I think with me is my parents always talk down on me so I carry these thoughts with me everywhere else.I even have flashbacks of me doing embarrassing things and i don't want to repeat that.
I've really been feeling like absolute shit today, in my head, anxiety, etc. This guy is inspirational and his videos always help me to realign my thoughts. I've watched through almost all of the videos, but I think I need to make another run through to help ingrain this stuff in my brain. I need to read the book again too. I watch how many people Dr. Aziz helps and it inspires me to want to do the same thing because I can't imagine a greater feeling than changing people's lives for the better. Keep it up Aziz!
Thank you Dr. Aziz! I feel like I've just won the lottery by discovering your channel! I just bought your book Not Nice on Audible and I can't wait to listen. Please keep it up, this channel is going to blow up very soon, I can feel it!
Hi Dr Aziz. I'm struggling a lot with inferior complexity because of trauma from past mistakes that has ruined and breached severals people's trust in both professional and personal life. I dont feel confident because even when I have written detailed plans down to the last character, it just messes up and I don't feel confident because I only have a wealth of things I cannot and shouldn't do, and only know that I will fail again and again and again, and because of this I have been in and out of jobs for 10 years. I'm considering buying your book, after failing at a task from work earlier on and have come to check out this video during my lunch break. Thank you sir.
I'm a woman, also benefiting from your video dr Azis! I've been suffering as long as I remember from this Agreeable weaknesses, would love to break free totally.
Dr m. Aziz, I read Not Nice and subscribed to the channel, but sadly this is the first video I’ve checked out, but I love it! Your book really helped me learn to care far less about what people think and accept myself fully. I need to watch more of your stuff! Been the best year of my life since then, lol.
I'm so glad you found me here then! Be sure to take full advantage of all my free online resources… 1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter: socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/ In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.” You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers. 2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety. 3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week! ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence 4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/ 5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them! DrAzizBooks.com 6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing! socialconfidencecenter.com/events/ 7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
Living with social anxiety your videos has helped me so much especially when it comes to my confidence. I'm now able to do things i couldn't do before 👏👏
What a great Doctor vowww!!!!...watching your channel is like freeing me from jail after 40 years! May God bless you and all your family...Imagine how many millions of people u will help by writing books about all these different topics of ur channel...highly glad to meet your channel.
Thank you! I've written four books on these topics so far, and I have other resources you might enjoy. Here's a breakdown... 1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter: socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/ In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.” You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers. 2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety. 3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week! ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence 4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/ 5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them! DrAzizBooks.com 6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing! socialconfidencecenter.com/events/ 7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
Very well explained. Ive seen a few 'how not to care what others think' videos recently and have found there wasnt a whole lot of substance to their point of view (eg: just stop caring .... ?!) Realising that I was projecting my thoughts about myself onto them was stressing me out more because once I made it THEIR FAULT they thought this or that about me, well I know I dont have power over others thougths so I also felt powerless over othrrs thinking I am stupid or whatever. But now I see where I went down the rabit hole, but had made a wrong turn at assuming what I was thinking about me was what "they" were thinking about me. This video helped me quite a bit. My first time seeing your videos xo Im going to check out the rest. Thankyou so much 🌷🌷🌷
dude, this is awesome. I've checked out quite a few of your videos now, and subbed, now I wish I had the money to buy one of your books just to support you. I can't wrap my head around the fact that you don't have more views man. keep doing what you're doing!
all your videos are absolutely life changing, i love personal development & i've been working on mine for a few months, its really great to find these impactful messages im staggered to find a youtube playlist that will change my life & make it better.
Very good video. I'll definitely take a look at more and subscribe. My goal ever since I started breaking down the walls of social anxiety was to be the best possible version of myself I can be
Your mixture of message, presentation, and methods of applying it, for me, make these videos extremely beneficial and enjoyable. I have begun, through my own development, to encounter many of the problems and solutions you have clearly presented. But you have gone beyond and related powerful concepts that I believe are unique and further enhance the quality of what you are talking about. I wish the best success and continuation of your messages!
I was always feeling like no one wants to be my friend and so i use to always be angry on them even for their small ignorance towards me, but after watching this video i will definately try to improve my thoughts....Thnks for uploading such good videos
Very interesting concept you explained about projection, I was doing it all the time in meetings or when I meet new people, hadn't come around to think that it was me who was actually thinking that about myself, nicely explained.
Great insight and exercises. I'll definitely watch all your videos as I become more aware of all the bad programming that I need to overcome. You're providing great solutions to alot of people's problems.. Thanks Doc
I like your videos. I have struggled with people pleasing all of my life. I wasnt aware I waa doing it. I feel more at peace knowing that people are not conspiring against me.
Thanks for this Doc. This is really help me and there was a time where I really struggle with what I thought "they" cared about I grew up in a different kind of setting so my life now is a lot different from what I used to be and now I'm really really really really really changing that my fiance has really instilled that in me so it was such a confirmation of what your RUclips video is teaching.
Jonas Werner Awesome! If anyone else would like the eBook Jonas is mentioning, just go to SocialConfidenceCenter.com and you can download your copy too.
Thank you!! I enjoy your videos. In short, i find clarity of what truly is going on behind the behavior. I am able to see the whole picture and understand why I do the things I do and what needs changing. Powerful, liberating!
when you've been called every NEGATIVE thing in the book, you get to the point where you don't care what people think anymore and that's including the extremely TOXIC side of your absent dad's side of the family......
If One feels discouraged to speak front of group of people (meeting, conferences, classes,etc) then they should try to stop worrying about others and start thinking that if you keep your point in front of them they might not like it but you want to however it will make you feel free.. just once forget that anyone is in the room. Speak.. express ..feel free avoid what people think.
For some people this approach will be helpful, for others it may do deeper than this. Check out my free ebook on public speaking: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/products/how-to-overcome-your-fear-of-public-speaking/
Thanks for the videos; they are really helpful. My question is, when I want to practice these new skills I kind of still not feeling confident because of the first impression I gave to the people I know. They new me as a shy person, and now I feel like I am still in the performance stage just because I am trying to apply these confident tips and getting over shyness. Please advise
I have let my over controlling parents ruin my confidence, myself worth, and most of all my self love! It hurts to watch other people live life to the fullest 😭
I like to tell one thing Dr Aziz whatever you’re saying when one start to change based on your idea and when due practice period other people think/approach what you behave past this impact present change .. what will solutions
I constantly feel like people think I'm boring and unfunny. I know this isn't true, but I can't seem to shake the thought out of my head. And in turn, this thought alone - I feel like - has actually made me boring and unfunny
One thing i want to add is.. Remember the last time you were caught in that scenario, think of the last person that embarrased themselves like you did. When you think about that you probably cant think of one person who possibly embarrased themselves and then think about everyone else. They probably already forgot because they are already too busy worrying about their own life to be fixed on your mistake. It's just so unrealistic
hey. it was awesome. the thing for me is when I want something from someone. I think I have to make sure that he feel good about me......it's really stupid....
Aziz I read a comment that loving yourself is the answer and I always hear that but how does one do that? I feel like absolute shit all the time.....too fat, too weird, too quiet, too queer, too nerdy, too scared to talk to people, not knowing what to say to people, choosing comfort of my home and then feeling like shit that I''m a coward or shit that I'm too much of a coward to do something about.
First of all, it means to concentrate on not speaking to yourself in that manner, overcoming the power of your inner critic and protecting yourself from it.
My problem is that sometimes I stutter and before it was worse like I was scared to speak up a lot but now it's getting better Cuz I'm facing it and speaking moee
does anyone else have this thing like, if you are alone or just meeting new people you are fine and dont give a shit. but if one of your Friends is there you freakout?
I'm going to have to disagree with you toto. You'd be surprised to learn of the anxieties and fear that lurk behind the mask of "pretty" people, men and women alike. The observation that "pretty women" or handsome men "have it so good and never suffer from the things I do" is a false story we tell ourselves. I can tell you this is true from personal experience with scores of patients and clients I've seen over the years. The truth is you're not alone. Social anxiety is a human thing and knows no bounds due to looks, money, success, or any other external factor.
Dr Aziz: "This is a show for men...." Me: "Wait what!?" New to this channel, only just realised it is predominantly for men, this is AFTER I've commented and probably upset the applecart to some extent. Will be more careful next time! ☺️
No! Be RECKLESS! The information on my channel is for everyone. This is a really old video back when I thought it would mostly be men interested in this topic. YOU ARE WELCOME HERE KYLIE! I'm grateful to have you as a viewer. :)
I think all the time That people are expecting something from me in their mind. And after that they feel hurted by me . I feel that I am the cause of their hurt and I think they also feel l am the cause of their hurt. Then I think they start disliking me for hurting them. Then I think they don,t want to talk to me or don,t like me
Personally its not too much the rejections or what other peole think...(of course it is ..but im talking about my biggst obstacle very clear now) but micromanaging what to say based on their facial expressions and this happens autimatically. On the phone i can speak very fluently and relaxed (business, social friends, girlfriends, anyone) On person i cant focus on what i want so much cause i am influenced by other peoples facial expressions and its really very painful. I can do some "tricks" like apprpoaching a person immediatelly, or saying an affirmative loop inside my head all the time so i dont focus on their reactins so much, but as you can understand its very difficult to do it all the time , and quite painful to interact with people. (On the pther way on the phone im by far very very confident and i enjoy it also..) How can i proceed with the who cares what other peole thing iabout their facial expressions?
excellent video Dr. aziz what if some person reject us on face or he says you are not as good as you need to be i don;t like you , you are not as good as he/she ,
Mihir Dwivedi Great question. Sometimes this happens (not just in our heads). Someone criticizes us, compares us to someone else, or tells us we're falling short. It's worth being curious about what the feedback actually is. IS there some truth to it? Am I slacking off or not putting in much effort? Take a step back and look. It's not personal. Then, also give yourself permission to reject the feedback. It might not be true. It might have NOTHING to do with you. In which case, challenge it in your mind. Don't take it in. It's ok to reject feedback : )
I love your videos but I kinda got disappointed when i reached out at you and you responded me asking about my situation and details but I never heard back from you after I explained my situation.
I'm not comfortable expressing my fears here, yep that deep lol, do you have an email address I may message? Love your videos BTW, very inspiring, motivating and something I desperately needed
I really appreciate your videos, as they have been so helpful to me but why do you always direct them to men? there are PLENTY of women having extreme struggles standing up for themselves and finding the confidence to get out of abusive relationships of all kinds or even just to get higher in a career. societal expectations usually push women to be quiet and submissive, so your videos could seriously be a life saver to some of them. plus, why would you want to drive off any potential subscribers?
Mainly because as a man I suffered with all these issues and I made it my mission in life to help other men overcome these same challenges. However, things have changed over the last couple of years I'm now able to help men and women equally!
...would you shout across an open plan office to tell a woman how beautiful her recent hair style is, and face the characterisation of the crazy dude that acts unpredictably and in ways not socially acceptable (and have the nasties of the office scene use it against you in gossip and office politics), or would you wait months for the opportunity when the two of you happen to cross each other ?
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I think with me is my parents always talk down on me so I carry these thoughts with me everywhere else.I even have flashbacks of me doing embarrassing things and i don't want to repeat that.
This channel deserves a lot more popularity!
Thank you, I agree! :)
Without a doubt
Yeah, that's what I think
how do you not have more than a million subscribers?? This is great information!
I know, right? LOL
All-time great video
Dr. Aziz, you don't know how meaningful a difference you've made in my life.
I've really been feeling like absolute shit today, in my head, anxiety, etc. This guy is inspirational and his videos always help me to realign my thoughts. I've watched through almost all of the videos, but I think I need to make another run through to help ingrain this stuff in my brain. I need to read the book again too. I watch how many people Dr. Aziz helps and it inspires me to want to do the same thing because I can't imagine a greater feeling than changing people's lives for the better. Keep it up Aziz!
You cant be just seeing all his videos you also have to try it out and practice
Thank you Dr. Aziz! I feel like I've just won the lottery by discovering your channel! I just bought your book Not Nice on Audible and I can't wait to listen. Please keep it up, this channel is going to blow up very soon, I can feel it!
Thank you so much! Let me know how it goes for you with my book.
Hi Dr Aziz. I'm struggling a lot with inferior complexity because of trauma from past mistakes that has ruined and breached severals people's trust in both professional and personal life. I dont feel confident because even when I have written detailed plans down to the last character, it just messes up and I don't feel confident because I only have a wealth of things I cannot and shouldn't do, and only know that I will fail again and again and again, and because of this I have been in and out of jobs for 10 years. I'm considering buying your book, after failing at a task from work earlier on and have come to check out this video during my lunch break.
Thank you sir.
I'm a woman, also benefiting from your video dr Azis! I've been suffering as long as I remember from this Agreeable weaknesses, would love to break free totally.
How are things going?
Dr m. Aziz, I read Not Nice and subscribed to the channel, but sadly this is the first video I’ve checked out, but I love it! Your book really helped me learn to care far less about what people think and accept myself fully. I need to watch more of your stuff! Been the best year of my life since then, lol.
I'm so glad you found me here then! Be sure to take full advantage of all my free online resources…
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence
4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
DrAzizBooks.com
6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing!
socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
Living with social anxiety your videos has helped me so much especially when it comes to my confidence.
I'm now able to do things i couldn't do before 👏👏
What a great Doctor vowww!!!!...watching your channel is like freeing me from jail after 40 years! May God bless you and all your family...Imagine how many millions of people u will help by writing books about all these different topics of ur channel...highly glad to meet your channel.
Thank you! I've written four books on these topics so far, and I have other resources you might enjoy. Here's a breakdown...
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
3) Subscribe to my RUclips channel here. (Don’t forget to click on the notification bell icon!) I release at least one new video every week!
ruclips.net/user/GetMoreConfidence
4) Follow me on Facebook! facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/
5) Browse through my published books on specific confidence issues and how to crush them!
DrAzizBooks.com
6) Check out my next live event. These weekend intensive experiences are life changing!
socialconfidencecenter.com/events/
7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
Very well explained. Ive seen a few 'how not to care what others think' videos recently and have found there wasnt a whole lot of substance to their point of view (eg: just stop caring .... ?!) Realising that I was projecting my thoughts about myself onto them was stressing me out more because once I made it THEIR FAULT they thought this or that about me, well I know I dont have power over others thougths so I also felt powerless over othrrs thinking I am stupid or whatever. But now I see where I went down the rabit hole, but had made a wrong turn at assuming what I was thinking about me was what "they" were thinking about me. This video helped me quite a bit. My first time seeing your videos xo Im going to check out the rest. Thankyou so much 🌷🌷🌷
You're very welcome!
I really wanna hug u bro..stay blessed... ur enlightening our lives...
dude, this is awesome. I've checked out quite a few of your videos now, and subbed, now I wish I had the money to buy one of your books just to support you. I can't wrap my head around the fact that you don't have more views man. keep doing what you're doing!
+nocturnalsam Thanks man! Share with those who could benefit!
all your videos are absolutely life changing, i love personal development & i've been working on mine for a few months, its really great to find these impactful messages im staggered to find a youtube playlist that will change my life & make it better.
You're very welcome!
This is great content, love the way you shed light on the real issue! Wish I had looked deeper into the reasons behind my low self-esteem years ago.
It's never too late to have a better life!
Thx for sharing dr. Aziz
My pleasure!
I’m so excited with this channel. Words can’t explain 🤩🤩🤩. THANKS man 🥳
So glad to have you here!
Extremely helpful content based on deep understanding of human sociology. I am truly grateful I have discovered this channel. Thank you Dr Aziz!!!
Very good video. I'll definitely take a look at more and subscribe. My goal ever since I started breaking down the walls of social anxiety was to be the best possible version of myself I can be
man, you are worth gold! thank you thank you soo much!
Powerful, wonderful, helpful. Thank you. I project and it becomes self fulfilling. How do I look at me.
Awesome!
Your mixture of message, presentation, and methods of applying it, for me, make these videos extremely beneficial and enjoyable. I have begun, through my own development, to encounter many of the problems and solutions you have clearly presented. But you have gone beyond and related powerful concepts that I believe are unique and further enhance the quality of what you are talking about. I wish the best success and continuation of your messages!
matthew tinkham Thanks for the thoughtful and kind words Matthew! Best of luck on your journey of ever-increasing confidence.
I'm a woman but I've been watching your videos for a while now, theyre very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you, I'm glad. I have many women clients experiencing meaningful change.
You really help to overcome my social anxiety...thannnnkkkkk uuuuuuuuuuu doc
Love from the Philippines ❤❤❤
You're very welcome!
Great videos man. They are making me very confident and feel-good. Keep it up!
***** You are welcome!
I was always feeling like no one wants to be my friend and so i use to always be angry on them even for their small ignorance towards me, but after watching this video i will definately try to improve my thoughts....Thnks for uploading such good videos
Very interesting concept you explained about projection, I was doing it all the time in meetings or when I meet new people, hadn't come around to think that it was me who was actually thinking that about myself, nicely explained.
You really got the point! Projection is exactly what has happened to me!
Awesome!
Great insight and exercises. I'll definitely watch all your videos as I become more aware of all the bad programming that I need to overcome. You're providing great solutions to alot of people's problems.. Thanks Doc
I like your videos. I have struggled with people pleasing all of my life. I wasnt aware I waa doing it. I feel more at peace knowing that people are not conspiring against me.
Awesome!
Woww the best video I've ever seen I'm a confident girl now no matter what lets live freely now😌🤗
YES!
Thanks for this Doc. This is really help me and there was a time where I really struggle with what I thought "they" cared about I grew up in a different kind of setting so my life now is a lot different from what I used to be and now I'm really really really really really changing that my fiance has really instilled that in me so it was such a confirmation of what your RUclips video is teaching.
Amazing, I'm feeling enlightened 😊✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼Thank you!
You're very welcome!
Wow loved this episode! Loving yourself is key!
Yes!
Always that problem...
...
I always feel caged... great that there are such channels like this one.
Glad you're here! Let's get you OUT of that cage1
Hii, your videos are not just helpful for 'men' but also 'women' brother 👍🙋
Absolutely, I have many clients who are all a wonderful mix of everyone!
I absolutely love you! I have read your ebook and it helped me tremendously!
Jonas Werner Awesome!
If anyone else would like the eBook Jonas is mentioning, just go to SocialConfidenceCenter.com and you can download your copy too.
Thank you!! I enjoy your videos. In short, i find clarity of what truly is going on behind the behavior. I am able to see the whole picture and understand why I do the things I do and what needs changing. Powerful, liberating!
That's so awesome!
We're always our worst critic. Excellent video!
thats very true about the projection. this is i think the only mental block i experienced. ill work on it thanks for the video =)
thank you so much it really helped me 🤩💐❤
I'm so glad!
when you've been called every NEGATIVE thing in the book, you get to the point where you don't care what people think anymore and that's including the extremely TOXIC side of your absent dad's side of the family......
If you've achieved this enlightenment in spite of that, it's truly remarkable. Most people would have the opposite reaction.
Thank you so much , i think i started to understand
You are most welcome.
If One feels discouraged to speak front of group of people (meeting, conferences, classes,etc) then they should try to stop worrying about others and start thinking that if you keep your point in front of them they might not like it but you want to however it will make you feel free.. just once forget that anyone is in the room. Speak.. express ..feel free avoid what people think.
For some people this approach will be helpful, for others it may do deeper than this. Check out my free ebook on public speaking: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/products/how-to-overcome-your-fear-of-public-speaking/
Thanks for the videos; they are really helpful.
My question is, when I want to practice these new skills I kind of still not feeling confident because of the first impression I gave to the people I know. They new me as a shy person, and now I feel like I am still in the performance stage just because I am trying to apply these confident tips and getting over shyness.
Please advise
Hive mind! I finally found the term for my problem!
Nice!
I have let my over controlling parents ruin my confidence, myself worth, and most of all my self love! It hurts to watch other people live life to the fullest 😭
Now's the time to turn that around and live a truly fulfilling life.
Doc you're very good ! Thank you
awesome videos! God bless!
I like to tell one thing Dr Aziz whatever you’re saying when one start to change based on your idea and when due practice period other people think/approach what you behave past this impact present change .. what will solutions
I apologize that I don't understand what you're asking here?
SOME REALLY GOOD INFORMATION!
I constantly feel like people think I'm boring and unfunny. I know this isn't true, but I can't seem to shake the thought out of my head. And in turn, this thought alone - I feel like - has actually made me boring and unfunny
Ray Rumedi youre mixing with the wrong people. Are they funny or boring to you? Probably i think
One thing i want to add is.. Remember the last time you were caught in that scenario, think of the last person that embarrased themselves like you did. When you think about that you probably cant think of one person who possibly embarrased themselves and then think about everyone else. They probably already forgot because they are already too busy worrying about their own life to be fixed on your mistake. It's just so unrealistic
#truth
Thank you
You're welome1
Great video
Thanks!
hey. it was awesome. the thing for me is when I want something from someone. I think I have to make sure that he feel good about me......it's really stupid....
do you have an email or somewhere i can contact you for questions?
www.socialconfidencecenter.com/about/contact/
Aziz I read a comment that loving yourself is the answer and I always hear that but how does one do that? I feel like absolute shit all the time.....too fat, too weird, too quiet, too queer, too nerdy, too scared to talk to people, not knowing what to say to people, choosing comfort of my home and then feeling like shit that I''m a coward or shit that I'm too much of a coward to do something about.
First of all, it means to concentrate on not speaking to yourself in that manner, overcoming the power of your inner critic and protecting yourself from it.
My problem is that sometimes I stutter and before it was worse like I was scared to speak up a lot but now it's getting better Cuz I'm facing it and speaking moee
I wish I could thank you personally
I tend to keep my head down as if to bow and show submission to others. Why can't I keep it up and look people straight in the eyes?
I'm the opposite and people are afraid of that
impressive
Thank you!
does anyone else have this thing like, if you are alone or just meeting new people you are fine and dont give a shit. but if one of your Friends is there you freakout?
Still awesome 😄
why "for men" ??? this all applies to women too
Indeed it does!
Was thinking the same thing..
I'm going to have to disagree with you toto. You'd be surprised to learn of the anxieties and fear that lurk behind the mask of "pretty" people, men and women alike. The observation that "pretty women" or handsome men "have it so good and never suffer from the things I do" is a false story we tell ourselves. I can tell you this is true from personal experience with scores of patients and clients I've seen over the years.
The truth is you're not alone. Social anxiety is a human thing and knows no bounds due to looks, money, success, or any other external factor.
toto togatoga Funny he spoke about projection that is one. Ive known a few shy and pretty girls which broke that mentality for me
Dr Aziz: "This is a show for men...."
Me: "Wait what!?"
New to this channel, only just realised it is predominantly for men, this is AFTER I've commented and probably upset the applecart to some extent. Will be more careful next time! ☺️
No! Be RECKLESS! The information on my channel is for everyone. This is a really old video back when I thought it would mostly be men interested in this topic. YOU ARE WELCOME HERE KYLIE! I'm grateful to have you as a viewer. :)
Get More Confidence Thank you. I'm loving your channel. Tried to get my 19 year son interested, too but he's not quite ready...😄
thank youu
You get me
I think all the time
That people are expecting something from me in their mind. And after that they feel hurted by me .
I feel that I am the cause of their hurt and I think they also feel l am the cause of their hurt. Then I think they start disliking me for hurting them. Then I think they don,t want to talk to me or don,t like me
I loveee Ender's game
Personally its not too much the rejections or what other peole think...(of course it is ..but im talking about my biggst obstacle very clear now) but micromanaging what to say based on their facial expressions and this happens autimatically. On the phone i can speak very fluently and relaxed (business, social friends, girlfriends, anyone) On person i cant focus on what i want so much cause i am influenced by other peoples facial expressions and its really very painful. I can do some "tricks" like apprpoaching a person immediatelly, or saying an affirmative loop inside my head all the time so i dont focus on their reactins so much, but as you can understand its very difficult to do it all the time , and quite painful to interact with people. (On the pther way on the phone im by far very very confident and i enjoy it also..) How can i proceed with the who cares what other peole thing iabout their facial expressions?
I have the same issue. What helps is to really focus on what they are saying instead of how they look.
I like that...how do I get on my own side.
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I done this and asked a girl and she said no and now I do nothing lmao
It's all in the numbers. Don't give up, keep moving forward and getting those "no's." That's what can lead to yes!
excellent video Dr. aziz what if some person reject us on face or he says you are not as good as you need to be i don;t like you , you are not as good as he/she ,
Mihir Dwivedi Great question. Sometimes this happens (not just in our heads). Someone criticizes us, compares us to someone else, or tells us we're falling short.
It's worth being curious about what the feedback actually is. IS there some truth to it? Am I slacking off or not putting in much effort? Take a step back and look. It's not personal.
Then, also give yourself permission to reject the feedback. It might not be true. It might have NOTHING to do with you. In which case, challenge it in your mind. Don't take it in. It's ok to reject feedback : )
Yeah
Mihir Dwivedi say "i am live, and I have life to live just everyone else".
I love your videos but I kinda got disappointed when i reached out at you and you responded me asking about my situation and details but I never heard back from you after I explained my situation.
Nice
I'm not comfortable expressing my fears here, yep that deep lol, do you have an email address I may message?
Love your videos BTW, very inspiring, motivating and something I desperately needed
Why is it just for men
It applies to all humans. :)
I really appreciate your videos, as they have been so helpful to me but why do you always direct them to men? there are PLENTY of women having extreme struggles standing up for themselves and finding the confidence to get out of abusive relationships of all kinds or even just to get higher in a career. societal expectations usually push women to be quiet and submissive, so your videos could seriously be a life saver to some of them. plus, why would you want to drive off any potential subscribers?
i'm assuming because he is a male who used to suffer with the issues he discusses, therefor making it easier to talk about
True, that's how it started,
Mainly because as a man I suffered with all these issues and I made it my mission in life to help other men overcome these same challenges. However, things have changed over the last couple of years I'm now able to help men and women equally!
They might think that I walk funny
Good for them! And that means just about ZERO to you. :)
...would you shout across an open plan office to tell a woman how beautiful her recent hair style is, and face the characterisation of the crazy dude that acts unpredictably and in ways not socially acceptable (and have the nasties of the office scene use it against you in gossip and office politics), or would you wait months for the opportunity when the two of you happen to cross each other ?
2018???
Indeed it is! Can you provide more context for your question?
Today I watch your video and decide to live only for myself.. thanks..
Get More Confidence please send me your email address i want to discuss some questions mu33155@gmail.com
That's the spirit!
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hi sir is it possible to speak with you over skype.i will pay you please let me know i need some urgent help
There is no what of mind. I couldn’t hear what he said. Higher mind?
Why is this only for men?? It's unfair
It applies to all humans. :)
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