Want More Confidence? Be More Selfish! - Dr. Aziz, Confidence Coach
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- Опубликовано: 22 июн 2016
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[Be More Selfish...Not exactly what you think of when you think of how to build your self confidence.
Are you ready to discover a surprising trick to becoming infinitely more confident in yourself? Do you want to feel bolder, stronger, and more fearless?
Today, I’m going to share an extremely powerful trick that will help you master confidence in all areas of your life. This trick may end up feeling counterintuitive, but that’s only because it probably goes against everything you’ve been taught.
So, what is this possibly controversial trick I’m dying to share with you today?
If you want to begin to develop ultimate confidence, you need to start being more selfish.
This, of course, must sound crazy to you-selfishness is supposed to be this ugly quality! Even as children, we’re taught that we’re supposed to share everything.
How can becoming selfish possibly help me develop confidence?
Well, to begin with, there is a spectrum of selfishness-let’s say on one end you have Henry VIII, and on the other you have Mother Teresa. While we all wish we could be as perfect as Mother Teresa, it’s not practical to expect that of mere mortals in modern society. What I have found, however, is that most people tend to lie closer to that end of the spectrum than the other.
This might sound ideal-and it definitely says great things about how Western society has progressed since the 1500’s-
but if this mindset of complete selflessness becomes habit to the point of self-denial and self-neglect, we do ourselves and our dreams a disservice.]
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i care too much for others and I usually don't realize it until I get hurt
dp driz same here
That's why I don't get what I really want and everyone else does :/
Iam too
Same here,i want to be selfish
Religions tell us to be humble but never tell us the limits that's why we should draw a line of whether the one deserves our niceness or not... because at the end god also do the same..And if God wants you to do something good to someone he'll put love in your heart for the one he wants to help through you but draw a line... you're the way only if you truly love someone that's natural but if you are saying I'm gonna do good to someone who's evil and bad that's where you're being stupid and that's what it's all about...that's where we should start listening to our brain and find out what we really want for others and what they deserves...But Never help bad people or you think are the bad people because even god Dont help them...Be rational there are way more good people or creatures that needs you're prayers and help done with them that would be enough
you don't owe anybody anything. you owe it to yourself and once others start seeing that, you get more respect. with more respect, comes confidence afterwards.
Very well summed up. thank you!
The thing is when I’m narcissistic I’m more able to help others like those in need. When I think selflessly my depression and ADHD kicks in and I start thinking I should kill myself over things like not being “sociable enough” (fake enough in this system of selfish people who expect you to engage with them). Maybe it’s a personal thing.
damnthis a
@@starx8775 it's not personal.. even I have the same issues with me
What about if end up dead. Let me tell you tomb stones are full of selfish people.
"You are not the only saviour, everyone's got other resources."
#TRUTH
Put yourself first .. I learned it's OK to do that. If you always put others first that's how ppl run over & take advantage of you
@Kitalia the kitsune she said if you always put people first not never pur them first. Putting yourself first isn't bad BC you cant pour from about empty cup.
My guru would often say, "Forget self".
I learned to be selfish because my mom is so selfless and she gets used by people so I learned from that and that’s why I’m selfish
Your story has a great twist. Usually I hear that people have adopted their parents approach.
Same here, MY parents are very selfless, I just reliaze them and I starte to be more selfish 😜
No one Is responsible for each other's happiness do what makes you happy!
I like what you said
That's actually deep
anthony siders well said ... you can't live your life according to other people expectations...and people only treat you the way you let them....
Thanks
I'll do what makes me happy, I'll have an obscene amount of money, luxury and possessions, be outrageously posh and have people have a bad reaction to me because I just said posh! Then I will kill everything because the whole world hates good things and best people, that way I will be happy. :(
Roger that.!
I officially quit being nice...now....!!
YES!
Yep MeToo.
How is your life now?
@@MegaDreamOo lol literally still the same I would say .. know why ? Because most ppl are shiiiiiiiiddy , they don't care who you are , nice , kind , evil , good , ect .. they care for themselves and if they don't like you , they were never going too ... Being less nice and more assertive and stand offish does create a slight change in ppl to want to respect you more.. but like I said ... Ppl who have respect . Will respect you regardless .. before you walked in the door they would offer respect to you ... People who don't no matter what you do .. never would have anyway ..
By 2021 I will no longer be a introverted shy nice guy, I’ve been watching your videos all day and they’ve really inspired me. I’m 18 and refuse to live the rest of my life like this, thank you
That's the spirit!
So hows 2021 treating ya?
How you doing now?
What happened for your word ,I murry that you forgot it😂😂
How are you doing bro?
Dude it took me 25 years to learn all this. I fully understand every single word you just said.
Adelina Monroe 36 for me. 35 actually
Adelina Monroe I'm blissful you have got the right response .... I wish you well in your journey.... be well
38 here. Ex co-dependent. My last relationship ended because of boundaries. I think I probably dated a co-dependent who excepted me to read her mind. I constantly let her know I’m here for you, just please let me know what you need and want and if I can, I’ll more than happily help. Otherwise, I want to take 100% care of my 50% for and because of this relationship. She told me I’m not compassionate.
How the hell did it take you 25 years to learn this if a child doesn’t understand these concepts. Maybe in your later teens and early 20’s but not a whole 25 years.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
This is gonna be general but have to say it. Everytime I think about someone else more than myself and do something for them, that situation ends with me regreting.
I realized that most people dont deserve nice actions to them. I wish I learned how to be selfish earlier!!
omg that's completely true. happened to me all the time, but Thank God I woke up. and I stopped! funny thing is when you get some people used to being overly nice with them, they start to think that this is the normal situation and you're the person who always has to give. without getting anything back .
@@bahaamuhsen3254 Exactly!
Damn, so true. All for humbleness, but at times, we Must be of self-care selflessly/"selfishly."
@@stephanier4936 PREACH! :)
@@LateshaRenee There you go!
I always feel guilty for saying no. And people walk all over me..... I'm always feeling stressed because I can't say no but then people end up using me and then I feel like I should be the better person and forgive... but it's a vicious cycle. All my life it's been like that.... and truly need help and want to learn to be selfish although that goes against everything I know.
This is so true. I'm going through a period at the moment where I have to ask myself, 'What are people giving me?' And the answer is 'very little!'.
Sounds like you might need upgrade the quality of people you're interacting with.
It,s true.. being more selfish is only making a better person..nothing bad in it.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I kept telling a girl that I didn't want to be more than friends because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.
She called me a narcissist.
I took a quiz on the Internet (I know this isn't a real diagnosis) and it actually said I was not even a healthy narcissist.
She took it and she was more of a narcissist than myself.
The 'healthy narcissism' is probably the 'selfish' you are talking about.
I let people walk all over me.
They can basically shoot my legs off and within an hour, I'd forgive them and tell them it's alright.
So being more selfish, telling and asking others for what I need, saying no, rejecting people, etc. is something I REALLY need to do because I've struggled with it for so long and I'm constantly being used when someone needs me because they know I'd be there.
Billy Rowe
Bro you’re spot on
What a blessing it is to have found this video. The Nice Guy/Gal really finishes last. And I'm sick of people taking my kindness for weakness. It ends today. #innerstrength💪🏾
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Right💯💯
if you love people or someone, then giving is the best reward; and lust takes. but yes, we should love ourselves first before investing in others. investing out of fear Is not true love either.
be selfless to those that worth it is the best I think
Nobody is worth it!
When he says "you can only feel guilty if you already feel bad" I almost dropped my whiskey
Key point... "almost" :)
You hit the nail on the head!!!!! I am a selfless person get screwed over ALL the time.
You're not alone! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Your book has changed my life, more than years of therapy. I have moral scrupulosity OCD, my entire life revolves around intense compulsive fear around being a bad person. You have helped me redefine my identity as something so much more powerful than “nice.” Thank you for helping set me free.
That is so awesome to hear Rachel!
I've struggled with this my entire life. I'm a good person but I don't wanna be perceived as a saint though.
True just avoid toxic people and welcome good ones and always be selfish inside.
aman brother
phillyfan182 I feel the same way, I feel that my body language and presence makes people think that I am way to gentle and anxious. I absolutely hate how it shows.
Maddie O just ignore angry toxic funny people trust me I wasted decades thinking about them. Just ignore them like black smoke that escapes chimneys. And do your work evrry hour. Once you done enough work for a year relax and travel with a friend. Simple and keep a garden it enriches your life. Also read books every weekend all these are far interesting adventurous than thinking about bad people which is black smoke toxic.
It certainly can be a real struggle. Keep at it though and you'll find a balance that works,
What I like about this the most is that he has experienced what I'm experiencing, overcame it, and then starting speaking to us about how to be more confident in a way I can relate. And, he seems like an actual nice guy whose also respectable because he respects himself. That's what I want to be as a woman.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
That is true because people don't respect you when you do for them day in and day out especially women.......
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice: ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: cli.re/books
I’ve learned that being a little mean for self benefits is okay ! You can take care of yourself and they can take. Are of themselves. They are not stupid !
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Yes! Looking at ourselves first, means that we won't only become more confident, but also (equally important), we will be only doing things we want to do - truly in our hearts. And won't victimise ourselves. And will feel happy. And be more confident as we represent who we really are. And on and on and on... Love this appraoch, thanks for creating this video.
A great sum up Monika! :) Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice: ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: cli.re/books
I usually do things to benefit everyone because I don't want others to look at me as selfish... this has led to me being overlooked and undermined, I'm learning to change. I've watched a couple of your videos and I must say you're doing just great👍
Whatever you do, not everyone is going to be grateful. Not everyone is your friend. So although you must be kind to others, don't be soft. And never tell others your plans, especially at work. They might use it against you. Respect others, but respect yourself more.
Always respect yourself more!
I think I watched this a couple of years ago and at that time I realized why people treated me like crap because I was a people pleaser and now I am happy to say my breakup has catapulted me to be even more selfish. Be yourself always and you will get exactly what you desire.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
@@GetMoreConfidence Thank you so much ! I will definitely watch it.
Altruism out of fear sets you up for regret a lot of times. We should ask "what do I want?" instead of "what should I do"?
Good reasoning process Maria!
So much guilt by being selfish... why did i not think about that? Thank you for saying these words. They really change everything for me.
So glad to hear that! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
All the people I have ever helped selflessly with my abilities have all tried to kill or destroy me afterwards. So, helping selflessly has come to an end for me.
This can be true in many cases loreta ben. Finding a new balance can be challenging, but also rewarding.
Thank you I needed this rn. Girls in my school are just abusing my kindness and I do not know how to say no at all. I'm not intimidated bc I know most of their intentions are because they think I'm superior for excelling in my class( I hope I don't sound cocky saying this) and they're trying to bring me down. I need to say no more before I even lose the confidence I've been slowly building for a long time now. You're channel is a gem.
oops i meant *your 😊
Hey Jc, although you are not intimidated in the sense that you are afraid they are better than you academically, I think you are intimidated by your own standards... You set a standard on yourself that you must be perfect whether academically, or a perfect friend, perfect helper etc... If you don't fulfil that standard than you feel inferior....
E.g. you feel bad when you have a grammatical mistake... so you immediately posted "oops i meant *your"... You didn't want people to think that your English is not good...
Hey I am totally working on this as well... I just won't allow myself to have any grammatical / spelling mistakes or anything of the sort... If I don't know how to say something then I'd rather not say anything, in case others laugh at my language ability. That's so silly right? I also help people because I don't want to feel bad not helping them. Thankfully people haven't abused my kindness like you do but then sometimes people do do things to me which I don't like and I don't know how to confront them...
I might be wrong about you, but see what you think?
Jc Yangson they are jealous. and you have to be more selfish and narcissist . the most of courteous students at schools seem to be narcissist selfish bureaucrats actually they belong to the right wing they are unable to express their own thoughts or criticize the teacher or the system.they get self esteem by making other students seem to be less. that is called a courteous student
I agree with this 100%. It's about balance.
Absolutely. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
You know what I love more people then I love myself. I always look out for them but when that people called you selfish at that time you start a beginning of selfish but you know what I know self control ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
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I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.
I have been nice person through out my life not knowing that people are taking you for granted.When you step up to take control or reply back to ppl.That is whn I guilt feeling steps in ...I am not able to be live fullest of my potential..I couldn't figure out my problem until now ....
Exactly what I think. I feel this to an extreme level. So also because I am inclined a bit towards religion too which for sure teaches you to be selfless. But this way of conduct/feeling hasn't given me anything. I feel good when I agree with others. It gives me this extreme feeling of goodness and hapiness on the contrary I feel more guilt when I go opposite. I dont know how to tackle this. I just want to keep a balance in this where it leads me to benefit out a bit also.
I bought your book “ NOT NICE. Even though my English is still processing. But your book help me a lot to learn English and to improve myself. 🙏 Thanks 🙏
A side benefit I hadn't even considered! :)
great video, i feel alot of people just feel guilty for saying no.
Family puts these feelings in you on purpose
They want you to serve them without questioning so they teach you from a young age that the word NO is a bad thing and you must die if you say it
Am lucky I got this message
I don't know I find that kind of weird how do you feel guilty from saying no
treat me right ....be nice to me ..but go wrong the beast comes out ..is a give and take
I'll remember that! :)
Thanks for making me realize stuff that I should've realized years ago. This is the biggest problem within me actually. I thought the main problem was me and my standards in everything, because I never get what I want. My expectations were never met and it feels frustrating every time. I really thank you for taking a huge part of my life cause I think this video will commence a turning point in my life.
So glad to hear that you found this helpful! I've done a newer video with more info in this here: ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html Also, check out my latest book dedicated to this topic titled, “Not Nice” here: cli.re/books
Thank you!
@@aridomingo17 I really don't get it though for like me personally I'm still in school I can help like 4 or 5 people with there work and still get done with my work no problem at all not trying to be rude but is it really that hard to help yourself and others at the same time
@@rustyblonchjr8660 This is a matter of perspective. Some things that work for you may not work on me and I respect that. I think this video is more appropriate to people who can't speak for themselves, who can't call out someone, who encounters aggressive people and never know how to handle them. Hence, the end result is that we always lose. We end up feeling tired because of always choosing everyone over ourselves. It's good to help other people but we can help them without compensating ourselves too much. If you find this video inappropriate, maybe it's not for you because you don't really know what it feels like to experience these things. Dr. Aziz used the word "selfish", people may have misundersood or may have seen this video in a negative way but it isn't. He just wants to say that sometimes, we should think of ourselves first cause often times we tend to forget about ourselves because of our love and care for other people.
@@aridomingo17 he used the wrong term self love not selfishness
I also don't agree that putting yourself first is a requirement there's some people that can help people and still have time to themselves and are fine I Just don't like how some people say that putting yourself first is a requirement and it needs to be done that's all but yeah whatever works for you is what works for you I respect that
You're really right. Everything that feels unatural is bad for us. If you express your wants instead of worrying about the other you make everyone happy. I'm happy there's a video that talks about that on youtube. I feel like this happen a lot in relashionship/dating. I hate what's unnatural so that might be a reason why I don't have any boyfriend hahaaaaaaaa...
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
This is my 2022 focus. Self care and selfishness.
Yes!
You're helping us a lot Dr. Aziz. Thank you.
It’s true and I have to be more selfish. Whenever I haven’t been selfish and wanted to help everyone all the time, eventually I became resentful.
That is not at all uncommon.
@@GetMoreConfidence Why do you think that is?
Makes a lot more sense than being the "nice guy"
Check out my newer video on being Less Nice: ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, have a look at my new book dedicated to this topic titled, “Not Nice” here: cli.re/books
Nice guys finish last.
You must value yourself first
Absolutely!
Dr. Aziz reading and listening to your book The Solution for Social anxiety, it really changed my life thank you.
Yes!! That's awesome to hear. What are some of the biggest breakthroughs you've experienced?
It’s a journey, there’s a difference between self-centred and selfish!
I’m laughing because this video could have been said in 3 mins, but I enjoyed the transition, thank you.
You're welcome!
👍 sometimes I give to much to my friend. Than I become more of a mother to her than a friend. Also, she than expects more. More free coffee, more free lunches. I realized it’s like I’m buying her company. Lol. So, I stopped. I give favors now when I want to. I also realize I can be inadvertently holding people back from achieving more. We all need to learn life lessons. I need to care for myself. I can’t be a bottomless well of giving because there is nothing left for me. Great video and thank you!
Thank you for sharing that. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Yes you are right , we should take the power of decision to ourselves that does not mean that we are being selfish . That means that we are standing for our ownself . And that's not bad.
Because people start you to make a punching bag if you always be a nice guy.
Now I understood why I was being depressed for long time even after helping other people and not hurting other people feeling . Because I was not taking my own decisions , I took those decisions out of fear .
But now onwards I will choose my own decisions and fight with my guilt .
Currently I am college student final year ( 21 ) . I wish I could know this earlier in my life no body told me like this . Really very thanks to you for this eye opening videos.
Keep uploading.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I think.its important to stick up for yourself, first I thought you mean by selfish 'arrogant'
I found your page just before I am about to go make some cold sales calls, I do door to door sales. it's such a relief to hear exactly what I've been feeling and how it's been making me fearful of what is to come, fear of being rejected. I've been working this job for two years now and I still get those feelings and it shakes my confidence to a crumble. I really like where you're heading with all this and my fear feels to have been alleviated for now. thanks for posting this stuff
I’m in a miserable relationship I feel worried and anxious with my girlfriend and it’s like being in prison, but I’m worried that it will make her upset so I have been prolonging breaking up
If that's what is needed, I hope this information can give you the courage to do what you need to do either way.
focus on yourself! it needs practice
Practice is extremely important.
this is great. helping an ex boyfriend and i feel miserable because i don't want to help. tks
u got it lol😂😂
y help him any way
Even the ex is gonna feel like garbage
Not going is the best for everyone
?and also, am I his fu**g maid or something?
He described me to T- yep, a compulsive fear alright, especially grown from early childhood bulling/abuse and the need to feel we HAVE to be like our Saviour is deeply ingrained and not beneficial but for me has been extremely dangerous. I have had so much evil done to me, being taken advantage of that I end up losing it and being abused like a criminal by Police and in the Psychiatric Unit.
Wow, thank you for sharing your story.
@@GetMoreConfidence Thank YOU
Thank you ! I am Blessed to find you , I was looking for help to stop being used and hurt by everyone!!! I start now the work on me !!! No means NO !!! The End of thinking about it !
Awesome! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I have broken a relationship in dating early stages we not even met yet saying he love me is sweet but far to early for that for me he upset a few times by what he said on text as i am becoming more selfish and staying what i want or dont like and being more confident as i am trying to be which is good thing he decided to leave its really his loss not mine i choose to care on myself thats not wrong being selfish . Men seem to want a damsel in distress type thing well i am not and am proud of it. Selfish is not bad unless to much as he said
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Get More Confidence i will thxs
Don't worry just be yourself and you'll attract your type.
good examples ! being nice is better than the guilt & over thinking and backlash from others I feel after setting boundaries. One time I told à friend to stop calling me last minute to go out and he never invited me out ever again.... But just text me like nothing was wrong...
I highly recommend my book, "Not Nice."
Get More Confidence I’ll definitely read it if it’s on audio! I only read Audiobooks
I'm on the other side. The being too nice side and being afraid and feeling gilty of saying "NO". Thank you so much for this video.
the first time I saw one of your video, i felt this energy inside me of flame and greatness. your videos are easy to practice and so inspiring. I thank God your word came into my life. Thank brother and God bless you.
This spectrum doesn't work with those labels (selfish vs selfless), because both sides are selfish. Both are about protecting or feeding your own fragile ego & using people to boost their own sense of self worth.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
It so so true....
I realised it when I start getting pull for 2 different ways to help others
& I was feeling like I am not that good
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Totally relatable. I always showed up for my friends and was there for them. But they kind of started taking me for granted. But once I got married, I realised my friends were really jealous. I was the single, available friend with a job for them. But although I had everything I was not 'settled' as per Indian standards. They were married and continuously ranted about how marriage is bad. But I bet they secretly was relieved I haven't found a life partner. When I broke the news of my engagement, first thing my bestie told me was "Oh one of my friends had asked if you were single" REALLY? Is that the reaction. And where was this friend when i had been single for a very long time? She never mentioned anything of that friend instead she was talking about marital difficulties. But now I am married, and with a good job. That kind of upset them. I stopped initiating conversation with them. Now they want to meet up for a get together. Anyway I can never be their same friend. I know I can never count on them.
Your channel is amazing. Thank you for doing these.
I died laughing a couple of times at the jokes. Love that guy
You rock dude.
So do you!
Your passion for topic and own suffering is visible.
It's just awesome how you overcome all these things and sharing your tools with others 👍🙂.
Thank you!
I watch this pretty often just so I really get it in and understand it more and more. Really helps
I'm glad to hear that. Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
You really opened my eyes to things that i don't like and want to change but cannot find what is. Can't aprreciate more, very much thanks
I'm so happy to find this channel. Many useful videos. Dr.Aziz gives lots of important and helpful insights.
I'm/has been a NICE person all the time, but I didn't like it. I always wanted to deal with it and change myself a little bit. Now I'm going to use his tips. Slowly learning how to say 'no'.
i watch so many of your videos im really wokring on myself. i found your videos very helpful. you see growing up in a family where i was constantly neglected by my parents made me more of a people pleaser needing constant validation. being too nice js=ust so i dont hurt them like my parents did to me. which in turn resulted in social anxiety and low self esteem
YOUR VIDEOS are so soo helpful to me for finally being confident😇
I think that is very important to say no when we don't want something and to accept when other people say to us "no" because they don't want
You've opened my eyes, Dr.! Thank you! It had always been the missing part for me.
Awesome! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
“Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one but they think each others stink.”
LOL Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
yup. this is life. good shit . accurate LIKE!
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brilliant Dr Aziz just brilliant!
The simplest truths are the hardest to apprehend....u have to take care of yourself..nobody will. All the liabilities in this world stems from one's disability....Fate is merely one circumstance mixed with another...and who creates these circumstances?
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Thanks for this amazing video ,
I have suffered all my life being too nice .
I have never thought about my self
Starting from January 2023,
No more being nice, I will be more selfish for the betterment of myself.
Thank you Dr for giving this advice,With this kind of thinking I feel I can become more confident in myself
I always cared about others. No matter how many times they f*** me. I fight and sacrifice for them... I wanna change.... this selfish world and people deserve selfish me...
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Helping tha homie out no matter what is bro code.
Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I am super glad to have found your guidance. Great advice!Thank you Doctor.
Great to have you here! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Thank you, perfect timing!
Love your channel! It has helped me a lot to connect with myself and be real around people. Wish you all the best
So grateful to hear that! Be sure and connect with me though my other resources as well...
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Thank you sir... I always felt I've to be selfless and done it this long but still I wasn't happy.. i didn't knew why... You answered it the in best way🙂🙂
You're welcome! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
Great doctor, great person. Thanks for your videos!
Aziz(sp), I like your channel so much that I had to subscribe. You make excellent points.
Great to have you hear, dive right in! Be sure to take full advantage of all my free online resources…
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence
4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
DrAzizBooks.com
6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing!
socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
I whatched most of your vedioes and i can see clearly what are you talking about!!! For the first time some real talk! Great great vedioes
Thank u for sharing your experience Dr.Aziz.
Your content has changed my life man
I actually really like this, you broke it down so simplistically but it was effective and made so much sense!
Good video well said ... you can't live your life according to other people expectations...and people only treat you the way you let them....
Well said! :)
I watch your videos every night before I go to sleep for my self improvement. Your videos are helping me a lot. Thank you. Keep inspiring! May i have the courage to be who I am & to know in deep level that I am awesome. =)
You ARE absolutely awesome!
dude, your videos are awesome. keep up the good job
this was bloody amazing - thank you so much!
Thanks Dr. Aziz for your suggestion
YOU CHANGED MY LIFE DR. AZIZ
Excellent video . Thanks dr aziz . Keep posting more . Very useful advice.
Thank you, and I will! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com
I love the way you explain things man, it really speaks to me.
I'm so grateful to hear that! Check out a newer video of mine expanding on being less nice (more selfish): ruclips.net/video/4rPCuz2p4RQ/видео.html And, this topic is so important, I wrote an entire book dedicated to it! See it here: www.NotNiceBook.com