Thanks Dr. Aziz this video really gives me a different perspective on this eye contact problem. This is by far my biggest problem right now and it is very crippling. I literally can’t look anyone in the eye even my own family. I’m constantly worried if I’m doing it right or not or if I’m giving too much or too little eye contact. But I really like this video because it lays out that how I view myself is how everyone else views me
@@GetMoreConfidence I also like Dr Aziz idea that we know how to naturally make eye contact if we have high self esteem. After all, we are born knowing how to properly socialize.
This was so dead on. Everything you described is what I go through. I also noticed that my eyes tend to widen when I make eye contact because I'm afraid of it. I start to feel really anxious and it's worse around my superiors at work. Of course, I can see how it makes others uncomfortable or think I'm creepy as opposed to when I'm relaxed and can get those negative feelings under control.
You saying 'why do you think eye contact is going to be repulsive to the other person' just hit me right where it hurts. I've been struggling with eye contact for some time now and only recently have started questioning the belief that other people will be offended by my attention. I've been told that I am attractive but god is it difficult to face rejection, especially if rejection is your entire expectation.
I've gotten so use to looking down that people think I'm looking at their private areas, and I think I just might be doing that but not in a sexual but to avoid them seeing me
It’s what I needed to hear, I am currently learning these tools for few months now. I had always thought I have specific eye contact problem and saw many videos on that, this tool for me was eye opening. Gracias
Thanks Dr Aziz,now i get to know why i have issues with eye contact,probably i need to work on my inner person and fight low self esteem.its failing me many times.thanks
I would say initially just a lot more exposure to all typed of eye contact. Try this daily exercise as a start: ruclips.net/video/0xUUEWW1baY/видео.html
Use to be a nightmare for me growing up living with a speech impediment, I felt so ashamed of my mouth and speech in general, I would often looking away and blush too fearing people mocking and laughing at me with their eyes.
Eye contact is a powerful tool. If someone is being flaky with me I give them an intense 20 seconds of straight in the eye. If I like what I see they get a smile, if not another few seconds might tell me what they are thinking and I can respond how I wish. The fall out intensity can take a little while to cool down but it is worth it. It once took three days but I did get the answer I was looking for, much to my advantage. A look can be worth a hundred words.
I just wanted to say that I really appreciate your content and thank you for putting in the time to help me and others with the inner daily struggles. Good on ya!
This is a very interesting channel..I grew up in a family where no one really makes eye contact so I always felt like it was weird thing to do, like I'm invading people's privacy. I never really noticed this until recently but I typically look at people's mouth's and the center of there face rather than their eyes. I've found that when I'm speaking, and I do make proper eye contact, I tend to lose focus on what I'm trying to say because that eye contact is so powerful for some reason haha. I really want to fix this problem because I know once I do, I can achieve what I never thought possible with people.
You'll find several videos on that topic here on my channel as well as my many online resources... 1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter: socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/ In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.” You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers. 2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety. 3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week! ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence 4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/ 5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them! DrAzizBooks.com 6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing! socialconfidencecenter.com/events/ 7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
Had to subscribe after he brought up whole men staring at each other causing fights. Nailed it. I’ve always struggled with this. At the gym, at school, at restaurants i always perceived a man staring at me as an attempt to alpha me. This shit has been one of my biggest anxiety triggers.
Im from East Europe. An eye contact for me is a torture. When I make my myself look at people''s eyes I come out as aggressive. I just dont see a point of looking in peoples eyes.
I think eye contact difficulty is self esteem issues but I also think it’s intertwined with fear. Because if you blow away all the fearful fantasies and self esteem is intact simultaneously than, goodness happens. But then again, maybe one is less fearful if there is high self esteem! 😊
Thank you so much, Dr. Aziz! I enjoy listening to your opinions and it is great when you explain the patterns that you analyse. ^_^ I agree with the self autoestime problems. :( Regards!
How ironic: this video is about eye contact, yet, I have a hard time looking at him because my heart starts beating faster, he's so handsome that I can't hear everything he's saying... LOL!
Dr Aziz thank you so much for all this deep exact info it couldn't be more accurate and simple than this!, I have a question, This thing started with me when I thought that my normal face look is too serious so I was afraid that when I look to someone they get the wrong message, is this also low self esteem ? and is there a better advice or info to completely kill this wrong belief ?
I'm practicing right now, seeing your eyes when hearing your motivation but it's kinda hard to maintain eye contact even when I see someone eyes in video when they're talking.. like I cant even concentrate for long period. to be honest, I usually see other people mouth when talking to them, is that okay? or I must fix it?
Looking at someone at all is an accomplishment. We always want to be working on ourselves and improving, so eye contact sounds like a good next goal. You'll even find videos to help you with that here on my channel.
Are eye contact problems always the reason of a low self-esteem? I have the feeling that I’ve just created a sort of obsession which started this anxiety by not knowing what is was at the beginning. I never had any problems with this or social interactions before it began 1 year ago.. I really want to solve this!
Hello Dr! Excellent Vdo. Have to learn a lot. Nice presentation AZIZ46. God bless u. Iʻll follow the steps to increase my self esteem. Thank you so much my frnd.
I have a different issue. Actually, I feel like I make too much eye contact, especially when I am listening to teachers in the class. Then it makes me feel weird. I know I have low self steem, though.
Thank you. What happen to me most of the time is that i can't face human eyes, i don't want seat infront of may people. I think my eyes normal but very small.
This is common with just about any physical feature you can think of. For me, it was the dark circles under my eyes. It made me SO self conscious. In time, I learned that my concern over how people thought of me because of this...was just a story I was telling myself. I also learned not to care so much about what other people think. Check out my story here: ruclips.net/video/h6rlw9LOfy4/видео.html I think you'll see we have a lot in common, which means you can overcome this too! Next, go here and check out the video stories of people just like you who’ve overcome these same issues and are now living happy and fulfilling lives: cli.re/breakthroughs
I have problems with social anxiety eyes when I look at people my eyes change they even turned red inching and even make make fear to meet my friends please help me
Here you go! www.amazon.com/Art-Extraordinary-Confidence-Ultimate-Freedom/dp/B01IAEOB1G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541419751&sr=8-1&keywords=art+of+extraordinary+confidence+audio&dpID=51xex1UpNXL&preST=_SX342_QL70_&dpSrc=srch
Eye contact is my biggest problem. I can't speak with anyone because of this problem,if I am looking at something one I look at there eyes only because of this they feel uneasy to talk with me.how am I rectify this problem
Eh idk, I don’t have a problem looking at someone in their eyes. If anything I look for too long because I don’t know the proper amount of time that is “okay” to look while someone is telling a story or something.
I feel like I'm fairly good at looking at people, but I have a visual impairiment that makes my eyes bounce from side to side. Sometimes I wonder how that is perceived. Do I come off less confident than I am really feeling? Or is this just my lack of confidence manifesting itself in negative stories in my head?
There is another cause of eye contact problem which no one have ever explained on RUclips. Don't know if we can get in touch in any way. I like to share my story with you.
@@GetMoreConfidence I just wrote you on the site. You can get more infos from me when it comes to stuffs like this and how to deal with it. I'll be glad to help others!
This is cool and all but I don’t really see how this video helped me learn how to make eye contact just because I can’t make eye contact does not mean I am automatically have low self esteem which most people do in someway or another I feel this video was drawn out for no reason to discuss something that could’ve been stated in a mere minute that the tools to fix the issue are within our hands and not this video... could at least refer books on promoting self esteem, external gestures, confidence, etc
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Thanks Dr. Aziz this video really gives me a different perspective on this eye contact problem. This is by far my biggest problem right now and it is very crippling. I literally can’t look anyone in the eye even my own family. I’m constantly worried if I’m doing it right or not or if I’m giving too much or too little eye contact. But I really like this video because it lays out that how I view myself is how everyone else views me
I'm glad you found it valuable!
@@GetMoreConfidence I also like Dr Aziz idea that we know how to naturally make eye contact if we have high self esteem. After all, we are born knowing how to properly socialize.
This was so dead on. Everything you described is what I go through. I also noticed that my eyes tend to widen when I make eye contact because I'm afraid of it. I start to feel really anxious and it's worse around my superiors at work. Of course, I can see how it makes others uncomfortable or think I'm creepy as opposed to when I'm relaxed and can get those negative feelings under control.
Exactly. It seems like it should be so easy, doesn't it! Keep at it!
You saying 'why do you think eye contact is going to be repulsive to the other person' just hit me right where it hurts. I've been struggling with eye contact for some time now and only recently have started questioning the belief that other people will be offended by my attention. I've been told that I am attractive but god is it difficult to face rejection, especially if rejection is your entire expectation.
I understand completely. Search my channel here for videos about rejection and you'll find a lot of helpful content.
It's much easier for me when I wear sunglasses
I've gotten so use to looking down that people think I'm looking at their private areas, and I think I just might be doing that but not in a sexual but to avoid them seeing me
Keep working on it, you're not alone!
Same dude
Hah gay
@@Poop-sr9sn
Not everything is about sex dive deeper
Bonus points if they're actually into it xD
Thanks for your contribution to humanity.
Every time I hear you I reassure myself with confidence You touch points that are my life You are amazing Doctor Aziz Thank you Oshri from Israel
So gad you're here with us Oshri!
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It’s what I needed to hear, I am currently learning these tools for few months now.
I had always thought I have specific eye contact problem and saw many videos on that, this tool for me was eye opening.
Gracias
De nada.
You're the best Doc
Thank you,this video is such a huge help
I'm so glad to hear that!
Thank u for that ❤️
You're very welcome!
Dude I watched a couple of videos but I tell you that you are good at this
Thank you, I've been doing this awhile. :)
Are haj ali karesh khobe khodayi
Wow! You really broke it down to the tee! I was never taught this! Thank you so much! 🤪😁
You are so welcome!
very true, honestly well worded
“ It’s not eye contact problem, it’s self-esteem problem..” Thank you for this great video
Thanks Dr Aziz,now i get to know why i have issues with eye contact,probably i need to work on my inner person and fight low self esteem.its failing me many times.thanks
You are a very wise guy! Thank you so much for your video!
I don't have low self-esteem but I laugh when I make eye contact... whenever I keep it I start looking down and laughing! any tips on this, please
I would say initially just a lot more exposure to all typed of eye contact. Try this daily exercise as a start: ruclips.net/video/0xUUEWW1baY/видео.html
I have the same issue, i just cant hold my laugh
Most underrated creator you differently deserves millons of subscriber
Well said
Use to be a nightmare for me growing up living with a speech impediment, I felt so ashamed of my mouth and speech in general, I would often looking away and blush too fearing people mocking and laughing at me with their eyes.
So, use to be? You overcame it? Please share!
Eye contact is a powerful tool. If someone is being flaky with me I give them an intense 20 seconds of straight in the eye. If I like what I see they get a smile, if not another few seconds might tell me what they are thinking and I can respond how I wish. The fall out intensity can take a little while to cool down but it is worth it. It once took three days but I did get the answer I was looking for, much to my advantage. A look can be worth a hundred words.
Excellent content sir. This video was great!
Thank you so much!
Thnx aziz bhai...
You're welcome!
5 min into the video and I subscribed!
Welcome Daniel!
Thank you very much!!
thanks for shearing.
You're welcome!
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Little did you all know... Dr. Aziz is secretly a sheep farmer... 😂
Absolutely right.i too have self esteem reasons
Don't we all!
I just wanted to say that I really appreciate your content and thank you for putting in the time to help me and others with the inner daily struggles. Good on ya!
So glad to have you here!
Great stuff man!
Thanks!
Biggest Fear is Keeping the conversation going
Search my channel for many tips on being a better conversationalist.
How to solve difficulty eye contact during table talk while face to face interactions?
Watch this video several more times. :)
This is a very interesting channel..I grew up in a family where no one really makes eye contact so I always felt like it was weird thing to do, like I'm invading people's privacy. I never really noticed this until recently but I typically look at people's mouth's and the center of there face rather than their eyes. I've found that when I'm speaking, and I do make proper eye contact, I tend to lose focus on what I'm trying to say because that eye contact is so powerful for some reason haha. I really want to fix this problem because I know once I do, I can achieve what I never thought possible with people.
It's uncomfortable at first, but you can do this!
Has it gotten better??
@@vianeygalvan7959 it has actually! I let myself just trust that Im not being creepy with it lol
love your new book write more books
I will!
Aziz, please talk more on building self esteem. How do we build those?
You'll find several videos on that topic here on my channel as well as my many online resources...
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence
4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
DrAzizBooks.com
6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing!
socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
You are super awsome man
Thank you!
Had to subscribe after he brought up whole men staring at each other causing fights. Nailed it. I’ve always struggled with this. At the gym, at school, at restaurants i always perceived a man staring at me as an attempt to alpha me. This shit has been one of my biggest anxiety triggers.
Glad to have you here!
One positive from not being able to make eye-contact, is that I noticed Dr. Aziz has a really really nice shirt.
Yes sir i literally think that if i look into someone's eye then i will be seen by them that's why i break eye contact when they look at me ...
Very true for many people, you're not alone! However, you can learn to be comfortable with it.
Tr ending
I can relate to that.
Im from East Europe. An eye contact for me is a torture. When I make my myself look at people''s eyes I come out as aggressive. I just dont see a point of looking in peoples eyes.
It's how people connect on a deep level. Here's a daily exercise you can do to help you get better at this: ruclips.net/video/0xUUEWW1baY/видео.html
I think eye contact difficulty is self esteem issues but I also think it’s intertwined with fear. Because if you blow away all the fearful fantasies and self esteem is intact simultaneously than, goodness happens. But then again, maybe one is less fearful if there is high self esteem! 😊
Thank you so much, Dr. Aziz! I enjoy listening to your opinions and it is great when you explain the patterns that you analyse. ^_^ I agree with the self autoestime problems. :( Regards!
So glad you're "getting it".
How ironic: this video is about eye contact, yet, I have a hard time looking at him because my heart starts beating faster, he's so handsome that I can't hear everything he's saying... LOL!
LOL Try putting some duct tape over the parts of the screen you find distracting. :)
Great video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Dr Aziz thank you so much for all this deep exact info it couldn't be more accurate and simple than this!, I have a question, This thing started with me when I thought that my normal face look is too serious so I was afraid that when I look to someone they get the wrong message, is this also low self esteem ? and is there a better advice or info to completely kill this wrong belief ?
I'm practicing right now, seeing your eyes when hearing your motivation
but it's kinda hard to maintain eye contact even when I see someone eyes in video when they're talking.. like I cant even concentrate for long period.
to be honest, I usually see other people mouth when talking to them, is that okay? or I must fix it?
Looking at someone at all is an accomplishment. We always want to be working on ourselves and improving, so eye contact sounds like a good next goal. You'll even find videos to help you with that here on my channel.
Dr Aziz does confidence unleashed ever go on sale? I would love to do the program but cannot afford it currently.
Once in a great while. Hit me up at my website to find out when that happens: socialconfidencecenter.com
Are eye contact problems always the reason of a low self-esteem? I have the feeling that I’ve just created a sort of obsession which started this anxiety by not knowing what is was at the beginning. I never had any problems with this or social interactions before it began 1 year ago.. I really want to solve this!
Watch this video a few more times. :)
Hello Dr! Excellent Vdo. Have to learn a lot. Nice presentation AZIZ46. God bless u. Iʻll follow the steps to increase my self esteem. Thank you so much my frnd.
Let me know how it goes!
DANKIE DAD!
I have a different issue. Actually, I feel like I make too much eye contact, especially when I am listening to teachers in the class. Then it makes me feel weird. I know I have low self steem, though.
Hello sar! How can I stop thinking while looking to others eyes
It will take practice. Try this exercise every day: ruclips.net/video/0xUUEWW1baY/видео.html
subscribed
Thank you. What happen to me most of the time is that i can't face human eyes, i don't want seat infront of may people. I think my eyes normal but very small.
This is common with just about any physical feature you can think of. For me, it was the dark circles under my eyes. It made me SO self conscious. In time, I learned that my concern over how people thought of me because of this...was just a story I was telling myself. I also learned not to care so much about what other people think. Check out my story here: ruclips.net/video/h6rlw9LOfy4/видео.html I think you'll see we have a lot in common, which means you can overcome this too!
Next, go here and check out the video stories of people just like you who’ve overcome these same issues and are now living happy and fulfilling lives: cli.re/breakthroughs
My self esteem is underground so
Time to build it up then!
I have problems with social anxiety eyes when I look at people my eyes change they even turned red inching and even make make fear to meet my friends please help me
Have a look at this video: ruclips.net/video/KD2XAfsvEIw/видео.html
Please tell me how can i get your book the art of extraordinary confidence audio book
Here you go! www.amazon.com/Art-Extraordinary-Confidence-Ultimate-Freedom/dp/B01IAEOB1G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541419751&sr=8-1&keywords=art+of+extraordinary+confidence+audio&dpID=51xex1UpNXL&preST=_SX342_QL70_&dpSrc=srch
How do you stop your eyes darting nervously.
Relaxing and lots of practice interacting.
It's really hard to make an eye contact witj ocular tourettic ocd
It maybe more challenging but it's not impossible.
Eye contact is my biggest problem. I can't speak with anyone because of this problem,if I am looking at something one I look at there eyes only because of this they feel uneasy to talk with me.how am I rectify this problem
Watch this video several more times and apply what you learn.
Eh idk, I don’t have a problem looking at someone in their eyes. If anything I look for too long because I don’t know the proper amount of time that is “okay” to look while someone is telling a story or something.
That sounds like a problem. :-)
@@GetMoreConfidence lol yes, it’s a problem but I guess not the same exact problem.
You crack me up with your finger on your face. 🤣
LOL
I can’t look at my therapist causeI am afraid I am going to cry. We are doing EMDR. I couldn’t tell him things so I wrote a mini novel to him
That sounds like a good way to get things going.
ضع ترجمة عربي
Sorry, I'm an English speaker only.
Have confidence. Thus, the problem. Confident people probably have confident eye contact.
Confidence is the root issue, and anyone can learn it.
I feel like I'm fairly good at looking at people, but I have a visual impairiment that makes my eyes bounce from side to side. Sometimes I wonder how that is perceived. Do I come off less confident than I am really feeling? Or is this just my lack of confidence manifesting itself in negative stories in my head?
I believe you hit on the answer there in your last question. :)
I'm struggling eye contact especially when I'm in buplic like university or marketing
Keep watching this video and apply what you learn.
Thanks dr aziza 💛🤩
There is another cause of eye contact problem which no one have ever explained on RUclips. Don't know if we can get in touch in any way. I like to share my story with you.
Hit me up here: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/about/contact/
@@GetMoreConfidence I just wrote you on the site. You can get more infos from me when it comes to stuffs like this and how to deal with it. I'll be glad to help others!
after i saw 4:05 you got a sub, and yea thats how it feels lol
Awesome, and thank you!
Lol dwl love being not seen. 😅😅😅 sigh
This is cool and all but I don’t really see how this video helped me learn how to make eye contact just because I can’t make eye contact does not mean I am automatically have low self esteem which most people do in someway or another I feel this video was drawn out for no reason to discuss something that could’ve been stated in a mere minute that the tools to fix the issue are within our hands and not this video... could at least refer books on promoting self esteem, external gestures, confidence, etc
It's not meant to connect for everyone, and that's okay.
I have struggled with porn for over 20yrs so I feel guilt and shame. I don't like who I am so I fear looking into other peoples eyes.
I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that. Do you have ideas on how you can change and love and accept yourself more?