New follower here and love your channel. Turning 60 in January, I'm a divorced woman with 3 grown children, I'm a bodybuilder, a registered nurse and have decentered men from my life in the past year, best decision I ever made. Love my home, rarely wear makeup, got a short pixie cut so I could transition to gray and love it! I feel like my life is more full now than ever. Currently training to be a forensic nurse to help secure evidence in s*xual assault victims. Life is not over when your older!
Good for you! Actually, I used to be a domestic violence and rape crisis counselor, part of my job was being with victims during the evidence collection process. Best of luck to you!
My mom is 91 and still gets annoyed when people treat her like an old lady. Her group of friends are all the same way and I LOVE being around them! Smart, savvy, strong, and they’re all 85 and older. And my aunt’s 103! I have ZERO interest in acting old. 62 and looking forward to a few more decades. 😊
I don’t want to work toward things anymore. My education was demanding, and my career was extremely demanding. I want to relax and coast. I enjoy learning things and doing things, but I don’t want any requirements or demands.
I totally understand this. I am working at my own pace trying to get my home in order since my retirement. I love the idea of no schedule or agenda. I do plenty to stay active but dont beat myself up if I end up binging a show all afternoon.
Worked for 41 years. I am 69 years old and I am studying art and learning French. For my 70th birthday I am going to Paris to take a drawing course and draw at the Louvre. Really enjoying this chapter in my life and haven’t given up on love. Thank you for your Channel.
I’m 63. Recently started painting abstract art. Would love to go to Paris as well. I enjoyed the series on Netflix “Emily goes to Paris” How are the French lessons going?
Not to throw a bad note .. Do you love being at a certain age , or you just understand that aging sucks , but to hell spend time worrying about things you can not change . ?
Love your attitude. I'm 60 and still run 40-50 miles a week. I"m going to run as long as I'm physically able. It's important to have a passion or a purpose. It's what keeps us young.
It is excellent to be so active, but please consider varying your activities. I am afraid you are going to cause yourself disc degeneration as well as hip and knee problems.
Some folks are old at 20, some are young at 80. Some are loved only briefly in this life but love eternally. I can walk alone and still feel the hand of others holding mine. Live large, or live small... just be true to yourself.
Love your comment. I'm 75, single, currently with limited means, but healthy and am more content at this time of my life than I can remember being before. I had a best friend of many years who I finally had to part ways with because she wasn't curious about anything; not new foods, new places to visit, new books or movies and told me she didn't want to learn anything new for the rest of her life. I was shocked but realised that we no longer had anything in common. I enjoy my own company, finally learning about geography, reading good books, learning how to cook Southwestern cuisine, revisiting the keyboard that I played as a child and writing my first book. I have good friends and give and receive love every day, even if it's simply enjoying my foster cat, spoiling my garden, or chatting with folks at the store or the laundromat. Life is good...and I am cherishing these "golden years".
my dad is 85, still plays hockey 3 times a week, and put 1,000 kms on his ebike in the last 2 months. He is my inspiration, my mother is 88 and looks 70. With role models like this I can't go wrong.
I love your channel. I listened to this video while getting ready to go to the gym and lift serious weight. I go about 4 times a week. I turned 60 this year and look and feel better than I ever have. Sometimes people are just jealous and sometimes misery loves company. I see it everyday at work how people want to draw you into their toxic circle. I made a decision a long time ago to extricate myself from any negative environment and enjoy my own company. I’m enjoying myself and do and live how I want. Live how you wish and don’t let people’s judgement dictate how you do it. Free yourself
Hi Holly, John from Toronto here. I’m thoroughly enjoying your videos. Thank you. On a side note, the follower that posted a comment just previous to mine , I’m 64 and single. There are still a few good men out there who appreciate older confident women . That’s why I follow Holly.
I just happened upon your channel. I’m 70 now and I’ve been married 41 years. I retired at 60. I am not as physical as I’d like to be because of a severe back injury, but I’m vibrant and very active within my limits. I love being alone, so I visit the ocean for one week a month. I have been very active in politics, painting rocks and sending them all over the country for people that want them. I make greeting cards and send them everywhere. I’m so artistic and creative. I play Bunco once a month, go to art classes, enjoy concerts and movies. I also love being at home. I think that much of the joy in aging is derived from doing what you love, feeling like you are making a difference in the world. I also have a friend that has given up, but she seems to prefer her way. She even stopped grocery shopping during Covid and still has everything delivered. I hate to say it, but she bores me…but she needs my friendship much more than I need hers. It has been a struggle to cut down our meetings and I think she punishes me for that with passive aggressive comments about my life. You are stating ideas that blend more with mine. I love people but need solitude too. If my husband was gone I would date for sure. Maybe not marry, but date if the man was a good blend. If not…no thanks. Im secure in myself now. I’m kind and interesting. I have lots of friends. I also have a puppy…I assume that I’ll live long enough to have her to the end of my life, but I share her with my daughter so that she has a secure home if I don’t live long enough. I don’t love everything about my life, but I think that I am very lucky to have this life. I’m happy for the most part. I would not trade with anyone I know.
I'm 67, single, retired, hiking with my beloved dog regularly, going on multiple road-trip vacations every year, not pursuing men, and having the time of my life. Do I dress more casually now? Yes, it was a relief to leave corporate attire behind. Do I wear makeup now? No, it is liberating not to wear it. I wouldn't characterize casual attire and no-makeup as "not caring anymore." These things don't fit my casual, active, outdoor lifestyle.
First time watch. I'm 66. Had the same challenges with online dating as you have and just decided no more. Same thoughts with my 2 dogs and cat. Everything changed when I turned 60 like you said. I go to the gym couple times a week, love only working hours I want to work and am going to Greece and Italy in June Hopefully helping folks whenever I can at least smile. One 7 yr old grandson. Always a Christian but developing a much deeper relationship with Christ. It's exciting and a little bit scary getting older. One day at a time moving into the future.
Really enjoyed your message. I recently ran across another video that talked about the Travesia Cien, this means the journey to 100. I feel so inspired by this concept and definitely consider myself on this journey. Aging as an opportunity not a problem or excuse. Fortunately I am a life long exerciser which is a huge key and really has paid off. Now at 70, I have so many activities. Yoga is foundational. When Covid happened I began to study Qigong and TaiChi sill do both. Amazing and highly recommend. My list is long. After a knee setback I took up lap swimming at 68 . So grateful for every opportunity, and every day that I have. Best wishes to all on the Travesia Cien❤️
I am a 66 year-old female, who runs her own Pet Sitting business, I work part time at a local popular grocery store and I have many many goals. It’s hard for me to let go of my work as I love it. However, I also dream of having time to travel. I enjoy studying languages, French and Spanish even American Sign Language. I recently got this crazy idea never wanted to before but to start learning harmonica! I’m still laughing about it, but I enjoy it. There are so many things I love besides my dogs, my piano and my garden and being there for people. Life is worth living. I think too many people listen to the news, freak out and give up on life ! When you get to your deathbed, you’re gonna have lots of regrets . Make sure you don’t. Do what makes you happy!
A friend of mine told me yesterday her next-door neighbor works for a local news network. He told her not to believe a thing it’s all lies. My gut tells me the sensationalism, brings viewers, just as people love to watch horror films. Not for me. We could sit in misery worrying about what could happen or we could take every day to be grateful for what good we have in our lives .
I'm with you, I am 72-year-old and feel like I'm 30 and I walk 3 to 4 miles everyday! for me life is good I don't intend to quit it's never been in my thoughts!
@nadadebraga7981 I suppose you are right I stated that wrong. it's just that my attitude has always been different, I don't have any anger issues! I am pain free! I have never had a headache! I am not addicted to anything! I did very hard physical work for 50 years, that and being very blessed by God, in my opinion is the reason!
At 58 I am living my best life. Born again… living my dream… working hard… loving hard…. Not aging…. No way…. I get better every day! And now you have e tapping…. II am on day 4. ❤ Love you and your message.
I agree with you . I have a milestone birthday coming up next month. I feel great . I lift weights and I walk. I eat better. I’m between jobs . Talked with a friend a year younger than me and he told me I just need to retire. I never plan to retire. I’ll work and take vacations until I can’t do it anymore. I feel like I’m just getting started.
Thank you for raising this. Here in the UK, the retirement age recently changed to 66yrs after decades of being set at 60yrs for women. It was a major culture shock for obvious reasons, in particular, having a huge impact on employment issues. The 'ageist' culture in this country had to crack wide open, especially for women where stereotypically, she was expected to take life easy as the 'granny' and 'old-age pensioner' - there was massive resistance from many women....yet now, motivated or not, we are working well into their sixties... as I did until 67 yrs. So having recently retired... feel it's not only transitional, but an opportunity to explore what makes me happy and discover new paths for the way forward, having similar views to yourself about ageing....and most importantly... 'becoming me'. However, I still receive the odd ageist comment or supposedly funny meme, especially from older friends, depicting 'the old granny' ...maybe since I let my hair go silver?
As a 70 year old woman I don’t like someone who is younger than me say “How are you today young lady?” To me it is telling me they think I’m really old and calling me young is hilarious. It is interesting to have this opportunity to grow old and see how people react to me when I don’t feel like how I look on the outside.
Retired from teaching middle school at 70. Now 71, learning a new language in Europe, and writing for young adults. Some days it can be scary since I am alone in this city. But most days the endless possibilities are exciting.
Im 66 , a sigma male, live comfortably on my pension in a self made off grid trailer 15 min outside of the city. I live like Im going to live past 100 and feel like my life is just starting now. Living off grid for 3 yrs with this lifestyle has put me in shape to feel like Im 30 again. Im not working anymore and the ability to move when I want , gives me my freedom to plan my future and have more possibilities to pursue life than ever before.
What is a sigma male? I get how not working can free one to live a better life, a life closer to how one wants to live. I'm a 75-year-old woman who moved back to Hawaii after being gone for 40 years, when I lived off-grid before very many people were doing so. I'm not off-grid now, but live in a rural area where I haul my own trash, drinking water, propane tanks, and cleared a lot of the property I live on of rocks and weeds to grow food and flowers. I lost 35 pounds and swear I'm stronger than I've ever been in my life. I am definitely more content, though it is a lifestyle that a lot of people would not be happy with. Enjoy!
I love this. I’m nowhere near my 60’s ( yet I hope I get there) but I love working on farms and walking a lot/ breathing in fresh air. Stretching everyday, jump roping, writing, reading, exploring nature. I love trying new things but is hard because the person I am with he is way more stagnant in life and turns to alcohol to have fun. 😢 It’s very annoying. So, I told myself I’m not letting anyone steal my sunshine because they choose to live in the dark. I like the dark but only when I’m sleeping 😂. It’s time to live life. I want to live like I’m dying which makes me psychologically free. Health is Wealth and I’m off to say good new day to this new sun. I don’t understand how some humans can just not do anything new.
Thank you!! I’m 61 years old and widowed for the 2nd time and I felt like giving up but come across your RUclips channel. You’ve inspired me to not give up. I’m raising my two teenage grandchildren and that’s been a good thing but at first I really did want to give up. I felt like my life was over but I’m now realizing it’s not. I had no control over either one of my husbands deaths. One happened on the job and my other husband had cancer. My first husband and I were married almost 9 years and we had two young daughters. I met my 2nd husband and remarried about 3 years later. We had a daughter together as well. We were married 26 years and I’ve grieved much harder this time. I’ll be honest I’ve struggled with finances and rediscovering who I am. I still work and I love my job but I’m looking for some excitement in my life. I want to travel and get on an airplane for the first time in my life. My 2nd husband and I loved going places and I want to continue that. I get up everyday and get ready for the day. I fix my hair and do my makeup. Who knows what Gods got in store for me. I know Gods not finished with me yet!!
That's right! God is not finished with you yet! That's what this channel is about, just because we are seniors and have been through some crap in our lives, it doesn't mean we don't have a lot of living left to do.
Just recently found u and subscribed. I really needed this today! Im a 64 year old woman and i have no intentions of sitting down. I only wish i could find friends that feel as i do. As u said, when most women hit 60ish they want to roll up and do nothing. I really appreciate what youre doing and i hope your numbers soar!!❤
New to your channel, I am really enjoying your videos. I am 59 and have been widowed for almost 2 years now, still learning who I am as a single person living alone. I want to stay active and find new interests! I’m planning on retiring in June, after loosing my husband and several other family members in the last few years my properties have changed. Life is short none of us know how much time we have so I am planning on enjoying each day and am grateful for all the blessings in my life.
Thank you for making this video. I see many older people working at my local Home Depot. I don’t know whether they are working for an income or because they just feel the need to work and be out there with others. But they inspire me with their work ethic, friendliness, and overall positivity. My Mom worked part time until she was 79 and loved to be around other people doing things that younger people do. My Dad used to say, health body healthy mind. I applaud you for doing this channel and encourage your to keep up your efforts.
I have a co-worker that constantly makes comments on her age (she’s in her early 60’s) about how she can’t believe she’s the age she is and makes comments about how people her age should be & act…it’s very obvious she is insecure about her age. I also have watched my mom struggle with her health and I promised myself I will do the best I can. I walk and started weight lighting last Jan. I am 51 & enjoy your video’s !
Yep..Your never too old..I'm Australian 69 and still enjoy everything..Once you pull the I will sit in a chair and watch tv all arvo it's all over..Also hang out with younger people a bit..Because if I hang with same age group it can get whiny real fast..I've got a sore back I've got blood pressure trouble..It's like Hypochondriac Club..Self absorbed bulldust..
I totally agree with this. It makes me sad and a little mad to hear people my age tell me they’ve “earned” the right to do nothing now as they’re old. What?? You hopefully have many years ahead of you and don’t you want to be the best you can be both physically and mentally? Life doesn’t stop at 55+. I walk my dog 2x a day, lift weights and spin bike almost every day. Reading, refinishing furniture, doing my own home repair, knitting, many more hobbies. Had a knee replacement this Feb. but it didn’t stop me. I’m in the best shape of my life right now and plan on staying at it until my last breath! Oh and I’m 61 years young.
My second husband passed away last summer at 86. I am about nine years younger. We met in our 50s and fell in love after I had been widowed. We had a wonderful few years having adventures and were very close.. He began to have health problems and that continued for probably the last 24 years. The challenge was just what you were discussing about people relishing being old and seeing themselves that way, and then extending it to you. He would say” it won’t be long now.” Which was kind of cute for a while, but it became “ we are just too old people.” And when you think of yourself and your partner that way romance goes out the window. I’ve been missing him terribly, but this conversation of yours brought back that issue which really damaged our relationship. Maybe there was a way I could’ve dealt with it?
“Misery likes company” is a saying that comes to mind. I can relate to a relative who made me feel much older than i was and even discouraged me to be smaller and less than.
I’m 66 and your channel was introduced to me from other gals that I follow. I love your attitude about life after 60 and may I say you look amazing and no where close to your age! Thanks for your input 😊
None of us know how long we are going to live. Life is too short to just give up. I think you can have a full life at any age. Even if you don't have a partner. Life is not necessarily better with a partner. I think there are. a lot of unhappy couples out there that put on a facade. You have so much freedom being single. Enjoy life as long as you can. You don't know how long you have on this earth. Embrace everyday. It does irritate me when people put me in the old lady category because I don''t feel that way about myself. I'm 57.
I agree with you. I have a friend like that she tries to throw me under the bus with her. Passive aggressive is great description. It does make me mad. Probably one of the reasons I’ve distanced myself from her. Great video.
Hello there, I’m a 60 year old Australian living. In the outer suburbs of Sydney. I stumbled across your channel a few weeks back and I do thank you for the great content. I do think maybe I kind of aged a tad too quickly over time.. This video has given me food for thought. I do live on my own and have no immediate family though I still work full time. It’s also great to read the comments from people around my age here and I look forward to future videos and the opportunity to learn. Love and peace to all here. Cheers
I am guilty of having the “I’m too old” and the “I’m never going to be with a man again” mentality. I also have been living a very sedentary life! So your video is really speaking to me! I love your positive aging mentality. Your videos are my new “go to” videos to watch on RUclips! You inspire me! Thank you so much and thank God I found your channel! Oh and also, my grandmother met and fell in love again and eloped with her fella at 79 years old! So I do know that it is possible, just didn’t think it was possible for me. I’ve been hurt too many times. But I guess I’ll leave that door open for a while longer. Thanks so much!
Being hurt in the past is something we share. I am struggling with letting the past go while at the same time learning from it. Hang in there. My goal is to keep the past from robbing me of living in the present. Admittedly I'm not there yet but I'm working toward that end.
Yes. I can totally relate to what you're saying. There are women who refer to themselves as old which is their business. But don't say "we're old". I will probably never refer to myself that way. I know of someone who is constantly referring to herself that way Just don't include me. I too find it irritating!! I think you're right about how some people have just given up.
Still operating as a full-time academic in my later 60s. Remaining relevant among incoming university students. Service through residential learning communities and also an active research agenda in consumer behavior. Fitness = strength training circuit and stretching routine each day, 3 to 5 mi of walking and regular gravel, mountain and road bicycling.
You beautiful Princess with a heart of gold, a sweet loving soul. Perfection is the reflection of your inner self, not like anyone else. Adventurous wild and spontaneous you can be, but your spirit will always set you free. An intelligent soul that will achieve all your goals. You're one kind, I'd go out with you anytime. GOD BLESS
I am with you 100 percent! Now that my kids are older I take myself out, I travel, I listen to to live music and dance the night away. My husband is supportive he doesn’t feel like doing those things but I do!
Thanks Holly, so encouraged and inspired by your channel. I turn 60 in 6 months and have been reflecting a lot on my life and future. Your channel is helping with my reflections❤✨
Hi...I'll be 66 in a week and have never felt better. Why? Movement...constantly. The more you move, the better and easier it becomes. No foods with bad oils and cut as much sugar as possible. Also, in bed at 9 and up at 5...always...couldn't sleep in if I had to. You are spot on with this video and I found it enjoyable and thought: "Well...there someone who thinks like me!" All the best to you from California. (I did subscribe to help the cause).
So fun to hear your perspectives, many of which are a direct connection to things I’ve experienced. From your thoughts on our feelings for our adult children, to “funny” dating stories to looking forward to all the cool experiences life has to offer! You have a great way of relating to many! Glad I found your channel and cheering you on from here! My mom drove cross country for a docent program, led fall foliage trips, sang and played piano for all her local senior homes until she was 90 something 😳and her mother (my brilliant grandma) remarried and moved from Wellesley to a DC penthouse in her 80s! I’m in my 60s now and think of them whenever I see age as an obstacle.😊
Ñew follower, from UK, enjoying your channel. Im 60 and my age has been bothering me, in that i feel im making progress inside me rather late in life ! But your video has helped. Thankyou. And yes i agree, no old lady stuff for me !
Don't beat yourself up about progress "late in life". A lot of it can be hormonal. As an example after menopause the estrogen drops and that makes many women much more confident, outspoken, no longer insecure/depressed etc...
I've recently found your channel and I find it really inspiring! I'm 75 and have a few health issues which I ignore as much as I can. Swimming and doing aqua exercises and going for short walks is how I keep fit. I'm trying to paint and do collages and have a new vege garden. I have a couple of friends who seem to think I should be living the life of an old lady. They're quite insistant about it but I'll just ignore them n carry on regardless. I enjoyed your talk about the law of attraction too and its reminded me to avoid negative thinking.
"........for your age." I bristle when a medical person says that. Even if it's an evaluation where I'm doing well. Does ".....for your age" enable the medical establishment to dismiss or not enforce a health issue?
New follower here too. Just turned 67 in the last part of September a couple of months ago. My hair's been going gray for a couple of years now and I LIKE it. Every hair on my head and face that turns gray serves as a statement that you don't have actually BE old. I've been gifted with 'young' genes it would seem. Everybody in my family (both sides) seems to die at the age of 89 (although my father died just after 88) so I've got a way to go. I hold every year that I live as a badge of honor . . . because I made it this far. Lord only knows why, but I have. I married -into- dadhood and even though I haven't had a wife for many years I've retained my dad status and now have 5 (step)grandchildren who are now mostly grown if not indeed fully grown. Life could not be better! I should also add that I am -not- "playing the field."
I think you are amazing. I’m learning to overcome the loss of my wife two years ago. And I’m trying to find my way. But deeply appreciate your advice. I welcome the opportunity to meet with you, if possible.
Very well received. I am on of those people! I haven't always been. Started off with a friendship of 25 years that was over. I have never been so hurt in my life. That was in 2020 and lasted sometime. I have a very blessed life but I haven't seen my old happy self in years. I want that back!
I am a 77 year old woman who lost my husband last February. I am a person of faith, who intends to live “young,” meaning that my body, my hair, which is greying, and my makeup are things about me that I I intend to maintain because they tell others how I feel about myself as I age. My mother, like yours, was a sedentary person who as she aged, gained 50 pounds and gave up on herself. She became an example of who I will never let myself be; a bitter old woman with almost no friends. Life is precious, friends are precious, and I intend to pursue a life of love and joy surrounded by my dear family and amazing friendships!
Thank you. I am 62 and my husband is 65 and I so agree ❤ My husband and I have recently started providing respite care for foster families. Having children and young people in our home has been a positive adventure. Many more adventures ahead.
I think good health, both physical and mental, is essential to how people rate their quality of life and aging. I'm 64, I do daily activities like long walks, and in nice weather I bike and golf. I was a consistent gym-goer from my 30s through 50s and managed my weight and diet, but had a lot of stress at work and in my marriage. A couple life-threatening illnesses in my late-50s changed me. In 2020 I retired, last year I filed for divorce from my covert narcissistic wife of 28 years, and she's dragging it out. My life hasn't been easy, but I am still optimistic and hope things will be better someday. What's concerning me now is that I'm seeing many friends and relatives suddenly develop chronic health issues following Covid infections. One died of the acute infection, but others developed aggressive cancers, heart disease, diabetes, brain-fog, insomnia, digestive issues, and it changed them mentally, too. Some are now full throttle YOLO-ers, while others became more introspective. Almost all show signs of anxiety and depression. Some think Covid is just a cold, but my recommendation for aging happily is to avoid Covid like the plague that it is.
Yes passive aggressive -I’m 61- (and don’t feel or look it) and was in a similar situation and was told “we are now women of a certain age” Ick - I felt like saying speak for yourself but in the moment I was actually shocked-just her saying men no longer desire you.
❤ this man would! but I have a gf and am in the UK ! you look no more than 30! remember the saying a woman's worst enemy is another woman! they envy you for showing them up as lazy !
My husband and I are each 80 years old. We met when we were 50 years old. Second marriage for each of us. Our sixties and seventies were very active years for us. But I have to say that since I turned 80 I do notice changes in my energy levels. But we are very active in our grandchildrens lives and my husband is a carpenter and still works at his craft but not every day and not as many hours when he works.
I have a former friend who always stated how she hates being old. She is a year younger than me. It was very irritating to me. I couldnt deal with the negativiry. I just retired this year and am single. I still love my fashion, make up, etc. I have stepped up my exercise and am leaving on my third trip this year.
Outstanding as always. Just turned 60, retiring in one month and plan to learn Spanish. I know it will be challenging but I've always wanted to do it. Holly, you're a gifted speaker, quite funny and have made me feel so much better about 60! Thank you.
Guilty here....of using my age as an excuse to live my best life. Thank you for this reflective video on aging happily and with grace. I wish i didn't know my age (61), then I wouldn't have it to compare things to. I used age and goals simultaneously and all that did was lead to depression and anxiety if i didn't measure up to where i thought i was "supposed" to be - whether 25, 30(severe depression...felt like i was turning 60 then..haha), 40, 50, 60. I will say channels like yours and youtube have been very helpful. Thank you! I also get annoyed with being grouped in the "old lady club". I believe in trying to look your best even if just for yourself and feel judged at times for caring. Hence, my friend circle is small. I appreciate you!❤
That last couple of minutes...you are so right! What keeps us alive and enjoying life are our passions. Things that we focus on that give us pleasure and happiness - hobbies, fitness, church, skydiving, music, movies, pets, volunteering, learning new things - whatever it is that fills your soul and keeps you focused, keeps you alive and happy. Once you lose your passions, you're done. Personally, I have so many things I'm passionate about that I'll never be able to indulge them all, and I've probably got 25 good years left (knock on wood!). I'm as happy at (almost) 60 as I've ever been, because I have so many fascinating life experiences ahead of me.
You are right on with the age as an excuse. Good video and I agree with your analysis. Stay active and busy at doing something and learn something continuously. Life is not over until they put you in the ground. I like variety and always find something new to take on all the time. Life is a never-ending adventure and it just keeps getting better. Stay active, stay limber, and keep doing what you love. It does not have to be the same thing every day or every month. Mix it up and keep it fresh and new and find new interests when it gets old or boring. Not yet under the bus and probably never will be. It does not have to cost money, just your time so go for it.
I play hockey with a 68 year old goalie....he is a physician and said he loves his job and loves playing goalie. So he said why quit either. Honestly, when i saw him in the locker room for the first time, i asked another guy if he can get back up when he goes down. He just laughed, when i skated out for warm ups i was shocked at his mobility and skillset. My bad....he never stopped playing and plays year round. Its all in your head..stay in motion
It kind of depends on your health, mental and physical, not so much age. Some people age healthy and well, some don't. Some things you just can't do anymore due to health reasons, for example, most people after age 40 or 50 can't stay up very late, go to clubs and travel to places where you need to walk or climb a lot. Career can also be a problem, I am software developer which should not have an age limit but most companies want young people. If you write your age on cv, likely you will not be called back. Dating can also be a challenge as the older people get the less people their own age are single and available. And being a woman, I noticed a lot of men my age feel entitled to young women, even if those men are not in great shape, rich or look particularly good. It is what it is. It's not impossible, we just have some limitations.
You are absolutely right about using a number for limiting your potential for excellence. I will say this on the topic, its not age, its about your healthy condition. Can you do the job? Its is inevitable you accelerate your age if you eat or drink thoughtlessly? If you do not exercise. If you do not give your body proper rest. There are other bullet points and I'll and one example, look up Annette Larken. Your jaw will drop.
I am disabled. I’ve had six spinal surgeries and I’m in chronic pain. I am 69 years old. I get up every morning take a shower put myself together dress really well and try to do something that I love to do each day with a positive attitude I will never give up. When you look good, you feel good even when you don’t it makes it better. I could’ve given up a long time ago and I just refuse. I did let my hair go natural gray and that’s really acceptable now so I love it. I did hair for 30 years.❤
New subscribers here, 66 years young, wife and I run an antique shop now, go for long romantic walks on the beach and travel. RUclips has been kind to you, we look forward to 40 more years of your videos.
I have dated younger men in the past and I have never felt chemistry to be honest. Am alone and I feel happy, I am open to meet someone but I don’t know if I will ever meet that special someone.
@@curioussand1339 I found my husband on the internet,a racing group not a dating site.We have so much in common. I recommend you forget about the age and concentrate on simular interest.
I asked my mum how she felt when she turned 80; she said in her mind she was still the 21yr old ‘girl’ that got married and started our family, she told me she was always young in her mind. My beautiful mother lived to 87yrs, her body let her down, but her mind was always young. I’m 67yrs, I’m living just like my mum and will til the end 🙏
I'm 64 myself. Went road bowling with two other elderly ladies I met. The road course was two miles long, hilly, curvy road. The two ladies were fun and amazing!
That is very, very sad just because your mature doesn't mean like you said Holly just sit around and do nothing. Some mature people could mentor these younger kids give them some great advice on life. Thank for these videos.
I’m 68 and in May I started a RUclips channel too! I’ve now learned how to : edit, make thumbnails, use Keynote, Canva and IMovie. I also row on my rowing machine for at least 30 minutes every day plus bounce on my rebounder. It keeps my heart pumping and I don’t feel old unless I’m ill! 😂 much love Imi xx
I totally agree! I'm in my 50's and have friends that have given up and just waiting to get older and retire while I have started writing, illustrating and self publishing books. Totally different than the business I had for over 20 years. Now I am starting a RUclips channel and learning to edit videos. It's never too late! Thank you for this video! Great inspiration this morning!
Only today I came across your video and related very much to your on line dating . I like yourself would not use them ever again. I did it for 2 years only but could write a book on the experiences I encountered (all the ones you mentioned and many many more). I am not a negative person but found the more I continued to date on line hoping to meet the one the more I realised it was like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I was living alone and happy it was a friend who encouraged me try it and see how it goes. So at least I tried it and did learn it wasnt for me. I have read through many comments from your subscribers and realised there are so many of you out there that have positive advice which helped to also feel that we are not alone. I will be a following your future ones.
@@paulcurtis1351 No I havn't. I have heard about them but live in a tiny village miles from any town or city and wouldnt know where to start. I will do my best to search the possibilities, thank you Paul.
My Mom lived life to the fullest. She remarried at 70. She bought a smaller home. She went on great trips. She hosted parties. She babysat my daughter. And this all came after tragedy. My mother lost two sons to Muscular Dystrophy. Her other daughter died of a stroke. Listen, if my Mom didn't give up on life after all that, we can all at least try our best. But as a side note, there are seniors with clinical depression. We must be careful to know when someone genuinely needs help or if they are just complaining and whining.
I liked this video and I like your attitude. Thanks for the encouragement. And my mother would say you aren't old if you are in your sixties. :) She had a good attitude about ageing. It's hard if you have health problems, I'm a female age 63 and I do have a health issue so it makes me feel old sometimes as it's hard to deal with but I'm trying to have a good attitude. Anyway, good video. Have a good rest of your weekend.
I have really enjoyed your videos. I'm 59 and have bought into the 'lie' that I am now old. I suppose this is because many of the women...men too... who I know that are in their late 50s and beyond have already subscribed to this belief. I hear it all the time and it had me pretty depressed for a while. However, I've been trying to fight this belief because I have so many things I want to do yet. Thank you for the inspiration. Great channel.
You are right about some people losing that zest for life . . . in so many words. Fun is a great goal for anyone! And, you can create your own fun for not so much money. Trips to theme parks, ocean liner cruises, or resorts may be out of your reach but then again why allow some business to convince you that they have a monopoly on where it's at? One can be very creative on a minimal budget and have loads of fun and excitement. Giving up on life or feeling sorry for one's self just because they are older is a bring down not only to themselves but to others who may be around them. At the end of the day it's just better to smile and look forward to see what happens next!
Bravo. Very well said. As a 70 yo man I am quite fit, play pickleball almost daily, walk at least 10,000 steps a day, and do weight training. I used to be fat years ago, and as a retired physician I made a conscious effort to get my physical life back in order. On top of that, as an information junkie, I take 2 in person college classes each semester and love to learn new subjects of which I have very little prior knowledge. It is so much fun interacting with 18-22 year olds as well as their 40-50 yo professors. We all have the opportunity to make things a little better , whatever one chooses to do. While I never like to pass judgement on others, I find it so unpleasant when I hear friends, colleagues, and family kvetching/complaining constantly without making any concerted effort to change things for the better. I believe that most if not all of us have a real opportunity to make lemonade out of lemons. Get out there and live your life. You are delightful. Keep up the great work!
To answer your question, I absolutely have to have something I'm working toward. Otherwise, things get monotonous, and I start to feel down. I need to be stimulated and use my gifts. 60s is still young. I don't know what some people are talking about!! My friends who are musicians like myself, are always doing something creative. Some friends are retired, and it doesn't seem to me that there's much new in their lives. I don't know how they can feel very good. I tend to see them less. It's not a judgement thing, but I feel there isn't a lot to talk about.
You are 100% right I run into people like that all the time that think they’re old and they really aren’t. I like watching you or I like watching your show.
I love your channel and your point-of-view on life. Age is truly just a number. I'm 54 years old . I'm a spiritual woman who is mindful of maintaining good health, and positivity. How you feel on the inside will resonate on the outside. Whether you have 30 more years to live or 30 more days, make each day the best day and be happy. It's easier to be happy, than wasting your precious energy being unhappy and negative. Everything is energy!
I just came across your channel and find your videos very interesting and informative. I also have had some experience with online dating. None of it was good! So, I gave up on that aspect of it and if I am destined to meet someone I will! I look forward to seeing more videos. Thanks Rick
Hi Holly, John from Toronto here. I’m thoroughly enjoying your videos. Thank you. On a side note, the follower that posted a comment just previous to mine , I’m 64 and single. There are still a few good men out there who appreciate older confident women . That’s why I follow Holly. I’m referring to Amygent.
I believe your advice is very valuable. And I agree that online dating doesn’t work. I lost my wife two years ago after 36 years. I admire your outlook on life. I waiver between looking forward to an unknown future vs a known past. Just know that I would welcome an opportunity to discuss our life’s goals after loosing our respective soulmates.
I love the quote that sums it up the best " don't live the same year 75 times in a row and call it a life". I have a friend who is 79 and she and her 87 year old husband love to tango and salsa until 2am sometimes on the weekends. It brings them tremendous joy and they are so vibrant and youthful. They have more life than many people half their age. Love the vid, definitely food for thought for all ages :)
Agree 💯%. I started learning belly dancing at 61. I still get my hair done, get my mani/pedis, wear heels and dress in clothes that flatter my 62 year old body and are comfortable. I refuse to let age define me. In many ways I feel more beautiful and sexy at this age then when I was in my 20s.
First time viewer.... Love your videos. I am almost 60.... Live a lonely internal happy life...Healthier than ever with no meds ...but unhappy married for years.
I received a passive aggressive comment from a friend when I told her I was getting a treatment to improve my energy. And she replied “well it y you have the monies for that” since then I learned not to tell share good nor bad with here . And i just turned 60 this year and I am so grateful! 🙏🏼
Absolutely...we need goals and things to look forward to. I try to look forward to things on a weekly...monthly...yearly basis. Pickleball and golf are two of my favorite things.😆
I'm with you all the way, When I turned 60 I decided to go snow skiing in Austria. I had been putting it off for years [2012]. There after I went every year until 2018, its now become expensive, beyond my financial reach. If it were not for that I would still be going.
New follower here and love your channel. Turning 60 in January, I'm a divorced woman with 3 grown children, I'm a bodybuilder, a registered nurse and have decentered men from my life in the past year, best decision I ever made. Love my home, rarely wear makeup, got a short pixie cut so I could transition to gray and love it! I feel like my life is more full now than ever. Currently training to be a forensic nurse to help secure evidence in s*xual assault victims. Life is not over when your older!
Good for you! Actually, I used to be a domestic violence and rape crisis counselor, part of my job was being with victims during the evidence collection process. Best of luck to you!
@@AmyGent awesome, I’m going to school to be a forensic anthropologist!
@AmyGent great life when a person has family children ...but it's a lonely life when a person de centers themselves from woman too
@davidmann4533 I know a lot of disabled veterans who wish they could save for retirement so you can't say anyone.
My mom is 91 and still gets annoyed when people treat her like an old lady. Her group of friends are all the same way and I LOVE being around them! Smart, savvy, strong, and they’re all 85 and older. And my aunt’s 103! I have ZERO interest in acting old. 62 and looking forward to a few more decades. 😊
ha ha ha..My mum was like that as well..She passed away 3 months ago at the grand age of 101..
So sorry about your loss. 😢💔
I don’t want to work toward things anymore. My education was demanding, and my career was extremely demanding. I want to relax and coast. I enjoy learning things and doing things, but I don’t want any requirements or demands.
I totally understand this. I am working at my own pace trying to get my home in order since my retirement. I love the idea of no schedule or agenda. I do plenty to stay active but dont beat myself up if I end up binging a show all afternoon.
Worked for 41 years. I am 69 years old and I am studying art and learning French. For my 70th birthday I am going to Paris to take a drawing course and draw at the Louvre. Really enjoying this chapter in my life and haven’t given up on love. Thank you for your Channel.
I’m 63. Recently started painting abstract art. Would love to go to Paris as well. I enjoyed the series on Netflix “Emily goes to Paris”
How are the French lessons going?
Got a book from the library and looking for a tutor.
Not to throw a bad note .. Do you love being at a certain age , or you just understand that aging sucks , but to hell spend time worrying about things you can not change . ?
Love your attitude. I'm 60 and still run 40-50 miles a week. I"m going to run as long as I'm physically able. It's important to have a passion or a purpose. It's what keeps us young.
It is excellent to be so active, but please consider varying your activities. I am afraid you are going to cause yourself disc degeneration as well as hip and knee problems.
My friend was a runner always winning his age bracket in his 40’s to 60’s… he has a hard time standing up by himself now..
Some folks are old at 20, some are young at 80. Some are loved only briefly in this life but love eternally. I can walk alone and still feel the hand of others holding mine. Live large, or live small... just be true to yourself.
@@MarkAllen-b9f Well said
Well you know what you are right?. Be true to yourself is right.😊. Are you single? A man that is single
yeah... i got a name for that other hand.. i call her rosie
Love your comment. I'm 75, single, currently with limited means, but healthy and am more content at this time of my life than I can remember being before. I had a best friend of many years who I finally had to part ways with because she wasn't curious about anything; not new foods, new places to visit, new books or movies and told me she didn't want to learn anything new for the rest of her life. I was shocked but realised that we no longer had anything in common. I enjoy my own company, finally learning about geography, reading good books, learning how to cook Southwestern cuisine, revisiting the keyboard that I played as a child and writing my first book. I have good friends and give and receive love every day, even if it's simply enjoying my foster cat, spoiling my garden, or chatting with folks at the store or the laundromat. Life is good...and I am cherishing these "golden years".
@@MarkAllen-b9f Well said 👏
my dad is 85, still plays hockey 3 times a week, and put 1,000 kms on his ebike in the last 2 months. He is my inspiration, my mother is 88 and looks 70. With role models like this I can't go wrong.
Wow! That's amazing and really inspiring!
Wow!!
I'm 53, military retired, currently going to college and I'm just getting started! Thanks for the positivity, keep on keeping on...
My Mom got her Masters with honors at sixty!
I love your channel. I listened to this video while getting ready to go to the gym and lift serious weight. I go about 4 times a week. I turned 60 this year and look and feel better than I ever have. Sometimes people are just jealous and sometimes misery loves company. I see it everyday at work how people want to draw you into their toxic circle. I made a decision a long time ago to extricate myself from any negative environment and enjoy my own company. I’m enjoying myself and do and live how I want. Live how you wish and don’t let people’s judgement dictate how you do it. Free yourself
Hi Holly, John from Toronto here. I’m thoroughly enjoying your videos. Thank you. On a side note, the follower that posted a comment just previous to mine , I’m 64 and single. There are still a few good men out there who appreciate older confident women . That’s why I follow Holly.
I just happened upon your channel. I’m 70 now and I’ve been married 41 years. I retired at 60. I am not as physical as I’d like to be because of a severe back injury, but I’m vibrant and very active within my limits. I love being alone, so I visit the ocean for one week a month. I have been very active in politics, painting rocks and sending them all over the country for people that want them. I make greeting cards and send them everywhere. I’m so artistic and creative. I play Bunco once a month, go to art classes, enjoy concerts and movies. I also love being at home. I think that much of the joy in aging is derived from doing what you love, feeling like you are making a difference in the world. I also have a friend that has given up, but she seems to prefer her way. She even stopped grocery shopping during Covid and still has everything delivered. I hate to say it, but she bores me…but she needs my friendship much more than I need hers. It has been a struggle to cut down our meetings and I think she punishes me for that with passive aggressive comments about my life. You are stating ideas that blend more with mine. I love people but need solitude too. If my husband was gone I would date for sure. Maybe not marry, but date if the man was a good blend. If not…no thanks. Im secure in myself now. I’m kind and interesting. I have lots of friends. I also have a puppy…I assume that I’ll live long enough to have her to the end of my life, but I share her with my daughter so that she has a secure home if I don’t live long enough. I don’t love everything about my life, but I think that I am very lucky to have this life. I’m happy for the most part. I would not trade with anyone I know.
I’m 62 and I couldn’t agree more! Love this video!
I'm 67, single, retired, hiking with my beloved dog regularly, going on multiple road-trip vacations every year, not pursuing men, and having the time of my life. Do I dress more casually now? Yes, it was a relief to leave corporate attire behind. Do I wear makeup now? No, it is liberating not to wear it. I wouldn't characterize casual attire and no-makeup as "not caring anymore." These things don't fit my casual, active, outdoor lifestyle.
Agreed
Your lifestyle sounds awesome!!
@TeaRose9 I feel very fortunate!
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First time watch. I'm 66. Had the same challenges with online dating as you have and just decided no more. Same thoughts with my 2 dogs and cat. Everything changed when I turned 60 like you said. I go to the gym couple times a week, love only working hours I want to work and am going to Greece and Italy in June Hopefully helping folks whenever I can at least smile. One 7 yr old grandson. Always a Christian but developing a much deeper relationship with Christ. It's exciting and a little bit scary getting older. One day at a time moving into the future.
Really enjoyed your message. I recently ran across another video that talked about the Travesia Cien, this means the journey to 100. I feel so inspired by this concept and definitely consider myself on this journey. Aging as an opportunity not a problem or excuse. Fortunately I am a life long exerciser which is a huge key and really has paid off. Now at 70, I have so many activities. Yoga is foundational. When Covid happened I began to study Qigong and TaiChi sill do both. Amazing and highly recommend. My list is long. After a knee setback I took up lap swimming at 68 . So grateful for every opportunity, and every day that I have. Best wishes to all on the Travesia Cien❤️
I am a 66 year-old female, who runs her own Pet Sitting business, I work part time at a local popular grocery store and I have many many goals. It’s hard for me to let go of my work as I love it. However, I also dream of having time to travel. I enjoy studying languages, French and Spanish even American Sign Language. I recently got this crazy idea never wanted to before but to start learning harmonica! I’m still laughing about it, but I enjoy it.
There are so many things I love besides my dogs, my piano and my garden and being there for people. Life is worth living.
I think too many people listen to the news, freak out and give up on life !
When you get to your deathbed, you’re gonna have lots of regrets . Make sure you don’t.
Do what makes you happy!
I totally agree, I gave up watching the news a couple years ago and have never felt better
A friend of mine told me yesterday her next-door neighbor works for a local news network. He told her not to believe a thing it’s all lies.
My gut tells me the sensationalism, brings viewers, just as people love to watch horror films. Not for me.
We could sit in misery worrying about what could happen or we could take every day to be grateful for what good we have in our lives .
I'm with you, I am 72-year-old and feel like I'm 30 and I walk 3 to 4 miles everyday! for me life is good I don't intend to quit it's never been in my thoughts!
impossible that you feel like you are at your thirties . Just say that you feel Good and ready to kick ass .
@nadadebraga7981 I suppose you are right I stated that wrong. it's just that my attitude has always been different, I don't have any anger issues! I am pain free! I have never had a headache! I am not addicted to anything! I did very hard physical work for 50 years, that and being very blessed by God, in my opinion is the reason!
At 58 I am living my best life. Born again… living my dream… working hard… loving hard…. Not aging…. No way…. I get better every day! And now you have e tapping…. II am on day 4. ❤
Love you and your message.
I agree with you . I have a milestone birthday coming up next month. I feel great . I lift weights and I walk. I eat better. I’m between jobs . Talked with a friend a year younger than me and he told me I just need to retire. I never plan to retire. I’ll work and take vacations until I can’t do it anymore. I feel like I’m just getting started.
Thank you for raising this. Here in the UK, the retirement age recently changed to 66yrs after decades of being set at 60yrs for women. It was a major culture shock for obvious reasons, in particular, having a huge impact on employment issues. The 'ageist' culture in this country had to crack wide open, especially for women where stereotypically, she was expected to take life easy as the 'granny' and 'old-age pensioner' - there was massive resistance from many women....yet now, motivated or not, we are working well into their sixties... as I did until 67 yrs. So having recently retired... feel it's not only transitional, but an opportunity to explore what makes me happy and discover new paths for the way forward, having similar views to yourself about ageing....and most importantly... 'becoming me'. However, I still receive the odd ageist comment or supposedly funny meme, especially from older friends, depicting 'the old granny' ...maybe since I let my hair go silver?
As a 70 year old woman I don’t like someone who is younger than me say “How are you today young lady?” To me it is telling me they think I’m really old and calling me young is hilarious. It is interesting to have this opportunity to grow old and see how people react to me when I don’t feel like how I look on the outside.
I can relate!
Retired from teaching middle school at 70. Now 71, learning a new language in Europe, and writing for young adults. Some days it can be scary since I am alone in this city. But most days the endless possibilities are exciting.
Im 66 , a sigma male, live comfortably on my pension in a self made off grid trailer 15 min outside of the city. I live like Im going to live past 100 and feel like my life is just starting now. Living off grid for 3 yrs with this lifestyle has put me in shape to feel like Im 30 again. Im not working anymore and the ability to move when I want , gives me my freedom to plan my future and have more possibilities to pursue life than ever before.
Boring. This story is all about “me”
Sigma male?
What is a sigma male? I get how not working can free one to live a better life, a life closer to how one wants to live. I'm a 75-year-old woman who moved back to Hawaii after being gone for 40 years, when I lived off-grid before very many people were doing so. I'm not off-grid now, but live in a rural area where I haul my own trash, drinking water, propane tanks, and cleared a lot of the property I live on of rocks and weeds to grow food and flowers. I lost 35 pounds and swear I'm stronger than I've ever been in my life. I am definitely more content, though it is a lifestyle that a lot of people would not be happy with. Enjoy!
I love this. I’m nowhere near my 60’s ( yet I hope I get there) but I love working on farms and walking a lot/ breathing in fresh air. Stretching everyday, jump roping, writing, reading, exploring nature. I love trying new things but is hard because the person I am with he is way more stagnant in life and turns to alcohol to have fun. 😢 It’s very annoying. So, I told myself I’m not letting anyone steal my sunshine because they choose to live in the dark. I like the dark but only when I’m sleeping 😂. It’s time to live life. I want to live like I’m dying which makes me psychologically free. Health is Wealth and I’m off to say good new day to this new sun.
I don’t understand how some humans can just not do anything new.
Hey Mike....❤ Living off grid and having the freedom to do what you want and like ... I am envious....
Live your best life ❤
Thank you!! I’m 61 years old and widowed for the 2nd time and I felt like giving up but come across your RUclips channel. You’ve inspired me to not give up. I’m raising my two teenage grandchildren and that’s been a good thing but at first I really did want to give up. I felt like my life was over but I’m now realizing it’s not. I had no control over either one of my husbands deaths. One happened on the job and my other husband had cancer. My first husband and I were married almost 9 years and we had two young daughters. I met my 2nd husband and remarried about 3 years later. We had a daughter together as well. We were married 26 years and I’ve grieved much harder this time. I’ll be honest I’ve struggled with finances and rediscovering who I am. I still work and I love my job but I’m looking for some excitement in my life. I want to travel and get on an airplane for the first time in my life. My 2nd husband and I loved going places and I want to continue that. I get up everyday and get ready for the day. I fix my hair and do my makeup. Who knows what Gods got in store for me. I know Gods not finished with me yet!!
That's right! God is not finished with you yet! That's what this channel is about, just because we are seniors and have been through some crap in our lives, it doesn't mean we don't have a lot of living left to do.
Just recently found u and subscribed. I really needed this today! Im a 64 year old woman and i have no intentions of sitting down. I only wish i could find friends that feel as i do. As u said, when most women hit 60ish they want to roll up and do nothing. I really appreciate what youre doing and i hope your numbers soar!!❤
Thank you so much!!
New to your channel, I am really enjoying your videos. I am 59 and have been widowed for almost 2 years now, still learning who I am as a single person living alone. I want to stay active and find new interests! I’m planning on retiring in June, after loosing my husband and several other family members in the last few years my properties have changed. Life is short none of us know how much time we have so I am planning on enjoying each day and am grateful for all the blessings in my life.
Welcome aboard!
Thank you for making this video. I see many older people working at my local Home Depot. I don’t know whether they are working for an income or because they just feel the need to work and be out there with others. But they inspire me with their work ethic, friendliness, and overall positivity. My Mom worked part time until she was 79 and loved to be around other people doing things that younger people do. My Dad used to say, health body healthy mind. I applaud you for doing this channel and encourage your to keep up your efforts.
I have a co-worker that constantly makes comments on her age (she’s in her early 60’s) about how she can’t believe she’s the age she is and makes comments about how people her age should be & act…it’s very obvious she is insecure about her age. I also have watched my mom struggle with her health and I promised myself I will do the best I can. I walk and started weight lighting last Jan. I am 51 & enjoy your video’s !
Yep..Your never too old..I'm Australian 69 and still enjoy everything..Once you pull the I will sit in a chair and watch tv all arvo it's all over..Also hang out with younger people a bit..Because if I hang with same age group it can get whiny real fast..I've got a sore back I've got blood pressure trouble..It's like Hypochondriac Club..Self absorbed bulldust..
Retired (& single) at 68. I'm glad I found your channel. Very inspiring. Thank you!❤
I totally agree with this. It makes me sad and a little mad to hear people my age tell me they’ve “earned” the right to do nothing now as they’re old. What?? You hopefully have many years ahead of you and don’t you want to be the best you can be both physically and mentally? Life doesn’t stop at 55+. I walk my dog 2x a day, lift weights and spin bike almost every day. Reading, refinishing furniture, doing my own home repair, knitting, many more hobbies. Had a knee replacement this Feb. but it didn’t stop me. I’m in the best shape of my life right now and plan on staying at it until my last breath! Oh and I’m 61 years young.
My second husband passed away last summer at 86. I am about nine years younger. We met in our 50s and fell in love after I had been widowed. We had a wonderful few years having adventures and were very close.. He began to have health problems and that continued for probably the last 24 years. The challenge was just what you were discussing about people relishing being old and seeing themselves that way, and then extending it to you. He would say” it won’t be long now.” Which was kind of cute for a while, but it became “ we are just too old people.” And when you think of yourself and your partner that way romance goes out the window. I’ve been missing him terribly, but this conversation of yours brought back that issue which really damaged our relationship. Maybe there was a
way I could’ve dealt with it?
“Misery likes company” is a saying that comes to mind. I can relate to a relative who made me feel much older than i was and even discouraged me to be smaller and less than.
I’m 66 and your channel was introduced to me from other gals that I follow. I love your attitude about life after 60 and may I say you look amazing and no where close to your age! Thanks for your input 😊
None of us know how long we are going to live. Life is too short to just give up. I think you can have a full life at any age. Even if you don't have a partner. Life is not necessarily better with a partner. I think there are. a lot of unhappy couples out there that put on a facade. You have so much freedom being single. Enjoy life as long as you can. You don't know how long you have on this earth. Embrace everyday. It does irritate me when people put me in the old lady category because I don''t feel that way about myself. I'm 57.
I agree with you. I have a friend like that she tries to throw me under the bus with her. Passive aggressive is great description. It does make me mad. Probably one of the reasons I’ve distanced myself from her. Great video.
Hello there, I’m a 60 year old Australian living. In the outer suburbs of Sydney. I stumbled across your channel a few weeks back and I do thank you for the great content. I do think maybe I kind of aged a tad too quickly over time.. This video has given me food for thought. I do live on my own and have no immediate family though I still work full time. It’s also great to read the comments from people around my age here and I look forward to future videos and the opportunity to learn. Love and peace to all here. Cheers
I am guilty of having the “I’m too old” and the “I’m never going to be with a man again” mentality. I also have been living a very sedentary life! So your video is really speaking to me! I love your positive aging mentality. Your videos are my new “go to” videos to watch on RUclips! You inspire me! Thank you so much and thank God I found your channel! Oh and also, my grandmother met and fell in love again and eloped with her fella at 79 years old! So I do know that it is possible, just didn’t think it was possible for me. I’ve been hurt too many times. But I guess I’ll leave that door open for a while longer. Thanks so much!
Thank you so much!!
Being hurt in the past is something we share. I am struggling with letting the past go while at the same time learning from it. Hang in there. My goal is to keep the past from robbing me of living in the present. Admittedly I'm not there yet but I'm working toward that end.
Yes. I can totally relate to what you're saying. There are women who refer to themselves as old which is their business. But don't say "we're old". I will probably never refer to myself that way. I know of someone who is constantly referring to herself that way Just don't include me. I too find it irritating!! I think you're right about how some people have just given up.
Still operating as a full-time academic in my later 60s. Remaining relevant among incoming university students. Service through residential learning communities and also an active research agenda in consumer behavior. Fitness = strength training circuit and stretching routine each day, 3 to 5 mi of walking and regular gravel, mountain and road bicycling.
You beautiful Princess with a heart of gold, a sweet loving soul. Perfection is the reflection of your inner self, not like anyone else. Adventurous wild and spontaneous you can be, but your spirit will always set you free. An intelligent soul that will achieve all your goals. You're one kind, I'd go out with you anytime. GOD BLESS
I am with you 100 percent! Now that my kids are older I take myself out, I travel, I listen to to live music and dance the night away. My husband is supportive he doesn’t feel like doing those things but I do!
Thanks Holly, so encouraged and inspired by your channel. I turn 60 in 6 months and have been reflecting a lot on my life and future. Your channel is helping with my reflections❤✨
Wonderful!
Hi...I'll be 66 in a week and have never felt better. Why? Movement...constantly. The more you move, the better and easier it becomes. No foods with bad oils and cut as much sugar as possible. Also, in bed at 9 and up at 5...always...couldn't sleep in if I had to. You are spot on with this video and I found it enjoyable and thought: "Well...there someone who thinks like me!" All the best to you from California. (I did subscribe to help the cause).
I totally agree with you about sugar, I gave it up a couple years ago and have so much more energy! Thank you!
So fun to hear your perspectives, many of which are a direct connection to things I’ve experienced. From your thoughts on our feelings for our adult children, to “funny” dating stories to looking forward to all the cool experiences life has to offer! You have a great way of relating to many! Glad I found your channel and cheering you on from here!
My mom drove cross country for a docent program, led fall foliage trips, sang and played piano for all her local senior homes until she was 90 something 😳and her mother (my brilliant grandma) remarried and moved from Wellesley to a DC penthouse in her 80s! I’m in my 60s now and think of them whenever I see age as an obstacle.😊
So inspiring!!! You have great genes for sure!!
Yes people in the 60s like to give up. But I learned from my parents to continue to move forward and keep the goals.
Ñew follower, from UK, enjoying your channel. Im 60 and my age has been bothering me, in that i feel im making progress inside me rather late in life ! But your video has helped. Thankyou. And yes i agree, no old lady stuff for me !
Don't beat yourself up about progress "late in life". A lot of it can be hormonal. As an example after menopause the estrogen drops and that makes many women much more confident, outspoken, no longer insecure/depressed etc...
I've recently found your channel and I find it really inspiring! I'm 75 and have a few health issues which I ignore as much as I can.
Swimming and doing aqua exercises and going for short walks is how I keep fit. I'm trying to paint and do collages and have a new vege garden.
I have a couple of friends who seem to think I should be living the life of an old lady. They're quite insistant about it but I'll just ignore them n carry on regardless.
I enjoyed your talk about the law of attraction too and its reminded me to avoid negative thinking.
Good for you!!
"........for your age."
I bristle when a medical person says that. Even if it's an evaluation where I'm doing well.
Does ".....for your age" enable the medical establishment to dismiss or not enforce a health issue?
I love this message. I think if people stops setting goals or learning new things, they make their world really small.
Great take on an important issue. Love your conversational-style, makes us want to keep listening.
New follower here too. Just turned 67 in the last part of September a couple of months ago.
My hair's been going gray for a couple of years now and I LIKE it. Every hair on my head and face that turns gray serves as a statement that you don't have actually BE old.
I've been gifted with 'young' genes it would seem. Everybody in my family (both sides) seems to die at the age of 89 (although my father died just after 88) so I've got a way to go.
I hold every year that I live as a badge of honor . . . because I made it this far. Lord only knows why, but I have.
I married -into- dadhood and even though I haven't had a wife for many years I've retained my dad status and now have 5 (step)grandchildren who are now mostly grown if not indeed fully grown.
Life could not be better!
I should also add that I am -not- "playing the field."
I think you are amazing. I’m learning to overcome the loss of my wife two years ago. And I’m trying to find my way. But deeply appreciate your advice. I welcome the opportunity to meet with you, if possible.
Very well received. I am on of those people! I haven't always been. Started off with a friendship of 25 years that was over. I have never been so hurt in my life. That was in 2020 and lasted sometime. I have a very blessed life but I haven't seen my old happy self in years. I want that back!
I'm so sorry you went through that, my heart goes out to you
I am a 77 year old woman who lost my husband last February. I am a person of faith, who intends to live “young,” meaning that my body, my hair, which is greying, and my makeup are things about me that I I intend to maintain because they tell others how I feel about myself as I age. My mother, like yours, was a sedentary person who as she aged, gained 50 pounds and gave up on herself. She became an example of who I will never let myself be; a bitter old woman with almost no friends.
Life is precious, friends are precious, and I intend to pursue a life of love and joy surrounded by my dear family and amazing friendships!
Great coaching! I like to stay busy and have small goals.
Thank you. I am 62 and my husband is 65 and I so agree ❤ My husband and I have recently started providing respite care for foster families. Having children and young people in our home has been a positive adventure. Many more adventures ahead.
Wonderful!
I think good health, both physical and mental, is essential to how people rate their quality of life and aging. I'm 64, I do daily activities like long walks, and in nice weather I bike and golf. I was a consistent gym-goer from my 30s through 50s and managed my weight and diet, but had a lot of stress at work and in my marriage. A couple life-threatening illnesses in my late-50s changed me. In 2020 I retired, last year I filed for divorce from my covert narcissistic wife of 28 years, and she's dragging it out. My life hasn't been easy, but I am still optimistic and hope things will be better someday. What's concerning me now is that I'm seeing many friends and relatives suddenly develop chronic health issues following Covid infections. One died of the acute infection, but others developed aggressive cancers, heart disease, diabetes, brain-fog, insomnia, digestive issues, and it changed them mentally, too. Some are now full throttle YOLO-ers, while others became more introspective. Almost all show signs of anxiety and depression. Some think Covid is just a cold, but my recommendation for aging happily is to avoid Covid like the plague that it is.
Thank you for sharing!
Yes passive aggressive -I’m 61- (and don’t feel or look it) and was in a similar situation and was told “we are now women of a certain age”
Ick - I felt like saying speak for yourself but in the moment I was actually shocked-just her saying men no longer desire you.
❤ this man would! but I have a gf and am in the UK !
you look no more than 30! remember the saying a woman's worst enemy is another woman!
they envy you for showing them up as lazy !
Hello from Deadwood, SD! Just found your channel and subscribed. I am 72 and a local musician. Never too late! I restarted my music career at 69.
My husband and I are each 80 years old. We met when we were 50 years old. Second marriage for each of us. Our sixties and seventies were very active years for us. But I have to say that since I turned 80 I do notice changes in my energy levels. But we are very active in our grandchildrens lives and my husband is a carpenter and still works at his craft but not every day and not as many hours when he works.
I have a former friend who always stated how she hates being old. She is a year younger than me. It was very irritating to me. I couldnt deal with the negativiry. I just retired this year and am single. I still love my fashion, make up, etc. I have stepped up my exercise and am leaving on my third trip this year.
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We have different health conditions in this life. Did she have health issues that she couldn't control?
Outstanding as always. Just turned 60, retiring in one month and plan to learn Spanish. I know it will be challenging but I've always wanted to do it. Holly, you're a gifted speaker, quite funny and have made me feel so much better about 60! Thank you.
Guilty here....of using my age as an excuse to live my best life. Thank you for this reflective video on aging happily and with grace. I wish i didn't know my age (61), then I wouldn't have it to compare things to. I used age and goals simultaneously and all that did was lead to depression and anxiety if i didn't measure up to where i thought i was "supposed" to be - whether 25, 30(severe depression...felt like i was turning 60 then..haha), 40, 50, 60. I will say channels like yours and youtube have been very helpful. Thank you! I also get annoyed with being grouped in the "old lady club". I believe in trying to look your best even if just for yourself and feel judged at times for caring. Hence, my friend circle is small. I appreciate you!❤
That last couple of minutes...you are so right! What keeps us alive and enjoying life are our passions. Things that we focus on that give us pleasure and happiness - hobbies, fitness, church, skydiving, music, movies, pets, volunteering, learning new things - whatever it is that fills your soul and keeps you focused, keeps you alive and happy. Once you lose your passions, you're done. Personally, I have so many things I'm passionate about that I'll never be able to indulge them all, and I've probably got 25 good years left (knock on wood!). I'm as happy at (almost) 60 as I've ever been, because I have so many fascinating life experiences ahead of me.
You are right on with the age as an excuse. Good video and I agree with your analysis. Stay active and busy at doing something and learn something continuously. Life is not over until they put you in the ground. I like variety and always find something new to take on all the time. Life is a never-ending adventure and it just keeps getting better. Stay active, stay limber, and keep doing what you love. It does not have to be the same thing every day or every month. Mix it up and keep it fresh and new and find new interests when it gets old or boring. Not yet under the bus and probably never will be. It does not have to cost money, just your time so go for it.
I play hockey with a 68 year old goalie....he is a physician and said he loves his job and loves playing goalie. So he said why quit either. Honestly, when i saw him in the locker room for the first time, i asked another guy if he can get back up when he goes down. He just laughed, when i skated out for warm ups i was shocked at his mobility and skillset. My bad....he never stopped playing and plays year round. Its all in your head..stay in motion
It kind of depends on your health, mental and physical, not so much age. Some people age healthy and well, some don't. Some things you just can't do anymore due to health reasons, for example, most people after age 40 or 50 can't stay up very late, go to clubs and travel to places where you need to walk or climb a lot. Career can also be a problem, I am software developer which should not have an age limit but most companies want young people. If you write your age on cv, likely you will not be called back. Dating can also be a challenge as the older people get the less people their own age are single and available. And being a woman, I noticed a lot of men my age feel entitled to young women, even if those men are not in great shape, rich or look particularly good.
It is what it is. It's not impossible, we just have some limitations.
Valid points.
You are absolutely right about using a number for limiting your potential for excellence. I will say this on the topic, its not age, its about your healthy condition. Can you do the job? Its is inevitable you accelerate your age if you eat or drink thoughtlessly? If you do not exercise. If you do not give your body proper rest. There are other bullet points and I'll and one example, look up Annette Larken. Your jaw will drop.
I am disabled. I’ve had six spinal surgeries and I’m in chronic pain. I am 69 years old. I get up every morning take a shower put myself together dress really well and try to do something that I love to do each day with a positive attitude I will never give up. When you look good, you feel good even when you don’t it makes it better. I could’ve given up a long time ago and I just refuse. I did let my hair go natural gray and that’s really acceptable now so I love it. I did hair for 30 years.❤
Thank you so much for sharing your positivity here!
New subscribers here, 66 years young, wife and I run an antique shop now, go for long romantic walks on the beach and travel. RUclips has been kind to you, we look forward to 40 more years of your videos.
On a similar note, one very important thing to remember: No matter how old you are, you will never be as young as you are right now
Age is a privilege. Health is wealth..
Health is a privilege, age is inevitable. But how you age is your choice.
If you had married a younger man ,or woman you might think you.Never tell your age.
I have dated younger men in the past and I have never felt chemistry to be honest. Am alone and I feel happy, I am open to meet someone but I don’t know if I will ever meet that special someone.
@@curioussand1339 I found my husband on the internet,a racing group not a dating site.We have so much in common. I recommend you forget about the age and concentrate on simular interest.
I asked my mum how she felt when she turned 80; she said in her mind she was still the 21yr old ‘girl’ that got married and started our family, she told me she was always young in her mind. My beautiful mother lived to 87yrs, her body let her down, but her mind was always young. I’m 67yrs, I’m living just like my mum and will til the end 🙏
I'm 64 myself. Went road bowling with two other elderly ladies I met. The road course was two miles long, hilly, curvy road. The two ladies were fun and amazing!
That is very, very sad just because your mature doesn't mean like you said Holly just sit around and do nothing. Some mature people could mentor these younger kids give them some great advice on life. Thank for these videos.
I’m 68 and in May I started a RUclips channel too! I’ve now learned how to : edit, make thumbnails, use Keynote, Canva and IMovie. I also row on my rowing machine for at least 30 minutes every day plus bounce on my rebounder. It keeps my heart pumping and I don’t feel old unless I’m ill! 😂 much love Imi xx
I totally agree! I'm in my 50's and have friends that have given up and just waiting to get older and retire while I have started writing, illustrating and self publishing books. Totally different than the business I had for over 20 years. Now I am starting a RUclips channel and learning to edit videos. It's never too late! Thank you for this video! Great inspiration this morning!
Best of luck with the channel, you've got this!!
Only today I came across your video and related very much to your on line dating . I like yourself would not use them ever again. I did it for 2 years only but could write a book on the experiences I encountered (all the ones you mentioned and many many more). I am not a negative person but found the more I continued to date on line hoping to meet the one the more I realised it was like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I was living alone and happy it was a friend who encouraged me try it and see how it goes. So at least I tried it and did learn it wasnt for me. I have read through many comments from your subscribers and realised there are so many of you out there that have positive advice which helped to also feel that we are not alone. I will be a following your future ones.
Have you tried speed dating where you have a face-to-face date for four minutes with about over 10 people?
@@paulcurtis1351 No I havn't. I have heard about them but live in a tiny village miles from any town or city and wouldnt know where to start. I will do my best to search the possibilities, thank you Paul.
My Mom lived life to the fullest.
She remarried at 70. She bought a smaller home. She went on great trips. She hosted parties. She babysat my daughter.
And this all came after tragedy. My mother lost two sons to Muscular Dystrophy. Her other daughter died of a stroke.
Listen, if my Mom didn't give up on life after all that, we can all at least try our best.
But as a side note, there are seniors with clinical depression. We must be careful to know when someone genuinely needs help or if they are just complaining and whining.
I liked this video and I like your attitude. Thanks for the encouragement. And my mother would say you aren't old if you are in your sixties. :) She had a good attitude about ageing. It's hard if you have health problems, I'm a female age 63 and I do have a health issue so it makes me feel old sometimes as it's hard to deal with but I'm trying to have a good attitude. Anyway, good video. Have a good rest of your weekend.
Thank you and best of luck
I have really enjoyed your videos. I'm 59 and have bought into the 'lie' that I am now old. I suppose this is because many of the women...men too... who I know that are in their late 50s and beyond have already subscribed to this belief. I hear it all the time and it had me pretty depressed for a while. However, I've been trying to fight this belief because I have so many things I want to do yet. Thank you for the inspiration. Great channel.
You are right about some people losing that zest for life . . . in so many words.
Fun is a great goal for anyone!
And, you can create your own fun for not so much money.
Trips to theme parks, ocean liner cruises, or resorts may be out of your reach but then again why allow some business to convince you that they have a monopoly on where it's at?
One can be very creative on a minimal budget and have loads of fun and excitement.
Giving up on life or feeling sorry for one's self just because they are older is a bring down not only to themselves but to others who may be around them.
At the end of the day it's just better to smile and look forward to see what happens next!
In my sixties and keep active and enjoy the outdoors, playing piano etc. Thanks for your great presentations. Great !
Bravo. Very well said. As a 70 yo man I am quite fit, play pickleball almost daily, walk at least 10,000 steps a day, and do weight training. I used to be fat years ago, and as a retired physician I made a conscious effort to get my physical life back in order. On top of that, as an information junkie, I take 2 in person college classes each semester and love to learn new subjects of which I have very little prior knowledge. It is so much fun interacting with 18-22 year olds as well as their 40-50 yo professors. We all have the opportunity to make things a little better , whatever one chooses to do. While I never like to pass judgement on others, I find it so unpleasant when I hear friends, colleagues, and family kvetching/complaining constantly without making any concerted effort to change things for the better. I believe that most if not all of us have a real opportunity to make lemonade out of lemons. Get out there and live your life. You are delightful. Keep up the great work!
Thank you!
To answer your question, I absolutely have to have something I'm working toward. Otherwise, things get monotonous, and I start to feel down. I need to be stimulated and use my gifts. 60s is still young. I don't know what some people are talking about!! My friends who are musicians like myself, are always doing something creative. Some friends are retired, and it doesn't seem to me that there's much new in their lives. I don't know how they can feel very good. I tend to see them less. It's not a judgement thing, but I feel there isn't a lot to talk about.
You are 100% right I run into people like that all the time that think they’re old and they really aren’t. I like watching you or I like watching your show.
I love your channel and your point-of-view on life. Age is truly just a number. I'm 54 years old . I'm a spiritual woman who is mindful of maintaining good health, and positivity. How you feel on the inside will resonate on the outside. Whether you have 30 more years to live or 30 more days, make each day the best day and be happy. It's easier to be happy, than wasting your precious energy being unhappy and negative. Everything is energy!
Everything is energy and like attracts like!
I just came across your channel and find your videos very interesting and informative. I also have had some experience with online dating. None of it was good! So, I gave up on that aspect of it and if I am destined to meet someone I will! I look forward to seeing more videos. Thanks Rick
Hi Holly, John from Toronto here. I’m thoroughly enjoying your videos. Thank you. On a side note, the follower that posted a comment just previous to mine , I’m 64 and single. There are still a few good men out there who appreciate older confident women . That’s why I follow Holly. I’m referring to Amygent.
Yes I have! And very irritating! And I felt the same way you did! Thank you!! I feel like you’ve been listening to my conversations. 🙂🙂
I believe your advice is very valuable. And I agree that online dating doesn’t work. I lost my wife two years ago after 36 years. I admire your outlook on life. I waiver between looking forward to an unknown future vs a known past. Just know that I would welcome an opportunity to discuss our life’s goals after loosing our respective soulmates.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you considered joining a grief support group?
I love the quote that sums it up the best " don't live the same year 75 times in a row and call it a life". I have a friend who is 79 and she and her 87 year old husband love to tango and salsa until 2am sometimes on the weekends. It brings them tremendous joy and they are so vibrant and youthful. They have more life than many people half their age. Love the vid, definitely food for thought for all ages :)
Love this!
I was told to act my age. I told them "I am". Going on a motorcycle tour in Iceland.
I'm a 68 year old windower. Ty Holly, another great video. B
Good for you! And, thank you!
Agree 💯%. I started learning belly dancing at 61. I still get my hair done, get my mani/pedis, wear heels and dress in clothes that flatter my 62 year old body and are comfortable. I refuse to let age define me. In many ways I feel more beautiful and sexy at this age then when I was in my 20s.
I agree with you, stay engaged with life as young people need the wisdom of older people......❤
First time viewer.... Love your videos. I am almost 60.... Live a lonely internal happy life...Healthier than ever with no meds ...but unhappy married for years.
I received a passive aggressive comment from a friend when I told her I was getting a treatment to improve my energy. And she replied “well it y you have the monies for that” since then I learned not to tell share good nor bad with here . And i just turned 60 this year and I am so grateful! 🙏🏼
You are an incredibly beautiful woman. Your optimism is helpful to more people than you know❤
Absolutely...we need goals and things to look forward to. I try to look forward to things on a weekly...monthly...yearly basis. Pickleball and golf are two of my favorite things.😆
I'm with you all the way, When I turned 60 I decided to go snow skiing in Austria. I had been putting it off for years [2012]. There after I went every year until 2018, its now become expensive, beyond my financial reach. If it were not for that I would still be going.