Years ago, I had a very unattractive man with a big pot belly ask me what my measurements were. I responded "my measurements are.... you don't measure up" 😂 These guys are so delusional.
THAANK YOU : ) I'm a single, healthy, active 72 year old Woman. I'm not dating and certainly agree with you about men of your same age. They look way too old and debilitated for me. Many; if not most of the men my age look 15 years older than me; and not a healthy version of the age they look to be. I agree with all that you are saying, here. In our culture women are expected to look like 20 year olds; while men feel that they don't need to put any effort into looking their best and often neglect their grooming and physical fitness. NO THANKS!!
I Agree , for me age is not a factor for attractiveness its mind attitude soul and body fitness that plays a huge part , for myself after a divorce i just plan to carry on solo , meaning I’m single but content and not looking.
I see almost the opposite at my gym. Not all, but a majority of women over 60, waddle instead of walk, have "Bingo Arms", and are way too heavy. Some guys fall into this category, but from what I see...way more women.
You're just speaking the truth that we older women are facing. Better to be alone than with some old dude who doesn't appreciate you for completely superficial reasons . We women are supposed to overlook everything unattractive in a man, and usually do, but I'm not accepting it anymore.
I went on a date a while ago, and some of my gray hair was showing and he actually made a comment about that. It doesn’t matter that his picture didn’t show that he was balding significantly.I had too much class to comment about it. You know they just don’t think they age and then he had the audacity to contact me later and asked me if I would like to go out again because outside of the gray hair showing I do not look my age. My skin is pretty much flawless and he did say that. WTH, no thanks 😂
There is a cute cartoon of a woman walking past a mirror and being hyper critical of their appearance dissecting every flaw, next a man walks buy, big beer belly, balding, totally out of shape and his caption reads "looking good". Its how they see themselves, they all want super models, but they never look in the mirror.
So true. I told my adult son to check out men my age (70) and he’d understand why I don’t date. They’re fat, sloppy, poorly dressed and poorly groomed. Now when my son and I go out together he’ll say things like, “There’s a looker for ya mom!”
My girlfriends and I called it “Donald Trump symptom”. The guy is usually disgustingly fat, unattractive, comb-over, looks like he hasn’t showered in a week, but he picks every woman’s looks apart, and feels justified in doing so. The only women they can attract are women who only want them for their money.
@@sfc5774 I went on a cruise with my son, I was a widow and he was almost out of high school. We went on a bus tour and they had you introduce ourselves and where we were from. They all said you GO girl with your cougar self. I said WHAT this is my son....and it never stopped. Folks always assumed I was robbing the cradle. And my son's just laughs at how ignorant folks are.
Saw this channel randomly. Men and women age differently depending on genetics, their careers, the food they eat, sun exposure, alcohol consumption, consistent moderate exercise, life stess, serious diseases, and attitude. What all older people should do is try to smile and avoid the resting frown. Be grateful for your life. Lots of average people come off as attractive by a friendly attitude and pleasant demeanor.
I once asked a male friend of mine who was in his 70’s why he thought older men want to date younger women and he replied “because they only want to date women they find attractive “. So is it just attractability? And is attractability only about physical appearance?
I don’t want men my age to touch me! Yuck….😅…… I’m 67 been, single 12 years. I’ve yet to meet a man my age that can keep up, doesn’t have several health issues and none have been the least bit interesting. I decided long time ago that I was dating to make other people happy because they were concerned about me being alone, but I am happy alone and I’m gonna stay this way 🙂
@@KathyJo.….I could have written your post. I' m a 71 year old male that can barely imagine hanging out with a woman my age. I know for sure there are women out there that would excite me, but they,d be few. Generally speaking, I'd need to pick on women in their fifties and sixties, but I very much doubt they'd be able to keep pace. 🍀
I’m 64 as well. I LOVE that you decided to create this channel and speak to OUR portion of the Baby Boom. I’m not interested in dating women younger than me. AT ALL! I gravitate to those my (our) age. Seems so much more comfortable to have lived the same time of life. I’m in Texas but if I was in western NY I’d love to have dinner with you:)
Men have more choices. There are more single women than men. I think it's like 4 women to 1 man. Men keep dating around to pick the best option. Women don't play that game. At least I don't. Men do get older but they think that's okay because there are other single women that won't mind and are looking for companionship. Harrison Ford is old looking . He's in his 80s? I think after mid 70s age becomes more noticeable. Energy is lower and wrinkles increase. Medical problems surface. It's life and it happens to everyone. Men should be happy to find just one good woman who has love in her heart and willing to share in life's journey with them unconditionally.
I'm a 65 year old woman. I've been single for 3years now. Im finally becoming comfortable being alone, just being me, even though if it's scary sometimes not having a partner to share the responsibilities of life with. A few months ago I nought a small home of my own. Now my 78 year old neighbor has majorly taken an intrest in me.... he's very nice. We get along and have had fun even though a 12 year age difference. My heart is just not into a romantic relationship with him. I work with seniors with dementia, his age.... I don't want to hurt him, but I've fought so hard to just be single and ok with it. Not committed to checking in and being responsible for a man...proving my selfworth and proving that I can be loved and valued. At 65.... I'm turning the corner.
So maybe since you like each other and have fun, just enjoy that as much as you can. I have a male friend that I hang out with, go eat out, and watch movies with. I feel like you can never have too many friends.
This happened for me at about 50. I was done. Did great for 20 years. Almost a year ago met a man my age. We are having fun. Enjoying life and each other. Both still holding on to our independence. Time will tell but I think we both feel fine. At 73 now I’m still content.
I have been dating a woman who is 16 years older than me for 12 years. It works for me and I do not look at her as old. Mainly we both like to cook. We both like to dance, and we both like to eat healthy. We have so many other things in common that the age difference does not matter a great deal as we get along fabulously. One of the things that helps is we still have two separate houses.
It’s cause you are brave enough to say what we’ve all been thinking all along but are afraid to speak the truth or don’t have a platform on which to do it. Thanks for saying what so many of us are thinking. Bravo! 👏🏻
My mother used to say that a woman carries the weight of a marriage on her face, and if you see a woman who has been married 20, 30 years, that woman has been through something for sure. Of course, these are generalities, but in my years on earth, I find more true than not.
No offense but that seems like an excuse for the natural aging process. Birthing children can physically age women. But to my point, men endure all the same crap in a marriage. Women will often flip things to what “ all men have put them through.” More men are stripped of what was partly their property along with children far more than women.
And the man carries the weight of the marriage in his wallet. How many of these life insurance companies ever feature the wife dying without life insurance and the husband is stressing how he was going to bury her? The holidays are near. How many commercials feature the wife ir girlfriend gifting a man expensive jewelry or car?
So true. My aunt married a man 20 years her senior. They were in love and had a lot of fun.....until he was in his mid-70s and developed health issues. She stuck with him but wasn't 100%. Grandma never said a word but she warned the aunt that at some point things would change and the age difference would matter. At some level she had to resent being stuck with an old man. She stuck with him until the end but I learned a lot by watching them. I would rather be alone than with an old man who wants me because I am younger.
Yes, Harrison Ford looks very old. He isn't attractive anymore. It's an insult to pair old leading men with much younger leading ladies (granddaughter young sometimes). There is a double standard towards men and women ageing. I totally agree with everything you are saying.
😂 thank you, loving this topic! I did meet my last boyfriend online, we were together 12 years.. after we split i tried online dating again and none of the guys I met looked like their pictures, and looked old to me.. reminded me of my father... I'm very youthful looking for my age, and its difficult to find someone my own age that I'm attracted to... so I 1000% agree with your topic title! Don't let any men bully you on here... you're right, it is your channel and you can express anything you want or feel.. if someone doesn't like it they don't have to watch... duhhhhh!!😅 Be your authentic self, I'm enjoying that!!❤
Hi Holly, I am a 63 year old man. I am educated with multiple college degrees. I have had a career in tech in the US for many decades. I read a lot every day and - your channel is an example of my desire to learn from others, both men and women, especially their perspective and their life experience. Having just now listened to your video and having read the description of your video, I feel like I have missed out on some things in my life experience. I have never before learned or heard of this “myth’ regarding men not aging. I have never before heard of such a “formula” as you described about the age of women that men should pursue. I have been married twice in my lifetime. I married my high-school sweetheart. She is one year younger than me. My second wife is 6 months older than me. I do not consider either of them as having aged at any different rate than I have aged. Throughout my lifetime I have seen many men that I thought looked older than they were. More so than with women.
Love your channel. Found it today and have binged watched nearly all of your videos. The controversy is real and should be addressed. Don't change a thing. You're doing a great job. 😊😊
In a lot of cases, older men are producing and directing movies where they pair themselves with younger women, like Woody Allen, Clint Eastwood, etc. They think women still find them attractive and no one tells them otherwise. Cary Grant at a certain age told directors he was too old to be the love interest of younger women.
I think an honest conversation like you are presenting is a hot topic for so many of us over 60. We need more conversations about the subject of aging.
Yes. I agree. Harrison Ford looks old. I'm an 84 year old male and I can assure you I look it. Although I do take good care of myself with regular exercise and a healthy diet, I hardly look like I did in my forties or fifties for that matter. Am I sad. Hardly. I'm enjoying life taking each day as a gift. I feel the best is yet to come.
Hi Holly! I stumbled across your channel a few days ago and I love your videos! (the online dating, senior dating video.......giiiirrrlll!!) I came here to say that the phrase "age is just a number!" in any context drives me crazy. Age is experience, opinion,habits,learning,reaction,and so much more. That number defines us, it's up to us to write the definition. I turned 65 this August and I am backing that number up with a lot of fun these days
I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years and you are accurate about this phenomenon of older men marrying younger women when they are able to do so. I mostly saw this among high income men where I thought the woman at the bedside was his daughter but it was actually his wife. And you are correct. It's all well and good when the man is doing well health wise but things start to change when his health deteriorates. I feel like it's likely your Father's work schedule (working all day followed by working on his own home at night) contributed to his heart attack. But of course, this is just my opinion.
Also look at the increases in autism the past two decades. Israeli and UC Davis studies both reported men in their fifties are EIGHT times likely to father an autistic child than men in their twenties! Yet no surgeon general warnings are currently informing couples that sperm heads flatten with age! Why are autism rates higher in larger cities? That’s where middle age and older men work and socialize. And the younger mothers who marry older men have been told their biological clocks for child bearing end in their forties! Newsflash it also ends for males too! And guess who are the ones left caring for special needs children? Usually the mothers!
NEWS FLASH - A younger person pursues an older person for romance for one of three reasons: 1. The older person is wealthy and willing to spend money. 2. The younger person needs citizenship 3. The younger person is not considered “desirable” by their fellow younger people, so they’ll “settle” for an older person because the older person is giving them romantic attention. The May-December romance based on love is rare. It happens, but it’s rare because the age difference begins to matter eventually. This goes for men AND women since we’re seeing more and more financially successful women who are now “playing like the boys” and chasing after young studs (Cher, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, Kathy Griffin). Let’s put it this way - if the late Hugh Hefner and Leonardo DiCaprio were average joes who only made $5000/month GROSS PAY, those hot young women wouldn’t have given him the time of day. Listen to the young ladies talk - they will openly say that “they don’t want to deal with a wrinkly old man unless he can give them sugar (💵)”.
@@francescachecchin6191. Maybe. Money does solve issues. When the man ages he can afford a nice place with assisted living or more. If he is really wealthy he could buy her a life insurance policy, make her the owner of that policy and that will be what he leaves her. No she does not give her any of his estate, that goes to his children.
Also, when I was younger I had a couple boyfriends 20 plus years older than me. I was attracted to them because they were mature, could carry on interesting conversations and they liked me but then they were kind of controlling and thought because they were older they knew better. Such as it is, I think sometimes you date who you date to learn life lessons. As far as looks go, it's a multi billion dollar industry to keep women "ageless", which is superficial and puts most of the responsibility on women.
My husband, who died last year, was 33 years older than me. When we met he was in his early 50is and very fit and younger looking. As long as it was like that, I never saw him as an old man. But in his early 70 is his health started slowly to decline from year to year and I couldn't help but see his age. In his late 70is, he developed a serious kidney problematic and from that moment on, he was an old, very ill man who needed more and more help, horribly for him and for me. I got the feeling that I was old too...living constantly with and old, sick person. My husband was a good man and I was with him till the end. But from the moment on when he started clearly to age our relationship suffered because we simply weren't a real fit anymore. I was too young and healthy for him. I needed more. And he was frustrated, living with a younger person and not be able to keep up anymore. So yes, age gape relationships can be wonderful and fulfilling but it can become very difficult when the man gets really old and you have less and less in common.
Hi Holly, I'm so happy to your channel popped up in my youtube feed! I love it! I'm 70 and single for 9 years. Your topics are things I've been thinking about and that's why I find your channel so interesting. The Myth That Men Don't Age, was entertaining to me 😅.
I’ll be 60 in 30 years, I absolutely LOVE your channel. You give such interesting insight and maybe even predictions of what’s to come if I’m single in my elder years ❤ thank you!
I agree wholeheartedly! Unfortunately, men are quite delusional with regard to their looks and abilities at 60 vs say 30 years ago. As a 66 year old black male I never quite want to admit that I'm old, that I can't do the same things, attract the same women I could 30 years ago. Unfortunately, as my dad would say "time is a cruel taskmaster." When I was younger women might look interestingly at me, say hello and smile. Now, even a woman a few years younger than myself will "hello sir" i.e. the delineate, maybe smile quickly but sternly and hurry on her way. Most men are seriously bs'ing themselves in this regard. While there are age gap relationships that work it's the exception not the rule. Personally, I've always seen it as selfish. At 66 were I to seriously be in a relationship with someone 36, 46 even 56 would be to slow down and quite possibly alter their life's trajectory considerably. All in the interest of showing off or trying to prove I've still got it.
I'm about to turn 68 in a couple weeks with almost 40 years married and 42 living together. I've always been attracted to mature women. In my twenties I found women in their forties more desirable. My wife and I always said we wanted to grow old together. We just never expected it would occur so quickly. She is only a year younger than me so we're dealing with those senior health issues together. I might date if she leaves me first but I've no desire to be with a younger gal. We still have an active sex life at 2-3 times a week. It would be weird having a new partner at this stage of the game.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 5.10', 170lbs, and decided to stay single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. It's only about hookups. No thank you. It's not about relationships anymore. Women today have zero family values. Women seem not to look or smile anymore. They are all down on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No woman seems to talk face to face anymore which is a turn off. Today 80% of the women are nothing but pure garbage. That's why I've given up on women.
I'm 63 now when I told my girl friends at 50 boyfriend slowed down on sex to 4 or 3 times a week they said " what are you guys rabbits". twice a month was enough for them. I see them now and health wise they are not doing well. Hmmm wonder why?
Congrats on your channel. You have over 100 comments in 3 hours. Online dating is a hot topic because I think it's gotten so bad that many of us aren't doing it anymore and now in a "reset and reflect " mode. I just turned 50. And low and behold we age too. I felt a resurgence in my 40s and wonder if i was going to notice getting older haha. Anyway these conversations are good for us to share experiences , some laughs and also it helps me identify some things I need to tweak before I try dating again. Everyone ages. Everyone is also unique with timing and where they are at. Here's my secret to all of this. It's like being a surfer waiting on the wave. Everything vibrates everything moves there's rythmn to everything . You need to be mentally and physically ready for the surf board work on that first. Then pay attention to the waves. If a good one passes you by...just chill don't chase there will be another. Be better at knowing if it's a small wave pass it by. When good wave appears ride it decisively. Don't worry how old the wave is and don't worry about the outcome. At the current moment working on my vibration and losing a good 25lbs first. The focus is on me. Back to on point I don't see woman as aging different . What I DO NOTICE is the energy from most is that of exhaustion they don't have light in their eyes and they need to take a break. Takes one to know one ! The online dating became a pool of fake waves. Get back to the ocean.
@@Stumben2 l like your comment. Very insightful. I agree that several people have lost that twinkle in their eyes. It’s sad to see. It’s like something has poisoned our souls and we don’t know how to get rid of that poison. Is it social media? Too much politics? Too much division? Too many YT channels that pin us against each other? Too much online dating? Who knows! But something has definitely changed and not for the better.
@@marinab.8590 Yeah can't quite put my finger on what it is. The magic in the air is gone. I would say it is age if I did not see SO many young people saying the SAME thing......
I so relate to the exhaustion. I’m 50, been a single parent working full time most part of my life, even when married I felt single. It all takes a toll on our bodies but you don’t see it when your young but it catches up, when kids grow up they tell you how they saw things when they were young and some of it hurts, you think you were doing your best, my point is, we take a lot of bashing.
@saharamir930 absolutely. I sympathize with single moms. I've tried to date a few and while it's by no means all encompassing what I experienced is.... They basically needed a short term outlet. Fun for a bit but their lives are too chaotic they get tired fast understandably . They Bow out . Or there's this thing that if you aren't also a single father something doesn't mesh. They repeat this cycle over and over ( so do us mem ) and it wears us all down. On the plus side I remained friends with a couple and as long as you do not feel "orbit friend zone" it's a positive
On the contrary, my mother, who was full of wisdom, cautioned me not to get involved with older men because men do fall apart faster than women. It’s true, they do. They have shorter lifespans, too. And some men are looking for a nurse as they get older. Be careful, ladies.
YES and the only woman who are into older men are gold diggers. They are just waiting for them to kick the bucket so they can get that payout and then find themselves and younger hot man.
I know many men taking care of old sickly wives. The wives suffered heart attacks, strokes and many have dementia. Sometimes the wives aren't even that old, for example one of the wives is in a nursing home due to dementia and she is 62. On average women live about 5 years longer but many times those years are not quality years due to health issues. In my not so expert opinion, both men and women age badly. Many will die before retirement or reach retirement only to deal with acute health issues.
@@edm-london1660 eeeeyeeeewww. I don’t know what planet you live on but i can assure you, women do mind being with an old man. In centuries far before this one and in some developing countries, women have no means to support themselves without a man. But here in the West, not the problem. As such, we don’t need men for their money. Means we are free to choose someone we actually like and not just tolerate some old man because we need the financial support.
@@edm-london1660 are you seriously going to believe that men are in their prime at 45-55? That is such ridiculous denial! They are in their prime of ED and bald heads at that age that is about it.
@@edm-london1660 Absolute nonsense. Men are in their prime years between 35-45. After 45, most men are suffering from numerous medical issues. Stop trying to glorify middle aged men. Accept the fact that men need to stop even THINKING about procreating after 50 years old. At 50 years old, men should be thinking about paying for their child's wedding, college expenses, and your own retirement plans.
Why should a woman give up her freedom to, ultimately, take care of an overweight, bald, convinced of himself, getting slower by the day, man. For me, that’s a waste of my precious time. Life is to short.
Well any old age relationship, stay single. If I lost my wife I’d like a woman friend but no marriage. So later if I need care she does not have to provide care. That is what in my opinion should be! No marriage or living together.
From what I have seen, I have found many more women these days taking care of themselves, and so-called aging is different than it was in the past. This is not directed at the men who are taking care of themselves, but please know you're the exception in my experience. Bravo to all the ladies for not settling these days, for becoming basically a full time mother or nurse figure so they can think it's okay to actually feel this entitled. Go Holly!
I never bothered with worrying about aging, I’m okay with that, it’s worrying about getting fat that’s always been my thing. Maybe it’s because I can’t control aging but I can control my weight.
That's the way to think about it for sure. I'm actually getting physically and mentally healthier as I age, guess it will turn around at some point but that's not yet.
@@Tim_G_Bennett there’s a RUclips channel called legacy (add a (.) and then a (com) to the end of that name) that I’ve watched for several years. A couple of years ago I started paying closer attention to celebrities that lived up to the age of 95 to 104. I wondered why are some living long lives while others don’t even come close? Somewhere around 2 years of watching the one thing I noticed was those that lived long lives were not athletes. In fact, it’s rare for athletes to live up to 85. However, those that lived to say 100 didn’t workout at all anywhere in their lives. They may have walked and/or did outside activities that they enjoyed (like tennis, swimming, hiking) that did gave them some exercise but they didn’t stress their bodies with daily vigorous workouts. What I learned was to enjoy my workouts and don’t stress tying to regain my youth. Ironically, I may live longer.
@@Tim_G_Bennett there’s a RUclips channel called legacy that I’ve watched for several years. A couple of years ago I started paying closer attention to celebrities that lived up to the age of 95 to 104. I wondered why are some living long lives while others don’t even come close? Somewhere around 2 years of watching the one thing I noticed was those that lived long lives were not athletes. In fact, it’s rare for athletes to live up to 85. However, those that lived to say 100 didn’t workout at all anywhere in their lives. They may have walked and/or did outside activities that they enjoyed (like tennis, swimming, hiking) that did gave them some exercise but they didn’t stress their bodies with daily vigorous workouts. What I learned was to enjoy my workouts and don’t stress tying to regain my youth. Ironically, I may live longer.
@@fearless6947 I’m sure some did but those like Betty White, William Shatner, Mel Brooks, George Burns, and Bob Hope probably were not vegetarian. I’d bet there’s more that didn’t follow a diet plan than those that did. Odds are they all ate healthier foods because of the era they grew up in. Nonetheless, it didn’t change athletes of that era leaving us waaay before the none athletic celebrities.
Honest opinion and truth! I'm really sick of all the differences that has been put on women in comparison to men. Somebody sure needs to speak the truth. Maybe a few will wake up.Thank you.
Hi, I was lucky enough to stumble on your RUclips channel. I'm a retired, widow of 58 year old who is going through a lot of what you talk about and can definitely relate. Please keep the videos coming. Ps: You are still extremely attractive.
My experience is that women actually age better than men and take better care of themselves. Obviously, this is not all-inclusive, but it has definitely been my experience. I have internet dated on and off for years and am always surprised at how many men over 60 are not aging well and do not appear to take very good care of themselves.
@@AmandaAmanda-sh8lx Omg yrs ago - I had my older Dau 14 pushing the Pram with my yngr one 2 yo we all have red hair Gingers and the shop assistant asked if my partner would like something - of course that set her off big time. Time have changed everyone ages some more ethan others, Mr death escorts all in the end - being in the dry sun all day can make a big difference later in life, I was like broken record with the girls, Hat, sunscreen stayout of direct sunlight - like girls are ever going to listen.
It is your channel! I am happy to be here. I enjoy listening to your perspective because I am exactly your age and face these same issues as you do. Thank you for your honesty.
You are awesome! I dated online for 13 years and had the same experiences as you! It is outrageous the inequality! I put in my profile after many bad dates… “If you can’t beat me in a foot race don’t contact me” 😂 I did eventually meet my husband. I was 62, he was 65. It took me a whole lifetime almost before I found my matching bookend. We are 7 years in and we are like newlyweds!It’s possible but you’re so right about the circus and BS we as women must deal with! Good luck! I’ll be watching!❤
Well women need to be selective. There are lots of older men that are a bore. At 82 I completely redid a front deck. People in the neighborhood could not believe. Thankful to God I could still do.
My husband and I were introduced by family/friends when I was 66 and he had just turned 70. He didn’t look or act his age, very fit, handsome and with a full head of silver hair. Swoon! I am also told I do not look my age. We met for a coffee date, safe for both of us, and by the end of that time, he asked if he could take me to dinner two nights later. Maybe crazy, but at two weeks from the day we met, we committed to each other, were married nine months later, as soon as my divorce was final (that is a whole other story) and have been beyond blessed and happy for almost seven years. We are madly in love, enjoy many activities, some solo, some together. I pray that we can continue to enjoy our delightful marriage for many years to come. And yes, the sex is good!☺️
women outlive men by about 10 yrs,, we all age, some do well and others don't, I'm SWM 68, and feel aging issues daily, low back pain, ED, arthritis, wrinkles etc. it's life and I'm grateful to be alive after beating colon cancer stage 3
@@BecomingMe64 it was close, my doctor found pre-cancer, ignored it, then 5 months later it was stage 3, tumor was one inch wide and four inches long, never felt it, another month or two I would have been stage 4 and gone
Oh my gosh! I could write a book on the attitudes of men about their own aging and what they expect from a woman! I have said to a few of them, " have you looked in the mirror before you left the house?" Honestly! Thanks again for your channel!
Agree with you. A serious bout with cancer or a stroke or the death of a spouse will age you seemingly overnight. Seen that happen to several family friends and CAS competitors.
I'm a single male about to turn 60, and I can say in all honesty that my entire life I've been attracted to older women! As a teenager, my 40-something next door neighbor drove me wild (and some of my high school teachers). Throughout my adult years I've always felt that women reach their peak of desirability in their 50's, and many, like you, remain extremely attractive well into their 60's and even 70's. When I think of dating again, I wouldn't want to date a woman more than 5 years younger than I am. I'd just want someone who sees the world in much the same way as I do, grew up in the same era, has mostly the same values and attitudes that I do. I think that's important in a companion to grow old with. Physical attractiveness declines for all of us, men and women, as we age, and it also becomes less important (I think) as other things become more important. And yes, Harrison Ford is handsome for his age but he definitely is looking old.
Geez this is me to a T, haha. People think that attraction to older women is a thing that young men grow out of, or that it's more of 'a phase'. It may be for some, but I'd bet the majority of men who have that preference set when young will always be like that. I sometimes wonder if it also changes with time in the way that if when we age, and reach the age of older women we liked when we were younger, we"ll tend to lose interest in women in that age range, maybe lean towards women even older, or just plain stop being that attracted to older women. I'm in my late thirties and noticing I may be starting to see women around my age more attractive than what I did when we were younger. I've met some that definitely have given me the attractive mature woman vibes I've always got from older women. But I still find older more attractive. Mind my age range of preference have always been very broad (broad among older, kind of starting at around 15+ years older). I, just as you, feel women reach their peak at the late 50's-early 60's range, and have felt like that since at least my late teens.
When I go to the gym there are a lot of men over 50+. Once in a while you may see an older woman working out which is great. The key to looking good when you're older is to take care of yourself when you're younger.
My parents both go to the gym. He's 83 and she's 81, but you'd never think they were that old by looking at them. I work at a very physical job where I'm on my feet all day, so working is my "gym."
After reading the comments, I get the impression that you have a lot of male followers. As a 71 year-old woman, I am wondering whether it's the topic matter that attracts them or if it's your looks! I just find it refreshing to listen to a confident, thoughtful woman address subjects that are interesting to me. Best of luck with your channel!
I’m a man. I don’t follow this channel, I just happened to click on it after reading the title. I can’t tell what she looks like very well because the digitizer/screen is going out on my tablet and that makes it difficult to see what’s going on.
RUclips recommended me this channel, but I certainly didn't seek it out nor the subject matter specifically. This is one of those cases where people in a certain age bracket are being fed these videos based on certain topical interests.
It's because the male commenters are reporting and getting the comments from women taken down because their fragile selves can't handle it. The women let their comments stay. My comments are being erased for speaking truth.
You're spot on! I would not date again, because men my age look like old people, even when they don't act it. Plus, I have no ambition to become a nurse in my older years.
Your videos are really interesting. Men and women get old some look good some don’t, women use makeup and men don’t it’s the luck of the draw in the end. I am 62 year old man going bald with grey hair I’m pretty fit as I do a manual job inside I feel a lot younger but look in the mirror and have a reality check. Just make the most of what years you have left because life is short. Best wishes from the UK 🇬🇧
I’m 61 and also think mindsets and relationships are so weird these days! I gave online dating up several years ago (for the very same reasons you did). I haven’t dated anyone in almost a year. I crave intimacy, not sex. My ex husband had Narcissistic Personality Disorder (checking every box on the spectrum). There is no such thing as intimacy with these creatures. Every day with them is a day of cruel and unusual punishment. I would love companionship, but not at any cost!
You found your audience quickly, and it’s clear that many of us agree with you! The dating video is gold! I tried dating apps and the service ‘It’s just lunch.’ Disaster!The men lied about who they were, education and had no self awareness! Agree Harrison looks old and he should, he is 80. His wife is 60 but also has her own successful career! They must have real balance. He is healthy and she is a strong, independent woman. Psychologically men seem to be ego centric - think they seem younger if they are with a younger woman. My mom married a man 13 years older - it was a disaster! Women need to be successfully independent earlier and hear from older women the reality of relationships and having kids. Men are driven by testosterone and it isn’t easy for them when they age….but that doesn’t mean women should have to manage that. Glad I found your voice!
Hi, YES Harrison Ford looks old! lol My husband and I have been married 10 years and are in our early sixties- he has never been interested in younger women-I am very blessed! great channel! 🙂
I dated a man who was 14 years older than me, did not lived with him and I thanked God for it. He was a man-child, lol. He did not like my independence, tried to control my decisions, he wanted him to be my priority while he did not made me as his priority, yeah really one sided. Looking back now and I blamed myself from putting up with that. I can't be stewing in the past so I can truly say that I am happier now single and saying no to dating. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
When I retired my wife who is six years younger wasn't ready to retire, somewhat problematic, and I realized that if I had a wife who was 20 years younger it would become a real problem. A woman that young wouldn't be able to retire being way to young for Medicare and Social Security and there is no way that we could guarantee that our retirement savings would be able to hold up for 46 years.
I am not interested in dating one single bit. I was married to a remarkable man. No one could possibly do anything to top who he was. I’ve had the best. Besides, I think I’m getting used to being alone and it’s beginning to feel kinda nice. 🍃🌸🍃
67 year old guy here living in reality. I enjoy your honesty and critical thinking so I subscribed. The comments are good as well. Don't let the negative live in your head rent free. What's your favorite tea?
I am 66, single and happy living alone; full of the zest for life and have many supportive friends and family. Living my dream in my senior years! I absolutely LOVE your channel and I know it will go extremely well as it relates to many of us baby boomer folks who can relate to all you share.
😂 no Man age by giving in to comfort... check a 65 and up men who do workout regularly with good whole food .. women age like milk no matter what they do ..a healthy 80 year old man still can make children but not with a 80 year old woman 😂
It's poor logic to compare a male's bodily function to impregnate someone with a woman's thinning skin and "waning looks" according to our culture's beauty standards. All genders age physically on the surface and inside. If you look 50 and your 63, great! It's a fact tho that your bones and joints are still 63 years old. My sense is that you are saying the value of a male's "working" tool supercedes all other factors, like sperm aren't as vital as men age, there aren't as many, companionship, friendship, sense of humor, finances, wisdom, kindness, ... That's my read.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Yes, I understand this is a physical and biological fact of the aging process. I guess I’m one of the lucky ones because I’ve never done any hormone therapy and my drive is still strong.
Males and females...we ALL age. Variables include diet, exercise, genetics, habits (both good & bad) and let's not forget about stress! One thing i have always believed in is that no matter how good looking you are on the outside, if the inside is ugly, you are ugly!
I appreciated your honesty. I am older than you by 12 yrs and a man. On line dating is scary so I have not tried. I do think about my dog--and I am too quiet to do more than go to work and return to home.
In my 20’s i met a man 12 years my senior. I left him when i was 36 because everything about his behavior, interests, habits made him seem to me like an old man. He was very fit, into his appearance and not at all old looking - but his entire frame of reference was different from my own. We had nothing in common. And I’d never ever do that again. To your point, this age difference would cause far greater differences as we age.
@@NoPrivateProperty He was middle aged while i was still young. By the time i was middle aged he’d be old. I was never going to catch up with him. And that reality, of a generational difference, wasn’t going to improve with age it was going to surface more problems. I definitely have no regrets.
💯 true .The myth that men age like fine wine and only women age , is such a load of bs.Genetics,lifestyle and mindset play a big part in it and not trying to fight it.Jody Foster has aged beautifully and it’s because she embraced it. As for men not aging as much as women do ..have a look at Ralph Fiennes .He use to be pretty handsome and now not so much.
As a fella, I actually think women age better than men for the most part. Women seem happier and are more social than men, and that adds to their youthfulness. Men date younger women because typically the man has accumulated $$ and offers stability, ie they are considered High Value. Congrats on the quick success of your channel!
During the pandemic, a college crush reached out to me. I was in my late 50s (a widow for 10 years) he was 60 (divorced 10 years). Since college he had gained QUITE a bit of weight and lost all his hair, but HE was the guy I remembered from college; His humor, his fun spirit and I had a blast with him for a couple of weeks...then he started to ask me to dye my hair (I had a lot of pepper with some salt), he wanted me to start tanning, he bought me clothes that I was not comfortable wearing, and he discouraged ambitious travel plans that I had for myself. Nuh huh, that just wasn't going to work and I realized, fun in college didn't translate to compatibility as a mature woman.
I love your point of view, as a 43-year-old man in the middle stages of divorce. Your discussion topics are informed, entertaining, and thoughtful. I'm divorcing in order to improve my health and increase my chances to live a happy life.
Hi I just found your channel Thank you for making a channel for people our age. I am 61 I get told I look in my 40s and attract much younger men they are not much better. I am very happy alone. Please continue making videos. 😊
I've always felt comfortable with someone closer to my age. My relationships have always been within five years of mine. My wife was 5 years older than me which was never an issue, we were together 26 years until she passed in 2020. Being closer in age, we can empathize with one another when health issues arise plus are more aligned energy wise and been through many of life's experiences.
Holly, its so cool…you putting yourself out there with your channel. Your laugh/giggle is endearing. You are a sweet soul…who deserves and will be loved properly. Keep at the Universal Laws of Attraction, Assumption, Deliberate Creation, and Allowing
First of all, I am a woman. I'm 48. I think men overestimate themselves a lot and that's because of relationships with their mothers. This is the first relationship with a woman! Mothers tend to “idolize” and overprovide for their sons, they spoil their sons! What is missing is the father, who intervenes CORRECTLY and turns the child into a man. To confront the son with the reality that he is not as great as he thinks he is, because his mother has convinced him. On the contrary, we have women. Women and their mothers, a relationship based on preparing women for the harsh realities of this world. And our first relationship with a man (father)? It is characterized by absence, unwillingness to engage, lack of understanding and even sexual violence. That's why women underestimate their worth!!! Greetings from germany
You've said a lot of truth here. I've always thought that the reason there is an increase in illicit female /teacher relationships with students is because the woman is desperately looking for some kind of attention that is lacking at home and unfortunately the young male students like to pursue. Even high profile marriages like Tom Brady's marriage -- broke up because he was never home. Just my opinion. I don't know them but that is what it looks like to me. Men have a way of winning you over, getting you in their orbit, and then just abandoning you -- and like you said," unwillingness to engage"
I think the trend is exactly the opposite of what you described. In fact, historically there was much less stigma or taboo about a large age gap between men and women. For most of history, it has been generally assumed that men will (on average) marry a younger woman. It's only a fairly recent "post-feminism" change in our values to consider an age gap to be somewhat taboo.
I’m 44 and noticing men in my age bracket are wanting to date women 10 years or more younger!! But I agree men that are older do look older , but seem deluded and wanting younger women to feed their egos and validate them which is sad
I have been the older guy in a relationship and the younger guy in a relationship.....I have to say both age gaps became a problem. When the first flush of the relationship fades what remains is the years between you and them seems like a chasm.
New sub here. Without writing a novel, I am 67 and I agree with your POV, and that's from personal experience. Yes! Harrison Ford looks old! I like your channel.
I threw the word AGE out of my vocabulary and replaced it with the word Maturity. e.g. you can get an mature 30 year old [male or female] likewise you can get an immature [male or female] . We should be choosing a partner of equal maturity.
Please share more of your experiences and thoughts on growing up with parents who had such a wide age gap. How did you feel about that? How did family and friends feel and respond?over the years too? Was it a loving marriage and family? Did they have or find similar interests? Etc….
My personal experience, men value younger women who feel special because adored by someone apparently older wiser who unconsciously represent “ Safety” This is often an unresolved daddy issue for the younger female. Been there done that
They don't always value us...I married an older man and he has become quite needy and controlling as he ages, presumably because he's insecure about the age difference. Ladies, if a man leads with his money, run don't walk!
I also took, "If a man has been single for a length of time, there is a reason" as a negative. Thank you for your clarification. I'm 58 and have been single for 2 1/2 years and not dated at all. My "reason" is that I am healing from my last relationship and it is taking a while. Additionally, I highly recommend that you visit Sweden. I lived there for seven months in 2009 and it is in contention for the top experience of my life. Enjoying your channel...
I know that she came out and defended that stance and said that reason isn’t always negative, but it usually is. Women choose to be single and it’s usually not for a negative reason. It’s usually because she’s choosing herself and deciding to decentre men from her life. Not because she hates men, but because she realizes she is healthier and happier when she doesn’t wrap her life around one, because women have a tendency to do that. Men on the other hand, have a tendency to expect a woman to wrap their life around him and keep him in the center. I am a nurse. And I work in a seniors home currently. Single men past a certain age do not thrive typically. Are there exceptions? Absolutely. But not many. Single women past a certain age on the other hand tend to be better off than the ones who are married. Lake holly said. Most people tend to marry someone around the same age. Also, most couples over certain age, the dynamic has been that the woman takes care of the man. Maybe he was the breadwinner, maybe he wasn’t, but 90% of the time she was the one doing most of the cooking cleaning and caring for that man. When a man loses that woman in his life, their health and happiness plummets. That is why so many are desperate to remarry or find someone younger to look after them. On the other hand, when a woman has spent her entire life, pouring all of her energy and effort into a man, and then that man dies? All of a sudden she has that energy back for herself. She is going to have the time to take care of herself. To travel. To do whatever the hell she wants for the first time. She can now volunteer and start new hobbies. She always wanted to try that she never had time for before because she was centring the man in her life. . I don’t care if men are pissed off about this fact Because it is a fact. Just because it makes so many men uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s not true.
I want to say that the difference in age is not an issue if there is real love between both of them…I write it from my personal experience( my wife was 14 years older than me…).
Too many men really need to look in the mirror before they comment on a woman's appearance.
Seriously
They're extremely delusional.
I know that's right!!!!
Years ago, I had a very unattractive man with a big pot belly ask me what my measurements were.
I responded "my measurements are.... you don't measure up" 😂 These guys are so delusional.
BINGO!!!
THAANK YOU : ) I'm a single, healthy, active 72 year old Woman. I'm not dating and certainly agree with you about men of your same age. They look way too old and debilitated for me. Many; if not most of the men my age look 15 years older than me; and not a healthy version of the age they look to be. I agree with all that you are saying, here. In our culture women are expected to look like 20 year olds; while men feel that they don't need to put any effort into looking their best and often neglect their grooming and physical fitness. NO THANKS!!
There are many of us who give the effort to be and look our best.
I Agree , for me age is not a factor for attractiveness its mind attitude soul and body fitness that plays a huge part , for myself after a divorce i just plan to carry on solo , meaning I’m single but content and not looking.
@@Diligent-dp7gi BS delusional, but a good defense mechanism for not getting a good man.
I see almost the opposite at my gym. Not all, but a majority of women over 60, waddle instead of walk, have "Bingo Arms", and are way too heavy. Some guys fall into this category, but from what I see...way more women.
You're just speaking the truth that we older women are facing. Better to be alone than with some old dude who doesn't appreciate you for completely superficial reasons . We women are supposed to overlook everything unattractive in a man, and usually do, but I'm not accepting it anymore.
Absolutely 👍🏾
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Well said! You hit the nail on the head about us women being expected to put up with negatives in men and pretend that we're so damn happy.
Glad all the cats will have good homes.
@@RadiusG60 and I’m glad all the elder women will have peace of mind. Don’t come over here starting mess.
I feel like I’m having a cup of coffee with a good friend.
That’s one reason your channel has had success.
Absolutely Correct
I went on a date a while ago, and some of my gray hair was showing and he actually made a comment about that. It doesn’t matter that his picture didn’t show that he was balding significantly.I had too much class to comment about it. You know they just don’t think they age and then he had the audacity to contact me later and asked me if I would like to go out again because outside of the gray hair showing I do not look my age. My skin is pretty much flawless and he did say that.
WTH, no thanks 😂
So you don’t find insults and pointing out your flaws attractive in a man? 😂 Me either!
@EbonyYogaFitness you’re right. If that ever presents itself, I will
@EbonyYogaFitnesshe will just call you another name. Best get up , walk away. Rise above it with your actions.
Double Standard
@@LisaHeather-b2hYep- most men are always down with their sexist, disgusting, double standard!!! It’s so not cool and very unattractive!!!
There is a cute cartoon of a woman walking past a mirror and being hyper critical of their appearance dissecting every flaw, next a man walks buy, big beer belly, balding, totally out of shape and his caption reads "looking good". Its how they see themselves, they all want super models, but they never look in the mirror.
So true. I told my adult son to check out men my age (70) and he’d understand why I don’t date. They’re fat, sloppy, poorly dressed and poorly groomed. Now when my son and I go out together he’ll say things like, “There’s a looker for ya mom!”
@sfc5774 😂
Isn't it great to be a man! No self-loathing.
My girlfriends and I called it “Donald Trump symptom”. The guy is usually disgustingly fat, unattractive, comb-over, looks like he hasn’t showered in a week, but he picks every woman’s looks apart, and feels justified in doing so. The only women they can attract are women who only want them for their money.
@@sfc5774 I went on a cruise with my son, I was a widow and he was almost out of high school. We went on a bus tour and they had you introduce ourselves and where we were from. They all said you GO girl with your cougar self. I said WHAT this is my son....and it never stopped. Folks always assumed I was robbing the cradle. And my son's just laughs at how ignorant folks are.
Saw this channel randomly. Men and women age differently depending on genetics, their careers, the food they eat, sun exposure, alcohol consumption, consistent moderate exercise, life stess, serious diseases, and attitude. What all older people should do is try to smile and avoid the resting frown. Be grateful for your life.
Lots of average people come off as attractive by a friendly attitude and pleasant demeanor.
Very true, agreed on all pts.
Congratulations on the growth of your channel. Your kindness and insights are a refreshing addition to RUclips.
100% 🙂
Wise words.
I once asked a male friend of mine who was in his 70’s why he thought older men want to date younger women and he replied “because they only want to date women they find attractive “. So is it just attractability? And is attractability only about physical appearance?
It is ludicrous because men do not age well. I don’t even want to date men my age.
I don’t want men my age to touch me! Yuck….😅…… I’m 67 been, single 12 years. I’ve yet to meet a man my age that can keep up, doesn’t have several health issues and none have been the least bit interesting. I decided long time ago that I was dating to make other people happy because they were concerned about me being alone, but I am happy alone and I’m gonna stay this way 🙂
@@KathyJo. So sad you can’t attract a good man… That’s a good defense mechanism for you though.
@@KathyJo.….I could have written your post. I' m a 71 year old male that can barely imagine hanging out with a woman my age. I know for sure there are women out there that would excite me, but they,d be few. Generally speaking, I'd need to pick on women in their fifties and sixties, but I very much doubt they'd be able to keep pace. 🍀
@@irishmick6709 I tried dating younger men. We had nothing in common to motivate us to keep it going.
I’m 64 as well. I LOVE that you decided to create this channel and speak to OUR portion of the Baby Boom. I’m not interested in dating women younger than me. AT ALL! I gravitate to those my (our) age. Seems so much more comfortable to have lived the same time of life. I’m in Texas but if I was in western NY I’d love to have dinner with you:)
Why don’t you DM her and see if she is willing to start conversation and what it could led to.😊
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Men have more choices. There are more single women than men. I think it's like 4 women to 1 man. Men keep dating around to pick the best option. Women don't play that game. At least I don't. Men do get older but they think that's okay because there are other single women that won't mind and are looking for companionship. Harrison Ford is old looking . He's in his 80s? I think after mid 70s age becomes more noticeable. Energy is lower and wrinkles increase. Medical problems surface. It's life and it happens to everyone. Men should be happy to find just one good woman who has love in her heart and willing to share in life's journey with them unconditionally.
It's not surprising that your channel is popular. Your topic is geared towards us ubiquitous boomers. You have intelligence, charisma, and looks.
I'm a 65 year old woman. I've been single for 3years now. Im finally becoming comfortable being alone, just being me, even though if it's scary sometimes not having a partner to share the responsibilities of life with.
A few months ago I nought a small home of my own. Now my 78 year old neighbor has majorly taken an intrest in me.... he's very nice. We get along and have had fun even though a 12 year age difference.
My heart is just not into a romantic relationship with him. I work with seniors with dementia, his age....
I don't want to hurt him, but I've fought so hard to just be single and ok with it. Not committed to checking in and being responsible for a man...proving my selfworth and proving that I can be loved and valued.
At 65.... I'm turning the corner.
Congrats on buying your house!
Keep it the way you desire.
So maybe since you like each other and have fun, just enjoy that as much as you can. I have a male friend that I hang out with, go eat out, and watch movies with. I feel like you can never have too many friends.
This happened for me at about 50. I was done. Did great for 20 years. Almost a year ago met a man my age. We are having fun. Enjoying life and each other. Both still holding on to our independence. Time will tell but I think we both feel fine. At 73 now I’m still content.
@Sweetpea-Peanut It sounds like you've got a good situation 👍🏼
When I was 45 I would never have even considered dating a man in his sixties. Never.
That's why you're still single. You never realized your market value tanked.
Exactly 💯❤ never !! 45 is young, 60 is old. Better single than with an old man.
I’ve been married for 30 years.
@@KarinStrong-k4j feel sorry for your husband.
@@wyckofury2198 you are a dirty lousy old man
I have been dating a woman who is 16 years older than me for 12 years. It works for me and I do not look at her as old. Mainly we both like to cook. We both like to dance, and we both like to eat healthy. We have so many other things in common that the age difference does not matter a great deal as we get along fabulously. One of the things that helps is we still have two separate houses.
My partner and I have our own homes too and after 19 years we are still together!
Love it, a TRUE kindred awesome relationship!!!! Good on you
That is the perfect set up!
My dream!
In another country would be perfect 😂😂😂😂
It’s cause you are brave enough to say what we’ve all been thinking all along but are afraid to speak the truth or don’t have a platform on which to do it. Thanks for saying what so many of us are thinking. Bravo! 👏🏻
My mother used to say that a woman carries the weight of a marriage on her face, and if you see a woman who has been married 20, 30 years, that woman has been through something for sure. Of course, these are generalities, but in my years on earth, I find more true than not.
No offense but that seems like an excuse for the natural aging process. Birthing children can physically age women. But to my point, men endure all the same crap in a marriage. Women will often flip things to what “ all men have put them through.”
More men are stripped of what was partly their property along with children far more than women.
And the man carries the weight of the marriage in his wallet.
How many of these life insurance companies ever feature the wife dying without life insurance and the husband is stressing how he was going to bury her?
The holidays are near. How many commercials feature the wife ir girlfriend gifting a man expensive jewelry or car?
In my humble opinion, these older Men lack SELF AWARENESS....the picture of themselves doesn't match REALITY.
So true. My aunt married a man 20 years her senior. They were in love and had a lot of fun.....until he was in his mid-70s and developed health issues. She stuck with him but wasn't 100%. Grandma never said a word but she warned the aunt that at some point things would change and the age difference would matter. At some level she had to resent being stuck with an old man. She stuck with him until the end but I learned a lot by watching them. I would rather be alone than with an old man who wants me because I am younger.
Nurse or a purse
@@d.nakamura9579 Love it. The way I heard it it was. He's looking for a nurse with a purse. Either way it stinks.
Yes, Harrison Ford looks very old. He isn't attractive anymore. It's an insult to pair old leading men with much younger leading ladies (granddaughter young sometimes). There is a double standard towards men and women ageing. I totally agree with everything you are saying.
You're a 64 year old woman who looks in her early 50s who speaks from her perspective... refreshing.
what's the refreshing? looks younger or talks from perspective? could be a double ding on a lot of women
😂 thank you, loving this topic! I did meet my last boyfriend online, we were together 12 years.. after we split i tried online dating again and none of the guys I met looked like their pictures, and looked old to me.. reminded me of my father... I'm very youthful looking for my age, and its difficult to find someone my own age that I'm attracted to... so I 1000% agree with your topic title! Don't let any men bully you on here... you're right, it is your channel and you can express anything you want or feel.. if someone doesn't like it they don't have to watch... duhhhhh!!😅 Be your authentic self, I'm enjoying that!!❤
@@chetfriday7636 older fine women are refreshing
Nah she looks like she’s in her 40s 😮
She’s wearing a ton of makeup and using filters. Stop simping old man
Hi Holly,
I am a 63 year old man. I am educated with multiple college degrees. I have had a career in tech in the US for many decades.
I read a lot every day and - your channel is an example of my desire to learn from others, both men and women, especially their perspective and their life experience. Having just now listened to your video and having read the description of your video, I feel like I have missed out on some things in my life experience. I have never before learned or heard of this “myth’ regarding men not aging. I have never before heard of such a “formula” as you described about the age of women that men should pursue.
I have been married twice in my lifetime. I married my high-school sweetheart. She is one year younger than me. My second wife is 6 months older than me. I do not consider either of them as having aged at any different rate than I have aged. Throughout my lifetime I have seen many men that I thought looked older than they were. More so than with women.
Thanks so much for sharing
Love your channel. Found it today and have binged watched nearly all of your videos.
The controversy is real and should be addressed. Don't change a thing. You're doing a great job. 😊😊
In a lot of cases, older men are producing and directing movies where they pair themselves with younger women, like Woody Allen, Clint Eastwood, etc. They think women still find them attractive and no one tells them otherwise. Cary Grant at a certain age told directors he was too old to be the love interest of younger women.
I think an honest conversation like you are presenting is a hot topic for so many of us over 60. We need more conversations about the subject of aging.
Yes. I agree. Harrison Ford looks old. I'm an 84 year old male and I can assure you I look it. Although I do take good care of myself with regular exercise and a healthy diet, I hardly look like I did in my forties or fifties for that matter. Am I sad. Hardly. I'm enjoying life taking each day as a gift. I feel the best is yet to come.
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I appreciate your positivity. 😊
You sound awesome!
Hi Holly! I stumbled across your channel a few days ago and I love your videos! (the online dating, senior dating video.......giiiirrrlll!!) I came here to say that the phrase "age is just a number!" in any context drives me crazy. Age is experience, opinion,habits,learning,reaction,and so much more. That number defines us, it's up to us to write the definition. I turned 65 this August and I am backing that number up with a lot of fun these days
They say age is just a number so they can date much younger and it’s cool.
I wonder if these gentlemen realize that a younger woman does not usually WANT an older man. Unless, of course, there is some financial initiative.
I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years and you are accurate about this phenomenon of older men marrying younger women when they are able to do so. I mostly saw this among high income men where I thought the woman at the bedside was his daughter but it was actually his wife. And you are correct. It's all well and good when the man is doing well health wise but things start to change when his health deteriorates. I feel like it's likely your Father's work schedule (working all day followed by working on his own home at night) contributed to his heart attack. But of course, this is just my opinion.
If a man is wealthy, he can buy youth
He has someone to take care of him! When he’s older? Self esteem dating or marry younger.
Also look at the increases in autism the past two decades. Israeli and UC Davis studies both reported men in their fifties are EIGHT times likely to father an autistic child than men in their twenties! Yet no surgeon general warnings are currently informing couples that sperm heads flatten with age! Why are autism rates higher in larger cities? That’s where middle age and older men work and socialize. And the younger mothers who marry older men have been told their biological clocks for child bearing end in their forties! Newsflash it also ends for males too! And guess who are the ones left caring for special needs children? Usually the mothers!
NEWS FLASH -
A younger person pursues an older person for romance for one of three reasons:
1. The older person is wealthy and willing to spend money.
2. The younger person needs citizenship
3. The younger person is not considered “desirable” by their fellow younger people, so they’ll “settle” for an older person because the older person is giving them romantic attention.
The May-December romance based on love is rare. It happens, but it’s rare because the age difference begins to matter eventually.
This goes for men AND women since we’re seeing more and more financially successful women who are now “playing like the boys” and chasing after young studs (Cher, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, Kathy Griffin). Let’s put it this way - if the late Hugh Hefner and Leonardo DiCaprio were average joes who only made $5000/month GROSS PAY, those hot young women wouldn’t have given him the time of day.
Listen to the young ladies talk - they will openly say that “they don’t want to deal with a wrinkly old man unless he can give them sugar (💵)”.
Actually, there is a 4th reason:
The younger person have some kind of emotional trauma from childhood and is in great need of a father/mother figure.
Wrinklely old men just want an easy to control young woman one who has no opinions or boundaries.
A 5th reason: intelligence. I am somewhat smart. A conversation that falls flat is red flag. Hours and hours of this mismatch is awful.
Men are interesse in youth AND beauty... women in power and money... they know that the old husband will die leaving them settled...
@@francescachecchin6191. Maybe. Money does solve issues. When the man ages he can afford a nice place with assisted living or more. If he is really wealthy he could buy her a life insurance policy, make her the owner of that policy and that will be what he leaves her. No she does not give her any of his estate, that goes to his children.
Also, when I was younger I had a couple boyfriends 20 plus years older than me. I was attracted to them because they were mature, could carry on interesting conversations and they liked me but then they were kind of controlling and thought because they were older they knew better. Such as it is, I think sometimes you date who you date to learn life lessons. As far as looks go, it's a multi billion dollar industry to keep women "ageless", which is superficial and puts most of the responsibility on women.
Hello Karlee i'm a 42 year old from Ohio single
@@ericfreshcorn3590 Not enough information about yourself... If you worded it in a humorous way, women would find you interesting.
@@sweetvictory5643 his profile picture is worth 1000 words. Babes will be coming out of the forest in pursuit of him, lol.
My husband, who died last year, was 33 years older than me. When we met he was in his early 50is and very fit and younger looking. As long as it was like that, I never saw him as an old man. But in his early 70 is his health started slowly to decline from year to year and I couldn't help but see his age. In his late 70is, he developed a serious kidney problematic and from that moment on, he was an old, very ill man who needed more and more help, horribly for him and for me. I got the feeling that I was old too...living constantly with and old, sick person. My husband was a good man and I was with him till the end. But from the moment on when he started clearly to age our relationship suffered because we simply weren't a real fit anymore. I was too young and healthy for him. I needed more. And he was frustrated, living with a younger person and not be able to keep up anymore. So yes, age gape relationships can be wonderful and fulfilling but it can become very difficult when the man gets really old and you have less and less in common.
Thank you so much for sharing your story
We age! Believe me, I look in the mirror everyday. It's funny how no matter what we do, we alway start looking like our parents.
@Paul D: you’re aging well though. Quite handsome still :)
Don't worry. You are good looking.
@ Thank you, Maria
AND sounding like them! 🤣
Not such a bad thing to look 👀 like my Dad. He was a cute guy right up until he passed away. And I am a splitting image of him. He was 90.
Hi Holly,
I'm so happy to your channel popped up in my youtube feed! I love it! I'm 70 and single for 9 years. Your topics are things I've been thinking about and that's why I find your channel so interesting. The Myth That Men Don't Age, was entertaining to me 😅.
I’ll be 60 in 30 years, I absolutely LOVE your channel. You give such interesting insight and maybe even predictions of what’s to come if I’m single in my elder years ❤ thank you!
Thank you for having these conversations...❤
It is refreshing that someone finaly questions "these myths"
I agree wholeheartedly! Unfortunately, men are quite delusional with regard to their looks and abilities at 60 vs say 30 years ago. As a 66 year old black male I never quite want to admit that I'm old, that I can't do the same things, attract the same women I could 30 years ago. Unfortunately, as my dad would say "time is a cruel taskmaster." When I was younger women might look interestingly at me, say hello and smile. Now, even a woman a few years younger than myself will "hello sir" i.e. the delineate, maybe smile quickly but sternly and hurry on her way. Most men are seriously bs'ing themselves in this regard. While there are age gap relationships that work it's the exception not the rule. Personally, I've always seen it as selfish.
At 66 were I to seriously be in a relationship with someone 36, 46 even 56 would be to slow down and quite possibly alter their life's trajectory considerably. All in the interest of showing off or trying to prove I've still got it.
Thank you for sharing your insights, very interesting for sure
@@acoolcrush2155 This is very accurate. You’re one of the few who is aware of this dynamic.
I'm about to turn 68 in a couple weeks with almost 40 years married and 42 living together. I've always been attracted to mature women. In my twenties I found women in their forties more desirable. My wife and I always said we wanted to grow old together. We just never expected it would occur so quickly. She is only a year younger than me so we're dealing with those senior health issues together. I might date if she leaves me first but I've no desire to be with a younger gal. We still have an active sex life at 2-3 times a week. It would be weird having a new partner at this stage of the game.
You Sir are living the good life. I was in a relationship for 20 years and had sex on average on every month. I'm 47 now
@@michaelboulware1240 Once every month? Means she was seeing someone else.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 5.10', 170lbs, and decided to stay single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. It's only about hookups. No thank you. It's not about relationships anymore. Women today have zero family values. Women seem not to look or smile anymore. They are all down on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No woman seems to talk face to face anymore which is a turn off. Today 80% of the women are nothing but pure garbage. That's why I've given up on women.
I'm 63 now when I told my girl friends at 50 boyfriend slowed down on sex to 4 or 3 times a week they said " what are you guys rabbits". twice a month was enough for them. I see them now and health wise they are not doing well. Hmmm wonder why?
@@Billy-bc8pk. Don’t believe that.
Congrats on your channel. You have over 100 comments in 3 hours.
Online dating is a hot topic because I think it's gotten so bad that many of us aren't doing it anymore and now in a "reset and reflect " mode.
I just turned 50. And low and behold we age too. I felt a resurgence in my 40s and wonder if i was going to notice getting older haha.
Anyway these conversations are good for us to share experiences , some laughs and also it helps me identify some things I need to tweak before I try dating again.
Everyone ages. Everyone is also unique with timing and where they are at.
Here's my secret to all of this. It's like being a surfer waiting on the wave. Everything vibrates everything moves there's rythmn to everything . You need to be mentally and physically ready for the surf board work on that first.
Then pay attention to the waves. If a good one passes you by...just chill don't chase there will be another. Be better at knowing if it's a small wave pass it by. When good wave appears ride it decisively. Don't worry how old the wave is and don't worry about the outcome.
At the current moment working on my vibration and losing a good 25lbs first. The focus is on me.
Back to on point I don't see woman as aging different . What I DO NOTICE is the energy from most is that of exhaustion they don't have light in their eyes and they need to take a break. Takes one to know one !
The online dating became a pool of fake waves. Get back to the ocean.
@@Stumben2 l like your comment. Very insightful. I agree that several people have lost that twinkle in their eyes. It’s sad to see. It’s like something has poisoned our souls and we don’t know how to get rid of that poison. Is it social media? Too much politics? Too much division? Too many YT channels that pin us against each other? Too much online dating? Who knows! But something has definitely changed and not for the better.
@@marinab.8590 Yeah can't quite put my finger on what it is. The magic in the air is gone. I would say it is age if I did not see SO many young people saying the SAME thing......
I so relate to the exhaustion. I’m 50, been a single parent working full time most part of my life, even when married I felt single. It all takes a toll on our bodies but you don’t see it when your young but it catches up, when kids grow up they tell you how they saw things when they were young and some of it hurts, you think you were doing your best, my point is, we take a lot of bashing.
@saharamir930 absolutely. I sympathize with single moms. I've tried to date a few and while it's by no means all encompassing what I experienced is....
They basically needed a short term outlet. Fun for a bit but their lives are too chaotic they get tired fast understandably . They Bow out . Or there's this thing that if you aren't also a single father something doesn't mesh.
They repeat this cycle over and over ( so do us mem ) and it wears us all down.
On the plus side I remained friends with a couple and as long as you do not feel "orbit friend zone" it's a positive
On the contrary, my mother, who was full of wisdom, cautioned me not to get involved with older men because men do fall apart faster than women. It’s true, they do. They have shorter lifespans, too. And some men are looking for a nurse as they get older. Be careful, ladies.
YES and the only woman who are into older men are gold diggers. They are just waiting for them to kick the bucket so they can get that payout and then find themselves and younger hot man.
I know many men taking care of old sickly wives. The wives suffered heart attacks, strokes and many have dementia. Sometimes the wives aren't even that old, for example one of the wives is in a nursing home due to dementia and she is 62. On average women live about 5 years longer but many times those years are not quality years due to health issues.
In my not so expert opinion, both men and women age badly. Many will die before retirement or reach retirement only to deal with acute health issues.
@@edm-london1660 eeeeyeeeewww. I don’t know what planet you live on but i can assure you, women do mind being with an old man. In centuries far before this one and in some developing countries, women have no means to support themselves without a man. But here in the West, not the problem. As such, we don’t need men for their money. Means we are free to choose someone we actually like and not just tolerate some old man because we need the financial support.
@@edm-london1660 are you seriously going to believe that men are in their prime at 45-55? That is such ridiculous denial! They are in their prime of ED and bald heads at that age that is about it.
@@edm-london1660 Absolute nonsense. Men are in their prime years between 35-45. After 45, most men are suffering from numerous medical issues. Stop trying to glorify middle aged men. Accept the fact that men need to stop even THINKING about procreating after 50 years old. At 50 years old, men should be thinking about paying for their child's wedding, college expenses, and your own retirement plans.
Well done!!! And yes this is why your channel is blowing it away! I love it keep up the good work!!!! 👍
Why should a woman give up her freedom to, ultimately, take care of an overweight, bald, convinced of himself, getting slower by the day, man. For me, that’s a waste of my precious time. Life is to short.
Totally agree!!
And don’t forget: impotent!!!
Well any old age relationship, stay single. If I lost my wife I’d like a woman friend but no marriage. So later if I need care she does not have to provide care. That is what in my opinion should be! No marriage or living together.
Amen! I’m physically fit, exercise, eat a healthy diet, etc. I want a man that takes care of himself because I do.
@@tmee3708 Totally! No fat 🐥!!!
From what I have seen, I have found many more women these days taking care of themselves, and so-called aging is different than it was in the past. This is not directed at the men who are taking care of themselves, but please know you're the exception in my experience. Bravo to all the ladies for not settling these days, for becoming basically a full time mother or nurse figure so they can think it's okay to actually feel this entitled. Go Holly!
I never bothered with worrying about aging, I’m okay with that, it’s worrying about getting fat that’s always been my thing. Maybe it’s because I can’t control aging but I can control my weight.
That's the way to think about it for sure. I'm actually getting physically and mentally healthier as I age, guess it will turn around at some point but that's not yet.
@@Tim_G_Bennett there’s a RUclips channel called legacy (add a (.) and then a (com) to the end of that name) that I’ve watched for several years.
A couple of years ago I started paying closer attention to celebrities that lived up to the age of 95 to 104. I wondered why are some living long lives while others don’t even come close?
Somewhere around 2 years of watching the one thing I noticed was those that lived long lives were not athletes. In fact, it’s rare for athletes to live up to 85. However, those that lived to say 100 didn’t workout at all anywhere in their lives. They may have walked and/or did outside activities that they enjoyed (like tennis, swimming, hiking) that did gave them some exercise but they didn’t stress their bodies with daily vigorous workouts.
What I learned was to enjoy my workouts and don’t stress tying to regain my youth. Ironically, I may live longer.
@@Tim_G_Bennett there’s a RUclips channel called legacy that I’ve watched for several years.
A couple of years ago I started paying closer attention to celebrities that lived up to the age of 95 to 104. I wondered why are some living long lives while others don’t even come close?
Somewhere around 2 years of watching the one thing I noticed was those that lived long lives were not athletes. In fact, it’s rare for athletes to live up to 85. However, those that lived to say 100 didn’t workout at all anywhere in their lives. They may have walked and/or did outside activities that they enjoyed (like tennis, swimming, hiking) that did gave them some exercise but they didn’t stress their bodies with daily vigorous workouts.
What I learned was to enjoy my workouts and don’t stress tying to regain my youth. Ironically, I may live longer.
@@10speed4 they eat something similar to the keto or carnovore diet. Or a heavy meat based diet.
@@fearless6947 I’m sure some did but those like Betty White, William Shatner, Mel Brooks, George Burns, and Bob Hope probably were not vegetarian. I’d bet there’s more that didn’t follow a diet plan than those that did. Odds are they all ate healthier foods because of the era they grew up in. Nonetheless, it didn’t change athletes of that era leaving us waaay before the none athletic celebrities.
I really like your channel! I’m 55 and going through the same issues. I feel 35 and I hate being labeled as “old”. I love your outlook!
Honest opinion and truth! I'm really sick of all the differences that has been put on women in comparison to men. Somebody sure needs to speak the truth. Maybe a few will wake up.Thank you.
Hi, I was lucky enough to stumble on your RUclips channel. I'm a retired, widow of 58 year old who is going through a lot of what you talk about and can definitely relate. Please keep the videos coming.
Ps: You are still extremely attractive.
My experience is that women actually age better than men and take better care of themselves. Obviously, this is not all-inclusive, but it has definitely been my experience. I have internet dated on and off for years and am always surprised at how many men over 60 are not aging well and do not appear to take very good care of themselves.
It's a tossup.
My ex-husband was only 5 years older than me and everyone thought he was my dad.
@@AmandaAmanda-sh8lx Omg yrs ago - I had my older Dau 14 pushing the Pram with my yngr one 2 yo we all have red hair Gingers and the shop assistant asked if my partner would like something - of course that set her off big time. Time have changed everyone ages some more ethan others, Mr death escorts all in the end - being in the dry sun all day can make a big difference later in life, I was like broken record with the girls, Hat, sunscreen stayout of direct sunlight - like girls are ever going to listen.
@@AmandaAmanda-sh8lxHe looks alot better now tho. He just wanted to die when he was with you.
@@michellem8284 You need to look at the 60yo women on dating sites.
It is your channel!
I am happy to be here. I enjoy listening to your perspective because I am exactly your age and face these same issues as you do.
Thank you for your honesty.
You are awesome! I dated online for 13 years and had the same experiences as you! It is outrageous the inequality! I put in my profile after many bad dates… “If you can’t beat me in a foot race don’t contact me” 😂 I did eventually meet my husband. I was 62, he was 65. It took me a whole lifetime almost before I found my matching bookend. We are 7 years in and we are like newlyweds!It’s possible but you’re so right about the circus and BS we as women must deal with! Good luck! I’ll be watching!❤
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Well women need to be selective. There are lots of older men that are a bore. At 82 I completely redid a front deck. People in the neighborhood could not believe. Thankful to God I could still do.
My husband and I were introduced by family/friends when I was 66 and he had just turned 70. He didn’t look or act his age, very fit, handsome and with a full head of silver hair. Swoon! I am also told I do not look my age. We met for a coffee date, safe for both of us, and by the end of that time, he asked if he could take me to dinner two nights later. Maybe crazy, but at two weeks from the day we met, we committed to each other, were married nine months later, as soon as my divorce was final (that is a whole other story) and have been beyond blessed and happy for almost seven years. We are madly in love, enjoy many activities, some solo, some together. I pray that we can continue to enjoy our delightful marriage for many years to come. And yes, the sex is good!☺️
I love to hear stories like that 😊
Glad for you!
women outlive men by about 10 yrs,, we all age, some do well and others don't, I'm SWM 68, and feel aging issues daily, low back pain, ED, arthritis, wrinkles etc. it's life and I'm grateful to be alive after beating colon cancer stage 3
Congratulations on beating cancer!
@@BecomingMe64 it was close, my doctor found pre-cancer, ignored it, then 5 months later it was stage 3, tumor was one inch wide and four inches long, never felt it, another month or two I would have been stage 4 and gone
@@BecomingMe64 thx, I still can't believe I went through it
Oh my gosh! I could write a book on the attitudes of men about their own aging and what they expect from a woman!
I have said to a few of them, " have you looked in the mirror before you left the house?" Honestly!
Thanks again for your channel!
Aging like George Clooney is the the exception, not the norm. Most will age like George Costanza.
@@youtubeKathy😂
Agree with you. A serious bout with cancer or a stroke or the death of a spouse will age you seemingly overnight. Seen that happen to several family friends and CAS competitors.
I'm a single male about to turn 60, and I can say in all honesty that my entire life I've been attracted to older women! As a teenager, my 40-something next door neighbor drove me wild (and some of my high school teachers). Throughout my adult years I've always felt that women reach their peak of desirability in their 50's, and many, like you, remain extremely attractive well into their 60's and even 70's. When I think of dating again, I wouldn't want to date a woman more than 5 years younger than I am. I'd just want someone who sees the world in much the same way as I do, grew up in the same era, has mostly the same values and attitudes that I do. I think that's important in a companion to grow old with. Physical attractiveness declines for all of us, men and women, as we age, and it also becomes less important (I think) as other things become more important. And yes, Harrison Ford is handsome for his age but he definitely is looking old.
Geez this is me to a T, haha. People think that attraction to older women is a thing that young men grow out of, or that it's more of 'a phase'. It may be for some, but I'd bet the majority of men who have that preference set when young will always be like that.
I sometimes wonder if it also changes with time in the way that if when we age, and reach the age of older women we liked when we were younger, we"ll tend to lose interest in women in that age range, maybe lean towards women even older, or just plain stop being that attracted to older women. I'm in my late thirties and noticing I may be starting to see women around my age more attractive than what I did when we were younger. I've met some that definitely have given me the attractive mature woman vibes I've always got from older women. But I still find older more attractive. Mind my age range of preference have always been very broad (broad among older, kind of starting at around 15+ years older). I, just as you, feel women reach their peak at the late 50's-early 60's range, and have felt like that since at least my late teens.
Glad you got monetized ❤. So far, love your content.
When I go to the gym there are a lot of men over 50+.
Once in a while you may see an older woman working out which is great.
The key to looking good when you're older is to take care of yourself when you're younger.
Exactly. Thank you for that comment.
My parents both go to the gym. He's 83 and she's 81, but you'd never think they were that old by looking at them. I work at a very physical job where I'm on my feet all day, so working is my "gym."
After reading the comments, I get the impression that you have a lot of male followers. As a 71 year-old woman, I am wondering whether it's the topic matter that attracts them or if it's your looks! I just find it refreshing to listen to a confident, thoughtful woman address subjects that are interesting to me. Best of luck with your channel!
It's her looks...NO doubt. 🫤
I’m a man. I don’t follow this channel, I just happened to click on it after reading the title. I can’t tell what she looks like very well because the digitizer/screen is going out on my tablet and that makes it difficult to see what’s going on.
I'm a dude. It's her looks (though I think she's using a slight video filter), but her vibe is good too.
RUclips recommended me this channel, but I certainly didn't seek it out nor the subject matter specifically. This is one of those cases where people in a certain age bracket are being fed these videos based on certain topical interests.
It's because the male commenters are reporting and getting the comments from women taken down because their fragile selves can't handle it. The women let their comments stay. My comments are being erased for speaking truth.
You're spot on! I would not date again, because men my age look like old people, even when they don't act it. Plus, I have no ambition to become a nurse in my older years.
Your videos are really interesting. Men and women get old some look good some don’t, women use makeup and men don’t it’s the luck of the draw in the end. I am 62 year old man going bald with grey hair I’m pretty fit as I do a manual job inside I feel a lot younger but look in the mirror and have a reality check. Just make the most of what years you have left because life is short. Best wishes from the UK 🇬🇧
Wow! I totally agree. No one is talking about this . Its so refreshing to hear someone talk about it. Thank you!
I’m 61 and also think mindsets and relationships are so weird these days! I gave online dating up several years ago (for the very same reasons you did). I haven’t dated anyone in almost a year. I crave intimacy, not sex. My ex husband had Narcissistic Personality Disorder (checking every box on the spectrum). There is no such thing as intimacy with these creatures. Every day with them is a day of cruel and unusual punishment. I would love companionship, but not at any cost!
Thank you so much for sharing and I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
I could’ve written this! Except I’m 71 🤣
I suspect that many married women have had bad marriages. That sets the tone for the future.
Thank You for your insight on this Topic, Clear, Concise, and entertaining.
Congratulations on your channel’s Monetization.
Let’s be honest… it’s only older men with extreme wealth that attract much younger women. Young women aren’t dating men on a fixed income…
You found your audience quickly, and it’s clear that many of us agree with you! The dating video is gold! I tried dating apps and the service ‘It’s just lunch.’ Disaster!The men lied about who they were, education and had no self awareness! Agree Harrison looks old and he should, he is 80. His wife is 60 but also has her own successful career! They must have real balance. He is healthy and she is a strong, independent woman. Psychologically men seem to be ego centric - think they seem younger if they are with a younger woman. My mom married a man 13 years older - it was a disaster! Women need to be successfully independent earlier and hear from older women the reality of relationships and having kids. Men are driven by testosterone and it isn’t easy for them when they age….but that doesn’t mean women should have to manage that. Glad I found your voice!
Genuine beauty in a woman comes from deep inside them and shows on the outside.
so glad you are addressing this topic - men and their perceived sense of virility ❤ thankyou.
Hi, YES Harrison Ford looks old! lol My husband and I have been married 10 years and are in our early sixties- he has never been interested in younger women-I am very blessed! great channel! 🙂
Yes! Harrison Ford looks very old!
I dated a man who was 14 years older than me, did not lived with him and I thanked God for it. He was a man-child, lol. He did not like my independence, tried to control my decisions, he wanted him to be my priority while he did not made me as his priority, yeah really one sided. Looking back now and I blamed myself from putting up with that. I can't be stewing in the past so I can truly say that I am happier now single and saying no to dating.
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
When I retired my wife who is six years younger wasn't ready to retire, somewhat problematic, and I realized that if I had a wife who was 20 years younger it would become a real problem. A woman that young wouldn't be able to retire being way to young for Medicare and Social Security and there is no way that we could guarantee that our retirement savings would be able to hold up for 46 years.
Why is she working if she is married to you? Makes zero sense to me.
@@jessicahitchens6926Because men are poor or greedy or both.
I am not interested in dating one single bit. I was married to a remarkable man. No one could possibly do anything to top who he was. I’ve had the best. Besides, I think I’m getting used to being alone and it’s beginning to feel kinda nice.
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67 year old guy here living in reality. I enjoy your honesty and critical thinking so I subscribed. The comments are good as well. Don't let the negative live in your head rent free. What's your favorite tea?
I am 66, single and happy living alone; full of the zest for life and have many supportive friends and family. Living my dream in my senior years! I absolutely LOVE your channel and I know it will go extremely well as it relates to many of us baby boomer folks who can relate to all you share.
Men age. They get fat, they get tired, lose hair, etc. The only difference is women's skin is thinner thus we wrinkle easier?
😂 no Man age by giving in to comfort... check a 65 and up men who do workout regularly with good whole food .. women age like milk no matter what they do ..a healthy 80 year old man still can make children but not with a 80 year old woman 😂
It's poor logic to compare a male's bodily function to impregnate someone with a woman's thinning skin and "waning looks" according to our culture's beauty standards. All genders age physically on the surface and inside. If you look 50 and your 63, great! It's a fact tho that your bones and joints are still 63 years old. My sense is that you are saying the value of a male's "working" tool supercedes all other factors, like sperm aren't as vital as men age, there aren't as many, companionship, friendship, sense of humor, finances, wisdom, kindness, ... That's my read.
Older men also get ED.
No the difference is women lose vital Estradiol and Progesterone. Literally overnight. The whole bio chemistry changes and goes into decline.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Yes, I understand this is a physical and biological fact of the aging process. I guess I’m one of the lucky ones because I’ve never done any hormone therapy and my drive is still strong.
Males and females...we ALL age. Variables include diet, exercise, genetics, habits (both good & bad) and let's not forget about stress! One thing i have always believed in is that no matter how good looking you are on the outside, if the inside is ugly, you are ugly!
Very interesting, good comment sense and highly intellectual conversation. Good work.
I appreciated your honesty. I am older than you by 12 yrs and a man. On line dating is scary so I have not tried. I do think about my dog--and I am too quiet to do more than go to work and return to home.
In my 20’s i met a man 12 years my senior. I left him when i was 36 because everything about his behavior, interests, habits made him seem to me like an old man. He was very fit, into his appearance and not at all old looking - but his entire frame of reference was different from my own. We had nothing in common. And I’d never ever do that again. To your point, this age difference would cause far greater differences as we age.
sounds more like maturity discrepancy than age
Different generations think differently
@@NoPrivateProperty He was middle aged while i was still young. By the time i was middle aged he’d be old. I was never going to catch up with him. And that reality, of a generational difference, wasn’t going to improve with age it was going to surface more problems. I definitely have no regrets.
12 years is no age gap.. That’s same generation..
Wait until you turn 50. You will beg for a man 12 years your senior. Karma.
💯 true .The myth that men age like fine wine and only women age , is such a load of bs.Genetics,lifestyle and mindset play a big part in it and not trying to fight it.Jody Foster has aged beautifully and it’s because she embraced it. As for men not aging as much as women do ..have a look at Ralph Fiennes .He use to be pretty handsome and now not so much.
As a fella, I actually think women age better than men for the most part. Women seem happier and are more social than men, and that adds to their youthfulness. Men date younger women because typically the man has accumulated $$ and offers stability, ie they are considered High Value.
Congrats on the quick success of your channel!
Hey fella, you're never getting a date with this woman so cut the a** kissing.
Yeah they’re happier because they got all the shit after 20 years of marriage.
And women date men for money not the other way around.
Poor men trying dating younger women too.
It’s a business deal. Money for sex plus she has to add in time her lost youth… all to be a nurse in the end.
During the pandemic, a college crush reached out to me. I was in my late 50s (a widow for 10 years) he was 60 (divorced 10 years). Since college he had gained QUITE a bit of weight and lost all his hair, but HE was the guy I remembered from college; His humor, his fun spirit and I had a blast with him for a couple of weeks...then he started to ask me to dye my hair (I had a lot of pepper with some salt), he wanted me to start tanning, he bought me clothes that I was not comfortable wearing, and he discouraged ambitious travel plans that I had for myself. Nuh huh, that just wasn't going to work and I realized, fun in college didn't translate to compatibility as a mature woman.
I love your point of view, as a 43-year-old man in the middle stages of divorce. Your discussion topics are informed, entertaining, and thoughtful. I'm divorcing in order to improve my health and increase my chances to live a happy life.
Good for you on the monetization! I like your style and as a 57 year old who is back in the dating world, I enjoy the few shows I’ve seen! Thank you 🙏
I never heard men don't age. I'm getting old and aging fast. But I embrace it and I really don't care !
I think she means that men don't think that they age. The are a little delusional, a lot of them.
Hi I just found your channel Thank you for making a channel for people our age. I am 61 I get told I look in my 40s and attract much younger men they are not much better. I am very happy alone. Please continue making videos. 😊
I've always felt comfortable with someone closer to my age. My relationships have always been within five years of mine. My wife was 5 years older than me which was never an issue, we were together 26 years until she passed in 2020. Being closer in age, we can empathize with one another when health issues arise plus are more aligned energy wise and been through many of life's experiences.
Most men do not date older women. 98% of the time it’s the other way around.
Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry for your loss
Holly, its so cool…you putting yourself out there with your channel. Your laugh/giggle is endearing. You are a sweet soul…who deserves and will be loved properly. Keep at the Universal Laws of Attraction, Assumption, Deliberate Creation, and Allowing
First of all, I am a woman. I'm 48. I think men overestimate themselves a lot and that's because of relationships with their mothers. This is the first relationship with a woman! Mothers tend to “idolize” and overprovide for their sons, they spoil their sons! What is missing is the father, who intervenes CORRECTLY and turns the child into a man. To confront the son with the reality that he is not as great as he thinks he is, because his mother has convinced him.
On the contrary, we have women. Women and their mothers, a relationship based on preparing women for the harsh realities of this world. And our first relationship with a man (father)? It is characterized by absence, unwillingness to engage, lack of understanding and even sexual violence. That's why women underestimate their worth!!! Greetings from germany
Very accurate, that's why women are waking up and birth rate are dropping down
That’s why mothers many times interfere with their son’s choice of the woman the son brings home.
You've said a lot of truth here. I've always thought that the reason there is an increase in illicit female /teacher relationships with students is because the woman is desperately looking for some kind of attention that is lacking at home and unfortunately the young male students like to pursue. Even high profile marriages like Tom Brady's marriage -- broke up because he was never home. Just my opinion. I don't know them but that is what it looks like to me. Men have a way of winning you over, getting you in their orbit, and then just abandoning you -- and like you said," unwillingness to engage"
I'm a 65 y.o. man Holly and I look, feel and know it in my heart and head. I wouldn't change it either. Great video.
I think the trend is exactly the opposite of what you described. In fact, historically there was much less stigma or taboo about a large age gap between men and women. For most of history, it has been generally assumed that men will (on average) marry a younger woman. It's only a fairly recent "post-feminism" change in our values to consider an age gap to be somewhat taboo.
Love this honest dialogue! Thank you!!❤
You are my new fav RUclipsr! I absolutely love your take on gender, relationships and aging - so refreshing!
thank you so much!
I’m 44 and noticing men in my age bracket are wanting to date women 10 years or more younger!! But I agree men that are older do look older , but seem deluded and wanting younger women to feed their egos and validate them which is sad
It is not feeding their ego. Women over 50 are difficult to deal with in the dating area.
Only a beta would say that.
Its called biology. We are attracted to younger women.
@EbonyYogaFitness whatever. We're attracted to 20-30. Anything else is a compromise.
@EbonyYogaFitness not old, but past the prime years. Sorry but thats just how it goes. Women bloom, then they fade (biologically).
I watched 3 of your videos , I find them genuine , interesting and captivating. Thank you|.
I have been the older guy in a relationship and the younger guy in a relationship.....I have to say both age gaps became a problem. When the first flush of the relationship fades what remains is the years between you and them seems like a chasm.
As a man in my 60s I applaud your channel. Your opinions are very valid and your topics are excellent.
I'm 60. Where are the women like you? Gorgeous. Love the hair
Very few look like her. And to be fair, most Men don’t look that good at 65. A lotta Bald and Beer Bellies.
New sub here. Without writing a novel, I am 67 and I agree with your POV, and that's from personal experience. Yes! Harrison Ford looks old!
I like your channel.
I threw the word AGE out of my vocabulary and replaced it with the word Maturity. e.g. you can get an mature 30 year old [male or female] likewise you can get an immature [male or female] . We should be choosing a partner of equal maturity.
Sounds good, thats probably why i did not find anyone after 40.
Please share more of your experiences and thoughts on growing up with parents who had such a wide age gap. How did you feel about that? How did family and friends feel and respond?over the years too? Was it a loving marriage and family? Did they have or find similar interests? Etc….
My personal experience, men value younger women who feel special because adored by someone apparently older wiser who unconsciously represent “ Safety” This is often an unresolved daddy issue for the younger female.
Been there done that
They don't always value us...I married an older man and he has become quite needy and controlling as he ages, presumably because he's insecure about the age difference. Ladies, if a man leads with his money, run don't walk!
I also took, "If a man has been single for a length of time, there is a reason" as a negative. Thank you for your clarification. I'm 58 and have been single for 2 1/2 years and not dated at all. My "reason" is that I am healing from my last relationship and it is taking a while.
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Enjoying your channel...
Definitely thinking about Sweden, thank you!
I know that she came out and defended that stance and said that reason isn’t always negative, but it usually is. Women choose to be single and it’s usually not for a negative reason. It’s usually because she’s choosing herself and deciding to decentre men from her life. Not because she hates men, but because she realizes she is healthier and happier when she doesn’t wrap her life around one, because women have a tendency to do that. Men on the other hand, have a tendency to expect a woman to wrap their life around him and keep him in the center. I am a nurse. And I work in a seniors home currently. Single men past a certain age do not thrive typically. Are there exceptions? Absolutely. But not many. Single women past a certain age on the other hand tend to be better off than the ones who are married.
Lake holly said. Most people tend to marry someone around the same age. Also, most couples over certain age, the dynamic has been that the woman takes care of the man. Maybe he was the breadwinner, maybe he wasn’t, but 90% of the time she was the one doing most of the cooking cleaning and caring for that man. When a man loses that woman in his life, their health and happiness plummets. That is why so many are desperate to remarry or find someone younger to look after them.
On the other hand, when a woman has spent her entire life, pouring all of her energy and effort into a man, and then that man dies? All of a sudden she has that energy back for herself. She is going to have the time to take care of herself. To travel. To do whatever the hell she wants for the first time. She can now volunteer and start new hobbies. She always wanted to try that she never had time for before because she was centring the man in her life. .
I don’t care if men are pissed off about this fact Because it is a fact. Just because it makes so many men uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s not true.
@@joygernautm6641 Thanks for the support and understanding.
I want to say that the difference in age is not an issue if there is real love between both of them…I write it from my personal experience( my wife was 14 years older than me…).
Yes but most of the time women look after themselves they don't expect men to be a nurse.