain besides our own. That's why pain is the meaning to life, without pain you cant have pleasure, you wouldn't know what bad is. If we pretend others cant feel any sensations, then we will find life to be meaningless which implies suffering is meaningless.
Makes perfect sense. Everyones in it for themselves. The problem is that we can only infer other people's consciousness and not directly access it which leads to so much unnecessary suffering.
I can feel other's shit kinda acutely but even i admit that it only goes so far...it's nothing like if it was mine.
We are back again with the black ⚫️ screen maaannnn😂.How do u know?did u experience that,the worse is when u have the reputation of good person or generous ur dead,everybody gonna come to u for everything.i used to be like that,those same ppl make me change.i was brole,n stress3d abt mobey,now im chilling,i used to be depleted, stress3d abt money. But ,i would say everything needs balance.
LIGHTS OUT SETTING 😂😂😂⬛⬛⬛🕳️🕳️🕳️
U ryt 💯 ❤
It's too ignorant now to laugh and smile, because of the reality
To love your neighbour is to leave them alone. We do not have any fellowship with the world.
That does it this guy is freaking awesome.
BRO if you knew of me you'd likely feel the SAME way LOL 🤣🤣🤣 but yes he is extremely awesome 💯👍
I agreeeeee 100000 percent
I am GOD.
ARE you sure though because I have the SAME feelings 😉😉😉
You gotta be like Avon/Stringer Bell or you will end up like D and Wallace.
deep stuff.........⚫.........
I loved a girl with all my heart and she left. I feel emptier than the void of space. She was my love.
That's like the planet destroyer meteor in terms of emotional events.
First!😺
Yes you are!😂❤️
😂😂😂 Bro I don't even disagree with you.
it's all b.s ... selfish or not, this hell hole is not worth any effort or selfishness
I have ignited the FLAMES in my BODY the last FEW DAYS somehow i am in the fittest state I've ever been in!!!😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥😆😆😆💥💥💥
Dgaf yup
Guys we were put on this earth to love that’s our purpose we just don’t have much access to it that’s the thing
To be happy you have to be good looking or rich or very delusional or then you will live a miserable life
For being rich u must be selfish too
@@spreadinglove849 true you need to learn how to manipulate others and also be very lucky
Dude your volume is so low I can hardly hear you.
Maybe something is initially wrong with your audio, it sounds perfect to me and no one else is complaining 🤔
@@theprisoncalledlife I Can hear ya bro
THIS title doesn't apply to me 😅😅😅
I have no empathy. you should be like a dictator or some who sells likes to you can live in good life