Today i ve learnt something important Ive been struggling with social anxiety recently but today i had an interaction with a girl.(Im girl too) I was so happy that i had the guts to open up and share common stuff.And i found out she likes videogames as I do and i felt good talkin to her and comfortable. Whatvi learnt today is that there s many people around me .i might feel uncomfortbale talkin to others but it is because we have nothing in common and i force myself to talk about things i dont like or dont know The right people will show up.
You’re right, I do feel empty when I ask nothing but questions about that other person. Like sure, I make them feel good for themselves but like you said “not emotionally connected to them” because they know nothing about me. But when they do ask, I do “mute” myself. I’ve followed what Dale C has said but I also have to apply and say what I love and like but with energy so that they remember. That makes so much sense, thank you Dr. Aziz.
Awesome bro, been following you for a while now and the advice that you offer is legit and has really changed my mindset.... I’ve been noticing improvements in my interactions with random people as well as the people I already know....You’re awesome dude! Thanks and Keep up the great work!👍
Thanks for this! I'm actually going to spend thanksgiving with some extended family I've never met so this video couldn't have came at a better time. It may seem kinda rude to just sit in the corner and not talk to anyone so I'm going to practice this new tip today.
This is a very good and practical advice. Thank you very much Dr. Aziz. No one ever tells such important things. It is a little behavior with such a huge impact. You are the man!
This video is for me!! I loathe small talk. I like being sociable, but in a natural more relaxed way. So many people (including myself) feel like we have to "furnish the silence" (with unnecessary filler words) and some of what we blurt out doesn't even make sense and feels awkward and out-of-turn. Whereas if we had just let a pregnant pause fill the air, something more meaningful or interesting could have been said. Plato said: "Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something." Good vid. Thank you so much.
Another awesome video from you..but i wanted to add something that showing alot of energy might be look like expressing neediness or wanting to amaze whoever I’m talking to and this is not something you want the other person to absorb from you
Tameem R. Mahmood Alshaker Excellent comment. I fully concur with you. It is better to be reserved and laid-back and a little mysterious. That way people are drawn to you more. The other way does come across as needy and a bit desperate. Also, it puts you under more pressure and appears people pleasing and ingratiating.
Dear Dr. Aziz Hello I wanted to ask you later in your lecture, you mentioned Dale Carnegie, personally I read his book, what do you think is his way successful, because I think he loses the assertive side within me, I would be very grateful if you could make a small order on the matter
@@GetMoreConfidence Dear Dr. Assiz Thank you very much for the answer, but after all, you did not answer my question, I will thank you very much and look forward to your reply,. Gedi
Dear Dr. Aziz, First of all, thank you for the beautiful delivery you sent me on your site, you were and I live in Israel and do not read English at a high level, only basic so unfortunately I left your site, but very much enjoy listening to your RUclips lessons on self-confidence and the like, and love and appreciate you very much. kid
"How's it going? Oh fine. How about you? Great. Cool. So uhhhh....." LOL Aziz that's like most of my conversations. And yes I attribute this to be boring and uninteresting but your video made me stop and think about things.
Good stuff Dr. I plan on applying this knowledge with my future interactions with people. However, I tend to reveal tmi when meeting new people whether they are colleagues, clients, or romantic interests. Do you have any suggestions or a video about how to dodge or or ignore personal questions without coming off as rude or a dick?
"May you have the courage to be who you are." that's so beautiful
Today i ve learnt something important
Ive been struggling with social anxiety recently but today i had an interaction with a girl.(Im girl too) I was so happy that i had the guts to open up and share common stuff.And i found out she likes videogames as I do and i felt good talkin to her and comfortable.
Whatvi learnt today is that there s many people around me .i might feel uncomfortbale talkin to others but it is because we have nothing in common and i force myself to talk about things i dont like or dont know
The right people will show up.
That is true and awesome!
You deserve more viewers. This is really inspiring!!
Thank you! Tell all your friends! :)
@@GetMoreConfidence funny of you to assume I have friend...🤣
You’re right, I do feel empty when I ask nothing but questions about that other person. Like sure, I make them feel good for themselves but like you said “not emotionally connected to them” because they know nothing about me. But when they do ask, I do “mute” myself.
I’ve followed what Dale C has said but I also have to apply and say what I love and like but with energy so that they remember. That makes so much sense, thank you Dr. Aziz.
You're welcome!
Awesome bro, been following you for a while now and the advice that you offer is legit and has really changed my mindset.... I’ve been noticing improvements in my interactions with random people as well as the people I already know....You’re awesome dude! Thanks and Keep up the great work!👍
Thank you so much!
U wear very nice elegant colors
Thank you very much!
Thanks for this! I'm actually going to spend thanksgiving with some extended family I've never met so this video couldn't have came at a better time. It may seem kinda rude to just sit in the corner and not talk to anyone so I'm going to practice this new tip today.
Let me know how it goes!
This is a very good and practical advice. Thank you very much Dr. Aziz. No one ever tells such important things. It is a little behavior with such a huge impact. You are the man!
So glad you found it useful!
Dale Cs advice is great, but this advice is better imo.
Thank you!
This video is for me!! I loathe small talk. I like being sociable, but in a natural more relaxed way. So many people (including myself) feel like we have to "furnish the silence" (with unnecessary filler words) and some of what we blurt out doesn't even make sense and feels awkward and out-of-turn. Whereas if we had just let a pregnant pause fill the air, something more meaningful or interesting could have been said. Plato said: "Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something." Good vid. Thank you so much.
Great quote!
Thank you for sharing
My pleasure.
Another awesome video from you..but i wanted to add something that showing alot of energy might be look like expressing neediness or wanting to amaze whoever I’m talking to and this is not something you want the other person to absorb from you
Tameem R. Mahmood Alshaker Excellent comment. I fully concur with you. It is better to be reserved and laid-back and a little mysterious. That way people are drawn to you more. The other way does come across as needy and a bit desperate. Also, it puts you under more pressure and appears people pleasing and ingratiating.
I suppose it depends on the circumstances.
@@breakthroughmoment1647 exactly
@@GetMoreConfidence Umm, if u make a video on this subject it will be highly appreciated
Dear Dr. Aziz Hello I wanted to ask you later in your lecture, you mentioned Dale Carnegie, personally I read his book, what do you think is his way successful, because I think he loses the assertive side within me, I would be very grateful if you could make a small order on the matter
I think there're a lot of great techniques and suggestions to add to your arsenal of confidence in his content.
@@GetMoreConfidence Dear Dr. Assiz Thank you very much for the answer, but after all, you did not answer my question, I will thank you very much and look forward to your reply,. Gedi
Dear Dr. Aziz, First of all, thank you for the beautiful delivery you sent me on your site, you were and I live in Israel and do not read English at a high level, only basic so unfortunately I left your site, but very much enjoy listening to your RUclips lessons on self-confidence and the like, and love and appreciate you very much. kid
AZIZ 46, U r great my frnd. God bless you. Long live my frnd. Nice vdo.
Thank you!
Super off topic but You look like theo james from divergent
what if you really have something fun to share? What should I talk about?
Anything you want!
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1. Unit 731 2. factors leading to the armenian genocide 3. asian tiger mosquito breeding patterns
wish me luck dr
LOL
"How's it going? Oh fine. How about you? Great. Cool. So uhhhh....." LOL Aziz that's like most of my conversations. And yes I attribute this to be boring and uninteresting but your video made me stop and think about things.
Great! Let me know if you're inspired to try something new.
Good stuff Dr. I plan on applying this knowledge with my future interactions with people. However, I tend to reveal tmi when meeting new people whether they are colleagues, clients, or romantic interests. Do you have any suggestions or a video about how to dodge or or ignore personal questions without coming off as rude or a dick?
I may not. That's a good topic to put on my "to do" list.