💐What a wonderful topic, and very timely for me. I'm 65, living in a new state and alone due to divorce. My son got a job transfer and he and my daughter in law with my three grandsons to Texas, and I couldn't afford to move from here in Michigan. Then this past June, I was cyber whacked and the criminals stole my identity and my savings. Now to find a job at my age. No, I didn't expect this dark cloud, but I pray for favor and grace from the Lord, and know He has a plan for us all. I accept my reality and am praying for everyone here. God bless us women....we are a formidable group! 🙏💕❤
Margaret you are amazing your topics are always right on❣️Acceptance is survival! There are no guarantees in life and this is definitely emphasized more as we get older. Specially 60 + + Our society is very cruel to ageing in general . Specially to women! We just have to be strong and deal with it. Health, heart, financial or any problems? We cry a little (I do sometimes ) and then just pick up, reinvent, adjust and move on. This is the only way if we want to live. So ladies just hang in there and never give up❣️❣️❣️
I am trying to come to terms with the fact that after suffering a Stroke a month ago after over 70 years of good health that I am never going to be that same person I was again. Due to the Stroke I have lost vision in one eye although I am still mobile I cannot go out on my own without holding onto my husbands arm. Obviously not being able to see out of one eye means I have lost my balance. Also my only real hobby was reading, Even though I listen to audio books it is not the same, nothing like getting lost in a good book. However listening to you has helped me realise that although I have other people encouraging me, the only one that can help me is myself which I will try my very best to do simply because there is nothing else one can do. Thank you again for your wise words xx
Patricia Hale Try to simply be grateful for your husband and his help, because without that, the journey is much more difficult. I wish you a complete recovery. ❤️
Lost sight in my left eye as well, due to high blood pressure which is linked to the MS I have. Sorry to hear of your stroke, read what I wrote at the end of my story about "EARTHING"/"GROUNDING" which has now been scientifically proven, another way to heal but nothing new, as old as the hills! There are a couple of fabulous videos on that here on RUclips as well! Blessed be~
Loss is universal from death to divorce to illness. I lost both breasts from cancer in 2009. And while as I shower daily I am starkly reminded of that loss … and it can still sting emotionally … it’s decreased in power. I chose to focus instead on still being alive. And having my limbs to help me walk & be active. But it took time. Cause loss is loss. Universal. On so very many levels. Hugs to all❤️❤️🙏🏽❤️❤️
Deborah, I am so sorry for you to go through that cancer. You are so brave to try to accept and embrace life. Hope to see you in the Friendship Lounge Wednesday. Somehow my message I left before 1pm on Monday disappeared. Hugs Pam
I was going to write about my own struggles, because as I approach 70, the losses in my life and approach of the finite amount of time I have left, has really hit me. However, as I began reading some of the other comments and my heart goes out to all of you, I realized I am not alone in my thoughts and struggles. So instead of sharing my sad moments, I’d rather encourage everyone to remember, how resilient we are and that nothing that life has thrown at us so far has been fatal. It might have felt like it at times, but we have survived and will continue to do so. Life certainly hasn’t turned out as many of us thought it would, but we are still here and as Margaret wisely said, we must accept reality. Besides, we never know what wonderful and unexpected moment awaits us tomorrow, so I intend to try and make the most of life…how about you? As always I wish you all a FABulous day. 💛
When I was 44 my 15 year old daughter died on the first day of school we had no clue it was Myocarditis a virus from the air which is rare. The pain has eased through the years it was 21 years ago it drew me closer to Jesus Christ
My husband passed away suddenly a few years ago. I was always terrified of that happening, since we were so close and best friends. When that happened, I experienced a new level of compassion and love from family and friends, so much kindness and support that I never expected. Though the loss can still be difficult, it has opened a path for me to connect with others in a new way. It has also allowed me to come to terms with self-care and being kind to myself, which has always been a struggle. It is an ongoing process but I can recognize it now and take responsibility for treating myself well. I hope this helps someone else. If you are in need of help, please ask for it and be open to allowing others to show you kindness.
"We have to let go of the life we planned in order to succeed in the life we were meant to live"... Maria Shriver upon her divorce from A. Schwarzenegger (Acceptance).
Thank You Margaret..I do feel life definately changes at 60...an accumulation of so much history stuck to us and knowing the physical body is deteriorating in ways we cannot change and loss of so many along our journey. Acceptance can give a peace...facing our own mortality and knowing it is as it is. Love to all 💖💝💕💞
I'm so glad I found you! I turn 60 in 5 days. I'm all alone, husband left me 6 years ago, but that needed to happen. It's been hard to bounce back, and I'm not there yet, but I'm working towards a better life. I love your channel!
Thank you Margaret. I’m new to your channel. I’m 66 and my husband left me 3 yrs ago. I sought professional help and that definitely helped me accept what had actually happened to me in my marriage of 37yrs. We are all on a journey and change is inevitable along the way. It just doesn’t look like what we thought it would. I appreciate your gentle demeanor and always look forward to your videos. Sending love to all you precious ladies out there. Thank you for what you do. ❤️
One major thing that helps with acceptance is knowing you're not alone! You have plenty of company with losses! In Buddhism, they teach about acceptance, that nothing is permanent and to embrace change which can be for the better! Blessings in disguise~ put out the positive healing vibes! We are one~ blessings to all and hugs~
Margaret, you look lovely in that purple color scheme; the necklace is awesome! This is such a relevant topic for us..nothing at all in my life turned out as I had hoped or planned. I thought I'd be married for the rest of my life, but, I lost my husband when I was forty-three, and, life has never been the same. Every issue you discussed is on point, most especially this past year-plus since the pandemic. We have all been affected somehow, in one way or another. The mirror doesn't lie, and so, there's that..the aging process. So much comes with that. All I can say is, I try hard to accept what I can't change, but, it's a daily struggle. I think it's the same for many of us. My heart goes out to those who have lost so much more. I can't thank you enough for our community/family. You have been a godsend for me, and, I'm sure, for countless other women. Take good care, and stay well! 🙂 Rosemarie 💖
The difference between my 60's & 70's is shocking. So, so hard to wrap my head around. I feel like the same young person I always was & am perpetually surprised by how youngers relate to me, or don't!
I have many health issues which I find hard to except 😢 I can’t dance anymore and I loved dancing 💃🏻😞 I’m just stuck in an unhappy rut 😢😢 I lost my dad a month ago and I’m struggling which has took me by surprise I’m 60 years old and feel like an orphan 😢😢 I lost my mother at 16 so my dad has always been my go to for a cry or share a worry 🥺 I don’t get that I see people walking around well and doing so much more than I can and they are older than me it’s heartbreaking 💔
I have been having pain and mobility problems for the last 8 months and i know i need to accept my limitations but it is so hard. I cry everyday. Thank you for this message. I am 65 and just retired. I thought it would be better.
I so understand and I send you love. I am experiencing pain, cervical spine issues and feeling very scared of what this all might mean. Some say it could lead to paralysis and that is what I fear most. I'm only 69 but inside I still have the spirit of a 10 year old! Acceptance is hard. Especially the possible loss of complete independence. I am just trying to be grateful for all the small and big things I still have and can still do, and leave the rest (and my worries) in the hands of a Presence greater than myself. I empathize greatly with you, Sunflower Mom. Know that you are not alone. I, and I'm sure many others, are walking the path you are and we are with you in spirit and friendship.
Thank you Margaret! Your sparkle & smile, as well as your wisdom lifts me up! I am 74 and you are so spot on about the many issues of aging. My youngest son left this world in August 2018 at age 44. We were close & I feel him with me every day. My eldest son struggles with a Meth addiction, is in & out of prison. At this point he has disappeared again - I will probably hear from him when he returns to custody. I concentrate as much of my energy as I can on all of the many blessings in my life. There are always so very many things to be grateful for on this journey. Of course part of self care is giving ourselves whatever time we need to feel our feelings fully. I find that very healing & my spiritual center has found greater depth. I have a beautiful wise daughter, grandchildren I adore and a husband who is my best friend. Yes there is still grief & I find joy too. My love to all of you. Your presence & comments comfort & strengthen me ♥️
Until we accept a situation, we can't really deal with it. This can waste energy, time and emotions. You're exactly right on what I had planned for my life, it looks nothing like what I had in mind. A divorce I didn't want, which I dealt with much like you did Margaret, a child who went off the rails at 18, who is almost 40 now and still in the same mind-set. I coped because of my faith, God was with me and I knew it. And I must say that 18 years after my divorce, the Lord gave me a wonderful husband, the love of my life as it turns out. So never give up hope. Thanks so much Margaret, I count you a dear friend.♥
Thank you for confirming I'm not the only feeling that way. I have a hard time accepting the loss of morals, respect & integrity. I have to accept, let go & let God.
Thank you so much everyone. I have lost the vision completely in my left eye & now losing most sight in my right eye. I have my moments of tears, but I try to stay positive saying to myself,”This is your new reality” I now try to help others who are going blind to function in this new realm.
Absolutely perfect timing for this talk! Nothing!! is turning out the way I wanted and I had no idea how to let go of all those dreams. This gives me a place to start re-imagining my life as it really is. Thank you!!
I appreciate your respectful approach for assisting us. The Holy Bible tells us that the younger women can learn from the older women & widows. Now a days many younger women ~seem to think we are silly, unlearned even w/a degree & experience. Also many of our Adult children blame our generation for their difficulty and a inconvenience...🙁. I believe disrespect truly began when many strayed from God’s holy word & prayer in Christ Jesus 🙏🕯📖🕯🙏
Thank you for talking about this subject....its so relevant.!! What i appreciate is that you also include personal examples. For example that you cried for so long. So do i, even when i,m jogging! But i let it go, its my sadness and sport its my attemp to go on. I felt i was dealing all alone with accepting my life the way is now. Not a bad life, but certainly not a life i though I wd have. Kept thinking , what happened, where did i take the wrong exit? Lost and confused some days but determined to make the best out of my sixties. Your words and the community out there conforted me immensely. ☘️
I’m 71 now , it can be extremely scary as we age , I work really hard on staying positive I can’t change where I am but I can accept where I am we are all ageing it’s feeling old that I want to avoid (that can happen at any age ) As difficult as this pandemic has been I’m fortunate to have my husband he is 78 and we are both healthy, We were very fortunate to have each other , I have two girlfriends that are on their own lots of phone calls and virtual hugs it’s been a very difficult for them . I’m in BC Canada and things are open now , there truly is a whole new love for life and appreciation.
What a great subject - one to which we can all relate. My partner died over 10 years ago. I was devastated but could not understand why because we were about to separate after a miserable few years. I too cried for years but I worked on myself and my world opened up. I made a bucket list and did some exciting things like hot air ballooning, white water rafting, rediscovered hiking, took several courses, which I would not have done if he had still been around. But the most important event after his death was meeting my spiritual teacher. A whole other world opened up for me which has eventually lead me to great peace and happiness. We are more than the stories that bind us. When you open up to life itself with ALL its experiences, happy and sad, you feel alive and grateful for the life you have been given. It was hard work at times and required courage but I would not go back. I am enjoying this lovely group of wise people.
I needed to hear this today more than I knew. I'm struggling with aging, I'll be 58 in September, but my body is a solid 70. I've recently divorced my adult daughter, and in that I lost my 8 year old grandson Henry. I'm tired, I'm afraid and I'm exhausted.
Elizabeth, our situations have a lit in common. I'm sorry from the bottom of my heart for you because this is a hurt that no words can describe. All I can say is i hope better days are ahead. Take care of yourself.
So sorry to hear of how you are feeling:( I think as we age we need to remind ourselves that this is our life and no one else’s. We are done taking care of our children and other people in our lives. Let them live how they want to and live with the decisions they make. The only person you need to take care of is you. Throw yourself into self care and reset your new life. If you need a bit of help just to get through talk to your doctor there is no shame in that. Send cards to the grandkids and put a little bit of money away for them. They’ll know they were loved. 🤗❤️🩹❤️
Just turned 60, I’m glad I found this channel, 2016 was a nightmare for me, my mom died, my grandmother died, my dog died and I had to take my daughter out of school in her freshman year, my relationship fell apart. Almost 5 years on and I suffer from pretty bad anxiety, still feel quite lost. I have no friends, no one my age to talk to. Nothing as turned out the way I thought it would and a pandemic! WTF?!
A Buddhist teacher once said to, lower your expectations. He was talking about Karma sometimes we just have to accept what's happening and move on and live
Hi Margaret, about ACCEPTANCE, I think I went through the steps of grief or at least a few of those steps with every notable loss to get to acceptance. I lost my young husband in my youth, now my health, also my dear brother. One of the most difficult losses to accept for me is always the loss of my dreams. For example, I pictured my relationship with my daughter to be similar to my relationship with my mother. I thought my daughter would call me on the phone once a week, would embrace my faith, many things. I had to grieve the loss of those dreams to accept reality. Now my daughter loves me (always did!) and expresses it in her way. I enjoy that fully. My reality with her is a relationship we’ve created together. We lose dreams with every large loss. I’ve lost dreams when I lost my health. I lost dreams when I lost my brother. I know for me, it’s the steps of grief that led to acceptance. Twice I’ve had therapy to guide me through that grief. Now I live in acceptance of my life the way it is! It’s a victory! 💗 Sharon
Also gratitude. My life hasn't turned out anything like I thought it would. I figured I would get married at some point. So I am 64 and single and often feel alone. It's occurred to me now that I would have liked to have grandchildren. I haven't traveled as much as I would have liked to, which I know is an important subject here, because every time I get money safe for something I have to use it for car repairs or home repairs. I'm not wealthy. I'm having work later than I wanted to because I didn't save enough for retirement and I need my maximum social security. I did the best I could with what I knew, which wasn't much. My parents divorced and we just didn't learn a lot. It is what it is, I figure these are all meant to be lessons, and I would prefer to try to make the best of it.
I'm so glad I came across your website Margaret. Thank you for being such an inspiration & for sharing such important topics. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Much love.
Hey Margaret! I needed this today! I struggle with accepting the way my life has turned out! I need to keep moving forward and start each day as if it’s the first day of the rest of my life! I’m the only one who can bring happiness to me!! I’m restarting right now!!❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Margaret!!
Hello Margaret, I too have lost my husband 4 and a half years ago, it's been hard. At my age now I have to cut my Yard now. But I cut it a little at a time. I have to accept it. I pray to God to give me Strength. And that's what has helped alot. Have a good Day.
PTL…thank you for sharing; this was an excellent subject! I am glad to have discovered your platform. You always look fabulous; love your necklaces. I learned something about friendship, accepting changes/growth in myself and friends💯!
That was a good talk . I felt the same as you when I was divorced too. I,m 68 and got divorced at 40 . So a long wait to meet another life partner but I will never say never but i dont go looking for one . Could you give a talk on how you see that . If it,s worth putting ourselves at risk of just more turmoil and disapointment trying to find love and companionship over 60. Thank you
Releasing to the universe is my way of accepting my journey and I allow myself the time I need to heal. My moto is give yourself time, plenty of time. Acceptance requires rest and tender loving care. Xo
I think that something that is important is that we give ourselves the space and time _to_ adjust. We can say, Okay, I'm accepting this now. But the process of doing that _is_ a process, and it will take whatever time it takes. Just deciding in our heads is not necessarily the way that it will work. I'm feeling now that I'm adjusting to and finally accepting some difficult changes from the past few years. It's not like its "done" or "not done," but I do find it is happening. I am moving. Hang in there with yours. Be very gentle with yourself.
Thank you Jan. I'm 61 and accepting is a process I've been going through the past few years. I'm beginning to adjust. Yes being gentle with myself was something I needed to hear.
I was born alone after much struggle in the foster care system in van nuys ...I decided to manufacture a family ..get married have babies ...did that well ...accompanied on every level ...bragggg:) lol SO??? why the feelings solitude now is so Very difficult??? Alone along time now✌ no one is coming .. 🌞 half the time :) day I mean I can be my own sunshine 🌞 ....for little longer ☕🦜🇱🇷 Mindfully remembering where the real Suffering Is.✌🏜👣👣
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ONe of the toughest for me has been the invisibility. People look right through us at this age. Also I feel vulnerable.
💐What a wonderful topic, and very timely for me. I'm 65, living in a new state and alone due to divorce. My son got a job transfer and he and my daughter in law with my three grandsons to Texas, and I couldn't afford to move from here in Michigan. Then this past June, I was cyber whacked and the criminals stole my identity and my savings. Now to find a job at my age. No, I didn't expect this dark cloud, but I pray for favor and grace from the Lord, and know He has a plan for us all. I accept my reality and am praying for everyone here. God bless us women....we are a formidable group! 🙏💕❤
Margaret you are amazing your topics are always right on❣️Acceptance is survival!
There are no guarantees in life and this is definitely emphasized more as we get older. Specially 60 + + Our society is very cruel to ageing in general . Specially to women! We just have to be strong and deal with it. Health, heart, financial or any problems? We cry a little (I do sometimes ) and then just pick up, reinvent, adjust and move on. This is the only way if we want to live.
So ladies just hang in there and never give up❣️❣️❣️
I am trying to come to terms with the fact that after suffering a Stroke a month ago after over 70 years of good health that I am never going to be that same person I was again. Due to the Stroke I have lost vision in one eye although I am still mobile I cannot go out on my own without holding onto my husbands arm. Obviously not being able to see out of one eye means I have lost my balance. Also my only real hobby was reading, Even though I listen to audio books it is not the same, nothing like getting lost in a good book. However listening to you has helped me realise that although I have other people encouraging me, the only one that can help me is myself which I will try my very best to do simply because there is nothing else one can do. Thank you again for your wise words xx
Thank you
Patricia Hale Try to simply be grateful for your husband and his help, because without that, the journey is much more difficult. I wish you a complete recovery. ❤️
Lost sight in my left eye as well, due to high blood pressure which is linked to the MS I have. Sorry to hear of your stroke, read what I wrote at the end of my story about "EARTHING"/"GROUNDING" which has now been scientifically proven, another way to heal but nothing new, as old as the hills! There are a couple of fabulous videos on that here on RUclips as well! Blessed be~
PTL Patricia Hale…I don’t know you; yet, I send warmth and love to you ❤️.
Sending hugs
When you look in the mirror I hope you see the lovely, supportive person that you are.
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Loss is universal from death to divorce to illness. I lost both breasts from cancer in 2009. And while as I shower daily I am starkly reminded of that loss … and it can still sting emotionally … it’s decreased in power. I chose to focus instead on still being alive. And having my limbs to help me walk & be active. But it took time. Cause loss is loss. Universal. On so very many levels. Hugs to all❤️❤️🙏🏽❤️❤️
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Deborah, I am so sorry for you to go through that cancer. You are so brave to try to accept and embrace life. Hope to see you in the Friendship Lounge Wednesday. Somehow my message I left before 1pm on Monday disappeared. Hugs Pam
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I was going to write about my own struggles, because as I approach 70, the losses in my life and approach of the finite amount of time I have left, has really hit me. However, as I began reading some of the other comments and my heart goes out to all of you, I realized I am not alone in my thoughts and struggles. So instead of sharing my sad moments, I’d rather encourage everyone to remember, how resilient we are and that nothing that life has thrown at us so far has been fatal. It might have felt like it at times, but we have survived and will continue to do so. Life certainly hasn’t turned out as many of us thought it would, but we are still here and as Margaret wisely said, we must accept reality. Besides, we never know what wonderful and unexpected moment awaits us tomorrow, so I intend to try and make the most of life…how about you? As always I wish you all a FABulous day. 💛
Thank you so much Irene. Just beautiful. x
@@sixtyandmethank you. 💐💖
My life is not what I expected.I turned 60 this January.I have had a lot of losses.
When I was 44 my 15 year old daughter died on the first day of school we had no clue it was Myocarditis a virus from the air which is rare. The pain has eased through the years it was 21 years ago it drew me closer to Jesus Christ
❤🙏💗 beloved thankyou for sharing .
My husband passed away suddenly a few years ago. I was always terrified of that happening, since we were so close and best friends. When that happened, I experienced a new level of compassion and love from family and friends, so much kindness and support that I never expected. Though the loss can still be difficult, it has opened a path for me to connect with others in a new way. It has also allowed me to come to terms with self-care and being kind to myself, which has always been a struggle. It is an ongoing process but I can recognize it now and take responsibility for treating myself well. I hope this helps someone else. If you are in need of help, please ask for it and be open to allowing others to show you kindness.
"We have to let go of the life we planned in order to succeed in the life we were meant to live"... Maria Shriver upon her divorce from A. Schwarzenegger
(Acceptance).
Thank You Margaret..I do feel life definately changes at 60...an accumulation of so much history stuck to us and knowing the physical body is deteriorating in ways we cannot change and loss of so many along our journey. Acceptance can give a peace...facing our own mortality and knowing it is as it is. Love to all 💖💝💕💞
I'm so glad I found you! I turn 60 in 5 days. I'm all alone, husband left me 6 years ago, but that needed to happen. It's been hard to bounce back, and I'm not there yet, but I'm working towards a better life.
I love your channel!
Lazy I Ranch Changes seem more difficult to accept now than in our young days.
I can relate completely. I’m 66 and my husband left me 3 yrs ago. It was a blessing in disguise but very hard nonetheless. Sending you a big hug.❤️
Since my husband passed it has been so hard.... it's so hard to come to grips with this loss....he was my friend and partner.....
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband.
TheCynthiaRice I understand; same for me. All we can do is try, and, to help each other.
Give it time, allow yourself the time you need to heal. Hang in there. Xo
Thank you Margaret. I’m new to your channel. I’m 66 and my husband left me 3 yrs ago. I sought professional help and that definitely helped me accept what had actually happened to me in my marriage of 37yrs. We are all on a journey and change is inevitable along the way. It just doesn’t look like what we thought it would. I appreciate your gentle demeanor and always look forward to your videos. Sending love to all you precious ladies out there. Thank you for what you do. ❤️
You are so welcome
One major thing that helps with acceptance is knowing you're not alone! You have plenty of company with losses! In Buddhism, they teach about acceptance, that nothing is permanent and to embrace change which can be for the better! Blessings in disguise~ put out the positive healing vibes! We are one~ blessings to all and hugs~
Lilac adds natural color to your face. It's pretty!
Margaret, you look lovely in that purple color scheme; the necklace is awesome! This is such a relevant topic for us..nothing at all in my life turned out as I had hoped or planned. I thought I'd be married for the rest of my life, but, I lost my husband when I was forty-three, and, life has never been the same. Every issue you discussed is on point, most especially this past year-plus since the pandemic. We have all been affected somehow, in one way or another. The mirror doesn't lie, and so, there's that..the aging process. So much comes with that. All I can say is, I try hard to accept what I can't change, but, it's a daily struggle. I think it's the same for many of us. My heart goes out to those who have lost so much more. I can't thank you enough for our community/family. You have been a godsend for me, and, I'm sure, for countless other women. Take good care, and stay well! 🙂
Rosemarie 💖
The difference between my 60's & 70's is shocking. So, so hard to wrap my head around. I feel like the same young person I always was & am perpetually surprised by how youngers relate to me, or don't!
I have many health issues which I find hard to except 😢 I can’t dance anymore and I loved dancing 💃🏻😞 I’m just stuck in an unhappy rut 😢😢 I lost my dad a month ago and I’m struggling which has took me by surprise I’m 60 years old and feel like an orphan 😢😢 I lost my mother at 16 so my dad has always been my go to for a cry or share a worry 🥺 I don’t get that I see people walking around well and doing so much more than I can and they are older than me it’s heartbreaking 💔
I have been having pain and mobility problems for the last 8 months and i know i need to accept my limitations but it is so hard. I cry everyday. Thank you for this message. I am 65 and just retired. I thought it would be better.
I so understand and I send you love. I am experiencing pain, cervical spine issues and feeling very scared of what this all might mean. Some say it could lead to paralysis and that is what I fear most. I'm only 69 but inside I still have the spirit of a 10 year old! Acceptance is hard. Especially the possible loss of complete independence. I am just trying to be grateful for all the small and big things I still have and can still do, and leave the rest (and my worries) in the hands of a Presence greater than myself. I empathize greatly with you, Sunflower Mom. Know that you are not alone. I, and I'm sure many others, are walking the path you are and we are with you in spirit and friendship.
@@sl2608 thank you for your kind words. Walking this journey with you.
Thank you Margaret! Your sparkle & smile, as well as your wisdom lifts me up! I am 74 and you are so spot on about the many issues of aging. My youngest son left this world in August 2018 at age 44. We were close & I feel him with me every day. My eldest son struggles with a Meth addiction, is in & out of prison. At this point he has disappeared again - I will probably hear from him when he returns to custody. I concentrate as much of my energy as I can on all of the many blessings in my life. There are always so very many things to be grateful for on this journey. Of course part of self care is giving ourselves whatever time we need to feel our feelings fully. I find that very healing & my spiritual center has found greater depth. I have a beautiful wise daughter, grandchildren I adore and a husband who is my best friend. Yes there is still grief & I find joy too. My love to all of you. Your presence & comments comfort & strengthen me ♥️
Until we accept a situation, we can't really deal with it. This can waste energy, time and emotions. You're exactly right on what I had planned for my life, it looks nothing like what I had in mind. A divorce I didn't want, which I dealt with much like you did Margaret, a child who went off the rails at 18, who is almost 40 now and still in the same mind-set. I coped because of my faith, God was with me and I knew it. And I must say that 18 years after my divorce, the Lord gave me a wonderful husband, the love of my life as it turns out. So never give up hope. Thanks so much Margaret, I count you a dear friend.♥
So happy to hear your story. Wishing you all the best. 💗
Thank you for confirming I'm not the only feeling that way. I have a hard time accepting the loss of morals, respect & integrity. I have to accept, let go & let God.
Thank you so much everyone. I have lost the vision completely in my left eye & now losing most sight in my right eye. I have my moments of tears, but I try to stay positive saying to myself,”This is your new reality” I now try to help others who are going blind to function in this new realm.
I love “CELEBRATING” with you🥰🥰
I have faced so many changes. My new dentures now.
Absolutely perfect timing for this talk! Nothing!! is turning out the way I wanted and I had no idea how to let go of all those dreams. This gives me a place to start re-imagining my life as it really is. Thank you!!
I appreciate your respectful approach for assisting us. The Holy Bible tells us that the younger women can learn from the older women & widows. Now a days many younger women ~seem to think we are silly, unlearned even w/a degree & experience. Also many of our Adult children blame our generation for their difficulty and a inconvenience...🙁. I believe disrespect truly began when many strayed from God’s holy word & prayer in Christ Jesus 🙏🕯📖🕯🙏
Thank you for talking about this subject....its so relevant.!! What i appreciate is that you also include personal examples. For example that you cried for so long. So do i, even when i,m jogging! But i let it go, its my sadness and sport its my attemp to go on. I felt i was dealing all alone with accepting my life the way is now. Not a bad life, but certainly not a life i though I wd have. Kept thinking , what happened, where did i take the wrong exit? Lost and confused some days but determined to make the best out of my sixties. Your words and the community out there conforted me immensely. ☘️
I’m 71 now , it can be extremely scary as we age , I work really hard on staying positive I can’t change where I am but I can accept where I am we are all ageing it’s feeling old that I want to avoid (that can happen at any age )
As difficult as this pandemic has been I’m fortunate to have my husband he is 78 and we are both healthy,
We were very fortunate to have each other , I have two girlfriends that are on their own lots of phone calls and virtual hugs it’s been a very difficult for them . I’m in BC Canada and things are open now , there truly is a whole new love for life and appreciation.
What a great subject - one to which we can all relate. My partner died over 10 years ago. I was devastated but could not understand why because we were about to separate after a miserable few years. I too cried for years but I worked on myself and my world opened up. I made a bucket list and did some exciting things like hot air ballooning, white water rafting, rediscovered hiking, took several courses, which I would not have done if he had still been around. But the most important event after his death was meeting my spiritual teacher. A whole other world opened up for me which has eventually lead me to great peace and happiness. We are more than the stories that bind us. When you open up to life itself with ALL its experiences, happy and sad, you feel alive and grateful for the life you have been given. It was hard work at times and required courage but I would not go back.
I am enjoying this lovely group of wise people.
My looks have changed completely, my heart is strong & my faith. hello older age 70,s 😊❤️🇨🇦
I needed to hear this today more than I knew. I'm struggling with aging, I'll be 58 in September, but my body is a solid 70. I've recently divorced my adult daughter, and in that I lost my 8 year old grandson Henry. I'm tired, I'm afraid and I'm exhausted.
A sad heavy loss. I hope you are able to move on from this unusual hurt. 💙
Elizabeth Trainer I totally understand; ask for help from angels, the universe or the God of your belief. We're all in this boat together. 🙏❤️
💝😭💝 I’m sorry Elizabeth 😖 I can relate very much Hugs
Elizabeth, our situations have a lit in common. I'm sorry from the bottom of my heart for you because this is a hurt that no words can describe. All I can say is i hope better days are ahead. Take care of yourself.
So sorry to hear of how you are feeling:( I think as we age we need to remind ourselves that this is our life and no one else’s. We are done taking care of our children and other people in our lives. Let them live how they want to and live with the decisions they make. The only person you need to take care of is you. Throw yourself into self care and reset your new life. If you need a bit of help just to get through talk to your doctor there is no shame in that. Send cards to the grandkids and put a little bit of money away for them. They’ll know they were loved. 🤗❤️🩹❤️
Just turned 60, I’m glad I found this channel, 2016 was a nightmare for me, my mom died, my grandmother died, my dog died and I had to take my daughter out of school in her freshman year, my relationship fell apart. Almost 5 years on and I suffer from pretty bad anxiety, still feel quite lost. I have no friends, no one my age to talk to. Nothing as turned out the way I thought it would and a pandemic! WTF?!
A Buddhist teacher once said to, lower your expectations. He was talking about Karma sometimes we just have to accept what's happening and move on and live
@@deborahpellerito6117 karma means action. Ignorance is your sad life may your God forgive you.
I like that Dena. I believe the Buddhist teacher was right. I consider myself spiritual not religious. Thank you for sharing that advise,
Hi Margaret, about ACCEPTANCE, I think I went through the steps of grief or at least a few of those steps with every notable loss to get to acceptance. I lost my young husband in my youth, now my health, also my dear brother. One of the most difficult losses to accept for me is always the loss of my dreams. For example, I pictured my relationship with my daughter to be similar to my relationship with my mother. I thought my daughter would call me on the phone once a week, would embrace my faith, many things. I had to grieve the loss of those dreams to accept reality. Now my daughter loves me (always did!) and expresses it in her way. I enjoy that fully. My reality with her is a relationship we’ve created together. We lose dreams with every large loss. I’ve lost dreams when I lost my health. I lost dreams when I lost my brother. I know for me, it’s the steps of grief that led to acceptance. Twice I’ve had therapy to guide me through that grief. Now I live in acceptance of my life the way it is! It’s a victory! 💗 Sharon
An "acceptance muscle - for the amplification of loss in our older years." I like that.🙂
Thank you. I really needed that
Also gratitude. My life hasn't turned out anything like I thought it would. I figured I would get married at some point. So I am 64 and single and often feel alone. It's occurred to me now that I would have liked to have grandchildren. I haven't traveled as much as I would have liked to, which I know is an important subject here, because every time I get money safe for something I have to use it for car repairs or home repairs. I'm not wealthy. I'm having work later than I wanted to because I didn't save enough for retirement and I need my maximum social security. I did the best I could with what I knew, which wasn't much. My parents divorced and we just didn't learn a lot. It is what it is, I figure these are all meant to be lessons, and I would prefer to try to make the best of it.
There are things you have no choice but to accept, but there are other things that you cannot accept, and must fight for.
I do like your channel ❤️
I'm so glad I came across your website Margaret. Thank you for being such an inspiration & for sharing such important topics. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Much love.
Hey Margaret! I needed this today! I struggle with accepting the way my life has turned out! I need to keep moving forward and start each day as if it’s the first day of the rest of my life! I’m the only one who can bring happiness to me!! I’m restarting right now!!❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Margaret!!
You always make things so clear!
Another great video! 👍💟🌹⚘☺
Hello Margaret, I too have lost my husband 4 and a half years ago, it's been hard. At my age now I have to cut my Yard now. But I cut it a little at a time. I have to accept it. I pray to God to give me Strength. And that's what has helped alot. Have a good Day.
You can do it!
Well said.
PTL…thank you for sharing; this was an excellent subject! I am glad to have discovered your platform. You always look fabulous; love your necklaces. I learned something about friendship, accepting changes/growth in myself and friends💯!
PTL…I also discovered what identifies as a good friendship for me 💯!
New to your channel. Thanks very much Margaret to give this oportunity to everybody to learn and expess ourselves. 🙏🌷🌹🌺
Thankyou Margaret♥️
You are so welcome
I like your way of wording feelings..like Jordon Peterson ...able to put in words the thought in the hearts and minds ..Thank You !!.❤
That was a good talk . I felt the same as you when I was divorced too. I,m 68 and got divorced at 40 . So a long wait to meet another life partner but I will never say never but i dont go looking for one . Could you give a talk on how you see that . If it,s worth putting ourselves at risk of just more turmoil and disapointment trying to find love and companionship over 60. Thank you
Releasing to the universe is my way of accepting my journey and I allow myself the time I need to heal. My moto is give yourself time, plenty of time. Acceptance requires rest and tender loving care. Xo
Thank you Marie. I agree 100%.
Exactly.😊
I think that something that is important is that we give ourselves the space and time _to_ adjust. We can say, Okay, I'm accepting this now. But the process of doing that _is_ a process, and it will take whatever time it takes. Just deciding in our heads is not necessarily the way that it will work.
I'm feeling now that I'm adjusting to and finally accepting some difficult changes from the past few years. It's not like its "done" or "not done," but I do find it is happening. I am moving. Hang in there with yours. Be very gentle with yourself.
Thank you Jan. I'm 61 and accepting is a process I've been going through the past few years. I'm beginning to adjust. Yes being gentle with myself was something I needed to hear.
I was born alone after much struggle in the foster care system in van nuys ...I decided to manufacture a family ..get married have babies ...did that well ...accompanied on every level ...bragggg:) lol SO??? why the feelings solitude now is so Very difficult???
Alone along time now✌ no one is coming ..
🌞 half the time :) day I mean I can be my own sunshine 🌞 ....for little longer ☕🦜🇱🇷
Mindfully remembering where the real Suffering Is.✌🏜👣👣