For me at well over 60 it’s absolutely necessary to keep a routine, eat well & keep slim, enjoy fashion & have a good hair style! I would never share my space with a man again, nothing but stress. Long live the independent woman. Best wishes from Europe!
It Happens before 60. If you are single, your couple friends don’t include you. Work, pay bills, take out the trash, shower, repeat. Friends don’t want to spend money, they have to babysit grandkids, excuse after excuse. I have started going to music concerts by myself. It’s something to look forward to. P.S. Dogs are a lifesaver.
@@SvennTveskagg you missed the "work" part. Co sold and looking at likely layoff. You are correct about everything costing money. Trying to save it for what likely lies ahead. No turkey day with relatives this year - nobody has done that in my family since pandemic.
I am 59. Married 31 years. I go to lots of concerts alone because my wife doesn’t like concerts. I have a great time. It felt a little creepy about two weeks ago. I was in a standing room only up near the stage and there were some really pretty girls standing right by me. They weren’t even old enough to drink. I felt awkward.
She got the house, I got the lifestyle. 100 days a year skiing. 75 days a year on my mountain bike. 3 days a week working at the golf course. Uninterrupted naps @ 3 o'clock. And a cat who understands me.
Three years following the loss of my wife following an extended illness left me at a key decision point. I was her primary caregiver and was faced with the decision of either "retiring" or returning to work. At 67 yo I still run a very successful overseas business and I decided to stay active and run the business. I travel about 20-24 weeks each year primarily overseas and enjoy staying active and experiencing new places. I am 10 weeks into a 13 week round the world trip now. My four grown kids are through college and starting their lives. Life is good, and I am counting my blessings. Wishing you the very best.
Thanks. Your story is similar to mine - 3 years ago at age 67 I lost my wife of 40 years after caring for her at home through her terminal illness. I have carried on working in my job which involves international business trips to interesting places and keeping up relations with business contacts, many of whom have become good friends. I keep active, don't watch TV, enjoy cooking for myself (no takeaways or ready-meals) and take activity holidays. I still feel lonely at times but keep moving and don't dwell on it.
@@brendanoleary8854 Hello Brendan - Sounds as if are walking the same pathway? The "don't watch TV" comment really resonated with me. My wife and I "unplugged" from cable & satellite broadcast about 15 years ago and I can honestly say I feel much mentally healthier for it. I still follow much more trustworthy alternative news sources plus spending considerable time overseas offers the chance to get "out of the woods" to see what the rest of the world sees. Best of Luck to you my fellow traveler. BR, TimE
Pets are the perfect companion especially dogs, they are life giving and show unconditional love. They encourage you to walk daily and snuggle up in bed with you.
Thank you for such honest insights into living alone as an older person. I'm not quite 60, but have lived alone since my husband passed away around 3 years ago. I do not have any children, but have some amazing friends, a good social life, part time work. My life is very different to how it was 3 years ago, but it is good. I agree with all your comments about staying active, decluttering and maintaining a social life, but I think for me, continuing to set myself small challenges every week also helps - driving to a new place, meeting new people, trying different hobbies etc - is also important. It gives me a great sense of satisfaction to achieve these things on my own. As regards food, I sometimes take a whole day to make lots of nutritious food from scratch, then freeze it down into portions I can thaw when I am busy but still want to eat good food. As I am cooking, it's almost like I am giving myself a huge, warm hug. Life on your own can be very fulfilling.
I love living alone,with my cat. I’m 73 and still work part time in a manufacturing business that I very much enjoy. And yes my cat and I do have a pajama day on occasion!!😂
@ Hi do a little of every thing, for office work to counting inventory, preparing orders, shipping, materials management, cutting up phenolic on table saw to helping my boss keep the parts going on the industrial router, so it’s different every day and that keeps it interesting 😊what type of work are you looking for?
@ Your welcome, any job has its ups and downs, the only advice I can give is to manage the stress, it is not healthy. If you are not happy it’s not worth it 😊
@@Wx257 Sacramento native here. I love the Sacramento Bee. I'm old enough to remember the Sac Bee signing off for the night. I was little, but insisted to watch it. This was back when t.v stations shut down for the night.
Just for the record also is that : It's nothing wrong with just be and do nothing if a person want's that. Forget about trying to be busy if you live long enough to get old you will someday die anyway and believe me, when you are dead you are just as dead as if you have tried to be busy and trying to be someone what doesn't mean anything anyway so just relax and make that day the best of it whatever you do. I been a very busy man over the years and after I retired like 5 years ago at 62 I have done nothing and I love it. I watch tv for 5-6 hours and then ok you and youtubers for another 6 hours and that's my days and live. I love it and it feels so relaxing and good to just be a be lazy and having a good time doing nothing. So, we are all different and thank Jesus Lord God that we are. Amen.
Some of the happiest old guys that I've ever met say "I've got nothing left to prove" which really says it all. After working forever there's a lot to be said for just relaxing. Keep up the good "work."😊
I'm 67 and have lived alone for 43 years. I've always been blissfully and intentionally single. While I enjoy socializing with people, I very much value solitude.
I just downsized to an apartment two months ago. I declutterred and offloaded a bunch of stuff. If I don’t like it or use it, I got rid of it. Some of it was my mom’ s antiques that don’t and never have brought me any joy. They are gone! I still have some expensive pieces in boxes that I plan to sell. Much of the stuff she left to me was a huge burden. I know she didn’t mean it that way, but it was. I faced it and remedied it. Now I have room to purchase the things I love without guilt. I enjoy my cat. She is quiet and very low maintenance, as is apartment living. I love it. Planning to get back to church when I can. I love the peace and quiet and not having to explain or answer to anyone. I keep in touch with friends and family and am living my best life.
Bottomline to be happy in living alone: 1. Not to become too isolated. 2. Don’t give up on your appearance. 3. Don’t give up on socializing. 4. Don’t give up on staying active. 5. Get out of the house. 6. Take interest in things like cooking, gardening, etc. These are wise thoughts from Holly.
Love yr channel! I moved from a 3500 square ft. home to a 2 bdrm, 2 bath condo. Love it! No maintenance, heated garage, gas and water included. I make candles and spend a night or 2 a week with girlfriends. Order a pizza, sit out on the balcony, have a glass of wine and laugh. Also read a lot. Not a TV watcher. Bring food to the homeless and drive tge elderly to appointments. I'm very fulfilled in life. Would be nice to have a man around to watch a movie or go out to lunch etc, but not necessary.
Found your channel yesterday and had to subscribe. I’m from Europe and was married to a malignant narcissist. Divorced since 5 years and now with 60, after working through all the trauma, I’ve started two new businesses. I own a house and land which I take care of everyday, my bed is always made and everything is clean. I also do delivery services to just get me out of the house, meeting new people and making new friends while making money. After work, I go for a nice walk and then cook something easy and healthy. In the evening I enjoy reading, painting and watching inspiring videos. I also signed up for some courses. I’m free as a bird and after leaving the matrix of believing I’m not “whole” without a partner, I truly have a good life. Thank you for your inspiration,
I'm 67 and have lived alone for 43 years. I've always been blissfully and intentionally single. I have friends and family (and my beloved dog) with whom to socialize and a very close, high -quality male friend for companionship and mutually exclusive relations (he's divorced and doesn't want to remarry, so our relationship works out great). While I enjoy getting together with people, I also value solitude.
I am 65 and I still like to cook. In fact, I belong to a cooking club and I hosted it this weekend. The host picks the cuisine, such as Indian or Greek, and the guests bring dishes suitable for the host's topic. This is my social activity along with dancing. We meet every other month so we don't get tired of the activity.
Many girlfriends single, all attractive, financial stable, fit, healthy, not even looking for a man. 80 year olds always hitting on me, no thanks. I am busy 5 days a week, Saturday nights are boring, but I am going to do something about that. I feel like I am 20 again, living in the city and free. Everyday is mine and I love it. My life is simple and drama free. I have very good girlfriends. Nothing I love better than having coffee with my girlfriends......my work is done. Raised two sons and 2 husbands thats enough for any girl.
It's all relative and individualized. I've grown to love living alone but I know I am fortunate and many do not have options that can make life easier. Personality style is another factor. I'm an introvert and grew up an only child so I enjoy my own company and don't need or want a large social circle. We are all very different so I try to remember that my lifestyle suits me but it's not a one size fits all.
@@loriduffecy9205 ...no, no, no, pj's to the store should be a nono, they get dirty and your bed may not like it. Anyway, it's a free country and it's not harmful, but it's better to groom yourself, just my own opinion.
Looking after oneself takes a lot of effort and energy. women are programmed to put others needs first. Learning how to look after yourself and doing it with love and satisfaction is the foundation from which everything else grows ❤
I'm writing this quick note to express my appreciation for your insight on relationships and living alone. I am a recent widow who thought I could not live alone. However, after researching various sites, I was very disappointed. Most women my age (71) or yours want to hear your life story. I've just about had it. The past is history. I'm starting a new chapter and want to find the same thing.
One of the things that kept me being happy while single for so long was my wonderful group of friends, mostly girlfriends. Anybody would be lucky to have you as one, you have such a warm, fulfilled energy. And absolutely useful information!
Women have it made! We realize that not only is it difficult to find a man, but we enjoy our women friends, and our own company. Men usually do not have a circle of friends, so they are much more wanting to be in a relationship......One of the things mentioned is to get exercise. Very important for your mind!
Not sure where you're based I'm in England and I'd say it's more the men that have all they need ... Big social circles .. family .. and easy to have women for sex anytime . Whereas the women in my circle are sociable but still missing the mans love .. unable to meet someone that wants the same things so feel empty and most do not want FWB
Living with a loving partner is such a blessing ... I enjoy my husband's company and feel at peace when he is around. But I remember times when I was alone.... it's what you make of it. Solitude could be just as good if you embrace it and don't make a big tragedy of it.
We downsized and my adult children didn't want any of those heartfelt keepsakes I kept all those years for them. It broke my heart to throw them away but I did. When we had to clean out my spouse's parents home they had so much clutter...It made me sick! So really do your children or whoever will be taking care of your affairs afterwards a favor and DECLUTTER.
Mindy , there's an old saying, "We spend half our life acquiring things and the other half trying to get rid of them." You're absolutely right Let Go of the clutter. The sooner the better. 👍🤗
Oh Holly 🎉❤🎉 You're such a breath of very fresh air!!! Your channel is doing important work by addressing issues relevant to seniors! Such great advice. Thank You❤❤❤
Well, I've been described on my existential interests one more time! One month living alone in a nice one bedroom newly built apartment, furnishing it without haste, returning to College (Psychology), playing guitar and basketball, all the time for reading, and very, very selective with friends (two or three), monogamous, I know a woman waiting for me is out there. Thanks to you, Mrs. Holly, I feel a spiritual connection with people of our age (65). God is good!
Thank you for another great video, Holly. I personally, need a bit of structure, so first thing in the morning, I go for a 2 mile walk, letting the sun beat down on me, my face and arms that feels so good, plus the natural vitamin D it gives me. On the way back, I stop at the store to get fresh fruits and veggies (when I'm low on them), and after a shower, I make myself a green smoothie (spinach, celery, apple and a bit of avocado), then start work at 9am (work from home, thank God), and after work, enjoy a bit of tv or going out with friends. I had too many roommates in my 20's so it feels so good to live alone, with my kitty. I feel so blessed. And as you have mentioned, I also became a minimalist, not extreme where I only have 50 items - lol, but to where everything feels airy and light with just enough furniture that I need so nothing is cluttered. I also did this with my wardrobe - just have what I love to wear. Going minimal makes cleaning my 1 bedroom condo a breeze, and less clothes makes getting dressed a joy, knowing I love everything I have and everything fits well. All other clothes, I mended where I could, then donated or sold on ebay what I didn't wear anymore. Plus, now I only use one simple small black purse and that feels so liberating too - no hassles is what brings me tremendous peace
I agree, getting out in nature first thing in the morning is so helpful Sometimes I just like to stand on my back porch and watch the sun rising. I'm drinking my smoothie right now!
I’m slowly decluttering a couple rooms left. It seems I get stuck in the house cleaning, doing laundry with and never getting it all caught up. I love my home but am having lonely and overwhelmed with the to do list around the house and medical appointments. My family has all passed on including my son. Daughter is a 4 day drive away. A few friends that are busy with grandchildren, husbands, grown children and occasionally meet for lunch or coffee. I am 65, retire and still attractive looking younger so joined a dating site. Been divorced over 20 years. I am thinking of downsizing to a less expensive 55 plus adult community with lots of amenities, classes and social programs but not sure about leaving because the few occasional friends I have are always there to take me if needed to doctor appointments and we talk on the phone too. I feel that there are a few people who have my back. Going to join a gym again and get back to book club as well as water aerobics and will probably feel less lonely. I struggle to get up early but am just going to force myself to do so and get out of this slump. It is difficult this aging thing and losing most of my family fairly early. I know getting active is the best thing but still glad to have time to rest and read while hanging out with my dog and cat. We all have to find our best balance and break out of loneliness when it comes knocking at your door. Thank you so much for doing this and the opportunity to comment. I feel that I am not alone with this now and learn so much from others comments too! ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know being alone can be a struggle at times. I too have lost many people close to me and it's hard not to focus on that. Please know you're comments are always welcome here.
This overwhelm feeling is crap. Its just that you focus so much on the little there is to do it seems huge whereas in fact most jobs take 20 mins or less
My father in law is 80, lives in a van, and travels the country. He lives with his sister when he is taking a break from his walkabouts. He is always on the move and manages to keep his life interesting. We never know where he will call from next or who is the next new person in his life. I think people get in the mindset that i am over 60 or over 70 and start to quit life....not this guy, a true family inspiration.
I'm 61 and have lived alone on and off for many years. I haven't got a huge circle of friends, but a few. I spend quite a lot of time on my own but I'm still working full time and I also cook for myself, go to the gym, dance salsa, see live bands. It's true I don't have people over much at all so thanks for the reminder - I will invite a few people over to my little apartment for dinner!
I can't imagine getting bored or watching tv all day. Maybe it's that 25 years of corp life that keeps me going. But at 60 and officially retired, (i think 🤔) there is not enough time in any given day. Even after losing my wife over 3 years ago, keeping up a home, trees, gardens and 2 teen daughters has me literally running to keep the ship afloat some days.
I have found that if I keep a cheerful attitude it helps . Don’t get hung up on having someone to keep you company. Being alone is a lot about loving yourself. Give yourself a chance,it takes time to adjust.😊
Ideally, you find happiness or at least peace in whatever situation you are in. I can find peace living alone but I'd be fooling myself to believe there isn't a scenario where I would be happier being with the right person.
I disagree about the part of staying social. My patience levels have reduced as I've gotten older. And I'm good with that. Working either a 10 or a 12 hour shift, makes me look forward to coming home alone. And NOT dealing with people. When i finally retire, I'm looking at Wyoming to reside. Even less people to deal with. Life is good.)
@@juliafisher5844 I am not dwelling on anything. Just stating the facts. Any learning experience, positive or negative, can be useful. And here, I can give out my positive and uplifting point of view and perspective. Stay tuned!
I started living alone at 63 when my husband passed away and it was difficult. I would spend all of my time working online as a teacher and I had nothing going on in my life. This year at age 64, I finally got my act together- I joined an expensive 😂gym. I take yoga classes and aqua classes. I’ve joined a women’s group that meet regularly for dinner. I do some volunteer work at a new church. My life is full again- and I love it. I treat myself like the princess- no queen, that I am. Oh and I don’t need or want another King. 😂
At 73, I have never been married and lived alone my whole adult life aside from occasional visits from a couple of long-term ladyfriends over the years. I will be having dinner courtesy of one of these ladies this evening. I exercise most days on an elliptical and lift weights. For years I jogged but my achilles tendons eventually said no to that. When alone, I talk to myself. In fact, I can't have open windows because neighbors would wonder what is going on. Sometimes I will bark swear words at myself and my comments are not necessarily politically correct. I watch a fair amount of TV and on average I will spend several hours a day online exploring various interests such as astronomy and history. And I will submit opinions, ideas and personal experiences here and there on the internet. I sometimes wonder how I came to be this way. It's sort of a combination of limited academic success in school while at the same time being openminded. Growing up in the 1960s probably helped.
I’ve been in and out of relationships my whole life and never married. I could never find someone that I could say “forever” to. I’ve lived with a man from time to time, but nothing ever worked out for me. Now, at 60, I’ve managed to obtain my dream house and have been living here, alone, for 10 years. Because I live in the Catskills, I always have family and guests come to visit. People tell me I should try dating again but, to be honest, I have no more small talk left. Your channel is inspiring because it let’s people in our situation know that it is ok, and you don’t need to explain anything to anybody about your choices. Excellent advice in this video. I live with my German Shepherd dog who requires lots of exercise. That gets me up and moving every day to the trails that are so abundant here. I plan to rent out my house, buy and RV and travel around the country. Something I have always wanted to do. Maybe I will start a RUclips channel and record my adventures…. 😊
After my last dog passed away a year ago and I retired, I decided to keep active by pursuing a 44-year-old interest: music. This Fall, I enrolled at a community college to build up enough experience to attend the local state university (music schools require auditions). By the time I finish this journey in eight years (assuming I continue to graduate school) , I expect to be 72.
What works for me to create some structure is this: I set my small, drop-leaf table with a placemat, plate, bowl, glass, and silverware twice a day for breakfast and dinner. It really encourages me to "show up" for myself, to sit and enjoy a good meal that I've prepared myself. It gives me a sense of "home" too -- as I am a solo retiree who would love a pet but can't have them in my condo complex.
My biggest impediment to being alone really isn't because of being alone. It's because I've been self-employed for 30 years and I would love to have friends to go to lunch with because I love going to lunch but don't really like going to dinner because I'm 72 and tired by then, but my friends always have day jobs and can never go to lunch and then they're too busy on the weekends to get together very often.
Been living alone for the past three years since my husband died suddenly at age 57. He was the love of my life and my best friend and now I live alone with my two dogs. It’s totally different than the Retirement my husband and I planned to live out our days together. It’s lonely and all of my friends that are couples. don’t really bother with me because I’m a single person now and couples just don’t hang around with single people. I try to keep busy. I do aerobics twice a week. I bowl another night weekly as well. I’ve always been pretty active, but it’s just quite an adjustment to be alone. I’m not truly happy, but I have moments of happiness. I guess that’s what I’ll have to settle for at this time in my life. Thank you for this video. It’s very uplifting and I love your suggestions. I’ve already done several of them so I am pretty good as far as that goes. Love your channel keep the videos coming on living alone over the age of 60. Merry Christmas and may God bless.🎄🙏❤️
I'm so sorry you lost your husband at such a young age. Just know that you are going through a huge adjustment, and it will take a while to find your stride. It sounds like you are on the right path. Thank you, so much and Merry Christmas to you too!
I just came upon your channel, and I loved everything that you said. It is truly inspiring. I wish you good health, and may He continue to guide you to become an inspiration to others.
I'm 71yrs old and live alone, working two jobs by choice. They keep me in motion, active and fit. In my spare time I have outdoor activities to keep me in shape, and staying socially active as well. I enjoy my me time, and would love to meet others that would enhance life, and bring positive vibes.😊
Holly, I've been retired for just under 36 hours at the age of 60 1/2. I still have my 20 year old son at home (he's working and attending college online). I'm restarting my gym membership tomorrow (I'll also be able to go more often than I did when I was working) as it's too cold to go out walking where I live. Cleaning out the house is going to be a long term project (I also told my son that both of us need to tackle the living room between Thanksgiving and Christmas as the majority of the stuff in the living room is his). I do have a long term winter getaway planned next winter to South Padre Island, TX (haven't decided whether it will be for a month (February) or three (including December and January) as winter is their off season and it would cost far less than it would if I wintered in Florida, which has gotten far too expensive on my retirement budget. Will have to see how my retirement funds look towards the end of next summer how long my winter escape from Wisconsin will be (still spending Christmas and New Years in a much warmer climate sounds very tempting). But first and foremost my immediate goal is to get back on a normal sleep schedule after working overnights for 20 1/2 years.
Just what I needed to hear! And, yes, I get PEEVED when friends include me in the "old" language. Personally, I'm dealing with empty nesting, and finding it hard to cook, decorate, etc. Recently, a friend and I decided to start a dinner club, or cooking club. We'll plan a meal, each bring a dish, share it, and split the leftovers so we don't end up with a week's worth of a soup, lasagne, or casserole. And, I am actually decorating and purging excess stuff, so that's a timely coincidence. I enjoy your videos. Keep it up.
Loving your content, I enjoy watching someone with same values and live the life with LOA ...its better being older you appreciate holidays and meeting new people 😂
definitely try to be active, n mobile. it is a hard hole to dig urself out of. if u let it go too far, for too long, there likely comes a point where u only dig urself deeper, instead of digging urself out. nice convo. thx for sharing 👍
I'm not living alone but I can imagine participating in an multi - age walking group. Deciding on a pace and location for a people of different ages. Perhaps a picnic or a cafe stop afterwards. Along with finding friends or companions of our own age it seems important to mix with other age groups. My husband and I are in our 60s and 70s. Recently we hosted an after-dinner dessert party for 15 people. Only some of the people we invited knew each other so most didn't jump right into politics assuming everyone was of the same opinion. (One couple did take me aside and somewhat anxiously asked me who all these people were :) I told them we knew some people from politics, some from church, some were friends of friends and some we knew from volunteering.) Some couples and some single people. Folks seemed to stay in comfortable conversation. It was literally a sweet event.
Thank you for the video. The Subscribe button just worked. I am living alone and don’t feel lonely; I am happy and content with what I have. Thank you for giving me so much new knowledge.
Same here after kids moved out . Did have a dog and she was wonderful but she passed and decided not to get another . Good advice . The house can be an asset at end of life if you have to enter a retirement facility . You can sell the house to cover all or part of the costs
You should just talk to your kids about the belongings. My sister and I only wanted some quilts and some carnival Glass from my mom's collection. And really the thing I was the most interested in was I took all her recipes and made a nice neat book of the ones I was interested in. But I do cherish one of my quilts that has material from all the clothes my mother made me growing up.
55, and I love being single. Reading and exercising take most of my time. Btw, I dated a woman 9 years older than me when I was 25. You bring back memories.
I've been living alone since March 19th, 2024 through no fault of anyone's. My husband, 68 years old, had a stroke that afternoon & ended at the ICU in a nearby hospital & never came back home to me. He died on April 22nd, 2024. I have NO FRIENDS. I don't want company. I don't like the holidays. 😢
@LisaH-dk4jg thank you so much for your understanding, Lisa. Yeah, it is very difficult to even getting up every day & realize that I'm going to die alone with no friends & no family I can depend on, anymore!
I'm so sorry you are going through this! Please don't give up on life. Give yourself time to grieve, maybe a grief counselor would be helpful. Thank you so much for sharing and please keep in touch here.
@BecomingMe64 thank you for touching base with me. Yes, I already have a Therapist & Psychiatrist to help me. But, since I have several mental health issues already & I'm extremely over sensitive to start with, grieving for both my husband & Dad, it's much more difficult for me to get through this grieving process.
I'm sorry, I know your pain, grieving is the most difficult thing I've ever had to navigate. It's such a void, I cry constantly. There's another channel that may help you as well, "Elder Gal", she has no family around her, she even has a video about holidays when we have no family. Also, I watch many videos about grief or people going through it. I can resonate and feel less alone. Best wishes ❤.
It's only today that counts..No one knows what tomorrow brings..I know plenty of people who said in 1year I'm doing this and going there blah blah..They all dropped dead b4 they got to to there futuristic plans!! Its a sad state that you have to advise these old fools what to do..Your clutter advice correct..I sold donated gave away 2 thirds of what I had..Goods and chattels are zero relevance..You won't be taking any of it to the next life!!
I downsized from my 3000 sq. ft home into a 1600 sq ft condo. I has been an adjustment, but also a huge cost savings which allowed me to invest that extra money and plan for retirement. It is nice to spend my time doing hobbies instead of yard work. I loved my big house, but as I've gotten older, my condo works just fine. :)
You missed one of the most important things to keep yourself busy, relevant and self fulfilled - VOLUNTEER WORK! Instead of worrying about how you’re going to fill your day think instead of how you can make another person‘s day better and brighter by offering your time and talent. The crazy thing is you will find after you volunteer that you’ve actually gained more than the organization or person you’ve helped.
I always thought I'd volunteer when I retired but was diagnosed with a slow growing lymphoma at 64 y.o. I retired early then due to fatigue. I focus on staying in touch with my family who luckily live locally. I enjoy teaching my younger grandkids to bake and sew; and have occasional meals with my two adult grandkids. I'm 70 y.o. now and am happy living alone, with two lovely cats. K
One has to be able to live with one’s self ( that was awkward). If that is not possible one won’t be able to successfully, live with others. Having guests is not the same as not living alone.
53 and often wishing I lived alone. Had 3 kids in my 30s all with special needs of one type or other (autism, food allergies, adhd and eds), and no sign of them leaving home anytime soon. I’m a sahm & my husband is the breadwinner. Though I recently picked up pt delivery & cleaning work just to help with the bills and do something other than run around after everyone else. Though I still do. Kids are v dependent on me and my husband and to be frank we are exhausted and I wish we had had kids earlier in our 20s so they would be more independent now. Though with their issues I guess they may still be at home then. They’re all fussy eaters (incl husband) and I feel tied to the kitchen even though I dislike cooking. Especially when everyone is at home during the holidays. I hate xmas because it simply means even more work for me. I would seriously love to live alone especially at this time of the year.
I just wanted to say, I have several friends that I no longer visit, the reason being is that they are very depressing to be around, every thing is poor me , I’m so sad and when you make suggestions for changing that, They ignore your advice, and go on complaining. I don’t know how they ever expect to meet anyone, when they are not enjoyable to be around.😢
I have to say I really love having plenty of storage space because my ranch house is technically more space than I should need. I closed off two of the bedrooms so I'm not wasting energy in there. I've lived alone since 1980 and some before that just spotty.
Not sure how YT picked this for me, but I'm in the same spot at the same age and retiring from professional work this week. I'll be interested to see your other videos. I won't be doing the ready made meals for sure though, love to cook. Thanks and I'll enjoy.
Fresh flowers and candles are nice...but maybe more of a feminine thing. I prefer taking care of a dog and having friends over for a visit. This is an excellent antidote to SOMS - Smelly Old Man Syndrome
👌👌❤I think exactly the same. I would also add to all these you said, making friends with singles in the same situation in other countries, so when we travel we can meet and take coffee, eat dinner in in same nice places and visit the surroundings together. I live in Poland
Congrats on your reflexion. I agree, one should strive to do the best for oneself with what life brings you. My late husband used to say, “if life brings you lemons, make a sweet lemonade.”
Very good video and comments. I have lived alone since 2008 and I always find things to do to keep me busy and refreshed. I hardly ever watch tv and I pretty much do what you do as far as work around the house. One thing I found was that when I went to downsize house, I found a smaller place actually cost me more money than living in my house. Thus I just stayed for about 10 more years. When it was sold, I just decided to rent a smaller house as I am not an apartment person. That worked for me. I usually do things and go visit school things of all my grandkids. Between that and the Holidays, it keeps me busy. I have seven grandkids. I also get involved in helping refugees with their immigration as most cannot afford an attorney. I am not an attorney, but I have been around courts and laws and I can read. I am actually a chemical engineer and worked in ag field my whole life. At 60 I feel you are too young to down size and get rid of your stuff. You can do that when you turn 80 years old. I some ways, I feel you talk like your life is over and done at 60. You need to plan and live like your target is 100 years old. That yard work you mentioned, I didn't give it up because it keeps me in shape. In fact I mow two neighbors lawns as well. No big deal and they have kids with busy life. It helps them out and gives me exercise. I have also spent time on photo albums reorgaization and getting them ready when I pass and ancestry type things. I vary what I do a lot so it never get boring. Learn and learn and learn and yes I cook as and try new recipes. Keep meals interesting.
@@Contessa998 She asked for comments and I accommodated her wishes. I am not trying to make her Journey for her. Holly is doing a fine job of doing that!
I like to keep active with yard work too until I can’t! My house is just the right size and you are right that trying to find another would cost me more!
I am enjoying your channel I found a few days ago I am 68 going through a divorce and devastated by finding a new place to live a job I haven’t worked in 5 years worrying can I make it on my own with one knee replacement need another one so much to think about and scary being alone after 34 years of marriage this channel is giving me tips and advice on what to do and how to go on 😢
Im 65 and truly enjoy being alone although a lot of my friends just have to be with a lady on thier arm. I'm not a workaholic by any means but I own a real-estate company and enjoy every going to work maybe that's my partner? There are loads of entertainment/rest/taverns around Cincinnati if I want to chat with someone. Not sure but a few of your topics have popped up on my RUclips feed it's interesting to hear others and a females point of view great post
@Wendy1973-wl5lr Wendy I agree, till I was 32 I was a radio dj and worked at a cool restaurant that sat on the sarasota airport. I bring that up because I became a people watcher and how guys and girls interacted like a phycologist lol. I bring it up because if a girl came into the lounge you might think she's looking to meet someone. Just strike up a conversation with the bartender. Great reply
I am 50 lived alone not dated for 6 years.but 3wks ago i stared seeing dating a women 76 love it she is great❤p.s must say she is the best lover in the bedroom i aver had❤one word..wow
Sadly, being happy living alone, isn’t solved by simply joining a lawn bowling club, or some other social event. Having coffee or visits with friends and family assumes that you have both at your disposal, and that’s seldom the case. Well, why don’t just go for a nice walk? To where? Around the same blocks I’ve lived on for decades and check the street signs? There’s a dollar sign to everything you’ve mentioned that rarely comes up.
I have reached out to women but they would rather stay home on the couch and watch Netflix. If I can get them to commit they always back out last minute. I've tried joining groups and volunteering and when I ask someone if they'd like to go for coffee or something it gets really awkward and embarrassing because I've always been turned down. Women don't want to entertain in their homes anymore. Mostly because they're not good housekeepers and are ashamed of their homes and hoarding. And to be honest some of their homes are so dirty and wouldn't want to eat anything they would offer. I've offered hosting at my home but they declined because they feel guilty because they're not going to return the offer. If I feed them they feel guilty and the ones that are not tidy would want to bring something to eat and if they're dirty and have pets and couldn't eat their food. I have suggested going out to lunch. They always cancel last minute. I think technology has a lot to do with this. I lost two of my sons recently. One was hospitalized for a year and then I cared for him by myself along with home hospice. I had to do all of this alone and I feel like I have PTSD. I'm definitely lonely now that I'm alone and really could use some socializing. I have to go back to work so when I get a job that will be my social life and will hopefully help. I'm 71 and because my social security is so low I'll have to work for the rest of my life. Thankfully only part time because I'm starting to have some physical limitations due to arthritis. I do go to the gym every other day. I garden, read, keep up my home and cook homemade meals every day. I have two other children that live out of state that I keep in touch with but texting is not enough. I never knew that getting older would be so horrible. I'm trying to keep positive and have a routine but this grieving is unbearable. I am seeing a counselor but it's not very helpful. I guess because I do as much as I do so far I'm doing pretty good.
So many people in my life have disappointed me to the point that I have no desire to be around them, family and friends. I have been married to my husband for 47 years and dated for 9 years before getting married and consider him to be my best friend in this world and I am his. We are both very content with being home bodies and living what some would call a dull life but find joy in the simple pleasures in our life, our dog, our home, our 7 acre private lot on a lake, wildlife that surrounds us, reading books out loud together, watching movies and favorite shows together. We have been blessed with two loving children who live in other states with their spouses who we also adore, and talk on face time weekly with and was also blessed with a sweet little granddaughter that our daughter gave birth too at the age of 43 who is turning three this December, and brings so much joy and laughter to our life, even though we do not get to see her in person often,but thank God for face time, it is truly amazing. Yes I would love if my children lived in driving distance but would never make them feel guilty by not. There jobs took them to where they live and they are both happy and we are happy for that. With all this said, I don’t know how I would feel living alone, if our situation changed where I found myself alone. To be honest, I hope I pass first. I am 77 almost 78 and my husband just turned 80. I think I would not be very happy and would not want to live with my children, even though I know they would want us too, I know it would only cause resentment on both sides. So I guess I will leave that up to God to help me get through if and when that time comes. God Bless you on your journey in life and thanks for your interesting videos, they do get the thoughts flowing.🥰
@@margaretfinney6546 You are fully blessed. I was as well until my two sons passed away. Bad things happen to everyone eventually. It's very very hard. I can't financially make it on social security and have been applying for jobs. I work in healthcare and because I'm getting older I can only work part time. I'm getting turned down for jobs I'm totally qualified for. I'm hoping it's not because of my age but I really think it is. I know if I really got into trouble my other two children would help me but that is so awkward. You are so blessed to even have one person in your life. Partner or friend. I've been praying for that for 30 years. Friends don't want to get together. They want to stay home and watch Netflix and text occasionally. I don't need a pen pal. My best advice is not to worry about anything until it actually happens. You learn to live in the moment at this stage of your life. The world is in such a mess right now that I really don't care if I pass away. At least then I would have peace. I know people will say trust the Lord, cast your cares etc. It's not that easy. I wish it were.
You bring up some very interesting points in your content for this video. I share your concern about material things we may have been privileged to bring into our lives from previous generations of family in addition to what we accumulated along the way by our own choices. ... What I am beginning to notice is that one who is in the midst of their Senior years may have a lot more than they think they do and the maintenance of it, which can require time and energy (two things which we value now more than ever), gives one pause to reflect. To contrast what is important to Seniors vs. younger people can become a real epiphany. .... Basically, the pack we've been carrying around on our backs all our lives starts to seem heavier . . . or gravity is getting stronger. What results from all this is created by one's choices. It's always good to look around and do a "reality check" at any age. At the end of the day it is all about the experiences! 😊
I have seen it all in my community. Many horders or their whole apartments are filled with crafts, seasonal decorations. Others don't clean, let their garbage in kitchen pile up. Don't walk their animals or ever take them for a walk. Don't cook period, order take out or microwave frozen crap. Its a different different world from what all your commentors are experiencing. Just saying. .
Holly, it's nice you want to live alone, but please be careful with heating system, gas stove, stairs, and slip and falls.please keep all those items maintained. I just like you to know you you great!
Holly, I bet you've read the book "Living a Beautiful Life" by Alexandra Stoddard - judging by the fact that at 60 you're still tuned into hospitality. I was feeling convicted during prayer yesterday that I should begin to make that effort & now you suggest it LoL. I stay social at Church, Pickleball and Griefshare seminars. At 60 I'm 3.5 years widowed so a lot of what Ive become accustomed to is due to gravity. Perhaps defying gravity is a superpower to be sought after ! All the best - David in Texas
@truthboomertruthbomber5125 Fight that Gravity my friend. It is the force that we manage daily. Try living without it ! It's not just a good idea. It's the Law.
Here's a nugget- Those who are so-so-so happy to be alone were never couplers, and should have been living alone the whole time. So when dating for a long-term relationship make sure to screen-out the, 'so-happy-to-be-aloners'.
@@m2pozad being happy alone doesn't mean you aren't happy in a couple. I'd rather say "screen out people who can't be alone for a moment" when looking for a new partner.
@@nurshark10 There are those of us who have our emotional vested interest in being part of an us, as companions. And then there are those who have their emotional vested interest in being free to do as they wish, when they wish. Those two groups should date and pair-up within their preferred orientation. Know which group you belong in, and screen for those who share your commitment orientation- companionship or autonomy.
I think that those who enjoy their own company end up enjoying being alone. I was a military brat and a military wife. We get used to our husbands having occasional overseas tours without us. Mine went to Desert Storm, Iraq, and the Pentagon alone. I also lived alone before I got married. I have many hobbies and interests, so I seldom get bored. If you were an interesting person before living alone, you will have a better time at it. If you are an outgoing person who is interested in others, you will enjoy a full and satisfying life.
I am going to be living alone, shortly, in a new place. I am super excited about it, but I am anxious about sleeping without anyone in the house. Does it bother you when things go bump in the night? Does that go away?
For me at well over 60 it’s absolutely necessary to keep a routine, eat well & keep slim, enjoy fashion & have a good hair style! I would never share my space with a man again, nothing but stress. Long live the independent woman. Best wishes from Europe!
True can always have FWB
Happily living alone and grateful to be single.
@@SherriFlemming
That's probably because you have enough $ to survive.
It Happens before 60. If you are single, your couple friends don’t include you. Work, pay bills, take out the trash, shower, repeat. Friends don’t want to spend money, they have to babysit grandkids, excuse after excuse. I have started going to music concerts by myself. It’s something to look forward to. P.S. Dogs are a lifesaver.
@@SvennTveskagg you missed the "work" part. Co sold and looking at likely layoff. You are correct about everything costing money. Trying to save it for what likely lies ahead. No turkey day with relatives this year - nobody has done that in my family since pandemic.
You need a tiny home. Cleaning too many rooms is ridiculous.😊
I am 59. Married 31 years. I go to lots of concerts alone because my wife doesn’t like concerts. I have a great time. It felt a little creepy about two weeks ago. I was in a standing room only up near the stage and there were some really pretty girls standing right by me. They weren’t even old enough to drink. I felt awkward.
So true! I’ve been a widow for 11 yrs and very few of my friends when hubby was around invite me out. Not sure why. Very sad
@@SvennTveskagg Exactly what I felt
Having pets is my number one go to
Yes, that's right. Pets are indispensable
mine too!
For me 100%
She got the house, I got the lifestyle.
100 days a year skiing.
75 days a year on my mountain bike.
3 days a week working at the golf course.
Uninterrupted naps @ 3 o'clock.
And a cat who understands me.
Three years following the loss of my wife following an extended illness left me at a key decision point. I was her primary caregiver and was faced with the decision of either "retiring" or returning to work. At 67 yo I still run a very successful overseas business and I decided to stay active and run the business. I travel about 20-24 weeks each year primarily overseas and enjoy staying active and experiencing new places. I am 10 weeks into a 13 week round the world trip now. My four grown kids are through college and starting their lives. Life is good, and I am counting my blessings. Wishing you the very best.
Thanks. Your story is similar to mine - 3 years ago at age 67 I lost my wife of 40 years after caring for her at home through her terminal illness. I have carried on working in my job which involves international business trips to interesting places and keeping up relations with business contacts, many of whom have become good friends. I keep active, don't watch TV, enjoy cooking for myself (no takeaways or ready-meals) and take activity holidays. I still feel lonely at times but keep moving and don't dwell on it.
@@brendanoleary8854 Hello Brendan - Sounds as if are walking the same pathway? The "don't watch TV" comment really resonated with me. My wife and I "unplugged" from cable & satellite broadcast about 15 years ago and I can honestly say I feel much mentally healthier for it. I still follow much more trustworthy alternative news sources plus spending considerable time overseas offers the chance to get "out of the woods" to see what the rest of the world sees. Best of Luck to you my fellow traveler. BR, TimE
Thank you so much for sharing and I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you currently have a very exciting and fulfilling life.
Inspirational stories are the best!
Pets are the perfect companion especially dogs, they are life giving and show unconditional love. They encourage you to walk daily and snuggle up in bed with you.
@ I drive mine to the hardware store and pet food store when I don’t need anything, just so she can ride in the trolley.😂
One big factor, especially for women living alone, is safety.
Indeed.
Does anyone feel less safe at this age since election?
@@mindfulliving4259 If you mean the one in 2020, yes. 😅
@@theoriginalDAL357you must be kidding.
Thank you for such honest insights into living alone as an older person. I'm not quite 60, but have lived alone since my husband passed away around 3 years ago. I do not have any children, but have some amazing friends, a good social life, part time work. My life is very different to how it was 3 years ago, but it is good. I agree with all your comments about staying active, decluttering and maintaining a social life, but I think for me, continuing to set myself small challenges every week also helps - driving to a new place, meeting new people, trying different hobbies etc - is also important. It gives me a great sense of satisfaction to achieve these things on my own. As regards food, I sometimes take a whole day to make lots of nutritious food from scratch, then freeze it down into portions I can thaw when I am busy but still want to eat good food. As I am cooking, it's almost like I am giving myself a huge, warm hug. Life on your own can be very fulfilling.
Those are some great ideas! Thank you so much for sharing
@@rachelstaniforth166 I agree with you 💯
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I do these things as well, which help, but without another human being it's lonely.
I love living alone,with my cat. I’m 73 and still work part time in a manufacturing business that I very much enjoy. And yes my cat and I do have a pajama day on occasion!!😂
Love this!
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Hi do a little of every thing, for office work to counting inventory, preparing orders, shipping, materials management, cutting up phenolic on table saw to helping my boss keep the parts going on the industrial router, so it’s different every day and that keeps it interesting 😊what type of work are you looking for?
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Your welcome, any job has its ups and downs, the only advice I can give is to manage the stress, it is not healthy.
If you are not happy it’s not worth it 😊
@@Wx257 Sacramento native here. I love the Sacramento Bee. I'm old enough to remember the Sac Bee signing off for the night. I was little, but insisted to watch it. This was back when t.v stations shut down for the night.
Just for the record also is that : It's nothing wrong with just be and do nothing if a person want's that. Forget about trying to be busy if you live long enough to get old you will someday die anyway and believe me, when you are dead you are just as dead as if you have tried to be busy and trying to be someone what doesn't mean anything anyway so just relax and make that day the best of it whatever you do. I been a very busy man over the years and after I retired like 5 years ago at 62 I have done nothing and I love it. I watch tv for 5-6 hours and then ok you and youtubers for another 6 hours and that's my days and live. I love it and it feels so relaxing and good to just be a be lazy and having a good time doing nothing. So, we are all different and thank Jesus Lord God that we are. Amen.
Some of the happiest old guys that I've ever met say "I've got nothing left to prove" which really says it all. After working forever there's a lot to be said for just relaxing. Keep up the good "work."😊
This is my first time ever to be living alone and it's been for only 18 months and I'm 64. I feel very blessed and very happy 😁
I absolutely love living alone. I cannot stand to live with anyone
I'm 67 and have lived alone for 43 years. I've always been blissfully and intentionally single. While I enjoy socializing with people, I very much value solitude.
@@Scorned405
I am the same way, when my friend says don’t you get lonely? I say heck NO!
I just downsized to an apartment two months ago. I declutterred and offloaded a bunch of stuff. If I don’t like it or use it, I got rid of it. Some of it was my mom’ s antiques that don’t and never have brought me any joy. They are gone!
I still have some expensive pieces in boxes that I plan to sell. Much of the stuff she left to me was a huge burden. I know she didn’t mean it that way, but it was. I faced it and remedied it. Now I have room to purchase the things I love without guilt.
I enjoy my cat. She is quiet and very low maintenance, as is apartment living. I love it.
Planning to get back to church when I can. I love the peace and quiet and not having to explain or answer to anyone. I keep in touch with friends and family and am living my best life.
Bottomline to be happy in living alone:
1. Not to become too isolated.
2. Don’t give up on your appearance.
3. Don’t give up on socializing.
4. Don’t give up on staying active.
5. Get out of the house.
6. Take interest in things like cooking, gardening, etc.
These are wise thoughts from Holly.
Love yr channel! I moved from a 3500 square ft. home to a 2 bdrm, 2 bath condo. Love it! No maintenance, heated garage, gas and water included. I make candles and spend a night or 2 a week with girlfriends. Order a pizza, sit out on the balcony, have a glass of wine and laugh. Also read a lot. Not a TV watcher. Bring food to the homeless and drive tge elderly to appointments. I'm very fulfilled in life. Would be nice to have a man around to watch a movie or go out to lunch etc, but not necessary.
Found your channel yesterday and had to subscribe. I’m from Europe and was married to a malignant narcissist. Divorced since 5 years and now with 60, after working through all the trauma, I’ve started two new businesses. I own a house and land which I take care of everyday, my bed is always made and everything is clean. I also do delivery services to just get me out of the house, meeting new people and making new friends while making money. After work, I go for a nice walk and then cook something easy and healthy. In the evening I enjoy reading, painting and watching inspiring videos. I also signed up for some courses. I’m free as a bird and after leaving the matrix of believing I’m not “whole” without a partner, I truly have a good life. Thank you for your inspiration,
Sounds fab love the leaving the matrix bit! What works for you re sex ? Or have you become a nun lol
I'm 67 and have lived alone for 43 years. I've always been blissfully and intentionally single. I have friends and family (and my beloved dog) with whom to socialize and a very close, high -quality male friend for companionship and mutually exclusive relations (he's divorced and doesn't want to remarry, so our relationship works out great). While I enjoy getting together with people, I also value solitude.
That's the way to go a good FWB
Each person enjoys their happiness in different ways.
I am 65 and I still like to cook. In fact, I belong to a cooking club and I hosted it this weekend. The host picks the cuisine, such as Indian or Greek, and the guests bring dishes suitable for the host's topic. This is my social activity along with dancing. We meet every other month so we don't get tired of the activity.
I love that idea!
Many girlfriends single, all attractive, financial stable, fit, healthy, not even looking for a man. 80 year olds always hitting on me, no thanks. I am busy 5 days a week, Saturday nights are boring, but I am going to do something about that. I feel like I am 20 again, living in the city and free. Everyday is mine and I love it. My life is simple and drama free. I have very good girlfriends. Nothing I love better than having coffee with my girlfriends......my work is done. Raised two sons and 2 husbands thats enough for any girl.
@@charmee4045 Amen!
That sounds ideal but what do you do for sex or have you given up on it ?
It's all relative and individualized. I've grown to love living alone but I know I am fortunate and many do not have options that can make life easier. Personality style is another factor. I'm an introvert and grew up an only child so I enjoy my own company and don't need or want a large social circle. We are all very different so I try to remember that my lifestyle suits me but it's not a one size fits all.
Same here!
I like living alone..but you're right..I could stay in my pajamas all day!!😁
I live alone...wear pj's all day..even to the store 😊
@@loriduffecy9205 Ha ha!
@@loriduffecy9205 ...no, no, no, pj's to the store should be a nono, they get dirty and your bed may not like it. Anyway, it's a free country and it's not harmful, but it's better to groom yourself, just my own opinion.
@Carlo1629-b3e ...I have tons of pj's pants... 😂..I change them a couple times a day..
@loriduffecy9205 ok, I forgive you.
Looking after oneself takes a lot of effort and energy. women are programmed to put others needs first. Learning how to look after yourself and doing it with love and satisfaction is the foundation from which everything else grows ❤
I cook All meals for myself and it's very important for my health.
I'm writing this quick note to express my appreciation for your insight on relationships and living alone. I am a recent widow who thought I could not live alone. However, after researching various sites, I was very disappointed. Most women my age (71) or yours want to hear your life story. I've just about had it. The past is history. I'm starting a new chapter and want to find the same thing.
It's up to the person. Fill the days you have left w/ whatever brings you the most joy.
One of the things that kept me being happy while single for so long was my wonderful group of friends, mostly girlfriends. Anybody would be lucky to have you as one, you have such a warm, fulfilled energy. And absolutely useful information!
Women have it made! We realize that not only is it difficult to find a man, but we enjoy our women friends, and our own company. Men usually do not have a circle of friends, so they are much more wanting to be in a relationship......One of the things mentioned is to get exercise. Very important for your mind!
Not sure where you're based I'm in England and I'd say it's more the men that have all they need ... Big social circles .. family .. and easy to have women for sex anytime . Whereas the women in my circle are sociable but still missing the mans love .. unable to meet someone that wants the same things so feel empty and most do not want FWB
Living with a loving partner is such a blessing ... I enjoy my husband's company and feel at peace when he is around. But I remember times when I was alone.... it's what you make of it. Solitude could be just as good if you embrace it and don't make a big tragedy of it.
We downsized and my adult children didn't want any of those heartfelt keepsakes I kept all those years for them. It broke my heart to throw them away but I did. When we had to clean out my spouse's parents home they had so much clutter...It made me sick! So really do your children or whoever will be taking care of your affairs afterwards a favor and DECLUTTER.
Absolutely true. I mentioned this in my comment. I didn’t want my mom’s things and my daughters don’t want mine. So live for yourself.
Mindy , there's an old saying, "We spend half our life acquiring things and the other half trying to get rid of them." You're absolutely right Let Go of the clutter. The sooner the better. 👍🤗
It's called Swedish Death Cleaning
Sad if you loved them 😢
Oh Holly 🎉❤🎉 You're such a breath of very fresh air!!! Your channel is doing important work by addressing issues relevant to seniors! Such great advice. Thank You❤❤❤
Thank you so much!!
Well, I've been described on my existential interests one more time! One month living alone in a nice one bedroom newly built apartment, furnishing it without haste, returning to College (Psychology), playing guitar and basketball, all the time for reading, and very, very selective with friends (two or three), monogamous, I know a woman waiting for me is out there. Thanks to you, Mrs. Holly, I feel a spiritual connection with people of our age (65). God is good!
Thank you for another great video, Holly. I personally, need a bit of structure, so first thing in the morning, I go for a 2 mile walk, letting the sun beat down on me, my face and arms that feels so good, plus the natural vitamin D it gives me. On the way back, I stop at the store to get fresh fruits and veggies (when I'm low on them), and after a shower, I make myself a green smoothie (spinach, celery, apple and a bit of avocado), then start work at 9am (work from home, thank God), and after work, enjoy a bit of tv or going out with friends. I had too many roommates in my 20's so it feels so good to live alone, with my kitty. I feel so blessed. And as you have mentioned, I also became a minimalist, not extreme where I only have 50 items - lol, but to where everything feels airy and light with just enough furniture that I need so nothing is cluttered. I also did this with my wardrobe - just have what I love to wear. Going minimal makes cleaning my 1 bedroom condo a breeze, and less clothes makes getting dressed a joy, knowing I love everything I have and everything fits well. All other clothes, I mended where I could, then donated or sold on ebay what I didn't wear anymore. Plus, now I only use one simple small black purse and that feels so liberating too - no hassles is what brings me tremendous peace
I agree, getting out in nature first thing in the morning is so helpful Sometimes I just like to stand on my back porch and watch the sun rising. I'm drinking my smoothie right now!
@@BecomingMe64 ❤❤
I’m slowly decluttering a couple rooms left. It seems I get stuck in the house cleaning, doing laundry with and never getting it all caught up. I love my home but am having lonely and overwhelmed with the to do list around the house and medical appointments. My family has all passed on including my son. Daughter is a 4 day drive away. A few friends that are busy with grandchildren, husbands, grown children and occasionally meet for lunch or coffee. I am 65, retire and still attractive looking younger so joined a dating site. Been divorced over 20 years. I am thinking of downsizing to a less expensive 55 plus adult community with lots of amenities, classes and social programs but not sure about leaving because the few occasional friends I have are always there to take me if needed to doctor appointments and we talk on the phone too. I feel that there are a few people who have my back. Going to join a gym again and get back to book club as well as water aerobics and will probably feel less lonely. I struggle to get up early but am just going to force myself to do so and get out of this slump.
It is difficult this aging thing and losing most of my family fairly early. I know getting active is the best thing but still glad to have time to rest and read while hanging out with my dog and cat. We all have to find our best balance and break out of loneliness when it comes knocking at your door. Thank you so much for doing this and the opportunity to comment. I feel that I am not alone with this now and learn so much from others comments too! ❤
If you are anywhere near Alabama we should talk.
@@misscoutts6193Why do you say that? Gyms & group classes at gyms are a great way to stay active. My opinion of course.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know being alone can be a struggle at times. I too have lost many people close to me and it's hard not to focus on that. Please know you're comments are always welcome here.
This overwhelm feeling is crap. Its just that you focus so much on the little there is to do it seems huge whereas in fact most jobs take 20 mins or less
@@juliafisher5844 Thanks, so true!
My father in law is 80, lives in a van, and travels the country. He lives with his sister when he is taking a break from his walkabouts. He is always on the move and manages to keep his life interesting. We never know where he will call from next or who is the next new person in his life. I think people get in the mindset that i am over 60 or over 70 and start to quit life....not this guy, a true family inspiration.
I live in a tumbleweed tiny house on wheels in Western Montana with my dog Perry. I appreciate your videos❤
I am 70 and never lived alone. The thought of being alone one day scares me. I don’t think I would be good at it😟Thank you for this video 💐
I'm 61 and have lived alone on and off for many years. I haven't got a huge circle of friends, but a few. I spend quite a lot of time on my own but I'm still working full time and I also cook for myself, go to the gym, dance salsa, see live bands. It's true I don't have people over much at all so thanks for the reminder - I will invite a few people over to my little apartment for dinner!
I can't imagine getting bored or watching tv all day. Maybe it's that 25 years of corp life that keeps me going. But at 60 and officially retired, (i think 🤔) there is not enough time in any given day. Even after losing my wife over 3 years ago, keeping up a home, trees, gardens and 2 teen daughters has me literally running to keep the ship afloat some days.
I’m a 62 year old man,my youngest moved out in 2016, been living alone since, love it ..
Hey
I have found that if I keep a cheerful attitude it helps . Don’t get hung up on having someone to keep you company.
Being alone is a lot about loving yourself.
Give yourself a chance,it takes time to adjust.😊
Ideally, you find happiness or at least peace in whatever situation you are in. I can find peace living alone but I'd be fooling myself to believe there isn't a scenario where I would be happier being with the right person.
Same! But we gotta get on with it
I disagree about the part of staying social. My patience levels have reduced as I've gotten older. And I'm good with that.
Working either a 10 or a 12 hour shift, makes me look forward to coming home alone. And NOT dealing with people.
When i finally retire, I'm looking at Wyoming to reside. Even less people to deal with. Life is good.)
I was an RN and dealt with people all day. I now love being alone and quiet.
@@nurshark10 When one is the last picked or the never picked during school activities, one becomes self reliant later in life.
@@KarrpilotMaybe so
@@Karrpilotbloody hell how many years ago was that and you're still dwelling on it lol 😂
@@juliafisher5844 I am not dwelling on anything. Just stating the facts. Any learning experience, positive or negative, can be useful. And here, I can give out my positive and uplifting point of view and perspective. Stay tuned!
I started living alone at 63 when my husband passed away and it was difficult. I would spend all of my time working online as a teacher and I had nothing going on in my life. This year at age 64, I finally got my act together- I joined an expensive 😂gym. I take yoga classes and aqua classes. I’ve joined a women’s group that meet regularly for dinner. I do some volunteer work at a new church. My life is full again- and I love it. I treat myself like the princess- no queen, that I am. Oh and I don’t need or want another King. 😂
At 73, I have never been married and lived alone my whole adult life aside from occasional visits from a couple of long-term ladyfriends over the years. I will be having dinner courtesy of one of these ladies this evening. I exercise most days on an elliptical and lift weights. For years I jogged but my achilles tendons eventually said no to that. When alone, I talk to myself. In fact, I can't have open windows because neighbors would wonder what is going on. Sometimes I will bark swear words at myself and my comments are not necessarily politically correct. I watch a fair amount of TV and on average I will spend several hours a day online exploring various interests such as astronomy and history. And I will submit opinions, ideas and personal experiences here and there on the internet. I sometimes wonder how I came to be this way. It's sort of a combination of limited academic success in school while at the same time being openminded. Growing up in the 1960s probably helped.
I’ve been in and out of relationships my whole life and never married. I could never find someone that I could say “forever” to. I’ve lived with a man from time to time, but nothing ever worked out for me. Now, at 60, I’ve managed to obtain my dream house and have been living here, alone, for 10 years. Because I live in the Catskills, I always have family and guests come to visit. People tell me I should try dating again but, to be honest, I have no more small talk left.
Your channel is inspiring because it let’s people in our situation know that it is ok, and you don’t need to explain anything to anybody about your choices. Excellent advice in this video. I live with my German Shepherd dog who requires lots of exercise. That gets me up and moving every day to the trails that are so abundant here. I plan to rent out my house, buy and RV and travel around the country. Something I have always wanted to do. Maybe I will start a RUclips channel and record my adventures…. 😊
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You go lady!!!
Great idea!
Thank you for sharing, and yes, go for it!!
After my last dog passed away a year ago and I retired, I decided to keep active by pursuing a 44-year-old interest: music. This Fall, I enrolled at a community college to build up enough experience to attend the local state university (music schools require auditions). By the time I finish this journey in eight years (assuming I continue to graduate school) , I expect to be 72.
Fantastic!
You rock!
Music had no age restriction
What works for me to create some structure is this: I set my small, drop-leaf table with a placemat, plate, bowl, glass, and silverware twice a day for breakfast and dinner. It really encourages me to "show up" for myself, to sit and enjoy a good meal that I've prepared myself. It gives me a sense of "home" too -- as I am a solo retiree who would love a pet but can't have them in my condo complex.
My biggest impediment to being alone really isn't because of being alone. It's because I've been self-employed for 30 years and I would love to have friends to go to lunch with because I love going to lunch but don't really like going to dinner because I'm 72 and tired by then, but my friends always have day jobs and can never go to lunch and then they're too busy on the weekends to get together very often.
You need to find new friends .. they ain't all that
Been living alone for the past three years since my husband died suddenly at age 57. He was the love of my life and my best friend and now I live alone with my two dogs. It’s totally different than the Retirement my husband and I planned to live out our days together. It’s lonely and all of my friends that are couples. don’t really bother with me because I’m a single person now and couples just don’t hang around with single people. I try to keep busy. I do aerobics twice a week. I bowl another night weekly as well. I’ve always been pretty active, but it’s just quite an adjustment to be alone. I’m not truly happy, but I have moments of happiness. I guess that’s what I’ll have to settle for at this time in my life. Thank you for this video. It’s very uplifting and I love your suggestions. I’ve already done several of them so I am pretty good as far as that goes. Love your channel keep the videos coming on living alone over the age of 60. Merry Christmas and may God bless.🎄🙏❤️
I'm so sorry you lost your husband at such a young age. Just know that you are going through a huge adjustment, and it will take a while to find your stride. It sounds like you are on the right path. Thank you, so much and Merry Christmas to you too!
That's life .. can't plan cradle to grave . Count your blessings as it sounds like you do and live your best life now xx
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Thank you, I’m doing the best. I can just keeping my eyes on our Lord. May God bless you.🙏❤️
You have an up beat personality… it’s refreshing! 🤠
I just came upon your channel, and I loved everything that you said. It is truly inspiring. I wish you good health, and may He continue to guide you to become an inspiration to others.
Thanks
Thank you so much!!
I'm 71yrs old and live alone, working two jobs by choice. They keep me in motion, active and fit. In my spare time I have outdoor activities to keep me in shape, and staying socially active as well. I enjoy my me time, and would love to meet others that would enhance life, and bring positive vibes.😊
Holly, I've been retired for just under 36 hours at the age of 60 1/2. I still have my 20 year old son at home (he's working and attending college online). I'm restarting my gym membership tomorrow (I'll also be able to go more often than I did when I was working) as it's too cold to go out walking where I live. Cleaning out the house is going to be a long term project (I also told my son that both of us need to tackle the living room between Thanksgiving and Christmas as the majority of the stuff in the living room is his). I do have a long term winter getaway planned next winter to South Padre Island, TX (haven't decided whether it will be for a month (February) or three (including December and January) as winter is their off season and it would cost far less than it would if I wintered in Florida, which has gotten far too expensive on my retirement budget. Will have to see how my retirement funds look towards the end of next summer how long my winter escape from Wisconsin will be (still spending Christmas and New Years in a much warmer climate sounds very tempting). But first and foremost my immediate goal is to get back on a normal sleep schedule after working overnights for 20 1/2 years.
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Just what I needed to hear! And, yes, I get PEEVED when friends include me in the "old" language. Personally, I'm dealing with empty nesting, and finding it hard to cook, decorate, etc. Recently, a friend and I decided to start a dinner club, or cooking club. We'll plan a meal, each bring a dish, share it, and split the leftovers so we don't end up with a week's worth of a soup, lasagne, or casserole. And, I am actually decorating and purging excess stuff, so that's a timely coincidence.
I enjoy your videos. Keep it up.
That's a wonderful idea!!
Loving your content, I enjoy watching someone with same values and live the life with LOA ...its better being older you appreciate holidays and meeting new people 😂
definitely try to be active, n mobile. it is a hard hole to dig urself out of. if u let it go too far, for too long, there likely comes a point where u only dig urself deeper, instead of digging urself out. nice convo. thx for sharing 👍
I'm not living alone but I can imagine participating in an multi - age walking group. Deciding on a pace and location for a people of different ages. Perhaps a picnic or a cafe stop afterwards.
Along with finding friends or companions of our own age it seems important to mix with other age groups.
My husband and I are in our 60s and 70s. Recently we hosted an after-dinner dessert party for 15 people. Only some of the people we invited knew each other so most didn't jump right into politics assuming everyone was of the same opinion. (One couple did take me aside and somewhat anxiously asked me who all these people were :) I told them we knew some people from politics, some from church, some were friends of friends and some we knew from volunteering.) Some couples and some single people. Folks seemed to stay in comfortable conversation. It was literally a sweet event.
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I am living alone and don’t feel lonely; I am happy and content with what I have. Thank you for giving me so much new knowledge.
Such encouraging suggestions!
Thank you very much!
Same here after kids moved out . Did have a dog and she was wonderful but she passed and decided not to get another . Good advice . The house can be an asset at end of life if you have to enter a retirement facility . You can sell the house to cover all or part of the costs
You should just talk to your kids about the belongings. My sister and I only wanted some quilts and some carnival Glass from my mom's collection. And really the thing I was the most interested in was I took all her recipes and made a nice neat book of the ones I was interested in. But I do cherish one of my quilts that has material from all the clothes my mother made me growing up.
55, and I love being single. Reading and exercising take most of my time. Btw, I dated a woman 9 years older than me when I was 25. You bring back memories.
All good advice. Thank you.
Traveled to the Florida keys 10 years in a row . Fished most every day out of Bud and Marry's main. Have a wonderful time.
You are my twin sister! I can resonate 100% with all of your videos! ❤
Love that!
I've been living alone since March 19th, 2024 through no fault of anyone's. My husband, 68 years old, had a stroke that afternoon & ended at the ICU in a nearby hospital & never came back home to me. He died on April 22nd, 2024. I have NO FRIENDS.
I don't want company. I don't like the holidays. 😢
That is very stressful. I feel for you. Take care. It can get better 😊
@LisaH-dk4jg thank you so much for your understanding, Lisa. Yeah, it is very difficult to even getting up every day & realize that I'm going to die alone with no friends & no family I can depend on, anymore!
I'm so sorry you are going through this! Please don't give up on life. Give yourself time to grieve, maybe a grief counselor would be helpful. Thank you so much for sharing and please keep in touch here.
@BecomingMe64 thank you for touching base with me. Yes, I already have a Therapist & Psychiatrist to help me. But, since I have several mental health issues already & I'm extremely over sensitive to start with, grieving for both my husband & Dad, it's much more difficult for me to get through this grieving process.
I'm sorry, I know your pain, grieving is the most difficult thing I've ever had to navigate. It's such a void, I cry constantly. There's another channel that may help you as well, "Elder Gal", she has no family around her, she even has a video about holidays when we have no family. Also, I watch many videos about grief or people going through it. I can resonate and feel less alone. Best wishes ❤.
It's only today that counts..No one knows what tomorrow brings..I know plenty of people who said in 1year I'm doing this and going there blah blah..They all dropped dead b4 they got to to there futuristic plans!! Its a sad state that you have to advise these old fools what to do..Your clutter advice correct..I sold donated gave away 2 thirds of what I had..Goods and chattels are zero relevance..You won't be taking any of it to the next life!!
I downsized from my 3000 sq. ft home into a 1600 sq ft condo. I has been an adjustment, but also a huge cost savings which allowed me to invest that extra money and plan for retirement. It is nice to spend my time doing hobbies instead of yard work. I loved my big house, but as I've gotten older, my condo works just fine. :)
You missed one of the most important things to keep yourself busy, relevant and self fulfilled - VOLUNTEER WORK! Instead of worrying about how you’re going to fill your day think instead of how you can make another person‘s day better and brighter by offering your time and talent. The crazy thing is you will find after you volunteer that you’ve actually gained more than the organization or person you’ve helped.
Would add volunteering to help a cause you believe in. It makes you feel good inside♥️
I always thought I'd volunteer when I retired but was diagnosed with a slow growing lymphoma at 64 y.o. I retired early then due to fatigue. I focus on staying in touch with my family who luckily live locally. I enjoy teaching my younger grandkids to bake and sew; and have occasional meals with my two adult grandkids. I'm 70 y.o. now and am happy living alone, with two lovely cats. K
65 yr old male single alone. GOOD advice 😊❤
Hello, How are you doing today?
One has to be able to live with one’s self ( that was awkward). If that is not possible one won’t be able to successfully, live with others. Having guests is not the same as not living alone.
53 and often wishing I lived alone. Had 3 kids in my 30s all with special needs of one type or other (autism, food allergies, adhd and eds), and no sign of them leaving home anytime soon. I’m a sahm & my husband is the breadwinner. Though I recently picked up pt delivery & cleaning work just to help with the bills and do something other than run around after everyone else. Though I still do. Kids are v dependent on me and my husband and to be frank we are exhausted and I wish we had had kids earlier in our 20s so they would be more independent now. Though with their issues I guess they may still be at home then. They’re all fussy eaters (incl husband) and I feel tied to the kitchen even though I dislike cooking. Especially when everyone is at home during the holidays. I hate xmas because it simply means even more work for me. I would seriously love to live alone especially at this time of the year.
You need a break .. surely someone can give you some days off
I just wanted to say, I have several friends that I no longer visit, the reason being is that they are very depressing to be around, every thing is poor me , I’m so sad and when you make suggestions for changing that,
They ignore your advice, and go on complaining.
I don’t know how they ever expect to meet anyone, when they are not enjoyable to be around.😢
I find living in a house that two bedrooms and a 2nd bathroom are rarely used. Seems a waste of space. I may change that in the future.
I have to say I really love having plenty of storage space because my ranch house is technically more space than I should need. I closed off two of the bedrooms so I'm not wasting energy in there. I've lived alone since 1980 and some before that just spotty.
Not sure how YT picked this for me, but I'm in the same spot at the same age and retiring from professional work this week. I'll be interested to see your other videos. I won't be doing the ready made meals for sure though, love to cook. Thanks and I'll enjoy.
Fresh flowers and candles are nice...but maybe more of a feminine thing. I prefer taking care of a dog and having friends over for a visit.
This is an excellent antidote to SOMS - Smelly Old Man Syndrome
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Too funny!
There is nothing more powerful than to be happy living alone. Then all the rest is your choice. If it enhances your life do it if not then dont
I have a partner but miss living alone some days.
Yes! That’s me and we love it!
👌👌❤I think exactly the same. I would also add to all these you said, making friends with singles in the same situation in other countries, so when we travel we can meet and take coffee, eat dinner in in same nice places and visit the surroundings together. I live in Poland
Congrats on your reflexion. I agree, one should strive to do the best for oneself with what life brings you. My late husband used to say, “if life brings you lemons, make a sweet lemonade.”
Very good video and comments. I have lived alone since 2008 and I always find things to do to keep me busy and refreshed. I hardly ever watch tv and I pretty much do what you do as far as work around the house. One thing I found was that when I went to downsize house, I found a smaller place actually cost me more money than living in my house. Thus I just stayed for about 10 more years. When it was sold, I just decided to rent a smaller house as I am not an apartment person. That worked for me. I usually do things and go visit school things of all my grandkids. Between that and the Holidays, it keeps me busy. I have seven grandkids. I also get involved in helping refugees with their immigration as most cannot afford an attorney. I am not an attorney, but I have been around courts and laws and I can read. I am actually a chemical engineer and worked in ag field my whole life. At 60 I feel you are too young to down size and get rid of your stuff. You can do that when you turn 80 years old. I some ways, I feel you talk like your life is over and done at 60. You need to plan and live like your target is 100 years old. That yard work you mentioned, I didn't give it up because it keeps me in shape. In fact I mow two neighbors lawns as well. No big deal and they have kids with busy life. It helps them out and gives me exercise. I have also spent time on photo albums reorgaization and getting them ready when I pass and ancestry type things. I vary what I do a lot so it never get boring. Learn and learn and learn and yes I cook as and try new recipes. Keep meals interesting.
@@Contessa998 She asked for comments and I accommodated her wishes. I am not trying to make her Journey for her. Holly is doing a fine job of doing that!
I like to keep active with yard work too until I can’t! My house is just the right size and you are right that trying to find another would cost me more!
I am enjoying your channel I found a few days ago I am 68 going through a divorce and devastated by finding a new place to live a job I haven’t worked in 5 years worrying can I make it on my own with one knee replacement need another one so much to think about and scary being alone after 34 years of marriage this channel is giving me tips and advice on what to do and how to go on 😢
You can do it! Just remember that life has it's ups and downs and now you're ready for an up!
@@BecomingMe64 Thank you so much 💕
Im 65 and truly enjoy being alone although a lot of my friends just have to be with a lady on thier arm. I'm not a workaholic by any means but I own a real-estate company and enjoy every going to work maybe that's my partner? There are loads of entertainment/rest/taverns around Cincinnati if I want to chat with someone. Not sure but a few of your topics have popped up on my RUclips feed it's interesting to hear others and a females point of view great post
It's hard for a woman to go out alone. Especially if you're shy.
@Wendy1973-wl5lr Wendy I agree, till I was 32 I was a radio dj and worked at a cool restaurant that sat on the sarasota airport. I bring that up because I became a people watcher and how guys and girls interacted like a phycologist lol. I bring it up because if a girl came into the lounge you might think she's looking to meet someone. Just strike up a conversation with the bartender. Great reply
I am 50 lived alone not dated for 6 years.but 3wks ago i stared seeing dating a women 76 love it she is great❤p.s must say she is the best lover in the bedroom i aver had❤one word..wow
Fantastic ! 🎉
Sadly, being happy living alone, isn’t solved by simply joining a lawn bowling club, or some other social event. Having coffee or visits with friends and family assumes that you have both at your disposal, and that’s seldom the case. Well, why don’t just go for a nice walk? To where? Around the same blocks I’ve lived on for decades and check the street signs? There’s a dollar sign to everything you’ve mentioned that rarely comes up.
I have reached out to women but they would rather stay home on the couch and watch Netflix. If I can get them to commit they always back out last minute. I've tried joining groups and volunteering and when I ask someone if they'd like to go for coffee or something it gets really awkward and embarrassing because I've always been turned down. Women don't want to entertain in their homes anymore. Mostly because they're not good housekeepers and are ashamed of their homes and hoarding. And to be honest some of their homes are so dirty and wouldn't want to eat anything they would offer. I've offered hosting at my home but they declined because they feel guilty because they're not going to return the offer. If I feed them they feel guilty and the ones that are not tidy would want to bring something to eat and if they're dirty and have pets and couldn't eat their food. I have suggested going out to lunch. They always cancel last minute. I think technology has a lot to do with this.
I lost two of my sons recently. One was hospitalized for a year and then I cared for him by myself along with home hospice. I had to do all of this alone and I feel like I have PTSD. I'm definitely lonely now that I'm alone and really could use some socializing.
I have to go back to work so when I get a job that will be my social life and will hopefully help. I'm 71 and because my social security is so low I'll have to work for the rest of my life. Thankfully only part time because I'm starting to have some physical limitations due to arthritis. I do go to the gym every other day. I garden, read, keep up my home and cook homemade meals every day. I have two other children that live out of state that I keep in touch with but texting is not enough. I never knew that getting older would be so horrible.
I'm trying to keep positive and have a routine but this grieving is unbearable. I am seeing a counselor but it's not very helpful. I guess because I do as much as I do so far I'm doing pretty good.
So many people in my life have disappointed me to the point that I have no desire to be around them, family and friends. I have been married to my husband for 47 years and dated for 9 years before getting married and consider him to be my best friend in this world and I am his. We are both very content with being home bodies and living what some would call a dull life but find joy in the simple pleasures in our life, our dog, our home, our 7 acre private lot on a lake, wildlife that surrounds us, reading books out loud together, watching movies and favorite shows together. We have been blessed with two loving children who live in other states with their spouses who we also adore, and talk on face time weekly with and was also blessed with a sweet little granddaughter that our daughter gave birth too at the age of 43 who is turning three this December, and brings so much joy and laughter to our life, even though we do not get to see her in person often,but thank God for face time, it is truly amazing. Yes I would love if my children lived in driving distance but would never make them feel guilty by not. There jobs took them to where they live and they are both happy and we are happy for that. With all this said, I don’t know how I would feel living alone, if our situation changed where I found myself alone. To be honest, I hope I pass first. I am 77 almost 78 and my husband just turned 80. I think I would not be very happy and would not want to live with my children, even though I know they would want us too, I know it would only cause resentment on both sides. So I guess I will leave that up to God to help me get through if and when that time comes. God Bless you on your journey in life and thanks for your interesting videos, they do get the thoughts flowing.🥰
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You are fully blessed. I was as well until my two sons passed away. Bad things happen to everyone eventually. It's very very hard. I can't financially make it on social security and have been applying for jobs. I work in healthcare and because I'm getting older I can only work part time. I'm getting turned down for jobs I'm totally qualified for. I'm hoping it's not because of my age but I really think it is. I know if I really got into trouble my other two children would help me but that is so awkward.
You are so blessed to even have one person in your life. Partner or friend. I've been praying for that for 30 years. Friends don't want to get together. They want to stay home and watch Netflix and text occasionally. I don't need a pen pal.
My best advice is not to worry about anything until it actually happens. You learn to live in the moment at this stage of your life.
The world is in such a mess right now that I really don't care if I pass away. At least then I would have peace.
I know people will say trust the Lord, cast your cares etc. It's not that easy. I wish it were.
@@Wendy1973-wl5lrtry better help ?
You bring up some very interesting points in your content for this video.
I share your concern about material things we may have been privileged to bring into our lives from previous generations of family in addition to what we accumulated along the way by our own choices. ...
What I am beginning to notice is that one who is in the midst of their Senior years may have a lot more than they think they do and the maintenance of it, which can require time and energy (two things which we value now more than ever), gives one pause to reflect.
To contrast what is important to Seniors vs. younger people can become a real epiphany. ....
Basically, the pack we've been carrying around on our backs all our lives starts to seem heavier . . . or gravity is getting stronger.
What results from all this is created by one's choices.
It's always good to look around and do a "reality check" at any age.
At the end of the day it is all about the experiences! 😊
I have seen it all in my community. Many horders or their whole apartments are filled with crafts, seasonal decorations. Others don't clean, let their garbage in kitchen pile up. Don't walk their animals or ever take them for a walk. Don't cook period, order take out or microwave frozen crap. Its a different different world from what all your commentors are experiencing. Just saying. .
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I know what you're saying. Very hard to find a friend that you have things in common with.
I am going to start doing meet-ups and getting more outdoorsy. I'm actually going to try ice skating.
Sounds fun!!
Holly, it's nice you want to live alone, but please be careful with heating system, gas stove, stairs, and slip and falls.please keep all those items maintained. I just like you to know you you great!
Holly, I bet you've read the book "Living a Beautiful Life" by Alexandra Stoddard - judging by the fact that at 60 you're still tuned into hospitality.
I was feeling convicted during prayer yesterday that I should begin to make that effort & now you suggest it LoL.
I stay social at Church, Pickleball and Griefshare seminars.
At 60 I'm 3.5 years widowed so a lot of what Ive become accustomed to is due to gravity.
Perhaps defying gravity is a superpower to be sought after !
All the best - David in Texas
@truthboomertruthbomber5125
Fight that Gravity my friend.
It is the force that we manage daily.
Try living without it !
It's not just a good idea.
It's the Law.
Here's a nugget- Those who are so-so-so happy to be alone were never couplers, and should have been living alone the whole time. So when dating for a long-term relationship make sure to screen-out the, 'so-happy-to-be-aloners'.
That’s not necessarily true. If was happily married for many years. My husband is deceased. I now see this as a new chapter in my life.
@@nurshark10 It depends whether one is 'so happy' to be sans spouse, or not.
@@m2pozad being happy alone doesn't mean you aren't happy in a couple. I'd rather say "screen out people who can't be alone for a moment" when looking for a new partner.
@@m2pozadplease explain
@@nurshark10 There are those of us who have our emotional vested interest in being part of an us, as companions. And then there are those who have their emotional vested interest in being free to do as they wish, when they wish. Those two groups should date and pair-up within their preferred orientation. Know which group you belong in, and screen for those who share your commitment orientation- companionship or autonomy.
I think that those who enjoy their own company end up enjoying being alone. I was a military brat and a military wife. We get used to our husbands having occasional overseas tours without us. Mine went to Desert Storm, Iraq, and the Pentagon alone. I also lived alone before I got married. I have many hobbies and interests, so I seldom get bored. If you were an interesting person before living alone, you will have a better time at it. If you are an outgoing person who is interested in others, you will enjoy a full and satisfying life.
I am going to be living alone, shortly, in a new place. I am super excited about it, but I am anxious about sleeping without anyone in the house. Does it bother you when things go bump in the night? Does that go away?
Not to worry, you've got this! Sure, once in a while I might here a noise that concerns me. But usually, it's just my cat!
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Yes that goes away, you calm down and relax and are finally able to enjoy your single life😊
Love your topics. I am Now tapping!!!
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That's awesome!!!
A video from New York Christmas would be nice, if you have time only.