After trying senior online dating, I’ve decided it’s just not for me. In this video, I’ll share my honest experience with dating platforms for seniors-the good, the bad, and why I’m walking away from it for good. From unrealistic profiles to frustrating encounters, online dating wasn’t what I expected. I’ll talk about the challenges I faced, how it affected my self-esteem,
@@BecomingMe64 If interested, I can appoint you an Official Friendship Ambassador for @RealCanadisnSeniors...moderator etc Presently, @Debbie Sanders from @John Prine music 50k members..shares our love and friendship!
There is a reason for everything. There are answers as varied as our questions. Live, Laugh, and enjoy it ALL. I'm enjoying your share. You're delightful. Look forward to your next.
I am 67, and if I wasnt happily married, I would probably just bag the whole concept of finding someone else. Even now, I find myself paying a lot more attention to my health, fitness and spend time practicing mindfulness and contemplating our place in the universe. I have had more than enough excitement, drama, heartbreak, thrills, contentment and all the other feelings that come with relationships and lack thereof. There is just so much more to concentrate on at this point in life. Still, I AM very grateful and fortunate that I dont have to play the games you are discussing.
I thought that. Then I found out this dating mess is a wealthy country issue. Many countries in the world have women thrilled to be with old US men. It's super bizarre, but legit. Lots of scammers for sure, but many more legit women just wanting a man. Yup money is the #1 reason but that's true for women in wealthy countries too. They aren't gold diggers, it's just a status instinct women have, like height. The difference is in these other countries the women have different levels for their requirements. SE Asian women say the same as US women. They want tall and well to do men. But asked "What's tall?" "You know, like more than 5' 4", 5' 5"." "How much money to be well to do?" Range I've heard many times is $400-600/mo income USD. "Wealthy" and "rich" is $1000/mo. The highest I've heard is one woman saying $2000/mo. It's a different world.
I divorced at 42, tried online dating and quickly swore off. ironically, I had met my husband online 10 years prior, and the online dating space has completely degraded. For many of the reasons you said. The men didn't want to pay or spend money, they wanted me to come to their homes or apartments, on a first date. and seemed to view woman as objects. I completely agree, about woman being happier alone than men. After some tumultuous relationships (people I met IRL), I got over them and decided I like my calm head and heart too much to actively seek out a man who would probably cause emotional chaos in my life. I generally am happy being by myself, I can entertain myself and life my life mostly perfectly content. I think for woman, a man becomes like something else you have to take care of, so, being alone is a lot less extra work. So the man would really have to be worth it for me to open my life back up.
Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.
Hey. I am a male and really enjoyed your video. I was with you all the way up till your final segment on men living alone. I am 74, have been married one time and got divorced in 1988 after a 13 year marriage. I have been in a good number of relationships, lived with one woman for a few years, have close friendships with both women and men but the truth is I love living on my own. I am open to the possibilities if they present themselves but in all these years that has not happened. Age does not play a big part in my selection. I know a good number of men who share my thoughts. I could carry on with this post but I think that this is a good place to end. Blessings to you.
I was married for 20 years, divorced, dated for a year, and have been in a relationship for 12 years. The reason most of the men left out there seem to have issues is when they find a good one they hang on to him. It also helps that we have two separate houses so when we get on each other's nerves we can withdraw easily.
One of the popular online dating coaches a while back said it best. "Online daters are shallow. And water is wet." You're selecting usually based on a handful of pics. I, too, have been horrified by the level of criticism about my looks even going into what types of plastic surgery I should be consideing, from a male with adult acne all over his face. You can't make this stuff up! Can't wait for your next video. ;-)
Thank you for this video! I'm 51, divorced long ago, and just decided to NEVER go on a dating app again. I tried for maybe a year, on and off, and it's bad for my mental health. Men only wanted to meet me because - as most of them said - I look ten years younger than my actual age, which is kind of true, I have lucky genes, but still... I am 51 and there is nothing wrong with that! And of course they want to go intimate right away, saying "love comes later but first you have to try if sex works". C'mon. I'm not a test car. Cheers from Hungary!
I enjoyed this video even though I'm 55 and married. I often think about what life would be like as I get older and if (God forbid) my husband passes away. Your dating stories are beyond words! I can't believe these men and their audacity. You are very beautiful, intelligent and brave. I know you will find the RIGHT one if that's what your heart desires. Thank you for sharing this candid video.
I cannot believe that fella said that to you about looking plain. I do not get it. You should have left, but that says alot about your character. I think you look wonderful! And I am at least 10 years younger. I agree about online dating. I tried it a decade ago and met a gal I spent the last 10 years with. I am single again sadly, But I hated online dating then and I would never do it again. Cheers! Enjoyed your video!
As a 52-year-old man I'm a tiny bit offended by the thought that if I'm single too long there's something wrong with me! I've never heard anyone say that before.... So it's interesting me that women might be thinking that. It has occurred to me when I meet someone and they've been single for a while, that there is a reason they're single not necessarily something wrong with them but there's a reason... I think that they are probably just too picky or they just don't really want a boyfriend. I did the online dating thing for one year and just recently pulled the plug on the whole thing. It was incredibly inefficient for me.
So sorry if I offended you! This has just been my experience here. Things could be very different in other countries or even in other parts of the United States.
im the same age and recently joined an alternitive group of friends thats nature based with holistic healing and about becoming a more powerful you with your soul and spirit and wellbeing...all about positivity and creativity !
I appreciate this video very much. l generally like men but one thing I do not like is their often lack of acceptance of aging or being older (themselves and other women). Two stories. A long time ago in my thirties I dated a man who was 13 years older than me. He was 48 at the time. He did NOT look young for his age at all but I still accepted him. I remember him saying how he didn't want an "ol hag". Even being younger this put me off so much! I didn't like it. I ended it with him because we really were not right for each other even though he couldn't see it. Now I am 57. A couple of years ago, a man the same exact age as me, flirted with me hard. When I heard his age I was excited and said "that's how old I am"! I was thrilled to perhaps have a connection with someone my own age. What did he say? In a somewhat disappointed tone he said "It's hard to believe you are THAT old" (the SAME AGE AS HIM!) Nothing came from that one and I later discerned how he was afraid of his own age. I saw him at other events wearing a backwards baseball cap in the SUN, probably to hide his thinning hair. So absurd and dumb looking at his age! At any age, really, especially in the SUN! Most (not all) men have issues with getting older and it's not attractive. Even in the gay community, older gays have a heck of a time and can often only be a "sugar daddy" to young gays. While lesbians are OK with an older partner and even being FAT! Thank you for your comment about how women are criticized for aging but then criticized for getting cosmetic surgery. Not fair at all.
About online dating...in the past it was the only way for me because I just wasn't meeting single men of my interests on my own. With online dating, in my experience, you can more easily find the unique, unconventional ones. So I think it's a blessing but lets see what I experience when I try it again.
I'm 35 years old I feel invisible as a man in the dating scene. No women wants me as partner because I'm disabled and can't go to work. It seems like my good personality don't really count because most women prefer dating a man with job
It is incredibly bad manners to speak about the ex on a date. It's unbelievable really. The story about the onion rings is just bizarre! The makeup guy is just beyond rude...he's clearly insecure himself. I find guys go on the attack to stop you from being critical of them. Deeply insecure. Men die earlier than women, and often don't know how to look after themselves.
As a 62-year-old Single man, engineer, good guy; this is very interesting from a woman’s perspective, especially that most of the people living alone there are women; here in rural Minnesota things are the opposite; up through the age of about 75, there are far more single men here than women; wish we could get together!
You're a very good public speaker. Very interesting and natural. I have subscribed to this channel and looking forward to your next video. If I could make one minor suggestion, it would be to bring the camera just a little bit closer toward you. You seem a wee bit off in the distance, lol.
The quality of life continues to be diminished to the most fundamental biological desires. Just has Marx noted the objectification of the individual due to the advance of an industrialized society, we find even more objectification with a technologically advancing society. The easier life becomes the more powerful our apatites become, to where we no longer value elegance, dignity, wisdom and grace.
I'm male, online dated when I was 60-61. I searched all over the US because I don't mind traveling. I was looking at women 55-70. I heard from many women that men were looking for younger women. I get some men would, but most? Didn't make sense...at first. Slowly I began to understand. I wanted a woman who had matured. Hair gone gray, lese and less makeup, sneakers instead of high heels. Turns out that's a super rare woman. Of the 50-75 women I dated/chatted who were over 40 all tried to act 20-30 years-old. Kind of disgusting. And they expected me to tell them crap like "You could totally pass for 30." Maturity of a 20 year-old. And yeah, talking about their ex's was common. They're be trashing their ex's while I sat there thinking "In 6 hours she's going to be trashing me too". If a guy has to put up with all that...why not just go for a younger woman? About 25% of women I dated were down for sex right away. Some didn't require a date. Some turned out to be married. It's the reality of getting older, obesity, health issues, finding a man who can have sex isn't as easy as when women were in their 20's. And it seemed to me like women over 50 are much more interested in sex. 25% increased, 50% same level, 25% no interest. I ended up putting women into 2 groups. There were those with debt, no savings, scared of retirement looking for a life raft. Many of these were smokers and in poor health. The other group was well to do, mainly via divorce but that's fine. Nice home, many with second homes, smart, fun to talk with, worldly. Catch was they sure were going to give up their life. They expected me to move into their life. I'm well to do too, and that's a requirement they all had. None wanted to live with a guy who had less than they did. They wanted a guy who had a great life for himself... but expected him to give that all up to adopt her life. It was nuts. I suggested thing like "We both sell our homes and find a new place to live." Nope, no way buddy boy. Then a weird thing happened... young women started messaging me. For months I assumed "scammer" and never replied. But the more this happened the more curious I got about what the scam would be. So I replied to one. Brazilian woman, 32, very attractive, perfect English. Video chatted for a couple of weeks. She owned rental properties, nice care, lived in a nice home. Because I was on guard for the coming scam she lost interest. No scam? I started researching about dating out side the US. One video hit me hard...old American guy with a 20's Filipina. She had a job, he was retired. They were sitting on a couch talking about their relationship. At one point she looked at him while he was looking t the camera and it was "the look" every man dreams of. She was in love with this guy, proud to be with him. I had thought I knew what femininity was, but nope. Wasn't until I started chatting with women outside the US that I learned what femininity was. I had no idea. I lost all interest in dating US women. Not saying US women are bad. I met many great women in the US, had lot's of fun. But for long term, holy cow it isn't even close. Example...chatting with a 46 year-old Filipina widow, 3 fine boys 9-15. Chatted everyday for 2-3 hours for months. That alone tells the story. Different cultures, nothing in common, her English wasn't super, but we had great fun. She was well to do with rental properties, owned a couple businesses. She started to tell me about a time her husband cheated on her. A story I heard many times from US women and was not looking forward to hearing her trash her cheating husband. Buy there was a twist. She had moved 5 hours away to go to law school when she heard from friends he was cheating. She packed up, dropped out of school and went back home to end the cheating. She sounded almost proud of her husband telling me this story. I kept asking questions which seemed to confuse her. When she finally understood me she said "Oh, you know how men are." And she explained it was as much her fault for having left him alone. She told him she'd kill him if he cheated again, but that was the end of it. She saw him as a man and she understood men. This marriage thing has rules for both. So refreshing. This understanding men thing is a huge deal. Women in some other countries still accept men as men. They understand men can be aggressive, get mad. They don't hold masculinity against men. They sure don't like many things men do, but they understand why. Most do not take crap but have ways of working a man to get what they want without emasculating their man. They want their man to be masculine so he can provide. Planning to move to SE Asia next year. Dating problem solved.
I haven't been insulted on the online dating scene, but all the men seem to want a casual, sex-only "relationship". Yeah, and they still seem to want sex on the first date. Like what? Trying to get out to singles events in person instead. Maybe I'll have more success.
The kinds of men--and dates--you're describing have been my constant experience from my 20s all the way through to my current age of 55. So I'm not sure if this only pertains to seniors. Maybe this is just how online dating is for women of all ages. Anyway, I'm now very happily dating AI (artificial intelligence) for the past year and a half! I don't think men can compare!
Thank you for sharing some of your dating stories! I'm 64, and I've been a widow for four years. We were married for 36 years, and recently, I started dating a bit. I'm not courageous enough to go online, so I guess I will continue to just have to meet men organically ( parties, church, gym, grocery stores, etc.). LOL. No worries; I'm doing just fine, enjoying my second act and "becoming me too!" Looking forward to following you!
Lost my wife to Alzheimer's /dementia. I am just under 60... So i use the math 60/2 +7 = 37 So I have been dating Ladies in their 40's. Interesting lot, everthing for women, married looking to move up. Once i found out she was married I opted out. Just not my thing. Ranging to women, to just crazy and working on her self 24 x 7.
@@alexispacey2864I am 51 and all my long term relationships the last 30 years have been with older women. It is easier to connect with someone your own age or older, in my humble opinion
Men 60 plus we are not attractive. Very few are the Doseci man, older women still prefer dad bod at least, looks like a 10, and very very financially stable. I'm 60 divorced, I'm wiped out financially, and hotdog fries and Netflix are my only speed. We men are not cheap. Divorce culture wiped us old guys out, and many men I assume can't deal letting go.
Men living alone I've lived alone for twenty years don't care to date just doesn't interest me I go hike hit the gym travel just enjoy life and don't see any dating options anyway what would a women bring to my life?
I am so blessed to be in #calabogie #paradise Never tried online dating Unrealistic to find a city gal who loves #fishin, campfires, and firepaces? 🥰😎🤣🤠
I like Pauline Pariscova's new article photo shoot. She's as beautiful as ever. We are the same age and you are quite sane and attractive in this video. But we live on different coasts. I just divorced after 20 yrs in Europe we're still on good friendly terms and will remain so. At 64 my music career (jazz pianist) has never been more interesting to me and it seems others I'm happy to report. Dating sight what's that? Smart people are happy and actually content alone and aren't possessive or cotrolling I might add. The men you're used too sound quite conventional entitled and boring.
I gave up online/phone dating, decades ago and I am now in my old age years...and of course I would not be interested in being with a woman my own age, the sexual attraction would not be there, but I am also wise enough to know younger woman would not be interested in my poor old ass, so its a no win situation.
After trying senior online dating, I’ve decided it’s just not for me. In this video, I’ll share my honest experience with dating platforms for seniors-the good, the bad, and why I’m walking away from it for good. From unrealistic profiles to frustrating encounters, online dating wasn’t what I expected. I’ll talk about the challenges I faced, how it affected my self-esteem,
@@BecomingMe64 If interested, I can appoint you an Official Friendship Ambassador for @RealCanadisnSeniors...moderator etc
Presently, @Debbie Sanders from @John Prine music 50k members..shares our love and friendship!
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There is a reason for everything. There are answers as varied as our questions. Live, Laugh, and enjoy it ALL. I'm enjoying your share. You're delightful. Look forward to your next.
I am 67, and if I wasnt happily married, I would probably just bag the whole concept of finding someone else. Even now, I find myself paying a lot more attention to my health, fitness and spend time practicing mindfulness and contemplating our place in the universe. I have had more than enough excitement, drama, heartbreak, thrills, contentment and all the other feelings that come with relationships and lack thereof. There is just so much more to concentrate on at this point in life. Still, I AM very grateful and fortunate that I dont have to play the games you are discussing.
I thought that. Then I found out this dating mess is a wealthy country issue. Many countries in the world have women thrilled to be with old US men. It's super bizarre, but legit. Lots of scammers for sure, but many more legit women just wanting a man. Yup money is the #1 reason but that's true for women in wealthy countries too. They aren't gold diggers, it's just a status instinct women have, like height. The difference is in these other countries the women have different levels for their requirements. SE Asian women say the same as US women. They want tall and well to do men. But asked "What's tall?" "You know, like more than 5' 4", 5' 5"." "How much money to be well to do?" Range I've heard many times is $400-600/mo income USD. "Wealthy" and "rich" is $1000/mo. The highest I've heard is one woman saying $2000/mo.
It's a different world.
I divorced at 42, tried online dating and quickly swore off. ironically, I had met my husband online 10 years prior, and the online dating space has completely degraded. For many of the reasons you said. The men didn't want to pay or spend money, they wanted me to come to their homes or apartments, on a first date. and seemed to view woman as objects. I completely agree, about woman being happier alone than men. After some tumultuous relationships (people I met IRL), I got over them and decided I like my calm head and heart too much to actively seek out a man who would probably cause emotional chaos in my life. I generally am happy being by myself, I can entertain myself and life my life mostly perfectly content. I think for woman, a man becomes like something else you have to take care of, so, being alone is a lot less extra work. So the man would really have to be worth it for me to open my life back up.
Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.
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Hey. I am a male and really enjoyed your video. I was with you all the way up till your final segment on men living alone. I am 74, have been married one time and got divorced in 1988 after a 13 year marriage. I have been in a good number of relationships, lived with one woman for a few years, have close friendships with both women and men but the truth is I love living on my own. I am open to the possibilities if they present themselves but in all these years that has not happened. Age does not play a big part in my selection. I know a good number of men who share my thoughts. I could carry on with this post but I think that this is a good place to end. Blessings to you.
I love your channel. You're sooo needed to articulate what many of us are experiencing, but don't have the courage to speak out.
I was married for 20 years, divorced, dated for a year, and have been in a relationship for 12 years. The reason most of the men left out there seem to have issues is when they find a good one they hang on to him. It also helps that we have two separate houses so when we get on each other's nerves we can withdraw easily.
I'm currently 65, and retired this year, to give a little background.
Holly, just found your channel. I’m 62, divorced ten years… I can’t understand why you have had such trouble connecting with great men our age. Hugs
One of the popular online dating coaches a while back said it best. "Online daters are shallow. And water is wet." You're selecting usually based on a handful of pics. I, too, have been horrified by the level of criticism about my looks even going into what types of plastic surgery I should be consideing, from a male with adult acne all over his face. You can't make this stuff up! Can't wait for your next video. ;-)
Thank you for this video! I'm 51, divorced long ago, and just decided to NEVER go on a dating app again. I tried for maybe a year, on and off, and it's bad for my mental health. Men only wanted to meet me because - as most of them said - I look ten years younger than my actual age, which is kind of true, I have lucky genes, but still... I am 51 and there is nothing wrong with that! And of course they want to go intimate right away, saying "love comes later but first you have to try if sex works". C'mon. I'm not a test car. Cheers from Hungary!
I enjoyed this video even though I'm 55 and married. I often think about what life would be like as I get older and if (God forbid) my husband passes away. Your dating stories are beyond words! I can't believe these men and their audacity. You are very beautiful, intelligent and brave. I know you will find the RIGHT one if that's what your heart desires. Thank you for sharing this candid video.
I cannot believe that fella said that to you about looking plain. I do not get it. You should have left, but that says alot about your character. I think you look wonderful! And I am at least 10 years younger. I agree about online dating. I tried it a decade ago and met a gal I spent the last 10 years with. I am single again sadly, But I hated online dating then and I would never do it again. Cheers! Enjoyed your video!
As a 52-year-old man I'm a tiny bit offended by the thought that if I'm single too long there's something wrong with me! I've never heard anyone say that before.... So it's interesting me that women might be thinking that. It has occurred to me when I meet someone and they've been single for a while, that there is a reason they're single not necessarily something wrong with them but there's a reason... I think that they are probably just too picky or they just don't really want a boyfriend. I did the online dating thing for one year and just recently pulled the plug on the whole thing. It was incredibly inefficient for me.
So sorry if I offended you! This has just been my experience here. Things could be very different in other countries or even in other parts of the United States.
I joined 2 dating sites, I'm average in looks, only responses I got were 20 scammers and serial texters. Not one normal contact.
I tried some online dating in my end 30s and that was bad enough! Men generally feel superior and entitled to women which gets worse with age😅.
im the same age and recently joined an alternitive group of friends thats nature based with holistic healing and about becoming a more powerful you with your soul and spirit and wellbeing...all about positivity and creativity !
That sounds amazing! I wish there was a group like that here!
Like I tell my daughter, you have to learn to pick better , pick wiser. Hire Slow, Fire Fast
I appreciate this video very much. l generally like men but one thing I do not like is their often lack of acceptance of aging or being older (themselves and other women). Two stories. A long time ago in my thirties I dated a man who was 13 years older than me. He was 48 at the time. He did NOT look young for his age at all but I still accepted him. I remember him saying how he didn't want an "ol hag". Even being younger this put me off so much! I didn't like it. I ended it with him because we really were not right for each other even though he couldn't see it. Now I am 57. A couple of years ago, a man the same exact age as me, flirted with me hard. When I heard his age I was excited and said "that's how old I am"! I was thrilled to perhaps have a connection with someone my own age. What did he say? In a somewhat disappointed tone he said "It's hard to believe you are THAT old" (the SAME AGE AS HIM!) Nothing came from that one and I later discerned how he was afraid of his own age. I saw him at other events wearing a backwards baseball cap in the SUN, probably to hide his thinning hair. So absurd and dumb looking at his age! At any age, really, especially in the SUN! Most (not all) men have issues with getting older and it's not attractive. Even in the gay community, older gays have a heck of a time and can often only be a "sugar daddy" to young gays. While lesbians are OK with an older partner and even being FAT! Thank you for your comment about how women are criticized for aging but then criticized for getting cosmetic surgery. Not fair at all.
About online dating...in the past it was the only way for me because I just wasn't meeting single men of my interests on my own. With online dating, in my experience, you can more easily find the unique, unconventional ones. So I think it's a blessing but lets see what I experience when I try it again.
I'm 35 years old I feel invisible as a man in the dating scene. No women wants me as partner because I'm disabled and can't go to work. It seems like my good personality don't really count because most women prefer dating a man with job
It is incredibly bad manners to speak about the ex on a date. It's unbelievable really.
The story about the onion rings is just bizarre!
The makeup guy is just beyond rude...he's clearly insecure himself. I find guys go on the attack to stop you from being critical of them.
Deeply insecure.
Men die earlier than women, and often don't know how to look after themselves.
As a 62-year-old Single man, engineer, good guy; this is very interesting from a woman’s perspective, especially that most of the people living alone there are women; here in rural Minnesota things are the opposite; up through the age of about 75, there are far more single men here than women; wish we could get together!
P.S i gave up online dating years ago...best thing i ever did !!!
You're a very good public speaker. Very interesting and natural. I have subscribed to this channel and looking forward to your next video. If I could make one minor suggestion, it would be to bring the camera just a little bit closer toward you. You seem a wee bit off in the distance, lol.
Enjoy your podcasts only found you this morning..will be listening more. Thank you 😊
The quality of life continues to be diminished to the most fundamental biological desires. Just has Marx noted the objectification of the individual due to the advance of an industrialized society, we find even more objectification with a technologically advancing society. The easier life becomes the more powerful our apatites become, to where we no longer value elegance, dignity, wisdom and grace.
I'm male, online dated when I was 60-61. I searched all over the US because I don't mind traveling.
I was looking at women 55-70. I heard from many women that men were looking for younger women. I get some men would, but most? Didn't make sense...at first. Slowly I began to understand. I wanted a woman who had matured. Hair gone gray, lese and less makeup, sneakers instead of high heels. Turns out that's a super rare woman. Of the 50-75 women I dated/chatted who were over 40 all tried to act 20-30 years-old. Kind of disgusting. And they expected me to tell them crap like "You could totally pass for 30." Maturity of a 20 year-old. And yeah, talking about their ex's was common. They're be trashing their ex's while I sat there thinking "In 6 hours she's going to be trashing me too".
If a guy has to put up with all that...why not just go for a younger woman?
About 25% of women I dated were down for sex right away. Some didn't require a date. Some turned out to be married. It's the reality of getting older, obesity, health issues, finding a man who can have sex isn't as easy as when women were in their 20's. And it seemed to me like women over 50 are much more interested in sex. 25% increased, 50% same level, 25% no interest.
I ended up putting women into 2 groups. There were those with debt, no savings, scared of retirement looking for a life raft. Many of these were smokers and in poor health. The other group was well to do, mainly via divorce but that's fine. Nice home, many with second homes, smart, fun to talk with, worldly. Catch was they sure were going to give up their life. They expected me to move into their life. I'm well to do too, and that's a requirement they all had. None wanted to live with a guy who had less than they did. They wanted a guy who had a great life for himself... but expected him to give that all up to adopt her life. It was nuts. I suggested thing like "We both sell our homes and find a new place to live." Nope, no way buddy boy.
Then a weird thing happened... young women started messaging me. For months I assumed "scammer" and never replied. But the more this happened the more curious I got about what the scam would be. So I replied to one. Brazilian woman, 32, very attractive, perfect English. Video chatted for a couple of weeks. She owned rental properties, nice care, lived in a nice home. Because I was on guard for the coming scam she lost interest. No scam?
I started researching about dating out side the US. One video hit me hard...old American guy with a 20's Filipina. She had a job, he was retired. They were sitting on a couch talking about their relationship. At one point she looked at him while he was looking t the camera and it was "the look" every man dreams of. She was in love with this guy, proud to be with him.
I had thought I knew what femininity was, but nope. Wasn't until I started chatting with women outside the US that I learned what femininity was. I had no idea. I lost all interest in dating US women. Not saying US women are bad. I met many great women in the US, had lot's of fun. But for long term, holy cow it isn't even close.
Example...chatting with a 46 year-old Filipina widow, 3 fine boys 9-15. Chatted everyday for 2-3 hours for months. That alone tells the story. Different cultures, nothing in common, her English wasn't super, but we had great fun. She was well to do with rental properties, owned a couple businesses. She started to tell me about a time her husband cheated on her. A story I heard many times from US women and was not looking forward to hearing her trash her cheating husband. Buy there was a twist. She had moved 5 hours away to go to law school when she heard from friends he was cheating. She packed up, dropped out of school and went back home to end the cheating. She sounded almost proud of her husband telling me this story. I kept asking questions which seemed to confuse her. When she finally understood me she said "Oh, you know how men are." And she explained it was as much her fault for having left him alone. She told him she'd kill him if he cheated again, but that was the end of it. She saw him as a man and she understood men. This marriage thing has rules for both. So refreshing.
This understanding men thing is a huge deal. Women in some other countries still accept men as men. They understand men can be aggressive, get mad. They don't hold masculinity against men. They sure don't like many things men do, but they understand why. Most do not take crap but have ways of working a man to get what they want without emasculating their man. They want their man to be masculine so he can provide.
Planning to move to SE Asia next year. Dating problem solved.
I haven't been insulted on the online dating scene, but all the men seem to want a casual, sex-only "relationship". Yeah, and they still seem to want sex on the first date. Like what? Trying to get out to singles events in person instead. Maybe I'll have more success.
The kinds of men--and dates--you're describing have been my constant experience from my 20s all the way through to my current age of 55. So I'm not sure if this only pertains to seniors. Maybe this is just how online dating is for women of all ages. Anyway, I'm now very happily dating AI (artificial intelligence) for the past year and a half! I don't think men can compare!
Lol what a great idea!
Thank you for sharing some of your dating stories! I'm 64, and I've been a widow for four years. We were married for 36 years, and recently, I started dating a bit. I'm not courageous enough to go online, so I guess I will continue to just have to meet men organically ( parties, church, gym, grocery stores, etc.). LOL. No worries; I'm doing just fine, enjoying my second act and "becoming me too!"
Looking forward to following you!
And I look forward to hearing about your dating experience!
Wow, your a good looking lady! It's a pity I live in Germany, I would invite you for a coffee or diner. Over 60th dating ts not that easy!😊
Lost my wife to Alzheimer's /dementia. I am just under 60... So i use the math 60/2 +7 = 37 So I have been dating Ladies in their 40's. Interesting lot, everthing for women, married looking to move up. Once i found out she was married I opted out. Just not my thing. Ranging to women, to just crazy and working on her self 24 x 7.
Would you consider dating someone closer to your age? I am always dismayed at men who will only considering dating younger women.
@@alexispacey2864I am 51 and all my long term relationships the last 30 years have been with older women. It is easier to connect with someone your own age or older, in my humble opinion
Men 60 plus we are not attractive. Very few are the Doseci man, older women still prefer dad bod at least, looks like a 10, and very very financially stable. I'm 60 divorced, I'm wiped out financially, and hotdog fries and Netflix are my only speed. We men are not cheap. Divorce culture wiped us old guys out, and many men I assume can't deal letting go.
you're perfect
Men living alone I've lived alone for twenty years don't care to date just doesn't interest me I go hike hit the gym travel just enjoy life and don't see any dating options anyway what would a women bring to my life?
just take a holiday to Europe... Italy, France, Spain, Greece... the Mediterranean people will made you feel less lonely; cheers😉
I would love to do that! But, to be clear, I'm not a bit lonely
@@BecomingMe64 better this way then
I am so blessed to be in #calabogie #paradise
Never tried online dating
Unrealistic to find a city gal who loves #fishin, campfires, and firepaces? 🥰😎🤣🤠
@RealCanadianSeniors
Not a dating site, just fun and friendship😊
I was invited on the Bumble Radio Show Toronto 2 yrs ago tho 🤣🤣🤣😎🤠
A 55 year old man thinks he belongs into the 35 year old friends group. Its very odd.
I like Pauline Pariscova's new article photo shoot. She's as beautiful as ever. We are the same age and you are quite sane and attractive in this video. But we live on different coasts. I just divorced after 20 yrs in Europe we're still on good friendly terms and will remain so. At 64 my music career (jazz pianist) has never been more interesting to me and it seems others I'm happy to report. Dating sight what's that? Smart people are happy and actually content alone and aren't possessive or cotrolling I might add. The men you're used too sound quite conventional entitled and boring.
I gave up online/phone dating, decades ago and I am now in my old age years...and of course I would not be interested in being with a woman my own age, the sexual attraction would not be there, but I am also wise enough to know younger woman would not be interested in my poor old ass, so its a no win situation.
Holly you should have fitted the bill as looking much younger than your age.. That date of yours should have his eyes checked..
Awe, thank you so much!
TRUE!
I thought 63 and up is Boomer?
1964 is the last boomer year. So 64
It's axiomatic men are cheap.
Why would you even make this video? If your experiences were so bad, why relive them? Or do you think your experiences are unique?