I met my husband right before my 60th Birthday. He's 7 years younger than me, and was a widower. I had been divorced for a few years. He proposed 3 months after we met in person. We just celebrated 5 years of marriage and are going strong.
@@Lindasromperroom Well Linda in a relationship with a man who had my same personanity, vañues, dreams and goals, wonderful sex partner who never would have cheated on me because he had the variety thing out of his sytem when I met him I was 32 he was 37. And Im the kind of woman who has chosen carefully and well....I agreed with you! I could omimagine any interest in anyone else ever again. Wd were realistic though. Likely we werent going to die together. As we crept up in age still goi g strong amd secually even MORE intimate as we aged (who even knew such a thing was possible)? It isnt what we are taught even me a psycology professor! The proper eesearch hasnt been donemand WHY becuase we all retired between 62 amd 65 before we reach 70s so psychologists have no clue! As I aged in my late 60s and erly 70s having gotten extensive foreign travel out of my system, crjising forst in out own saiñboat in pur 50s and 60s then on cruise ships after we built a gorgeous home abroad what was left was day to day enjoyment of each other's company and bodies. Yep...I said it. He began using Cialis to in crease normal dei dñi g of peripheral circulation. My hormoomes went up ie.as estrogen went down my testosterone was "unmasked" he said I was like a male teenager. I went from wanti g sex once every couple of weeks during menopause to once a week to twice a week amd mulitorgasmic in my 70s! What a shock THAT was. I found out this does hapñens sometiimes but does not much at all appesr in our psych literature. BELIEVE me when I tell you I searched the ?literature thoroughlly. Then one day ( I don t want to make you fearful but it does happen), he started declining. He had been a builder then and a RN in retirement to treat US abroad and cruising. Forst his vision in his already only sighted eye began dwindling he was being teeated but was going slowly blind. I tried hard to reassure him we would get speaking books and Id read to him a well he had alot to go on living for. We still had great sex...he began introducing the idea that he would likely diie before me he loved me. He said I should go on to another partner to KEEP me happy til it was my time...I could hear such a thought, he'd been my eveything since 31! His parents went on a long time 87 and 97 his father it wasnt going to be. Sueenly he came down with sinethung gastric we had a friend our private dr. who came to.our house...we had built this house with a downstairs large elegant bedroom suite handicapped accessible because we had brought my mother from England to care for her here two decades prior...same friend dr. He had all sorts of tests in a month and he was gone a HUGE shock. He had been bringing up the iead of whoever was left having another partner I secretely wanted HIM to never be alone he was too GOOD a buman being . too fine, too loving a man to be alone...I did NOT want him lomleñy after I
If you want companionship then there are solo (group) holidays or hobby groups. My friend met a close companion through her 'widiwed' group. They also have a little circle of friends (that was a spin off from that original group). They have sunshine holidays to the canary Islands from UK winters. They have mini breaks at Warner adult hotels...usually for the more mature people. They are a bit like cruises but set in beautiful stately or Manor houses.
@@teribunker5223 some seniors over 60 still wants to be male and female players and with that comes drama been there done that i’ll take peace a hobby and my God lm good
I actually got married at 60! Long story short, I met my husband after he moved to my state to be with someone he met online. It quickly fizzled, but he met me and we began the best relationship of my life. Neither of us had much money, but we worked together and recently purchased our new home, and are now both retired. If I hadn’t met him, I would still be open to dating because I have learned that if you keep your heart open, and use your head, the possibilities are endless 😍.
@@kimdavis5403 good advice! David and I keep our finances separate. When we go on trips, we share it in expenses, except for on the trip that we have gifted to each other for either birthdays or Christmas!
I like being alone. I am not lonely. I don't want to deal with another man's grown children or ex-wives. They have their own baggage that I can do without. They have their history, I have mine, it doesn't need to mix. No problems is better in life. Not everyone over a certain age has to be in a relationship. I'm cool with that.
That’s where I am too. My partner died a year ago and we did not live together. We had a good relationship not living together. Whether or not I have another relationship doesn’t bother me. I’m very happy by myself and like doing things how and when I want to do them. My space is good.
I married at age 47. That lasted for 20 years until he passed. It was good good life, a happy life but I am done. Don't ever want the job of wife again. Most men my age are looking for someone to fill that role. I'm retired.
I am in mid 50s. Have discovered many men in my age group are intwrested in women in 20s - 30s. Men who have approach/introduced themselves to me are in 30s or 70s. I have no interest in dating someone close to my child's age (near 30 ish) nor my parents age (70s).
I love living with just my dog. I wouldn’t give it up for anyone. I love crafts . Walking with my dog and watching movies and trying new recipes❤Reading is at the top of the list with going to church and bible study . God and Family is everything to me. I was married for 25 yrs and it was hard work
Yep, love it - If you live alone, but have God in your heart you can never be lonely! His unconditional love is with you 24/7. I'd still be open to meeting someone, but I'm not desperate, I'd rather take my time to wait for the right man, not just anybody.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
Right that’s why I hate when people do these kinds of videos just say it ain’t for you . And keep it moving . This will discredit people and make them feel like it’s worthless
I was fortunate enough to find my current husband 15 years ago. I was a bride at the age of 57. His 3rd marriage, my 3rd marriage.- we are both now retired, and travel all of the time. I encourage all of my friends not to give up and stay open to find “love”.
Just found you and subscribed! I’m almost 65 and he is 69. We met on Facebook. He messaged me and I decided to meet him for lunch with all the usual safety precautions in place. We ended staying until the restaurant closed. It’s such a delicious memory! We are together a lot but keep our separate residences. We enjoy social activities with friends, do lunch or dinner date nights just the two of us and also with friends, and have the most amazing sex. I was in a long term marriage completely devoid of any physical touch, period. We divorced about 8 years ago. I’m making up for lost time. 😊 Thank you for talking about dating after 60. To each their own whether single or dating or committed or married, but as for me, I am having a blast.
@@GwenMotoGirl Thank you so much for sharing this! I have encouraged some of my friends to use the Facebook dating app, but they have been hesitant. So happy to hear that it brought you success.
@ believe it or not, not the dating app. He messaged me in messenger. It was way out on a limb for both of us. I’m so grateful that he sent the message, that I actually read his message, and that I said yes. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. I think it was a mix of divine guidance, gut feeling, and maybe it’s just my time. Keep encouraging!
@@GwenMotoGirl thanks for clarifying, I’ve been a little leery about messages that I’ve received through Facebook messenger, so good for you! I will definitely keep your story in mind.
@ I’m definitely leery, too! More clarification - we had a mutual friend, so I was able to pre-screen a bit. 😁 Otherwise, I may have ignored like I ignored others.
I don’t know whether to to laugh or cry! I am a widow of 5 years, who is about to embark on a new marriage. The dearest fellow is 15 years younger and richer, by far, than I am. I am vital and young for my age, but the miracle of the matter is we share the same deep relationship with the LORD, the actual matchmaker. So blessed.
@ I have known him for 40 years, but never knew he was interested in me. Oddly enough, I was not interested in him . His being 15 years younger left him out of any consideration, even as a friend. God certainly does work in mysterious ways His wonders to perform.
@@donnabradford208 Yes I’m sure it goes both ways. In my previous relationship he sucked all the life out of me he was a narcissist and verbally and physically abusive. I was giving it my all and even trying to take care of his kid, he never appreciated what he had, it got so bad it actually threw my hormones off , my to where I had to start supplementing and get my hormones leveled out again. I’m thinking it was from being sleep deprived, he never let me get sleep when I was over at his place consistently waking me up. A very rude narcissistic person. I could go on and on. I am very happy where I’m at ,never going Back to a dark relationship like that!👍😊
You covered the challenges and some solutions quite well. At 70, the dilemma for me is whether I actually have the energy to form a new intimate (emotional as well as physical) relationship. The puzzle pieces would have to mesh very very well for me to even consider it. I've had many many relationships in my life and I am just tired. Yes, I am lonely at times. But the enormous effort of starting over at my age doesn't seem possible. Not to mention all the risks involved.
Just find hobby and interest. I am 56 and can’t imagine living or being with anyone. I have many activities and hobby. I never feel lonely. Trust me after a while you love your space and definitely don’t want to share it with anyone. I do not have the energy or want any stress. I travel solo and love my own company
@charmainewalker8627 Sometimes I get tired of solo Everything. So many places I'd like to travel to but anxious about solo travel.
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Besides, the number of men available at that age drops in proportion to the number of women. I agree, I'm a little older than you and I would see it as impossible for me.
I am 51 and have been divorced for 17 years. Had one 5-year relationship after divorce but have been single since. The only relationship I want is with the Lord and my 18-year old daughter.
🙌 and your 18 year old daughter will be needing you all of the way through!! We think sometimes that it ends at 18, but no way - that relationship can be a wonderful one- not clingy, but just being there consistently is such a blessing.
Great for you 👍🏾. The transparency is refreshing, and at least you're not out here trying to misrepresent yourself... you know what you want. And quite handsome, I might add.
This was awesome! I found so many liars while dating, after my 40s, I eventually gave up. Ive learned to value my alone time but would love to have a friend. Im 70 now and find men to be greedy and fearful you want their hoard.
No way. I met one guy after my divorce and Al he did was talk trash about his ex. I had to finally block his number!!! Just me and my dog. It’s bliss!!!
My husband died this year and after forty seven years of marriage and at the age of sixty seven I am no longer interested in dating. I love My life the way it is.
@@michellebilodeau3882 47 years of marriage is more than half your life. I agree this time is for you, to discover yourself, love yourself and live on your own terms. ❤️
Folks, just remember every relationship is not meant to last a lifetime--It’s okay. It is not a failure,it’s just life moving forward. Focus on what matters as you get older,because time is not about what you have left,but what you do about it! Be blessed and it is well with you!
I’m 63 years old and can’t be bothered! Dating is trash these days I have so many other things to do with my time Good luck to you my Dear Love your content
I’m 58 and he’s 65. We met online and he moved states to be with me 2 years ago. I might be a nurse and a purse as some put it but he’s my comfort and joy, my best friend, my travel buddy. We laugh together, cry together, plan together. I was single most of my life because I was so critical of men. I took no crap from no one and I spent many years alone. I think many single people need to ask do they want perfection or a partner. Don’t turn your back on someone just because they don’t fit the ideal because you might be missing out on the love of your life.
I understand what you are saying. A friend of mine met a man who was sickly and he worshipped the ground she walked on. They managed to have a lot of fun together in between his trips to the hospital. I learned from their witness that if you do become a nurse with a purse it has to be a kind and loving person not a grouch and cheapskate.
@@MamaDee737My fiance isn’t “sickly” though he manages his BP and diabetes well. He’s actually quite sexy lol and was a professional musician and occasionally still plays. It is sometimes annoying getting him to eat right and I do worry about more serious problems down the line. All in all i’d rather deal with his stuff than to be alone. I guess everyone must make that decision for themselves but I just wanted women to see another side of the story.
I was married 30 years, now divorced 10, I am 70. I was very naive coming out of a long marriage. There are predators waiting for you. I have met nothing but dysfunctional men. I am attractive, fit, financially stable. I am out in the community, go to the gym, play cards, very social. I have seen no one I am remotely interested in. The men out there have been at the game a long time. I have not met a man yet uninterested in sex, its almost the first thing out of their mouths.I have done online dating but I find most men are 5's looking for a 10.....
Although I really enjoy positive content creators (like this one). Unfortunately, in this day and age dating has changed for the worse. I would never go online as that seems to be the melting pot for scammers. I'm over 60 and in the last 2 years encountered two men at least 20 years my senior. Both presented themselves as gentlemen (dinner, movies, etc) but were actually players. Even typing this makes me laugh. Despite, oxygen tanks, clacking dentures, frequent runs to the toilet, they are still playing the field. So instead of being a part of their game, I travel with my girlfriends.
That’s an excellent way of putting it-5’s looking for 10’s 😂 It’s as if all they see in the mirror is their 20 something self and not what’s really there. 🤦♀️
These comments are quite interesting! It's validating! I'm in my 60s and had to really ESCAPE several terrible relationships. One stole my son, lied and got custody. These narcissists, they don't want you to be free, yet really weren't present, just cold during the relationship. They KNOW that they had a very good woman, and they don't want you to be free. It's very sick. I'm still fighting for my rights from terrible landlord. At least I know my biggest problem was being TOO NICE! Most women can relate!
Im 72. Right now i am enjoying amazing friendships with men and women. If i were in a relationship it could cause problems as most men are suspicious of friendships with men. Im not giving up my friends because of someones insecurities. So im at my best place now.
We are both 64 and have our own homes. We talk every day on the phone making sure we're okay and sharing our days experiences. We both have jobs but make time 12:59 out occasionally. Sex is still great after 4 years and we absolutely enjoy each others company , respect each other, honest and happy together. No plans to live together or get married and we're both happy with that arrangement . Can't ask for more after 2 divorces.
So happy to have found this channel! I’m 57 and never married. My adult children are out of the home. So my time is my time. I’ve been single since 2012 and would love to meet my forever man. These days it’s difficult and one of the main things I notice is that we don’t even acknowledge each other. Black men don’t even speak to us anymore. Walk right past as if you’re a ghost. Or the men in my age range don’t want to date me. They are seeking younger women. But nevertheless I will remain hopeful and know that my love is coming soon.
BW have pretty much divested so we really don't see the need to entertain one another these days. But if you love to dance try Stepping, you can look online for beginner classes or they'll teach on certain days at clubs. I notice it's predominantly older and predominantly black men.
I just saw your Channel and it’s very positive. I am in the process of getting divorced at 66 and I was married for 2 years and been together for over 8. I’ve heard the dating stories and it doesn’t look promising but there is always someone out there for you. I don’t think I’ll get married again but you never know😊
So glad I came upon your channel. Nine years ago I was blessed to run into a gentleman I dated when I was 21 I will be 70 the end of this month we do have situations that we have had to make adjustments to but such is life. I'm very glad that God brought him back into my life.
Thank you for sharing your views n personal experiences in the dating world of folks 60 plus. There are importance things to consider when dating as a mature person that are different than dating when you were younger. Be comfortable with who you are and don’t accept less than you deserve. You are the BEST and you deserve the BEST.
I am 66. My long time GF passed away 4 years ago. I miss her terribly. Have tried some dating and will continue to try to find that love of my life again. It is proving to be a challenge. I know there is someone out there.
I hope you are right, that there is someone out there and that you find them. I was married to the love of my life for forty years and have been a widow now for six years. I want to love again.
You must admit thay you will get a different person and not her.Don't look for her qualities in a different person.Have no expectations set and as you relate with the person on an empty slate, you can find qualities you like and may finally fall in love.Be open.
After a 43 yr marriage and now 5 yrs of healing myself without dating, I believe I’m ready to start. Or at least see if any men are working on their own past issues and not expecting me to fix them. I needed to heal from my childhood and past so as not to bring it into a new relationship and blame them for all the problems in my life! I became my own Hero! We’re not for everyone. Release those who do not inspire and truly care about you so their negative energy is not around you. We are never truly alone. God, or a higher power you may have and all our ancestors are rooting for us to succeed. To become who we were Born To Be! Truth with Love & Compassion will change this world! 💜
@@danilaroche1156 I believe Life is filled with Lessons to Learn. He is here to guide me as I do the work of deciding what and who is part of my life in the future. Free will and all that. I have Peace in my life now at 69. I will not give that up for anyone. When I have the same problems come back again, I tell God: I didn’t learn that lesson this time either but you know where I live so I’ll be seeing you. ☺️
@lauraormsby… long ago I came up with some marriage advice. This was from observing failed or failing relationships, not my own successful one. The advice is this- “Don’t marry a project!!!”. In the past year the premise has expanded to two more admonishments. 2-“Don’t be a project!!!” 3-“Don’t surround yourself with projects!!!” . I’m soon moving into a large upscale 55+ community and hope to find someone to be in a bf/gf “together living apart “ relationship. I’m 70, in good health for the most part, tall and slender, play Pickleball, build things and would like to find a similar woman. I have no interest in online dating which seems like a disaster. Just an organic meet up in everyday life and a slow natural glide into a loving relationship.
I'm 65 and been happily divorced for 15 years after 20 years of marriage. At this point, I'm not sure I want someone in my "space" all the time. I LOVE my privacy, my freedom and my singleness. I NEVER thought of myself as incomplete without a partner because I was always too busy working on becoming the best version of myself. That's taken years, and I'm still a work in progress lol. I love my life now. My kids are grown and busy also. I'm greatful for whatever time I can share with them, but I have my own interests that keep me busy and I like it like that. If I meet someone, maybe we can be good friends, occasional lovers, but mostly wonderful companions to each other. I think that would work. New subscriber here. 😀
I love that you found someone compatible. I'm 56 and prefer a lot of solitude. I dated a guy for a couple of years and he is nice but we had polar opposite attachment styles so the relationship wore me down. I don't want to be with anyone that is demanding of my time and wanting to talk on the phone several times a day, with nothing much to talk about. I can spend time with him occasionally, but he wants more from a relationship than I'm willing to give.
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Several friends were dating and were pressured into marriage too soon so they cut relationship off. Most older men are looking for a housekeeper with a purse. Casual dutch treat dating is fine, but most men want commitments. Introverted people like solitude more with less social activiy. Some women will marry for companionship as it's easier for couples to be social vs singles.
@@hump1953 yeh self centered u wonder why their single then complain why their single im a woman 61 was single for 28 yrs before i met my bf hes 8 yrs older then me met in 2019 be 5 yrs been together this yr 2024 i feel happy relaxed content each to their own but i got tired of doing the same groundhog things everyday since meeting my bf we are both superbusy i help him in his workshop hes a auto electrician life is great for me now amen
Widowed now for 12 years. Two disastrous relationships since. Both were narcissistic, controlling and resulted in two years of therapy. I am 69 now. Sold everything and moved to France on my own. Best decision I ever made. My friends think I am a badass for doing that. Never thought of myself that way, but I know now, I don’t need a spouse to make me happy. Love my new life 😃.
The stress and turmoil of relationships when younger can be dealt with but when older it is just too much. I've always dated younger guys about five to seven years younger. The oldest man I ever dated was 47 years old and after this there were too many responsibilies thrust on me and dating became boring. I've had close friendships with men all my life but I swore off of 'romance" and all the emotional highs and lows. Living on my own has been a blessing. Thank you the powers that be.
I have been married twice. In March 2023, my second husband, who much older passed away. He was older than me, was a great husband but his health issues put a lot of stress and strain on our marriage. Also, I experienced a lot of interference from his family. I am 69 years old and I have a desire to date. However I am active in church, my sorority and Order of the Eastern Star PHA. Also, I’m employed part time as a substitute teacher. I dated one man who had serious health issues. I met another man who didn’t have a car and he didn’t have much in common with me. Therefore, it’s no hurry just to date until I feel comfortable and confident of spending time with a man who is compatible with me.
I’m 59 and I’ll be 60 soon and I am still hopeful. I keep my heart open and I make sure that I don’t be around people that continue to break it because that’s the problem sometimes toxicity being around toxic being toxic relationship destroy you for healthy relationships so just be by yourself I’m by myself untilthe right person comes along and I am open but until then I continue to live and be happy with my life and my cat.😂😂😂❤❤❤ it’s all good either way, live life and love and stay hopeful and open
I’m just turned 62 and I’m hoping that special one comes along. I’m always the third wheel in my circle of friends because they’re either married or in a relationship. It can become very hard at times but I’m still hopeful!
I'm 55 and have married and divorced too many times! I don't think I'm a difficult person, but I am the common denominator in my scenario, so that makes me thoughtful. I always wanted to have a long marriage, but after a few years, I get tired of bending over backwards to make someone happy when they have no interest in reciprocating. So, here I am with my dog, renting a cute little townhouse. I love my work and have a side hustle at a friend's shop. I travel with friends, visit with my sister more regularly than when I was married, and my son checks in with me regularly to make sure I'm okay. It's a very good life. I don't think I'm even close to being ready to date again, and I have no interest in looking online, but if the Universe decides to put the right person in my path, I might be open to that.
I think where you run into trouble after 60 is the age difference. If you a 60 year old women healthy and fit you better look for a partner that is at least 5 years younger. Most men aging much faster and do you really want to be a nurse later??? Think about that. I still hear the warning from my Granny in my ears: DON"T DO IT! Boy ,she was so right.
@@elisabethgardner6321 I’ve thought about that a lot So far everyone thinks David is younger than I am. We work hard together to stay in shape and eat right and hope for the best!
You are correct I'm well over 60 very active eat right 90% of the time. Bay...Bay....I hate to say it but the men not all....but many broke down...verbally, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally....it's rough out here.
Found your channel happenstance, lucky me ! I know for sure as we get older we must be positive in everything. I find it a bit challenging , peoples mindset. I’m a happy go lucky person who loves to and want to try new things learn new things travel ,meet people , dance etc. How I would love to meet someone like that even just a little. He doesn’t have to be extreme just content and down to earth and positive. It is so good for our health.
I’m married (happily) and 68. What you said about traveling with someone you’re dating being a good way to find out if you are compatible is spot on! When I was 26 I had been dating a 38 y/o man for three years. We went on a cruise and that was the end of us! 🤣🤣🤣 Within a couple months I met my now husband in my apartment building that my dad owned. He is 5 years younger than I. I prayed to God for this one. We have been together 42 years. He is a tradesman. The other man was a business CEO. Nite and day difference and everyone said I could do better than my current husband. I knew they were wrong because God answered my prayers. If anything happens to one of us, I doubt dating would ever work for either of us. I’m an independent person who needs lots of space. Good luck to you! Glad it’s working. I agree, it would be really hard to date at this stage in life so I just wouldnt entertain the idea.
I’m 56 and my girlfriend is 60 and we’ve been together about 6 months. We met organically at our local washateria about 8 months ago. I was a weekly customer and she worked there so we met on her first day, had an instant connection and enjoyed each other’s company every week from then on. We officially started dating 6 months ago and went through a brief rough patch as she suffers from depression and I was learning how to best support her; but, she’s come out of that now and we have been very happy. ❤ We are both introverts and very independent but do eventually plan to move in together one day. She has grown kids (I don’t have kids) and I own a house (she does not so she’s free from any financial obligations and can move in with me as soon as we’re ready). I think of course there are hurdles to overcome when you’re merging two established lives together but that’s part of what makes life interesting and fun! We’re excited to be together and building a life together. Oh yeah, and sex is still great fun too! 😊
I just found your channel. Very interesting to learn about relationships at mature age. I am 61 years old and must admit it is very hard to trust someone for a relationship nowadays. Hope to watch other videos. Thank you.
Wow I’m amazed at the negative comments 😂 I’m 65 and met the love of my life at 63, online dating, and he is 2 years younger than me. My criteria was that I would not settle for someone again who did not add value to my already great single life of 5 years. And that is what has happened. I have now been in a relationship for 3 years with the most amazing loving person I have ever met. ❤ We feel like teenagers and add so much to each others lives! I also changed career from school teacher to online business at the age of 60. It’s an easy set up business in a box which I now teach others to do. We have a global community of loving people in the same business, growing together in personal development so life in my 60’s is fun, travel, abundance, and love. Don’t restrict yourselves to how you think “ it should be” for women in their 60’s, because the mind is your only limitation. 🎉👌💫
I appreciate all the comments. I desire to have marital companionship but its been over 20 years and really never anything serious. I am 61 and would love a mature settled caring gentleman that holds his own and know what is expected and know how to appreciated.
I started dating someone at 61 after being single for 13 years. We were together 10 months and split up, and reunited 15 months later, at which time we were both in a better position to explore the relationship and see where it might take us. It has been a huge learning experience for both of us. We have been back together for 18 months now and planning for the future together. My advice? Just because we are older doesn’t mean we need to rush things, on the contrary, take the time to allow things to naturally unfold. In doing so you will have the opportunity to get to know one another better and you will also be building a more solid foundation for a long term relationship. Taking your time also builds trust between you. We all come with a history at this stage in our lives and if our partner gives us the time we need to feel comfortable with the idea of a new direction in life it can truly grow a level of confidence within the relationship and within ourselves. It sure is different starting a new relationship at this age but don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be exciting or fulfilling because it can. Just give it a chance, give yourself a chance too. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Ha ha ha, My man and I took our 1st roadtrip (MO to FL 16 hours driving) after dating 9 months. 5 years later we're still together. I said the same thing: want to know if you're compatible? Take a road trip together ha ha ha. It's a great love.
Most men are looking for a nurse at that age, to avoid a nursing home...i am divorced..my kids are grown, granny of twins, ❤❤..I still work, workout, just sold my house, just came back from England 🇬🇧, brunch and bbqs, with childhood friends..celibate 6 years, 58 years, still a size 6😅 planning our 60th on a cruise 🛳...I'm good, tired of the cheating, lying, selfishness, cheapness...😅😅 Oh, I'm also set in my beautiful ways😅❤
I'm glad you're happy but please don't categorize all of us men as wanting nursemaids That's not true of me at all. I'm 62 same weight I was when I graduate high school I work out I run . I still run my own little business I have yet to find a person my age that could keep up with me so I'm glad that you're happy but no we're not all looking for nurse maids so God bless
I know 5 men right off the top of my head who are caring for elderly wives who are wracked with dementia. One recently told me how violent she has become. His life is a nightmare. You women are afflicted with many health issues once you hit menopause. Stop the BS about how all of us older guys are looking for a nurse.
@@rcas350pilot8You women? I know that couldn’t mean all women because this characterization does NOT include me! See how you gave YOUR opinion, the originator of this comment was just giving HER opinion. Isn’t she entitled to gave an opinion as well?
I've been divorced for 20 years. A few years ago, I began dating a seasoned man who was the same age as me. He had numerous serous health issues and after a year he came out and said he wanted me to take care of him! I also found out that he was seeing a younger woman in another city. I immediately ended the "relationship" and put him on call-block. One thing that I won't do is settle for less. I'm optimistic that there are good Christian men who want the same thing that I do. If I meet someone great, if not I'm very content with myself.
Great video and lots of good information. Currently dating a man who is 61 and I'm 72. He lost his younger wife a year and a half ago, I lost my husband of43 yrs. 7 years ago. I enjoy his company, but yes the challenges are very different when dating someone younger. He loves to travel, and I feel like I've done all the traveling I want to. I have more anxiety now about airports, etc. we've been together for 9 months. I do urge him to try dating someone younger with more energy. I have been going to the gym for over a year so I try to keep myself physically able, but that is just a part of some of the things. He has no grandchildren, but I have 2 and have a regular weekend taking care of them every other week. He doesn't mind, but he is still working full time and will retire in a year. Not sure how things will work out when he retires, as he does love to be with me when he is off. Anyway I'm glad I found your channel. so sweet of you to offer help at this age. I can answer any questions you may have in dating someone younger for your channel. Take care!
Thank you for this video. You voiced many of my sentiments. The comments are helpful too. I’m 74 and been dating 5 years. You’re right about focusing on the positive because there are things I wish I could change and others that I truly value.
I married my wife at 63 and we've been married 5 years. We met online and she was 4,500 miles from Texas. She's 11 years younger so we sometimes don't see eye to eye but that's life.😊😊😊😊
I am totally in love; I met him 2 .5 years ago through mutual acquaintances who themselves are madly in love with each other and want the same for us. It was love at first sight and he was the perfect guy for 6 months. I had been warned by family members that he was difficult but my love for him keeps me there because of his sweetness and caring spirit. I am pretty sure he is a narcissist but not physically violent. Don’t want to leave him because we really do love each other and really young for our ages (73 and 75). We live like we are in our early fifties and not many people our age can live their life as live.
Just discovered your channel. I think you’ll help me with dating. I became a widow in 2021 at the age of 71. I’m just beginning to think about dating. Your videos seem like they’ll help. I’m retired and I have one son who lives 8 miles away with his lovely family. Family good but not the same a friend your own age.
What a valuable subject matter , dating over 60, Just turned 64 and as a ex pro-athlete and world traveler I dont have body issues that effect my self esteem. The problem i am concerned about is men dont take care of their bodies and you notice early on nmental illness , ex wifes and physical ailments. Who wants that if you are in excellent physical and mental shape. I stay involved in competitive sports such as tennis, etc. I only had one child who is independent and long gone. Age doesnt bring wisdom and maturity. A full diagnostic is neccessary and a serious talk about mutual relationship goals and gender roles within a relationship. You never want someone from a different socio-economic status who freaks out over dinner because he can only afford the salad instead of a 4 course dinner.
I’ve been married for to my high school sweetheart for 46 years. I don’t want to travel After retirement, I do not. He drives like an old man. I do not He is cheap I am not We are so opposite I can’t imagine doing this again. Never Ever Ever Want another man in my life except my rooster. I wait in him hand and foot cook lovely meals every night. Make his lunches and they are very nice and healthy homemade biscuits sausage and eggs Every morong. If Somethinhappems To him, I’m going to REST the Remainder Of my life….I’ll Choose Loneliness over slavery Any day.
I'm a widow and was married for 43 years. One requirement for a man that I would get involved with again would be that he cooks! I can cook but don't want the burden of every piece of food that goes into the man's mouth is my responsibility anymore! He can cook sometimes, and I'll cook sometimes, and we could cook together sometimes.
Great pros and cons! One thing I’ve learned and always believed I’m not going to live with a man who’s not my husband! Therefore we have to keep our own residences! I love having my own space! To each their own!
I am 64 turning 65 next may. I got this man who is 65 we are both in the same faith however he is not entirely honest. He has too many issues especially financially. I’m afraid if I get into this relationship I would be very financially disturbed. I love it to have someone cos my children are of busy with their lives. I would love to have someone that I can have as a partner
I think you are right about the financial thing. If he’s habitually behind on things and always needing money from you and others , then you are better off waiting for the right guy.
I found love again at age 55 & he was 64, we are engaged to be married this year and we couldn't be better matched. Basically life is wonderful & both our families including grown children are super happy for us. 😁
I'm alone and I like it that cause you don't have to worry about no one but yourself.my ways are mine for one I don't like to cook unless I'm in the mood
I'm 62, have no children, never been married. I never dated a lot, even when I was younger, because most men were either intimidated by me or they were boring to me. I know about the intimidating part because I've had several men tell me years later that they were interested back then, but didn't think they measured up. I am befuddled about that, honestly! I own my home, still work full time, and live a full life. If someone came into my life, I would be open to it, but it's not something I'm necessarily interested in at this stage in my life. But this is an interesting conversation.
Time determines who you going to meet. Your heart determines who you going to Love. Your behavior determines who will remain in your life. Life is short enjoy every moment when you can
thank you! Great discussion about pros and cons. Think you have really thought through this and it is of value to hear. Think that people over 60 (which I am) are very lucky when they can find someone that they enjoy as you have. I currently haven't but am happy either way.
Most of my most "glorious" finds were during solo travel. La Rochelle was the most recent. Had never heard of it before. My sister group and I were meeting up, so I looked it up as a stop on my way. My tips for women traveling solo and abroad would be to 1) Be very aware of your surroundings 2) Book your dinners early 3) Have your cocktails either in your room, in the lobby of your hotel, or limit it to one drink at dinner (I love champagne and Prosecco - smile) 4) Middle Eastern men tend to be aggressive, so be firm. 5) Amazon has a hotel door lock (get one or use your suitcase as a barrier 6) Pickpockets love purses (use a fanny pack) 7) Don't ever give up an opportunity to travel (The world is so exciting) Lastly, you know what is good for you. Wishing you tons of great travel ahead. I leave for Madagascar for the holidays.
Dating at 67 is great for me. I am so happy with the man that I met. I’m a realist I’m a senior citizen a young senior but a senior nevertheless. I’m not looking for a fine man anymore . Although he is not ugly . I’m looking for a man that loves me and treat me like a queen. And I treat him like a king. He Is not perfect by no means but he truly loves the Lord and that sealed the deal for me. We pray together .he is so respectful. He is so loving to me and he makes me happy. We believe that God put us together .
I just found your channel and I'm turning 65 next month. I've never been married but several relationships over the 40 years. I'm not sure what I want from dating at this stage. I do like my private time, dont want to change my life and I'm still unsure if i even want to date at this age. But I do want to say whatever you're doing is working. You look fabulous!
Flexibility on each person’s part is essential. This is a choice that brings two people together or not together. If you like being alone, you are totally free to live your own life. This is really not so complicated as you say, really.
You are correct, the airports are not a lot of fun traveling these days. Older guys at that age don't consider traveling that as important... BTW, my name is also Dave and I used to be a photographer back in the 80's when Kodak was King....LOL I have worked nights for over 30 years and my wife and I have been married for 42 years and we like staying home with dogs...Small world....
Welp, so glad I stumbled upon this video. I'm 66 and met my ex at 59. It was lack of sex that eventually made me leave. Your video affirmed some things for me.
it's hard for some older people because we are so set in our ways, the person we date would be set in their ways also. very hard to conform to someones ways.
These channels make me so grateful for my parents who worked through difficult things. They weren’t perfect, of course. Sometimes I wished for different parents. But I think it was because of them that my husband and I have been happily married for over 30 years. I’m 61 now and can’t imagine what it would be like to start “dating.” The adjustment to another person’s way of being and the flexibility to go with the flow - and the respect for each others alone time - this is something married people learn through the years. I feel like dating, whether you’re young or old, has never been something I wanted to do. My husband and I were friends for two years before we went out romantically and then we got married within a month or two. I’m seeing so many older ladies who are all alone, and don’t know it but are in some danger living in their van and traveling alone. It’s a free world, but there are definitely consequences (good and bad) to taking a non traditional route in life. I’m glad you aren’t alone…
I love me. Ive been married and it just isn't for me. I used to think i was supposed to be with someone and feel lonely when I wasn't with someone... but that was just a phase. At this point in my life, I LOVE my peace! I dont need the company of any one but God and a few good phone conversations every now and then with friends. Who by the way, none of them are happy in their marriages but stay because of what they would lose. Thats not the life I choose.
thank you for sharing your video. so many people are kind of set in their ways, including me. I really like a lot of time by myself. I wouldn't mind going to a few things together.
Thank you for a very interesting video. Great information on how to date after age 60!! One 'pro' is that a person by that age should have a good idea of what type of people they feel most comfortable with..and that helps to avoid being with people that we know are not compatible with us. Getting older has advantages as well as disadvantages..but we can be grateful for all the wisdom we acquire as we get older and more mature!!
I like staying as a “friend”. I’m not ready for a committed relationship because I like to sometimes do things solo. I don’t want to get into “trusting” because it’s not guaranteed to last even after 60.
I met my husband right before my 60th Birthday. He's 7 years younger than me, and was a widower. I had been divorced for a few years. He proposed 3 months after we met in person. We just celebrated 5 years of marriage and are going strong.
Congratulations! Hope you have many more years together!
congratulations
Congratulations on not giving up on LOVE. I married my now ex-husband 3 days before my 30th birthday.
@AndreaRJames 😊
@@marshagreen9339 Happy Anniversary 🎈
My Mom found love at 64. It brought her back to life. They married and traveled the world.
That’s awesome!!❤️ Thank You for sharing!
You hit MY nail on the head! I’m a loner homebody; but I do get lonely. Loneliness is better than chaotic relationships.
You bet! I love my husband but would not marry again. I have it too good now. No one could live up to him. Married 36 years.
@@Lindasromperroom Well Linda in a relationship with a man who had my same personanity, vañues, dreams and goals, wonderful sex partner who never would have cheated on me because he had the variety thing out of his sytem when I met him I was 32 he was 37. And Im the kind of woman who has chosen carefully and well....I agreed with you! I could omimagine any interest in anyone else ever again.
Wd were realistic though. Likely we werent going to die together. As we crept up in age still goi g strong amd secually even MORE intimate as we aged (who even knew such a thing was possible)? It isnt what we are taught even me a psycology professor! The proper eesearch hasnt been donemand WHY becuase we all retired between 62 amd 65 before we reach 70s so psychologists have no clue!
As I aged in my late 60s and erly 70s having gotten extensive foreign travel out of my system, crjising forst in out own saiñboat in pur 50s and 60s then on cruise ships after we built a gorgeous home abroad what was left was day to day enjoyment of each other's company and bodies. Yep...I said it. He began using Cialis to in crease normal dei dñi g of peripheral circulation. My hormoomes went up ie.as estrogen went down my testosterone was "unmasked" he said I was like a male teenager. I went from wanti g sex once every couple of weeks during menopause to once a week to twice a week amd mulitorgasmic in my 70s! What a shock THAT was. I found out this does hapñens sometiimes but does not much at all appesr in our psych literature. BELIEVE me when I tell you I searched the ?literature thoroughlly.
Then one day ( I don t want to make you fearful but it does happen), he started declining. He had been a builder then and a RN in retirement to treat US abroad and cruising. Forst his vision in his already only sighted eye began dwindling he was being teeated but was going slowly blind. I tried hard to reassure him we would get speaking books and Id read to him a well he had alot to go on living for. We still had great sex...he began introducing the idea that he would likely diie before me he loved me. He said I should go on to another partner to KEEP me happy til it was my time...I could hear such a thought, he'd been my eveything since 31! His parents went on a long time 87 and 97 his father it wasnt going to be.
Sueenly he came down with sinethung gastric we had a friend our private dr. who came to.our house...we had built this house with a downstairs large elegant bedroom suite handicapped accessible because we had brought my mother from England to care for her here two decades prior...same friend dr. He had all sorts of tests in a month and he was gone a HUGE shock. He had been bringing up the iead of whoever was left having another partner I secretely wanted HIM to never be alone he was too GOOD a buman being . too fine, too loving a man to be alone...I did NOT want him lomleñy after I
If you want companionship then there are solo (group) holidays or hobby groups. My friend met a close companion through her 'widiwed' group. They also have a little circle of friends (that was a spin off from that original group). They have sunshine holidays to the canary Islands from UK winters. They have mini breaks at Warner adult hotels...usually for the more mature people. They are a bit like cruises but set in beautiful stately or Manor houses.
@@teribunker5223 some seniors over 60 still wants to be male and female players and with that comes drama been there done that i’ll take peace a hobby and my God lm good
What's the Warner adult hotels?@@miriammorgan1140
I actually got married at 60! Long story short, I met my husband after he moved to my state to be with someone he met online. It quickly fizzled, but he met me and we began the best relationship of my life. Neither of us had much money, but we worked together and recently purchased our new home, and are now both retired. If I hadn’t met him, I would still be open to dating because I have learned that if you keep your heart open, and use your head, the possibilities are endless 😍.
You are one of the few lucky ones.
I love this story ~ thank you for sharing that positive is possible. Love how you articulated that: keep your heart open, AND use your head. ♥️ Yes.
You rock! Hubble is a lucky guy!
Awesome!
Thats what im talking about! Great attitude lady. You need to open a dating service for the older folks
My mother found a boyfriend at age 68. They are still together 16 years later. Her boyfriend is 99 lol. He’s a wonderful, kind, and funny person.
That's beautiful! God bless!!!
Is she a hospice wife or caregiver??
I love that
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Yea because he’s already dead below the waist
Watch it!!! Nurse and a purse situations. Keep your assets and financial info to yourself. Don’t be used. Be wise and stay alert!
@@kimdavis5403 good advice! David and I keep our finances separate. When we go on trips, we share it in expenses, except for on the trip that we have gifted to each other for either birthdays or Christmas!
I like being alone. I am not lonely. I don't want to deal with another man's grown children or ex-wives. They have their own baggage that I can do without. They have their history, I have mine, it doesn't need to mix. No problems is better in life. Not everyone over a certain age has to be in a relationship. I'm cool with that.
Agreed!
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@@bagobeans Yes!
That’s where I am too. My partner died a year ago and we did not live together. We had a good relationship not living together. Whether or not I have another relationship doesn’t bother me. I’m very happy by myself and like doing things how and when I want to do them. My space is good.
@@DonnaWellington-gu6ku I'm sorry about the passing of your partner.
But yes, nothing wrong with being on one's own. 💐
Dating after 60 is very difficult. Decided to follow my dreams instead. Alone but never lonely. Blessings
Great way to put it! 😉
I ❤love that; alone but never lonely! My new motto-thank you!
Agree!
follow your dreams you can finally do something that makes you happy
It’s difficult because you make it difficult
I married at age 47. That lasted for 20 years until he passed. It was good good life, a happy life but I am done. Don't ever want the job of wife again. Most men my age are looking for someone to fill that role. I'm retired.
There you go! I’m not doing caretaker duties! Sorry not sorry!
Agreed
68 Yrs Young❤❤❤!Looking Forward to A Good Relationship where We Can Communicate & Have FUN TOGETHER!
Men over 55 are usually looking for a nurse or a purse. Beware ladies… especially if you have your own home.
That's so true! Or they want a younger woman to give them alot of sex, especially if they have alot of money they feel entitled.
I am in mid 50s. Have discovered many men in my age group are intwrested in women in 20s - 30s. Men who have approach/introduced themselves to me are in 30s or 70s.
I have no interest in dating someone close to my child's age (near 30 ish) nor my parents age (70s).
I totally agree. I was a nurse and a purse with my second husband.
@@vickiej.parker4193 Gurrl, just divest from men…the 🍆ain’t worth the stress! If you need help around the house, hire a handyman. 🧘🏽♀️
Three of my female relatives met men who just packed a bag and moved into their homes. Depressing
I love living with just my dog. I wouldn’t give it up for anyone. I love crafts . Walking with my dog and watching movies and trying new recipes❤Reading is at the top of the list with going to church and bible study . God and Family is everything to me. I was married for 25 yrs and it was hard work
Love it
Yep, love it - If you live alone, but have God in your heart you can never be lonely!
His unconditional love is with you 24/7.
I'd still be open to meeting someone, but I'm not desperate, I'd rather take my time to wait for the right man, not just anybody.
@@lorrainekohn6056Agreed!
I was married for 6 years and it was hard work. I am 59 and I will never get married again
Sorry....
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Right that’s why I hate when people do these kinds of videos just say it ain’t for you . And keep it moving . This will discredit people and make them feel like it’s worthless
I was fortunate enough to find my current husband 15 years ago. I was a bride at the age of 57. His 3rd marriage, my 3rd marriage.- we are both now retired, and travel all of the time. I encourage all of my friends not to give up and stay open to find “love”.
@@afitugirl Thank you for your comment!! Love it!
Open mindedness is key.
I'm 61 & praying & believing that God will bless me with someone not just what I want but what I need & vice versa 🙏🏾 .
@@lt3074 great outlook!
Me too lookin for someone I prayed always to find a man , I'm a women from Indonesia 57 no Kids 😊
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Amen!!! Totally trusting the Lord as well!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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I was single no kids at 57yrs engaged to a 60yr old our relationship has been wonderful .Prayer works
Just found you and subscribed! I’m almost 65 and he is 69. We met on Facebook. He messaged me and I decided to meet him for lunch with all the usual safety precautions in place. We ended staying until the restaurant closed. It’s such a delicious memory!
We are together a lot but keep our separate residences. We enjoy social activities with friends, do lunch or dinner date nights just the two of us and also with friends, and have the most amazing sex. I was in a long term marriage completely devoid of any physical touch, period. We divorced about 8 years ago. I’m making up for lost time. 😊 Thank you for talking about dating after 60. To each their own whether single or dating or committed or married, but as for me, I am having a blast.
@@GwenMotoGirl Thank you so much for sharing this! I have encouraged some of my friends to use the Facebook dating app, but they have been hesitant. So happy to hear that it brought you success.
@ believe it or not, not the dating app. He messaged me in messenger. It was way out on a limb for both of us. I’m so grateful that he sent the message, that I actually read his message, and that I said yes. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. I think it was a mix of divine guidance, gut feeling, and maybe it’s just my time. Keep encouraging!
@@GwenMotoGirl thanks for clarifying, I’ve been a little leery about messages that I’ve received through Facebook messenger, so good for you! I will definitely keep your story in mind.
@ I’m definitely leery, too! More clarification - we had a mutual friend, so I was able to pre-screen a bit. 😁 Otherwise, I may have ignored like I ignored others.
Love your comment. I want to be married but live in separate homes.😊
I don’t know whether to to laugh or cry! I am a widow of 5 years, who is about to embark on a new marriage. The dearest fellow is 15 years younger and richer, by far, than I am. I am vital and young for my age, but the miracle of the matter is we share the same deep relationship with the LORD, the actual matchmaker. So blessed.
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Have you actually met this person...Hopefully you are not being scammed.
@ I have known him for 40 years, but never knew he was interested in me. Oddly enough, I was not interested in him . His being 15 years younger left him out of any consideration, even as a friend. God certainly does work in mysterious ways His wonders to perform.
Sounds too good to be true. Hope all your dreams come true. Ps- do background check
The Lord can certainly send the perfect match…be blessed and enjoy…♥️♥️🙏🙏
I'm a seasoned subscriber and at this stage of my life I prefer solo. I am enjoying my singlehood immensely. Some men can be exhausting.
Most of them are
Not only men, women too
so can some women. LOL
@@donnabradford208 Yes I’m sure it goes both ways. In my previous relationship he sucked all the life out of me he was a narcissist and verbally and physically abusive. I was giving it my all and even trying to take care of his kid, he never appreciated what he had, it got so bad it actually threw my hormones off , my to where I had to start supplementing and get my hormones leveled out again. I’m thinking it was from being sleep deprived, he never let me get sleep when I was over at his place consistently waking me up. A very rude narcissistic person. I could go on and on. I am very happy where I’m at ,never going Back to
a dark relationship like that!👍😊
@@sheiladavid9131 omg I’m 43 and could never deal with someone that disrupted my sleep! Glad you got away.
You covered the challenges and some solutions quite well. At 70, the dilemma for me is whether I actually have the energy to form a new intimate (emotional as well as physical) relationship. The puzzle pieces would have to mesh very very well for me to even consider it. I've had many many relationships in my life and I am just tired. Yes, I am lonely at times. But the enormous effort of starting over at my age doesn't seem possible. Not to mention all the risks involved.
Thank you so much for sharing Joanne!
Just find hobby and interest. I am 56 and can’t imagine living or being with anyone. I have many activities and hobby. I never feel lonely. Trust me after a while you love your space and definitely don’t want to share it with anyone. I do not have the energy or want any stress. I travel solo and love my own company
@charmainewalker8627 Sometimes I get tired of solo Everything. So many places I'd like to travel to but anxious about solo travel.
Besides, the number of men available at that age drops in proportion to the number of women. I agree, I'm a little older than you and I would see it as impossible for me.
I’m glad you mentioned the physical part. I have little interest in that and most men can’t get enough of it. No thanks!
Watch TV with them......if they grab the clicker and keep it by them you know. Especially if it's your home. LOL. I'm serious.
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Good tip 😂
You know what? 😁
What do you know?
I am 51 and have been divorced for 17 years. Had one 5-year relationship after divorce but have been single since. The only relationship I want is with the Lord and my 18-year old daughter.
I can relate
Your still young. Be open to what God wants. Your healing from 5 year relationship. Maybe still hurt & disappointed?
@@danilaroche1156Why can't you mind your business? No one is going to do anything you suggest. People can decide for themselves.
That’s all you need
🙌 and your 18 year old daughter will be needing you all of the way through!!
We think sometimes that it ends at 18, but no way - that relationship can be a wonderful one- not clingy, but just being there consistently is such a blessing.
I’m 72, fit , healthy, well traveled… I have dated but much happier alone… at my age I am stuck and happy 😃
I absolutely agree with you. I love being single but I'm never lonely.
Great for you 👍🏾. The transparency is refreshing, and at least you're not out here trying to misrepresent yourself... you know what you want. And quite handsome, I might add.
Exactly! In early 60s living my blessed life and drama free, activities and it’s God and Me!
This was awesome! I found so many liars while dating, after my 40s, I eventually gave up. Ive learned to value my alone time but would love to have a friend. Im 70 now and find men to be greedy and fearful you want their hoard.
Same here.
@@marianfrances4959 i’m 68. Men my age want gals in 50s .
I am afraid some man would want my hoard. LOL
@@marianfrances4959 I like the way you put it, "hoard"...exactly, THEIR 🗑 LOL.. the selfishness, with nothing to be selfish with.....lol 😊
No way. I met one guy after my divorce and Al he did was talk trash about his ex. I had to finally block his number!!! Just me and my dog. It’s bliss!!!
Love listening to your advice. It’s so refreshing to hear something positive about dating after 60!! Do you have an email address?
Then you shouldn't ask him about his ex
Sorry to hear that…
I’m 72, still healthy , wealthy and wise .. many women my age don’t like sex .. time to look abroad for younger women…
If they trash their exes or gfs give them a wide berth as they are trouble !
My husband died this year and after forty seven years of marriage and at the age of sixty seven I am no longer interested in dating. I love My life the way it is.
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Condolences to you.🙏🏿💕
🌹Time has a way of healing... God bless you.
@@michellebilodeau3882 47 years of marriage is more than half your life. I agree this time is for you, to discover yourself, love yourself and live on your own terms. ❤️
Folks, just remember every relationship is not meant to last a lifetime--It’s okay. It is not a failure,it’s just life moving forward. Focus on what matters as you get older,because time is not about what you have left,but what you do about it! Be blessed and it is well with you!
Thank you...I needed to hear that!
Thank you...sooo inspiring ❤
Excellent points made for the pros and cons of dating after 60. Thank you❤
I’m 63 years old and can’t be bothered! Dating is trash these days I have so many other things to do with my time
Good luck to you my Dear
Love your content
You sound like an amazing person! I’m so happy you and David have your independence. That’s so important.
@@thepragmatist Thank You! I don’t think it would work for either of us if we didn’t!
Con. Adult children
I’m 58 and he’s 65. We met online and he moved states to be with me 2 years ago. I might be a nurse and a purse as some put it but he’s my comfort and joy, my best friend, my travel buddy. We laugh together, cry together, plan together. I was single most of my life because I was so critical of men. I took no crap from no one and I spent many years alone. I think many single people need to ask do they want perfection or a partner. Don’t turn your back on someone just because they don’t fit the ideal because you might be missing out on the love of your life.
Great perspective!!
I’m hopeful
I understand what you are saying. A friend of mine met a man who was sickly and he worshipped the ground she walked on. They managed to have a lot of fun together in between his trips to the hospital. I learned from their witness that if you do become a nurse with a purse it has to be a kind and loving person not a grouch and cheapskate.
@@MamaDee737My fiance isn’t “sickly” though he manages his BP and diabetes well. He’s actually quite sexy lol and was a professional musician and occasionally still plays. It is sometimes annoying getting him to eat right and I do worry about more serious problems down the line. All in all i’d rather deal with his stuff than to be alone. I guess everyone must make that decision for themselves but I just wanted women to see another side of the story.
I was married 30 years, now divorced 10, I am 70. I was very naive coming out of a long marriage. There are predators waiting for you. I have met nothing but dysfunctional men. I am attractive, fit, financially stable. I am out in the community, go to the gym, play cards, very social. I have seen no one I am remotely interested in. The men out there have been at the game a long time. I have not met a man yet uninterested in sex, its almost the first thing out of their mouths.I have done online dating but I find most men are 5's looking for a 10.....
Although I really enjoy positive content creators (like this one). Unfortunately, in this day and age dating has changed for the worse. I would never go online as that seems to be the melting pot for scammers. I'm over 60 and in the last 2 years encountered two men at least 20 years my senior. Both presented themselves as gentlemen (dinner, movies, etc) but were actually players. Even typing this makes me laugh. Despite, oxygen tanks, clacking dentures, frequent runs to the toilet, they are still playing the field. So instead of being a part of their game, I travel with my girlfriends.
@@guinealove3744🌹
That’s an excellent way of putting it-5’s looking for 10’s 😂 It’s as if all they see in the mirror is their 20 something self and not what’s really there. 🤦♀️
Think of the younger women and girls. It's a nightmare in your 30s especially after 35.
These comments are quite interesting! It's validating! I'm in my 60s and had to really ESCAPE several terrible relationships. One stole my son, lied and got custody. These narcissists, they don't want you to be free, yet really weren't present, just cold during the relationship. They KNOW that they had a very good woman, and they don't want you to be free. It's very sick. I'm still fighting for my rights from terrible landlord. At least I know my biggest problem was being TOO NICE! Most women can relate!
Im 72. Right now i am enjoying amazing friendships with men and women. If i were in a relationship it could cause problems as most men are suspicious of friendships with men. Im not giving up my friends because of someones insecurities. So im at my best place now.
We are both 64 and have our own homes. We talk every day on the phone making sure we're okay and sharing our days experiences. We both have jobs but make time 12:59 out occasionally. Sex is still great after 4 years and we absolutely enjoy each others company , respect each other, honest and happy together. No plans to live together or get married and we're both happy with that arrangement . Can't ask for more after 2 divorces.
I can meet a decent gentleman, I tried on line sites , very disappointed, just liars , so I stop
Didn't meet mine online, and I like the way you put this.
We're good our way.😊
@danielleamory5428 he is someone I knew from my neighborhood growing up. Never been this happy
That’s all you need.
So you are ok with sex without marriage? That’s fornication. You can’t get into the kingdom that way, unless you don’t care about your soul.
So happy to have found this channel! I’m 57 and never married. My adult children are out of the home. So my time is my time. I’ve been single since 2012 and would love to meet my forever man. These days it’s difficult and one of the main things I notice is that we don’t even acknowledge each other. Black men don’t even speak to us anymore. Walk right past as if you’re a ghost. Or the men in my age range don’t want to date me. They are seeking younger women. But nevertheless I will remain hopeful and know that my love is coming soon.
BW have pretty much divested so we really don't see the need to entertain one another these days. But if you love to dance try Stepping, you can look online for beginner classes or they'll teach on certain days at clubs. I notice it's predominantly older and predominantly black men.
I just saw your Channel and it’s very positive. I am in the process of getting divorced at 66 and I was married for 2 years and been together for over 8. I’ve heard the dating stories and it doesn’t look promising but there is always someone out there for you. I don’t think I’ll get married again but you never know😊
I Like that "but you never know "..
So glad I came upon your channel. Nine years ago I was blessed to run into a gentleman I dated when I was 21 I will be 70 the end of this month we do have situations that we have had to make adjustments to but such is life. I'm very glad that God brought him back into my life.
If he won't marry you what's the point?
@@karenlumpkins2399 love hearing stories like yours. I have 2 friends from high school that this has happened to also!
@@danilaroche1156Not everyone wants to be married. Get real.
Sweet.
Thank you for sharing your views n personal experiences in the dating world of folks 60 plus. There are importance things to consider when dating as a mature person that are different than dating when you were younger. Be comfortable with who you are and don’t accept less than you deserve. You are the BEST and you deserve the BEST.
I am 66. My long time GF passed away 4 years ago. I miss her terribly. Have tried some dating and will continue to try to find that love of my life again. It is proving to be a challenge. I know there is someone out there.
I hope you are right, that there is someone out there and that you find them. I was married to the love of my life for forty years and have been a widow now for six years. I want to love again.
I just don't get the "love of my life..again" thing. ?? Are there more than one of these in our lives? I don't think so. .. but sorry about your loss.
You must admit thay you will get a different person and not her.Don't look for her qualities in a different person.Have no expectations set and as you relate with the person on an empty slate, you can find qualities you like and may finally fall in love.Be open.
After a 43 yr marriage and now 5 yrs of healing myself without dating, I believe I’m ready to start. Or at least see if any men are working on their own past issues and not expecting me to fix them.
I needed to heal from my childhood and past so as not to bring it into a new relationship and blame them for all the problems in my life! I became my own Hero!
We’re not for everyone. Release those who do not inspire and truly care about you so their negative energy is not around you.
We are never truly alone. God, or a higher power you may have and all our ancestors are rooting for us to succeed. To become who we were Born To Be! Truth with Love & Compassion will change this world! 💜
God can and will heal old hurts and pain. He's the Good Physician.
@@danilaroche1156 I believe Life is filled with Lessons to Learn. He is here to guide me as I do the work of deciding what and who is part of my life in the future. Free will and all that.
I have Peace in my life now at 69. I will not give that up for anyone. When I have the same problems come back again, I tell God: I didn’t learn that lesson this time either but you know where I live so I’ll be seeing you. ☺️
Men never work on their issues.
@@createone100 I’m finding that some do if they are mature enough to admit to them. They just don’t want someone telling them to do it! 😁
@lauraormsby… long ago I came up with some marriage advice. This was from observing failed or failing relationships, not my own successful one. The advice is this- “Don’t marry a project!!!”. In the past year the premise has expanded to two more admonishments. 2-“Don’t be a project!!!” 3-“Don’t surround yourself with projects!!!”
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I’m soon moving into a large upscale 55+ community and hope to find someone to be in a bf/gf “together living apart “ relationship. I’m 70, in good health for the most part, tall and slender, play Pickleball, build things and would like to find a similar woman. I have no interest in online dating which seems like a disaster. Just an organic meet up in everyday life and a slow natural glide into a loving relationship.
I'm 65 and been happily divorced for 15 years after 20 years of marriage. At this point, I'm not sure I want someone in my "space" all the time. I LOVE my privacy, my freedom and my singleness. I NEVER thought of myself as incomplete without a partner because I was always too busy working on becoming the best version of myself. That's taken years, and I'm still a work in progress lol. I love my life now. My kids are grown and busy also. I'm greatful for whatever time I can share with them, but I have my own interests that keep me busy and I like it like that. If I meet someone, maybe we can be good friends, occasional lovers, but mostly wonderful companions to each other. I think that would work. New subscriber here. 😀
@@rainynights8879 I love your outlook! You sound a lot like me. Keep doing what you’re doing and if you’re meant to meet someone you will!
I love that you found someone compatible. I'm 56 and prefer a lot of solitude. I dated a guy for a couple of years and he is nice but we had polar opposite attachment styles so the relationship wore me down. I don't want to be with anyone that is demanding of my time and wanting to talk on the phone several times a day, with nothing much to talk about. I can spend time with him occasionally, but he wants more from a relationship than I'm willing to give.
Several friends were dating and were pressured into marriage too soon so they cut relationship off. Most older men are looking for a housekeeper with a purse. Casual dutch treat dating is fine, but most men want commitments. Introverted people like solitude more with less social activiy. Some women will marry for companionship as it's easier for couples to be social vs singles.
I Will Only Be In A Relationship A Man If We Can Both Keep Our Own Houses. Part Time Hubby.
you got to meet your soulmate they dont demand or play games with your mind or heart
Your “ most” comments are overly broad and painting people with a wide brush…
@@hump1953 yeh self centered u wonder why their single then complain why their single im a woman 61 was single for 28 yrs before i met my bf hes 8 yrs older then me met in 2019 be 5 yrs been together this yr 2024 i feel happy relaxed content each to their own but i got tired of doing the same groundhog things everyday since meeting my bf we are both superbusy i help him in his workshop hes a auto electrician life is great for me now amen
im 55 and im done with men im over it i love me thats enough
Widowed now for 12 years. Two disastrous relationships since. Both were narcissistic, controlling and resulted in two years of therapy. I am 69 now. Sold everything and moved to France on my own. Best decision I ever made. My friends think I am a badass for doing that. Never thought of myself that way, but I know now, I don’t need a spouse to make me happy. Love my new life 😃.
Ooh France?! I’m a Francophile 😂 How do you find it there? Is it friendly?
Hello Terry, I thought of moving overseas. Dm me
The stress and turmoil of relationships when younger can be dealt with but when older it is just too much. I've always dated younger guys about five to seven years younger. The oldest man I ever dated was 47 years old and after this there were too many responsibilies thrust on me and dating became boring. I've had close friendships with men all my life but I swore off of 'romance" and all the emotional highs and lows. Living on my own has been a blessing. Thank you the powers that be.
I have been married twice. In March 2023, my second husband, who much older passed away. He was older than me, was a great husband but his health issues put a lot of stress and strain on our marriage. Also, I experienced a lot of interference from his family. I am 69 years old and I have a desire to date. However I am active in church, my sorority and Order of the Eastern Star PHA.
Also, I’m employed part time as a substitute teacher. I dated one man who had serious health issues. I met another man who didn’t have a car and he didn’t have much in common with me. Therefore, it’s no hurry just to date until I feel comfortable and confident of spending time with a man who is compatible with me.
Compatible. That's the difficult find.
I’m 59 and I’ll be 60 soon and I am still hopeful. I keep my heart open and I make sure that I don’t be around people that continue to break it because that’s the problem sometimes toxicity being around toxic being toxic relationship destroy you for healthy relationships so just be by yourself I’m by myself untilthe right person comes along and I am open but until then I continue to live and be happy with my life and my cat.😂😂😂❤❤❤ it’s all good either way, live life and love and stay hopeful and open
I’m just turned 62 and I’m hoping that special one comes along.
I’m always the third wheel in my circle of friends because they’re either married or in a relationship.
It can become very hard at times but I’m still hopeful!
I'm 55 and have married and divorced too many times! I don't think I'm a difficult person, but I am the common denominator in my scenario, so that makes me thoughtful. I always wanted to have a long marriage, but after a few years, I get tired of bending over backwards to make someone happy when they have no interest in reciprocating. So, here I am with my dog, renting a cute little townhouse. I love my work and have a side hustle at a friend's shop. I travel with friends, visit with my sister more regularly than when I was married, and my son checks in with me regularly to make sure I'm okay. It's a very good life. I don't think I'm even close to being ready to date again, and I have no interest in looking online, but if the Universe decides to put the right person in my path, I might be open to that.
You did the right thing
@@laranditooks9924I think so too, but I wish it didn’t have to be this way.
I think where you run into trouble after 60 is the age difference. If you a 60 year old women healthy and fit you better look for a partner that is at least 5 years younger. Most men aging much faster and do you really want to be a nurse later??? Think about that. I still hear the warning from my Granny in my ears: DON"T DO IT! Boy ,she was so right.
@@elisabethgardner6321 I’ve thought about that a lot So far everyone thinks David is younger than I am. We work hard together to stay in shape and eat right and hope for the best!
Gr8t advice and totally agree!!!!
You are correct I'm well over 60 very active eat right 90% of the time. Bay...Bay....I hate to say it but the men not all....but many broke down...verbally, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally....it's rough out here.
Very sad
Thta's been a more often than not what Ive seen. And some with attitude . 🙃
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Found your channel happenstance, lucky me ! I know for sure as we get older we must be positive in everything. I find it a bit challenging , peoples mindset. I’m a happy go lucky person who loves to and want to try new things learn new things travel ,meet people , dance etc. How I would love to meet someone like that even just a little. He doesn’t have to be extreme just content and down to earth
and positive. It is so good for our health.
I’m married (happily) and 68. What you said about traveling with someone you’re dating being a good way to find out if you are compatible is spot on! When I was 26 I had been dating a 38 y/o man for three years. We went on a cruise and that was the end of us! 🤣🤣🤣 Within a couple months I met my now husband in my apartment building that my dad owned. He is 5 years younger than I. I prayed to God for this one. We have been together 42 years. He is a tradesman. The other man was a business CEO. Nite and day difference and everyone said I could do better than my current husband. I knew they were wrong because God answered my prayers. If anything happens to one of us, I doubt dating would ever work for either of us. I’m an independent person who needs lots of space. Good luck to you! Glad it’s working. I agree, it would be really hard to date at this stage in life so I just wouldnt entertain the idea.
I’m 56 and my girlfriend is 60 and we’ve been together about 6 months. We met organically at our local washateria about 8 months ago. I was a weekly customer and she worked there so we met on her first day, had an instant connection and enjoyed each other’s company every week from then on. We officially started dating 6 months ago and went through a brief rough patch as she suffers from depression and I was learning how to best support her; but, she’s come out of that now and we have been very happy. ❤
We are both introverts and very independent but do eventually plan to move in together one day. She has grown kids (I don’t have kids) and I own a house (she does not so she’s free from any financial obligations and can move in with me as soon as we’re ready). I think of course there are hurdles to overcome when you’re merging two established lives together but that’s part of what makes life interesting and fun! We’re excited to be together and building a life together. Oh yeah, and sex is still great fun too! 😊
Great. Just a word of caution Be careful to safeguard your home and other financial assets in case the relationship doesn't work out.
@@Mary_QQQ
Mary ! A woman giving a man some good advise ! Wow! It’s not the advise I would have given but , I applaud you 😊
Most people looking for a nurse or a purse so be wary
‘Wary’
@@createone100 The whole situation does make one "weary".
@ Yeah, I definitely thought of that! 😊
@@guinealove3744Yep🤣🌹
Where are you getting your research stats?
I just found your channel. Very interesting to learn about relationships at mature age. I am 61 years old and must admit it is very hard to trust someone for a relationship nowadays. Hope to watch other videos. Thank you.
Glad I found this, great insight for me at 74.
Wow I’m amazed at the negative comments 😂
I’m 65 and met the love of my life at 63, online dating, and he is 2 years younger than me.
My criteria was that I would not settle for someone again who did not add value to my already great single life of 5 years. And that is what has happened. I have now been in a relationship for 3 years with the most amazing loving person I have ever met. ❤
We feel like teenagers and add so much to each others lives!
I also changed career from school teacher to online business at the age of 60. It’s an easy set up business in a box which I now teach others to do. We have a global community of loving people in the same business, growing together in personal development so life in my 60’s is fun, travel, abundance, and love.
Don’t restrict yourselves to how you think “ it should be” for women in their 60’s, because the mind is your only limitation. 🎉👌💫
I like your story. Somewhat similar to mine. What is this "Business in a box" you speak of? Is there a,link?
I appreciate all the comments.
I desire to have marital companionship but its been over 20 years and really never anything serious.
I am 61 and would love a mature settled caring gentleman that holds his own and know what is expected and know how to appreciated.
What she said!
@@wailingwoman6563 it helps if you write out exactly who you would like to attract and talk about it as if he is on his way 👌👌
I love this for you! The same aspirations I have for myself.
Just listening to this is exhausting. I'm going to bed. 😴
Lol
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Hilarious!
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I started dating someone at 61 after being single for 13 years. We were together 10 months and split up, and reunited 15 months later, at which time we were both in a better position to explore the relationship and see where it might take us. It has been a huge learning experience for both of us. We have been back together for 18 months now and planning for the future together. My advice? Just because we are older doesn’t mean we need to rush things, on the contrary, take the time to allow things to naturally unfold. In doing so you will have the opportunity to get to know one another better and you will also be building a more solid foundation for a long term relationship. Taking your time also builds trust between you. We all come with a history at this stage in our lives and if our partner gives us the time we need to feel comfortable with the idea of a new direction in life it can truly grow a level of confidence within the relationship and within ourselves. It sure is different starting a new relationship at this age but don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be exciting or fulfilling because it can. Just give it a chance, give yourself a chance too. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Ha ha ha, My man and I took our 1st roadtrip (MO to FL 16 hours driving) after dating 9 months. 5 years later we're still together. I said the same thing: want to know if you're compatible? Take a road trip together ha ha ha. It's a great love.
@@KCtheSUNSHINE Thank You so much for sharing!
Most men are looking for a nurse at that age, to avoid a nursing home...i am divorced..my kids are grown, granny of twins, ❤❤..I still work, workout, just sold my house, just came back from England 🇬🇧, brunch and bbqs, with childhood friends..celibate 6 years, 58 years, still a size 6😅 planning our 60th on a cruise 🛳...I'm good, tired of the cheating, lying, selfishness, cheapness...😅😅 Oh, I'm also set in my beautiful ways😅❤
I'm glad you're happy but please don't categorize all of us men as wanting nursemaids That's not true of me at all. I'm 62 same weight I was when I graduate high school I work out I run . I still run my own little business I have yet to find a person my age that could keep up with me so I'm glad that you're happy but no we're not all looking for nurse maids so God bless
Amen!!!
I know 5 men right off the top of my head who are caring for elderly wives who are wracked with dementia. One recently told me how violent she has become. His life is a nightmare. You women are afflicted with many health issues once you hit menopause. Stop the BS about how all of us older guys are looking for a nurse.
Oh my....Im guessing you are of the belief that women don't get illnesses as they get older.It must be only men.What a shallow view you have.
@@rcas350pilot8You women? I know that couldn’t mean all women because this characterization does NOT include me! See how you gave YOUR opinion, the originator of this comment was just giving HER opinion. Isn’t she entitled to gave an opinion as well?
I've been divorced for 20 years. A few years ago, I began dating a seasoned man who was the same age as me. He had numerous serous health issues and after a year he came out and said he wanted me to take care of him! I also found out that he was seeing a younger woman in another city. I immediately ended the "relationship" and put him on call-block. One thing that I won't do is settle for less. I'm optimistic that there are good Christian men who want the same thing that I do. If I meet someone great, if not I'm very content with myself.
Beware of those so called Christian men..
Absolutely. I was married to one of them for 6 years and divorced him. I've been divorced for 33 years now.@@jessicahitchens6926
That...
Great video and lots of good information. Currently dating a man who is 61 and I'm 72. He lost his younger wife a year and a half ago, I lost my husband of43 yrs. 7 years ago. I enjoy his company, but yes the challenges are very different when dating someone younger. He loves to travel, and I feel like I've done all the traveling I want to. I have more anxiety now about airports, etc. we've been together for 9 months. I do urge him to try dating someone younger with more energy. I have been going to the gym for over a year so I try to keep myself physically able, but that is just a part of some of the things. He has no grandchildren, but I have 2 and have a regular weekend taking care of them every other week. He doesn't mind, but he is still working full time and will retire in a year. Not sure how things will work out when he retires, as he does love to be with me when he is off. Anyway I'm glad I found your channel. so sweet of you to offer help at this age. I can answer any questions you may have in dating someone younger for your channel. Take care!
I will definitely keep that in mind Mellie, I will be doing a video that subject at some point.
@@2late2date-h2t Great!
You look so young and sound so young and smart… good luck with everything 🙏
Thank you for this video. You voiced many of my sentiments. The comments are helpful too. I’m 74 and been dating 5 years. You’re right about focusing on the positive because there are things I wish I could change and others that I truly value.
I married my wife at 63 and we've been married 5 years. We met online and she was 4,500 miles from Texas. She's 11 years younger so we sometimes don't see eye to eye but that's life.😊😊😊😊
I am totally in love; I met him 2 .5 years ago through mutual acquaintances who themselves are madly in love with each other and want the same for us. It was love at first sight and he was the perfect guy for 6 months. I had been warned by family members that he was difficult but my love for him keeps me there because of his sweetness and caring spirit. I am pretty sure he is a narcissist but not physically violent. Don’t want to leave him because we really do love each other and really young for our ages (73 and 75). We live like we are in our early fifties and not many people our age can live their life as live.
Just discovered your channel. I think you’ll help me with dating. I became a widow in 2021 at the age of 71. I’m just beginning to think about dating. Your videos seem like they’ll help. I’m retired and I have one son who lives 8 miles away with his lovely family. Family good but not the same a friend your own age.
Nice honest, straight forward discussion. Grounding.
What a valuable subject matter , dating over 60, Just turned 64 and as a ex pro-athlete and world traveler I dont have body issues that effect my self esteem. The problem i am concerned about is men dont take care of their bodies and you notice early on nmental illness , ex wifes and physical ailments. Who wants that if you are in excellent physical and mental shape. I stay involved in competitive sports such as tennis, etc. I only had one child who is independent and long gone. Age doesnt bring wisdom and maturity. A full diagnostic is neccessary and a serious talk about mutual relationship goals and gender roles within a relationship. You never want someone from a different socio-economic status who freaks out over dinner because he can only afford the salad instead of a 4 course dinner.
I agree with the train vacation ❤. I’m 64 but do not date. However, I plan to follow your channel. I may change my mind about dating ❤.
I’ve been married for to my high school sweetheart for 46 years. I don’t want to travel
After retirement, I do not.
He drives like an old man.
I do not
He is cheap
I am not
We are so opposite I can’t imagine doing this again.
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I think that if I were in your same situation, I would feel the same way!
remember you picked this man, you weren't drafted to be his spouse, it couldn't be all bad if you've been married this long
Didn’t say it was bad, just staying the facts of this marriage….
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I'm a widow and was married for 43 years. One requirement for a man that I would get involved with again would be that he cooks! I can cook but don't want the burden of every piece of food that goes into the man's mouth is my responsibility anymore! He can cook sometimes, and I'll cook sometimes, and we could cook together sometimes.
@@denisehughes2898 love that! That means a lot to me too! David cooks 2-3 times a week and I really appreciate it!
Great pros and cons! One thing I’ve learned and always believed I’m not going to live with a man who’s not my husband! Therefore we have to keep our own residences! I love having my own space! To each their own!
I am 64 turning 65 next may. I got this man who is 65 we are both in the same faith however he is not entirely honest. He has too many issues especially financially. I’m afraid if I get into this relationship I would be very financially disturbed.
I love it to have someone cos my children are of busy with their lives. I would love to have someone that I can have as a partner
I think you are right about the financial thing. If he’s habitually behind on things and always needing money from you and others , then you are better off waiting for the right guy.
I found love again at age 55 & he was 64, we are engaged to be married this year and we couldn't be better matched. Basically life is wonderful & both our families including grown children are super happy for us. 😁
@@aishapennington3049 love it! Thanks for sharing!
You are Soooo Right about learning ALOT about a person when you travel with them.
Lots of unplanned things happen when you travel and it's very revealing of people's personalities how they handle this ?
I am trying not to give up. I just turned 56. 🙏🏽❤️
@@mzrizz680 Never give up!
I'm alone and I like it that cause you don't have to worry about no one but yourself.my ways are mine for one I don't like to cook unless I'm in the mood
Trifling....
The short answer to dating/relationships in your 60’s - 70’s and beyond, “if it works, don’t fix it”.
Yes! Love to hear the success stories of those navigating these waters.
I'm 62, have no children, never been married. I never dated a lot, even when I was younger, because most men were either intimidated by me or they were boring to me. I know about the intimidating part because I've had several men tell me years later that they were interested back then, but didn't think they measured up. I am befuddled about that, honestly! I own my home, still work full time, and live a full life. If someone came into my life, I would be open to it, but it's not something I'm necessarily interested in at this stage in my life. But this is an interesting conversation.
@@Belle-t9d Thank You for your story. I can identify in a lot of ways.
A new guy has to see how he could fit into your life and add to it and maybe they couldn't ?
Time determines who you going to meet. Your heart determines who you going to Love. Your behavior determines who will remain in your life. Life is short enjoy every moment when you can
Love it!!
thank you! Great discussion about pros and cons. Think you have really thought through this and it is of value to hear. Think that people over 60 (which I am) are very lucky when they can find someone that they enjoy as you have. I currently haven't but am happy either way.
Thank you for sharing!
TY i never travel alone recently...But your true story help me alot...TY for sharing..
Most of my most "glorious" finds were during solo travel. La Rochelle was the most recent. Had never heard of it before. My sister group and I were meeting up, so I looked it up as a stop on my way. My tips for women traveling solo and abroad would be to 1) Be very aware of your surroundings 2) Book your dinners early 3) Have your cocktails either in your room, in the lobby of your hotel, or limit it to one drink at dinner (I love champagne and Prosecco - smile) 4) Middle Eastern men tend to be aggressive, so be firm. 5) Amazon has a hotel door lock (get one or use your suitcase as a barrier 6) Pickpockets love purses (use a fanny pack) 7) Don't ever give up an opportunity to travel (The world is so exciting) Lastly, you know what is good for you. Wishing you tons of great travel ahead. I leave for Madagascar for the holidays.
No need to waste your time anyway‼️ Enjoy your own company & be happy & fulfilled. I am‼️😀
You look amazing! All the best to you!
@@thepragmatist Thank You so much!
Paying it all no mind..fact that I live to be in my sixties is the true blessing..whether somebody coming along with me or not..
Dating at 67 is great for me. I am so happy with the man that I met. I’m a realist I’m a senior citizen a young senior but a senior nevertheless. I’m not looking for a fine man anymore . Although he is not ugly . I’m looking for a man that loves me and treat me like a queen. And I treat him like a king. He Is not perfect by no means but he truly loves the Lord and that sealed the deal for me. We pray together .he is so respectful. He is so loving to me and he makes me happy. We believe that God put us together .
I just found your channel and I'm turning 65 next month. I've never been married but several relationships over the 40 years. I'm not sure what I want from dating at this stage. I do like my private time, dont want to change my life and I'm still unsure if i even want to date at this age. But I do want to say whatever you're doing is working. You look fabulous!
@@terigraham7609 Thank You so much!
Hello all. I'm a 50 year old woman, single living my life for the Lord, I'm a missionary and Love helping people. Life is awesome. ❤ 🙏
God bless you🙏🙏
Stay that way to avoid any harm
@@AndreFlavelllove this!
Love it!
Flexibility on each person’s part is essential. This is a choice that brings two people together or not together. If you like being alone, you are totally free to live your own life. This is really not so complicated as you say, really.
You are correct, the airports are not a lot of fun traveling these days. Older guys at that age don't consider traveling that as important...
BTW, my name is also Dave and I used to be a photographer back in the 80's when Kodak was King....LOL I have worked nights for over 30 years and my wife and I have been married for 42 years and we like staying home with dogs...Small world....
Welp, so glad I stumbled upon this video. I'm 66 and met my ex at 59. It was lack of sex that eventually made me leave. Your video affirmed some things for me.
it's hard for some older people because we are so set in our ways, the person we date would be set in their ways also. very hard to conform to someones ways.
These channels make me so grateful for my parents who worked through difficult things.
They weren’t perfect, of course. Sometimes I wished for different parents.
But I think it was because of them that my husband and I have been happily married for over 30 years.
I’m 61 now and can’t imagine what it would be like to start “dating.”
The adjustment to another person’s way of being and the flexibility to go with the flow - and the respect for each others alone time - this is something married people learn through the years.
I feel like dating, whether you’re young or old, has never been something I wanted to do.
My husband and I were friends for two years before we went out romantically and then we got married within a month or two.
I’m seeing so many older ladies who are all alone, and don’t know it but are in some danger living in their van and traveling alone.
It’s a free world, but there are definitely consequences (good and bad) to taking a non traditional route in life.
I’m glad you aren’t alone…
THANK YOU for this interesting video. I'm 75 & gingerly venturing into this...
I’m glad you enjoyed it! Please let me know if there’s any topics you’d like to see talked about.
I love me. Ive been married and it just isn't for me. I used to think i was supposed to be with someone and feel lonely when I wasn't with someone... but that was just a phase. At this point in my life, I LOVE my peace! I dont need the company of any one but God and a few good phone conversations every now and then with friends. Who by the way, none of them are happy in their marriages but stay because of what they would lose. Thats not the life I choose.
I love your topic. It will encourage lots of loners to think about dating
I just subscribed to your channel. Im 68 and in my second marriage. I’m so glad to find your channel!
@@griffinramona3 welcome!!
Just listening to this makes me so happy single.
thank you for sharing your video. so many people are kind of set in their ways, including me. I really like a lot of time by myself. I wouldn't mind going to a few things together.
Thank you for a very interesting video. Great information on how to date after age 60!! One 'pro' is that a person by that age should have a good idea of what type of people they feel most comfortable with..and that helps to avoid being with people that we know are not compatible with us. Getting older has advantages as well as disadvantages..but we can be grateful for all the wisdom we acquire as we get older and more mature!!
@@angelatrebor8681 good words! Thank you!
I like staying as a “friend”. I’m not ready for a committed relationship because I like to sometimes do things solo. I don’t want to get into “trusting” because it’s not guaranteed to last even after 60.