Thank you so much for this . I have been feeling so guilty lately for choosing work over spending time helping people .. but this made me feel a lot better , knowing that other people are trapped in unhealthy lifestyles just to please others .. but even this is STILL selfish no matter which way you slice it . The Luis change of perspective really helped me .
I appreciate that you put so much time in your videos and help us out. I also believe that you should have thousands of more subscribers. Thank you for teaching me so much and good luck!
I hated the message in the video untill now, but today I realized you are so darn right. My ego did not let me agree but who am I kidding "I am selfish" like everyone else. Accept and move on.
Wow. Thank you for sharing that nugget of gold. I love how authentic and honest you are with your audience. I wonder if this is the new way of doing business. Although people seem to be pretty dumb and never seem to learn from our own mistakes.
My pleasure John, thanks for your kind words, and I hope it is the new way of doing business. When you rip guys off you ruin a potential lifetime client or customer. Selling BS is short term thinking, being real pays off on the end by referrals and creating a valuable brand.
I've just found your channel and I love your content it fukin resonates and is the simple truth of life no one is out there is teaching that you're soul purpose is the pursuit of your own happiness it's so easy to get caught up in negative distractions 👍😄
Was driving and had this video on (just listening not watching). Weirdly didn't want this video to end. Honestly felt way more freedom listening to the ideas. Feel myself on the edge of something. Keep it up. Thanks again.
Your self honesty is incredible😲🙏 This is what I have been trying to integrate, to be totally honest with myself, and you are living example for me💗 Thankyou🙏💫 If I could I would have given multiple likes to this video. So I have a question: we are all here to live for our own self, right?
Thanks Sun, very kind, and yes we are, the most logical thing to do is take care of yourself first and enjoy life. Also, then you can help others, but you can't help anyone when you can't help yourself and your health and wealth are struggling.
sweet vid , touching on the book you recommended, How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World, half way thru atm ,game changer :) thanks for the tip , any others ?
continuation... "...The great achievements of civilisation have not come from government bureaus. Einstein didn't construct his theory under order from a, from a bureaucrat. Henry Ford didn't revolutionise the automobile industry that way." I'm a libertarian conservative too. :)
Very true, especially about the girl. She can leave you as soon as she feels you aren't valuable, no matter how in "love" you thought you were or how hard on your luck you get. Sad
Right, but isn't there a point where you just can't be perfect and people accept you? I mean damn, I would hate to feel like I always have to be valuable
Brian McClean Remember, dude, that it goes both ways. You can also dump her if you feel she is no longer fulfilling your needs in a satisfactory manner. Also, maybe just date girls a league below you that have fewer options and choices. Don't waste your time on high-maintainance girls that easily get what they want. Give me an average girl that puts out and I'm good. As long as she fulfills my needs, I'm satisfied with her. As far as looks go, yes they care about that, but that's why you date girls in your league or lower. I am not bad looking but I am short and poor right now so I am trying to pursue women in my league. I mean, yes, it is depressing but what can you do?
By being selfish one can actually amass huge wealth to help others. In the end, being selfish is more altruistic and sensible. Just imagine if Bill Gates didn't worked on building his Microsoft empire.
+Scott Leckie Thanks Scott, I have, it's a great book, and she's brilliant, although as opposed to her I think charity and helping others is great, as long as it's what you want to do and makes you happy
I am a classic passive aggressive nice guy aka codependent. Totally selfless and giving problems asserting myself in the workplace with a narc boss. But I feel really guilty for being selfish. But it will take time
It's difficult to go against mom when she is the one who raised and was god like to me.. I see she has been manipulative and deceptive to get things done from me by guilting me, but I see that she doesn't do this consciously. So maybe I shouldn't go against her in harsh way, but just stand and function from my truth, even if she goes against and tries to control me by manipulating ways, knowing myself that I stand right.. It will require courage to stand against the one who has been god of my life..
Are you talking about chores? Or other things? Mom's nag their children to do basic chores so they don't have to do all the work once the children are able bodied and this prepares them for adulthood and basic cleanliness and responsibility. Unless you're going to get a high paying job and employ a maid, you gotta be able to perform basic household tasks.
I always thought word "selfish" was negative. For example if there are 10 people but only one piece of cake left. If I rush to get it before someone else does then I am being selfish.
It's negative because many people pretend not to be selfish and use the word to guilt and shame others. As for the cake, rushing to grab the last piece is rude and a sign of bad manners, focusing on your self interest is not about being rude.
Will Your my boy I love you bro That being said I would focus less on the existential rabbit hole of the self and more on human relationships, economics, etc ... 'Self preservation: the first law of all life.' Wrap it up b ! BD ...This video drags a bit bro. Especially at the begging. If you see for yourself, your energy level is lower compared to a lot of your other vlogs ... I aim to gain the life strategies and tools in order to make a 'revolutionary lifestyle' channel myself. Appreciate the thought though my man 💭 Godbless 💪 😎 💜
Man, EVERYTHING you said in this video is true. ALL OF IT! That is why I stopped giving a fuck about what people think, a very, very long time ago. I'm living my life, I am happy and am not causing harm to anyone. So, whoever disagrees or doesn't like me for who I am, can fuck off. Great video. Glad I found you. Subbed! : )
everything was cool until the end, talking about how we'd have a better world now if everyone acted out of self interest. Assuming the world was safer centuries ago is flawed. For the most part, people are safer now than ever before. We just know about more injustices due to media outlets.
+RyanPatrick people act in their self interests at all times regardless, they're just not self aware enough to align their wants to their happiness. I.e. you can't be consistently happy robbing stealing and raping.
Revolutionary Lifestyle Design Exactly. Repeatedly committing horrible crimes against people is NOT in one's self-interest as society will get sick of your shit and take you down. I feel that religious repression of human sexuality is partly to blame for the rise in sexual assaults. When one is told that one's natural drives and urges are inherently sinful, one becomes frustrated and resentful.
Chris H They world is flawed and broken and that will never change. There will never be any other world but this one so just accept that the world is sinful. It will never be "fixed" or turned into a "paradise".
Well, thank god, I am already selfish. I have rejected altruism at every turn pretty much my entire life. This is why I never bought into Christianity. A deity that would purposefully sacrifice himself and not lift a finger in his own defense is not worthy of my reverence. What Ayn Rand described as "enlightened self-interest" is my guided influence. The only love that is not conditional is possibly a mother's love for her child. There are no other exceptions. I know a woman can never love me unconditionally as I can never her the same. I am cool with that, such is life. I don't even hold it against them. Though I will say if a girl won't put out or refuses to have sex before marriage, I will drop her immediately. A relationship without sex has no value at all for me.
Youre the only guru who says "looks are 90% of dating." Its so true. Looks are almost everything sadly.
Thanks for giving it to us straight Will
Thank you
Thank you so much for this . I have been feeling so guilty lately for choosing work over spending time helping people .. but this made me feel a lot better , knowing that other people are trapped in unhealthy lifestyles just to please others .. but even this is STILL selfish no matter which way you slice it . The Luis change of perspective really helped me .
Thank you Andrea
I appreciate that you put so much time in your videos and help us out. I also believe that you should have thousands of more subscribers. Thank you for teaching me so much and good luck!
My pleasure and thank you
I hated the message in the video untill now, but today I realized you are so darn right. My ego did not let me agree but who am I kidding "I am selfish" like everyone else. Accept and move on.
That's it exactly, good for you for accepting the truth
Wow. Thank you for sharing that nugget of gold. I love how authentic and honest you are with your audience. I wonder if this is the new way of doing business. Although people seem to be pretty dumb and never seem to learn from our own mistakes.
My pleasure John, thanks for your kind words, and I hope it is the new way of doing business. When you rip guys off you ruin a potential lifetime client or customer. Selling BS is short term thinking, being real pays off on the end by referrals and creating a valuable brand.
This video changed my perspective on life in a lot of ways. Thank you!
+komfyk awesome, glad to hear it
I've just found your channel and I love your content it fukin resonates and is the simple truth of life no one is out there is teaching that you're soul purpose is the pursuit of your own happiness it's so easy to get caught up in negative distractions 👍😄
Thanks so much Stuart, glad my stuff is useful to you, all the best in your journey
Great video as always, congrats on 4k bro
+Michael Ramer Thank you my man
Was driving and had this video on (just listening not watching). Weirdly didn't want this video to end. Honestly felt way more freedom listening to the ideas. Feel myself on the edge of something. Keep it up. Thanks again.
Yay! Just found the podcast. No need to use RUclips while driving. Was wondering why it wasn't in iTunes. I had typed up the wrong thing. 😀
+Loan Thach Terrific to hear Loan, thanks so much for your support.
+Loan Thach Excellent, glad to hear it's helpful :) You can get it on soundcloud as well
Dead on Bro! I like the honesty.. it's what I'm pursuing now
+jcoates96 Thanks man, and great to hear.
Your self honesty is incredible😲🙏 This is what I have been trying to integrate, to be totally honest with myself, and you are living example for me💗 Thankyou🙏💫 If I could I would have given multiple likes to this video.
So I have a question: we are all here to live for our own self, right?
Thanks Sun, very kind, and yes we are, the most logical thing to do is take care of yourself first and enjoy life. Also, then you can help others, but you can't help anyone when you can't help yourself and your health and wealth are struggling.
33:30 was spot on man.. Such a great video! It would be cool to see another one on a similar topic or taking responsibility for your own happiness.
Thanks man really appreciate it
sweet vid , touching on the book you recommended, How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World, half way thru atm ,game changer :) thanks for the tip , any others ?
+Luke Wainwright Thanks Luke, and for sure, absolute game changer
Thanks for the insight. I'm missing out on a lot of life.
+TrutherLiesTV Glad you found it useful my man
love this thanks
Thank you Lisa
Thank you🔥🔥🔥🔥
my pleasure
I agree. :) The capitalist guru was Milton Friedman, he said “the world runs on individuals pursuing their self interest.”
continuation...
"...The great achievements of civilisation have not come from government bureaus. Einstein didn't construct his theory under order from a, from a bureaucrat. Henry Ford didn't revolutionise the automobile industry that way."
I'm a libertarian conservative too. :)
+Cons Bulaquena it sure does
+Cons Bulaquena that's a great quote, and very true
Very true, especially about the girl. She can leave you as soon as she feels you aren't valuable, no matter how in "love" you thought you were or how hard on your luck you get. Sad
+Brian McClean you've got it, your only as good as the value you give in this world, that's why you've got to stay on top of your game every day
Right, but isn't there a point where you just can't be perfect and people accept you? I mean damn, I would hate to feel like I always have to be valuable
Brian McClean Remember, dude, that it goes both ways. You can also dump her if you feel she is no longer fulfilling your needs in a satisfactory manner. Also, maybe just date girls a league below you that have fewer options and choices. Don't waste your time on high-maintainance girls that easily get what they want. Give me an average girl that puts out and I'm good. As long as she fulfills my needs, I'm satisfied with her. As far as looks go, yes they care about that, but that's why you date girls in your league or lower. I am not bad looking but I am short and poor right now so I am trying to pursue women in my league. I mean, yes, it is depressing but what can you do?
Thank you
+Agnostic Pariah my pleasure
By being selfish one can actually amass huge wealth to help others. In the end, being selfish is more altruistic and sensible. Just imagine if Bill Gates didn't worked on building his Microsoft empire.
+Cons Bulaquena that's exactly right, you add value to get what you want
Excellent presentation, amongst many others. Have you read "The Virtue of Selfishness" by Ayn Rand?
+Scott Leckie Thanks Scott, I have, it's a great book, and she's brilliant, although as opposed to her I think charity and helping others is great, as long as it's what you want to do and makes you happy
Keep up the great work! I've been referring your work to my son who is 23. More young men need to hear much of what you have to say! Thanks!
+Scott Leckie I'm humbled man, I really appreciate your support and I hope your son finds it useful
I am a classic passive aggressive nice guy aka codependent. Totally selfless and giving problems asserting myself in the workplace with a narc boss. But I feel really guilty for being selfish. But it will take time
Just remember you deserve to be happy
Great video
+Jonathan Kennel Thanks Johnathan
It's difficult to go against mom when she is the one who raised and was god like to me.. I see she has been manipulative and deceptive to get things done from me by guilting me, but I see that she doesn't do this consciously. So maybe I shouldn't go against her in harsh way, but just stand and function from my truth, even if she goes against and tries to control me by manipulating ways,
knowing myself that I stand right.. It will require courage to stand against the one who has been god of my life..
Are you talking about chores? Or other things? Mom's nag their children to do basic chores so they don't have to do all the work once the children are able bodied and this prepares them for adulthood and basic cleanliness and responsibility. Unless you're going to get a high paying job and employ a maid, you gotta be able to perform basic household tasks.
I always thought word "selfish" was negative. For example if there are 10 people but only one piece of cake left. If I rush to get it before someone else does then I am being selfish.
It's negative because many people pretend not to be selfish and use the word to guilt and shame others. As for the cake, rushing to grab the last piece is rude and a sign of bad manners, focusing on your self interest is not about being rude.
Will
Your my boy
I love you bro
That being said
I would focus less on the existential rabbit hole of the self and more on human relationships, economics, etc ... 'Self preservation: the first law of all life.' Wrap it up b ! BD ...This video drags a bit bro. Especially at the begging. If you see for yourself, your energy level is lower compared to a lot of your other vlogs ...
I aim to gain the life strategies and tools in order to make a 'revolutionary lifestyle' channel myself.
Appreciate the thought though my man 💭
Godbless 💪 😎 💜
+Alvaro Cota thanks for your input
how often do u get told, that u look, speak and act like the great ryan gosling?
+AmAllerwertesten lol, not often, but I'll take it :)
Man, EVERYTHING you said in this video is true. ALL OF IT! That is why I stopped giving a fuck about what people think, a very, very long time ago. I'm living my life, I am happy and am not causing harm to anyone. So, whoever disagrees or doesn't like me for who I am, can fuck off.
Great video. Glad I found you. Subbed! : )
+Sting Thank you my man and I'm glad to hear it, it's a beautiful way to live. All the best :)
Amen!
Idk why you give that fight club vibe
Thank you
everything was cool until the end, talking about how we'd have a better world now if everyone acted out of self interest. Assuming the world was safer centuries ago is flawed. For the most part, people are safer now than ever before. We just know about more injustices due to media outlets.
+RyanPatrick people act in their self interests at all times regardless, they're just not self aware enough to align their wants to their happiness. I.e. you can't be consistently happy robbing stealing and raping.
Revolutionary Lifestyle Design Exactly. Repeatedly committing horrible crimes against people is NOT in one's self-interest as society will get sick of your shit and take you down. I feel that religious repression of human sexuality is partly to blame for the rise in sexual assaults. When one is told that one's natural drives and urges are inherently sinful, one becomes frustrated and resentful.
Everyone is very selfish.
+TrutherLiesTV for sure
Being Selfish is not the way Jesus wanted you to live. I hope you can find him, and accept him. You seem like a good person.
You're preaching to the converted but thank you
Revolutionary Lifestyle Design i aint preaching to you bro 😂 i could care less about you
So the world isn't good place to live as everyone is selfish? Is bible correct? This is sinful world?
+Chris H the world is a fun place to live as a kid, but it takes a lot of work as an adult to make it fun again.
Chris H They world is flawed and broken and that will never change. There will never be any other world but this one so just accept that the world is sinful. It will never be "fixed" or turned into a "paradise".
Well, thank god, I am already selfish. I have rejected altruism at every turn pretty much my entire life. This is why I never bought into Christianity. A deity that would purposefully sacrifice himself and not lift a finger in his own defense is not worthy of my reverence. What Ayn Rand described as "enlightened self-interest" is my guided influence. The only love that is not conditional is possibly a mother's love for her child. There are no other exceptions. I know a woman can never love me unconditionally as I can never her the same. I am cool with that, such is life. I don't even hold it against them. Though I will say if a girl won't put out or refuses to have sex before marriage, I will drop her immediately. A relationship without sex has no value at all for me.